If your Narcissist finds new supply, know that the new supply is being abused just as you were. If your Narcissistic family is pretending to be perfect and happy when you're gone....know that they will sooner or later target someone else within the family to take your place as the "problem" and scapegoat them. Their disorders don't go away, they just reshuffle the supply. Most important thing is the supply is no longer *YOU* .
The new supply is ignorant and are in Allegiance with The Narcissist. They maintain allegiance to the narcissist because the have , the spirit of fear, they fear retaliation and angry and comply with the narcissist. Those is us that know the truth of narcissist are THE Enemy.
As we speak . It's sad really. I tried to warn the new wife in so many way but of course she didnt listen. I didnt listen and took up for the jerk when I was told to run
We forget or don’t realize they have done this to people before us their entire life and will continue to do the same thing currently and in the future to victims. We think they only treated us like this. That is just not true.
Louise Tiffany they have been manipulating people their whole lives. They are really good at it! We are kind , loving, genuine people who don’t even think they they do. Once I learned who I am, what I like, what I don’t like, what’s important to me in a relationship, I was then able to firm boundaries with people. Forming boundaries, speaking up for myself, not allowing others to cross them has really weeded out a lot of narcs. I can see the red flags much clearer now and have better discernment. .
I was with one. I got her a nice ring. We would take pretty cool vacations together. Then one night I told her that I was sick and that I wouldn’t be able to see her on this particular evening. As I called to say good night, twice she didn’t answer the phone. As my concern grew I drove out to her house only to discover that she was hanging out with her coworker. I confronted them both and kicked her out of my life. Found out from the other guy that she was telling him that she was single. They are truly running from relationship to relationship. These people are truly wicked.
The lies keep rolling out of their mouths. It has to be laughhed at because what type of person can do this? True darkness in their hearts. The dark one does not want these people they are to selfish.
Exactly, of course they're always thinking the grass is greener on the other side, they always have someone waiting in the wings, when things don't go just their way. Have no fear they have someone to call up most times to give them the fuel they need.
Funny how you can go from not standing the thought of your husband with someone else to seeing him and his new wife in a wedding pic and saying oh lord girl ..run
Actually mine moved in with his affair. Nobody falls in love faster than a narc who needs a place to live. The few times I have had to talk to him I can tell he is not happy. Does it bother me? No. Do I care? No. Because I’m happy now 14 months out and I know that no matter how bad he feels he CANNOT change. It really does get better folks when you get away. I was very sick when I left and my health is improving all the time. The first year was horribly tough, but now ... absolutely no regrets. Best decision I ever made.
@@Luziemagick I don't think anybody's stories can be any longer than mine. Seriously almost every time I write in one of these things I am embarrassed to see how much that I wrote and I only gave a minuscule I mean the smallest tiniest tiniest amount of information, and it's still long. All our stories are long because they do so much damage. And they always resurface.
@@maranathadynah2217 i agree..it makes me angry how much family(wtf) can fail one person so bad and not one is stepping up to say something. I know noone will do because beware of being the scapegoat. So all chime in to the the nasty behaviour. It's sickening.
I feel so sorry for the new supply. They are going to go through exactly what I went through. NO I would not warn anyone. I was once the new supply. I would not have listened to anyone
My ex tried the facade with me introducing his new fiance and child they had right after we broke up. Saw I wasn't fallin' for it and tried to come around again a month later. Sent him right back out the door. Last I heard he had another child with another woman, had a meltdown and went missing for a minute, but is now back on the prowl for a new supply. Please don't fall for the facade, they ALWAYS crash and burn.
They'll do anything and everything they can to make sure they look like they're confident and happy and everything is okay but deep down inside it's a turmoil of shame and disgust for themselves their base emotion is shame they know what they're doing look at all the time and effort they put into coming up with their intricate plans of deceit of how they execute that moment to make sure they get a full amount of hurt out of you and they will never stop this will go on forever they don't get better they only get worse they only get more desperate and more paranoid by the way the older they get the harder it is for them to play the victim the harder it is for them to get a new supply that's when they collapse it's actually quite pathetic tragic and just plain sad
Wow! “I feel like everybody is out to get me.” is something I heard OFTEN in the beginning. Then eventually, he would treat everyone like they were out to get him.
Personally, I'm also getting tired of naive people that narcissists run to for supply. I have 2 brothers that seem normal in the family but every time I stand up against the narcs in the family, these brothers become their new supply. Most times they agree with me when we are alone and then the next thing I know they have been love bombed and back into the 'happy family picture..without me'. Right now I feel tired of the whole lot. Narcissists and the Naive narcissist Suppliers.
@@donnaparks1919 That's true. But I don't want to be with people who are not authentic and live in denial. I know I was also once naive but I have matured and I want other mature people.
I am totally with you...same with my sister(see on the latest comments) We exchanged so much..a lot private things..which i kept painfully private but she told everything but demanded secrecy about her stuff. So, when infos where spread narcmother went on a emotional killing spree and sister agreed with her..smh. But i said it once and i say it again..i will always love them from afar but i have no words to describe how disappointed i am. I know love is free and no they do not have to love me(what might be a good thing) but ffs a little respect and dignity is not to much to ask for.
Sorry..i realized i made my answer to you and your brothers more about me..that was not my intention. So..now..if your brothers do not have the spine to back you up and standing strong..than get away..love them from afar and watch how their situation will unfold in plain side. It's not about the classic *see..I told you so* it's about you keeping your heart and soul strong without them interfering with your life.
I've often wondered why the narcissistic rage is so disproportionate to the perceived slight. I know one who would bring up past injuries despite not being related at all to the present issue, until he somehow links it by attacking his victim's character, and then he brings in the victim's family of origin and accuses them of being just as bad, if not worse, and then we ride the nope train to memoryville where injuries from other people the narc has known come up...and suddenly there's the mob that you spoke of, the mob that's attacking the narcissist, and suddenly he's the poor, sad, heroic, noble victim, and this somehow excuses his awful behavior in the present. Thank you for this insight.
The standing up for urself is for U not them. It won't fix them it only HELPS u recognize u know 😳 but RUN don't walk away is ONLY answer. This is the most important part don't go back not Ever. Or it will be worse than u could imagine. If u r a believer get back stronger in ur faith with GOD and lay it in his hands and did I say RUN!!!!!!!!!!
When the narc couldn’t gaslight me and started accusing me I am destroying everything in her life and taking the victim role I replied: “even if I feel that anger right now for everything you did to me, I know I don’t need to do anything to you, you do it yourself “ I do feel sorry for the new supply, all those people that are going thru what I did. Might God help them thru this because it is very heavy abuse to completely recover from and takes time
Yes they are good at saying " too much damage has been done to save this marriage " and " you have destroyed us " just un believable when for once , I was the " good" wife that bent over backwards . That dang limbo bar got so low
Please agree with me in prayer you Christian friends out there.. please pray the curse of Narcissism and hoarding, and financial destruction be broken in the name of Jesus Christ shed blood .. and send that curse of affliction back to the real source. I ask in Jesus name to give Him all the glory!! Amen 🙏
You're so right because whenever it's peaceful in the house and no one has any problems with anyone, my covert narcissistic mother will start conflict out of nowhere based off of the assumption that I am doing wrong and that I am doing something to upset her but when she realizes she has nothing to attack me on, she will then just tried to use her favorite excuse of saying that I have an attitude to continue fighting with me 🤦♀️
Family members,Friends, Neighbors & basically at this point all Countrymen women& children have been fused thru dirty electricity from instant convenient electric appliances by domestic household products & various accessories,that are or have been outsourced & completly made outside the country!
These Narcissistic things are Nefarious parasites who Gas light distract to pull at the divine synergetic light of others.Who all bcs they were too pridefully naive to suddenly realize they were being duped by diabolical entities posing as professionals of importance!Who then gave them positions of various similarities, that remain symptom.Nonetheless, Inorder to completly grasp far reaching false ideals!One must first integrally conceive.That bcs most rebelious ppl within today's society have some character flaw inside certain degrees of Narcisistic Qualities.Only thru constant use of computational electro magnetic radioactive appliances, they are made irresponsibly suceptible, to certain dubious unknown ominous unseen scenarious!Only throughout nefarious means of various Mental distractive spiritual cleansing that would probably be most self sustainable or properly sufficient.So perhaps Most independent individuals may or may not have been to early in finally leaving various Religious systems of Spirituality.And the one who did stay in the socalled Church.More than likely are still in a state of confusion.By deceptive ways of being mislead to the same end!But from another perspective, now throw away foolish pride that always comes before any fall. To only humble oneself to having Faith in the real true Almighty Most High Alpha Omega.Most every time a Scientist fails in trying for years to find the key anecdote to remedy some problematic symptom.One hide in secrecy in ones private laboratory behind the main procreator.Until there's a final Breakthrough!Don't wait till we all end up on The Battlefield in some Bombed Out Foxhole trench.It might then be too late to secure ones Fate.Especially with this present dire culturally indiscriminate idea of pre Ww3 Staring All or each & every relative living Human Beings Atop This Planet right in the Face!Without first waking up from such a Narcissistic spiritual ill spell of Nefarious mental abuse most everyone is under!Besides what ever happen to the the positive True to life Realistic Wise Nostalgiac saying: "There Are No Atheist Inside The (proverbial) FoxHole!"
