[FULL STORY] I Refused To Invite My Golden Child Brother To My Wedding So My Parents Threatened...
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- I Refused To Invite My Golden Child Brother To My Wedding So My Parents Threatened To Cut Me Off. Then They Tried To Crash The Wedding And Got The Biggest Shock Of Their Lives.
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"just keep the peace" is the cop out people use when they don't really care about your situation or what you've been through.
Yeah OP needs new friends who aren't doormats or people pleasers.
Keeping the peace always comes at the expense of the victims. It's a cowardly stance that enables and emboldens bad people to keep being bad. The victims have to make all the compromises, and just suck it up.
"Don't rock the boat" nah time to capsize
I always tell my friends to go scorched Earth! 😅 because I know, we all need one friend to hate people for us and I support them 100%.
I'll never understand how parents can be so bad at...parenting and sharing love equally between kids...
Sexiest.. the "he won't understand," if you don't give the sainted one half of everything, the "it's your duty as a good daughter to do as I say."
Why were they so desperate to attend? They made it clear they don't like op. Were they hoping for money for the golden child like they did in the past?
Probably. It's also possible that they don't like the fact that their victim child is taking their power away from them. 😒
@@PrincessQ-fj9ly " they don't like the fact that their victim child is taking their power away from them."
That was my first go-to.
Welp always two sides of every story, not to mention people do lie for attention as many of these stories goes to prove.
Also they’re narcissist, narcissist don’t like their bad behavior in public
It’s hard to understand their motives, especially given the past. It seems like they value appearances and control over genuine connection. You deserve a celebration filled with love and support, and it's clear you’ve made the right choice for your happiness. Stay strong and focus on your new beginning.
I would've busted the game console to pieces 😂😂
Or stolen it and sold it. Get that money back. “He should have hidden it better”.
I SWEAR😂😈!!!
Right !!!
Right shit I bought it😂
Then you'd be no better
06:06 "I [OP] long ago stopped wanting or expecting anything from them [OP's parents]." That is the point at which losing all contact with someone becomes a benefit, a feature, rather than a glitch!
Restraining orders aren’t issued on such things.
Why keep the peace when your not part of the family. Family loyalty goes both ways. Letting bygones be bygones is always coming from the narcissistic side , as are all the tears . When drag in extended family shows everyone's colors. Always ask yourself, would I treat my child or family member like this, would I let them be treated like that? If not , act accordingly, LC or NC. A wedding is never a time to mend fences, you do outside of intimate events , where " family " could make a scene.
I would have quit that job before I gave him 1/2 of my paycheck just to be petty. Now none of us have money!!!
That would have only made things worse.
I would have stuck up for myself more but I haven't been in that sort of situation so maybe it wouldn't be as straight forward as I think it would.
This person needs therapy. They're actively being abused by the family while sitting there asking if they're overreacting.
It doesn't help when other family members gaslight the victim.
This person isn't real.
My response would be “I don’t think I’m better than you guys, I’m not trying to feel important. But the three of you have hated me for my entire existence so I’m not going to reach out and be a bother to you three. I know when I am not welcome.”
Amazing what happened when OP matched energy. Suddenly it’s not okay to be indifferent. Cut contact permanently with your parents, Mike and anyone who doesn’t support you.
I don't think, I know.
Why do they want in the wedding so bad when they don't love her?
Because it would look bad on the family if their only daughter didn't want to have them there.
Gotta keep that perfect family image, you know?
Can't allow the outsiders to judge them based on the truth.
Appearances.
@@Littlereddevil94well wait til my mom sees she ain’t invited to mine 😅
Attention and appearances 100%, also revenge too
I am glad Sara and Jake have peace and love. I know what toxic family is like to well.. I am proud she stood her ground..
If you have little or no relationship with with your family, why invite them? Just because they are related doesn't mean you have to like them.
I know right my mom use to say you love family but don’t gotta like em
They wanted to be invited because they didn’t want to lose face in front of the rest of the family. Being excluded would announce to the world that they must have been very garbage parents and brother to be left out of a milestone event. They also didn’t want to acknowledge how deeply they hurt their daughter. People like that never want to admit wrongdoing and never want to take responsibility.
So much gaslighting and dismissal of the OP's feelings and POV is a sigh of sociopath behavior, and "Mike" not seeing any "financial boundaries" is almost psychopathic. The OP did absolutely nothing wrong in this case.
I absolutely know how real this kind of family dynamic is for many like the OP. "Mike" is "almost able" to really get it, but the reality is that he is still making excuses. It is the the ultimate kind of passive aggressive gaslighting: admit just enough of the truth to try and instill guilt enough to make the OP have enough doubts. The fact that "Mike" did the "add three names" proves it.
