I'm an empath and remember as a 11 year old, asking narc mother once, " Are you not exhausted of your mind games? How are you able to play these lame games everyday?". She was white as a sheet, as if someone has just yanked the mask off her face. One things to always remember is that narcs will force you to do things which you absolutely don't want to do in life, and when confronted, will feign ignorance. Trust, love, truth, and logic mean nothing to them. Just go NO-CONTACT.
When I confronted mine albeit over the phone, hadn't seen her in yrs she moaned like someone who'd had their pitch fork stolen 😈, still haven't seen her in yrs!
hello are you 11 yrs old now .. thts a lot of information you have at tht age .. yss the game's lies are never ending .. jus find waya keep on ...ive been thru by mom for years still going on even though im an older guy
@@isingh5782 I'm 40 now, and have been no-contact with narc parents for several years now. Knew since I was 10 that there was something wrong with them.
That was my pregnancies- 2 c sections. The ex barely stayed with me at the hospital to help. Surprised he even came to bring us home. 😂 once my parents pass on I will not tell my ex husband. His father passed earlier this year and he HAD to tell me. I said a vague “I’m sorry” but I won’t be sharing anything important to me with him. 18 years married with 2 kids and he feels like a stranger I could care less about. ❤
Had an accident while walking my dog one evening, broke my collar bone. I think I was out for a few seconds. My sweet Moe was waiting for me & 🐾🐾me to the door. I lay on the couch for an hour bc I didn't want to wake him. I knew he'd be an azz but damn!! The only thing he said to me the WHOLE night was "Great, they're gonna think I did it"!! The coldness was palpable even though it was midsummer. Wicked, Wicked people ☠️☠️☠️
True they have many faces and that depends on there mood.They can change with the click of your fingers .They are focused on themselfs a lot but will tell you how many faults they think you have . They will laugh at you but make excuses for the way they behave .
When I was pregnant and had mood-swings, my bf said, when I started to cry for no reason: "Go to the bedroom if you're going to cry over nothing, I don't want to hear that sh*t", and when I did so, I heard that he got up from the sofa in the living room after maybe 5 minutes. ...not to console me, but to slam the 2 doors shut between the rooms, since I annoyed him. Not the first time he was being unbelievably cold hearted - not by far - but certainly an incident that stands out.
I was delivering a baby, in active phase. I did not want him in there first place but he just made his way in there. However, the narc obviously had heard somewhere that one must rub womans back but i could not bear a touch at that point and he started screaming at me!!! I was in disbelief and told him eff off. Poor thing got so insulted and i heard it years later whenever he got hold on me. God bless you Danish, you are always 100%. Thank you for your work!
@@kristilepp211I hope you're not w/ that jerk anymore!! Labor/Delivery, & a Narc is Still worried abt Themself. I'm one to talk; I'm disabled & Surrounded by narcs, but still hoping to find a way out. Praying Seriously that we All Get Out like, NOW❤️👍
@@e.1766 I am so out!🙏 He is still somewhere backround, but does not affect me any ways. To get here it was a long, long journey. You will make it out as well! Trust the divine timing! My last baby is about to turn 12 and i can say that even one year ago he still was able to make me cry despite we have not even seen each other from face to face almost for 3 years. Their capacity is unbelievably enormous. I pray for you.
I was in extreme pain from the injury she caused and instead of compassion or remorse that I was suffering from an injury she caused , instead I saw disgust on her face and did everything to have me discard her so she can feel victim and I the bad one. Earlier when my mother died she was no support at all , instead she couldn’t talk more about her mother who had died a decade earlier. My narcissist brother would scold me when I was just a child and made me extremely upset and tearful for several birthdays , I still remember how he destroyed by childhood birthdays
One I knew acted like they were the only one for the baby. When they passed my 8 year old(now10) went into deep grieving for them. Later she told me that she had thought he was the only one that loved her. She is starting to realize as her mother how much I love her.
Your insights are very helpful for me to enable & empower my friend/neighbor...Her ex husband is such a bastard...One day, I was gardening in my front yard & heard him yelling at her in her back yard...I stood up to see what was going on & just then, he stepped back & saw me looking...IMMEDIATELY he began talking kindly to her but it was TOOOO LATE!...They were married 38yrs...He abandoned her for 3yrs & she divorced him...She keeps letting him come back when he's acting nice...It's been a ridiculous 13 yrs!!!!
I been watching all these videos, I didn’t even know what a narcissist was now i question if I’ve done anything like this , I haven’t as far as I can tell but it made me reflect, and I realize I’ve know a few
This video is spot on! I have experienced every event described in this video. It left me confused, depressed and anxious. Now that I’ve been on my healing journey I have accepted that I can’t change the past but I now know that I don’t deserve to be treated like that nor will I tolerate it moving forward. Be safe everyone and protect your peace and heart because some people just don’t deserve you! ❤
Exactly, Ex Narc bf reacted when my mom died suddenly when I was only 30. He said, “ you have 30 days to get over this!” His buddy the flying monkey was within earshot and took Narcs side. “ Everyones mom dies, “.
I agree. They do run in packs and they are enablers, rescuers, and flying monkeys. In time, the narcissist will target one of them and treat them the same way. One after the other. When they disappointment them even in a minor fraction. It is called the pecking order.
All those signs make perfect sense. My mother has always been a covert narcissist and I realized it now. I feel foolish and idiotic for being blinded by my love for her. Her being a caring person was a sick lie. She was never there when I needed her the most and whenever I vented my problems to her, she would ask, "so what should I do about it?" A caring person would never say that and would offer words of comfort. On the contrary she expects me to be sympathetic and listen to her vents and expects me to validate and justify... One time, she never cared I sprained my arms and would snap at me for not massaging her properly. The ironic part is, I was able to detect narcissistic traits in acquaintances and ditch them before becoming friends, yet right under my nose, all these years, I never would have expected my mother to be one. Now I'm mourning for myself because I never had a parent who cared for me; all these years and happy memories feel like a huge web of lies.