Wow.. Your so right. I should block his crazy family not even waste my time explaining why "He broke my heart" or " Why I broke his wallet". I call them "Bull Sh**" family!
Especially if they get married. I was begged to marry for years. My gut feeling said NO NO NO> I was fooled eventually that it was love. I did not see until it was too late that no love was included.
I think I learned some of these behaviors , I stayed with someone , who was a narcissist , for a few months . I think I got "stock homed" then I bounced back from it , I have anger issues , My mom , that's all i'm saying , she gas lit me my whole life , she had a stroke , so i live with her now , I'm 44 years old , I am stuck , and I do run from relationships , I only had one , she stole my movies and cheated with some dude half my age , that messed me up . I learned to be alone for so long , I alienated myself . I live in a city , everyone wears masks , It's really strange lately , I learned one good thing to share , Trust yourself when things seem wrong , don't ignore the angel on your shoulder , that little voice has protected you , listen to it
Interesting. My mum is a narcissistic psychopath and she also had a stroke last year. I took care of her in hospital and after that I left. Now I'm back home due to the lockdown and she still acts sickly and weak, so people were telling me to stay and live with her but I refused and I'm looking for my own place and I'll be out Asap. I am learning to be cold towards narcissists. And once they see that you can be cold and not care, they try to love bomb again and later they back off.
I just turned 26 and my mother ruined my birthday again by shouting at me all day. I feel stuck and suffer from severe depression after having dated mostly psychopaths or sociopaths. 🙏💚 Thank you for your advice. We have to remember who we are, listen to the angel, and get back up, for ourselves.
Thank you for helping me...Yes, they left in the middle of the night without saying a word, moved to another state with another woman..Never saw it coming. (Shame on me). But now, 10 years later, their new relationship is falling apart. Now, they call. No thanks. They almost destroyed me... I mean really...... I'm lucky to be here.
This is exactly what I needed to hear, today! Living it, & looking for answers. Narcissist abuses me, then runs into the tower of victimhood. It's stunning, & happens in a nanosecond. I was born into a family with narc mom, was made the scapegoat, & have chosen relationship with narcs all of my life. Finally started waking up, 20 yrs ago, that something was very wrong, but didn't find narcissism until very recently. What a fool I've been...if I'm just more loving, patient, etc they'll stop hurting me. Ha! Took me forever to figure out they weren't abusing me because of me! Fully awake, & finding a better life! Thank you, for your insights. Godsend.
My ex gave his new Supply last year, in the summer, within a short time. I met her last year in May. He sold our Matrimonial home the end of January. Our younger son moved in with me. 3months. Ex moved to another City. Almost an hour away. Our son moved back in with his Dad this past March. Our son comes every other weekend. I gave him my old cell phone from 2018, as I upgraded. Dad sent it back in the mail to me the past week. My son is not able to talk with me. My ex and his supply bought a new house. Will be moving within the next 2 weeks. Supply is very similar to my ex. I feel for my son in the middle of there mess. As far as Dad and the issue of our son's phone, I can't do anything about, physically. I pray.
🙏💜 I been there....I’m praying for complete restoration and healing for you and your son. It does get better your son WILL see his dad and new supply’s evil ways and eventually no longer want to be around him or her....period! Sending Hugs 💜 No weapon formed against you shall prosper.
Julia--- I'm praying for your son!!! He will see the truth one day! IRS been almost a year since my divorce from my ex husband of 31 years. Unfortunately I am disabled from his abuse and I got a horrible divorce lawyer thru legalsheild and got almost nothing after 31 years! He committed perjury in court on 4 accounts. I think my daughter sees thru his" if God is for me who can be against me!!! " I'm like really??? He says hes a Christian but has committed insurance fraud and tax fraud and perjury in court and fed our son peanutbutter behind my back and son almost died 100s of times!!! Kids are smarter than you think and your son is trauma bonded and he will see the truth oneday!!! Narrisst are a demonic spirit!!! Praying for God to heal you!!!❤❤❤❤❤🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
I meant to say in the beginning of my comment, my ex gave his supply an engagement ring. They haven't gotten married. They lead people to believe that they are because thru live together
@@candywilkins386 Hi Cindy. I so feel for you. God knows it all. He is a God of Justice. We have to believe that He is, and that He sees everything. Hugs 🤗
Thanks, I agree. My ex partners main issue is himself, he regrets so much that he finds it difficult to live with himself so he reinvents himself constantly to forget what he is. That means he destroys relationships and labels the other person as inadequate to justify his actions but really I think he knows he is the person lacking so he runs from his true self. He recently showed up trying to Hoover me, he was very distressed that he made a mistake as I am doing very well without him and he is still floundering for relevancy in this world, lacking money, status or a career...all he has are the tools he uses to attract attention which wears thin with most people after a short while...no substance no depth just tricks, smoke and mirror illusions of who he projects himself to be. It’s very sad and I worry about his future.
From 2 narcissist men I was repeatedly told that they were reinventing themselves. What I discovered was this meant they'd found someone they wanted to be their new supply. They started losing weight, growing a beard, dressing really nice and wearing heavy cologne whenever going out, but not doing that for me. It's important to know that the reinvention is to fool someone else into believing they are someone and something you already learned was a lie.
That reinventing is always surface level. You do give them advice on deeper stance but their processing just can't go that deep. That is your cue - you can't help them further. SELF discovery is self explanatory.
They only get worse in time and more desperate the older they become the harder it is to get another source another supply not to mention the psychosis the paranoia the base emotion of disgust and shame get bigger and bigger and bigger this is called the collapsed narcissist it's actually quite tragic
@@frankbujans5901 Major toxic Malign Narcissism Really starts with some major identity crisis.By not truly knowing who one self really is ingeneral.Then by jealous indepth Nefarious envy grows as germinate seeds of poison, thru opposing those who absolutely knew exactly who they always were!Let it be known you heard it here first!
The Greed based Germination of poisonous seeds that insidiously festers in the vapid soul, like some putrid ill spirited demonic infestation!Makin' such vacant Narcissists into the perfect Nefarious specimen for spiritual possession.With abit of assistance from domestic urban substances with ominious prose within such technological openings inside elusive dubious portals.Susceptibly releasing various electro magnetic field wave entities Morphing normal people who are not immune to certain instant convenient microwave portable hand held radioactive devices.By design of somehow,now presently turning certain naive disregardful insecure Narc type individuals who have been completely dumbed all the way down,to be emptied out for essential hollow extraction.Then commandeered into complete Divisive Moronic Vacant Parasitic Vessels of Weirdo Xenophobic Zombification!So Let it known far & wide abroad!Nonetheless this the very start of Total innate Spiritual-ill Technological War Fare!
Perhaps the biggest blessing for me from having dealt with narcism, after the fact that once you get that education you are equipped to protect against it in the future, is that I honestly never considered the 'new supply', I did not care! And, no contact, like serious guerilla warfare no contact, protected me from triangulation (or that person trying to make me jealous).
Thank you for this. It’s been 4 yrs today I took my kids and left and two yrs no contact at all. The reason he moved on was because he says I wasn’t a good house keeper. Nothing else just that.
We actually had a calender to write down who did what chores . I started filling it out and he finally said just stop theres no need for that . Because it had 80% my initials ..
That is crazy! So happy you got away from him! Mine gave me excuse that I threw out juicer we recieved as wedding present years before just months after i gave birth to our son, then he told me he was jealous of baby! So pathetic!
There’s always a new excuse if you fix that or even better yet ask him to write it down on a piece of paper is always find a way to say you didn’t do what they asked. They are never happy and the problem is they’re not happy with them selves.
