AITA For NOT Paying MIL For MY Gift & Telling My Brother It's Pathetic He Can't Do What His Wife Did
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0:00 Sahdia Took Sam's Spot
4:21 AITA For Telling My Brother It's Pathetic He Can't Do The Basics of What His Wife Did
5:41 Response
20:57 Update & Top Comment
23:33 AITA For Ditching My Assigned Bridesmaid at a Wedding for One That Is Younger and a Different Race Then Me
26:57 Response
31:57 AITA For Telling My Friend That She Shouldn't Wear a Bikini to The Pool
33:19 Response
37:27 AITA For Calling My Daughter's Father Spineless and His Girlfriend Creepy Over Their Name Choice For Their Daughter
40:57 Response
43:43 Edit
44:22 AITA For Requiring That Guests Change Clothes Before They Sit On My Furniture
45:46 Response
49:31 Top Comment
50:27 AITA For Not Wanting To Pay The Extra Money My MIL Put For a Gift I Didn't Ask For
52:23 Response
54:23 Top Comment
56:37 AITA For Not Wanting to Have a Deep Relationship With My BIL
57:33 Response
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If anyone is gonna call someone out for being pathetic-it better their own sibling, nah, we are the ones who temper each other. Sis is the only one who can call him out ESPECIALLY if their mom is all "oh my sweet boy".
Sister in law deserves a partner who gives as much as she does.
The story with the same name is definitely trying to erase his first daughter.Also it is like the girlfriend doesn't see her bf's first daughter as legitimate because the mother and him weren't in a relationship. The child's father saying his first daughter can just get a nickname instead is wild. He is a pos.
The newly stay at home husband is definitely doing it on purpose. I am sure he hates that he has to do those things. Many men look down on house work & child care & only see it as a woman's job. Unfortunately, I have a brother like that even though we both grew up in a single father parent household.
I totally agree. I think he resents that he has to step up to the plate now, bc he hasn't before
Story 1: The reason the husband is so useless is the same reason his mom is defending him: he’s used to being babied!!!!
Story 1: maybe the husband is failing badly on purpose as a way of acting out (I know, adult, but they do this). He needs lots of counseling to figure out if he’s depressed about no longer having a standard job and he’s struggling with his self image. Being that late multiple times is intentional, you don’t care enough to get up earlier. Man needs to figure his stuff out. Good luck to the wife and kids.
agreed, just some regular weaponised incompetence.
@@bulelwashezi4540depression is weaponized incompetence?
Yeah, that story line in The Incredibles 2 where Bob takes all sorts of steps to try and be as good of a stay-at-home-parent as Helen is the ONLY appropriate response when a man finds himself in that situation. Yes, he stumbled, made mistakes, got sleep-deprived, and ended up needing outside help from friends, but the point is he tried. And he got a pretty good handle on it by the end of the movie. The husband is probably never going to be as good at it as the wife was, (she was a bit of an overachiever) but if he puts forth an honest effort, he can be good enough for the family to function fairly well. This guy isn't even doing the bare minimum. I honestly would rather be a single mom than have such a useless partner.
On the coffee maker story. Tell ur husband, to get unattached, since the gift was yours, you will be giving it back! That’s ur choice, and it’s ur gift. If he wants it, he can pay the $30.
The story about the daughters name is so crazy, bc it’s not similar but just as weird so my brother had just started to date this girl she was a nice person and everything but my mom was pregnant at the time but for some reason they named her the same name as her Michelle and it was the weirdest shit ever I’ll never forget what I said “ all the names in the world and yall chose that “ weird .
Unless that husband can’t ever get to work on time, there’s no excuse for him not getting the kids to school on time. Maybe he misjudges how much time it takes the first time, but repeatedly? No way. He just doesn’t care. He could have learned something from watching his wife doing things around the house. He could have helped. He could go get a job. All kinds of options. Choosing doing nothing is the no sympathy choice. I’ll bet he still doesn’t value all the work his wife did, either.
