Narcissists move VERY fast in relationships. It's not uncommon to hear, “I love you", and/or be bombarded with love songs/texts/memes a few weeks after meeting them. By rushing into sex/intimacy, they fast-forward the relationship. They get their targets to fall for them before he/she can realize something is amiss. I believe this is also the reason they tend to be VERY good lovers. Sex is usually the “hook” in toxic relationships. Narcissists lack genuine personalities. So, they mirror their targets. If you find you have “so much in common" with a new person, your likes are their likes, and your dislikes are coincidentally their dislikes as well, raise your antennas! They may be mirroring you. This is the “soulmates" hook… You'll also notice that they'll spend more time telling you who they are, verses showing you. As time goes on, you'll notice the words they used to describe themselves do not fit their personality - at all. But, they will fit YOURS!!! Passive-aggressive behavior and irrational/unexplained anger, are also major red flags. Pay attention to how a person treats you the first time you say, “No”, and/or when things don't go their way… If they give you the silent treatment, grow cold, and/or pull away, do not overlook it! Most importantly, if someone pulls away, or goes silent, after you set a boundary - DO NOT pursue them! This is how they groom you to be the chaser in the relationship. It's emotional abuse/manipulation! Pay close attention to people who portray themselves as victims. NOTHING is EVER their fault! EVERYONE, including the family pet, has done them wrong… ALL of their ex's are “crazy” and mistreated them… They’re great, but no one appreciates said greatness… Simply put, it's bullshit! No one should have a laundry list of bad experiences. If they do, RUN, because they're the common denominator! Narcissists tend to have a history of failed/short-term relationships. Believe it or not, it's hard for Narcissists to find people to deal with them long term due to their instability and poor behavior… Superficial relationships/friendships. I've noticed they don't have anyone they're genuinely close to. This is due to their inability to bond and form true attachments to people. Their relationships are shallow and based on surface-level bs. They'll refer to someone as their bestfriend, but you’ll notice they barely speak. Or, that the person is never really around. Or, only shows up when it's time to party, etc. They may also speak down on/poorly of said “bestfriend” behind their back. Narcissists tend to be condescending, two-faced and downright mean! Based on my experience, they cannot talk about deep subjects (i.e. fears/emotions). Or, how a situation truly made them feel. Or, what their childhood was like in detail… They don't want to go there. I suspect, it's because they can't. They don't know themselves well enough. They can't connect. They also live in a world of dishonesty. They're very dishonest with themselves about who they truly are. A poor relationship with their Mother/primary caregiver. Underlying issues between Narcissists and their Mother's (abuse, neglect, don’t get along, etc.), seems to be common. People that I've known who've displayed strong Narcissistic tendencies, ALL had bad relationships with their Mothers! I think it's worth mentioning, their Mother's also displayed strong Narcissistic traits… I'm fully aware and understand that there are healthy adults who have toxic Mother's. However, if you're spotting several red flags in an individual, including this one, pay closer attention! They're selfish! Some are selfish from the very beginning. Some start out generous and slowly begin withholding. Some act helpless and needy. They manipulate people into doing things for them, but never give back. It's not only financial and material selfishness. They're selfish emotionally, affectionately, conversationally. sexually and with their attention. They withhold validation and support. EVERYTHING has to be about them, their needs, their wants and everything happens on their terms. Anger, rage, silent treatments and disappearing acts are common - when they don't get their way. Pathological lying. Narcissists are professional liars. It's their second nature. If you call them out, they'll have no issue staring deeply into your eyes as they tell another lie! You'll hardly ever get the truth. Even with unchallengeable proof of the truth, they'll hold on to the lie. It's actually quite fascinating to see them in action - once you know what you’re dealing with. They also have the uncanny ability to provoke doubt in their victims (even when you KNOW the truth), because their lies are so convincing! Beware of people who do not seek conflict resolution. Many Narcissists enjoy drama/chaos! Remember, these are high-conflict personalities. Many of them NEED to argue and fight! Peace to a narcissist, is what chaos is to non-disordered people - unsettling. This is why they repeat behaviors that