I Lost the Majority of my Life Savings in an Online Dating Scam

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  • @shaithaimassage
    @shaithaimassage  ปีที่แล้ว +392

    So grateful for the kind words and support I am receiving!

    • @hkbillyusa
      @hkbillyusa ปีที่แล้ว +29

      I'm wondering if you have reported it to the law enforcement?

    • @charismaticrell4206
      @charismaticrell4206 ปีที่แล้ว

      You can track your money on the blockchain explorer. The same thing happen to me. The big butchering scam is ruthless. I just recently got all my money back. Their is a way to get your funds back

    • @inerit5175
      @inerit5175 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      Thank you so very much for sharing your experience! Hold your head up! Just knowing that going forward you have helped at least ONE person from getting scammed! Go out there and ENJOY your Life! Today is the best day ever! Seize the moment!

    • @MrRowley5
      @MrRowley5 ปีที่แล้ว +187

      Why would I need to fund you? You made your bed,you lie on it!

    • @Ann-sj4pt
      @Ann-sj4pt ปีที่แล้ว +5

      You are a scammer,pretending to be scammed! 😩

  • @atlfun08
    @atlfun08 ปีที่แล้ว +2523

    If someone you have “met” online and never met in person, EVER asks to borrow or help with money. That’s an online “dating”scam.

    • @mercedesmaltese4407
      @mercedesmaltese4407 ปีที่แล้ว +108

      Yeah obviously. I feel bad for none of these people

    • @pujabelgian
      @pujabelgian ปีที่แล้ว +49

      Not necessarily true.. it could be your sister's long lost son who you've never met because you don't have a sister, calling you to borrow $10,000 to get outta jail. That's believable. 😐

    • @Alex-Ninja9
      @Alex-Ninja9 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@mercedesmaltese4407 don´t judge we´re all humans and some of us makes mistakes during vulnerable times. Give the guy a break he is opening up.

    • @DerBingle1
      @DerBingle1 ปีที่แล้ว +106

      If they even mention money, walk away. Just stop responding and block.

    • @bluesky5587
      @bluesky5587 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@DerBingle1grammar is wrong …please correct…thank u

  • @jdl9623
    @jdl9623 ปีที่แล้ว +988

    Same thing happened to me and my initial $100 turned into $230. She told me to try withdrawing it and it worked and i transferred $230 to my bank! She said "I told you so" and told me to now put $20,000 in to make easy bigger money. I said nah, I'm happy with my $230 and cut her off my contact ever since

    • @DopamineDecor
      @DopamineDecor ปีที่แล้ว +86

      😂😂😂

    • @HeatherBoo916
      @HeatherBoo916 ปีที่แล้ว +40

      Pray you don't ever fall for crap like this again although I have my doubts 😅

    • @djt5782
      @djt5782 ปีที่แล้ว +122

      you are smart, not joking, you scammed the scammer, hahahahahaa

    • @sarafreeman5073
      @sarafreeman5073 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      😆🥂👍😉

    • @PInk77W1
      @PInk77W1 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Smart

  • @Myr25636
    @Myr25636 ปีที่แล้ว +789

    I was contacted by a man who looked 30 and GQ model. He said I was the most beautiful woman he had ever seen. 🙄I told him we could meet but not at my house because I live in my son’s basement since I have no money, lol. That was the end of that 😂.

    • @badxradxandy
      @badxradxandy ปีที่แล้ว +38

      Lmao

    • @kavi212
      @kavi212 ปีที่แล้ว +29

      What? But why? A GQ model should be able to help you out 😆 he didn’t want to help you?

    • @thepragmatist
      @thepragmatist ปีที่แล้ว +47

      Yes. Exactly. Whenever the scammers contact used to contact me, I asked them how much money they could send me. The conversation ends fast.

    • @phumlanondala4913
      @phumlanondala4913 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      🤣🤣

    • @ViaScientifica
      @ViaScientifica ปีที่แล้ว +7

      lol!

  • @michaelduggan1890
    @michaelduggan1890 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +117

    Most people who get scammed never tell anyone because it's too embarrassing .

    • @robertmitchell8630
      @robertmitchell8630 19 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      Yes it does and I admire his bravery

    • @chc2650
      @chc2650 4 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Im being scammed like this rn, I only play along because im bored and have no one else to talk to.

  • @TheHomeExpert5
    @TheHomeExpert5 ปีที่แล้ว +402

    Anytime a woman refuses to talk to you on the phone and insists only on text messages, run away immediately! Run away immediately!

    • @JackieBenjamin-n3t
      @JackieBenjamin-n3t ปีที่แล้ว +1

      “She” doesn’t want to talk on the phone because it’s probably a he.

    • @bixou22002
      @bixou22002 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      Even easier...When you start talking to a complete stranger on a dating website and she offers a magic investment ---> RUN !

    • @thetruths7389
      @thetruths7389 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      Maybe it's a guy too. LOL

    • @BOG0690
      @BOG0690 ปีที่แล้ว

      Block that ass

    • @hermanrogers1325
      @hermanrogers1325 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      It is a man that’s why he won’t talk on phone

  • @linmorell1813
    @linmorell1813 ปีที่แล้ว +1047

    Something like this happened to a friend of mine, he. He felt so ashamed he told friends each a little part and no one the whole. It is upset him so much he committed suicide and has been devastating for all of us that he felt unable to talk to us about it. Therefore, the fact you’re talking about it and warning people makes such an important contribution. Thank you for that and stay well.

    • @gingers8457
      @gingers8457 ปีที่แล้ว +57

      Oh wow I'm so sorry for your loss

    • @shaithaimassage
      @shaithaimassage  ปีที่แล้ว +92

      Wow, I'm so sorry for your friend and all of you impacted by this. My heart goes out to you. I really appreciate your words and sending lots of love your way.

    • @DopamineDecor
      @DopamineDecor ปีที่แล้ว +11

      😢

    • @HeatherBoo916
      @HeatherBoo916 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      I'm really sorry for the loss of your friend. I hope the animals that did this to them get everything that's coming to them and more.

    • @mariatan9129
      @mariatan9129 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      We can talk forever about scammers. Whats needed is solutions and how to get the money back. Bank in australia has not cooperated and freeze his account instead. Anyone with solution ???

  • @nikkilengyel
    @nikkilengyel ปีที่แล้ว +954

    We need to stop using "met" and "relationship" for people we've never actually met in person. No in-person meeting = no meeting. No in-person relationship = no relationship. We need to establish this as a foundation. Romance scammers parasite from people with weak principles, boundaries and definitions.

    • @dreamzofhorses
      @dreamzofhorses ปีที่แล้ว

      Maybe they get to people who are very lonely and wanting a relationship? Or they pretend to have an opportunity to make money and the person is in financial need? It’s not appropriate to shift the blame to the victims which people only do to feel a sense of superiority above others and to convince themselves this could never happen to them. Good for them but it’s not accurate and misplaces where the blame belongs. Even if they don’t have strong principles, boundaries and definitions for some reason we would have no clue about doesn’t make them the bad person in the scenario. It’s the scammer thief liar who is the bad person taking advantage of someone’s vulnerabilities. I agree we shouldn’t call an online never met person or even a scammy IRL a person, gold digging, scamming assholes have been around long before the internet. This isn’t new and there are always victims who will fall for it for their individual reasons. But dissing the victim is pretty bad behavior in and of itself, and doesn’t make you better than anyone else.

    • @GideonHawk-j8i
      @GideonHawk-j8i ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yep, my rule with online dating is until my mouth touches a vagina the person doesn’t actually exist

    • @IssanCaliRefugee
      @IssanCaliRefugee ปีที่แล้ว +22

      I agree, but it happens because that's what we're able to get. The market's rough. There's really not much available out there, and so we're trying to take what we can. Similar to how the part time, piecemeal, gig economy now constitutes having a "job" these days. Glad I met my wife abroad, in person, 5 years ago. I feel for the young people these days.

    • @M_SC
      @M_SC ปีที่แล้ว +37

      Victim blaming in its purest form

    • @AllergicFungus
      @AllergicFungus ปีที่แล้ว +2

      ​​​​@@M_SCcalling someone stupid /w a weak mindset is not victim blaming. This guy is 100% stupid /w a weak mindset, not a victim. Dude gave his daughters entire savings fund meant for school to a stranger. Call it like it is. Don't be a clown...

