3 UPDATES: Dad Canceled My 18th Bday Party as Golden Child Brother Wanted a Weekend Getaway The...
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- 3 UPDATES: Dad Canceled My 18th Bday Party as Golden Child Brother Wanted a Weekend Getaway The Same Day 'Without Me'....So They Left Without Me & Returned 2 Days Later to Find THIS Person in The Home & Dad Realized he Made The Biggest Blunder of His Life....
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So two weeks ago, I was about to have my 18th birthday at home, but unfortunately, my horrible younger brother decided that he wanted a weekend away without me and the party ended up getting canceled. My brother (15m) is my dad’s favorite, if that was not clear enough. And whatever he says in this household, that’s what goes. At least there was some balance as long as my mother was alive, but she passed away from lung cancer a couple of years back. Since then, life has been terrible for me because my dad only seems to care about my brother, and he thinks that since I’m older, I can deal with everything on my own.
The fact that op's dad did numerous paternity tests proves that he was desperate for op not to be his
I knew there was a reason why dad suddenly want to "fix" his relationship with OP.
Maybe the grandpa decided to leave everything to op and not to his brother
@@kirsty1231000why it's not his brother's fault it's their dad's for how he smother and treated him. from what I gathered about the inheritance the grandfather probably only took out the dad from it.
Fixing things now? Convenient timing, don’t you think? Almost like there’s something to gain. 😒
His "father" IS abusive (and neglectful). Leaving a child alone to go off with your favorite child IS neglect!!
But thinks it’s dangerous to leave the house or have people over. I think the last of his brain cells died with that logic. 😂
" IT'S DANGEROUS TO LEAVE THE HOUSE OR HAVE PEOPLE AT THE HOUSE."
*LEAVES CHILD AT HOME CONSTANTLY*
Leave you are Eighteen you can go where ever you want.
He was holding his college funding hostage.@@PatRiley-c7s
I bet op dad is going to regret his decision of miss treating op in favor of op brother and now he must live with the consequences of his actions in life
Lll[
Probably. Unless he grows up A LOT, his entitled brother wont be there for his dad when he is older.
"it was not as if my dad was actively mistreating me or deprive me of anything". Honey, i don't want to say it, but, tell me you are abused without telling me you are abused
Neglect is STILL abuse.
Not to the updates yet, but I'm sure daddy "came to his senses" because grandpa cut off the money daddy was using to live and spoil the golden one. Or at the very least, grandpa told him that you were going to inherit everything after grandpa's passing, and daddy and bro are getting nothing. So, he now wants to be your daddy again to keep his grubby hands on grandpa's money. Don't respond to his message. Yep, saw that one coming a mile away. Father of the Year candidate here, neglecting his own son to punish him because his mother had an affair, even though he wasn't an affair child. Go no contact with both daddy dearest and the golden one, enjoy the time you have left with the one family member that actually cares about you, and get your revenge by living a great life.
The brother was not cut out the will only dad was, so him wanted the money he has another son, and he would have called more trying get on his good side, Dad should have just left the mother all together, dad is going through hell because she cheated!! Most men would not have even bother with a DNA test and just be out leaving both kids!!! I get the Dad feelings and that many DNA test, dad still don't believe that child is his!!!
@keciakecia2794
There is a problem with your logic.
OP is the eldest son. If daddy-dearest left his wife after the affair, then the golden child would never have been born. 🤷♀️OP would have been hus only child unless the dad remarried.
He is an A-hole either way. OP is his son despite the circumstances behind his birth. OP was innocent in all of this. If dad could never get over the affair, it would have been best for OP that the parents divorced.
Take it from me. I lived a very similar life to OP except I (and my father) believe that my younger sister is a love child. Dad never got a paternity test. He didn't want to know so he wouldn't treat either of us differently growing up.
My parents ended up divorcing. Dad did not want the divorce.
As an adult, I can look back and see this in a different light.
I believe that my mother asked for a divorce to marry her AP but he rejected her after the divorce was final.
I believe my mother was so angry after that. She took her anger out on me because I reminded her of my father. I grew up feeling that she resented me. I was always the object of her anger & frustration. My sister was the golden child - never got in trouble for anything and was definitely her favorite. Everyone in the family could see it but she denied it.
Ironically, I was the daughter that was by her side when she passed not her favorite.
Now I am caring for my elderly father. He lives with me and my husband. My sister rarely ever visits.
My sister & I rarely speak as well. I resent her for basically abandoning Dad.
Ain't life grand 🙄
@@keciakecia2794 When a person has been wronged in ANY way and they take out their revenge on someone who is totally innocent in the matter I lose all sympathy for the wronged person. For example, if the main hero in the Death Wish movies were to kill even ONE person who was NOT a criminal and did NOT deserve it they would lose all credibility with me.
