Because they don't want to follow the bible. The bible clearly talks about being unequally yoke. They are more concerned with pleasing the flesh then they are pleasing God. Just that simple.
You've got to have both spiritual and natural affection for each other the kingdom way. However 2022 is different for young people I can't speak for older people 40+
True, but any man or woman can simply call them selves a person of God and fake their actions in order to push their own agenda. Now the Holy Spirit should show you if they are phony, but I have to agree that there is a lot of feminism in the church. And a feminist agenda is to have men submit to their wives. But the bible did not say that that was the way. The Bible did not say anything about an equal relationship between a husband and wife. This is not to say that the man should not love his wife. But the bible placed the man as the head. A Christian feminist does not hear this when it is preached in church.
A male who is truly born of the water and the Spirit desires a Christian woman. Some of the men in the church are not able to maintain a steady relationship with women in the church because they are not converted. Anyway keep posting the vids because there's nothing much to watch on tv these days.
How are we supposed to do that when Christian women can't find a Christian man to marry in the first place? A lot of Christian men stay living secular lives and dating secular women... leaving Christian women to be single. I would rather be single than be in an unequally yoked marriage.
This is very helpful info. I see some of these behaviors in my interactions with married and single women in the church.I hope we all as women pay closer attention to this feedback. Thanks Christian Men!!
Thank you. This needed to be said and it's very hard to have/find conversations like this regarding modern Christian relationships. For some reason, this never gets discussed in church or in Christian homes.
As a christian man I am looking for a Christian woman but the ones I've found are not ready for any relationship/not commited and the ones who are do not like me. I fell as though there are only 2 options settle for one who likes me or be a eunich.
If the men would seek the lord first about finding a wife that would help with most of the concerns they have. I also believe that men should be patient and non judgmental with women especially women of color. Stop trying to get women to have pre- marital sex and looking for a women who looks like a model.
Your comments are right on. However, let me add by saying that men and women will need to tone down their assumptions and entitled expectations. Yet judgement, should never be suspended. As the bible says, "judge not according to appearance but judge with righteous judgement" John 7:24. I believe this is where all the dysfunction comes from. Our lack of a moral compass is self evident. We have no virtue that infoms our conduct. Love your comments, God bless
@@damonfleming6282 Excellent observation Mr. Fleming why should men be " especially patient and non judgemental with women of color"? I would like "pie face" to elaborate also, I'm just curious.
I feel the list you're reading from is very broad in its generalization, yet narrowly used to categorize all single Christian women. As a Christian woman, I believe that through the Cross, Jesus gifted Believers with a freedom the rest of the world lacks due to bondage of sin, etc. I feel laughter, genuine fun, is medicine to the soul - that's what I realized after coming out of a bindingly dark, abusive marriage relationship. Since then I've tried dating single, so-called Christian men. The ones I came across all wanted to cherry- pick the Bible, skipping over things like non-fornication, holy sanctification and abstinence; instead using lines like: "Yeah, I believe in the Bible, but I also believe God knows I'm a man first and He wants to see me happy." Or: "I need to make sure we're sexually compatible before I can even think about marrying someone." That was said on a date where I was actually molested by someone who called himself a godly man. So the Word was totally ignored AND I'm supposed to be labeled "sanctimonious" because I didn't buy into his world-based, selfish logic? Well to this day it's hard for me to date any man, let alone a "Christian" one. The title "sanctimonious"? I'll gladly take it - if just to keep me from such abhorrent situations again. Putting a godly Pastor and the Word of God over hypocritically men who uses the Bible to get what they want? You betcha! All you men who have, or will have, grown daughters should be sympathetic to that! If you ask me, there is too much hypocrisy on both sides of the male/female Christian line. My two cents. God bless!