  • @petepeter1857
    @petepeter1857 ปีที่แล้ว +722

    This is an established scam. I'm always shocked when someone falls for this.

    • @sparkles7420
      @sparkles7420 ปีที่แล้ว +207

      He is also a scammer!!! He wants people to donate on go fund me to rebuild his savings!! A go fund me isn’t to rebuild a savings! It’s for people in major need. He never got scammed I bet you he is lying

    • @Cindy-cj8bw
      @Cindy-cj8bw ปีที่แล้ว

      @@sparkles7420 I thought the same thing! He stopped thinking with his brain, got scammed, and now he wants people to donate to help him recoup his loss??? He'll be waiting a very long time for my donation!

    • @pearlperlitavenegas2023
      @pearlperlitavenegas2023 ปีที่แล้ว

      ​@@sparkles7420I don't think he is

    • @songbirdsinging1878
      @songbirdsinging1878 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      these scammers prey on vulnerable people. the human need for love and companionship is very easy for a predator to exploit. it seems impossble but this happens all the time to intelligent people.

    • @Go7Suarez
      @Go7Suarez ปีที่แล้ว

      No, it doesn't happen to intelligent people. It happens to greedy fools. This one is counting on other fools to replenish the money he idiotically gave away.

  • @dhsubhadra
    @dhsubhadra ปีที่แล้ว +222

    Ten years ago I lost all the money my mother left me to a heartless fraudster. I was devastated and plaintively asked my sister whether I would ever get over it. She said, OF COURSE YOU WILL! And she was right.

    • @josephinegebb
      @josephinegebb ปีที่แล้ว

      Great work *Chargebacktools* You take the fight back to the scammers! Great to have people like you and the Team fighting back for the victims and keeping the scammer from taking miney from the vulnerable

    • @cgasucks
      @cgasucks ปีที่แล้ว +3

      So you regained what you lost right?

    • @KoalaBeer.
      @KoalaBeer. ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@cgasucksno they got over trauma I’d imagine

    • @Kunfucious577
      @Kunfucious577 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@cgasuckslife isn’t that fair.

    • @Spaceman_7
      @Spaceman_7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Sorry for your loss

  • @Powertuber1000
    @Powertuber1000 ปีที่แล้ว +615

    I'm 99% sure he was talking to a man.

    • @KINGCRANK.Topsy-Turvy
      @KINGCRANK.Topsy-Turvy ปีที่แล้ว +45

      I'm 100% sure they are Chinese or Indian.

    • @Mike_Davidson
      @Mike_Davidson 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +80

      Nigerian 110% 🤦‍♂😂😂😂👨🏿‍🦲

    • @Aethereality
      @Aethereality 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +46

      Got to be careful, regardless. Some of these scammers hire real women to do short video calls to lure in more victims!

    • @dennykeaton9701
      @dennykeaton9701 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +35

      Probably a team of people

    • @zac2325
      @zac2325 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

      😂 it was a man.

  • @Adam-wr5rq
    @Adam-wr5rq 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

    Keep up the great work 𝐄𝐗𝐓𝐎𝐋𝐆𝐈𝐙𝐌𝐎 , and never get down about what you do. These scum are responsible not you. So keep your head up regardless of what happens.
    You keep saving people all the time, so just remember those you have already saved it you ever get down. Love your channel and always stay positive. !!!

  • @pearlperlitavenegas2023
    @pearlperlitavenegas2023 ปีที่แล้ว +234

    This is why I always pretend I'm poor & broke keeps the Nigerian scammers away

    • @loisaustin6200
      @loisaustin6200 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      This is why I stay off dating sites and never accept friend requests online or on Facebook. I have observed too many victims with broken hearts and shattered lives to fall for any of these criminal tricks. They are all a despicable, filthy bunch of thieves and I sincerely hope Karma comes around and teaches them how to behave as human beings.

    • @anafadae
      @anafadae ปีที่แล้ว

      Dont be silly he clearly said she was Chinese. Your own people are scammers too. They just do it on an even bigger scale, like sim swapping and hacking.

    • @combatduckie
      @combatduckie ปีที่แล้ว

      that is not always the case! if they need a VISA for a Western country, money doesn t matter at all! Even social-welfare Western women get scammed because they re dumb enough to allow musl trash to talk to them on vacation or on the web!

    • @elizabethblane201
      @elizabethblane201 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Why even communicate with them in the first place?

    • @bunjijumper5345
      @bunjijumper5345 ปีที่แล้ว

      With the white colonialism across the world, we deserve it.

  • @pearlperlitavenegas2023
    @pearlperlitavenegas2023 ปีที่แล้ว +663

    If everyone had the courage to share their scam stories the scammers would go out of business.

    • @probrickgamer
      @probrickgamer ปีที่แล้ว +28

      No they wouldn’t. Literally everyone can spot a nigerian prince scam and yet the people who do them are somehow still successful

    • @davidwright873
      @davidwright873 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      Not true...they'd just figure out a different scam....

    • @acornsucks2111
      @acornsucks2111 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      There is one born every minute.

    • @davidwright873
      @davidwright873 ปีที่แล้ว

      Barnum and Bailey said that....
      @@acornsucks2111

    • @bobjames6622
      @bobjames6622 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Nope! IF people weren't mugs then they would not get scammed.

  • @stevendiamond4117
    @stevendiamond4117 ปีที่แล้ว +460

    I'm so sorry you went through this. I met an Asian (Chinese) woman online and we developed a very nice friendship. I was much older than her so our intention were platonic. We exchanged life stories, pictures, we encouraged each other through day to day trials. It took many weeks before "money" even came up. She explained to me exactly what you described and shared her success with short-term crypto investing. She wanted to teach me and she was a well spoken teacher. But I explained to her that a year earlier I had a bad experience losing small amount of money trusting a woman on-line and I now had a principle that I would not send any money. I said I would have to come & meet her and see this in person. Over a few weeks of trying to change my mind she stopped communicating. I actually missed her because we'd communicated so much. But I would not & could not violate that principle I had put in place a year earlier.

    • @danny8063
      @danny8063 ปีที่แล้ว +209

      she was a dude named chang

    • @danny8063
      @danny8063 ปีที่แล้ว

      i dont say that to be mean. i say it to let you know not to get sentimental over these morons

    • @Samlol23_drrich
      @Samlol23_drrich ปีที่แล้ว +47

      You're smart. Just took a while trying to suck you in to build trust. Once you held your ground and it was a firm no, it was over. Good job

    • @thetruths7389
      @thetruths7389 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Did you only text or did you talk on the phone too?

    • @myoama160
      @myoama160 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      Smart, you dodged a bullet.

  • @naxmiraz
    @naxmiraz 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    Bravo, *Charge-backtools* - I'm so glad you're out there fighting these scumbags. We must do everything in our power to protect the victims and the general public from these despicable scammers. You're a true hero, my brother

  • @roguestowl2280
    @roguestowl2280 ปีที่แล้ว +430

    I’m so sorry this happened to you. You’re helping others avoid scams like this by sharing this story.

    • @bobjames6622
      @bobjames6622 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Why are you wasting sympathy on a total mug?

    • @robt3407
      @robt3407 ปีที่แล้ว

      ​@@bobjames6622not just a mug, a scammer himself. Who buys this phony story? He should at least be showing photos and real evidence of the scam to his audience. He's a lying bum.

    • @AAA19999
      @AAA19999 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      So true

    • @theflaca
      @theflaca ปีที่แล้ว

      He thought he'd get an asian third world peasant with a filthy sewer.
      He deserves being scammed.

    • @karenlewkowitz5858
      @karenlewkowitz5858 ปีที่แล้ว

      ​@@bobjames6622what does that mean? What can we learn from this?

  • @PerfectInterview
    @PerfectInterview ปีที่แล้ว +470

    Why do you call it “dating” if you never met the person? That’s not dating. It’s just a delusion.

    • @Tailionis
      @Tailionis ปีที่แล้ว +35

      I can't feel sorry for this guy. If he was 20 ok. We've all been dumb and young, but this guy is clearly in his 30s +

    • @cococock2418
      @cococock2418 ปีที่แล้ว

      Exactly. It’s astounding to me how these people who fall for these pig butchering scams are both simultaneously naive and narcissistic as fuck. Naive to fall think that a person they’ve never met online is going to actually be their significant other, and narcissistic to believe that some random super attractive girl is going to want to be with them just off seeing their picture online

    • @MR_THINQ
      @MR_THINQ ปีที่แล้ว +19

      Yep - he’s desperate.

