I spent 45years of my living trying to fit in and belong to my family of origin and one day i decided enough was enough having been a scapegoat for 45years.I went no contact and yes I've found peace in being alone.Thats all one needs in this life.
My husband did same 5+ yrs ago .......many times he said “I’m just enjoying the peace” - he tried so hard to “belong” to a group of toxicity 🏴☠️🏴☠️‼️ & he has more character and good qualities than all of them put together times 💯🚩🚩🚩
@Pedro Ivan Sanchez Much love darling...it is well....family is not always those you are related to by blood...detach and God will give you a dependable family even if it's just one good friend...stay safe.
I have always wanted to live alone. One of the best gifts GOD has given me! Hallelujah! I take pride in being alone; I am able to have a clear thought process.
@@numberone6266 Amen! I realised from a young age that I could not fit in, and inwas sad. Ha! When I got older I saw the blessing of being different! Thank GOD for taking us out of the toxic environment we were in. He has a purpose for each of us. Let's continue to stick close to him.
No, but it’s lonely. There are definite positives to be single and I don’t NEED anybody, but my animals and kids still leave a hole. I was married for 27 years, widowed, and then got involved with a narcissistic boyfriend. I would rather be alone than have a Narc, but I miss my kind and gentle husband
@@teresajorgenson2308 That's very sweet that you had a kind and gentle husband. I actually would recommend that two are better than one. Having a good partner/spouse is better than being single but the fact remains that there is nothing "wrong" with being single.
God removed him from my life for my protection. I was so depressed and losing my mind. He discarded me last year after 24 years of abuse. Married for 19 years. I thought I would die. We are yet to divorce. He is now openly juggling between supplies. Still dealing with trauma bonding (soul tie) but I cherish the small victory every day. 11 months of no contact.
You and I have similar marriages. 25 years together, 18 married. He was an alcoholic, abusive in every.way.possible, cruel, betrayals beyond belief. I tried SO HARD to save us, for years. He was sabotaging us, for years. He finally found the supply that stuck. I realized he was hunting for my replacement our entire relationship. The anger and rage I lived with was phenomenal. It is slowly subsiding and finding out who I am without him, and I love it. I haven't felt this peaceful & content in a long, long time. Divorce is barely begun.
Be strong, devote your sorrows to your now came Awakening, and to those of others, we all tigether have to rise up tall the wall against that beast that is called Narcissism and that stole the soul of our loved one, reducing them to never meet their True Self nor never recall and commit to the achievement of their Holy Mission on Earth.. My battle against the demon called Narcissism is set up, is my new life now. I don't blame mines, all the ppl failed under this beast, I am not against the ppl or the person that the Narcissism transmuted in such devilish things, I am against that demon, established to defight its viral spread via TRAUMAS in the phisical reality. Study trauma, you will see the rise of narcissism from there, and than its spread in the world.. It is like this that the demon enters into the phisical plain of reality the TRAUMA is the door.. We do HAVE, WE MUST TO TEACH PPL HOW TO HEAL FROM TRAUMAS, OF THE OAST AND THOSE OF THE PRESENT.. DAILY HEALINGS CARES AND PRAYERS and Faith Spirituality Bible Studies, this has to be the new way to stay connected by the Holy Spirit with the Will of the Father!
If you are looking for belonging with other people and respect from them, you will be let down. True belonging can be found in following your true calling and passions. Thank you Kevin.
Thank you so much, I thought I was loosing my mind because I never fit into my crazy family. I'm almost 70 Years old and hurting like hell. Thank you for your own experiences, you are a god send.
This reminds me of something which happened about a year ago. A couple girls from work kept making these comments about me needing a man in my life. I laughed it off at first and then it started to make me mad. I finally said, I listen to you ladies complain about your spouses and how depressed and unhappy you are almost every day. I asked them how often they me hear complain about others or current my life. Not often. I said I am doing well and am happy for the most part. I've never been healthier and it took me a long time to get here. Why do you think I need a man or any changes right now? How happy are you? They never brought it up again and they still complain a lot.
I was not told I was loved by anyone until I was 30! By my first narc husband. As a child my mother told me no one would ever love me and I had no value if I was not married. She was so toxic and flat out stupid, if God created us it was out of love! He loved us so much he created us to fulfill a beautiful purpose! For some of us it is a much tougher battle to find that purpose, and when we do, it is much more than we ever thought possible!
Very good, you are right, we shouldn't seek belonging, we don't belong, and that is ok, and it is great to be alone. Not being sarcastic, but it is safer to be alone. One of the scariest things in the world is a charming person, they make me want to run, they are usually a narcissist. Rather be alone.
Wow! Brilliant! I have to say, ever since I was a little girl, my favorite place to be was alone. People called is anti social (shaming I guess, you're not like us) but I was also the one who hosted the big holiday family dinners. You can't win with these manipulating people. Took 50 years to wake up and leave. Thanks again Kevin for your wisdom
good for you, I'd say 'wanna be friends? you sound alot like me! its my same story after all! but then, Im not that great at managing the constant back and forth, and gatherings' ;) either way, I admire the courage to leave that toxicity of the manipulators behind. took many returns, and consquent tears and heartbreak b4 I finally did the same. GB you and the Royal We for this fresh persepctive, and GB all us 'loners' because its actually stems from strength and courage!
@@oppressednolonger1497 sorry I never saw this post. I appreciate your kind words and couldn't agree more, I do think it stems from strength and courage and just being content with ourselves. It has been a wilderness experience and I have enjoyed this extra free time to become close to the Lord and his word. Alot has changed in me and I am thankful. Definitely a blessing in disguise. God bless you on your new journey💖
I started watching your videos recently and I love the fact that you include God into the final solution. I'm currently in a situation that I'm trying to get out of dealing with many narcissistic toxic family members and Google doesn't really offer alot of Christian help. Thanks for your videos.
I am alone now and I like this as I can do , have, be, eat whatever I want. Full time for me only. Now I am perfectly fine even when I belong no where, no one wants me , no one wants to include me, I can be me. It's freedom.
My husband and I have always been loners meaning we do not care to be saturated into big clubs or groups or even churches because if the bull crap of competition and hate and other people judge and criticize you on every thing you do and say. Lots of our family members are alcoholics so we just stay away from it which means we are outnumbered and so we just stay in our own world and we are very happy with doing our own thing.
