How to cope with anxiety | Olivia Remes | TEDxUHasselt
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- Anxiety is one of most prevalent mental health disorders, with 1 out of 14 people around the world being likely affected. Leading up to conditions such as depression, increased risk for suicide, disability and requirement of high health services, very few people who often need treatment actually receive it. In her talk “How to cope with anxiety”, Olivia Remes of the University of Cambridge will share her vision on anxiety and will unravel ways to treat and manage this health disorder. Arguing that treatments such as psychotherapy and medication exist and often result in poor outcome and high rates of relapses, she will emphasise the importance of harnessing strength in ourselves as we modify our problem-coping mechanisms. Olivia will stress that by allowing ourselves to believe that what happens in life is comprehensive, meaningful, and manageable, one can significantly improve their risk of developing anxiety disorders.
Anxiety is one of most prevalent mental health disorders, with 1 out of 14 people around the world being likely affected. Leading up to conditions such as depression, increased risk for suicide, disability and requirement of high health services, very few people who often need treatment actually receive it. In her talk “How to cope with anxiety”, Olivia Remes of the University of Cambridge will share her vision on anxiety and will unravel ways to treat and manage this health disorder. Arguing that treatments such as psychotherapy and medication exist and often result in poor outcome and high rates of relapses, she will emphasise the importance of harnessing strength in ourselves as we modify our problem-coping mechanisms. At TEDxUHasselt 2017, Olivia will stress that by allowing ourselves to believe that what happens in life is comprehensive, meaningful, and manageable, one can significantly improve their risk of developing anxiety disorders.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx
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My anxiety is causing depression. And it makes me think of my past and how happy I was.
you can get through it. be strong.
I feel you bud, i wake up everyday feeling anxious for no reason, and when i hear like a peaceful song or melody i always remember the past me playing with my friends on a joyful day, nowadays i feel like im imprisoned in my own mind.
Justin Anthony Sitjar it’s okay bro. Ever since I wrote this comment I am well better now, one thing I tried is walking throughout the day it makes me feel happier and reduces cortisol. I hope you feel better my man, stay strong🖤
@@virtualethan_1531 thank you man
Ms. Boombalati stay strong, I no longer have anxiety, what I did was life more in the presence. Don’t think of what you have to do later and what happened in the past. Instead think of ways you can help yourself in a better way by doing things you enjoy, take care. 🖤
i really have a problem forgiving myself... i'm embarrassed about so many past mistakes, i'm always afraid people still judge me for them. it's terrible.
Omg same, I over think what other people think of me because I embarrassed myself so much last year
Feel the same way!
I feel the same way!! And this feeling is so inhibiting. Trying to change my self :)
OMG ME TOO, we need to set up the club of people with this problem:)
You are not defined by your mistakes, but rather how you move on from them. Love to you.
Anxiety happens when you think you have to figure out everything all at once . Breathe . You're strong . You got this . Take it day by day .
I have been having constant and unbearable anxiety because of university.
dr.jeromespores is life saver. Thank you
@Aaron Millers Yes, he ships discreet and anonymous
@Aaron Millers @ dr.jeromespores
The Trips I've been having have really helped me a lot , I finally feel in control of my emotions and my future and things that used to be mundane to me now seem incredible and full of nuance on top of that I'm way less driven by my ego and I have alot more empathy as well.
Came across the comments about dr.jeromespores and I must say he's a genuis.
1) Take control of your life, start something by doing it badly. 2) Forgive yourself, be kind to yourself. 3) Having a purpose and meaning in life.
God, please help me with my anxiety issues 🙏
Thanks may god bless you❤️
@@kerdskipa1101 eh I don't think it's worthless at all. What you looking for? The meaning on life? Get over yourself and stop being a d!ck. Also therapy for me is only 30$ lol does insurance not cover it for you?
@jazzyj2182 We can forgive ourselves, because we ourselves forgiven, and we can have purpose and meaning, because we are children of God, and are sent to tell others the good news. How blessed are we?
I think meaning part is the key. Otherwise we fall into pleasure seeking, including the pleasure of avoiding unpleasant steps to solve key issues.
who else is here procrastinating because they're anxious
Claudia Drake definitely. I keep saying once I feel better I will do this and do that. But it has been twenty years I’ve been putting of stuff due to anxiety and feel I’m getting worse as I get older
I am. Really this talk helped me
What about you ?
My mom keep saying I'm not responsible and badly organized, and I believe her, and it brings me down, I have a very low self estime when it comes to doing someting productive.. I compare myself to others and I think I can't make it like them, because I might be too emotional. I can't do it badly, because I would have low grade, and I wouldn't be able to have a job that I like
Procrastinating is the easiest thing to do when anxiety has a strong hold on you.
her explaining anxiety gave me anxiety
I'm sure she's very smart, and she's certainly pretty, but she has the worst delivery I think I've ever heard.
hmm funny...I understood her completly ...
Kittenpurrrs whenLoved same and i actually got quite emotional as she clearly understands this illness. This video really spoke to me
+Alma Avendad I'm studying treating anxiety at home and found a fantastic website at Aghy Magic Method (look it up on google)
maybe it's because you cope with anxiety in the way that you deny it sometimes. I had like this and when somebody was talking about anxiety siriously I was filling my hide anxiety growing
I watched this with my mom 6 months ago when I was paralyzed with anxiety, I am 34 but I was so sad that she had to take a day off work just to sit with me and hold me and I was so scared and screaming crying from anxiety. I watched this and it helped me so much. Now six months later I am happy, I have a job, I’ve turned my life around. I was so far gone, I’d been so depressed since I was 15. But now I wake up and feel happy. No longer afraid to be out in public. Tapered out my meds I’ve been on for 14 years. I sleep at night and wake up refreshed in the morning. If my life can be this good then so can yours. I was so poor I never knew how to pay rent and now I’m independent and have the nicest colleagues. Hold on, life will be beautiful. Just hold on
Thats beautiful...happy for u!
How did you do it? I am exactly as you described, but alone :(
@@pretty-eyes I don’t know, everybody is different :( for me, I got a job as a cleaning lady. It’s very stressful and physically demanding so I am forced to get up and use my body the whole day, afterwards I’m too tired to feel stuff, so I just eat and sleep. It makes me feel very useful but I also made many friends that way, and am learning spanish to be able to communicate with my new friends. I’m sorry you’re alone :(
Fear
Be one with fear and you master it.
Fear Is Not Wanting
Fear is ultimately rooted in not wanting things, like thoughts and or feelings, to be the way they are. The inner "no." We think fear is something to be condemned and overcome without even knowing what fear really is. But in reality, we don't want many of the things we think we need to overcome. In reality, we need to lovingly acknowledge and integrate the not wanting and realize that fear is what we don't want, and that the goal of overcoming fear is not necessarily to overcome fear, but to lovingly acknowledge and integrate the not wanting in order to ultimately find peace. Everything unwanted is fear. So being against everything is the ultimate fear. The way to make peace with fear is to acknowledge and integrate what we don't want. To want what we don't want. That is the path we must take to find peace. I hope you can gain understanding from this. It really helps me. I used to think I was weak or not good enough because I hadn't overcome certain fears in my past. But now I know that I didn't want those things and that's why I hadn't done them. So the fear is not necessarily there to be overcome. Because we don't want a lot of those things and that's okay.
The Courage To Be Strong
The courage to be strong is the shield to protect oneself against the manipulating fears that attack one. To be strong in spite of this and not to let oneself be manipulated is the courage to be strong.
The Courage And The Fear
Courage is knowing what you want and doing it. Fear is knowing what you don't want and not doing it.
Courage Is An Art
Courage is an art. Overcoming fears is difficult when fear has the upper hand. When manipulative fears have the upper hand, we even make fools of ourselves and do things we don't even really want to do. Only when we unite with fear, do we have the upper hand with fear, and so at the same time the courage arises to do what we really decide to do.
i liked how she mentioned it can be like an "out of body experience" like you'll be in the middle of a conversation yet it feels like your just hearing your own words.
Fear
Be one with fear and you master it.
