Pat and Spider, I know you will never see this or know who I am. But I am now 50 y/o retired male cop. I was 10 when this song came out and it saved my life! Thank you guys for this! I will never be able to repay The two of you. You are the reason I am here now, with two daughters who have known no abuse and one is graduating college and the other will in 4 years and wants to be a prosecutor! I love you guys!
You know, it’s pretty damned great when the words of a song can inspire you to change your experience into a learning experience for others. But when you remember so many years later, and reach out to thank those who made it possible, then it’s plainly clear to see that a very young kid did a whole lot of soul-searching because of this song. You do realize that you weren’t alone. Neither was I. Thank you for recognizing where your strength emerged, but also in knowing that without the tenacity you had inside, no change could have taken place. You made the change and used that change to help others-your daughters are proof. Thanks again!
my siblings and I are survivors. I have cried every time I've heard this song. My brother passed away on 2-6-17 and this was the last song he heard on 2-4-17 it has even more meaning to me now.
Every now and again there will be a song that sends a chill through you and makes the hair on your arms stand up and you know you are listening to greatness,this is one of those songs.
OMG!!! I literally had those goosebumps! Especially hearing how it came to be. I’m 48 so I remember when it came out and was played on the radio a lot. Loved it then, appreciate and extremely love it now! Thank you for posting that! I’m not the only one!👍😁
I heard this song for the first time, the Very Night that I was planning to take my life..... She Literally SAVED ME. 40yrs later & I still cry when I hear it.
I'm so thankful that she intervened via this song, so those that harmed you would not be victorious. May the power & protection of The Morrigan watch over you, always. ⛤Blessed Be⛤
@@thecelticcrone7927 I had a very similar experience, but not with this song. Music is a very powerful tool and I'm thankful for artists like Pat that use it for the betterment of all. Stay strong sister.
I heard this in High School and I still sing it at Karaoke! Powerful song. We took care of kids and let them live with us if they had a bad single parent. I am so happy to report they all are grown, have great jobs, are married and have beautiful children!
In my opinion this is the song that defines her as an artist, not just a great singer (which she most definitely is) but also an exceptional human being.
Hell is For Children this is so true now today I know three little ones are getting abused every day cuz their mother won't keep her legs cl cuz your mother won't keep her legs closed she nothing but a two-bit horror
Dude do you know and/or care we who were raised in a Hell you cannot comprehend, nor understand! Nor do we need your weeping nor Your tears? We survived things I doubt you. can imagine, and you may find it surprising we are pleased for all of those that never had to experience our lives. But, that said we or at least some of us don't need or want your Pity!
I wish I could go back and live the 70's and 80's all over again. I was blessed to be born during the best time for rock and roll. Today's music doesn't compare and I pity the young people of today. Music that means something is very rare today or maybe it's just the old man in me. "You kids now days don't know what real music is" Lol...Where have I heard that before?
@@mattkedz6577 You are joking. You're trying to trigger me with your obvious stupid comment. This is the best economy in 50 years. Lay off the crack and you might notice.
@@mattkedz6577 Don't play victim snowflake. You know you made a comment that was insinuating something that was blatantly and obviously untrue. This economy is the strongest it's been in 50 years or more. Your narrative ain't playing anymore so give it a rest. Ask Soros for a raise even though your stories are old and ignored.
Absolutely incredible song and performance but the guitar solo should have been left out. Just let her keep singing and show pics of kids instead. Would have been even more emotional. Her voice is incredible.
She is amazing. What I also love about her, as a musician, singer, and fan......is that after 20+ years of playing the same song over and over......she doesn't change it. So many singers get bored and change melodies, which in my mind kills a performance, because the fans want to hear what they know. Fans want to sing along, either out loud or in their heads. The song brings back memories of their youth. The moment the song is changed it kills all of it. Kudos to them for staying true to their music and fans.
Pat and Spider are amazing humans!!! This is such a powerful story, not just a hit song. Its such a shame that some children do live in a hell that most of us could never imagine. Every child is a precious gift and should be treated that way. If you see something, say something!!!!!!
