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  • @26kcarias9
    @26kcarias9 2 ปีที่แล้ว +437

    I’m 40 he’s 30, it’s been 2 years and I’m almost due with his first child. Never a dull moment, his energy keeps me going ♥️ He’s the love I never knew I needed.

    • @lovereachable
      @lovereachable 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      Wow. Wonderful.

    • @Rishonable
      @Rishonable 2 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      This comment made me feel so happy for you.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      AMAZING love blossoms at all ages! Congratulations! And thank you

    • @tracyparker129
      @tracyparker129 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Congratulations

    • @Mari-lv1rd
      @Mari-lv1rd 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Lovely. Best wishes for you all.

  • @laurensauvageot1196
    @laurensauvageot1196 2 ปีที่แล้ว +215

    I encourage older women to be open to dating younger men. It truly can be a wonderful relationship.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Amazing! love hearing that!

    • @kondwanimbuzi5431
      @kondwanimbuzi5431 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I agree. I prefer women older than me, but can also date those younger

    • @kondwanimbuzi5431
      @kondwanimbuzi5431 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I agree. I prefer women older than me, but can also date those younger

    • @barbarafox437
      @barbarafox437 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Yes it can.

    • @Naked_Sports200
      @Naked_Sports200 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Feel cringy however your encouragement will hopefully work

  • @cathyperdue2729
    @cathyperdue2729 2 ปีที่แล้ว +270

    My #2 husband is 17 yrs younger then me. I was 40 & thought he was around 30 after a few months I found out he was only 24. Everyone thought it was just a booty call & have us 6 mo's. Here we r 20 yrs later with an 18 yr old son. He considers my kids & grandkids & I know he loves them. Best man I've ever met & don't regret 1 minute of the last 20 yrs.

    • @MsParisiandoll
      @MsParisiandoll 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Wow that’s beautiful

    • @serenity5679
      @serenity5679 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      That is a beautiful love story. ❤️

    • @lydiakamwine3902
      @lydiakamwine3902 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Wow more blessings

    • @rymhidour6789
      @rymhidour6789 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Wow that's awesome

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I’m so happy for you my dear!

  • @historicallyspeakingwithgi9737
    @historicallyspeakingwithgi9737 2 ปีที่แล้ว +365

    My husband is 27 and I’m 54. We’ve been together for four years. We have a great relationship and the age difference really isn’t an issue.

    • @mojok7070
      @mojok7070 2 ปีที่แล้ว +61

      The age gap shouldn't be a problem. My wife is 44 and I'm 33 and we been together since 2015 and between us there's never been a issue but people seemed to have a issue with it.

    • @tinadraper9143
      @tinadraper9143 2 ปีที่แล้ว +56

      Wow, I'm 48 getting asked out by a 30 year old, I was thinking 18 years was too much of a difference, glad to see it's not.

    • @pleasuretube2132
      @pleasuretube2132 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@tinadraper9143 I m really tired with my single. Helll Tina

    • @Aksafos
      @Aksafos 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Just wait ten years later when he wants to have children and your body starts to age.

    • @pleasuretube2132
      @pleasuretube2132 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@Aksafos heyy How are you

  • @libellenflugpoetry6800
    @libellenflugpoetry6800 ปีที่แล้ว +109

    Wow! So many women are in a relationship with a much younger man ... I needed this. Thank you for this video!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Glad it was helpful! ❤️

    • @libellenflugpoetry6800
      @libellenflugpoetry6800 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I am dating a guy 20 years younger than me and have been facing since then tons of prejudices - MY prejudices, not his... He instead is very openminded and uncomplicated.

    • @tayandkayworld9095
      @tayandkayworld9095 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Yes I have recently started dating a man whom is 22 and he is such a breath test f fresh air it’s almost scary but I like it and I’m 32 and we are having a pretty good relationship and I pray it goes even better with time 💜😊

  • @user-ho2vu6ki8g
    @user-ho2vu6ki8g 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    I'm 59 and he's 26 he's a amazing guy I love him soooo much best thing ever happened to me .

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      That is awesome! I’m so happy for you my dear!

    • @audreyrose1975
      @audreyrose1975 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Mine is just 27 and i just turned 49. We are inlove but I'm scared if we last or i might get hurt

    • @lea-andromeda-sol2333
      @lea-andromeda-sol2333 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@audreyrose1975Let go the fear...❤❤❤.

    • @SkyePhoenix
      @SkyePhoenix 25 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Congratulations ❤️

  • @sandrajones4591
    @sandrajones4591 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

    I am 42yrs old and my husband just turned 30. We have been together for 9 yrs(3 yrs married)

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks for sharing!

  • @angeloftheland4210
    @angeloftheland4210 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    My age is but a number, inside I’m still wide eyed and excited about life in general

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks so much for your feedback!

  • @thepigeon6233
    @thepigeon6233 2 ปีที่แล้ว +164

    It's funny how men have dated women young enough to be their grandkid since forever but when women date even 10 years younger there was a weird stigma around it until only the last 5 or so years where people realizing age doesn't matter as long as you're adults

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Thanks so much for your feedback! :)

    • @raytracer5726
      @raytracer5726 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Let's not pretend like there is no stigma attached to older men dating younger women.