Fear Is Not Wanting
Fear is ultimately rooted in not wanting things, like thoughts and or feelings, to be the way they are. The inner "no." We think fear is something to be condemned and overcome without even knowing what fear really is. But in reality, we don't want many of the things we think we need to overcome. In reality, we need to lovingly acknowledge and integrate the not wanting and realize that fear is what we don't want, and that the goal of overcoming fear is not necessarily to overcome fear, but to lovingly acknowledge and integrate the not wanting in order to ultimately find peace. Everything unwanted is fear. So being against everything is the ultimate fear. The way to make peace with fear is to acknowledge and integrate what we don't want. To want what we don't want. That is the path we must take to find peace. I hope you can gain understanding from this. It really helps me. I used to think I was weak or not good enough because I hadn't overcome certain fears in my past. But now I know that I didn't want those things and that's why I hadn't done them. So the fear is not necessarily there to be overcome. Because we don't want a lot of those things and that's okay.
The Courage To Be Strong
The courage to be strong is the shield to protect oneself against the manipulating fears that attack one. To be strong in spite of this and not to let oneself be manipulated is the courage to be strong.
The Courage And The Fear
Courage is knowing what you want and doing it. Fear is knowing what you don't want and not doing it.
Courage Is An Art
Courage is an art. Overcoming fears is difficult when fear has the upper hand. When manipulative fears have the upper hand, we even make fools of ourselves and do things we don't even really want to do. Only when we unite with fear, do we have the upper hand with fear, and so at the same time the courage arises to do what we really decide to do.
Coping Strategies
1. Don't try to be perfect
2. Forgive yourself
3. Purpose - People need you in their lives
Thank u
I was searching for this comment 😂
@@AtreyeeBhattacharjee24 why is it funny?
We cannot do anything on our own. Only Jesus can and he will. Just repent and ask him into your life. He will take it away. He took my fear of covid during this lockdown when I was home alone for months facing great anxiety and heaviness in my heart but cry out to Jesus when you are drowning in pain and he will deliver you. He took it away overnight which I know full well I coudnt have done on my own. But whats impossible with man is possible with Jesus. He is the way, the truth and the life. You will find life in him in this world ruled by death.
No one needs anyone in this selfish world. The world keeps spinning with or without you. Life goes on. People will need you only till they can get something from you.
When she said "people with anxiety are not kind to themselves" it made me cry
Same because it’s true
Yup
Very true
I felt a surge of tears when she said about the benefits for others
So true
I’ve struggled with anxiety for many years. But lately I’ve tried to adopt this mentality of “I’m feeling anxious but i’m just going to accept it and keep moving forward”. It has helped me immensely. (Obviously easier said than done)
A few years ago, a therapist suggested that I imagine that I’m relaxed and floating above everything: all my negative thoughts and anxiety and “what if’s” - and just picture looking down and seeing those feelings as I fly above and over them. She said I should picture that I see my fears and I know they’re there, but since I’m coasting along high above all my fears - they can’t hurt me. She was a very calming person, and it sounded great when she said it, but I’ve still not quite mastered it.
Trying too cos i.m fed up of this feeling and taking medications for years for depression too, which keeps coming back. This is not living, its existing. Not easy just yest had a severe panic attack just cos i had to go out with my cousin!!! Ended up in bed instead crying trembling etc
@@melf5283 same thing happens to me. it's so draining
Fear
Be one with fear and you master it.
Fear Is Not Wanting
Fear is ultimately rooted in not wanting things, like thoughts and or feelings, to be the way they are. The inner "no." We think fear is something to be condemned and overcome without even knowing what fear really is. But in reality, we don't want many of the things we think we need to overcome. In reality, we need to lovingly acknowledge and integrate the not wanting and realize that fear is what we don't want, and that the goal of overcoming fear is not necessarily to overcome fear, but to lovingly acknowledge and integrate the not wanting in order to ultimately find peace. Everything unwanted is fear. So being against everything is the ultimate fear. The way to make peace with fear is to acknowledge and integrate what we don't want. To want what we don't want. That is the path we must take to find peace. I hope you can gain understanding from this. It really helps me. I used to think I was weak or not good enough because I hadn't overcome certain fears in my past. But now I know that I didn't want those things and that's why I hadn't done them. So the fear is not necessarily there to be overcome. Because we don't want a lot of those things and that's okay.
The Courage To Be Strong
The courage to be strong is the shield to protect oneself against the manipulating fears that attack one. To be strong in spite of this and not to let oneself be manipulated is the courage to be strong.
The Courage And The Fear
Courage is knowing what you want and doing it. Fear is knowing what you don't want and not doing it.
Courage Is An Art
Courage is an art. Overcoming fears is difficult when fear has the upper hand. When manipulative fears have the upper hand, we even make fools of ourselves and do things we don't even really want to do. Only when we unite with fear, do we have the upper hand with fear, and so at the same time the courage arises to do what we really decide to do.
To all those reading the comments..
Please note that you are not alone, and that there is nothing wrong with you. You can make it through this.
With love,
An anxious person too
@Jazzy J Thankyou❤❤
I wanna be fine
@jazzyj2182Amen
me too
Fear
Be one with fear and you master it.
Fear Is Not Wanting
Fear is ultimately rooted in not wanting things, like thoughts and or feelings, to be the way they are. The inner "no." We think fear is something to be condemned and overcome without even knowing what fear really is. But in reality, we don't want many of the things we think we need to overcome. In reality, we need to lovingly acknowledge and integrate the not wanting and realize that fear is what we don't want, and that the goal of overcoming fear is not necessarily to overcome fear, but to lovingly acknowledge and integrate the not wanting in order to ultimately find peace. Everything unwanted is fear. So being against everything is the ultimate fear. The way to make peace with fear is to acknowledge and integrate what we don't want. To want what we don't want. That is the path we must take to find peace. I hope you can gain understanding from this. It really helps me. I used to think I was weak or not good enough because I hadn't overcome certain fears in my past. But now I know that I didn't want those things and that's why I hadn't done them. So the fear is not necessarily there to be overcome. Because we don't want a lot of those things and that's okay.
The physical anxiety is unbearable like the constant adrenaline that I feel for no reason I hate it
i felt like that intensely for a while but talked to a doctor and they gave me hydroxyzine pills which i take whenever i physically feel that way, and it just calms me down so so much. i really recommend it if ur having trouble dealing with problems like that, it worked and made a huge impact for me, so u could always give it a shot ! :)
Its easy to cure it when it happens in the body, but if that includes negative thoughts and worries then it's almost really hard.
Try natural remedies..like saffron pills and rhodiola rosea
Same
@@sanggre2517 I know you're trying to help people but im sorry to say that anxiety is always with you. You just need to ignore it. It doesn't magicly disappear (sadly)
Does anyone have very bad chest pain with their anxiety ??
Every day since the moment I wake up til I go to sleep...
I do
YES unfortunately
YES ITS THE WORST!! Makes me overthink everything
Yes!
I don't know should I be happy or sad for finding people like me. But I believe in my deep heart we will deal with this.
Fighting ❤️
that's right . just keep going and try to do your best . we can do it . I believe in that too !
🙏🏼
I recommend The Anxiety Guy recovery program my anxiety was a debilitating 10 before, it is extremely helpful
@@lorennmetz3134 thx for the tip!
My biggest anxiety trigger is loneliness, but it triggers every day. Olivia did a great job here, I genuinely smiled when she hit the ball on so many points.
I have lived alone for 10 years...and experienced anxiety/depression multiple times. Being alone for most of the time has been great overall, but has had it's moments.
I am the opposite. I crave being alone. Which makes me sad. But we’re all together in this scary time. If that makes sense x
@@smackedinthejaw I can imagine, I have been learning since writing that comment that contentment with oneself is the ultimate solution
@@Bubblesandcandyfloss used to be the same always liked keeping to myself I still do but I just don't stay in my room all day now or I start feeling alone and anxious so I find ways to cope with the feelings they come and go wish it would stay away God Bless me🙏
same! how do u cope/deal/live with it everyday?? I can't eat n sleep... my health is now declining due to my anxiety
The feeling in the stomach that won’t leave is awful and when my legs shake and my hands won’t stop moving because of how bad it gets I genuinely feel broken.
@@susanbarrera2073 hang in there, I know the feeling.
Exactly how I feel to
Same .. but how to get rid of it ? That’s the question?🤦🏻♀️
@@rfkqueen6426 RIGHT
You’re not alone 😔
Because of my anxiety i cant go outside do my school work, meet up with friends i literally cant do anything but be on my phone watching others living happy lives.