Wow... so beautifully said and so incredibly true. I'm dealing with someone very much like the person you're referring to above... especially regarding the issue of sex, prior to marriage and who is quick to want to debate the issue, when I reference the scriptures. Sadly, he's pursued me off and on for nearly 8 years and I continue to be reluctant to move forward into a relationship with him, because he feels that it's ok to continue in sin (tries to justify the occasional beer and casual sex, because God wants us to be happy analogy), because we have a Savior, that's willing to forgive us for our sins. He also lives in PA and I'm in TX, so the majority of our communication has been via phone or computer. This guy is morally sound, profoundly intelligent, good-looking, educated and a very successful man, but, he lacks the most important factor in a Godly relationship... and that's the fear of God and the willingness to turn away from the very sin that Jesus went to the cross to give us freedom from. If a so-called Christian man can't respect a woman's moral and Christian values, then, by all means, let him pursue the type of women that are willing to accommodate his desires and needs. Because, a true man of God will value, respect and be willing to hear godly counsel, even if it's coming from a woman. She could very well be the woman that God has ordained for him and be his best friend. But, if he isn't in the spirit, he won't recognize it, and he also won't be looking for a way to avoid the truth. Anyway, thanks for sharing this. God bless you and God knows your Boaz or your Joseph and in obedience, it's just a matter of time before it's revealed to you.
"I need to make sure we're sexually compatible before I can even think about marrying someone." I am a man that makes no sense to me. I find most women attractive. What I am concern about is finding some one that compatible with mine personality. It shame that man that date treated you poorly.
Omg, I was dating a man for six weeks who said that he wants to know if we will be sexually compatible before he make a decision with a commitment. I was like I’m not your wife have a great day.. My mother and I was just discussing this earlier there’s a lot of Christian women having sex within a few weeks of knowing a man and that’s why they think Everywoman is the same.
spark300c I was said this exact same line from a Christian man that I’ve been dating only for six weeks. I told him I don’t think I’m your wife it was nice knowing you. And the only reason men are getting away with this is because I personally know to Christian women who spread eagle for any men in the church or out of church that says that they are pretty so they think everyone is the same
Brother Arneal, I think the reasoning behind men considering themselves the prize is due to the fear of divorce court in the culture (this country in general since no fault divorce was put into affect) and how much he'll lose if she's not happy and files for divorce. I'm a Christian brother as well and find that Christian women come off as not playful (jokes wise) sometimes or they play games (manipulate men) like worldly women do when a man seriously wants to court them. Another thing is there's a good amount of Christian women dealing with non christian men (dating and sexually active with them) so when christian men find this out they don't want to deal with them. That's just my two cents.
Christian woman want to convert people after marriage and they marry unbelievers. Then look at you like your faith like it isn't real. Trust me she won't be worth it. Guard your hearts and stay safe and she doesn't love you. She only does because she has to because she loves God and you are just another person that she has to love to get repentance and grace from God.
Repent and Believe Heal from what? Are you in denial did you not read his comment he needs to heal. You Christian men don’t hold each other accountable that’s the problem in the church. Deacons, Ministers and Pastors asking for sex within a month of meeting a women. But got complaints.
Repent and Believe I’m whole and not hurt in any type of way sooo I don’t need healing. Why would a Christian woman be on a app looking for a good Christian man?
Repent and Believe Nahhhh , you’re real kidding me. That’s sounds fraudulent. You should know the Bible say when a man find a wife why would a wife go on the app looking for a good Christian husband did you find your wife on there?
Sounds like opinions from brothers who call themselves Christian's but are quite carnal. This based on the fact that most of these opinions are very carnal. #justmytousense
Brother Arneal, After reading your expectations of a Christian woman, a suggestion, maybe if you try to be more lenient and pay attention to the “Christian Woman” you’ll learn she have struggles too and she would love to be married to a man who have struggles also, together they can get through, you are absolutely right, Team Work, your struggles will be her struggles and her struggles will be your struggles, in the Bible it’s call a HELPMATE, as God Bless you with a wife who is a Helpmate (Biblical Perspective) however, many Godly man appear to be to egotistic don’t want help mate but a frail mate, unfortunately. God Bless
Sounds like a lot of worldliness and excuses with zero biblical referencing. As a single Christian, I am suppose to be busy serving the Lord and his kingdom. In a dating relationship, a man is not going have the priority as a husband. Submission is a biblical concept. Wives are called to submit to husbands as they submit to Christ. Until I take your name, you’re not entitled to the same benefits as a husband. Not 100% sure where the entitlement came from. My submission and obedience to God should be enough for a Christian man to be interested in a possible covenant with me. Personally , I’m not looking for perfection, I’m looking for consistency in his walk and obedience to God.
