☘️ Making It EASIER To Declutter The Items You Can't Seem To Let Go • Goodbye Decluttering Guilt
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- ☘️ It can be hard to declutter certain items. Maybe you spent a lot of money on them, maybe they were a gift, maybe you think you could still use them, maybe they're sentimental items... Whatever the reason, you're finding it hard to part with them.
Here's how to make it easier to declutter by reducing the separation anxiety and guilt you feel when it comes time to get rid of your stuff. Don't let clutter hold you back anymore, or have control over your life. Use these decluttering tips to loosen clutter's grip on your home and say goodbye once and for all.
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Can't seem to let go of certain items? Here's how to declutter without struggling to say goodbye.
"Keep something because you LOVE it, not because you're AFRAID of letting it go." Very wise words, Laura. That really resonated with me. Thanks so much for these messages you share, which so many of us need to hear.
"Stuff is not your story." That's the day's, the week's, the month's, and possibly the season's wisdom. Thank you.
Stuff is not my story, it is the story of generations. I am the keeper of the treasures of my parents and grandparents. There aren’t very many things, they aren’t valuable. I didn’t even know my grandparents, but my parents loved them and treasured those things until they died. I can’t seem to part with those. Will a photograph be enough?
@@johnangel7768 I feel you on this. My mom had a tea caddy that was her grandmother's. I ended up having it upon my mother's death, knowing that my sisters would throw it away (to be fair it's not pretty and actually looks kinda creepy). It has stayed in a bag on the top of my kitchen cabinets. I'm determined to donate it, because I'm never going to use it. My mother loved having it, so it's served the purpose it needed to for her, and I think that maybe someone who buys it from wherever I donate it to will also love it in the way my Mom would have appreciated 🤷
Be careful with ADHD or the fact that you're going to age. Take a picture of sentimental stuff because the memory will fade and if you have nothing to remind you of it, it'll be gone forever. And this is going to start happening in your 40s and 50s, when you have a ton of life left. Get rid of the thing and keep a little photo, something that doesn't take up a lot of room and isn't a big deal to keep. I have all my memories in 2 cardboard boxes. You'll need that smile in the future.
That is so true! I'm 63 and still have some toys from my first 5 years. These were also played with by my 3 daughters. I got a plastic fish from the loft the other day and put it in bathroom. My youngest aged 31 was delighted to see it again and remembered the smell which transported her back to her childhood.
I'm a widow getting remarried to a widower. Both of us have stuff that belonged to our spouses, and we've talked about how it feels like getting rid of their things is akin to them dying again.
Listening to this helps me to realize that in donationing to "a good home," they live on and are helping others.
It truly can be very helpful to know they'll be used and loved.
"Suddenly you develop a deep emotional attachment to everything you own". that's it right there.
You can't continue to punish yourself for making a bad decision. Sometimes things just don't work out. Thank you Laura. Those are words of wisdom to me. It is a form of punishment isn't it? You open your closet and feel guilt every time you open that door . Guilt is such a horrible feeling and we don't need to be experiencing that over some little material thing.
So true 👌
Blame Shame & Guilt are all burdens too heavy to carry. Learning to lighten our load is decluttering our home & health.
It’s nice to have permission to let it go or release what no longer serves us 😅
Resonating with me... Encouraging to hear from others that other people blame themselves for things that didn't work out... G Ire
Thank you for that. These are just material things, and we're not getting this money back anyway! God bless you !
Gifts should come with gratitude not guilt. Love that.
There's an organizing guru who says "don't throw good space after bad money." When you keep stuff just because you spent money on it, you are paying for it again by giving up the valuable real estate in your home or garage or closet! Thanks for all the inspiration Laura!
Great advice, thk u ❤
Great quote! Thanks for sharing! :)
Tip: never store anything of value [actual or sentimental] in a cabinet that shares any kind of plumbing -- or electrical for that matter -- because it is not if but when womething will break, leak, or otherwise to cause damage to items in that proximity; even so, at times rust flakes can get onto things that were deemed special and cannot be washed, repaired or restored.
