I have tried to complete this podcast so many time but the words are so deep for me that my mind feel heavy after listening it for around 15-20 minutes while I am trying to understand each and everyword.So I have not been able to listen the whole podcast even once.But I have listened the starting portion multiple times.If you could break the podcast in such a way that we could listen to it in multiple sittings.Then it would be much more effective for people like me.
It might be easier for people like you who have gone through deep healing and realisation process previously to go through this podcast in one sitting. But for first timers like us it gets too heavy on mind.
I was married to a narcissist for eight years and it broke me completely. I was losing myself. At some point I thought I was going insane because of his gaslighting. I finally got the strength to leave and I am healing now. The healing process is gradual but I am grateful I am where I am now. I am improving by the day and I am beginning to enjoy the true meaning of life with my three daughters. Thank you so much Najwa. I need to hear this.
My mother was a narcissist, and then I married a narcissist. Thirteen years and two children later, I finally left him. For me, I finally realize the healing process is lifelong, but being in this process forever is 1000% improvement over being with a narcissist.
Each sentence that Najwa says is meaningful, rich with insight, and can stand on its own. I don't remember EVER listening to such an insightful speaker. Really, hands down. Thank you.
Wasted 30 years of the best years now I'm old and trying to pick myself up from being abused in every area. Left without a cent just to get away. He gambled away everything including the house I built. Being married in community of property is the worst deal. My deepest sorrow is for my children, and how it messed them up. What a waste of lives, being around such a horrible individual. May God help us.
"Compassion is not a relationship between the healer and the wounded. It's a relationship between equals. Only when we know our own darkness well can we be present with the darkness of others. Compassion becomes real when we recognize our shared humanity.” Pema Chodran.
What a great reminder that the best validation is from yourself. I used to cry and meditate after heartbreak and hug myself until I felt better because that’s all I needed to feel soothed. 🥵
Najwa speaks of not looking at your past experience in the lens of shame but giving that past us a best friend without judgement but give that self kindness, but what then happens when you do that work and a person who saw you going through that experience constantly reminds you and judge your past self hash.
Ａs I grew up ppl keep telling me I should have more confidence, they wish me to have more confidence. But I grew up in a family that look down on me like they don't even want me. My mom would always think I shouldn't be proud of whatever I do, or my looking. For example, like the small drawing got awarded I drew when I was in kindergarten, and the certificates I received when I was in school, everything I did was not needed to be mentioned, it's dust, it's a piece of cake, don't need to talk about and if you talk about it's a brag. I have no voice in my family. So, I have just been very lack of confidence, even now I'm 34, doing my work, but whenever things got tough and such a big challenge in front, I just don't see I could make it through, therefore I always failed, or always need help, or even worse, quit. I didn't know why I always got so defeated at work, then I recently realized it was my inner child self, got hurt, and never getting the validation from the adults who did/do me wrong, scars me. I have always been trying to learn confidence from books, from ppl, and from talks, but I always struggle. I can pretend I'm confident, but if something went wrong, or something happens, I would just think I shouldn't be confident, it must be because of my embracing confidence, I should always remain weak. This episode gave me a lot to think about, and I should have more empathy for myself. Thank you, Lisa, and Najwa, thank you, ladies.❤
She is so eloquent and to the point about healing and giving yourself the place you deserve. I had to admit that I also recognize that I'm the one projecting wounds to others, especially my partner, and he really doesn't deserve it. Must be interesting to have an episode about when you are the toxic one
I just left an abusive toxic relationship and I can't stand being around people because I keep feeling like they don't know how I feel inside. There's so much pain and outrage inside of me right now!!! How will I ever get over this??? I want to scream at the top of my lungs!
Learn how to self regulate and know what your triggers are. Know that you have the power to change how you react you can’t control others even if they don’t understand. It’s okay for you to take time out for yourself to heal. Give yourself lots of rest and patience. Work on self love and what type of person you want to be don’t let the habit of who you don’t take over because habits will become a part of u
As a man going through a lot of change and healing a lot about me and my past after my 5th fiancée cheating and a lot of past narcissistic trauma I want to say that this is such a wonderful conversation and I feel it deeply like so many of yours that I have listened to lately and the information and growth here is amazing. Thank you
Thank you. I exactelly lived theses situations until now. Im 34. It Was just awful !!! A prison between my feelings and my reason and my health mentally.. Now thanks to your testymony i can heal all i did support for years since i was born. #Nomore #ihavefeelingstoothatcount!