It's a building and we are the church. I have church every where I go. Don't need a building to prove if God lives in you. Walk, talk and live out his word will let ppl know God is in u! Devil 😈 knows God's light..
I think men especially black men unfortunately are too concerned too early in the relationship with women being submissive. When getting to know each other, more attention needs to be placed on mutual submission, instead of focusing on whether or not a woman will submit. If you give the relationship a chance you'll get to see what type of person the woman is and won't even have to ask. Sadly I've met men who wanted to know off the bat if I could recite 🙄 the women's role in marriage 🤦When I encounter this it just makes me think the man is controlling and is not really interested in getting to know me as a person, but just wants to know if I'm going to do what he says. In my humble opinion both men and women need to keep in mind that no one walks into a marriage knowing how to lead perfectly or submit perfectly. It's a learning process where the couple should allow grace to be at the forefront.
I feel like this has been my experience with an unGodly man. He didn't listen to my advice until it came from his mother. Praise you for doing this video. Bravo 👏👏👏 Better to quote the Bible than have knowledge of what's happening in the world in my opinion.
Sounds like a lot of bashing of black women in this video. Thank you again for another great video and discussion thread. But a lot of men in these comments are very hurt and need to heal from the women that has hurt them. There’s a lot of great Christian women who needs a great leader who is a Christian man. A lot of men are addicted to porn, want sex within a month of dating. That has been my experience I would not commit to someone that I am just dating getting to know. And most of Masculine men are not in the church because they want to be seen as the prize well we should just give them a crown or tiara.
How many of these points might cause a man to believe he can't win her respect or earn her gratitude? That being said, what's the end-game of dating outside?
Sadly some men not all don’t know the Bible as well as a woman. That is not a woman’s fault. He needs to step up. But they would rather watch ESPN then get to know the BIBLE. That is only what I have noticed. Every man is definitely not like that.
You just proved that you don't know The Word yourself the fact that you don't know that christian men are naturally giving more knowledge and wisdom of The Word than women especially the husband in his own house hold which is why women are not prohibited to speak in church but to ask their own husbands at home things concerning The word Of god.
How does one add value to your man's life?? Cooking , washing his clothes, running errands for him,??? I'm confused on what exactly you mean by women not adding value and are that we are just a burden... I think letting you all between our legs is a burden!!! LoL
Re Fi Many of the domestic examples you list are noteworthy. However they pale in comparison to the value of intimacy, not sex but emotional connection. Men need emotional validation that speaks to a masculine heart. Men desire verbal appreciation and honor. A woman that encourages strengthens and cares for her man in that way adds value.
@@broco6608 Excellent insight my sister. You are a woman after God's own heart. Your words carry a lot of weight. You are spot on concerning the pitiful state of Christian men. That why I'm doing all I know to stem the tide of total relational genocide. Be blessed
Another thing, it sound like you had a lot of bad experiences, however, a real Godly woman love a man who leads, in some cases Godly man take that as be dominant and controlling over the woman, basically his doormat and never in the Bible is it mention God made a woman to be a puppet and rule by her husband, in today’s world man are self taught-righteous, in other words, train the wife to his commands and Praise Him, when the man is to Praise his wife, I pray you ask God to teach you how to receive a Godly/GodFearing woman from his perspective, the first thing you will learn is how to receive and love a Godly woman without Strong beliefs of your own, God Bless
I can only speculate that the "Exposure" reasoning has to do with non-formal training not related to religious or spiritual training. Parents for example, sharing with their children what is out there and giving a reasonable understanding of it. Don't just say its bad, explain why. On the other hand, explain things in the general culture that are good. That would include things that are not against scripture. In other words, being culturally exposed to a kind of modified street education and/or being well rounded in subject matter beyond the bible. This would include, while not necessarily being a fan of it, secular music, which would involve having an awareness of some of the artists and the context of their music. This opens a dialog that can be had with the youth, whether male or female. This does not, however, mean the parent doesn't listen to understand the appeal of certain movies. Movies also have certain cultural influences. This doesn't mean they will watch every movie, but how do you intelligently evaluate what has not been taught to you as being good from the culture or bad from the culture If you don't understand the culture period----just a thought.
