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  • A Florida woman is out $100,000 after she was tricked by an online dating scammer.
    Rebecca D’Antonio said she didn’t think much of joining a dating site - and didn’t really plan to use it, either - until she met “Matthew.”
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  • @jukes243
    @jukes243 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1238

    A true gentleman will never ask you for money.

  • @MBoldman50
    @MBoldman50 2 ปีที่แล้ว +278

    This woman sending 100K to a man she never met in person isn't "rape" - it's stupidity and desperation.

    • @londonbridges9739
      @londonbridges9739 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Amen

    • @londonbridges9739
      @londonbridges9739 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      If she would loose some weight and take a little care of herself then she would probably meet someone.

    • @MBoldman50
      @MBoldman50 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@londonbridges9739 The smell would still remain.

    • @pamelagraham890
      @pamelagraham890 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@MBoldman50 best comment!

    • @maxoverridemax
      @maxoverridemax ปีที่แล้ว +20

      It's sad, Some people want love so badly they are willing to believe anything. Even a lie.🤔

  • @ervinbosenbacher7356
    @ervinbosenbacher7356 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +60

    I came here to fix the title. Woman gave away 100k ... Shed did not lose anything, she gave it away on purpose.

    • @gone.golfing
      @gone.golfing 22 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Fix what title?

    • @TopoGigio555
      @TopoGigio555 17 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      @@gone.golfingThe headline title for the video says “Woman ‘loses’ $100k after falling victim to online dating scam”. The poster said she is fixing the title to say the woman didn’t “lose” the money, she “gave away $100k”. Get it?

    • @user-gc4zy2sr2g
      @user-gc4zy2sr2g 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      I swear, I really wish they would portray this correctly. None of these strangers steal the money. It is given away willingly! It’s so embarrassing that I can’t believe anyone agrees to be interviewed about it.

  • @lindaandreula2724
    @lindaandreula2724 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +67

    If they ask for money it's a scam. Block him!!!

    • @PIA-tj5hc
      @PIA-tj5hc 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      The end!!!!

    • @amilllion1
      @amilllion1 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Or a loser!

    • @MJordangame6
      @MJordangame6 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Immediately

  • @emjohnson7207
    @emjohnson7207 2 ปีที่แล้ว +313

    Her mistake was in thinking she was in a relationship.

    • @bxvs2732
      @bxvs2732 2 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      With someone she never met.lol...lol

    • @Earthomo
      @Earthomo 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Her stupidity!

    • @JaimeMesChiens
      @JaimeMesChiens 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Bazinga!

    • @enigmathegrayman2953
      @enigmathegrayman2953 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Desperation has no limits!

    • @emjohnson7207
      @emjohnson7207 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@enigmathegrayman2953 Always tell the man or woman you're struggling month to month when money topics come up. No man should ask a woman for 🤑. If he can't get a loan or 2nd job.... 🤷‍♀️

  • @whateverchannel22
    @whateverchannel22 2 ปีที่แล้ว +597

    This is the most easily avoided scam, with just one simple safeguard: DON'T GIVE ANYONE MONEY. Period. And then you're safe from this scam.

    • @klaybiggins4040
      @klaybiggins4040 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Yup

    • @johnsonajayi7846
      @johnsonajayi7846 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Stop talking with people that you have not seen after a month. Don't send money unless you know where they live.

    • @robertsmith3672
      @robertsmith3672 2 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      But these chubby old ladys are desperate

    • @whateverchannel22
      @whateverchannel22 2 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      @@robertsmith3672 Then they're going to be desperate, broke, AND heartbroken. People need to get hobbies. Join a community center, book club, bowling league, etc. ... not futz around online with needy strangers who speak bad English in a pronounced Nigerian accent. There's no excuse for it. If you're savvy enough to join a dating site, you should be savvy enough to know not to give anyone money. And dating sites, gaming sites and the like should create and post short tutorials about red flags, including what different accents sound like.

    • @gloriaa.garcia3985
      @gloriaa.garcia3985 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I've seen a TV program where they haven't met in person yet the female falls for it.

  • @Jpepperguy
    @Jpepperguy 2 ปีที่แล้ว +88

    My sister got scammed out of 15,000 and everyone told her it was a scammer and yet she continued. To this day she still spends all her time texting and talking to scammers for 3 years and still going strong. This is a mental disorder for women that are desperate for attention. My sister I feel knows she is being scammed but in her head, she feels it's worth it to have someone tell her they love her that way.

    • @mightymouse1005
      @mightymouse1005 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      Men too

    • @lesleymacfarlane5038
      @lesleymacfarlane5038 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      There MUST come a point when the victim is no longer a victim but is, in fact, a Volunteer to the deception. Realistically speaking, why the heck would a much younger attractive male be interested in an older woman ? We are talking about men with either a 6-pack and/or exciting professions worldwide. WHY would any woman not ask herself why her on line beau has so much TIME on his hands, are in love with you when you've never even met, lead drama filled lives what with locked out bank accounts, teenage children requiring an i-phone replacement, accidents at work yadda yadda yadda.

    • @christinecatt8039
      @christinecatt8039 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      No one can take advantage of you...unless you let them..!!!!

    • @Nakhon_Ratchasima
      @Nakhon_Ratchasima 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Absolutely correct.

    • @Profesah_411
      @Profesah_411 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      That is SO interesting but it makes sense that someone is literally paying for that affection/attention. Omg i have a close friend who just went through this scam. Before she knew it was a scam, I knew it.

  • @bratzboyz
    @bratzboyz ปีที่แล้ว +35

    How does one have a 'relationship' with someone one has NEVER met?

  • @user-wh4sf2mm3g
    @user-wh4sf2mm3g 2 ปีที่แล้ว +601

    The biggest crime here is she feels entitled to sue Western Union and MoneyGram for providing the service she paid them for; it’s not their job to interview every customer to diagnose clinical rE-Re’s at the counter.

    • @armchaireconomist8648
      @armchaireconomist8648 2 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      Disgraceful.

    • @Anonymous-54545
      @Anonymous-54545 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      She has no choice.

    • @justinebailey5333
      @justinebailey5333 2 ปีที่แล้ว +79

      Thank you I was just thinking the same thing.... You being desperate is everyone else fault

    • @armchaireconomist8648
      @armchaireconomist8648 2 ปีที่แล้ว +108

      @@Anonymous-54545 she had a choice not to wire money to a stranger, it not the wiring service comany's fault or responsibility that she gave all her money away.

    • @zenawarrior7442
      @zenawarrior7442 2 ปีที่แล้ว +36

      True. Same as sending $ to psychics etc. They think people are stupid for doing it so no penalties.

  • @dawnrowsey2645
    @dawnrowsey2645 2 ปีที่แล้ว +862

    The scariest thing....it happens in relationships too not just dating apps. Financial abuse is real and very much a scam too

    • @sunshineleo3725
      @sunshineleo3725 2 ปีที่แล้ว +56

      I've been dating someone for almost a year and neither one of us has had deep discussions about each other's finances. These losers start discussing it right away.

    • @KatieJCruz
      @KatieJCruz 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Yup. It happens with people from here, too.

    • @inerit5175
      @inerit5175 2 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      Be very wary ladies

    • @FreeSpirit47
      @FreeSpirit47 2 ปีที่แล้ว +82

      True. I dated a man for 5 months, real life, in person. After 5 months, he tried to squeeze money out of me. I told him that I wasn't going to give him any money. I would treat for dinners & lunches, put gas in his car, just, no cash.
      A month later, he tried again to get money from me for a reason he gave that I found to be a big lie. Although it hurt to let go of him, I knew that it was time. I took him out for dinner, brought with me any gift he had given to me. I gave the gifts back to him, wished him well
      I was crying & hurting for a long time after that. I got through it.

