Generally , Friendships have become harder now than 20-25 yrs ago in India or in US. Those days it was very casual, no invite needed and we could show up at a friends house or in a tea shop or around the corner. Now people have become competitive, classist behaviour as they grow rich and cut off people based on their needs and hobbies, jealousy and envy plays a huge part. Rather than have a fake friendship full of passive aggression, sarcistic comments disguised as "jokes" , constant subtle criticism of one`s dressing , appearnce, it is better to spend time alone peacefully with your family, pets or children at home. After 40, , reducing your circle to a 2-3 quality friends is best. My personal experience :). Nice discussion, TY
Adulthood friendships are harder to make and even harder to sustain. . Your point on scratch my back is painfully true. In reality every relationship even the closest ones are also kind of transactional . One relationship which could stay forever is the one we have with our own self!
I live in bay area for 18 years and the very first discrimination you get when you introduce to our fellow Indian is caste. Then, even within people speaking your language, you will be segregated by groupism based on the Hindu God you pray vs them , your food habits, and there will be a leader of the group who is a popular person the group will always praise for no reason and we have to butter their foot going to concerts, shops, potluck etc. If you don't butter, then you are neglected by the group. They will be very judgemental on your personal life and talk about it in the group openly. Your privacy will not be respected and they will expect you by force to take care of their things at anytime in the name of emotional dependency on the group. We have had a lot enough and quit from these internal groupism after 2 years of being here. We respect diversity and when migrating to another country we want to be mingling with all kinds of people from all countries. That's what our children should be taught.
I was confused with few things regarding friendship here in US. It’s really surprising that I’m not the only one with those kind of questions/issues/thoughts. Got to know that everyone is sailing in the same boat… thanks for the clarity
Nice conversation and it was funny too ..I too recently moved to a new community, and it's been hard to find friends. My son is the only Indian kid in his school, and I have to travel 3 miles just to connect with the Indian community. I do have a good friend who moved to San Mateo, and we chat casually once in a while. Instead of spending too much time searching for friends, I started a TH-cam channel😂, and alongside that, I'm pursuing a certification course to rejoin the workforce. These activities are keeping me busy and productive all the time.
This is a wonderful subject. My husband and I are very much like you guys. I’m friendly but I don’t need bff to hangout and gossip. I attend functions that I’m invited to but I get to choose if I want to attend or not. Vinodh’s reasoning is exactly why we distance ourselves from socializing among some groups. Constant talk about finances and properties is boring and I feel like it’s a personal choice. We can’t judge if someone doesn’t agree with you. I have some close friends whom we catch up occasionally and it’s always fun. You’re right. Be kind to all but don’t lose your peace trying to please others 😅
I think it helps if we learn to enjoy solitude. The cliche and clannish behavior is seen in all age groups and is not entirely caste or religion based. Like you said a group that has been together a long time is reluctant to add new people. I really enjoy my alone time. I can shop hapily on my own or relax with a book for the whole day. As I get older less patience in developing friendships or worry about established friend groups. Just don't care. A couple of nonjudgmental friends with whom you can be a little goofy and silly is the best. I have a couple of friends and we meet twice a year as they live out of state. We have so much fun. Great video Sainthavi. ❤ to mom.
True! I am just like you. And moreover if you have a curious mind, you have plenty of things to learn and improve yourself instead of depending on other people for your entertainment.
Adult friendships are hard. It's not the place or the nationalities or the ethnicities of the people involved. It's a very human problem. I've had struggles with Indian friends, I've also had struggles with my American friends. I've introspected a lot about this in the past year as Im healing from a chronic illness and find myself without many people on my side. The lesson I've learned is that people are doing what they know best and trying to stay afloat the way they know how. Don't take things personally and try to understand from their perspective like how Sainthavi is doing. Try to go inwards, see where your expectations come from and why this situation bothers you as much as you do. It could be stirring up childhood wounds and the more you go back and soothe that inner child you'll find its easier to bounce back from the pain that these situations stir up.
Amazing valid points by amma, we are all social animals. We’ve all been shunned in some groups and loved by many. But amma has a valid point, don’t give up trying. It’s not you, your need is very human and natural, each one has their own priority and preference, we should understand that first. Another easy way to make friends is to be readily helpful when others ask you for anything. Without an agenda. People are very wary of social climbers.
