Arizona romance scam victim shares her story
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 11 ธ.ค. 2022
- Romance scams are affecting more and more Americans, and FOX 10's Steve Nielsen spoke with one Arizonan who fell victim to such a scheme to defraud people of their money.
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A real man wouldn’t ask a lady for money
A real man doesn't need to date online.
TRUMP does. Every single day. Let's discuss
Could you say that louder for those deaf and dumb bums in the back!?!?
Fn moochers!
So does joe Biden beg for money !!!!!!
@simonscowled9925 Trumps not a real man to begin with. He's still 2 years old.
My goodness meeting a guy online and immediately handing over that kind of money. I'm amazed people have made it this far in life.
Its a wonder she hasnt forgotten to breathe.....
"I was thinking with my heart." Emotions. They are stronger than logic. Have some empathy.
@@joane.3533 If following your claim as truth, this is why men were the only ones in leadership. A feminists nightmare!
😂😂😂
😢
I'm sorry but the Oprah Winfrey signature took me out 😂
ha ha. I always heard that some scammers purposely spell words incorrectly/incorrect language to see if the victim will catch them. I think the check signature was to see if the woman would believe him. She did.
same
She’s still naive. Trying to buy love.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
@@joane.3533 I recently watched a Catfished where the woman had been scammed by 10 or so men who had absurd names: it was Thomson, then Quilly and then Van Milly....but Tyler was different and genuine because he hadn't asked for money (yet).
I reckon the scammers were having a good laugh.
If they call you my queen, if they work on oil rigs, if they are widowed, if they have a child, if their bank cards don’t work, if they worry about your sleeping or eating, if they want cards, use photos or documents you can easily find by using reverse image. Good grief get educated.
If they're in their 50s, better looking than you, and rich, they are in reality chasing gorgeous women in their 20s.
I don't understand how women with decades of life experience haven't observed this simple fact of life.
@@elipotter369 well some of us have noticed this and also very repulsive men our age are still looking for young girls. 🙄
@@sm3296 When I did online dating in my late 50s (& looked under 40), I had sooo many men in their early 70s message me saying: "I know I'm not in the age range you specify, but I am the exception I am young at heart and look younger..."
They all looked far more weather beaten than my 80 year old uncle. If I'd dated them, people would have assumed they were my father or older.
It was annoying and they were just wasting their and my time.
@@elipotter369 same happened to me. 😝
Hello I’m Victoria i joined a team and we’re currently working on a scam alert program that helps track down scammers and recover money stolen by scammers. I and my mother were victims of Romance scammers they took $54,000 from my dying mother. Now I fight the scumbags, together we can eradicate scamming and make the world a better place ,have you been scammed before , do you need help ?
When a man asks for money 🏃🏽♀️and ghost the man....
OR if a woman asks for money, right?
No...her money wasn't TAKEN..it was freely GIVEN. 😩
Her GREED clearly got the best of her common sense..
Live and learn. !!
Greed and Lust... Addictive
How about just a person longing for connection? Pretty human, I’d say.
Yes, that’s the embarrassing part, why the senior doesn’t share when it first happens. It’s the old Pigeon Drop Con.
Does she have children, nephews, nieces….sheeeeez
Beats me they never give money to the poor but send millions to people they don’t know
This is happening just too much. We need ads on national TV to tell people never ever to give money to someone you meet online.
It seems so obvious. Plus it's a free world to give to whoever you want.
That wouldn't work for most of the victims.
What else do we need? Ads telling us not run raw meat into wounds? Ads telling us not to stick silverware into electrical outlets?
We already have directions on shampoo bottles.
@RoseRaines good answer, yes you are right people should have some sense and not do something online that you would never do in a face to face relationship. I like to think that most of these people would show the other person the door in a face to face relationship if they asked them for money, I know I would.
I guess we also need ads then to tell people not to walk into traffic, stay on the sidewalk, remember to pay before leaving the store, etc etc. ‘Guess, we can’t leave anything to common sense!
I love that the victims were able to leave a message for the assistance crew. They were able to convince him that they are no longer victims! You are such an outstanding force to be reckoned with, MYRETRIEVAL, which is why I am watching you!! Keep up the wonderful
If someone sounds perfect,run!
Do old-timers not watch Dr. Phil? He's talked about romance scammers for years! I'm glad she shared her story, but these overseas scammers are hardly ever penalized.