Preach Kevin. I love this video. I may get some haters for saying this but nevertheless it’s my truth. I’ve learned to have no expectations of others especially my own children. I’ve also learned radical acceptance. This is very painful especially as a mother. However when your attempting to force relationships with others whom have narcissistic traits it’s still another way of being in control. I too believe we have been programmed and letting go and accepting the reality has been freeing in my life. Thanks Kevin form your radical insight being shared.
Kevin you're the man. You are truly opening up the cesspool of society bit by bit. Keep going brother. I love you man! It's a privilege to know this stuff while everyone else around are still blindly swimming in that pool. I salute you.💪
Well said. Being alone is the best! Nobody to hurt you.. Shunt you around... Who's nonsense you have to put up with. It gives you a sense of peace away from toxic people.
Many unenlightened folks make the mistake of equating solitude with loneliness. Solitude is a beautiful gift, and everybody should make room in their day, week, year, for it. If you find being alone uncomfortable, then it’s a good sign you need to work on yourself.
What an ABSOLUTELY BRILLIANT PERSPECTIVE about people being alone in themselves and the illusion of thinking that we need to be with other people so we can feel that we belong and are respected. Everything comes from within. We need no one but ourselves. This is healing.
Being alone is powerful. Especially when you are growing and adapting constantly to meet your own needs. Then you find you outgrow people and situations rapidly which causes problems. I need someone who can grow and adapt with me. That's really hard to find. And narcissists are ultra toxic when you want to grow and change. Love the idea of moving those two levels up to the top. Goimg to redraw my own pyramid. Scientists dont always get it right! He was very close, but a little tweak and it makes so much more sense. Think of all the heartache and doubt that would be saved if it was taught this way from childhood. There may be some lucky few who can do it Maslow's way. But I prefer The Royal We way for the majority of us. Thanks Kevin 👍🏻
Very well said!....narcs are very intrusive of one’s personal space....they want to separate people from being their true self and purpose, so you can exist to serve them.....Being alone is conducive to focusing on what really is important...♥️
Amen 🙏 🙌🙌🙌 Narcissists abused me in my mom’s side of the family and my maternal grandmother’s church! Her pastor wife and his sister in law were always embarrassing me and humiliating me in the church. My late grandmother was so afraid of my aunt she allowed her narcissism to ruin the family ties! When my grandmother grew old and frail, she became disgusted with my aunt and began lashing out! My aunt thought she was going senile! No Ma’am, she figured you out but unfortunately it was too late!!!
Wow. Totally nailed it again...always looking for "acceptance" from others has kept me from being myself. Thank you so much! My son and I read John 13 for family worship today and in verse 33 Jesus says to His disciples "...as I said unto the Jews...." I thought, 'Wait a minute, He is a Jew. What am I supposed to learn here?" Jesus didn't claim belonging to that community, in verse 31 He states His PURPOSE: the Son of Man(the identity He chose) sent to glorify God(His purpose). I was like "THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT KEVIN SAID LAST NIGHT!!!" That's what I call divine affirmation - thank You, Jesus!! He was despised and rejected by the community everyone around Him thought He should try so hard to belong to but He continued on His purpose as the Son of Man to glorify His Father, save mankind and I'm so grateful He did. Thank you Kevin, thank you soo much!!!
I love when you say stop looking for trying to belong somewhere and find yourself , know who you are makes you immune to toxicity. This is especially in portant when we are in a pandemic. Thank you Royal We.!
This is powerful! That's exactly what traps one in narcissistic abusive cycle! Thinking there is nothing else in the world to find, explore, achieve or attend. This is the very reason people get tied to each other, for reasons not for self development, but just to be part of a group. Group can be good to have, but when it starts taking over your own personality/ identity/ sense of independence and self expression, self decisions, that's when one finds out - that what they are seeing or experiencing as a group is in fact a narcissistic web! Really helpful content! Thanks for sharing!
Amen, God is so Good, I've finally get it! I've been looking for acceptance in all thr wrong places, it's within Me! Thank you my Savor Jesus Christ whom lives within me, my light!
So good - I never analyzed the Maslow Hierarchy of needs. Dead on- this is so true. The opposite of belonging/connection is trying to fit in - we actually abandon ourselves when we try to “fit in”.
This is really good ministry especially with the racial issues going on today. Groups being pitted against other groups and all these weird ideologies. Nation against nation. All against all. My biggest regrets in life are trying to fit in to a group and losing myself in the process.
All ideologies are subversive and false truths. They prescribe attitudes of them and us. In or out. All ideologies are divisive. Many so called campaigners are trapped inside certain groups. Dont try to belong to any such limited groups. If you live alone you define your own inner life and values to live by. So be alone and become, reflective and soul searching and you will grow in strength and spiritually.
Amen! Surpassing the realm of man is what we must embrace. Food and shelter I know God will provide which is what I have faith in God for. Our relationship with God, is all that is required...🙏
When you have God you have all you need., and that's where everything else comes in. Your identity, belonging, love etc. I Praise God that I am a child of His and that I know who I am in Christ! Beautiful teaching and message. Thank you 😊 God Bless you and keep you
@Colleen Amen! That's the most important key.. To know who we are in Christ otherwise we'd always be lost wandering and trying to fit and and belong. My entire life I never fit in anywhere and I can honestly say that it never bothered me. If anything it made me feel good because I knew why.. If that makes sense.. Lol. Thank you. God Bless you ❤️
ON POINT Kevin! I totally agree with that. We have to find our purpose first and then everything else will come, belonging, respect, etc. I will definitely teach all of these true facts to my teens,, sometimes it is difficult for them to navigate in this messed up society. They deserve to know the truth and it is my job as a parent to give them the right guidance. AMAZING VIDEO TODAY!🙏🏼❤️😍
One of the most truthful & accurate messages on npd & its abusive effects so far! God bless you all & thank you so much. Healing happening NOW in Jesus name. 🙏
I must have already known this while I was distancing myself from my father and brother. Before realizing they were narcissists - before I went no contact. I have a little wall hanging right near lots of pics of me with lots of my friends (I'm very extoverted). It says Your Vibe Attracts Your Tribe. Same idea and it resonated with me when I got it about 4 years ago. Just by being me and doing my thing (karaoke, music, performing). This is what has brought me lots of new friends in my life. Doing what I'm passionate about and people picking up on my genuine enthusiasm for music and singing and comfort in being myself. These are the great friends that pulled me through the sudden death of my wife in August of 2017 while my father and brother used it as an opportunity to kick me when I was down. They really showed their true colors. My only regret in going no contact 3 1/2 months ago was that I didn't do it sooner. I just didn't understand until I started to realize that they had a disorder...Once I truly realized it and started educating myself I was no contact within a few short week. I'm NEVER going back. I understand the logic of doing so and gave myself totally guilt free permission to make the healthy choice. Bless you!