Just saying you spend to many hours on your phone is toxic for your health. Seeing people live there lifes means your not trying to go out and live yours
We cannot do anything on our own. Only Jesus can and he will. Just repent and ask him into your life. He will take it away. He took my fear of covid during this lockdown when I was home alone for months facing great anxiety and heaviness in my heart but cry out to Jesus when you are drowning in pain and he will deliver you. He took it away overnight which I know full well I coudnt have done on my own. But whats impossible with man is possible with Jesus. He is the way, the truth and the life. You will find life in him in this world ruled by death.
Sameeee
Same it's literally exhausting
Then go out of your comfort zone and create the life you wanted to.
She's actually a really good speaker, never once said "umm" or "hmm" and she spoke very calmly and clearly like she didn't have a single ounce of anxiety in her.
Imo she is one of the worst public speakers on ted lol. Sounds like she's about to cry
@@nicksmith9 That's why she's here. To prove that a person with anxiety can do public speaking.
@@nicksmith9Her points were made very clear for a non-native English speaker like me, and her calm way of speaking also gives me sufficient time to process what she just said
doing it and doing it well are very two different things. My 8 year old can drive a car but I wouldn't let him @@onlyfacts1239
Psychedelics saved me from years of uncontrollable depression, anxiety and illicit pill addiction.imagine carrving heavy chains for over a decade and then all of a sudden that burden is gone.Believe it or not in a couple years they'll be all over for treatment of mental health related issues
I live in Michigan….suffering for awhile now but didnt realize how serious I may have it until recently - probably bc of @self medicating” with alcohol
Please does anyone know where I can get them? I put so much on my plate and it really affects my stress and anxiety level .I would love to try to shrooms.
@@JoanPatterson-pv1sg yes...Myco.spore
@@GeorgeWillis-xh4uj is he on Instagram?
Psychedelic is the answer to most severe anxiety and depression...The use of magic mushrooms completely helps one get over depression and makes you feel like yourself...I used antidepressants for some years but it only made me feel like a zombie but with immediate use of mushroom 🍄 in few months I feel like I'm living a whole new Life.
Anxious people avoid making mistakes, embarrassments..and seeks perfection. Thats where you go wrong. You can't please everyone ✊🏿♥️
Thank you for that comment homie
@@josiahflores4429 ❤️🙏🏼
My brain overthinks everything I do so much that I cant even sleep at night
I always get so anxious about online classes im scared if i will be called to answer and i will answer wrong and what if everybody in the class will laugh at me..
@@flpf I also experienced that, my first time attending Online classes. But I slowly got confident answering questions that I'm not even sure im correct.
Imagine how brave she is, to show up here with anxiety, to talk in-front of such a large audience.
@fatima I know right, it really is!
@@renata4211 Narcissistic much?
exactly
@@sophia-jp7eq for real though.
People have different types of anxieties and different things trigger it
I cried... Living with anxiety is so difficult. She analyzed it perfectly and the advices are PERFECT. I don't have any control on my life because of a health issue and my anxiety is living is best life because of my lack of actions and sense of living. When I do, just one thing, that makes me feel I'm in control, I'm someone else ! The thing is to never stop making choices,/actions because anxiety come back very quick. It works. If you really wanna do something, breathe and do it without thinking. It's terrifying at first but so much fun when you're doing it, and even after because you're so proud of yourself and so impressed how good and easy it was.
You know I had also started worrying a lot from yesterday it is a very uncertain feeling I had yesterday it was like I am scared worried about everything because you know I had almost a fight yesterday but I had control myself on not to yesterday it was like I was very worried on what is about to happen because he is like a thug here and knows lot of people if I had fight with him I could have beaten him but after that I will have lot of problems and that's why I am having a lot of panic attacks but now I am little better hopes nothing bad happens today
true, momentum is key. If you can socialize or speak infront of a crowd without feeling very anxious, make it your routine. Your brain realizes that socializing is not a do or die situation, and it actually becomes fun. I guess the speaker has undergone this desensitization therapy, no wonder she's very calm.
I need someone that have anxiety we can talk in watsapp or facebook
Sameeee
Trueee
Hey you. Yes, you. You're probably scrolling through the comments, like I am, reading all these motivational comments. If you are reading this at night, you should get some sleep, and don't stress about everything going on in the world, or what you are going through. Don't dwell on things from the past, don't stress on your future. Just live your life, because you only get one. Do whatever makes you happy, not what other people want from you. For me, I'm gonna wake up tomorrow morning, get hit the gym, and cherish life for the amazing blessing that it is. I hope you do the same and have an amazing day as well!
thank you
Wow thanx for this😊
thank you so much.
Thanx a tonn for this❤️✨
Thanks! That actually helped!
As someone who deals with anxiety/panic daily, reading these comments makes me feel nothing but comfort. We are so much stronger than we think
Yes! it's okay to not be okay!
Im with you 100% i have GAD and chronic panicking
@@iego5984 FIGHTTT THE ANXIETY FIGHT IT
P
@@minarii2169 trick ur brain , question ur brain , ur brain is currently feeding over you and you need to reverse that .
To all those watching this video for their mental health, in case no one tells you today, just know you’re not alone (a lot of us are here for the same reasons) and you’re doing an amazing job getting on top of your mental health. And you should be proud of yourself for doing so. I hope you have an amazing day, and know we’re all here with you :)
@Michael Collins I am wishing you peace and respectful blessings of abundance along with your loved ones or family. Your words of inspiration hit my heart in a positive manner. Keep being a light because you have a divine soul. Have a great weekend. Stay positive and never give in or up to thoughts of fears, doubts, and anxiety. Do not pay any heed to negativity. You are worth more than what you feel or think.
Thank you
Yeah what I do is i just stop giving a f about what others think. I just say to myself, whats the worst thats going to happen? If they laugh, then I laugh back
@Derone Cerrone naw dude dont think of that. Just laugh at them and you gotta know that they are just laughing at you, nothing going to happen :)
@Derone Cerrone my tip is to just stop giving a s*** about what others think.
40 seconds in and I’m already crying because I’m really at my breaking point with anxiety recently. Hope this helps by the time I’m finished it.
I hear ya
I feel you 🥺
Ill refer you to this mate online who helped me with psychedelics..
Mycodree
He's on telegram,
Psychedelic's definitely have potential to deal with mental health symptoms like anxiety and depression, I would like to try them again but it's just so hard to source here.
@@brendacollins-kw3sm I was having this constant, unbearable anxiety because of work stress. Not until I came across liberty_capss , a very intelligent mycologist. He saved my life honestly
@@corbanobregon3898 Liberty_capss
On IG
@@karinamendez2065 Thank you, I really needed to hear this. Something terrible has happened suddenly in my life. I am very vulnerable have not control. I'm also very affraid.
Hey there! If you're dealing with anxiousness, I want you to know that hypnotherapy can really help. It works by accessing your subconscious mind to address the negative thoughts and beliefs that contribute to anxious feelings.
As a hypnotherapist, I help clients with hypnotherapy as an effective and natural treatment option that can give you back a sense of control and confidence.
So if you're struggling with anxiousness, consider giving hypnotherapy a try. It might just be the breakthrough you've been looking for.
What I hate so much about anxiety is that constant feeling in your guts that something is so wrong, and that you need to act but you don't know how or if it makes the situation even worse.
It's that feeling of a void, which makes me avoid.
yeah, you are right, i feel the same
Firstly just try to act on it, avoiding act on that feeling will make it even more worse than you think I'm not trying to scare you but I'm telling you is act on it
Every day I wake up I figure out what I should worry about. There isn’t a day I don’t obsess or worry.
Yes
I always feel like I have to do things perfectly or go through a situation perfectly but when I feel like that I always mess up afterwards. You know what has been helping me with this? "Put yourself in uncomfortable situations where people may laugh at you" this makes you not to put too much pressure on yourself or feel like you should do things perfectly. Of course you shouldn't literally have to put yourself in situations where people will laugh at you but it helps to not put too much pressure on yourself because you'll be ok with making mistakes. Being ok with making mistakes can even be very attractive as well.