It is all the more difficult when both the husband and wife are introverted or socially awkward. Moreover, we are late parents. That itself causes a generation gap. Anyways, A lovely conversation as always!
Hi I came to US 4 years back and have been working home since then . So no friends in office , Kid is a toddler so no school friends Hiking - go out mostly with American group , hi bye types Got few Indian friends through networking - but they just call for birthday parties , we talk some random stuff and then next year party . It’s hard to find some good connections , someone we can call when we are low types . IPO I am kinda used to this house setup and oru nimadhi vandurchu 😅
Oh GOD, spot on analysis, so hilarious, I am stuck in a Hindi speaking group in my neighbourhood where they fall into their language and I’m left not understanding a thing. But we still need each other as it’s the only neighbourhood Desi group.
I don't understand on all these potlucks which goes on very late nights and peer pressure to do the same thing by other friends in the same group and it goes on for ever, Looks like fake friendship with these socializing setups also not sure is this the only way to make friends i wonder still.
Also i feel having a good shared hobby like you have with husband is important . Also if not , don’t get mad and enjoy solitude and go for lone shopping mall walks . It’s therapuatic
@@superteachertalk2688Aunty you should continue your channel.. I am a mother of 2 and love to teach my kids and need lot of tips.. Teaching is a difficult job, I feel seeing patients is easy as a doctor and my kids say I should srop teaching them😂
Good topic.. I exactly requested you to talk about the same few weeks back but I guess I used different terms to describe that.. thankfully you did it! We are facing a lot of these issues in our area! As Vinod said the women will be talking about jewelry, in laws issue, own housing and children.. so mostly the people who doesn’t have children, home are left out by the others.. and in an extreme they never care about children too.. when two adults having issues they prevent the children to talk to the other.. Amma’s advice to Rose is a much needed one for every other woman who is facing this kind of issues in a foreign land.. I loved the way she kept on giving advice by mentioning her name.. Thanks a lot for sharing your insights with us Sain ❤ I wish amma to talk more and give her insights on topics from next time 😇
Very nice discussion 💕 loved all your points and Amma’s positive words 🥰 even I want to be a very friendly and fun grandma when my kids have babies ❤ one more thing I realized is , even if your spouse is completely opposite and does not want to talk much , still you should keep trying to get your close circle of friends . At the end of the day you need both family and friends 💗
Excellent discussion!! I always see this problem in the U.K. often . There is big Tamil group here , many times people are quite unfriendly and many times confused ! Also , I have seen kids in school are non judgmental and my girls have had dates , no tamil speaking and parents are open minded. We being from India, always want community. Socialising set up is there every where but in India it’s niche set up yet .. Festivals are the main way to meet in temples or face book . Thare are many groups and also for women . We need to be open minded !!
Hi Sainthavi I love the way you call your boys and ask their opinion in the middle of your conversation. Matured conversation. Why to unnecessarily worry for others who reject us. Life is short.😊
Very lively and interesting family interactions. Liked your individual perspectives..end of the day you find only a few "like minded" ,even among friends there would be varied opinions/interests..but keeping in touch doesn't cost you.Honestly you will never find one truly matching your likes/dislikes.End of the day Family socialising in current days works well.
I’m in the same boat in San Ramon as I have no kids so I feel exactly like the San Antonio last. When we go for walks mostky fellow desks don’t even bother making eye contact or smiling. I smile at them and they stare back!!? WTH! Asians and whites are friendlier! I think desis and Indian women especially here in San Ramon are super arrogant and snooty
Nice video.. I felt vry bad about Frds behavior, last yr they invited to their home for kolu but this time didn’t invite me Romba kavalaiya irundhadhu after watched yr video I feel so good After seeing this I don’t care anymore if anyone talk to me or not.. I Two friends irudha kuda unmaiya irundha podhum Thanks 🙏
Excellent explanation given by your mother. Shows her experience in life. You played a devils advocate role in the conservation with her which was engaging for the viewers
Nalla topic. I face the same sometimes. When i see the same person talking to their community and ignoring me i feel bad. My kid also face the same in school sometimes.
@@L20241 Technically no. But you’ll get the idea that they cannot be too different from you (like 5 times richer or 10 times poorer .😀). Plus, the tons of things in common starting from the weather, road conditions, activities in the neighborhood, repair, renovation, carpool, public transport, etc.
