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*"How strange and foolish is man. He loses his health in gaining wealth. Then, to regain his health he wastes his wealth. He ruins his present while worrying about his future, but weeps in the future by recalling his past. He lives as though death shall never come to him, but dies in a way as if he was never born"* Attributed to Imam Ali (ra) (Idk if it's authentic or not)
Do you know what is worthless that way of thinking, a person with that sort of perception has such a common mindset even though he/she think his/her mindset is somehow unique it is just nihilistic and most people commonly subconsciously hold to these same beliefs they are about 90% of the world that why they don't ever create impact or apply there life to make the lives of others better or build their own lives they assume they are powerless and so become enslaved to their own notion that their is no hope for them but this might be a shock buddy everybody doesn't live that way.
@@reecebartlett8565 Its a quote directed to the greedy merchant-folks and tribal chieftains of the Arab peninsula, in the seventh century AD. In another quote, this man has said "Work for your afterlife as if you will die as soon as tomorrow, and work for your life as if you live forever", and similarly, the meaning is very theological, and talks about the afterlife's importance in a Muslim's life. It comes exaggerated in this way as though to inspire, but this Imam was not a man who stood against hard work; he worked as a well digger despite being a caliph, a position that gives one absolute authority over an Islamic empire that extended from Persia to Tunisia. He gave charity to all who needed it, even Christian citizens of the Rashiddun caliphate. It comes to no surprise that this selfless, hard working islamic champion would guide his people into Religion's ultimate goal: seeking God's salvation and entering his heavens. To be able to achieve the latter, one must dedicate themselves to God's worship, and the following of his orders. In the Islamic scripture, known as the Quran (The evidence), and in the Prophet's quotes (The Hadith), it is implied that knowledge, hard work and discipline are required from a Muslim, whilst also adhering to God's word, in worshiping, charity, being nice, etc.
There's a book called Hidden Time Wealth, and it talks about how using some secret techniques, you can overcome procrastination and accomplish anything in life. It's not just a bunch of empty promises; it's the real deal.
"Start thinking in behavior change in terms of The person you want to embody, rather than the goals that you want to achieve." That phrase hit me like a truck, thank you, Tom.
I need you to understand self discipline is the main thing. It's the ultimate demon, it's the hardest thing to conquer because once done you can conquer ANYTHING. Everything comes down to self discipline, changing your body, making money, drug addictions. You're capable of so much so don't let those voices in your head keep you back. You deserve everything you want it just all comes down to discipline don't give up. Anyway I just made a video on all this and went in deep I would appreciate if you checked it out, thanks.🙏
“Self-discipline is about leaning into resistance. Taking action in spite of how you feel. Living a life by design, not by default. But most importantly, it’s acting in accordance with your thoughts-not your feelings.” This is definitely one of the most beautiful quote I ever read.
I need you to understand self discipline is the main thing. It's the ultimate demon, it's the hardest thing to conquer because once done you can conquer ANYTHING. Everything comes down to self discipline, changing your body, making money, drug addictions. You're capable of so much so don't let those voices in your head keep you back. You deserve everything you want it just all comes down to discipline don't give up. Anyway I just made a video on all this and went in deep I would appreciate if you checked it out, thanks.🙏
1. Create an Identity - Instead of saying _"I'm trying to quit X",_ say _"I don't do X"_ 2. Set a Reminder - This ensures that you don't forget 3. Embrace the suck - Push through with things that you don't want to do in order to improve self discipline 4. Target the Fundamentals - Focus mainly on health( getting good sleep, eating healthy, and exercise) 5. Practice Zazen meditation 6. Build some habits - Use a habit tracker - Look for a positive trend, not on being perfect
@@marsinahpriyanto2582 so true, if you are not satisfied from within, no amount of external remedies will fix you. Self discipline greatly helps with this.
1.Focus on identity 2.create reminders 3.embrace the suck 4.Focus on proper rest and nutrition 5.Practice meditation 6.Build new habits Thank you brother...Useful video as always..and one thing,can you please make a video on How to go to bed on time?.. I've been trying to build the habit of waking up early and I've failed to reach automaticity because I struggle to go to bed on time..
its the meditation that makes me realize im concentrated on my breathing so im concentrated on the here and now. instead of what could be or how things should of been
Great JOB! I thought I would add (thank you, Victor...) Self-Discipline is about leaning into resistance. Taking action in spite of how you feel. Living a life by design not by default. But most importantly, it’s action in accordance with your thoughts - not your feelings (Samuel Thomas Davies) 1. 2:17 - Create an Identity - Instead of saying "I'm trying to quit X", say "I don't do X" 2. 4:32 - Set a Reminder - This ensures that you don't forget 3. 5:23 - Embrace the suck - Push through with things that you don't want to do in order to improve self-discipline 4. 6:32 - Target the Fundamentals - Focus mainly on health( getting good sleep, eating healthy, and exercise) 5. 7:38 - Practice Zazen meditation 6. 8:43 - Build some habits - Use a habit tracker - Look for a positive trend, not on being perfect Great work I even enjoyed your book.
4 main areas: Discipline Environment Habits Discipline - do it regardless how u feel Baseline to archieve goals /focus on identity /set reminders / embrace resistance /target the fundamentals first- food, rest, exercise /build new habits
I really try to stay neutral and not say anything, but you are GLOWING. Your confidence is justing shining right through your face. You look amazing!! Keep it up!
I just started reading Atomic Habits. It's the best book I've read this year especially when James talked about how you should improve 1% every day and embrace who you want to become.
I have a bad habit of studying according to my mood 🙃 I will sit one day for hours studying and then stop for the next three days💆♀️. I want to do the best everyday😔
instead of sprinting and then burning out, try pacing yourself more! pomodoro timer helps me because it forces me to take breaks. make sure to actually follow it tho and try doing it consistently for a week. hope this helps :)
Abner Bondoc yea I feel like this one was a distillation of a lot of really important lessons that I’ve had to learn more scatteredly over the past 3 years.
I need you to understand self discipline is the main thing. It's the ultimate demon, it's the hardest thing to conquer because once done you can conquer ANYTHING. Everything comes down to self discipline, changing your body, making money, drug addictions. You're capable of so much so don't let those voices in your head keep you back. You deserve everything you want it just all comes down to discipline don't give up. Anyway I just made a video on all this and went in deep I would appreciate if you checked it out, thanks.🙏
What I’ve discovered today, my own method ; 1: Catch yourself being unconscious of your actions, be as conscious as possible with any action you take. 2. Retrieve from your mind what you’d like to achieve and which are those actions that’ll help you get there and whether in your current conscious moment, the task at hand aligns. 3. Realise and look back on all the times you’ve procrastinated because you’re tired etc and realise you’ve never actually once felt like doing it and always resorted to later and it ended up not being done. Basically my magic formula, “Wake up” from your current action Question if it aligns Know it doesn’t, change your action You don’t feel like it Realise, you’ll never feel like it
I have a personal favorite quote from Eric Thomas that goes something like this. Self-discipline is "to be able, at any moment,to sacrifice what you are for what you will become".
