What Men REALLY Look for In a Woman (Interview with John Gray)
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- Understanding the opposite sex...it’s no easy task.
There are certain books and podcasts I consider to be MUST-READS when it comes to changing what you know about men.
The book Men are From Mars, Women Are From Venus written by Dr. John Gray is one of them!
Dr. Gray’s book taught a generation that men and women want different things from communication and relationships.
The interesting thing is…Dr. Gray spoke with me last month about where our culture is now, and what men really want from a woman in 2022.
Some things have changed. Some things have not!
If you want sage advice on what men want from women in the modern era, listen to my interview with Dr. Gray!
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Thank you so much for letting Dr John Gray talk, and not interrupting him, and quenching his message, like so many people do! I got SO much, from just by listening to his uninterrupted flow. This is one of my favorite interviews with Dr John Gray. Thank you for that! 🥰
So happy you enjoyed it! And thanks for the feedback. He's truly a legend
This was a great interview
He is so right. How can I book an appointment to see him.
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Spent 15 years trying to figure out my husband and Dr. Gray explains it in 1 hour. Where have you been all my life? :) so glad to have this valuable insight!
Happy to help! I know he is SO full of wisdom.
Mama the most incredible woman God ever put on earth met Dad when she was 10 and he was 12 and decided she would marry him. Married at 17 and 19. 3 kids kept her figure through 91 till death. Said she and Dad had a romantic relationship to the end and I have photos of them when he was already diagnosed (doctor error so really sad) with terminal cancer and they were still out having coffee and laughing hysterically hand clapping laughing!!! AND passionately kissing at 78 and 80 after 68 years together!!! She was always a lady !!! Looked great everyday and the house looked great!!! And Dad and her had a great time even in the worst of times!! Daddy loved a good time!!! They knew how to live!!!!
What a glorious story! Thanks for sharing!
KDK you are desribing my relationship with my mate too and my grandparents...sadly it skipped my parents generation. We had passion literally right up to when my mate died a few mos ago at 80. Actually the last year was the very best...surpassing our incredible first few years. We always enjoyed sex..loved each other...had total faith in each other period.
What a blessing to have a family like that
So lucky you are to have lovely parents. You were truly blessed. 🤗
I could listen to John Gray all day. And, what a great host and listener Barbara is. I thank the both of you.
John Gray is the only man that really expoumds on the details of our desires with men
and women
And Barbara, thanks for letting him talk with your cheerful attitude!
Hate it ended abruptly could listen to Jon for hours and hours!! Learning so much….
This should be taught in schools
At least in high school!
High school yes. Let the other kids be kids...
Dr. Gray is such a legend! Brave man.
I try to have him on once or twice a year! I love him too.
This man or Dr I should say because he def earned it, should run for President. No joke. He is Soo smart and ahead of everyone else truly. He is what this world needs!!! He has the answers to everything that is wrong in this world!!!!
I just listened to more of this, and wow this man is incredible. He speaks such profound truth.
Bonnie his wife that passed must have been remarkable!!!! RIP !! God keep her always. Thank you Bonnie, you help make the smartest man possible. Amen.
He did love her.
Great chat I appreciated to hear John speak in flow with minimum interruption’s 💎 Thank you 🙏 very interesting & informative ❤️
I love this man! He makes so much sense and is so easy to understand. He’s absolutely right that there’s a lot of lies going on that you can pick your gender and gender doesn’t exist. There are definitely differences between genders. I’m glad I could comment on this video and express how much I love John Gray’s voice of truth because he doesn’t allow comments on his own channel.
yes,you are so right,it is very courageous nowadays to speak the truth.to be someone well known and speak the truth is almost beyond imagination,public opinion will lynch you.our culture is ruled by political corectness and not by truth or even by common sense.we should all be aware and concerned about what the future will bring if we will continue on this path.
Never complain to your partner always use positive words !!
How do you poditively say stop beating me up ???
One word: WISDOM !!!
I love that you enjoyed him as much as I did!!!
Listening to the latest on dropping testosterone due to environmental factors, it’s so helpful to know what I can do to help counter that and help us both. Thank you!
Glad you like it!!