No matter how wrong it was of his wife to do that to him punishing the child (especially when the DNA test proved he was the father) was beyond the pail.
The dad is a piece of work. Hopefully, the brother will realize that the father was treating his brother in a toxic way. If he doesn't, he will be on his own permanently.
No sympathy for your mom and your dad. Be at peace with grandpa. You only have so many years.
I mean, the mom's dead, and OP says she treated him well...
dad just wants the inheritance he just contacted his son for appearances but then he will return to his toxic narcissistic behavior
The other victim is the OP's brother. I have explained on many threads that in cases of extreme favoritism neither child is loved. What he did ultimately damaged his brother too.
@@Zurround then you are dismissing every genuine ah...
There is a reason dad wants to fix things & it has nothing to do with him caring about you. Stay no contact.
Exactly. There's a possibility that he's realizing his "parenting" has turned his other son into a horrible spoiled brat. Most likely, he got cut off from his trust fund and is trying to make amends to get it back. But, just my theory.
You are his son! So why is he being an absoulte jack wipe to you? You are his? Its your mum who cheated? Tell him to grow a pair and get over it! He does not go get to treat lkke poo!
Maybe he thinks the DNA tests were wrong? I think there is a one in ten thousand chance of that happening?
But he did the test multiple times at different place, so....@@Zurround
@@fitri689 My comment was kind of angry sarcasm.
I thought the other son was daddy's love child.
Same
I wouldn't be surprised if he was.
i think so
I would have told daddy dearest if he couldn't get over what mommy dearest did then ya'll should've divorced.
Bro youre 18. GO OUT ANYWAY?? not like he can actually stop you. 1) hes not there. 2) youre legally an adult now.
He gonna kick you out when he gets home? Doubt it. Itd make him look worse than he already does
Cut off college funds? Go to trade school. Likely you can land a better paying job afterward then be able to properly save for college if you still choose too.
You know trade school isn't free, right? And depending on the trade, the tools and materials can be pretty expensive.
@@shells500tutubo it's not free but it's a heck of alot better then university
@@shells500tutubo now where the hell did i say it was free? Its less expensive than collage and is easier to manage while having a job. Youre there for months not years. Very doable.
OP’s mom is actually a nightmare. The fact she wanted the affair partner around and even kept him in the loop is disrespectful
Why does the op have to got to the dad to fix things? It should be the other way around. Clearly the dad doesn’t want to do the work.
That’s horrible! Your brother and dad need to get their comeuppance! Your dad lets your brother get away with this stuff often. But to cancel your birthday for the spoilt brat ruin your birthday. Your dad is a disgrace! Don’t buy the crocodile tears
But the thing that’s really bad is that I think that the father wouldn’t even give OP college funds at all. I think that it was an empty threat because there wouldn’t be any college funds but I think that if OP knew about that I think OP would’ve just taken off and then, the father would’ve just thrown out all their stuff and lock them out and trespass them just because of the fact Brat didn’t want op around
Cheating really destroys lives.
Why do 18 year always think they have to have permission to go anywhere?
I think it probably has to do with them being so used to needing to ask for permission, that when they finally don't need permission, it doesn't even register.
Why did anyone have to watch the house? Ju😊st lock the freaking doors.
Squatters can break in change lock and police cannot drive them away , it could take many months even then they could wreck the house . 🙄
Squatters can break in change lock and police cannot drive them away , it could take many months even then they could wreck the house . 🙄
As mentioned above, squatters can just break in and barricade the house, and if they're in the building long enough to claim squatter's rights, then it means having to go through the courts to get them out, which can take months, and THEN if they decide to ignore a court decision to leave, you have to get police/bailiffs involved, which can take months more, and THEN there's the very high chance that they'd trash the place inside and out during that time.
Plus there's also the worry of thieves breaking in and ransacking the place.
@@greatgamingendavour and you have evidence that squatters are swarming their area? Sounds like mere speculation. I think its more likely this is dear old dads way of keeping her at home and away from "partying" and anything fun.
@@user-hr5pc3rt2n I think Op is a young man.
Another example of a situation where the parent does not love the favored child either. Ultimately his behavior harmed the favored child too in many ways, most obviously depriving him of a healthy relationship with his sister. All gratitude he may feel now for his father will dissipate when he finally realizes that he was never loved either.
OP's dad only cares about the money.
Oh neglecting the mother because he was at work? She cheated now it all makes sense and the grandpa is justifying it.
