Why is it when he gets low, dresses awful, doesn’t take care of himself, i take care of him. I come to him I try to build him back. But if I have a low moment I am just unattractive? That there is the fail. This is where I just no longer care.
I'm in the same position, but it goes the other way. As the once glamorous female in the relationship, I've started to let my self go. Idk what to do. Any advice (besides the obvious?) The desire judt isnt there.
Husband said after giving birth a female loses the glamorous side. Next time ... the answer would be that is why people keep dogs nowadays. What if your mum kept a dog in your place she wouldn't lose her glam too
I tried all of this and he just expects more. I never expect anyone to give back as much as i give, but an effort to try would make me very happy. Our birthdays past in the last couple months. He forgets after 18 years what kind of cake i like so doesn't bother at all. Next month is his birthday. I have his favorite cake. Some jewelry that he had been wanting. It wasn't expensive but i remember him talking about it, and a beach front rental for 3 days. It's crap and I do this for what reason?
Girl, I'm same as you.. He forget every important anniversary, and my birthday.. His birthday was one month after mine and I got up at 6:30am, February, - 15C outside to go get his favorite cake and birthday card... I came home, prepared all and he just said that he will later look at it, want to sleep lil'bit more.. And always same, I'm trying and I have feeling that he would rather be alone, looking TV.. I don't know what happened because he was not so first 4 years, but last two I feel more alone with him than when I'm actually alone.. Wish you all the best and I hope all comes to the right place... 🍀🌺🤍
Openly talk to him without criticizing. Tell him these are your needs and you don’t feel like your cup is full. Then leave it open on the table for him to step up. Then forget it. Buy yourself the cake you like and schedule things you like. Maybe I’m missing the ball here but other people can’t love you unless you love yourself first. Or maybe worded different people treat you, how you treat yourself. Bring positivity you’ve got this!
True story, happened to me. And everything here, I've tried, even separated for 8 years, he begged me back, and so far, the past six years have been infidelity, after infidelity, he doesn't know why he does it, doesn't know what's missing in the marriage, doesn't know what's wrong, but nothing is wrong with me, promises to change, and before long back to the same pattern again. If I give space, I'm not trying to meet his needs so I find out about the next woman soon, if I don't give space I'm smothering so he goes to the next woman, if I leave him he swears he will change, but does the same routine, if I dress up I'm cheating, if I try something new in the bedroom I cheated to learn this, if I lose weight, go to a gym, start doing something for me I'm with someone else, even if I've invited him. He calls out everything he thinks is beautiful or sexy, in my face and in secret, in 32 years he never said anything about me like that, but if I'm looking in the direction of another man I slept with him already, or want to. I'm crazy I know, for loving someone so unlovable, and fighting for something that wasn't even mine to begin with.
Yep, I gave space and he said he cheated because he needed more attention. Men need to feel wanted and desired. This info is not it. You need to create time for one another, date each other, prioritize one another, speak his love language, communicate, take care of your mind body and spirit, look good for him (dress up once in a while), do the things you did in the beginning to get him. Did I say COMMUNICATE?!
I let my husband have all the freedom he wanted bike trips his Harley hanging out with his friends etc. how ever before we got married we did go through married counseling and 2 deal breakers for me was strippers and porn and he agreed with me I found out he had an affair and he was doing all the things he lied about and said he agreed with me. How ever since I found out about all his doings he isn’t attracted to me anymore. That’s why I am watching this
I've made so many mistake and I feel I'm pulling at him and he thinks I'm just a complainer ...I'm not but it's what he hears...how can I turn this around
Great video, I will try to do all of this, but I have gained weight and I do not feel sexy in anything. And there are so many eating plans, etc. I do not know where to start. Could you recommend anything? I had my gall bladder removed a few years ago after I had my 3rd child. Thank you Coach, so glad I found this page. I was initially looking for videos on jealousy and insecurity after my husband's affair and catching him on several dating sites. Much love from Little Rock, Arkansas. ❤💯🙏🤗
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Its not the weight because men cheat with fat women no problem. Honey, people will do what they want to do. You cant control it and you cant stop it. He gets to have an affair and your left with the consequences damned if you do and damned if you dont. It sucks im sorry for your situation. 😞
Keto diet will not let you down. The results are immediate, and you start to feel much better, it fixes many health issues. Combined with intermittent fasting, it is a fat killer. As a man, I can testify that the first thing men are repelled by is when a woman is overweight. It is not a big deal when it is up to 10-15 pounds, but many women tend to get so fat that their bodies completely deform and their faces lose appeal, they get double chins etc. Yet, many believe they must still be attractive to their spouses just because they are married to them. The natural chemistry recognizes no marital documents.
