GREAT VIDEO 🥰💘💌☄️🌠 SHINE THE LIGHT ON THE TRUTH... ONLY A FEW ARE WORTHY OF A BATTLE 👀😎🎶🎧😇✨😇✨😇✨😘🎁🎇🎁🎇🎁😇💪💪💪💪✍️🙏STEP BACK, GET QUIET, DON'T ARGUE , LEAVE , SAY SERENITY Prayer, GO TO A TWELVE STEPS RECOVERY MEETING, TALK TO A PERSON IN RECOVERY, TALK TO YOUR THERAPY GROUPS, TALK TO A THERAPIST ❤ LOVE YOURSELF FIRST
Practice Your Stoicism’s, It is logical and while being assertive, one Can Win In Their Game Of Words, while still being kind. Wrestling with Pigs, never worked, as it is foolish, and lowers you to their kinds level. A wise man fights with words, not fists, my Grandpa said.
Would the US and UK governments allow a person of a different nationality and their nationality to run the US and UK governments? Because I am a Russian girl with dual citizenship. I want to run the US and British governments. Who knows the answer? Please give me an answer. Thank you I am a Vietnamese Communist. But I also have US citizenship. Can I run the United States government in Congress. I am a Russian politician. Can I run the US government and the British government?
To argue with a fool makes you a bigger fool. a fool like to prey on your fears, when they are the fearful one. I don't even dignify them. Love this wisdom.💞💞💞
but what if the fool you are arguing with thinks you are the fool? This is the thing, Fools don't know they are fools, how would you know who the fool was? You never thought of that did you?
I already know how.. Examine everything.. Always examine what they hide.. My mother's teaching. Take them down quietly. Pick your battle quietly with delay. Everyone has something to hide.. Then sometimes let it ride.. For some.. Hold the tongue.. For some! Not for all.. Using your battles wisely. 👌🏼 🌹 💖 🐦
Your mother's teaching is wise, it’s about strategy, patience, and understanding people’s hidden motives. Knowing when to act and when to hold back can make all the difference. It reminds me of the balance between picking your battles and knowing when silence can be more powerful than confrontation. Not everything requires a reaction, and sometimes waiting quietly reveals more than immediate action ever could. Wise words to live by.
Yes, Right!!! all hard work on our shoulder. To make sure others are OK. We are extremely mature and confident. Runn away from ignorance... don't try to teach them.❤ Don't forgive Egoistic person, they will never change.
This video is a perfect reminder that true strength comes from mastering ourselves, not from dominating others. Marcus Aurelius was ahead of his time! 💡💪 🕒 2:03
I am a student who is learning a lot. I am also applying these skills to my own life. I am sharing Stoicism with my family and friends. We need new knowledge especially about how to use our minds in positive ways. I love these powerful teachings. Thank you. God delivers on time.
Points Covered: 1. Delve into the depths of Your Adversary. (What, Why.) 2. Choose Your Battles Wisely. (Use your time and energy wisely.) 3. Speak with Calm and Clarity. (For Smarter Discourse.) 4. Seek the Shared Path. 5. Appeal to Their Inner Values. 6. Using Humor Wisely in Conflict Resolution. 7. Offer Empathy. 8. Embrace the Art of Compromise. 9. Seek External Aide Without Shame. 10. Forgiveness. 11. Growth From Ashes of Conflict. 12. Setting Boundaries. 13. Remember, You Control Your Reactions. End.
The analogy of navigating a furious river to understand conflicts was so powerful! This video doesn't just teach philosophy; it shows how to live it. Thank you for such thoughtful content!
Learning how to deal with haters is challenging. It pays to learn even if corrupt and bad people think you have lost and they have won. Refuse to play their zero sum games that are rigged against you. Know that you are right, even if haters disrespect you. Realize that many people are driven by misperceptions, delusions, emotions, and not logic. Realize that some people are just impossible and evil and cannot be appeased and look for so called errors to exploit.
Sometimes humour can be used with great effect. If you can laugh at yourself and at the situation, you can also get them to drop their defences and see things from your perspective. I did this today with some belligerent men. I let them know I was onto their in-jokes and had a laugh about it. You can turn the tables, do the unexpected and this can be disarming. Especially if you can laugh. Laugher is a massive piece in your armoury and it can be used to defuse tension. It's also been used by oppressed people for centuries. "First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win." Mahatma Gandhi
@@deborahcurtis1385 My experience with stoicism, christianity and people over a lifetime is that it is Very difficult and in many cases nearly impossible to change the views of people. I find. It is far better to simply accept them as they are and move forward.Setting appropriate boundaries in place. I completely agree with your point about levity And laughter. And it certainly helps in getting along with people. But levity and laughter have severe limitations, especially among people who see you as something/someone to be taken advantage of in some way, shape or form. I find the best policy is simply to walk away from these types of individuals if they are causing harm, injury or damage in any way; And I do believe that is the important point in stoicism that one has control over their lives and they're emotions and it is better to simply walk away from individuals which cause harm, damage or injury. As practicing stoics and Christians, we can be civil towards all people and treat them with Dignity and respect. But we need not be deceptive Through laughter or levity. But rather, to be honest with ourselves and simply move in the other direction from these people. Setting limits and boundaries with such individuals requires Self disciplined and to constantly be on guard; And that's no way to have a healthy relationship with anyone. Good luck in your future endeavors and practices with Stoicism and Christianity, take care.