Can we be honest and acknowledge the fact that a woman who is truly following Christ isn't going to have sex before marriage and that's probably the true issue with these men who claim to be Christian yet would be lying if the say they're followers of Christ.
Too sanctimonious is the only real problem I've encountered. But i honestly feel like i don't find them attractive because i don't find Christ desirable.
In the bible it makes it clear not to be unequally yoked with an unbeliever so if they don’t date Christian women then you are a going against Gods word in addition yes we have Christian women but there personalities are different just because she is a Christian women does not mean all you mention in the video are common with all of the Christian women in the world
Black Christian men need to consider dating African women, they are Godly, feminine, humble, strong and have culture (especially Ugandan, Tanzanian and Burundi women). Black American women do not want to follow the Bible, when it pertains to their role as a woman. They do not recognize God's order, man submits to God, wife submits to her husband as he submits to God. In addition, Black American women think they have spiritual superiority over their husbands. Lastly, Black American women respect their pastors more than their husband.
As long as the court system favors women over men, there is no sense in getting married and potentially dealing with that. The US court system was not around during biblical times. I will stay single forever.
I am discovering more and more that 90% of the single Black men left in the church are often emotionally unavailable and afraid to take the first step toward exploring what God has for them. A man truly in tune with God doesn't need 10 or 20 years to find a mate. Fear is real with Black men in the church. I have had enough with the hot and cold games of Black Christian men play. I am broadening my scope since the Black men seem.to be afraid to take the step toward seeing what is possible. It takes confidence and maturity for that and the one's left seem to lack both. It's unfortunate. I will see if my White brothers are hearing and acting on God's leading. I can name at least 10 Black men in my church who have been single over 10 years...sad. #tiredofslowchristianblackmen.
Because they don't want to follow the bible. The bible clearly talks about being unequally yoke.
They are more concerned with pleasing the flesh then they are pleasing God. Just that simple.
Amen!!
You're talking about women right?
You've got to have both spiritual and natural affection for each other the kingdom way. However 2022 is different for young people I can't speak for older people 40+
christian women are the same as the world. that's at least what I've gathered from my ventures into the church.
If you are a man of God you should want a woman of God to an vise versa
Because they not really followers of christ
True, but any man or woman can simply call them selves a person of God and fake their actions in order to push their own agenda. Now the Holy Spirit should show you if they are phony, but I have to agree that there is a lot of feminism in the church. And a feminist agenda is to have men submit to their wives. But the bible did not say that that was the way. The Bible did not say anything about an equal relationship between a husband and wife. This is not to say that the man should not love his wife. But the bible placed the man as the head. A Christian feminist does not hear this when it is preached in church.
A male who is truly born of the water and the Spirit desires a Christian woman. Some of the men in the church are not able to maintain a steady relationship with women in the church because they are not converted. Anyway keep posting the vids because there's nothing much to watch on tv these days.
Women should submit themselves to only their husbands as the husbands submit to God.
How are we supposed to do that when Christian women can't find a Christian man to marry in the first place? A lot of Christian men stay living secular lives and dating secular women... leaving Christian women to be single. I would rather be single than be in an unequally yoked marriage.
Right. I am talking about those who are already married.
This is very helpful info. I see some of these behaviors in my interactions with married and single women in the church.I hope we all as women pay closer attention to this feedback. Thanks Christian Men!!
Definitely not submitting to a man that's not my husband! Sorry, not sorry! #HusbandPrivileges
WHAT ARE YOU DOING WITH A MAN IF YOU CANT BE SUBMISSIVE?
@@roystonvanwyk5086 she said if hes not her husband. She did not say she can't submit.