No contact for 8 months. She had someone groomed and comfortably monkey branched to over Xmas period 2019 until I found out by accident going into new year 2020. When I look back on when we got together, she was mirroring me after she left her previous 5 year relationship which she claimed was toxic due to her previous partner/ boyfriend. I can remember at one stage I said to my ex wife, in our 4-5th year., the horrible things she said her ex did did to her SHE was doing to me.... and was that a result of WHO SHE REALLY IS or was it that she had learned bad things from her ex......? She looked uncomfortable and shied away before she got angry and her eyes narrowing as she told me, “I was still healing! I hadn’t gotten over a lot of the abuse that he did. It’s not about you all the time. I maybe had been dealing with a lot and didn’t realise I was doing that to you. You’re not perfect. You’ve got problems!” The 7-10 year relationship, that makes sense. We split before our 7th year... but we remained together off and on, separating 6 times before she moved onto new supply before our 10th year. By time she did, she had to as she knew I was going to figure out she had an affair with her NLP life coach. So she had be quick and act, she did so right behind my back and under my nose. Her phone gave her access to finding and meeting people. In the end. She discarded me AFTER I found out about the new supply, she tried to gaslight me about who he was and their relationship and she blamed and demonised me big time, saying I was mentally unwell and in the same breath, I should look after kids on my own while she heads out now (whereas before she was always present). Nobody knew we had been seeing each other since we first split, she kept it quiet, so when the discard happened, nobody would have any questions and even congratulate her for finding someone new and being “happy”. I made the final discard and found my own closure on her and I walked away. She was too dangerous and had shown me she had no limits. She would stoop to whatever level needed in order to destroy me and save her own name. I knew she biding her time and on her “best behaviour” and it wouldn’t last. I blocked her new supply, I had no wish to contact him as I already knew he had been told a very different story. And he won’t be none the wiser. He will find out in his own time who she really is. The mask will slip, but he will go into denial like I did about what he is dealing with. She will hold onto him very tightly, as she doesn’t have me now to fall back on. No contact and move on with your life, accept what is.
Narcs are moving forward like a spiral always recycling people and their evil behavior with mind games on and on!There are spiritual laws to this life and no one can get away from them for a long time!.. It is good that you discard her cause I always say that the final discard belongs to victims - "and I discard my ex narc more than once when she tried to hoover me back to hell!!!....
Well we are the bad guy because we dared taking our freedom. So obviously they become a sort of victim or hero and therefore get the sympathy from the crowd.
For a couple of weeks maybe. Who cares. They were already playing victim with you. People can sort things out by themselves. So go live your blessed life and it will be blessed. Your awesome!!!
Yes, I have seen this happen recently in someone I have only known a short time. They pretended to be just like me until I disagreed with something, then they attacked and ghosted me permanently.
🎯 soooo on point!!! "Who they are with you is exactly who they are in life! Period!!" Yessssss!!! I do feel sorry for his new supply. He eloped with her 4 months after he ghosted me. I also feel sorry for his ex wife of 20+ years. I know she and his daughters were left with the aftermath. I was the lucky one. Even though I knew him (as much as one can really ever know a narc that is) for many years as a long distance childhood friend, it wasn't really clear to me (how fucked up he was) until he got a divorce 2 years ago and rushed on me fast and hard. He talked about eloping to Vegas and made a lot of travel plans with me that he is now doing with his new wife. As much as I feel for her, and I really do. I'm relieved it's not me anymore!!! She is the best thing to happen to us. It's only been 6 months so I am sure their honeymoon stage is starting to show the trauma cycles. I hope she sees him for who he really is sooner than later, but that's her journey to figure out.
his new supply didn’t even answer the phone when i called. he told me that this woman is the owner of a film company in australia and that he’s there for work. i called her number because he told me that his phone sometimes doesn’t work and that the “company” will provide him an iphone. i found out from his friend that he is actually “with” that woman so he was just stringing me along. i still don’t understand why lie about it. i would be out of their way if he just told me the truth. i’m not going to beg him to stay. he told me that we are going to work on our relationship instead of just cutting it off right there and then. 18 years with him and he didn’t even have the decency to tell me the truth.
I know exactly what you mean, after 12 years together all i wanted my ex narc girlfriend to do was tell me the truth, that would have been much less painful than the way she chose go about it. Instead she just lied, denied and blame shifted and got angry at me for 'accusing her' but in the end the truth eventually came out. She was a master at playing the victim and manipulating my own family into believing I was the problem. She turned alot of people against me. Even my own mother took her side over mine. I still love my mum I always will but I had to go no contact with her she left me no choice (double bind) they deserve each other! Thats the last time I ever introduce any woman to my Mum/family.
Interface 1 these people don’t change. sometimes they act like they changed for the better so you won’t leave them but it’s all a lie. they are really good in manipulating and playing victim. even when they’re caught, you won’t hear any apologies but justification and or denial. it was never their fault. it’s a blessing to be finally free of these kinds of people. i hope if they come back we’ll be strong enough not to take them back.
They incapable of being honest. It’s simply not in them. They are pathological liars. Mine is still lying almost a year later swearing he’s not with such and such when I know damn well exactly who he’s with and I don’t care. Let him have her and her him. As long as he’s not bothering me anymore than that’s all that matters to me!
YakkateeYak i agree with you. there’s no way they can be fixed. they are so broken they want to break us too. we’re not going down their path though. we know better now.
One of the positives I got out of this relationship she showed me how strong I am she is now my gold standard on what to look out for I do feel sorry for them as they are living their karma ,their own personal hell Not been able to love and living the same day over and over again reminds me of Groundhog Day
God came over and looked at me and said these monsters are the grossest things in the history of all of existence and creation and I'm taking you away from them. And I was fighting God, I was fighting to stay with my abusers. But my abusers couldn't handle the battle anymore and discarded me.
YAH! Less than halfway thru @5:48 but BINGO DING DING DING! Thank you! One word: sorry and one feeling: regret or humility that they refuse to say or feel and they have created their own nightmare of cognitive dissonance. If they haven't actually been caught, then they are always living in fear they might, at least inwardly. Making themselves walk on their own eggshells too!
SO insightful Kevin... right on the money... this is exactly what i went through... he married the new supply right away after promising me marriage and then ghosting me... your fresh perspective is a blessing and an answer and must have come to you straight from the Good Lord !!!
No normal healthy individual goes into a new relationship without a time of healing and acceptance of the failure. It's a red flag. I call New Supply/Next Victim. That anxiety Narcs feel is overwhelming for them. The wake of destruction is a real dose of karma just waiting for the Narc. Always looking over their shoulder, never having peace..... Smh. Kevin has helped me so much. You are so authentic and genuine.
Yes. I remember my ex narc was extremely hyper vigilant & on guard. He felt like everyone was out to get him. I also remember him admitting that he couldn’t handle when people criticized him. Wow. He literally was telling on hisself. It’s amazing how predictable they can be. Glad I woke up & no longer give him any fuel. The new supply is in for a rude awakening.
They way you describe things is just so spot on! Only someone who has lived it can truly understand and your channel is SUCH A BLESSING to my soul and heart in this season of life.
The narc showed up in court with him for my final protective order. It shocked me to know that it was his first ex wife who had him arrested in 2015 for 6 mos for child support. His children are now 30, twins are 28 and the youngest 24. So count back five years. They never stop sleeping together.
My Narc, cheated & left me for new supply-- because I started to see thru his lies/deception making him accountable to it, 6 mth after he dumps he he marries her & created the life that I wanted leaving me not having it-- but my ex spent 15 years with new supply but has since left them for another- he is on wife #6..what a loser!..
My ex narc lives across the street from me, so this pain is extra hard to break free from because I see everything and so does he. After the last two months of me resisting his hoovers, he already has a younger woman living with him. He is 51 and if she is even 40 yet I would be very surprised. I own my home but he rents, so I am hoping he will move away soon. Thanks for being here.
Your videos give me life. The fact you know the Bible and have such depth helped me out more than anyone. (Other than RC BLAKES). Thank you for making these videos. You've saved a lot of lives. Mine included. Thank God for you.
When you leave there's eventually an ugly mutiny that will occur without fail. They're weak and can't change so their moves will be a carousel of absolute destruction.
Yes, he has told me, to his best friend and our therapist that he views me as an enemy when we argue or disagree. He always attacked me with anything and everything! Everything you say really makes sense and was what I experienced.
Number one. They get bored easily and you may have crossed them or had a different opinion in them or perhaps an argument it doesn't take much. If he gets or she gets any sort of attention from anybody else they will do and take it. So there's nothing different or better about the other source. They are just filling up at another gas station.
my husband in 2020 when we were at stay at home. he became paranoid. and i found out who he truly is. inside. before lock down i thought he was a spiritual wolf. me and my son became closer to god. and he opened our eyes to what he truly is. were expecting the rapture this year. i hope everyone is ready were so tired of this world. that's all we want anymore. the only thing i pray for.
This is sooooooo eye opening to me! I'm blown away at the accuracy and I'm understanding it from a different level. Thank you SO much for posting this!! Total God send.
And I DO feel sorry for the narcissists I’ve known. But, not more than for myself,’in having to deal with them. It is an exercise only meant to dry up your spirit and your years.
