3 UPDATES: On My 36th Birthday, My Husband Threw A Party For Me, But When I Got There...
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- 3 UPDATES: On My 36th Birthday, My Husband Threw A Party For Me, But When I Got There, He Introduced Me To A 23-Yr-Old Woman, Who Was Pregnant With His Child, & Told Everyone She Was My Replacement Bcuz I "Failed As A Woman"... SIL Revealed The Woman's Real Identity & Husband Began To Panic
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My husband, Cole, and I have been married for 8 years now. It all started when I was a 28-year-old personal assistant grappling with the loss of my father. Losing a parent leaves you feeling incredibly isolated and empty, as anyone who's been through it knows. I was in a really tough spot emotionally. Then along came Cole, this charming older man who seemed to know exactly what to say to lift my spirits.
He didn't want to let her use one half of the wardrobe!!!! No decor and no fridge magnets!!! He's a monster.
Total red flag- he can't even share the freaking FRIDGE DOOR??! If he hated having his space invaded then why did he even ask her to get married in the first place??!!
I'd have immediately done an about face at that since it's major controlling behavior
I would have left there and then. He didnt want the marriage to start on the wrong foot but HE CREATED THE PROBLEM!!!!!
"No reasonable person would be so controlling of a partner", but a cheater would!
Finally, parents that actually stand up to their kid's narcissism and tell them off. He, more than likely, didn't like that his parents siding with op, making him see reality and not his narcissist world.
Since the tramp he was messing with was wanted in another state i wound have called the police and turned her in and my ex for aiding and abetting a criminal.
I agree with turning the affair partner in, but it would probably be difficult proving that Cole knew she was wanted.
If you're really looking for "Safe, reliable and affectionate", then get a Labrador. 😇
That couldn't be further from the truth. A labrador will eat your bank account. You know, since they are extremely food driven and wont stop eating?😝
@@NovaTheAngel Yeah. But they'll love you while they're doing it. 🙂
Great story, thank you
Yes, I have decided that pets are a FAR BETTER OPTION! They don’t cheat, steal, lie or abuse you. And, at the end of the day, they are always happy to see you! Since ( as my mom has put it) I always seem to pick lemons in the garden of love, pet’s are a much safer happier choice for me!
For me a comfort animal is a whippet. I adored mine that I got from the pound. 10 years of happiness I miss her
Opie was a good wife he was not a good husband and never will be. I’m so glad his family is on OP side.
Older men want one of two things from younger women. They either want to run their lives for them, or they want to be taken care of by them.
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I am glad you're free. Anyone that doesn't want you to add to their life and makes you feel like your things are less valuable or junk, don't actually value you.
OP needs to realise that denial isn't just a river in Egypt.
I love it 😂😂😂😂
Cole's prayer.
That didn’t happen.
And if it did, it wasn’t that bad.
And if it was, that’s not a big deal.
And if it is, that’s not my fault.
And if it was, I didn’t mean it.
And if I did, you deserved it
The Narcissist’s Prayer
Sounds like my mother in law.
Red flag 1: Not allowing her to share his home as an equal (with her own stuff, need for space & self-expression, etc. 2. Wanting to control what she wears. Then we get more serious: trying to cut her off from friends & family (a) trying to stop her going out (b) deleting phone messages & interfering in communication. 3. Trying to baby trap her, especially since he previously said he was child free. 4. Wanting her to quit working. 5. Secretly going through her phone. Luckily he didn't seem savvy enough to also track it, put a tracker on her car etc....at least as far as she knew.
Und don't forget bringing his probably most recent affair partner to his wife's birthday party und trying to gaslight everyone there that OP was the cheater und he "only" started cheating und recently because he felt betrayed.
Cole is a piece of work he never should have a girlfriend or a wife or a kid. He doesn’t understand boundaries. All he wants to do is control.
I've been loving the stories, but I am noticing.They were all written the exact Same way the language and grammar identical every single time. Especially when you're writing a bad 15-year-older 18-year-old.The language is just somebody so much older. You
Are a great writer , but these are not true
Someone needs to encourage her to learn about narcissism and the signs.
I felt no sympathy for her. A wise and astute person can recognize social cues and red flags and she kept blowing them off. She did this to herself.