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I had a fight with someone before, I just sat back no matter what they said against me and didn’t say a word. I remained silent and just did what I normally do for days and he was so frustrated that he didn’t get any reaction from me despite what he did so he decided to frabricate stories about me and spread it. He was too impulsive that it clouded his judgement. With all the lies he spread against me, people who knew me just spoke in my behalf and he got exposed with all his lies. I ended up winning the battle without doing anything. I would’ve engaged in a civilized discussion with him and resolved our disagreement had he not been so violent. He ended up destroying himself bec of his own anger.
I don't believe in letting everyone get away with wrong. I like to address it in a way and help them correct it. Especially with customer service or racism. ❤🎉
@randychris5031 I found myself in a work situation where an African American woman made a racist comment about white people in the workplace. I thought about my options. Should I hit her? Well, no. Should I taddle on her? Well, what would the end result be? Instead, I considered maybe this is her own insecurity and it makes her feel more empowered. Surely, it represents her as being more shortsighted. Perhaps it's best to just allow her to keep being her, and not let it bother me. In this dilemma, where I feel like everyone should be able to work in a place without discrimination, I weigh the odds, provide charity to the perpetrator of this disrespect, and end up with the best result.
Never trust nothing, Always look deeper. Question, Observe that person! They lie. You will know it. Through your question again! Quite battles with silence is a battle to win on how you decide to do it! What hurts them the most! What's taken away from them that they like getting etc.. My mother was a smart teacher.. 👌🏼
Asking the Holy Spirit to bribe my tongue and shut my mouth. This is good teaching, on time for me. I am eighty and still learning. Love Forgiveness is my passion; people place, things and myself. Sending ❤😮😇🎁
I am so much in need of a teacher . I am a willing student, awaiting for my teacher to show themselves. I am desperate and at my lowest which as a result, I am willing to do what ever it takes to master these skills.
I understand where you are coming from but something to remember is that when we are desperate for anything, it opens the door to all kinds of charlatans and con artists who will happily take advantage of our desperation. Desperation is the opposite of stoicism. However, I empathize with being very thirsty for knowledge and understanding, and that drive and desire can be the perfect catalyst to learn and incorporate really useful ideas, knowledge, and wisdom. Do you meditate? Not that you have to, of course, but it's a really great place to really ground yourself and start getting in touch with your own higher wisdom. The more you adopt it as a daily practice, the more everything starts to make more sense, and you start seeing yourself and the world from a whole new, amazing perspective. And absolutely, start learning from experienced, wise teachers that walk the talk, while also always checking in with your own intuition. There are a lot of resources online, you do not NEED a "guru" these days like we did in the past because there is a plethora of information at our disposal and we can so easily look up questions we have and find GOOD answers that RESONATE with us. Be open, curious, and eager to learn while retaining healthy skepticism. I have found many great teachers online, including on TH-cam, whether from this Era or those who have passed over, and they have helped me a lot. But just because I respect and appreciate them and their opinions does not mean I just accept everything they say. I always keep in touch with my higher wisdom through meditation, which really helps me weed out stuff that doesn't resonate. (And if u aren't a meditator and want to learn, a great place to start is with guided meditations; Brian Scott's meditations are among my favorite on YT, but there r a lot of other really great options) Aaron Abke's "Mind Science" series is great for all things to do with understanding and dealing with our ego. Michael Singer is an older guy whose written some well-known, life changing books (like the Untethered Soul) and he has a great podcast on YT. Oh man, there's so many, it just depends what your cup of tea is. If i started a list, i dont know where it'd end!There are teachers from every different Era, from all around the world, and whether you read their stuff, listen to audio books of their writings/works (if u cant buy them, there r lots for free on YT) or they have podcasts/shows, you have lots of free access and lots of perspectives. As you go along, you realize that the really good ones have a lot in common, just different ways of expressing their thoughts and different things they focus on. Just remember, you don't have to learn it all in a week, a month, or a year. You will happily spend the rest of your life learning, just like they did/do. That's what brings wisdom. I'm sorry for the long rant, I hope it was at least a little bit helpful.☺️🙏💫 Have a wonderful day🌞
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My teacher once told me: when you're looking for a teacher, stop. Because it is wasteful to look outside of yourself for guidance. You and those who work on your behalf (guides, guardians, ancestors, angels, ect) are the best teachers you could have. * When you're looking outside, you ignore the inside. You are Creator. You are Spirit experiencing humanity. Every drop of wisdom you desire is already yours. You just have to tune in and let go of doubt. Find validation within yourself. Learn to honor what resonates with you and works against you. Tap in and listen. And if you're still looking for a teacher, I would recommend the Four Agreements if you haven't read it already. Most of my teachers I've never met in person, but their role in my life is no less great than those I have! Many blessings. 🩶
BTW the teacher that gave that advice... and I didn't realize this till after I wrote the comment... is named Carol Rogers. Thought that was a really cool synchronicity. 🎉
The suggestion to pick our battles wisely resonates deeply. It’s a reminder that not every disagreement is worth our energy, and that focusing on significant issues leads to more meaningful and effective outcomes in our relationships.
