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If you're reading this you are FABULOUS !
2:40 first thing is how do you look? look at yourself as a critique. you need to look 10 out 10. outfit, make up, perfume, your gesture, your pose, your voice, feminine voice control , femininity, conversation skills, only after you have every single of these checked off, then you move on to the next plate.
4:41 step 2, choosing the right candidate. their age and income.
7:38 how to get money. "this is what is wrong now, and this is what stressing me out. " so let him offer help. there is no ASKING. You say what is on your mind and he offers. ""baby, give me your bank details now"
I'm all about a naturally generous man. If he isn't then I'm moving in. Some of these ladies are trying to finesse the wrong target.
Very true !
Succinctly said! ❤️
Problem is, too many of ya'll think men are stupid. Theres a thin line between being generous and being a sucker. You keep trying to "finesse" your "target" and you'll just end up another pretty woman getting pumped and dumped. Smart men with good careers can smell your scheming @ss from across the room.
Correct
Not all men with money are generous! What a good video. I appreciate the generous ones😌
So true!
Yes! You are right I know right now if I was a successful man I would not want to date me, as a result, I have decided to work on me for the rest of the year before I am ready to get out there.
Wow that is amazing! I'm rooting for you & living for your glow up !!
@@ZIVAZIVA : Thank you.
Damn. The rest of the year? That's a lot of time wasted! In my opinion you should keep dating as you level up.
Me too, I decided to take a year and dedicate to MYSELF, MYHEALiNG, MYMENTAL Health and WellBeing! I’m doing spiritual, financial and physical work! Level up baby
Same.
It's a natural instinct of a real man to be generous to a woman he is attracted to/ dating / with. It is a man who is internally broken and detached from his masculinity that is stingy towards their women.
* Awesome videos sis ❤
🙌🙌🙌🙌
When a man don’t offer its time to move on stop wasting your youth ladies
"Your lil wig money and chipped nail money" 😂🤣😂🤣 btw your whole look is beautiful! 😍
😂😂😂😂 & thank you Yaya :)))))
🤦🏾♀️😫💅🏽👩🏻🦰
You have a big heart and are so sweet. I wish someone gave me advices like these. My kids are teenagers now and im recently divorce. There was never abundance in my marriage so when we got divorce I deeply regret being married with someone cheap and stingy when one day my teenagers finished theirs meals and asked for more food, my fridge was empty, I had no more food.
Please dont marry potential guys.
Thank you for your transparency and honesty in how difficult it can be when choosing the wrong man. I really appreciate you sharing your story x
My aunt married a cheap man. He had the nerve to be cheating! He married a woman with money but he's miserable now lol. His new wife is cheap!
Read Ho Tactics, and yall will be alright 🤷🏽♀️
Im reading it right now girl. Tbh I wish I would have read it when I was 16 and im just 19. Full savage mode from now on
Where can I get that book
Yes! I love all his books
sexual chocolate look up G L Lambert
Chip nail money. That had me laughing too damn hard. Hahaha!!!
LOL 💅🏽💅🏽
I feel like women need to ask themselves questions and think before they speak. Its like a guy who you barely know walks up to you and says hi I think your pretty can i have some coochie. Thats how it sounds to a man when you ask him for money. There is a finesse to this game. Dry begging is a no no. Sometimes I think most women simply lack common sense and patience. You have to study, plan, plot then execute. Love the video...
Well said !!
This!!
When ur younger u have more advantages then when being older wish I took advantage of my youth n got married
I am in Love with this hair, what hair is this.
Ooh thanks Viv! I did a review on it - it's Brazilian Curly by Klaiyi Hair x
Beautiful!! ❤️
Gorgeous as always 💖. But I really hope women are listening, especially on the children part. When you become a mother and have to struggle you become resentful. 💖💖
I hope so too! The media and even parents push careers but what happens to your eggs during that time?! Thanks for watching & commenting as always Tamarra ❤️
Excellent video! We call low class women in the US ratchet or birds 🐦 asking for nail and or hair money 🤦🏿♀️
Exactly!!
Hi Ziva! This video was great. Could you please in one of your videos talk about how to express gratitude to high caliber men that makes them want to continue giving/ and without coming across like you haven't been gifted before?