    • @KatieJCruz
      @KatieJCruz 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@willatag5854 ?? 🤔🤷🏻‍♀️

  • @cheechee5502
    @cheechee5502 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    She's making all the excuses for her foolishness, she smiles with admiration as she talks about him. See why she got swindle.

    • @blessedtobealive
      @blessedtobealive 4 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      I think a part of her still believes it

  • @estherhastime777
    @estherhastime777 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1049

    First sign of a scammer is THEY ASK YOU FOR MONEY!
    Don't do it!
    I commend this woman cause she didn't have to do this and warn anyone. Thank you for that.

    • @KayDejaVu
      @KayDejaVu 2 ปีที่แล้ว +39

      Exactly. These things don't just happen. It would never happen to me. 40K is over the top.

    • @cedricksamaniego9146
      @cedricksamaniego9146 2 ปีที่แล้ว +35

      If it sounds too good to be true, it probably isn't☺‼️

    • @Saffeyah
      @Saffeyah 2 ปีที่แล้ว +60

      There was a saying a long time ago that we should never give a man money. Especially a man you do not know.

    • @fehyndana7725
      @fehyndana7725 2 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      @@Saffeyah of course we shouldn’t! Men are natural providers, if they ask a woman they are supposedly romantically interested in for money, something is up! Major red flag! 🚩

    • @cristina4436
      @cristina4436 2 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      Damn right! Be smart people...

  • @terryterrific3955
    @terryterrific3955 2 ปีที่แล้ว +142

    According to most bank policies: If you VOLUNTARILY give your money to someone the bank will NOT reimburse you; REGARDLESS if you were scammed!!!

    • @AfricanWifeinPakistan
      @AfricanWifeinPakistan 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yes

    • @Rene-cn4jc
      @Rene-cn4jc 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      As someone in the financial industry .. for 7 years, you’re absolutely right.

    • @pangkoulee7648
      @pangkoulee7648 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      wow

    • @marineguy4eva
      @marineguy4eva 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I got $40 back from my bank after falling for a fake raffle scam. I paid with a credit card

    • @vitigaymer1053
      @vitigaymer1053 ปีที่แล้ว

      The cost of scam proofing for idiots will get passed on to everyone else.

  • @debbiemurphy2512
    @debbiemurphy2512 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    How can people send money to people they’ve never met?!! I can’t fathom it at all!!!

    • @niniyen1362
      @niniyen1362 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      And they are sending SO MUCH money.

    • @bdflatlander
      @bdflatlander 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

      You and me both!

  • @kesayo
    @kesayo 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    Stop trying to appease her and make it seem like she’s not stupid and it could happen to anyone. I wouldn’t even loan my own brother $1000 without having some sort of collateral or guaranteed way of getting it back. You are the gate keeper for your money. It’s not everyone else’s responsibility to make sure you’re spending it responsibly.

    • @mercedes9146
      @mercedes9146 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Thank you for saying that cause that’s how I felt too. This woman is a complete moron. She’s completely delusional and frankly it looks like she likes the attention.

    • @patriciajohnson6434
      @patriciajohnson6434 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

      You are so right!

    • @afrivox
      @afrivox 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I ONLY loan to my brother who is like a twin to me and I know would bail me out if I was in trouble too. I do help other people now and then but not strangers...and it is pure charity, I don't expect 'love" from them.

  • @saramarshall2957
    @saramarshall2957 2 ปีที่แล้ว +423

    I'm sorry I just don't get it. I don't know how people keep falling for this

  • @alyciacooper2
    @alyciacooper2 2 ปีที่แล้ว +183

    These women never talk to friends and family when the con artist starts asking for money. They come to you after the crap has hit the fan.

    • @redgunnerjed
      @redgunnerjed 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Ya they do. They just disagree and refuse to stop giving their lover money.
      They feel compelled to continue giving money.
      If they don’t, their lover will get angry, suffer from lack of medical care, or something else too horrible for them to believe.

    • @dr.ellieabdi9540
      @dr.ellieabdi9540 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Some do! I had a friend like that! We kept telling her but she was right & we were all wrong! She was OK to cut her friendship with us but not her 'relationship' . At the end she was out 50k before she figured it out !

    • @Angie-jm8kp
      @Angie-jm8kp 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@dr.ellieabdi9540 I had a friend in the same situation, whatever you tell them is a lie because their love would never con them. I tried a few times in as nice a way I could and the way she screamed at me with such venom was unbelievable. In the end you have to just cut yourself off cause it's so hard to listen to the crap they tell you. I've not spoke to her for maybe 4 years and don't know what the situation is but I would never go back to the abuse she gave me.

    • @dr.ellieabdi9540
      @dr.ellieabdi9540 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@Angie-jm8kp 😓😓😓😓👌

    • @JasonweedQ3
      @JasonweedQ3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      And some haven't even video chatted or met. Just sending money by the boat loads🫣

  • @GeorgiaThomas-ri7by
    @GeorgiaThomas-ri7by 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    How desperate do you have to be to send money to a dude just because he showed you some attention?

  • @petrabiedermann1947
    @petrabiedermann1947 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    If I am average looking and a guy extremely good looking is interested in me, all alarm bells go off, red flags all over. Usually people are close to the same on the attractiveness scale!

  • @NikkiC777
    @NikkiC777 2 ปีที่แล้ว +253

    She didn't want to be a "one night stand or a notch in someone's bedpost" but she was willing to get used for money, and get conned out of $100,000!!?? I think that is infinitely worse than those other options she was worried about.

    • @bobs5596
      @bobs5596 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      i wonder if she gave him 100k in a lump sum. they didn't describe how the payout occurred, or what was the mechanics. was it a loan or a gift, did he ask her for more and she kept paying, what was the hook. all she said was something vague about his supposed kid. i just want to know what some people will believe. i guess if biden won, there must be a whole lot of dummies out there.

    • @skyking6989
      @skyking6989 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      No self respecting man would want a one night stand with her

    • @cela9852
      @cela9852 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Yeah this is in the aftermath of what happened. No sane person willingly gets conned.

    • @carriem6427
      @carriem6427 ปีที่แล้ว

      Right ??..I've known guys who value money over pu$$y . Like that's their goal ...$$

    • @lamarsharpboss7998
      @lamarsharpboss7998 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I am with you on this

  • @Everyday.Runway
    @Everyday.Runway 2 ปีที่แล้ว +339

    How to not get scammed? JUST NEVER GIVE MONEY TO ANYONE. You’re welcomed🤣

    • @lindarandles2106
      @lindarandles2106 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Ever!!!

    • @Krystal_Kitty7
      @Krystal_Kitty7 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Right!!!?? But unfortunately they prey on those who have low self esteem

    • @winning3329
      @winning3329 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Theses scammers need some good old fashioned street justice. 🔫

    • @Hersheydimples
      @Hersheydimples 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      It's that simple. I don't understand how people are still getting played.

    • @drinkwatereatmelons7048
      @drinkwatereatmelons7048 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I'll give u food and donate clothes....but no $

  • @videorocketzmillar007milla5
    @videorocketzmillar007milla5 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Forget online dating. Meet the person. Don't fall for ANY story asking for money.