This video is a powerful reminder that true strength lies in wisdom, self-control, and strategy, not in conflict. The stoic principles shared here, inspired by Marcus Aurelius, offer timeless guidance on overcoming challenges and opponents with dignity and grace. It’s fascinating to see how inner discipline can be a more effective weapon than any form of confrontation. Thank you for shedding light on such valuable lessons from Stoicism! 🙏✨"
I was also told if you show out in that spot you will get corrected in that same spot, so be careful. Everyone doesn't have your same teaching We mostly behave according to how we had to survive in a certain environment. So, coming from the hood, you had to be very firm so no person could think they would run over you or get you in trouble. So, being a leader meant this at times . If you hit me, I will hit you back to get you off of me. Only in certain situations don't But when you are dealing with the enemy, you can't show signs of fear. Not where I am from, you will get eating alive. So change according to your environment 💪🏽😇💗However don't go around doing bad do good.
@sheilacarter3806, This is interesting from the perspective of gun violence in some big cities. I was once on a jury, where a man from the hood was on the stand, accused of murder. He started to explain how it was necessary to have a gun. To my surprise, the judge let him speak for quite a long time, and asked him questions about the culture of the hood. His answers were enlightening, and gave all of us on the jury a perspective we hadn't considered. He basically felt he couldn't trust ANYONE. He was scared all the time. Very vigilant. He looked and acted dangerous, he said, because he felt he had no choice. I thought, wow, he has courage to say all of this stuff when there were many people from the hood in the courtroom as observers of the case. It was a very interesting but complicated case, involving a number of people trying to pass the "hot" smoking gun off, to pin the murder on another guy. I was glad the judge encouraged him to speak.
Sometimes, we waste so much energy on conflicts that don’t align with our values or goals. I’m definitely going to try implementing the cost-benefit analysis approach.
Yes they really want to wind you up so if you can laugh, it throws them. Laugh at the absurdity of the situation and this will disarm them. They will begin to doubt their position. That is the start.
In times of doubt and uncertainty, lean on God's promises. He is faithful to His word and will sustain you through every trial. Take courage, for He is with you always. Amen.
All disputes are imbedded in competition which lives in the Ego. Allowing the awareness to first realize the effects of the any disputes may give the best results and peace empowers.
I’m astounded. Not only for the clarity of the strategies, But also the simplicity of the techniques. This philosophy reminds me so much of Buddhist, it is just another branch.
❤😂🎉 never argued, listened to how my needs and dreams never matter, silent responses avoided a punch in the face, then did what I wanted joined with my children. In hindsight never had family fun. Remaining childlike joining in their curiosity I taught how to! Recovering and healing many wounds. Process got me in zombie rx drug fog, because I was vulnerable. I never bought into pop culture. BREATH and SMILE they don't get me let alone understand. Light dimmers gone ❤
Thank you for such a meaningful video! This is the mental boost I needed to keep a steady mind in life. Wishing everyone to receive positive values from Stoicism and live a peaceful life! 😊
This video really opened my eyes to the power of stoicism in conflict resolution. The emphasis on understanding the underlying motivations of others is such a valuable perspective. I can't wait to apply these techniques in my own life!
It`s so good to know that although we may have better technology than societies in the past, there have always been people who were struggling with the same personal conflicts as we do today. Even thousands of years ago, some people were incredibly intelligent and wise, and their incredible findings are still echoing through time, waiting to be heard and put to use. Nothing is as captivating as the enigmatic psychology of every single fellow man. Everyone's inner life has its own unique fingerprint.
When someone asks me what I think about..........fill in the blank........I just say I have NO OPINION. Shuts them right up. Of course, I have an opinion, but it's none of their business!
The best way is to work on yourself. Take urself to heights that they can't ignore you . Whenever they look up they see you. That's the best way to counter ur enemies. It takes time n patience but it works so well n so satisfying ultimately. Ignore them n work on urself. Divine justice will make sure they see u big and u see em small the day you have acheived great heights
I have read this in the bible conquering yourself, your anger is not a wise person. Angry person is a fool, so it means rage and anger can really be conquered. Delaying anger and not responding is the best solution especially when your life is in danger, really you can only compromise. Your bestfriend is yourself in any given situation.
They only come at night to instigate me, disrespect me with insults and Shannanigans of any kind..not far away from where i stand..but 8m used too now is time to put my tools to work and come up with a solution to stop this madness
I wish our world leaders today learn, at least some of this timeless, Stoicism wisdom in order to overcome the divide and to create a bridge of understanding. If they, at least, seek comprehension rather than dominant, world would be much safer place to live. "Not me, but us"...This, life-vital stoic's technique, should be taught in our schools instead of brainwashing stupidity.
So much to learn. I think im late learning this strategies but so thnkful that ive been following yiu now. And make great difference to response in a very intellectual manner.
This is excellent guidance, in a nutshell, stay calm and unemotional, determine why a person feels the way they do and foster a team approach toward a resolution. But I would disagree with the title of this video, you shouldn't want to destroy anyone, and anyone you would consider an enemy is someone who has such character flaws that there could never be any meaningful and lasting resolution....with these people just quietly walk away.
I thought the same thing when forwarding this video to friends. I told them to ignore the title and just listen to the message because there is nothing menacing in it. On reflection, I think the enemy being destroyed here is one's own self, when one is seeking revenge and/or angrily jumping to conclusions. I happily saw this program 3 days ago and used its advice not only to delve into my past to understand my grievances but helped my angry and perplexed daughter begin to look into her own, and now after decades of mistrust I think we have begun to try to understand and better communicate.
