Youre the one going through eith the surgeries and thr one that feels the pain. Take your time, if you want to wait on it then do.... dont put pressure or shame yourself for post poning the surgery. Maybe you may feel happy how you are right now and you might get it later. If youre indecisive now then just take youre time... be gentle with yourself. This is your journey❤, live it your way. I hope you have an Awesome day and journey.
Very good thought to share. I never thought about it until I found out my body wouldn't be able to handle what I would want done after top surgery & hysto. I would have wanted the whole kit and caboodle, but after going through top surgery alone, I know that would happen with lower surgery. Plus I'm 47, things are harder than they used to be for healing and such. I've lost some weight and have excess skin they could use for phallo, but I've just been stuck the same way, debating what I want to do and why. Thank you Daan, for sharing your thoughts and the scenery! Beautiful foggy morning ☺ Hello fly 🪰😁
Daan your body can heal itself. Louise Hay is a very good person to look up, just an opinion. Praying for you to make the best choices for yourself. Be happy.
Hell no, absolutely don't pay attention to society, cultural or peer pressure, you do exactly what feels right for you. Does everybody need to change everything? I've no idea, I'm not trans, but I just imagine the main things are the exposed parts, head/face, certainly if you are FTM then chest, but I think bottom surgery seems daunting, to me. No amount of peer or community pressure would sway me, you must make the decision which is right for you, and if others don't agree, agree to disagree. And, if you are unsure just delay it until you are sure, give yourself time to think. You're looking great as you are, as a gay man I'm something of any expert in how men look 😁. Be well mentally, be happy, please be self-centred and do what you want.
Glad to come to your clog. You are a facinaatin g guy. Handsome and thoughtful . My very best wishes to you. You will work it out when you are ready, No time table here.
Just a note to say thank you for sharing your thoughts. I'm a cis gay man that is always eager to learn and your videos are very thoughtful. I hope you have a fantastic weekend and start to the new week ahead.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts and struggles. It takes a lot of strength and courage. It seems from you said that you are the transition did not help you with some mental health issues that you expected to be addressed by the procedure. I think it's important to try to identify and separate the issues that should be addressed without the rest of the transition that is left from the things that will be addressed with the procedures. It must be really hard since it's insanely hard for non-trans people to address their mental health. Imagine having a whole new gigantic layer of complexity to deal with and mixing all of that.
If you decide to move forward with bottom surgery you're definitely going to need someone to help take care of you and things around your house until it's safe for you to move around. At the end of the day you have to feel confident and happy about your decision. If you aren't there, then it's probably not time to move forward.
Hi Daan. Thanks so much for your vlogs. I am a cisgendered gay man who is in training to become a therapist and find your videos very helpful to me. I look forward to helping transgender clients
Hi, Daan. I hear two things in this video. 1) you are uncomfortable sharing your unfettered thoughts in therapy. This may be a communication misinterpretation. But if not, then why? Are you uncomfortable with your therapist? Do you need to change but are too shy, too repressed to ask? Therapy to me is your safe space to say anything, everything and not be judged. 2) l hear you feeling uncomfortable asking for your own well being. Only you know what is best for you and it is totally okay to ask. Room service is not coming to the house with a menu or silver platter : here is trans options A, B, C and D take your pick. Surgery is painful and uncomfortable. Do you choose muscle relaxers or traditional pain medications that have risks of addiction? When you are alone and in your own body are you close to feeling yourself or do you need more? If more, do you need a care giver, someone else you can trust and depend on or is that the issue? You are strong. You are vocal. You are worthwhile. You are a handsome man. ❤ Have courage
hey there ✌ the youtube algorithm just picked this video for me, so it's first contact with your content.. maaan, i tried to refrain from making this stupid comment, but i can't.. at first i honestly wasn't certain what kind of transition you were talking about, so i looked up your channel info.. and then i realized it must be trans-age, cause you look about 10 years younger (at least on my phone's screen). amazing! 🙉🙈 all the best! ❤
I very much wish you the best in life. The choice of to have bottom surgery or not is a deeply personal one. As a gay man who does not suffer with gender dysphoria I don't think I can advise apart from the very obvious of wanting everyone to be happy & healthy. Bottom surgery from what I understand is not only complex but comes with significant changes to long term health, although I know those changes for M to F are much greater with many more complex requirements but I believe phalloplasty still has complications for over 75% of people that have it. So all I can say is if you believe that your mental health will be impacted to the point that you can't live without that change then the choice is more obvious. But if not I would settle into the life you have already made. Time already throws enough rocks in our path that we can be forgiven for not always taking the hardest route.