We live in a narcissistic era, and it's more important than ever to protect ourselves from psychological abuse and manipulation. Videos like this really help! I also recommend this post on dealing with emotional abuse: www.reddit.com/r/MindOverMatterScott/comments/fpysma/how_to_heal_from_emotional_abuse/
Hey Kevin, I'm going to start promoting your videos on Twitter. I'm finding a lot of people dealing with narcissists! Let's build up The Royal We on YTube!
Wow! This is the best description of understanding this I have ever heard! I was in a toxic marriage for almost 20 years. The last three years I have been healing, being by myself and enjoying my own company. Thank you so much for making this so easy to understand and to avoid future mistakes with people. Are used to be a people pleaser and I finally learned to say no, to be assertive, to acknowledge my own needs and desires and to ask others. I feel like so I’ve grown a lot but this video just brought the level of clarity I needed. I feel confident now that I will no longer be used by those types of people anymore. Big red X crossing out those two areas for me. Thank you.
Good for you Kevin! This is correct! I find that the more accepting I am of myself as an individual who shares time with others but doesn't belong in any one group that the more suspicious people become of me. What's more is that western medicine (psychiatry) perceives people who enjoy solitude over shallow interactions as faulty somehow. I can't count how many times I've heard "humans are social creatures by nature" which perpetuates the idea that if one chooses a quiet life on their own that there's something inherently wrong with them. Great video!
It's good to hear this, as confirmation in my own understanding of the difference between lonliness and solitude! I am from a huge family and I do well in large groups (not with narcissists), and I love solitude! Those who are lonely are the people who do not have a personal relationship with The Almighty! Because I DO have a personal relationship with The Most High, through His Son Yeshua: My Creator, My King, My Savior and My Very Best Friend, I am not ever truly alone, nor am I fooled by "lonliness". I praise Adonai for such a gift! 😃
I am so glad that I stumbled upon your channel! Listening to you feels like you literally crawled inside my head. I come from a very dysfunctional and abusive family. I have continued on that path for my entire life. I am going to be 60 years old in May. I want a life that's better than what I have had. I have been the Hero, the Scapegoat all wrapped in one. I disconnected from my abusive father 20 years ago and I just recently disconnected with my other narcissistic family members. ( mother, brother and sister). I have been in counseling for approximately 40 years. Basically, my whole adult life. I have had counselors, therapists who want to write about my life. I am a survivor! But, it has taken it's toll on me not just mentally, but physically too. PTSD,, I had a heart attack two years ago. I have had a multitude health issues from the time I was a child. All stress related issues. I have had one continuous trauma after another and have survived every one of them. But I am sick of having to be a warrior! I just want to relax and enjoy what time I have left in my life. I love where I live and I have good relationships with my children because I sought help. I broke the cycle. Now I need encouragement and strength. I love your videos. if you have any advice for me, I would greatly appreciate it! Thank you for doing what you do!
Thank you so much for the elaboration, Kevin. It's the paradoxical world I had lived. How lonely was I among many, and how fulfilled I now, even though I am alone. Thank you to the power of prayer, daily devotion, journaling, living in my passion and hobbies. Living a life full of love is the most meaningful time you have. The good news is, you can do it ALONE without feeling lonely, at all. God bless you.
It is heavy to be lonely when you lost so many connections and relations with people because of the narc the only thing that helped me so far is the book of Wayne Dyer “you’ll see it when you’ll believe it” Thank you Kevin for this video. I am at that point of hurt and brokenness because my family invalidation and rejection.
Thank you again Kevin !!this message is like blessing since i never understand society and how people follow what "should" do in life ! I wish young kids hear this at school!
Respecting yourself is truly empowering! People who only feel empowered by the opinions of others will be disappointed. It is nice to be in sync and respected by other people but if you're chasing after it and always seeking approval, you are not on a good road in life.
There is so much to be inspired by , so much creativity to be made for me to even consider a relationship ever again . I have learnt so much since being free from narcissistic relationships. I learn more from life when not depending on a relationship. I love being alone . Sometimes I enjoy company if it comes by but I don’t seek it and I happy in my own space learning and creating and my pets . My pets give me love and I give them love and that is loads that I am so grateful for
I love the fact that you have grown!!!!!! I have grown too and LOVE,LOVE, LOVE BEING BY MYSELF, I HAVE SO MUCH MORE JOY AND PEACE, ESPECIALLY SINCE COVID-19,!!!!!! THANK YOU SO VERY VERY MUCH KEVIN FOR SUCH A DYNAMIC VIDEO !!!!!!!!!! With so much narcissism in the world today, you need solitude for protection, because the world is a dangerous place and we need God more so than ever !!!!!!! Take care Kevin!!!!!! 2TIMOTHY 3:1-5
Yes yes so true . People look at you in society feeling sorry for you because your on your own etc .The songs you described , you feel pressured into looking like stereotype . If you step away from the crap 💩. Same as the films my mother used to look at , all romantic and full of what love should look like? Great topic. The only one I put my full trust and faith In Is GOD . Believe me you can trust him. I’ve come out of the narcisstic marriage. And it’s just a lie to be In this type of situationship, why waste your life on what the devil is sidetracking away with what matters . AND THATS YOU❤️
I have never really tried to fit in much and have avoided some family members for years. But our culture in itself penalizes single people so It’s bigger than an individual trying to fit in, which many do. Yes, there are many, many worse things than being alone, and there are advantages to being single.
Yep, is why these narcs don’t like that we want to be alone and have our own space (we might figure out that they need us more than we need them, amongst other things...)
Very wise Kevin. It's not our fault being alone. Sadly our country and culture is really not very welcoming to older folk. I'm 73 I've tried relationships after a long marriage to a narcissist person who was destructive. So many of the dates I had were seriously immature men and some narcissistic people. Its not easy to live alone. Its a great challenge. I find creativity prayer meditation and being kind to others helps to create meaning. At least I'm not abused by toxic affects of narcissistic people.