    • @kendallevans4079
      @kendallevans4079 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@MR_THINQ Lot of similar guys out there....

    • @tomTom-lb5cu
      @tomTom-lb5cu ปีที่แล้ว

      Lots of people desperately looking for love. Don’t trust the Chinese they hate us honestly, they love our money and selling us their junk. They are worse than the Japanese or Philippines.

  • @stephenmontgomery8530
    @stephenmontgomery8530 ปีที่แล้ว +262

    Why would somebody you don t know want to make you money, wake up .

    • @LD-yq7cl
      @LD-yq7cl ปีที่แล้ว +22

      even people you know and pretend they earn big, never shares their secrets...

    • @chuchonchuchon7640
      @chuchonchuchon7640 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Yeah, I feel bad for him, but he sent his money willingly
      🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️

    • @Amer1can1nfidel
      @Amer1can1nfidel ปีที่แล้ว +31

      this guy was gonna loose his savings somehow. just happened to be this way....

    • @richardng1
      @richardng1 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Love. When you love someone you want what’s best for them, like help them make money. Even if you don’t love someone but you care about them enough then you still want to show them how to make money.

    • @IDMtv
      @IDMtv ปีที่แล้ว +5

      And if it’s a secret and so easy to do why would they tell more people about it? I know I wouldn’t ..Maby my family and close friends 🤷🏿

  • @aheatherw88
    @aheatherw88 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    My dad lost $6k this way. I told him it was a scam and he didn’t believe and he lost the money. I was so mad at him. He was showing me the photos of the woman he was talking to and I could tell they were fake photos. He still didn’t believe me. It took him a long time for him to realize that it was fake. He just now realized that he would not be getting his money back. We all learn from our mistakes. Thanks for sharing your story.

  • @FrankZen
    @FrankZen ปีที่แล้ว +286

    Man it sucks that this happened to you. I've had a couple of these scammers hit me up. What I've learned is whenever the conversation switches to money, it's pretty much a scam.

    • @izzy2900
      @izzy2900 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      That's even the case for some women IRL on dates nowadays. There's a video going around about this chick that asks to see your bank account in the 1st 5 min. on a date because she doesn't wanna waste any time in case you're broke. lol

    • @donnahilton471
      @donnahilton471 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      If someone introduces themselves online, it's a scam!!!😅

    • @izzy2900
      @izzy2900 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@donnahilton471 Not always but there's way too many scammers out here, & it's only going to get easier for scammers with improving AI LLMs & voice bots, they can literally be indistinguishable from humans online. But AI's to detect scams should also become available, so we'll see how things turn out.

    • @bobjames6622
      @bobjames6622 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      "What I've learned is whenever the conversation switches to money, it's pretty much a scam."
      Wow! Really!? Who woulda thunk that, eh?

    • @izzy2900
      @izzy2900 ปีที่แล้ว

      ​@@bobjames6622 Nah man, they're just good Samaritans that spend all day on the Internet looking for people they can give free financial help to. Trust me bro. : p

  • @everybodysjonathan
    @everybodysjonathan ปีที่แล้ว +139

    Thanks for sharing. A couple things to note. If someone is wealthy they are not interested meeting strangers and giving their business plans away freely. Also, never trust someone you’ve never met and have no shared experience with. Next, There’s no proof it’s a she. It’s a business organization that preys on compassion/ naïveté.

    • @transitionsnc
      @transitionsnc ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Great points.

    • @pearlperlitavenegas2023
      @pearlperlitavenegas2023 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Yes. It's a highly organized international organization of Nigerians doing this.

    • @transitionsnc
      @transitionsnc ปีที่แล้ว

      I believe you.@@pearlperlitavenegas2023

    • @ravenrebel3183
      @ravenrebel3183 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yup, a lot of men have been found to be the ones behind these scammer accounts. They have no problem being lovey-dovey and sexting other men to take all their money. And the bonus for them is they know those men will only blame women.

    • @txgal6855
      @txgal6855 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Yep, or Asians

  • @Romenet310
    @Romenet310 ปีที่แล้ว +51

    I LOVE when scammers hit me up. I try to take the dialogue as long as I can agreeing with what they want and pretend that that I have sent something or signed up for something or whatever it is that they want and then I fall silent but then contact them again and “try again” and just keep it going. I have disappeared for 3 months and contacted them back and ask them if the chance is still there or if they still need money and I restart the process. They eventually get mad which fuels me to do it all again with a new scammer.

    • @kendallevans4079
      @kendallevans4079 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Oh yeah....boy, you sure showed them!....smh

    • @Romenet310
      @Romenet310 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@kendallevans4079 sounds like you’re a bit of Scammer Sympathizer, huh Bra? You feel sorry for the scammers, do ya? GTFOH!

    • @nicholascampbell90
      @nicholascampbell90 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I love messing with them 😅 they always need a gift card or money for a babysitter lmao

    • @MajesticLawnGnome
      @MajesticLawnGnome ปีที่แล้ว

      @@kendallevans4079calm down princess sofia he is just joking

    • @Fuckingdork2
      @Fuckingdork2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Its so Sadistic... :DDDD

  • @stevendphoto
    @stevendphoto 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    I know a lady who was scammed 3 times over the years, it's amazing to me that people are willing to give money to someone they have never met in person! No matter how good of a story they have...

    • @robertmitchell8630
      @robertmitchell8630 19 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Yup don't fall for the fake checks either
      Send a check instruct you to wire them $500 and keep the other 500$

  • @michelinadicicco8253
    @michelinadicicco8253 ปีที่แล้ว +109

    I fell into the trap also..... for 27 months and money lost and am having a nervous breakdown....... I'm so sorry this happened to you.

    • @mystrength5640
      @mystrength5640 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Soo Sorry.. hope your life improves! 😢

    • @oliverarrow8431
      @oliverarrow8431 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      that's happend to me this week oh my god it's so bad

    • @michelinadicicco8253
      @michelinadicicco8253 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@oliverarrow8431 So sorry...... I know exactly what you are going through 😭

    • @elizabethblane201
      @elizabethblane201 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      Sometimes the cost of tuition in the school of hard knocks is very high.

    • @michelinadicicco8253
      @michelinadicicco8253 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Does anybody have any advice for me since I lost my life savings also. I don't want to lose my condo because I can't pay condo fees and taxes. And on top of all the other stress I'm having a nervous breakdown. I can't believe I was so stupid and naive.

  • @laurence2824
    @laurence2824 ปีที่แล้ว +112

    I hope you won't think me a Pollyanna, but this might offer you some comfort: I in no way wish to downplay the devastating sense of loss and betrayal you must have experienced, but I have come across several people who at some point in their lives lost pretty much everything. My own late parents were holocaust surviving refugees and I know a family who were driven off their land in Zimbabwe and were forced to flee for their lives with nothing to the UK. I noticed in these people an extraordinary ability to savour the here-and-now. A cup of tea on a sunny balcony for them was as good as any beach-holiday in the Bahamas. They discovered that tiny pleasures and joys in the present were worth far more than potential future bonanzas. My late dad's catch-all maxim seemed to be: "Once you've lost everything you own, the smallest pleasures and the tiniest acts of kindness suddenly mean the world to you." I'm happy to say he led a long and happy life.

    • @shaithaimassage
      @shaithaimassage  ปีที่แล้ว +13

      I very much appreciate that perspective and what you shared. I take that very much to heart. Thank you kindly Laurence

    • @Jez1963UK
      @Jez1963UK ปีที่แล้ว +6

      That's the same as me, I lost everything (well didn't 'lose' it, more I expended it all and found God) - I've never been happier, and more grateful, more present, fearless, non-worrying. Sometimes we need to lose all those layers to find the real you. If I were this person I'd just look forward to the version he now wants to be (in the future) and focus on that. I know that's incredibly easy to say, and it's something I'm now trying to do, but he needs to let go of that past. Be present, and I'm quietly confident that he'll make a lot more than he lost and will look back on this as some kind of blessing. Meanwhile he has helped others by sharing his story.

    • @NoseyFloridaGirl
      @NoseyFloridaGirl ปีที่แล้ว +5

      As long as you have your life , your health, your faith , you have everything that truly matters.