Great suggestion! I've added it to my video list x
@@ZIVAZIVA yes please, we need to know how to show gratitude and when its appropriate to buy gifts or purchase things for your man
Lol your voice is so calming. I just be listening mainly so I can hear about this topic with a calm environment and not like loud and crazy lol
Hahaha I'm pleased that my voice is calming to you 🥰🥰 Thank you for watching my love !
Gworl!!! I really love your energy & zeal! You are speaking truth 💕
Gorgeous AF! Thanks for your wisdom queen. 😚
AWWWWW thank YOU 🌷💓
You look so pretty love the white and the hair.
Oh thank you! 🤎
You just flipped the switch for me! Eye opening video. Thank you ❤ I am grateful.
Yay I'm happy it resonated with you hun 🌹
Real talk, sis! Thanks!
Thanks for listening hun x
Great points. And your hair looks cute!
Thank you so much 😀
Beautiful as always! Thank you for keeping us sane during this lockdown 💙
Aww thank you AJ & it's my pleasure girl 🌹
I love this whole look. Hair, natural makeup, top & all. ✨❤️
Heyyy 🤗 Aw :) thank you so much 💋
Looking Gorg! Im sooo appreciating these vids ..something to keep me on my toes lol thanks Ziva boo💕🌷
Haha any time sweetie 😘😘😘
I just came across this video, and I literally needed to hear this today. Thank you for the advice ❤️
You're welcome girl !
I'm so grateful for this video❤️
Pure gems all the way to the 16th minute!
You look gorgeous. I love watching your level up/glow up.
We need to keep at it & watching you encourages me that it takes time but also it's always worth it.
You're so welcome! I'm so happy that my glow up is encouraging :) I've come a long way but not finished yet! 💜💟
Your hair! Wow you're just gorgeous Ziva !
Oooh thank youuuuuu 🙏🙏
Very sound advice! Thank you for sharing :)
Thanks for watching! xxx
This is one of my absolute fav Ziva videos!!!!
Beautiful as Always.
Great advice.
Keep shining beautiful.
Using this “quarantine time” to re do my house (Decorating)as feminine as I am.
Love to all the ladies on there glow up journey. Remember it’s not a race ladies invest in YOU! YOU! YOU! 😘💕
I couldn't say it any better ❤️ Good for you making lemonade out of lemons!
ZIVA 😘
Thank you Ziva!
My pleasure ! 💃🏽
Omg I'm in love with your energy 💕 Your top is cute too 💗
Yay 🤪🤪 & re top thank you :) I bought it recently and LOVE it lol x
You are looking 😍. Thanks for the advice & bolstering Ziva!. You are really making me work hard at pushing past my comfort zone and become the woman I want to be ❤️
Love that!! You've got this Miss Rachel ♥️♥️♥️
Thank you Ziva, I look forward to your videos 💕
Glad you like them ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Good video!
Glad you enjoyed it :)
You look stunning 😌🖤
Great advices.
Thank you so much!! 🌷💓
ZIVA 🥰🖤
I haven’t watched in a hot minute, but am so glad to be catching up now , my girl ziva always got n brings the tea !!! We all know us British folks be lovin our tea now ☕️☕️☕️ !! Much love 💓
Yay fellow brit :)) I've missed your comments so I'm happy you're back ♥️
ZIVA aww I’m glad to be Bak thanks bbygirl I like how u clock that 💋muchas gracias !!
Of course I know my girls :) besos
Thanks hun for the sweet advices. Atleast now I know the problem is more with me more
I'm happy to hear that you found the video helpful hun x
Your hair looks so pretty like this.
Aww thank you!
Hey doll looking lovely as usual 😍
Thank you 😊 FIRST COMMENT :)))
You are amazing! I enjoy and profit a lot from your advice. Keep moving forward, I wish you all the best in your current relationship!
I appreciate that sooo much 🥰🥰🥰
You look extra pretty today! 💕 thanks for the advice. I get good results on plenty of fish
Thank you sooo much hun! Yay for POF :)) #OGSubbie 🥰🥰
I'm getting started on bumble. Hopefully I get good results too
I'm on pof too. That's where I get most of my guys.