We only have grandpa's story and that is secondhand. For all we know Op's father wasn't even working late and had a sidepiece, but it was easier to get enraged that his wife was doing what he was also doing. Just sayin'.
Sounds like daddy dearest got disinherited by grandpa. Such an amazing turnaround! Dad sounds sketchy
Daddy dearest was definitely trying for the inheritance. What a scumbag. Constantly threatening his son’s college fund cause he had that inheritance in his back pocket. His own flesh and blood cried himself to sleep ALONE on his 18th birthday while his brother was spoiled and was left to decide his fate. How cruel can a parent get ffs
Very young writer. Repeated himself many times without really saying what was going on. Glad it worked out but l think it took a long time to tell a short story.
OP's dad is toxic and he's better off without him.
Op's dad knows his wife cheated. He had several paternity tests on op. Does he really know if the golden child is actually his son?
Daddy and sonny are having brokeback mountains relations!!!
Things I'm mad at dad for, in no particular order:
* Blatantly favoring the younger brother
* Treating OP badly for dad's unresolved anger toward his wife
* Only attempting to reconcile to get back in the will
Yes, all bad enough things to raise one's ire against dad. But the ultimate kicker to me: doesn't sound like dad even tried to get to know older son in any way once his wife died. He basically just did bare minimum of legally required duties but otherwise abandoned his son. "But family" ceases to apply when you have willingly not treated your child like family.
Terrible father. He only reached out for the sake of money.
While a person's actions may be understandable, that does NOT make them acceptable. Mom screwed up, and dad screwed up. Neither should be allowed off the hook. While mom is gone, dad made his choices and must live with the consequences.
Who wants to bet the second golden boy isn’t the dads?
That would make him treat him worse not better
S 1 I have 2 adult daughters. By the age of 14 they had decided to ask for "pocket money" and spend the day chilling with friends. Movie, pizza, fruit juice. Even if they came to our home in between, the friends gathered in her bedroom to chat.
Why does OP want his family to celebrate his 18th bday with him?
wait. through the whole story nothing was mentioned about paternity, then suddenly in the update there it was. WHAT???
Why should you go to him? Let him fly out to you.
He claimed “no contact ‘ with dad, but wasn’t dad going to pay for college?
Is this fiction… doesn’t seem like even good fiction…
These are all fiction on all of these pages.
This sounds untrue like a script. Also the voice sounds exactly like the voice on another videoI listened to. I think you're an actress.
I'd give dad 50% of his inheritance IF he disowns golden child brother kicks him out with only 1 dollar to his name and the clothes on his back as soon as he turns 18 no chance to return.
if i could find the original post to wait for the inevitable 3rd update that tell us why the "dad" did a 180...
the preamble needs editing too much repetition of the same information...
NTA at all, OP. (Before updates) Clearly, your Grandpa has your back much more than your father ever would and you should surround your self with supportive people in life. There'll be some catch in this that suddenly your father wants to build bridges. Does your Grandpa own the house he and your brother live in, or something like that?
That moment when you realise AI voice isn't so bad
HE AND MY DAD. HE AND MY DAD.
18:04 Calling it now, grandpa owns the house and probably provides money or has large inheritance.
25:08 boom
No way would I be staying home. If he didn't like it, too bad. 18 years old. If you go to a friend's house and have a friends parents there to celebrate. If that is unsafe, he obviously doesn't care. So it's more about control then safety.
Curious…did dad pay for OP’s college?
Thank you so much for not having background music.
You are 18 years old. Get a job, open a bank account. This is the start of being independent.
That way, when you start college, you are in a good place, mentally.
Do have, your say about relationships with your brother and father, to them.
That way, you start the healing process.
18:00 OP is not firing on all cylinders. He makes butter knives look sharp. Thank God he has a granddad to care what happens to him. Crxxpy brother makes a half hearted apology and OP is taken in. WTF?
I'm the first comment and like!!!
😂😂😂
Oh i do hate people that blame the child for their parents actions. You think affair babies actually want to be affair babies.? They didnt choose to be born. It wasnt their fault their parent was an adulterer.
The father really wanted OP to not be his child and even though paternity was confirmed he decided he waa going to disregard them and still pretend like Op was some sffair child. Disgusting and im so happy he isnt getting any of the inheritance.
It's a bit echoey. You may want to throw some foam on the walls or do like Matpat did early in his career and use a closet to cut down on the echoes.
Keep up the good work.