Everybody moved to USA to earn money and have better living standards. They want to be best ( in terms of wealth)compared to others. So this competitive approach makes people feel less secured and keeps them in survival mode ( being restlessness /depressed).
well said. Be friendly and if they need help you can help and talk. No need to be close and going to parties talking about RSU's and making millions like brother vinodh said. Which will give anxiety and depression to other friend who doesn't have it.
Good Topic. I been in US from 1988. That time not that many Indians. I am a very friendly I like to talk and I love company. Usually here with the kids friends we get friend with the parents. I went through same Rose went thru. But I am a good cook and a good gardener love my plants . I been in different states too. But u have to given and take if u need friends. Same thing happen to me. I raised two boys but all my friends where I live have girls. But one thing u need only one good friend to share your feelings. I have one set of mind if they don’t want to friend with us then they r the losers. Try to do whatever u like whatever u r best in it. I still couldn’t find anybody as like as me. Mostly here they expect something in return. Like sayan said I introduce some friend my friend they leave me and they are very good friends. That is ok then I step back.
School itself does it. They have raffle ticket in the beginning of the year for turning in the reading log. Children read more with incentives in my opinion😂
Thavin and Vivian are thinking - and most Indian American kids are thinking - edhi ellam orru problem 😂😂😂😂😂 They would say - aunty go and enjoy your solitude 😂😂😂
Better be happy with your family and keep exploring. Dont be clanish. Be even with everyone, think good for everyone, if possible help or just be you. Socializeing without expectations is rare....if you are ready to share time and help others ypu can easily socialize.....its all give and take. Sometimes you will get exploited....Better unga velaya parunga, avanga avanga velaya papanga😂😂😂😂
You only talked about dress for example nowadays some people are doing reels if I'm not interested to do those kind of reels they will not include you in that group and they will see status also like if they are having own house or not
Intha video enaku potamariye iruku 35.25 la sainthavi keta 3 questions super ah irunththu antha 3 resion kum friends venum mukiyama etho oru function ku avanga varum tha and ethathu information therinjikanum nu avangala pudichi thongavenditha iruku
Hi Sainthavi, Thank you for bringing up this topic..The points you mentioned were so genuine for the people who live here in overseas, especially in US...we just enjoyed the whole family conversation especially Vinod Bro telling the reasons of why he is not that much interested talking to mens during special gathering and your as well..we are just like you..we can easily connect with you guys ..BTW we are in US for the past 14 yrs...I like Aunty very much..kindly give my regards to her..Please do such kind of videos in near future...Have a great day...
Hey Sainthavi, I appreciate your effort in this content. A small suggestion. It's too boring that you are always praising yourself in every video. Take it as a constructive feedback if you want.
Why she has to come infront of the camera to put her down? Already social media is full of such things... putting down somebody somehow makes people feel happy abt it. Let's spread some good vibes too. She is proud of her, let it be.. what's wrong?
@@anusuyadevi9828 none of us said that. She is being true to herself and she is not hear to please anyone. No one is correct all the time. She is also learning as much as we are learning from her conversations. She is doing great work by sharing real problems and not reel problems of NRIs. See accepting constructive criticism is also part of growing. We are not right either and we are also learning in this process. That’s why USA is like this. Constructive criticism only makes you grow. Unfortunately most Indians look at criticism like something wrong immediately. This is because that’s what most Indian families teach their children. When a white American (not black or Spanish) says it they will accept it. Indians have to learn to accept it and grow out of it.
@@anusuyadevi9828 For your information, nobody is spreading negative vibes here. As a viewer, I have all the right to say what I feel about the content. I don't understand how you found any negativity or negative vibes in my comment above. I hope Saithsvi takes it as constructive feedback, as she is mature enough to understand my intention. It's better you try not to be a fangirl here.
Ha ha… it’s worse among all communities… keep yourself busy and you don’t need to be in others party 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂….. be strong!!!! Also don’t confuse this being anti-social but it’s not easy for anyone… some do it because of their public image!!! If you care about your public image then do it and do bother about comments!!!