This is really good stuff. I have ADHD and I choose not to take medication for it, I am looking for natural ways to increase my focus and discipline, I liked the part about identity the best. It really makes sense
My summary (+some own thoughts): ->In short: Self-Discipline (SD) is about leaning into resistance. Taking action in spite of how you feel. Living a life by design, not by default. But most importantly, it's acting in accordance with your thoughts - not your feelings. -> SD is the ability to make the conscious decision to do something regardless of whether you feel motivated. ->6 strategies for building SD: 1. Forget about the goal, focus on the shift in identity (see James Clear, Atomic Habit) a) Example: Think of yourself as an athlete ->you're more motivated to hit the gym, eat healthy etc. b) Enemy: Imposter Syndrome might make you feel insecure whether you could fulfill a particular role -> overcome it! c) Explanation: Cialdini's consistency principle: ppl want to act according to their previous decisions / principles etc. 2. Frequently remind yourself of why you're being disciplined at all (see Sinek, Start With Why) a) Write down your long-term goals and store them visibly in your everyday life (on the wall, display background picture, on your desk, in your wallet etc.) b) Example: Jim Carrey's $10M cheque that he gave to himself at the beginning of his career and carried around for motivation 3. Embrace the resistance/discomfort in every situation (see Taleb, Antifragile) a) It's like a rep in the gym -> with each rep your will gets stronger b) The increase in willpower will be beneficial towards ANY future tasks c) Look for ways in everyday life to embrace discomfort, e. g. take cold showers, stairs instead of elevator, hit the gym etc. 4. Target the fundamentals first a) Fundamental needs: food, rest, exercise etc. (see Maslow's pyramid) b) Why? Brain-part that handles executive functioning ("internal manager", System II (see Kahneman), locus of willpower) requires lots of energy and rest 5. Regular zen meditation a) Zen meditation has many benefits: relieves einstellung effect (more creativity), better concentration, improves emotion regulation & self-discipline b) Apps for guided meditation: Headspace, Calm, YT Videos c) Thomas recommends Zazen (sit & concentrate on your breath, eyes closed, notice and let go of distracting thoughts); "It's the self-development technique I hate doing the most, but the benefits are undeniable" 6. Build new habits a) The initial stages of building new habits require self-discipline as it's not automatic yet b) The self-discipline is improving in the process of habit development for reasons similar to 3 ("mental training") c) When a habit gets automatic it requires much less self-discipline in the future d) For every habit you build: start small, track your progress, maybe use an app like habitica/strides/habitbull, celebrate your wins and focus not too much on purity/streaks. Instead make sure your trend is going in a overall positive direction.
I need you to understand self discipline is the main thing. It's the ultimate demon, it's the hardest thing to conquer because once done you can conquer ANYTHING. Everything comes down to self discipline, changing your body, making money, drug addictions. You're capable of so much so don't let those voices in your head keep you back. You deserve everything you want it just all comes down to discipline don't give up. Anyway I just made a video on all this and went in deep I would appreciate if you checked it out, thanks.🙏
Many students (including me) in my country love to create visual reminders when we're studying for university entrance exams. We create scrapbooks, moodboards, write journals, PInterest boards, print our dream university's logos and pictures and put it on the wall in front of our desks, and set the pictures of our dream universities as our wallpaper. I myself set my target university as my laptop wallpaper. Every day, when I open my laptop, I see my reminder and I instill it into my mind, again and again. Now, I'm already in my dream university and it feels AMAZING. My wallpaper becomes a silent witness of all my hard work.
I think you mentioned balance but I still want to add: Have a hobby/activity that has NOTHING to do with your main goal. Doing something else between the work phases helps me a lot in being productive. My goal is becoming an accountant/working with law & taxation. I've found sewing to be a really good hobby for me. So, I learn and then take a break by sewing. I try not to think about my study during the break and it really works for me.
But how do you get better at self discipline when you have things to do but you don't see the point in it? For example, a student in school may understand the importance but may also understand school is not entirely important in becoming "successful."
Something that's always helped me: I worked at a grocery store in high school. Before my first day at work started, my mom told me, "It doesn't matter whether you want to work there forever or not. It doesn't matter if you're only there for the money. You go in and work as hard as you can in order to show that you're a good worker, to pay your dues, and to serve the people you're working for." Come to think of it, this actually goes right back to that whole identity thing. It didn't matter that I wasn't the biggest fan of bagging groceries; my mother taught me to be the kind of person who actually gives a damn and works hard no matter what I'm doing. I think viewing school the same way would be helpful.
I need you to understand self discipline is the main thing. It's the ultimate demon, it's the hardest thing to conquer because once done you can conquer ANYTHING. Everything comes down to self discipline, changing your body, making money, drug addictions. You're capable of so much so don't let those voices in your head keep you back. You deserve everything you want it just all comes down to discipline don't give up. Anyway I just made a video on all this and went in deep I would appreciate if you checked it out, thanks.🙏
I’m taking the first steps. I’ve been in celebration/vacation mindset since my last big accomplishment nearly 2 years ago. Time to shape back up, in every form. Thanks for the tips!
The notif for this vid came as if it’s watching me,, truly needed, especially that I haven’t been able to leave my phone and make myself work over the last week.. thank you for the video Thomas! I always look up to your videos!
Excellent video as always Tom. Another great self-discipline tactic is making your bed every morning. I started this about a year ago after hearing an incredible speech on the power of making your bed. I now do it every morning without fail and find that it helps me feel more disciplined and starts me off in a better state of mind. It also feels like a small accomplishment every day :)
The end goal is what keeps me motivated n disciplined. I know where I wanna be in a few years time so I keep that in my head at all times for when I have a give up moment I think back as to y I wanted it in the first place
Thank you so much for all of the valuable information you provide. I was introduced to you through an online college class that had your note taking video available.
really great video and tips... I want to add something though... Gretchen Rubin´s four personality types (the upholder, questioner, rebel, and obliger) explained a lot for me... Everytime I tried to actually write down a goal or use a habit tracker I failed after a week or two... then I hated myself for being not disciplined enough and not keeping promises to myself... but in fact, every time, I tell myself I really really want to do something, and become obsessed with it, but don´t tell anybody and don´t write it down, for some reason it works (most of the time).... so even if (according to Rubin), the rebel model is the smallest group of the four personality types, I figured out that I don´t like being told what to do by anyone, not even myself...then it becomes a chore, and I don´t like it and rebel against it... but when I´m getting obsessed about it and thinking about it constantly (and also using your tips like making it non-negotiable, a part of my identity, stop thinking, just doing), I´m doing much much better :) Hope this might help someone...and maybe you could even do a video about it?! :) anyways, great job! :)
I love how this guy gives advice on self-improvement without making anyone feel guilty about the behaviours they want to change. A lot of channels like this use adversarial, “tough love” techniques that just aren’t very motivating to me, this guy seems very nice and encouraging.
Ok now I just think Thomas is a mind reader he always puts out the right videos at the right time I swear he sees us all sitting on the couch instead of doing our assignments 😄
You have changed my life. I'm thirteen going on fourteen and i got into a really bad place and almost killed myself recently. I went through therapy that encouraged me to reevaluate my life and myself and how i let others affect me. The boom seven habits of effective teens taught me about paradigm shifts. And while before i looked to your channel for study tips, i now see a huge opportunity and a role model like no other. I am learning to listen, and to use stratedy to interact with others, one of my biggest weaknesses. I could go on, but honestly, thank you.
Hey Thomas and everyone else: This might be a bit late for you but i found a great Tip to keep Focus on Meditation and not get distracted as easily is to establish a very simple Mantra: Just repeat the Word ONE in your Head. It makes it so whenever your monkey brain sends your thoughts flying, you immediately refocus again because you have to formulate the word one in your head. this is of course possible with any word, but i find a visual 1 that i "say" with my inner voice aswell to be quite difficult to maintain so i have to focus. Hope it helps anyone!
That smoking reference and how the two levels of severity in boundaries are actually an indicator of how dedicated we actually are to change was great. Being consciously curious as to why we operate the way we do is an amazing tool to stay present, rather than robotically pushing through the day reaching into the future or the past to sustain an emotional fulfillment we haven't quite ascended to yet.
Man, this video came to me in a perfect time. I will graduate this year in computer science, and I had practice meditation some times, mostly in the past, but now the thing I need most is self discipline to work towards my bigger objectives in life, and your lessons really made me want to achieve this self discipline, thank you.
Hidden Time Wealth is so unique. I can’t believe I hadn’t heard about it sooner. It’s amazing how life-changing this can be for anyone battling procrastination.
There's definitely good ideas here, particularly the first, third, and fourth. In combination with another video I recently watched which equated procrastination with resistance, I especially appreciate number 3. I would like to share a word of caution concerning meditation. There are ways to improve focus and self-discipline that do not require going into full-blown meditation, which has harmful effects as well as beneficial. For example, I read a book written by a man who was formerly in the New Age, but left it. He meditated everyday. During the time that he was doing so, he was convinced his car radio was broken because he could never hear any base. He'd had it "fixed" multiple times, to no avail. When he decided to stop meditating and tossed out all his related paraphernalia, he suddenly was able to hear the base in his car radio. I think it was the very next day. Don't ask me to explain the biological processes that caused this phenomenon; the author himself didn't know. But that was his experience. There were other issues as well, but I'm not going to get into all that. The point is, just because something has benefits, doesn't mean it's all good. It's like certain foods. There may be good nutrients in it and you might decide it's good to eat, but there might also be something harmful in the food, and you might reap some unpleasant consequences in the future for eating it. So, be sure to research things like that very carefully before you just dive headlong into it just because your favourite TH-camr does it....
