My grief is the loss of my husband. We were married for 43 years. We lived in the same house for all those years. I was afraid to get rid of things. I find it a win now no matter how little I get rid of. It took me awhile to get to this place. He was a pack rat. I love forward to your videos. They are a great help. Thanks 17:34
Thank you Laura, this message is very timely for me! I too made a transatlantic move in my late 20s, but in the other direction. I literally took 4 suitcases, my dog and my cat. That was it, and it was so freeing! Now, some 20 plus years later I am drowning in stuff. The years since the start of the pandemic have been brutal with depression, anxiety and loss of friends and job and I am struggling. I am getting better, with help, but my house is a cluttered and dirty mess. It feels unsurmountable but I know that if I do just a little bit each day it will get progressively easier and I will get there.
I FEEL TRAPPED!!! I have most of my late parents things not only in my home,but a storage unit! My depression has gotten worse over a period of years and I’m OVER IT!! I also have other family members crap in my house and am sick of it! When I mention a clean up weekend,they laugh. I have2 dumpsters coming in a week!!! Let’s see how they react to that 😉
That is a good idea to give them a deadline for picking up their stuff and having those dumpsters ready. I am so happy to hear that you are taking back ownership of your home in this way! May you find a lightness of heart and mind with this transition. Hold fast to the fact that it is your home so that you can make these choices💕
This was so great! I am preparing to move next Summer and need SO much decluttering to do it. While watching this I tried on all my dress-shoe socks to see what to declutter. Small, but necessary task. It helped me not get overwhelmed with relating to so many of the situations you mentioned. Thank you!
Laura, I would love it if you did a little series with a whole video for each of the 9 different types of clutter and how to tackle each particular type effectively. Please with cherries on top 🍒 Love to Jovie from my Hoodlum Hounds.
I remember the beginning of your decluttering journey. I have loved seeing the progress you have made and continue to maintain as well as the 'lightness of your soul' now.
Who knew that what started out as simply trying to reduce some of the unused items in my home would lead to such a life changing experience. For myself, gaining control of my physical space has had a profound effect on my mental state of mind. Someone said that your stuff makes you sick. One month ago I wouldn’t have known what that meant, but I totally get it now. Thank you for your honesty and insight. ❤
My employer paid for my transatlantic move so I could move with what I had. Now I wish I had downsized beforehand. Over the last few years I realized I had been holding on to things I really don't need.
I totally understand your story about your friend saying "sure"! I'm from Kentucky, yet I've never understood when people use that word like that. To me, "sure" indicates a doubtful/hesitant yes (like you described), or an agreement to a question, for instance, "would you like to go to the park?" "Sure!" Saying sure to someone who just told you when they're arriving just doesn't make sense to me 😂 "ok!" Or "sounds good!" are better responses. Saying sure in this case sounds out of context or at the very least sarcastic, like they expect you to run late. I don't know, maybe it's just me 😅 whenever someone uses sure like that to me, I just tell myself they meant "ok" and move on lol
My reaction is more like, "Oh, crap!" I test as 99-100% introvert. Springing any surprise on me is hair-raising for me; telling me that you're about to invade my personal space uninvited is just not done.
I am happy for you. ❤ so glad i found you looking for konmari videos back in the day. And even though that process was not meant for me😂... You were my favorite. I love how you share your thinking process and perspective. I feel like a lot of us is kind of a bit of an odd couple but in a completimentary way. I am a type B extrovert and you are a type A introvert. I dont read ever and you love books, you wear rainbow and jave teheh coolest wardrobe and i wear black and have a really minimal closet. I weny to culinary school and you arent at jome in a kitchen. You have your shit together and i dont. 😂 you are productive and sucessful and i am usually just gettkng through the day to day stuff. I adore you and all the great amazing things you have done and i am so glad that letting go has given you so much and all of us yoo. 🙂. ❤ You rock. And we do both love rainbows so we will always have that. 😊 🌈
I love this video. It must been a big change moving to the States initially and I didn't know you had all this trouble. My sister moved from Ireland to Australia years ago and she had to fill out so many forms and documents. The process seemed very arduous to me. Ps I love the way you told your friend about saying 'sure', it's good she heard the story, because it creates so much clarity. Yes Americans are more direct than us Irish and I quite like like that about them.