The first time I heard her sing this song I don't think I stopped crying for an hour...andevery Every time I heard it after that I still broke down crying. As a survivor of abuse, there is no way to describe the pain you live with all your life. Children of abuse most often find themselves transitioning into domestic abuse situations without even realizing it. The abuse becomes normal and therefore when you go from a parent's physical and emotional abuse to being abused by a partner or spouse you can't see there's anything wrong. It took me years to figure out my self worth and to end the cycle on my own. If the abusers are not willing to admit they did anything wrong it's very hard to break free of it because they can Gaslight you into thinking you're crazy and that what they did or do isn't abuse and they're not hurting you. It's easy to find yourself taking the blame for what someone else does to you when they make it seem as if you hadn't done something to provoke them they wouldn't have hurt you. Many times it also overflows into your own parenting as it passes from generation to generation unchecked. If you know of anyone, child or adult that is being physically or mentally abuse do the right thing and intervene... call the abuse hotline for children and try to speak to your loved one about the abuse they are enduring. Ask them to seek the help they need to escape this prison. Don't let the people you care about be abused.
That voice ...........Imagine all those live performances , Recording sessions over and over and still back in 2001 her voice still powerful one of the greatest female rockers hands down !
We saw her in July 2019. Still great!! My husband & daughters & son in law went to see her & Neil! The first time I saw her was ‘81 or ‘82 lol, can’t remember!
My sisters and I fell into the hands of an abuser and I never felt free until our father was laid in a coffin. I hope he went to hell, but now I need to heal.
My God this woman has a voice! Sounds just amazing as it did 40 years ago when I first heard her. This song is F’ing powerful and her voice makes it so intense. Wow. Just wow!
You Pat Benatar literally Saved me with this song! It let me know I wasn't Alone In the World of Abuse! My father and my sister engaged in the abuse! He was the physical smack me around jerk and sister was the evil that tried to break My Spirit! He's Gone.. And her life is Lonely because she abused her own kids! I raised both of our girls and made sure no one was trying to Hurt them! I survived because I decided to fight bk and with my Mom's help, I escaped the house of Pain and never looked back! Thank You for Both of You are Truly blessed and write beautiful tune's together Ty for saving my life! Suicide is not the answer to escape the abuse, tell an adult that you trust will be there to help you! 😊
Thank you .........for all us survivors of abuse, it's wonderful to hear that we are understood, loved and thought of from someone that has it so good. God bless you Pat & Neil, you are a blessing to many.
As a victim myself, I can understand what Pat was trying to say. I struggled for over a decade in dealing with negative feelings, and with help I finally overcame them and was able to find some form of peace and love, finally. A lot of wasted years that changed my life and that I will never get back.
This is a very powerful strong song. As a survivor of abuse for over 41 years this song paints a picture to show others an understanding of what kind of pain you endure whether it be physical emotional mental or sexual. Thanks Pat and Neil for being those very kind caring people.
This song is very difficult to listen to for me because it describes most of my childhood. I thought that every kid lived like that. I am now dealing with PTSD because of what happened. Moms, don't l hit your kids.
God should just reach down and wring their damn necks for them. These sick pervs aren't worth much at all. Maybe the price of a couple of bullets and even that would be stretching it. Pat gives a strong voice to those that are hurt and still hurting from someone's abuse. May God have mercy on their souls......cause I damn sure don't!!!!!
Janice Rael: Do not doubt the judgement of the Almighty God. You WILL reap what you sow. All men will stand in judgement before the risen Son of God. You can COUNT ON IT.
Dear spider and pat i cannot thank you enough for this song i was 14 and ran away over abuse this song kept me alive and gave me the strength to never give up
From the first time I heard this song in my 20's, I cried because I knew first hand about the pain she wrote about. Now I'm in my 50's and somehow it still has the same effect on me that it did so many years ago, truly a powerful song that transcends time. It's my hope that one day no child will understand the meaning of this song...
she is absolutely amazing, i wish i would have made it to one of her concerts, styx also. Ive seen a hundred concerts but ive watched her on TH-cam and i missed out.
There’s a saying that good art should comfort the disturbed and disturb the comfortable. I don’t think I’ve ever seen any piece of art that exemplifies that saying as perfectly as this song.
I never experienced abuse but it aches my heart to know some have. My heart goes out to y'all and I pray that y'all found a way out of that literal hell.
I was never abused but this song makes me cry as well. I cannot fathom going through what some go through at the hands of the people that should love them the most. God Bless you and hold you close. *hug*
Pat: One of Rock's most under rated vocalists....probably thee most under rated female vocalists.....incredible. Neil: One of Rocks' most under rated guitar players....extremely agile guitarist, plays from the heart, you can feel the notes.... Bottom Line: What a GREAT musical team....very rare indeed.....
most people don't realize that when this came out this was still a very taboo subject. I'm not sure who wrote this song but I'm glad you did it that it was very much needed. I'm 55 year old man and went through a lot the same thing. Some scars don't go away maybe they were never meant to but I appreciate you doing this. thanks for at least a person that survived through.