I think it's important to note that child care is a job people pay a lot of money for- people pay a lot of money to eat good food at restaurants, for house keeping, etc etc. Stay at home moms do all of these things and more. Women are FIERCE. Hug ya mama.
The germ one is sad lol, he obviously has a form of OCD. I used to have OCD where I’d check if I locked something multiple times and washed my hands because of germs to the point they were raw. He may need anxiety meds
Some people can overcome without meds.
On the bikini story This is the one time where I'm grateful for having sewing and clothing knowledge because I've been in that situation and the only way I've come away from it without anyone getting upset is leveraging hey you have this body shape this is more flattering and presenting options. Like I have straight up had one of my bigger friends ask me does this make me look fat and I'll be like it's not that it makes you look fat It just isn't flattering your shape cause if you see here it's causing you to have this boob sag but if you took this other top it elevates you and gives you this nice like slim thick figure and I think that's what your desiring more. And she went from completely body conscious and hating her body to admiring a feature of her body that she hadn't seen before.
"Flattering" is also steeped in problematic ideals of what makes a good versus less acceptable body types (e.g. minimizes your stomach). Why not say wear what you want! You look beautiful!
@@sharon9974because societal norms are soul crushing and if her friend came out feeling better about herself even while she used the word “flattering” then it’s fine. Don’t fix what ain’t broken. “You look beautiful” doesn’t always work. For me, I can’t trust that. It’s almost disingenuous. It’s nice when friends are real with you.
@@sharon9974 Body type is entirely separate from weight though. You can be underweight and have a banana, apple, pear, triangle or hour glass body type. The same goes for any other class of weight too. My advice for what I think looks good on a banana shape will be the same regardless of weight and it will differ from the advice I would give for a triangle and apple shape. It's entirely about shape, weight is literally irrelevant. And I don't think it is anyway biased to think symmetry is flattering- it's literally biological to find symmetry aesthetically pleasing. I have no insecurities when it comes to weight and yet I don't dress the same way as I would advice my friends of other body types to dress as it would not look flattering on me- not because of my weight but because of my shape i.e. body type. I dress in a way that enhances the shape I find flattering on everybody- essentially in a symmetrical shapely manner. There are oversized pieces of clothing that can either make you look entirely shapeless or actually flatter the shape you have. It's all about shape. It doesn't have anything to do with the size of someones stomach but rather the shoulder to waist to hip ratio.
At the end of the day people can and should wear whatever they want regardless of their body type but if I'm asked a question I answer honestly. There's no point in asking for an opinion if you don't want an honest one. If what I want is a compliment- I'll just ask for that lol. I'll just straight up say to my friend/partner that I need a ego boost so compliment me on my outfit please and they'll do it because of course they'll compliment me if it's going to give me what I want in that moment. People just need to ask for what they actually want. If you want a compliment you don't need to fish for it- just ask. And if you ask for an opinion instead- don't complain if it's not the compliment you actually wanted.
I'm a professional house cleaner and I LOVE doing vacuum designs lol presentation is key. Lots of fun stuff you can create. I also do Origami toilet paper folds 😂
You are a blessing and I'm not even your client😂 💖
I have a blue velvet couch that I spent $1,000 on, I'm super proud of my couch and I love it. I also have a dog and a white cat. So every day I have a blanket thrown over my couch, and the blanket only comes off for washing and when I have visitors over, I also vacuum my couch regularly. Germ guy needs therapy, stop making your phobia other people's problems. It's not hard to protect a couch
Story 4 is like Brian McKnight. Named his new baby Brian Jr even tho he has an older Brian Jr.
second story - OP and jen literally weren’t even hooking up / going to date; they just hit it off and danced together a bit, then went their separate ways after the wedding. also, when i initially heard the title i though OP ditched her before the wedding, which would have been shitty, but he did everything he was supposed to as a groomsman that got paired up with this bridesmaid. they went down the aisle together and then danced a bit at the reception. kelly and liz were getting upset over literally nothing.