    • @Gurlbyetalli
      @Gurlbyetalli 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      feel the same and we are called that tasty cougar name

    • @karadiberlino
      @karadiberlino 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@raytracer5726There really isn‘t, unless they are ugly and unattractive. Then you start doubting the woman‘s self-worth…

  • @Tyrannosaurus_Wrexx
    @Tyrannosaurus_Wrexx 4 ปีที่แล้ว +364

    As a 41 year old, I had a wonderful sexual relationship with a 25 year old, this year. Now, I’m with a more marriage minded man who just turned 27. This year has been the BEST I’ve had in a long time. Both have taught me just as much as I’ve taught them. It’s an incredible feeling to be playful and let go, allowing them to give me their masculine energy.
    Happy Loving, Ladies!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      beautiful share!! thank you for letting us into your wonderful romances :)

    • @Tyrannosaurus_Wrexx
      @Tyrannosaurus_Wrexx 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      @Marin Cuculic Our 1 year anniversary is in a few days ❤️

    • @Tyrannosaurus_Wrexx
      @Tyrannosaurus_Wrexx 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @Marin Cuculic ❤️

    • @magemuria3939
      @magemuria3939 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Mat_Shaffer .

    • @magemuria3939
      @magemuria3939 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Ok

  • @hazeldenny6304
    @hazeldenny6304 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    Ive just started a relationship with a man i met 20 years ago and he is 48 and I'm 66. It has been great so far. He is amazing

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks for sharing!

  • @lashaydodd1608
    @lashaydodd1608 3 ปีที่แล้ว +113

    I'm 49, he's 34. The best relationship I ever had!

    • @thatjamericankidd6637
      @thatjamericankidd6637 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      What makes it so good

    • @iotu6745
      @iotu6745 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      What about Kids? Do you like to have children together?

    • @lashaydodd1608
      @lashaydodd1608 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@iotu6745 We both have three of our own, 1 girl and 2 boys.

    • @iotu6745
      @iotu6745 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@lashaydodd1608 thanks for answering

    • @louisaatje
      @louisaatje 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yesss!!!🌟🙌💚

  • @starlasuzannerutan7624
    @starlasuzannerutan7624 2 ปีที่แล้ว +86

    Sold!! 💓 I so agree with you, the 25 year younger man that I am seeing, has taught me to be free again, and reconnect with myself. I say go for it! Life is too short not to enjoy it!

    • @pleasuretube2132
      @pleasuretube2132 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      HELLO beautiful Queen How are you single man no kids looking for one Seriously. 24 years old but age is not important for a good relationship with a woman

    • @marincuculic1020
      @marincuculic1020 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Starla you look so charming :) May I just ask if you are single at the moment?

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Wonderful!

  • @SublimeLullaby
    @SublimeLullaby 4 ปีที่แล้ว +426

    I’ve always attracted younger dudes... they make me laugh 😆

  • @wendyh.9363
    @wendyh.9363 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    Men around my age (50) are damaged & I've not had good luck. Now dating a man 12 years younger & an exceptional communicator. I'm totally falling for him & so happy we found each other in this crazy world. 🤪

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I’m so happy for you my dear! 😊

  • @hijabimuslimah8100
    @hijabimuslimah8100 4 ปีที่แล้ว +143

    My fiancé is 21 years younger than me and he is great and wonderful person

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      that's awesome!!!

    • @crose55082
      @crose55082 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      I keep getting asked out by younger men.

    • @marisdalen8263
      @marisdalen8263 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Awe same situation❤

    • @beannie4050
      @beannie4050 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Sana all

    • @vivaeuropa
      @vivaeuropa 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@marisdalen8263 How old are you and your man?

  • @sonyacurti
    @sonyacurti ปีที่แล้ว +38

    I'm 56 and he's 27 and it freaks me out because I'm attracted to him and we work together. This feels insane to me but yet wildly intriguing lol!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I appreciate your opinion on this!

    • @jasminebarnes5650
      @jasminebarnes5650 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      And you just can’t get enough girl I’m there with u

    • @dezz238
      @dezz238 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Yes 🙌

  • @sm.441
    @sm.441 2 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    My girlfriend is 25 I'm 21, we've bonded like no one I've ever met before. I am planning to marry her someday.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      AMAZING! Love blossoms at all ages!

    • @ReliancePraiseSquare
      @ReliancePraiseSquare 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      its bn two years, are you married to her? please keep us updated

    • @JKNat9004
      @JKNat9004 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      4 years isn't a big age difference. Even 10 years isn't a big age difference if you're both over 30. However an age difference where the one person is of the same generation as the other's parents, that's where it gets cringe worthy.

    • @DeliaHerz
      @DeliaHerz 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      At that age it feels like a pretty big difference ​@@JKNat9004

  • @isabelspiegel9342
    @isabelspiegel9342 4 ปีที่แล้ว +191

    I love your videos. I’m 61 and he’s 44. We started with the intent of being casual three months ago. He has definitely taught me to be more vulnerable and open. I think I’m showing him that it IS possible to spend time with a woman who will support that he’s going to go sailing for a month or whatever makes him happy. He can be present because he wants to be and not because he feels he has to. He has been contacting me more often. He’s started sharing things he’s doing, showing me pictures. It has been an intense sexual experience from the start and we are now wanting to actually talk and get to know each other. Seems backwards, but what started out as hot sex is now evolving in a real interest in each other. The more freedom he has, without feeling guilty, the closer he has become. I’m learning a lot. Thank you, Matt. ❤️

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Beautiful share thank you my dear!! So happy for your wonderful connection with him ❤️❤️

    • @marah3298
      @marah3298 4 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      I love this! The more freedom he has, the closer he has become.

    • @chrissyw.7500
      @chrissyw.7500 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      I feel like younger men tend to lead with sex, that is, their libidos are sorta in control...but this becomes a terrific asset when we can get to know the beautiful man that is emerging in front of our eyes. As older women it is our responsibility to lead by example and I feel like my man (im 50 and hes 26) is eager to learn. I am always fascinated by him and his utter passion for life that hasn't yet developed into cynicism, and hopefully if we say together for a while, he will learn to set back and flow with it like I do. Im so happy to read stories like yours because I know I have a wonderful supportive community to turn to if I ever feel shaky or uncertain. Thank you again to Mat for facilitating the public that may not normally have a good network of support from friends and family.

