Key points: 1. Failure to start/procrastination -> Just start, begin with the smallesr action possible towards your goal 2. Serial failure to finish -> Find the meaning/the why and use that to pull you towards your goal 3. Hedonic treadmill/never feeling like it's enough -> Understand that you are not your work. Meditate. Pause. Be grateful. Stop comparing yourself.
It’s wonderful to see that the analogy of the Three Mind Pits is hitting home. Thank you for the beautiful comments! 🙏 When Faysal (my husband) and I were brainstorming the topic we agreed that without overcoming self-doubt no one can truly live their full potential. We hope there’s something in this talk that connects with you and inspires you to get unstuck. Thank you to TEDx for the opportunity to share this message. In case you’re curious, here’s the research underpinning this talk: • Knowing-doing Gap (Pfeffer & Sutton, 2000). • Rumination and Overthinking (Joubert, Moulds, Werner‐Seidler, Sharrock, Popovic & Newby, 2022). • Upward Counterfactual Thinking (Broomhall, Phillips, Hine & Low, 2017; Hedgcock, Luangrath, & Webster, 2021; Medvec, Madey & Gilovich, 1995 Broomhall, Phillips, Hine & Loi, 2017). • Neural Impacts of Social Rejection (Eisenberger, Lieberman & Williams, 2003). • Cognitive Reframing (Crum, 2021). • Meaning-Motivation Link (Molden & Dweck, 2000). • Productivity Orientation (Keinan & Kivetz, 2008).
@@navdeeptyagiziro You're absolutely correct! A lot of what we know in science today actually comes from ancient philosophers and spiritual teachers. Although they used different methods, their insights are still applicable today. They also believed in the interconnectedness of all things, which is a concept that modern science is only beginning to fully grasp. Not only that, some of the concepts in modern physics have their roots in ancient spiritual and philosophical traditions. The wisdom of the past remains valuable in helping us learn and uncover new knowledge 🧡
OK I have to listen to this a few more times. I have entered a cycle of procrastination that has me feeling desperate and depressed. This is ridiculous because this is not who I used to be. This advice is extremely important. It’s just what I needed. Thank you.
I’m experiencing the same situation. I always wonder why I’ve lost all my motivations. What this talk inspires me the most is instead of focusing on the loss of motivations, think about “What can I do to get excited about it”.
I'm listening to this while I'm fighting with myself to go to a networking event that I don't need to go to but I should go to. half the battle is just by showing up but I've become so afraid these efforts are going to be worthless that I just talked myself out of it. if I don't leave soon I'm going to miss the event and I am not moving fast. my body does not match the effort that my mind wants to make. I don't know if it's a defense mechanism or some kind of mechanism to make me just go and sit back down and do nothing, but it certainly makes you feel crazy that you're actively trying to do two different things.. both act and not act or to act later. definitely have to watch this a couple of times because it nailed my scenario right on the head.
No. You are the most important to “self” You the person that will tell someone else “you messed up my self esteem” You gotta go listen to Katt Williams and stop being “simple”. Lol.
I think is really true but at the end as Shade says, once you are consciouss that your life is only yours, you have to change the narrative and the beliefs you have about yourself. Trying to allign with confidence is a decision and an inner work.
I asked the 12 month old next door about learning to walk and he was saying he used to listen to Anthony Robbins and to read physiology books in order to get a better insight into the process. He said he slowly built up muscle strength in his legs and tried to emulate others who were outstanding walkers. He said never give up and youll achieve your dreams!😅
*Summary* with timestamps. ✏️ Three self-doubt mind pits that limit confidence: 2:31 *Failure to Launch* (the knowing-doing trap), rumination and overthinking. - "What if I fail?", "What if I'm underqualified?", "What if I've missed something?" 3:44 *Treading Water* (failing to finish what we start). - Hesitation, losing interest, seeking greener grass, getting bored. 4:54 *Destination Obsession* - You set an exciting goal; put in the work & discipline to achieve it. Only to derive a short burst of pleasure, followed by a lack of fulfilment. So you immediately set the next goal. - Feeling like you've never done enough. ============================== 💡 *How do you free yourself and avoid falling in?* ============================== 6:38 *Failure to Launch* + Shift your internal narrative (inner/mental chatter). Next time you catch yourself thinking: "I can't do this." => redirect to "How could I make this happen?" + Shift "I should do this" or "I have to do that" to: "I get to do this" or "I choose to do that". + Instead of combating disempowering thoughts, redirect your mind to empowering language that reflects personal control. 💪 + Finally, move from "why" to "what": instead of "Why don't I feel motivated?" ask yourself "What can I do to get excited about getting this done?" + ⚠ It's vital that the reframing is immediately followed by action! 9:10 *Treading Water* + If you find yourself stuck in this mind pit, schedule time to reflect on WHY you're doing what you're doing. ("For the sake of what?") 9:38 *Destination Obsession* + When you're aware of this unhealthy doubt-driven behavior, remind yourself of the irrefutable truths that: > You are not your work. > Your worth is not entirely a reflection of your achievements. and > You're not going to find lasting contentment on the hedonic treadmill of achievement. + Instead, set boundaries for yourself. Lastly, if you notice yourself feeling inadequate due to comparing your current reality to someone else's? Shift the narrative. Say: "I'm happy for this person. What can I learn from their Journey?" 🧠 _You can unlearn [self-doubt] through creating new, healthier habits and tapping into the power of neuroplasticity that rewires your brain._
While healthy relationships are a part of your journey, so is solitude. Have you created time to spend with yourself lately? Really tune in and just be? There is one relationship at the core of all others: you-to-you.
@ReallyReally Are you broken because you're alone, or alone because you're broken? Did you have countless negative thoughts in that time that you now have to counter in order to develop a healthy philosophy? I lived 32 years avoiding people due to cPTSD, social anxiety disorder, and depression on the edge of suicide. Solitude was a symptom of my illness which inevitably led me to psychological awareness through introspection. After 3 years of personal development, now I'm ready to go beyond my 9 to 5 job and excel in business and creative work.