It was kind of implied that Jen joined him up in his hotel room? She left early, shortly after he did and he said "5 minutes after Jen came up, we were both kicked out of the group chat"
*Kelly & Liz were wrong anyway
@@that.ll_do_pig fair, i missed that, but kelly and liz had no reason to think that was the case at the wedding. they were just mad their attempt to set OP up with kelly wasn't working.
she bought the coffee pot for her son and wanted DIL to go in. if that was the conversation then ok. but u cant cover that up as a gift
No lie I would be ok if. sam didn't come back. lol this was great, conversation stayed on topic and no manipulative statements from sam
I have never been this early to a TH-cam video ever Lmfao! Love y’all’s podcast, you all crack me tf up and I love it, esp the musical improv 🤣
Just wanted to say, it's fantastic to see that you guys now upload the reddit story with the videos, it's so helpful for following along tysm for listening to us!
52:23 NTA - don’t you dare give any money. You shouldn’t even tell the person how much gifts cost if you can help it much less ask for the money. Stand your ground. If hubby wants it, then hubby, “I gift you a coffee machine. Now pay your mama.”
First story: We know his wife can teach him how she did it all, because she taught OP. He is failing his family and his kids.
1. NTA - he needs to learn how to handle it or get a job. No excuse for not being able to take care of the kids
2. NTA - you have a right to not like someone. The expectation that this wedding was going to be a meet cute for them and that this would be a story to tell their kids…total exaggerated fantasy.
One of my co-workers, hooked me up with one of her friends. One day, my co-worker told me, the name she was going by is actually her middle name. And she doesn't go by her first name. Mainly due to her dad having another daughter from another women, and the her sister having the same name as her.
I love Sahdia!!! Please make her a regular!!! This show needs more not-man voices haha!
I just wanna say I just found this podcast a few weeks ago and I’ve watched so many eps!!! I didn’t know what day you guys released so I’ve been refreshing my TH-cam multiple times a day since Saturday wishing for a new ep
For the bikini story, I feel like we are missing context. Idk I've been in situations similar where nothing is SAID but you can tell through looks, tone, body language etc that they are judging you. Idk I just feel the friend just wanted to be supported through the body changes that literally sound out of their control, not to be shamed and I feel y'all were a little harsh on the friend
I totally agree! I commented something very similar, it was kind of hard for me to listen to the commentary on that story. It sounds like OP has never experienced what her friend is going through and didn’t know that she should’ve been more delicate with her friend.
I thought the name thing was going to be one of those where it's based on a favourite book/tv/movie/game character that the parent used to crush on. I was not expecting that at all!
So the 5th story I kinda get his thought process of not wanting outside germs on his couch cause I change clothes as well when I get home. However I would not require a guest to change to sit in my living room or kitchen but I did purposefully buy a leather couch so I could wipe it down when guests leaves. Also I have a few blankets I can cover the couch with and then change later after guests leave.
1:05:05 Bro what he says here is so extremely true. The only way to help someone who is in a cycle they should hate is is to show them love, then they will be able to tell the difference between the two, and decide for themselves which is better.
44:22 As someone who ALWAYS changes my clothes as soon as I come home before I sit on anything. I would never ask people to bring a change of clothes when they come over lol. OP needs to understand everyone has a different level of cleanliness and just like they were saying, don't have people over then. Growing up for me at least I realized it was a cultural thing that me and my family did, or other people from similar backgrounds, and that some of my friends didn't change when they got home. You can't expect everyone to conform to your way of life. From one clean freak to another maybe just don't have people over or get some granny plastic so you can disinfect it after! :)
The coffee machine story sounds like he was complaining to his mama that his wife was complaining about the coffee machine, so that his mama would get him a new one 😂
My go to saying for sharing the work load in the house is "it doesn't have to be 50/50, it just has to add up to 100"
This is the way I can take time when I'm sick to not feel guilty about resting when I need it
A certain type of men would say it does you do 90% I do 10% adds up to 100%
Just wanna say that this is my favorite podcast / parasocial relationship, you guys have the best chemistry ive ever seen on such a production
First one is NTA for sure. You mean to tell me I was waking up at 5am meal prepping, keeping the house clean, the kids happy, and now I’m going to work full time and you can’t even keep the house clean much less have a meal ready for when I get home? Tuh. Divorce
Because Sam was so into Ottomans for the name of podcast fans, his fans could be the Otto-sams.