He remembered my birthday at the end of the day. He showed up with flowers card and cake. Then he made me take pictures and post it on Facebook after he told me many times not to post anything about him on Facebook.
You are so on point. In 2005 my first born nd only son died from a car accident, myex husband, the narc, didn't offer a hug or any words of comfort! Just a useless group of people! 🤪
No self-love, nothing to give. 😕❤️🩹😩❤️🩹. So sorry u lost your only son. Me too, but he was an adult. Watch for loved ones who’ve crossed over in your dreams. We can meet them there.
Even when a narcissist gets their karma and justice is served it doesn't take away the pain and loss you've suffered all this time. Also they don't feel guilt or remorse or shame the same way we do. Their senses are dulled to those emotions. Also they can adapt to hostile environments because they thrive in hostility so they could be rotting away in prison and it won't be satisfying to you because they'll just make connections in jail and continue to gather supply. When they die their enablers and blind supporters mourn their passing and commemorate their achievements so you never get that sense of closure or justice they will always have admirers in life and in death and they will always have supply in life and in death. You can't defeat these people. You really cannot. And the more you fight back against their monstrosity the more they convince others you are the problem. These people are human quicksand, once you make contact with any of them you are pulled into their nightmare forever. The more you struggle the less you are able to break free.
Boy oh boy- my ex and his mother are in for a rude awakening once my kids grow up. My kids want nothing to do with them once they are legally able to walk away. ❤
When I caught my husband who was my long term boyfriend wearing mask and faking he became a cruel and dangerous person physically abused me badly… later I left him because of many hints and I got to know about all his cheating and how he trapped me.., by god’s grace I got to know his true colours within 6 months of our marriage and now I’m healing…. I watched all your videos about this topic and it’s 100% true and I faced each and every behaviour
I was 18 yrs old and began having dizzy spells while studying for a college exam. When I heard him walking to his room at bedtime, I told him I wasn’t feeling well. He laughed and went to bed. The next morning, I had to be taken to the Emergency Room and was admitted to the hospital. 😔
My ex actively spoiled my career by having a tantrum, accusing me of drinking and infidelity in front of the very people who were offering me a big promotion He said he didn't want to feel like a lesser man next to me. That was the day I left
Narcissists also love to watch you seeing the death of an animal, a pet, especially the one you have strong bond with. They enjoy your total helplessness and agony. They leave you- physically or emotionally or both, exactly in this moment. You are feeling double agony at the same time- watching the death of animal you love and experiencing betrayal of narcissist. There are no words to describe this kind of experience. Narcissistic parents very often deliberately separate their scapegoat children from their beloved pets or abuse/kill the pets and enjoy the children's pain when their animal is suffering or gone. Sometimes they pretend that the animal got lost (while in fact they deliberately took it away from home and hidden it somewhere, or left in the forest) just to see their children despair of searching for the missing animal. Or they order the children to put down their pets...when in fact there are chances for a cure. Of course everything is done with total Coldness. The trauma after such events is INCURABLE. These children live with a guilty feeling till the rest of their lives. When they grow up and have another pet, there are big chances they are going to get into relationship with a narcissist who is going to leave them in the day when they really need to put down a pet because he is very sick. The agony of the past will come back and is going to be enhanced with the current betrayal... I give my heart to all the people and children who has been through this or are going through this now...
That's not just a narc that is a dark triad psychopath, sadist, and serial killer. You need a qualified shrink to help you see clearly how much danger you were in, and help you recover.
I agree with the other comment. What you said your parents are "The Dark Triad". These type narcs. are malignant narcissists as they are very dangerous to animals and people. They are capable of anything and everything. Including unaliving someone and animals who we love dearly. Read about "The Dark Triad" as it includes narcissistic personality disorder, psychopathy, and machiavellianism. Also, these type of narcissists are very sadistic and enjoy perpetrating abuse on someone and to also include animals. They get an evil grin on the face and laugh.
2 weeks ago my ex narc chose to gaslight me for hours as my close friend was dying. He tried to convince me he listened to a recorded phone call between me and his best friend where I said horrible things about him. I have never spoken to his friend on the phone! Im shattered that he could do that after 16 months. How can one human being be so cruel?
This is why no contact is the way to go, bc MOST narcissists like to kick U when you’re down. You showed a vulnerability bc Your friend was dying, so of course you needed support. Maybe this is why you had an hours long talk w/ your ex. I keep getting the tough lessons as well. If u delude yourself into thinking the narc is normal, it won’t be long b4 they shock u back to reality, that they cannot be trusted, but pretend they can.
That's what they do. When I was in the hospital with my son, mine bombarded me with mean text messages about how it was my sons own fault that he is sick, etc until I had enough and didn't answer anymore. I will never understand how they can get pleasure out of that.