In this session i have been able to connect with John Gray ever than before....thanks to the interviewer her best listening techniques and minimals that are making John talk more and more. GREAT!!!!
Such true words...John is such a saint to relationships
Amazing talk😍🤩! John you are so generous with your time and I can listen for hours! I feel extremely blessed to have found this channel! So much insights to be used with my future husband. Thank you very much indeed!
Wonderful! Glad you liked him!
John is the best and interesting relationship advisor I have meant so far. I like his positive perspective about human relationships.
I know right? John is a total Gem. He's incredibly wise. So glad I could bring this interview to you!
Mr. John Gray is one of the best
An amazing talk by John, as usual
Fantastic talk! Thank you for sharing ✨
Why stop? I want to hear more! This man is amazing 🙏💞
I try to get him every few months! He's one of my favorites!
I started listening to Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus and decided to look the author up. Always thought it was kind of a sitcom view on relationships. "Man go oogah boogah" kind of stuff. And yeah, we do kind of do that sometimes, but it's presented with a lot more nuance.
It appears most of his interviews are dealing with dating from the woman's perspective, although there's enough good information in there that applies to both. (Plus, it's kind of like sneaking into the other team's huddle so you can find out their game plan.)
I'm 100% guilty of going into my cave when I'm angry or stressed. I have definitely ended a few relationships prematurely because of that. Apparently women take it personally when you disappear for a week and then re-appear and pick up where you left off. 😅 Of course, understanding how women view communication it makes total sense.
Haha thanks for the comment. You're funny in your ownership of how it doesn't work for women when a man disappears. Something like a rare and beautiful diamond in a man. Sounds like you are well on your way to embodying your true and strong masculinity. So glad to hear your side and I respect you for taking the time to provide such a well thought out comment. Thanks for watching!
hello, as you are a man in this thread and watching this type of content I wanted to ask you:
why do me watch porn?
and if a woman dating you asks you if you watch porn, would you tell her you do (in case you do)?
thank you so much for you valuable help and male point of view
@@user-cz9dh4yy3g Hi Ng, men can watch porn for a lot of different reasons. A lot of times it's just boredom or habit. Or men will watch porn because they are depressed.
I used to watch porn but I no longer do. I never hid it or lied about it to my girlfriends. I didn't watch it because I was unattracted to my girlfriends. I watched it because I was bored.
I found that porn did negatively impact me so I quit. The website called "Fight The New Drug" and a free ebook called "The Easy Peasy Way To Quit Porn" both helped a lot.
Love John Gray! 💃🏻🥰❤️⭐️ Miss his TH-cam channel he had. Pure wisdom.
one of the best interviews of John Gray out there, thank you so much!
Thank you fro sharing Dr Gray's information can help me down the road.
Vowww im so excited to hear a public figure, an important writer speaking up against whats going on in the world today!!! How amazing! Thank you very muchhh!!!
I know. It floored and excited me. So many people are aware of it that we just don’t know about. It’s encouraging. I felt so happy to talk to John
@@DatingCoachBarbaraSanten 👌thank you for this interview🍀
John Gray is so full of wisdom 🙏🏼✨
I know. He’s the OG!
Wow, preach it Dr Grey! I love you even more now!! That was one major download! So happy to hear you have a new partner after loosing your beloved wife. ❤️
Isn't he awesome! Thanks for your kind comment!
This is So Good!
Isn't it awesome!??
Very good content. Encouraging for everyone!!! Thank you.
Maryletha I'm glad it encouraged you!!
thanks for the reminder
Watched all john's interviews on yt i could find. This one is by far one of the best.
Thank you for saying that! I just finished another with him! I'll post that one soon!
I don’t know what to do anymore. Dating is so complicated
@Kika Taye give my assistant Diane Byon a call. She can get you on my calendar for a talk.
Excellence!
Brilliance!
Superb!
Thank you!!!!
Thank you Jen! I’d love to offer you a 10 min call on Monday. I am opening up Monday for Black Friday sale so you guys can still benefit if you choose. Here’s my link: calendly.com/barbara-114/screening_call
Many blessings to you John for all you do to help people.