@@reneemichael1574 amen
Thank you for the comment so I won’t waste my time watching this video
And he shouldn’t pay for dinner if you’re not his wife
Thank you. This needed to be said and it's very hard to have/find conversations like this regarding modern Christian relationships. For some reason, this never gets discussed in church or in Christian homes.
As a christian man I am looking for a Christian woman but the ones I've found are not ready for any relationship/not commited and the ones who are do not like me. I fell as though there are only 2 options settle for one who likes me or be a eunich.
Understood my brother, modern relationships can be very difficult.
Promiscuity has ruined most of them and made them unsuitable for marriage
Wow what church do some of you guys go to bcuz you all seem very hurt, ignored and rejected
If the men would seek the lord first about finding a wife that would help with most of the concerns they have. I also believe that men should be patient and non judgmental with women especially women of color. Stop trying to get women to have pre- marital sex and looking for a women who looks like a model.
Your comments are right on. However, let me add by saying that men and women will need to tone down their assumptions and entitled expectations. Yet judgement, should never be suspended. As the bible says, "judge not according to appearance but judge with righteous judgement" John 7:24. I believe this is where all the dysfunction comes from. Our lack of a moral compass is self evident. We have no virtue that infoms our conduct. Love your comments, God bless
Why should men be especially patient and non judgmental with women of color?
@@damonfleming6282 Excellent observation Mr. Fleming why should men be " especially patient and non judgemental with women of color"? I would like "pie face" to elaborate also, I'm just curious.
I feel the list you're reading from is very broad in its generalization, yet narrowly used to categorize all single Christian women. As a Christian woman, I believe that through the Cross, Jesus gifted Believers with a freedom the rest of the world lacks due to bondage of sin, etc. I feel laughter, genuine fun, is medicine to the soul - that's what I realized after coming out of a bindingly dark, abusive marriage relationship. Since then I've tried dating single, so-called Christian men. The ones I came across all wanted to cherry- pick the Bible, skipping over things like non-fornication, holy sanctification and abstinence; instead using lines like: "Yeah, I believe in the Bible, but I also believe God knows I'm a man first and He wants to see me happy." Or: "I need to make sure we're sexually compatible before I can even think about marrying someone." That was said on a date where I was actually molested by someone who called himself a godly man. So the Word was totally ignored AND I'm supposed to be labeled "sanctimonious" because I didn't buy into his world-based, selfish logic? Well to this day it's hard for me to date any man, let alone a "Christian" one.
The title "sanctimonious"? I'll gladly take it - if just to keep me from such abhorrent situations again.
Putting a godly Pastor and the Word of God over hypocritically men who uses the Bible to get what they want? You betcha!
All you men who have, or will have, grown daughters should be sympathetic to that!
If you ask me, there is too much hypocrisy on both sides of the male/female Christian line. My two cents. God bless!
Wow... so beautifully said and so incredibly true. I'm dealing with someone very much like the person you're referring to above... especially regarding the issue of sex, prior to marriage and who is quick to want to debate the issue, when I reference the scriptures. Sadly, he's pursued me off and on for nearly 8 years and I continue to be reluctant to move forward into a relationship with him, because he feels that it's ok to continue in sin (tries to justify the occasional beer and casual sex, because God wants us to be happy analogy), because we have a Savior, that's willing to forgive us for our sins.
He also lives in PA and I'm in TX, so the majority of our communication has been via phone or computer. This guy is morally sound, profoundly intelligent, good-looking, educated and a very successful man, but, he lacks the most important factor in a Godly relationship... and that's the fear of God and the willingness to turn away from the very sin that Jesus went to the cross to give us freedom from.
If a so-called Christian man can't respect a woman's moral and Christian values, then, by all means, let him pursue the type of women that are willing to accommodate his desires and needs. Because, a true man of God will value, respect and be willing to hear godly counsel, even if it's coming from a woman. She could very well be the woman that God has ordained for him and be his best friend. But, if he isn't in the spirit, he won't recognize it, and he also won't be looking for a way to avoid the truth.
Anyway, thanks for sharing this. God bless you and God knows your Boaz or your Joseph and in obedience, it's just a matter of time before it's revealed to you.