My husband tried to kick me out two hours after I found out my grandma died. He didn’t want me to go the the funeral home and said if I go there don’t come back. I ended up leaving him 10 months ago …. But I went back. I’m sitting here typing now after I exploded on him for him saying he was gonna be different but now he’s telling me to get out all the time then when I say I’m leaving he says he was just playing. I’m crying, and he’s laughing. I thought ide give him a second chance becauee I’m young and beautiful and he’s old man/.. thought he would appreciate me. I was wrong . He’s almost 70 and I’m almost 40z
I was 8 months pregnant he beat me kicked me in stomach he hates children . I had a threatening Labour he was there after when I had had my child and just wanted to come to see if I die but fortunately I survived he ruined my whole life and I was inosent I still stayed with him . My father died and he beat me when I was praying to God he got irritatied he pulled my hair whilst I was praying my salah. He ruined all my birthdays may god deal with person the cruelty is beyond my explanation
I experienced this when my malignant narcissist youngest brother left me at the hospital after a major surgery and in the hospital for 2 days. When it was time for me to be discharged and I called him as they would not allow me to leave without someone picking me up. When I called him he cussed me out. I stayed in the hospital for hours and eventually the hospital staff allowed me to leave. I drove myself home and he never called to check up on me, but went silent for days and never apologized. Also, I experienced another life altering very serious event and instead of helping me he cussed me out, going nuts, and attempted to unalive me. So much to this story as it would take a while to write, but it was at this point I saw who he was as person and how much undeniable hate he had for me. I knew what I was dealing with and it was evil. Have been no contact with him for 3 years. He is on his own as far as I am concerned. I will never reconnect with him again. Now, his family and friends can deal with him.
1. Cruel Absence in the time of presence needed 2. Emotional absence& apathy 3. Twist the focus on to them 4. Pretends to fall sick in times of need 5. Avoiding the people in times of need 6. Monster self exposed between the four walls 7. Fallow my script - no choice 8. I don't need your excuses 9. Expect grandiose treatment from victims 10. Money monsters
A narcissist I was involved with recently would make everyone’s birthday about herself. She would spend large amounts of money on friends and make sure everyone knew about it via social media etc. She made a big production out of my birthday, taking me where she wanted to go. Expensive hotel etc. she made my birthday entirely about herself and what she wanted to do. Four days after my birthday I was discarded. In public at an event we attended. Even after that she made a social media post describing how much she spent on my birthday and how ‘ungrateful’ I was. She recently posted dozens of Instagram stories from another friend’s birthday. All about her and what a great day it was.
When my mom was in the hospital with a severe urinary tract infection, she was in gut wrenching pain. He had to go home because "the dogs were getting worried."
I recently caught my 24 year-old son lying. Having his lies exposed made him behave like an unhinged, arrogant teenager. In a furious rage, he came home, moved all his belongings out and into his girlfriend's apartment, gave up his car, dropped out of university and reported me to the police (who ignored him) for family abuse. It was a self-destructive tantrum.
Been there done that. He left to go party with friends on our marriage day. 😂 left me alone and next day was my birthday. I drank, cried and painted cursing what I had just done!
Thank you. God Bless you too. Narcissists and toxic people are everywhere, and i seems the population of them is growing. It doesn't matter your race, religion, economy status, culture, best friend, family, neighbor, profession, or where you live they are everywhere. Why? Gosh, who knows why exactly as there are several theories. Narcissistic Personality Disorder has characteristics and qualifiers. There is also other contexts such as the "Malignant Narcissist", to include narcissistic personality disorder, psychopathy, and machiavellianism. These type of narcissists as i see in the covert narcissist. an be They are also very sadistic. They enjoy abusing others, such as physical and verbal abuse. Physically hurting another human being and your dearly loved animals. Also, they are capable of unaliving someone. Also, within the family unit there is the scapegoat, golden child, the forgotten child, and etc. You can also apply this at your job if you work in a toxic and mean work environment. Read the DSM, Diagnostic Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders. This is a desk reference for therapists, psychologists, psychiatrists, mental health clinicians, and anyone working in the mental health field. Toxic people are everywhere also. Those that have mood swings, mean, and hateful. Like with narcissists you walk around on eggshells. The thing about narcissists is they refuse any kind of help. They see others as the problem and they have no shame, guilt or compassion toward others, especially those they have targeted. They are self absorbed, have huge egos and sense of grandosity. I believe in families there is one or two, and sometimes more than one in a family. Such as a parent or parents, sibling, or other relatives. I suggest you to also continue to watch Danish, but also Dr. Ramani, Dr. Carmen Bryant, Dr. Les Carter, and Dr. Ellen Sadler. Her videos are also in conjunction with Dr. Carmen Bryant. Hope all is well with you. Blessings.
My narcissist tricked me into thinking that he was going to leave my children alone while he was supposed to be watching them while I went to the store for a few minutes. He smiled like the Grinch when his manipulation got me to come home thinking my children could be in danger so that he could then leave.
Thank you Danish. I have been no-contact with my mother for different periods of my life. The longest was for about 6 years after my father died and I could not handle the way she would talk about my Dad. She also spread a lot of Mia truth about my siblings and me since our Dad included us in his inheritance. I have been going through a phase of guilt after 5 months of not speaking. She ruined a small string of holidays and birthdays for our family. I told her at that point that I needed space from her. Do you have any recommendations for no-contact guilt, or for ways to detach to get through holidays and family events? We have stopped going or having family events largely due to her behavior and the effects on everyone.
Good evening Danish if I didn't know better I would say you were married to my EX Demonic Evil Entity thank Jesus he saved me after 40 years but also with your help and sessions thank you
She called the cops on me night before my birthday, I showed up at her place so I was with her in the morning of my birthday. I knocked on her door and I hear " my ex boyfriend is here and he's threatening my life" yeah I just left.
I got married a year ago. My wife always compares, devalues me, and always complains one and the other. Now she wants separation. Is there any possibility of coming back?
No. Save yourself and get out, RUN!!🏃♂️ These sickos NEVER get better, 10 year's with one, divorced was the BEST thing I ever did for myself They're pathological liars. 🙏
I just found out from my kids that my narc mom washed my babies clothes in a public toilet at the park and put them back on him. When I confronted her she didn't care and tried to deny it.