I think some do but never actually believe it could ever happen to them.
She thinks they're in US and she's got some comeback.
I'm an old timer (65) and when I went online dating 8 or so years ago, I'd never heard of scamming, but when some buff young bloke messaged me, I immediately dismissed it as non serious or a mistake.
Because come on, let's be realistic about who we are, what we're looking for and likely to get
Dr Phil is the biggest con man of all.
@@elipotter369 Right? and the way things look I won't even get my social security...I don't think a scammer will be calling me.
How can she be so stupid. I lost my hubby of 40 years also but will never date again. Too smart for that. Next time she wants to throw away money send it my way. Lol
Do you have a nose ring?....:>)
Exactly! There are other ways not to dwell in loneliness. Keep busy like volunteer, get a hobby, join a support group and enjoy family and friends.
Sounds kinda harsh, but yeah I agree with you. I don't understand how people can be so unrealistic about what's going on or possible in their lives.
I quit my destructive marriage 27 years ago & haven't repartnered because no good enough chap has come along, despite me being sociable & very appealing to many men.
Smart people are able to grasp the complexity of human minds, they strive to understand not limit themselves to judging nor labelling others as stupid just cos that's not what they'd do.
I agree. Why can’t these people send $100,000 to me?
I would want to express my sincere appreciation for the priceless work you are doing to help everyone impacted by these con artists. These people have no place in our world and should be made to feel ashamed in front of the public. MYRETRIEVAL, I sincerely appreciate all of your hard work on the internet. We are here for you, and we hope that you and your supporters will always have the power and might to expose them. From Cape Town, South Africa, sending
The blanket's a new angle. Never saw that one before.
Me neither. Creepy!
Wow! She got the full treatment by that scammer. I've never heard a story where one sent rugs, jewelry, pictures,etc.
A woman on Dr Phil sent cars and furniture. She had one wooden chair to sit on. Bizarro!
What strikes me is that much older people actually fool themselves into believing that much younger people are hot for them. As an older woman myself, I know much better than that.
Because most of us are smart cookies
I’m 43, can I borrow $125,000?
@@darklorddisco First, tell me how much you love me hahahahaha
@@pamelamills-senn1511 😆😆😆
IKR? As an older woman I no longer look like someone a man is pining for. IRL men want younger women.
Geez , never seen the person and ill just send you my life savings
Look at her.
This is ridiculous, she knew better than this!
No..
She didn't! 😂
She has purple hair & a nose ring
No one calls these women out for their excuses for their own foolishness. Do hope they can get some of her money back
Oh yes they do
When they said it was signed “Oprah Winfrey” I busted out laughing. 😂 This woman ain’t innocent. She thought he was a millionaire and she was going to get $$ from this.
The Nigerian scammers have a very sophisticated operation, and they target older women, particularly if they have been widowed. Still, it's absolutely amazing what these women are willing to do for "love".
They are paying for a "Fantasy."
They learnt from American scammers.
It wasn't taken, she gave it away and yet it still looks like she's living better than me
If you look in a mirror and are honest with yourself, you'll never be duped.
lol
With all of the warnings to educate people against online scams, people still fall for it. It’s so sad. At least she is using her experience for the good to tell her story and help spread the word to not go there.
They don't see it as their own greed though when they are shown bank account balances in the millions and so they just dig into all their savings to send these millionaires who just can't access their own money. Really? No bloody way I would send even $5.00! How can these people think they are the ONLY ones who can help with sending them money? That is a huge red flag that someone who has a lot of money doesn't have one friend, family member, bank loan, financial advisor, investment rep., charge card or credit options, business partners, or a back up plan.
Exactly.
Exactly. It's completely and utterly ridiculous.
I understand thinking with your heart and extreme loneliness....but I guess the part that gets me the guy claims to be extremely rich yet he asks her for money because he can't get his hands on his own. If somebody is that rich they don't have big problems getting their hands on their own money. That would be enough of a huge red flag for me. But sorry she has gone through all this and sure hope they catch all concerned and arrest them and hopefully are able to recover her money for her.
Part of the "I was thinking with my heart" means that those emotions are stronger than logic.
Kinda like trump. A "billionaire" but always begging for $$$
@@dameoftruth4022 LOL - I think you are thinking of Mr. Biden - his son, brother, & a bunch of family members have millions in offshore accounts.💰 Congress is investigating as the illegal ‘pay to play’ scheme blows up.