I spent 38yrs.wondering why my only child hated me! until I started remembering how her dad treated her Boom! I have only one grandson who I believe by now is just like his mom it's really sad but, I feel soooo free I no longer have binders on it's soo freeing! I no longer feel nauseated or get migraines anymore I've lost weight @feel so much better👍💯
Amen brother. I’ve been alone for seven years and it was the best thing that’s ever happened. When you’re alone you can truly receive messages from the universe.
Balance in all things. We live in a society that actively tries to stop us ever having alone time! But we shouldn't then isolate completely in reaction to that. I would say though that too many people don't understand how to be alone and happy, and that needs to be understood before the person can also find balance with the company of others. There are people who use toxic social withdrawal and call it independence though. Also, it's not right to have kids and then spend no time with them. There is a difference between being happy with others AND happy alone and those who withdraw as the HAVE to be alone as being with others is awkward or induces anxiety for them. And of course focusing on our true purpose most of the time will involve others!!!
That all makes sense,sad that not everyone has those beliefs,understand what You said its all true to me,what I will do is write down keep reminding my self to keep positive attitude! Thanks you great words!
When I was younger like that under 30 especially in school years I thought I wanted to be part of the in crowd yet my whole life the few experiences I had in the cool kids club I felt like I was pretending then foolish so rejected what I thought I wanted 😂 I have always and will always be outside even in groups like church I’m very different. I’m working on not ppl pleasing that I don’t gotta do this or that to be enough for anyone I used to never hardly say no to anyone now about everyday I do so it’s getting better I’m growing.
I do belong to a group but it is not of this world. Every Christ follower who lives by the spirit is in this group-my true family. In times where loneliness gets overwhelming, God always shows me this somehow and it it restores my peace.
😁😁😁, Royal We, what an excellent video of freedom. This should go viral. Much appreciation for bringing us back to God, focusing back to who we are and His word and how he has created us. We are programmed to look outside and for people, society. We thank God for removing this world of Narrcism
LOVE your channel! Such amazing insight. This explains why I feel perfectly content alone, until I receive the world’s reaction of me being alone. Which then leads to isolation because who needs to expose themselves to THAT idea. It really does explain WHY I can be going along happily alone, and then suddenly feel like it is just the most depressing thing in the world! Wow! Thanks so much for the work you do here! Blessings!
I was the scapegoat . My parents and older sisters were the worst narcissist. All toxic at home but all nice in public . I call them out and was called Crazy , that never happened etc . So at 52 packed up and left everyone . My oldest daughter got their genes . I try to belong and fit in . But always put down .
Excellent video, Kevin! I've been 'alone' for the last 40 years and I love it. Recently 2 women offered their friendship. I didn't take them up on it because I like my peace, calm, and quiet! I just wasn't looking forward to hearing their issues and them getting into my personal life. I like my privacy and being on my own! It's a great place to be.
Brilliant! Thank you for this! I can find my purpose now. All the baloney is cleared out. Pain brings clarity. I think as children we need families but once you grow up, we need to let this go. If we are lucky enough to have real family and friends, that's a blessing. But not necessary to move forward.
This is the most amazing video I have ever seen. This really resonates with me. I guess I am in the healing process because I am starting to feel like I don’t want anybody to accept me other than Jesus. I only want to be a aceptable to him and I only want to do things to honor him.
For sure! People are hunting one another for the sake of security. To not to become such hunter we must understand that our purpose in life comes first. God is the purpose. Love everybody and never feel confined into anything. Spiritual freedom is everything ❤️🙏🏻
Yes...culture has painted this picture that alone-ness is a problem, when really, that couldn't be further from the truth.....it has immense benefits.....soooooo many!!!!! 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟
I had to take the desicion nearly 3 years ago to walk away from all my family and move countries for my well being and sanity..I know now that if I hadn't my life would be over or coming to a painful end on all levels of my being...my advise to any of you struggling with one of the hardest but liberating choices...is to find a way ASAP to get yourself to a safe place..you cannot start to heal in any toxic environment..period! You can do it..you are a badass warrior...and later you will realise your self worth even if you need to scrap it off the metaphysical floor...your self respect will bloom and oh my when you are replenished and empowered you will take this world by storm and shine that amazing light that has been buried under others BS...my alone time..changed everything for me...plus you need time to untangle the energetics of others who you have been emeshed too!my love strength and courage are with you...now get packing quietly!..and get the hell out a dodge ..thank you lovely Kevin for being a truth beacon of light...and validating us all..💜
This is so eye opening!! The songs they played when I was a teenager make me literally sick🤢😡! We've been programmed to be narc's by narc's! Not happening. I love being by myself with my pets and Hobbies.
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I’ve been living alone and single for 15 months now and I would rather be alone than with a toxic person.
I spent 45years of my living trying to fit in and belong to my family of origin and one day i decided enough was enough having been a scapegoat for 45years.I went no contact and yes I've found peace in being alone.Thats all one needs in this life.
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Same.. Huge hugs
My husband did same 5+ yrs ago .......many times he said “I’m just enjoying the peace” - he tried so hard to “belong” to a group of toxicity 🏴☠️🏴☠️‼️ & he has more character and good qualities than all of them put together times 💯🚩🚩🚩
@Pedro Ivan Sanchez Much love darling...it is well....family is not always those you are related to by blood...detach and God will give you a dependable family even if it's just one good friend...stay safe.
Peace comes first👍
I have always wanted to live alone. One of the best gifts GOD has given me! Hallelujah! I take pride in being alone; I am able to have a clear thought process.
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@@numberone6266 Amen! I realised from a young age that I could not fit in, and inwas sad. Ha! When I got older I saw the blessing of being different! Thank GOD for taking us out of the toxic environment we were in. He has a purpose for each of us. Let's continue to stick close to him.
I enjoy living a drama-free life. I don’t deal with narcs or toxic people anymore....
This has to be said too. Well done. There is NOTHING wrong with being single!
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No, but it’s lonely. There are definite positives to be single and I don’t NEED anybody, but my animals and kids still leave a hole. I was married for 27 years, widowed, and then got involved with a narcissistic boyfriend. I would rather be alone than have a Narc, but I miss my kind and gentle husband
Great video. Damn competitive society.
@@teresajorgenson2308 That's very sweet that you had a kind and gentle husband. I actually would recommend that two are better than one. Having a good partner/spouse is better than being single but the fact remains that there is nothing "wrong" with being single.
Agreed.
God removed him from my life for my protection. I was so depressed and losing my mind. He discarded me last year after 24 years of abuse. Married for 19 years. I thought I would die. We are yet to divorce. He is now openly juggling between supplies. Still dealing with trauma bonding (soul tie) but I cherish the small victory every day. 11 months of no contact.