To all people saying that this does not help; seriously, there is no magic trick you've never heard of that will suddenly cure your anxiety. Almost everything she said, I've heard from my therapist before. Overcoming anxiety means DOING something, thinking less and training, practicing to being positive. You've probably practiced thinking negative for a very long time, this is not natural. So you have to practice again to think otherwise.
i agree!
true; one must develop skills to be more resilient
for example: get a coin and toss it just before you want to do something you like -> heads you can go ahead, tails you cannot
this will generate A LOT of frustration in your life (anxiety) which will force you to seek other ways of doing things in your life
point is: nothing in life is guaranteed and there is little control over what you have
so, bother only with the control YOU can have and less about external factors -> this will train your somatic and stress response system to be more resilient
do this exercise daily for a month, continue for another if you are not letting go
this is an excerpt from Dr Harry Barry's book: "emotional resilience", there are many other such skills he teaches you in his book
i'm working through them with CBT approach while with my therapist we're doing psychotherapy; they seem to benefit each other
also, you must teach yourself to accept yourself unconditionally and decouple who you are from what your behaviours are, you will then seize on how you behave (what you do in various situations) from who you are (and thus, stop nagging on yourself)
good luck :)
yet hard to watch when you cannot breath because of anxiety while watching, that time you wish there is a magic wand that disperses anxiety :(
@@ramzykaram296 don't block it, acknowledge it and let it pass through you, focus on your breathing
I totally agree with you. Get rid off the anxiety is almost like reprogramming the brain from years of bad thoughts that bring us down, and fight again them in a daily basis. Is like to "teach ourselfs" how to be positive, think the best of us.
Is hard to do this in a Anxity Attack, but is totally worthful - however you only notice this after a few days. There's no anxiety turn off buttom.
I go to a lot of parties, and I never talk to people because I feel anxious. I feel light headed, my stomach churning and my mind racing in circles, only second after the other. I want you to know, yes, it’s hard. Yes, it’s difficult, and yes, it can sometimes be scary. I’m not going to lie, I’m at a party right now and my friend sent me this after I asked them for help because I was shaking so much. But what I want everyone watching this to know is that you are not alone. You will think of things that you do want to, overthink, or talk to yourself and that is totally ok. But you need to know that this is totally okay! I do that every goddamn day, and I want you to feel good about it. I want you to feel good about yourself, and instead of trying to feel good about others, feel good about yourself. One step at a time, and you will push through this, and this will stay with you for the rest of your life and I want you to feel proud of it because no one is perfect. And you will never be who you want to be because you are you and you are unique and I want you to feel good about it. One step at a time, and I hope everything gets better for whoever is reading this. Have a great day/night!
thank you, this made my day. sending love.
Beautifully said!
Hey there! If you're dealing with anxiousness, I want you to know that hypnotherapy can really help. It works by accessing your subconscious mind to address the negative thoughts and beliefs that contribute to anxious feelings.
As a hypnotherapist, I help clients with hypnotherapy as an effective and natural treatment option that can give you back a sense of control and confidence.
So if you're struggling with anxiousness, consider giving hypnotherapy a try. It might just be the breakthrough you've been looking for.
I feel like I’m always wasting my life away, but at the same time I feel like I’m stuck
I thought you talking about me but.yeah samee 😩and I'm just stuck i wanna do something but i can't really start ...
Same here bro
I felt this
Same mate
Yeah man pretty much the same. Depression plus anxiety is a dark place
My anxiety is so damn hard at the moment. I have anxiety attacks every few minutes. I just want u to know that u are not alone and that a lot of people can relate to this. It's not easy but it helps me to know that I'm not alone. I hope this helps u too. If u wanna share what u are worrying about just tell me ❣️❤️❤️
Me2 i can't controll myself in bad situations . Even if a classmate wants to ask me something, i will travel. Jesusss i can't handle this anymore..
I can keep going for like hours, but no ons cares.. I hope at least you're okay ❤
Cookie Emmi i always feel unreal and disconnected it’s horrible your not alone
I have anxiety too, but believe me when you have anxiety you ALWAYS see the worst outcomes and you can become defensive which causes you to mistake peoples emotions for being negative when they aren't. Your life is important so make friends. It may be hard at first and some people won't want to be friends.. Don't give up! I'm no doctor but hopefully this TH-cam comment will help you :)
Benjamin Drake, Thank you sm ❤️
Am finding it hard to know what is bothering me....
She's so right about changing the way we cope to lower anxiety , because we're so focused ...on what's causing our anxiety we forget how to make it stop... but by thinking about what's causing our anxiety and then distracting ourselves by doing something that needs our full concentration like riding a bike or driving our anxiety over time gets better .
I cried over the whole episode. People you are amazing and not alone here in this world. Let’s all just wake up tomorrow morning and forgive ourselves for the whole damn past and give a chance to the bright future . I’ve been suffering with anxiety for so long and only now started to understand how it works and how to cope with it. I know it’s going to take time and effort but I am not going to die on the vine.💪
I cried.. Im always so mean to myself. I also point out everything im doing wrong.
i do that to myself as well !! never fully realised it until she said it ! we need to start being kinder to ourselves
Same
💜💜⭐️ Me 2.
@@diaelot6872 Yes we do♥️
@@megastar3740 ♥️
Does anyone else go on their phone to distract themselves??.
K9Addict ;3 Me and I have a exam after 2 days 😞
All the time
Definitely
always on my phone walking down the halls @ school bc i think everyone is looking at me
All the time
I'm 7th grader dealing with really bad panic attacks. I really invested myself into this. Thank you!
I wish You'll get better....
It gets better. Panic Attacks make you feel as though you’re at a dead end and can’t ever get out. You feel hopeless. Without pushing too hard get yourself to face what makes you scared allow yourself to slowly get more comfortable and the anxiety gets easier. I wish I could say there is a way to permanently ride of anxiety but there isn’t, but it most definitely can be something you can lessen to where life is livable and enjoyable again. I wish you the very best of healing you can do it 🤍
Fear
Be one with fear and you master it.
Fear Is Not Wanting
Fear is ultimately rooted in not wanting things, like thoughts and or feelings, to be the way they are. The inner "no." We think fear is something to be condemned and overcome without even knowing what fear really is. But in reality, we don't want many of the things we think we need to overcome. In reality, we need to lovingly acknowledge and integrate the not wanting and realize that fear is what we don't want, and that the goal of overcoming fear is not necessarily to overcome fear, but to lovingly acknowledge and integrate the not wanting in order to ultimately find peace. Everything unwanted is fear. So being against everything is the ultimate fear. The way to make peace with fear is to acknowledge and integrate what we don't want. To want what we don't want. That is the path we must take to find peace. I hope you can gain understanding from this. It really helps me. I used to think I was weak or not good enough because I hadn't overcome certain fears in my past. But now I know that I didn't want those things and that's why I hadn't done them. So the fear is not necessarily there to be overcome. Because we don't want a lot of those things and that's okay.
The Courage To Be Strong
The courage to be strong is the shield to protect oneself against the manipulating fears that attack one. To be strong in spite of this and not to let oneself be manipulated is the courage to be strong.
The Courage And The Fear
Courage is knowing what you want and doing it. Fear is knowing what you don't want and not doing it.
Courage Is An Art
Courage is an art. Overcoming fears is difficult when fear has the upper hand. When manipulative fears have the upper hand, we even make fools of ourselves and do things we don't even really want to do. Only when we unite with fear, do we have the upper hand with fear, and so at the same time the courage arises to do what we really decide to do.
keep investing
I write this as a message of hope .
As the great Bob Marley once said don't worry... be happy , I hope whatever is causing you anxiety right now whoever you are , I hope it gets better and from the bottom of my heart I'm sorry your going through it because it ...sucks! I know because for the last two months I've had it bad but its gotten better and I hope it does for you too🙂
Her description of the situations people with anxiety encounter is so accurate.
yeah
Yep
I agree especially when she drew the comparison between the natural anxiety people feel when they are facing a big bear.
I feel that kind of anxiety every day and all night.
Even trying to 'relax' makes me feel more anxious.
However, I am starting to face my anxiety more than I used to.
I'm currently taking little steps such as going out at busy times of the day and putting myself in situations I would normally avoid.
I don't feel comfortable 'yet' but the key thing is that I'm trying to cope in spite of having a severe anxiety disorder.
I recommend the book "emotional resilience" by Dr Harry Barry
it's like she was nearby all along
I feel so alone with my anxiety, I feel like I don’t have control over it. I miss opportunities, I feel my anxiety physically and it really messes with me. I honestly don’t know what to do or how to live my life and love myself.
@Monday, Tuesday Is My Weekend thank you, wish I was a fan of teas 😅
@Monday, Tuesday Is My Weekend 2 capsules a day?
@@femmei.9109 that app has rescued me so many times!!
just be grateful and remember you are here for a reason
@@femmei.9109 Thanks a lot for sharing this. I needed something like this.❤️
Some takeaways from this sharing:
1) Anything worth doing is worth doing badly the first time. Realise more often than not it's not that bad.