They are similar to chameleons but instead of changing their colors to hide ,they change their characters to fit in with their surroundings or mood like a switch .Like it could be a normal day and subtly they will start ,say something in public and make out it’s a joke and it’s not , and you might say I’m not playing this game . Then they know you’re onto them ,or they say why are you moody ,anything to try and push the wrong buttons .Failing to upset you ,so they will try and find or invent something for a reason to start up again .even if it seems they have given up they have not . My answer to when they get like this,could be a friend or someone you work with ,would be is not to react straight away and one word answers because they won’t give up until they have you in tears or have you yelling back and then they have won , then that opens the door for them . Silent treatment they hate . Repeating the question they ask you. And I know it’s sometimes hard not to react
My mother in law is same as you said but she shows her self victim to my husband and he feels that I am very bad person. I love him so much what to do?
So sad 😢. It seems he is choosing his mother over you. That is not a marriage, but his mother thinks of him as a son husband. That is very sick and deranged.
Sir, i want to know have you built your own family...? Got married and started a new life...? I have done mine and thats the only reason i have recovered and surviving my abuse caused by my mother for longest period...... Well , my mother left me exactly at post partum period.... I identified her real personality at that time.... 10 years now, still overcoming that trauma....
@@lecahier I realised that my mother is a narc after I got married and had two kids.... My husband is a loving n caring person.... I lost my dad one year past my marriage.... So my mother lived with us... She has a son also who is elder than me.... The trauma infliction was there since my childhood but I didn't think much of it because my dad was such wonderful, loving n caring person who never made me think that I am not loved .... After he died, the protection I had from him was removed.... But now my husband was there for me... She tried to ruin my marriage and we could realise her intention very early.... But we couldn't ask her to leave our house as we are indians and here it's thing that's reprimanded.... So I tolerated her.... After second child birth, during my post partum time she left me unattended.... Just for your information that in India the post partum care of a child and new mother rests always on the mother of the woman . And it's a traditional thing done happily by all the mothers.... After she left me, I left my career n brought up my children.... My husband who loves me, understands me, he took over the charge and pacified me... We discussed these things for years.... I studied over internet about narcissistic personality and found out that my mother is a narc.... If my husband hadn't been there with me, I would have died by this time or gone mentally ill.... I am doing uine yet the trauma response exists in me.... Building myself again with the help of my family and people like Danish and others who are creating awareness on this topic..... Ya.. that's me..
the answer to your question, I basically heard the mask crack when I told my mom on the phone, Oct 9th, (a few weeks ago) that what she just said to me was a narcissistic comment. She said..."I now have a loving family" and she wasn't referring to me She likes to play victim and likes to claim we don't love her because we're not there helping her with her housework or yardwork etc. So... Until that moment, I had no clue.
Well, why aren't you there to help her from time to time? Of course it looks like you don't care! Maybe you are in the wrong and can't recognize it? Neglecting your parent is grounds for disinheritance, you should know that.
She was in front of me and literally turned into a zombie her whole face turned in a melting wax and those black eyes had no life in them . I saw the demon face to face .
I was stalled at a Fair during a bad Tornado and the only one I could contact and tell was him on Instagram and all he told me stay safe. I hoped that would call for help, tornado tore up some of the rides and military roofs next door. I was stuck holding on to a fence I couldn't contact anyone else. I was sick with Influenza virus 2 times in a year and 1/2 and he didn't say anything. I think he hopes I die? Guess he makes stronger. Shame on him I did was love and support him. Confronted him it was suppose to a humor and didn't have time to as a laugh and I was blocked. Haha Copy cat well he did copy my band and I see others did too. They didn't block me.
My daughter is a narcissist she is still getting money out of me😮 she thinks she is special and when I have my invega depot I am very vulnerable I have bi polar and scphsico effective disorder I am the scapegoat 🎉
I so agree. Those that are toxic or have features of having Narcissistic Personality Disorder refuse to have a battery of psychological tests to determine if they are a narcissist. They see society and people are the problem not them. They feel they are the victim and play that role out to others very well. The thing is they narcissists have huge ego and sense of grandosity. They would never jeopardize that.
He wanted money to buy clothes for his cousin marriage so out of love I took extra work I would get tiered sleep deprived while driving I met with accident broke my wrist bone had to go for surgery.... He just enquired once about my pain that's it.... I am ashamed and disgusted and nauseated to revel something he said he feels to f##k me🙈🙈😭😭🤮🤮
I don't mean to be rude, but the word narcissist is misspelled in the thumbnail. Hope I'm helpful and it can be fixed in the future. As a content creator myself, I understand the struggles, brother!
I'm an empath and remember as a 11 year old, asking narc mother once, " Are you not exhausted of your mind games? How are you able to play these lame games everyday?". She was white as a sheet, as if someone has just yanked the mask off her face.
One things to always remember is that narcs will force you to do things which you absolutely don't want to do in life, and when confronted, will feign ignorance. Trust, love, truth, and logic mean nothing to them. Just go NO-CONTACT.
When I confronted mine albeit over the phone, hadn't seen her in yrs she moaned like someone who'd had their pitch fork stolen 😈, still haven't seen her in yrs!
Nail, meet head!! 💯
@@joseenoel8093all
hello are you 11 yrs old now .. thts a lot of information you have at tht age .. yss the game's lies are never ending .. jus find waya keep on ...ive been thru by mom for years still going on even though im an older guy
@@isingh5782 I'm 40 now, and have been no-contact with narc parents for several years now. Knew since I was 10 that there was something wrong with them.