You and I have similar marriages. 25 years together, 18 married. He was an alcoholic, abusive in every.way.possible, cruel, betrayals beyond belief. I tried SO HARD to save us, for years. He was sabotaging us, for years. He finally found the supply that stuck. I realized he was hunting for my replacement our entire relationship. The anger and rage I lived with was phenomenal. It is slowly subsiding and finding out who I am without him, and I love it. I haven't felt this peaceful & content in a long, long time. Divorce is barely begun.
Be strong, devote your sorrows to your now came Awakening, and to those of others, we all tigether have to rise up tall the wall against that beast that is called Narcissism and that stole the soul of our loved one, reducing them to never meet their True Self nor never recall and commit to the achievement of their Holy Mission on Earth..
My battle against the demon called Narcissism is set up, is my new life now.
I don't blame mines, all the ppl failed under this beast, I am not against the ppl or the person that the Narcissism transmuted in such devilish things, I am against that demon, established to defight its viral spread via TRAUMAS in the phisical reality.
Study trauma, you will see the rise of narcissism from there, and than its spread in the world.. It is like this that the demon enters into the phisical plain of reality the TRAUMA is the door.. We do HAVE, WE MUST TO TEACH PPL HOW TO HEAL FROM TRAUMAS, OF THE OAST AND THOSE OF THE PRESENT.. DAILY HEALINGS CARES AND PRAYERS and Faith Spirituality Bible Studies, this has to be the new way to stay connected by the Holy Spirit with the Will of the Father!
It takes time but it will get better. Bless
If you are looking for belonging with other people and respect from them, you will be let down. True belonging can be found in following your true calling and passions. Thank you Kevin.
Thank you so much, I thought I was loosing my mind because I never fit into my crazy family. I'm almost 70 Years old and hurting like hell. Thank you for your own experiences, you are a
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This reminds me of something which happened about a year ago. A couple girls from work kept making these comments about me needing a man in my life. I laughed it off at first and then it started to make me mad. I finally said, I listen to you ladies complain about your spouses and how depressed and unhappy you are almost every day. I asked them how often they me hear complain about others or current my life. Not often. I said I am doing well and am happy for the most part. I've never been healthier and it took me a long time to get here. Why do you think I need a man or any changes right now? How happy are you? They never brought it up again and they still complain a lot.
I was not told I was loved by anyone until I was 30! By my first narc husband. As a child my mother told me no one would ever love me and I had no value if I was not married. She was so toxic and flat out stupid, if God created us it was out of love! He loved us so much he created us to fulfill a beautiful purpose! For some of us it is a much tougher battle to find that purpose, and when we do, it is much more than we ever thought possible!
Very good, you are right, we shouldn't seek belonging, we don't belong, and that is ok, and it is great to be alone. Not being sarcastic, but it is safer to be alone. One of the scariest things in the world is a charming person, they make me want to run, they are usually a narcissist. Rather be alone.
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Wow! Brilliant! I have to say, ever since I was a little girl, my favorite place to be was alone. People called is anti social (shaming I guess, you're not like us) but I was also the one who hosted the big holiday family dinners. You can't win with these manipulating people. Took 50 years to wake up and leave. Thanks again Kevin for your wisdom
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good for you, I'd say 'wanna be friends? you sound alot like me! its my same story after all! but then, Im not that great at managing the constant back and forth, and gatherings' ;) either way, I admire the courage to leave that toxicity of the manipulators behind. took many returns, and consquent tears and heartbreak b4 I finally did the same. GB you and the Royal We for this fresh persepctive, and GB all us 'loners' because its actually stems from strength and courage!
Me too!
@@oppressednolonger1497 sorry I never saw this post. I appreciate your kind words and couldn't agree more, I do think it stems from strength and courage and just being content with ourselves. It has been a wilderness experience and I have enjoyed this extra free time to become close to the Lord and his word. Alot has changed in me and I am thankful. Definitely a blessing in disguise. God bless you on your new journey💖
I started watching your videos recently and I love the fact that you include God into the final solution. I'm currently in a situation that I'm trying to get out of dealing with many narcissistic toxic family members and Google doesn't really offer alot of Christian help. Thanks for your videos.
I am alone now and I like this as I can do , have, be, eat whatever I want. Full time for me only. Now I am perfectly fine even when I belong no where, no one wants me , no one wants to include me, I can be me. It's freedom.
My husband and I have always been loners meaning we do not care to be saturated into big clubs or groups or even churches because if the bull crap of competition and hate and other people judge and criticize you on every thing you do and say. Lots of our family members are alcoholics so we just stay away from it which means we are outnumbered and so we just stay in our own world and we are very happy with doing our own thing.
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Preach Kevin. I love this video. I may get some haters for saying this but nevertheless it’s my truth. I’ve learned to have no expectations of others especially my own children. I’ve also learned radical acceptance. This is very painful especially as a mother. However when your attempting to force relationships with others whom have narcissistic traits it’s still another way of being in control. I too believe we have been programmed and letting go and accepting the reality has been freeing in my life. Thanks Kevin form your radical insight being shared.
Amen! Thank you for exposing the schemes of the enemy, brother!!!!!🙏🥰
No company is better than bad company
Kevin you're the man. You are truly opening up the cesspool of society bit by bit. Keep going brother. I love you man! It's a privilege to know this stuff while everyone else around are still blindly swimming in that pool. I salute you.💪
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It's the Awakening time, positive numbers are rising up! Alleluja!!!
Well said. Being alone is the best! Nobody to hurt you.. Shunt you around... Who's nonsense you have to put up with. It gives you a sense of peace away from toxic people.
Many unenlightened folks make the mistake of equating solitude with loneliness. Solitude is a beautiful gift, and everybody should make room in their day, week, year, for it. If you find being alone uncomfortable, then it’s a good sign you need to work on yourself.
What an ABSOLUTELY BRILLIANT PERSPECTIVE about people being alone in themselves and the illusion of thinking that we need to be with other people so we can feel that we belong and are respected. Everything comes from within. We need no one but ourselves. This is healing.