"I need to make sure we're sexually compatible before I can even think about marrying someone." I am a man that makes no sense to me. I find most women attractive. What I am concern about is finding some one that compatible with mine personality. It shame that man that date treated you poorly.
I agree. I Totally get that with your comment.
Omg, I was dating a man for six weeks who said that he wants to know if we will be sexually compatible before he make a decision with a commitment. I was like I’m not your wife have a great day.. My mother and I was just discussing this earlier there’s a lot of Christian women having sex within a few weeks of knowing a man and that’s why they think Everywoman is the same.
spark300c I was said this exact same line from a Christian man that I’ve been dating only for six weeks. I told him I don’t think I’m your wife it was nice knowing you. And the only reason men are getting away with this is because I personally know to Christian women who spread eagle for any men in the church or out of church that says that they are pretty so they think everyone is the same
Brother Arneal,
I think the reasoning behind men considering themselves the prize is due to the fear of divorce court in the culture (this country in general since no fault divorce was put into affect) and how much he'll lose if she's not happy and files for divorce.
I'm a Christian brother as well and find that Christian women come off as not playful (jokes wise) sometimes or they play games (manipulate men) like worldly women do when a man seriously wants to court them.
Another thing is there's a good amount of Christian women dealing with non christian men (dating and sexually active with them) so when christian men find this out they don't want to deal with them. That's just my two cents.
Brian Francis Well said, my brother I really appreciate your perspective.
People don’t like being held accountable. So to yoked with your own kind means the two of you are going to hold one another accountable
You look to be in your mid fifties. You tell me a man your age is still out there?
Men are too busy looking at a woman's material possessions. Instead of thinking about how to be a blessing, they are looking for benefits.
Don't women do this as well?
That has got to be a joke
Men need to wear pants not panties.
That's not true about all men
Sometimes rejection is what it is. And you will deal with this as a single man. Nothing wrong with it but some singles are still on step one.
Christian woman want to convert people after marriage and they marry unbelievers. Then look at you like your faith like it isn't real. Trust me she won't be worth it. Guard your hearts and stay safe and she doesn't love you. She only does because she has to because she loves God and you are just another person that she has to love to get repentance and grace from God.
You mean the marriage is a means to an end? 🤔🤔🤔
You should heal before dating Christian woman or non-Christian woman
Repent and Believe Heal from what? Are you in denial did you not read his comment he needs to heal. You Christian men don’t hold each other accountable that’s the problem in the church. Deacons, Ministers and Pastors asking for sex within a month of meeting a women. But got complaints.
Repent and Believe I’m whole and not hurt in any type of way sooo I don’t need healing. Why would a Christian woman be on a app looking for a good Christian man?
Repent and Believe Nahhhh , you’re real kidding me. That’s sounds fraudulent. You should know the Bible say when a man find a wife why would a wife go on the app looking for a good Christian husband did you find your wife on there?
Sounds like opinions from brothers who call themselves Christian's but are quite carnal. This based on the fact that most of these opinions are very carnal. #justmytousense
Brother Arneal,
After reading your expectations of a Christian woman, a suggestion, maybe if you try to be more lenient and pay attention to the “Christian Woman” you’ll learn she have struggles too and she would love to be married to a man who have struggles also, together they can get through, you are absolutely right, Team Work, your struggles will be her struggles and her struggles will be your struggles, in the Bible it’s call a HELPMATE, as God Bless you with a wife who is a Helpmate (Biblical Perspective) however, many Godly man appear to be to egotistic don’t want help mate but a frail mate, unfortunately. God Bless
Sounds like a lot of worldliness and excuses with zero biblical referencing. As a single Christian, I am suppose to be busy serving the Lord and his kingdom. In a dating relationship, a man is not going have the priority as a husband. Submission is a biblical concept. Wives are called to submit to husbands as they submit to Christ. Until I take your name, you’re not entitled to the same benefits as a husband. Not 100% sure where the entitlement came from. My submission and obedience to God should be enough for a Christian man to be interested in a possible covenant with me. Personally , I’m not looking for perfection, I’m looking for consistency in his walk and obedience to God.