PTSD automatically vomits fragments of your trauma into your consciousness, most nights. I'm the type that has always tried to outrun rumination and avoid 'pity parties'. All the intellectual acceptance, and gaslighting myself into feeling OK yields nothing. I'd love an interview with somebody who has slayed the PTSD beast.
try cultivating the observing self in those moments, notice when you are starting to be triggered and practice grounding techniques, another thing to try is realising the fragmented emotional part, that got split, needs to be met with care and compassion. Look up structural dissociation, it might help, pstd and similar is not something one can fully meet with intellectual knowledge. You could try emdr therapy I have heard good things about it :)
Gabor Mate has lots of videos on triggers, traumas and ptsd-yes observations, meditations, yoga nidra's , Wim Hoff breathing or any kind of slow breathings
This is so powerful, it is a required daily listening! This is like 30 years is therapy in one sitting!!!! You both did amazing!!!! Thank you, thank you! Ahhh! I'm so excited to the rewiring that's happened already and to come. Woo! I'm like how did we almost live the same life!?
That’s one thing I won’t allow myself to do is give the power to the person that didn’t appreciate me and chose to go another way . They just weren’t for me and came into my life to teach me and make me realize what I truly want and deserve in life . I just keep moving forward and give a chance to next person not punishing them for the actions of my previous person. The new person in your life will mess it up on their own if they are not meant to be with you .. there’s a someone out there who’s meant to be with you and sometimes we gotta go through the process. One thing I don’t like is people playing games and wasting time . This life is unpredictable and why not just be truthful on how we feel about each other. If the feeling is not mutual I just be like thank you and now I know I’m not wasting my time hoping a specific person will look my way. ❤
So, as we wander through our childhood memories that have created habits and behaviours that aren’t truly who we are… I see so clearly that young girl who was completely unconscious of what she was creating. Growing up initially surrounded by self absorbed caregivers created this little, unfortunately, lost soul. Without truly loving ourselves, or even knowing what that felt like, we or I, had this neediness to find that from another. Attracting in unhealthy scenarios time and time again. Being needy, abandoned, inevitably lost, attracts more of the same or worse. A greater energy that will take the energy you have until you have nothing to give. This energy actually the pattern breaker as it will destroy you. Now, decades later and connected within there is NO CHANCE of attracting painful relationships back in as, we or I, have worked through the pain of a broken heart. Put the pieces back in place and know how to protect, support, nurture and care for this organ that is mine to look after. This inner beat that pumps life throughout my being my body, my temple… As I connect deeply within the world outside of me responds and absolutely transforms into more love, peace, flow. Just wanted to share and massive Thank-you for sharing so many experiences of your own and your guests. That have helped me get my power back. Just knowing that others are going through similar situations and this is a safe space no matter what you are going through. Pure love 1:11:58
Najwa is such an elegant and beautiful flower that she seems delicate, but far from being fragile! She is so knowledgeable and so strong that her words inspire me to aspire to be a woman of impact. ❤ Can't thanks both enough!
Holy shit, this is powerful. The reality of what it takes to recover from accumulated trauma that keeps getting more activated over the years is profound. Having spent a career doing deep transformation with people. I always love learning something new from someone who will just tell it like it is. The people pleasing trauma response that comes from living in a world where generation after generation people are having kids with zero training and capacity to do so in a healthy way just means these people keep producing traumatized children that create traumatized adults who keep reexperiencing the same thing . Thank God we’ve entered the stage due to this ability to share this information with each other or people can finally understand what’s happening to them with it, and have strategies to change it. I look forward to where we understand things from the beginning and create an authenticity and intentionality the world we’d like to be living in. As someone who was made to suppress myself in the family systems I’ve been in that means that I suppressed my own instincts and intuition and like so many people even though you know what to do you can go in another direction and while that seems like not that big of a deal if we keep doing that, our life is off track, and that is why where are made to suppress themselves for the comfort of their parents and society as a whole and where this is done to people generation after generation only keeps creating people who have no connection to themselves and then take their lives off track only to beat themselves up. They were never given the proper foundation in the first place. Having seen this my entire life, I have seen this, and I thought that when I got to this stage, I would see a world where people are being foundation trained from the beginning about reality being a person, authenticity intentionality, and how to literally create a reality of purposeful intentionality That elevates everyone around you. a world where people don’t have to pretend that they know what they’re doing and actually do know what they’re doing so they can do what they were born to do and bring in a new world that we’re all looking forward to being in. I just want to acknowledge the content in this interview and be deeply thankful for it. I have waited a lifetime to see the kind of conversations. I’m finally seeing on TH-cam and it is a privilege to take this information.
I Love Najwa 😍🥺 and her insight ❤️ please please invite her more on your show 🙏🏻 I strongly believe that she inspired a lot of people 👌🏻 She makes an impact by her calm voice 😊
Najwa always got something to say and no matter how many times I watch her, she always got a very valuable piece of information that hits. My most favorite episodes are Najwa’s ane Evy Poumpouras’s ❤️
Such a powerful message! Ppl need to hear this worldwide. Can I just say? Lisa Bilyeu is BY FAR one of the BEST listeners I have ever come across when watching any podcast/talk video. It’s incredible how well she listens and engages with her guests. It’s almost captivating to be totally honest!!!
Best thing i did in my life to start my healing journey and addressing scars throughout my life - to the point where im processing a broken relationship in record time becauae i know my self-worth and have accepeted the loss thats coming up. Honestly i dont even gauge the rejection, it doesn't'define who i am or what im capable of. Embrace vulnerability you'll be more emotionally secure and living in the healthiest energy.