@@Zurround if your raised being neglected or abused, or are neurodivergent (women are less likely to get diagnosed (- I was 42) you’re less likely to see the flags, they all look normal. That you are superior, and without empathy, makes me wonder about you. Flying your own flags, much?
@@Zurround victim blaming, much? You can be wise, astute, and all that other stuff but still get caught up in the bullshit. No, she didn't do it to herself. She fell in love with someone and then he betrayed her in more ways than one.
Someone needs to explain to women That they choose such partners. And everything that's happening is their fault
@@30WallEraagain, victim blaming much?
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my ex in his divorce to wife #1, the divorce was over, finit, all the particulars had been ironed out. all that needed was the opposing attorney to sign the papers. the bastard never did. Our attorney, a real shark, finally had to send a courier over and demand a signature and was filed without opposing attorney signature. that guy was so obtuse, he caused problems years down the line long after everything was over, even the ex had moved on and was done. but he wouldn't let it drop. eventually he did something to piss a judge off and got in some trouble
folks, look up narcissists. cole baby is a classic narcissist. and she still doubts herself at the end??? cripes..
And she still did marry him😂😂 and then women blame all men for their own choices 😂😂 classic narcissist behavior 😂😂
What a controlling and paranoid bastard, thank god OP has dealt with him😂
Cole is controlling and doesn’t want to change his life the tiniest bit (fridge magnet, wardrobe). This has been trouble from the start
Yes major flag
"The Love of My Life"...? He refused her fridge magnets, he tried to force pregnancy, he invaded her phone & interfered with her family & friends relations, he surreptitiously destroyed her clothes &, finally, he refused to allow her to integrate into his home in any meanungful manner...OP, you need some instruction in EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE & RECOGNIZING RED FLAGS...😖🤡
OP was really slow. Why didn't she suspect Cole was deleting her phone messages? There was no one else living in their home.
She thought at first that her phone might have been hacked.
I am only 10:40 into this video, and this guy has more red flags than a Chinese communist parade.
Your fault OP, you should have ended that marriage when he refused your magnets.
True
🤣🤣 yup
I posted above that that was the biggest red flag. It was a POWER MOVE to assert dominance and it also showed that if something had sentimental value to her he would treat it with disgust instead of being supportive. If she was WISE she would have ended the relationship there. She kept excusing one red flag after another and I got so frustrated with her that I lost sympathy.
Marriage is about compromise. When one half of the couple decides about everything and the other one just accommodates, that is a master / follower dynamics, not a relationship of equal partners.
To me the most glaring early red flag was not letting her put her refrigerator magnets on the fridge. To me it is a very big deal because they had a lot of sentimental value to her and by brushing them aside and calling them cheap he was showing that he did not value her feelings and was not supportive of something that was important to her and he was asserting some kind of "dominance". To me that fridge magnet incident was a HUGE sign of danger to come.
The earlier incident of him telling her to downsize her wardrobe is also a red flag but to me the magnet issue was an even bigger red flag because a "devil's advocate" could argue that he was concerned about not having enough room for his own clothing. However, um... Did he have several dozen of his own magnets that would no longer fit on the refrigerator because hers took up so much space? NOPE.
I can't get over how amazing her in-laws and sister-in-law are. I wonder if she knows how rare it is for them to have sided with and helped her out so much like that. Glad she is doing well. I wish the best for the SIL marriage as well.
Finally happy to see there was only one villan, crazy psychotic villian rest all were good people.
Cole is a gaslighter never believe him again about anything If he says its raining look out the window
how many red flags after she married him, does she need before leaving
So to summerize. He shown almost every abusive/controlling parter can show (outside of beating her) and yet the "strong" OP 99.9% would gave stayed and rationale everything if was not the rest of the family "draging her to the water" and made sure "she drank".
Cole played stupid games and
Up winning stupid prizes
Wow, this video was an emotional rollercoaster! The twists and turns in the story kept me hooked from beginning to end.
Cole it’s a piece of you know what I hope Georgina realizes that And leaves him he has no empathy. He doesn’t care about anyone but himself and his needs and wants.
Fact as soon as they got married he was nothing but controlling and didn't want her clothes in their wardrobe, no sign of her throughout the house and started to try dictate what she wore and trying to isolate her are big warning signs. He was looking for a slave not a wife
Why didn't OP password protect her phone?
ignored a lot of red flags, didn't we. and she just v gives ground each time. the ultimate ball and chain control a brat
1st weird thing? boy her bar is low. classic narcissist
The second someone starts talking about how I don’t need so many clothes, shoes, etc, I am out. My money is mine to spend however I see fit. I work hard and therefore will be accepting no comments.