  • @nachogirl35
    @nachogirl35 2 ปีที่แล้ว +70

    It’s hard to feel sorry for people who are so easily taken… 🤦🏼‍♀️

    • @tashee8772
      @tashee8772 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      👏🏻

    • @MrRowley5
      @MrRowley5 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      I don't have any sympathy for them at all because it is their fault for being so stupid. They willingly gave their money away just because of some photos and chat lines.

    • @gro-wn8dq
      @gro-wn8dq 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Exactly.

    • @habiblamptey5629
      @habiblamptey5629 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      It’s crazy that some of the victims wouldn’t even give money to their own family members. But rather to a stranger

    • @freeradicals5144
      @freeradicals5144 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Not to state the obvious but this woman probably couldn't get a date in person. She was ripe for picking.

  • @moniqueloomis9772
    @moniqueloomis9772 2 ปีที่แล้ว +154

    He was an "oil magistrate?" Well, with a job like that, he should've been giving* money to her!

    • @dontbelongherefromanotherp9807
      @dontbelongherefromanotherp9807 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      They lie and say their money is tied up

    • @marydavis7978
      @marydavis7978 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Pathetic how some women falls for anything!

    • @JaimeMesChiens
      @JaimeMesChiens 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Well, they do tell the client (“victim”) that they’re filthy rich, but their money is “tied up.”
      There always a promise of much-more money later, if they give them money now.
      She did not say, but I have heard and read enough of these to know that there is ALWAYS greed of the client (“victim”) involved.
      Always.
      She also did not say, but I would suspect this man told her he is quite younger than she, and that “age is just a number,” and stole photos that show him as beautifully handsome. He then told her that “looks don’t matter. It’s what’s on the inside that counts,” lol.

    • @kevinrehberg8758
      @kevinrehberg8758 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Not to be an A-hole.. but she set her expectations too high..Did she honestly think she could "bag a rich guy"?..Much less a foreign one?? And if so.. what were the drawbacks on this "dreamboat" ?? The difficult truths too many ignore is there are very few Cinderellas and Snow Whites.. even fewer "princes" that could strolling by into your lives... but are you worthy???

    • @susanneschmidt6159
      @susanneschmidt6159 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      No offense but an oil magistrate would probably be looking for arm candy.

  • @kellypatterson4412
    @kellypatterson4412 2 ปีที่แล้ว +474

    How do you invest more than a year of year life in relationship with someone you've never actually met?!

    • @NekoNebula1313
      @NekoNebula1313 2 ปีที่แล้ว +56

      It's called being insecure ASF

    • @thevagabondsageinthewoods
      @thevagabondsageinthewoods 2 ปีที่แล้ว +46

      Insecurity, wanting love so desperately, wanting a relationship. Their need to be accepted far outweighs any logical and critical thinking. Love just takes over.

    • @thisisme3238
      @thisisme3238 2 ปีที่แล้ว +41

      Good question! They must be extremely lonely and extremely desperate, gullible and naive!

    • @Iquey
      @Iquey 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Right I'd rather be tiktok friends with someone, bc at least you have video of them, assuming they don't overdo the filters and effects. 😆

    • @BlendedBarbieDoll
      @BlendedBarbieDoll 2 ปีที่แล้ว +34

      There is someone for everyone I see it all the time in real life, the mall the grocery store. The problem is that some people who have a less desirable dating pool like the idea that some super handsome or beautiful person is attracted to them so they get swept away. They like the idea and fantasy that some super hot suave guy wants them damn well knowing that in their everyday life it’s not as realistic. Harsh truth. So when it’s online they can live out their fantasy. Honestly, these people usually fall victim to this because of superficial reason regardless of what they tell the public. Desperation is a bitch

  • @Gibson-zq7tb
    @Gibson-zq7tb 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Hating and mistrusting people helps one to not get involved in stuff like this.

    • @x3csP
      @x3csP หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      😂😂😂 best comment here. and true

  • @susanjaneterry1073
    @susanjaneterry1073 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    The devil doesn't wear red. He comes to you as everything you ever hoped and dreamed of.

  • @corineusa1454
    @corineusa1454 2 ปีที่แล้ว +443

    I'm well up in my 60s, when I was young pre/internet crimes like this were called " lonely hearts crime". I think this says it all. Nothing ever changes, just the magnitude.

    • @frenchvanilla7109
      @frenchvanilla7109 2 ปีที่แล้ว +48

      Wow lonely hearts crime is the best description. It's very sad

    • @alessaxn
      @alessaxn 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      wow

    • @brendalenoir2840
      @brendalenoir2840 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Yes they prey on those needing love.

    • @ericalorraine7943
      @ericalorraine7943 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      You are right and this is more reason i am looking for a trusted and genuine platform to invest

    • @dr.ellieabdi9540
      @dr.ellieabdi9540 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Ha. Ha. I remember that ❤

  • @aplanefliesabove
    @aplanefliesabove 2 ปีที่แล้ว +128

    The level of desperation is on the rise, it appears. Covid or not, a man asking a woman for money is a super huge red flag.

    • @shawnnij1937
      @shawnnij1937 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Thank you 💯💯💯

    • @Aaron_R
      @Aaron_R 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Dudes that ask women for money at the beginning of relationships are losers. I'm a dude. That being said, this is 100% the women's fault - unless he (or his friends) used a gun and robbed you, or held you against your will. I'll say, women scamming men out of money the usual line of business. Via onlyfans, strip club, gold digging, russian bridal websites, alimony, and many more... When dudes get scammed it is 100% the man's fault unless the women (or her friend) hold's him unwillingfully - (drugged and robbed, invited to hotel room and her boyfriend comes out and robs him, ect)...

    • @Gurra88
      @Gurra88 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      It's not a man thing. Anyone asking you for money is a red flag. Do you know how many women interested in me online have asked me for money? They immediately lost interest when I wouldn't send any. All of them weren't fake accounts. Some women just feign interest in men because they want money

    • @aplanefliesabove
      @aplanefliesabove 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@Gurra88 no one asked

    • @imlookingforthetoweroflear7871
      @imlookingforthetoweroflear7871 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@aplanefliesabove yeah and no one asked for your comment either. 🤷🏽‍♂️

  • @paulhaigh7017
    @paulhaigh7017 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    And did you notice she said more than once "We were in this relationship".
    So she naively thought that she was in, an actual relationship with someone that she had never met!
    So wrong.
    And after all these years of this happening, and all of us knowing about it.
    Why oh why do people still do this!

  • @channelthree9424
    @channelthree9424 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Before I knew romance scams existed, I would have never given my money to some guy not even in person.

  • @joeg9200
    @joeg9200 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    When I feel stupid from doing something wrong I watch these videos and I don’t feel dumb anymore

  • @honestytoafault
    @honestytoafault 2 ปีที่แล้ว +65

    Some dude asks me for money.... even $10.... bye

    • @lilpoohbear653
      @lilpoohbear653 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      yep...haha...gotta go. Real men dont ask women fo rmoney...they make their own.

    • @marknewton6984
      @marknewton6984 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      How about $5? Haha

  • @divarose2017
    @divarose2017 2 ปีที่แล้ว +157

    The minute a guy asks me for money, he is deleted!!! I have been there , he romanced me and one day he asked me to pay for his ticket him, because he was beaten in a foreign country. I said sure let me get my wallet, who do I make the check out to " Nigeria" you messed with the wrong woman !!!