Being alone is powerful. Especially when you are growing and adapting constantly to meet your own needs. Then you find you outgrow people and situations rapidly which causes problems. I need someone who can grow and adapt with me. That's really hard to find. And narcissists are ultra toxic when you want to grow and change. Love the idea of moving those two levels up to the top. Goimg to redraw my own pyramid. Scientists dont always get it right! He was very close, but a little tweak and it makes so much more sense. Think of all the heartache and doubt that would be saved if it was taught this way from childhood. There may be some lucky few who can do it Maslow's way. But I prefer The Royal We way for the majority of us. Thanks Kevin 👍🏻
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Very well said!....narcs are very intrusive of one’s personal space....they want to separate people from being their true self and purpose, so you can exist to serve them.....Being alone is conducive to focusing on what really is important...♥️
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Narcissists abused me in my mom’s side of the family and my maternal grandmother’s church! Her pastor wife and his sister in law were always embarrassing me and humiliating me in the church. My late grandmother was so afraid of my aunt she allowed her narcissism to ruin the family ties! When my grandmother grew old and frail, she became disgusted with my aunt and began lashing out! My aunt thought she was going senile! No Ma’am, she figured you out but unfortunately it was too late!!!
Wow. Totally nailed it again...always looking for "acceptance" from others has kept me from being myself. Thank you so much!
My son and I read John 13 for family worship today and in verse 33 Jesus says to His disciples "...as I said unto the Jews...." I thought, 'Wait a minute, He is a Jew. What am I supposed to learn here?" Jesus didn't claim belonging to that community, in verse 31 He states His PURPOSE: the Son of Man(the identity He chose) sent to glorify God(His purpose). I was like "THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT KEVIN SAID LAST NIGHT!!!" That's what I call divine affirmation - thank You, Jesus!! He was despised and rejected by the community everyone around Him thought He should try so hard to belong to but He continued on His purpose as the Son of Man to glorify His Father, save mankind and I'm so grateful He did. Thank you Kevin, thank you soo much!!!
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I love when you say stop looking for trying to belong somewhere and find yourself , know who you are makes you immune to toxicity. This is especially in portant when we are in a pandemic. Thank you Royal We.!
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Kevin l left. Its worth it. I'm ready to call you and thank you from the bottom of my heart. You paved my life out of misery. Thank you!🙏❤
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This is powerful! That's exactly what traps one in narcissistic abusive cycle! Thinking there is nothing else in the world to find, explore, achieve or attend. This is the very reason people get tied to each other, for reasons not for self development, but just to be part of a group. Group can be good to have, but when it starts taking over your own personality/ identity/ sense of independence and self expression, self decisions, that's when one finds out - that what they are seeing or experiencing as a group is in fact a narcissistic web!
Really helpful content! Thanks for sharing!
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Amen, God is so Good, I've finally get it! I've been looking for acceptance in all thr wrong places, it's within Me! Thank you my Savor Jesus Christ whom lives within me, my light!
So good - I never analyzed the Maslow Hierarchy of needs. Dead on- this is so true. The opposite of belonging/connection is trying to fit in - we actually abandon ourselves when we try to “fit in”.
Yes Linda
This is really good ministry especially with the racial issues going on today. Groups being pitted against other groups and all these weird ideologies. Nation against nation. All against all. My biggest regrets in life are trying to fit in to a group and losing myself in the process.
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All ideologies are subversive and false truths. They prescribe attitudes of them and us. In or out.
All ideologies are divisive. Many so called campaigners are trapped inside certain groups. Dont try to belong to any such limited groups.
If you live alone you define your own inner life and values to live by.
So be alone and become, reflective and soul searching and you will grow in strength and spiritually.
Amen! Surpassing the realm of man is what we must embrace. Food and shelter I know God will provide which is what I have faith in God for. Our relationship with God, is all that is required...🙏
When you have God you have all you need., and that's where everything else comes in. Your identity, belonging, love etc. I Praise God that I am a child of His and that I know who I am in Christ! Beautiful teaching and message. Thank you 😊 God Bless you and keep you
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@Colleen Amen! That's the most important key.. To know who we are in Christ otherwise we'd always be lost wandering and trying to fit and and belong. My entire life I never fit in anywhere and I can honestly say that it never bothered me. If anything it made me feel good because I knew why.. If that makes sense.. Lol. Thank you. God Bless you ❤️
Yes but still lonely
@@CarolDudeck-bl7kz I can't lie. You're so absolutely right. Very lonely. I feel you. God Bless you 🌹
Andrea Savoia thank you, you try to be a good person but the Narc just cheats and lies
It's true, two years alone by choice. I need to get right with myself. I will never settle again
ON POINT Kevin! I totally agree with that. We have to find our purpose first and then everything else will come, belonging, respect, etc.
I will definitely teach all of these true facts to my teens,, sometimes it is difficult for them to navigate in this messed up society.
They deserve to know the truth and it is my job as a parent to give them the right guidance.
AMAZING VIDEO TODAY!🙏🏼❤️😍
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Yes, that is the true job of a parent!
One of the most truthful & accurate messages on npd & its abusive effects so far! God bless you all & thank you so much. Healing happening NOW in Jesus name. 🙏
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I must have already known this while I was distancing myself from my father and brother. Before realizing they were narcissists - before I went no contact. I have a little wall hanging right near lots of pics of me with lots of my friends (I'm very extoverted). It says Your Vibe Attracts Your Tribe. Same idea and it resonated with me when I got it about 4 years ago. Just by being me and doing my thing (karaoke, music, performing). This is what has brought me lots of new friends in my life. Doing what I'm passionate about and people picking up on my genuine enthusiasm for music and singing and comfort in being myself. These are the great friends that pulled me through the sudden death of my wife in August of 2017 while my father and brother used it as an opportunity to kick me when I was down. They really showed their true colors. My only regret in going no contact 3 1/2 months ago was that I didn't do it sooner. I just didn't understand until I started to realize that they had a disorder...Once I truly realized it and started educating myself I was no contact within a few short week. I'm NEVER going back. I understand the logic of doing so and gave myself totally guilt free permission to make the healthy choice. Bless you!
We live in a narcissistic era, and it's more important than ever to protect ourselves from psychological abuse and manipulation. Videos like this really help!
I also recommend this post on dealing with emotional abuse: www.reddit.com/r/MindOverMatterScott/comments/fpysma/how_to_heal_from_emotional_abuse/
Hey Kevin, I'm going to start promoting your videos on Twitter. I'm finding a lot of people dealing with narcissists! Let's build up The Royal We on YTube!