I knew from the off that his next relationship would be the same. I was proved right. He’s still abusive, but luckily I’m distanced and leading my own happy life with someone normal
The narc I used to know was extremely paranoid! Even for the 4mos. of love bombing she pulled on me. She came across as tough, and independent, but whenever we spoke about any her exes, she always made it sound as though she was the victim. She would say things like: 'I built them up, and they always end up leaving me for someone better' Now I know why😆😆😆 She always had a way of looking like the victim, but she wasn't down & out yet! She tough enough to eventually fight back from all the setbacks that befallen her in life. In her mind, she always overcame! And she would overcome again! She is by far the most toxic, and delusional person I have ever met! She's hit rock bottom numerous times, but never took the time to self reflect, or spent even a moment to give it any thought as to why she made the self destructive decisions that she did that got her in the terrible situation she's in curerntly. Only staying a busybody, or staying distracted with weed, cigarettes, & video games. Her distrust of other ppl was incredible!! When she started with the shaming language, I walked! No hesitation, no warning. She thought that I was going to stick around, and take the abuse b/c I made the mistake of sharing some of my insecurities with her early on. She didn't know how big my support network really was, so when I walked, I had dozens of loved ones to hold me accountable to ensure that I never went back to her.
Narcs are incapable of self reflection. That's why they always need distractions and are "bored easily." They're not actually bored they are trying to avoid their own thoughts.
This is kind of what comforts me actually. is that he even talks of his current girlfriends an how we wont' be with them.....and when he is ready he will dump them and find more.. I've heard this sick talk. Then,the girlfriends are so attached and in love with him.
Yup. Accountability is what he hates. I did tell him that, I feel sorry for you because I have healed more aspects of myself and everything you say does not trigger me..it just makes you look bad because I can see you are trying to bring me down out of pure evil.
I can see that my anger here is going to be a serious challenge of challenges... this is also very painful..merciless...the deep I am the greater the struggle to get out for me...
Thank you Kevin, this message hit me hard in the gut. I just recently found out about my husband's "new supply" that had been going on for years. I feel like he killed me from the inside out. I want to expose him to the world! He is a disgusting, disgraceful demon. Thank God for your videos.......I no longer believe I'm the crazy one!
6:00. "Instead of guilt and shame for what they have done, they look at it as the world being their enemy, and that you're after them! This is why they can't be accountable for any one reason. When you bring accountability into your relationship, it's like them being thrown in front of every judge who existed to be condemned to a lifelong sentence. Because they have THAT MUCH, a wake of destruction, that they HAVE never dealt with in their lifetime. So they transfer that into 'victimhood." Bullseye with that observation. Even though I need to be reminded of that! Reinforcement never hurts
I'm the "new" supply that was married and used as a tool to torture the "old" supply. I have decided to become an "old" supply because this is not a marriage; it's hell. She shouldn't feel jealous or less than. The way he treated her is how he's trying me. The toxic cycle continues.
I personally don't give a crap who knows and I don't give a crap who reads this and who knows my name. I definitely don't look them up. I do have to confess though I did mess up recently. After blocking this narcissist that talked about marriage with me but somehow I was absent on his Facebook page, I digress. What I mean is, I ended up talking to him and trying to be a friend with him because I was down and vulnerable and I did it and I regret it with all my heart. I swear never again never ever again. Shame is a selfish feeling. It's shame about how they appear to others and sometimes shame about themselves but not enough where they actually feel remorse because that requires them to feel for the pain that they have inflicted on somebody else and to own it and to be able to apologize for it and man up that they did something wrong. Narcissists are incapable of doing that they can imitate it but they don't mean it.
It's sad when you leave, and you know the grandchildren become the focus of the full on abuse. That's why I stayed in relationship with my daughter. I know the abuse will ramp up on the grandchildren
He's been here after me taking over Mtg, 1yr....I don't speak to him, i slide past stairs, he was so aweful when I found out about the co worker, now he's just complaciant, PS, I DO NOT FEEL SORRY FOR THAT NEW SUPPLY! SHE WAS THE ONE @@
So very true, Kevin!! So very thankful after 27 yrs... I no longer have to deal with this crazy toxic world that he lives in. God bless him and his new girlfriend too!! Lord, she does not know what she does. So very thankful!! Great things are coming my way, that Divine Right has for me!! ❤️🥰
This is the reason why I love listening to you, you are so for real. Again I hope you don’t mind my expression that you introduced me to but when it comes to your lessons me likie 🤗 I hope you’re not getting tired of me saying that. I do take you seriously but sometimes you are funny and I like it. Much love to you always 🤗🥰😘
I wish I would have seen this before trying to warn his 2nd wife. You are right-they both turned on me. She came at me vicious and nastier than him. She up me by having 2 children in competition of my own. Now almost 7 years later and still making my life hell, my daughter now 11 tells me that last time spent at daddy's was horrible. Him and his wife are not talking to each other, and things are just bad--so you are right. Narcs never change-the problem is that wife #2 is as hateful and as manipulative so she gets some of him now in real time, but she'll wipe him clean too meaning my kids will have less than they get now for she'll keep double what they get for hers knowing the numbers. Do you follow? She is trailer -got him tattooed all over his body and positioned herself with his money. I left him from getting myself tired of the abuse. I went as far as 5 states over, so I got nothing, he claimed abandonment and so no alimony or rights while I struggle left alone w/2 of his children. They live in riches-he gets part of his father's company, and she puts up with him for few more years to bank herself well positioned before leaving him. My daughter says the rumor is she already has another man. Well-she is a Barbie like and 10 years younger than me so let her have it/ Him, on the other hand-I wish I could impede contact with kids who are highly affected by his ups and downs, but court does not see it through. May God have the last say here.
Oh my god! Yes 10 years an i have finally ended it, its taking everything from me......its hard an you do feel like your dien from a broken heart. Healing again I do believe something inside me will be even more stronger then I have ever been. Am so glad I didn't have kids with my ex I wouldn't want a marry go round of more narcissistic zone.
The narcissist moves to other ppl they can control because the narcissist can not control u anymore.
You see past the mask
Yea ur right
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True ! I wasn’t compliant after I woke up to his manipulation
Yep
If your Narcissist finds new supply, know that the new supply is being abused just as you were.
If your Narcissistic family is pretending to be perfect and happy when you're gone....know that they will sooner or later target someone else within the family to take your place as the "problem" and scapegoat them.
Their disorders don't go away, they just reshuffle the supply. Most important thing is the supply is no longer *YOU* .
Thank you for writing this..
Amen to that!💯✅
.. still feel seriously sorry for those next targets... have befriended a few - epic experience blowing the narcs lies out of the water
Facts
Facts
They run supply to supply, transaction to transaction. People are just objects to be used. They are good at relationshits not relationships.
... terminology dictionary updated...
They are definitely just objects
I'm drinking coffee and toasting Dave.
Transactions are right!!
The new supply is ignorant and are in Allegiance with The Narcissist. They maintain allegiance to the narcissist because the have , the spirit of fear, they fear retaliation and angry and comply with the narcissist. Those is us that know the truth of narcissist are THE Enemy.
Believe me. They are actually torturing their new victim.
As we speak . It's sad really. I tried to warn the new wife in so many way but of course she didnt listen. I didnt listen and took up for the jerk when I was told to run
Literally
We forget or don’t realize they have done this to people before us their entire life and will continue to do the same thing currently and in the future to victims. We think they only treated us like this. That is just not true.
Mine is I know he did it to others so why did I fall for it too. That was my hardest part to get over.
Louise Tiffany they have been manipulating people their whole lives. They are really good at it! We are kind , loving, genuine people who don’t even think they they do. Once I learned who I am, what I like, what I don’t like, what’s important to me in a relationship, I was then able to firm boundaries with people. Forming boundaries, speaking up for myself, not allowing others to cross them has really weeded out a lot of narcs. I can see the red flags much clearer now and have better discernment. .
I should of seen the red flags when he told me he was married twice !,, and blamed & bashed his ex’s for everything!!
SalonSavy64 you gained good wisdom♥️
@be set free 💯facts here .....I used to tell me self this all the time just to remind me ...
She wasn’t in love with me ....It was just my turn 🥺
I was with one. I got her a nice ring. We would take pretty cool vacations together. Then one night I told her that I was sick and that I wouldn’t be able to see her on this particular evening. As I called to say good night, twice she didn’t answer the phone. As my concern grew I drove out to her house only to discover that she was hanging out with her coworker. I confronted them both and kicked her out of my life. Found out from the other guy that she was telling him that she was single. They are truly running from relationship to relationship. These people are truly wicked.
The lies keep rolling out of their mouths.
It has to be laughhed at because what type of person can do this?
True darkness in their hearts. The dark one does not want these people they are to selfish.