I kind of played around d with drums in school in the 80s. Graduated high school and went right into the Army for 8 years. Upon getting out of the Army,y I became a paramedic and a firefighter. I see this way too often. In 2020 I was diagnosed with stage 3 lung cancer. Between cancer and COVID I was pretty limited on what I could do, so I started playing around with the drums again. This was one of the first songs I learned this time around
Grew up in an abusive family,”. I knew from as far back as I can remember that life isn’t supposed to be like this. I’m amazed I made it out without totally losing myself. Powerful song…
Great song. My POS father took everything from us, including my soul. He was a slave to the bottle, a hopeless, bottom end drunk. When you live daily in a world that told you that you were of no value you look at yourself as worthless. Just a piece of flesh that was hurt and abused in every way; physical, mentally, sexually, emotionally, but the worst now for me was the spiritual abuse. I spent most of my adult life in therapy trying to learn to live in my own skin. I drank, abused drugs, gambled, everything I could to do not to feel. Well this song reminds me of a life I didn't have; a father who loved his kids. But I gave my kids what I wanted and mostly needed, unconditional love. GOD bless all of the children who have been and are still being victimized by the strong, the sick and mentality insane
As a child/adult now that is a survivor of abuse along with siblings… this song SPEAKS Volumes! Thank you for bringing this travesty to light and all that you do in the music industry! One of the greatest artists of our generation/time!!
I laugh because I have to. Been there and back a million times. This is for those who bear scars of childhood....I thank the Lord for the strength and the ability to shake off the past, and turn it into something good. I look forward to nothing but the best this world has to offer. So they say, "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger" I guess that makes me the most powerful person I know...... :-)
Please know you have many strong survivors that support your ability to "shake it off". I know the pain, suffering and long-term effects from abusive people. For myself, the infectious open wounds that were unknowingly apart of my life and behavior can't be shaken off, but I admire your passion to overcome. After 43 yrs of pretending, I was victimized with unspeakable trauma, everything I had forgotten was know front and center, It just hides inside until something breaks the scares that hold all that the mind doesn't understand. At 50+ yrs old I am finally able to talk about my life of abuse. Never to pretend or lie has given me an enormous amount of freedom. Freedom from knowing I was never defective, unloved or deserved what happened. It just happens that I was strong enough to survive it and educated enough to shake off the shame and forgive their violations. This is my opinion about my life only. May God Bless all of us dealing with this, whatever stage of excepting and forgiveness we're at,0
Michelle Osowick-Mullican it took a long time for me to understand and talk about my childhood to other people. I’m 60 now and still think about things that happened then.
@@lumberjack7792 Im glad you can talk about it. I think it helps, hope you find peace in talking. For myself, thinking about it isn't an everyday thing as some of my adult trauma has been but when I do find it passing thorough my mind I pray it's just a passing thought that has made me strong, wise and more aware how much damage it can have behind. I hope one day I can help others by knowing they aren't alone.
Pat wanted to study at Julliard. She wanted to sing on Broadway. Classic showtunes like South Pacific. Lucky for us she met Neil and the rest is history.
When I was 10 we became a "foster family" in a small town. Some of the kids that needed our help were my school mates. They told me stories that they wouldn't tell anyone else. They told me stories that I couldn't even imagine. They told me stories that haunt me to this day. I'm 56 now, THIS SONG TELLS THEIR STORY... and I cry like a fuckin' baby every time I hear it. Thank you so much Pat, - Luka's friend
I am a child abuse and domestic abuse survivor. I am still learning to be strong. One of my childhood abusers apologized. I never forgave. Still haven't. I have not forgiven my domestic abuser either. He apologized and said he'd never do it again. He lied. I have health issues now because of the domestic violence and probably from the child abuse.
iam sorry for all the pain iam an oldr person and maybe insant wasnt really what the song ment in my rock roll days hope fully all is ok now ....forvgivese is the best lol
I wish I had known you we would have got you out of that hell my mom rescued one of my best childhood friends from bieng molested one day she told us her mom did nothing we couldn't believe that she allowed that I would kill someone for hurting my son and I never brought men around him except my husband he called my son a bastard I made my husband move out
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Pat and Spider, I know you will never see this or know who I am. But I am now 50 y/o retired male cop. I was 10 when this song came out and it saved my life! Thank you guys for this! I will never be able to repay The two of you. You are the reason I am here now, with two daughters who have known no abuse and one is graduating college and the other will in 4 years and wants to be a prosecutor! I love you guys!
They may see your message. There are angels working in the background…
Keep on, keeping on brother,, semper fi
You know, it’s pretty damned great when the words of a song can inspire you to change your experience into a learning experience for others. But when you remember so many years later, and reach out to thank those who made it possible, then it’s plainly clear to see that a very young kid did a whole lot of soul-searching because of this song.