If we allow the toxic pattern of low self-esteem ( through comparison, being bullied, high standards set up by parents) to repeat themselves in our mind we are sure to confirm our low esteem Major issues : Overthinking and rumination ( negative what if's) Treading water( always in a mode of getting ready and acquiring skills.. i.e knowing that what one needs to do yet not taking action) Destination obsession ( always thinking that one has not done enough) Procrastination ( avoiding failure) SOLUTION Cognitive reframing: Changing the mindset from " I have to do this " to " I choose or get to do this" From " why? to "what"? = " Why don't I feel motivated" ? to " What can I do to get excited about getting this done? Taking Action Even if it's small action start taking it Having a meaning to your goal Do not attach your self image to your goal [You are not your work ] Allow yourself to take meaningful breaks ( meditation, exercise etc) Change the mindset of comparison to learning ( what can I learn from this person)
Thank you Shadé! To anyone out there who is doubting the success of what you'd like to do: just try. Recently I've started my own TH-cam journey after years of thinking about it. It's a lot of work, but deciding to break free from procrastination and just get going is so deliberating!
This has always been my main problem, there's a solution to this and you might already know it: "just do it". People will call you unworthy, lazy, pull you down, don't listen to them. Just mind your own business and "just do it". But remember to also take rest and stay in balance. Don't stay at one end because either you will be lazy or burned out due to overworking. Remember, balance.
That's great to know why I feel exhausted sometimes. I always think that it could never enough for me and I have to make myself spend more time on my studying. Your video gives me a lot positive energy. I have learnt that I should "just do it" and stop thinking too much or comparing my journey to anyone. As you said "Excellece then is not an act but a habit" Thank you for inspiring me💗
If I had seen this video five years ago I would have said, "Thank you for helping me to find a goal with meaning: the goal of hunting down and killing the person who caused my self-doubt". I wish I was joking. The good news is that I found forgiveness in a spiritual life that helped me to look honestly at the ways in which I, myself, have been just as guilty of passing harshly negative judgment instead of breaking the cycle... which has led to my forgiveness and acceptance of these former enemies. I hope this was helpful to someone and thank you for making such a helpful video
"Habits are a double edge sword" ❣If they are wrong, they can take us to a grave slowly but quickly or progress us to a good/successful life if they are right. With simple proper habits, we can achieve success whatever success means to an individual.
TL;DR Here are the main points of this talk. Three mind pits: Info-mania; Threading water; Destination obsession. Three corresponding solutions: 1. Action orientation: "I can't do this" to "How could I make this happen.", I choose to do this. And from why to what. 2. Identify the WHY. Find the meaning for motivations 3. Set boundary for yourself. You are not your work. 3. Less comparision: I am happy for this person. What can I learn from his journey.
Failure to launch has been my bane all my life. Thank you for pointing this out, hopefully even after failing many times later in life. I can start, continue and reach my target successfully 🙌
Hello Dear. Thank you for sharing such useful advice. I began my journey to reinvent myself a year ago, and I'm now living healthier, more confident, and stronger, earning six figures, and having time to enjoy family and friends. I'm happier now because I'm living my life for myself. This is to encourage someone that "you may start whenever you want to have a reset, it's worth it!" I'm trying to keep growing since it's a journey💚💚💚
@@melbavic23712 Change your mindset, read self-help books, expand knowledge, budget and don't spend on impulse, save, take your finances seriously, eat healthy, exercise your body, meditate; the list goes on... I hope it is useful to you.
I learnt to be frugal, minimal on spending, saving and paying myself first through Investing, made Plans, growing passive income, Read a lot of books on finance, followed my plan consistently.
This is one of the video i have watched that has refused to leave my mind. It keeps playing over and over in my mind. I saw where i have been getting it wrong and thst has made my life crawling. Thanks for this
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 00:00 🚼 Self-doubt is not inherent; it develops over time due to various influences during our growth. 01:22 🚀 "Failure to Launch" mind pit: Overthinking and excessive preparation can hinder taking action; shift internal narrative to overcome procrastination. 04:39 🔄 "Treading Water" mind pit: Lack of meaning leads to hesitation and a cycle of starting but not finishing; find a clear why to stay committed. 05:35 🎯 "Destination Obsession" mind pit: Relentlessly pursuing goals without satisfaction; set boundaries, prioritize breaks, and shift the narrative to avoid constant comparison. * 08:31 🔄 Overcome "Failure to Launch": Change internal narrative, reframe disempowering thoughts, and take immediate action to break free from overthinking. 09:27 🚢 Escape "Treading Water": Reflect on the meaning behind your commitments, stay aligned with your why, and remind yourself during challenges. 09:57 🛑 Address "Destination Obsession": Acknowledge your worth beyond achievements, set purposeful breaks, and shift the narrative from inadequacy to learning from others' journeys. 10:54 🔄 Reclaim Confidence: Recognize self-doubt habits, raise self-awareness, and commit to inspired actions to avoid the three mind pits.
I have been in self doubt lately it's refreshing this came on my timeline,it definitely reminds I can change my narrative and I have the power to do it for true self
I definitely have less self-doubt after watching a perfectly made video, from a extremely good speaker, telling me about people that are hyper talented. I just don't understand how researchers like Shadé are able to overlook that by building on the narrative that YOU can do it, it is all up to You ("change YOUR narrative") they might try to booster self-confidence but are just creating self-doubt in the next second. This is part of neoliberal thinking that lets' us internally attribute everything: our successes and failures. So you can't just have on side of the coin. If you booster self-confidence, you booster self-doubt as well.
three mind pits - obession to learn more - Does not set realistic goals and only focus on the destination - Compare yourselft to the upwards without realizing how good you are dealing with it - change the stories, why- to what -give the meaning to the action -shift your narrative
Thank you for a new perspective on discipline. Commit to taking meaningful breaks. The idea is insanely helpful. I've suffered from hyper focus, and I easily got burned out. Hence, I'm afraid of work because once I start, I feel like I can't stop and it damages my health. I feel like the idea opens to me a new set of challenges in my life that is healthy and feels good.
Thank you for sharing that. You’re absolutely not alone. There could be many reasons driving this hyper focus and tendency for overachievement - one factor is termed ‘obsessive passion’: “a controlled internalisation of an activity in one’s identity that creates an internal pressure to engage in the activity that the person likes” (Valerand). It’s like a compulsion, where you become obsessed with relentlessly pursuing. The moment you stop working, you feel guilty, shameful, and like you’re ’wasting time.’ There is a way to shift obsessive passion into what’s called harmonious passion, where you still enjoy your work, but you are not tethered to it, and I found one of the best ways to encourage this shift through those meaningful breaks. You give them purpose. I hope you find it helpful. Wishing you all the very best on your journey!
Grateful that you spent less time on why we are this way and more time on how to overcome it. I hesitate to watch videos like these anymore because so many of them start out so negative and our minds are so impressionable that I want to filter out any possible negative programming. Took some good notes. Time to implement. Thank you!