@12checkmate75 that’s a sad story man you tried and still didn’t work ...Trust me I know the feeling...Onwards and upwards pal
Such a raw experience *shudders*
Wowwwww!😌
Exactly, of course they're always thinking the grass is greener on the other side, they always have someone waiting in the wings, when things don't go just their way. Have no fear they have someone to call up most times to give them the fuel they need.
If you’re reading this, I give you my blessing! Everything is going to get better. You’re strong and capable and healing. Fall in love with yourself.
Bless you back!❤
Thank you so much! 🫶🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
Thank you so much! 🫶🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
Funny how you can go from not standing the thought of your husband with someone else to seeing him and his new wife in a wedding pic and saying oh lord girl ..run
Actually mine moved in with his affair. Nobody falls in love faster than a narc who needs a place to live. The few times I have had to talk to him I can tell he is not happy. Does it bother me? No. Do I care? No. Because I’m happy now 14 months out and I know that no matter how bad he feels he CANNOT change. It really does get better folks when you get away. I was very sick when I left and my health is improving all the time. The first year was horribly tough, but now ... absolutely no regrets. Best decision I ever made.
It is quite traumatic!!
Amen. Getting away from them can be gut wrenching to start then that knot slowly unwinds and you can relax!
I cant wait to feel better...
@@HeatherDMorris ur absolutely right Heather. 36 days no contact
My story, too...
My story is too long, but..you're right!
Same here but with family..wtf
...endless... until we learn to avoid the plague of narcissistic abuse...
Number two.. awwwhhh .....NO WAY
@@Luziemagick I don't think anybody's stories can be any longer than mine. Seriously almost every time I write in one of these things I am embarrassed to see how much that I wrote and I only gave a minuscule I mean the smallest tiniest tiniest amount of information, and it's still long. All our stories are long because they do so much damage. And they always resurface.
@@maranathadynah2217 i agree..it makes me angry how much family(wtf) can fail one person so bad and not one is stepping up to say something. I know noone will do because beware of being the scapegoat. So all chime in to the the nasty behaviour. It's sickening.
I feel so sorry for the new supply. They are going to go through exactly what I went through. NO I would not warn anyone. I was once the new supply. I would not have listened to anyone
My ex tried the facade with me introducing his new fiance and child they had right after we broke up. Saw I wasn't fallin' for it and tried to come around again a month later. Sent him right back out the door. Last I heard he had another child with another woman, had a meltdown and went missing for a minute, but is now back on the prowl for a new supply. Please don't fall for the facade, they ALWAYS crash and burn.
They'll do anything and everything they can to make sure they look like they're confident and happy and everything is okay but deep down inside it's a turmoil of shame and disgust for themselves their base emotion is shame they know what they're doing look at all the time and effort they put into coming up with their intricate plans of deceit of how they execute that moment to make sure they get a full amount of hurt out of you and they will never stop this will go on forever they don't get better they only get worse they only get more desperate and more paranoid by the way the older they get the harder it is for them to play the victim the harder it is for them to get a new supply that's when they collapse it's actually quite pathetic tragic and just plain sad
Wow! “I feel like everybody is out to get me.” is something I heard OFTEN in the beginning. Then eventually, he would treat everyone like they were out to get him.
Personally, I'm also getting tired of naive people that narcissists run to for supply. I have 2 brothers that seem normal in the family but every time I stand up against the narcs in the family, these brothers become their new supply. Most times they agree with me when we are alone and then the next thing I know they have been love bombed and back into the 'happy family picture..without me'.
Right now I feel tired of the whole lot. Narcissists and the Naive narcissist Suppliers.
Agree they got learn hard even still some don't won't & don't care for truth even if bites there nose
@@donnaparks1919 That's true. But I don't want to be with people who are not authentic and live in denial. I know I was also once naive but I have matured and I want other mature people.
Sorry but that sounds familiar almost all family took up with narc sis against me I never thought the theyed form an army
I am totally with you...same with my sister(see on the latest comments)
We exchanged so much..a lot private things..which i kept painfully private but she told everything but demanded secrecy about her stuff.
So, when infos where spread narcmother went on a emotional killing spree and sister agreed with her..smh.
But i said it once and i say it again..i will always love them from afar but i have no words to describe how disappointed i am.
I know love is free and no they do not have to love me(what might be a good thing) but ffs a little respect and dignity is not to much to ask for.
Sorry..i realized i made my answer to you and your brothers more about me..that was not my intention.
So..now..if your brothers do not have the spine to back you up and standing strong..than get away..love them from afar and watch how their situation will unfold in plain side.
It's not about the classic *see..I told you so* it's about you keeping your heart and soul strong without them interfering with your life.
I've often wondered why the narcissistic rage is so disproportionate to the perceived slight. I know one who would bring up past injuries despite not being related at all to the present issue, until he somehow links it by attacking his victim's character, and then he brings in the victim's family of origin and accuses them of being just as bad, if not worse, and then we ride the nope train to memoryville where injuries from other people the narc has known come up...and suddenly there's the mob that you spoke of, the mob that's attacking the narcissist, and suddenly he's the poor, sad, heroic, noble victim, and this somehow excuses his awful behavior in the present. Thank you for this insight.
I made a mistake for standing for myself now the abuse has gotten worse .
@Cliff Wilson What did I do too you ? I never met a Cliff guy only Cliff I know is a guy from Metallica .
@@craig3714 ????
@@pamchandler1867 🤦♂️
@@pamchandler1867 Stop with the cybertorture already .
The standing up for urself is for U not them. It won't fix them it only HELPS u recognize u know 😳 but RUN don't walk away is ONLY answer. This is the most important part don't go back not Ever. Or it will be worse than u could imagine. If u r a believer get back stronger in ur faith with GOD and lay it in his hands and did I say RUN!!!!!!!!!!
When the narc couldn’t gaslight me and started accusing me I am destroying everything in her life and taking the victim role I replied: “even if I feel that anger right now for everything you did to me, I know I don’t need to do anything to you, you do it yourself “ I do feel sorry for the new supply, all those people that are going thru what I did. Might God help them thru this because it is very heavy abuse to completely recover from and takes time
Yes they are good at saying " too much damage has been done to save this marriage " and " you have destroyed us " just un believable when for once , I was the " good" wife that bent over backwards . That dang limbo bar got so low
I don't care what's happening with them anymore. You broke my heart and now I'm moving forward with a new life.
Please agree with me in prayer you Christian friends out there.. please pray the curse of Narcissism and hoarding, and financial destruction be broken in the name of Jesus Christ shed blood .. and send that curse of affliction back to the real source. I ask in Jesus name to give Him all the glory!! Amen 🙏
What are you going to get? Deception, lies, a facade. It’s the same vicious cycle for the narcissist no matter who is new in their life.
Facts
Haven't, and don't look if they do have social, don't care
You're so right because whenever it's peaceful in the house and no one has any problems with anyone, my covert narcissistic mother will start conflict out of nowhere based off of the assumption that I am doing wrong and that I am doing something to upset her but when she realizes she has nothing to attack me on, she will then just tried to use her favorite excuse of saying that I have an attitude to continue fighting with me 🤦♀️
That's called Narcissistic Spiritual Possession!Let it be know u heard it here first!
Family members,Friends, Neighbors & basically at this point all Countrymen women& children have been fused thru dirty electricity from instant convenient electric appliances by domestic household products & various accessories,that are or have been outsourced & completly made outside the country!
Literally happened to the T! She sucked all my energy and charisma and left me for dead only to move right into the reality we spoke of in the future.
These Narcissistic things are Nefarious parasites who Gas light distract to pull at the divine synergetic light of others.Who all bcs they were too pridefully naive to suddenly realize they were being duped by diabolical entities posing as professionals of importance!Who then gave them positions of various similarities, that remain symptom.Nonetheless, Inorder to completly grasp far reaching false ideals!One must first integrally conceive.That bcs most rebelious ppl within today's society have some character flaw inside certain degrees of Narcisistic Qualities.Only thru constant use of computational electro magnetic radioactive appliances, they are made irresponsibly suceptible, to certain dubious unknown ominous unseen scenarious!Only throughout nefarious means of various Mental distractive spiritual cleansing that would probably be most self sustainable or properly sufficient.So perhaps Most independent individuals may or may not have been to early in finally leaving various Religious systems of Spirituality.And the one who did stay in the socalled Church.More than likely are still in a state of confusion.By deceptive ways of being mislead to the same end!But from another perspective, now throw away foolish pride that always comes before any fall. To only humble oneself to having Faith in the real true Almighty Most High Alpha Omega.Most every time a Scientist fails in trying for years to find the key anecdote to remedy some problematic symptom.One hide in secrecy in ones private laboratory behind the main procreator.Until there's a final Breakthrough!Don't wait till we all end up on The Battlefield in some Bombed Out Foxhole trench.It might then be too late to secure ones Fate.Especially with this present dire culturally indiscriminate idea of pre Ww3 Staring All or each & every relative living Human Beings Atop This Planet right in the Face!Without first waking up from such a Narcissistic spiritual ill spell of Nefarious mental abuse most everyone is under!Besides what ever happen to the the positive True to life Realistic Wise Nostalgiac saying: "There Are No Atheist Inside The (proverbial) FoxHole!"