@DiAnna Cooper - you just preached a whole sermon!
Wise words, sir.
AMEN Brother AMEN ‼️👍🏽
There are alot of Christians women that claim to be Godly women but are not. like God said ye shall know them by their fruit. God bless everyone
Indeed!
Only God Knows Why ultimately, why some women do not exhibit Godly character. I suppose the obvious reason is they may not be citizens of the Kingdom.
True! All have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God. There are none who are innocent not even one. Yes!!!
It's a building and we are the church. I have church every where I go. Don't need a building to prove if God lives in you. Walk, talk and live out his word will let ppl know God is in u! Devil 😈 knows God's light..
I think men especially black men unfortunately are too concerned too early in the relationship with women being submissive.
When getting to know each other, more attention needs to be placed on mutual submission, instead of focusing on whether or not a woman will submit. If you give the relationship a chance you'll get to see what type of person the woman is and won't even have to ask.
Sadly I've met men who wanted to know off the bat if I could recite 🙄 the women's role in marriage 🤦When I encounter this it just makes me think the man is controlling and is not really interested in getting to know me as a person, but just wants to know if I'm going to do what he says.
In my humble opinion both men and women need to keep in mind that no one walks into a marriage knowing how to lead perfectly or submit perfectly. It's a learning process where the couple should allow grace to be at the forefront.
Wow that was an exhaustive -comprehensive list. A conversation should take place when the courting process is happening. Although a lot of it is true
Spread Love Agreed!!
I feel like this has been my experience with an unGodly man. He didn't listen to my advice until it came from his mother.
Praise you for doing this video. Bravo 👏👏👏
Better to quote the Bible than have knowledge of what's happening in the world in my opinion.
Sounds like a lot of bashing of black women in this video. Thank you again for another great video and discussion thread. But a lot of men in these comments are very hurt and need to heal from the women that has hurt them. There’s a lot of great Christian women who needs a great leader who is a Christian man. A lot of men are addicted to porn, want sex within a month of dating. That has been my experience I would not commit to someone that I am just dating getting to know. And most of Masculine men are not in the church because they want to be seen as the prize well we should just give them a crown or tiara.
We can rise above our excuses. At least tell the truth its not the Christian woman its the unchristian values many men exact upon her.
How many of these points might cause a man to believe he can't win her respect or earn her gratitude?
That being said, what's the end-game of dating outside?
Just give me a good woman and I am happy. I'll deal with the other issues when they arrive.
Yes I feel the same way just give me a good man. Let’s not make things Complicated.
I am here waiting come fine me.
That's what I'm talking about! What's your number? Lol
It's funny I knew some of these reasons..and I'm not in the church...anymore that is..
I completely agree with the points made in this video about the women, the Pristine persona, the lack of understanding about submission, etc
Sadly some men not all don’t know the Bible as well as a woman. That is not a woman’s fault. He needs to step up. But they would rather watch ESPN then get to know the BIBLE. That is only what I have noticed. Every man is definitely not like that.
You just proved that you don't know The Word yourself the fact that you don't know that christian men are naturally giving more knowledge and wisdom of The Word than women especially the husband in his own house hold which is why women are not prohibited to speak in church but to ask their own husbands at home things concerning The word Of god.
Mythical Fantasies What? 😂😩
Don't forget the White women topic. Many Black men assume White women are better to marry.
How does one add value to your man's life?? Cooking , washing his clothes, running errands for him,??? I'm confused on what exactly you mean by women not adding value and are that we are just a burden... I think letting you all between our legs is a burden!!! LoL
Re Fi Many of the domestic examples you list are noteworthy. However they pale in comparison to the value of intimacy, not sex but emotional connection. Men need emotional validation that speaks to a masculine heart. Men desire verbal appreciation and honor. A woman that encourages strengthens and cares for her man in that way adds value.
Miss Feminine what the heck are you talking about ??? Is this some copy and paste junk!!