    • @Dbb27
      @Dbb27 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Great post. Thanks!

    • @oliverarrow8431
      @oliverarrow8431 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      thanks i just get scammed this week and i like your words@@Jez1963UK

  • @mikefigures5075
    @mikefigures5075 ปีที่แล้ว +178

    Why would you think a complete stranger would be interested in building wealth for you ?

    • @PInk77W1
      @PInk77W1 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Amen.

    • @acooksla
      @acooksla ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Amen again

    • @joshuawesteros5345
      @joshuawesteros5345 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Just look at em, might as well have “thirsty” tattooed on his face.

    • @marknewton6984
      @marknewton6984 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Don't Go In--- Goldfinger!

    • @AminahMight
      @AminahMight 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      This is always my number one question. Like why would the person pick me out of all people to help? Why? What’s in it for them? It doesn’t add up for them to care about my finances lol.

  • @joannewalker7863
    @joannewalker7863 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Outstanding job done by *Charge backtools* I'm so glad you're out there battling these vile con artists.
    We must take every precaution to protect the general people and the elderly from these vile con artists!!
    Bravo to YOU!! you ought to be awarded the Nobel Prize for protecting us. Big up, brother.

  • @chowfun1976
    @chowfun1976 ปีที่แล้ว +153

    I don’t even lend money to the people I date. I can’t fathom giving money to someone I haven’t met.

    • @Dbb27
      @Dbb27 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      He wasn’t giving, he was investing.

    • @chowfun1976
      @chowfun1976 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      @@Dbb27 yes, by giving this person his money to invest.

    • @dogger37JC
      @dogger37JC ปีที่แล้ว

      @@chowfun1976No he didn’t give or invest with her. He invested with an online brokerage. Still not smart.

    • @KoalaBeer.
      @KoalaBeer. ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Same

    • @mike77588
      @mike77588 ปีที่แล้ว

      ​@@chowfun1976No, he did not give her money, he signed up to a site she recommended.. then he did many testruns with small amounts and all seemed legit at first

  • @pizzaearthpancakesandother2549
    @pizzaearthpancakesandother2549 ปีที่แล้ว +157

    I don't know what's worse:
    1 - having your "heart broken" by some dude in Lagos or wherever
    2 - socializing your losses by e-bagging for 20k

    • @jkstudent222
      @jkstudent222 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      the latter

    • @knutthetruthhahn
      @knutthetruthhahn ปีที่แล้ว +39

      He is grifting. So even if he was scammed 20k. It is on him. Why socialize the losses. Start over cryptocel

    • @SamaNuttz
      @SamaNuttz ปีที่แล้ว +15

      I truly can't believe the amount of people using SM to get subs to basically pay bills, holidays, medication and pets. I'm not against people supporting channels but the sad fishing is next level...
      I feel bad for those scammed, but they learnt a valuable lesson.

    • @TheRbraden
      @TheRbraden ปีที่แล้ว

      There's another online scam where you make up a sob story and then try to get people to give you money by setting up a go fund me...

    • @kendallevans4079
      @kendallevans4079 ปีที่แล้ว

      If those are your only choices you are dumber than you sound

  • @jeanniesabol5410
    @jeanniesabol5410 ปีที่แล้ว +109

    Anyone who asks for money is a huge NO. Never give anyone money. What would they do without you? They would find a way to manage. Never be desperate. Better to be alone than to be lied to and taken advantage of. NEVER BE DESPERATE.

    • @dogger37JC
      @dogger37JC ปีที่แล้ว +6

      She didn’t ask him for money. He asked her about helping him with investing. He was never asked for money. He invested. He was the one who chose to invest with an online brokerage. Really bad decisions.

    • @andrerodriguez7603
      @andrerodriguez7603 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@dogger37JCwhy not send him a donation to his “go fund me” account than. 😂

    • @staceywilliams1863
      @staceywilliams1863 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      It’s simply desperation!

    • @lakeisharhyant2045
      @lakeisharhyant2045 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      What they would do is keep an itunyil they find a sucker to take the bait.

    • @1278984
      @1278984 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      If they asked for money and your not married never give money only for dates !

  • @Earthman99999
    @Earthman99999 ปีที่แล้ว +155

    Sorry to hear this. What's even worse about these scams are that the victims most likely were actually corresponding with some guy from Nigeria. They often steal photos of real women and use that as the bait. You probably weren't even corresponding with a real woman.

    • @betsyakoko6810
      @betsyakoko6810 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Very true he was all alone charting and dating with a woman

    • @JaimeMesChiens
      @JaimeMesChiens ปีที่แล้ว +17

      Pig butchering scam is usually a Chinese script.
      We (legal analysts) seldom see this scam coming from Nigeria.

    • @betsyakoko6810
      @betsyakoko6810 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@JaimeMesChiens sorry now you know them even white guys are in it too they friend request and start with cripto coin investment I just blocked automatically

    • @Earthman99999
      @Earthman99999 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      @@JaimeMesChiens Regardless where this originated from... the point is that more than likely the person running the scam is a guy, not a real woman. The guy simply stole a photo of a woman and posed as her for the scam. In some cases... the guy may have a female assistant in case a short phone call is needed to help convince the victim that this "is legit". Though that assistant is very unlikely to be the woman in the photo.
      These scams can be run from anywhere. I saw on another You Tube channel where this guy exposes scams... he traced his would be scammer to Nigeria.

    • @bobwilson5041
      @bobwilson5041 ปีที่แล้ว

      Duhhhhhh,of course it wasnt a real girl,taking advantage of stupid grown men,amazing that it happens!!!!

  • @justinfeld3314
    @justinfeld3314 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +17

    If anyone ever claims to have been ‘scammed’ but then asks for donations to help?! This could be a ‘scam’ in itself.

    • @FlyPsiche
      @FlyPsiche 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

      another man of culture, I see

    • @crashoverride1575
      @crashoverride1575 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Or maybe you are a little bit paranoïaque

  • @George43_
    @George43_ 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Bravo to *Charge backtools* - I'm so glad you're out there fighting these scumbags. We must do everything in our power to protect the elderly and the general public from these despicable scammers. You're a true hero, my brother

  • @angelaangelabird
    @angelaangelabird ปีที่แล้ว +60

    Go fund you?? You made your own bed!!

    • @LuisaD93
      @LuisaD93 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      It’s called he’s scamming lol

    • @christophermartin972
      @christophermartin972 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Seriously, whatever he gets will be lost again next time he’s scammed.

    • @stephenking3356
      @stephenking3356 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      I sent him my lucky quarter ...but told him NOT to stick it in with his pocket change, because then it just becomes another coin.

    • @briansmythe3000
      @briansmythe3000 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

      Every one Is a E begger These Days 😮

  • @HappinessisLove222
    @HappinessisLove222 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    it was a chinese scammer. It is a guy he did the same thing to me. It NOT a female. ITS a name. I know him. HE scammed me out of 7k. HE lives in Long Beach here in California. I track him down.

  • @johnyhefner
    @johnyhefner ปีที่แล้ว +24

    The moral of the story is: Don’t be a sucker!

  • @Travelguy1
    @Travelguy1 ปีที่แล้ว +99

    The real scam is that gofundme link

    • @sandiegan3788
      @sandiegan3788 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      Could be. My motto these days is, "Don't trust anyone."

    • @Kittykat6000-f7b
      @Kittykat6000-f7b 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@sandiegan3788Totally agree I steer clear of these funds if I want to help e.g cat rescue I buy food for them be be very careful I don’t trust anyone only those close

    • @brandyk
      @brandyk 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@sandiegan3788 true dat... I'm getting to the point where I don't even trust my dog.

    • @valeriebidner4015
      @valeriebidner4015 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Easy money. I only fund myself.

    • @teambitcoin7530
      @teambitcoin7530 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Lol

  • @robsengahay5614
    @robsengahay5614 ปีที่แล้ว +113

    I think that scams like this are more common than we realise. Most people would feel so much shame and embarrassment that they would keep it to themselves. However I think that speaking out helps the grieving process and internalising the pain must make it even worse.

    • @shaithaimassage
      @shaithaimassage  ปีที่แล้ว +10

      I think you're right and sharing this and seeing how people are reaching out to share their stories is helping to reveal that. You are very right at least for me. Speaking out has been a very helpful way to heal and turn the pain into helpful medicine. It's a process... and I thank you for sharing

    • @patmacrotch5611
      @patmacrotch5611 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Oh there are plenty. There is a whole channel dedicated to them and telling their story. Several, even after being shown proof will continue to send their scammers money. Even if it means they have to take out loans. I’m glad I am ok with being alone when time I have been single.