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Wow! This is the best description of understanding this I have ever heard! I was in a toxic marriage for almost 20 years. The last three years I have been healing, being by myself and enjoying my own company. Thank you so much for making this so easy to understand and to avoid future mistakes with people. Are used to be a people pleaser and I finally learned to say no, to be assertive, to acknowledge my own needs and desires and to ask others. I feel like so I’ve grown a lot but this video just brought the level of clarity I needed. I feel confident now that I will no longer be used by those types of people anymore. Big red X crossing out those two areas for me. Thank you.
Wow! Thank you so much for this, it's the most cathartic thing I've ever heard, and so true!
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Good for you Kevin! This is correct! I find that the more accepting I am of myself as an individual who shares time with others but doesn't belong in any one group that the more suspicious people become of me. What's more is that western medicine (psychiatry) perceives people who enjoy solitude over shallow interactions as faulty somehow. I can't count how many times I've heard "humans are social creatures by nature" which perpetuates the idea that if one chooses a quiet life on their own that there's something inherently wrong with them. Great video!
It's good to hear this, as confirmation in my own understanding of the difference between lonliness and solitude! I am from a huge family and I do well in large groups (not with narcissists), and I love solitude! Those who are lonely are the people who do not have a personal relationship with The Almighty!
Because I DO have a personal relationship with The Most High, through His Son Yeshua: My Creator, My King, My Savior and My Very Best Friend, I am not ever truly alone, nor am I fooled by "lonliness". I praise Adonai for such a gift! 😃
I am so glad that I stumbled upon your channel! Listening to you feels like you literally crawled inside my head. I come from a very dysfunctional and abusive family. I have continued on that path for my entire life. I am going to be 60 years old in May. I want a life that's better than what I have had. I have been the Hero, the Scapegoat all wrapped in one. I disconnected from my abusive father 20 years ago and I just recently disconnected with my other narcissistic family members. ( mother, brother and sister). I have been in counseling for approximately 40 years. Basically, my whole adult life. I have had counselors, therapists who want to write about my life. I am a survivor! But, it has taken it's toll on me not just mentally, but physically too. PTSD,, I had a heart attack two years ago. I have had a multitude health issues from the time I was a child. All stress related issues. I have had one continuous trauma after another and have survived every one of them. But I am sick of having to be a warrior! I just want to relax and enjoy what time I have left in my life. I love where I live and I have good relationships with my children because I sought help. I broke the cycle. Now I need encouragement and strength. I love your videos. if you have any advice for me, I would greatly appreciate it! Thank you for doing what you do!
This video opened my eyes so much. The journey is hard at times but videos like these help me to see the bigger picture. Thank you 😊
Thank you so much for the elaboration, Kevin. It's the paradoxical world I had lived. How lonely was I among many, and how fulfilled I now, even though I am alone. Thank you to the power of prayer, daily devotion, journaling, living in my passion and hobbies. Living a life full of love is the most meaningful time you have. The good news is, you can do it ALONE without feeling lonely, at all. God bless you.
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It is heavy to be lonely when you lost so many connections and relations with people because of the narc the only thing that helped me so far is the book of Wayne Dyer “you’ll see it when you’ll believe it”
Thank you Kevin for this video. I am at that point of hurt and brokenness because my family invalidation and rejection.
That’s right Kevin !,, being alone and single is the best gift Ever!!🕊🕊🕊🕊😀
Just found this one and how refreshing it is! Thank you for such inspired words! This put wind in my sails during my healing process.
Thank you again Kevin !!this message is like blessing since i never understand society and how people follow what "should" do in life ! I wish young kids hear this at school!
Loving these videos, Kevin! Great job! 🙏🏻
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Respecting yourself is truly empowering! People who only feel empowered by the opinions of others will be disappointed. It is nice to be in sync and respected by other people but if you're chasing after it and always seeking approval, you are not on a good road in life.
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This was beautiful to listen to. Thank you💖🙏
Hey Kevin....glad to see you are feeling better. I too stay away from the toxicity.
There is so much to be inspired by , so much creativity to be made for me to even consider a relationship ever again . I have learnt so much since being free from narcissistic relationships. I learn more from life when not depending on a relationship. I love being alone . Sometimes I enjoy company if it comes by but I don’t seek it and I happy in my own space learning and creating and my pets . My pets give me love and I give them love and that is loads that I am so grateful for
I love the fact that you have grown!!!!!! I have grown too and LOVE,LOVE, LOVE BEING BY MYSELF, I HAVE SO MUCH MORE JOY AND PEACE, ESPECIALLY SINCE COVID-19,!!!!!! THANK YOU SO VERY VERY MUCH KEVIN FOR SUCH A DYNAMIC VIDEO !!!!!!!!!! With so much narcissism in the world today, you need solitude for protection, because the world is a dangerous place and we need God more so than ever !!!!!!! Take care Kevin!!!!!! 2TIMOTHY 3:1-5
Yes yes so true . People look at you in society feeling sorry for you because your on your own etc .The songs you described , you feel pressured into looking like stereotype . If you step away from the crap 💩. Same as the films my mother used to look at , all romantic and full of what love should look like? Great topic. The only one I put my full trust and faith In Is GOD . Believe me you can trust him. I’ve come out of the narcisstic marriage. And it’s just a lie to be In this type of situationship, why waste your life on what the devil is sidetracking away with what matters . AND THATS YOU❤️
You are doing very good videos and it will help a lot of people. Thank you.
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I have never really tried to fit in much and have avoided some family members for years. But our culture in itself penalizes single people so It’s bigger than an individual trying to fit in, which many do. Yes, there are many, many worse things than being alone, and there are advantages to being single.
This video is SOOOO *POWERFUL* !!! 🔥🔥🔥
God’s kingdom is really DIFFERENT!
THEY are afraid that WE will FIND the TRUTH!
They are afraid because we already know.
Yep, is why these narcs don’t like that we want to be alone and have our own space (we might figure out that they need us more than we need them, amongst other things...)
Very wise Kevin.
It's not our fault being alone. Sadly our country and culture is really not very welcoming to older folk. I'm 73
I've tried relationships after a long marriage to a narcissist person who was destructive. So many of the dates I had were seriously immature men and some narcissistic people. Its not easy to live alone. Its a great challenge.
I find creativity prayer meditation and being kind to others helps to create meaning. At least I'm not abused by toxic affects of narcissistic people.
So absolutely true
.It has been my experience. My aloneness is my happy place...I then attracted good people who resonate with my values
South Africa is also listening
A big Amen!!!