    • @bossgrammyify
      @bossgrammyify 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      I'm 74 and he is 40. We have been average once a week and I'm married to a PTSD alcoholic. No excuse, just love and sex. 9mos., now.

    • @pleasuretube2132
      @pleasuretube2132 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@chrissyw.7500 HELLO beautiful Queen How are you .Single man looking for one Seriously

  • @lottiecaldwell8627
    @lottiecaldwell8627 2 ปีที่แล้ว +57

    My partner is 25 years younger. It was only meant to be a summer fling but here we are 8 years later and planning to marry next year. We are crazy about each other, lovers, best friends and partners in crime. I didn't have much when we met as I'd been a single mum for years, so he definitely wasn't after my money! He has never wanted kids so that made it easier. I do sometimes worry about the future but he just says that no couple knows what the future looks like and whatever challenges come along we'll face them together. We rarely think about the age gap and our friends and family are so used to us being a couple they forget about it too. Don't know why there's so much hate online about AG relationships.

    • @marincuculic1020
      @marincuculic1020 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Lottie are you still dating him?

    • @lottiecaldwell8627
      @lottiecaldwell8627 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@marincuculic1020 Yes, getting married in September and happier than ever!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  ปีที่แล้ว +5

      AMAZING love blossoms at all ages! Congratulations! ❤️❤️

    • @lottiecaldwell8627
      @lottiecaldwell8627 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      @@Mat_Shaffer And he's now my husband 😊

    • @mese4584
      @mese4584 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@lottiecaldwell8627thanks you so much for sharing your story ! 🎉❤

  • @dawnandrews8255
    @dawnandrews8255 3 ปีที่แล้ว +105

    I'm 47 and my sweetie is 24... the sex and laughter are sooo refreshing after 2yrs with a emotionally unavailable 48yr old man

    • @sarahmk2966
      @sarahmk2966 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Do you look 20s though?

    • @louisaatje
      @louisaatje 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yessssss💚🙌🌟 love it!!!

    • @marincuculic1020
      @marincuculic1020 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Are you still together?

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It’s 100% possible to heal and create something new

    • @Gurlbyetalli
      @Gurlbyetalli 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      yep u said it !

  • @Teaselpoppy
    @Teaselpoppy 4 ปีที่แล้ว +129

    I needed this. I'm 42 and started a relationship with a 28 year old. I have anxieties about the age gap. The things you mentioned put me at ease. Thank you.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      You are so welcome Lazydaisy! 🙏

    • @borboletalila
      @borboletalila 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      I’m 43 and my bf is 31.
      … so far it’s working despite things like
      He wants to have a lot of kids and thought at the beginining that I couldn’t 😱 of course I can

    • @lovereachable
      @lovereachable 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Good good : )

  • @TigerLilyNo13
    @TigerLilyNo13 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    I’m dating someone 22 years longer and he’s the love of my life. It’s beautiful and special. Live your life and let go of what other people think!

    • @TigerLilyNo13
      @TigerLilyNo13 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Haha update: found out he was playing me. BE CAREFUL LADIES!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      good catch my dear!

    • @lesliestewart6239
      @lesliestewart6239 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      how was he playing you @@TigerLilyNo13

  • @chrissyw.7500
    @chrissyw.7500 4 ปีที่แล้ว +86

    Hi Mat! You have become my favorite relationship coach by FAR! I just wanted to say that I have recently started dating a man 24 years younger than me and at 1st I was a little bit terrified, but he is SO proud of me, has already told his mother and all his friends about me. I have never felt so ADORED by a man and I cant help but surrender to the wonderful way I feel when I'm with him...almost like my first high school crush! I going for it, Im all in and wherever it goes, I'm going to have FUN the whole way!! I deserve it!!!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      You absolutely do!! So happy for you!

    • @lioydwilliams1850
      @lioydwilliams1850 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Chrissy Weihrauch,hope he treats you well

    • @andrealouisabasile8529
      @andrealouisabasile8529 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I will be 52 next month and just had my first date with a 27-year-old… We will be going out again… So happy for you!

    • @pleasuretube2132
      @pleasuretube2132 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      HELLO beautiful Queen How are you single man no kids looking for one Seriously. 24 years old. For me age is a number

    • @marincuculic1020
      @marincuculic1020 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hi Chrissy :) Are you still dating him?

  • @heathertaylor4979
    @heathertaylor4979 2 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    Agree with everything you just said. My live in caregiver for my husband of 2 years passed and he remained in my home as a renter. He approached me with his feelings for me and I thought he was nuts! He is 39 and I am 71! A month ago I realized we have developed a strong friendship and compassion so took the step romantically. All I can say as he has taught me more then I have about being happy again.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      so sweet thanks for sharing! its a great connection :)

    • @oak1day
      @oak1day ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Just turned 68 and he won't be 40 til September, over here! In fact, he said 40 at first because he knew that'd give him a fighting chance. Am I ever glad I did! The Universe has reminded me how it feels when two people are head over heels and too, that every man hasn't fallen for all society's messaging.🎉❤ I feel so seen and loved.

    • @ASMRyouVEGANyet
      @ASMRyouVEGANyet 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Be careful that he's not looking at the widower inheritance money. It happens a lot.

  • @joy_villa
    @joy_villa 4 ปีที่แล้ว +85

    I just got divorced (amicable) form a man 21 years older...and now I'm dating a man 10 years younger! (it's brand new) I'm so into these beautiful, sweet, fresh younger men. I have a few I'm seeing, they ARE men, ladies, just younger. Many of them are serious and capable, don't write them off!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      very wise words!!