I noticed that much of this is taught in scripture. One thing that stands out though is the lack of glory due to god . A great assessment of national theology perhaps but would need the light of the word of god to interpret rightly. Thank you for this friend, learned much
That's because religions basically hijack good virtues and reassigns their source to a god, rather than a natural characteristic of the evolved human psychology. The main problem with this misconception is the adherent doesn't develop an inner moral conscience on the basis of empathy, compassion, sympathy and a sense of fairness, instead is motivated by fear of punishment and reward in the afterlife. It can also have tragic negative impacts when scripture is misused to motivate an otherwise good person to do evil things.
What if all of this doesn’t work? If only agreeing with them, having empathy and you are left with blame and shame? I statements do not work because they are done, with their demands and leave you insulted, while they are unwilling to hear you? What if they respond with “I’m sorry, that You Feel That Way”. “I don’t want to talk about it any more”, as soon as they finish talking, and you would like to respond, but are cut off by their unwillingness to hear anything you would like to say, except that you agree with them about everything that they say… My therapist and best friend, say it’s toxic for you with her only allowing her children to mediate. Letting go will need to happen, so I left unpaid and unheard by her. I forgave and don’t feel bad. I feel freed. 😊
The message is very good. Using AI to read the text with all the pronunciation errors tends to cheapen the delivery as the listener is being drawn to the mistakes, rather than concentrating on the lesson.
When God changed me the part of physical fighting really changed. I also had a bad temper, which also changed. I thank and need my Heavenly Father always 🙏 ❤❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥
Great advice for learning to choose battles..sadly a battle cam be initiated by just 1 party without leaving other any option.very good knowledge to incorporate.And help choose battles...and take 3motion anger or feelings out of it..great episode.always seams what i need to hear comes.sometimes too late but while alive muscle keep growing and working towards these things.especwlly to have a happy productive life
As human nature, the opponent always want to win the disagreement and he will become hostile if he is insulted. I highly appreciate the lesson that rather than trying to win the disagreement, let's try to find a solution
Distance from them is the best way to negative people
What if they live with you?
Get affordable psychological help, or leave the person.
You will never win with a narcissist!
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@@christelmayer❤🎉 NARCISSIST NEVER TAKE ACCOUNTABILITY FOR ANYTHING.😂🎉😂🎉😂
GREAT VIDEO 🥰💘💌☄️🌠 SHINE THE LIGHT ON THE TRUTH... ONLY A FEW ARE WORTHY OF A BATTLE 👀😎🎶🎧😇✨😇✨😇✨😘🎁🎇🎁🎇🎁😇💪💪💪💪✍️🙏STEP BACK, GET QUIET, DON'T ARGUE , LEAVE , SAY SERENITY Prayer, GO TO A TWELVE STEPS RECOVERY MEETING, TALK TO A PERSON IN RECOVERY, TALK TO YOUR THERAPY GROUPS, TALK TO A THERAPIST ❤ LOVE YOURSELF FIRST
Anyone that learned and practiced Ancient Greek philosophy has a successful life. Thank you!
Limit the amount of time around negative people and male sure there is a clear purpose while in their presence. Stay confident but kind 😇
😊my dad used to say"dont argue with idiots"he was so brilliant ❤
❤You know why, 🎋🌾Because you would just be stupid just like them, 🎋🌾
Practice Your Stoicism’s, It is logical and while being assertive, one Can Win In Their Game Of Words, while still being kind. Wrestling with Pigs, never worked, as it is foolish, and lowers you to their kinds level.
A wise man fights with words, not fists, my Grandpa said.
not "brilliant" rather be luck of patience...
Another good one is ‘never debate a moron’ or ‘morons shout the loudest’
Silence is the power that conquers all types of emotions
controling and acknowledging your emotion is key
Would the US and UK governments allow a person of a different nationality and their nationality to run the US and UK governments?
Because I am a Russian girl with dual citizenship. I want to run the US and British governments.
Who knows the answer? Please give me an answer.
Thank you
I am a Vietnamese Communist. But I also have US citizenship. Can I run the United States government in Congress.
I am a Russian politician.
Can I run the US government and the British government?
@@LocNguyen-fc6ctgo ask Joe
"The best revenge is to unlike who performed the injury" - Marcus Aurelius
Or worse, unsubscribe.
the Roman Facebook. who knew...
"unsubscribe to them" are the words he used bro
To argue with a fool makes you a bigger fool. a fool like to prey on your fears, when they are the fearful one. I don't even dignify them. Love this wisdom.💞💞💞
Great 🎉❤🎉
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Play fool to catch wise
Inhale and xhale😅
but what if the fool you are arguing with thinks you are the fool? This is the thing, Fools don't know they are fools, how would you know who the fool was? You never thought of that did you?
I already know how.. Examine everything.. Always examine what they hide.. My mother's teaching. Take them down quietly. Pick your battle quietly with delay. Everyone has something to hide.. Then sometimes let it ride.. For some.. Hold the tongue.. For some! Not for all.. Using your battles wisely. 👌🏼 🌹 💖 🐦
@riviclaye615l
@riviclaye615 Thank you for the reminder!!
Your mother's teaching is wise, it’s about strategy, patience, and understanding people’s hidden motives. Knowing when to act and when to hold back can make all the difference. It reminds me of the balance between picking your battles and knowing when silence can be more powerful than confrontation. Not everything requires a reaction, and sometimes waiting quietly reveals more than immediate action ever could. Wise words to live by.
Yes, Right!!! all hard work on our shoulder. To make sure others are OK. We are extremely mature and confident. Runn away from ignorance... don't try to teach them.❤ Don't forgive Egoistic person, they will never change.