trigger a negative response. They need tension, anger and high/out of control emotions. They're known for calling people crazy, drama queens, insecure, etc., but never admit what they did to provoke those responses. And, when you attempt to discuss/resolve something, THEY said/did, they’ll gaslight, stonewall and/or flip it back on to you. They're extremely disrespectful, rude and lack self-awareness. They have an issue with being called out on their behavior and project/deflect to avoid accountability. “Normal” people want to get along, for the most part. So, they seek fair compromises when conflict arises. Narcissists want to “win” and conflict IS their niche. This is how many Narcissists get their way - they wear people down via conflict. Immaturity. It’s one thing to be playful and lighthearted (in appropriate settings), as an adult. It’s something completely different to be immature. Narcissists suffer from arrested development. They do not know how to respond to situations/people/stress/life appropriately. They have a child-like mindset. They truly believe everything is about them and have no concept of the needs of others. By nature, children are takers. They have no concept of reciprocation. They believe their Parents (and everyone else), exists to meet their needs. When their needs aren’t met, or they don’t get what they want, they become mean and throw tantrums. Narcissists cannot think outside of themselves and their wants/needs - like children. They’re completely unaware that people are individuals with their own agency, needs, wants, opinions... They truly believe people exist to serve them. They believe their job is to receive. They’re children trapped in adult bodies, who cannot consider anything/anyone other than themselves! Above everything I've stated, trust your intuition! Narcissists give off an uneasy vibe. They try very hard to appear cool, calm and collected - on the surface. But, you can feel their energy. It's very off-putting. They also tend to have more noticeable negative qualities, than most people. But, you have to stop justifying and making excuses, in order to see things clearly. Accept people for who they are and not who you want them to be. Observe, listen and trust yourself. No one should be allowed to grant themselves a position in your life. Vet people and YOU decide if they'll be a liability, or an asset, to you. Lastly, take cues from your body. If you ever feel your mood changing, feel anxious or feel your stomach knot up, in the company of someone, don't dismiss it! It could be a sign that you're in bad company!!! Additionally, If you suspect cheating or other forms of manipulation and need to gather evidence for your own peace of mind, you may consider reaching out for assistance. For more information, you can contact: MetaspyHub@gmail. com.
Hey lee remenber bro ? I used to comment on some of your lives talking about my narc ex wife 22 years old, from Dominican republic, just to tell you, i got served my final papers! Im free from her, i am Y REALITY SUCKS on your lives, thanks for everything man it's been crazy how powerful i feel now@MentalHealness
Yup, we can be happy alone! As empath we can be happy with others 🙌💯 (circle of friends, acquaintances, friends of friends and even strangers). We can be genuine to all, with precautions to people we don't know yet for too long BUT we can't be FAKE. 🎉😂💯🙌🙏
Exactly. They aren’t suffering and crying at night over losing us. The reverse discard is even worse on the victim. The narcissist is SO HAPPY to be rid of you. That was my recent experience. 😔
@@irinaivanovic9792 Hum, Narcissist isn't nec. happy to be rid of you, cause they aren't planning on you going anywhere; and almost always they come hoovering you back. They are happy for the moment of power they feel when they discard you; and, in their mind you diserve the discard since you are not "the correctly working appliance," you are supposed to be.
Mine called me telling me she needed to be saved from the supply she left me and the kids for. Called the police for her, same as I would a pedestrian in need of assistance. That’s all you get from me. Forever.
WHEN THE NARC DISCARD ME IT TOOK A WHILE AND CUZ I WAS TRAUMA BOND WITH HIM BUT NOW I'M GLAD HE DID MOVING ON AND I'M VERY HAPPY AND I'M IN A SAFE PLACE THANK GOD AND THANK YOU LEE 🙏🙏🙏🙏
If you believe that there is an infinite abundance of energy that lies within yourself, one can never run out of supply. Such a shame that narcs will never believe nor understand this.
he implied me being in his life is what held him back from making more money and being financially stable🤔 .. now i guess he's happy to discard me cause now he thinks he'll magically make more money..
Yup. First nex said I destroyed his life by getting myself pregnant etc. I did it all by myself. Then he proceeded to fifteen hard years of drinking and drugs. He did clean up and become a millionaire. But a million isn't enough. He still had to have mooore.