I think I’ve been struggling with the why part. I’ve conditioned myself to think that success is frankly not that exciting and worth pursuing and this is slowly ruining my life. I have no idea how am I supposed to rewire myself. When I was younger I didn’t even think a second about why I am studying so hard and trying to get ahead in life, it all made sense. I think after I got my first job it all started to crumble. Oftentimes, success means extremely long work hours, sacrificing health and nerves to achieve a much better position in life but as a rule, the more successful you grow the more people start expecting from you and you essentially trap yourself in your success. This way of life seems kind of unnecessary, especially when you objectively have everything you need for a comfortable life but that exact comfort is what makes me depressed I guess. Life is strange guys.
Would to add environment. James Clear in Atomic Habits noted that you have to prime your environment, your work spaces. Use desk for work, use couch to relax, use bed to sleep, use hobby room for hobby etc.... Als technologic, use mobile for WhatsApp, use desktop computer for business, use iPad for entertainment etc .... James Clear noted also that self discipline/ self control are short term fixes for habit change. Keep up the good work !!!
I need you to understand self discipline is the main thing. It's the ultimate demon, it's the hardest thing to conquer because once done you can conquer ANYTHING. Everything comes down to self discipline, changing your body, making money, drug addictions. You're capable of so much so don't let those voices in your head keep you back. You deserve everything you want it just all comes down to discipline don't give up. Anyway I just made a video on all this and went in deep I would appreciate if you checked it out, thanks.🙏
I do something similar which society calls as 'meditation' but in my brain this thing is something more personal, that didn't need a tag. I prefer also to speak to my self, and honestly, in this sessions taked just for break time from society, I took from my self the best advices that I received in my life.
A flip side for the identity method! So, while I think the identity method is such a empowering mindset change, I've recently read a Mark Manson (The art of not giving a f#ck author) article which said the exact opposite: to not get your identity involved in the actions you want to do because it could get you emotionally attached in an unhealthy way. The article is called "Stop trying to change yourself" (not as bad as it sounds). I'd say give that a read as well and then decide which mindset empowers you more. For me it's getting my identity involved. But I thought I'd share this regardless. Thomas, your personal development videos are my favourite, you make them so complete and resourceful. Also, I've got my Brilliant membership. Still debating on the cold showers...
I'll give that a read when I can! My initial thought - perhaps there's a time at which to apply both philosophies. I know that it can be dangerous to tie your identity to actions in certain ways, because you're pegging your confidence and self-worth to their outcomes. Perhaps it's the outcomes of the actions that are dangerous to rely upon. But embodying the identity that encourages me to actually put in the work - the right input-based goals, perhaps - seems healthy to me.
I'll agree - as someone who for many years based their entire identity upon being a brainiac. However, I think the perspective Thomas mentions would be better fitting for ADDING something to your identity, ex. I have been working hard on the identity "factor" of being someone who goes to the gym to lead a healthier life. I don't se myself as someone who exercises 24/7 like I used to playing soccer 6 days a week, because that is not sustainable in my adult student life and would only lead to me feeling disappointed in myself for not maintaining the crazy physique I had in my teens. Right now I am just aiming to get more energy in my daily life, and thus I add the "I exercise for health"-identity factor. Makes sense?
I need you to understand self discipline is the main thing. It's the ultimate demon, it's the hardest thing to conquer because once done you can conquer ANYTHING. Everything comes down to self discipline, changing your body, making money, drug addictions. You're capable of so much so don't let those voices in your head keep you back. You deserve everything you want it just all comes down to discipline don't give up. Anyway I just made a video on all this and went in deep I would appreciate if you checked it out, thanks.🙏
I am struggling to complete my masters thesis. I cannot stress enough how little I care about this project and how unmotivated I am to write it. But I am not someone who gives up, and I am very frustrated watching potential job opportunities pass me by. I am a fan of Jordan Peterson and he has helped me try to get my life together little by little. But I have never heard him speak about self discipline. This video helps. Thank you
Great stuff. Having something you want to work towards helps you with self discipline. Loved how you mentioned James Clear's new book. Heard good things about it and I am looking forward to reading it
I need you to understand self discipline is the main thing. It's the ultimate demon, it's the hardest thing to conquer because once done you can conquer ANYTHING. Everything comes down to self discipline, changing your body, making money, drug addictions. You're capable of so much so don't let those voices in your head keep you back. You deserve everything you want it just all comes down to discipline don't give up. Anyway I just made a video on all this and went in deep I would appreciate if you checked it out, thanks.🙏
@8:00 Thomas that might be interesting to you: Mindfulness meditation techniques also proved to reduce a cognitive bias (the Einstellung effect) and thus enhances creativity (Greenberg/Reiner/Meiran, Mind the Trap, 2012).
A thought was presented to me by this girl I used to chat with briefly here and there. She said "when I think about who I am, instead of thinking about what I do I like to think of myself alone, secluded in a room looking at myself in a 3rd person, away from all immediate influence and I think what about me impresses me" and it was to talk about how she focuses more on her character than her accomplishments. She's a very accomplished person herself so I've dwelled on that for the past year and I've unfortunately been inconsistent with how well I apply it I also agree that I've felt my very best in life in the times I focused on my character and "identity" over focusing on my goals. I have an issue where I have 2 long term goals that are very conflicting and it runs me in circles quite a bit. Trying to commit to both at once is very difficult, but focusing on my identity has brought me closer to both goals than focusing on the goals themselves ever did. I still at this very moment have trouble consistent applying that practice, but when things are going well mentally and I'm able to actually focus it truly works wonders
Your content is amazing! I've already read your book. I just wish that someday it get translated to portuguese, I think your books would make a huge difference in my class mate's lives. A big thanks from Brazil
Your videos are not only to watch for entertainment or relaxation. Your videos help people (including me) to become better persons. Happier persons. Thank you!
Thank u so much for uplifting my esteem and potential.....hope I could work upon the better part of myself...by being more self- disciplined after seeing this video...😇😇🧡
There is one quote that I really like and tell myself each time my brain goes "I don't feel like it": "You can either endure the pain of self-discipline or suffer the pain of regret" I think that is a very strong phrase for anyone who knows how it feels like to be in that phase of regret and beating oneself up.
1:10 Even though Discipline is about enduring tough times and disconfort, even doing stuff when you don't want too, and motivation is usually linked to having a fire to do something, i think their source is the same. I think a strong why may be even more important through perils and difficults, the situations that require Self Discipline, than when It's all going well for you. Maybe there's not much distinction between motivation and discipline cause everyone faces roadblocks and you will need the determination to keep moving foward even when you want to quit. I think you start all wrong expecting things to be easy so you need accept reality and plan as such. I think this require the right mindset/self talk and the right tools (cause creative ways to solve problem can change EVERYTHING, think industrial revolution).
Self discipline is really a way of knowing that I can make a switch if I need and want or stay at the same spot. but I will only make it if necessary. This start with a really good judgment of right and wrong
wow. ive been struggling with depression and i feel like a lot of my depressed feelings have decreased with my medication. however, the motivation doesn’t come with it, and i feel like it doesn’t even last. i really need to discipline myself and it’s definitely a challenge.
This was a great video. I personally think the two key fundamentals that everything falls under for discipline is mindset and habits. Get those right, the rest will fall into place. Why hate meditation??
Honestly, it's because it's very hard for me. I'm an extremely active person, so I have a lot of grit when it comes to actually working or pushing myself athletically. Sitting on the floor and doing nothing? Now that's a challenge...
