Dear Sain & Vinodh - Another excellent topic! One word "Sandwiched" - meaning, our generation, who have moved out of India, are "sandwiched" between our parents generation and our children generation. The reality is - we, our generation can never please both our parents and our children - all at the same time. We need to balance both. We can do this "balancing" for a while.... However, as our children mature (especially when they head out to college and start living on their own), we need to pick a side - who are we going to please - our parents or our children? Chances are high that we will almost always lean more towards our children, as that's the nature. For the last 3 decades that we have been living here, we have mostly come across (with Asian/Indian friends circle) that more than 95% of our generation have always supported or sided with our children (more than our parents). We have experienced this with our child and I hope and pray that there should be NO more bad or any other negative sudden surprise that our child will bring to us that we will not be able to handle. You guys are great parents. Not to worry. Our children somehow learn that we are balancing (dancing) between our parents and them😀. They don't tell us that they know, but we know that they know😀. Once again, this is an interesting topic. As always, keep up the good work. Would love to meet you guys in person, when we visit CA🥰
Awesome topic Sain much needed for abroad living parents and teens also good that Vinodh added mom as well her opinion also matters a lot they are lively seeing our day to day struggle. This current generation gaps and needs are explained by you so well and I accept this gen gap of course. Inga pre planning pannalana we are out of the sync 😢. Hard to digest some facts but this is the reality. Happy that our kids being a girl or boy know how to survive here and they are open to do any decent job 👍. The example you gave for allow him to fail is what I also follow just offing my pongals 😂 Keep going dear!! Namaskarams to Amma 🙏she just resembles my Nainamma 😍
I totally agree I was with a bunch of a new neighbors who kept complaining about their husband or in-laws. Even I was about to get into that circle but escaped. This is true and that’s exactly what our kids go through too. We need to help them.
I m. male and watch this channel as I can relate as a Dad. Only one suggestion is to support Bachelor education if you can afford, Student loans are expensive and they start with the a handicap, I am not asking to spend it on ivy but give whatever u can afford now, that way the savings and compounding will build faster wealth for them. Again after prioritizing your retirement only .. many white friends recommended this as they had to start everything late, we are not gonna take all the money to grave so giving some for education is better.
Even Bush Jr’s parents used to live separately until they died. It’s not they don’t love their parents but dependency is worse. I always will appreciate a parent who is not dependent all the time. Limited dependency is ok but don’t think life is done if children don’t care for parent’s everyday 😊
I have been following you quite recently.Thanks for higlighting this topic .Kudos to the trio👍. I have got a couple of questions for you. How do you maintain your mental health to cope up with day today issues going around us? Do you read books on pshycology? Kindly share with us.❤
This topic part 2podunga. I was confused.ippo unga topic ,this video konjam understand this generation.bcoz,I am new to USA.My 10 year old boy,USA life 5 month parthu India vendamnu solraan. So,mudincha part 2 discussions podunga.plz
From my point of view Indians cannot grow our kids as indian kid here that’s why they r ABCD becoz their growing surroundings r like that parents also struck in that ….we need to set boundaries for them from 9 yrs old itself & we should teach them money value too…
You got it completely wrong. American India kids compared to american kids are relatovely successful. On STEM fields, go to better colleges.. You can read the stats. American Indians also are the top 10 percentile earners in the US.
@@lakshganesh4776 definition of success is very subjective. I am talking about American Indian kids being at top management or leaders or founders of big companies. It is comparatively way less than a white or black American kids.
You are correct. We are in NJ. I paid 100% for my elder son's BS. For MS, he applied loan $100K and he moved to UNC, NC. My younger son does not want to spend more money for BS, so he is starting in Community college. He is working part time and paying for his Community college. If I ask them about my properties and money in India, they are asking us to use it to enjoy our life.
Meaning they will not look after you duirng oldage.. Eorking as a geriatric Physician I have seen the worst with the current generation. So watcg out. If they say they dont want your assets then they are directly telling you dont expect them at end of life.