I'm so happy you found value in the approach we took Justin, focusing more on overcoming challenges rather than dwelling on the reasons behind them. There's a lot of information out there about the 'why', so we like to provide tangible, actionable guidance on what can be done for positive behaviour change. I love that you took notes! Wishing you all the best on your journey towards growth and positive change!
I got this video at a time when i was about losing my confident and going to stop the preparation 😢but n0w... I learnt..... Stop overthinking Stop self _doubting Be confident 💪 you can do , you will achieve,no one is better than you 🙏 Alhamdulillah
You have a great gift for explaining things in a way that is easy to grasp. I took full notes in different colors, that I plan to keep and read in my daily planner. I feel like you have thrown me a life saver because I am ADHD❤
ADHD can be a blessing in disguise, once I understood it’s impact on me, I decided to use it to my advantage. People with ADHD tend to be more creative , and we do great when we do things that speaks to our heart. We fail to focus when things are too boring for us, so I started to delegate the things that I can’t do instead of beating myself up and to pay more attention to what I can accomplish.
I'm exactly the third one 😂. I always feel like I'm not working hard enough and that I could have accomplished more each day. I even deny myself food when I'm hungry because I think I haven't met the goal I set for myself. I feel guilty taking breaks, particularly in the evening when the day is almost over and I haven't done much. I used to believe that my goals were appropriate, but my lack of ability compared to others, like not being clever enough, hindered me from achieving them. After watching this video, I now realize that it's a mind pit.
Failing to finish is a realisation that what you’re doing isn’t worth the time for a few letters after your name. Keep chopping and changing, it’s the way forward 😉
Ayo i watched this video twice because this lady is beautiful asf. I couldn't focus I was getting lost in her beauty. But on the real though this lady said everything that I really went through, but I am working on bettering myself. I am going to watch her other ted talks as well.
Shadé Zahrai explains that self-doubt is learned and can be overcome by recognizing and avoiding three common mind pits that limit confidence. The first pit is *Failure* *to* *Launch* which causes people to endlessly prepare and research without taking action due to rumination and overthinking. The second pit is *Treading Water* where people start but fail to finish due to self-doubt and a lack of commitment. The third pit is *Destination Obsession* which occurs when people fixate on a specific outcome, causing anxiety and limiting creativity. By recognizing these mind pits and adopting new habits, people can free themselves from self-doubt and achieve their potential.
I really felt identified with the 3 cases and the most important thing I learnt from this video is about *changing the narrative*. It is so important how our inner communication desenvolves with our reality and how our words have great impact in reality. We are what we do, so in order to change your life you have to change your actions. Right now I was feeling kind of demotivated to finish some video edits for my work because sometimes I feel is dull or boring but that exact thought is what I change now. It is actually fun because it is a video of a very important person in my country and also is part of my journey to become a better video editor and be able to work professionaly for Hollywood, Netflix, HBO. That is my goal and also to enjoy the process. Because it is so beatuful to see how things bloom when you put your energy to it. Thank you so much Shade
Summary for confidence traps: X) Failure to Launch/ Procrastination Problem: Not starting to act at all. Mindset A : I cant do this How could I make this happen? What could I do as the next step(s)? Action: • Think pragmatically about next steps o Strategically: f.e. catch fish o Tactically: I could buy some gear and go to a pond. o Operationally: LAUNCH with the next step and f.e. buy some gear. Then celebrate it and think about next step to operationalize. Y) Stopping to hunt your goal Problem: Giving up on the way Mindset: Find the meaning - the “why” to increase your motivation. Z) Hedonic treadmill Problem A: Il finally be happy and feel worthy when I get there. Problem B: Comparing yourself upward. “He is better thant me.” Problem C: Relentless aggression toward your goal without “sharpening the axe” Mindset A: Problem A is not a valid argument. Getting your cheesecake will make your life superhappy 1 hour a week max. Seek for more ways to live happily. Mindset B: I’m happy for this person. What can I learn from their journey? Mindset C: Take care of yourself on that journey, create Self-awareness, Meditate, Pause.
in brief: In this video, the speaker discusses how self-doubt can limit individuals and offers a pragmatic approach to overcome it. They identify three universal self-doubt "mind pits" that people often fall into: Failure to Launch, Treading Water, and Destination Obsession. To overcome these mind pits, they suggest the following strategies: 1. For Failure to Launch, practice shifting your internal narrative from disempowering thoughts to empowering language. Reframe your thoughts to focus on taking action rather than overthinking and take immediate action to escape this mind pit. 2. For Treading Water, find meaning in your commitments. Reflect on why you're doing what you're doing, the bigger picture, and who you're serving. Align your actions with a clear purpose and remind yourself of it when facing challenges. 3. For Destination Obsession, set boundaries and schedule purposeful breaks. Remind yourself that your worth is not solely a reflection of your achievements. When comparing yourself to others, shift the narrative to focus on learning from their journey. By raising self-awareness and adopting healthier habits, individuals can overcome self-doubt, boost confidence, and tap into their true potential.
Self-doubt actually happens when learning a new unique language we just convince ourselves every thing is difficult, every thing goes wrong, and we're not valid at this language, but while keeping it happens it transforms into amusement then we like the whole journey.
Thank you for sharing this! This is what I need right now. I've been struggling with low self-esteem all my life and have been holding up a lot of plans due to indecisiveness. Thank you again. You are beautiful.
Wow! This is prolific! I'm still wondering how I manage to create these strategies I live my life by and then listen to a talk or read a book by an expert and find out they got their from research. I'm guessing I'm more self aware and living intentionally. I'm grateful.
Dear ShadeZahrai, the rich content and the lively explanation make this talk equal to the course matter in a 200 page book worth its weight in gold. Your knowledge, perseverance, presentation skills and humility are such a wonderful combination that we thank TH-cam for bringing you to us. May you continue to excel in what we do! Thank you so much!
It sounds like you're living with me right now. I'm putting all what I do under doubts because I feel like I'm not moving forward despite what I achieved in the last 8 years, a MBA and PMP, a wonderful experience in with an amazing team but it always seems to me like I'm stuck somewhere and it doesn't feel like me or home inside😢. I'll try to get better with the valuable advice that you just gives us. Thanks Shadé.❤
woah I didn't realize what I currently facing is procrastination, I thought even when I know abt those things I'II notice it when I feel it by myself. Thank u for this great video, so helpful
Wow, I find this comment incredibly insightful. It's fascinating to consider that self-doubt is not inherent but rather something we develop as we grow older. The example of a 12-month-old learning to walk really emphasizes this point. I appreciate how the Shadé Zahrai not only explains how self-doubt is learned but also provides practical solutions to help overcome it. The idea of mind pits is particularly valuable in recognizing when we're stuck in certain thought patterns. I can personally relate to the Failure to Launch and Destination Obsession mind pits, and it's comforting to know that there are ways to overcome them. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and experience with us!