Why do you think they put YOU through all this crap in the first place??? Ready??? So THEY can be HAPPY! TA DA!!!! Their GOAL IS HAPPINESS at YOUR EXPENSE 💯✌🏽
They can see how happy and intelligent you are. 🎉😂 Most narcissist are envious of money, intelligence, and how famous or popular you are. Alongside with how they can use you for their own benefit. 💯🙏🎉😂
They feed their own delusional mind that there is something better waiting for them. They act in the moment and eventually realise the grass isn't greener. How can anyone be happy searching for something that doesn't exist? Oh that they could all be as self aware as you. Thanks for your insight.
I read an article once on How "final discard" is a myth. There is alot of fakeout discard there too. Like you said they want their supply. If you cut them off totally they may seek greener pastures. At the same time their ego may draw them back if you dont try to chase. Its honestly an interesting and unpredictable dynamic
I knew somebody who worked in a care home, and she said that she noticed, that nasty / evil people, always have the worse deaths. Which I thought was interesting.
I really couldn’t give a sxxt how narcissists feel, why the hell worry about these idiots, tell them to go do one and know you can be happier without them, some poor person will have to deal with their crap, peace to all people without these idiotic traits ✌️
@@davidhancock5529 Because some still think the attention they showed someone was authentic. These people were never truly in love with you, they only loved the control they had over you or the supply you gave them.
Love this video and so true. I thought he’d act better if I started mirroring him… it worked for a bit before it didn’t. 😅 It’s better just to let go and move on.
So let me get this straight. They want to make sure they sucked every drop of blood. Vampires really do exist. But they hid their fangs and are in love with mirrors instead of hiding from them. Got it.
I asked the narc just the other day, I am not no contact yet, if he was happy. He said "in a way yes and in a way no." Not sure what the relationship is with him and the "just a friend " at this point. Unfortunately I still struggle with who he really is and continue to want to find answers. Thank you Lee for your wisdom and honesty!!❤
A Narc. is an actor on a stage. The person you meet in the beginning doesn't exist. The person you see during the devalue and discard is who they really are.
I mean when you’re thirsty, you appreciate a cool drink. Once the glass is full your quenched. You throw away the empty container. Once you’re thirsty you go and get a new cool drink. But if you had a cool drink and you sat it out on the counter, if you’re desperate and thirsty enough you’ll drink it. This is how narcissist view us. We fulfill a need until we don’t and they fo and find someone to fulfill their needs and their needs only
The ball isn't only in their court. Gas light on don't mean the door and hatch will open. Gas air and good battery but won't start for them. It's as if they can't burn their own bridge, heck ya they can. They can be discarded as well.
I would say yes that of course they can have momentary happiness.. I think the real question is can they have deep peace and deep self worth.. that’s where it stems from.. I think we need to stop blaming so much and take accountability of our own lives and also stop using blanket statements
Happiness is fleeting for ALL of us.. however deep joy is something that actually many of us don’t truly grasp. NPD individuals indeed can feel happy; such as just after a success, win, or power play.. however it’s fleeting.
He did throw me away for better because he went to someone with money and old parents. He will take all her money though. So yes he upgrade to richer He will always be happy
Narcissists move VERY fast in relationships. It's not uncommon to hear, “I love you", and/or be bombarded with love songs/texts/memes a few weeks after meeting them. By rushing into sex/intimacy, they fast-forward the relationship. They get their targets to fall for them before he/she can realize something is amiss. I believe this is also the reason they tend to be VERY good lovers. Sex is usually the “hook” in toxic relationships. Narcissists lack genuine personalities. So, they mirror their targets. If you find you have “so much in common" with a new person, your likes are their likes, and your dislikes are coincidentally their dislikes as well, raise your antennas! They may be mirroring you. This is the “soulmates" hook… You'll also notice that they'll spend more time telling you who they are, verses showing you. As time goes on, you'll notice the words they used to describe themselves do not fit their personality - at all. But, they will fit YOURS!!! Passive-aggressive behavior and irrational/unexplained anger, are also major red flags. Pay attention to how a person treats you the first time you say, “No”, and/or when things don't go their way… If they give you the silent treatment, grow cold, and/or pull away, do not overlook it! Most importantly, if someone pulls away, or goes silent, after you set a boundary - DO NOT pursue them! This is how they groom you to be the chaser in the relationship. It's emotional abuse/manipulation! Pay close attention to people who portray themselves as victims.