@@Thomasfrank Thanks for clarifying, it is an act that requires a lot of discipline. If your mind wanders from your breathing, have you considered chanting (e.g. saying Om)? The reason is it's easier to stay focused on a chant than it is on breathing. You can work your way up to different states of focus
I personally think the two key fundamentals that everything falls under for discipline is mindset inhabit get those right the rest will fall into place
At the end of the video, would it be possible for you to summarize the concepts covered in the video? The tips you gave, as well as the books and apps that you mention. I feel like in each video there's a lot of good content but it's difficult to keep up with. For example, the mobile apps you mentioned I had to go back to see what they were because I forgot lol :). Do you happen to have a reading list as well?
Don’t be motivated, be disciplined. Change your mindset to be consistent. Create reminders. Embrace disconfort. Something I might add: Film yourself doing it (like a study with me thing) and post it, it really motivates you and you Don’t even have to show your face. Really, try it.
Meditation I'm a huge fan of . When changing your mind and outlook on challenges meditation really helps me to stay calm and focused through the discomfort of building mental toughness and self discipline
How can I be self-disciplined when I am constantly ill and have unexpected appointments with the doctor? I find it very difficult to keep to plans. How I you stay on track when something comes up or stops me?
@@victoriauwandu3858 Yes, I do. I also meant more the aspect of unpredictability - for example, that the children are suddenly ill and all plans have to be changed. Fixed doctor's appointments can be planned well - that's not a problem. Such events - such as illness - always throw me off my game when I want to incorporate fixed routines into my day.
@Jeff Brown Thanks for your answer. Yes, I concentrate on the small steps when things are not going the way they should. Sometimes I think I might want too much or put too much pressure on myself. That really doesn't help.
Stay on track with things, sure, but remember not to put so much pressure on yourself when things don’t go your way. For example, if you’ve planned to read some book, and you or someone you care for has gotten ill, it’s perfectly fine if you don’t stay on track. You can spend whatever time you have to do it, but don’t feel like you’re not doing enough. But another side of it is, don’t let it be the excuse. Don’t say, I couldn’t read this book because of this. That’s just avoidance. Unexpected events are going to derail you sometimes, but taking little moments out of your day for instance reading that book, will accumulate to its completion.
Also, if you have unpredictable days, maybe you should try planning your day differently, rather than trying to follow fixed schedules. For instance, to do list and estimated completion times( eg. Hanging up the washing-10 minutes). Have a look at his videos I think I remember something about different schedules.
I struggle with motivation and discipline on a daily basis...even recently quit my job and have been feeling so lost for the past year. How can you overcome these feelings when you also have major depression??
thank you this video is helping me so much !currently want to be a cop and then m feeling overwhelmed with all the tests and i knew i needed to discipline myself when i was not motivated
Thank you. i got alot out of your programme. I can do discaple easy to go to work always but now i am retired i find no purpose to get up and move about. Another learning curve for me. But i will get it. i gave kup smoking drinking and this is my next one.
Thank You Thomas Frank I am glad I came across your vedio I needs something like this to help not only me but my son our life's are being distroyed by lack of discipline and motivation I cant even concor the basic a sleep habit -that is really seriously screwing me an my household bc of sleep an me being lazy the next morning Thanks again
2x microdosing LSD a week + 4x mindfulness meditation + visualisation (yourself in a position who sees his problems as his own to be more a discilpined "workaholic") a week + 4x sport a week + always optimising diet + a good diary (tracking achievements/habits) and good planning
On that first tip: I've always thought this was one of the biggest secrets to success but I've never been able to articulate it! When I commit to being something, such as a studious academic, small business owner or avid meditator, and start saying that I'm that to other people, my actions naturally start to align with these roles.
If you know your WHY or have a big enough reason, then it gets very easier to be more disciplined. Your WHY must be arousing enough for you to take actions and not procrastinate.
Sadly most people don't even know their why, some people think they do but it ends up being something that was influenced into them by looking at others or probably by their education system, well of course there are exceptions as well , like people who have had a strong why since forever to which they have stuck on and never wavered or been distracted by the seduction of others "why", They should really add this as a subject to school, maybe something called "goals" or something where they let students rediscover themselves and actually know what they want (might not be a perfect system but anyways better then nothing, and also better then realising it later on when life actually forces u to choose)
Thomas, I listen/read/follow a lot of good stuff about self help from many masters of the disciplines, and you have an outstanding way of delivering them all in this video and many of your others! Thanks for your time and effort my friend!
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*"How strange and foolish is man. He loses his health in gaining wealth. Then, to regain his health he wastes his wealth. He ruins his present while worrying about his future, but weeps in the future by recalling his past. He lives as though death shall never come to him, but dies in a way as if he was never born"*
Attributed to Imam Ali (ra) (Idk if it's authentic or not)
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Do you know what is worthless that way of thinking, a person with that sort of perception has such a common mindset even though he/she think his/her mindset is somehow unique it is just nihilistic and most people commonly subconsciously hold to these same beliefs they are about 90% of the world that why they don't ever create impact or apply there life to make the lives of others better or build their own lives they assume they are powerless and so become enslaved to their own notion that their is no hope for them but this might be a shock buddy everybody doesn't live that way.
Wait a minute, this sounds like Seneca
@@reecebartlett8565 Its a quote directed to the greedy merchant-folks and tribal chieftains of the Arab peninsula, in the seventh century AD. In another quote, this man has said "Work for your afterlife as if you will die as soon as tomorrow, and work for your life as if you live forever", and similarly, the meaning is very theological, and talks about the afterlife's importance in a Muslim's life. It comes exaggerated in this way as though to inspire, but this Imam was not a man who stood against hard work; he worked as a well digger despite being a caliph, a position that gives one absolute authority over an Islamic empire that extended from Persia to Tunisia. He gave charity to all who needed it, even Christian citizens of the Rashiddun caliphate.
It comes to no surprise that this selfless, hard working islamic champion would guide his people into Religion's ultimate goal: seeking God's salvation and entering his heavens. To be able to achieve the latter, one must dedicate themselves to God's worship, and the following of his orders.
In the Islamic scripture, known as the Quran (The evidence), and in the Prophet's quotes (The Hadith), it is implied that knowledge, hard work and discipline are required from a Muslim, whilst also adhering to God's word, in worshiping, charity, being nice, etc.
Thanks bro for the context I was a bit quick to attack.
There's a book called Hidden Time Wealth, and it talks about how using some secret techniques, you can overcome procrastination and accomplish anything in life. It's not just a bunch of empty promises; it's the real deal.
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"Start thinking in behavior change in terms of The person you want to embody, rather than the goals that you want to achieve."
That phrase hit me like a truck, thank you, Tom.
Me too man.
Yup, it’s two very different answers things to me when i ask myself about my goals vs who i want to be
I need you to understand self discipline is the main thing. It's the ultimate demon, it's the hardest thing to conquer because once done you can conquer ANYTHING. Everything comes down to self discipline, changing your body, making money, drug addictions. You're capable of so much so don't let those voices in your head keep you back. You deserve everything you want it just all comes down to discipline don't give up. Anyway I just made a video on all this and went in deep I would appreciate if you checked it out, thanks.🙏
**enter the grammar police
“Self-discipline is about leaning into resistance. Taking action in spite of how you feel. Living a life by design, not by default. But most importantly, it’s acting in accordance with your thoughts-not your feelings.”
This is definitely one of the most beautiful quote I ever read.
You explained this really well!
Thank you for your points about self-discipline!
I’ll remember this for next time! 😄
Wow
@@NathalieLazo just take a screenshot that's what I did, ain't no remembering it for me unless I see it . LOL
I need you to understand self discipline is the main thing. It's the ultimate demon, it's the hardest thing to conquer because once done you can conquer ANYTHING. Everything comes down to self discipline, changing your body, making money, drug addictions. You're capable of so much so don't let those voices in your head keep you back. You deserve everything you want it just all comes down to discipline don't give up. Anyway I just made a video on all this and went in deep I would appreciate if you checked it out, thanks.🙏
1. Create an Identity
- Instead of saying _"I'm trying to quit X",_ say _"I don't do X"_
2. Set a Reminder
- This ensures that you don't forget
3. Embrace the suck
- Push through with things that you don't want to do in order to improve self discipline
4. Target the Fundamentals
- Focus mainly on health( getting good sleep, eating healthy, and exercise)
5. Practice Zazen meditation
6. Build some habits
- Use a habit tracker
- Look for a positive trend, not on being perfect
Thank you, this should be pinned.