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I spent 38yrs.wondering why my only child hated me! until I started remembering how her dad treated her Boom! I have only one grandson who I believe by now is just like his mom it's really sad but, I feel soooo free I no longer have binders on it's soo freeing! I no longer feel nauseated or get migraines anymore I've lost weight @feel so much better👍💯
Amen brother. I’ve been alone for seven years and it was the best thing that’s ever happened. When you’re alone you can truly receive messages from the universe.
Balance in all things. We live in a society that actively tries to stop us ever having alone time! But we shouldn't then isolate completely in reaction to that. I would say though that too many people don't understand how to be alone and happy, and that needs to be understood before the person can also find balance with the company of others. There are people who use toxic social withdrawal and call it independence though. Also, it's not right to have kids and then spend no time with them. There is a difference between being happy with others AND happy alone and those who withdraw as the HAVE to be alone as being with others is awkward or induces anxiety for them. And of course focusing on our true purpose most of the time will involve others!!!
That all makes sense,sad that not everyone has those beliefs,understand what You said its all true to me,what I will do is write down keep reminding my self to keep positive attitude! Thanks you great words!
When I was younger like that under 30 especially in school years I thought I wanted to be part of the in crowd yet my whole life the few experiences I had in the cool kids club I felt like I was pretending then foolish so rejected what I thought I wanted 😂 I have always and will always be outside even in groups like church I’m very different. I’m working on not ppl pleasing that I don’t gotta do this or that to be enough for anyone I used to never hardly say no to anyone now about everyday I do so it’s getting better I’m growing.
I do belong to a group but it is not of this world. Every Christ follower who lives by the spirit is in this group-my true family. In times where loneliness gets overwhelming, God always shows me this somehow and it it restores my peace.
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I listen to all your tapes I know without of doubt you care ..God bless you for helping to heal broken people from the narcisscitic abuse...
BELIEVE IN ME, LOVE MYSELF AND FOUND MY PEACE, THAT'S WHAT I DID TO SURVIVE, I'M A SURVIVOR.
ALONE I LOVE IT GOD Showed me this and now to guard my heart because it is deceitful and it can be if you’re not aware of this ❤️❤️❤️
😁😁😁, Royal We, what an excellent video of freedom. This should go viral. Much appreciation for bringing us back to God, focusing back to who we are and His word and how he has created us. We are programmed to look outside and for people, society. We thank God for removing this world of Narrcism
LOVE your channel! Such amazing insight. This explains why I feel perfectly content alone, until I receive the world’s reaction of me being alone. Which then leads to isolation because who needs to expose themselves to THAT idea. It really does explain WHY I can be going along happily alone, and then suddenly feel like it is just the most depressing thing in the world! Wow! Thanks so much for the work you do here! Blessings!
I was the scapegoat . My parents and older sisters were the worst narcissist. All toxic at home but all nice in public . I call them out and was called Crazy , that never happened etc . So at 52 packed up and left everyone . My oldest daughter got their genes . I try to belong and fit in . But always put down .
I put this video up there in your Top Twenty Best Videos of all time! Great job! Needed to hear this today!
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You created a calm and relaxing atmosphere! Love the wall of candles! Also, you have a nice way of sharing information that makes so much sense.
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Excellent video, Kevin!
I've been 'alone' for the last 40 years and I love it. Recently 2 women offered their friendship. I didn't take them up on it because I like my peace, calm, and quiet! I just wasn't looking forward to hearing their issues and them getting into my personal life. I like my privacy and being on my own!
It's a great place to be.
Brilliant! Thank you for this! I can find my purpose now. All the baloney is cleared out. Pain brings clarity. I think as children we need families but once you grow up, we need to let this go. If we are lucky enough to have real family and friends, that's a blessing. But not necessary to move forward.
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This is the most amazing video I have ever seen. This really resonates with me. I guess I am in the healing process because I am starting to feel like I don’t want anybody to accept me other than Jesus. I only want to be a aceptable to him and I only want to do things to honor him.
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You couldn't have said this any better! Thank you for addressing this.
For sure! People are hunting one another for the sake of security. To not to become such hunter we must understand that our purpose in life comes first. God is the purpose. Love everybody and never feel confined into anything. Spiritual freedom is everything ❤️🙏🏻
One of the best philosophical speeches I have ever heard. Such a wise psychological and social insight. Great!
I feel so dumb for putting up with this so long🥺. I thought I really was the bad person. So done.
Another good one Kevin 👍. The Word of God never fails and will always supersede modern psychology.
Absolutely true, when you look for respect and belonging you are rejecting your calling. We are individuals not tribe members. Thank you ❤
Yes...culture has painted this picture that alone-ness is a problem, when really, that couldn't be further from the truth.....it has immense benefits.....soooooo many!!!!! 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟
we do not need to fight to please people
GOD SAFE MY LIFE FROM MY EX- ABUSER.
THAT'S IS TRUE, IT'S A BIG DIFERENT BETWEEN BE ALONE AND LONELINESS, BIG DIFERENT.
Thank you Kevin I so, so needed to hear this!!
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True revelation brother! Love your passion. GB!
The commentary in the family is brilliant. Thank you Kevin
Culture has not influenced sadness around being alone for holidays. It is sad. It is reality-based.
I had to take the desicion nearly 3 years ago to walk away from all my family and move countries for my well being and sanity..I know now that if I hadn't my life would be over or coming to a painful end on all levels of my being...my advise to any of you struggling with one of the hardest but liberating choices...is to find a way ASAP to get yourself to a safe place..you cannot start to heal in any toxic environment..period! You can do it..you are a badass warrior...and later you will realise your self worth even if you need to scrap it off the metaphysical floor...your self respect will bloom and oh my when you are replenished and empowered you will take this world by storm and shine that amazing light that has been buried under others BS...my alone time..changed everything for me...plus you need time to untangle the energetics of others who you have been emeshed too!my love strength and courage are with you...now get packing quietly!..and get the hell out a dodge ..thank you lovely Kevin for being a truth beacon of light...and validating us all..💜
This is so eye opening!! The songs they played when I was a teenager make me literally sick🤢😡! We've been programmed to be narc's by narc's! Not happening. I love being by myself with my pets and Hobbies.
Kevin, you are amazing with the way you explain this.
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I had to listen to video a few time's" so good" this message is" i have to thank GOD🎀🎀💕💕" for finding you" KEVIN💕🎀🎀" stay blessed🎀🎀 AMEN🎀🎀💕💕