Starr Johnson There is lots of money on POF 😂
“Little wig money and chipped nail money” 😂😂🤣 love the honesty 😂
Have to call a spade a spade 🙈😂
Hi Ziva i am so happy it was exactly what i wanted to know. You are really amazing, very inspiring and extremely smart. God bless you beauty💕💕💕💕
You are so welcome! Sending so much positive energy to you Nina ♥️🌹
A few questions to the choice of words used and their meaning:
At the beginning of the video you say, to "be very sexy, then put it on him" and then look a bit sad and worried so he asks what is wrong. A good guy would immediately offer to help out financially, a bad one wouldn't. Okay so far.
But at the end of the video you say, some of us "need to stop giving it up too early without knowing whether the man is a good one".
So here arises my question at both quotationmarks: what exactly do you mean by the first quotation mark? Do you mean to get intimate with a man and then be a bit worried so he asks what's wrong? But on the other hand in the second quote you say to not give it up early. I am confused. Thanks for the awesome video and I look forward to an answer! Xoxo
Hey hun, no I just mean to be overly flirty with him and then pull away xXx
Good guy=someone that will give me money. If not he's a bad guy. Interesting. So men are just atm machines and retirement plans? A lot of yall are just setting yourselves up for a lifetime of cats. Men arent falling for this foolishness anymore. Not too many suckers left.
Raising my own kids is my main reason for dating with hypergamis goals.
Absolutely the same for me Dana 🙏 #OGsubscriber
I love you ziva please stay safe thanks for your continuous advice we're really taking it love❤️
I love you too Stacy Kay ♥️ #ogsubbie
❤❤❤ love you Sara
♥️ Love you too Jasmine ♥️
You have thee cutest tops!
Thank you Dana ❤
Pretty look.
Awww thanks doll 🥰🥰🥰
Good tips
Glad it was helpful Lynn 💜
ZIVA UR SO AMAZING!!!
So are you Debbie! I really appreciate you always commenting & watching my videos 💜
@@ZIVAZIVA YES BELOVED WERE IN THIS TOGETHER!!! I once commented on one your lives that i stay in Africa Botswana...u really inspire me focus focus_
Yes I remember ☺️ Keep being amazing my love!
This Lady Know What She Is Talking About.
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Stay in the house this takes years of experience coupled with heartbreaks and humbling experiences you won’t share with anyone. Highly unregulated field. Power imbalance is not all sunshine and roses. Choose your most honest memories over the other ones, it’s easier to share them with your friends family and everyone you like 👍🏽❤️
Why would men want to spend money on women who think it's their right.
So how do you know the difference between the guy where you go on a date with and ask later “how do you move on going forward” vs the guy you perform the stress test on ?
How do we play it smart during the Quarantine?
Watch my covid-19 video hun x
You’re looking super gorgeous in this video😍 can I get the hair details pleaseee
Thanks love 🥰 This unit is from Klaiyi Hair. I have two reviews on my channel with deets. The only thing that I dislike about this wig is that it is a little too full (150% density) and the lace is not HD but besides that the hair is gorgeous x
ZIVA Thank you! Xo 💜
Hello I love the hair sister xx. What type of hair is it? Is it a body wave 20 inch.
Aww thank you!! I think it's a Brazilian Curly... here is the link to my unboxing video if you're interested: th-cam.com/video/uapEMXatWgs/w-d-xo.html
❤& Need/Want Ur Advice. From Fresno California
You are so pretty💕
I do have a problem with wealthy men not chasing me, after one date they don't text or call me, i don't either and it just dies like that.
I think you should make a list writing down exactly how things go on your dates - how you both greet each other, what was said on the date, every little detail. I think you will find a pattern that may show you what is going wrong. Alternatively you could be going on dates with the wrong men..? Do the list and see what you come up with! x
@@ZIVAZIVA Hi, update
I think it may be because I ask alot of questions and talk too much, this is because I'm nervous and i don't want him to think I'm not interested in him, but from the videos I'm watching i realized that I'm not making him chase or hunt hence he loses intrest
What else did you expect? Men with money dont move like the broke dudes you're used to. We got enough women trying to get with us that we don't have to chase like that. So when you pull this cold shoulder/pull away girl game crap you just automatically lose lose out to another woman. If you like him then hit him up.
Most of you, including @ZIVA, simply do not know how to date a successful man. Its not entirely your fault either. The rules reverse at that level. He's the prize and youre the chaser.