I lost my happiness and control of my house when my mom died. Still haven't gotten it back yet. I'm working on it but life seems pretty pointless right now.
Deep grief has no expiration date. Nor do the "stages of grief" occur in some sort of order. It's heartwrencing . For me, it felt ( and many years later) still feels almost surreal. Sending you comforting thoughts. Please try to give yourself grace in any capacity you can.
I can relate when my mom passed I couldn’t do anything. My life as I knew it was over. My mom was gone. Not a good time in my life. It’s been 30 some years since I lost her. Things get easier as time passes. But, there is not a day that goes by I don’t think about her.
I'm from the US (mostly of Irish descent) and if someone texted "sure" I would've thought the same thing you did, Laura! I would have dissected that and consulted friends and wrung my hands! No smileys or hearts or exclamation points?!?! I would have been totally confounded. 🤷♀️🤣🥰
I am a huge Labyrinth fan and love your door knockers in the background. Also, I am collecting more items that have rainbows. I'm just curious why you like them so much, too. Mine is religious based.
Oh yeah. But we only learn through experience so it’s a catch-22. Like needing a job to gain work experience, but needing work experience to get a job. 😂
Parenting is challenging. It’s all about them and not about yourself. I had the problem of saying no to toys my kids wanted. I have been decluttering items for over a year and have made my home easier to clean and spend more time with my family. I did it for me. It rubbed off on my daughter. The other 2 people in my household are working on it.
Wow, thank you for sharing all that. I have been letting go of a lot lately.... but I still have a lot of work to do. I have a hard time saying no, too. (I'm Canadian).
I’m American but would’ve done the exact same at a sure message. Well, I would’ve texted her but still with the double check and been like is it okay really, if it’s not a good time, etc. 😂
I had the same experience, as a Brit talking to US friends. I was initially quite worried when someone just replied, 'cool'. It had the same effect as 'sure' to me.
I am from Ohio and when someone says “Sure” to me, I also feel like that means I don’t really want to, but I’ll do it. If someone says “yes”, then I know they really want to do it, but if they say “sure” I feel like they really don’t want to do it.
I'm from Michigan. My sister-in-law wanted to switch from meeting for dinner to lunch. I said "sure", but I would have said, "no, let's make it another time", if I hadn't wanted to get my books back that day!
It was a quick turnaround but we made it work. 🙂 Maybe better in the end because it didn't drag on for ages. We just had to put our heads down and get it done.
What do you think was irrelevant and should have been cut out? 🙄 I quite enjoyed hearing about her personal story and the issues with getting a visa, as well as the cultural differences. I don't consider it fluff because it tied into the points rather well.
My grief is the loss of my husband. We were married for 43 years. We lived in the same house for all those years. I was afraid to get rid of things. I find it a win now no matter how little I get rid of. It took me awhile to get to this place. He was a pack rat. I love forward to your videos. They are a great help. Thanks 17:34
Thank you Laura, this message is very timely for me!
I too made a transatlantic move in my late 20s, but in the other direction. I literally took 4 suitcases, my dog and my cat. That was it, and it was so freeing! Now, some 20 plus years later I am drowning in stuff. The years since the start of the pandemic have been brutal with depression, anxiety and loss of friends and job and I am struggling. I am getting better, with help, but my house is a cluttered and dirty mess. It feels unsurmountable but I know that if I do just a little bit each day it will get progressively easier and I will get there.
I FEEL TRAPPED!!! I have most of my late parents things not only in my home,but a storage unit! My depression has gotten worse over a period of years and I’m OVER IT!! I also have other family members crap in my house and am sick of it! When I mention a clean up weekend,they laugh. I have2 dumpsters coming in a week!!! Let’s see how they react to that 😉
That is a good idea to give them a deadline for picking up their stuff and having those dumpsters ready. I am so happy to hear that you are taking back ownership of your home in this way! May you find a lightness of heart and mind with this transition. Hold fast to the fact that it is your home so that you can make these choices💕
@@heatherburrill Thank you so much! Sending blessings to you and your family 🙏
That's great advice ❤
Why not donate everything?