i LOVE when she’s on she’s prob one of my fav guests
Imagine the MIL got the coffee maker for free and was trying to get a quick buck lol
I literally watched all your episodes through out the last few weeks! Love you guys
The fact that Sadia just imploded with how much she loves vacuuming and how excited she was about Brandon doing designs in the carpet. 🤣🤣 Y'all are so wholesome
So glad I found this channel. Every reaction to the baby name was hilarious. Y'all are dope.
Best case scenario for the first story, he genuinely hasn’t been taught how to do these things and he’s lazy and unwilling to learn, worst case: weaponised incompetence. I truly feel for is wife, as somebody who grew up with parents like this.
Side note: can we stop with mothers coddling their fully grown-ass sons. Ma’am that is an adult male not a child. This is such a reoccurring theme in so many reddit posts. Not only have you refused to teach him basic human skills for survival, but you’re now defending his pathetic inability to function as a responsible partner and father, while trying to make your daughter out as the villain for holding him accountable like YOU should’ve done years ago. Get in the literal BIN
Ahhh Maddie's hoodie! Love to see creators supporting fellow creators and Bailey is a favorite of mine.
the smiles at the end were so cute lmao
Story 3. Can't stand people who expect everyone to be a yes man for them
You all are the cutest TH-camrs I have ever seen. Love the show and especially how you all interact with one another. Laughing so much on this episode. 😂
yall are so entertaining to watch !!!!
Plastic raincoats gives off serial unaliver vibes, no lie. 😅
Love when Sahdia is on!
I’m the bikini story, I think that girl was having a hard time with her new body. She gained the weight from antidepressants so clearly she was already having some struggles with her mental health. I understand that she was nagging her friend and asking what she really thinks but I think OP could have handled it better. Also, I’m not accusing but I am curious if OP had made any other kind of passive or elusive comments or even facial expressions about her body prior to this that maybe had her friend on edge. I think this was a case of a girl having a tough time mentally dealing with her newly changed body and a friend who wasn’t able to navigate that with her. I don’t think OP was an asshole but I do think they could be a better friend.
Brandon is so empathetic and thoughtful :,)
Both a gift and a curse thank you though ❤
@@2ccBrando haha i feeel u
story 1 is weaponised incompetence. I understand things can be clunky when you change schedules initially, but you should fall into a routine after a little bit.
On the same name story, It's actually a family tradition for a certain branch of my family to name all the sons the exact same thing. But for God's sake we at least at least address them with different nicknames You've got Junior You've got HR you've got Henry it's all the same name but we we do something with it. What in the Targaryen is going on here!
Coffee machine:
Husband is the AH. He set this up. He told MIL OP wanted a coffee maker because *he* wanted a coffee maker. Ask me about my pathological liar thief first husband who kept me from communicating with his mother and how I know.
Oh my gosh. I never thought about it this way, but I can absolutely see this happening!! The audacity the husband had to side with his mom on this case would make total sense now!!
Came to say the same. So obvious once you think about it. Mum sounded like she had really tried to buy her dil what she wanted.
My experience with my siblings-in-law is that I'm not very close to them. It's more that I became less close to my siblings after they got married because their immediate family is their spouses now, not me. So I really don't see any problem with the OP just deciding that she's not going to put up with her brother-in-law's disrespect anymore. OP can just tell her sister, "I don't associate with cheaters. That's the decision I am making for myself regarding your husband. What you do is entirely up to you." Maybe taking that hard stand will be the kick in the pants the sister needs to realize she deserves better. Maybe not, but OP is well within her rights to cut a toxic person out of her life.
the sports commentary segment was my favvvvv LMAO
Do all us singles a favor and DO NOT set us up at your wedding. Yes we love, love and we're glad you're tying the knot but that doesn't mean we need to be set up with one of your friends.