I knew a lady who fell for a similar scam. He said his millions were stuck in his bank account that was frozen and the bank wanted $15,000 to unfreeze it. I asked her why can’t the bank just take that out of his account whenever? After all, they do that every day with regular people’s accounts for nickel and dime fees.
I was not thinking with my head, I was thinking with my heart. No lady if you sent a scammer you never met $125K, you were not thinking period. WTF???
She was thinking with her ....
Scammer didn't take her money, she GAVE it away.
Scamming means using deception and false pretenses to get money from a person. So yes, she was scammed.
@@8ofwands300 exactly
@@8ofwands300 they didn’t say she wasn’t scammed, just that she gave the money away…which she did.
thats why they can't arrest these scammers plus they usally in Africa or South America.🤔
They all give their money away. Mean while someone like me who is special needs. know better like this.. Even my first run in with a romance scammer Back in 2005. She claimed to be a fashion designer from UL. Then Wanted to borrow money thousands which I don't have. I told her off & I said "No". I explained to her She makes a lot more money then I do. It doesn't make any sense & Plus I never meet her too & she was a stranger. I told her. remember A stranger can mean Danger.' & knowing is half the battle.
he has a business but can't get a loan so ask her for money, hmm is this a real story?
People need to stop being so needy and desperate and get over themselves. Just because you were treated like a 'princess' back in your day...when you were young, it doesn't necessarily mean you were REALLY a princess or were anything special. People treat you in a specific way to get something out of you...whether a date, a relationship or yeah...even a marriage. What older generations need to understand is NO ONE is special, and everyone gets used...in one way or another. Please stop looking-for and crying for something that's now gone and just try to live the few rest of your days with some dignity. 🙄
Exactly. It's so unseemly watching these oldies so THIRSTY for flattery.
However there are heaps of us with more sense. I still get lots of looks and second glances at 65 because I look nice, but I know my limitations and what direction I'm headed in, lol! And I'm okay with that. I'd rather be old and wrinkly than desperate and foolishly chasing fairy tales.
@@elipotter369 Agree 100% with your comment here. I just don't understand how some older individuals will automatically refuse to 'live in the here and now' stage of their life, because they still want to have the life they used to live when they were younger. I get it...some of them had it REALLY good back then...they were the 'prom-kings and queens' of their generation, but SERIOUSLY...all of that comes to an end when you get old. We all have to get used to the stage in our lives when we will no longer be 'popular', 'attractive', and yes...even 'healthy'! Life changes...and we HAVE to change with it, and yes...I know, it sucks...but oh well, nothing we can do about it but reminisce...and walk down the old 'memory' lane once in a while.
@@bratzboyz I agree. Almost everyone was attractive when they were young and lose touch with reality when they think it's returning to them when at last someone dotes on them so much later.
I also think many of them were never the popular girl or the one who got the cute guy, so when someone beautiful's picture is smiling at them online & all the romantic love language is directed at them, they totally lose all sense.
There's also an element of vanity like: "I've still got it".
Also, competition - I've had so many friends boasting about their younger boyfriend. I never tell them about all my younger love interests because I am not interested in boasting or competing.
A lot of these old folks won't let it go because they are showing off to their social circle that they're better and special. They also want to be right.
The whole thing is nuts and unseemly .
She looks like she hasn't exercised a day in her life, but some dude is supposed to want that. 🙄🤮
How does this keep happening?!?!?! Have people not learned yet
"I was thinking with my heart." Emotions. They are stronger than logic. Have some empathy.
@@joane.3533
LOL! She needs to be homeless. Maybe then she will learn something in that EMPTY head of hers!
@@joane.3533 She wasn’t thinking with her heart. She thought he was a millionaire. Feel bad for her though.
Stupid
People never learn!😮
WTF Wise up people, Men and Women NEVER EVER EVER send $$$$ Grrrrrrrrrrr
Someone really needs to make a movie about these scams, complete with all the ridiculous stories that these women swallow, hook, line and sinker!
I agree. I've watched so many of these, and it's the belief in bizarre dramas & super flattery that astounds me every time!
It seems like the scammee enjoys all the highs & exciting drama of it, but it sounds totally absurd to anyone else.