@@lakshganesh4776 Yes Man, you are 100% correct. I have crores of farm land and properties in India, they do not want it. Looks like, they want to be alone. I am not expecting them to take care of me or my wife, but we may like to spend our time with our Grand Children - right?. We know our future 😒. We may need to go back to India (because we can not handle the expenses in USA without salary income) and get our seats in Old-age orphanage. Only hope is my younger son as of now, he looks little bit of promising to take care of us, but I do not know his income to take care of us 😀. Anyway, we should not grow our expectation, I think
You grow as a person from your own life experience and the experience of people you meet along the way. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Even though there isn't any fixed solution for the problems faced in parenthood, the ideas you shared might be the possible solution to many challenges faced.
Lovely topic and discussion. Could relate to everything said about kids attitude and setting right expectations for them and us. Sailing in the same boat with a college going son. We pretty much have the same mindset. But We have promised to pay for his college, didn’t go with loan option after careful consideration , we said consider this as a loan from us so he can focus on his studies and not stress about repaying loan. Then he will be on his own and we will save for our retirement 🙂 Enjoyed the discussion thoroughly and couldnt agree more on the kidneys 😂
Beautiful narration on how to handle and when to correct. I am so happy that you gave a summary of perspectives from different stages of moms. Yes, I need to stop and realize and plan. Thanks a ton for helping us with loads of perspectives on handling kids , especially in the stage of power struggle.❤
What a beautiful topic and excellent discussion 👏👏 The point about showing attitude when trying to remind them something, exactly true for my 19 year old daughter! Yes we have to allow them to almost fail and learn 💕 also , love to see amma back on video 💗
Our generation was to lookafter everyone,but this genZ keep themselves in first position,u r talking our mind,we hv made up our mind to live our life on our own because we cannot keep any expectations from my children.Yes we did take education loan for my daughter to send her to US thinking to give some responsibility and yes she paid off immediately and the same thing i am gng to do for my son also otherwise they wont bother though they love us.This is genz mentality and evolution what u said.So lets accept this wholeheartedly
we always love Sain, but a bit more love for mom. really we are very proud of your mom and the way she conveys her thoughts. hope i wish seeing your mom once and give her a guys and says a thanks :)
Saindhavi I have two boys 22 and 18 both say they are adults they know everything they don’t need our help🥲 They wanted a space and trying to figure out life We can only guide them a bit and tell that we are here for you. It’s not just me all my close friends are in same phase of life.
Interested and motivation video about our expectations and how to correct it. I really like the way your mom is talking. please include her in more videos
Saint... Nice one... Please speak about how special kids struggle and their acceptance in general crowds ... I am in deep stress after going to a birthday party..
Very nice and interesting topics i immediately shared this to my daughter. Indian parents mattum than namma childrens ah protect pannanumnu ninaikroma illa inga irukuravangalum ( american parents) ninaipangala? 👍
It is a great topic and very matured views from your mom especially she is from India. When you get a chance, talk about how your life style adaptation in California from Michigan. Do you have to compromise for cost of living? or rush hour traffic? Whenever we travel to California, we get cultural shock - cost, traffic, too many asian subculture etc. Also we hear in news that people are migrating away from California after Covid. What is your thoughts on it?
1) Tbh today's kids are least interested in any kind of vacation or sight seeing...they are born with adult like liberty in their minds...its also because todays parents treat their children with equality and more like friends
Aka, boy child way of growing in independent way like american kids, easily understand and partially accepted. But as a girl child mom, expecting independency by that child, hard to accept. While I work in hospital in USA, proper Tamil girl health is affected due to her relationship 😮.. Over strict is not good, teenagers r running away..
It is quite concerning about this attitude of the current generation. I disagree with your mom that they will be alright. They will not be alright. I am a physicisn who treats elderly patients. It is quite tragic to see the lack of emotion. Then the kids become old...the same karmic cycle continues.i think we are all in the US from india as we did not say no.our kids if they were in India with the same attitude wouldnt have been able to come to the US. I feel proud of the hardships i went through. I am trying to tell my 11 yr old some stories to make him motivated, not sure how he will turn out. It is really hard to parent desi kids in America.
Just try to guide them if they listen or just leave them on their own ways but just check if they are safe.....take care of yourself and enjoy life. What you said is true: kids are evolving very fast and each generation will have its own pros and cons....like you I too think how this gen z/alpha kids are going built a family and live with it!!!!l Let see😂
How the World is Changing With Generation | Gen X - Z - Millennials - Alpha !!! தலைமுறை மாற்றங்கள் !!