Ok the changing clothes story I have the same fears but I put a blanket over my couch if guests are over. Now if it were my bed absolutely not, no outside clothes on my bed lol
42:10 this is like another office story, andy was originally named walter jr, but when his younger brother was born they changed it and named the younger one walter jr😂
We need an update on the first story with the inept husband/father!!!!
When they started saying Brittany my head swiveled so fast lmao 🤣
It comes off as the girlfriend was trying to replace the first daughter with the new daughter. In what world does the first daughter go by a nickname and the second now gets to use the name. That’s so weird
It’s what they always say. If you make your wife feel like a single mother, she’ll become a single mother.
I'm in the same situation that SJ is in. I totally understand what Brandon is saying and I know that is what you are supposed to do because these people isolate their victims from loved ones, but my one friend is in a really terrible relationship. They getting these nasty fights she's told me things have gotten physical before they say awful things to each other and it's just not good. And then she would complain to me and say that they were arguing and that she's sitting up on the roof of their condo building and is upset. And after a while I got sick of talking to her about it because she wouldn't do anything so I just stopped talking to her for real. And I know that's not what you're supposed to do but at the same time I was sick of having my own anxieties about her relationship. I would get really anxious that something bad was going to happen to her. There was one night where she text me and she said that she might need to leave and then I didn't hear back from her. And I called her and called her and didn't get any sort of answer. And I ended up messaging her sister and was like can you check on her please. And then I thought she was mad at me cuz she finally answered me back. She wasn't mad at me for messaging her sister but I sort of made myself scarce cuz I thought she was mad. Then she was upset because she thought that I had just randomly blocked her or something and I didnt. But the final straw was when I was just like he needs to get punched in the face and then she sent me a message and was like he saw what you sent me because he goes through my phone because I don't have anything to hide and he was like why does this guy want me to get punched in my face?? And I was like I don't appreciate that you're telling me not to say stuff when if he would have scrolled up a few messages and saw what you told me that he did he would understand and he knows why. And so I was like I don't know what you want me to do you complain to me I tell you what to do you don't do it so I'm sick of it. So now I really only just send her tik toks and that's what our relationship has become. I hope maybe someday she'll finally get out of her head and get out of that situation. I hope that OP's sister does the same thing as well. It's not a a fun time for either party.
27:43 yall said kelly so much it doesn't sound right 😂☠️
Excited for my afternoon stories
The sports commentary on the MIL had me rollin laughin my booty off 💀
lol i have two siblings with the same name because apparently my dad just really liked the name. they have the same first and last name, but different middle names and thats usually how we differentiate.
I feel like if she said she preferred the bikini she would've accused her of lying to make her feel better and then still accuse her of calling her fat because of that.
I really wish this episode was way way longer :(
For the coffee story, the Mom asked the son what you wanted and she got that…and it wasn’t what you wanted it’s what the husband wanted…and now that the Mom wants the money back the son isn’t going to pay it.
I have several thoughts about the stories but I came here to say PLEASE do more sports commentating of the stories. Please. The way I CACKLED.
The cheapest coffee machine wasn’t 80 dollars. Let’s start there. Mil and hubs are up to SHENANIGANS
Lol " hopefully not" haha 😂😂 Sahdia is hilarious 😂
What to say to the sister who is married to the cheater.
"Honey, I know you want to make the marriage work. But you are asking me to be friendly whos destroying one of the people I love most in the world. I will be polite, when I have to be near him, but I cannot even pretend to be friends with someone who hurts you so much and so often. I will always be there for you, but I look at him and want to destroy him for hurting you. I am not that good of an actress. I promise to be cordial but thats all I can promise."
