I understand you completely about not being allowed to doubt. My last surgery is in March (lower surgery) and they needed 4 papers 2 from doctors and 2 psychologists. On top of that the surgeon told me I’m not allowed to have doubts about it since it’s a major surgery. So it does apply pressure.
I'm sorry to hear you've had a crap week. Here's hoping next week is better. And congratulations on the guinea pigs! If they're too wiggly while you're trying to trim their nails, you can take a section of hardware mesh (maybe something with 0.5cm square holes), staple it to a wood frame, and let the guinea pigs stand/grab that. Their nails will poke through the holes, and you can trim them that way. This works best with two people or so I'm told, so your mileage may vary.
Life is about profit and loss. We are constantly changing and learning, and the important thing in that evolution is to be true to your principles. thank you for sharing your thoughts.
Part of what l am hearing is that the psychological preparation needs to begin when the thought is new and needs to include behaviors to life and coping skills in general. Many people have ambivalent reactions to decision making ; to having "buyer's regret" ; projections upon and anxiety over authority figures which includes doctors and surgeons. Second guessing ourselves. But you are certainly right that each individual possesses an acceptance arc to any change let alone the concept that my inner thoughts that my physical body is incorrect. Daan, for a man of your age you have plenty of hair on your head yet. You just never expected to have vampire widow's peak hairline as a man. You look wonderful in that color hoodie. First thing l noticed. You are a kind, gentle and a person with a charming reluctance and yet you comfortably share your with each episode. You love of nature, your plants, your garden, the bird houses, the guinea pigs, how you film the land you walk and run amongst, is very tangible in each vlog. All animals are sensitive to having their paws (feet) touched. Also, to being held. You need to do both in between grooming sessions. Give them treats and eventually they will know that a cuddle with you is a good experience. Build familiarity. ❤
Ahhh the detransitioning!!! When I first came out I couldnt watch those. I avioded them and I can only watch them if Jamie Raines will be commenting on it 😂 I didnt want any doubt in my mind. I wanted to go through and process it all on my own. Because it was about me and no one else. The loss of my singing voice was the worst!!! 2 years on T yesterday!!! But voice is still not masc. Thanks for the insight into the loss and grieving during surgeries Daan. That is something to think about and prepare for. My surgery I hope, will be this year. Cross fingers I knew that package was going to be for the piggies!!!! LOL. Wow, it is a lot of work. But that will keep them very healthy. Do you do that every day?
Hello from Minnesota Daan! Hello piggies! 😊 When you talked about having top surgery fairly soon after starting T, my experience was opposite, I had to wait a few years before my top surgery after starting T, and it wasn't pleasant at all for my well being. I was growing black wiry chest hair around the colored parts (I don't know how censorship works on here, but I'm sure you get what I mean) and they started... deflating? Drooping and going flat while being covered with chest hair. I'm mentioning this for anyone of course, and it's not always what happens either; I have PCOS and was pretty hairy to begin with. Fat redistribution was the main factor of the droopy part I think? The first year of not wearing binder or other upper garments is absolutely and exquisite experience! Sometimes in the back of my mind I would think "OH NO! I for got my b r a!" Then realize I didn't have to worry about that any more. The wind through just a tee shirt in summer, not sweating so much in the summer with one of those things on was marvelous to me. The only thing they kind of pushed for me to do was a hysto, but I already wanted one anyways so it was a non-issue for me. I have many health conditions and didn't want to pass on my genetics to another human. I figure there's so many kids that need homes/up for adoption out there that if I decide I want kids, I can adopt. No one should have a hysto if they don't want to! I don't like that they still think (at least here in the US until this election went through) that any trans man should automatically get a hysto. Not their decision, it's your own decision 👍✨ Back to Teddy and Roxy, do you ever go outside and get them fresh grass from outside? You'll hear squeals of joy that (at least for me) made me laugh at how cute their sounds are! And for the mats you got for the bottom of the cage, make sure you tape the middle so things don't leak underneath under the edges onto the floor. 👍 They 'wee' quite a bit more than they look like they would! 18:15 "RUN TEDDY!" "I *am* running Roxy!" 🤣 Really nice cage you've made for them ☺ Lovely to see the bird feeder fence again! What a wonderful idea, might talk my friend into trying that! Daylight savings time here too, it gets dark around 4:30pm where I am now, and I'm a night owl so sometimes I don't see daylight at all if I take my afternoon nap! How many other countries use DST? I thought the US was the only ones because it's such a ridiculous idea lol Stay well, and thank you for sharing your thoughts and your day with us 😊
Understand the change even if you like it being something to stop and think about. Have you considered if it’s neurodivergence.There’s a trait for a need to deal with change differently than neurotypical people. Even the time change let alone body change is a lot to deal with. Take care.