    • @Simplyolivia1000
      @Simplyolivia1000 2 ปีที่แล้ว +53

      I had one that I flipped it on and told him I sent it and had them going back and forth to pick it up with a fake pick up number…😂😂😂 … I thought he would catch on after the 2nd or third time. He kept calling for like a week asking me to fix the pick up number. I got tired of scamming the scammer and finally told him to F off and blocked! 😂😂

    • @cassandradiaz7651
      @cassandradiaz7651 2 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      @@Simplyolivia1000 😂 Sometimes you just gotta fight fire with fire 😂

    • @ToniaAlex13
      @ToniaAlex13 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      @@Simplyolivia1000 😂😂😂

    • @dallen977
      @dallen977 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      @@Simplyolivia1000 that's fantastic made me belly laugh 🤣🤣

    • @ellenchristie9608
      @ellenchristie9608 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      ha ha ha

  • @BelindaJoy
    @BelindaJoy 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    How is this happeing? Some people are so stupid?
    NEVER response to strangers that flirt with you online
    NEVER send any stranger money.
    NEVER send a stranger photos or videos of yourself

  • @ellenbasilio5504
    @ellenbasilio5504 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    They’re victims but willing ones. Nobody forced them to give them money, that’s the thing. They’re also to blame because they’re gullible and easily fall to their flowery words. How can you be in a relationship with someone you don’t know and who hasn’t met ? For me, that’s delusional.

  • @teamcougars
    @teamcougars 2 ปีที่แล้ว +147

    Stories like this make me deny any friend request on Facebook that I don’t know!

    • @clarkclarke
      @clarkclarke 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      That's what I do ...I go to their "page" as well .. I only friend people I know or acquaintances

    • @thisisme3238
      @thisisme3238 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Facebook isn't the only place to watch for these scammers. A lot of TH-cam apps are used by these scammers too!

    • @LindaBarham
      @LindaBarham 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I just blocked someone on IG of someone who is following me. I kept getting strange messages everyday.

    • @michellemcgee3534
      @michellemcgee3534 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Facebook is full of scammers!

    • @teamcougars
      @teamcougars 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@michellemcgee3534 so is Instagram.

  • @Goldie4866
    @Goldie4866 2 ปีที่แล้ว +349

    Sadly she referred to this scenario as a ‘relationship’ and the truth be told, there’s no such thing as a relationship until you spend physical time together! Bless her heart! I’ve used online dating sites that are very scary as I look back. Be so careful!!

    • @susanlane4283
      @susanlane4283 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      Exactly...I love when they say I met him/her on this date...no you didn't

    • @bamu8328
      @bamu8328 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Welcome to the cyber world where you work, bank, worship, and communicate with people you never met in person. We've been forming these virtual relationships with people since they invented telephones and moving pictures 🤣

    • @SanFranDentist94301
      @SanFranDentist94301 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Let me know when yall make AND parent a baby that way.
      Until then...nawl.
      😂😂😂😂

    • @diane4488
      @diane4488 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      During the grooming process, they can make you actually feel like you've met the person, and have a proper relationship with them.
      I know because that happened to me. I cut them off when they started hinting that I might send them so money.
      But I'm not so arrogant to criticise those who don't have that awareness.

    • @geofreyumanger6542
      @geofreyumanger6542 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Rightly said and this is actually reason i am looking for a genuine and trusted platform to invest instead of me bearing the risk

  • @JohnVaglica
    @JohnVaglica 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I still and never will understand how someone gives 100k to someone you have never met.

    • @ahsanurr4219
      @ahsanurr4219 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      $100k could've used for travel and house

    • @michelle.goodridge
      @michelle.goodridge 18 วันที่ผ่านมา

      That’s what I would be using it for.

  • @BrakRulesAll
    @BrakRulesAll 17 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    "I'm gonna be really smart about this." Loses $100k. How does that happen??

  • @rhouse4958
    @rhouse4958 2 ปีที่แล้ว +160

    First sign was the accent, 2nd was international person, 3rd is never seeing the actual person in person, 4th is asking for a dime for the scammer or for the scammee to invest/purchase something. Ladies also don't say specifically what your looking on a dating site or on the first date. This is how someone can conform to what you want and not show you who they really are, thus deceiving you.

    • @January.
      @January. 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      *... you're looking for on a dating....

    • @PK-bh1ww
      @PK-bh1ww 2 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      1st sign was when they ask for $. A decent self supporting honest man/ woman with integrity wouldn't even ask.

    • @teascobie6557
      @teascobie6557 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      A good sign is also that we all know what society deems attractive in terms of physicality and race. If you suddenly have all kinds of attention from someone and you are not part of the group deemed attractive....beware.

    • @valeriedemello1794
      @valeriedemello1794 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Also, they never call you by your name. It's "baby" or My Love, etc. If they are "stuck" overseas, tell them to call the consulate.

    • @Vickygarcia73
      @Vickygarcia73 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I have an accent… I’m far from an scammer… half of the population in USA has an accent….

  • @user-ko2tu3ss3o
    @user-ko2tu3ss3o 2 ปีที่แล้ว +197

    Predators also look for large ladies, with low self esteem and very little experience with dating. They prey on these vulnerable women who are lonely. This lady is very strong and courageous for speaking out. Well done.

    • @seilahqlq1
      @seilahqlq1 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      And very old woman. A 64yo woman in Brazil sent 35k BRL to a good looking 20-something yo; he was a nigerian scammer of course with fake pics. The lady was retired, she took loans, can't barely aford food now.

    • @ellenchristie9608
      @ellenchristie9608 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      i'm a size 8 and pretty darn attractive, judging wrong again, you people are hilarious with your judgements and we know better syndrome, i'd rather be me any day than you even if I had a lesson or 2 to learn about how horrid society really is, catcha!

    • @shirinshaikh9268
      @shirinshaikh9268 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Yes very attractive according to you!! Lol

    • @misplacednewyawker
      @misplacednewyawker 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@ellenchristie9608 You might see yourself differently than a guy or you could be lying .

    • @ellenchristie9608
      @ellenchristie9608 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@misplacednewyawker that's hilarious!

  • @amberdavis5311
    @amberdavis5311 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    How is it a company's fault that you sent someone money?
    I'm not trying to be an ass, I just truly don't understand how they could be held responsible for it

    • @niniyen1362
      @niniyen1362 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    • @goldenparachute392
      @goldenparachute392 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Maybe they didn’t verify the identity of the person receiving the money by having them provide a legitimate form of ID

  • @TahoeSnowbird
    @TahoeSnowbird 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    She must have known something was fishy about the financial aspect of her relationship with the scammer or she would not have hidden it from her friends.

  • @mscherbeare
    @mscherbeare 2 ปีที่แล้ว +65

    Ok, after listening to this "victim" I realized something about myself... I'm cheap and a bit heartless.

    • @christina3521
      @christina3521 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      How about not a fool? Old fashioned common sense is in short supply.

    • @lydiapetra1211
      @lydiapetra1211 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Not to mention you have common sense...

    • @juliewright6304
      @juliewright6304 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Me too, I don’t like lending money as it is, let along giving it to someone I don’t know lol, no point trying to scam me you will get nothing lol

    • @rachelmora6227
      @rachelmora6227 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Ditto!

    • @michelle.goodridge
      @michelle.goodridge 18 วันที่ผ่านมา

      You are a realist. Nothing wrong with that.

  • @justry50
    @justry50 2 ปีที่แล้ว +369

    This hurts my heart. She sounds so intelligent, but unfortunately her emotional smarts were overwhelmed by her desire to love and be loved.

    • @grumpyoldlady_rants
      @grumpyoldlady_rants 2 ปีที่แล้ว +40

      You can be intelligent but still lack critical thinking skills and even basic common sense.