You do realize that you weren’t alone. Neither was I.
Thank you for recognizing where your strength emerged, but also in knowing that without the tenacity you had inside, no change could have taken place. You made the change and used that change to help others-your daughters are proof. Thanks again!
😮😮😮😢😅
L
Snohomish county ❤small
my siblings and I are survivors. I have cried every time I've heard this song. My brother passed away on 2-6-17 and this was the last song he heard on 2-4-17 it has even more meaning to me now.
I am one of those children and so many unheard voices
Me too. This song is a healing help.
Every now and again there will be a song that sends a chill through you and makes the hair on your arms stand up and you know you are listening to greatness,this is one of those songs.
Was and still is....BADASS!!!!
OMG!!! I literally had those goosebumps! Especially hearing how it came to be. I’m 48 so I remember when it came out and was played on the radio a lot. Loved it then, appreciate and extremely love it now! Thank you for posting that! I’m not the only one!👍😁
@@kimmieh8419 Still listening to this in 2022 - bought the LP when it first came out. This song was a favorite.
Agree!
Without a Shadow of a Doubt ♥️🔥🔥🌹
It's 2023. Is she in the RocknRoll Hall of Fame yet? If not! Why isn't she. She was a big part of my childhood. I love her music.
I believe he and her both were inducted
She was in the class of 2022
She lost out to Whitney Houston in 2020, no joke. Racism is rampant on the left.
I heard this song for the first time, the Very Night that I was planning to take my life.....
She Literally SAVED ME. 40yrs later & I still cry when I hear it.
So glad God, or Fate, or whatever you believe in, intervened on that fateful night!
Jim Roberts
Yeah, me too!!! 😘😊
I'm so thankful that she intervened via this song, so those that harmed you would not be victorious. May the power & protection of The Morrigan watch over you, always.
⛤Blessed Be⛤
@@thecelticcrone7927
I had a very similar experience, but not with this song. Music is a very powerful tool and I'm thankful for artists like Pat that use it for the betterment of all.
Stay strong sister.
John Collins
Thank You!!! This is kind of amazing...
The Morrighân is my Patroness!!!
Blessed Be to you as well, Deatháir!!!
I heard this in High School and I still sing it at Karaoke! Powerful song. We took care of kids and let them live with us if they had a bad single parent. I am so happy to report they all are grown, have great jobs, are married and have beautiful children!
It’s November, 2019 and she’s not in the Rock N Roll Hall of Fame???😩. Does anybody else have a problem with this????
She wasn't a drugged out slutt so that's probably why. She's not a satanic illuminati puppet.
I damn sure do!!!☯️
She's number 2 on the fan vote for the HOF. The rotten HOF wanted stevie nicks in before Pat. She'll be elected in January 2020
One of the greatest singers of rock music, period. What a team those two make...
I've been on this for years . I will not go to the hall unless she and some others are inducted.
I am 26 now, I still stand by this.
Look out Doc.sure right!!! take it easy.✌️
@@treert3657 Oh snap, I posted this years ago and I'm 24 now almost 25 hahaha!
Good for you!
@@ThisReactiverse you are right about the music. also right that noone cares how old you are
That's good upbringing 👍
In my opinion this is the song that defines her as an artist, not just a great singer (which she most definitely is) but also an exceptional human being.
chainmatrix a very good call , man.
Hell is For Children this is so true now today I know three little ones are getting abused every day cuz their mother won't keep her legs cl cuz your mother won't keep her legs closed she nothing but a two-bit horror
She's never been there!!!! What the fuck does she know??? She saw something on the telly,,,
she tells you at the beginning of this song how it got wrote love her for speaking up and bringing awareness to this horror.
@@3dandyrandy3
You have no soul. @@3dandyrandy3
I'm a 57 year old man from a loving family and a beautiful childhood. This song still makes me weep.
Dude do you know and/or care we who were raised in a Hell you cannot comprehend, nor understand! Nor do we need your weeping nor Your tears? We survived things I doubt you. can imagine, and you may find it surprising we are pleased for all of those that never had to experience our lives. But, that said we or at least some of us don't need or want your Pity!
@@elizabethphillips7838😲😲
I wish I could go back and live the 70's and 80's all over again. I was blessed to be born during the best time for rock and roll. Today's music doesn't compare and I pity the young people of today. Music that means something is very rare today or maybe it's just the old man in me. "You kids now days don't know what real music is" Lol...Where have I heard that before?