@@ITech2005 Hey yes, you are right. I saw what I was doing wrong fixed that and I’m now in a happy relationship with a wealthy man💕
🗣🗣🗣say it for the people in the back!!!
Lol yesssss ♥️
The epitome of sexy??? That’s the opposite of the epitome of sexy. But great video! And you’re so pretty
I like the bluntness. It cuts down on the confusion. “Can I have 500 pounds?” 🤣😂Great video!
Edited: Not that your vids are ever confusing, but some questions people ask, would make you think you weren’t clear. This cuts all of that out. 🙌🏽🧁😬
My thought exactly! 💓
What is the right reaction when the guy offers to help and give money?
To act appreciative and happy for his generousity :)
Hi sorry I left some comments on another video but I have just found your channel and need help! Hkw ling did it take you to find your firat serious arrangement? It sounds like you plan to marry and have children with an SD. Do you think you will love the man? What would you do/feel if you married an SD and found out he had a SB on the side? Thank you xx
Lovely! Can you give details on the hair?
This is the link to my wig review on it: th-cam.com/video/uapEMXatWgs/w-d-xo.html
There is a discount in the description box xxx
Thanks! You look amazing btw!
@@AziaParker Aw thank you honeyyyyy
I was that damn stupid girl but am over it I can't groom a man any more no way
Onwards and upwards ❤️
Can wr get hair details ? And how to maintain weave. I cut my hair off *regret* but dont know how to make weave last
This wig is from Klaiyi hair (I have a review on it). I think the key to maintaining hair is to buy quality hair and look after it similarly as you would your own x
Please tell us where u purchased ur beautiful hair! 😍😍😍
It is from Klaiyi Hair hun... I did a review on it x
Ziva I’m conflicted about my style,should I wear skirts,dresses or should I dress for my age (19) ? Help sis
If I was 19, I would dress like a 19 year old ❤️
ZIVA thanks 😊
HMMMM Interesting
So, does this girl not work. Surely we're buying our own things. I buy my own shit. Period.
Judging by your profile picture, you don’t have a choice but to buy your own “shit” xx
How long would you suggest waiting to see if a guy is going to support you financially? Is a month too little?
I would say about a month but it also depends how many times you have seen/spoken to this man during that time x
How about a situation where you have been promised money but days pass and nothing.Do you remind or just wait?
I would absolutely bring it up !
Thanks Ziva,I will try
ZIVA, I need help. I asked my potential about helping me, claiming that I was laid off because of the COVID virus. My potential stepped up with claims that he would help me but only if I gave him sex as part of the arrangement. That's a no for me because of various reasons. I met him in a uber, he was the driver....He's in his mid 50's and is an account executive for a huge debt company. What would you do?
Promise the sex but bring up cash app. Tell him what you need. Keep communication with him and see if he helps with what you're asking for. If he won't help at all DROP HIM!
He sounds like he is actually just an Uber driver to me 🥴
He is a driver move on.... He is a working man,,, not a comfortable or rich man
Tbh he sounds like a dusty bragging about having money if that even is HIS money 😒but if all turns out to be true, girl pull the damsel in distress act and say how you're soooooo stressed and right now you're focusing on creating stability in your life again. Then say that you're only sharing this with him because you trust him , depend on him, and trust his leadership or SOMETHING to stroke the ego and make him feel like a hero. And then agree (not promise) to have sex after he contributes until you can first "get back on your feet" and be stable again. The trick is that he won't know when you're truly "back on your feet" and you can hopefully milk him for a couple of months. Now if he does agree, when he starts pulling back and acting distant and/or messy because he's gonna feel that way since he's giving you money without recieving sex, just fall back and pull out the damsel in distress act and say that you are & were at a vulnerable point in life and you feel that he doesn't care about you emotionally and you can't deal with someone who doesn't care about your emotional peace blah blah blah. Then ghost him for a bit and he's going to come back correct since he doesn't want to lose someone he invested so much on. Now this may not work ok sis so if it doesn't don't go blaming anyone. Use this at your OWN will.
, what if you’re worried (for any reason or no reason) that a figure is too much for him? If you have no reason to believe that it is too much do you ask him for it? Like, if you have X expenses should you still ask for X+Y amount so you can save some (Y being your savings) - even if it seems like a lot?