Pity he isn't telling men to be more responsive to women. It's always us who have to adapt and bend and allow.
He has said it in this session how a man should fully present if a women request 10mins or so ... to express out her concerns and he said it's romantic way for both to connect get inside each other's world
God man woman children. That’s the order. Women are the help mates. Men are the leaders.
Spectacular! I’m going to listen to this again. What an eye opener! Thank you! 🙏🏻👏🏻👏🏻🌺 And yes losing a spouse as tragic as it is makes you a better person. I know when I see my husband again, and I will…. I will be a better woman. His death has taught me a lot. I have looked back on certain aspects of my marriage and now with that knowledge that I have gained through his death I can polish those edges and I will have more education and be better for my next opportunity .
I"m glad you learned from it. I"m sorry for your loss. And yes, it will make you a spectacular partner for the next lucky gentleman!
Love this content and both your energy.
Thank you for this knowledge ❤️
@Lilibeth Neito thank you for your sweet comment. It means the world to me.
I admire for your profile and it’s nice meeting here I’m Ibrahim from Egypt 39 years old it would be nice getting to know you if that’s ok for you
John Gray has so much wisdom! What he said about the vaccine is spot on!
Agreed. He’s brilliant
Thank you so very much Dr Gray! You are changing my life for the better☺
So glad!
Thank you!
Facts!! Now a days woman and man forgot their role and this new feminist movement helps no one and has nothing to do with feminism
I totally agree. Thanks for the comment
The feminist movement was funded by the FBI.....it was a carefully thought out agenda by the cabal...,Artificial intelligence versus biological intelligence...God against CABAL
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@@wuzzyfuzzy8572 lol true! Thanks
I’m a woman and I completely agree with everything John Gray says.
Except I will say this Women need to meditate more to listen to their intuition and inner guidance. Not go to counseling.
I have already been down the path of what doesn’t work with men. I see why my relationships didn’t go any further.
I was too independent and too much in my masculine because I had to be. I was trained to be like that from childhood.
I’m not going into the story because it’s what I understand now that’s important.
I actually live with 7 men two are gay. Masculine gays actually. With feminine attributes though.
I see everything John is saying and I understand now why I’m living with seven men. They are just housemates that’s all nothing intimate because that’s not why I’m here.
They have no idea how much I have grown and healed. Just there presence in the house has been more than enough for me.
Yes they have their problematic behaviours if they get emotional. Addictions etc.
I think my presence softens their anxieties even though I know they don’t want to talk about what’s bothering them too much.
All of this makes so much sense. It’s gold 😊
Thank you so much ♥️🌻🌸🌻🙃🤩👏👏👏👏
Thank you 👏👏👏👏👍🙂
Thank you 😊
You're welcome 😊 He is back for another interview!!
You make so much sense. Thank you. The 💡 went on
Sara thank you for your comment - it's why I do what I do.
I was with a man who seemed to be more interested in me when I was having problems. I also noticed that many of his exes were basket cases. He stayed with them the longest but the women who were confident and didn't have a lot of issues seemed to not get his attention much.
Who’s “he”? You refer to a he but I don’t understand the context
@@DatingCoachBarbaraSantenHer ex. That seems quite obvious to me.
maybe he was addicted to the drama of his crazy exes
Excellent
Thanks...I have another interview coming up with John and I'm very excited to publish it!! This man is pure gold.
Too much sex kills sex… WOOOOOOOOW
Yes when any of us are upset we should take time to reflect on what we need to focus on which is the matter at hand that we're trying to have understood or accomplished that's why men take breaks and that's why women should also do that to reflect on what their needs are so they can just stay their needs and why those needs are important. I like what John said when a man says to a woman well why are you feeling like this blah blah blah just blah that's what a man would say to another man and the same thing with a woman rushing to a man going what's wrong why are you feel this way blah blah that's how women treat other women
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Excellent! ❤❤❤👍👍👍🙏🙏🙏
Thank you! Cheers!
WOW. He is so talkative to be a man🫣
True right?
Whaw, just whaw!! ❤️🤩
"Bonnie hit the dog" got stuck in my mind and now it's hard for me to concentrate further
Same here! I'm like how can you hit the dog!???