    • @LilyGazou
      @LilyGazou ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Billion dollar industry.
      Seniors get wiped out and then your tax dollars must care for them.

    • @donnahilton471
      @donnahilton471 ปีที่แล้ว

      people keep thinking that there are real people talking to you online.

    • @dogger37JC
      @dogger37JC ปีที่แล้ว +1

      It’s very common. Unfortunately people who aren’t very smart make it worthwhile for scammers.

  • @Resikat___
    @Resikat___ 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    𝗘𝗫𝗧𝗢𝗟𝗚𝗜𝗭𝗠𝗢 Outstanding job, I'm so glad you're out, they’re battling these vile con artists.We must take every precaution to protect the general people and the elderlv from these vile con artists!!! Bravo to vou! You ought to be awarded the Nobel Prize for protecting us, Big up, brother!!⭐️⭐️

  • @chrisiss666
    @chrisiss666 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I SALUTE You for all that your doing, helping all the victims of these scambaggs!
    They so deserved to be humiliated and be exposed to the public, these people have No place on this world, welldone *ChargeBack Tools* we're here to support you, More Power to you and all your friends, watching from France.

  • @alfalfa2155
    @alfalfa2155 ปีที่แล้ว +139

    Not many people are brave enough to talk about something like this, let alone publicly. Keeping things in the dark only benefits the scammers. Good on you for sharing your story. I hope you’re doing better these days.

    • @shaithaimassage
      @shaithaimassage  ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Thank you very much. Your words are felt and they mean a lot. Warm wishes to you

    • @Jack-2day
      @Jack-2day ปีที่แล้ว

      www.ftc.gov/romancescams
      I might add that the scammer could most likely have been male (ergo, no actual two way relationship was ever really there) Cheers
      @shaithaimassage

    • @laurab5278
      @laurab5278 ปีที่แล้ว

      Sorry to hear that person scammed you

    • @anacorreia8058
      @anacorreia8058 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      True but honestly anybody with even 2 brain cells should know better. This guy is a word that rhymes with Timp, but starts with an S

    • @kendallevans4079
      @kendallevans4079 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Brave? He makes money on likes and subs, AND he started a GoFundMe? Nothing "brave" about that. He is basically using a scam story to scam you!

  • @germanshepherd6638
    @germanshepherd6638 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Cryptocurrency alone is a scam. It’s nothing more then an unregulated casino

  • @DrFrankenschtein
    @DrFrankenschtein ปีที่แล้ว +221

    You didn’t “lose” your life savings. You gave it away.

    • @aquicktake
      @aquicktake ปีที่แล้ว +20

      savage

    • @Tibetchoongchoong
      @Tibetchoongchoong ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Watch the content, pfff he invested on a crypto platform that she says using, and he god scammed the girl also disappeared

    • @DrFrankenschtein
      @DrFrankenschtein ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Tibetchoongchoong Wrong

    • @psychotic.reaction
      @psychotic.reaction ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@DrFrankenschteinEveryone loves a semantic.

    • @Yoopsen213
      @Yoopsen213 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      We found the scammer loool

  • @samueladetola8935
    @samueladetola8935 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    *Adroitkey* I was a victim of these assholes but now I'm a survivor enjoying you helping other victims and really screwing with the heartless pr**ks!! Thank you for all that you do. WHY doesn't our government/police get involved like you do?????
    I reported it but " nothing they could do!!" Much respect!!!!!

  • @doriskurzz1798
    @doriskurzz1798 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    He has a daughter and a business but sent money to a complete stranger "

    • @LuisaD93
      @LuisaD93 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      And found a way to make it profitable too with a go fund me. Who’s scamming who I wonder 💭

    • @dilekavan5796
      @dilekavan5796 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      And teacher got 40.000 . He should ve carry on with it

  • @BeautifulLife000H
    @BeautifulLife000H ปีที่แล้ว +22

    Isolating, and enjoying being alone, is a super power these days.

  • @ReviewsAndMore9
    @ReviewsAndMore9 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Now you want total strangers to bail you out? How does anyone know your story is true? It’s only money. You’re young enough to earn it again. Never invest more than you’re willing to lose. First rule of investing. Never invest more than 3% of your portfolio into any single position. 2nd Rule if it’s too good to be true, it’s because it’s not true.

  • @OnsceneDC
    @OnsceneDC 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Betrayal trauma is a real thing. It really makes you start questioning yourself because you thought they were somebody- but they turned out to be nobody.

  • @brendaclark8053
    @brendaclark8053 ปีที่แล้ว +44

    This scam has been going on decades; warning’s about it everywhere ! I can’t believe it’s still happening ! Meeting on line is a big no no !

    • @bixou22002
      @bixou22002 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Meeting online is not a problem, starting a fake investment on a dating website makes absolutely no sense at all !!!!

    • @TheImvaltor
      @TheImvaltor ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I met my wife online and I've been happy for 8 years so far 😊

    • @avab4035
      @avab4035 ปีที่แล้ว

      For many people online dating works, or so they say..For me, only real life relations ever worked..I met online few men, did not do me anything bad, on the contrary, tried to do me good, but it did not feel real...nothing beats real life meeting..sweet and real

    • @dogger37JC
      @dogger37JC ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I can believe it’s still happening. Some people are very desperate for love and companionship. Some people are dumb.

  • @MR_THINQ
    @MR_THINQ ปีที่แล้ว +64

    NEVER EVER invest money that you can’t afford to lose.
    Investing rule no1.

    • @Tocinos
      @Tocinos ปีที่แล้ว +3

      you're far better off putting $250 in 4 places rather than $1000 in 1 place

    • @michekids
      @michekids 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Indeed

    • @Gizziiusa
      @Gizziiusa 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      same goes for gambling (at a casino)

  • @middlepassage9256
    @middlepassage9256 ปีที่แล้ว +59

    One must use discernment at all times. Never let your guard down. People will take advantage of you. It doesn't matter how nice they portray themselves to be.

    • @shaithaimassage
      @shaithaimassage  ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Lots of truth here. At the same time I know I was skeptical and discerning. I tried to research this opportunity to see if it was a real thing. What's more, they are very good at their job and know how to build trust. So it is a little more nuanced than that.
      That's part of why I made this video, to help point the direction and share the clues so people know what to look out for as they are using their discernment to evaluate if something is the real deal or not...

    • @margkropf5541
      @margkropf5541 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      It all comes down to trusting no one. How terribly sad. Devastating.

    • @minoozolala
      @minoozolala ปีที่แล้ว

      @@shaithaimassage I'm so sorry this happened to you, but please don't gaslight yourself by saying you were discerning. The huge, enormous, screeching red flag right at the beginning was her refusing to talk or video. And her saying that writing helped her to see into someone's "soul". Please watch lots of scam videos because you are now on many scammer's victim lists. You also need to work on yourself because you're still looking for free money with your GoFundMe.

    • @dogger37JC
      @dogger37JC ปีที่แล้ว

      @@shaithaimassage What are you talking about? You asked her about helping you with investing. She didn’t even have to start scamming you! What research did you do??? It’s super easy to find this scam online. It’s all over the internet with detailed information. Anyone who invests in an online brokerage and who doesn’t vet that brokerage is an idiot. Sorry but you are a scammers dream. It doesn’t get any easier than you. It’s super easy to vet these online brokers and investment websites.

    • @grownwomen6208
      @grownwomen6208 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@shaithaimassageYou’re rationalizing. You haven’t taken responsibility for your own foolishness. That doesn’t bode well. It would be very sad to have something like this happen to you and not learn the REAL lesson.

  • @joannewalker7863
    @joannewalker7863 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Outstanding job, *Charge backtools* I'm so glad you're out there battling these vile scammers. We must take every precaution to protect the general people and the elderly from these vile con artists!! Bravo to you!! You ought to be awarded the Nobel Prize for protecting us. Big up, brother

  • @isrulius
    @isrulius ปีที่แล้ว +60

    I will NEVER understand how people fall for these obviously fake romance scams. It’s so odd how some people will put their guard down for someone they never met and have no real life connection with and give them money - not small amounts of money, literally their life savings.
    And the scam techniques aren’t even that complex. The average person can spot them from miles away. People will bleed themselves dry for someone they’ve never seen, touched, hugged, kissed, nothing.