    • @pleasuretube2132
      @pleasuretube2132 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      HELLO beautiful Queen How are you single man no kids looking for one Seriously.

    • @pleasuretube2132
      @pleasuretube2132 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      HELLO beautiful Queen How are you. Singel man no kids looking for one Seriously

    • @marincuculic1020
      @marincuculic1020 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Joy you look so charming :) Are you single?

  • @DeirdreMFox
    @DeirdreMFox ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Im 61 and he's 29 going on 4 yrs together. Love him so much , everything you said here is spot on. Mine although young has had a lot of trauma but he rises above.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Wow! I’m so happy for you my dear!🙏❤

    • @jennifermiranda6023
      @jennifermiranda6023 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Great video, subscribed 👍

  • @Meli91972
    @Meli91972 4 ปีที่แล้ว +105

    I'm shocked by the comments! Reading about women dating men 20 years younger than they are... When I spent 2 years wondering about if I should give a chance to a guy 6 years younger than me. Anyway, interesting video :) Thanks

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      You are so welcome Sweet Mélanie! 🙏

    • @raye2920
      @raye2920 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Me I turned 23rd yesterday then for him, he's turning 21st in November

    • @halimaalidrissi568
      @halimaalidrissi568 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      sameeee hahahahaha

    • @keikei1943
      @keikei1943 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Tbh 6 years is not bad, it's like you guys maturity level is the same👌🏾

    • @courtneyjames8223
      @courtneyjames8223 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Lmfao me two 😂

  • @maryjanewesterlund9958
    @maryjanewesterlund9958 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    Thank you.
    The biggest problem is dealing with perceptions of friends and family.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  ปีที่แล้ว

      You're welcome.

    • @boomersD9CAT
      @boomersD9CAT ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I divorced at 30 years old, and around a year later I met a lovely woman who was 42 years old. We both caught a lot of grief from family members who disapproved of our relationship. She had 2 grandchildren, and I had a 5 year old son. Her daughters stopped talking to her, and I had family members giving me a hard time. The pressure from both sides took a toll on the relationship , and we both agreed to part ways after a year together.

    • @maryjanewesterlund9958
      @maryjanewesterlund9958 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@boomersD9CAT THAT is sad! I’m so sorry.

    • @marincuculic1020
      @marincuculic1020 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Mary Jane, are you single?

    • @kahalacromwell9741
      @kahalacromwell9741 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@boomersD9CAT so sad to hear this.

  • @Mat_Shaffer
    @Mat_Shaffer  4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

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    • @rosamarks5359
      @rosamarks5359 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank You

    • @nishatluna2602
      @nishatluna2602 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      I am not able to connect with you through zoom apps. It is confusing me. Is there any shortcut way to connect with you Shafer? I am eager to know please help me to reach you directly.

    • @sharonjohns1686
      @sharonjohns1686 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Matt I applied many times and even emailed you after you suggested I email. No response! Not sure why

    • @rosamarks5359
      @rosamarks5359 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      HAPPY NEW YEAR
      MATT

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      you will be a part of the course!

  • @dawnstonerock4253
    @dawnstonerock4253 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I’m glad I found this. I’m crazy about a younger man. Everyone says no he’ll just break your heart. ♥️ Last guy I dated was the oldest and the least mature! He looked great on paper but he was so mean spirited.
    I’m willing to take it slow and see where this new one goes. The chemistry is fabulous.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I’m so glad this helped you!

  • @ciggytwiggy
    @ciggytwiggy 4 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    I'm 32 this year and connecting with a 28..meeting him soon. I've been going out with men older than me but so far he's the only one who can really communicate clearly. Interesting.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks for sharing!

  • @michaelfreydberg4619
    @michaelfreydberg4619 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    💯 what you said in beginning. I’m a man who never wanted kids, and I like women who are older than myself, who never had kids.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I’m so glad this helped you!

  • @Balou16
    @Balou16 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I am 46 he is 32 and our relationship is great. The best I've ever had. And despite the age difference, we are very similar and want the same thing. Remember that no relationship is perfect, everyone struggles with theirs, so age shouldn't matter. Thanks for your video, I'm a fan ❤️

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thanks for sharing! 🥰

  • @kikitaube-hansen
    @kikitaube-hansen 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Number 4 is absolutly right. We give each other knowledge on everything. I´´
    ll miss him some day because the gap is high. but it´´ll be one of the best times in my life.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Amazing! love hearing that!

  • @morningstar-go3jf
    @morningstar-go3jf 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    i'm glad i stumbled over this video and read the comments. me and my boyfriend started as friends. it's been 5 years (i'm 30 now, he's 25) and he's talking about marriage and kids. i needed some advice from people who have been there ( i'm expecting backlash from both our families). and i realise now how lucky i am to find love and friendship in the same person.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I’m so happy for you my dear!

  • @genevalivingstone1929
    @genevalivingstone1929 4 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    So true Dr.Love!!!....
    Love my younger guy to bits and I have learned sooooooo much from him. We do have a huge strength...he's a man man and I get to just lean back. We definitely have that dance down pat.
    I think what he looooovvvveeeesssss the most about me I just let him be him. I recognize the particular stage of life he's in so he has AMPLE room to grow and stretch....which makes it very interesting because I just let him come to me when he can.
    This may seen like a terrible thing to do but autonomy is something no one seems to remember about and since he gets that freedom with me I see not only the strength of his best self but I also see the other sides of his prism..
    It makes me love him more and also I found it creates a stronger connection...

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      YESS beautiful share :) haha doctor love, LOVE IT ;)

    • @MonicaSancio
      @MonicaSancio 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Very interesting indeed about letting him come to you when he can... Similar to how I think... Yet do you keep your options open?