As a dude....What a great message and powerful... I had lost myself and my goodness, and lost an amazing person, losing both me and my girlfriend and best friend. .... You 2 are such beautiful souls..... my intentions are to truly love and be loved back so we grow together, being the best versions for ourselves and for our loved ones!! Thank you! Dave
Najwa's wisdom always strikes home, and she phrases things in such a way that illuminates how it is our own journey to find and be there for ourselves. Thank you for this talk. I needed it today 🙌
In fact I always wanted a bike in my childhood, because I was such a tomboy, but I all I got is dolls from everywhere, because of my culture, when I was adult about 30 years old, I bought me a bike, I never learn to ride it, I kept it for a couple years, then I sold it, and I was completely over it, it’s a blessing when you’re completely aware enough to heal yourself on your own, without any Confirmation from anyone, I have the gift! And I wish that for any broken person 🙏🏻
Thank you Lisa for changing my life for the better ... after watching Najwa for the first time, I read her book "welcome home", I felt completely validated. Najwa got to introduce me to myself and finally I've been able to start building my own home and let go of others homes ... Thank you Najwa !
I love her so much! I have been watching so many of these and by far she is only one I have found that has literally felt as if she was speaking to me on almost every level! Finding this interview and watching her older interviews has enlightened me more than I could have ever dreamed.
This is so powerful and everything I needed to hear. You have put into words what I have been thinking but could not process or get myself over the guilt and shame until I heard this.
I needed this video, or at least one similar, right now. I've just had a stressful time at school. It calms me hear these words. For me I will get emotional when I get stressed but when it get excessive I'll have a seizure.
Lisa--Thank you for all your amazing, empowering content!! I have learned so much watching your channel, especially the interviews with Najwa Zebian, as she truly articulates and pinpoints the core wounds we carry to keep us from growing into our true potential. Love and gratitude to both of you ladies!! ❤🙏🔥
Hearing this a year post original air date. The analogy of the glass of wine “impacted” me. It’s one of those impact statements I’ll carry for the rest of my life. Thank you Najwa for passing the message 😘🙏
Sometimes I feel like you're sitting in on conversations with me and my husband. Because the guests you bring on to the show ares just so relevant. It really does help to know that you're not the only one fighting through different things in the world and that we can all learn something and be better people to ourselves to each other and to the world. Thank you Lisa You have literally been a star in my sky since you started this channel ❤️
Im so proud of you, nazma... I know how much difficult it is to do what you have done in your life.... Thank you so much for all the narrative 🙏gratitude
Wooow! One of the best interview I ever listen to. I will be coming back to it again and again. Every sentence is back up with such a wisdom.And I am a narcisist and domestic abuse surviwer being recently in a therapy. Saying thank you would not be enough. This is live saving
I Suffered from Brain Damage/Paraplegia after having The Gastric Bypass Surgery resulting in me being in a Coma for 2 1/2 years. I experienced ongoing 16 years of Narcissist Abuse but I endured. A Nurse during one of my many hospitalizations gave me a table ( I was not even aware of the internet etc. ) but I began learning until one day I happed upon Narcissist Abuse : Gaslighting, Word Salad and Narcissistic Amnesia Etc. finally understanding what was being done to me. It's been very painful but I'm enduring daily and realize with every accomplishment that I no longer share with my Abusers I'm attacked. People around me Including Law Enforcement Agencies are fully aware of what's happening and even relatives out of town local law enforcement have visited me telling me they really want to DESTROY You. I'm Happy now that others are aware of what I'm enduring and I don't feel so along anymore. Thanks to all The Narcissist Abuse Teachers for saving my life.❤❤❤❤
Thankyou for your strength and insight! Self awareness and acceptance are so difficult and you explained things so beautifully especially about the importance of authenticity and making it a priority over validation.
59:50 The person we're experiencing this with doesn't want to resolve the issue And we would rather keep our relationship with them rather than allow this to keep coming up. That really hit home with my stepdad. I would get so frustrated with him......
Lisa, thank you for having Najwa on your show. I needed to hear exactly this! I feel like this talk will change my life 🎉🙏 Who knows, maybe one day, I will be on your show ❤ Take care, girl - you inspire me to be powerful
I’m ok with my past self, but why do I still have so much pain a year after he died? Pain from a person who deceived and betrayed me next level after 32 years of marriage!! I don’t know if I’ll ever be ok with what happened, I try not to think of all the details, but it was my whole adult life. I love your podcasts and especially love this guest! Najwa, I bought your book, what an incredible person!
Lisa thankyou so so very much for sharing this episode with us. This one was so full of wisdom. It is better than therapy. Will keep revisiting. Honour to be able to watch it. Thanks to women of impact.