Thank you for reaching out. ⭐ This is how to fix your relationship if you cheated👇 www.love.happilycommitted.com/offer-page-infidelity-you-cheatedjiql05ni Coach Natalie
Good luck! All I have to say is, get marriage counseling ASAP becuz trust me when I say, it will get hard if u dont acknowledge his hurt and what plays in his mind over and over.
We are here trying to research and take the time to better ourselves for our spouse but I’m more than sure my man isn’t taking the time to research things to better himself for me…
My husband turned into a verbally abusive narcissist. Im not sure if I want him to fall back in love with me. It needs to be the other way around in my situation lol
I want to be attractive to my husband. After having two babies within two years, I don’t have the time to get dolled up each day. I don’t want him to look elsewhere at more attractive women. What can I do if I don’t have time to get all done up?
Thank you very much for such information 👌I am married to a widow man and he has 2 adult boy and girl and my husband doesn't value me when his adult daughter and son are with him, he is so possessive and I feel very insecure and we start having misunderstanding what to do please suggest me🙏
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Hi Mya, at that point my recommendation is to re-evaluate the relationship itself. What are your needs and wants? There are times in which we have to do things that we don't necessarily want to in order to get to our goal, but there has to be progress or forward movement in order for that sacrifice to be worth it. - Coach Danny
What do you do if you go through your husband's phone and see where he is texting other woman for sex while you're at work? I confronted him but I can't stop seeing the text messages in my head of him telling a woman that looks nothing like me how beautiful she is and yet he hardly says anything like that to me. I flirt with him I give him space and I am going to college, so I have confidence the only thing I don't do is wear make-up or dress up. I'm at a loss! we've been together for ten years now! Please anything will help.
Ohh ..that's sad . Are you like not sleeping with him frequently? . I've heard a lot that if a married husband doesn't get sex or the wife withold it for too long that causes chances for him cheating.
I read in cosmo once that in a Survey where they show guys random faces and ask if they are attractive and that like 80% they pick ones wearing dark eyeliner. 🤷♀️
Omg I want sad sex as much as I want happy sex. He literally doesn’t want spontaneity. I was like surprise we are gonna go to a movie. And he was like I hate the movies, I hate people. Ok. I dress nice, doesn’t seem to work lol. I act confident, no change. I bought nice lingerie and I’m all cute like hey 😉😉 literally nothing. I don’t want to have a lot of alone time. He may need alone time but I don’t. I like family time. New things in the bedroom!? Are you kidding me, I’ve tried to spice things up and ask him what his fantasies are and he was like “I don’t have an imagination.” So literally I learned nothing from this. Yes, for sure he’s under a lot of stress and needs some space, but like- sex is fun, sex can relieve stress, why is that the one thing that a man doesn’t want when he’s stressed? That’s like the only thing as a woman that I want when I’m stressed- affection and intimacy. Why does the woman have to suffer because the man is unhappy? Why am I suddenly unattractive for having emotion? Oh my bad I got increasingly frustrated with you after 2 years of asking you to help make breakfast at a certain time or do the f*cking litter box. And what? All the “alone time” or your priorities are more important than what I want to do? Or the s*x id like to have with you? Okeeee
My husband can't performed his duty in bed for very long time so he feels bad after sex ,his now avoiding me by taking another women to make him feels Ok and abounded me I'm lonely please I need help
For me my life was a huge mess during the times my wife and I divorced. Although we’re back together now even stronger ❤️. I had to use a prayer that I found in one comment here on TH-cam & It worked like magic !!