    • @genevalivingstone1929
      @genevalivingstone1929 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@MonicaSancio nope...I enjoyed our relationship and stayed dedicated to him because that's what I wanted...
      If you find yourself needing to have options open then just date till you find what you want...💙💙💙

  • @rondamcdowell9228
    @rondamcdowell9228 4 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    I Really needed this talk : I adore and have a very exciting physical relationship with a younger man. But want to not get hopes up for long term yet open to & enjoy each moment with.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      YES be present and see what happens!

  • @wendydana8642
    @wendydana8642 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    You have brought up some excellent points. Thank you for sharing this info!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I’m so glad this helped you!

  • @idamyrevik
    @idamyrevik 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Awesome Matt. When you mention this vid in Aarons 21 challange I felt drawn to watch it. Thank you 👍✨

  • @kelly51757
    @kelly51757 4 ปีที่แล้ว +50

    I’m happily married to a younger man 8 yrs younger than me but before him during my single yrs mostly my suitors were younger men😄 . I never dated a divorced man with kids specially older than me because i don’t want to have competition and usually they look much older than me 😂😂

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      beautiful share love it!!

    • @trinityp8575
      @trinityp8575 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Do you look older than him? I have the same age difference with my bf & although it’s doesn’t look it right now I worry for the future …

  • @ccjones813
    @ccjones813 3 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    I needed this today!! I’m head over heals about this guy that’s 33 & I’m 53,, no one understands!! My heart is so full of love for him! It’s not just a thing it’s been 8 months an my feeling haven’t changed at all! We’ve been together twice an it was beautiful! Trouble is I believe he’s fighting his feelings for me! I could be wrong but that’s what I feel with all my soul! I adore him and then I think rationally,,, what’s our future really?? Where could this actually go from here? My heart broken

    • @MonicaSancio
      @MonicaSancio 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      You've been together twice in 8 months? Anyway, enjoy & go with Matt's teachings!

    • @marincuculic1020
      @marincuculic1020 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      CC Jones you are so charming :) Are you single at the moment?

    • @HunterJohnson77
      @HunterJohnson77 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      My wife is 20 years older than me, best woman I've ever been with.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thanks for sharing

    • @merilyngeographia9212
      @merilyngeographia9212 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Enjoy reading the comments here nd listening as well to you Mr. Matt.This is such a relaxing topic. Thanks for this.🙂🙂🙂

  • @jaquelinereidcarbonell3799
    @jaquelinereidcarbonell3799 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you, i didn't think about that until i heard about it. 🌻🙏🏾 I'll be more open for this Konstellation 🎉

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Happy I could be of help.

  • @nikkinikki3001
    @nikkinikki3001 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you Mat, I needed the reminder and reassurance. You made great points here.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Glad it was helpful!

  • @labroussic
    @labroussic 3 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    I couldn't agree more with you, Mat....more particularly about point 4, I had a relationship with a man 28 years younger than me and I learned so much from him! He had an impressive knowledge and culture, it was a pleasure discovering things I didn't know in arts, science, tourism etc. I often told him how much I admired him for that (and it made him very proud, of course 😊).

    • @labroussic
      @labroussic 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @Marin Cuculic thank you 😊 No, right now, no....Are you interested ? 😁😎

    • @marincuculic1020
      @marincuculic1020 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@labroussic Hi :) I thought you are still dating him. :) How are you? I hope we can have a chat :)

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I’m glad to hear everything worked out well.

  • @basilbazo9775
    @basilbazo9775 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Thanks Matt. I really feel more comfortable around older ladies. i've tried dating younger girls but it just doesn't work for me. I really feel relieved after watching a couple of your videos.

  • @WeLoveMeals
    @WeLoveMeals 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    My partner is 9-years younger and we are crazy about each other 😊❤ Hands down the BEST relationship I’ve ever had.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      That is awesome! I’m so happy for you my dear!

  • @cherylledbetter5909
    @cherylledbetter5909 4 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    I’ve had a young man pursuing me for a couple of years. I keep pushing him away. I’ve decided to not push him away again and just see what happens.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      good luck let us know hw it goes!

    • @oscarwilliamson1264
      @oscarwilliamson1264 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Cheryl Ledbetter, you're absolutely gorgeous ❤💓❤and I will be glad to know you

    • @WanderingExistence
      @WanderingExistence 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @Marin Cuculic Look at this thirst... go grab some water, buddy, your chances of meeting someone off youtube are slim, and more than likely; none.

    • @WanderingExistence
      @WanderingExistence 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @Marin Cuculic Yeah, cuz I'm not trying to chat up vague YT profiles, I like the lady I am currently seeing. Good luck with your recycled "charming" line, I guess.

    • @WanderingExistence
      @WanderingExistence 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @Marin Cuculic She's older than me... So that why I watched this vid. I commented because I think your "charming" line is cheesey when its so shallow.... Just seems so thirsty. But hey, do you, bud.

  • @spotsandme1968
    @spotsandme1968 2 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    I needed to see this! I've just met this wonderful young man in his 30's (I'm 53) and he's fun, upbeat and very positive! So refreshing. There's a mutual attraction and we enjoy similar things, (like playing online MMORPG games, like Sci Fi, Anime, etc. (we're both geeks!) I'm looking for someone to do fun things with, and enjoy the good things in life. He makes me feel great! He's youthful, full of energy and ambitious. It's wonderful to meet someone not burdened from the harder experiences of life. I've been pretty much on my own for 12 years after the passing of my husband and he's the first fellow I've met that I can be completely myself. :) That question about whether he'd want to have a family (kids) in the future did go through my mind, but if this connection gets more serious, I will ask him about it. But for now, I just want to enjoy his company. :)

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I’m so happy for you my dear!