It amazes me because for the last probably 10+ years Dr. Phil at least every few months has a show about these scammers. Because Dr. Phil comes on mid day or the afternoon his demographics are really older people who are retired Or be working from home. It’s amazing that that no one seems to act like they been aware of this scam it’s been going on for over a decade. Please please anybody looking at this stop falling for this crap.
Yo caí ahí casi dos meses se enojo mucho porque le dije no tengo para solucionar tus problemas
Not everyone watches Dr. Phil. I bet this woman was warned by family and friends that she was communicating with a scammer and she ignored them which is very common.
I watch a channel that tries to help romance scam victims and some of them have said that they regularly watch the channel yet the same people still fell for a romance scam. So educating some people about romance scams doesn’t help them at all because they still choose to ignore all the red flags.
These victims always think they are the exception to the rule....they are the special ones lucky to find someone too good to be true online. But the Prince Charming is always broke and always needs money. No thanks. Just a man asking me for money is enough to block them from my life.
It’s funny cause even news but they keep falling and aren’t this all woman mothers at some point telling us not to talk to strangers online ?
If they ask for money it is a scam. Block him!!!
“The check was a fake. She didn’t noticed it was signed Oprah Winfrey”
I think that blue dye leaked into her brain
WHAT A FOOL!!
😂😂😂Oprah Winfrey smh lord if I get a check I’m looking at it front back but I been like send me some money help me they usually hang up they know I know they game
They miss a lot of small things
I'm sorry but I'm a little snap judgmental here, but the nose ring at her age is a sign...
She's got a nose ring, which means her IQ is in the double digits.
If they ask for money it's a scam Block him!!!
She was scammed bc she was greedy herself.
Imagine being the person whose pictures were used by scammers. The creepiness and weirdness of looking at that gift with your face paired with someone you don't know. And knowing that at least one person out there is fantasizing about a romance with your face in it.
Some video in youtube also said billions of dollars are sent to scammers, so this story is a very small part of it. It's humiliating to share a story like this so I admire her for sharing and hope it will warn others not to do the same.
makes me glad to be ugly sometimes.
I notified the real guy in the picture. He did not seem too concerned. th-cam.com/video/2fHt1bEBYZw/w-d-xo.html
“ he just said things I hadn’t heard for a long time”🤣🤣🤣 like babe,hunny, have you eaten today? yea real in depth conversations 🙄🙄🙄🙄
I don’t mean to look too deeply, but this is why it should be important to confront low self esteem. Somewhere in all of this, the person scammed was wanting desperately to feel that they were that beautiful and loved. If they felt good about themselves, it’s easy to say no to a smooth talker who has only said what you’re desperate to hear about yourself. All these scammers say the same thing. “My queen.” “ I’ll love you forever.” “You’re the most beautiful woman I’ve ever seen.”
They usually target the recently widowed or divorced because they're the most vulnerable, especially if they're elderly since they don't have much experience with online dating and such.
Public bathrooms and memes need to list all red flags . Oil rigs- my Queen - babe- texting and talking all hours . Models - constant emergencies - cancelled flights - etc illness - surgeries - kid in boarding school
What I've never understood is...why do so many people 'desperately feel like they need to be called beautiful and they need to feel loved'! Can someone help me answer this question, I've really never understood this infatuation with 'self-adoration' and 'self-worth'. Why anyone would be looking for someone else's approval or affection is beyond me! 😵💫😵🧐
@@bratzboyz it's like they really really want flattery, falsehoods and fairy tales. I just don't get the thirst for all that Mills &Boone romance novel chit chat.
@@elipotter369 These stories have been shared over & over. Dr. Phil, Dr. Oz, talk shows & news stories. You would think by now these women would be wary. A real man wants to meet you right away. The overseas thing is your first red flag - quit wasting time, ladies. And NEVER SEND MONEY💸
It's always older women, who are love deprived, and the guy is always out of the country. Anyone needing your money - RUN FAST & FAR!!~
Men also get targeted -- by (probably male) scammers using pics of young, sexy women. I do think men are less likely to come forward publicly when they realize they've been scammed.
Who the hell needs love when you have lots of money?
@@ggeorge4144 So true.... handing over all your money to buy unworthy & untrustworthy LOVE... RIDICULOUS!
We teach children not to take candy from strangers. We need to teach the elderly not to give money to online scammers.
Oh please who would ever give a man money
Certainly not this girl. I can't even imagine being that dumb
I'm 60 year woman. Also would like to meet someone. But sorry I don't part so easy with my money.