- I just want to let anyone who’s reading this comment to know; Awakening is not changing who you are, but discarding who you are not ✨
Whoa, thank you! This message just calmed my nervous system down so much. Thank you for being my incredibly beautiful sign! ✨♥️
That's the best I have ever heard it stated!! I love it!
Why is it when he gets low, dresses awful, doesn’t take care of himself, i take care of him. I come to him I try to build him back. But if I have a low moment I am just unattractive? That there is the fail. This is where I just no longer care.
I'm in the same position, but it goes the other way.
As the once glamorous female in the relationship, I've started to let my self go.
Idk what to do. Any advice (besides the obvious?) The desire judt isnt there.
THANK YOU!! Why do we always have to try.
If as a female if you were the one who took the initiative first. You will have to do it your whole life.
@@tealquartzdo you. If you’re comfy, be comfy! Dress up now and again when it’s fun!
AMEN
When I give him space he appreciates it but grows more distant. How does that work in my favour?
I was thinking the same thing. How is giving more distance the solution to a problem that involves feeling distant and disconnected?
know what you are speaking of
Husband said after giving birth a female loses the glamorous side. Next time ... the answer would be that is why people keep dogs nowadays. What if your mum kept a dog in your place she wouldn't lose her glam too
Make sure you reassure them you are giving them space, respectively. Let them know you look forward to being with him.
My husband was in affair when I was giving him space 😏
This very true.
I am now I am not giving him space he is very well. 😍
@blossomblossom7528 This is true what I have experienced.
I tried all of this and he just expects more. I never expect anyone to give back as much as i give, but an effort to try would make me very happy. Our birthdays past in the last couple months. He forgets after 18 years what kind of cake i like so doesn't bother at all. Next month is his birthday. I have his favorite cake. Some jewelry that he had been wanting. It wasn't expensive but i remember him talking about it, and a beach front rental for 3 days. It's crap and I do this for what reason?
Girl, I'm same as you.. He forget every important anniversary, and my birthday.. His birthday was one month after mine and I got up at 6:30am, February, - 15C outside to go get his favorite cake and birthday card... I came home, prepared all and he just said that he will later look at it, want to sleep lil'bit more..
And always same, I'm trying and I have feeling that he would rather be alone, looking TV..
I don't know what happened because he was not so first 4 years, but last two I feel more alone with him than when I'm actually alone..
Wish you all the best and I hope all comes to the right place... 🍀🌺🤍
These are narcissists, look into it.
Openly talk to him without criticizing. Tell him these are your needs and you don’t feel like your cup is full. Then leave it open on the table for him to step up. Then forget it. Buy yourself the cake you like and schedule things you like. Maybe I’m missing the ball here but other people can’t love you unless you love yourself first. Or maybe worded different people treat you, how you treat yourself. Bring positivity you’ve got this!
@@arijana9006how it is going now ?
Don’t give space that’s an invitation for infidelity. Trust me I know.
True story, happened to me. And everything here, I've tried, even separated for 8 years, he begged me back, and so far, the past six years have been infidelity, after infidelity, he doesn't know why he does it, doesn't know what's missing in the marriage, doesn't know what's wrong, but nothing is wrong with me, promises to change, and before long back to the same pattern again. If I give space, I'm not trying to meet his needs so I find out about the next woman soon, if I don't give space I'm smothering so he goes to the next woman, if I leave him he swears he will change, but does the same routine, if I dress up I'm cheating, if I try something new in the bedroom I cheated to learn this, if I lose weight, go to a gym, start doing something for me I'm with someone else, even if I've invited him. He calls out everything he thinks is beautiful or sexy, in my face and in secret, in 32 years he never said anything about me like that, but if I'm looking in the direction of another man I slept with him already, or want to. I'm crazy I know, for loving someone so unlovable, and fighting for something that wasn't even mine to begin with.
Noted. As how everyone is telling.
Yep, I gave space and he said he cheated because he needed more attention. Men need to feel wanted and desired.