Go you! Keep those of your parents' things that you find useful or beautiful, but do not let your family abuse you as an extension of their basement.
This was so great! I am preparing to move next Summer and need SO much decluttering to do it. While watching this I tried on all my dress-shoe socks to see what to declutter. Small, but necessary task. It helped me not get overwhelmed with relating to so many of the situations you mentioned. Thank you!
Laura, I would love it if you did a little series with a whole video for each of the 9 different types of clutter and how to tackle each particular type effectively. Please with cherries on top 🍒 Love to Jovie from my Hoodlum Hounds.
I remember the beginning of your decluttering journey. I have loved seeing the progress you have made and continue to maintain as well as the 'lightness of your soul' now.
Thank you! It's been quite the journey!
Who knew that what started out as simply trying to reduce some of the unused items in my home would lead to such a life changing experience. For myself, gaining control of my physical space has had a profound effect on my mental state of mind. Someone said that your stuff makes you sick. One month ago I wouldn’t have known what that meant, but I totally get it now. Thank you for your honesty and insight. ❤
The mental health impact is significant, isn't it? Truly remarkable.
My employer paid for my transatlantic move so I could move with what I had. Now I wish I had downsized beforehand. Over the last few years I realized I had been holding on to things I really don't need.
I totally understand your story about your friend saying "sure"! I'm from Kentucky, yet I've never understood when people use that word like that. To me, "sure" indicates a doubtful/hesitant yes (like you described), or an agreement to a question, for instance, "would you like to go to the park?" "Sure!"
Saying sure to someone who just told you when they're arriving just doesn't make sense to me 😂 "ok!" Or "sounds good!" are better responses. Saying sure in this case sounds out of context or at the very least sarcastic, like they expect you to run late.
I don't know, maybe it's just me 😅 whenever someone uses sure like that to me, I just tell myself they meant "ok" and move on lol
You are an honorary Irish person. 😂
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My reaction is more like, "Oh, crap!" I test as 99-100% introvert. Springing any surprise on me is hair-raising for me; telling me that you're about to invade my personal space uninvited is just not done.
I am happy for you. ❤ so glad i found you looking for konmari videos back in the day. And even though that process was not meant for me😂... You were my favorite. I love how you share your thinking process and perspective. I feel like a lot of us is kind of a bit of an odd couple but in a completimentary way. I am a type B extrovert and you are a type A introvert. I dont read ever and you love books, you wear rainbow and jave teheh coolest wardrobe and i wear black and have a really minimal closet. I weny to culinary school and you arent at jome in a kitchen. You have your shit together and i dont. 😂 you are productive and sucessful and i am usually just gettkng through the day to day stuff. I adore you and all the great amazing things you have done and i am so glad that letting go has given you so much and all of us yoo. 🙂. ❤ You rock. And we do both love rainbows so we will always have that. 😊 🌈
I love this video. It must been a big change moving to the States initially and I didn't know you had all this trouble. My sister moved from Ireland to Australia years ago and she had to fill out so many forms and documents. The process seemed very arduous to me.
Ps I love the way you told your friend about saying 'sure', it's good she heard the story, because it creates so much clarity. Yes Americans are more direct than us Irish and I quite like like that about them.
The directness can be very refreshing. And helps me to be direct too.
I lost my happiness and control of my house when my mom died. Still haven't gotten it back yet. I'm working on it but life seems pretty pointless right now.
Oh I’m so sorry for your loss. Grief can be such a heavy burden. I’m thinking of you.
Deep grief has no expiration date. Nor do the "stages of grief" occur in some sort of order. It's heartwrencing .
For me, it felt ( and many years later) still feels almost surreal.
Sending you comforting thoughts. Please try to give yourself grace in any capacity you can.
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@@onimendez7735 Thank you so much.
I can relate when my mom passed I couldn’t do anything. My life as I knew it was over. My mom was gone. Not a good time in my life. It’s been 30 some years since I lost her. Things get easier as time passes. But, there is not a day that goes by I don’t think about her.
This is such a thoughtful and appreciated video.
As is this comment. Thank you!