I'm so grateful you've simplified an enormous challenge I struggle with in life down to manageable and sensible solutions. Thank you many times over💛💛💛
Just a precautionary word to anyone feeling guilty they have started something but nod ended it: if you have done it, because this "something" was exhausting you and making you unhappy, you've made the RIGHT decision. I live in a different culture where people stay where they are because they think any alternative may be worst - what gets each of them into mental health struggles.. I think this video was oversimplified and may lead to such actions... To people being exploited on PhD (like myself and my colleagues), but still staying there, because they need to finish what they started...
Very helpful! Just a precautionary word to Gagata93's precautionary word: if what you're procrastinating on is causing you misery then maybe that's because you haven't looked deep enough into the activity to find real, life-affirming worth in it. In that case, you'll be missing out on a lot by quitting. What's even worse is that if the problem lies in the immaturity of your own mind after all, then you won't see the worth in anything and you'll just bounce around from opportunity to opportunity, never getting further than the door. So learn to find or create meaning where you want it to be, I guess.
@@defj660 yeah, I think the issue was working twelve hours a day for just enough pay to cover my tuition and nothing else, having all of the promises I was given broken but I guess that's my immaturity... Try to find meaning in being told "fabricate the research results"
@@Gagata93Broken promises are never OK unless they are extremely rare and followed up with an apology. Otherwise people think nothing of saying/promising things thoughtlessly and without meaning what they say. I live my life by saying what I mean and meaning what I say. Otherwise the words don’t come out of my mouth.
Thank you! I truly appreciate it. I have had these problems for a long time and have been consciously aware of it for the past 2 years, but was struggling to put them into words and finding an antidote for it.
My goodness Islam has already taught me to overcome these problems ❤ by following rules: 1-Failure of start Solution :Belive on Allah 2&3- Failure to finish/Never feeling its enough Solution: Do your best and then simply Belive on Allah and believe on destination But thanks for proper explanation Shade🤗
thanks for these wonderful tips. i think failing to start is my biggest problem. i read plenty of books but never implement them in real life. thanks for giving me some hope. i really admire you
This tedx speaker is so inspiring to me and appears to have authority of Tedx and all those on her side. I am so inspired not just for me but for my colleagues in medicine who are burned out!
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Key points:
1. Failure to start/procrastination
-> Just start, begin with the smallesr action possible towards your goal
2. Serial failure to finish
-> Find the meaning/the why and use that to pull you towards your goal
3. Hedonic treadmill/never feeling like it's enough
-> Understand that you are not your work. Meditate. Pause. Be grateful. Stop comparing yourself.
Thank you for posting the main points... I hate people gatekeeping information
Procrastination is freedom is the only time when you spend time for yourself doing nothing.
Thank you so much ❤❤❤❤
Thankyou 😊
Thank you 🙌
Confidence isn’t “I know they’ll like me”, it’s “I’m okay if they don’t”.
Than what!!!!!!
How would you define the CONFIDENCE
@Sid Sid he already said it.
Confidence is "I'm okay with not being liked, I don't need external approval".
That's how I understood his comment.
Well said
Isn’t it self-esteem?
@@tiniet2238 lots of different forms of everything
It’s wonderful to see that the analogy of the Three Mind Pits is hitting home. Thank you for the beautiful comments! 🙏
When Faysal (my husband) and I were brainstorming the topic we agreed that without overcoming self-doubt no one can truly live their full potential. We hope there’s something in this talk that connects with you and inspires you to get unstuck. Thank you to TEDx for the opportunity to share this message.
In case you’re curious, here’s the research underpinning this talk:
• Knowing-doing Gap (Pfeffer & Sutton, 2000).
• Rumination and Overthinking (Joubert, Moulds, Werner‐Seidler, Sharrock, Popovic & Newby, 2022).
• Upward Counterfactual Thinking (Broomhall, Phillips, Hine & Low, 2017; Hedgcock, Luangrath, & Webster, 2021; Medvec, Madey & Gilovich, 1995 Broomhall, Phillips, Hine & Loi, 2017).
• Neural Impacts of Social Rejection (Eisenberger, Lieberman & Williams, 2003).
• Cognitive Reframing (Crum, 2021).
• Meaning-Motivation Link (Molden & Dweck, 2000).
• Productivity Orientation (Keinan & Kivetz, 2008).
Thanks so much to you and your husband! Kudos 👏 on your work!
Your words have similarity to what Krishn Bhagwan have said in Bhagwat Gita.
@@aplausos2 thank you! We’re so happy it resonated 🙏🙏
@@navdeeptyagiziro You're absolutely correct! A lot of what we know in science today actually comes from ancient philosophers and spiritual teachers. Although they used different methods, their insights are still applicable today. They also believed in the interconnectedness of all things, which is a concept that modern science is only beginning to fully grasp. Not only that, some of the concepts in modern physics have their roots in ancient spiritual and philosophical traditions. The wisdom of the past remains valuable in helping us learn and uncover new knowledge 🧡
The way you explain is just amazing!
OK I have to listen to this a few more times. I have entered a cycle of procrastination that has me feeling desperate and depressed. This is ridiculous because this is not who I used to be. This advice is extremely important. It’s just what I needed. Thank you.
I’m experiencing the same situation. I always wonder why I’ve lost all my motivations. What this talk inspires me the most is instead of focusing on the loss of motivations, think about “What can I do to get excited about it”.
Hope you are doing ok!
I'm listening to this while I'm fighting with myself to go to a networking event that I don't need to go to but I should go to. half the battle is just by showing up but I've become so afraid these efforts are going to be worthless that I just talked myself out of it.
if I don't leave soon I'm going to miss the event and I am not moving fast. my body does not match the effort that my mind wants to make. I don't know if it's a defense mechanism or some kind of mechanism to make me just go and sit back down and do nothing, but it certainly makes you feel crazy that you're actively trying to do two different things.. both act and not act or to act later.
definitely have to watch this a couple of times because it nailed my scenario right on the head.
Procrastinate due to fear of failure 😢😢 You pointed out very well.