Dear Sain & Vinodh - Another excellent topic! One word "Sandwiched" - meaning, our generation, who have moved out of India, are "sandwiched" between our parents generation and our children generation. The reality is - we, our generation can never please both our parents and our children - all at the same time. We need to balance both. We can do this "balancing" for a while.... However, as our children mature (especially when they head out to college and start living on their own), we need to pick a side - who are we going to please - our parents or our children? Chances are high that we will almost always lean more towards our children, as that's the nature. For the last 3 decades that we have been living here, we have mostly come across (with Asian/Indian friends circle) that more than 95% of our generation have always supported or sided with our children (more than our parents). We have experienced this with our child and I hope and pray that there should be NO more bad or any other negative sudden surprise that our child will bring to us that we will not be able to handle.
You guys are great parents. Not to worry. Our children somehow learn that we are balancing (dancing) between our parents and them😀. They don't tell us that they know, but we know that they know😀. Once again, this is an interesting topic. As always, keep up the good work. Would love to meet you guys in person, when we visit CA🥰
Awesome topic Sain much needed for abroad living parents and teens also good that Vinodh added mom as well her opinion also matters a lot they are lively seeing our day to day struggle. This current generation gaps and needs are explained by you so well and I accept this gen gap of course.
Inga pre planning pannalana we are out of the sync 😢. Hard to digest some facts but this is the reality. Happy that our kids being a girl or boy know how to survive here and they are open to do any decent job 👍. The example you gave for allow him to fail is what I also follow just offing my pongals 😂 Keep going dear!! Namaskarams to Amma 🙏she just resembles my Nainamma 😍
Thank you 🤗 ❤️
Lovely thought process and liberating too :) I love your clarity of thoughts, Saindhavi
Thank you so much 🙂
I totally agree I was with a bunch of a new neighbors who kept complaining about their husband or in-laws. Even I was about to get into that circle but escaped. This is true and that’s exactly what our kids go through too. We need to help them.
தலைமுறை மாற்றங்கள். சிந்திக்க வேண்டிய தலைப்பு. அருமையான கருத்துகள். ஆம். பிள்ளைகள் லோன் எடுத்துப் படிப்பதுதான் சிறந்தது. அப்போதுதான் பொறுப்பு வரும்.
Interest is 9% we need to be consider that 😂
I m. male and watch this channel as I can relate as a Dad. Only one suggestion is to support Bachelor education if you can afford, Student loans are expensive and they start with the a handicap, I am not asking to spend it on ivy but give whatever u can afford now, that way the savings and compounding will build faster wealth for them. Again after prioritizing your retirement only .. many white friends recommended this as they had to start everything late, we are not gonna take all the money to grave so giving some for education is better.
Even Bush Jr’s parents used to live separately until they died. It’s not they don’t love their parents but dependency is worse.
I always will appreciate a parent who is not dependent all the time. Limited dependency is ok but don’t think life is done if children don’t care for parent’s everyday 😊
I am 66yrs old lady from chennai now I am with my son in US for holidays.Got inspired from your mom's views in life and yours. Good one.
Wonderful video❤
I have been following you quite recently.Thanks for higlighting this topic .Kudos to the trio👍. I have got a couple of questions for you.
How do you maintain your mental health to cope up with day today issues going around us?
Do you read books on pshycology? Kindly share with us.❤
Thank you 😊
We made a video for this, stay tuned
What the billionaire offers is the network and the brand . They can get internship and jobs or become influencer easily than others
This topic part 2podunga. I was confused.ippo unga topic ,this video konjam understand this generation.bcoz,I am new to USA.My 10 year old boy,USA life 5 month parthu India vendamnu solraan. So,mudincha part 2 discussions podunga.plz
Sure 👍 Thank you 😊
From my point of view Indians cannot grow our kids as indian kid here that’s why they r ABCD becoz their growing surroundings r like that parents also struck in that ….we need to set boundaries for them from 9 yrs old itself & we should teach them money value too…
I totally agree our American Indian kids don’t have the DRIVE to achieve highest because they know they have a security 😊
You got it completely wrong. American India kids compared to american kids are relatovely successful. On STEM fields, go to better colleges.. You can read the stats. American Indians also are the top 10 percentile earners in the US.