    • @440SPN
      @440SPN 2 ปีที่แล้ว +35

      She is intelligent but was very naive. Very sad story.

    • @whitenoiseihearu4018
      @whitenoiseihearu4018 2 ปีที่แล้ว +29

      You need to love yourself and God, before you look outside.

    • @winning3329
      @winning3329 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      @@grumpyoldlady_rants when you fall in love you don't think intellectually you think emotionally.
      We need to stop victim blaming people for doing something as basic as falling inlove.
      We should be blaming the one's who scam.

    • @haleyt3754
      @haleyt3754 2 ปีที่แล้ว +36

      @@winning3329 are you serious? It’s common sense that it’s sketchy for someone you’ve never met in person to ask you to send them money especially that much lmfao

  • @ValleyoftheRogue
    @ValleyoftheRogue 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    No way I would ever do online dating. I will be alone for the rest of my life before I will ever get involved with that. Too much risk and little reward.

    • @marknewton6984
      @marknewton6984 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      True. Online dating is for losers.

  • @ziorlauren255
    @ziorlauren255 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    These women didn't lose any money they gave the money away freely to the scammer

  • @petespike5000
    @petespike5000 2 ปีที่แล้ว +167

    People just don't learn, never SEND money to people you have never met and don't even know. I also want to add, most of these are located in Asia and Nigeria. Plenty of videos American businessmen have offices in the Philippines recruiting people to prey on victims. Nothing knew been going on for years.

    • @Cosmicoo82
      @Cosmicoo82 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Yeah Dr Phil exposes them all the time until these men and women are left TOTALLY BROKE!

    • @liz1995
      @liz1995 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Yes, but they are getting better and better. I almost got scammed and they had my head spinning. It was a learning experience but it can happen to anyone.

    • @Just_JennAy
      @Just_JennAy 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      💯💯💯♥️

    • @user-wh4sf2mm3g
      @user-wh4sf2mm3g 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      That 419 shit 😭😭😭 Largest economy in Africa and 65% of their GDP is from internet scamming morons. These women are all looking for Prince Charming but they’re only finding the one from Nigeria 🤦‍♂️🤯🤣

    • @KatieJCruz
      @KatieJCruz 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      There are plenty of people here in America that will scam you, too. Just make sure you don’t give money to anyone, even if they tell you the saddest story you’ve ever heard.

  • @FairyLights4713
    @FairyLights4713 2 ปีที่แล้ว +226

    ugh my mom lost $22,000 over the course of 4 months to a fake man named Rafael, and put us in complete ruins. this has destroyed our lives and we're now trying to dig ourselves out of the massive hole this "person" has left us in

    • @gardensofthegods
      @gardensofthegods 2 ปีที่แล้ว +47

      Salina ... really a shame that your mother fell for this con artist .
      Especially the fact that you feel it ruined everything and put you in a hole .
      Sorry but it sounds like she put romance with a stranger first over family and home ... wow I feel so bad for you I really do .
      I hope somehow you are able to get Justice and get your money back

    • @ticklemebreathless1394
      @ticklemebreathless1394 2 ปีที่แล้ว +37

      I'm sorry this happened to your family. I hope good things come your way so you can be free from that hole as soon as possible.
      My mom fell for it too. $700 in gift cards for a 'package at the airport'. From the 'widow with a child' to the 'military man needs money' she fell for it all. No matter how many times my husband and I warned her it was a scam, it didn't matter. She had super low self esteem at the time due to being divorced from my father recently and nobody could convince her it was a scam.
      She called us crying one day saying she couldn't pay rent and was going to be kicked out of her place. We paid her rent with the condition that she would never again send money to someone she had never met before. She's been very careful since but it put a strain on our personal relationship for a while. It's hard to watch it happen to someone you love dearly, especially when they won't listen to reason.

    • @rogenaqshairy3097
      @rogenaqshairy3097 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      I'm so sorry

    • @rebeccagutierrez8170
      @rebeccagutierrez8170 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Can't blame everyone else for your mom's financial abuse of you. When all is said and done you know. I've never used it but start a go fund me?! 😃

    • @rogenaqshairy3097
      @rogenaqshairy3097 2 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      I lost $40k in romance scam I lost everything I saved in 10 years I worked in low low minimum wage jobs 4$ in hours.. when covid hit he stole all my money and run to his country Algeria and he send a porn video of me without me knowing to my company and I lost my job and my family

  • @dewilew2137
    @dewilew2137 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    I am shocked and offended that western Union actually had to pay this woman. This was not their responsibility. This was her own stupidity. It’s not even like she’s an old woman who doesn’t understand internet safety. She’s a young enough women, and this happened to her years prior, so she was even a bit young than she is here. There’s no excuse, and these businesses should not have to refund her for mistakes that SHE made.

  • @kristac9809
    @kristac9809 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    My mother taught me at a very young age NEVER loan money to a man!! And I dated a man that asked me to borrow $50,000 him knowing I had that kind of money because I had received a nice inheritance from my parents. Loaning him that money was like giving it to him and my parents worked to hard for me to give that money away to a no good for nothing loser. Women be smart never fall for their BS!

    • @lydiapetra1211
      @lydiapetra1211 ปีที่แล้ว

      Good for you....da loser had some balls to ask you for that much money....

  • @avayu2289
    @avayu2289 2 ปีที่แล้ว +52

    If you love yourself in the healthy sense and are well adjusted to reality, you would never fall victim to emotional and financial scam.

  • @scarlettsemail2433
    @scarlettsemail2433 2 ปีที่แล้ว +60

    She’s still talking about him as if he’s real.

    • @ishp2
      @ishp2 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      You have to realize that they we're "real" for her...sadly duped.

    • @scarlettsemail2433
      @scarlettsemail2433 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@ishp2 True. I find it hard to believe anyone could be so gullible. It’s sad.

    • @desertangelfish140
      @desertangelfish140 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      She bought the con, hook, line and sinker!

  • @brimichelle6271
    @brimichelle6271 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I think people's unwillingness/lack of desire to establish genuine relationships nowadays has caused this. Lots of lonely people out there who would be willing to do or give away anything just to experience true intimacy. Hook-up culture and the emotionally-transactional nature of sex has really fucked society up :/

    • @patriciajohnson6434
      @patriciajohnson6434 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Lonely older people need to buy a good TV, get 200 channels; join the local senior citizens group, take up a new hobby or exhaust themselves traveling or joining a gym. Lastly they can volunteer in schools, hospitals or someplace else.

  • @wildnfree101
    @wildnfree101 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    You definitely have no chance of being a notch on someones bed post, if you are in a 'relationship' with someone who you have never met in person.

  • @linatziamihas402
    @linatziamihas402 2 ปีที่แล้ว +66

    I have received quite a number of requests to want to get to know me. The story is always the same, widowed with a child, working on an oil rig. I responded one time telling them I had 10 kids and was looking for a husband…they never called back🤣🤣

    • @Elena-er7zp
      @Elena-er7zp 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      🤣🤣🤣🤣 omg this is what I am gonna do!!

    • @seilahqlq1
      @seilahqlq1 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      It's so funny how these men always have kids. Even if these tales were real I wouldn't accept it...Why is it okay or attractive for men to have baggage and mothers are considered damaged goods?
      I have no kids so I don't want yours, not my responsibility!