And what if i don't have fear of failure at all. Iam just lazy 😂
Self-doubt can be developed from parental or any significant others disapproval. Those people are the most important self-confidence builders.
No. You are the most important to “self”
You the person that will tell someone else “you messed up my self esteem”
You gotta go listen to Katt Williams and stop being “simple”. Lol.
I think is really true but at the end as Shade says, once you are consciouss that your life is only yours, you have to change the narrative and the beliefs you have about yourself. Trying to allign with confidence is a decision and an inner work.
😂 ДЕНЬ НЕЗАВИСИМОСТИ... ЭСТОНИИ -КЕРСТИ КАЛЬЮЛАЙД 5 ЧАСОВ 😂
😂😂.... ДЕНЬ НЕЗАВИСИМОСТИ... ЭСТОНИИ -КЕРСТИ КАЛЬЮЛАЙД 5 ЧАСОВ 😢
Especially if you adore such a one! 😢
I asked the 12 month old next door about learning to walk and he was saying he used to listen to Anthony Robbins and to read physiology books in order to get a better insight into the process. He said he slowly built up muscle strength in his legs and tried to emulate others who were outstanding walkers. He said never give up and youll achieve your dreams!😅
*Summary* with timestamps. ✏️
Three self-doubt mind pits that limit confidence:
2:31 *Failure to Launch* (the knowing-doing trap), rumination and overthinking.
- "What if I fail?", "What if I'm underqualified?", "What if I've missed something?"
3:44 *Treading Water* (failing to finish what we start).
- Hesitation, losing interest, seeking greener grass, getting bored.
4:54 *Destination Obsession*
- You set an exciting goal; put in the work & discipline to achieve it. Only to derive a short burst of pleasure, followed by a lack of fulfilment. So you immediately set the next goal.
- Feeling like you've never done enough.
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💡 *How do you free yourself and avoid falling in?*
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6:38 *Failure to Launch*
+ Shift your internal narrative (inner/mental chatter).
Next time you catch yourself thinking: "I can't do this." => redirect to "How could I make this happen?"
+ Shift "I should do this" or "I have to do that" to: "I get to do this" or "I choose to do that".
+ Instead of combating disempowering thoughts, redirect your mind to empowering language that reflects personal control. 💪
+ Finally, move from "why" to "what": instead of "Why don't I feel motivated?" ask yourself "What can I do to get excited about getting this done?"
+ ⚠ It's vital that the reframing is immediately followed by action!
9:10 *Treading Water*
+ If you find yourself stuck in this mind pit, schedule time to reflect on WHY you're doing what you're doing. ("For the sake of what?")
9:38 *Destination Obsession*
+ When you're aware of this unhealthy doubt-driven behavior, remind yourself of the irrefutable truths that:
> You are not your work.
> Your worth is not entirely a reflection of your achievements.
and
> You're not going to find lasting contentment on the hedonic treadmill of achievement.
+ Instead, set boundaries for yourself.
Lastly, if you notice yourself feeling inadequate due to comparing your current reality to someone else's? Shift the narrative. Say: "I'm happy for this person. What can I learn from their Journey?"
🧠 _You can unlearn [self-doubt] through creating new, healthier habits and tapping into the power of neuroplasticity that rewires your brain._
Wait! I hope u do book review. If not, u really need to start! By thr way, thank so much
Thanks for writing these down. Very grateful to you :)
Thanks man 😊
Thanks
Thanks
While healthy relationships are a part of your journey, so is solitude. Have you created time to spend with yourself lately? Really tune in and just be? There is one relationship at the core of all others: you-to-you.
That's true nothing is more important than our healthy relationship
Yes! I wholeheartedly agree
@ReallyReally Are you broken because you're alone, or alone because you're broken?
Did you have countless negative thoughts in that time that you now have to counter in order to develop a healthy philosophy?
I lived 32 years avoiding people due to cPTSD, social anxiety disorder, and depression on the edge of suicide. Solitude was a symptom of my illness which inevitably led me to psychological awareness through introspection. After 3 years of personal development, now I'm ready to go beyond my 9 to 5 job and excel in business and creative work.
Of course. Until you’re out of your pubertate 😂
Solitude.... It's a sweet poison. Get used to it too much and it's all you ever want, nothing but being left alone.
I absolutely love Shadé and the way she explains concepts. I am truely inspired! Thank you Shadé!
I am expecting this type ofcomment from
An India 😂😂😂
@@ankitporwal5760 🤔
If we allow the toxic pattern of low self-esteem ( through comparison, being bullied, high standards set up by parents) to repeat themselves in our mind we are sure to confirm our low esteem
Major issues :
Overthinking and rumination ( negative what if's)
Treading water( always in a mode of getting ready and acquiring skills.. i.e knowing that what one needs to do yet not taking action)
Destination obsession ( always thinking that one has not done enough)
Procrastination ( avoiding failure)
SOLUTION
Cognitive reframing:
Changing the mindset from " I have to do this " to " I choose or get to do this"
From " why? to "what"? = " Why don't I feel motivated" ? to " What can I do to get excited about getting this done?
Taking Action
Even if it's small action start taking it
Having a meaning to your goal
Do not attach your self image to your goal
[You are not your work ]
Allow yourself to take meaningful breaks ( meditation, exercise etc)
Change the mindset of comparison to learning ( what can I learn from this person)
Thank you Shadé! To anyone out there who is doubting the success of what you'd like to do: just try. Recently I've started my own TH-cam journey after years of thinking about it. It's a lot of work, but deciding to break free from procrastination and just get going is so deliberating!
How wonderful for you! Wishing you all the best on the journey of building a community and having an impact on TH-cam!
This has always been my main problem, there's a solution to this and you might already know it: "just do it". People will call you unworthy, lazy, pull you down, don't listen to them. Just mind your own business and "just do it". But remember to also take rest and stay in balance. Don't stay at one end because either you will be lazy or burned out due to overworking. Remember, balance.
That's great to know why I feel exhausted sometimes. I always think that it could never enough for me and I have to make myself spend more time on my studying.
Your video gives me a lot positive energy. I have learnt that I should "just do it" and stop thinking too much or comparing my journey to anyone.
As you said "Excellece then is not an act but a habit"
Thank you for inspiring me💗
The skill of articulation you have is top notch.
Her voice is so soothing
*This woman has the smoothest, most eloquent voice. I can listen to her all day*
She’s got a fascinating hybrid accent.