2) Forgive yourself for your mistakes.
3) Have a purpose or meaning in life. Think of someone you're benefitting and the work that will benefit the future generations.
It doesn't matter if they will know because you will know, and this is will make you realise the uniqueness and importance of your life.
Praying to God for that one day where I'm free from this anxiety which is killing me day by day
The worst part about anxiety is the impossibility of getting help because people will always think of it as weakness... especially people who have it.
KKDragonLord cut those people off. They’re toxic. They’re a cancer. It’s not an impossibility to get help. Anxiety is NOT a sign of weakness, but what IS a sign of weakness is not doing anything about it. Help yourself. Love yourself.
It’s hard for me to get help because at home I’m so social and loud so it feels like no one would believe me if I ever talked about
You know...If you have to live life with an anxiety disorder, it makes ordinary actions acts of pure heroism.
Dead serious here. Our misfiring neurons are acting like our lives are at risk, and it takes us a tremendous amount of courage just to overcome that terror and do that ordinary stuff that irrationally terrifies us _as if it were a deadly danger._
So we're actually courageous people, since we're terrified and we do it anyway.
Terror is life's way of telling you you're alive.
I feeeel you. I have periods of bad anxiety and I always blame myself for being weak. Although I believe I handle myself pretty decent, I always tell myself I'm weak for having anxiety.
what if these people are my family 😕
I feel like social media gives me anxiety, but it is the only way for me to stay connected, especially during this time
You can talk to people online without it being on facebook, twitter, etc. Social media is not the only way. I think it's having a very detrimental effect on society and on people individually.
Yea it’s really hard to figure out which to do
Hi lavanya , I have overcome my anxiety and PA's I've recently opened an instagram personal blog called the @flourishing.mindset it's all about positivity and mindset change . I hope to see you on there 😉☺️
i stopped all social media for just 1 week and it really helped.
I am also going through severe anxiety issues. My board exams are nearing and I can't even concentrete for 5 min in my studies. It makes me feel terrible because I used to study hard. It feels like I am in a prison were no one could get me out including myself.
I was always a happy kid. One mistake and it made me question all my life. Taking therapy and trying to get better. To anyone else who has been feeling the same way, I hope you get better.
Have been dealing with anxiety primarily all my life and can say that it sucks, I hate having these panic attacks, I hate feeling nauseous, I hate that I experience all these feelings but at the end of the day I remember to just do things that distract me and make me happy, like playing video games or simply going to the boxing gym. I just wanna say to those who are watching you are not alone ! I hope all the best when dealing with your anxiety and keep going because you are so much stronger 🙏
It feels like phones are causing anxiety but it also distracts me most times.
Right????
yea
I like to watch TH-cam videos that make me laugh to distract me.
Yea
not all phones cause anxiety, it depends what you are doing on your phone, if it distracts you, that's good. let it distract you, if it helps why not do it? if anything phones are used even during social anxiety, sometimes when walking past strangers i need to have my phone just to look at something other then them. it sucks when i don't have my phone cause i can't use anything to distract myself, especially if i'm walking alone and can't chat to my friends, i'd rather have something as a distraction then walking past them all awkwardly.
someone who has dealt with anxiety & depression, i just want to let you guys know, you can get better!
Thank you so much for your kind words brother 😞😢
How did you help it go I’m physically sick everyday from my anxiety and panick constantly
Really?
Eglaf Person is this a replt to me bro
@@itb8155 idk
These comments are genuinely so kind. I worry about so many things and it’s weighing me down. I feel so much relief reading them
I highly suggest not watching the news, That helped me alot. TheAnxietyGuy on TH-cam has lots of content to deal with almost every situation of anxiety. It helped me alot.
A helpful TedTalk. Olivia Remes is such a good and patient speaker. She got my attention this way. Her suggestions for coping with anxiety are helpful 1) Do it...badly...Do it! Because it gives you a sense of control and eventually an avenue to accomplishing things. 2) Forgive yourself. Big for me. I don't think I lack self-forgiveness - but I (probably do) because it keeps me stuck on the wrong choices I made millions of years ago - like never finishing graduate school. I feel such shame and anger and unforgiveness because it trickled into other problems and got me "stuck" and afraid to make other choices. Yes, I will work to forgive myself. 3) Purpose. Find YOUR purpose. This is the least encouraging to me...because the heavy thoughts leave me feeling empty. Nothing - these last 10 years matters to me. Try as I may - I do start (Do it). I do forgive myself - sometimes. Yet, my mind is a big blank...try as I might - I am not able to connect. The fear, the anxiety, the unforgiveness (perhaps) makes me "think" - feel nothing matters. Still what Olivia Remes said reminds to "I must" find purpose. I'm glad this talk will help others. peace.
Im litterally crying wen she started talkin about the symptoms
People who have the symptoms are going to cry on that part.
Me too :(
SAME
Me too
Same too
I can't even text my teacher for a question without crying and panicking because of my anxiety
Me too and my mom doesnot get it
@@_iam1533 same 😭
I had to ask my classmate to write a script so I can send it to my professor. 😢
OMG😓
U start crying?! omds
You deserved a standing ovation. Your quote by G.K.Chesterton “If a thing is worth doing, it is worth doing badly.” comes from his wonderful book What’s Wrong with the World. However, you presented this TED talks very well indeed. It was crystal clear and inspiring. I am an English teacher in a high-school in Italy and I see a lot of anxiety, and am always trying to find ways to help my students get over this fear of making mistakes. I completely understand it. I will definitely show this video to them when school starts in September. Thank you so much.
Hi Alfredo, it is lovely to hear teachers caring for their teenage students. Thank you, happy summer
What a great comment
@@lauraadams2882 Thank you.
Thanks for this information
Fear
Be one with fear and you master it.
Fear Is Not Wanting
Fear is ultimately rooted in not wanting things, like thoughts and or feelings, to be the way they are. The inner "no." We think fear is something to be condemned and overcome without even knowing what fear really is. But in reality, we don't want many of the things we think we need to overcome. In reality, we need to lovingly acknowledge and integrate the not wanting and realize that fear is what we don't want, and that the goal of overcoming fear is not necessarily to overcome fear, but to lovingly acknowledge and integrate the not wanting in order to ultimately find peace. Everything unwanted is fear. So being against everything is the ultimate fear. The way to make peace with fear is to acknowledge and integrate what we don't want. To want what we don't want. That is the path we must take to find peace. I hope you can gain understanding from this. It really helps me. I used to think I was weak or not good enough because I hadn't overcome certain fears in my past. But now I know that I didn't want those things and that's why I hadn't done them. So the fear is not necessarily there to be overcome. Because we don't want a lot of those things and that's okay.
Some tips ❤
Be kind to yourself
Don't dwell on things from the past
Don't focus on the future
stop comparing yourself with others
Stay strong and love yourself .. you can defeat the anxiety ❤
I wish I can be that strong
I don't think so, my anxiety is on another level 😞
Main points:
1) Feel in control of your own life.
2) Forgive yourself, be kind to yourself, and support yourself.
3) Have a purpose or meaning in life.
- "Doing something with someone else in mind can carry you through the toughest times." - Olivia Remes (speaker)
- "For people who think there's nothing to live for and nothing more to expect from life, the question is getting these people to realize that life is still expecting something from them." - Dr. Victor Frankel
Thank you
Thanks a lot. I actually screencaptured all the main points so there's like 10 of them but I saw your comment and you summed up all the main points very well so deleting the rest and screencapturing yours 🤭
My man!
Easier said then done though 😩
Eh too much work 😭
I literally get anxiety when doing the simplest tasks. It is so annoying and frustrating, hopefully this video will help
Same with me
How can we cure it ?
@@zaidi684 I haven't the slightest clue
Same pal
just be grateful and remember you are here for a reason
same i had a panic attack over going to the orthodontist, literally couldnt stop thinking about it, i was scared about what to say and i was scared about calling them on the phone, and now my school is building a new one and all i can think about is that all day long, cus when something changes my routine i literally cant stop having anxiety attacks
The way out is-
To focus on working process instead of what might be the outcome
Forgiving oneself for past mistakes and move on
Setting a purpose
❤
I got this points from the video
I must say, she speaks beautifully. I've had anxiety for 13 years or so. At the moment I'm really suffering with it. I cant go anywhere without a family member accompanying me. I've lost all my independence. Its crushing me. It takes over every aspect of my life. I just wish I could feel normal instead of being hyper aware. It's like I know something that no one else does. I'm afraid too often. No one should have to live like this.