First , men should want to be with or want to love you otherwise non of things dont work. I met a guy, and as he said, i was amazing, cooking for him , taking care of him when he got sick, etc... but I found he was still in a relationship. I said i am out, then he convinced me that their relationship had finished for a long time but not officially and she is like dead to her, no feelings for her at all, and one day came and told they are officially done. We start dating again but in our 3 months dating, despite all he claimed didn't have before, i found he was cheating with ex and were seeing each other. So he made an upset and angry woman of me. Byt, i left him immediately when i saw their texts and found out the truth.
When you found out that he was in a relationship you should’ve left him 😢 he is an awful man but that’s not all man. Why did you entertain him after the excuses he told you? Yet alone cook for him☹️
What an enlightening interview. Thank you so much💖
He doesn’t need nobody to interview him. He just have to open his own camera and start talking ! Man, this man talks! Please breathe!
😜😜😜yep he really took the stage.
That's because he's so passionate about this. I Love and appreciate his knowledge so much.
He has knowledge and passion in what he teaches ,Bless his heart ❤️
Love John Gary
Right? ME too!
Right??? He's such a gem! So full of wisdom!
*Gray
Love this
I have to meet this man.
He is great! I love having him!
Great info though
58:00 very important
I've never liked this book. I was not drawn to read it and when I opened it to check it out, whatever sentences I glanced on did not interests or intrigued me to keep reading. I'm not here to "please" men, or a man - that is not what real Love is. Therefore, I've never been interested in what John Gray had to say but I'm glad that people has been helped by him.
Are you in a happy relationship Brenda?
@@DatingCoachBarbaraSanten I'm happy with my family and friends relationships. I'm happily fulfilling my deep heart-soul desire of being on my path of evolution of continuous learning and healing and inner-growth to oneness and expansion of wholeness. If you are asking about a personal/sexual relationship - I do not have one, and I do not have the time (nor care to make the time) to make the effort to "find" one.
If I tabled a mandate will I get a date ??
Holy moly soooo many advertisement disruptions!
Men are actors and they will say and do anything to get the cookie. It's not good for women to talk too much specially if she's only dating. Also, being a mother and a wife is a job
Honestly does he have a channel, it cuts off at the best part ugh.
12:50
Wow! 😮 This has smacked me on the face! I have such a high sexual drive, I gotta have it at least 3 times a week! 🥺 I really need to integrate this information..
Read the book Cupid’s Poisoned Arrow. You’ll be floored!
Love Dr. Gray! We are like brothers from another mother.
Both of us are 70 and both us have married women from China that are quite a bit younger. I have been married longer but I feel like there is still so much to work on. He must have insights!
I wish he would discuss how he has handled the differences he has experienced in his relationship - especially the age difference. John is 71. his wife is almost 40. How did he blend the two families. My daughter is still struggling to accept my new wife. (They are similar in age.)
Yes these are real issues. Perhaps my next interview with John I can address this. You are certainly not the only one with an age gap. I have one of 15 years with my man!
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I understand the concept of testosterone levels increasing after 6 days being healthy for both partners. I’ve been in a few relationships, and every single man expected sex everyday, some multiple times in a day. Or at least every time we were together, say 4 times a week. I wonder if this reflects a sex/porn addiction, and may explain why several of them could not ejaculate, ever. I haven’t spoken to a single man who WAS willing to have sex only once a week. Perhaps that is my signal to move along
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Exactly!?! Experience the same!!! The thing is also these men get less romantic and passionate, it is more sex for sex than love making, they do not romance the woman and so my interest in sex drops,
Lol. Not my experience. In marriage relationship, men's testosterone drops and once a week is about the going rate. I wish it was more.
He really means it’s best to only ejaculate 1 time a week. Otherwise he can have as much sex as he wants.
@@nathalie5238 so don’t have a partner. You’re not looking at the revolutionary reasons for what you were complaining about.
The title and the talk is different
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Try Why We Sleep and The Sleep Solution.