My friend had an Aunt that would hunt for men in the obituaries. She would circle the women who died leaving a surviving husband.lol
@@1962pjh Pathetic.
Why? Why do you feel you need a man in your life? Find a couple female friends or relatives and have a good time. Sex? Overrated, IMO. You can get the same result or better with a toy.
Now there is a Black Man living like a King in Nigeria .It amazes me where these women get their money from !!!!!! The things I could do with that amount and she just gives it away .
She paid for companionship and she got it. Just not forever.
It’s a group of people and as usual the most money goes to the kingpin.
It was her retirement savings. That's where she got the money from.
Even if he was real, what if he just broke up with her? They're not married, she wouldn't have a right to his assets. Like... 😳😅
I lost it when the cheque had Oprah Winfrey's signature & she thought it was legit. These scammers certainly have a good sense of humor.
Well done Connie for putting your story on net .Best Luck in finding this scammer .
A fool and their money are soon parted.
What I do not understand is why a woman even a desperate woman would send money to a man they have never met!
Wow, *VortexTrace* you're doing an amazing job standing up against these scammers. It's crucial that we protect the elderly and the public from their deceitful tactics. You're a true hero!
Zero common sense and willfully ignorant. She's not a victim, she was a willing participant.
People who say hateful things about people who have been scammed don't know anything about them . Have you ever been a caregiver for someone you loved for years Have you ever had to be with them 24 7 never going anywhere for years. Have you ever watched your husband that you loved fade away to nothing? Don't judge what you don't know. There is always a story behind every thing.
This is so sad.
Yeah,I'm crying my eyes out over this and just maybe I will require therapy......:>)
It’s shameful that men have worked for decades to build up a pension, buy life insurance and have investments so that when he dies his wife is well taken care of. but instead living off their husbands pension, these women are giving away everything that He had worked for.
The inheritance should've automatically go to the children, not the spouse.
Men get taken in by these scams, too. It isn't just women.
She possibly worked alongside her husband as well, if so she has also lost her own hard worked for money. But whatever, it was foolish to just hand over that money to someone she didn't even know properly.
Common romance scammer tactics:
They love bomb the victim with flattery. It doesn’t take them long to start calling the victim beautiful, queen, honey or baby.
If there’s a big age gap between the victim and the age the scammer is using, they will always say “age is just a number“.
Frequently their occupations are oil rig worker, doctor stationed in Yemen or Turkey, interior decorator. These are not the only occupations they claim to have.
They are widowed, separated or divorced. They usually have a small child in a boarding school in a different country. If their spouse is dead, it’s usually something tragic like cancer or a car accident. If they are divorced, the ex spouse cheated on them with their best friend.
They will claim their child is looking for a mother. At some point the child or the scammer’s parent is hospitalized and needs money for an operation. Scammers will frequently say they’re from America yet they do not understand the American medical system where you are treated first and pay later. You do not need to pay upfront to have an operation usually.
Sometimes scammers claim to be the only one in the world. All their family is gone making the victim believe they are the only ones that could help them.
Scammers pretend to be wealthy and will give the victim access to a fake bank account that shows millions of dollars (no rich person is going to give a total stranger access to their bank account).
If the scammer claims to be working on an oil rig, they will claim that equipment has broken down and they need to buy new equipment and that’s where the victim comes in at (they claim to be on the oil rig but you can hear roosters in the background).
During the grooming stage of the scam, besides flattering the victim constantly, they also get the victim involved in phone sex. Most victims are too embarrassed to admit to this especially if they’re elderly. This is one of the tactics scammers use to keep the victim emotionally tied to them plus they can use it as leverage if they need to blackmail the victim.
Scammers will always mention three or four different countries: the country they’re born in, the country they were raised in, the country they were living in and the country that their job has sent them to. They give the most illogical reason why they sound Nigerian when they are supposed to have been raised in America. They will say that their one parent is from one country and another parent from another country and that’s why their accent doesn’t match the country they claim they were raised in. One scammer claims to have been raised in Germany but was forbidden to speak German that’s why he couldn’t speak German but his accent is Nigerian. The person who the scammer was trying to scam speaks German and this was the excuse he had given her as to why he couldn’t understand what she was saying. They come up with a new lie when the person they’re talking to speaks the language of the country the scammer said they are from.