Wow.. Your so right. I should block his crazy family not even waste my time explaining why "He broke my heart" or " Why I broke his wallet". I call them "Bull Sh**" family!
Big red flag when someone is calling another person crazy!!
Especially if they get married. I was begged to marry for years. My gut feeling said NO NO NO> I was fooled eventually that it was love. I did not see until it was too late that no love was included.
My heartbreak and betrayal comes from the fact that I made sacrifices for you but you did not make sacrifices for me.
I met so many of them they call me what they are for speaking up .Feel like everything I say & do is my fault .
Me too😕
That's because they like to Guilt-trip you, don't fall for it!
Get out of relationship asap
I think I learned some of these behaviors , I stayed with someone , who was a narcissist , for a few months . I think I got "stock homed" then I bounced back from it , I have anger issues , My mom , that's all i'm saying , she gas lit me my whole life , she had a stroke , so i live with her now , I'm 44 years old , I am stuck , and I do run from relationships , I only had one , she stole my movies and cheated with some dude half my age , that messed me up . I learned to be alone for so long , I alienated myself . I live in a city , everyone wears masks , It's really strange lately , I learned one good thing to share , Trust yourself when things seem wrong , don't ignore the angel on your shoulder , that little voice has protected you , listen to it
Interesting. My mum is a narcissistic psychopath and she also had a stroke last year. I took care of her in hospital and after that I left. Now I'm back home due to the lockdown and she still acts sickly and weak, so people were telling me to stay and live with her but I refused and I'm looking for my own place and I'll be out Asap.
I am learning to be cold towards narcissists. And once they see that you can be cold and not care, they try to love bomb again and later they back off.
I just turned 26 and my mother ruined my birthday again by shouting at me all day. I feel stuck and suffer from severe depression after having dated mostly psychopaths or sociopaths. 🙏💚 Thank you for your advice. We have to remember who we are, listen to the angel, and get back up, for ourselves.
Kent Torok yes! Don’t ignore that gut feeling! 💜
Nicoletta Pinewood u r so young and beyond smart RUN as fast as u can! God has Amazing plans for you! 💜
@@findingdori442 Thank you 💚🙏 I am going no contact for good this time. I want to make it!
Thank you for helping me...Yes, they left in the middle of the night without saying a word, moved to another state with another woman..Never saw it coming. (Shame on me). But now, 10 years later, their new relationship is falling apart. Now, they call. No thanks. They almost destroyed me... I mean really...... I'm lucky to be here.
This is exactly what I needed to hear, today! Living it, & looking for answers. Narcissist abuses me, then runs into the tower of victimhood. It's stunning, & happens in a nanosecond. I was born into a family with narc mom, was made the scapegoat, & have chosen relationship with narcs all of my life. Finally started waking up, 20 yrs ago, that something was very wrong, but didn't find narcissism until very recently. What a fool I've been...if I'm just more loving, patient, etc they'll stop hurting me. Ha! Took me forever to figure out they weren't abusing me because of me! Fully awake, & finding a better life! Thank you, for your insights. Godsend.
My ex gave his new Supply last year, in the summer, within a short time. I met her last year in May.
He sold our Matrimonial home the end of January. Our younger son moved in with me. 3months. Ex moved to another City. Almost an hour away. Our son moved back in with his Dad this past March.
Our son comes every other weekend. I gave him my old cell phone from 2018, as I upgraded. Dad sent it back in the mail to me the past week. My son is not able to talk with me.
My ex and his supply bought a new house. Will be moving within the next 2 weeks.
Supply is very similar to my ex.
I feel for my son in the middle of there mess. As far as Dad and the issue of our son's phone, I can't do anything about, physically. I pray.
🙏💜 I been there....I’m praying for complete restoration and healing for you and your son. It does get better your son WILL see his dad and new supply’s evil ways and eventually no longer want to be around him or her....period!
Sending Hugs 💜 No weapon formed against you shall prosper.
Julia--- I'm praying for your son!!! He will see the truth one day! IRS been almost a year since my divorce from my ex husband of 31 years. Unfortunately I am disabled from his abuse and I got a horrible divorce lawyer thru legalsheild and got almost nothing after 31 years! He committed perjury in court on 4 accounts. I think my daughter sees thru his" if God is for me who can be against me!!! " I'm like really??? He says hes a Christian but has committed insurance fraud and tax fraud and perjury in court and fed our son peanutbutter behind my back and son almost died 100s of times!!! Kids are smarter than you think and your son is trauma bonded and he will see the truth oneday!!! Narrisst are a demonic spirit!!! Praying for God to heal you!!!❤❤❤❤❤🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
I meant to say in the beginning of my comment, my ex gave his supply an engagement ring.
They haven't gotten married.
They lead people to believe that they are because thru live together
@@candywilkins386 Hi Cindy. I so feel for you. God knows it all. He is a God of Justice. We have to believe that He is, and that He sees everything.
Hugs 🤗
Thanks, I agree. My ex partners main issue is himself, he regrets so much that he finds it difficult to live with himself so he reinvents himself constantly to forget what he is. That means he destroys relationships and labels the other person as inadequate to justify his actions but really I think he knows he is the person lacking so he runs from his true self. He recently showed up trying to Hoover me, he was very distressed that he made a mistake as I am doing very well without him and he is still floundering for relevancy in this world, lacking money, status or a career...all he has are the tools he uses to attract attention which wears thin with most people after a short while...no substance no depth just tricks, smoke and mirror illusions of who he projects himself to be. It’s very sad and I worry about his future.
From 2 narcissist men I was repeatedly told that they were reinventing themselves. What I discovered was this meant they'd found someone they wanted to be their new supply. They started losing weight, growing a beard, dressing really nice and wearing heavy cologne whenever going out, but not doing that for me. It's important to know that the reinvention is to fool someone else into believing they are someone and something you already learned was a lie.
That reinventing is always surface level. You do give them advice on deeper stance but their processing just can't go that deep. That is your cue - you can't help them further. SELF discovery is self explanatory.
They only get worse in time and more desperate the older they become the harder it is to get another source another supply not to mention the psychosis the paranoia the base emotion of disgust and shame get bigger and bigger and bigger this is called the collapsed narcissist it's actually quite tragic
@@frankbujans5901 Major toxic Malign Narcissism Really starts with some major identity crisis.By not truly knowing who one self really is ingeneral.Then by jealous indepth Nefarious envy grows as germinate seeds of poison, thru opposing those who absolutely knew exactly who they always were!Let it be known you heard it here first!
The Greed based Germination of poisonous seeds that insidiously festers in the vapid soul, like some putrid ill spirited demonic infestation!Makin' such vacant Narcissists into the perfect Nefarious specimen for spiritual possession.With abit of assistance from domestic urban substances with ominious prose within such technological openings inside elusive dubious portals.Susceptibly releasing various electro magnetic field wave entities Morphing normal people who are not immune to certain instant convenient microwave portable hand held radioactive devices.By design of somehow,now presently turning certain naive disregardful insecure Narc type individuals who have been completely dumbed all the way down,to be emptied out for essential hollow extraction.Then commandeered into complete Divisive Moronic Vacant Parasitic Vessels of Weirdo Xenophobic Zombification!So Let it known far & wide abroad!Nonetheless this the very start of Total innate Spiritual-ill Technological War Fare!
Perhaps the biggest blessing for me from having dealt with narcism, after the fact that once you get that education you are equipped to protect against it in the future, is that I honestly never considered the 'new supply', I did not care! And, no contact, like serious guerilla warfare no contact, protected me from triangulation (or that person trying to make me jealous).
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Thank you for this. It’s been 4 yrs today I took my kids and left and two yrs no contact at all. The reason he moved on was because he says I wasn’t a good house keeper. Nothing else just that.
We actually had a calender to write down who did what chores . I started filling it out and he finally said just stop theres no need for that . Because it had 80% my initials ..
That is crazy! So happy you got away from him! Mine gave me excuse that I threw out juicer we recieved as wedding present years before just months after i gave birth to our son, then he told me he was jealous of baby! So pathetic!
There’s always a new excuse if you fix that or even better yet ask him to write it down on a piece of paper is always find a way to say you didn’t do what they asked. They are never happy and the problem is they’re not happy with them selves.
No contact for 8 months.
She had someone groomed and comfortably monkey branched to over Xmas period 2019 until I found out by accident going into new year 2020.