Sometimes a battle fought and lost may not be a loss but a planting of seeds of longer term change in your favor.
Yes I'm on that path now. Not told a soul.
Don't fight every battle some just sit back pray hold every word and actions
He who rules his will, is stronger than he who rules a city.
From the Holy Bible
Great wisdom 👍
He who controls his tongue controls his destiny! For a tongue can both build and destroys a nation!
Its not the surface of what another person is saying..your right, its their depths, what is really going on, behind it all. Thank you 😊
This video is a perfect reminder that true strength comes from mastering ourselves, not from dominating others. Marcus Aurelius was ahead of his time! 💡💪
🕒 2:03
"No man is free who is not master of himself"Epictetus
I'm glad you spelt that name. The captions wrote Epic Teeters, Epic Tattoos, Epic Teachers.
I knew that couldn't be right.
I like Epictetus he was a true jedi master and those words still ring true today!!!!
True
I love your voice. It sounds so calm and trustworthy ❤
I am a student who is learning a lot. I am also applying these skills to my own life.
I am sharing Stoicism with my family and friends. We need new knowledge especially about how to use our minds in positive ways.
I love these powerful teachings. Thank you. God delivers on time.
Thanks for sharing!
Amen
Points Covered:
1. Delve into the depths of Your Adversary. (What, Why.)
2. Choose Your Battles Wisely.
(Use your time and energy wisely.)
3. Speak with Calm and Clarity.
(For Smarter Discourse.)
4. Seek the Shared Path.
5. Appeal to Their Inner Values.
6. Using Humor Wisely in Conflict Resolution.
7. Offer Empathy.
8. Embrace the Art of Compromise.
9. Seek External Aide Without Shame.
10. Forgiveness.
11. Growth From Ashes of Conflict.
12. Setting Boundaries.
13. Remember, You Control Your Reactions.
End.
The analogy of navigating a furious river to understand conflicts was so powerful! This video doesn't just teach philosophy; it shows how to live it. Thank you for such thoughtful content!
Think before you act,react.
Respond instead of reacting and, sometimes don't have any response at all!
Learning how to deal with haters is challenging. It pays to learn even if corrupt and bad people think you have lost and they have won. Refuse to play their zero sum games that are rigged against you. Know that you are right, even if haters disrespect you. Realize that many people are driven by misperceptions, delusions, emotions, and not logic. Realize that some people are just impossible and evil and cannot be appeased and look for so called errors to exploit.
No do not engage, but rather set healthy boundaries.
Sometimes humour can be used with great effect. If you can laugh at yourself and at the situation, you can also get them to drop their defences and see things from your perspective. I did this today with some belligerent men. I let them know I was onto their in-jokes and had a laugh about it. You can turn the tables, do the unexpected and this can be disarming. Especially if you can laugh. Laugher is a massive piece in your armoury and it can be used to defuse tension. It's also been used by oppressed people for centuries.
"First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win."
Mahatma Gandhi
@@deborahcurtis1385 My experience with stoicism, christianity and people over a lifetime is that it is Very difficult and in many cases nearly impossible to change the views of people. I find.
It is far better to simply accept them as they are and move forward.Setting appropriate boundaries in place. I completely agree with your point about levity And laughter. And it certainly helps in getting along with people. But levity and laughter have severe limitations, especially among people who see you as something/someone to be taken advantage of in some way, shape or form. I find the best policy is simply to walk away from these types of individuals if they are causing harm, injury or damage in any way; And I do believe that is the important point in stoicism that one has control over their lives and they're emotions and it is better to simply walk away from individuals which cause harm, damage or injury. As practicing stoics and Christians, we can be civil towards all people and treat them with Dignity and respect. But we need not be deceptive Through laughter or levity. But rather, to be honest with ourselves and simply move in the other direction from these people. Setting limits and boundaries with such individuals requires Self disciplined and to constantly be on guard; And that's no way to have a healthy relationship with anyone. Good luck in your future endeavors and practices with Stoicism and Christianity, take care.
I HAVE PROBLEM LIKE THAT KNOW THEY PLAY SHIT GYM IN MY OWN LIFE IN WORK HOME EVERYWHETE WHERE I GO THEY WACH ME OF COURSE I DONT PLAY I DONT WANT SEE THIS PEOPLE ENYMORE IS ALREDY LONG TIME WHEN THEY TAKE MY ENERGY EVERY DAY
I had a fight with someone before, I just sat back no matter what they said against me and didn’t say a word. I remained silent and just did what I normally do for days and he was so frustrated that he didn’t get any reaction from me despite what he did so he decided to frabricate stories about me and spread it.
He was too impulsive that it clouded his judgement. With all the lies he spread against me, people who knew me just spoke in my behalf and he got exposed with all his lies. I ended up winning the battle without doing anything.
I would’ve engaged in a civilized discussion with him and resolved our disagreement had he not been so violent. He ended up destroying himself bec of his own anger.
I don't believe in letting everyone get away with wrong. I like to address it in a way and help them correct it. Especially with customer service or racism. ❤🎉
Exactly bro 😎 some situations need to be dealt with squarely😊
@randychris5031 I found myself in a work situation where an African American woman made a racist comment about white people in the workplace. I thought about my options. Should I hit her? Well, no.
Should I taddle on her? Well, what would the end result be? Instead, I considered maybe this is her own insecurity and it makes her feel more empowered. Surely, it represents her as being more shortsighted. Perhaps it's best to just allow her to keep being her, and not let it bother me.