If I had seen this video five years ago I would have said, "Thank you for helping me to find a goal with meaning: the goal of hunting down and killing the person who caused my self-doubt". I wish I was joking. The good news is that I found forgiveness in a spiritual life that helped me to look honestly at the ways in which I, myself, have been just as guilty of passing harshly negative judgment instead of breaking the cycle... which has led to my forgiveness and acceptance of these former enemies. I hope this was helpful to someone and thank you for making such a helpful video
"Habits are a double edge sword" ❣If they are wrong, they can take us to a grave slowly but quickly or progress us to a good/successful life if they are right. With simple proper habits, we can achieve success whatever success means to an individual.
TL;DR Here are the main points of this talk.
Three mind pits: Info-mania; Threading water; Destination obsession.
Three corresponding solutions: 1. Action orientation: "I can't do this" to "How could I make this happen.", I choose to do this. And from why to what.
2. Identify the WHY. Find the meaning for motivations
3. Set boundary for yourself. You are not your work.
3. Less comparision: I am happy for this person. What can I learn from his journey.
Failure to launch has been my bane all my life. Thank you for pointing this out, hopefully even after failing many times later in life. I can start, continue and reach my target successfully 🙌
Hello Dear. Thank you for sharing such useful advice. I began my journey to reinvent myself a year ago, and I'm now living healthier, more confident, and stronger, earning six figures, and having time to enjoy family and friends. I'm happier now because I'm living my life for myself. This is to encourage someone that "you may start whenever you want to have a reset, it's worth it!" I'm trying to keep growing since it's a journey💚💚💚
Congratulations Mariana 🎊🎊Thanks for encouraging others with your story, I will love to get tips from you too.
@@melbavic23712 Change your mindset, read self-help books, expand knowledge, budget and don't spend on impulse, save, take your finances seriously, eat healthy, exercise your body, meditate; the list goes on... I hope it is useful to you.
That is so amazing!! Thank you for sharing your story. I really hope it inspires another lady out there to start taking action♥♥♥
@@mariana23273 How did you grow to 6 Figure? I'm honestly trying to work on my personal finance this year.
I learnt to be frugal, minimal on spending, saving and paying myself first through Investing, made Plans, growing passive income, Read a lot of books on finance, followed my plan consistently.
This is one of the video i have watched that has refused to leave my mind. It keeps playing over and over in my mind. I saw where i have been getting it wrong and thst has made my life crawling. Thanks for this
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:
00:00 🚼 Self-doubt is not inherent; it develops over time due to various influences during our growth.
01:22 🚀 "Failure to Launch" mind pit: Overthinking and excessive preparation can hinder taking action; shift internal narrative to overcome procrastination.
04:39 🔄 "Treading Water" mind pit: Lack of meaning leads to hesitation and a cycle of starting but not finishing; find a clear why to stay committed.
05:35 🎯 "Destination Obsession" mind pit: Relentlessly pursuing goals without satisfaction; set boundaries, prioritize breaks, and shift the narrative to avoid constant comparison. *
08:31 🔄 Overcome "Failure to Launch": Change internal narrative, reframe disempowering thoughts, and take immediate action to break free from overthinking.
09:27 🚢 Escape "Treading Water": Reflect on the meaning behind your commitments, stay aligned with your why, and remind yourself during challenges.
09:57 🛑 Address "Destination Obsession": Acknowledge your worth beyond achievements, set purposeful breaks, and shift the narrative from inadequacy to learning from others' journeys.
10:54 🔄 Reclaim Confidence: Recognize self-doubt habits, raise self-awareness, and commit to inspired actions to avoid the three mind pits.
"Excellence then is not an act but a habit"
I love this. I use that analogy. Watching my son trying to walk 10 years ago,motivated me to never give up.
TEDx talks are smth which we always look for..
Thank you TEDx ❤️
Shadé is undoubtedly one of the best motivational & charismatic speaker I have come across. Thanks for what you are doing!
SHADE = Westernized Liberal Muslim women.
u know the type that thinks being " westernized" is being modern and free (lmao).
I have been in self doubt lately it's refreshing this came on my timeline,it definitely reminds I can change my narrative and I have the power to do it for true self
it's happen to me now and thanks God I watch this.
Alhamdulillah
I definitely have less self-doubt after watching a perfectly made video, from a extremely good speaker, telling me about people that are hyper talented. I just don't understand how researchers like Shadé are able to overlook that by building on the narrative that YOU can do it, it is all up to You ("change YOUR narrative") they might try to booster self-confidence but are just creating self-doubt in the next second. This is part of neoliberal thinking that lets' us internally attribute everything: our successes and failures. So you can't just have on side of the coin. If you booster self-confidence, you booster self-doubt as well.
THANK YOU SHADE! You have helped me more with this 11 minutes video than my therapist in 3 years.
three mind pits
- obession to learn more
- Does not set realistic goals and only focus on the destination
- Compare yourselft to the upwards without realizing how good you are
dealing with it
- change the stories, why- to what
-give the meaning to the action
-shift your narrative
Thank you for a new perspective on discipline. Commit to taking meaningful breaks. The idea is insanely helpful. I've suffered from hyper focus, and I easily got burned out. Hence, I'm afraid of work because once I start, I feel like I can't stop and it damages my health. I feel like the idea opens to me a new set of challenges in my life that is healthy and feels good.
Thank you for sharing that. You’re absolutely not alone. There could be many reasons driving this hyper focus and tendency for overachievement - one factor is termed ‘obsessive passion’: “a controlled internalisation of an activity in one’s identity that creates an internal pressure to engage in the activity that the person likes” (Valerand). It’s like a compulsion, where you become obsessed with relentlessly pursuing. The moment you stop working, you feel guilty, shameful, and like you’re ’wasting time.’
There is a way to shift obsessive passion into what’s called harmonious passion, where you still enjoy your work, but you are not tethered to it, and I found one of the best ways to encourage this shift through those meaningful breaks. You give them purpose.
I hope you find it helpful.
Wishing you all the very best on your journey!
I had to watch the entire video again because i was so mesmerised by her eyes that i ended up googling "how to make your eyes shine?". great video
This talk beautifully summarizes the reasons for me be hesitant and stuck. Thank you Shade for your guidance, its time to act now!!! 😎
Perfect talk. Thanks 1,000,000 for sharing your work.
Grateful that you spent less time on why we are this way and more time on how to overcome it. I hesitate to watch videos like these anymore because so many of them start out so negative and our minds are so impressionable that I want to filter out any possible negative programming. Took some good notes. Time to implement. Thank you!