Hi Daan. It's been a while. I had to step away from trans related social media for my mental health and cause I was feeling so restless and unable to move forward. I've since gotten a gender dysphoria diagnosis and have a blood test the day after tomorrow to have it tested for my endocrinologyist appointment. I hope to start testosterone therapy early 2025. It's helpful to hear your experience and your reflections on the pressures you felt. Thankyou for sharing... I am grateful and will try to recognise what I really need vs expectations and pressures. As for hair - I am going to request a prescription of oral minoxidil alongside testosterone therapy and apparently this keeps the hair follicles with good blood flow and very minorly can lower blood pressure too. It helps with body and facial hair growth too, but doesn't interfere with dht levels. There's no shame in wanting to and using something to maintain your hair. Expecially since you've transitioned later in life. Much love to you, and glad to see you still being so true to yourself. We both deserve to transition in the ways that feel comfortable and empowering for ourselves, and look forward to catching up on more of your videos. Your furry friends are delightful! ❤ Now, finally to get started on my own journey! 🎉 P.s. Ive found migraine support with Nortriptyline (10mg/day) if that helps. It also relieved a lot of my chronic shoulder pain too alongside shoulder focused yoga (yoga with adrienne) 😊
I don’t have any doubts, but the US is going to have Trump as President again starting next year and I’m terrified what he will do to Transgender people.
I understand you completely about not being allowed to doubt. My last surgery is in March (lower surgery) and they needed 4 papers 2 from doctors and 2 psychologists. On top of that the surgeon told me I’m not allowed to have doubts about it since it’s a major surgery. So it does apply pressure.
I'm sorry to hear you've had a crap week. Here's hoping next week is better.
And congratulations on the guinea pigs! If they're too wiggly while you're trying to trim their nails, you can take a section of hardware mesh (maybe something with 0.5cm square holes), staple it to a wood frame, and let the guinea pigs stand/grab that. Their nails will poke through the holes, and you can trim them that way. This works best with two people or so I'm told, so your mileage may vary.
Life is about profit and loss. We are constantly changing and learning, and the important thing in that evolution is to be true to your principles. thank you for sharing your thoughts.
Part of what l am hearing is that the psychological preparation needs to begin when the thought is new and needs to include behaviors to life and coping skills in general. Many people have ambivalent reactions to decision making ; to having "buyer's regret" ; projections upon and anxiety over authority figures which includes doctors and surgeons. Second guessing ourselves. But you are certainly right that each individual possesses an acceptance arc to any change let alone the concept that my inner thoughts that my physical body is incorrect.
Daan, for a man of your age you have plenty of hair on your head yet. You just never expected to have vampire widow's peak hairline as a man. You look wonderful in that color hoodie. First thing l noticed. You are a kind, gentle and a person with a charming reluctance and yet you comfortably share your with each episode.
You love of nature, your plants, your garden, the bird houses, the guinea pigs, how you film the land you walk and run amongst, is very tangible in each vlog.
All animals are sensitive to having their paws (feet) touched. Also, to being held. You need to do both in between grooming sessions. Give them treats and eventually they will know that a cuddle with you is a good experience. Build familiarity. ❤
Ahhh the detransitioning!!! When I first came out I couldnt watch those. I avioded them and I can only watch them if Jamie Raines will be commenting on it 😂 I didnt want any doubt in my mind. I wanted to go through and process it all on my own. Because it was about me and no one else.
The loss of my singing voice was the worst!!! 2 years on T yesterday!!! But voice is still not masc. Thanks for the insight into the loss and grieving during surgeries Daan. That is something to think about and prepare for. My surgery I hope, will be this year. Cross fingers
I knew that package was going to be for the piggies!!!! LOL. Wow, it is a lot of work. But that will keep them very healthy. Do you do that every day?