The scammer will take a victim off the platform they originally met on and ask them to go to WhatsApp, Google hangouts or telegraph. On Facebook, after accepting their friend request, they will start communicating through Messenger. If they can’t keep the conversation directly on Facebook for everyone to see, they are a scammer. Block them.
One of the reasons victims are victims is not just because they’re not knowledgeable of scams or tech savvy, part of it is they’re not using logic. A 35 year old handsome man whose buff and can have his choice of any woman is not going to fall madly in love with a 75-year-old woman. Nor will some hot porn star looking woman (the pictures are usually those of porn stars) in her 20s is going to fall madly in love with some overweight guy with missing teeth who is old enough to be her father.
Once a victim gives a scammer money, even if it’s a small amount, the scammer will give the victim’s name to other scammers. Those other scammers will contact the victim and the cycle starts over again. They start telling the victim how beautiful they are and how much in love they are with them leaving the victim thinking all of a sudden they have become desirable to all these men.
You have explained this very well
You're doing an outstanding job, *VortexTrace* ! I'm thrilled that you're out there battling these scoundrels. It's absolutely crucial to protect the elderly and the general public from these deplorable scammers. You truly deserve all the praise and recognition for keeping us safe! Kudos to you, my brother. Your efforts are deserving of the Nobel Peace Prize. Keep up the amazing work!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Scammers flip the heck out when you’re doubting their stories, they’ll go to any extent to make you believe what they’re telling you is accurate.
I mean so let em flip.
And if the flip hang up.
Honestly, my first red flag would be: why is this good looking guy who in real life would be chasing great looking younger women be interested in me? Something's not right.
Also - she hasn't realised yet the scam is probably a team, it's not one person.
And no, they're not in the US & i doubt your money is coming back. You're one of millions being scammed. You willingly gave your money to a picture & romantic words and illogical promises.
Best option is to get busy off line by getting a job now.
Never ever depart with your money...never...especially from a person on a dating site...." go to Lagos Nigeria" and see what happen...
Outstanding job, *Adroitkey* ! I'm so glad you're out there battling these vile scammers. We must take every precaution to protect the general people and the elderly from these vile con artists!!
Bravo to you! You ought to be awarded the Nobel Prize for protecting us. Big up, brother
I bet the scammer had a “mule“ order that blanket and anything that was sent to her using money stolen from other victims. Scammers never send anything directly to their victims. They always use either another victim or someone else involved in the scam but is never directly from them.
Definitely NOT heart breaking 🤣😂🤣 it's called being gullible
I know of a tech expert that's gonna get it done within couple of minutes
His name is 𝗡𝗰𝗸 𝗺𝘆𝘁𝗵𝘀𝘀𝟭
Calling someone a "victim" absolves the person of responsibility for her stupid mistakes.
She GAVE the money. She didn't lose it, she wasn't a victim. She paid a high price for dopamine.
I ended a long marriage when it became abusive. The scammers were contacting me constantly. As sad, depressed, lonely as I was I KNEW they were scammers. I called them out, let them know that I knew what they were.
Even dated a guy for several months who tried to squeeze $1,500 out of me. I called that BS out, also.
Bravo !!
If you are lonely, go volunteer at a charity that means something. Take a cooking class. Strat an exercise or kick boxing class. Don’t sit at home on a stupid dating app. Did you know 80-90% of the profiles are fake or have significant lies in them??
@@davisholman8149 After a long marriage or an unmarried romantic relationship ends, it's important for a person to let themselves go through a process of adjustment & healing. Loneliness is part of the healing as long as a person doesn't wallow.
Many counselors will advise people to allow themselves an adjustment time when there is a divorce or break up or a new job or a baby or really any life altering change. Better advice would be if more counselors would advise people to allow themselves to be single & celibate until they are content with their own company.
It takes different amounts of time for different situation, different people.
Allowing myself the adjustment time to being single & celibate was the best choice for me. It helped me to become grounded, become emotionally stronger and yes, fully healed. So many friends & family members were trying to get me to "get back out there."
Bad advice.
Now, having become whole again, people who knew me "back then" ask me how I did it, ask me for advice. When I tell them, what I did, it's clear that they feel they can't do it. The pain of being stuck or making detrimental life choices is far worse than taking the time to heal for however long it takes.