Yes, thanks for writing it down so nicely, was wanting to say the exact same. Or at least put it in a good waterproof container if you do really want it there.
I was thinking that because I've had things ruined from not being stored properly.
Very good advice 👌 Lost hundreds of records that way...
So disheartening to see its collection full of caked mud...
Good tip 💥
Not everything that feels special at the time will feel special forever.
Things change, feelings change
Our tastes, preferrances, needs, likes change. Nothing lasts forever
I am working on cleaning up my mom's house...she had A LOT of stuff. A year later and I'm still sorting through 80 years worth of papers....receipts from the 60s. My mom's answer to keeping things is that her mother went through the great depression and that's when hoarding began. I am starting my decluttering so my kids don't have to do it. The thing you said about writing it in a journal. OMG that was an awesome idea!! I'm forever grateful to the advice. Thanks for making this video.
Omgosh! The tip about people not remembering what tbey gifted you! GUILT LIFTED. Thank you!
You are VERY welcome.
It really spoke to me about not having to let go of the sentimental items. I have a love of art books and we live in a small apt and it is something I have to downsize and your suggestion gave me the idea to donate these books to the Library as they have an annual sale of books to raise money for the library in our town, I know these will be loved by the new owners and I have helped my library with funds to continue, Thanks
Laura, I am really pretty unsentimental. I have very few things of that type. I certainly don't have any guilt over getting rid of things. But, the great thing about you and your channel is that it's teaching me to see where other people are coming from. Those feelings are really affecting them. You're making me empathize
with what others feel. You're doing good.
Thanks for your always thoughtful vlogs.
Cheers
Thank you :) Only thing I'd add is that when it is things that remind of when someone you loved was with you it can feel like you are letting go of that person...and the grief is bloody hard! Granted...it is about the grief though...not about the item...but everything can end up feeling 'sacred' until you do feel ready to allow those things to go. I accept that's getting into the realms of gruef counselling rather than just decluttering though! Haha. Will watch a few more of your vids to see if you can give me more power to deal with the 'mega mega boss battle' :) Best wishes x
Oh gosh this outside pressure issue is so true for me. If someone tells me “you have to get rid of this NOW!!” it feels like I’m physically running into a wall. Even if it is a perfectly logical thing to let go of (case in point: a couple of empty formula tins I was keeping for a craft/organising project… ugh.) I wish it was different, but I have found that since I am just getting started on this decluttering journey, it works a lot better if I start small and with categories I pick, because I know it’ll be easier for me to let things go and create small wins.
My mum died 35 years ago gave me a dining table and chairs I hated used at first but ended up putting it in the shed well after all still got was my logic but now it's rotted and fell apart consequently dumped now. Oh the guilt I feel. I feel sooo bad Same with wardrobe suite. She lovingly bought me it. I hated it. Oh I used it but during the Pandemic I outed it
Thank you SO MUCH for calling out SELFISHNESS! I absolutely know this is my problem and I’ve been trying to find any videos that address this but no one seems to want to talk about it. Good on you
It’s helped me countless times.
I still have my youngest daughter's diaper bag. I use to store cards, papers etc. She will be 37yrs this
fall. 😢
Things like that are so hard to give away. Keep it if it makes you happy. Sometimes I just take a photo so that I can look at it and still have the memories. I have a box of my kids baby clothes. Every time I go to deal with it I can’t do it…because they all still smell strongly like my children as babies …I keep them for the smell 😂
That's one item. And it stayed useful. Its ok to keep a representative sample, especially when it's still useful! And even if it doesn't, just give it place.
In the old times, like thousands of years ago, things were expensive and labor was cheap. Now it’s the opposite. But we have these habits ingrained in us out of centuries of scarcity.
It is so odd that when someone else wants what we are giving away, we tend to hold onto them.