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Generally , Friendships have become harder now than 20-25 yrs ago in India or in US. Those days it was very casual, no invite needed and we could show up at a friends house or in a tea shop or around the corner. Now people have become competitive, classist behaviour as they grow rich and cut off people based on their needs and hobbies, jealousy and envy plays a huge part. Rather than have a fake friendship full of passive aggression, sarcistic comments disguised as "jokes" , constant subtle criticism of one`s dressing , appearnce, it is better to spend time alone peacefully with your family, pets or children at home. After 40, , reducing your circle to a 2-3 quality friends is best. My personal experience :). Nice discussion, TY
What you have said is exactly true, I too sailed on that boat. Now I started to have my own time by doing my favorites.😊
Aptly put
Thank you for sharing 😀
Its true
❤
Adulthood friendships are harder to make and even harder to sustain. . Your point on scratch my back is painfully true. In reality every relationship even the closest ones are also kind of transactional . One relationship which could stay forever is the one we have with our own self!
I agree
❤
I live in bay area for 18 years and the very first discrimination you get when you introduce to our fellow Indian is caste. Then, even within people speaking your language, you will be segregated by groupism based on the Hindu God you pray vs them , your food habits, and there will be a leader of the group who is a popular person the group will always praise for no reason and we have to butter their foot going to concerts, shops, potluck etc. If you don't butter, then you are neglected by the group. They will be very judgemental on your personal life and talk about it in the group openly. Your privacy will not be respected and they will expect you by force to take care of their things at anytime in the name of emotional dependency on the group. We have had a lot enough and quit from these internal groupism after 2 years of being here. We respect diversity and when migrating to another country we want to be mingling with all kinds of people from all countries. That's what our children should be taught.
Very aptly put.
❤
True I neither belong in my caste nor am I accepted in different caste
I was confused with few things regarding friendship here in US. It’s really surprising that I’m not the only one with those kind of questions/issues/thoughts. Got to know that everyone is sailing in the same boat… thanks for the clarity
Nice conversation and it was funny too ..I too recently moved to a new community, and it's been hard to find friends. My son is the only Indian kid in his school, and I have to travel 3 miles just to connect with the Indian community. I do have a good friend who moved to San Mateo, and we chat casually once in a while. Instead of spending too much time searching for friends, I started a TH-cam channel😂, and alongside that, I'm pursuing a certification course to rejoin the workforce. These activities are keeping me busy and productive all the time.
Super I’m happy for you 😀 congrats
This is a wonderful subject. My husband and I are very much like you guys. I’m friendly but I don’t need bff to hangout and gossip. I attend functions that I’m invited to but I get to choose if I want to attend or not. Vinodh’s reasoning is exactly why we distance ourselves from socializing among some groups. Constant talk about finances and properties is boring and I feel like it’s a personal choice. We can’t judge if someone doesn’t agree with you. I have some close friends whom we catch up occasionally and it’s always fun. You’re right. Be kind to all but don’t lose your peace trying to please others 😅
How nice to know that we are similar! Thank you 😊 for sharing
I think it helps if we learn to enjoy solitude. The cliche and clannish behavior is seen in all age groups and is not entirely caste or religion based. Like you said a group that has been together a long time is reluctant to add new people. I really enjoy my alone time. I can shop hapily on my own or relax with a book for the whole day. As I get older less patience in developing friendships or worry about established friend groups. Just don't care. A couple of nonjudgmental friends with whom you can be a little goofy and silly is the best. I have a couple of friends and we meet twice a year as they live out of state. We have so much fun. Great video Sainthavi. ❤ to mom.
well said
Thank you 😊 ❤️
True! I am just like you. And moreover if you have a curious mind, you have plenty of things to learn and improve yourself instead of depending on other people for your entertainment.
What a brilliant discussion...this very topic will make you very popular..Great pick
Thank you
Adult friendships are hard. It's not the place or the nationalities or the ethnicities of the people involved. It's a very human problem. I've had struggles with Indian friends, I've also had struggles with my American friends. I've introspected a lot about this in the past year as Im healing from a chronic illness and find myself without many people on my side. The lesson I've learned is that people are doing what they know best and trying to stay afloat the way they know how. Don't take things personally and try to understand from their perspective like how Sainthavi is doing. Try to go inwards, see where your expectations come from and why this situation bothers you as much as you do. It could be stirring up childhood wounds and the more you go back and soothe that inner child you'll find its easier to bounce back from the pain that these situations stir up.