@@lakshganesh4776 definition of success is very subjective. I am talking about American Indian kids being at top management or leaders or founders of big companies. It is comparatively way less than a white or black American kids.
You are correct. We are in NJ. I paid 100% for my elder son's BS. For MS, he applied loan $100K and he moved to UNC, NC. My younger son does not want to spend more money for BS, so he is starting in Community college. He is working part time and paying for his Community college. If I ask them about my properties and money in India, they are asking us to use it to enjoy our life.
Meaning they will not look after you duirng oldage.. Eorking as a geriatric Physician I have seen the worst with the current generation. So watcg out. If they say they dont want your assets then they are directly telling you dont expect them at end of life.
@@lakshganesh4776 Yes Man, you are 100% correct. I have crores of farm land and properties in India, they do not want it. Looks like, they want to be alone. I am not expecting them to take care of me or my wife, but we may like to spend our time with our Grand Children - right?. We know our future 😒. We may need to go back to India (because we can not handle the expenses in USA without salary income) and get our seats in Old-age orphanage. Only hope is my younger son as of now, he looks little bit of promising to take care of us, but I do not know his income to take care of us 😀. Anyway, we should not grow our expectation, I think
there is an opportunity to move Tennessee. Can you please help to share some tips and health insurance plan
Pls check with your employer
You grow as a person from your own life experience and the experience of people you meet along the way. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Even though there isn't any fixed solution for the problems faced in parenthood, the ideas you shared might be the possible solution to many challenges faced.
Excellent conversation by three of you!! So relatable as a family of four with a high schooler & middle schooler.
Lovely topic and discussion. Could relate to everything said about kids attitude and setting right expectations for them and us. Sailing in the same boat with a college going son. We pretty much have the same mindset. But We have promised to pay for his college, didn’t go with loan option after careful consideration , we said consider this as a loan from us so he can focus on his studies and not stress about repaying loan. Then he will be on his own and we will save for our retirement 🙂
Enjoyed the discussion thoroughly and couldnt agree more on the kidneys 😂
Beautiful narration on how to handle and when to correct. I am so happy that you gave a summary of perspectives from different stages of moms. Yes, I need to stop and realize and plan. Thanks a ton for helping us with loads of perspectives on handling kids , especially in the stage of power struggle.❤
Wonder how girl kids are 😊… I have a boy too and he talks like this and I feel good because he has a clear thought process..
Nice topic. Thanks Saindhavi😊
This we r gng through in India also,what u said is true,we r indian parents,i give wake up call to my daughter ,who is in US,still protective
What a beautiful topic and excellent discussion 👏👏 The point about showing attitude when trying to remind them something, exactly true for my 19 year old daughter! Yes we have to allow them to almost fail and learn 💕 also , love to see amma back on video 💗
Our generation was to lookafter everyone,but this genZ keep themselves in first position,u r talking our mind,we hv made up our mind to live our life on our own because we cannot keep any expectations from my children.Yes we did take education loan for my daughter to send her to US thinking to give some responsibility and yes she paid off immediately and the same thing i am gng to do for my son also otherwise they wont bother though they love us.This is genz mentality and evolution what u said.So lets accept this wholeheartedly
Spot on Saindhavi , could relate to almost everything you spoke about , became an avid follower of all your videos , lots of love from Pleasanton
we always love Sain, but a bit more love for mom. really we are very proud of your mom and the way she conveys her thoughts. hope i wish seeing your mom once and give her a guys and says a thanks :)
Saindhavi I have two boys 22 and 18 both say they are adults they know everything they don’t need our help🥲
They wanted a space and trying to figure out life
We can only guide them a bit and tell that we are here for you.
It’s not just me all my close friends are in same phase of life.
Excellent discussion…..
Please continue this series! You fill my traffic time 💞
Interested and motivation video about our expectations and how to correct it. I really like the way your mom is talking. please include her in more videos
I like your Bonding with mom and Amma’s conversation … cute talk … nice weekend conversation as I watched …
I loved the conversation. Outspoken..Please continue to do such videos.Happy to see Amma.God bless you all.