That was my pregnancies- 2 c sections. The ex barely stayed with me at the hospital to help. Surprised he even came to bring us home. 😂 once my parents pass on I will not tell my ex husband. His father passed earlier this year and he HAD to tell me. I said a vague “I’m sorry” but I won’t be sharing anything important to me with him. 18 years married with 2 kids and he feels like a stranger I could care less about. ❤
Had an accident while walking my dog one evening, broke my collar bone. I think I was out for a few seconds. My sweet Moe was waiting for me & 🐾🐾me to the door. I lay on the couch for an hour bc I didn't want to wake him. I knew he'd be an azz but damn!! The only thing he said to me the WHOLE night was "Great, they're gonna think I did it"!! The coldness was palpable even though it was midsummer. Wicked, Wicked people ☠️☠️☠️
True they have many faces and that depends on there mood.They can change with the click of your fingers .They are focused on themselfs a lot but will tell you how many faults they think you have . They will laugh at you but make excuses for the way they behave .
When I was pregnant and had mood-swings, my bf said, when I started to cry for no reason:
"Go to the bedroom if you're going to cry over nothing, I don't want to hear that sh*t", and when I did so, I heard that he got up from the sofa in the living room after maybe 5 minutes.
...not to console me, but to slam the 2 doors shut between the rooms, since I annoyed him.
Not the first time he was being unbelievably cold hearted - not by far - but certainly an incident that stands out.
Sympathetic words from them are "Suck it up" and "Ah you're always ill".
I was delivering a baby, in active phase. I did not want him in there first place but he just made his way in there. However, the narc obviously had heard somewhere that one must rub womans back but i could not bear a touch at that point and he started screaming at me!!! I was in disbelief and told him eff off. Poor thing got so insulted and i heard it years later whenever he got hold on me. God bless you Danish, you are always 100%. Thank you for your work!
😢can relate to this! I hope you're nowhere Near that A-hole anymore, it's Ok to cry if you need to, He's the problem ❤️
@@kristilepp211I hope you're not w/ that jerk anymore!! Labor/Delivery, & a Narc is Still worried abt Themself. I'm one to talk; I'm disabled & Surrounded by narcs, but still hoping to find a way out. Praying Seriously that we All Get Out like, NOW❤️👍
@@e.1766 I am so out!🙏 He is still somewhere backround, but does not affect me any ways. To get here it was a long, long journey. You will make it out as well! Trust the divine timing! My last baby is about to turn 12 and i can say that even one year ago he still was able to make me cry despite we have not even seen each other from face to face almost for 3 years. Their capacity is unbelievably enormous. I pray for you.
I was in extreme pain from the injury she caused and instead of compassion or remorse that I was suffering from an injury she caused , instead I saw disgust on her face and did everything to have me discard her so she can feel victim and I the bad one. Earlier when my mother died she was no support at all , instead she couldn’t talk more about her mother who had died a decade earlier.
My narcissist brother would scold me when I was just a child and made me extremely upset and tearful for several birthdays , I still remember how he destroyed by childhood birthdays
One I knew acted like they were the only one for the baby. When they passed my 8 year old(now10) went into deep grieving for them. Later she told me that she had thought he was the only one that loved her. She is starting to realize as her mother how much I love her.
Your insights are very helpful for me to enable & empower my friend/neighbor...Her ex husband is such a bastard...One day, I was gardening in my front yard & heard him yelling at her in her back yard...I stood up to see what was going on & just then, he stepped back & saw me looking...IMMEDIATELY he began talking kindly to her but it was TOOOO LATE!...They were married 38yrs...He abandoned her for 3yrs & she divorced him...She keeps letting him come back when he's acting nice...It's been a ridiculous 13 yrs!!!!
I been watching all these videos, I didn’t even know what a narcissist was now i question if I’ve done anything like this , I haven’t as far as I can tell but it made me reflect, and I realize I’ve know a few
This video is spot on! I have experienced every event described in this video. It left me confused, depressed and anxious. Now that I’ve been on my healing journey I have accepted that I can’t change the past but I now know that I don’t deserve to be treated like that nor will I tolerate it moving forward. Be safe everyone and protect your peace and heart because some people just don’t deserve you! ❤
"all pigs have the same nose." Thats a quote from the narc - I guess he would know !
Me too! Stay Strong & keep putting yourself First! Sounds like You are Making Progress, so Don't Stop! YAY!! 👍❤️
@@e.1766 Thank you!
@@HuHWhat-yi8cp Exactly! 😂
Exactly, Ex Narc bf reacted when my mom died suddenly when I was only 30. He said, “ you have 30 days to get over this!” His buddy the flying monkey was within earshot and took Narcs side. “ Everyones mom dies, “.
Narcs run in packs -- sometimes called families ! 😸
I agree. They do run in packs and they are enablers, rescuers, and flying monkeys. In time, the narcissist will target one of them and treat them the same way. One after the other. When they disappointment them even in a minor fraction. It is called the pecking order.
@@Prometheuspredator Yes, the narc is definitely top lizard in its demented hierarchy ! 🤣
All those signs make perfect sense. My mother has always been a covert narcissist and I realized it now. I feel foolish and idiotic for being blinded by my love for her. Her being a caring person was a sick lie. She was never there when I needed her the most and whenever I vented my problems to her, she would ask, "so what should I do about it?" A caring person would never say that and would offer words of comfort. On the contrary she expects me to be sympathetic and listen to her vents and expects me to validate and justify... One time, she never cared I sprained my arms and would snap at me for not massaging her properly.
The ironic part is, I was able to detect narcissistic traits in acquaintances and ditch them before becoming friends, yet right under my nose, all these years, I never would have expected my mother to be one. Now I'm mourning for myself because I never had a parent who cared for me; all these years and happy memories feel like a huge web of lies.
How old are you now?