In this dilemma, where I feel like everyone should be able to work in a place without discrimination, I weigh the odds, provide charity to the perpetrator of this disrespect, and end up with the best result.
Make sure you won't regret it afterwards though
True but I do that with empathy
The police do not either. That's why you should call the police instead of being charged breaking the law yourself
Never trust nothing, Always look deeper. Question, Observe that person! They lie. You will know it. Through your question again! Quite battles with silence is a battle to win on how you decide to do it! What hurts them the most! What's taken away from them that they like getting etc.. My mother was a smart teacher.. 👌🏼
Asking the Holy Spirit to bribe my tongue and shut my mouth.
This is good teaching, on time for me. I am eighty and still learning. Love Forgiveness is my passion; people place, things and myself.
Sending ❤😮😇🎁
True love🩷 Never gives up. Love ♥️,and patience always wins💖
I am so much in need of a teacher . I am a willing student, awaiting for my teacher to show themselves. I am desperate and at my lowest which as a result, I am willing to do what ever it takes to master these skills.
I understand where you are coming from but something to remember is that when we are desperate for anything, it opens the door to all kinds of charlatans and con artists who will happily take advantage of our desperation. Desperation is the opposite of stoicism. However, I empathize with being very thirsty for knowledge and understanding, and that drive and desire can be the perfect catalyst to learn and incorporate really useful ideas, knowledge, and wisdom.
Do you meditate? Not that you have to, of course, but it's a really great place to really ground yourself and start getting in touch with your own higher wisdom. The more you adopt it as a daily practice, the more everything starts to make more sense, and you start seeing yourself and the world from a whole new, amazing perspective.
And absolutely, start learning from experienced, wise teachers that walk the talk, while also always checking in with your own intuition. There are a lot of resources online, you do not NEED a "guru" these days like we did in the past because there is a plethora of information at our disposal and we can so easily look up questions we have and find GOOD answers that RESONATE with us. Be open, curious, and eager to learn while retaining healthy skepticism.
I have found many great teachers online, including on TH-cam, whether from this Era or those who have passed over, and they have helped me a lot. But just because I respect and appreciate them and their opinions does not mean I just accept everything they say. I always keep in touch with my higher wisdom through meditation, which really helps me weed out stuff that doesn't resonate. (And if u aren't a meditator and want to learn, a great place to start is with guided meditations; Brian Scott's meditations are among my favorite on YT, but there r a lot of other really great options)
Aaron Abke's "Mind Science" series is great for all things to do with understanding and dealing with our ego. Michael Singer is an older guy whose written some well-known, life changing books (like the Untethered Soul) and he has a great podcast on YT. Oh man, there's so many, it just depends what your cup of tea is. If i started a list, i dont know where it'd end!There are teachers from every different Era, from all around the world, and whether you read their stuff, listen to audio books of their writings/works (if u cant buy them, there r lots for free on YT) or they have podcasts/shows, you have lots of free access and lots of perspectives. As you go along, you realize that the really good ones have a lot in common, just different ways of expressing their thoughts and different things they focus on.
Just remember, you don't have to learn it all in a week, a month, or a year. You will happily spend the rest of your life learning, just like they did/do. That's what brings wisdom.
I'm sorry for the long rant, I hope it was at least a little bit helpful.☺️🙏💫 Have a wonderful day🌞
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My teacher once told me: when you're looking for a teacher, stop. Because it is wasteful to look outside of yourself for guidance. You and those who work on your behalf (guides, guardians, ancestors, angels, ect) are the best teachers you could have.
* When you're looking outside, you ignore the inside.
You are Creator. You are Spirit experiencing humanity. Every drop of wisdom you desire is already yours. You just have to tune in and let go of doubt. Find validation within yourself. Learn to honor what resonates with you and works against you. Tap in and listen.
And if you're still looking for a teacher, I would recommend the Four Agreements if you haven't read it already. Most of my teachers I've never met in person, but their role in my life is no less great than those I have!
Many blessings. 🩶
BTW the teacher that gave that advice... and I didn't realize this till after I wrote the comment... is named Carol Rogers.
Thought that was a really cool synchronicity. 🎉
The suggestion to pick our battles wisely resonates deeply. It’s a reminder that not every disagreement is worth our energy, and that focusing on significant issues leads to more meaningful and effective outcomes in our relationships.
This video is a powerful reminder that true strength lies in wisdom, self-control, and strategy, not in conflict. The stoic principles shared here, inspired by Marcus Aurelius, offer timeless guidance on overcoming challenges and opponents with dignity and grace. It’s fascinating to see how inner discipline can be a more effective weapon than any form of confrontation. Thank you for shedding light on such valuable lessons from Stoicism! 🙏✨"
I was also told if you show out in that spot you will get corrected in that same spot, so be careful. Everyone doesn't have your same teaching
We mostly behave according to how we had to survive in a certain environment. So, coming from the hood, you had to be very firm so no person could think they would run over you or get you in trouble. So, being a leader meant this at times . If you hit me, I will hit you back to get you off of me. Only in certain situations don't
But when you are dealing with the enemy, you can't show signs of fear. Not where I am from, you will get eating alive. So change according to your environment 💪🏽😇💗However don't go around doing bad do good.