I am obsessed with this podcast!!! Glad I found it!
Clear tarps guy needs to get help ASAP before he spirals into germ a phobia. While I feel the same about changing as soon as I get home, the way I combat this is using couch covers and chair covers and only telling folks to take their shoes off which is less strange. The covers are fitted and washable because what’s the point of worrying about germs on your furniture if you aren’t washing the couch/chair soft materials from day to day use anyway. There’s still your own hair and hair products, dead skin cells, oils, and sweat to wash off that he’s not thinking about negating 50% of what he’s trying to do. It’s cleaner to just have swappable washable furniture covers to rotate just like you do your bedding.
4. Kinda TA - timing is everything but they didn’t share the name before the baby was born? There has to be a better reason than it’s a pretty name. Especially since the 1st born had it 1st.
op is the ta?
Add some baking soda to your carpets, let it sit for 15 minutes and then vacuum, my new obsession.
11 minutes ago LETS GOOOOOOOOO TIME TO GET COMFYYY
A man who can't do much as get the kids to school on time, and has a minimum of six hours child free (8 According to op) and the house is a disaster, that man has no pride.
isn'r Sam's fan club called the ottomans? LOL
I really wonder why the wife and husband switched. He lost his job? How? Was he being a bad employee? He couldn't get another full-time job?
She was only working part-time. Yet she got a good full-time position so quickly? I wonder if he is was a bum at work too?
Fave guest? Fave guest!!! Do I miss cousin Sam? Yes. But FAVE GUEST!!!! Lol 💖
Sounds like the friend needs to continue counseling. She couldn't handle the truth she ASKED FOR
This guy in the first story needs to see Mr Mom.
26:41 idk I feel like you can definitely tell when a brotha doesn’t like the chocolate. 💀 I think that’s her fault.
Oh no, not Brandon making my eyes water up, TEN SECONDS from the end with his "love and hate" comment.
Heavyweight Professional boxer George Foreman named ALL of his sons are named George after him. 😳
OH THANK GOD literally just ran out of ur videos
The new stay at home husband could be depressed. He just lost his job and now he’s dealing with a new set of things that he can’t handle maybe mentally right now.
Nah. He couldn’t do the bare minimum and during OP’s edit, she said that he even told her that he shouldn’t be doing “these things” (basic household chores or taking care of his own children). There’s a difference between can’t (due to mental health / being in a bad place) and refusing to. It’s the intention and he’s showed his intentions
I noticed sams importance in this podcast because without him then it's just filled with good takes
What about calling the Sam’s fan club “The Sammies” 😂
The story about the baby names: two words GEORGE FOREMAN
Ok I'm gonna need a sportscaster reddit recap every episode now that was 👩🍳💋
The guy who can’t keep up, can bedepressed or burnout, sometimes asking for help is hard.
Have we seen the first one in another video
Story 1. He could be depressed about not working.
The gift giving - I have often looked into buying people expensive gifts, but if it's something far out of my budget i often either find another friend who will help finance the gift (joint gift) or to the person who wanted it. Maybe offer to cover half (or more) of the cost and they cover the other half. That seems a lot better than to just say,, hey i made this fake number in my head and i went over it, so im asking for the cost difference from you. the fuck?
then again, I have often given people $200+ gifts and frequently spend a LOT during xmas on my immediate family (around 200 per person, and then a big gift/gift idea for the household. One year was coffee, so it included a ninja coffee machine, french press, coffee, accesories, etc). I try to spend that much on bday's too. I have never thought to just buy something and then request money back. That's wild.
50:27 Drop the MIL and the hubby. Neither sound like they worth 30 bucks
The person with extreme mysophobia (fear of germs) has a lot of understanding people, but really should consider therapy for it because it's impacting relationships and it Can be treated.
Okay, so the 5th story. I'm a clean freak, I do change my clothes, but I don't expect others, I usually clean after people leave. But as soon people enter, the shoes have to go.. I can't stand shoes inside, it's just so discussing......