    • @dontbetreadin4777
      @dontbetreadin4777 ปีที่แล้ว

      It's not a scam, it's just asking an idiot for money and he's more than willing to do so due to unbelievable stupidity

    • @aestheticstorm
      @aestheticstorm ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Very lonely men frustrated with western women dating culture. I can see how it'd be hard to understand for someone not in that position. But think about it objectively and it at least makes sense. I got taken for a few thousand from someone in the Philippines. Thankfully I was smart enough to end it before I lost more. I learned my lesson, got back on the horse, and eventually met and married a very good woman from Thailand. We are 11 years into marriage now.

    • @MR_THINQ
      @MR_THINQ ปีที่แล้ว +7

      They fall for them because they’re desperate.

    • @Ayesha_5782
      @Ayesha_5782 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Loneliness and desperation for a connection can blind you to obvious/minor red flags. I didn't and would've never sent this person or possibly people any money, but I wasted 4 months being emotionally attached to a random person I had never seen or heard. At first, I thought they were a catfish because of his limited online presence and the lack of me ever seeing him or hearing his voice.
      This caused suspicions and arguments about him being a catfish. It wasn't until the last week of us talking, that was the first time he hinted at money and said, "Let's not fight through a keyboard, buy me a ticket, I'll come there and we'll fight in person." That's when all of the alarm bells started going off in my head, and I realized some minor red flags throughout our 4 month interaction.
      A lot of these scammers will play the long game, build up a friendship, etc, over weeks, months, or even years before they hint at or outright ask for you to do something financially for them. Scammers like that are usually smart, strategic, and patient at their con/scam. My experience taught me about long con scammers, I always assumed most scams were short cons where, within the first or few messages, it would be very obvious it was a scam, and I'd spot them easily.

    • @J-Williams
      @J-Williams ปีที่แล้ว

      The long game scammers usually juggle multiple prospects simultaneously, all at various stages of the con.

  • @kencopeland3471
    @kencopeland3471 ปีที่แล้ว +54

    There’s definitely a certain “type” that falls for these scams 🙄

    • @moiseskerschener2634
      @moiseskerschener2634 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      i can spot the certain type, just by looking at his goofy face 😂

    • @Oikofugix
      @Oikofugix ปีที่แล้ว

      @@moiseskerschener2634yessss look at his eyes 😅

    • @charlesxavier3489
      @charlesxavier3489 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

    • @specialagentorange4329
      @specialagentorange4329 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @moiseskerschener2634 How do you look like?

  • @strongheart1ful
    @strongheart1ful ปีที่แล้ว +88

    It probably wasn’t even a woman you were talking to.

    • @peartfaldo
      @peartfaldo 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ya think

  • @shellwirtful
    @shellwirtful ปีที่แล้ว +111

    As soon as you said, “she presented herself as also someone who had a very strong business background” I knew exactly what this was….. I watch way too many catfished videos 😆

    • @stephenking3356
      @stephenking3356 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Hard to watch that show. There was one episode where a rather nice looking recently retired lady lost her home and her two million dollar savings. I mean damn, couldn't she see what was going on by at least the one million dollar mark ??

  • @vintageexcellence
    @vintageexcellence ปีที่แล้ว +116

    It’s funny how he keeps calling the guy that scammed him “she”

    • @davidvalensi8616
      @davidvalensi8616 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      He doesn't get yet "she" doesn't exist.

    • @peartfaldo
      @peartfaldo ปีที่แล้ว

      its not even he...its a network of many.....

    • @VicMansaMusa
      @VicMansaMusa ปีที่แล้ว +17

      Delusional still

    • @Hildred6
      @Hildred6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      It takes time, it’s very common even after people realise

    • @helenaterschegget8791
      @helenaterschegget8791 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Not helpful .. it’s easy to say if you haven’t gone through being isolated, or lose your partner, or dies, it’s all about people being alone

  • @nkiru61
    @nkiru61 ปีที่แล้ว +95

    You lost it or gave it away? Telling the truth is an important part of healing. 😊

    • @thunderthormx
      @thunderthormx ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Very true

    • @NoleInJax
      @NoleInJax ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Either way, now he’s begging others to makes him good.

    • @pedrofrancisco2964
      @pedrofrancisco2964 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      I agree. This guy is ridiculous. He needs to chalk it up as a loss and move on. Don't ask other people to get you out of your own hole.

    • @pxmpkxn6163
      @pxmpkxn6163 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      i don’t believe yall understand or know what “scamming” is

    • @nadogrl
      @nadogrl 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@pxmpkxn6163- Is it taking advantage of someone else’s greed?

  • @ImaRockStarPR
    @ImaRockStarPR ปีที่แล้ว +160

    This guy is as witty as his scammers with this grafting video. “Oh look at me, I got scammed! Buy my course!”

    • @matuko313
      @matuko313 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      I think you mean "grifting." "Grafting" is the surgical implantation of living tissue.

    • @ImaRockStarPR
      @ImaRockStarPR ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@matuko313 i grift a graft! And I have sinned!

    • @nadogrl
      @nadogrl 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

      And he has the nerve to set up a GFM account!🤯👎🏼

    • @hiraldosternflyer7112
      @hiraldosternflyer7112 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      You should probably teach the bot how to spell properly.

    • @Rebecca-ci3zc
      @Rebecca-ci3zc 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      I couldn’t finish the video because his “short explanation” was waaay too long and dull. Can’t imagine buying a video to listen to him longer. No.

  • @realizingstory
    @realizingstory ปีที่แล้ว +31

    Really powerful that you come out to us and share your story. Your recovery, awareness, and aligned commitment to the rest of us is inspiring, assuring, and awakening. I'm greatful that you have decided to be a catalyst and a storyteller supporting a more empowered future.

    • @shaithaimassage
      @shaithaimassage  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you! That really means a lot

    • @garthqueen
      @garthqueen ปีที่แล้ว

      Sentimental nonsense.Hes just a silly tw*t

  • @donnaanderson7954
    @donnaanderson7954 ปีที่แล้ว +76

    This type of thing has been going on for so long, It's truly amazing to me that anyone would still fall for it!

    • @sarafreeman5073
      @sarafreeman5073 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Exactly what I was thinking!

    • @Teresilla
      @Teresilla ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Totally agree.

    • @emmaphilo4049
      @emmaphilo4049 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Loneliness. I am lonely too but I compensate through parasocial relationships on TH-cam lollll
      I never replied to the guys who are oil engineers good looking middle aged with pics all uploaded on the same day on Instagram. It screams catfishing!

  • @rubyparchment5523
    @rubyparchment5523 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    “Right now” is always the best time for a scammer.

  • @steamavila1818
    @steamavila1818 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    I had a friend who was talking to some girl online, he was sending her money to help her get papers to travel to meet him, I told him straight up that was a scam, he got mad at me and stopped talking to me, at the end I was right, this person was not real, you cannot help people like that, they are so desperate for someone to love them that they will do some dumb stuff that is pretty obvious to anybody else.

  • @grownwomen6208
    @grownwomen6208 4 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I’m so sorry this happened to you and I applaud you for sharing. I’m a psychologist and I find that when people feel really lonely and alone, there’s often a rush toward intimacy to feel better. The problem is intimacy takes time. It’s impossible without putting in the time. Otherwise it’s a fantasy person not the real person you’re attaching yourself to. I hope you seriously consider therapy for your healing. Good luck to you.

  • @lisasmith7066
    @lisasmith7066 ปีที่แล้ว +72

    I’m so sorry this happened to you. These con-artists have a metaphoric Ph.D in Con-vincing people to part with their money. Romance is one part of their scheme. It’s very kind of you to share you story to save others. Please continue to heal. This is not your fault. Empathy, Lisa 🙏🕊

    • @dogger37JC
      @dogger37JC ปีที่แล้ว +4

      She didn’t even have to do anything besides be nice to this guy. He was the one who asked her to help him make money investing. This guy in an idiot.

    • @afroblewmedia
      @afroblewmedia ปีที่แล้ว

      Who's fault is it?

    • @MOAB-UT
      @MOAB-UT ปีที่แล้ว

      Your name is not Lisa Smith. I think you are a scammer. Even your thumbnail was stolen from another site I saw. Cute dog regardless. Do better in life "LISA."