Thank youuu!!
Bless you 🙏😅
Merci beacoup
Thnx
“I think everybody should get rich and famous and do everything they ever dreamed of so they can see that it's not the answer.” - Jim Carey
Deák Tamás Wow...Jim Carey said almost the same thing as Solomon in Ecclesiasties!
I don't get it..
In other word: being rich is not the answer to ur problems... there are always another problem even if you're rich...
@@marsinahpriyanto2582 so true, if you are not satisfied from within, no amount of external remedies will fix you. Self discipline greatly helps with this.
wow
1.Focus on identity
2.create reminders
3.embrace the suck
4.Focus on proper rest and nutrition
5.Practice meditation
6.Build new habits
Thank you brother...Useful video as always..and one thing,can you please make a video on How to go to bed on time?.. I've been trying to build the habit of waking up early and I've failed to reach automaticity because I struggle to go to bed on time..
Thanks bro
Yes, especially because going to bed and actually falling asleep are sometimes hours apart
its the meditation that makes me realize im concentrated on my breathing so im concentrated on the here and now. instead of what could be or how things should of been
Dai R. Thank you! 🙏🏼
Thanks mate
Great JOB! I thought I would add (thank you, Victor...)
Self-Discipline is about leaning into resistance.
Taking action in spite of how you feel.
Living a life by design not by default.
But most importantly, it’s action in accordance with your thoughts
- not your feelings
(Samuel Thomas Davies)
1. 2:17 - Create an Identity
- Instead of saying "I'm trying to quit X", say "I don't do X"
2. 4:32 - Set a Reminder
- This ensures that you don't forget
3. 5:23 - Embrace the suck
- Push through with things that you don't want to do in order to improve self-discipline
4. 6:32 - Target the Fundamentals
- Focus mainly on health( getting good sleep, eating healthy, and exercise)
5. 7:38 - Practice Zazen meditation
6. 8:43 - Build some habits
- Use a habit tracker
- Look for a positive trend, not on being perfect
Great work I even enjoyed your book.
4 main areas:
Discipline
Environment
Habits
Discipline - do it regardless how u feel
Baseline to archieve goals
/focus on identity
/set reminders
/ embrace resistance
/target the fundamentals first- food, rest, exercise
/build new habits
#5 meditation
Also, sleep* in particular, not just rest
This definition of discipline is very , very POWERFUL .
Lucas Meotti Dude you make it sound easy.I know what to do but don’t know how to do it.
Thank you for the summarization of the main aspects of this video
if you want to go deeper into the rabbit hole, 'Unveiling Your Hidden Potential' by Bruce Thornwood is a must-read
I really try to stay neutral and not say anything, but you are GLOWING. Your confidence is justing shining right through your face. You look amazing!! Keep it up!
Sugar Skulls he is distractingly cute
I'm distracted by his cuteness...im not understanding what he is saying
Cold showers are honestly a gateway, highly recommend.
Or the consequence of neglecting to put on sunscreen.
You think so Adrian? I am working on getting disciplined & getting things done. Maybe I ought to give it a try. 🤔
Alot of health benefits to it! Helps promote restful sleep, increase metabolism and burn fat, etc.
Actually alot of people have said it really isnt.
@@katoria69
Then i shouldn't take cold showers haha, i have really fast metabolism and im really thin.
I just started reading Atomic Habits. It's the best book I've read this year especially when James talked about how you should improve 1% every day and embrace who you want to become.
I have a bad habit of studying according to my mood 🙃 I will sit one day for hours studying and then stop for the next three days💆♀️. I want to do the best everyday😔
maybe its burn it? just do enough each day to feel good about your work but not enough to get tired of the process
instead of sprinting and then burning out, try pacing yourself more! pomodoro timer helps me because it forces me to take breaks. make sure to actually follow it tho and try doing it consistently for a week. hope this helps :)
Don't try to study every single day, you will burn yourself out and it will be counter productive in the long run. Best of luck to you!
Same.
watch his motivation video.
The entire video can be a life building video by itself. Amazing bro. Keep going
Have it on a daily "to play" playlist and in one year you'll be better than you were this year!
Abner Bondoc yea I feel like this one was a distillation of a lot of really important lessons that I’ve had to learn more scatteredly over the past 3 years.
Life changing really.
I need you to understand self discipline is the main thing. It's the ultimate demon, it's the hardest thing to conquer because once done you can conquer ANYTHING. Everything comes down to self discipline, changing your body, making money, drug addictions. You're capable of so much so don't let those voices in your head keep you back. You deserve everything you want it just all comes down to discipline don't give up. Anyway I just made a video on all this and went in deep I would appreciate if you checked it out, thanks.🙏
What I’ve discovered today, my own method ;
1: Catch yourself being unconscious of your actions, be as conscious as possible with any action you take.
2. Retrieve from your mind what you’d like to achieve and which are those actions that’ll help you get there and whether in your current conscious moment, the task at hand aligns.
3. Realise and look back on all the times you’ve procrastinated because you’re tired etc and realise you’ve never actually once felt like doing it and always resorted to later and it ended up not being done.
Basically my magic formula,
“Wake up” from your current action
Question if it aligns
Know it doesn’t, change your action
You don’t feel like it
Realise, you’ll never feel like it
You didn't only come up with it, but you wrote it down and shared it with us, thx!
Thanks for sharing!!!
Thankzz brotha
Thank you for this!
Thank you so much
I have a personal favorite quote from Eric Thomas that goes something like this.
Self-discipline is "to be able, at any moment,to sacrifice what you are for what you will become".
This is really good stuff. I have ADHD and I choose not to take medication for it, I am looking for natural ways to increase my focus and discipline, I liked the part about identity the best. It really makes sense
I like the resistance/ lifting analogy. Embrace the suck... If I feel like I don’t want to do it.. then I know If I DO, I’ll be making progress🤓
😂 Doesn't sound bright, buddy
@@hansdampf4120 what?
Steffen Kress you noticed a typo thanks for catching that!👍🏽
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YOU MUST DO SOMETHING THAT SUCKS EVERY SINGLE DAY..
My summary (+some own thoughts):
->In short: Self-Discipline (SD) is about leaning into resistance. Taking action in spite of how you feel. Living a life by design, not by default. But most importantly, it's acting in accordance with your thoughts - not your feelings. -> SD is the ability to make the conscious decision to do something regardless of whether you feel motivated.
->6 strategies for building SD:
1. Forget about the goal, focus on the shift in identity (see James Clear, Atomic Habit)
a) Example: Think of yourself as an athlete ->you're more motivated to hit the gym, eat healthy etc.
b) Enemy: Imposter Syndrome might make you feel insecure whether you could fulfill a particular role -> overcome it!
c) Explanation: Cialdini's consistency principle: ppl want to act according to their previous decisions / principles etc.
2. Frequently remind yourself of why you're being disciplined at all (see Sinek, Start With Why)
a) Write down your long-term goals and store them visibly in your everyday life (on the wall, display background picture, on your desk, in your wallet etc.)
b) Example: Jim Carrey's $10M cheque that he gave to himself at the beginning of his career and carried around for motivation
3. Embrace the resistance/discomfort in every situation (see Taleb, Antifragile)
a) It's like a rep in the gym -> with each rep your will gets stronger
b) The increase in willpower will be beneficial towards ANY future tasks
c) Look for ways in everyday life to embrace discomfort, e. g. take cold showers, stairs instead of elevator, hit the gym etc.