I'm so happy you found value in the approach we took Justin, focusing more on overcoming challenges rather than dwelling on the reasons behind them. There's a lot of information out there about the 'why', so we like to provide tangible, actionable guidance on what can be done for positive behaviour change. I love that you took notes! Wishing you all the best on your journey towards growth and positive change!
I got this video at a time when i was about losing my confident and going to stop the preparation 😢but n0w...
I learnt.....
Stop overthinking
Stop self _doubting
Be confident 💪 you can do , you will achieve,no one is better than you 🙏 Alhamdulillah
You have a great gift for explaining things in a way that is easy to grasp. I took full notes in different colors, that I plan to keep and read in my daily planner. I feel like you have thrown me a life saver because I am ADHD❤
ADHD can be a blessing in disguise, once I understood it’s impact on me, I decided to use it to my advantage. People with ADHD tend to be more creative , and we do great when we do things that speaks to our heart. We fail to focus when things are too boring for us, so I started to delegate the things that I can’t do instead of beating myself up and to pay more attention to what I can accomplish.
@@zinaali6770 I love your comment! I'll start doing this
@@zinaali6770 that's actually true, I realized this very late which was bleaking my self esteem for such a long time.
I have the same problem right now :(
Now please tell this forum what else are you beyond ADHD🕯️
Excellence is not an act its an habit. Thank you
I'm exactly the third one 😂. I always feel like I'm not working hard enough and that I could have accomplished more each day. I even deny myself food when I'm hungry because I think I haven't met the goal I set for myself. I feel guilty taking breaks, particularly in the evening when the day is almost over and I haven't done much. I used to believe that my goals were appropriate, but my lack of ability compared to others, like not being clever enough, hindered me from achieving them. After watching this video, I now realize that it's a mind pit.
Failing to finish is a realisation that what you’re doing isn’t worth the time for a few letters after your name. Keep chopping and changing, it’s the way forward 😉
She is perfect !!! 💯 She looks like an AI model with no flaws ❤
Really a conceptually fresh TED Talk after such a long time.
Ayo i watched this video twice because this lady is beautiful asf. I couldn't focus I was getting lost in her beauty. But on the real though this lady said everything that I really went through, but I am working on bettering myself. I am going to watch her other ted talks as well.
Dear Shade,
You have truly inspired me.
I have started smiling and that's the beginning right?
Yeah dude!!
Oh my God, You are not only smart and confident, you are also very beautiful. You got it all.
Shadé Zahrai explains that self-doubt is learned and can be overcome by recognizing and avoiding three common mind pits that limit confidence.
The first pit is *Failure* *to* *Launch* which causes people to endlessly prepare and research without taking action due to rumination and overthinking.
The second pit is *Treading Water* where people start but fail to finish due to self-doubt and a lack of commitment.
The third pit is *Destination Obsession* which occurs when people fixate on a specific outcome, causing anxiety and limiting creativity.
By recognizing these mind pits and adopting new habits, people can free themselves from self-doubt and achieve their potential.
Thank you madam Zahrai and TEDx for the amazing information.
You are serving a great purpose of making people peaceful, perseverant, and more productive.
This 11 minutes are pure gold!! Thank you
I love her as the way she deliver the knowledge and talk.. nd voice
I really felt identified with the 3 cases and the most important thing I learnt from this video is about *changing the narrative*. It is so important how our inner communication desenvolves with our reality and how our words have great impact in reality.
We are what we do, so in order to change your life you have to change your actions.
Right now I was feeling kind of demotivated to finish some video edits for my work because sometimes I feel is dull or boring but that exact thought is what I change now. It is actually fun because it is a video of a very important person in my country and also is part of my journey to become a better video editor and be able to work professionaly for Hollywood, Netflix, HBO. That is my goal and also to enjoy the process. Because it is so beatuful to see how things bloom when you put your energy to it.
Thank you so much Shade
Summary for confidence traps:
X) Failure to Launch/ Procrastination
Problem: Not starting to act at all.
Mindset A : I cant do this How could I make this happen? What could I do as the next step(s)?
Action:
• Think pragmatically about next steps
o Strategically: f.e. catch fish
o Tactically: I could buy some gear and go to a pond.
o Operationally: LAUNCH with the next step and f.e. buy some gear. Then celebrate it and think about next step to operationalize.
Y) Stopping to hunt your goal
Problem: Giving up on the way
Mindset: Find the meaning - the “why” to increase your motivation.
Z) Hedonic treadmill
Problem A: Il finally be happy and feel worthy when I get there.
Problem B: Comparing yourself upward. “He is better thant me.”
Problem C: Relentless aggression toward your goal without “sharpening the axe”
Mindset A: Problem A is not a valid argument. Getting your cheesecake will make your life superhappy 1 hour a week max. Seek for more ways to live happily.
Mindset B: I’m happy for this person. What can I learn from their journey?
Mindset C: Take care of yourself on that journey, create Self-awareness, Meditate, Pause.
in brief:
In this video, the speaker discusses how self-doubt can limit individuals and offers a pragmatic approach to overcome it.
They identify three universal self-doubt "mind pits" that people often fall into: Failure to Launch, Treading Water, and Destination Obsession.
To overcome these mind pits, they suggest the following strategies:
1. For Failure to Launch, practice shifting your internal narrative from disempowering thoughts to empowering language.
Reframe your thoughts to focus on taking action rather than overthinking and take immediate action to escape this mind pit.
2. For Treading Water, find meaning in your commitments. Reflect on why you're doing what you're doing, the bigger picture, and who you're serving.
Align your actions with a clear purpose and remind yourself of it when facing challenges.
3. For Destination Obsession, set boundaries and schedule purposeful breaks.
Remind yourself that your worth is not solely a reflection of your achievements. When comparing yourself to others, shift the narrative to focus on learning from their journey.
By raising self-awareness and adopting healthier habits, individuals can overcome self-doubt, boost confidence, and tap into their true potential.
Self-doubt actually happens when learning a new unique language we just convince ourselves every thing is difficult, every thing goes wrong, and we're not valid at this language, but while keeping it happens it transforms into amusement then we like the whole journey.
Thank you for sharing this! This is what I need right now. I've been struggling with low self-esteem all my life and have been holding up a lot of plans due to indecisiveness. Thank you again. You are beautiful.
It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything.
Wow! This is prolific! I'm still wondering how I manage to create these strategies I live my life by and then listen to a talk or read a book by an expert and find out they got their from research. I'm guessing I'm more self aware and living intentionally. I'm grateful.