So you essentially forced yourself into an echo chamber and didn't want to review all your options? Interesting...
@@Jeremy-wp4yh Glad you think so
Makes total sense❤ My shoulder is my indicator when I am holding on to something ❤ praying for you to release what is hanging on ❤
You're a beautiful person!
Hello from Minnesota Daan! Hello piggies! 😊
When you talked about having top surgery fairly soon after starting T, my experience was opposite, I had to wait a few years before my top surgery after starting T, and it wasn't pleasant at all for my well being. I was growing black wiry chest hair around the colored parts (I don't know how censorship works on here, but I'm sure you get what I mean) and they started... deflating? Drooping and going flat while being covered with chest hair. I'm mentioning this for anyone of course, and it's not always what happens either; I have PCOS and was pretty hairy to begin with. Fat redistribution was the main factor of the droopy part I think?
The first year of not wearing binder or other upper garments is absolutely and exquisite experience! Sometimes in the back of my mind I would think "OH NO! I for got my b r a!" Then realize I didn't have to worry about that any more. The wind through just a tee shirt in summer, not sweating so much in the summer with one of those things on was marvelous to me.
The only thing they kind of pushed for me to do was a hysto, but I already wanted one anyways so it was a non-issue for me. I have many health conditions and didn't want to pass on my genetics to another human. I figure there's so many kids that need homes/up for adoption out there that if I decide I want kids, I can adopt. No one should have a hysto if they don't want to! I don't like that they still think (at least here in the US until this election went through) that any trans man should automatically get a hysto. Not their decision, it's your own decision 👍✨
Back to Teddy and Roxy, do you ever go outside and get them fresh grass from outside? You'll hear squeals of joy that (at least for me) made me laugh at how cute their sounds are! And for the mats you got for the bottom of the cage, make sure you tape the middle so things don't leak underneath under the edges onto the floor. 👍 They 'wee' quite a bit more than they look like they would!
18:15 "RUN TEDDY!" "I *am* running Roxy!" 🤣 Really nice cage you've made for them ☺
Lovely to see the bird feeder fence again! What a wonderful idea, might talk my friend into trying that!
Daylight savings time here too, it gets dark around 4:30pm where I am now, and I'm a night owl so sometimes I don't see daylight at all if I take my afternoon nap! How many other countries use DST? I thought the US was the only ones because it's such a ridiculous idea lol
Stay well, and thank you for sharing your thoughts and your day with us 😊
What a good vlog (again). It's great to hear you talk open about your feelings. i think your channel will help trans people a lot.
You have the absolute right to question all the decisions you make. You do look amazing and I think top surgery was the right thing to do.😊
I needed to hear this today - thank you
Understand the change even if you like it being something to stop and think about. Have you considered if it’s neurodivergence.There’s a trait for a need to deal with change differently than neurotypical people. Even the time change let alone body change is a lot to deal with. Take care.
Hi Daan. It's been a while. I had to step away from trans related social media for my mental health and cause I was feeling so restless and unable to move forward. I've since gotten a gender dysphoria diagnosis and have a blood test the day after tomorrow to have it tested for my endocrinologyist appointment. I hope to start testosterone therapy early 2025. It's helpful to hear your experience and your reflections on the pressures you felt. Thankyou for sharing... I am grateful and will try to recognise what I really need vs expectations and pressures.
As for hair - I am going to request a prescription of oral minoxidil alongside testosterone therapy and apparently this keeps the hair follicles with good blood flow and very minorly can lower blood pressure too. It helps with body and facial hair growth too, but doesn't interfere with dht levels. There's no shame in wanting to and using something to maintain your hair. Expecially since you've transitioned later in life.
Much love to you, and glad to see you still being so true to yourself. We both deserve to transition in the ways that feel comfortable and empowering for ourselves, and look forward to catching up on more of your videos. Your furry friends are delightful! ❤
Now, finally to get started on my own journey! 🎉
P.s. Ive found migraine support with Nortriptyline (10mg/day) if that helps. It also relieved a lot of my chronic shoulder pain too alongside shoulder focused yoga (yoga with adrienne) 😊
I don’t have any doubts, but the US is going to have Trump as President again starting next year and I’m terrified what he will do to Transgender people.
What's this person supposed to do for you?