Feel better soon 🤗 💕
Good topic! Love to hear the mom’s speech! Great clarity ❤
Thank you! 🤗
Amazing valid points by amma, we are all social animals. We’ve all been shunned in some groups and loved by many. But amma has a valid point, don’t give up trying. It’s not you, your need is very human and natural, each one has their own priority and preference, we should understand that first. Another easy way to make friends is to be readily helpful when others ask you for anything. Without an agenda. People are very wary of social climbers.
Correct
It is all the more difficult when both the husband and wife are introverted or socially awkward. Moreover, we are late parents. That itself causes a generation gap. Anyways, A lovely conversation as always!
Good point
Hi I came to US 4 years back and have been working home since then .
So no friends in office ,
Kid is a toddler so no school friends
Hiking - go out mostly with American group , hi bye types
Got few Indian friends through networking - but they just call for birthday parties , we talk some random stuff and then next year party .
It’s hard to find some good connections , someone we can call when we are low types .
IPO I am kinda used to this house setup and oru nimadhi vandurchu 😅
Super
Oh GOD, spot on analysis, so hilarious, I am stuck in a Hindi speaking group in my neighbourhood where they fall into their language and I’m left not understanding a thing. But we still need each other as it’s the only neighbourhood Desi group.
😢
I’m surrounded by Telugus in San Ramon and although we are Telugus but from TN so do consider us Tamils. For Tamilians we are Telugus! 😂
@@L20241so hilarious...I am a tamilian from Bangalore..lol so you can imagine it's even worse...😂😂😂
@@lakshmig2061 omg 😂
@@L20241same situation 😄😄
Sainthavi. It was excellent topic and so relevant now. Your mom’s advice and perspective is wonderful. Loved her talk.
Thank you so much 🙂
Very much needed topic Sainthavi. I was thinking i was the only one facing this issue.Started exploring my own passion
I don't understand on all these potlucks which goes on very late nights and peer pressure to do the same thing by other friends in the same group and it goes on for ever, Looks like fake friendship with these socializing setups also not sure is this the only way to make friends i wonder still.
Thank you Sainthavi for presenting this wonderful video ❤
My pleasure 😊 thank you ❤️
Also i feel having a good shared hobby like you have with husband is important .
Also if not , don’t get mad and enjoy solitude and go for lone shopping mall walks .
It’s therapuatic
Wow”ur spending time for someone wholeheartedly with all ur family members,which no one would do.Great Sainthavi ,Amma,Vinodh,Thawin,Vivin👌🏻👏👏👏
Thank you so much 🤗 ❤️
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@@superteachertalk2688Aunty you should continue your channel.. I am a mother of 2 and love to teach my kids and need lot of tips.. Teaching is a difficult job, I feel seeing patients is easy as a doctor and my kids say I should srop teaching them😂
So true
Good topic.. I exactly requested you to talk about the same few weeks back but I guess I used different terms to describe that.. thankfully you did it! We are facing a lot of these issues in our area! As Vinod said the women will be talking about jewelry, in laws issue, own housing and children.. so mostly the people who doesn’t have children, home are left out by the others.. and in an extreme they never care about children too.. when two adults having issues they prevent the children to talk to the other.. Amma’s advice to Rose is a much needed one for every other woman who is facing this kind of issues in a foreign land.. I loved the way she kept on giving advice by mentioning her name.. Thanks a lot for sharing your insights with us Sain ❤ I wish amma to talk more and give her insights on topics from next time 😇
Thank you 😊 ❤️
❤
Very nice discussion 💕 loved all your points and Amma’s positive words 🥰 even I want to be a very friendly and fun grandma when my kids have babies ❤ one more thing I realized is , even if your spouse is completely opposite and does not want to talk much , still you should keep trying to get your close circle of friends . At the end of the day you need both family and friends 💗
🤗 🙏🏽 ❤️
Excellent discussion!! I always see this problem in the U.K. often . There is big Tamil group here , many times people are quite unfriendly and many times confused ! Also , I have seen kids in school are non judgmental and my girls have had dates , no tamil speaking and parents are open minded. We being from India, always want community. Socialising set up is there every where but in India it’s niche set up yet .. Festivals are the main way to meet in temples or face book . Thare are many groups and also for women . We need to be open minded !!