This info is not it. You need to create time for one another, date each other, prioritize one another, speak his love language, communicate, take care of your mind body and spirit, look good for him (dress up once in a while), do the things you did in the beginning to get him. Did I say COMMUNICATE?!
I agree.
This is harder when you have kids and he leaves to get the break when you’re still home watching our new baby .. it’s sad
Thank you for giving real life advice on marriage and relationships.
My pleasure!
- Coach Danny
I let my husband have all the freedom he wanted bike trips his Harley hanging out with his friends etc. how ever before we got married we did go through married counseling and 2 deal breakers for me was strippers and porn and he agreed with me I found out he had an affair and he was doing all the things he lied about and said he agreed with me.
How ever since I found out about all his doings he isn’t attracted to me anymore. That’s why I am watching this
What if you've tried all this and it still doesn't work?
Damn, I booked a hotel room and he was supposed to come lil bit late and in the end left me alone there, because he accidentally asleep 😑
I've made so many mistake and I feel I'm pulling at him and he thinks I'm just a complainer ...I'm not but it's what he hears...how can I turn this around
I've tried everything in this video, aside from the booking an hotel. Nothing works, so I've just accepted
think I will set a deadline
Please keep posting on youtube
Great video, I will try to do all of this, but I have gained weight and I do not feel sexy in anything. And there are so many eating plans, etc. I do not know where to start. Could you recommend anything? I had my gall bladder removed a few years ago after I had my 3rd child. Thank you Coach, so glad I found this page. I was initially looking for videos on jealousy and insecurity after my husband's affair and catching him on several dating sites. Much love from Little Rock, Arkansas. ❤💯🙏🤗
Thank you for reaching out, Jennifer. I understand what you're going through. ⭐ Need Immediate 1-on-1 Custom-Tailored Coaching | Schedule A Call With Us 👇: happilycommitted.com/coaching/
Coach Natalie
Its not the weight because men cheat with fat women no problem. Honey, people will do what they want to do. You cant control it and you cant stop it. He gets to have an affair and your left with the consequences damned if you do and damned if you dont. It sucks im sorry for your situation. 😞
Keto diet will not let you down. The results are immediate, and you start to feel much better, it fixes many health issues. Combined with intermittent fasting, it is a fat killer. As a man, I can testify that the first thing men are repelled by is when a woman is overweight. It is not a big deal when it is up to 10-15 pounds, but many women tend to get so fat that their bodies completely deform and their faces lose appeal, they get double chins etc. Yet, many believe they must still be attractive to their spouses just because they are married to them. The natural chemistry recognizes no marital documents.
Me and my husband been together since we were 15 were both 28 now things aren't the same... what are some things I can do???
I just wished I had quarter of your subscribers as you do💞❤️🥰
Anyways wonderful clean video😘
Well done. You just got 1 more follower 😊
@@kimsmith819 💃💃💃💃😍😘 thanks dear
Appreciate your kind words, Eve. Thank you for watching.
Coach Danny
Due to my infidelity, my husband is not attracted to me. Is it still possible to regain his attraction and love?
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Coach Natalie
Good luck! All I have to say is, get marriage counseling ASAP becuz trust me when I say, it will get hard if u dont acknowledge his hurt and what plays in his mind over and over.
You deserve it
So helpful, thank you 🤗
You're welcome. Happy to know the video was helpful for you.
Coach Danny
Thank you for this information ❤
To bad it’s usually the women who are looking this stuff up and not the men lol
We are here trying to research and take the time to better ourselves for our spouse but I’m more than sure my man isn’t taking the time to research things to better himself for me…
When am not staying with him what should I do
Thanks a lot
My husband turned into a verbally abusive narcissist. Im not sure if I want him to fall back in love with me. It needs to be the other way around in my situation lol
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Coach Natalie
Did you marry my ex? LOL
I want to be attractive to my husband. After having two babies within two years, I don’t have the time to get dolled up each day. I don’t want him to look elsewhere at more attractive women. What can I do if I don’t have time to get all done up?
This is great advice. Thank you.
“No pressure zone.”
Love that.