Wow. Thank you Lisa and Najwa. The truth bombs dropped here are so fire and so damn helpful. I am a recovering perfectionist & to boot, my last three serious relationships have been with narcissists. The insights in this video were extremely healing.
Soooo super love… appreciate your channel.. discussions.. conversations and sharing.. Najwa is ‘on fire’ indeed… thank you so much. Last couple of videos, w this woman at the end, I didn’t catch her name.. listening now.. so nice you give contact information at the end.. also w Terri Cole on a prior video, I feel I easily could have missed her or shied away from three hour video.. although, aaand.. they’re great.. a super suggestion.. to include a note in the title that they.. are included later in this video.. nice for them.. and those who don’t listen to the whole video.. to know that the next person is there.. also, ahhh repeating.. nice to know the length of the video with the first/each person.. and.. that there’s a second speaker Pardon, exhausted.. writing a bit a mess.. and facing huge trauma.. Ei. Big love and peace your way. Thank You. 🌸 These videos and sharing is soo important 🕊️
We grow up to be various versions of the new you we all evolve n yes these negative experiences we need to be greatful for them because ultimately these experiences birth us in to new n renewed beings Always remember connecting to the creator n prayer are great sources of strengths
I barely get out of bed except for trauma therapy because my mom was beaten and killed by hospital staff and they tried to cover up her abuse by silencing her with haldol and fentanyl while my 14yr old was beside her because those cowards called me out of the room claiming they were sending her for a CT which we found out after she was gone that they hurt her two hours before calling us and did a CT then. Then records came out that she was trying to call me screaming Jennifer call 911. My heart is broken 💔💔💔. My home is less than 2 miles from that hospital and I couldn’t save her. I feel such immense guilt because I didn’t get to tell her I loved her so much and she was my best friend. When your mom dies it is life changing but to see what those animals did to my mom who was an activist in the 70’s helping poor women and children to get benefits and rights. She did so much for others and I miss her so much. Her story made the news Carol Smith Sturdy Hospital, but now there is a cover up and no news stations will take the story. The medical examiner couldn’t rule out homicide and yet only 1.9% of deaths are ruled UNDETERMINED and 90% of those deaths are murders. I keep praying for God to take me so I can be with her, but I’m trying to keep my teen alive. My mom was her best friend and played chess with her 3x a week. These people who killed her are still working. They did everything they could to kill her when they could have saved her after beating her by sending her to a trauma hospital but they held her 8hrs as I begged and pleaded for them to transfer her. I even called the police twice . I feel I no longer have anyone I can count on, our moms love us unconditionally and we can always count on them. I just pray for justice but sadly people don’t care about 77yr old elderly women.
WARNING: I will never ask for your contact info in the comments section, that is someone impersonating me!
I have tried to complete this podcast so many time but the words are so deep for me that my mind feel heavy after listening it for around 15-20 minutes while I am trying to understand each and everyword.So I have not been able to listen the whole podcast even once.But I have listened the starting portion multiple times.If you could break the podcast in such a way that we could listen to it in multiple sittings.Then it would be much more effective for people like me.
It might be easier for people like you who have gone through deep healing and realisation process previously to go through this podcast in one sitting.
But for first timers like us it gets too heavy on mind.
@@soniyaasshrestha just write down were you left and continue the next time where you left. It Can be that easy :)
I have applied for the free pdf multiple times but never received any
Please never stop bringing her to the show, I feel so healed, understood and cared for every time! thank you ladies for being such a bright light 🤍
Aww❤
I couldn’t agree more! The way she articulates things resonates straight to my soul.
Ikr couldn't agree more😍
Two of my favorite ladies.
sameeee!! us empaths are so special and different and need a certain kind of love, attention, and appreciation
I was married to a narcissist for eight years and it broke me completely. I was losing myself. At some point I thought I was going insane because of his gaslighting. I finally got the strength to leave and I am healing now. The healing process is gradual but I am grateful I am where I am now. I am improving by the day and I am beginning to enjoy the true meaning of life with my three daughters. Thank you so much Najwa. I need to hear this.
My mom is a narcissist and every time she was around me I felt crazy. It's what narcs do to normal people.
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My mother was a narcissist, and then I married a narcissist. Thirteen years and two children later, I finally left him. For me, I finally realize the healing process is lifelong, but being in this process forever is 1000% improvement over being with a narcissist.
Each sentence that Najwa says is meaningful, rich with insight, and can stand on its own. I don't remember EVER listening to such an insightful speaker. Really, hands down. Thank you.
I second this. I have listened to this video at least 3 times now because every thing she has to say carries such insight.
Wasted 30 years of the best years now I'm old and trying to pick myself up from being abused in every area. Left without a cent just to get away. He gambled away everything including the house I built. Being married in community of property is the worst deal. My deepest sorrow is for my children, and how it messed them up. What a waste of lives, being around such a horrible individual. May God help us.
"Compassion is not a relationship between the healer and the wounded. It's a relationship between equals. Only when we know our own darkness well can we be present with the darkness of others. Compassion becomes real when we recognize our shared humanity.”