I’m sooo in love with amma’s hairdo and look. She looks like older Kundavai 😅
Thank you 😊
❤
True 😊
Hi Sainthavi I love the way you call your boys and ask their opinion in the middle of your conversation. Matured conversation. Why to unnecessarily worry for others who reject us. Life is short.😊
Thank you 😊 they are soon to be adults so need to include them
Very lively and interesting family interactions. Liked your individual perspectives..end of the day you find only a few "like minded" ,even among friends there would be varied opinions/interests..but keeping in touch doesn't cost you.Honestly you will never find one truly matching your likes/dislikes.End of the day Family socialising in current days works well.
I agree 😊
Your insights and perspectives are so refreshing, so very informative. Keep rocking Saindhavi ❤❤❤
Thanks a ton
I really wanted to ask you to talk about this! But this video is such an eye opener … thanks akka…
Thank you so much 🙂
I’m in the same boat in San Ramon as I have no kids so I feel exactly like the San Antonio last. When we go for walks mostky fellow desks don’t even bother making eye contact or smiling. I smile at them and they stare back!!? WTH! Asians and whites are friendlier! I think desis and Indian women especially here in San Ramon are super arrogant and snooty
Oh 😢
I agree totally.I am dublin,CA closer to you and face the same situation
Nice video.. I felt vry bad about Frds behavior, last yr they invited to their home for kolu but this time didn’t invite me
Romba kavalaiya irundhadhu after watched yr video I feel so good
After seeing this I don’t care anymore if anyone talk to me or not..
I
Two friends irudha kuda unmaiya irundha podhum
Thanks 🙏
Take it easy and move on.
Your husband’s point of view - agree! Certain things doesn’t change no matter where we live!
Excellent explanation given by your mother. Shows her experience in life. You played a devils advocate role in the conservation with her which was engaging for the viewers
Thank you for understanding our viewpoints and perspective
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Nalla topic. I face the same sometimes. When i see the same person talking to their community and ignoring me i feel bad. My kid also face the same in school sometimes.
Yes it happens in schools too
Socio-economic backgrounds need to match. That has been my experience. Also, meet infrequently for short periods.. like walking.. parks etc.
Does living in the same neighborhood guarantee socioeconomic similarity?
@@L20241 Technically no. But you’ll get the idea that they cannot be too different from you (like 5 times richer or 10 times poorer .😀). Plus, the tons of things in common starting from the weather, road conditions, activities in the neighborhood, repair, renovation, carpool, public transport, etc.
Everybody moved to USA to earn money and have better living standards. They want to be best ( in terms of wealth)compared to others. So this competitive approach makes people feel less secured and keeps them in survival mode ( being restlessness /depressed).
well said. Be friendly and if they need help you can help and talk. No need to be close and going to parties talking about RSU's
and making millions like brother vinodh said. Which will give anxiety and depression to other friend who doesn't have it.
Am impressed by your way of taking n good job
Thanks
Well said Sainthavi and Aunty🤗🤗🤗personally I do enjoy spending time with my family so no time to think about others who ignore us🙂
Thank you 🤗
Beautiful conversation! Thank you ❤🎉
Glad you enjoyed it!❤️
Thanks for this video, even I live abroad and gone through this… realised everything what you said.
Good Topic. I been in US from 1988. That time not that many Indians. I am a very friendly I like to talk and I love company. Usually here with the kids friends we get friend with the parents. I went through same Rose went thru. But I am a good cook and a good gardener love my plants . I been in different states too. But u have to given and take if u need friends. Same thing happen to me. I raised two boys but all my friends where I live have girls. But one thing u need only one good friend to share your feelings. I have one set of mind if they don’t want to friend with us then they r the losers. Try to do whatever u like whatever u r best in it. I still couldn’t find anybody as like as me. Mostly here they expect something in return. Like sayan said I introduce some friend my friend they leave me and they are very good friends. That is ok then I step back.
Good points thanks for sharing 🤗
It happens here in India too
I am poor in making friends and also think nobody likes me and keep quiet but I want to have frizndz
Keep trying and you will get someone soon
Hey, do you read books ? How do you incorporate reading habits in teens in today's digital distraction?