Don't trust them
So it sounds like they are punishing you for having different interests. And you don't get to have fun. So the I guess I would have friends over out in the yard or garage. Then I would also tell him that you shouldn't be excluded from everything. So if they have fun you are surely able to have a friend or two over. I guess I would tell him if he's going to keep you from your birthday party for the other kid who ALWAYS goes away with him then I would do what I want on my birthday. If he's not giving the funds to do what you planned, I would say then they are coming over. You have a problem with that, too bad! I'm sick and tired of you not trying to do things with me. Excluding me is unfair. How would my mother feel seeing how you two treat me. Better hope she doesn't haunt you two for your treatment of me. I'm your child too.
I just wonne say i love your voice ❤
When you get together for the holidays you should have sat down with your dad and ask him with your brother present am I even your son. You have never treated as your son. When mom was alive it was balanced one kid to each parent . But when she died. You just went on being my brother’s dad and close friend. And I only have a ghost for a parent. You never seem to know or care about anything I do. Unless it’s to admonish me for what might happen. I have never had your love. So am I your child or not? With your brother sitting there see what he says. The OP needs counseling to get over how he feels about his brother and father. I would have continued writing my little brother. After all it was not his fault your dad lavished him with attention to the point of severally spoiling him. The letters could have been filled with what is like to grow up. The trials of school . Girls ect. And see if the brother wrote or called back. That the dad reached out to congratulate you on your college graduation . Might have been good. I would have talked to the granddad to find out if he was talking to your dad. But your dad should have made the attempt. But as he abandoned your mom during the first part of their marriage so has he done with you during this time . Poor old dad needed therapy all those years ago. And 18 years down the line it blew up another relationship. How sad.
this poor guy, he could be right about his dad, possitive motives or not, I think he's doing the right thing and not responding, even to the graduation email. This man torture this poor person for something his mother had done that wasn't his fault. even when it was prove he was 100 percent his kid, he continued to be angry taking it out on not just the mom but then the son. I wouldn't be surprised that when the day came this poor pathetic excuse of a father with an unforgivable excuse as to why he treated this man like shit will definitely be calling again hoping he could aid his little brother. O.P when that day comes keep going no contact, don't even entertain this man who hurt. he isn't a real father figure. he proved that by robbing you of what a real father and son relationship is. And that brother of yours daddy can help his ass and if daddy doesn't have the money, neither should be asking you because both have shown their true feelings towards you. and I think both of them should let you live your life, and they can live there's and figure out things for theirselves. Its 100 percent the money, maybe some mild regret, but not enough to be 100 percent genuine.
1:06, if brother behaved anything like he does at home while on the Football Field, I would Reject him as well. They want Grown Men playing on the Filed, not Children who need their Pacifier.
13:42, Honestly seems like the House is in Grand Dads Name, and That is why he is Afraid of him. Because Grand Dad can move him out when he feels like it. You were the Prisioner in Grand Dads home because Dad had to be nice to you in front of him.
16:02, I CALL B*LLSH*T, "I didnt realize how bad you had felt, even when you were SCREAMING your head off at me for my abuse of you", He knew, he just didnt care until Grand Dad punished him... What kind of Leverage does Grand dad have?
17:00, "HE really wanted me to come back home, so we could talk it out and work it out", reason this is a red Flag is because he could easily do that over the phone. the ONLY reason to need you Back Home first is because he Needed you somewhere he had LEVERAGE over you firs... at His Home he was in POWER and you were required to do as you were TOLD.
25:30, Red Flag answered. He wanted you back home so when his father Died, he could either through Lies or FORCE make you give your brother and him a portion of what he lost through Abuse.
29:29, Considering how he has not spoken to you in 4 Years It is nice that he is reach out, but I agree it seems like he has some other Motive for saying Hi to you. I would ask family how he and brother have been getting on though, because if Nothing changed in brothers behavior, then I would assume nothing changed in dads either and he has another reason for inquiring how your doing.
I Sorry DAD feeling was somewhat reasonable!! You mama didn't tell you and your dad was hurt bad from your mama, he shouldn't have left you not n your be but damn!! If he wanted your money he would have called more then once and hound you but he just apologized, explain and left it up to you, so the money is not what he wanted he just realized his mistakes and he was cut not your brother, so if brother is into dad then dad ain't worried about your money
He wanted the money but he realized his FIL was no longer going to leave him anything. I just wonder if grandpa is leaving the brother anything.
please post the reddit URL..
(where is this AI generated?)
I second this. I want to read it on Reddit as well
at the rate of this stories being pumped out daily it looks like a majority of these are AI generated.
@@alakey92 Given this story sounds 99% similar to other stories on this and other Reddit channels (Neglected OP, golden child sibling, dumbass parent (usually the dad), OP being abandoned on an important day, relative (usually a grandparent) suddenly turns up at the OP's home/event, said relative offers OP a new home, turns out said relative has lotsa money and it's now being withheld from the bad parents) I'd say this one is AI, too.