Pema Chodran.
What a great reminder that the best validation is from yourself.
I used to cry and meditate after heartbreak and hug myself until I felt better because that’s all I needed to feel soothed. 🥵
Najwa's voice on it's own is so soothing. I like the response around when people say you have changed, "this is how things are now". WOW
Najwa speaks of not looking at your past experience in the lens of shame but giving that past us a best friend without judgement but give that self kindness, but what then happens when you do that work and a person who saw you going through that experience constantly reminds you and judge your past self hash.
Ａs I grew up ppl keep telling me I should have more confidence, they wish me to have more confidence. But I grew up in a family that look down on me like they don't even want me. My mom would always think I shouldn't be proud of whatever I do, or my looking. For example, like the small drawing got awarded I drew when I was in kindergarten, and the certificates I received when I was in school, everything I did was not needed to be mentioned, it's dust, it's a piece of cake, don't need to talk about and if you talk about it's a brag. I have no voice in my family. So, I have just been very lack of confidence, even now I'm 34, doing my work, but whenever things got tough and such a big challenge in front, I just don't see I could make it through, therefore I always failed, or always need help, or even worse, quit. I didn't know why I always got so defeated at work, then I recently realized it was my inner child self, got hurt, and never getting the validation from the adults who did/do me wrong, scars me. I have always been trying to learn confidence from books, from ppl, and from talks, but I always struggle. I can pretend I'm confident, but if something went wrong, or something happens, I would just think I shouldn't be confident, it must be because of my embracing confidence, I should always remain weak.
This episode gave me a lot to think about, and I should have more empathy for myself. Thank you, Lisa, and Najwa, thank you, ladies.❤
She is so eloquent and to the point about healing and giving yourself the place you deserve. I had to admit that I also recognize that I'm the one projecting wounds to others, especially my partner, and he really doesn't deserve it. Must be interesting to have an episode about when you are the toxic one
6 minutes in and Najwa has unlocked so much in me. Thank you God for this channel and these ladies ♥️
I just left an abusive toxic relationship and I can't stand being around people because I keep feeling like they don't know how I feel inside. There's so much pain and outrage inside of me right now!!! How will I ever get over this??? I want to scream at the top of my lungs!
Take deep breaths. Do something you love - for me it's listening to music. It's great that you left the toxic relationship. It gets better
Learn how to self regulate and know what your triggers are. Know that you have the power to change how you react you can’t control others even if they don’t understand. It’s okay for you to take time out for yourself to heal. Give yourself lots of rest and patience. Work on self love and what type of person you want to be don’t let the habit of who you don’t take over because habits will become a part of u
As a man going through a lot of change and healing a lot about me and my past after my 5th fiancée cheating and a lot of past narcissistic trauma I want to say that this is such a wonderful conversation and I feel it deeply like so many of yours that I have listened to lately and the information and growth here is amazing.
Thank you
Thank you. I exactelly lived theses situations until now. Im 34. It Was just awful !!! A prison between my feelings and my reason and my health mentally..
Now thanks to your testymony i can heal all i did support for years since i was born. #Nomore #ihavefeelingstoothatcount!
This woman speaks for me so much!! Having a similar cultural background its so freeing to see such bold concepts and mindsets
PTSD automatically vomits fragments of your trauma into your consciousness, most nights. I'm the type that has always tried to outrun rumination and avoid 'pity parties'. All the intellectual acceptance, and gaslighting myself into feeling OK yields nothing. I'd love an interview with somebody who has slayed the PTSD beast.
try cultivating the observing self in those moments, notice when you are starting to be triggered and practice grounding techniques, another thing to try is realising the fragmented emotional part, that got split, needs to be met with care and compassion. Look up structural dissociation, it might help, pstd and similar is not something one can fully meet with intellectual knowledge. You could try emdr therapy I have heard good things about it :)
Gabor Mate has lots of videos on triggers, traumas and ptsd-yes observations, meditations, yoga nidra's , Wim Hoff breathing or any kind of slow breathings
This is so powerful, it is a required daily listening! This is like 30 years is therapy in one sitting!!!! You both did amazing!!!! Thank you, thank you! Ahhh! I'm so excited to the rewiring that's happened already and to come. Woo!
I'm like how did we almost live the same life!?
That’s one thing I won’t allow myself to do is give the power to the person that didn’t appreciate me and chose to go another way . They just weren’t for me and came into my life to teach me and make me realize what I truly want and deserve in life . I just keep moving forward and give a chance to next person not punishing them for the actions of my previous person. The new person in your life will mess it up on their own if they are not meant to be with you .. there’s a someone out there who’s meant to be with you and sometimes we gotta go through the process. One thing I don’t like is people playing games and wasting time . This life is unpredictable and why not just be truthful on how we feel about each other. If the feeling is not mutual I just be like thank you and now I know I’m not wasting my time hoping a specific person will look my way. ❤
I can never get tired of listening to Najwa. Having her here is always such a pleasure
WoW Lisa, I had to rewind so many times and listen attentively to grasp everything discussed in this full of gems episode; soo good!!!🙏❤️
I found myself doing the same exact thing lol I was like wait I need to hear that again!
a great conversation - "you're different now" is the best thing you can hear! 🔥🔥
So, as we wander through our childhood memories that have created habits and behaviours that aren’t truly who we are… I see so clearly that young girl who was completely unconscious of what she was creating. Growing up initially surrounded by self absorbed caregivers created this little, unfortunately, lost soul.