I am so very glad that her and "Jake's" wedding was so good, and the fact that they had to hire security for the venue, while the right thing, never should have had to be. "Jake" is the total antithesis of "Mike" , and the fact that "Mike" may actually have started "getting it" could be a good thing.
No absolutely not they know they have done the wrong thing
What? Did her family want to come to the wedding so brother could stealing her wedding presents, too???
It's so frustrating when family dynamics put so much pressure on important moments like weddings. It's your day, and you should be surrounded by people who truly support you. Good for you for standing your ground!
"oh scary, im not going to get anything in a will i wasnt going to get shit in anyways"
06:20 "[Some] say I might regret not having my family at my wedding."
What makes anyone think the REAL family of OP won't be at OP's wedding?
The fact that they treated her badly? That they favored her brother more than her?
@@Really_RobyI think that they mean that the “real family” are in-laws and friends who truly care about OP.
The missing savings is theft. I would have taken him to small claims court.
It's insane that the golden child always also shows resentment
This is what golden children always do. They're highly resentful of the other "left behind" siblings
Good for you for standing up for yourself! It’s so exhausting when parents blindly favor the ‘golden child’ and expect everyone else to go along with it. It sounds like they underestimated your strength and didn’t expect you to actually follow through. Not inviting your brother must have been a tough call, but it’s clear you wanted a drama-free wedding surrounded by people who genuinely support you. I hope this was a wake-up call for your family to start respecting your boundaries. You deserve happiness on your big day without all that negativity!
Me personally, I would’ve taken the console and it be gone and sold on eBay 💀
In my family, it'd be
Game Console, meet Hammer.
@@southernflight5078 There were times as a child that I destroyed my own property to keep it out of my siblings' hands.
@@southernflight5078 🎸🎶🎵”Sledge-HAM-MER!”
@@snidecommenter7117 Ah, the Pyrrhic victory! Nice! 👍
Yeah and I would have said “He should have hid it better!”
Congratulations on your marriage and breaking away from your toxic family! Best wishes for the future. But down the road, your family will try to barge back into your life guaranteed if you have a baby and they'll want access to 'their grandchild'. Don't let them. They'll only want to control and manipulate your child and try to turn him or her against you. Continue to keep your toxic FOO out of your life and everything about it. Again, happiness and success for the future.
My favorite part was when the AI got confused and decided that "Mike" broke a camera instead of stealing the money to buy one. 😂
Thank you for validating my rage. I thought I was tripping.
I know everything is fake now but FFS lmao
Ah another story about two children being treated completely different and unfairly. That must be very hard... I always wanted siblings but hearing stories like this makes me think it´s way better being alone.
Another “Do it for Dan.”
The problem with people that have been abused for a long time is that they start believing the abusers. OP's thoughts of guilt are because they have almost been brainwashed. I imagine seeing Jake and his family dynamic is what has broken the washing. Well done OP.
OP if you see this don't buy into any of your brother's "apology emails" he hasn't changed he just wants his punching bag back as seen by the fact he that he still couldn't respect your wishes along with the rest of your family I mean I wouldn't be surprised if your parents were writing those emails trying to make your brother seem sorry and pitiable.
why do all of these stories have so much gd therapy speak in them? does anybody talk or write like a real person anymore?
Its every story. Gotta he ai or fiction
No.
You do realize almost all of these were written by AI right?
Maybe it's because she's going to therapy?
Generated by AI for entertainment purposes.
Mom and Dad. Bro already had 1/2 of my income. You did nothing but take from me. Keep the peace and let bygones be bygones are for mistakes or one time actions, not constantly outting you down. Any other relatives call about it, ask them, are you going to pay back the $ they took. Do you think getting son a bike on my birthday is ok? Do you support them? If so zone go with them. Good bye.
The golden child constantly displaying bitterness is absurd
Golden Child is probably a narcissist and playing victim.
Stories remind us that even in the darkest times, there’s always hope ✨
Did I just hear that he used to borrow her clothes
That little perv.
She probably wore hoodies or t-shirts that were for men, or unisex.. or it's just an AI genereated story and got it mixed up.
My mom would justify not celebrating me being on the honor roll by saying that it was easy for me to get a’s and b’s. By high school she wanted me to be at college level. She complained about the length of my graduation ceremony.
The storytelling in this episode was top-notch. I felt like I was right there in the moment.
Those friends suggesting she should invite them to keep the peace should no longer be friends
Jealous of him lmfao why would anyone be jealous of a spoiled mediocre waste of space
They are worried about WHAT PEOPLE WILL SAY.
I always ask myself why do people always say “you’re breaking the family apart” as though it has to be blown out of proportion. If you don’t create narratives with relatives & tell lies then no family gets broken apart.
Big back Mike needed that bike bro not surprised if he’s on “my 600 pound life.”
As far as I’m concerned, that young woman’s parents failed both of their children. Bad parenting all the way around.