@sheilacarter3806, This is interesting from the perspective of gun violence in some big cities. I was once on a jury, where a man from the hood was on the stand, accused of murder. He started to explain how it was necessary to have a gun. To my surprise, the judge let him speak for quite a long time, and asked him questions about the culture of the hood. His answers were enlightening, and gave all of us on the jury a perspective we hadn't considered. He basically felt he couldn't trust ANYONE. He was scared all the time. Very vigilant. He looked and acted dangerous, he said, because he felt he had no choice. I thought, wow, he has courage to say all of this stuff when there were many people from the hood in the courtroom as observers of the case. It was a very interesting but complicated case, involving a number of people trying to pass the "hot" smoking gun off, to pin the murder on another guy. I was glad the judge encouraged him to speak.
Sometimes, we waste so much energy on conflicts that don’t align with our values or goals. I’m definitely going to try implementing the cost-benefit analysis approach.
Sometimes its our ex friends who turn into enemies
That's why I don't have freinds 😊
They were always enemies under the guise of friendship
Betrayal never comes from our enemies
That's the worst kind !
I don't believe in friend no way .my mother was my best friend but after she passed I'm lonely 😭😭
Speak calm yet firm
Yes they really want to wind you up so if you can laugh, it throws them.
Laugh at the absurdity of the situation and this will disarm them.
They will begin to doubt their position. That is the start.
In times of doubt and uncertainty, lean on God's promises. He is faithful to His word and will sustain you through every trial. Take courage, for He is with you always. Amen.
❤❤❤ facts
Amen
Do you have evidence for your assertions?
The absence of evidence is not the evidence of absence, I always remember this reminder of human limits
God... Right...
A calm mind is the original of innovation❤
All disputes are imbedded in competition which lives in the Ego. Allowing the awareness to first realize the effects of the any disputes may give the best results and peace empowers.
I’m astounded.
Not only for the clarity of the strategies,
But also the simplicity of the techniques.
This philosophy reminds me so much of Buddhist, it is just another branch.
Self mastery.......Place no one above you........unconditional self love........
In christianity self love is a sin especially over God. Love God and seek solutions
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❤😂🎉 never argued, listened to how my needs and dreams never matter, silent responses avoided a punch in the face, then did what I wanted joined with my children. In hindsight never had family fun. Remaining childlike joining in their curiosity I taught how to! Recovering and healing many wounds. Process got me in zombie rx drug fog, because I was vulnerable. I never bought into pop culture. BREATH and SMILE they don't get me let alone understand. Light dimmers gone ❤
Thank you for such a meaningful video! This is the mental boost I needed to keep a steady mind in life. Wishing everyone to receive positive values from Stoicism and live a peaceful life! 😊
This video really opened my eyes to the power of stoicism in conflict resolution. The emphasis on understanding the underlying motivations of others is such a valuable perspective. I can't wait to apply these techniques in my own life!
It`s so good to know that although we may have better technology than societies in the past, there have always been people who were struggling with the same personal conflicts as we do today. Even thousands of years ago, some people were incredibly intelligent and wise, and their incredible findings are still echoing through time, waiting to be heard and put to use.
Nothing is as captivating as the enigmatic psychology of every single fellow man.
Everyone's inner life has its own unique fingerprint.
That's not true. They've actually dumbed down society on purpose.
When someone asks me what I think about..........fill in the blank........I just say I have NO OPINION. Shuts them right up. Of course, I have an opinion, but it's none of their business!
Lesson of acute insight.😅
How about the offender/enemy is the one who is so calm and relax?
These 13 ways are really cool and amazing. I will apply it in the future. Thanks for sharing. 😀
❤thanks for sharing your knowledge and words of wisdom which will help us in our everyday lives it's much appreciated.
You are so welcome
I stayed until the end! Gratitude🏁👍🏾
Make sure you are not altered for bad through the process, it wiser to not stress it too much. Move on when you have to. Change it
The best way is to work on yourself. Take urself to heights that they can't ignore you . Whenever they look up they see you. That's the best way to counter ur enemies. It takes time n patience but it works so well n so satisfying ultimately. Ignore them n work on urself. Divine justice will make sure they see u big and u see em small the day you have acheived great heights
We try everything and nothing has changed this has been going on for a year and half Thank You
When i go silently into the light of Yahusha my peace follows me.
Never put man ,woman over Yahuah ❤
I have read this in the bible conquering yourself, your anger is not a wise person. Angry person is a fool, so it means rage and anger can really be conquered. Delaying anger and not responding is the best solution especially when your life is in danger, really you can only compromise. Your bestfriend is yourself in any given situation.
Big thanks to the channel owner for such an amazing video! Understanding how to manage our emotions is truly the key to success in life.
Our pleasure!
They only come at night to instigate me, disrespect me with insults and Shannanigans of any kind..not far away from where i stand..but 8m used too now is time to put my tools to work and come up with a solution to stop this madness
Excellent advice for a lifetime practice. Thanks Sir for wisdom truthful invaluable quotes
Very welcome
Sometimes I like to win because I don't like wrong motives of others 🙏
You can’t perceive life through their eyes if they are pathological narcissist if you aren’t one. Run!
All conflict is with the self...........Others are a reflection of that conflict......everyone is you......being reflected back to you.......
You’re wife so lucky to have you because your voice so wise😊
Terimakasih 🇮🇩
Thank you! 😃
There are very good people who have been threw he'll but right becomes wrong in this world evil people with different faces 😅
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I wish our world leaders today learn, at least some of this timeless, Stoicism wisdom in order to overcome the divide and to create a bridge of understanding. If they, at least, seek comprehension rather than dominant, world would be much safer place to live. "Not me, but us"...This, life-vital stoic's technique, should be taught in our schools instead of brainwashing stupidity.
