To everyone that’s saying Sain is overthinking: these are important issues she’s addressing that affects our mental health in one way or the other & I feel it’s especially important for our Indian community since we have a tendency to focus only on our physical health. Please think about this.
@@SainthavisKitchen it also takes a tremendous amount of courage to put yourself out there in the public eye, do something different than other vloggers & discuss sensitive issues boldly without fear. Many thanks to you 🙏🏼
Spot on! I absolutely love the time you take & the effort you put into these relationship videos. I always used to think that something was wrong with me & that’s why I get treated the way I do by people but realized that I’m an exceptional human being who is simply taken for granted & not respected. Now my “village” or inner circle (this includes family members) is very very small. I know tons of people, but only those who value & respect me & my time get my time, attention & respect. Just as you mentioned, these are the relationships that have stood the test of time. I also wanted to extrapolate on one of the points you made. Some people will use you as an unpaid therapist aka mental trash can & dump all the problems on you to relieve their own mental stress. But when it is time to reciprocate they are not really interested in listening to or offering solutions to our issues. We have to be careful with such people as well.
Don't believe in emotional support....build yourself very strong emotionally for the real inner peace....If you care for emotional support it will tear you up😢 please don't expect anything from others please .....even a call.....you can happily spread positive vibe to all, but strengthen your innerself with no emotions. Emotions rot you.....Don't know.....from my life experience I just felt like telling you...be emotionless with no expectations but keep doing what you are doing....Its great....my hearty wishes. Love your boldness and good thoughts
Thank you, mam, for your video. I would like to reinstate the fact that " time" is one of the fundamental factor for growing a relationship. Personally nowdays people run behind career and money and they dont understand that kids dont just look for a comfortable living but seek father's love. Fathers support is so very important for a girl child. Boys who are looking for girls to get married should understand that more than money people look for time including their future kids. How do we utilise the time to grow ourself personally financially and professionally makes the end game successful. Not sacrificing one for other and later regretting that they should have either not sacrificed or the sacrifice made has not achieved the end goal ...which is the case for many. Balancing is an art and its way more sustainable than sacrificing everything for anything...
Omg thank you is not enough sain ❤❤ right now I m n that situation but I didn’t have anyone to ask or share but u gave me a clear explanation and guided us through ur experience.. I watched all ur videos it’s so very relatable very practical… I m living in USA absolutely everyone are facing the same situation.. plz continuously guide us… after ur talk we are able to find the right person in our life🙏🙏u r rocking ❤❤❤
Very important topic and very well explained Sainthavi 👏👏 for many years my problem has been the one way effort ! Both husband and friends, this is the issue . But as you said I have started my effort to analyze and make rational decision on who I should talk for long time . Calling when going back from office is a very thing I face from even close friends . But when Iam on phone with them I cook 😀 I don’t like cooking, so why not finish that when listening to your friend’s stories! Great job and keep posting great videos like this. 💗
Started typing point by point comment , it felt pointless as I then have to quote and agree with all the points you spoke , recently learnt about testing relationship concept when I had to stay off whatsapp due to daughter’s IB exams and I didn’t want external stressors , only 2 people checked on me from outside the country I live in ! 40s truly have taught me lot of life lessons . I am actiually happy and grateful for that , atleast from now on I value my time the most , i ensure that person at other end in every relationship knows that and respects the boundary . Very well done Sainthavi , not a single minute felt like a drag, every point was so on point . Hats off ❤ please talk about how to give timely comebacks . Especially when people are purposely trying to be. Nosey, jealous etc and I can sense it but can’t seem to give a tactful come back about it not being their business . Thanks
"Nee periya aal ayite" I have an uncle who does this and it drives me nuts.I love him and wish I could have a relationship with him but he veruppethifies me by talking like this everytime I forget to reply to his message on whatsapp. I wish I had reacted the way you do before because I just had to cut him off to protect my energy.
Wonderful video maam. I have a question, what to do if you find nobody is trying to check out if you’re fine when you don’t contact them I.e during testing? I’ll be happy if you can share your tips for the same. I’m in my 20’s. Thank you soo much for your time.
Hi! What you mentioned is very true. I’m staying abroad. My own siblings and parents don’t call me and check on me. It really sad. But they only interested the funds that I transfer.
Stop transferring funds for atleast few months.and stop giving reasons for stoping funds just do it for a while.tjisvis a kind of testing the relationship 😊
Hello Sain & Vinodh - As most videos, you both are hilarious. Sain - Your impromptu conversation with Vinodh truly brings a LOL😀moment for me, everytime I watch your video. Your topic is spot-on. Share more topics likewise. And continue to keep up the good work!🥰
8:1424:59 .. Love ur thoughts and the way you reflected things...very practical... Also i am waiting for the video where ur u said u shall discuss with ur mom about her life and her experiences of dealing with ppl of all sorts..