Shake up the routine. Surprise yourself. Awesome.
Yes! Thank you!
@@HappilyCommitted no pressure zone can´t mean, I am always doing everything that has to be done on my own, or does ist?
Thanks for the advise ..
My husband doesn't interact well n lives home early n come back late home n he is in practice of playing rummy fa money making so please help me
Thank you very much for such information 👌I am married to a widow man and he has 2 adult boy and girl and my husband doesn't value me when his adult daughter and son are with him, he is so possessive and I feel very insecure and we start having misunderstanding what to do please suggest me🙏
Hi there!
I know our coaches would love to help you but in order to give you effective advice, you would need to book a coaching session with us. I hope you can book a session using this link: happilycommitted.com/
Great advice
Thank you so much Sarah!
Such a good video!
Thank you!!
In our case it's only me who wants changes, he simply likes his home n am tired ov barking
But what if he just don’t want no contact with u or don’t even want to talk or even watch u!???
Hi Mya,
at that point my recommendation is to re-evaluate the relationship itself. What are your needs and wants? There are times in which we have to do things that we don't necessarily want to in order to get to our goal, but there has to be progress or forward movement in order for that sacrifice to be worth it.
- Coach Danny
Find someone better its not as hard as u think your a woman
I'm from Cameroon,I have a question.can we talk
Hi! If you would like to book a session with me you can use the following link: happilycommitted.com/coaching/ - Coach Danny
I love your advice, but maybe in some cases the point of return is over...
What do you do if you go through your husband's phone and see where he is texting other woman for sex while you're at work? I confronted him but I can't stop seeing the text messages in my head of him telling a woman that looks nothing like me how beautiful she is and yet he hardly says anything like that to me. I flirt with him I give him space and I am going to college, so I have confidence the only thing I don't do is wear make-up or dress up. I'm at a loss! we've been together for ten years now! Please anything will help.
Ohh ..that's sad . Are you like not sleeping with him frequently? . I've heard a lot that if a married husband doesn't get sex or the wife withold it for too long that causes chances for him cheating.
Then wear makeup and dress up more
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I read in cosmo once that in a Survey where they show guys random faces and ask if they are attractive and that like 80% they pick ones wearing dark eyeliner. 🤷♀️
Hahah i just watch this for in the future if i going to marry with a man
OMG! Single? Stay that way. Marriage, children? Both over rated!
Omg I want sad sex as much as I want happy sex. He literally doesn’t want spontaneity. I was like surprise we are gonna go to a movie. And he was like I hate the movies, I hate people. Ok. I dress nice, doesn’t seem to work lol. I act confident, no change. I bought nice lingerie and I’m all cute like hey 😉😉 literally nothing. I don’t want to have a lot of alone time. He may need alone time but I don’t. I like family time. New things in the bedroom!? Are you kidding me, I’ve tried to spice things up and ask him what his fantasies are and he was like “I don’t have an imagination.” So literally I learned nothing from this. Yes, for sure he’s under a lot of stress and needs some space, but like- sex is fun, sex can relieve stress, why is that the one thing that a man doesn’t want when he’s stressed? That’s like the only thing as a woman that I want when I’m stressed- affection and intimacy. Why does the woman have to suffer because the man is unhappy? Why am I suddenly unattractive for having emotion? Oh my bad I got increasingly frustrated with you after 2 years of asking you to help make breakfast at a certain time or do the f*cking litter box. And what? All the “alone time” or your priorities are more important than what I want to do? Or the s*x id like to have with you? Okeeee
How it is going now
My husband can't performed his duty in bed for very long time so he feels bad after sex ,his now avoiding me by taking another women to make him feels Ok and abounded me I'm lonely please I need help
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For me my life was a huge mess during the times my wife and I divorced. Although we’re back together now even stronger ❤️. I had to use a prayer that I found in one comment here on TH-cam & It worked like magic !!
Obviously if you’re senior citizen couple you can’t have sex with your partner!
Senior citizens don’t have energy to do that!
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He always ignor me
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Thank you so much for sharing this video, I love it and helpful.