Without truly loving ourselves, or even knowing what that felt like, we or I, had this neediness to find that from another. Attracting in unhealthy scenarios time and time again. Being needy, abandoned, inevitably lost, attracts more of the same or worse. A greater energy that will take the energy you have until you have nothing to give. This energy actually the pattern breaker as it will destroy you.
Now, decades later and connected within there is NO CHANCE of attracting painful relationships back in as, we or I, have worked through the pain of a broken heart. Put the pieces back in place and know how to protect, support, nurture and care for this organ that is mine to look after. This inner beat that pumps life throughout my being my body, my temple…
As I connect deeply within the world outside of me responds and absolutely transforms into more love, peace, flow.
Just wanted to share and massive Thank-you for sharing so many experiences of your own and your guests. That have helped me get my power back. Just knowing that others are going through similar situations and this is a safe space no matter what you are going through. Pure love
1:11:58
Najwa is such an elegant and beautiful flower that she seems delicate, but far from being fragile! She is so knowledgeable and so strong that her words inspire me to aspire to be a woman of impact. ❤ Can't thanks both enough!
I love her. Please do more shows with her; she is compassionate, articulate, and her explanations resonate very well with my situation.
Holy shit, this is powerful. The reality of what it takes to recover from accumulated trauma that keeps getting more activated over the years is profound. Having spent a career doing deep transformation with people. I always love learning something new from someone who will just tell it like it is.
The people pleasing trauma response that comes from living in a world where generation after generation people are having kids with zero training and capacity to do so in a healthy way just means these people keep producing traumatized children that create traumatized adults who keep reexperiencing the same thing . Thank God we’ve entered the stage due to this ability to share this information with each other or people can finally understand what’s happening to them with it, and have strategies to change it. I look forward to where we understand things from the beginning and create an authenticity and intentionality the world we’d like to be living in. As someone who was made to suppress myself in the family systems I’ve been in that means that I suppressed my own instincts and intuition and like so many people even though you know what to do you can go in another direction and while that seems like not that big of a deal if we keep doing that, our life is off track, and that is why where are made to suppress themselves for the comfort of their parents and society as a whole and where this is done to people generation after generation only keeps creating people who have no connection to themselves and then take their lives off track only to beat themselves up. They were never given the proper foundation in the first place.
Having seen this my entire life, I have seen this, and I thought that when I got to this stage, I would see a world where people are being foundation trained from the beginning about reality being a person, authenticity intentionality, and how to literally create a reality of purposeful intentionality That elevates everyone around you. a world where people don’t have to pretend that they know what they’re doing and actually do know what they’re doing so they can do what they were born to do and bring in a new world that we’re all looking forward to being in. I just want to acknowledge the content in this interview and be deeply thankful for it. I have waited a lifetime to see the kind of conversations. I’m finally seeing on TH-cam and it is a privilege to take this information.
I Love Najwa 😍🥺 and her insight ❤️ please please invite her more on your show 🙏🏻 I strongly believe that she inspired a lot of people 👌🏻 She makes an impact by her calm voice 😊
Najwa always got something to say and no matter how many times I watch her, she always got a very valuable piece of information that hits. My most favorite episodes are Najwa’s ane Evy Poumpouras’s ❤️
I love it here 😍. I relate so much to what she is saying. Dealing with not being around toxic family member who think they are entitled to me
Such a relief to hear you talking. My inner voice becomes even louder
Such a powerful message! Ppl need to hear this worldwide.
Can I just say? Lisa Bilyeu is BY FAR one of the BEST listeners I have ever come across when watching any podcast/talk video. It’s incredible how well she listens and engages with her guests. It’s almost captivating to be totally honest!!!
What a great, articulate and strong woman, each time I hear you I feel I become stronger and I cry at the same time.
Thank you for being you.
Best thing i did in my life to start my healing journey and addressing scars throughout my life - to the point where im processing a broken relationship in record time becauae i know my self-worth and have accepeted the loss thats coming up. Honestly i dont even gauge the rejection, it doesn't'define who i am or what im capable of. Embrace vulnerability you'll be more emotionally secure and living in the healthiest energy.
As a dude....What a great message and powerful...
I had lost myself and my goodness, and lost an amazing person, losing both me and my girlfriend and best friend. ....
You 2 are such beautiful souls.....
my intentions are to truly love and be loved back so we grow together, being the best versions for ourselves and for our loved ones!!
Thank you!