When I look back on when we got together, she was mirroring me after she left her previous 5 year relationship which she claimed was toxic due to her previous partner/ boyfriend.
I can remember at one stage I said to my ex wife, in our 4-5th year., the horrible things she said her ex did did to her SHE was doing to me.... and was that a result of WHO SHE REALLY IS or was it that she had learned bad things from her ex......?
She looked uncomfortable and shied away before she got angry and her eyes narrowing as she told me,
“I was still healing! I hadn’t gotten over a lot of the abuse that he did. It’s not about you all the time. I maybe had been dealing with a lot and didn’t realise I was doing that to you. You’re not perfect. You’ve got problems!”
The 7-10 year relationship, that makes sense. We split before our 7th year... but we remained together off and on, separating 6 times before she moved onto new supply before our 10th year.
By time she did, she had to as she knew I was going to figure out she had an affair with her NLP life coach. So she had be quick and act, she did so right behind my back and under my nose.
Her phone gave her access to finding and meeting people.
In the end. She discarded me AFTER I found out about the new supply, she tried to gaslight me about who he was and their relationship and she blamed and demonised me big time, saying I was mentally unwell and in the same breath, I should look after kids on my own while she heads out now (whereas before she was always present). Nobody knew we had been seeing each other since we first split, she kept it quiet, so when the discard happened, nobody would have any questions and even congratulate her for finding someone new and being “happy”.
I made the final discard and found my own closure on her and I walked away. She was too dangerous and had shown me she had no limits. She would stoop to whatever level needed in order to destroy me and save her own name. I knew she biding her time and on her “best behaviour” and it wouldn’t last.
I blocked her new supply, I had no wish to contact him as I already knew he had been told a very different story. And he won’t be none the wiser. He will find out in his own time who she really is. The mask will slip, but he will go into denial like I did about what he is dealing with.
She will hold onto him very tightly, as she doesn’t have me now to fall back on.
No contact and move on with your life, accept what is.
Narcs are moving forward like a spiral always recycling people and their evil behavior with mind games on and on!There are spiritual laws to this life and no one can get away from them for a long time!.. It is good that you discard her cause I always say that the final discard belongs to victims - "and I discard my ex narc more than once when she tried to hoover me back to hell!!!....
I'm good with just my cat have my own cooking watch movies cats likes to watch them to
Well we are the bad guy because we dared taking our freedom. So obviously they become a sort of victim or hero and therefore get the sympathy from the crowd.
For a couple of weeks maybe. Who
cares. They were already playing victim with you. People can sort things out by themselves. So go
live your blessed life and it will be
blessed. Your awesome!!!
Yes, I have seen this happen recently in someone I have only known a short time. They pretended to be just like me until I disagreed with something, then they attacked and ghosted me permanently.
🎯 soooo on point!!! "Who they are with you is exactly who they are in life! Period!!" Yessssss!!! I do feel sorry for his new supply. He eloped with her 4 months after he ghosted me. I also feel sorry for his ex wife of 20+ years. I know she and his daughters were left with the aftermath. I was the lucky one. Even though I knew him (as much as one can really ever know a narc that is) for many years as a long distance childhood friend, it wasn't really clear to me (how fucked up he was) until he got a divorce 2 years ago and rushed on me fast and hard. He talked about eloping to Vegas and made a lot of travel plans with me that he is now doing with his new wife. As much as I feel for her, and I really do. I'm relieved it's not me anymore!!! She is the best thing to happen to us. It's only been 6 months so I am sure their honeymoon stage is starting to show the trauma cycles. I hope she sees him for who he really is sooner than later, but that's her journey to figure out.
his new supply didn’t even answer the phone when i called. he told me that this woman is the owner of a film company in australia and that he’s there for work. i called her number because he told me that his phone sometimes doesn’t work and that the “company” will provide him an iphone. i found out from his friend that he is actually “with” that woman so he was just stringing me along. i still don’t understand why lie about it. i would be out of their way if he just told me the truth. i’m not going to beg him to stay. he told me that we are going to work on our relationship instead of just cutting it off right there and then. 18 years with him and he didn’t even have the decency to tell me the truth.
I know exactly what you mean, after 12 years together all i wanted my ex narc girlfriend to do was tell me the truth, that would have been much less painful than the way she chose go about it. Instead she just lied, denied and blame shifted and got angry at me for 'accusing her' but in the end the truth eventually came out. She was a master at playing the victim and manipulating my own family into believing I was the problem. She turned alot of people against me. Even my own mother took her side over mine. I still love my mum I always will but I had to go no contact with her she left me no choice (double bind) they deserve each other! Thats the last time I ever introduce any woman to my Mum/family.
Interface 1 these people don’t change. sometimes they act like they changed for the better so you won’t leave them but it’s all a lie. they are really good in manipulating and playing victim. even when they’re caught, you won’t hear any apologies but justification and or denial. it was never their fault. it’s a blessing to be finally free of these kinds of people. i hope if they come back we’ll be strong enough not to take them back.
They incapable of being honest. It’s simply not in them. They are pathological liars. Mine is still lying almost a year later swearing he’s not with such and such when I know damn well exactly who he’s with and I don’t care. Let him have her and her him. As long as he’s not bothering me anymore than that’s all that matters to me!
YakkateeYak i agree with you. there’s no way they can be fixed. they are so broken they want to break us too. we’re not going down their path though. we know better now.
One of the positives I got out of this relationship she showed me how strong I am she is now my gold standard on what to look out for I do feel sorry for them as they are living their karma ,their own personal hell
Not been able to love and living the same day over and over again reminds me of Groundhog Day
God came over and looked at me and said these monsters are the grossest things in the history of all of existence and creation and I'm taking you away from them. And I was fighting God, I was fighting to stay with my abusers. But my abusers couldn't handle the battle anymore and discarded me.
A great and very true message. Well done Kevin!
The new supply wouldnt believe it anyway.
Thank you, phewwww best describes how the narcissist totally effects everything,an not 🚫 in a Good way...
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YAH! Less than halfway thru @5:48 but BINGO DING DING DING! Thank you! One word: sorry and one feeling: regret or humility that they refuse to say or feel and they have created their own nightmare of cognitive dissonance. If they haven't actually been caught, then they are always living in fear they might, at least inwardly. Making themselves walk on their own eggshells too!
SO insightful Kevin... right on the money... this is exactly what i went through... he married the new supply right away after promising me marriage and then ghosting me... your fresh perspective is a blessing and an answer and must have come to you straight from the Good Lord !!!
No normal healthy individual goes into a new relationship without a time of healing and acceptance of the failure. It's a red flag. I call New Supply/Next Victim. That anxiety Narcs feel is overwhelming for them. The wake of destruction is a real dose of karma just waiting for the Narc. Always looking over their shoulder, never having peace..... Smh. Kevin has helped me so much. You are so authentic and genuine.
100% spot on. Thank you for this information. It brings complete reality as to who narcs are and the situation. I appreciate your work.
It's a horrible experience but if you get children that love and miss you. It's a miracle
Yes. I remember my ex narc was extremely hyper vigilant & on guard. He felt like everyone was out to get him. I also remember him admitting that he couldn’t handle when people criticized him. Wow. He literally was telling on hisself. It’s amazing how predictable they can be. Glad I woke up & no longer give him any fuel. The new supply is in for a rude awakening.
They way you describe things is just so spot on! Only someone who has lived it can truly understand and your channel is SUCH A BLESSING to my soul and heart in this season of life.
He sure does!
Thank you for this. Very true and correct - guilt, shame turned into victim hood - very interesting always wondered how they convert these feelings.
He broke me in many pieces and the thought of it brings tears to my eyes and my 💓
I am 1000% certain that my husband's true colors will always show in any relationship and they will run and I hope sooner than I did
Thank you Kevin ! Your timing was spot on with this one !!!!
The narc showed up in court with him for my final protective order. It shocked me to know that it was his first ex wife who had him arrested in 2015 for 6 mos for child support. His children are now 30, twins are 28 and the youngest 24. So count back five years. They never stop sleeping together.
My Narc, cheated & left me for new supply-- because I started to see thru his lies/deception making him accountable to it, 6 mth after he dumps he he marries her & created the life that I wanted leaving me not having it-- but my ex spent 15 years with new supply but has since left them for another- he is on wife #6..what a loser!..
When I asked about his new supply, he said she’s fat desperate and easy to control and she buys me things...LOL
Wow. These narcs are something else 😂
Yes as a narcissist said to me few times,....sit back and watch the show
Thank you for this, its so hard to cleanse and heal from the grip of the demon
My ex narc lives across the street from me, so this pain is extra hard to break free from because I see everything and so does he. After the last two months of me resisting his hoovers, he already has a younger woman living with him. He is 51 and if she is even 40 yet I would be very surprised. I own my home but he rents, so I am hoping he will move away soon. Thanks for being here.