    • @Incognitofication
      @Incognitofication 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      🤣🤣🤣

    • @cheerlynstovall5506
      @cheerlynstovall5506 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      😜😜😜

    • @ms.lolitagore5822
      @ms.lolitagore5822 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      😆😄😆😄😆😄

  • @kevingarris198
    @kevingarris198 2 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    In most of these instances I have seen, the person being targeted for fraud is physically less attractive than the person they believe to be their potential love interest. Having healthy self esteem is fine, but one should honestly ask themselves, is this person typical of those who are normally romantically interested in me in my everyday life?

    • @kevingarris198
      @kevingarris198 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @Endless Nameless I had never thought of that! (lol) Now that I've completed my 60th revolution around the Sun, my childhood male friends who literally stopped traffic with women hanging out of windows gawking, are every bit as invisible as I am. Am I a bad person for finding some solace in that? (lol)

    • @kevingarris198
      @kevingarris198 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @Endless Nameless That's why its so important to be realistic about yourself; young chicks today got a lot of game!

    • @michelle.goodridge
      @michelle.goodridge 18 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Just don’t send strangers money period. I don’t like to give money to friends and family so it’s pretty easy for me to say no to a stranger.

    • @stephenbanks5952
      @stephenbanks5952 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Yes this I agree with. I think it is a sense of arrogance that they probably ignored more normal unremarkable people in favour of some dreamboat because they have a heightened view of how attractive they are and what they are owed. When you are older you are lucky if you find a new relationship. Nothing is guaranteed. Go for somebody normal. Don't go for the dreamboat that you think you deserve. It is arrogance.

  • @lucyalderuccio8830
    @lucyalderuccio8830 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    There are a lot of scammers on facebook, but when you report them, facebook totally dismisses your claim. They need to be held accountable too.

  • @aishah5244
    @aishah5244 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I need her to just say she had low self-esteem and fell for the foolishness. And the fact that she made a conscious decisions to send money to someone and the companies have to pay, is sad.

  • @McPickleness
    @McPickleness 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    A Nigerian accent is not remotely similar to an Australian accent...

    • @moniqueloomis9772
      @moniqueloomis9772 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      True. And this is coming from a woman that believed an oil magistrate needed money from her! 😑

  • @flavorsweet8931
    @flavorsweet8931 2 ปีที่แล้ว +150

    It’s her own fault. Why would you give money to a stranger you never met, especially $100,000. The first time he asked for money she should’ve deleted him. 😯

    • @fabianruiz3566
      @fabianruiz3566 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      JACKSONTECHIE is a God sent, I appreciate your efforts in restoring my scammed crypto back

    • @diane4488
      @diane4488 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      You are either young and naive, or just an ignorant person.
      It's been shown that virtually anyone can be groomed and scammed in this way, at vulnerable times in their lives.
      I'm sorry for you that you have no sense or compassion in your soul.
      You are worse off than she is.

    • @staciesmom9639
      @staciesmom9639 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @ Flavor Sweet you'd think she'd figure out it was a scam after he needed $ time after time despite being a successful businessman.

    • @staciesmom9639
      @staciesmom9639 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@diane4488 no she's just pointing out that some people have no common sense and are beyond desperate. You know the old saying "a fool and his money......."

    • @tammyknipe6262
      @tammyknipe6262 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I completely agree.. I would never give or lend anyone that kind of money .. especially not some guy online lol people play victim but in reality they are gullible and believe the sad sob stories strangers say over the internet.. they deserve what they get especially now a days in the world we live in . Unless your married to them and or they’re family then and only then can you trust someone with that kind of money and even in some of those situations you can never 100 percent fully trust . .

  • @pmg5550
    @pmg5550 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    She did not lose 100k….she gave away 100k

  • @robertlaabs5066
    @robertlaabs5066 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I have a friend who this is happening to. So Sad! 😭 Thank You for your Courage!!

  • @georgygirl4502
    @georgygirl4502 2 ปีที่แล้ว +101

    How Are People With That Much Money So Stupid As To Give It To Strange Men??? How Did They Get That Much Money??

    • @HaightTheGreat
      @HaightTheGreat 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      I've been trying to figure that out for years because I know I'm smarter than a lot of people who have way more money than me.

    • @gardensofthegods
      @gardensofthegods 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      That's why I didn't feel this was the best journalism because she didn't explain how much she gave the first time she helped him ... doubtful she gave him the full $100,000 right up front .
      ... so it would have been nice to hear more of the whole story of how he conned her out of the full amount ... but we never got to hear what really happened

    • @ziggywalsh5562
      @ziggywalsh5562 2 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      No matter how much money one has; can’t buy IQ.

    • @artiemiss1724
      @artiemiss1724 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      She had to claim bankruptcy so obviously didn't have the money and probably used credit cards or loans. smh.

    • @ralphmajor1947
      @ralphmajor1947 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@HaightTheGreat 😂😂😂😂😂😁😉 too funny 😁 😂!

  • @amyhelen4
    @amyhelen4 2 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    Can somebody tell these women is ok to be completely single for a while. Loving yourself is all where it begins.

  • @pn4640
    @pn4640 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    To know the scammer, first they say “widowed”: profession “Engineering”, I did online dating as a woman in Canada, almost fell for it, but watching catfish and stories like this, everyone says that the wife died, they are engineer and they have a child….run run…run and don’t look back

  • @Kittybob03
    @Kittybob03 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you for sharing this!

  • @karenh4058
    @karenh4058 2 ปีที่แล้ว +237

    There’s a simple way to avoid falling for these scams - don’t use online dating. If a liar can lie to your face imagine how much easier it is to lie online.

    • @rowenanelson4400
      @rowenanelson4400 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      So very indeed true Facts Foreal!! 💯💯

    • @danor6812
      @danor6812 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Especially when they are keeping all the lies they are telling you. Straight and apart from all the lies they are telling 30 other women/men, they are talking too.

    • @CoCo-yv3hl
      @CoCo-yv3hl 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Facts

    • @PK-bh1ww
      @PK-bh1ww 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      And don't date "needy" men. If he's always needy, he's likely a loser...and a user.

    • @UdoADHD
      @UdoADHD 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      You know people scam in real life too? Lol

  • @lyricharmony...poetryinmot473
    @lyricharmony...poetryinmot473 2 ปีที่แล้ว +408

    Although she appears extremely intelligent and well-spoken, she is extremely gullable. I could smell that scam as she relayed the story. Her emotional vulnerability left her exposed. Who TF wires $10K to an invisible would be lover. Let's be honest....you haven't found love yet somehow, a handsome Australian off shore oiler chooses you but can't afford to support his son...and that doesn't raise your red flag? They target individuals who appear apologetic, desperate, and insecure in the profiles.

    • @susanlane4283
      @susanlane4283 2 ปีที่แล้ว +33

      Always has oil involved

    • @KC1up
      @KC1up 2 ปีที่แล้ว +35

      Truth. She didn’t send 100k from the get go. She kept giving him money over & over again still never meeting IRL or talking on FaceTime.

    • @cassandradiaz7651
      @cassandradiaz7651 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Did he even have a son? Scammers know kids pull at heartstrings so they will use kids to breakdown the walls we put up.

    • @arianamooon
      @arianamooon 2 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      If you are a good person, who had suffered much, you hope one day you meet someone special, and by now, you know the perfect package isnt going to present itself. Dont shame this woman. Shame on you. Its a shame we have people preying on people. Its a shame we hear “law of attraction” and things like love yourself and so when you finally DO love yourself and feel worthy, expecting good things to come because you put in work and went through a lot. If it worked out, it would be a non issue. But some of us are used/abused, just watching others have love and lives that we hope to one day have, knowing we will have to sacrifice this or that, knowing life wont hand you someone perfectly. We do the work we are asked or told to do. Then bullshit shows up to court us. Its really not fair. Brainwashed with movies and tv shows, brainwashed with “love yourself first” and any other bad advice. That maybe after years of hell and being alone, that you could have something, someone… venture into feeling worthy. And bam. Its truly horrible because it stems from being treated poorly as a child and a pattern that is truly hard to break. This woman is lucky she had friends and found real support. Dont shame her. Some people are out here doing their best, and dont see it coming, because their minds and hearts could never think that way. And when you DO think that way… its a horrible reality anyway. “Yeah what do you expect” type attitude really pisses me off because it shows how accepted scandal is in society. How prevalent.