@@mattkedz6577
You are joking. You're trying to trigger me with your obvious stupid comment. This is the best economy in 50 years. Lay off the crack and you might notice.
@@mattkedz6577
Just admit your statement is wrong and let's move on.
@@mattkedz6577
Don't play victim snowflake. You know you made a comment that was insinuating something that was blatantly and obviously untrue. This economy is the strongest it's been in 50 years or more. Your narrative ain't playing anymore so give it a rest. Ask Soros for a raise even though your stories are old and ignored.
@@LarryTaint-qn8pd quit trolling me asshole
I agree 70 and 80's best time in music most music can't hold a candle to then.
As a survivor of CA, this song meant so much to me growing up. And it still does in 2023. Thank you Pat and Spider. 💖🙏🏼💖
Neil Giraldo. Another seriously underrated guitarist. The entire band is spot on tight. Needless to say anything about the singer. LOL
He is VERY underrated!!! Agree.
NO DOUBT!!!! 🤤
And Pat is overrated. She can't do nothing more than just sing (great voice) but she don't write her own songs.
Absolutely incredible song and performance but the guitar solo should have been left out. Just let her keep singing and show pics of kids instead. Would have been even more emotional. Her voice is incredible.
Yet another profound reason Pat should be in the R&R Hall & a Kennedy Ctr Honoree.
And another reason Micheal Jackson shouldn't be.
there a bunch of twits in that hall ;)
It's ridiculous that she's not!!!
One of the greatest songs ever written
She is amazing. What I also love about her, as a musician, singer, and fan......is that after 20+ years of playing the same song over and over......she doesn't change it. So many singers get bored and change melodies, which in my mind kills a performance, because the fans want to hear what they know. Fans want to sing along, either out loud or in their heads. The song brings back memories of their youth. The moment the song is changed it kills all of it. Kudos to them for staying true to their music and fans.
Thank you for recognizing this piece as the “most important” body of work you’ve done. You helped me through the years with this song.
great song but 90 year old can't sing it as in in 78
i was a kid when this came out.the usual violent parents.this song spoke to me and i realised i wasnt alone.thank you pat.
amen- I am one
same
@@andreamize4496 🙏❤️💕
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@@trinity9312 🙏❤️💕
"Child abuse is a horrible thing that no one should ever have to endure. I love you Pat!"
For every child who stuck home during this pandemic. God Bless!
To hell with children.
@@dilbertdoe601 yep that's what The Hollywood Elites, Pedophile rings say.
This has always been my favorite of her songs. Sadly it's even more relevant today. You are amazing Pat.
MsSiberiancat you're right
Correct, more than anyone really knows. Sad to say. God Bless the innocents. Amen!!!
God bless the children.
Back about 1984, Casey Kasem played a part of this on his 'Long Distance Dedications' feature on American Top 40.
my all time favorite
I LEFT AN ABUSIVE FAMILY/FATHER BECAUSE OF THIS SONG BLESS HER HEART 😭🤤..... THANKS PAT BENATAR
She and Neil are not only great ... They are a caring wonderful real down to earth couple!
Karen H amazing to see that they are a happy couple after all these years
Been married since 1981. They are doing something right.
Down to earth, humble, classy, well... I could go on forever!
Pat and Spider are amazing humans!!! This is such a powerful story, not just a hit song. Its such a shame that some children do live in a hell that most of us could never imagine. Every child is a precious gift and should be treated that way. If you see something, say something!!!!!!
Why has this great artist not been inducted into the Rock-n-Roll Hall of Fame? It's shameful!
Amen
She doesn’t need the RnR HoF. It’s a shameful institution. Barely let the Moody Blues in. Waited decades to let Heart and Rush in.
When we were kids, at least one voice ever understood and cared about what happened to us. To my brother Mike... love Dina
The first time I heard her sing this song I don't think I stopped crying for an hour...andevery Every time I heard it after that I still broke down crying. As a survivor of abuse, there is no way to describe the pain you live with all your life. Children of abuse most often find themselves transitioning into domestic abuse situations without even realizing it. The abuse becomes normal and therefore when you go from a parent's physical and emotional abuse to being abused by a partner or spouse you can't see there's anything wrong. It took me years to figure out my self worth and to end the cycle on my own. If the abusers are not willing to admit they did anything wrong it's very hard to break free of it because they can Gaslight you into thinking you're crazy and that what they did or do isn't abuse and they're not hurting you. It's easy to find yourself taking the blame for what someone else does to you when they make it seem as if you hadn't done something to provoke them they wouldn't have hurt you. Many times it also overflows into your own parenting as it passes from generation to generation unchecked. If you know of anyone, child or adult that is being physically or mentally abuse do the right thing and intervene... call the abuse hotline for children and try to speak to your loved one about the abuse they are enduring. Ask them to seek the help they need to escape this prison. Don't let the people you care about be abused.