  • @coachmarytv6552
    @coachmarytv6552 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I was enlightened with this video💖thank u

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Fantastic so happy to hear that 🤗🤗

  • @allme813
    @allme813 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Appreciate your video. This is exactly what I needed to hear.

  • @denswafrance8666
    @denswafrance8666 3 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    I needed to hear this.. Thank you what a relief. I was so worried about 2 year difference

    • @MsParisiandoll
      @MsParisiandoll 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      So did I ! I feel way better ! Especially since he also looks older than me

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Be careful with your beliefs! They create your reality.

  • @Cybergirl
    @Cybergirl 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I loved it! This video brought me alot of relief! Specially because of the first one. I have to admit that I had this assumption. Not anymore! Haha! And the third one is just the reason why I love this man so much! It's fun, it's easy, it's amazing!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Many thanks! So glad you enjoyed it! :)

  • @julietafernandes6549
    @julietafernandes6549 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Wow.. Didn't know i would fall in love wirh your content and change my perspective in this aspect so instantly as this ia the first video in watching of yours and ive already hit thw subscribe button too😄 thank you so much dear. This is the video i really needed... ❤

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      thanks for that beautiful feedback Julieta! Welcome to the community :)

  • @m.divine1770
    @m.divine1770 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This message is so inspirational, thank you. Spirit is introducing me very soon to my younger Kingdom spouse and I confess I have a bit of concern about our significant age difference and will keep this information in mind.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I’m so glad this helped you!

  • @TheAngelChristine
    @TheAngelChristine 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    this advice is so good! made me think

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I’m happy this resonated with you!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  23 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Hi there, If you're thinking about dating again, our 'Are You Ready to Date Again?' quiz might provide some helpful insights into your readiness. 💕 mat-nlcmdzyq.scoreapp.com/

  • @joleenfelio-pettit2813
    @joleenfelio-pettit2813 4 ปีที่แล้ว +94

    OK Mat... this is actually rather funny. All the things you listed off as to what a younger man can teach you, is EXACTLY why i prefer a younger man. To me i have a better connection to them then i do older men or men my age. Their energy level, their playfulness, the way they view things...i just find that i can feel free to be me without worrying about being told I'm too old to be acting that way or too old to enjoy my life and the spontaneous things that cross my mind that i do. If I decided to have a water gun fight with my guy then he's down for it... an older guy not so much. I get met with a grumpy fest over it. I may be 45 but my mindset still likes to play in my early 20s. 🤷🏻 lol ❤

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      YESS love hearing this! so glad this landed with you adn appreciate the share - its a great dynamic! :)

    • @oscarwilliamson1264
      @oscarwilliamson1264 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      M. Jolean,you are absolutely gorgeous ❤💓❤🌹and I will be glad to know you

    • @tee4303
      @tee4303 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I love this😌🙌🥰 yassss!! Hehe

    • @user-nr9yu3zj4x
      @user-nr9yu3zj4x 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      What you think about a 34 years old guy?

    • @jamesjones2530
      @jamesjones2530 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hello

  • @78beckyboo
    @78beckyboo 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    He's 35 and I'm turning 43 it's just been casual but the goal for me is to go out on dates and see if there is compatibility that can develop... I don't want it to continue where I develop feelings and then he's found someone else to be in a relationship with. Been down that path way too many times

    • @marincuculic1020
      @marincuculic1020 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Are you still dating him? :)

    • @trinityp8575
      @trinityp8575 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I am 40 and he is 32 and the longer it went the more feelings we got for each other. It’s been almost 2 years now. But… I worry for later in years… because I would be much more comfortable if it was on reverse 🤣

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I promise there are good guys out there my dear!

    • @gr122
      @gr122 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@trinityp8575 you should worry, because sooner or later he will be checking out the younger ones

  • @daleduncan5080
    @daleduncan5080 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I’m 59 and have been dating a 47 year old for 1.5 yrs. It’s going great!
    My second husband was 7 yrs younger than me as well.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks for sharing!

  • @ParisTNT
    @ParisTNT 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Great video :)

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks so much my dear!

  • @Lyn_Marie_
    @Lyn_Marie_ 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Love it, love it, love it! 💝💝💝 I'm playing catch up on your video's... 🤗🤗

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      aww yeah time to binge watch! :)

    • @oscarwilliamson1264
      @oscarwilliamson1264 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Lenore, you're so beautiful ❤💓❤🌹and I will be glad to know you

    • @lioydwilliams1850
      @lioydwilliams1850 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Lenore Marie,I admire your lovely smile

    • @marincuculic1020
      @marincuculic1020 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Lenore you look so lovely :) Are you single maybe?

  • @jilliann.5728
    @jilliann.5728 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Thank you for your insight, Mat, excellent and thought provoking as always!! Just one small quibble:
    "....sometimes casual connection can lead to something deeper." Sure, though the keyword there is "sometimes." Not to be a party pooper, but don't count on it. That's the exception, not the rule.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      great point my dear :) definitely not something to count on, OR dismiss! we get to stay present to all possibilities and grounded in trusting ourselves and our discernment!

    • @heatherfoss5106
      @heatherfoss5106 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I agree with Jillian.

  • @afifahrozalli7036
    @afifahrozalli7036 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you Mat! It's really open up my eyes and my mind towards my boyfriend who younger than me.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I’m so glad this helped you!

  • @Gurlbyetalli
    @Gurlbyetalli 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Awesome video it was just in my feed not gonna ho into my story but this was great how bout a part two

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Coming soon!