    • @dxcSOUL
      @dxcSOUL ปีที่แล้ว +1

      PhD? Nah. They have the same intellectual capabilities as people who drop out of highschool... If you've seen any romance scammer revealed videos, scammers just shower their victims with generic compliments... This dude has some sort of social deficit in his life, maybe not due to his own actions, there is a loneliness epidemic going around at the moment, but he got suckered in because out of either excessive loneliness or lust.

  • @SR71GIRL
    @SR71GIRL ปีที่แล้ว +32

    It's called catfishing.
    Thank you for sharing your experience as difficult as it is. I would imagine that you have saved someone elses life. The monetary damage is horrible, but the emotional damage is down right cruel in my eyes.
    I wish you all the best in your healing.

    • @dogger37JC
      @dogger37JC ปีที่แล้ว +1

      This isn’t cat fishing. Quite often they’re not stealing someone’s identity and pictures. They hire real women to do these scams.

    • @marklombard9360
      @marklombard9360 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      This is different. Pigbutchering is a very specific scam

    • @cococock2418
      @cococock2418 ปีที่แล้ว

      Not at all cat fishing. It’s a pig butchering scam. Cat fishing isn’t even a monetary thing, it’s something morbidly obese and ugly people do to try and feel attractive

    • @cococock2418
      @cococock2418 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@dogger37JCnone of these people are real women. These are Nigerian men behind fake pictures of women. The idea that these women are real is completely incorrect and actually is a dangerous myth to spread because it makes these pathetic losers think that a real woman was actually interacting with them instead of an 85 IQ Nigerian man. There’s a reason no video chat, and often not even a phone call, are involved in these scams

  • @wickhunter7733
    @wickhunter7733 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    (s)He was a heartless scammer. Thank you for sharing.

    • @shaithaimassage
      @shaithaimassage  ปีที่แล้ว +2

      You're welcome and I thank you for your words. They make an impact!

  • @Andreperera11
    @Andreperera11 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Keep up the great work *Briskdeft* , and never get down about what you do. These scum are responsible not you. So keep your head up regardless of what happens.
    You keep saving people all the time, so just remember those you have already saved it you ever get down. Love your channel and always stay positive.

  • @Randy2747
    @Randy2747 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    1.First thing is long distance dating doesn't work!
    2. If you think they are to good to be true... It probably is!
    3. Video chat them ASAP don't waste your time or money! DON'T BE GULLIABLE!!!

    • @hermajestyjane6605
      @hermajestyjane6605 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      These days they are getting more smart and only an intelligent person can not fall prey. I have seen how they do video calls with stolen pictures and even change the voice to hide accent.

    • @MOAB-UT
      @MOAB-UT ปีที่แล้ว +1

      It is not always that simple.
      1. Many long distance relationships work- every heard of 90 day fiance? My better half is not from the US- been together a very long time. She is an amazing woman.
      2. Is often true but if you are too cynuical all your life, you will miss out on real opportunities and good people- if you put out a cynical vibration to the Universe. Trust- but yes, verify. If they are not legit, I can usually find out with 2-3 key, simple but smart questions in about as many minutes.
      3. I agree with these tips. Smart. If they have excuses that last longer than a week, move on. See #2.

    • @PerfectInterview
      @PerfectInterview ปีที่แล้ว

      And learn how to spell!

  • @transitionsnc
    @transitionsnc ปีที่แล้ว +18

    I'm so sorry this happened to you. I'm glad your friends were skeptical and helped you research this. I pray you can recoup your $$$. All the best to you!

    • @dogger37JC
      @dogger37JC ปีที่แล้ว +1

      More like glad his friends are smarter than he is.

  • @resaboutb.9566
    @resaboutb.9566 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    This experience is a harsh realty for many, and I can see where the shame could drive one into silence, inner pain and even worse. Revealing that this happened to you lets other victims know they're not alone. By speaking up, you're shedding a light on this evil that will spread awareness and stop this from happening more. Thank you for sacrificing your privacy to help others.

    • @shaithaimassage
      @shaithaimassage  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you so much. Yes, you know it. It has that potential power. Your comments are very much appreciated.

  • @chrisiss666
    @chrisiss666 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I SALUTE You for all that your doing, helping all the victims of these scambaggs!
    They so deserved to be humiliated and be exposed to the public, these people have No place on this world, welldone *ChargeBack Tools* we're here to support you, More Power to you and all your friends, watching from France

  • @AntonSlavik
    @AntonSlavik ปีที่แล้ว +46

    Thank you for speaking out. It really does help others.

    • @shaithaimassage
      @shaithaimassage  ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Thank you very much. It's very much appreciated

    • @dilekavan5796
      @dilekavan5796 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      A Good Life Lesson!!!

  • @energybrown
    @energybrown ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Really feel for you. These type of scams are so prevalent nowadays. Thanks for being so brave and sharing your story.

    • @dogger37JC
      @dogger37JC ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yea so prevalent that you have to be kind of dumb to fall for it.

    • @kendallevans4079
      @kendallevans4079 ปีที่แล้ว

      "Brave"? He's making money with every "like". Nothing brave about that!

  • @pisces3121
    @pisces3121 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Same thing happened to me but I was lucky. I got out only losing $1000....but the shame and heart break is still the same.

  • @OuterHavenMedia
    @OuterHavenMedia ปีที่แล้ว +10

    You're supposed to be on there for dating purposes. If anyone starts talking about money, it's a scam. Also, people usually get taken because they're greedy.

    • @dilekavan5796
      @dilekavan5796 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Absolutely

  • @matklimat4202
    @matklimat4202 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    First huge red flag was that ”she” (probably a ”he” scammer) had excuses for not accepting a video conversation (not even a voice conversation). That means that the person don’t want to be seen on WhatsApp video, Skype or Zoom. Because on the other side is probably someone else than on the photos in the profile, most probably a man in Nigeria, Ghana or Russia.

    • @dogger37JC
      @dogger37JC ปีที่แล้ว

      No this particular scam is based from China or Hong Kong typically. It’s run by organized crime groups. They usually hire women to do this and often it is their real pictures but not always. Sometimes they will do voice or video calls. They usually use WhatsApp, WeChat, Telegram, or Line. The first red flag I can give to anyone is when they tell you that they do investments or crypto. Block them as soon as they tell you that. It’s usually early in the conversation.

  • @impulse_xs
    @impulse_xs ปีที่แล้ว +17

    “I got scammed like an idiot even though I won’t provide any evidence. Hey guise here’s a link to my gofundme!”
    TH-cam and grifting, name a more iconic duo.

  • @rockgo1991
    @rockgo1991 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I SALUTE you for all that your doing, helping all the victims of these scambaggs, they so deserved to be humiliated and be exposed to the public, these people have no place on this world, welldone Sir, *Charge backtools* we're here to support you, more Power to you and all your team!!

  • @irishsakura1
    @irishsakura1 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    I’m sorry this happened to you. Something similar happened to me except he was real but he was married. Never asked for money but I could see myself buying things because of him.
    What I have learned from this is that you don’t how lonely you are until something like this happens to you. When you finally wake up from that “spell” you feel like you reached the lowest part of your life. Even though time heals most wounds, teaching is the best therapy. I wish you luck on you future and as a person who LOVES getting a massage, I pray for your success.

    • @captainblando
      @captainblando ปีที่แล้ว +2

      How is that similar?

    • @dogger37JC
      @dogger37JC ปีที่แล้ว

      Yea that’s not similar 😂😂😂

  • @doriskurzz1798
    @doriskurzz1798 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    Now he has a go fund me page. Maybe he's a scammer!

    • @LuisaD93
      @LuisaD93 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Exactly what I’m thinking too.

    • @sparkles7420
      @sparkles7420 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I think you are right!!! First of all I don’t think you’re supposed to make a go fund me to rebuild your savings! People on here need to be alerted so they don’t donate to rebuild his savings!!!

    • @LuisaD93
      @LuisaD93 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@sparkles7420 click on the link he provided and report it as a scam

    • @Darkgaiarising
      @Darkgaiarising ปีที่แล้ว +7

      The first thing I thought is he’s trying to scam with his sad scamming story! He would be more convincing if he didn’t ask for money at the end. Now I doubt his story.

    • @gregwilson5393
      @gregwilson5393 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I'll give you my 2 cents. You gave your money away. Hopefully you learned something. That's my contribution to you.