That voice ...........Imagine all those live performances , Recording sessions over and over and still back in 2001 her voice still powerful one of the greatest female rockers hands down !
We saw her in July 2019. Still great!! My husband & daughters & son in law went to see her & Neil! The first time I saw her was ‘81 or ‘82 lol, can’t remember!
My sisters and I fell into the hands of an abuser and I never felt free until our father was laid in a coffin. I hope he went to hell, but now I need to heal.
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Pat has one of the most amazing powerful voices!!!
My God this woman has a voice! Sounds just amazing as it did 40 years ago when I first heard her. This song is F’ing powerful and her voice makes it so intense. Wow. Just wow!
You Pat Benatar literally Saved me with this song! It let me know I wasn't Alone In the World of Abuse! My father and my sister engaged in the abuse! He was the physical smack me around jerk and sister was the evil that tried to break My Spirit!
He's Gone.. And her life is Lonely because she abused her own kids!
I raised both of our girls and made sure no one was trying to Hurt them! I survived because I decided to fight bk and with my Mom's help, I escaped the house of Pain and never looked back!
Thank You for Both of You are Truly blessed and write beautiful tune's together Ty for saving my life! Suicide is not the answer to escape the abuse, tell an adult that you trust will be there to help you! 😊
Thank you .........for all us survivors of abuse, it's wonderful to hear that we are understood, loved and thought of from someone that has it so good. God bless you Pat & Neil, you are a blessing to many.
Amen and I am so happy that you are both doing so well! I love you guys!
I hear that one.. I'm 51 and still trying to get thru all the trauma
Nice intro by words.
One of the best song Pat.
(my favourite).
She’s been my all time favorite singer for over 40 years now and I don’t see it changing anytime soon!!
You’ve touched something in me, thank you ❤. As a survivor of psychological abuse I carry great pain in a black stone that lives next to my heart.
As a victim myself, I can understand what Pat was trying to say. I struggled for over a decade in dealing with negative feelings, and with help I finally overcame them and was able to find some form of peace and love, finally. A lot of wasted years that changed my life and that I will never get back.
I hope that you are still a peace 4 years later James. Just read your quote and I can relate to it very well. Take care
No but you have Yrs ahead now luv😊
I was stationed overseas 80-82. Two Pat posters above my barracks bed. Most friends got it then, the rest get it now.
She is a “Rock Star” in every sense of the word
Exactly
I am sorry, but some of us that experienced this can never forgive nor forget!
This is a very powerful strong song. As a survivor of abuse for over 41 years this song paints a picture to show others an understanding of what kind of pain you endure whether it be physical emotional mental or sexual. Thanks Pat and Neil for being those very kind caring people.
Like a fine wine she keeps getting better...
This song is very difficult to listen to for me because it describes most of my childhood. I thought that every kid lived like that. I am now dealing with PTSD because of what happened. Moms, don't l hit your kids.
I know, it never goes away.
Well I love you
Still going in 2024 Pat & Spider.❤
This girl is blessed with a lot more than just good looks and a fabulous voice she has an incredible heart
she never had a diva type like we have today so called singers!
05/09/22, Heard this today and still gives me chills.
same
This is a song that should be played alot for the things that are done to children today
Forget the nostalgia and just come out ripping. As badass as anything out today. Pat Benatar will still be hot when she's 100.
I grew up in the 80s,Benatar or Nicks.And there both still good looking,I always liked Stevie better,nothing wrong with Pat though.Good song
Are you deaf,or blind,this has nothing to do with Pat Benatar
I love this 🎵 🎶, it's my favorite song 🎵 💕, cause it has such a powerful meaning behind the song 🎵 ✨️, it really speaks on some real shit 🎉🎉
god has a special place waiting for anyone that abuses children-god bless you pat
God should just reach down and wring their damn necks for them. These sick pervs aren't worth much at all. Maybe the price of a couple of bullets and even that would be stretching it. Pat gives a strong voice to those that are hurt and still hurting from someone's abuse. May God have mercy on their souls......cause I damn sure don't!!!!!
Janice Rael: Do not doubt the judgement of the Almighty God. You WILL reap what you sow. All men will stand in judgement before the risen Son of God. You can COUNT ON IT.
No God would let this happen to children.