4. Target the fundamentals first
a) Fundamental needs: food, rest, exercise etc. (see Maslow's pyramid)
b) Why? Brain-part that handles executive functioning ("internal manager", System II (see Kahneman), locus of willpower) requires lots of energy and rest
5. Regular zen meditation
a) Zen meditation has many benefits: relieves einstellung effect (more creativity), better concentration, improves emotion regulation & self-discipline
b) Apps for guided meditation: Headspace, Calm, YT Videos
c) Thomas recommends Zazen (sit & concentrate on your breath, eyes closed, notice and let go of distracting thoughts); "It's the self-development technique I hate doing the most, but the benefits are undeniable"
6. Build new habits
a) The initial stages of building new habits require self-discipline as it's not automatic yet
b) The self-discipline is improving in the process of habit development for reasons similar to 3 ("mental training")
c) When a habit gets automatic it requires much less self-discipline in the future
d) For every habit you build: start small, track your progress, maybe use an app like habitica/strides/habitbull, celebrate your wins and focus not too much on purity/streaks. Instead make sure your trend is going in a overall positive direction.
Thanks
I need you to understand self discipline is the main thing. It's the ultimate demon, it's the hardest thing to conquer because once done you can conquer ANYTHING. Everything comes down to self discipline, changing your body, making money, drug addictions. You're capable of so much so don't let those voices in your head keep you back. You deserve everything you want it just all comes down to discipline don't give up. Anyway I just made a video on all this and went in deep I would appreciate if you checked it out, thanks.🙏
So to summarize:
1)Change identity
2)become uncomfortable
3)set Reminders
4)take care of your body
5)meditate
6)build habits
Many students (including me) in my country love to create visual reminders when we're studying for university entrance exams. We create scrapbooks, moodboards, write journals, PInterest boards, print our dream university's logos and pictures and put it on the wall in front of our desks, and set the pictures of our dream universities as our wallpaper. I myself set my target university as my laptop wallpaper. Every day, when I open my laptop, I see my reminder and I instill it into my mind, again and again. Now, I'm already in my dream university and it feels AMAZING. My wallpaper becomes a silent witness of all my hard work.
How in the earth he knew that I needed this ?
Happened to me tooooooooo
Most people need this
He always posts things I need at the right time! :)
may be your dad
I know right
I think you mentioned balance but I still want to add: Have a hobby/activity that has NOTHING to do with your main goal. Doing something else between the work phases helps me a lot in being productive. My goal is becoming an accountant/working with law & taxation. I've found sewing to be a really good hobby for me. So, I learn and then take a break by sewing. I try not to think about my study during the break and it really works for me.
But how do you get better at self discipline when you have things to do but you don't see the point in it? For example, a student in school may understand the importance but may also understand school is not entirely important in becoming "successful."
Something that's always helped me:
I worked at a grocery store in high school. Before my first day at work started, my mom told me, "It doesn't matter whether you want to work there forever or not. It doesn't matter if you're only there for the money. You go in and work as hard as you can in order to show that you're a good worker, to pay your dues, and to serve the people you're working for."
Come to think of it, this actually goes right back to that whole identity thing. It didn't matter that I wasn't the biggest fan of bagging groceries; my mother taught me to be the kind of person who actually gives a damn and works hard no matter what I'm doing.
I think viewing school the same way would be helpful.
@@Thomasfrank Thank you, as a student who is in high school you have helped.
Suraiya Shiwnarain, your name sound very Elvish.
You are just making an excuse not to go to school.
Suraiya Shiwnarain absolutely agreed.
Embrace discomfort. Lean into resistance. Every "I don't feel like it" moment is an opportunity to develop self-discipline.
The thing about self-discipline is it is so hard to get into the habit but once you're in it feels amazing.
hopefully
@@randomxshitz5217 you good bro?
I need you to understand self discipline is the main thing. It's the ultimate demon, it's the hardest thing to conquer because once done you can conquer ANYTHING. Everything comes down to self discipline, changing your body, making money, drug addictions. You're capable of so much so don't let those voices in your head keep you back. You deserve everything you want it just all comes down to discipline don't give up. Anyway I just made a video on all this and went in deep I would appreciate if you checked it out, thanks.🙏
I’m taking the first steps. I’ve been in celebration/vacation mindset since my last big accomplishment nearly 2 years ago. Time to shape back up, in every form. Thanks for the tips!
The notif for this vid came as if it’s watching me,, truly needed, especially that I haven’t been able to leave my phone and make myself work over the last week.. thank you for the video Thomas! I always look up to your videos!
Me too😪
When I was in school I thought I wasn't giving as much effort as I could and I started calling myself a Nerd and changed my habits to suit
Why does it feel like he caught me procrastinating and uploaded a video to stop me from doing so
Same here
He got your back
Because you lazy. Like everyone else.
And he needs views and likes.
😂😂
The concept of Hidden Time Wealth blew my mind. It’s like finding a cheat code for productivity and defeating procrastination.
Excellent video as always Tom. Another great self-discipline tactic is making your bed every morning. I started this about a year ago after hearing an incredible speech on the power of making your bed. I now do it every morning without fail and find that it helps me feel more disciplined and starts me off in a better state of mind. It also feels like a small accomplishment every day :)
The end goal is what keeps me motivated n disciplined. I know where I wanna be in a few years time so I keep that in my head at all times for when I have a give up moment I think back as to y I wanted it in the first place
This is probably the best advice I’ve received within this genre. Thank you for your efforts.
매일 영어공부 !!!
잘 듣고 있고 , 좋은 습관을 기르는 데에도 많은 도움이 됩니다.
건강하셔요 ~
Just when I was binge watching Netflix. Best timing.
This showed up on Netflix?
Quality is that good, eh?
I like that you knew better and acted upon it.
Thank you so much for all of the valuable information you provide. I was introduced to you through an online college class that had your note taking video available.
really great video and tips... I want to add something though... Gretchen Rubin´s four personality types (the upholder, questioner, rebel, and obliger) explained a lot for me... Everytime I tried to actually write down a goal or use a habit tracker I failed after a week or two... then I hated myself for being not disciplined enough and not keeping promises to myself... but in fact, every time, I tell myself I really really want to do something, and become obsessed with it, but don´t tell anybody and don´t write it down, for some reason it works (most of the time).... so even if (according to Rubin), the rebel model is the smallest group of the four personality types, I figured out that I don´t like being told what to do by anyone, not even myself...then it becomes a chore, and I don´t like it and rebel against it... but when I´m getting obsessed about it and thinking about it constantly (and also using your tips like making it non-negotiable, a part of my identity, stop thinking, just doing), I´m doing much much better :) Hope this might help someone...and maybe you could even do a video about it?! :) anyways, great job! :)
I love how this guy gives advice on self-improvement without making anyone feel guilty about the behaviours they want to change. A lot of channels like this use adversarial, “tough love” techniques that just aren’t very motivating to me, this guy seems very nice and encouraging.
Omg he’s quoting actual psychologists, I think I’m in love.
Ok now I just think Thomas is a mind reader he always puts out the right videos at the right time I swear he sees us all sitting on the couch instead of doing our assignments 😄
I agree 😂😂
You have changed my life. I'm thirteen going on fourteen and i got into a really bad place and almost killed myself recently. I went through therapy that encouraged me to reevaluate my life and myself and how i let others affect me. The boom seven habits of effective teens taught me about paradigm shifts. And while before i looked to your channel for study tips, i now see a huge opportunity and a role model like no other. I am learning to listen, and to use stratedy to interact with others, one of my biggest weaknesses. I could go on, but honestly, thank you.
This is the first biggest step to greatness and you’ve achieved it, I’m happy for you, you should be proud
Acknowledge and take accountability
Hey Thomas and everyone else: This might be a bit late for you but i found a great Tip to keep Focus on Meditation and not get distracted as easily is to establish a very simple Mantra: Just repeat the Word ONE in your Head. It makes it so whenever your monkey brain sends your thoughts flying, you immediately refocus again because you have to formulate the word one in your head. this is of course possible with any word, but i find a visual 1 that i "say" with my inner voice aswell to be quite difficult to maintain so i have to focus. Hope it helps anyone!
That smoking reference and how the two levels of severity in boundaries are actually an indicator of how dedicated we actually are to change was great. Being consciously curious as to why we operate the way we do is an amazing tool to stay present, rather than robotically pushing through the day reaching into the future or the past to sustain an emotional fulfillment we haven't quite ascended to yet.