It took a ton of soul searching, some sleepless nights, recognizing situations that could have harmful to the peace I was cultivating. Ultimately, I'm a much happier person. 100% debt free, I paid cash for a nice car.
Have spent time building my wealth portfolio, in much better athletic condition. I have no dependents that I have to take care of or financially support. Enjoying helping others is at the core of my character, I love doing that. If someone comes into my life, that's okay, if they don't, that's okay, too.
The bottom line is that I know exactly what I bring to the table, am fine with eating alone.
Just can't save people from their own stupidity. Don't even try. They say confession is good for the soul. Thanks for confessing your ignorance publicly.
If someone tells you you’re pretty, snd you’re not…. It’s probably a romance scam! lol
There can only be romance scammer if there is a romance fool at the other end ending money.
To *ASTRATRUSTHQ* I love the work you and so many others members of your team do to shut these people off. I wonder what more we can do to protect our vulnerable citizens from these people? I'm older but have been well trained to be suspicious and know what to do to avoid scamming. But I am appalled at how many people try, and how many forms it comes in. I think we don't do enough to educate the public. ⚡🔥
Ladies, always remember that a REAL man will never ask you for money!!! Ever...
I think it's heartbreaking that people are so lonely and deprived of love that they can't think straight. Please people look out for your loved ones ❤
faux autographs in az , do not buy from kvin martin , kingpin forgr !
@minimalistlife1970 Also desperate and naive as well. Smh 🤦♀️
They usually don't listen and hide they relationships.
that is life.
It’s actually scary cause is desperation of being alone
As an older person, I realized that there's a huge difference in relationships between young couples and older couples. I fully understand romance took over everything when we're young (we're all young and stupid before). But after one marriage or after reaching middle age, 'romance' has another meaning. You may love the feeling of falling in love (again), but at that age, most of us would not put romance ahead of our existing family and our hard earned money. At least I don't.
It’s completely beyond my comprehension how insanely delusional people can be 🤦🏻♀️
What women need to understand is that if these handsome millionaires as they claim to be wanted to go on a dating site they would be on one that is for gorgeous young females who are looking for sugar daddies. Men with money power and status are not looking for 60 year old grandmothers who are living on a retirement pension in suburbia in a modest three bedroom home who’s lifestyle consists of exercise classes at the Senior-citizen’s club. Taking the pet poodle to the park every afternoon and going to bed at 7.30 each night to read their latest purchase, a Mills and Boon romance novel. These men are looking for a 19 year old stunner that they can pamper and enjoy a Jetset life style with. What women need to do is to get real about this world and stop acting like life should be like one of their romance garbage novels that they fill their minds with. Even when you meet someone that you like at the Senior citizens club, you still have to be careful. I am 61 years of age, I am single and have been for 12 years and I have never been more happier in my life. I get involved with things. I love trying to solve cold cases, I support the Victorian Police blue ribbon organisation and the NSW police here in Australia my country and over in The United States I support The Thin Blue Line. It’s police remembrance week in The Starts and I wear my black and blue ribbons on my back pack in honour of all the great police officers who have died fighting to keep us safe. I have found lovely people that I send beautiful messages to on Facebook and I am there 24/7 for my parents when they need me. Find things in life that are meaningful and are real. My advice is stay off dating sites, watch Dr. Phil’s excellent shows on dating scams and cat fishing. Stay safe everyone and keep it real. ⭐️😇🇦🇺
I really want to thank you, Mr. Myretival, from the bottom of my heart! There are a lot of people from difficult, harsh living conditions that suffer, and you are helping them by providing them with what they are sorely in need of to survive. We are grateful to God for amazing individuals like you who are making the most important differences! Greetings from God, MyRETRIEVAL! From Greenville, North Carolina, with love
My wife will not even give me 10 k on a good day as a loan
and i don't gamble nor drink and we have 3 kids and live together for 30 years
Now i hear people taking Debts and life savings to send to complete strangers...wooww..talk about being stoopid
I realize that this was two months ago but could you remove all the comments that claim they can help get the money back. They are all scammers!!
Just report them.
Not grandma has a nose ring.
Great work, *Vortextrace* - I’m thrilled that you’re actively combatting these scammers. It’s crucial to prioritize the safety of the elderly and the public by taking every necessary measure to protect them. You truly deserve recognition for your efforts!
what a stong, smart woman actually. thanx for coming out with your story
These folks are making seniors seem so desperate for love. And, it's not just seniors but damn, people!! Use your noggins!!!