He remembered my birthday at the end of the day. He showed up with flowers card and cake. Then he made me take pictures and post it on Facebook after he told me many times not to post anything about him on Facebook.
Listen to him, all of his videos, I lived it just the way he says it
You are so on point. In 2005 my first born nd only son died from a car accident, myex husband, the narc, didn't offer a hug or any words of comfort! Just a useless group of people! 🤪
Thank you for your story, they're beyond useless and make tragedies worse, I wish you the very best.
@@joseenoel8093 💜🙏🏾💜
No self-love, nothing to give. 😕❤️🩹😩❤️🩹. So sorry u lost your only son. Me too, but he was an adult. Watch for loved ones who’ve crossed over in your dreams. We can meet them there.
Narccisit see every incident as an opportunity to grip their hold tight
I’m so sorry. Hugs. ❤❤❤
Even when a narcissist gets their karma and justice is served it doesn't take away the pain and loss you've suffered all this time. Also they don't feel guilt or remorse or shame the same way we do. Their senses are dulled to those emotions. Also they can adapt to hostile environments because they thrive in hostility so they could be rotting away in prison and it won't be satisfying to you because they'll just make connections in jail and continue to gather supply. When they die their enablers and blind supporters mourn their passing and commemorate their achievements so you never get that sense of closure or justice they will always have admirers in life and in death and they will always have supply in life and in death. You can't defeat these people. You really cannot. And the more you fight back against their monstrosity the more they convince others you are the problem.
These people are human quicksand, once you make contact with any of them you are pulled into their nightmare forever. The more you struggle the less you are able to break free.
Roxy, what a perceptive spot on description of these monsters. Thanks.
Boy oh boy- my ex and his mother are in for a rude awakening once my kids grow up. My kids want nothing to do with them once they are legally able to walk away. ❤
When I caught my husband who was my long term boyfriend wearing mask and faking he became a cruel and dangerous person physically abused me badly… later I left him because of many hints and I got to know about all his cheating and how he trapped me.., by god’s grace I got to know his true colours within 6 months of our marriage and now I’m healing…. I watched all your videos about this topic and it’s 100% true and I faced each and every behaviour
I was 18 yrs old and began having dizzy spells while studying for a college exam. When I heard him walking to his room at bedtime, I told him I wasn’t feeling well. He laughed and went to bed. The next morning, I had to be taken to the Emergency Room and was admitted to the hospital. 😔
Did he feel bad nope...he didn't give you ride home right?
@@emmajohnson6955 Not unless he stole your car?!
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Having experienced similar I now wonder if they put something in my food or drink to cause this in attempt to sabotage my career
My ex actively spoiled my career by having a tantrum, accusing me of drinking and infidelity in front of the very people who were offering me a big promotion
He said he didn't want to feel like a lesser man next to me.
That was the day I left
I experienced all these points and many more with my narcissist wife😢
our marriage relation only of 2 years..
now we're on the edge of divorce..
😢. So sorry to hear this.
Narcissists also love to watch you seeing the death of an animal, a pet, especially the one you have strong bond with. They enjoy your total helplessness and agony. They leave you- physically or emotionally or both, exactly in this moment. You are feeling double agony at the same time- watching the death of animal you love and experiencing betrayal of narcissist. There are no words to describe this kind of experience. Narcissistic parents very often deliberately separate their scapegoat children from their beloved pets or abuse/kill the pets and enjoy the children's pain when their animal is suffering or gone. Sometimes they pretend that the animal got lost (while in fact they deliberately took it away from home and hidden it somewhere, or left in the forest) just to see their children despair of searching for the missing animal. Or they order the children to put down their pets...when in fact there are chances for a cure. Of course everything is done with total Coldness. The trauma after such events is INCURABLE. These children live with a guilty feeling till the rest of their lives. When they grow up and have another pet, there are big chances they are going to get into relationship with a narcissist who is going to leave them in the day when they really need to put down a pet because he is very sick. The agony of the past will come back and is going to be enhanced with the current betrayal... I give my heart to all the people and children who has been through this or are going through this now...
That's not just a narc that is a dark triad psychopath, sadist, and serial killer. You need a qualified shrink to help you see clearly how much danger you were in, and help you recover.
@@kobra4422 ❤
@sarahw7616 ❤
I agree with the other comment. What you said your parents are "The Dark Triad". These type narcs. are malignant narcissists as they are very dangerous to animals and people. They are capable of anything and everything. Including unaliving someone and animals who we love dearly. Read about "The Dark Triad" as it includes narcissistic personality disorder, psychopathy, and machiavellianism. Also, these type of narcissists are very sadistic and enjoy perpetrating abuse on someone and to also include animals. They get an evil grin on the face and laugh.
@sarahw7616 So sorry about your baby bunnies. 😢.
2 weeks ago my ex narc chose to gaslight me for hours as my close friend was dying. He tried to convince me he listened to a recorded phone call between me and his best friend where I said horrible things about him. I have never spoken to his friend on the phone! Im shattered that he could do that after 16 months. How can one human being be so cruel?
This is why no contact is the way to go, bc MOST narcissists like to kick U when you’re down. You showed a vulnerability bc Your friend was dying, so of course you needed support. Maybe this is why you had an hours long talk w/ your ex. I keep getting the tough lessons as well. If u delude yourself into thinking the narc is normal, it won’t be long b4 they shock u back to reality, that they cannot be trusted, but pretend they can.
@@janetpattison8474 he wasn't my ex until after she.died
That's what they do. When I was in the hospital with my son, mine bombarded me with mean text messages about how it was my sons own fault that he is sick, etc until I had enough and didn't answer anymore. I will never understand how they can get pleasure out of that.