Hey there Paul, I agree! If you're dealing with anxiousness, I want you to know that hypnotherapy can really help. It works by accessing your subconscious mind to address the negative thoughts and beliefs that contribute to anxious feelings.
As a hypnotherapist, I help clients with hypnotherapy as an effective and natural treatment option that can give you back a sense of control and confidence.
So if you're struggling with anxiousness, consider giving hypnotherapy a try. It might just be the breakthrough you've been looking for.
The fact that nobody laughed at her joke about bear gave me anxiety
Kamilla Latipova lol you're just like me.. a high level of my anxiety is thinking that people are embarrassed and stressing for that instead of them😂😭 we really need to think positively.
Me too a bit, lol...
Me too!
that room is full of anxious ppl
Kamilla LOOL
when she said "forgive yourself" I couldn't hold my tears
i cried when she said : '' people with anxiety can't be kind to themselves '' because i genuinely relate to that :,)
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Yeah what I do is i just stop giving a f about what others think. I just say to myself, whats the worst thats going to happen? If they laugh, then I laugh back
My heart goes to those people who suffering from anxiety but couldn't afford therapy 💔
This is actually funny
@@mclevelandkent STOP STOP STOP
@@mclevelandkent STOP IT
@Jazzy J amen 🙏
Thats me
My anxiety makes my relationship harder for the both of us. thank you for this video i can’t wait to here more than once in my free time. This is helping me.
I have had this issue in my relationships too, anxiety is horrible. TheAnxietyGuy on TH-cam has lots of content to help you deal with anxiety. Helped me alot.
Hey there! If you're dealing with anxiousness, I want you to know that hypnotherapy can really help. It works by accessing your subconscious mind to address the negative thoughts and beliefs that contribute to anxious feelings.
As a hypnotherapist, I help clients with hypnotherapy as an effective and natural treatment option that can give you back a sense of control and confidence.
So if you're struggling with anxiousness, consider giving hypnotherapy a try. It might just be the breakthrough you've been looking for.
I used to not have anxiety. I used to be so care free and so happy with myself. Before all of this I struggled with self love and I still do/did but not as much. I was so happy a month ago but then my anxiety was triggered. I’m not gonna say what started it since it’s a long story but I feel that I am not fully in control of my life anymore and I feel as if someone else is controlling it for me.
My mind tells me to do and not to do certain things and it’s hard to forgive myself for the smallest little things that don’t even matter. I overthink most things that I say and do. It’s almost as if I have a second voice in my head and not just one anymore.
I miss being happy and I miss feeling like myself. I miss being carefree and confident about myself in life.
I’ve had friends and family with similar problems who have gotten over their anxiety and they tell me this feeling will pass. It really doesn’t feel like it though I know I’ll recover.
Hi I am currently going thru the same thing but in my case I don’t know what triggered it, has your anxiety gotten any better I would love any ways to be better and go back to my self I am so scared and I hate feeling this way it’s been almost a week of these panic attacks everyday I don’t know what to do I am so sad I am trying to be more positive but when it happens it just brings me back down again :(
I totally relate to everything u said. I used to be carefree too, and just plain happy. But something triggered my anxiety a month ago, and I've been stuck here since then. I am so much in pain because I don't know what to do to get back to my old self, i wanna feel better and I've been trying so hard to be better but nothing is working. I hope you'd feel better soon luv :) and if u did, pls tell me how u did it.
Same boat here. I was fine and not a care in the world but idek for the past couple of months I can relate to exactly what you said.
25 mg Hydroxyzine will make you feel 100x better. A prescription antihistamine, been around since the 1950s. it is great medicine. Ask a Doctor for a script. its non addicting and has very low side effects.
@@karlarios5567 I’m so sry you’re also going through bad anxiety :( it’s been 6 months now and I feel so so so much better. It’s gotten a lot better and a lot of the time I feel like I’m cured and 100% again. It still bothers me here and there but if it does I can move on from it pretty fast. Some things that have helped me is grounding myself and telling myself that I am safe in the present moment, telling myself thoughts are just thoughts and they mean nothing bc they aren’t real and aren’t always true, I am the one who gives power to my thoughts and I decided not to, meditating, setting goals and focusing on important hobbies, and hanging out with friends. But that’s how I did it and I’m still doing those things. I hope you’re feeling better, it does take time though and I’m still healing!!
32 years of battling anxiety. It's a fight that never seems to end. It can lead into depression and unwanted phobias. Don't be afraid to talk about it. There is no shame in not being perfect. It can get better.
It leads to anxiety panics, OCD, Pure O etc pretty bad.
It sure is a recurring battle. Ive had roughly yearly episodes of depression that last from 1-3 months for 20 yrs and now it has manifested as anxiety and i get it not as often but still every couple of years or so. My biggest problem is that work is always the trigger for me but i work on my own in construction and doing it badly the first time is not an option for me.
@@bendarbyjones172 read what i sent you brother master it and help others. I was on your shoes less than a month ago. Then a kind stranger helped me out by letting me read that. If you got any question ask away man
How u feeling now
@@litosoltow7729 where did you send me something mate? I cant find it
Today it was my first day of school. I was center of attention, I was embarrassed and turned red because of everyone looking at me, my heart was pounding, I felt hot and all sweaty. I wanted to go home so bad or just run out of the classroom to escape while crying, I held it all in until my mom called the nurse and she called me down. I ended up having a panic attack. I cried and cried getting thoughts like “I’m weak” “there’s people that go through worse” “I hate that I’m like this” I was so embarrassed. I’m trying so hard so that I can get a job and work to make money and start being so much happier with myself, basically building up my self esteem. Everyone out there that is dealing with this please you aren’t alone, we all have been there or are going through it. We are fighting and once we win this battle it’ll be the best thing you ever did because not everyone can come back and just fall. Thank you for this video
I've lived with brutal anxiety for about 25 years now, and I'm only just starting to accept that I will probably have it forever. Getting outdoors has been my saviour so far
yess, same with me, every time i’m close to accepting it i get relieved but than i start having anxiety again
@@sxfia2411 it's a wild ride that's for sure. Just need to remember each time you're fighting it to breathe and remind yourself that you are able to take control. I hope you're doing okay!
@@elliotrathmell8063 thank you!! yes i’m doing ok now, my anxiety has been better especially since school has started and now i’m always distracted and tired after school (not in the bad way tho jus sore from walking and pe😭)
I recently started making videos for anxiety- Relaxing noises and videos to help you. It works for me all the time.
I always have these muscle tension everytime anxiety kicking in me. My heart pounding, i can't even breathe well, having an intense fear for no reasons, having lack of sleeps, thinking out loud, crying a lot, and so on. And its still happens until now. I'm still on my way to dealing and forgive myself. To always validate my feelings. Its gonna be a loooong way to go there, but we still gotta try those. Hang in there everyone. Best of luck to all of you too.
I cry for anything without reason...Iam suffering from anxiety since Iam so young I thought that I will become fine but everytime a hard situation come in front of me I started to over think about it and I started suffering from anxiety and panic attacks I feel so anxious in my own room I fear everything at that time don't know when I will be free from this situation ..?
@@poushalisaha8602 im sorry to hear this. but you gotta be strong. we gotta be strong so we'll get through this. and i know you will.
@@lapluieici thanks alot hope we will👍👍👍
@@lapluieici You doing good now?
@@badguybeats hey im still on my way to be good, thx u for asking!☺️
If you have anxiety just know it’s ok, I had super bad anxiety my freshman year I was popular I had friends but still I had these bad attacks in the morning before school, this anxiety you feel are demons in your head, you gotta fight those demons and tell yourself your ok and you can do this, a cold shower helps a lot and also splash cold water on your face when you feel anxious, take deep breaths, it took me a few weeks Ik it won’t fix right away but you guys can do this you gotta fight your demons and show them your ok and they will never return.
Uu Ty Why do you feel that way? What are your triggers?
Uu Ty yeah I see it was like that for me, Does your heart rate start going up and you start having in panic attack in those moments?
Uu Ty Yeah I understand, What helped me is setting the tone, when you walk into class walk in with a laugh maybe crack a few jokes at some freinds and then when the tracher calls you up just walk on up there, Also try a breathing technique where you Breath in 5 seconds then hold your breath for 10 then breath out for 5
I feel like this right now and I’m a freshman
Maddy XOXO What are your triggers? What causes your anxiety?