Your videos give me life. The fact you know the Bible and have such depth helped me out more than anyone. (Other than RC BLAKES). Thank you for making these videos. You've saved a lot of lives. Mine included. Thank God for you.
When you leave there's eventually an ugly mutiny that will occur without fail. They're weak and can't change so their moves will be a carousel of absolute destruction.
Yes, he has told me, to his best friend and our therapist that he views me as an enemy when we argue or disagree. He always attacked me with anything and everything! Everything you say really makes sense and was what I experienced.
Number one. They get bored easily and you may have crossed them or had a different opinion in them or perhaps an argument it doesn't take much. If he gets or she gets any sort of attention from anybody else they will do and take it. So there's nothing different or better about the other source. They are just filling up at another gas station.
my husband in 2020 when we were at stay at home. he became paranoid. and i found out who he truly is. inside. before lock down i thought he was a spiritual wolf. me and my son became closer to god. and he opened our eyes to what he truly is. were expecting the rapture this year. i hope everyone is ready were so tired of this world. that's all we want anymore. the only thing i pray for.
This is sooooooo eye opening to me! I'm blown away at the accuracy and I'm understanding it from a different level. Thank you SO much for posting this!! Total God send.
And I DO feel sorry for the narcissists I’ve known. But, not more than for myself,’in having to deal with them. It is an exercise only meant to dry up your spirit and your years.
I knew from the off that his next relationship would be the same. I was proved right. He’s still abusive, but luckily I’m distanced and leading my own happy life with someone normal
I feel like going no contact is like running from relationships…and there’s a lot of guilt being put on me for it.
The narc I used to know was extremely paranoid! Even for the 4mos. of love bombing she pulled on me. She came across as tough, and independent, but whenever we spoke about any her exes, she always made it sound as though she was the victim. She would say things like: 'I built them up, and they always end up leaving me for someone better' Now I know why😆😆😆 She always had a way of looking like the victim, but she wasn't down & out yet! She tough enough to eventually fight back from all the setbacks that befallen her in life. In her mind, she always overcame! And she would overcome again! She is by far the most toxic, and delusional person I have ever met! She's hit rock bottom numerous times, but never took the time to self reflect, or spent even a moment to give it any thought as to why she made the self destructive decisions that she did that got her in the terrible situation she's in curerntly. Only staying a busybody, or staying distracted with weed, cigarettes, & video games. Her distrust of other ppl was incredible!! When she started with the shaming language, I walked! No hesitation, no warning. She thought that I was going to stick around, and take the abuse b/c I made the mistake of sharing some of my insecurities with her early on. She didn't know how big my support network really was, so when I walked, I had dozens of loved ones to hold me accountable to ensure that I never went back to her.
Narcs are incapable of self reflection. That's why they always need distractions and are "bored easily." They're not actually bored they are trying to avoid their own thoughts.
Thank you for another helpful video, Kevin! I always admire your background and the quality of your video! Keep up the good work.
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This is kind of what comforts me actually. is that he even talks of his current girlfriends an how we wont' be with them.....and when he is ready he will dump them and find more.. I've heard this sick talk. Then,the girlfriends are so attached and in love with him.
Yup. Accountability is what he hates. I did tell him that, I feel sorry for you because I have healed more aspects of myself and everything you say does not trigger me..it just makes you look bad because I can see you are trying to bring me down out of pure evil.
you and this platform are helping so many people, including me! thank you!!
Well said! Victim hood...
Sounds exactly like my mother!!
I can see that my anger here is going to be a serious challenge of challenges... this is also very painful..merciless...the deep I am the greater the struggle to get out for me...
Thank you Kevin, this message hit me hard in the gut. I just recently found out about my husband's "new supply" that had been going on for years. I feel like he killed me from the inside out. I want to expose him to the world! He is a disgusting, disgraceful demon. Thank God for your videos.......I no longer believe I'm the crazy one!
6:00. "Instead of guilt and shame for what they have done, they look at it as the world being their enemy, and that you're after them! This is why they can't be accountable for any one reason. When you bring accountability into your relationship, it's like them being thrown in front of every judge who existed to be condemned to a lifelong sentence. Because they have THAT MUCH, a wake of destruction, that they HAVE never dealt with in their lifetime. So they transfer that into 'victimhood."
Bullseye with that observation. Even though I need to be reminded of that! Reinforcement never hurts
Just remember, if you have been dumped for new 'Supply' you have had the worlds luckiest escape ❤ Trust me !!!!!!!!
From 7-8 minutes is so real and so true. Blew my mind.
Keep your friends close and your enemies closer.
I'm the "new" supply that was married and used as a tool to torture the "old" supply. I have decided to become an "old" supply because this is not a marriage; it's hell. She shouldn't feel jealous or less than. The way he treated her is how he's trying me. The toxic cycle continues.
Wow. That is soooo sad. I’m sorry. I too was once a new supply. He’s with someone totally opposite from the life we had. They are sick for sure.
In my experience - they end up exposing themselves to those around them
I personally don't give a crap who knows and I don't give a crap who reads this and who knows my name. I definitely don't look them up. I do have to confess though I did mess up recently. After blocking this narcissist that talked about marriage with me but somehow I was absent on his Facebook page, I digress. What I mean is, I ended up talking to him and trying to be a friend with him because I was down and vulnerable and I did it and I regret it with all my heart. I swear never again never ever again. Shame is a selfish feeling. It's shame about how they appear to others and sometimes shame about themselves but not enough where they actually feel remorse because that requires them to feel for the pain that they have inflicted on somebody else and to own it and to be able to apologize for it and man up that they did something wrong. Narcissists are incapable of doing that they can imitate it but they don't mean it.
It's sad when you leave, and you know the grandchildren become the focus of the full on abuse. That's why I stayed in relationship with my daughter. I know the abuse will ramp up on the grandchildren
He's been here after me taking over Mtg, 1yr....I don't speak to him, i slide past stairs, he was so aweful when I found out about the co worker, now he's just complaciant, PS, I DO NOT FEEL SORRY FOR THAT NEW SUPPLY! SHE WAS THE ONE @@
Thanks, this helps me soooo much! I so wanted to expose him, but she will find out in due time.
On point! Going through this right now and I most say i have a lot of trouble keep my cool not to expose.
So very true, Kevin!! So very thankful after 27 yrs... I no longer have to deal with this crazy toxic world that he lives in. God bless him and his new girlfriend too!! Lord, she does not know what she does. So very thankful!! Great things are coming my way, that Divine Right has for me!! ❤️🥰
Excellent
This is the reason why I love listening to you, you are so for real. Again I hope you don’t mind my expression that you introduced me to but when it comes to your lessons me likie 🤗 I hope you’re not getting tired of me saying that. I do take you seriously but sometimes you are funny and I like it. Much love to you always 🤗🥰😘
One of my all time favorites! Thank you, Kevin! The Royal We is a life saver. ❤❤❤💪💪💪
Hey.. he went back to his wife he was separated from. That really makes it worse. She is a narcissist also. I'm still in great pain. Thanks
I wish I would have seen this before trying to warn his 2nd wife. You are right-they both turned on me. She came at me vicious and nastier than him. She up me by having 2 children in competition of my own. Now almost 7 years later and still making my life hell, my daughter now 11 tells me that last time spent at daddy's was horrible. Him and his wife are not talking to each other, and things are just bad--so you are right. Narcs never change-the problem is that wife #2 is as hateful and as manipulative so she gets some of him now in real time, but she'll wipe him clean too meaning my kids will have less than they get now for she'll keep double what they get for hers knowing the numbers. Do you follow? She is trailer -got him tattooed all over his body and positioned herself with his money. I left him from getting myself tired of the abuse. I went as far as 5 states over, so I got nothing, he claimed abandonment and so no alimony or rights while I struggle left alone w/2 of his children. They live in riches-he gets part of his father's company, and she puts up with him for few more years to bank herself well positioned before leaving him. My daughter says the rumor is she already has another man. Well-she is a Barbie like and 10 years younger than me so let her have it/ Him, on the other hand-I wish I could impede contact with kids who are highly affected by his ups and downs, but court does not see it through. May God have the last say here.
Love you for your hearts beauty and commitment to helping the healing of others with eyes to see and ears to hear.
Best explanation I have ever heard. Thank you.
The new supply must be compliant! I wasn’t ! I ghost him ! No contact !
Oh my god! Yes 10 years an i have finally ended it, its taking everything from me......its hard an you do feel like your dien from a broken heart.
Healing again I do believe something inside me will be even more stronger then I have ever been.
Am so glad I didn't have kids with my ex I wouldn't want a marry go round of more narcissistic zone.
This is true. 👍🏼