Oh, wow, it was the best talk about self doubt and how to manage it. All I needed today. Thank you so much Shade ❤️
Thanks. Yes, agreed, overthinking definitely kills the confidence. Other tips are also very important.
Shade is awesome. I love her content, mostly on communication.
So well spoken, thanks for this!
Wow ohmygosh. Shadé is absolutely gorgeous. She's classically elegant! 😲 Beauty and brains ☺
Schedule breaks that are purposeful. 💯
Dear ShadeZahrai, the rich content and the lively explanation make this talk equal to the course matter in a 200 page book worth its weight in gold. Your knowledge, perseverance, presentation skills and humility are such a wonderful combination that we thank TH-cam for bringing you to us. May you continue to excel in what we do! Thank you so much!
It sounds like you're living with me right now. I'm putting all what I do under doubts because I feel like I'm not moving forward despite what I achieved in the last 8 years, a MBA and PMP, a wonderful experience in with an amazing team but it always seems to me like I'm stuck somewhere and it doesn't feel like me or home inside😢.
I'll try to get better with the valuable advice that you just gives us.
Thanks Shadé.❤
woah I didn't realize what I currently facing is procrastination, I thought even when I know abt those things I'II notice it when I feel it by myself. Thank u for this great video, so helpful
It was one of the best speeches I've listened to. I'm guilty of these behaviours
Wow, I find this comment incredibly insightful. It's fascinating to consider that self-doubt is not inherent but rather something we develop as we grow older.
The example of a 12-month-old learning to walk really emphasizes this point. I appreciate how the Shadé Zahrai not only explains how self-doubt is learned but also provides practical solutions to help overcome it.
The idea of mind pits is particularly valuable in recognizing when we're stuck in certain thought patterns. I can personally relate to the Failure to Launch and Destination Obsession mind pits, and it's comforting to know that there are ways to overcome them.
Thank you for sharing your knowledge and experience with us!
Glad it resonated!
😂 ДЕНЬ НЕЗАВИСИМОСТИ.... ЭСТОНИИ -КЕРСТИ КАЛЬЮЛАЙД 5 ЧАСОВ 😂
The most useful content that I ever found in TH-cam
I found everything in this video deeply researched and articulately explained. We need to get out of this Knowing-Doing Trap.
Off topic, but she is so beautiful and well-spoken!
Great TedTalk! Comparing and doubting ourselves is the thief of joy!
I'm going to watch this video 100 times un order to acquire all the valuable information it has. 🙌
I'm so grateful you've simplified an enormous challenge I struggle with in life down to manageable and sensible solutions. Thank you many times over💛💛💛
Just a precautionary word to anyone feeling guilty they have started something but nod ended it: if you have done it, because this "something" was exhausting you and making you unhappy, you've made the RIGHT decision. I live in a different culture where people stay where they are because they think any alternative may be worst - what gets each of them into mental health struggles.. I think this video was oversimplified and may lead to such actions... To people being exploited on PhD (like myself and my colleagues), but still staying there, because they need to finish what they started...
Very helpful!
Just a precautionary word to Gagata93's precautionary word: if what you're procrastinating on is causing you misery then maybe that's because you haven't looked deep enough into the activity to find real, life-affirming worth in it. In that case, you'll be missing out on a lot by quitting.
What's even worse is that if the problem lies in the immaturity of your own mind after all, then you won't see the worth in anything and you'll just bounce around from opportunity to opportunity, never getting further than the door. So learn to find or create meaning where you want it to be, I guess.
@@defj660 yeah, I think the issue was working twelve hours a day for just enough pay to cover my tuition and nothing else, having all of the promises I was given broken but I guess that's my immaturity... Try to find meaning in being told "fabricate the research results"
@@Gagata93Broken promises are never OK unless they are extremely rare and followed up with an apology. Otherwise people think nothing of saying/promising things thoughtlessly and without meaning what they say. I live my life by saying what I mean and meaning what I say. Otherwise the words don’t come out of my mouth.
It's comforting to know that there's professionals out there doing the hard work of helping millionaire tech bros deal with a bit of unpleasantness.
there are*
It's not a competition who suffers more. Mental health isn't exclusive to millionaire tech broa either
You're funny, Jackie😂
IM OBSESSED WITH THIS WOMEN❤
you must be obsessed with that rediculous accent
Unbelievable...it's like you've stepped into my head ! I'm glad I found this video !
I’m so happy it was relevant for you!
Stunningly beautiful and Incredibly intelligent person ✨
Thank you so much for this. I' m going through a diffucult time right now and this video is just what I needed.
Best tedx talk i have seen till now
Omg...i used to watch shorts of shadé last year... I'm happy that she's made it this far to do a Ted talk... good 4 u
Actually it's her 3rd ted talk😄
I’ve been watching these lately because I’ve been feeling so low on my self esteem! Thanks!
Thank you so much Shadé Zahrai ❤❤❤❤
On a twenty year journey to helping my people. Thank you for the update.
Thank you! I truly appreciate it. I have had these problems for a long time and have been consciously aware of it for the past 2 years, but was struggling to put them into words and finding an antidote for it.
We're glad it resonated with you. Hope the tips in this talk will be helpful on your journey of growth Angela! Wishing you all the best.
My goodness Islam has already taught me to overcome these problems ❤ by following rules:
1-Failure of start
Solution :Belive on Allah
2&3- Failure to finish/Never feeling its enough
Solution: Do your best and then simply Belive on Allah and believe on destination
But thanks for proper explanation Shade🤗
I love the way she broke these three issues down in their simplest forms. I really needed this at this point in my life.
Dear almighty, why did you make her so adorable 😻😻😻
Thanks Shade Zahrai It's A Great Interview!
thanks for these wonderful tips. i think failing to start is my biggest problem. i read plenty of books but never implement them in real life. thanks for giving me some hope. i really admire you
All of these habits describe me. Thank you for this 🙏🏼
Dunno why but this video srsly made me emotional 😢 It was so inspiring! thank you shade ❤
I’m so happy that it resonated and seemed to be timely! Thinking of you, and wishing you all the very best on your journey.
@@ShadeZahrai thank you sooooo much ❤️⭐
This tedx speaker is so inspiring to me and appears to have authority of Tedx and all those on her side. I am so inspired not just for me but for my colleagues in medicine who are burned out!
I just want to say she is gorgeous its un real 😍😍😍
You are each and every word I have I have I am feeling from last one and half years...😊
very strong speech, thank you from my heart