Man, this video came to me in a perfect time. I will graduate this year in computer science, and I had practice meditation some times, mostly in the past, but now the thing I need most is self discipline to work towards my bigger objectives in life, and your lessons really made me want to achieve this self discipline, thank you.
Hidden Time Wealth is so unique. I can’t believe I hadn’t heard about it sooner. It’s amazing how life-changing this can be for anyone battling procrastination.
There's definitely good ideas here, particularly the first, third, and fourth. In combination with another video I recently watched which equated procrastination with resistance, I especially appreciate number 3.
I would like to share a word of caution concerning meditation. There are ways to improve focus and self-discipline that do not require going into full-blown meditation, which has harmful effects as well as beneficial.
For example, I read a book written by a man who was formerly in the New Age, but left it. He meditated everyday. During the time that he was doing so, he was convinced his car radio was broken because he could never hear any base. He'd had it "fixed" multiple times, to no avail. When he decided to stop meditating and tossed out all his related paraphernalia, he suddenly was able to hear the base in his car radio. I think it was the very next day. Don't ask me to explain the biological processes that caused this phenomenon; the author himself didn't know. But that was his experience.
There were other issues as well, but I'm not going to get into all that. The point is, just because something has benefits, doesn't mean it's all good. It's like certain foods. There may be good nutrients in it and you might decide it's good to eat, but there might also be something harmful in the food, and you might reap some unpleasant consequences in the future for eating it. So, be sure to research things like that very carefully before you just dive headlong into it just because your favourite TH-camr does it....
I think I’ve been struggling with the why part. I’ve conditioned myself to think that success is frankly not that exciting and worth pursuing and this is slowly ruining my life. I have no idea how am I supposed to rewire myself.
When I was younger I didn’t even think a second about why I am studying so hard and trying to get ahead in life, it all made sense. I think after I got my first job it all started to crumble.
Oftentimes, success means extremely long work hours, sacrificing health and nerves to achieve a much better position in life but as a rule, the more successful you grow the more people start expecting from you and you essentially trap yourself in your success.
This way of life seems kind of unnecessary, especially when you objectively have everything you need for a comfortable life but that exact comfort is what makes me depressed I guess. Life is strange guys.
THIS IS THE MOST USEFUL THING I'VE LEARNED IN THE PAST 2 YEARS! THANK YOU!
I watch this video every time I've lost focus , this is too precious
0:35 - 0:39. So well put. Thanks.
Would to add environment. James Clear in Atomic Habits noted that you have to prime your environment, your work spaces. Use desk for work, use couch to relax, use bed to sleep, use hobby room for hobby etc....
Als technologic, use mobile for WhatsApp, use desktop computer for business, use iPad for entertainment etc ....
James Clear noted also that self discipline/ self control are short term fixes for habit change.
Keep up the good work !!!
1. Focus on your identity
2. Set Reminders
3. Embrace discomfort
4. Health is wealth - sleep + nutrition
5. Practice Zazen
6. Create new habits
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I need you to understand self discipline is the main thing. It's the ultimate demon, it's the hardest thing to conquer because once done you can conquer ANYTHING. Everything comes down to self discipline, changing your body, making money, drug addictions. You're capable of so much so don't let those voices in your head keep you back. You deserve everything you want it just all comes down to discipline don't give up. Anyway I just made a video on all this and went in deep I would appreciate if you checked it out, thanks.🙏
I do something similar which society calls as 'meditation' but in my brain this thing is something more personal, that didn't need a tag. I prefer also to speak to my self, and honestly, in this sessions taked just for break time from society, I took from my self the best advices that I received in my life.
A flip side for the identity method! So, while I think the identity method is such a empowering mindset change, I've recently read a Mark Manson (The art of not giving a f#ck author) article which said the exact opposite: to not get your identity involved in the actions you want to do because it could get you emotionally attached in an unhealthy way. The article is called "Stop trying to change yourself" (not as bad as it sounds). I'd say give that a read as well and then decide which mindset empowers you more. For me it's getting my identity involved. But I thought I'd share this regardless. Thomas, your personal development videos are my favourite, you make them so complete and resourceful. Also, I've got my Brilliant membership. Still debating on the cold showers...
I'll give that a read when I can!
My initial thought - perhaps there's a time at which to apply both philosophies. I know that it can be dangerous to tie your identity to actions in certain ways, because you're pegging your confidence and self-worth to their outcomes. Perhaps it's the outcomes of the actions that are dangerous to rely upon.
But embodying the identity that encourages me to actually put in the work - the right input-based goals, perhaps - seems healthy to me.
I'll agree - as someone who for many years based their entire identity upon being a brainiac. However, I think the perspective Thomas mentions would be better fitting for ADDING something to your identity, ex. I have been working hard on the identity "factor" of being someone who goes to the gym to lead a healthier life. I don't se myself as someone who exercises 24/7 like I used to playing soccer 6 days a week, because that is not sustainable in my adult student life and would only lead to me feeling disappointed in myself for not maintaining the crazy physique I had in my teens. Right now I am just aiming to get more energy in my daily life, and thus I add the "I exercise for health"-identity factor. Makes sense?
I need you to understand self discipline is the main thing. It's the ultimate demon, it's the hardest thing to conquer because once done you can conquer ANYTHING. Everything comes down to self discipline, changing your body, making money, drug addictions. You're capable of so much so don't let those voices in your head keep you back. You deserve everything you want it just all comes down to discipline don't give up. Anyway I just made a video on all this and went in deep I would appreciate if you checked it out, thanks.🙏
Thank you very much Thomas Frank this has helped me a lot as a middle schooler who is a little behind on work.
Abraham Lincoln : " Self discipline is difference between what you want now and what you want most."☺️
I am struggling to complete my masters thesis. I cannot stress enough how little I care about this project and how unmotivated I am to write it. But I am not someone who gives up, and I am very frustrated watching potential job opportunities pass me by.
I am a fan of Jordan Peterson and he has helped me try to get my life together little by little. But I have never heard him speak about self discipline. This video helps.
Thank you
Great stuff. Having something you want to work towards helps you with self discipline. Loved how you mentioned James Clear's new book. Heard good things about it and I am looking forward to reading it
I need you to understand self discipline is the main thing. It's the ultimate demon, it's the hardest thing to conquer because once done you can conquer ANYTHING. Everything comes down to self discipline, changing your body, making money, drug addictions. You're capable of so much so don't let those voices in your head keep you back. You deserve everything you want it just all comes down to discipline don't give up. Anyway I just made a video on all this and went in deep I would appreciate if you checked it out, thanks.🙏
@8:00 Thomas that might be interesting to you: Mindfulness meditation techniques also proved to reduce a cognitive bias (the Einstellung effect) and thus enhances creativity (Greenberg/Reiner/Meiran, Mind the Trap, 2012).
you are right, discipline is hard to obtain, all goes with facing your discomforts.
I actually need this. My exam is next week and I am just chilling.
I bet you're still chilling
Atb bro... Do well. Even I've got my exams the next week 😛
@@TheRelentlessKnight I am :) :(
U still chilling?
Still chilling bruh?
A thought was presented to me by this girl I used to chat with briefly here and there. She said "when I think about who I am, instead of thinking about what I do I like to think of myself alone, secluded in a room looking at myself in a 3rd person, away from all immediate influence and I think what about me impresses me" and it was to talk about how she focuses more on her character than her accomplishments. She's a very accomplished person herself so I've dwelled on that for the past year and I've unfortunately been inconsistent with how well I apply it I also agree that I've felt my very best in life in the times I focused on my character and "identity" over focusing on my goals. I have an issue where I have 2 long term goals that are very conflicting and it runs me in circles quite a bit. Trying to commit to both at once is very difficult, but focusing on my identity has brought me closer to both goals than focusing on the goals themselves ever did. I still at this very moment have trouble consistent applying that practice, but when things are going well mentally and I'm able to actually focus it truly works wonders
Your content is amazing! I've already read your book. I just wish that someday it get translated to portuguese, I think your books would make a huge difference in my class mate's lives.
A big thanks from Brazil
Your videos are not only to watch for entertainment or relaxation. Your videos help people (including me) to become better persons. Happier persons. Thank you!