I struggle with anxiety on a daily basis. Some days it's not too bad/doesnt really affect me and some days I completely feel like I'm in distress or I got this never-ending worry that keeps hauning me and sometimes I just cry as a result from bottled emotions. I'm not medically diagnosed or anything but I have pretty much all symptoms of anxiety and I never thought of going to the doctor as I'm 15 and I don't wanna tell anyone. I hate feeling lonely even tho usually I just don't like talking to anyone (in reality I want to but I feel nervous if I do) I also have exams as I'm in year 11 which is also causing me even more stress but I'm trying to get into good terms with my mental health. Just remember if you are watching this video too, you aren't alone and many people including me, are going through the same thing so we will get through it and believe in yourself because you will do well in life. (Also telling myself this lol)
I like the part that she says "anything worth doing is worth doing badly the first time"...I suffer from this decision making.
coping with anxiety
no 1 do it badly
no 2 Forgive yourself
no 3 wait to worry
no 4 Find purpose in life by helping others
Forgive yourself. Very well said.
Thanks. Her slow way of speaking gave me anxiety.
no 3 have a purpose in your life
Me : clicks on video
Anxiety: increases 500%
Me : clicks on video
Me : reads this comment
Anxiety : increases 1000%
🤣 Literally!
@@iranyaweeden6900 😂😂😂😂😂😂
her describing the scenarios made it go 📈📈
@@wormonastring849 damn, yes! I thought this'd be helpful but its the opposite. I stopped in the middle :/
One problem I've noticed from having anxiety is the constant dread makes it difficult to discern between actual problems and that everyday doom-ish feeling. So if I'm acting ok all the time, then that's how I'll act when there's a serious issue. Yes I'm calm and level headed, but I also might not show up with the appropriate level of urgency for the situation. It becomes very difficult to prioritise - even outside of my adhd
Psychedelic are just an amazing discovery. Is quite fascinating how effective they are for depression and stress disorder. Really saved my life.
I have researched and found out that shrooms are very helpful , it has really helps to reduce anxiety and depression . I would love to try magic mushrooms but I can't easily get some , Is there any realiable source I can purchase one
I have been diagnosed with this and some social anxiety sprinkled on top.
What a treat.
@@louisianawalters7452 Yes I was having this constant, unbearable anxiety because of work and home stress. Not until I came across dr.mile, a very intelligent mycologist. He saved my life honestly
@@sidneyysky-nr3dd Please how do I contact him?
Is he on Instagram?
The Trips I've been having have really helped me a lot,I finally feel in control of my emotions and my future and things that used to be mundane to me now seem incredible and full of nuance on top of that I'm way less driven by my ego and I have alot more empathy as well
I suffered with severe anxiety and panic attacks in my early 20’s. it was the worst thing I have ever gone through. Absolutely debilitating!
I overcome it within 12 months by doing the following:
Ditching anything with caffeine, ie: chocolate, & coffee. Ditching alcohol and smoking. Went to hypnotherapy sessions and learnt also how to relax my body. Understanding the trigger point of what was causing my anxiety in the first instance. Getting out of house and being around positive people, people who can lift you up and not bring you down. Going for walks, and enjoying a laugh again.
Turn your anxiety from your damnation into your salvation. Using self cognitive therapy you can fight it yourself without drugs or medications.
You fight this war and you can do anything in life.
I'm at the point where I'm done I don't feel a way out. I can't heal myself I don't know how I hate myself so much I just feel invisible as if I don't exist x
@@nicoleguymer2370 I know what ur feeling I experience this everyday. Ur not alone and u will get through this ❤️🙏
@@nicoleguymer2370 life is full of ups and downs. We are all not perfect. You need a change, a fresh start. Engage with good honest people who can support you and are interested in you and your life. Goods things will happen always when you least expect them too..Just when you think life has got you down the only way is up. Be the strong woman you were born to be. Be you.
That's true if we all can win this battle we can do anything and everything in life...
Does anybody think smart phones and social media has something to do with anxiety?
Andrew Smith Definitely. It results in people developing anxiety because they don’t have to talk to people face to face, so it becomes more difficult to do that. Also I have a friend that I used to talk to but he moved away. He recently followed me on Instagram and nothing else, hasn’t even tried to reach out, and I have.. nothing back. So there’s an example. It makes it unnecessary to even reach out, cuz you don’t have to. A follow is the same! 😐
Yes! Absolutely! it is harder to be "in the now" with all the distractions from the devices. But they can also help us, like with this video :) It depends on how we choose to use them, I suppose. If we are not conscious about it, i think we can easily get "trapped", and that is very stressful.
Yes. I think that with the internet, we have so much information getting thrown at us at an alarmingly high rate. We consume so many news and fake news from all around the world, that we fill our brain with unnecessary stuff, making us hard to concentrate.
sometimes
Me ✋✋
Probably one of the best things that I've realised was that my during my whole life I thought I was the only one who was facing these issues and now I realise and start to notice how I was very wrong, I notice that even a large amount of students in my university class also go through the same thing, they're not perfect and they might even have it worse but I just couldn't see that before
Anxiety is very common. You definitely are not alone💛
All the commenters who share their experiences and all the motivates stuff make me feel better a lot, i’ve been in anxiety for 5years and i have nobody to tell about my situations.
I feel that way at times too even though I do have some people to talk to. It feels like it's not enough or even if they tell me great advice it doesn't sink in when I'm going through an episode.
I’m struggling daily , I feel anxious for no reason even though I know I’m fine but it still is a battle. I’m getting better but it’s a long road much longer than I could have ever imagined. I really overlooked anxiety and depression when I was fine and now that an event pushed me into developing anxiety I can see how crushing and crippling it is.
Just smoke weed
Omg we're on the same page I'm only 18 obviously when I was younger little things bother me a sit should but it has gotten so much worse I feel like I'm going crazy I HATE the anxious feeling its irritating 😭😭😭
@@Alisha-zj8yf It passed though right? You calmed down and regained rational thought? Rest is super important and can change the way you think immediately, it's kinda magical. Anxiety on the other hand is terrible but temporary
@@izuk_btw4009 seek help, please
@@sleepisthecousinofdeath7395 bro i’ve tried and it makes anxiety worse 💀 makes u feel like ur trapped, everything gets rlly loud and it’s basically a bigger version of an anxiety attack. And now everytime i have an anxiety attack it’s worse than it used to be because of it
I fear other people's judgement. I think that's the source of all my worries.
dont fear there judgement, only fear Gods judgment, he is very kind if you're trying to better yourself and fix the things we do wrong.
I wish I wouldn’t care about them but I do and I hate myself for it
Zeeshan Khan I totally understand. I’m very fearful of rejection and other people’s judgement. People tell me not to care, but I cannot stop myself from thinking about being judged.
The same thing goes to me,, i wish everything will be fine with time
Me too. Its ruining my life
Her speech and voice tone healed me so I wanna greatly thank her.
I don't know why but, this video is surprisingly able to understand me more than anyone else till now. Unexpectedly calming video to see when you get anxiety. There are someone out there who is feeling exactly same as you. Also there are people who do understand what exactly it is.
If you come across my comment, I hope that you know that the world needs you. You are a beautiful person no matter what you are going through right now! Have an amazing and blessed day. May life bring you the best. 💗
Thanks 😇
thank you so much 😇.💗
Thank you so much, you're amazing !😇
@@_pathak you are most welcome
@@youareabaddream1716 ❤️
Coping With Anxiety Disorder from what I understood:
1 - Everything worth doing is worth doing badly.
2 - Do something with someone else's in mind.
3 - Have a purpose for your life.
and forgive yourself
Can u explain me abt 2nd point
i get anxiety just thinking about my purpose in life
1. Giving anything a go and doing it badly is not a bad thing, you need to start somewhere. Don't ever think that your first bad experience is how it will remain. You have the power and the will to give it another go and improve
@@nadiraarjuman means or connected to point 3 what u r doing has a purpose🙏
Watching her speak, I started wondering: how can anyone so admirable suffer from anxiety? Then it struck me that that's probably how my friends that know about my anxiety look at me. I excel in many areas, such as university, sports and social stuff, like giving speeches. What few people know is that I'm super anxious about everything. Just getting up and going to work is a challenge for my every day. My problem is that, deep down, I think that it's my skills that make people like me, that I HAVE to be extraordinary to be loveable. What I'm slowly beggining to understand, however, is that it's not me being good at something that makes my friends like me. It is way more subtle than that. I learned that people who are good at, seemingly, everything intimidate me - I always think: there HAS to be some fault with them. Why? Because everyone has faults and flaws. In contrast, people that openly express their "weird" traits and are okay with them are often extraordinarily pleasant to be around and likeable. Seeing the imperfections in someone, and realizing that they are okay with it, gives us the feeling that it's okay to be imperfect ourselves.