NOTHING is EVER their fault! EVERYONE, including the family pet, has done them wrong… ALL of their ex's are “crazy” and mistreated them… They’re great, but no one appreciates said greatness… Simply put, it's bullshit! No one should have a laundry list of bad experiences. If they do, RUN, because they're the common denominator! Narcissists tend to have a history of failed/short-term relationships. Believe it or not, it's hard for Narcissists to find people to deal with them long term due to their instability and poor behavior… Superficial relationships/friendships. I've noticed they don't have anyone they're genuinely close to. This is due to their inability to bond and form true attachments to people. Their relationships are shallow and based on surface-level bs. They'll refer to someone as their bestfriend, but you’ll notice they barely speak. Or, that the person is never really around. Or, only shows up when it's time to party, etc. They may also speak down on/poorly of said “bestfriend” behind their back. Narcissists tend to be condescending, two-faced and downright mean! Based on my experience, they cannot talk about deep subjects (i.e. fears/emotions). Or, how a situation truly made them feel. Or, what their childhood was like in detail… They don't want to go there. I suspect, it's because they can't. They don't know themselves well enough. They can't connect. They also live in a world of dishonesty. They're very dishonest with themselves about who they truly are. A poor relationship with their Mother/primary caregiver. Underlying issues between Narcissists and their Mother's (abuse, neglect, don’t get along, etc.), seems to be common. People that I've known who've displayed strong Narcissistic tendencies, ALL had bad relationships with their Mothers! I think it's worth mentioning, their Mother's also displayed strong Narcissistic traits… I'm fully aware and understand that there are healthy adults who have toxic Mother's.
However, if you're spotting several red flags in an individual, including this one, pay closer attention! They're selfish! Some are selfish from the very beginning. Some start out generous and slowly begin withholding. Some act helpless and needy. They manipulate people into doing things for them, but never give back. It's not only financial and material selfishness. They're selfish emotionally, affectionately, conversationally. sexually and with their attention. They withhold validation and support. EVERYTHING has to be about them, their needs, their wants and everything happens on their terms. Anger, rage, silent treatments and disappearing acts are common - when they don't get their way. Pathological lying. Narcissists are professional liars. It's their second nature. If you call them out, they'll have no issue staring deeply into your eyes as they tell another lie! You'll hardly ever get the truth. Even with unchallengeable proof of the truth, they'll hold on to the lie. It's actually quite fascinating to see them in action - once you know what you’re dealing with. They also have the uncanny ability to provoke doubt in their victims (even when you KNOW the truth), because their lies are so convincing! Beware of people who do not seek conflict resolution. Many Narcissists enjoy drama/chaos! Remember, these are high-conflict personalities. Many of them NEED to argue and fight! Peace to a narcissist, is what chaos is to non-disordered people - unsettling. This is why they repeat behaviors that trigger a negative response. They need tension, anger and high/out of control emotions. They're known for calling people crazy, drama queens, insecure, etc., but never admit what they did to provoke those responses. And, when you attempt to discuss/resolve something, THEY said/did, they’ll gaslight, stonewall and/or flip it back on to you.
They're extremely disrespectful, rude and lack self-awareness. They have an issue with being called out on their behavior and project/deflect to avoid accountability. “Normal” people want to get along, for the most part. So, they seek fair compromises when conflict arises. Narcissists want to “win” and conflict IS their niche. This is how many Narcissists get their way - they wear people down via conflict. Immaturity. It’s one thing to be playful and lighthearted (in appropriate settings), as an adult. It’s something completely different to be immature. Narcissists suffer from arrested development. They do not know how to respond to situations/people/stress/life appropriately. They have a child-like mindset. They truly believe everything is about them and have no concept of the needs of others. By nature, children are takers. They have no concept of reciprocation. They believe their Parents (and everyone else), exists to meet their needs. When their needs aren’t met, or they don’t get what they want, they become mean and throw tantrums. Narcissists cannot think outside of themselves and their wants/needs - like children. They’re completely unaware that people are individuals with their own agency, needs, wants, opinions... They truly believe people exist to serve them. They believe their job is to receive. They’re children trapped in adult bodies, who cannot consider anything/anyone other than themselves! Above everything I've stated, trust your intuition! Narcissists give off an uneasy vibe. They try very hard to appear cool, calm and collected - on the surface. But, you can feel their energy. It's very off-putting. They also tend to have more noticeable negative qualities, than most people. But, you have to stop justifying and making excuses, in order to see things clearly. Accept people for who they are and not who you want them to be. Observe, listen and trust yourself. No one should be allowed to grant themselves a position in your life. Vet people and YOU decide if they'll be a liability, or an asset, to you. Lastly, take cues from your body. If you ever feel your mood changing, feel anxious or feel your stomach knot up, in the company of someone, don't dismiss it! It could be a sign that you're in bad company!!!