Talk about parenting..sometimes when kids don't listen to us we lose our cool..how do u handle it...and u would have few expectations from ur sons right...if they don't live up to it how do u take it
Hi Akka, super video. I have one request. Same like testing relationship. Now you spoke about long relationships or just phone call like that. But I have one problem, like how you can handle a close relationship like brothers sisters who used you when they need main financialy. Now they are settled they have your money. But not returning and now they are just avoiding you but they are yours own brother’s sisters and even parent’s. How can I solve this kind of peoples.
Oru request fulla tamil la.pesunga enga amma vu unga video potu katanum.neraya english use panna enga amma interest ha pakala.neenga actually romba nalla visayam pesuringa.all the best.
You are overthinking...I used to think so much...but now accept ppl and situations as they are...we don't know what problems ppl have...they might not be consciously doing these mistakes.
I agree but all people are not like us.... Even we are normal but opposite people are expecting too much from us means what to do... ??? We are cool enough but all people are not like that
Ivlo ellam mathavangalai pathi yosikka time irrukka . Life is so busy with family, work , kids , exercise ,rest . You are overthinking and investing too much time on others .
People who take a step back and look at life, people and how they can be better do this kind of analysis, basically the hierarchy of needs , where this leads to figuring out the purpose of your life. If you are not there yet, your focus is just on the regular tasks .
Testing A Relationship? இத Try பண்ணி பாருங்க Have you experienced this?
To everyone that’s saying Sain is overthinking: these are important issues she’s addressing that affects our mental health in one way or the other & I feel it’s especially important for our Indian community since we have a tendency to focus only on our physical health. Please think about this.
Thank you for taking my side, I really appreciate your kind words of encouragement. It takes courage, for that thank you 😊
@@SainthavisKitchen it also takes a tremendous amount of courage to put yourself out there in the public eye, do something different than other vloggers & discuss sensitive issues boldly without fear. Many thanks to you 🙏🏼
Spot on! I absolutely love the time you take & the effort you put into these relationship videos. I always used to think that something was wrong with me & that’s why I get treated the way I do by people but realized that I’m an exceptional human being who is simply taken for granted & not respected. Now my “village” or inner circle (this includes family members) is very very small. I know tons of people, but only those who value & respect me & my time get my time, attention & respect. Just as you mentioned, these are the relationships that have stood the test of time. I also wanted to extrapolate on one of the points you made. Some people will use you as an unpaid therapist aka mental trash can & dump all the problems on you to relieve their own mental stress. But when it is time to reciprocate they are not really interested in listening to or offering solutions to our issues. We have to be careful with such people as well.
Very true! Thank you 😊 for the love & support
Don't believe in emotional support....build yourself very strong emotionally for the real inner peace....If you care for emotional support it will tear you up😢 please don't expect anything from others please .....even a call.....you can happily spread positive vibe to all, but strengthen your innerself with no emotions. Emotions rot you.....Don't know.....from my life experience I just felt like telling you...be emotionless with no expectations but keep doing what you are doing....Its great....my hearty wishes. Love your boldness and good thoughts
Thank you 🙏🏽
Ur words r starting to heal me! Thank you for talking abt this! U r showing a light towards life.. tats awesome keep continuing Akka!
So glad!
Thank you, mam, for your video. I would like to reinstate the fact that " time" is one of the fundamental factor for growing a relationship. Personally nowdays people run behind career and money and they dont understand that kids dont just look for a comfortable living but seek father's love. Fathers support is so very important for a girl child. Boys who are looking for girls to get married should understand that more than money people look for time including their future kids. How do we utilise the time to grow ourself personally financially and professionally makes the end game successful. Not sacrificing one for other and later regretting that they should have either not sacrificed or the sacrifice made has not achieved the end goal ...which is the case for many. Balancing is an art and its way more sustainable than sacrificing everything for anything...
Omg thank you is not enough sain ❤❤ right now I m n that situation but I didn’t have anyone to ask or share but u gave me a clear explanation and guided us through ur experience.. I watched all ur videos it’s so very relatable very practical… I m living in USA absolutely everyone are facing the same situation.. plz continuously guide us… after ur talk we are able to find the right person in our life🙏🙏u r rocking ❤❤❤
You’re welcome 😊 I’m glad this helped ❤️
@@SainthavisKitchen absolutely helpful we are becoming a better version bcz of your clarity.. we are not going to fall for toxic ppl 😊😊
Amma va kanam. Please include her in your videos.