    • @jonathancox4189
      @jonathancox4189 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      Only stupid people do send money 💰 to buy love 🤑🤑🤑🤑🤑🙈🙉🙉🙊

  • @kathya.gambrell9824
    @kathya.gambrell9824 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    If you give money to a person you've never met, you're a volunteer, not a victim.

  • @amelapapan6625
    @amelapapan6625 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Very informative. Thank you very much. Keep posting. 😊

  • @teepee8479
    @teepee8479 2 ปีที่แล้ว +189

    I can’t believe people fall for that shit. Wow

    • @thatgirlwhousedtohavereall5549
      @thatgirlwhousedtohavereall5549 2 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      Some people need a baby sitter.

    • @frozentundra7446
      @frozentundra7446 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@thatgirlwhousedtohavereall5549 Best 2022 internet comment - LOL!

    • @winning3329
      @winning3329 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@thatgirlwhousedtohavereall5549 when you are inlove you thinking with your emotions are not your brain.
      This can happen to anyone

    • @susanlane4283
      @susanlane4283 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Can't happen to people that don't trust Anyone

    • @frozentundra7446
      @frozentundra7446 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@winning3329 Bruv, no.

  • @hurricanedonna5606
    @hurricanedonna5606 2 ปีที่แล้ว +90

    Money-gram or Western union should not have to pay for her mistakes! She seems smart enough to know not to give men money online!

    • @AnastasiaBeaverhousn
      @AnastasiaBeaverhousn 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      Preach!!! She was the damn fool!! I swear NO one is held accountable for the asinine things they do anymore!! 🙄

    • @bratzboyz
      @bratzboyz ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Agree 100% with your comment! No one should have to babysit people and their money! 🙄

  • @loriwelch9015
    @loriwelch9015 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Unless they hack my credit card- there is NO WAY they are getting a dime out of me!

  • @seekingtruthlight
    @seekingtruthlight 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    An intelligent young woman. Bless you and may something absolutely wonderful happen to you! ❤️🙏❤️🙏

  • @Dahlia4777
    @Dahlia4777 2 ปีที่แล้ว +60

    Who the hell has 100 thousand dollars to throw around like that?!

    • @rentboy7566
      @rentboy7566 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      I saw her on another channel. It was a combo of totally emptying out her all her 401k, savings, and she also took out loans and maxed out credit cards. It’s unbelievable. I wouldn’t have done that for friends and family I’ve known my whole life , much less a stranger I’ve never met before.

    • @rosebudadkins6803
      @rosebudadkins6803 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I thought most of us were broke? We at most are hard pressed to meet a $1000.00 emergency. It astounds me!

    • @ladyfree3492
      @ladyfree3492 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I keep asking the same question 🙋‍♀️

    • @JE-im4im
      @JE-im4im 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@rentboy7566😂 wow, insane

    • @afrivox
      @afrivox 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I know a lady, here in Nz, on single moms benefit, who went as far as withdrawing her kiwisavwr for a guy she will never meet. Tried to ask some helpline of they could help her but since she was an adult and sending money on her own accord there was no criminal activity involved and there was nothing nobody could do about it. Oh well, I went back to my laptop and continued coding away 😂😂

  • @nova_beautysa
    @nova_beautysa 2 ปีที่แล้ว +56

    The fact that people have R100K to give to others makes me realize I’m a broke individual

  • @Andreperera11
    @Andreperera11 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Outstanding job, *Adroitkey* ! I'm so glad you're out there battling these vile scammers. We must take every precaution to protect the general people and the elderly from these vile con artists!!
    Bravo to you! You ought to be awarded the Nobel Prize for protecting us. Big up, brother 🙌🏽

    • @QCCatPlanes
      @QCCatPlanes 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Scam!!!

  • @americandevo
    @americandevo 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I once dated a guy for 6 months, he asked me to loan him 50$ and I said "adios much acho!" 👋

  • @divarose2017
    @divarose2017 2 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    First red flag, they want to take you off the dating site!!

  • @michelemaliano7860
    @michelemaliano7860 2 ปีที่แล้ว +250

    I worked these cases as a former fraud investigator. In pandemic times when people are at their loneliest due to isolation. These “Romeo’s” are the smoothest operators you will ever encounter. They are magnanimous, gregarious, and will make you think they are sensitive to your needs. In my opinion, “STAY AWAY FROM ONLINE DATING!” It’s better to be lonely than to lose your life savings, your dignity, and maybe your life because some of the victims will die by suicide. In most cases you cannot get your money back because YOU ENGAGED with the bad actor.

    • @Townie7177
      @Townie7177 2 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      I think they're hilarious. Always pretending to be American soldier

    • @marlenejenkins5534
      @marlenejenkins5534 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Yep, Michele but what tempted her originally - is that she knew people happily married through this method. I also know at least one person who has been married for years. So, would you say stay away or can they get involved - but no money - and do a background check?? This woman seemed to be an intelligent woman who had every reason to hope for a relationship.

    • @sc4112
      @sc4112 2 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      I agree that online dating is risky. I tried it and met a huge proportion of psychopaths in the process. However, I also ultimately met my partner through an app and we’d never have met otherwise. Be smart. Drive yourself and meet in public places until you know each other well. Get to know the other person’s social circle. Don’t give away your red flags but heed them when you see them. Don’t send or spend money, ladies. There is a greater proportion of wicked people on these apps than in the real world, but once in a while you’ll uncover a gem.

    • @sunshineleo3725
      @sunshineleo3725 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      I feel the key here is, while we don't wish to scare off our possible forever love by being skeptical about everything, there has to be a level of asking questions. If you ask a question and they get defensive or evasive, that could be a red flag. If the conversation of money comes in to play early in the game especially when you've never met face to face, another red flag.

    • @PungiFungi
      @PungiFungi 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      It is simple common sense.

  • @kalel311superman9
    @kalel311superman9 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    i was on instagram talking to this girl for a few days then just like that the girl asked me for 300 dollars....for gas money! and she was a nurse, supposedly

    • @marknewton6984
      @marknewton6984 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      What does she drive?

  • @user-qv4bs4pq6c
    @user-qv4bs4pq6c ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks for being a blessing to me and my family we appreciate your good works❤️❤️

  • @wpeters4361
    @wpeters4361 2 ปีที่แล้ว +48

    Story after story, and while I want to be sympathetic to these women...they seem so desperate that they have suspended any common sense and logic. They are willfully ignorant.

    • @Jennifer-fk8kb
      @Jennifer-fk8kb 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Such a good way to describe it. Willful ignorance for sure.

    • @bluecollarlit
      @bluecollarlit 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Listening to these stories, I keep thinking the fantasy is already in the victim's mind, she treasures it, and the scammer just activates it.
      People really scam themselves.