I need to get to know myself, I want to learn about my strengths and weaknesses. And I want to be kind to myself. I'm working on myself, yes, but it's okay with how I am. I bring something to this world that no one else does, and people need me. Tell this to yourself, empower yourself everytime you suffer from anxiety. We are strong and we will not allow this to control us forever.
Many thanks
i thought i was the only person in the whole world with anxiety. its true that i judge myself harshly
I'm a pretty sociable guy, I can mingle with pretty much any type of people. An extroverted introvert, as how I would perceive myself as. I still am anxious about how people view me or think of me. I think ahead of time how to present myself if ever they happen to meet me. It's tiring. And it's not like I'm putting on a mask or anything, I'm just scared of being ignored or left alone.
High functioning anxiety is real. I had it, too. In front of other people very few people knew I struggled. I suppressed negative emotions and put on a front for so many years just to try and seem normal. Anxiety is a lonely and invisible disease.
Hey there! If you're dealing with anxiousness, I want you to know that hypnotherapy can really help. It works by accessing your subconscious mind to address the negative thoughts and beliefs that contribute to anxious feelings.
As a hypnotherapist, I help clients with hypnotherapy as an effective and natural treatment option that can give you back a sense of control and confidence.
So if you're struggling with anxiousness, consider giving hypnotherapy a try. It might just be the breakthrough you've been looking for.
Thank you. I suffer from anxiety disorder. 🥺
Isaiah 41:10
Do not be afraid, for I am with you. Do not be anxious, for I am your God. I will fortify you, yes, I will help you, I will really hold on to you with my right hand of righteousness.’
Am i the only one having anxiety and trying to hide it from my parents or anyone?
I’m with u on this one
i tried to tell my parents because i had such a out of nowhere attack. and was in the ER and then i tried to talk to my mom ab it more and she just told me to grip my balls and go with it
I told my mom but no one else know because I feel like they won’t care
@@katelyn4954 my god. Do not do that, think you already know but you keep going to get rid of it. Im about to start so i can do everything i desire. But look at yourself in the mirror first and forgive yourself for everything. There is another comment in here of how they cured their anxiety. Along side everything they said, do what you love, play an instrument, unlock your inner artists. Also stay away from caffiene. Much support friend 🙂✌
I have badd anxiety and I told my mom and I’m getting help finally
I am an introvert and i have anxiety about being too quiet.
Me too, you’re always thinking of what to say and when you say it you hope it doesn’t come out as awkward. Has it gotten better fro you?
Same, but im star dealing whit that, think the worst scenario, what could happen?, you can’t die; so just do it, star being the most riddiculous person, domirt badly, but enjoy it; Sorry for wrong gramar, is not my native languaje 😀
Ikr it’s like I don’t want people to judge my lisp so I don’t talk but I feel like people hate me for being quiet
@@lorelynalaska9015 Think of it like this, because this is how it is. They don't hate you for being quiet, they want to hear you talk.
Been there. The more you accept yourself though the lesser rips u give about other people's opinions. The lesser the rips, the lesser the anxiety. You have to realize that "being quiet" is not at all a bad thing. Also believe in yourself, always. :))
"For people who think there's nothing to live for, nothing more to expect from life … the question is getting these people to realize that life is still expecting something from them.” - Viktor Frankl
Thank you Olivia!
I was so anxious about this afternoon because I have to go to work so I looked up to a video on how to let go of this excessive feeling.
Last week I did soooo poorly at work, it was embarrassing and I have been thinking about it all week, even though my workmate told me I did very well and it's normal in the beggining to be nervous.
Hearing your voice and the things you said made me feel so relaxed and confident (if I must say?)
I hope more people can hear this and appreciate it the way I did.
Making mistakes is never ever a bad thing, please remember that, no matter how many times you make a mistake, if you plan on improving, and do improve a little its all fine. Don't get nervous if you ever feel like your going to make mistake, because you can't do anything to stop it. Its all apart of the process of improving, just be kind towards your mistakes and relax
I'm experiencing anxiety over the exact same situation. It's so hard because I know I try my best at work, and I still make mistakes, and so it feels like a concrete fact that my best is not good enough. On paper I'm qualified for my job and have the right experience so anything I do wrong proves the core inadequacy of me as a person. I've tried explaining this thought process to my boyfriend but he thinks it's the stupidest thing to believe. I know it's not rational but it honestly tears me up inside anyway. And what makes it hurt even worse is that I know even if I didn't make mistakes at my work I would find something to worry about just as much. It's getting so exhausting.
we aren’t robots we are humans we make mistakes all the time.
Hey there Catarina! If you're dealing with anxiousness, I want you to know that hypnotherapy can really help. It works by accessing your subconscious mind to address the negative thoughts and beliefs that contribute to anxious feelings.
As a hypnotherapist, I help clients with hypnotherapy as an effective and natural treatment option that can give you back a sense of control and confidence.
So if you're struggling with anxiousness, consider giving hypnotherapy a try. It might just be the breakthrough you've been looking for.
She is so right, who’s still watching her in 2020’ right now especially with COVID19 🙏🏼
I am...she didnt say anything I didnt know already, and none of that has ever helped me out...Im forever lost
Fabrizio Morris hey I’m going through it too if you need someone to talk to I’m here 786-607-3982
@@natassiagodfrey2067 thats incredibly kind of you but I would never want to bother you, Im quite of a burden
Fabrizio Morris I can see myself to you. I think I’m really depressed right now.
@@random-accessmemory9201 Im sorry to hear that
When I start feeling anxious, I feel like throwing up. Sometimes I get a bad headache. I tell my friend I’m going to cry and she tells me ‘don’t cry! why are you crying?’ I wish those words comforted me, but they don’t. That’s like telling me to breathe, but I’m underwater. I told her I might have anxiety, but she *probably didn’t believe me.* I told my mom I had a headache, she told me I need to sleep more. I told her that i didn’t know why it happened. *But there was.* I cried quite hard and apparently you can get headaches because of that. It was so bad. My eyes were burning, my head, spinning, my stomach, churning.
That’s exactly how I feel at the moment
@@karenjyrwa9865 oh really? I thought I was the only one... I know how it feels, you do too. let’s get through this together then!
Are u ok now?
@@angelmaria7457 thank you for your concern😭 it means a lot but don’t worry about me! 💞 I hope your doing well too
@@goawayplseu4200 Have a good day 💕
I have diagnosed myself with anxiety disorder… this video has been a blessing to me. Keep up the good work.
i have diagnosed myself... go to your doctor
This video literally made me cry especially when she did: be kind to yourself and have a purpose in life with keeping someone in mind. Someone that depends on you and needs you❤️
My anxiety is so bad. I would say it's like having a constant panic attack. All day all week
I feel u uhg it’s horrible
That really sucks,I hope you feel better soon
Same😕
@@annleah7005 so sorry to hear that. It's soooo hard... Ugh 😣
Yep
I feel like I'm stuck
Search for wonderbro
in your mind, just put yourself in the worst position you could ever be like think about surviving in a war torn country (think yourself as a hungry Syrian kid without food and warm clothes) and what would you be doing to get out of that situation and to make most of your life as you don't know how many days you have to live.
Do it what they said it really works
Try moving
Ana Fernandes same, but don’t worry. It’s going to be okay. You got this
To you - the person that found this video today, I want you to know that I see you and I understand you because I have struggled with chronic anxiety too. I lived for 15 years of my life with daily fear, worry and feeling like I wasn't in control of my own life and thoughts. Until, one day I healed. I found mindset work and personal development and it changed everything for me. No meds, no therapy, just deep inner healing through my own personal power - it works. So my message to you today is: Know that healing is possible for you. I know it's hard to believe now, but I used to think healing was impossible, until it happened for me. Cultivate the faith that it's possible and believe it. You've got this. I'm sending you so much love💛
- Julia
I almost cry while watching this, idk but after watching this it heals some part of me. thank u sm