God is a fairy tale dumb Jim
Tell Mama She's selfish & her Husband's a Creep! Now HELL'S put in the children!! HOW DARE YOU
OUTFUCKINSTANDING, way underrated guitarist
I was one. Thank you for this song sweeping it un a rug. God bless you
Dear spider and pat i cannot thank you enough for this song i was 14 and ran away over abuse this song kept me alive and gave me the strength to never give up
I was born in 1961 and still listening in 2019 the music of MY generation.
I agree Greg I was born in 1960 and still listening today rock on bro
Neil Geraldo is a serious talent totally amazing writer and player
He is literally the music behind her.
From the first time I heard this song in my 20's, I cried because I knew first hand about the pain she wrote about. Now I'm in my 50's and somehow it still has the same effect on me that it did so many years ago, truly a powerful song that transcends time. It's my hope that one day no child will understand the meaning of this song...
Thank You ❤
Pat's the damn best.
she is absolutely amazing, i wish i would have made it to one of her concerts, styx also. Ive seen a hundred concerts but ive watched her on TH-cam and i missed out.
There’s a saying that good art should comfort the disturbed and disturb the comfortable. I don’t think I’ve ever seen any piece of art that exemplifies that saying as perfectly as this song.
WHAT AN AMAZING SONG BY AN AMAZING SINGER, SHE MADE THIS SONG WHAT IT IS & IT IS STILL RELEVANT 2DAY IN 2020!!! 💕 YOU PAT BENATAR!!!!
Still here and nothing but tears ever time because it is Life Sadly.
I’ve always loved and respected this woman.... such passion!
I never experienced abuse but it aches my heart to know some have. My heart goes out to y'all and I pray that y'all found a way out of that literal hell.
An angels voice for all who suffered abuse from demon parents
“Iconic” is the one word that describes Pat
Undisputed Queen of Rock and Roll
It's really sad that she even has to sing this song still.
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Yes. It really is a screwed up world that we live in that makes this song still relevant.
This song has been sung for thousands of years.
It is what it is your in he'll look around open your eyes if you dare
This song will always be relevant
To me, this song reflects her soul, her mind, her heart, she's one of the best singer in decades !!!
I was never abused but this song makes me cry as well. I cannot fathom going through what some go through at the hands of the people that should love them the most. God Bless you and hold you close. *hug*
This I agree with the most.
Pat: One of Rock's most under rated vocalists....probably thee most under rated female vocalists.....incredible.
Neil: One of Rocks' most under rated guitar players....extremely agile guitarist, plays from the heart, you can feel the notes....
Bottom Line: What a GREAT musical team....very rare indeed.....
most people don't realize that when this came out this was still a very taboo subject. I'm not sure who wrote this song but I'm glad you did it that it was very much needed. I'm 55 year old man and went through a lot the same thing. Some scars don't go away maybe they were never meant to but I appreciate you doing this. thanks for at least a person that survived through.
missedinfo she and her husband Neil wrote it. She explained that in the intro...
missedinfo it’s still taboo.
We all have our scars from one form or another. Love this song!!
I kind of played around d with drums in school in the 80s. Graduated high school and went right into the Army for 8 years. Upon getting out of the Army,y I became a paramedic and a firefighter. I see this way too often. In 2020 I was diagnosed with stage 3 lung cancer. Between cancer and COVID I was pretty limited on what I could do, so I started playing around with the drums again. This was one of the first songs I learned this time around
My favorite female singer, one of her greatest songs, love you Pat !!!
Grew up in an abusive family,”. I knew from as far back as I can remember that life isn’t supposed to be like this. I’m amazed I made it out without totally losing myself. Powerful song…
they are a match made in rock history, her voice/lyrics and his guitar genius
Wie wahr!!! Einfach Danke .
Ganz ganz herzlichen Dank für dieses Lied was es auf den Punkt bringt.
Whenever we lose a angel, I think of this song. RIP Faye Marie Swetlik.
Great song. My POS father took everything from us, including my soul. He was a slave to the bottle, a hopeless, bottom end drunk. When you live daily in a world that told you that you were of no value you look at yourself as worthless. Just a piece of flesh that was hurt and abused in every way; physical, mentally, sexually, emotionally, but the worst now for me was the spiritual abuse. I spent most of my adult life in therapy trying to learn to live in my own skin. I drank, abused drugs, gambled, everything I could to do not to feel. Well this song reminds me of a life I didn't have; a father who loved his kids. But I gave my kids what I wanted and mostly needed, unconditional love. GOD bless all of the children who have been and are still being victimized by the strong, the sick and mentality insane
As a child/adult now that is a survivor of abuse along with siblings… this song SPEAKS Volumes! Thank you for bringing this travesty to light and all that you do in the music industry! One of the greatest artists of our generation/time!!