@@charondusk5608 i love this channel dont get me wrong but 2-4 stories read a day, never linking these Reddit stories, has me going HMMM….
I don't think TH-cam or reddit allow URL posting.
Why do you have the narrator? Nobody needs to see this person just have the video play with the narrator not visible.
Canton Ohio, US citizen. Trump lied.
ANOTHER story not worth finishing. The pure, saintly elder son vs. the evil golden child. How superficial do writers think we are?
You kept their treatment of you secret? How masochistic are you?
Well you can cut your father of remember he going to have to rely on your brother in his old age, you owe him nothing he can accept he betrayed your late mother he is a total failure as a father
Remember revenge comes the day you refuse to allow him to walk down the aisle because he not a father he forgot he had a daughter not just a son ,I believe your father going to get karma I believe you should tell your grandfather the truth
Tell your father to come see you I would not trust him totally he could try have you a inheritance survival benefit tell him he had eighteen years to try he never made the effort he didn't care about your grief I actually thought you where his daughter but you are his son I really cannot believe your father failure to be your father so it does come down to money he doesn't want to lose money and he knows his golden child will get less as well
He is a greedy avaricious man I thought you had been female not your fathers whipping boy hardly likely to have anything in common with him if he loathed you since birth through no fault of your own you are his biological son I don't think he will ever have treated you as a equal in inheritance
a) Grandpa is still the person he was, even with the restrictions. b) When you don't make the effort yourself to understand and embrace your father, what makes you think he will understand and embrace you? OP knows his dad loves the outdoors, and he sound like he gave his dad the cold shoulder. As for the cheating, well -- that's the ungift that keeps on giving. OP assumes the worst, and that's where the relationship will stay.
This guy was turning 18 and didnt have an after school job yet? He should have by 16. His dad couldnt stop him from leaving the house. Unsafe for a guy who is an adult? Ridiculous. 10 year olds go out to play with friends. He should have already had a job and moved out on his 18th birthday. Then like most teens get a student loan for college. You only need grade 10 for trade school to get the best paying jobs.
Unsafe for the *house* apparently, as was suggested in the first update.
You obviously don't live in an urban area with even a moderate cost of living, not to mention the high cost of living areas. There is no legal part time job that will support you, even with roommates, at eighteen without any other help.
I spent my 18th birthday in bootcamp for the ARMY didn't cry o e bit lamo 😂😅
Horrible as it sounds, and I'm not saying it's right, but I find it very understandable why op dad is the way he is, with op. The mother did a real number on him. Having to wait through months of, what must have been torture, to find out if her baby was even his, giving him cause to try to forgive the unforgivable, all the while, telling him she would favour the AP if the baby wasn't his. Thinking she could still be married to OP dad, whilst raising AP child as a trio instead of cutting him off so he can heal and dare to leave his woofer alone for a moment with AP hanging around.
If OP can't understand how psychologically damaging that would be and the resentment his mother caused his dad to have for him, then he hasn't truly considered his dad's position. OP mother is 100% to blame for this negativity in OP family. Dad needs therapy, not threats and not blame.
The mother is cruel beyond beliefs and quite evil.
It's been 18 years... If you think it is justifiable to resent a child for the mistake of his wife, then why don't divorce the mother?? Why treat a child this unfairly?? He deserves the blame, because it is HIS blame... The child shouldn't be the "bigger person"... The father has to go to therapy, not resent the kid that doesn't get the blame. If him as the ADULT doesn't realize that he is treating his OWN child unfairly for something that he didn't do? Then the ADULT is the problem, not the child for not putting himself in his father's shoes. Actions have consequences and treating your child unfairly for something out of his control is stupid, the father needed a wake up call and I guess this is the one.
It could also be because u look a lot like your mom and he just could not bear to look at the face without feeling hurt . Also your mother seems very selfish and unfair and manipulative . 🙄😤😮💨🤨
Should mom of cheated, no. Should he have divorced her then, yes. Should he take it out on his child, absolutely not. You don't get to excuse his abuse and neglect of his own child. Shame on you
How does the mother seem selfish and unfair and manipulative and not the father? Give me a break. And that old excuse of working too much is just code for having an affair.
So OP seems extremely stupid to me saying grandpa could do anything for him I'd tell OP well jackass if it's this unbearable get a job if you don't have one and get out soon when dad and bro are alone and have no one to shit on they'll turn on each other and that would be awesome.
WOW !!! How many ways do you have for saying the SAME thing with different words ?? Get on with the freaking story already !!! Do you ever proof read ????