Just a thought. I had my hysterectomy to prevent possible diseases/cancer as I get older. It may be different for your situation. My doctor explained to me that as it shrinks and serves no biological purpose it can become diseased. Maybe discuss with your doctor as it may not be an issue for you.
Hi, I don't know what you're feeling, but having seen your videos, and now seen this, I think as a layman, but as a thinking person, that if in any situation, life puts us in front of two... or more... choices, and we find ourselves undecided about which path to take, I would wait, I would reflect on what more taking that path could bring me. Without feeling: obliged, motivated, judged... by anyone. Only you can know what is best for you now. Allow me now to ask about children, you have expressed that you don't want any...Well, are you currently in a relationship? I ask, because as a gay man, I would like at least one, my partner, but he is adamant. For this reason, I cannot throw away 28 years of shared life. But I ask you, if on the contrary, once found, a soul mate, who like me, wanted children? How would you proceed in that case? I'm asking because your opinion could give me a different vision, perhaps helpful. Ok I'm closing, it's 4 in the morning, and I'm going back to work tomorrow, after a month's absence. Happy Sunday and see you soon, I hope. A big hug, Angelo
I would say you don't need bottom surgery. You don't need it. One day you might someone amazing and decide you want to have a child. At least freeze your eggs. As a dude that loves the cis-Male form and the trans-man form what's most important being able to start a family. It's a human characteristic to want a piece of the person to live on after all is said and done. You'll never regret choosing the choice that allows you the most optimal outcome. You'll never feel complete, I know this way to well.
I am certainly not an expert on this topic but i think your transition from female to male was quite a success because in the beginning when i started watching your video i did not see nor hear any indication that you actually are transsexual. I thought i was watching yet another gay coming-out video.
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Thanks for sharing the wonderful power and agony of being human. Be your beautiful self, whatever you may become.
I have it EXACTLY like you. Exactly. Makes me feel like I’m a little less alone.
So handsome, with a lovely voice, too. xxx
Youre the one going through eith the surgeries and thr one that feels the pain. Take your time, if you want to wait on it then do.... dont put pressure or shame yourself for post poning the surgery. Maybe you may feel happy how you are right now and you might get it later. If youre indecisive now then just take youre time... be gentle with yourself. This is your journey❤, live it your way. I hope you have an Awesome day and journey.
Thank you for sharing your personal experiences. I’m sure it will help others. 🙏🏼
Very good thought to share. I never thought about it until I found out my body wouldn't be able to handle what I would want done after top surgery & hysto. I would have wanted the whole kit and caboodle, but after going through top surgery alone, I know that would happen with lower surgery. Plus I'm 47, things are harder than they used to be for healing and such. I've lost some weight and have excess skin they could use for phallo, but I've just been stuck the same way, debating what I want to do and why.
Thank you Daan, for sharing your thoughts and the scenery! Beautiful foggy morning ☺
Hello fly 🪰😁
Daan your body can heal itself. Louise Hay is a very good person to look up, just an opinion. Praying for you to make the best choices for yourself. Be happy.
Hell no, absolutely don't pay attention to society, cultural or peer pressure, you do exactly what feels right for you. Does everybody need to change everything? I've no idea, I'm not trans, but I just imagine the main things are the exposed parts, head/face, certainly if you are FTM then chest, but I think bottom surgery seems daunting, to me. No amount of peer or community pressure would sway me, you must make the decision which is right for you, and if others don't agree, agree to disagree. And, if you are unsure just delay it until you are sure, give yourself time to think. You're looking great as you are, as a gay man I'm something of any expert in how men look 😁. Be well mentally, be happy, please be self-centred and do what you want.
Glad to come to your clog. You are a facinaatin g guy. Handsome and thoughtful . My very best wishes to you. You will work it out when you are ready, No time table here.
Just a note to say thank you for sharing your thoughts. I'm a cis gay man that is always eager to learn and your videos are very thoughtful. I hope you have a fantastic weekend and start to the new week ahead.