I like your idea of interacting with our things a couple of times a year. Maybe that will help me get rid of my troll doll and clothes that I made when I was little
I have the hardest time getting rid of my kids childhood toys and our homeschooling books. They hold so many memories and getting rid of them is like admitting my kids are grown up now and that part of my life is over. 😢. I have to keep telling myself they will bless another child who can’t afford to have something so nice ( my kids were a little spoilt and had nice things).
I needed that "tough love". I needed my selfishness in keeping things with an idea of using them SOMEDAY to be pointed out. A new perspective leads to a fresh start. Thanks for the honesty!
Just sharing the things that have worked for me. Glad they help. 😊
Hi, I wanted to thank you so much for your wise and kind words. Being reminded of the blessing it can be to others, when you don't use something, it really made me feel that I did the right thing. Also it is still hard for me to get rid of certain stuff related to pregnancies (I'm not sure yet if we're gonna have another child one day or not, our second child is just 1yo). It's even harder to get rid of gifts from my parents, even though it looks awful and I don't even like it that much. I just want to hold on to the love that was put into these gifts.
I just gave half of my shoes for free to different women, and I still have too many of them, also I still have clothes that I can't get rid of, even though I don't wear them at all (no occasions). I always feel like I'm going to need these one day, but it's been years, and honestly, maybe when I'll have an occasion, these are not going to be what I'll want to wear on that occasion. Your advices truly helped me. Thank you for that. God bless you and your family.
Great video! Storing open/exposed items under the cabinet with the pipes is giving me anxiety! I hope there is no water running to the pipes!
I could never get rid of my plushies, they are literally my babies :) My parents once gave away many without asking and that made me really sad. I did good progress with decluttering clothes this year though, I was proud.
That’s great advice I think I’m a new sub with you lol but I’m donating my adult level coloring books and markers and crayons because I don’t see so well anymore and they are no longer relaxing to me it’s more frustrating for me to try to color those little tiny things so I still buy the children’s coloring books but I’m donating all my adult sized coloring books for the nursing home ladies. And they’re still like new condition so hopefully they’ll enjoy them. I have a really good friend that works in a nursing home she’s going to come and get them and take them for me.♥️♥️♥️. Now I’m going to send her another text and ask if there’s any books that they would like because I have plenty of those love story books 📚 little elderly ladies love.
Hi Laura, finding your channel was no coincidence. Your process and reasoning makes perfect sense to me. It's funny how I don't struggle with removing items that belong to me. But rather (some) items belonging to my recently deceased parents. They grew up during the Great Depression and so, everything they owned was kept in immaculate condition. I know this seems ridiculous but I am struggling with the feeling that I must find people who will care for these items and be appreciative of them as my parents were. This would have been my parents wishes, and yet I am feeling the possibility of guilt if I don't honor those. Have I lost my mind here? Yes, there are sentimental things I will never part with. But how do I overcome the anxiety that I feel because my parents taught me to take very good care of my belongings as they did? I have given some of their things to people who I know will take good care of them. Yet there are (so many more things) that are in excellent condition that ( I feel) would be a shame not to land in the right hands. This is not about money. This is about giving. Can you please help?
Sincerely,
Julianne
I am moving after 7 years of "hoarding" lol.
I so very much needed to hear this, especially the sentimental part... thank you ❤
Slow and steady. Just keep chipping away as you go. 🙂 Best of luck!
Very helpful. And your sweet dog is an added treat.🥰
I'm really struggling to part with the last remaining items of my former life that have been sitting in a storage unit for the past 5 years since I became homeless and started living in my caravan full-time. I have survived quite happily without those things (mainly memories stuff: photo albums, diaries, love letters from my kids when they were little, bric a brac and decorative items, cushions, curtains and bedding...just in case I ever have a house again 🤦♀️) lots of vintage clothing, lots of shoes...it's cost me almost $10,000 in storage and is not worth anything to anybody but letting it go feels like accepting I'll never have a house again and that's tough. I know I have to get rid of it, but I so loved reading Anne Franks diary when I was 13 and have been obsessed with maintaining memories of my own life ever since. I'm binge watching videos like this one to try and get me over the line of releasing my need to hold onto my stuff but it's so hard!