Young people are stupid too! 😮
The blanket and Oprah signature had me in tears😂
You are the beasts catching these scammers and making the Internet a better place, Adriannotch The goat back again with another absolute banger.
These desperate people giving their life savings to total strangers should consider donating to homeless and animal shelters.
You're doing an outstanding job, *VortexTrace* ! I'm thrilled that you're out there battling these scoundrels. It's absolutely crucial to protect the elderly and the general public from these deplorable scammers. You truly deserve all the praise and recognition for keeping us safe! Kudos to you, my brother. Your efforts are deserving of the Nobel Peace Prize. Keep up the amazing work….!!!!
The scammer is a Nigeria the FBI does not have jurisdiction over Nigeria so the scammer is not gonna get caught or punished.
Oh I feel sad Nigeria is trending for the wrong reason again, but I would like to put out a disclaimer that not all Nigerians are scammers , the country economy is in shambles with people that live below ten dollar a day of which this has made a lot of youth like me to venture into illegal means to survive am not in encouraging their actions , I Feel the paint of the victims but is a situation of when you are falling and you have Notting to hold onto , as a Nigerian I choose not to engage in this not because everything is okey for me I go hard everyday to survive it just my principles and I wish the world will see Nigeria from the perspective of the youth like me .
How does anyone actually fall for this? Sending 125,000 dollars without verifying he was real!? SMH.
And never met? Hahahaha ... Gimme a break! 😮
Heartbreaking? Wrong word!! Absolute stupidity!!
What's sad about these scam stories is that the victims aren't vocal while they are in the fake relationship and handing over their money but after they realize they've been scammed, that's when they start talking, asking questions, and wanting help from the authorities, the media, and anybody else. I'm not making fun of this woman but am making a point that you have to put your emotions aside and do your research. There's no reason why a real, responsible person needs a stranger's money. They should have their own emergency savings, credit cards, retirement plan, or family and friends to borrow money from. At the least, if a person you just met has none of these things, you need to be running from them anyway.
No sympathy. Wake up.
So very very sad. 😢
At least she was able to take the scammer for that cool blanket.
Its always greed that gets these people in trouble. THE hope of alot of money to come their way,if this man was poor ,down and out she would have blocked him.THEY give away their money only because of the hope of riches, its hard to feel sympathy for her.Greed is a horrible master😢
I am from America. I am really happy to see your work to expose people like this on web and make awareness among people. I had already shared this *GRIND TECHIEI* to all my foreign friends and ask them to share to others. Thank you again please keep the good work.. Thank you againn
The gift blanket, that had pictures was an insult and a joke. He is probably laughing and saw this blanket as a fun way to say thank you for the free money. What a complete jerk.
Well done, Adrian notch - I'm grateful that you are actively combatting these individuals of low moral character. It is crucial that we take every possible action to protect the elderly and the general public from these detestable scammers! Congratulations to you!! You deserve the highest recognition for ensuring our safety, my friend....!!
It wasn't taken; it was given!
Lets face it, she was motivated by his fake money. If he had said he was poor, and looking for love, she would not have given him the time of day. Anyway, her money is gone. None of these women ever get their money back. I always tell any man who shows any interested in knowing me, that I am neither a nurse or a purse. Older men want younger women, and younger men want older women to take care of them financially. That is the way it is.
Absolutely Tina, agree with every word you just said. Thank you, this comment is so awesome and true...100%! 🥳🤗
Exactly. Why can't these older people with decades of life experience and observing the real world show some sense?
Thank you for sharing
Oh no ,im using my head than my heart, i don't wanna regrets later ,forgets the heart breaks,
I've shared this video with all my women groups in social media and in person. This is ridiculous!!
Well it shouldn't be too difficult to contact the manufacture of the picture blanket of their faces and find out who ordered it, right?
They so helpless with finding these thugs but whenever they have international crime then Police is right away at their place. No problem....
..they dont live on Mars.......that puzzles me...
Probably a money mule who was promised a great deal of money.
She thinks the scammer (singular) is in the US! And so she's going to get her money back (!)
The scammer didn’t order it. Scammers use mules. These are people that handle money or other things for the scammer. To make the victim less suspicious, the mules are in America and not Nigeria.
The mules can lead someone to the scammer except they never met the scammers themselves.