Your presentation of Stoic philosophy is so refined and easy to grasp.
So much to learn. I think im late learning this strategies but so thnkful that ive been following yiu now. And make great difference to response in a very intellectual manner.
Great to hear!
Thanks for sharing. Numbers 12 and 13 so inspire. 🙏💕
You are so welcome!
This is excellent guidance, in a nutshell, stay calm and unemotional, determine why a person feels the way they do and foster a team approach toward a resolution. But I would disagree with the title of this video, you shouldn't want to destroy anyone, and anyone you would consider an enemy is someone who has such character flaws that there could never be any meaningful and lasting resolution....with these people just quietly walk away.
I thought the same thing when forwarding this video to friends. I told them to ignore the title and just listen to the message because there is nothing menacing in it.
On reflection, I think the enemy being destroyed here is one's own self, when one is seeking revenge and/or angrily jumping to conclusions.
I happily saw this program 3 days ago and used its advice not only to delve into my past to understand my grievances but helped my angry and perplexed daughter begin to look into her own, and now after decades of mistrust I think we have begun to try to understand and better communicate.
Thank you for this information 🙏🏻
My pleasure
Thankyou
I am facing this problem
I don't know why❤
The only thing we can control are are thoughts, actions, words
. . . And Emotions!
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👍🏼Excellent advice. Thanks for the post!
You're welcome!
I wish you provide more example. Like a video of how an argument is truly solved.
Practical tips have been given...
Excellent
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THANK YOU
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I noticed that much of this is taught in scripture. One thing that stands out though is the lack of glory due to god .
A great assessment of national theology perhaps but would need the light of the word of god to interpret rightly.
Thank you for this friend, learned much
That's because religions basically hijack good virtues and reassigns their source to a god, rather than a natural characteristic of the evolved human psychology. The main problem with this misconception is the adherent doesn't develop an inner moral conscience on the basis of empathy, compassion, sympathy and a sense of fairness, instead is motivated by fear of punishment and reward in the afterlife. It can also have tragic negative impacts when scripture is misused to motivate an otherwise good person to do evil things.
@MG , All these wisdom came from GOD ,AND GUIDED INTO HOLY SCRIPTURES.....WHETHER YOU BELIEVE OR NOT....
@@shampersaud2763Nope God isn’t real! The all caps, clearly shows us your not paying attention to the video. Lol
I was thinking the same thing. Great point.
Thank you! I've learned so much.
What if all of this doesn’t work? If only agreeing with them, having empathy and you are left with blame and shame? I statements do not work because they are done, with their demands and leave you insulted, while they are unwilling to hear you?
What if they respond with “I’m sorry, that You Feel That Way”. “I don’t want to talk about it any more”, as soon as they finish talking, and you would like to respond, but are cut off by their unwillingness to hear anything you would like to say, except that you agree with them about everything that they say… My therapist and best friend, say it’s toxic for you with her only allowing her children to mediate. Letting go will need to happen, so I left unpaid and unheard by her. I forgave and don’t feel bad. I feel freed. 😊
You've broken my ribs😂😂😂
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The message is very good. Using AI to read the text with all the pronunciation errors tends to cheapen the delivery as the listener is being drawn to the mistakes, rather than concentrating on the lesson.
Thanks for the help ,Thanks for the time, Thanks for your wisdom
My pleasure!
these parta of negotiation technic. very useful..
Yes, you are right
Thought, action, consequence.
Thank you so much for sharing.
I could learn lots.
You are so welcome!
Your challenge is welcome and I am going to continue to be challenged to apply your challenge in my life
Thanks for sharing your knowledge with us ❤
My pleasure 😊
It's good advice to always learn about ourselves because sometimes anger hurt humiliation takes over before we can understand what's happening
When God changed me the part of physical fighting really changed. I also had a bad temper, which also changed. I thank and need my Heavenly Father always 🙏 ❤❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥
Thanks for sharing this great message. 🎉
You are so welcome
_MY BEST WAYS TO FIGHT MY ENEMIES BACK ARE PRAYING THEM. THAT THEY WILL KNOW THE LORD JESUS CHRIST. AMEN. ONLY GOD HAVE THE POWER TO CHANGE US ALL._
❤❤❤thank you so much for sharing 🎉🎉🎉❤
You are so welcome
Great advice for learning to choose battles..sadly a battle cam be initiated by just 1 party without leaving other any option.very good knowledge to incorporate.And help choose battles...and take 3motion anger or feelings out of it..great episode.always seams what i need to hear comes.sometimes too late but while alive muscle keep growing and working towards these things.especwlly to have a happy productive life
Absolutely!
I really apprecate!
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Listening is essential the best way to learn and understand how to solve problems. Thank for your gold advice.🙏🙏🙏
My pleasure
I am ready Sir ❤
Super🎉...amazing inspiration. Thank you for the kind words of motivation.
Most welcome 😊
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Thank you ❤
You're welcome 😊
For the weak, these are useful recommendations. Instead, seek power.
As human nature, the opponent always want to win the disagreement and he will become hostile if he is insulted. I highly appreciate the lesson that rather than trying to win the disagreement, let's try to find a solution
I ❤ this teaching ❤
Excellent 🤝
Thank you 🙂
Thanks for your sharing.
Thanks for watching!
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