Dave
Najwa's wisdom always strikes home, and she phrases things in such a way that illuminates how it is our own journey to find and be there for ourselves. Thank you for this talk. I needed it today 🙌
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Further in… she IS my favorite! Extremely vulnerable demonstrating extreme emotional fortitude… in a fragile body. Again, thank you!
In fact I always wanted a bike in my childhood, because I was such a tomboy, but I all I got is dolls from everywhere, because of my culture, when I was adult about 30 years old, I bought me a bike, I never learn to ride it, I kept it for a couple years, then I sold it, and I was completely over it, it’s a blessing when you’re completely aware enough to heal yourself on your own, without any Confirmation from anyone, I have the gift!
And I wish that for any broken person 🙏🏻
Really..🙄🙄
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She is absolutely amazing woman! I truly relate with her story and love her insight🙏🏻Thank you Lisa for a this incredible guest 👏🏻
Thank you Lisa for changing my life for the better ... after watching Najwa for the first time, I read her book "welcome home", I felt completely validated. Najwa got to introduce me to myself and finally I've been able to start building my own home and let go of others homes ... Thank you Najwa !
I love her so much! I have been watching so many of these and by far she is only one I have found that has literally felt as if she was speaking to me on almost every level! Finding this interview and watching her older interviews has enlightened me more than I could have ever dreamed.
This talk was invaluable and PURE gold!!! Who needs therapy when you have Nadjwa and Lisa.
This is so powerful and everything I needed to hear. You have put into words what I have been thinking but could not process or get myself over the guilt and shame until I heard this.
I needed this video, or at least one similar, right now. I've just had a stressful time at school. It calms me hear these words. For me I will get emotional when I get stressed but when it get excessive I'll have a seizure.
Lisa--Thank you for all your amazing, empowering content!! I have learned so much watching your channel, especially the interviews with Najwa Zebian, as she truly articulates and pinpoints the core wounds we carry to keep us from growing into our true potential. Love and gratitude to both of you ladies!! ❤🙏🔥
Hearing this a year post original air date. The analogy of the glass of wine “impacted” me. It’s one of those impact statements I’ll carry for the rest of my life. Thank you Najwa for passing the message 😘🙏
Sometimes I feel like you're sitting in on conversations with me and my husband. Because the guests you bring on to the show ares just so relevant. It really does help to know that you're not the only one fighting through different things in the world and that we can all learn something and be better people to ourselves to each other and to the world. Thank you Lisa You have literally been a star in my sky since you started this channel ❤️
I’m going through this right now. Perfect timing for posting. ❤
Im so proud of you, nazma... I know how much difficult it is to do what you have done in your life.... Thank you so much for all the narrative 🙏gratitude
I wish I could sit and have coffee with Najwa just talking for hours. Wow!!! Big admiration for big insight!!! Thank you so very much
I wish Najwa was my best friend! I love her ❤️
Wooow! One of the best interview I ever listen to. I will be coming back to it again and again. Every sentence is back up with such a wisdom.And I am a narcisist and domestic abuse surviwer being recently in a therapy. Saying thank you would not be enough. This is live saving
Watched this over and over because it is so rich and powerful! Shared knowledge becoming wisdom
I Suffered from Brain Damage/Paraplegia after having The Gastric Bypass Surgery resulting in me being in a Coma for 2 1/2 years. I experienced ongoing 16 years of Narcissist Abuse but I endured. A Nurse during one of my many hospitalizations gave me a table ( I was not even aware of the internet etc. ) but I began learning until one day I happed upon Narcissist Abuse : Gaslighting, Word Salad and Narcissistic Amnesia Etc. finally understanding what was being done to me. It's been very painful but I'm enduring daily and realize with every accomplishment that I no longer share with my Abusers I'm attacked. People around me Including Law Enforcement Agencies are fully aware of what's happening and even relatives out of town local law enforcement have visited me telling me they really want to DESTROY You. I'm Happy now that others are aware of what I'm enduring and I don't feel so along anymore. Thanks to all The Narcissist Abuse Teachers for saving my life.❤❤❤❤
Thankyou for your strength and insight! Self awareness and acceptance are so difficult and you explained things so beautifully especially about the importance of authenticity and making it a priority over validation.
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The person we're experiencing this with doesn't want to resolve the issue And we would rather keep our relationship with them rather than allow this to keep coming up.
That really hit home with my stepdad. I would get so frustrated with him......
Lisa, thank you for having Najwa on your show. I needed to hear exactly this! I feel like this talk will change my life 🎉🙏 Who knows, maybe one day, I will be on your show ❤ Take care, girl - you inspire me to be powerful
Yes give yourself a hug and give someone you love a hug🤗🥰
I love her🤗
Best channel on YT for us women
I’m ok with my past self, but why do I still have so much pain a year after he died? Pain from a person who deceived and betrayed me next level after 32 years of marriage!! I don’t know if I’ll ever be ok with what happened, I try not to think of all the details, but it was my whole adult life. I love your podcasts and especially love this guest! Najwa, I bought your book, what an incredible person!