    • @Gurlbyetalli
      @Gurlbyetalli 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Mat_Shaffer Awesome. can't wait

    • @Gurlbyetalli
      @Gurlbyetalli 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Mat_Shaffer How about a series on younger men older woman .!👍🏾

  • @kita6707
    @kita6707 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thanks for the positive side of this. Wonderful post. I have found #3 to be the best aspect of dating younger men. It is MUCH easier than dating men my age who are so set in their ways.

    • @marincuculic1020
      @marincuculic1020 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Krista you look so charming :) Are you single?

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      AMAZING love that share!! :)

  • @juliacherny7560
    @juliacherny7560 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Your voice so warm and full of love it moved me into tears

    • @adamadel7097
      @adamadel7097 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Are you looking for a serious relationship

    • @marincuculic1020
      @marincuculic1020 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Julia are you single?

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  ปีที่แล้ว

      You are so sweet!

  • @kahalacromwell9741
    @kahalacromwell9741 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Grateful to read the comments here. I have been seeing a younger man who is 22 Yrs younger than I am off and on for 3 years….i was concerned about the age gap but after reading the comments here, I feel a lot better. We just have this attraction to each other and have learned to accept that age, height, status doesn’t matter. Life is short, been married 2x’s had my heartbroken, and admit friends have criticized me for only being with younger men. The youngest guy I was ever with was 38 Yrs yet I wasn’t looking for a long term relationship with him. After being treated badly by the ex hubbies I had, I am happy that the guy I now see said “age is just a number & I am attracted to you” that I gave him a chance. No relationship is perfect but I encourage everyone to be open to guys who are younger, because age is just a number. Bless all of you here.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I’m so happy for you my dear!

  • @chrissledge3740
    @chrissledge3740 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Im 73 and he is 62 and we are very physical and he teaches me too

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I’m glad to hear everything worked out well.

  • @shannoncoffman8854
    @shannoncoffman8854 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    I am in a relationship with a man 12 years younger. The perspective of this video is very true in my experience. Going over 1 year. Not sure how long it will last, but who cares. I let go and we just have a good time loving and caring for one another one day at a time!

    • @marincuculic1020
      @marincuculic1020 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hope you are still together Shannon :)

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  ปีที่แล้ว

      Yay! You deserve a great guy ❤️

  • @christytuttle5590
    @christytuttle5590 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I'll be 62, he will be 44. Our sexual-ship, high sex drive matches. Going on 15 months. Not dating, but that's what we agreed on in the beginning.
    So far, so good!
    Those limiting beliefs creep in at times, insecure thoughts and feelings.
    With being intimate, those feelings are real and an emotional connection has developed, even though he hides it. Not me...that's the part where he says, he doesn't want to hurt me. Well, I don't want to hurt him either.
    I take care of me and my home along with other things that go along with being a homeowner. Him too.
    So be it! And, so it is!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you for sharing! I appreciate it!

  • @Emma_xd8886
    @Emma_xd8886 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for sharing

  • @kyliebennett2494
    @kyliebennett2494 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Love y observations on relationships- it’s useful across all my research n business interactions

    • @pleasuretube2132
      @pleasuretube2132 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      HELLO beautiful Queen How are you. Single man no kids looking for one Seriously

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  ปีที่แล้ว

      Happy to help!

  • @julietamoroso3175
    @julietamoroso3175 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Ur video really helps alot to boost my confidence...Now i feel more relax dating my young bf

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I’m so glad this helped you!

  • @jesssm2289
    @jesssm2289 4 ปีที่แล้ว +61

    Thank you so much. My boyfriend is 22 Iam 31 and we love each other so much.it started like friendship now we are so so happy. And people say we are the same age 😄

    • @vivaeuropa
      @vivaeuropa 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      How'd you guys meet and do you want kids?

    • @wisdomphiko7525
      @wisdomphiko7525 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      OMG am even afraid his 22 am 27 already trying to stop it cause in African culture I'll be seen as a devil but he loves me I don't know whether to stick to it or

    • @allanacumberbatch9476
      @allanacumberbatch9476 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@wisdomphiko7525 how did it work out?

    • @wisdomphiko7525
      @wisdomphiko7525 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@allanacumberbatch9476 unfortunately we broke up

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I’m so happy for you my dear!

  • @yensend
    @yensend 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This was great advice and true :)

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I’m happy this resonated with you!

  • @luannnguyen450
    @luannnguyen450 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You nailed it Mat, thank you

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks so much my dear!

  • @iamsdaughter
    @iamsdaughter 4 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    I met a younger man.. He's 27 I'm 47..wow..he is amazing.. Thankyou.. This is so encouraging

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      amazing congrats!!! whats your fav part of dating a younger guy?

    • @iamsdaughter
      @iamsdaughter 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      @@Mat_Shaffer well this younger guy is very mature in his thinking.. And he doesn't have baggage from past.. He's understanding.. He listens he likes to spend consistent time with me, he doesn't want children but wants to travel the same as me.. He's a man that knows what he wants.. He has good goals and he is a man that makes me feel safe.. I know that older men can be like this too... But I've not found any.

    • @oscarwilliamson1264
      @oscarwilliamson1264 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@iamsdaughter you're so beautiful ❤💓❤❤🌹and I will be glad to know you

    • @iamsdaughter
      @iamsdaughter 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @Marin Cuculić you say this to lots of women.. I seen on your channel 🙄😁

    • @MonicaSancio
      @MonicaSancio 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@iamsdaughter Congrats, I love what you say, and I love that he spends consistent time with you!

  • @debrabryant6196
    @debrabryant6196 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Amen, brother! They're FUN & interesting... 😉

  • @pennycandyys
    @pennycandyys 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Excellent Mat, thank you so much! ❤️

  • @GeeEll3
    @GeeEll3 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    This was great. Thank you. 💗

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you so much! Glad you enjoyed it!