@@broco6608 Are you living in my head? LOL, I am about to do a piece very soon on that issue. Wow!!! God Bless
@@broco6608 Excellent insight my sister. You are a woman after God's own heart. Your words carry a lot of weight. You are spot on concerning the pitiful state of Christian men. That why I'm doing all I know to stem the tide of total relational genocide. Be blessed
Another thing, it sound like you had a lot of bad experiences, however, a real Godly woman love a man who leads, in some cases Godly man take that as be dominant and controlling over the woman, basically his doormat and never in the Bible is it mention God made a woman to be a puppet and rule by her husband, in today’s world man are self taught-righteous, in other words, train the wife to his commands and Praise Him, when the man is to Praise his wife, I pray you ask God to teach you how to receive a Godly/GodFearing woman from his perspective, the first thing you will learn is how to receive and love a Godly woman without Strong beliefs of your own, God Bless
I can only speculate that the "Exposure" reasoning has to do with non-formal training not related to religious or spiritual training. Parents for example, sharing with their children what is out there and giving a reasonable understanding of it. Don't just say its bad, explain why. On the other hand, explain things in the general culture that are good. That would include things that are not against scripture. In other words, being culturally exposed to a kind of modified street education and/or being well rounded in subject matter beyond the bible. This would include, while not necessarily being a fan of it, secular music, which would involve having an awareness of some of the artists and the context of their music. This opens a dialog that can be had with the youth, whether male or female. This does not, however, mean the parent doesn't listen to understand the appeal of certain movies. Movies also have certain cultural influences. This doesn't mean they will watch every movie, but how do you intelligently evaluate what has not been taught to you as being good from the culture or bad from the culture If you don't understand the culture period----just a thought.
Can we be honest and acknowledge the fact that a woman who is truly following Christ isn't going to have sex before marriage and that's probably the true issue with these men who claim to be Christian yet would be lying if the say they're followers of Christ.
Yes, we all do submit.
Yeah...this is where you lost me sir. I believe the man is the prize. The woman is the gift
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No! Men are the Prize Sir!! And number one has always been the issue
Too sanctimonious is the only real problem I've encountered. But i honestly feel like i don't find them attractive because i don't find Christ desirable.
In the bible it makes it clear not to be unequally yoked with an unbeliever so if they don’t date Christian women then you are a going against Gods word in addition yes we have Christian women but there personalities are different just because she is a Christian women does not mean all you mention in the video are common with all of the Christian women in the world
By too busy... They mean too darn hyper... Christian women are bouncing off the walls
I can see some of these traits in myself ❗️❗️❗️
I'm dissapointed. That's it I'm becoming a nun! This world has nothing to offer me. Sisters take a page in my book.
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If you can’t submit to God , you definitely can’t submit to your husband properly .
Black Christian men need to consider dating African women, they are Godly, feminine, humble, strong and have culture (especially Ugandan, Tanzanian and Burundi women). Black American women do not want to follow the Bible, when it pertains to their role as a woman. They do not recognize God's order, man submits to God, wife submits to her husband as he submits to God. In addition, Black American women think they have spiritual superiority over their husbands. Lastly, Black American women respect their pastors more than their husband.
Word!
More exposure says to me, get out of the church and actually live in the real world
That is so crazy because the Bible tells you don't be unequally yoked so why not. Are you going against the word of God,,?
Right!!!
As long as the court system favors women over men, there is no sense in getting married and potentially dealing with that. The US court system was not around during biblical times. I will stay single forever.
im sorry like jewish girl not Christian
I am discovering more and more that 90% of the single Black men left in the church are often emotionally unavailable and afraid to take the first step toward exploring what God has for them. A man truly in tune with God doesn't need 10 or 20 years to find a mate. Fear is real with Black men in the church. I have had enough with the hot and cold games of Black Christian men play. I am broadening my scope since the Black men seem.to be afraid to take the step toward seeing what is possible. It takes confidence and maturity for that and the one's left seem to lack both. It's unfortunate. I will see if my White brothers are hearing and acting on God's leading. I can name at least 10 Black men in my church who have been single over 10 years...sad. #tiredofslowchristianblackmen.