"We'll cut you out of the will if you don't invite us!"
"Oh you mean I'm still in it? You haven't had it rewritten so Mike gets everything and all I get is a kick in the ass and a 'better luck next time'?"
It's not your fault it's your parents fault because they favored The Golden child brother over her and they threatened her to give her savings to her Golden child brother and that's not right and they should pay for their actions and go to hell for what they have done to her and if you guys can't see that then you guys are delusional and they don't deserve anything for favorite The Golden child brother over her and they gaslighting her and they crashed the wedding and you don't have to apologize for anything.
I have watched 3 “different” stories in a row where the couple took a trip to a local beach town and explored local restaurants.
I’m all for the fake stories for catharsis sake, but at least make them a tad more original. Maybe a ski trip every now and then to spice things up.
should have hide your money better, should have gotten the money back from their parents. Hell with anyone who says "keep the peace" what about the victims peace NOT AITH
2:00 the parents could've just give Mike spending money a lot more than OP
its always going to workplace un announced with family photo album they are all the same😂
If you Have a Favorite Child, You're Not a Good Parent at All
7:28 seeing the small cafe fills you with DETERMINATION
Maybe giving them a last chance would help get closure. But your wedding is not the place to get it.
16:58 the way he had to fly to get over the parkour
He did it on the honey block part later on
This story must be fake, the details are inconsistant. First they're going to a nearby beach resort for their honeymoon and next thing they're going to Greece for two weeks.
Or the vivid descriptions of before and after the birth of her brother. He was supposedly born when she was 3
Give jake an Oscar.
WOW. Entitled parents, entitled younger kid...how did the older kid avoid being that way? Makes no sense.
Putting the foot down and being immovable, completely refusing to budge on something, is difficult to do. Props for that. People need to learn to stand up for themselves against trolls and bullies. That was the cool part. Too bad the bullies were the OP's family members...that's REALLY hard to deal with.
Her family are so nice that when she went with her fiance on a trip for few days before wedding to comfort herself none of them called to disturb her but the moment she's back everyone started calling her again coming to her office.
I'd have reported Mike to police for theft.
Bro op is getting me mad she keeps saying “what if I’m overreacting?” “I don’t wanna take legal action against my family”. Bro stfu and do what’s right.
When you're been brainwashed and beaten down that long, it's hard to let go.
you should uninvite all the fam if they can’t listen to your wishes and also marry without them
This is the situation when they ask you "You think you're better than us?" You say "YES! I'm not the one who played favorites with my children, neglected, emotionally abused, and made ridiculous demands of one of them why coddling and teaching the other it's fine to abuse her as well. And also not the one who are too weak to build themselves up instead of cutting someone else down, and can't seem to be happy when that punching bag gets taking away. I'm manifestly better than you!"
That's what you say to that.
Where he broke the camera she didn't buy? With the money he spent on his game system?
Good catch 😮😮
I think the parents wanted to make OP's wedding about them and Mike. They would have done something to spite OP an up life the golden child. Why else was Mike wanting to go so badly? He would have probably tried to take the Bestman's spot and dad would have felt like he got to walk OP down the aisle.
How is not inviting them tearingvthe damily apart? Frim what i can make out the "parents" and brother dont consider her part of the family
I thought Mike had stolen the money for OP's camera and not broken it?
Could be a mistake trying to recall things like may be she had saved up money but he stole the money , thus forcing her to save up again ( but for got to mention that part ) & he broke the camera once she had it or may be a friend got her a camera & he broke that one & she got things mixed up...some thing like that 🤷♀️
No! They will ruin it!! They never let you have anything without spoiling it!!
Do it for Dan !!!!
Hearing this, I had to wonder if your parents who always get what you want most, but then they just hand it over to your brother. Are they trying to say their son is gay ? Is the only reason your little brother is there is so that he gets to marry your fiancée? You know your brother is there so he prevents you from being so selfish? Your parents tell everyone that their little boy deserves your fiance and not you. I kept thinking there has to be a reason the three are insisting on attending the wedding. But if your brother is your replacement, does he try to wear the wedding dress? Uh oh, your husband 2B is giving me the “you’re dead to me” eyes. Be glad you refused to let them into the wedding.
So Mike stole sara's clothes?
No don't give them a chance
"One last chance" to do what make a seen as the wedding, and really giving you something to regret?
The parents and brother know better they just only see them as the good guys
Honestly, if the choice for me was give half my money away or quit, I would have quit… Unless I could lie and say I quit, and joined a sports team. But continued to work. And never invite them to my games.
And when they told me I should’ve hidden my money better, I’d steal money from them and the brother. And when they say something, I’d say, “You should’ve hidden it better.”