  • @truelovealchemy
    @truelovealchemy 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Hi Matt, can you share or perhaps do a video on how to respond when a younger man asks you out and how or when to talk about the age difference please? I often have to repress laughing out loud because it catches me off guard. Your feedback would be so appreciated! 🙏🏻

  • @Akraven5235
    @Akraven5235 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Oh man! That’s beautiful! Learning to play again!

  • @crystaldance5731
    @crystaldance5731 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thankyou so much ❤️😘

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You're very welcome.

  • @jeanneross8976
    @jeanneross8976 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thankyou I really needed to hear this

  • @leilajoang
    @leilajoang 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I'm in a relationship with a man who's 29 and I'm 48 it's refreshing in a lot of ways

    • @tinadraper9143
      @tinadraper9143 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      For how long? I'm being asked out by a 30 year old and I'm 48 wondering why he wants to go out with me so bad and could it even work?

    • @leilajoang
      @leilajoang 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@tinadraper9143 why wouldn't he? People can't tell ages anymore. We broke up after a year and a half but my ex before was 24 and I was 42. We lived together for 2 years, he wanted to get engaged I didn't.
      Stop doubting yourself

    • @marincuculic1020
      @marincuculic1020 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Leila you are so charming :) Are you still dating?

    • @leilajoang
      @leilajoang 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@marincuculic1020 no. Ive been single since dec. Thamk you!

    • @marincuculic1020
      @marincuculic1020 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@leilajoang Oh well I just wanted to say you look very charming in your photo. :) I am Marin and I'm 28. Really hope we could maybe chat. :)

  • @inderaenriquez9916
    @inderaenriquez9916 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    WOW fantastic reason for me to get a good message about love

  • @shamicaw406
    @shamicaw406 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Love this. So good! And your voice is so soothing.

    • @pleasuretube2132
      @pleasuretube2132 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      HELLO beautiful Queen How are you .single man no kids looking for one Seriously

    • @marincuculic1020
      @marincuculic1020 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Shamica you are so charming :) Are you single maybe?

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you so much!!

  • @bintaabubakar1796
    @bintaabubakar1796 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank u so much for this video iI feel at ease being in relationship with a younger man .

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You are so welcome!

  • @maylapsley6188
    @maylapsley6188 4 ปีที่แล้ว +54

    Wow you picked every fear of mine ha I seem to attract a lot of younger men and have always distanced myself. Thanks Mat.

  • @sissel5369
    @sissel5369 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I love the energy of younger men, the openness, they are curious about a lot of things and they truly WANT to know how things work, how I work, what I feel and like and they have this willingness. Guys around my age (35+) is, in comparison and generally speaking, lazy and they just fall into old habits of doing things. Since dating younger men I find it really hard to even be attracted to men around my own age, they do not excite me even the slightest most of the time🤭
    And most of my insecurities about how I am or how my body looks, after having two kids, is just what the younger men love so I’m learning to a appreciate and owning my body just as it is and I’m truly grateful for it💛

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  ปีที่แล้ว

      That is awesome! I’m so happy for you my dear!

  • @clareholmes-urquhart5445
    @clareholmes-urquhart5445 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I agree with the points you have made. Makes me smile ... it has made me feel better.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks for sharing!

  • @lt4568
    @lt4568 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I started seeing a 34 year old (I just turned 63) 3 months ago- we talk/text daily and he comes over every 3-4 days- you are so RIGHT! He has taught me to be present, not so rigid and judgmental- he leads in the bedroom and I lay back in my feminine energy- Ladies, if you’re considering a lover or relationship- let go of your inhibitions- you won’t regret it

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Thanks for dropping by and sharing your thoughts! So happy this hit the spot for you. 😉

  • @SublimeLullaby
    @SublimeLullaby 4 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    I’m into a guy 20 yr younger n he’s sweet 💜

  • @heatherfoss5106
    @heatherfoss5106 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Dear Matt,
    You described to a T the younger man I am getting to know. All 4 surprising truths that you explained so well are evident in him. Thank you for articulating in such a succinct, encouraging, and fai

    • @heatherfoss5106
      @heatherfoss5106 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      …faith building style these 4 main points.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      So glad my content supports you :)

  • @phiphidash6035
    @phiphidash6035 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hey dear Thanks for your videos

  • @racheladams1614
    @racheladams1614 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Awesome video Mat so great 👍🏽😊💕

  • @nubiandoll7
    @nubiandoll7 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I agree with everything said in the video. I met an older guy from dating app whos 28 he was he was still dealing with a recent break up with a ex of 5 years. He kept bragging about how difficult it is and how’s he emotionally unavailable.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you for sharing!

  • @mariecait
    @mariecait 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    i’m 10 years older than my current partner. he treats me better than any ex. i’m 32 he’s 22. i love him

    • @lifewiththedeans9493
      @lifewiththedeans9493 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I got company I was worried 🤣 I'm happy with him

    • @pleasuretube2132
      @pleasuretube2132 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@lifewiththedeans9493 single no kids looking for one Seriously . Hello beautiful How are you

    • @lifewiththedeans9493
      @lifewiththedeans9493 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@pleasuretube2132 hey you will find someone at the right time 🤞🤞

    • @pleasuretube2132
      @pleasuretube2132 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@lifewiththedeans9493 are you single dear?

    • @pleasuretube2132
      @pleasuretube2132 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@lifewiththedeans9493 I m ready for a good relationship

  • @velarderowena5713
    @velarderowena5713 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Wow sir ilike your vlog. Very clear to lesent to understand. And ihave idiaz AND learn about off love. Make more more more vlog I'm watching Saudi. 😊

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      i will be making many more! stay tuned!

  • @nimfabangay7318
    @nimfabangay7318 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Gmorning out there. Ty.😊