My husband tried to kick me out two hours after I found out my grandma died. He didn’t want me to go the the funeral home and said if I go there don’t come back. I ended up leaving him 10 months ago …. But I went back. I’m sitting here typing now after I exploded on him for him saying he was gonna be different but now he’s telling me to get out all the time then when I say I’m leaving he says he was just playing. I’m crying, and he’s laughing. I thought ide give him a second chance becauee I’m young and beautiful and he’s old man/.. thought he would appreciate me. I was wrong . He’s almost 70 and I’m almost 40z
@@janetpattison8474Facts not fiction
I was 8 months pregnant he beat me kicked me in stomach he hates children . I had a threatening Labour he was there after when I had had my child and just wanted to come to see if I die but fortunately I survived he ruined my whole life and I was inosent I still stayed with him . My father died and he beat me when I was praying to God he got irritatied he pulled my hair whilst I was praying my salah. He ruined all my birthdays may god deal with person the cruelty is beyond my explanation
😢. So sorry. I know they are terrible. I hope you are safe.
Why don't you leave him?
I experienced this when my malignant narcissist youngest brother left me at the hospital after a major surgery and in the hospital for 2 days. When it was time for me to be discharged and I called him as they would not allow me to leave without someone picking me up. When I called him he cussed me out. I stayed in the hospital for hours and eventually the hospital staff allowed me to leave. I drove myself home and he never called to check up on me, but went silent for days and never apologized. Also, I experienced another life altering very serious event and instead of helping me he cussed me out, going nuts, and attempted to unalive me. So much to this story as it would take a while to write, but it was at this point I saw who he was as person and how much undeniable hate he had for me. I knew what I was dealing with and it was evil. Have been no contact with him for 3 years. He is on his own as far as I am concerned. I will never reconnect with him again. Now, his family and friends can deal with him.
I wouldn't neither if o was you.
1. Cruel Absence in the time of presence needed
2. Emotional absence& apathy
3. Twist the focus on to them
4. Pretends to fall sick in times of need
5. Avoiding the people in times of need
6. Monster self exposed between the four walls
7. Fallow my script - no choice
8. I don't need your excuses
9. Expect grandiose treatment from victims
10. Money monsters
A narcissist I was involved with recently would make everyone’s birthday about herself. She would spend large amounts of money on friends and make sure everyone knew about it via social media etc. She made a big production out of my birthday, taking me where she wanted to go. Expensive hotel etc. she made my birthday entirely about herself and what she wanted to do.
Four days after my birthday I was discarded. In public at an event we attended. Even after that she made a social media post describing how much she spent on my birthday and how ‘ungrateful’ I was. She recently posted dozens of Instagram stories from another friend’s birthday. All about her and what a great day it was.
When my mom was in the hospital with a severe urinary tract infection, she was in gut wrenching pain. He had to go home because "the dogs were getting worried."
I recently caught my 24 year-old son lying. Having his lies exposed made him behave like an unhinged, arrogant teenager. In a furious rage, he came home, moved all his belongings out and into his girlfriend's apartment, gave up his car, dropped out of university and reported me to the police (who ignored him) for family abuse. It was a self-destructive tantrum.
They have no concept of time and are never there when you need them the most only when it suits them,they run on there time not yours ever,,
He ended the relationship after he was told my granddaughter was in the hospital with a concussion from a school bus accident.
The game is to hit you when you are down. The more down -- the more points ! They are evil 🤡s
For 10 years..I was left alone on my birthday on Christmas and ever other special days...all alone
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They love to ruin holidays, very cruel people!
@@joseenoel8093 Ruining it for us made it great for them ! 🙃
Been there done that. He left to go party with friends on our marriage day. 😂 left me alone and next day was my birthday. I drank, cried and painted cursing what I had just done!
@@undercoverbird8592 "Should we go out for breakfast ? Or just have something here?" He says, "Its my day off...I'll be back around 5 for dinner." 🙃 🤔
Bless You Danish. ❤
Thank you Danish
Thank you for sharing
May Allah bless u lots
everything in this video nuggest of gold
real and valuable
why does this happen to all nice compassionate empathetic people 😢
Thank you. God Bless you too. Narcissists and toxic people are everywhere, and i seems the population of them is growing. It doesn't matter your race, religion, economy status, culture, best friend, family, neighbor, profession, or where you live they are everywhere. Why? Gosh, who knows why exactly as there are several theories. Narcissistic Personality Disorder has characteristics and qualifiers. There is also other contexts such as the "Malignant Narcissist", to include narcissistic personality disorder, psychopathy, and machiavellianism. These type of narcissists as i see in the covert narcissist. an be They are also very sadistic. They enjoy abusing others, such as physical and verbal abuse. Physically hurting another human being and your dearly loved animals. Also, they are capable of unaliving someone. Also, within the family unit there is the scapegoat, golden child, the forgotten child, and etc. You can also apply this at your job if you work in a toxic and mean work environment. Read the DSM, Diagnostic Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders. This is a desk reference for therapists, psychologists, psychiatrists, mental health clinicians, and anyone working in the mental health field. Toxic people are everywhere also. Those that have mood swings, mean, and hateful. Like with narcissists you walk around on eggshells. The thing about narcissists is they refuse any kind of help. They see others as the problem and they have no shame, guilt or compassion toward others, especially those they have targeted. They are self absorbed, have huge egos and sense of grandosity. I believe in families there is one or two, and sometimes more than one in a family. Such as a parent or parents, sibling, or other relatives. I suggest you to also continue to watch Danish, but also Dr. Ramani, Dr. Carmen Bryant, Dr. Les Carter, and Dr. Ellen Sadler. Her videos are also in conjunction with Dr. Carmen Bryant. Hope all is well with you. Blessings.