I love that you have floppy disc me too!!
STUFF IS NOT YOUR STORY. This helped me at the exact time I needed it… Thank you. Thank you thank you thank you. 🙏 🤗
I have no guilt giving away something that I'd received as a gift. I appreciate the thought and sentiment but if I don't like the, e.g. "yellow scarf" then someone will get a lovely bargain in the charity shop! I was given a gel nail kit however I have very weak nails that break so frankly it's wasted on me. However, I'm going to offer it to a friend who always does her nails!
Thank you once again, good info right when I needed it…well I always need it, but always much appreciated!!
I have hundreds and hundreds of carrier bags and bizarrely find them really hard to let go, they are so expensive to buy now but it got to the point where the car was full of them and it was insane. I took about 200 to the local food bank and still felt weird about it (I shouldn't let them go! They're so expensive! They won't make them anymore!), I went back the next week to help out and saw people taking their free food parcels away in my carrier bags, and I felt really good about it.
Aw, what a wonderful story. 💖 Donations help in ways we can't even imagine.
I have kept so much information about my past because I have thought I would write my memoirs someday. I’ve had a fascinating life and at almost 66 years old, my sentimental items truly help me remember by triggering a sense memory or a name of someone I had forgotten, kind of like an old song that brings it all back. Very challenged to let it go.
Love your posts, thank you so much ❤️
So good!!! Thank you!🧡💃🏽👑
Wow this video was great! Hit it right on the head. Thanks so much !
Omg the frames under the sick. That’s me!!
Thank you for this amazing video. I will utilize your advice from now on & live a better, simpler life. ❤
Will be doing a big move soon & needed some advice to help manage the stress of my little families stuff. 😅
I threw away everything I owned except my car and I had some nice things. Looks like it may be time for another full declutter soon.
Give consumable gifts or experiences. Then none is feeling guilty. Though you really need to know the person.
This video you have made has,been one of the best out there,on de cluttering thanks
I have a pair of shoes that date to my son's wedding in 2010. It wasn't part of my mother-of-the-groom outfit, it was a casual pair that I bought to wear on the vacation we spent with our other children and my parents straight after the wedding. They are now far too shabby to wear, but they remain in a conspicuous spot in my shoe closet, because every time I see them, they make me smile, remembering that fabulous time. Maybe one day, but not yet.
No need to part with them if they make you happy. 💖
Great advice, thank you!
Ty for the advice bc i need help get rid of stuff bc i feel so gulity and Shame if someone Close tō My family gave me something is going take sometime
Wow cute Jovi!!🥰💕🐕🐶
Thank you so much😊
I ran into a bad situation while donating my daughter's stuffed toys. The charity literally tossed the in trash though they clean.
Now I will gladly give them to a fire house.
God bless you ❤️ 🙏
Oh I'm so sorry that happened. A lot of places don't accept stuffed toys (I assume for hygiene reasons).
Charities have an over abundance of soft toys unfortunately…they can’t keep them all.
So very rightly observed
Thank you.
15:21 is a powerful message for me
Thanks for sharing this wonderful video
Great video! But I really had a hard time with the white fib "it got broken or got lost" stuff. With my luck, the person would gift me another one! And if I got caught in the lie, I feel like I would lose every bit of credibility I had for the future. PLUS, I'd have to remember what the lie was. For me, its too much mental energy to clutter my brain! Better to tell the truth, thank them again for their thoughtfulness, and admit you thought someone else would get better use out of the item.
Definitely a viable option!