School itself does it. They have raffle ticket in the beginning of the year for turning in the reading log. Children read more with incentives in my opinion😂
Made video will publish soon thanks for asking
Need a sepearte session with Amma😂 so articulate and excellent communicator😊
Thank you will try to have her speak on such topics
Thavin and Vivian are thinking - and most Indian American kids are thinking - edhi ellam orru problem 😂😂😂😂😂
They would say - aunty go and enjoy your solitude 😂😂😂
nice discussion! helpful!
Thank you 😊
Better be happy with your family and keep exploring. Dont be clanish. Be even with everyone, think good for everyone, if possible help or just be you. Socializeing without expectations is rare....if you are ready to share time and help others ypu can easily socialize.....its all give and take. Sometimes you will get exploited....Better unga velaya parunga, avanga avanga velaya papanga😂😂😂😂
I agree 😀
Plz continue this kind of videos 👍
Sure thanks
You only talked about dress for example nowadays some people are doing reels if I'm not interested to do those kind of reels they will not include you in that group and they will see status also like if they are having own house or not
Various levels of discrimination prevails
My cooking today listening to this video 😊
Yes I maintain groups don’t mix in the parties they network and they leave me 😅
Trying to continue is yes try virtual groups all avenues like temple group or change community of the house
Hope you enjoyed it!
@@SainthavisKitchen loving this series of general topics like a fire side chat with you and Banu Mam
Intha video enaku potamariye iruku 35.25 la sainthavi keta 3 questions super ah irunththu antha 3 resion kum friends venum mukiyama etho oru function ku avanga varum tha and ethathu information therinjikanum nu avangala pudichi thongavenditha iruku
Hi Sainthavi, Thank you for bringing up this topic..The points you mentioned were so genuine for the people who live here in overseas, especially in US...we just enjoyed the whole family conversation especially Vinod Bro telling the reasons of why he is not that much interested talking to mens during special gathering and your as well..we are just like you..we can easily connect with you guys ..BTW we are in US for the past 14 yrs...I like Aunty very much..kindly give my regards to her..Please do such kind of videos in near future...Have a great day...
So nice to hear that.
Thank you 🤗 ❤️
Hey Sainthavi, I appreciate your effort in this content. A small suggestion. It's too boring that you are always praising yourself in every video. Take it as a constructive feedback if you want.
Thank you
That’s why her mom and Vinod check on her from time to time 😂
Why she has to come infront of the camera to put her down? Already social media is full of such things... putting down somebody somehow makes people feel happy abt it. Let's spread some good vibes too. She is proud of her, let it be.. what's wrong?
@@anusuyadevi9828 none of us said that. She is being true to herself and she is not hear to please anyone. No one is correct all the time. She is also learning as much as we are learning from her conversations. She is doing great work by sharing real problems and not reel problems of NRIs. See accepting constructive criticism is also part of growing. We are not right either and we are also learning in this process.
That’s why USA is like this. Constructive criticism only makes you grow. Unfortunately most Indians look at criticism like something wrong immediately. This is because that’s what most Indian families teach their children. When a white American (not black or Spanish) says it they will accept it. Indians have to learn to accept it and grow out of it.
@@anusuyadevi9828 For your information, nobody is spreading negative vibes here. As a viewer, I have all the right to say what I feel about the content. I don't understand how you found any negativity or negative vibes in my comment above. I hope Saithsvi takes it as constructive feedback, as she is mature enough to understand my intention. It's better you try not to be a fangirl here.
Sooooooo true is this!!!!!!
Very true about Newjersey😂. Vinod is correct.
Happy to see aunty in this conversation
Thank you 😊
Are you on H1B or GC or US citizen?
Indian
Sain - I live in Sunnyvale and make a killer Tamarind Rice so let me know when you want to visit me:)
Thank you 😊
Hi sainthavi talk about safety in USA
Will do
Dear sain..vinod ah pesa vidunga..pause panitinga..Great discussion.Amma❤.
Will do thank you 😊
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Ha ha… it’s worse among all communities… keep yourself busy and you don’t need to be in others party 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂….. be strong!!!!
Also don’t confuse this being anti-social but it’s not easy for anyone… some do it because of their public image!!! If you care about your public image then do it and do bother about comments!!!
Nice video
Thanks
Nice 👌👌👌❤️❤️❤️
Thanks 🤗
Sainthavi I am like you as said @ 40.05.
Super
Hi amma❤
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