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Can any dating coach out there talk about the elephant in the room, modern day porn and how to set boundaries? Its a huge problem. Please advice John Gray. I’ve dated two, one man who hid it from me for 9 months..it was so damaging to my view of men. A few of my friends are married to men who prefer porn, don’t have sex w/partner much. ❤ How can a woman navigate this?
OMG this is a HUGEEEE issue indeed. I'd be happy to talk about this with John next time I interview him or other experts in the future. I talk about this inside my private groups a lot. I too had a partner addicted to porn and preferred it over having sex with me. I left him over it
Where is this Ted talk John??? With the red shirt? I need it in my life. But no one is answering me on any of these videos???
TH-cam. Mars brain, Venous brain: John Gray at TEDxBend
Cats come to you when they need something, attention,food water and you when you give them what they need when they come to you because they'll purrrr
I believe it was Voltaire who said "He who can get you to believe absurdities can get you to commit atrocities." This is happening right now in NYC with the absurdity of he v a x class and the masked class screaming Science, and there is no convincing them how untrue it all is. Sometimes it still feels as if it's all a bad dream. Two and half years unemployed I finally found a job. No Broadway for me.! I have to travel by train for one and half hours to get there but it pays more then welfare. This is insanity. Thanks for bring it up, John.
I hear you. John is a legend. And I’m in toronto it’s f-ing insane here what people believe. Thanks for commenting Kimberly 💕
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good lookin
good cookin
good nature
I found the info re; testorone sp helpful but my person is an alpha male deeply Catholic 3 daughters avid for his attention and just retired as a phychiatrist sp I've known him for 16 year his wife died 10 years ago and we have been dancing around both of us until he is no longer bound by very important boundaries ,... he loves me we have lunch he wants me ... I don;t care
i simply love him back. Sometimes there are no rules or in my case I had a great Dad ....
I'm glad you found it helpful!
Whipping kids is never a solution to a problem... Having lower level of consciousness does not make wrong action justifiable. How many walk emotionally crippled due to mistreatments in their childhoods:((
Very interesting!
I was surprised when Dr Grey said men’s testosteron go up again after 6 days of abstinence. But most men want sex on a daily basis, well line does. What does that tell about his testosteron? And yes he wants sex daily yet is not that romantic and so my interest drops… annoying situation.
I totally hear you! There are lots of resources to help with this. Your interest drops because you’re not satisfied. You get to discover your needs and he gets to learn how to last longer. Look up Kim Anami. She teaches this stuff. She’s amazing!
Define what you want in romance. Seriously, what do you consider romantic?
Daily shows it's more about himself not you ....I think you need to express your feelings to him about this the right time how you can make sex more enjoyable and fulfilling for you both
I understand what he’s saying about sex and letting testosterone build back up. But OMG, what if you want it again before 6 days? Im talking being in a committed relationship…
There’s an art to having sex but not wasting your sexual energy every time. This is more tantric principles and sexual mastery
Men are designed to solving problems,dont make him the problem, dont judge him,Tell him you really need to talk about this stuation out ,it isnt a big deal, I just want you to listen ,and get some hug to cool myseif off😅😅😅❤❤🎉🎉
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And then, HE talks for a year. Nope, nope, nope. I'd rather be alone.
Is there a helicopter in the sky ? It must be a hell of a cop to her we need justice !!
I get the fact dnt give it up too early but women have needs too like what are we supposed to do when we wanna be touched and he touching you 🙈😩
He’s right, it’s a total police state here in California. I hate this place.
This is so golden!!!! But My SO, is out of town all year long, so when he comes home we just want to have sex and be with each other. So my question is how do we wait a whole week? I need more tips for long distance committed stuff. Bc we are happy and I know all about all this. But after not being together for months, our hormones are through the roof. So I guess it’s different for everyone.
Thanks for the comment. Yes long distance is difficult and it sounds like you’re really making it work 💕
How horrifying: you married a woman who called the dog over to HIT him?
Ehhhh. I have sex many times first dates and I was interested and dated for years until we didn’t work out.
You’re on your feminine side from having many sexual partners and sexual desensitization
Why no Uranus?? Lol😊
Haha...
Which books I wonder would be good about orgasm without ejaculation?
That's not really my area of expertise!
😂😂 her response LMBO