I still have an Epson scanner for over 13 years - It's never be used. I kept it thinking I'd get busy scanning family pics + my art photos which no negative or digital duplicate. I kept it while I have a computer which is too old to update. I had saved for a new desktop - and lost it in a scam last month 😭
I found out to this last 5 to 6 months of getting rid of stuff I Never missed it. I had about two truck loads of stuff and about five or six carloads of stuff. I was always procrastinating. Always second-guessing so I stopped doing that when I've seen that I have to get rid of something. I just did it.
No questions asked the longer you stay in. That mental thought the longer you stay there. It's a domino effect once you start, then you keep going and keep going and keep going. Momentum is the key to successful decluttering.
Never tell anybody what you're doing because they always no best. They will say don't get rid of that you might need it. Yeah, when and 10 years from now. Well, buy it in 10 years, don't hang on to it for 10 years, that's ridiculous.
Very well said! Loved your video and can't wait to apply your knowledge!!
Thank you! Hope it helps!
You are so right, thank you for this video ❤🎉
Had/ have kleptomaniac episodes now I have too much stuff and now It’s hard to get rid of it will try and donate 😢
What do you tell yourself when you think that you want to declutter but you could sell it and you just hold on to stuff until you get around to that?
That it’s never gonna actually happen. I’ve been there, holding onto stuff for months and months. Eventually I just donated it. I figured the money would be better going to a charity.
Release the decluttering demon 🤣 funny but true
It might be easier as a single person but most people have more then one person making the Decision
Because its just so much stuff
How do you know something is going to go to good use? You do not. You can only hope. When you "donate" a child, there is a long and hard process to try and guarantee that the baby goes to a good home. A child is very very precious. That t-shirt you bought at a fast fashion store because it was on sale is not as precious as a child. Sell, donate, turn into rags. It is fine.
NEW HERE HELLO JUST CONFUSED A TAD BIT IS THIS THE SAME PERSON GOING THREW THE DECLUTTERING? KINDA LOOKS THE SAME BUT ONE HAS SHORT HAIR THE OTHER LONG ALSO IF YOU CAN DO MORE HELP WITH LETTING GO OF SENTIMENTAL ITEMS REALLY REALLY HARD FOR ME 😔
Ha ha ha, not here! I find that my mom, sister and hubby are all concerned with whether I keep an item ir not. The one time I came clean and said I had donated the item... oh boy. So I have found that I keep a ton of items because of my own inability to purge certain items/acquire. Secondly because I keep items to not have to, "hear it later".
If it’s your stuff you’re entitled to do what you like about it. And you don’t have to justify it. Or even tell anyone. 😉
@@HowToGYSTIt’s hard when it’s your husband who is the hoarder. He would go beserk every time I wanted to get rid of something. Our garage is full of stuff he hasn’t looked at in 20 years but refuses to get rid of in case we move to a bigger house where he can display it. We already live I. A 4 bedroom house…we won’t get one bigger…so if there is no room now they never will be
If you really feel bad, find the person who will love it. Vintage clothes? Give them yo the kid who LOVES vintage in town. Old records? Donate to the music teacher at a local underfunded school.
Half of good stuff donated to thrifts are thrown in the dumpster ! So i find local organizations for homeless shelters ,food banks ,toys to churches ,orphanages ! Their so many other places that are in need just do a little research ! Alot of them will come to you and pick it up ! I no longer donate to thrifts after seeing the prices they charge for people anyways and throwing perfectly good condition items going to land fills ! Facebook market post free ! 😊
Yup, plenty of alternatives. I previously shared some in a video.
I think sometimes people are so overwhelmed that they just need to get stuff out of the house and if they have to work out the best way for the environment to do that, they're going to be paralysed with indecision. When the house becomes a bit more relaxing to live in, they are more likely to have the brain space and energy to make better decisions from then on, like how someone who has a tidy , decluttered kitchen is more likely to eat healthy than someone who has a messy one.
idk...with the prices of everything going sky high, maybe some of our stuff is valuable....just sayin.
take pictures of things that you sell and throw. makes it easier.
I actually disagree with much of this. Yet I do not have a cluttered home.