Plan weekly instead of daily and you'll see how you accomplish more! Great video!
Fernando Gomez de la Torre why
You get a wider view of all the things you have to do and therefore plan better!
Thank u so much for uplifting my esteem and potential.....hope I could work upon the better part of myself...by being more self- disciplined after seeing this video...😇😇🧡
There is one quote that I really like and tell myself each time my brain goes "I don't feel like it":
"You can either endure the pain of self-discipline or suffer the pain of regret"
I think that is a very strong phrase for anyone who knows how it feels like to be in that phase of regret and beating oneself up.
1:10 Even though Discipline is about enduring tough times and disconfort, even doing stuff when you don't want too, and motivation is usually linked to having a fire to do something, i think their source is the same. I think a strong why may be even more important through perils and difficults, the situations that require Self Discipline, than when It's all going well for you. Maybe there's not much distinction between motivation and discipline cause everyone faces roadblocks and you will need the determination to keep moving foward even when you want to quit.
I think you start all wrong expecting things to be easy so you need accept reality and plan as such. I think this require the right mindset/self talk and the right tools (cause creative ways to solve problem can change EVERYTHING, think industrial revolution).
Perfect Timing :) I was looking for a great video like this.
A longer version to your 1 Strategy to be more Disciplined Video
There are no words that can tell how grateful I am that you made this video. Thanks a BIG lot.
I'd highly recommend 'extreme Ownership' by Jocko Willink.
What was your key learning of the book, the guy seems to be everywhere right now!
Thank you for the video! Now I think about myself as a best, most exemplary veterinary student and not just one who's trying to be like that
Atomic habits is one of the greatest books honestly!
Self discipline is really a way of knowing that I can make a switch if I need and want or stay at the same spot. but I will only make it if necessary. This start with a really good judgment of right and wrong
"Motivation is your overall desire to do something whereas discipline is your ability to do it regardless of how you feel."
Great words. ♥️
wow. ive been struggling with depression and i feel like a lot of my depressed feelings have decreased with my medication. however, the motivation doesn’t come with it, and i feel like it doesn’t even last. i really need to discipline myself and it’s definitely a challenge.
This was a great video. I personally think the two key fundamentals that everything falls under for discipline is mindset and habits. Get those right, the rest will fall into place.
Why hate meditation??
Honestly, it's because it's very hard for me. I'm an extremely active person, so I have a lot of grit when it comes to actually working or pushing myself athletically. Sitting on the floor and doing nothing? Now that's a challenge...
@@Thomasfrank Thanks for clarifying, it is an act that requires a lot of discipline. If your mind wanders from your breathing, have you considered chanting (e.g. saying Om)? The reason is it's easier to stay focused on a chant than it is on breathing. You can work your way up to different states of focus
I personally think the two key fundamentals that everything falls under for discipline is mindset inhabit get those right the rest will fall into place
I am ur biggest fan Thomas bro...really very much inspired by u..I never miss any vids of URS ...I love ur vids..god bless u bro..and thank u soo much
At the end of the video, would it be possible for you to summarize the concepts covered in the video? The tips you gave, as well as the books and apps that you mention. I feel like in each video there's a lot of good content but it's difficult to keep up with. For example, the mobile apps you mentioned I had to go back to see what they were because I forgot lol :). Do you happen to have a reading list as well?
My number one resource of getting better at everything! Following you on Instagram, youtube, and podcast since 2015. Amazing work brother, keep it up.
Don’t be motivated, be disciplined.
Change your mindset to be consistent.
Create reminders.
Embrace disconfort.
Something I might add: Film yourself doing it (like a study with me thing) and post it, it really motivates you and you Don’t even have to show your face. Really, try it.
Meditation I'm a huge fan of . When changing your mind and outlook on challenges meditation really helps me to stay calm and focused through the discomfort of building mental toughness and self discipline
How can I be self-disciplined when I am constantly ill and have unexpected appointments with the doctor? I find it very difficult to keep to plans. How I you stay on track when something comes up or stops me?
Try working around those appointments, I found a time tablet helps a lot. This is just my personal experience.
@@victoriauwandu3858 Yes, I do. I also meant more the aspect of unpredictability - for example, that the children are suddenly ill and all plans have to be changed. Fixed doctor's appointments can be planned well - that's not a problem. Such events - such as illness - always throw me off my game when I want to incorporate fixed routines into my day.
@Jeff Brown Thanks for your answer. Yes, I concentrate on the small steps when things are not going the way they should. Sometimes I think I might want too much or put too much pressure on myself. That really doesn't help.
Stay on track with things, sure, but remember not to put so much pressure on yourself when things don’t go your way. For example, if you’ve planned to read some book, and you or someone you care for has gotten ill, it’s perfectly fine if you don’t stay on track. You can spend whatever time you have to do it, but don’t feel like you’re not doing enough. But another side of it is, don’t let it be the excuse. Don’t say, I couldn’t read this book because of this. That’s just avoidance.
Unexpected events are going to derail you sometimes, but taking little moments out of your day for instance reading that book, will accumulate to its completion.
Also, if you have unpredictable days, maybe you should try planning your day differently, rather than trying to follow fixed schedules. For instance, to do list and estimated completion times( eg. Hanging up the washing-10 minutes). Have a look at his videos I think I remember something about different schedules.
'Dont focus on perfect streaks, focus on the overall trends going upward' i needed to hear that
6:24 love that homestuck reference
i was looking for a comment that said this
I have been looking for this for so much time and luckily i found your videos...Really helping me a lot in building myself and staying focussed...
I struggle with motivation and discipline on a daily basis...even recently quit my job and have been feeling so lost for the past year. How can you overcome these feelings when you also have major depression??
Be strong
Surround yourself with positivity, learn how to b positive it will change your life
thank you this video is helping me so much !currently want to be a cop and then m feeling overwhelmed with all the tests and i knew i needed to discipline myself when i was not motivated
Ur a great youtuber. Keep up the work
Thank you. i got alot out of your programme. I can do discaple easy to go to work always but now i am retired i find no purpose to get up and move about. Another learning curve for me. But i will get it. i gave kup smoking drinking and this is my next one.
Just when i was about to slack off again 😂 Perfect timing.
Hahaha profile picture fits exactly with the comment
Thank You Thomas Frank I am glad I came across your vedio I needs something like this to help not only me but my son our life's are being distroyed by lack of discipline and motivation
I cant even concor the basic a sleep habit -that is really seriously screwing me an my household bc of sleep an me being lazy the next morning
Thanks again
2x microdosing LSD a week
+ 4x mindfulness meditation + visualisation (yourself in a position who sees his problems as his own to be more a discilpined "workaholic") a week
+ 4x sport a week
+ always optimising diet
+ a good diary (tracking achievements/habits) and good planning
Man LSD ?
Man only LSD?
On that first tip: I've always thought this was one of the biggest secrets to success but I've never been able to articulate it! When I commit to being something, such as a studious academic, small business owner or avid meditator, and start saying that I'm that to other people, my actions naturally start to align with these roles.
If you know your WHY or have a big enough reason, then it gets very easier to be more disciplined.
Your WHY must be arousing enough for you to take actions and not procrastinate.
but how do you find such a why? I really want such a why.
Sadly most people don't even know their why, some people think they do but it ends up being something that was influenced into them by looking at others or probably by their education system, well of course there are exceptions as well , like people who have had a strong why since forever to which they have stuck on and never wavered or been distracted by the seduction of others "why",
They should really add this as a subject to school, maybe something called "goals" or something where they let students rediscover themselves and actually know what they want (might not be a perfect system but anyways better then nothing, and also better then realising it later on when life actually forces u to choose)
“Living by design and not by default” YES that’s what I needed !!
Looks like I need to get a copy of Atomic Habits
Adnan A just sneak a free trial from audible
Rodney Hill can you keep doing free trials for different books?
No thanks, I'm not a smoker
Thomas, I listen/read/follow a lot of good stuff about self help from many masters of the disciplines, and you have an outstanding way of delivering them all in this video and many of your others! Thanks for your time and effort my friend!