Laura ur little girl is adorable thank you for all ur advise x
She certainly is. 💖 Thank you, Kathleen.
I'm from the US (mostly of Irish descent) and if someone texted "sure" I would've thought the same thing you did, Laura! I would have dissected that and consulted friends and wrung my hands!
No smileys or hearts or exclamation points?!?! I would have been totally confounded.
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Damn those Irish roots! 😂
@@HowToGYST 😂🤣😘
Great video Laura, thank you for sharing this with us. Pretty much apreciated 🥰
Thanks so much for watching. 💖
I am a huge Labyrinth fan and love your door knockers in the background. Also, I am collecting more items that have rainbows. I'm just curious why you like them so much, too. Mine is religious based.
No special reason, I'm just a child at heart and like colourful, beautiful things. ☺
I sure wish I had the wisdom I have now when I was young. Oh the time, money and the work it would have saved me.
Yeah that's the tricky thing about wisdom. It is gained through rough patches or realization. And time and experience.
Oh yeah. But we only learn through experience so it’s a catch-22. Like needing a job to gain work experience, but needing work experience to get a job. 😂
I love the labyrinth door knockers u have !❤😂
Thanks! ☺ They were a gift from my husband.
I really enjoy your channel. You are lovely and beautifully well-spoken. Appreciate your wisdom!! 🇨🇦
And I appreciate this lovely comment. Thank you so much! 🥰
Parenting is challenging. It’s all about them and not about yourself. I had the problem of saying no to toys my kids wanted. I have been decluttering items for over a year and have made my home easier to clean and spend more time with my family. I did it for me. It rubbed off on my daughter. The other 2 people in my household are working on it.
What a beautiful baby!
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Id love you to explain all the types of clutter, i just had to look "temperal" up lol x
I explained them all here: th-cam.com/video/wk2Oc4CSPF0/w-d-xo.html 🙂
@@HowToGYST Thankyou loads xx
@@HowToGYST Laura, please could you do a video series with tips on decluttering each sub type of clutter? I would love this 🎉
Wow, thank you for sharing all that.
I have been letting go of a lot lately.... but I still have a lot of work to do.
I have a hard time saying no, too. (I'm Canadian).
Lol. Yeah sure probably just meant yes. 😂sure seems like a good yes to me. That is funny.
She definitely meant yes, but the way I overanalysed it… 🧐😂
I’m American but would’ve done the exact same at a sure message. Well, I would’ve texted her but still with the double check and been like is it okay really, if it’s not a good time, etc. 😂
Grazie! ❤
You're very welcome. 💖
I had the same experience, as a Brit talking to US friends. I was initially quite worried when someone just replied, 'cool'. It had the same effect as 'sure' to me.
It's so disconcerting, isn't it?
Thank you for all this. So fascinating. And, actually, you make Irish people sound almost… Canadian🇨🇦. Lol. Cheers.
I've often thought we were very similar!
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I am from Ohio and when someone says “Sure” to me, I also feel like that means I don’t really want to, but I’ll do it. If someone says “yes”, then I know they really want to do it, but if they say “sure” I feel like they really don’t want to do it.
I'm from Michigan. My sister-in-law wanted to switch from meeting for dinner to lunch. I said "sure", but I would have said, "no, let's make it another time", if I hadn't wanted to get my books back that day!
I can declutter, just did a Hemisphere move, my problem is, I then purchase new stuff (because I need it) 😂
Been there! 😂
Is that the labyrinth knockers behind you??! 😍
Yes! 😁
10 weeks is such a short time. Especially with all you were doing
It was a quick turnaround but we made it work. 🙂 Maybe better in the end because it didn't drag on for ages. We just had to put our heads down and get it done.
In germany "sure" means the same, that she is not really lucky about it 😂
Maybe it’s a European thing. 😂
I gravitate towards videos that enumerate but I think 17 mins is too long for only 3 points. Just sharing.
What do you think was irrelevant and should have been cut out? 🙄
I quite enjoyed hearing about her personal story and the issues with getting a visa, as well as the cultural differences. I don't consider it fluff because it tied into the points rather well.
You should have seen how long it was before I edited it all down. 😂