Not the channel name how to get your sht together
Last week, I watched a video where this lady cried a lot because she has to let go of the quilt given by her deceased grandma that's really important to her. She has to let it go because she is decluttering. I felt sad for her but uncomfortable at the same time. We always have a choice to keep important things because we're also human. Not everything has to abide by the minimalism rules or whatever they call it. But some people really take it too far that they have to hurt themselves on purpose in the name of minimalism.
A thing of beauty, even if not utilitarian, is actually useful because of the beauty and the enjoyment it provides. I have a quilt my great grandma pieced when my dad was in WW2, on my closet shelf. She prayed with each stitch. Too fragile to use, but I smile - and say a prayer for men and women in the armed services today - every time I see it.
I agree. This seems a little extreme unless she really had no space for it. If you love it that much keep it…gosh she could pass it to her kids or another family member. She could even be buried in it if she wanted.
I have old family quilts. They are displayed on quilt rack shelves where we all enjoy looking at them. No way would I ever give them up. The one that is battered and heavily used covers a file cabinet sonit is still serving a purpose.
This is why I prefer the "intentional living" label instead of the stark (acetic monk type) "minimalist" aesthetic, where they count the items they have / can fit it all in a rucksack etc 😬 I mean that's practical if you travel constantly, but not for me as a mum.
My favorite part of the video is when you made me realize I was being selfish by keeping something because it is still functional. Makes it easier to give away now😊
It’s comforting to hear that most of us have overspent or made poor buying decisions 🙄money comes and goes
it’s the lessons we keep 💥🎯
That's exactly it! Some lessons come with a higher price tag than others.
"The memories are not in the item itself. They're in my head and in my heart."
That's so powerful.
2:00am while decluttering my stuff.
🇵🇭 04/15/2023
Hope you managed to get some good rest too. 😉
I have been emptying creams or lotions. I started with the almost empty first and celebrated when I threw the empty in the can.
Thank you for this video Laura. I'm 18 and I've come to realize that I've kept way too many things in my room. It's become a problem. But for an entire week I've watched your videos after just discovering your channel. You are very much appreciated. 💜💜
I don't have any problems letting go of clothes & shoes or whatever but it's all the random stuff. The doom pile stuff that I struggle with. I always think "that's useful" "but that's so cute" " but I like it" even though I haven't touched it in years & I know it. & The amount of doom piles I have to sift through is just overwhelming.
A skip. Best investment l ever made. Found myself clearing quickly. I don't want to live like this anymore. I am 65 ...enough. l choose...sanity, easy cleaning, enjoying cleaning imagine. Time for calm, mindful presence. Shopping addiction l feel sad l experienced that and financially l am sadder. But...l am now ready. I already feel l could sleep for a month. I feel so calm.
Its always hard to let go of things that are associated with a memory. At some point these things did define who we are and made us the person we are today. But many of these things are supposed to stay in their time and not stay with us as we progress in life. If you keep too much of these things, you can not have new room for new memories that will help you become a happier person
Yes, often they can keep us trapped in the past.
"choose your destination carefully" this is why I'm struggling to get rid of anything rn. I have destination anxiety
Your dog is absolutely adorable she has such a sweet face! Omg the toys I had a hard time letting go of my son's toys and baby clothes! That was until one day, at my son' school, a family was in desperate need of toys, clothes, food etc. I kept a couple of baby clothes and baby toys and gave this family everything else and it felt wonderful to know the items couod be used instead of staying in a box! It made me realize how useless it was to keep so many things when someone else could use them. I then embarked on my decluttering journey! 🌼🍂🍁🐿🍁🍂🌼
About the memories being in us and not in the belongings, I have trouble with this because of early memory loss, so this makes me keep more things and really random ones. It's a struggle to separate my memories from my stuff.
I am in shock she has photos under a sink?!!!!! Where it can get water damage wow!!!! Photos are the most precious item there is
Hahaha. If I'd told one of those people that their gift to me had been lost or stolen...