Let me know if I can pay you to get these questions answered asap - thank you!
What a lovely top, where is it from?
Thanks :) I bought it off of Asos but the brand is River Island x
@@ZIVAZIVA Located and purchased :) thank you
Yay will be super cute after lockdown 😉
Oooooooky Ziva😂
Haha 🤪🤪
If this aint the motherfucken truth.
Girrrrllll lol
Do you mind sharing what kind of hair you’re wearing?
Hey Alice :) I'm wearing a Brazilian Curly wig from Klaiyi Hair x
ZIVA thanks you’re so pretty!
Wow thanks Alice 🥰🥰🥰 but so are YOU!!! 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍
Where’s your top from?
It's from River Island but I bought it on Asos x
Hey girl, can i ask what hair is that? look lovely
Thanks hun, it's a brazilian curly wig from Klaiyi Hair. I have done a review on this wig although the lace could be thinner x
@@ZIVAZIVA thank you Hun. If you can please send over the video review❤️
Don't worry found it😍
if you only date guys 45+, do you plan to have kids with someone that old? this is so confusing to me because im 33 and really want to settle down with a guy who does not have kids so we can have our 1st kids together
Yes I plan to have children with a man of that age x
Les than 40 for a man it's a rare to find him financially stable, I met a man who was childless 40 years old mortgage and insurance broker,, he was gasping for a child but I was stupid and missed the opportunity.
I’m talking to a guy that likes me. He isn’t rich. He works and will take care of me & says that I don’t have to work. He won’t give me any money unless we’re in a relationship. When I bring up money he brings up me being his girl. At this point I just want the money so I’m ready to move on. Do you really like the men you date? Or is it all about the money? I’d like to actually like the man as well. That’s been the hard part for me
If it was me, I'd tell him that I want x, y & z to be in a relationship and see if he gives you the money you're after x
How do we do this whilst at home self isolating lol
Keep it in mind for future reference haha ❤️
This is a cause of anxiety for me atm. This whole year in lockdown
I’m in Dubai now, where to find these men?! 🤔
I have no idea about Dubai hun but the same strategy applies, go to nice areas and upscale places :) x
I understand it but I always end up with broke guys... why
You can't end up with the broke ones if you don't entertain them ♥️
I should have watched this video 4 hours ago... smh 🤦🏾♀️
Oh lawd 👀
I'm here since you had 20k subscribers, you've grown a lot girl😍 you deserve it👆💎
Hey Clara! I really appreciate you sticking around hehe 🎉 Lots of love ❤
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💝💞💖💕💞❤️💖💝
You really can’t get $10,000 in one shot?
Lol yes you can but that wasn't the point I was making hehe
ZIVA Lol I meant can* and that is insane. The most I’ve got in one shot was $1,200. But I do have a main one that I got about a little over $25,000 but that’s within a year and a half
@@zmanson3940 Woop woop 🥳
You have misused the word epitome
Yes I realised that but thanks for pointing it out :)
Sounds nice and all, but the premise is all the same. Modern women are only interested in a mans money and how much they can get out of him. You aren't looking for a "generous" man, you're looking for a walking wallet. "you're going to be stuck with guys that arent giving you everything that you want, and thats not what dating is about"
Yet you choose your partners based on how they please you and make you feel happy. You have failed to learn that we all search for relationships out of our own selfish wants and conditional requirements.
Somebody who feels the need to leave weird and negative comments on TH-cam is, in my opinion, absolutely unfit for any type of relationship and should work on their own internal relationship with themselves asap.
Watching your videos really resonate with my character, I quickly lived a movie scene imagining all those babies loosing connection with their parents of for the likes of the demanding work field not allowing mothers to wear their title majority of tier children’s life and that alone doesn’t sit right with me. I’m no longer flip flopping I’m intentionally dating for the likes of saving my own future and sanity 🤍 thank you so much for your insights and selflessness when it comes to making these videos !!
Awww I love that you resonate with my vids 🤎
@@ZIVAZIVA 🥰 also didn’t know you were Nigerian as well till yesterday lol keep prospering Naija sis 😍 and the best regards and prayers towards your dear mother 🙏🏽🤍