It took me 4 years to leave , but 1 month to heal. I think I was just mentally checked out for so long, and the peace of not being on the rollercoaster helped. Also, actually sitting and thinking about everything he put me through helped me heal fast as well.
6 months for me, intense therapy (4-5 hour sessions, 2-3x a week). Lots of work outside of therapy....nonstop work day and night.... never went back to him, went no contact 2 days after the breakup. Healing is the hardest thing I've ever had to do in my life... I wish for healing for everyone. It's not easy but it's worth it
I was watching narc videos for other reasons. But any feeling I had left for him after the divorce completely left when I realized that he was a narc. That was the ultimate closure on the entire marriage.
For those with children. Yes. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. Yes, it's rough. But the children do grow up. With varying outcomes. I've got kids who initially sided with the narc, and kids who want into mental health as the result of it. The sooner you get out and go gray Rock on them, the better.
But just remember just because YOU left doesn't mean they are not still meddling in you're life in severe cases, and if they are and you know it it will make things difficult to heal. This type of situation is usually when you've encountered a covert narcissist. They are the absolute worst to heal from in my opinion. Know what you see. God bless all of you in here.
@jimmydean exactly!!!!!!! 😢😢😢😢 that’s what he doesn’t know. Saying stop communicating like it’s that easy even when u leave a narc they will stalk u or do things to make u have to communicate with them! Especially having kids with them or worse when u have to live in there home
It depends on the person and the damage. I spent 14 yrs from 14 to 28 living homeless and beat up. Ive healed from my physical wounds but left with reminders. For me personally, I dont think I will heal completely from emotional damage I get triggered just washing my hands. I won't entertain them tho. I get my mind elsewhere. I can function🤗
My divorce was finalized today. Her mask came off some time in June. She committed adultery in August. I moved out shortly after. These 3 months of no contact have been great for healing. She has been so diabolical since June that it actually has been easy.
Id like to know why a narcissist go back with an old supply they dumped for me? I exposed him and told her he was still texting me . He’s a parasite and very toxic narcissist
I did see her comment once but only because I was mentioned by her and it was shown in the search. Nothing toxic but it was giving me the ick while thinking to myself, why did she even had the need to make that comment? Its like shes seeking for any opportunity to get attention even when its trough my past work.
I think something is wrong with me because I'm still replaying the whole thing in my head...some days are better than others. I'm functional but I feel like I'm just spinning on the hamster wheel. He left a long time ago, and never turned to look back. Its obvious that he doesn't care about our son,or me. I have no idea where he may be or what he may be up to. I wish I could do the same, just omit someone's existence from my memory and heart......its like we never existed... he's a stranger to me.
Took me 4yrs to heal and 1 to detach...Now I'm stronger than ever I never felt so powerful by God's grace and mercy.
In October I reached 4 years no contact and I feel I’m finally the most healed I’ve been
Listen to what he is saying. He speaks truth! I am free now.
It took me 4 years to leave , but 1 month to heal. I think I was just mentally checked out for so long, and the peace of not being on the rollercoaster helped. Also, actually sitting and thinking about everything he put me through helped me heal fast as well.
6 months for me, intense therapy (4-5 hour sessions, 2-3x a week). Lots of work outside of therapy....nonstop work day and night.... never went back to him, went no contact 2 days after the breakup. Healing is the hardest thing I've ever had to do in my life... I wish for healing for everyone. It's not easy but it's worth it
I was watching narc videos for other reasons. But any feeling I had left for him after the divorce completely left when I realized that he was a narc. That was the ultimate closure on the entire marriage.
TRUE, TRUE, TRUE! 💯💯💯
For those with children. Yes. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. Yes, it's rough. But the children do grow up. With varying outcomes. I've got kids who initially sided with the narc, and kids who want into mental health as the result of it. The sooner you get out and go gray Rock on them, the better.
I did tell him to “ leave me the fuck alone” with a criminal protection order for 3yrs 😂
But just remember just because YOU left doesn't mean they are not still meddling in you're life in severe cases, and if they are and you know it it will make things difficult to heal. This type of situation is usually when you've encountered a covert narcissist. They are the absolute worst to heal from in my opinion. Know what you see. God bless all of you in here.
@jimmydean exactly!!!!!!! 😢😢😢😢 that’s what he doesn’t know. Saying stop communicating like it’s that easy even when u leave a narc they will stalk u or do things to make u have to communicate with them! Especially having kids with them or worse when u have to live in there home
Thank you.
💯💯💣 be you Lee
Been 8 years I don’t think I will ever b completely healed
Lol you said fuck it 😂
It depends on the person and the damage.
I spent 14 yrs from 14 to 28 living homeless and beat up. Ive healed from my physical wounds but left with reminders. For me personally, I dont think I will heal completely from emotional damage
I get triggered just washing my hands. I won't entertain them tho. I get my mind elsewhere.
I can function🤗
My divorce was finalized today. Her mask came off some time in June. She committed adultery in August. I moved out shortly after. These 3 months of no contact have been great for healing. She has been so diabolical since June that it actually has been easy.
Luther Vandross 😂😂 boi you gone Lee!! Great video! Truth! Still healing gotta parallel parent 😂 but i have boundaries which makes healing ok.
Id like to know why a narcissist go back with an old supply they dumped for me? I exposed him and told her he was still texting me . He’s a parasite and very toxic narcissist
I did see her comment once but only because I was mentioned by her and it was shown in the search. Nothing toxic but it was giving me the ick while thinking to myself, why did she even had the need to make that comment? Its like shes seeking for any opportunity to get attention even when its trough my past work.
I think something is wrong with me because I'm still replaying the whole thing in my head...some days are better than others. I'm functional but I feel like I'm just spinning on the hamster wheel. He left a long time ago, and never turned to look back. Its obvious that he doesn't care about our son,or me. I have no idea where he may be or what he may be up to. I wish I could do the same, just omit someone's existence from my memory and heart......its like we never existed... he's a stranger to me.
It’s a trauma bond and it will get better. Nothing is wrong with you . Counseling helps
Is it better to heal by confronting when they contact
Today is my birthday and I’m struggling I had 5 months then I texted him back now I’m starting over
Happy birthday
@ thank you 😊
Luther Vandross.....lmao