I know what they'd give me on my next gift-receiving occasion. Much better to come up with a Plan B, even if it's just saying, "I think it's in a box somewhere."
It is helpful to take nice photos of some sentimental objects. We will keep it in a way and we can get rid of the actual object. :)
Another great video. This is a great idea about revisiting stuff, you're right that the meaning of stuff does change further down the line. So I will try doing this more. 👍🏻
Emotional attachment to... a food processor? It's just two of us and even when cooking for holidays, I never use it. But... I want to keep this giant, cumbersome, never used item. Ugh.
I hate the emotional attachments 😭 I’m trying so hard
I think when I put my stuff in storage it's easier for me after a long while of not looking at it to let it go.
I have a beautiful dress that my husband got me when I went on a diet. As soon as I hit my goal he was taking me out to a fancy restaurant. He died before I got to wear it. I can't seam to part with it.
Firstly, I'm sorry for your loss ❤️
Does the dress now carry the weight of your husband's loss, and any other negative emotions (e.g. that you didn't lose the weight 'fast enough', so he didn't get to see you in it)? If so, would your husband be happy that his gift brings up those feelings for you, or would he want you to just keep the things you shared which at least carry happier memories with them?
Can NOT believe there is someone else that thinks the way I do. You hit on so many things that I worry about. It makes me want to work harder to let even more burdens go. I've done so well and come a long way. But now its ok to do even more !!
I'm stuck on an air purifier. I can't get the filters anymore but I can't throw it out. Simply because my Dad fixed it for me and he passed five years ago. I know it's crazy I'm working on throwing it I just need more time.
Take all the time you need. 💖
"the memories are not in the item themself" indeed. i always think of the Listener lyric from their Wooden Heart album that says "we only have what we remember". that really sums up heart-based living and extreme minimalism to me. its still ok to have things but we gotta remember that its all in our minds and hearts anyways. but i will say that sometimes things do jog memories that i would have a hard time recalling all on my own. but usually the things that really strongly jog memories most are smells and tastes and sounds/music, most of that is not necessarily in an item. sometimes smells and tastes and music just happens in life where we least expect to find it
Absolutely! The most random of things can help unlock a memory. For other things I like to take a photo or write a journal entry. Or even reminisce with family and friends.
The money has already been spent -- exactly :) That's how I look at things.
I have too many shampoos and i have a small bathroom so i can't keep them all. I find it hard to let go of items to fit my space. I feel like i spent the money and dont want to waste it.
You could use them. Don’t buy new ones until all shampoos are used up. Thats how I did it.
i allowed myself to keep summer shorts from my college years, i havent worn them enough in these 10 years.
put them into my donation pile yesterday and i felt it take a load off.. now my drawers have more space for stuff that fits me and my current style
Stuff is not your story. Gold. Printing this out and putting it on my wall. I've been on this journey for years and this is a great addition to my toolbelt.
Aw, so glad it resonated.
aghhh, I've decluttered SO much of my stuff already and I thought I was satisfied. But now that I'm downsizing, I'm having to ask myself again, do I need 13 pairs of shoes? Do I need all these bags? Gifts? Mementos? There is always more I can get rid of, but the items left are things I like... just some of them I NEVER use. So really and truly, I need to let go of those things that are just sitting there. I'm watching this video to inspire me to go further.
Have you further decluttered? How did it go?
@@dianaluize yes! It's been an incredible process. Although, I have noticed I've accumulated more things in this time too, where I could have used the one in one out policy! It's a never ending process I find, it's never fully done, but you learn to enjoy the process.
Your video is so good and powerful I have been trying to get rid of stuff most of my life, and now as a pensioner I want it gone so my daughter doesn’t have to do it ! I am an emotional hoarder and can see a value in everything, but I know the money has gone. I’m trying really hard to do this and I feel you have helped me today, so have subscribed to you. Thank you and good luck to everyone watching ❤