Very important topic and very well explained Sainthavi 👏👏 for many years my problem has been the one way effort ! Both husband and friends, this is the issue . But as you said I have started my effort to analyze and make rational decision on who I should talk for long time . Calling when going back from office is a very thing I face from even close friends . But when Iam on phone with them I cook 😀 I don’t like cooking, so why not finish that when listening to your friend’s stories! Great job and keep posting great videos like this. 💗
Thank you 😊
Started typing point by point comment , it felt pointless as I then have to quote and agree with all the points you spoke , recently learnt about testing relationship concept when I had to stay off whatsapp due to daughter’s IB exams and I didn’t want external stressors , only 2 people checked on me from outside the country I live in ! 40s truly have taught me lot of life lessons . I am actiually happy and grateful for that , atleast from now on I value my time the most , i ensure that person at other end in every relationship knows that and respects the boundary . Very well done Sainthavi , not a single minute felt like a drag, every point was so on point . Hats off ❤ please talk about how to give timely comebacks . Especially when people are purposely trying to be. Nosey, jealous etc and I can sense it but can’t seem to give a tactful come back about it not being their business . Thanks
Glad you enjoyed the video. Appreciate you sharing your experience. ❤️ Will do that video soon.
Very nice breakup of relationships, I loved the way you approached the whole thing. Loved it!
Thank you so much! 😊
Saw ur podcast about people who mentally drain us and this one.very good clarity about what u talk and its so relatable.
Thank you ☺️
I have always admired the clarity you have in everything!
Awesome topic,thanks akka,I just loved hearing it❤a big virtual hug❤
Glad you liked it 🤗
Such a beautiful topic! I hope Gopi Anna from Neeya Naana gets to watch this 😘
Thank you 😊
Hi dear, so so true... well said... I have gone through all those things which you said. Thank you so much.
"Nee periya aal ayite" I have an uncle who does this and it drives me nuts.I love him and wish I could have a relationship with him but he veruppethifies me by talking like this everytime I forget to reply to his message on whatsapp. I wish I had reacted the way you do before because I just had to cut him off to protect my energy.
Wonderful video maam.
I have a question, what to do if you find nobody is trying to check out if you’re fine when you don’t contact them I.e during testing?
I’ll be happy if you can share your tips for the same. I’m in my 20’s.
Thank you soo much for your time.
Good question!
I am same side with you vinodh 😊
Sir ennaku yarum call panradilla. It’s been more than 5 years outside Home country. But if they want something they will immediately text or call.
Exactly well said ma,super topic,same situation happened me too ,I’m so happy today videos I thought it’s happening me only
Thank you 😊
Hi! What you mentioned is very true. I’m staying abroad. My own siblings and parents don’t call me and check on me. It really sad. But they only interested the funds that I transfer.
So sorry you are going through this. It’s completely relatable 😢
Stop transferring funds for atleast few months.and stop giving reasons for stoping funds just do it for a while.tjisvis a kind of testing the relationship 😊
It happens when you are not around them. We are time stuck, they moved on.
Brilliant sharing..... Thank you! Going to take baby steps on being a better person 😊.
You got this!
Hello Sain & Vinodh - As most videos, you both are hilarious. Sain - Your impromptu conversation with Vinodh truly brings a LOL😀moment for me, everytime I watch your video. Your topic is spot-on. Share more topics likewise. And continue to keep up the good work!🥰
Thanks a ton 🤗
8:14 24:59 .. Love ur thoughts and the way you reflected things...very practical... Also i am waiting for the video where ur u said u shall discuss with ur mom about her life and her experiences of dealing with ppl of all sorts..
Thanks will do soon
This topic is super relatable, I loved the approach you took for this topic.👏
Glad you enjoyed it!
Talk about parenting..sometimes when kids don't listen to us we lose our cool..how do u handle it...and u would have few expectations from ur sons right...if they don't live up to it how do u take it
Ok will do a video stay tuned
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Hi Akka, super video. I have one request. Same like testing relationship. Now you spoke about long relationships or just phone call like that. But I have one problem, like how you can handle a close relationship like brothers sisters who used you when they need main financialy. Now they are settled they have your money. But not returning and now they are just avoiding you but they are yours own brother’s sisters and even parent’s. How can I solve this kind of peoples.
Ok will do a video stay tuned
Don’t worry we’re all vice with you 👌👌👌👏👏👏❤️❤️❤️
Oru request fulla tamil la.pesunga enga amma vu unga video potu katanum.neraya english use panna enga amma interest ha pakala.neenga actually romba nalla visayam pesuringa.all the best.
Good topic
Super Akka, eye opener video akka
Nice topic very interesting. 🌷👏❤️
Agreed saintavi
You are overthinking...I used to think so much...but now accept ppl and situations as they are...we don't know what problems ppl have...they might not be consciously doing these mistakes.
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I agree but sometimes we need to take a stand for ourselves.
I agree but all people are not like us.... Even we are normal but opposite people are expecting too much from us means what to do... ??? We are cool enough but all people are not like that
Nice sainthavi ❤
Super
Thanks
Ivlo ellam mathavangalai pathi yosikka time irrukka . Life is so busy with family, work , kids , exercise ,rest .
You are overthinking and investing too much time on others .
Thank you for taking time from your busy life to post comments here
People who take a step back and look at life, people and how they can be better do this kind of analysis, basically the hierarchy of needs , where this leads to figuring out the purpose of your life. If you are not there yet, your focus is just on the regular tasks .
@@lakshmibalaji8294beautifully put