I'm a couple minutes in, and I know the saying is love is blind but damn get some strong eye wash op because this man was/is pos on multiple levels,
I just finished the video, I'm happy he got roasted not only by op's mom,
but his own parents and sister too not once but twice on top of the fact his ap dumped at the same time, and ghost him,
and was forced to give up on dragging it out in court by the judge and his parents, seriously if i was his parents i would give him very little in the inheritance and put a claws into it so he can't even fight it either,
Because he does not need to be rewarded after treating op that way at all, and I'm also glad op finally opened her eyes and got her life back.
I'm so happy, that i'm a very introvert loner 🥳🥰
It often boggles my mind that after telling their rather long stories, the OP would ask if they were the AH. The answers were always painfully obvious.
She has to be blind not see all the red flags. She is better without him. He never respected or loved her. He wanted to control her
Cole is seriously pathological. Something really wrong with him. Run.
Wow… my world just put in words
One of the guys I'd dated tried to police my wardrobe, then who I could talk to and finally he tried to restrict me from talking to any males - even family - so I told him to pound sand. And yhis all happened within ten days of dating.
How many obvious red flags do you need before you just leave the relationship??? smh
it was all downhill at the fact he dodnt like fridge magnets, who doesnt like those? ..lol
The love of her life and then pathetic husband. I'm done listening to this pointless drivel.
She had way too many red flags before to even enter in this marriage
Cole must be cheating
OP, when you post stuff on Reddit, you cannot expect to get no criticisms
I would have called the police on his mistress.
She fell for the okie doke but got her face back.
If you wanted to spend more time with OP he could’ve just asked
U lost ur father and started dating a older man. Not once stopped to think maybe it’s ur loss making u attracted to this guy.
Double the speed and fast forward to the real drama!
I can't believe how he wouldn't let any of her stuff into the house. He didn't compromise on anything. But yet says she was a bad wife. Hmm, I would have told him that if I couldn't incorporate some of my stuff I to the house, then I guess I should just leave and get a divorce. He obviously didn't want to be married. Most people want to have a few of their things around to make it feel like their home too. That would have been the first red flag. But the cloths thing would have been the last straw. And if messages were deleted, it had to be him. I would have left him long before. She was being treated too bad. And usually when someone accuses the other of cheating with NOTHING to back it up, usually it means they are. Guilty conscious. Or shuttle admittance. To pull that crap at her birthday party and yet want her to feel bad for him. Great real!!! Karma! Congrats on the divorce. Glad you still have a friend in his sister and hopefully his parents.
I can't help but wonder what red flags the OP ignored during the dating phase.
I'll lay even odds that Georgina was just the latest in a long line of mistresses.
Und I'll also guarantee you that is exactly *WHY* Cole didn't want anything of the OP's on display in the house. So he could bring is mistress of the day home und not have to explain why a "single" man has girly things in his home.
I also wouldn't be the least bit surprised if Cole tried to baby trap Georgina.
I love the way that the one who is actually cheating tries to accuse their partner of being the cheater.
Is that the first lesson in cheaters school? Gaslighting 101, immediately accuse your partner of cheating to cover your own cheating.
Well looks like she did choose to view the ted flags and 😲 😱 thank goodness she had people who stood by her in the end 😳 op in the future 😳 be awrw of the secrets men keep and live happily ever after with a good man
Empty shoebox? Either a very, very large shoebox or very, very skimpy clothes. Doesn't all add up. Stop whingeing and move on
It sounds like there's chirping in the background
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Some times older ppl r more experienced in life n will use that against the younger n person who has less life experience. I’m talking about the older person manipulating the younger person for their benefit. The older person has years up on manipulation than the younger person.
These type of older people can’t get with ppl their age because it’s a level playing field. Same age or older know the red flags.
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Should have told him about the birth control pills.
He would have tampered with them.
For what? He was already stealthing her? He’d just hide the pills or throw them away
In what state are you allowed to serve your own spouse divorce papers directly?
Only if the guilty party signs a waiver to dismiss formal services otherwise none of the states allow you to do that
That Cole is a piece of work..smh
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