The cycle Najwa talks about is something I am going through in my healing now. 🥹
Healed by her words and still learning a lot.
Love from India.❤️
Lisa thankyou so so very much for sharing this episode with us. This one was so full of wisdom. It is better than therapy. Will keep revisiting. Honour to be able to watch it. Thanks to women of impact.
You both are a miracle to this world. Thank you
Wow. Thank you Lisa and Najwa. The truth bombs dropped here are so fire and so damn helpful. I am a recovering perfectionist & to boot, my last three serious relationships have been with narcissists. The insights in this video were extremely healing.
I have blamed myself many times for being so unaware and falling for such a con!
Lisa love your guest. Thank you. You are both today's woman.
Loved this! I saved this video because I know I’m going to need to refer to it multiple times as I go on this journey of self transformation
Yay!! I love Najwa! Thank you for having her back❤
We stand by your side.
I love Nazwa ❤ she is so empowering and amazing. Please have Brian Nox on the show too.
Fantastic conversation. Thank you to both of you. Greatly appreciated.
Thank you so much. People have actually told me my problem is is that I’m just to me ??? It is so painful but this makes it empowering. Thank you
Soooo super love… appreciate your channel.. discussions.. conversations and sharing.. Najwa is ‘on fire’ indeed… thank you so much.
Last couple of videos, w this woman at the end, I didn’t catch her name.. listening now.. so nice you give contact information at the end.. also w Terri Cole on a prior video, I feel I easily could have missed her or shied away from three hour video.. although, aaand.. they’re great.. a super suggestion.. to include a note in the title that they.. are included later in this video.. nice for them.. and those who don’t listen to the whole video.. to know that the next person is there.. also, ahhh repeating.. nice to know the length of the video with the first/each person.. and.. that there’s a second speaker
Pardon, exhausted.. writing a bit a mess.. and facing huge trauma.. Ei. Big love and peace your way. Thank You. 🌸
These videos and sharing is soo important 🕊️
This show is amazing. We need more women to hear this. Thank you thank you ❤
If you stop feeling guilty for meeting your own needs you will be more ready to accept other people to want to meet your needs too.
We grow up to be various versions of the new you we all evolve n yes these negative experiences we need to be greatful for them because ultimately these experiences birth us in to new n renewed beings
Always remember connecting to the creator n prayer are great sources of strengths
I was waiting for this one....❤️❤️❤️✨
I have so much resentment thors my husband. NEVER FUKING WORK SINCE we got married
Thank you so much! I really needed to hear this. I'm going through a lot right now. God bless you.
I barely get out of bed except for trauma therapy because my mom was beaten and killed by hospital staff and they tried to cover up her abuse by silencing her with haldol and fentanyl while my 14yr old was beside her because those cowards called me out of the room claiming they were sending her for a CT which we found out after she was gone that they hurt her two hours before calling us and did a CT then. Then records came out that she was trying to call me screaming Jennifer call 911. My heart is broken 💔💔💔. My home is less than 2 miles from that hospital and I couldn’t save her. I feel such immense guilt because I didn’t get to tell her I loved her so much and she was my best friend. When your mom dies it is life changing but to see what those animals did to my mom who was an activist in the 70’s helping poor women and children to get benefits and rights. She did so much for others and I miss her so much. Her story made the news Carol Smith Sturdy Hospital, but now there is a cover up and no news stations will take the story. The medical examiner couldn’t rule out homicide and yet only 1.9% of deaths are ruled UNDETERMINED and 90% of those deaths are murders. I keep praying for God to take me so I can be with her, but I’m trying to keep my teen alive. My mom was her best friend and played chess with her 3x a week. These people who killed her are still working. They did everything they could to kill her when they could have saved her after beating her by sending her to a trauma hospital but they held her 8hrs as I begged and pleaded for them to transfer her. I even called the police twice . I feel I no longer have anyone I can count on, our moms love us unconditionally and we can always count on them. I just pray for justice but sadly people don’t care about 77yr old elderly women.
Love her .with so much genuin lovetruth my heart need to hear every sentence so kind 🙏💗
I needed this today. Thank you Lisa!!!
Divine timing!!!!
Just amazing! Thank you, thank you, thank you ladies. I could listen all day. 💕😊
Najwa🥰😍 what a great way to start this year.
This is so so spot on!!! I recognize myself so much in this
LOVE THESE TALKS..THANK YOU..AMEN
Just found this channel and wow love it
Happy New Year Lisa
I love Najwa! She's fantastic! . You too Lisa! Xxxx
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Exactly the video I needed. Thank you!!!
This is so amazing and exactly what I'm going thru. Wow
This is so amazing! 🙏🏼 I learned so much, thank you
This is great counseling!
I’m a big fan of Najwa Zebian.
She is brilliant
She’s a favorite for me. Thank you.
I love the message so helpful
AMAZING - I relate a lot! thanks for the video