Additionally, If you suspect cheating or other forms of manipulation and need to gather evidence for your own peace of mind, you may consider reaching out for assistance. For more information, you can contact: MetaspyHub@gmail. com.
EMPATHS DONT NEED SUPPLY TO BE HAPPY 😂 I’m out 😭
🏃
So true 😅
Hey lee remenber bro ? I used to comment on some of your lives talking about my narc ex wife 22 years old, from Dominican republic, just to tell you, i got served my final papers! Im free from her, i am Y REALITY SUCKS on your lives, thanks for everything man it's been crazy how powerful i feel now@MentalHealness
Yup, we can be happy alone!
As empath we can be happy with others 🙌💯 (circle of friends, acquaintances, friends of friends and even strangers).
We can be genuine to all, with precautions to people we don't know yet for too long BUT we can't be FAKE. 🎉😂💯🙌🙏
Well I discarded him and been no contact for 2.5 yrs now! 🙌🏾
Maybe you're the narcissist
She's the narcissist because she broke up with someone?! 😂😂😂 Be fr
I discarded him, and at 30 years of no contact 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉best decision of my life 😂😂😂😂but he still stalking me 😮
@@Nn----00-j4u well you're assuming he was a narcissist because she said so...,..
Stay strong
How can they not be? They’ve already told us they hate us and wished we’d never met.
Exactly. They aren’t suffering and crying at night over losing us. The reverse discard is even worse on the victim. The narcissist is SO HAPPY to be rid of you. That was my recent experience. 😔
@@irinaivanovic9792 Hum, Narcissist isn't nec. happy to be rid of you, cause they aren't planning on you going anywhere; and almost always they come hoovering you back. They are happy for the moment of power they feel when they discard you; and, in their mind you diserve the discard since you are not "the correctly working appliance," you are supposed to be.
Your Narcissist must be queer. Ainy No straight man discarding you, girl 😁
Now that the narcist is gone out my life I am a lot happier and I am sleeping better
The greatest form of revenge we can have, is success.
Mine called me telling me she needed to be saved from the supply she left me and the kids for. Called the police for her, same as I would a pedestrian in need of assistance. That’s all you get from me. Forever.
That’s plenty gracious of you✨
Good work. For those that betray us. No mercy.
I did a reverse discard lol and it felt great red flags everywhere
WHEN THE NARC DISCARD ME IT TOOK A WHILE AND CUZ I WAS TRAUMA BOND WITH HIM BUT NOW I'M GLAD HE DID MOVING ON AND I'M VERY HAPPY AND I'M IN A SAFE PLACE THANK GOD AND THANK YOU LEE 🙏🙏🙏🙏
If you believe that there is an infinite abundance of energy that lies within yourself, one can never run out of supply. Such a shame that narcs will never believe nor understand this.
😞 🙏
he implied me being in his life is what held him back from making more money and being financially stable🤔 .. now i guess he's happy to discard me cause now he thinks he'll magically make more money..
🥴
Yup. First nex said I destroyed his life by getting myself pregnant etc. I did it all by myself. Then he proceeded to fifteen hard years of drinking and drugs. He did clean up and become a millionaire. But a million isn't enough. He still had to have mooore.
@seameology wow how dare you get yourself pregnant! You magically inserted his babies in you all by yourself 🥴
Why do you think they put YOU through all this crap in the first place??? Ready??? So THEY can be HAPPY! TA DA!!!! Their GOAL IS HAPPINESS at YOUR EXPENSE 💯✌🏽
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They can see how happy and intelligent you are. 🎉😂
Most narcissist are envious of money, intelligence, and how famous or popular you are.