Whenever one of these has the part where they go “my fiance supports my decision to not bring *blank*” I always laugh inside. Like yeah, of course buddy wants nothing to do with this shit show, who would 😂
If you really feel bad about what youve done, dont just "offer" to pay for the camera. Pay it now, no strings attached
This shit is basically a copypasta at this point, there's like at least 10 other stories that are almost exactly the same. Minus a few characters' roles switched around.
There's a thing called the Narcissist playbook. It's not that varied. They all behave, most of the time, the same. I can tell you that I know a friend whose mother was a combination of Narc and Borderline. I had another friend who had a similar mother. They could predict what each other's mother would say, minus the phrasing, all the time.
Can't they at least try to keep the story details straight when they upload these stories? It clearly says the brother stole the money she had saved for a camera, so she was not able to buy it, but then later the brother is apologizing for breaking the non-existent camera and even "looked up the model and how much it's worth now" to try to replace it. How the hell does he even know or remember what kind of model she wanted to get?! I call BS on this story.
I would have moved away from them and not give my address. I would tell my fiance they aren't invited. I would block them. So she couldn't harass me.
things like this. make me lose all faith in humanity
Doubtful she was in the will in the first place
the parents are terrible horrible people Why do they want in the wedding so bad when they don't care / love her ??????? I would have quit that job before I gave him 1/2 of my paycheck just to be petty. Now none of us have money!!! If you have little to no relationship with with your family, why invite them? Just because they are related doesn't mean you have to like them. plus your brother stole your savings you should have got the cops involved horrible horrible people
This is one of my favorite ai voices
Yeah, insult me while questioning why not invited to your wedding!
0:29 Things like this make me doubt the validity of the story. It's not a bad story, it just feels more engaging if you can believe it's real.
You do not remember your parents being more doting when you were 0-3 years old. The brother is only 3 years younger.
If people respect you as family, friend, or relative, then respect those wishes, and don't try to poke your nose where it doesn't belong. Family, friends, and relatives telling you to be the bigger person, just ask them if they were there for you when you suffered, and if they could undo what happened to you back then, and if they can't then they have no authority or rights to speak about your pain and suffering.
it's so cool how people can do this parkour in Minecraft
At what point should the parents stop and think that maybe we were horrible parents to her and never cared about her. To not be one told your daughters getting married, and two not be invited, you find out from other family members they got invitations and you didn’t, that should have been a wake up call to change.
This reads parents wanted a boy, finally got one, now boy is head of the family. This screams of an Asian family or even Nigerian, where they treat women as less than period.
Glad OP has support on her end, and got the last stance. I would have treated it like a K-Drama, me and my bridesmaids would make an appearance in the lobby getting ready, and having my fiancés father walk me into a venue filled with people who are happy and cheering for me, in front of them. Because you know how they would make the event all about them, and demand so much after giving you so little. But also, they would realize too, how much they actually don’t know about you and feel casted out as everyone focus on you and your husband and not give them the fuel they need.
It could be younger sibling syndrome. Or something else
Take his gameing system and sell it. Its your by rights
This story sounds oddly similar to several other stories
I question how well someone remembers feeling loved and supported by their parents twenty seven years ago at the age of three. This seems like another story written by ChatGPT.
They are gonna respect it now after they failed to crash the wedding? Like wtf? Nah you had every chance to respect it before then.
Trying to respect ops disiouns to have to contact after trying to crash the wedding is next level of narcissistic behavior
Man therapist make good money on people who feel the need to waste money on something useless.
I would quit! Put a lock on my door to my room. I would refuse to share! I would get a new back account they didn't know about.
This story sounds like a similar one so I do believe it is not a real one
This shit is crazy, like i can't believe some people can be soooooo not self aware about their poor behaviour.
Can we get a new VA? Someone who doesn’t sound like she’s about to break down crying? It’s unprofessional and grating to listen to.
That is so stupid I have a brother as well and I am the youngest I am happy that my parents aren’t like that I fell bad for you😢
In some ways it's too bad OP hadn't forseen the attempt to get added to the guest list.
Talk to the venue people and create a second list. A 'persona non gratia' list.
Then, if someone calls trying to add those names... "Ah yes. Not a problem. You are already on a list. Have a nice day."
Then, if/when they show up at the wedding, security will be instructed to tell them which list they are on.
ahahhahaa
Stolen money vs broken camera. This AI is a disgrace
And then it fumled the honeymoon. Delete yourself
*fumbled
Was this ai narrator fed on two hot takes' voice? Lots of pieces sound so much like her...
You should've disputed the charge for the gaming consol
Finally a girl voice that isn’t in a short
That gaming console bought with my money would have found itself on eBay or in pieces
did I hear right?your brother would wear your cloths?? Don't let them come to your wedding your wedding your day your way enjoy your happiness❤ they never cared and if they can then go money over your head they think they've got you they've got you under control tell them to keep it give it to Mike go on and live your best life be happy God bless