Thank you so much 🙂
You have a very good mom....she looks very modern mummy....I like her dressing sense she looks like thilagavathy ips.....
Very nice useful information shared... I love ur videos I am waiting for my future..
Saint... Nice one... Please speak about how special kids struggle and their acceptance in general crowds ... I am in deep stress after going to a birthday party..
Will do I’m trying to find someone certified to talk about this
Very interesting I am a mother of two girls I am excited...
Very nice and interesting topics i immediately shared this to my daughter. Indian parents mattum than namma childrens ah protect pannanumnu ninaikroma illa inga irukuravangalum ( american parents) ninaipangala? 👍
Wonderful question Made a video stay tuned thank you 😊
Amma’s English vera level 👌🏻
Good point she shared 👍🏻
Scary , but have to learn this reality
Hi Sain, Very interesting topic. Whatever you said is very very true. Please need more videos like this . Happy to c your mom.Thanks .
Big fan of Amma's vocabulary 🤗
Excellent topic ❤❤
Very nice topic . Can you make a video about taking education loans in US
Thanks made a video
excellent topic
Really enjoyed.very useful information.. I am seeing my future😂. Recently I moved to USA .
Need of the hour especially for those who are settled in US. Nice interaction.
It is a great topic and very matured views from your mom especially she is from India. When you get a chance, talk about how your life style adaptation in California from Michigan. Do you have to compromise for cost of living? or rush hour traffic? Whenever we travel to California, we get cultural shock - cost, traffic, too many asian subculture etc. Also we hear in news that people are migrating away from California after Covid. What is your thoughts on it?
Made a video stay tuned thank you 😊
Very interesting correct your thinking true
Pls read sivasankari noval palangal.
Our kids definitely need a push and understand pressure
1) Tbh today's kids are least interested in any kind of vacation or sight seeing...they are born with adult like liberty in their minds...its also because todays parents treat their children with equality and more like friends
Letting them plan and us just tagging along works. We decided to plan vacation based on her convenience and interests to make memories.
Aka, boy child way of growing in independent way like american kids, easily understand and partially accepted.
But as a girl child mom, expecting independency by that child, hard to accept.
While I work in hospital in USA, proper Tamil girl health is affected due to her relationship 😮..
Over strict is not good, teenagers r running away..
I understand
Interesting conversation!
Well saidSainthavi , I am in the same boat aswell
It is quite concerning about this attitude of the current generation. I disagree with your mom that they will be alright. They will not be alright. I am a physicisn who treats elderly patients. It is quite tragic to see the lack of emotion. Then the kids become old...the same karmic cycle continues.i think we are all in the US from india as we did not say no.our kids if they were in India with the same attitude wouldnt have been able to come to the US. I feel proud of the hardships i went through. I am trying to tell my 11 yr old some stories to make him motivated, not sure how he will turn out. It is really hard to parent desi kids in America.
Vinotth how are you, sainthavi you are always super,what you said 100/TRUE,sohappy to see Yr mom.super
Thank you so much 🙂
Very interesting topic happy to see mum
Just try to guide them if they listen or just leave them on their own ways but just check if they are safe.....take care of yourself and enjoy life. What you said is true: kids are evolving very fast and each generation will have its own pros and cons....like you I too think how this gen z/alpha kids are going built a family and live with it!!!!l Let see😂
I am 40 yrs old with 11& 9 yr old kids I am trying to change my mind now itself this is fate for whoever coming to usa from India 😢😅….
True - harsh reality
I loved your videos
100% true .
Please make another video for same I like it so much…❤
Indian citizen kids Undergraduate padikumbodhu work panalama?
No
@@SainthavisKitchenthey can. Indian citizen kids will be on student visa F1 and they have working opportunities within the university
You can I think. Please check with university
@@askavinanthini4459 Indian citizens as H4 dependents kids can’t work.
Big fan of you sis
Very nice…👌👌👌👏👏👏❤️❤️❤️👍👍👍
100%
Hello amma 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️
You r talking rubbish
Thank you for your time
Very nice useful information shared... I love ur videos I am waiting for my future..
Very nice useful information shared... I love ur videos I am waiting for my future..