Alongside with how they can use you for their own benefit. 💯🙏🎉😂
They feed their own delusional mind that there is something better waiting for them. They act in the moment and eventually realise the grass isn't greener. How can anyone be happy searching for something that doesn't exist? Oh that they could all be as self aware as you. Thanks for your insight.
NARCs cannot be truly happy. When you think about it, it's actually pretty sad
I was ghosted by my ex-wife only after 2 years of marriage
What a coward
But I'm a better and happier now that she's out of my life
🙏
I read an article once on How "final discard" is a myth. There is alot of fakeout discard there too. Like you said they want their supply. If you cut them off totally they may seek greener pastures. At the same time their ego may draw them back if you dont try to chase. Its honestly an interesting and unpredictable dynamic
I think I’ve experienced a fake out discard, too. I know I did a reverse discard recently.
I love your constant fidgeting
😵💫
The wrapping of the headphones was fun to watch 😂
I knew somebody who worked in a care home, and she said that she noticed, that nasty / evil people, always have the worse deaths. Which I thought was interesting.
I really couldn’t give a sxxt how narcissists feel, why the hell worry about these idiots, tell them to go do one and know you can be happier without them, some poor person will have to deal with their crap, peace to all people without these idiotic traits ✌️
@@davidhancock5529 Because some still think the attention they showed someone was authentic. These people were never truly in love with you, they only loved the control they had over you or the supply you gave them.
Love this video and so true. I thought he’d act better if I started mirroring him… it worked for a bit before it didn’t. 😅
It’s better just to let go and move on.
So let me get this straight. They want to make sure they sucked every drop of blood.
Vampires really do exist. But they hid their fangs and are in love with mirrors instead of hiding from them.
Got it.
I asked the narc just the other day, I am not no contact yet, if he was happy. He said "in a way yes and in a way no." Not sure what the relationship is with him and the "just a friend " at this point.
Unfortunately I still struggle with who he really is and continue to want to find answers.
Thank you Lee for your wisdom and honesty!!❤
A Narc. is an actor on a stage. The person you meet in the beginning doesn't exist. The person you see during the devalue and discard is who they really are.
They may or may not be "happy" but they are most definitely satisfied.
No person feel powerless can't control u and afraid of u reject them again end up lonely so go next supply
My narc instantly regretted it because I left him mid-speech. You assaulted me and the cops know. Even before they knew he lost that fight HARD.
I mean when you’re thirsty, you appreciate a cool drink. Once the glass is full your quenched. You throw away the empty container.
Once you’re thirsty you go and get a new cool drink. But if you had a cool drink and you sat it out on the counter, if you’re desperate and thirsty enough you’ll drink it. This is how narcissist view us. We fulfill a need until we don’t and they fo and find someone to fulfill their needs and their needs only
"Those are the two options."😆
That's soooooooo sad pathetic coward they need serious help a toddler n a grown up body.
The ball isn't only in their court. Gas light on don't mean the door and hatch will open. Gas air and good battery but won't start for them. It's as if they can't burn their own bridge, heck ya they can. They can be discarded as well.
Are narcissists ever happy?
Nope but it's amazing to see the "show" around others but when they're friends/family leaves it's a whole different monster.
I would say yes that of course they can have momentary happiness.. I think the real question is can they have deep peace and deep self worth.. that’s where it stems from.. I think we need to stop blaming so much and take accountability of our own lives and also stop using blanket statements
Happiness is fleeting for ALL of us.. however deep joy is something that actually many of us don’t truly grasp.
NPD individuals indeed can feel happy; such as just after a success, win, or power play.. however it’s fleeting.
Are you? Haha
@anngrochowski gotcha 🤗
He did throw me away for better because he went to someone with money and old parents. He will take all her money though. So yes he upgrade to richer He will always be happy
I think they can be happy for short periods sometimes.
Seriously
😮
Narcissists can enjoy moments of happiness but ultimately they will revert back to their baseline of emptiness and selfishness.
Their happiness is above my pay grade🫠