I was 30 days to the day from turning 13 when this track was released on August 5, 1980.And all I wanna say is thank you, it meant a lot to me.✌🏼❤️
I laugh because I have to. Been there and back a million times. This is for those who bear scars of childhood....I thank the Lord for the strength and the ability to shake off the past, and turn it into something good. I look forward to nothing but the best this world has to offer. So they say, "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger" I guess that makes me the most powerful person I know...... :-)
Keith sweat
Please know you have many strong survivors that support your ability to "shake it off". I know the pain, suffering and long-term effects from abusive people. For myself, the infectious open wounds that were unknowingly apart of my life and behavior can't be shaken off, but I admire your passion to overcome. After 43 yrs of pretending, I was victimized with unspeakable trauma, everything I had forgotten was know front and center, It just hides inside until something breaks the scares that hold all that the mind doesn't understand. At 50+ yrs old I am finally able to talk about my life of abuse. Never to pretend or lie has given me an enormous amount of freedom. Freedom from knowing I was never defective, unloved or deserved what happened. It just happens that I was strong enough to survive it and educated enough to shake off the shame and forgive their violations. This is my opinion about my life only. May God Bless all of us dealing with this, whatever stage of excepting and forgiveness we're at,0
Michelle Osowick-Mullican it took a long time for me to understand and talk about my childhood to other people. I’m 60 now and still think about things that happened then.
@@lumberjack7792 Im glad you can talk about it. I think it helps, hope you find peace in talking. For myself, thinking about it isn't an everyday thing as some of my adult trauma has been but when I do find it passing thorough my mind I pray it's just a passing thought that has made me strong, wise and more aware how much damage it can have behind. I hope one day I can help others by knowing they aren't alone.
I wish I could have been your friend my mom would have taken you in
It's a dark song takes some people to places they might not want to revisit..but it's definitely one of her best..
They crushed it live............. seriously talented!
Pat wanted to study at Julliard. She wanted to sing on Broadway. Classic showtunes like South Pacific. Lucky for us she met Neil and the rest is history.
As A survivor I thank you for this. Peace Love Family!
Awesome!! Neil and Pat! RRHOF!
Pat Benatar (and her band ) - national treasure.
I have the greatest respect for this beautiful talented young woman. To put her career on hold to raise their children speaks volumes. Thank you Pat.
Thank you for speaking for those children who haven’t a voice to speak for themselves. R&R hall is not worthy of pat benatar by a long shot
Pat does this song so great. She is the best.🎶
just as amazing live I've been listening to pat for as long as I can remember this is still one of my favorites
It must be out of above....is a very complex power......thanks
PAT BENATAR...GREAT ARTIST AND SINGER,,,OUTRAGEOUS GUITAR...MAKE A GOOD MATCH.
bricio ramos WTF YOU TALKING ABOUT?THIS IS BERLIN,NOT BENATAR
De toute beauté, n'a pas pris une ride tant d'années après.
Mon fils de 28 ans est fan aussi.
Joyeux Noël 🎄!
When I was 10 we became a "foster family" in a small town.
Some of the kids that needed our help were my school mates.
They told me stories that they wouldn't tell anyone else.
They told me stories that I couldn't even imagine.
They told me stories that haunt me to this day.
I'm 56 now, THIS SONG TELLS THEIR STORY...
and I cry like a fuckin' baby every time I hear it.
Thank you so much Pat,
- Luka's friend
All I can say today is that version of that song is scary good..
I am a child abuse and domestic abuse survivor. I am still learning to be strong. One of my childhood abusers apologized. I never forgave. Still haven't. I have not forgiven my domestic abuser either. He apologized and said he'd never do it again. He lied. I have health issues now because of the domestic violence and probably from the child abuse.
+Niki Hunter i was abused by both my mother and my father. i can relate.
iam sorry for all the pain iam an oldr person and maybe insant wasnt really what the song ment in my rock roll days hope fully all is ok now ....forvgivese is the best lol
I wish I had known you we would have got you out of that hell my mom rescued one of my best childhood friends from bieng molested one day she told us her mom did nothing we couldn't believe that she allowed that I would kill someone for hurting my son and I never brought men around him except my husband he called my son a bastard I made my husband move out
Mothers can be abusive. It taught me to never, ever be anything but as loving as I could. With my own, and as best as I could with others.
A fantastic singer, mom, and person. As a mom I cry every time I hear this.
So do I. Every time.💖
And now it's 2024. Great song! Jari Shaktidevananda ( 20 December 1997)