Food for thought. Thank you for sharing.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts and struggles. It takes a lot of strength and courage. It seems from you said that you are the transition did not help you with some mental health issues that you expected to be addressed by the procedure. I think it's important to try to identify and separate the issues that should be addressed without the rest of the transition that is left from the things that will be addressed with the procedures. It must be really hard since it's insanely hard for non-trans people to address their mental health. Imagine having a whole new gigantic layer of complexity to deal with and mixing all of that.
You are beautiful in every single way❤
If you decide to move forward with bottom surgery you're definitely going to need someone to help take care of you and things around your house until it's safe for you to move around. At the end of the day you have to feel confident and happy about your decision. If you aren't there, then it's probably not time to move forward.
Hi Daan. Thanks so much for your vlogs. I am a cisgendered gay man who is in training to become a therapist and find your videos very helpful to me. I look forward to helping transgender clients
Hi, Daan. I hear two things in this video. 1) you are uncomfortable sharing your unfettered thoughts in therapy. This may be a communication misinterpretation. But if not, then why? Are you uncomfortable with your therapist? Do you need to change but are too shy, too repressed to ask? Therapy to me is your safe space to say anything, everything and not be judged. 2) l hear you feeling uncomfortable asking for your own well being. Only you know what is best for you and it is totally okay to ask. Room service is not coming to the house with a menu or silver platter : here is trans options A, B, C and D take your pick. Surgery is painful and uncomfortable. Do you choose muscle relaxers or traditional pain medications that have risks of addiction? When you are alone and in your own body are you close to feeling yourself or do you need more? If more, do you need a care giver, someone else you can trust and depend on or is that the issue? You are strong. You are vocal. You are worthwhile. You are a handsome man. ❤ Have courage
hey there ✌
the youtube algorithm just picked this video for me, so it's first contact with your content..
maaan, i tried to refrain from making this stupid comment, but i can't.. at first i honestly wasn't certain what kind of transition you were talking about, so i looked up your channel info.. and then i realized it must be trans-age, cause you look about 10 years younger (at least on my phone's screen).
amazing! 🙉🙈
all the best! ❤
I very much wish you the best in life. The choice of to have bottom surgery or not is a deeply personal one. As a gay man who does not suffer with gender dysphoria I don't think I can advise apart from the very obvious of wanting everyone to be happy & healthy. Bottom surgery from what I understand is not only complex but comes with significant changes to long term health, although I know those changes for M to F are much greater with many more complex requirements but I believe phalloplasty still has complications for over 75% of people that have it. So all I can say is if you believe that your mental health will be impacted to the point that you can't live without that change then the choice is more obvious. But if not I would settle into the life you have already made. Time already throws enough rocks in our path that we can be forgiven for not always taking the hardest route.
Just a thought. I had my hysterectomy to prevent possible diseases/cancer as I get older. It may be different for your situation. My doctor explained to me that as it shrinks and serves no biological purpose it can become diseased. Maybe discuss with your doctor as it may not be an issue for you.
Hi, I don't know what you're feeling, but having seen your videos, and now seen this, I think as a layman, but as a thinking person, that if in any situation, life puts us in front of two... or more... choices, and we find ourselves undecided about which path to take, I would wait, I would reflect on what more taking that path could bring me. Without feeling: obliged, motivated, judged... by anyone. Only you can know what is best for you now. Allow me now to ask about children, you have expressed that you don't want any...Well, are you currently in a relationship? I ask, because as a gay man, I would like at least one, my partner, but he is adamant. For this reason, I cannot throw away 28 years of shared life. But I ask you, if on the contrary, once found, a soul mate, who like me, wanted children? How would you proceed in that case? I'm asking because your opinion could give me a different vision, perhaps helpful. Ok I'm closing, it's 4 in the morning, and I'm going back to work tomorrow, after a month's absence. Happy Sunday and see you soon, I hope. A big hug, Angelo
I'm a gay guy and you're a very good looking guy. I've never dated or been with a trans guy but I'm curious now lol
I would say you don't need bottom surgery. You don't need it. One day you might someone amazing and decide you want to have a child. At least freeze your eggs. As a dude that loves the cis-Male form and the trans-man form what's most important being able to start a family. It's a human characteristic to want a piece of the person to live on after all is said and done. You'll never regret choosing the choice that allows you the most optimal outcome. You'll never feel complete, I know this way to well.
I am certainly not an expert on this topic but i think your
transition from female to male was quite a success because
in the beginning when i started watching your video i did not
see nor hear any indication that you actually are transsexual.
I thought i was watching yet another gay coming-out
video.
❤