    • @rachelsanders2314
      @rachelsanders2314 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@bluecollarlit Wow…your comment is deep. Good points. 🤔… 💯

    • @karenelliott4815
      @karenelliott4815 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Talk shows are now overflowing with women who : are out of shape, have not seen a hairdresser and colorist, are middle aged to elderly. Their ignorance about how the modern world operated announces to the scammer that they are waiting to be victimized and humiliated. How often do we hear, “ I don’t know how gift cards work, “ “ He had to pay a VAT.” His son attends a prestigious school in Cairo,” “ the hospital wouldn’t discharge him until he paid his bill.” When, oh when have we heard of a hospital holding a patient hostage? And the absolute kicker, “ My Queen,”. Before sending money, Take a good look at yourselves, ladies! Please

  • @xeno4746
    @xeno4746 2 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    This trick is soooo old. About 25 years ago I was also approached by a scammer. At that time it was still unknown, also for me. He soon asked for money. I immediately said that I would not give money to a stranger. Then I got one last message in which he tried to work on my guilt. To which I replied that he had a problem and not me. I then reported him on the dating side.
    Please people, use your common sense, in real life AND online.

  • @ladyphigure
    @ladyphigure 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This happens with physical relationships as well all too often 😌😌.. So many scams with social media & various other apps. My heart goes out to those who fall prey..

  • @Cruise_227
    @Cruise_227 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    He took nothing, she gave him the money. Delusional enough too think someone like that would simply fall in love with her having never met her. Yes it's great she shared her story, but it's crazy that you would do something like that.

  • @nickyb7266
    @nickyb7266 2 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    Red flag number 1…. They ask for your email so as to chat off of the dating site!

  • @sunshineleo3725
    @sunshineleo3725 2 ปีที่แล้ว +74

    I had someone who attempted to do the exact same things with the almost exact same story. He was from Italy living in L.A. His wife died 2 years previously he had a daughter who was living with his father when he had to go on jobs. He was some kind of advisor for the oil industry. His latest job would bring in $3 million. I was always on the skeptical side because I had heard of scammers. He had contacted me through Twitter. He wanted to start talking through some other option to which I declined. Finally came the day where he asked me to help his daughter buy school books because his credit card was cancelled and he was waiting for the new one. I told him off and blocked him. I've learned the signs to look for because these guys are out there and always trying.

    • @apriwindianaherjawan1396
      @apriwindianaherjawan1396 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      Experienced with the guy, who claimed to live in US. He went for a business to UK and suddenly his son was very sick. Asked me to send $3000US but to his nanny. Haha. I 'dumped" him. I love my money more than men.

    • @kathyh7215
      @kathyh7215 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@apriwindianaherjawan1396 Lol, me too!

    • @susanasante9006
      @susanasante9006 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@apriwindianaherjawan1396 I was talking with this guy for a week he claimed that was from Texas widow and he had a nanny for his child, right there when he said NANNY it ring a bell , 😀😀a Texan will never said nanny, he will say a baby sitter, I block the SOB right there

    • @janetbrown6409
      @janetbrown6409 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      They always have millions but need a few hundred for fares etc

  • @highbrass3749
    @highbrass3749 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Imagine thinking any government agency wants to protect you. 😂

  • @stacydetwiler1475
    @stacydetwiler1475 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for sharing your story.. You deserve better than that.

  • @BaDazai
    @BaDazai 2 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    The way I'm so stingy, I'm not giving a love interest money, I would have offered prayers and prayed he found a way....😅😂 God is a better provider than me...

  • @Occupied_South
    @Occupied_South 2 ปีที่แล้ว +98

    So glad I was raised Southern. I haven't given a man money in my life. It's not done. It's unthinkable. Wake up, ladies.

    • @winning3329
      @winning3329 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      I agree never give a dude money

    • @fabledfantasty7343
      @fabledfantasty7343 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Being raised Southern, has nothing to do with it. Look at the stats, it includes people "raised Southern"!
      U sound so uneducated.

    • @drinkwatereatmelons7048
      @drinkwatereatmelons7048 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Not even my mother's son

    • @Elena-er7zp
      @Elena-er7zp 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@fabledfantasty7343 she meant old-fashioned but i know what you mean - elderly ladies get scammed too

    • @Melissa-kw1sl
      @Melissa-kw1sl 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I hear the voice of Blanche Devereaux from the Golden Girls while reading Unreconstructed Belles post. 😁🤣

  • @kathykubina2743
    @kathykubina2743 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    If it seems too good to be true it probably is. A real man does not ask a lady for$.

  • @lettyrodrz9940
    @lettyrodrz9940 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Don't send anything period!!!

  • @augustseven9243
    @augustseven9243 2 ปีที่แล้ว +71

    These are people who are severely desperate for love. Easy targets.

    • @augustseven9243
      @augustseven9243 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @Ruth Annabelle I agree. People are desperate. These scammers love bomb and these woman so desperately want to be loved they do whatever they can to keep them. Its so sad and pathetic

    • @PK-bh1ww
      @PK-bh1ww 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@bellereve1 they are not all "products of prostitutes or moms with multiple baby daddies etc." They can come from 2 parent affluent households. They are basically greedy lazy narcassists that find living off other's $ better than working for their own. Those getting taken are the ones who are more likely come from broken homes or have low self esteem. That's why they believe the bull. They are looking for someone to feed their self esteem and the scammer knows this

    • @sandilou2U
      @sandilou2U 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@bellereve1 Sorry but August said desperate for love. Nothing was said about attractiveness so, it is you who associated desperate with being unattractive. Hmm. That's pretty rude and quite ignorant. The truth is attractive people can be just as desperate because others only see them physically and basically dismiss who they are as a person then later be shamed by them for not submitting to become this package they envisioned. My point to you and August is... It does not matter what you look like or what personality you have, we are all desperate to be loved for who we are exactly as we are. Even people in relationships, some who have been married for years are desperate for that. We are all easy targets.

    • @dalehoward3704
      @dalehoward3704 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@sandilou2U You're right! The victims of that TINDER SWINDLER over in Europe were all VERY ATTRACTIVE, YOUNG women. They were cheated out of thousands of dollars each. And he wasn't bad looking, just ok. These women looked like they could have their pick of men, but he dressed in designer clothes, took pics of himself in limos, fancy jets, a supposed body guard,etc. After a while they all fell for him to the point where he conned them out of money ( he said some mysterious enemies were after him and he couldn't use his own credit card among other things). He got around 10 million all together. Scammers will go after any demografic with money to spare. Look up TINDER SWINDLER, the several stories on TH-cam.

    • @lynnarthur1411
      @lynnarthur1411 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Money scams can also occur within (offline) long term relationships that go bad for various reasons (i.e. hidden gambling debts and/or drug addiction). A spouse that’s trusted for 20 years could drain every cent of the couple’s financial security under the right circumstances.

  • @cynthg9547
    @cynthg9547 2 ปีที่แล้ว +66

    I would never date someone who ask me for money might lose out of gas money or few dollars but no big money

    • @PK-bh1ww
      @PK-bh1ww 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Exactly! I don't have sympathy for these fools.

    • @whatcher8151
      @whatcher8151 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Even a well dressed Christian lady stopped here out of gas on a Sunday around noon asking for gas. I'm disabled, not a penny to my name but I gave her and her big full sized new car five bucks to get gas but asked to have it back. I put in what mower gas I had, zoom off she goes smiling. Never seen again.

  • @paulettenoel4391
    @paulettenoel4391 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I will never understand how a woman can give money to a picture on a computer. Men are suppose to give & provide for women - not the other way around.

  • @RiverPaisley
    @RiverPaisley 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    This poor woman tries so hard to come across as street smart and she sadly was an easy target. It’s so sad.