  • @sasecool
    @sasecool 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Hilarious, *Charge backtools* I love the work you do mate. Those low life scammers take money from old ladies, they have no soul or heart and deserve everything u give them. Your doing a service to humanity. Love the videos, keep doing the good work mate

  • @jamalex
    @jamalex ปีที่แล้ว +27

    Shai - I’m sorry this happened. Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing ❤

    • @shaithaimassage
      @shaithaimassage  ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thank you for your words of support. Very much appreciated.

    • @pearlperlitavenegas2023
      @pearlperlitavenegas2023 ปีที่แล้ว

      Chai!!!

    • @Michelle-qd9gm
      @Michelle-qd9gm ปีที่แล้ว

      @@shaithaimassageso sorry this happened to you keep strong you can get through this you have done nothing wrong it’s them so pls don’t blame yourself

    • @dogger37JC
      @dogger37JC ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Michelle-qd9gmBut he is to blame. His fault he was as easy as it gets to scam.

  • @Bcsurvivor2014
    @Bcsurvivor2014 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Thank you for sharing your story. I really feel for you. I’m so sorry this happened to you but you show enormous courage in sharing your story. I can tell you are a very genuine person. Best of luck to you.

  • @donjacky99
    @donjacky99 ปีที่แล้ว +112

    This isn't a dating scam. It's a greed/investment scam

    • @dontbetreadin4777
      @dontbetreadin4777 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      It's not even that, it's not a scam. It's just asking stupid people for money... That's not a scam, it's a good way of living because of the amount of dumb people with money that are out there

    • @ozzierabbit587
      @ozzierabbit587 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@dontbetreadin4777 Well, it's a scam in that the point of the conversation is not for purposes of a relationship, but to trick someone out of their money---if the video itself isn't a scam.

    • @pxmpkxn6163
      @pxmpkxn6163 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@dontbetreadin4777it is a scam. and no its not a good way of living. people get killed over shit like this 😭

    • @nadogrl
      @nadogrl 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      It’s definitely a scam. They convinced him to put money in a crypto account, gave exorbitant temporary profits, then took it all, eventually.

    • @marknewton6984
      @marknewton6984 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Dating online is a scam. Don't do it.

  • @WVMothman
    @WVMothman 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I've toyed with these scammers for a long time and then block them. For one I only date local, and two I never give out personal information online, and three if it's too good to be true my first hunch is correct.

  • @mingmingyip19
    @mingmingyip19 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    If a person is out of your league and you would never normally be able to pull a person like this in real life, then the reality is they are a SCAMMER. Even more so if the age difference is significant

  • @josephalmond3759
    @josephalmond3759 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    For nine months in 2005 I searched for an ideal mate: healthy, humble, decent and kind. I found her, built our home, two businesses, a Retirement Tower, library and a vacant lot. Three boys blessed our life. Then, out of the blue, she told me by text that she wanted to be independent. I lost 13 years of my peak years of income. All of my retirement was taken. I will now work until age 75, and have learned that goodness and trust are tools that extract honest toil. Be careful, all. Yes, I am homeless. Yes, she attends Mass each week. Thank you, Jesus.

    • @thebadgerette69
      @thebadgerette69 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Very sorry to hear that. I hope things turn around for you.

    • @sophiem.579
      @sophiem.579 ปีที่แล้ว

      So sorry to hear your story

    • @PInk77W1
      @PInk77W1 ปีที่แล้ว

      Where ? USA ? Online ?
      So u married her had 3 kids and she divorced u ?
      I slept in my car 2000-08 to pay child support.

  • @FreeRadicals305
    @FreeRadicals305 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    The 1st 'Red Flag' was when he told about his 'dating story'. Never 'dated', never met. Sorry for all the pain, that's the only part that becomes real. A broken heart really is life changing.

    • @calebfuller4713
      @calebfuller4713 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      He says he met her once, which does help add an extra level of credibility to the scam. That woman must be very busy travelling around meeting with potential victims though! She's probably also working as a money mule to move cash.

  • @林素珍-k4r
    @林素珍-k4r 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Bravo, *VortexTrace* ! Your commitment to battling these scammers is commendable. We must unite in our efforts to shield the elderlv and the public from their despicable tactics. You're a true champion….

  • @rachealkibaiya7593
    @rachealkibaiya7593 ปีที่แล้ว +56

    This feels so familiar. I lost my dad but the pain and shame I felt when I got scammed on FB dating to someone I thought was Soo sincere was unbelievable. Sorry to hear this happened to you too

    • @shaithaimassage
      @shaithaimassage  ปีที่แล้ว +12

      My heart goes out to you as well. Hard to know what it's like unless it has happened to you. I hope your healing process is going well.

    • @gregorylyon1004
      @gregorylyon1004 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Don't feel bad. I had the same thing happen on a dating site. I lost over 1500 dollars being ignorant. I deleted all apps and quit online dating all together

  • @blancaestela4197
    @blancaestela4197 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    But it's not one person it is a gang of people. It happened to a family member, 200k less plus whatever else was not shared with us. This event was about buying gold.

    • @shaithaimassage
      @shaithaimassage  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      It is absolutely a very coordinated and organized group. Not just one person. Thanks for sharing. I'm very sorry that something related happened to someone in your family

  • @armandosanchez8901
    @armandosanchez8901 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    When something is too good to be true

  • @jamesramirez5276
    @jamesramirez5276 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Lots of Red Flags in this Relationship that I would have heeded….#1 NEVER let money out of your hands and it’s too good to be true……

  • @sacredlotustouch
    @sacredlotustouch ปีที่แล้ว +30

    I'm so sorry this happened to you. I'm sorry it happens to anyone 😢 I've recently been scammed, although to a much lesser degree. Thank you for sharing this, I will spread the word/warning. I wish you full healing and a life even better than it was before this happened. ❤

    • @shaithaimassage
      @shaithaimassage  ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thank you very much. Very much appreciated. I'm sorry to hear about your scam. Hopefully you are recovering well

    • @MrRowley5
      @MrRowley5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Only fools get scammed. More fool you I would say.

    • @inerit5175
      @inerit5175 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Being scammed is an awful feeling!

    • @MrRowley5
      @MrRowley5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      People who gets scammed probably deserve it for being naive and stupid.

    • @cristiantropea6067
      @cristiantropea6067 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Hello, I've been scammed in these days, too. Lost the savings of 8 years of work and now I would like to write a book about it, so that other people don't fall into this trap. If anyone wants to share their experience, it would be just great.

  • @drew9312
    @drew9312 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Sorry to hear about your story.
    Kudos for sharing- takes guts and will help others.
    Everyone be careful. NEVER give anyone you meet (either virtually or in person) money.

  • @RamakantRamakant-m4o
    @RamakantRamakant-m4o 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    You did an excellent job identifying errors and preventing us from squandering time and going down the incorrect path. Your attention to detail truly separates you from the competition. Excellent work! Jack, Your excellent labor has yielded tangible, beneficial outcomes for me. You are a formidable opponent…!!!!

  • @cashway0420
    @cashway0420 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Getting scammed or robbed is the worst feeling ever, I've had my apartment broken into and a lot of stuff stolen and just had mr car stolen and it truly sucks.

    • @Smith-zx4jb
      @Smith-zx4jb ปีที่แล้ว +2

      *GREYCYBERFIX* I wish there are more people like you out there. If I would have the knowledge, I would be part of your team indeed. God bless you Greycyberfix!!!
      Such a shame that the government that is supposed to do what you do, could care less, while you have to take matters into your own hands to do what authorities neglect to do, while taking our tax payers money.!!!!!

    • @Smith-zx4jb
      @Smith-zx4jb ปีที่แล้ว +2

      His page is on Instagram

    • @ShawnSheppard-qx9wu
      @ShawnSheppard-qx9wu ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Smith-zx4jbI think he’s legit, he helped me got all my stolen funds

    • @shaithaimassage
      @shaithaimassage  ปีที่แล้ว

      Very sorry to hear it. I feel for you and wish you well on your recovery

  • @micheleboyle3547
    @micheleboyle3547 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    I have watched a zillion shows about scammers, especially catfish…and on Wednesdays they have a new episode…I call it scammer Wednesday….and the stories are so similar as what your situation was….I hate scammers…scourge of the earth…glad your healing….you look like a super cool man…you’ll be ok❤