Holidays and Birthdays are the worst because i have to be around the narc
My narcissist tricked me into thinking that he was going to leave my children alone while he was supposed to be watching them while I went to the store for a few minutes. He smiled like the Grinch when his manipulation got me to come home thinking my children could be in danger so that he could then leave.
Thank you Danish. I have been no-contact with my mother for different periods of my life. The longest was for about 6 years after my father died and I could not handle the way she would talk about my Dad. She also spread a lot of Mia truth about my siblings and me since our Dad included us in his inheritance. I have been going through a phase of guilt after 5 months of not speaking. She ruined a small string of holidays and birthdays for our family. I told her at that point that I needed space from her. Do you have any recommendations for no-contact guilt, or for ways to detach to get through holidays and family events? We have stopped going or having family events largely due to her behavior and the effects on everyone.
Ok, I guess it's time for (us, ppl like us) to 'suck it up' & start looking for a good counselor. Yeah; maybe we better 👍❤️
Good evening Danish if I didn't know better I would say you were married to my EX Demonic Evil Entity thank Jesus he saved me after 40 years but also with your help and sessions thank you
I ghosted him for 2 months before he ended the relationship.
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"Mrs Ruination" on and about every possible joyous occasion
Totally Selfish even
at the expense of children's Feelings even.
I saw it more clearly when she discarded me for a longer period of time
She called the cops on me night before my birthday, I showed up at her place so I was with her in the morning of my birthday. I knocked on her door and I hear " my ex boyfriend is here and he's threatening my life" yeah I just left.
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I got married a year ago. My wife always compares, devalues me, and always complains one and the other. Now she wants separation. Is there any possibility of coming back?
No. Save yourself and get out, RUN!!🏃♂️
These sickos NEVER get better, 10 year's with one, divorced was the BEST thing I ever did for myself
They're pathological liars. 🙏
No don't do it... Been married to one for 18 yrs... They get worse... Can't wait for the divorce to be final
When we praise someone for there personality nature then narcessist just lash out and screaming that u had affair with that person which we praised 😂😂
So true danish
I experienced all these events in 6 months journey with my partner
My husband has done all this to me n still he is
He is existing only for the family of his parent's
On point 😂😂😂👏👏👏
Caught her lying and going with her best friend husband and decided to stop talking just for her not to be accountable for her secrets
Omg
Absolutely
Kaya nga nakilala ka , dahil nagpakilala ka na ikaw nga. All manifestatios leading to your direction.
Naninira ka pa, ikaw pala iyan.
I just found out from my kids that my narc mom washed my babies clothes in a public toilet at the park and put them back on him. When I confronted her she didn't care and tried to deny it.
Wow! She washed and so what? She suddenly became a narc?
No that's silly. I could write a book about all the ways she's a narc. Its just one more instance I became aware of.
They are similar to chameleons but instead of changing their colors to hide ,they change their characters to fit in with their surroundings or mood like a switch .Like it could be a normal day and subtly they will start ,say something in public and make out it’s a joke and it’s not , and you might say I’m not playing this game .
Then they know you’re onto them ,or they say why are you moody ,anything to try and push the wrong buttons .Failing to upset you ,so they will try and find or invent something for a reason to start up again .even if it seems they have given up they have not .
My answer to when they get like this,could be a friend or someone you work with ,would be is not to react straight away and one word answers because they won’t give up until they have you in tears or have you yelling back and then they have won , then that opens the door for them .
Silent treatment they hate . Repeating the question they ask you. And I know it’s sometimes hard not to react
My mother in law is same as you said but she shows her self victim to my husband and he feels that I am very bad person. I love him so much what to do?
So sad 😢. It seems he is choosing his mother over you. That is not a marriage, but his mother thinks of him as a son husband. That is very sick and deranged.
Sir, i want to know have you built your own family...? Got married and started a new life...? I have done mine and thats the only reason i have recovered and surviving my abuse caused by my mother for longest period......
Well , my mother left me exactly at post partum period.... I identified her real personality at that time.... 10 years now, still overcoming that trauma....
If you don’t mind, can you share more about how your new family helped heal you?
@@lecahier I realised that my mother is a narc after I got married and had two kids.... My husband is a loving n caring person.... I lost my dad one year past my marriage.... So my mother lived with us... She has a son also who is elder than me.... The trauma infliction was there since my childhood but I didn't think much of it because my dad was such wonderful, loving n caring person who never made me think that I am not loved .... After he died, the protection I had from him was removed.... But now my husband was there for me... She tried to ruin my marriage and we could realise her intention very early.... But we couldn't ask her to leave our house as we are indians and here it's thing that's reprimanded.... So I tolerated her.... After second child birth, during my post partum time she left me unattended.... Just for your information that in India the post partum care of a child and new mother rests always on the mother of the woman . And it's a traditional thing done happily by all the mothers.... After she left me, I left my career n brought up my children.... My husband who loves me, understands me, he took over the charge and pacified me... We discussed these things for years.... I studied over internet about narcissistic personality and found out that my mother is a narc.... If my husband hadn't been there with me, I would have died by this time or gone mentally ill.... I am doing uine yet the trauma response exists in me.... Building myself again with the help of my family and people like Danish and others who are creating awareness on this topic.....
Ya.. that's me..
The abuser said to me
My only son was murdered😢
During my grieving I was at my lowest couldn't stop crying
He said so nasty I'm not a Psychiatrist 😢
You are so right. I have sometimes very bad back-pain and he wanted to have sex. Found it funny to tell me it might help against the pain.
@zg. OMG
@@caroleminke6116 how can they do that. I am so sorry for you!
the answer to your question, I basically heard the mask crack when I told my mom on the phone, Oct 9th, (a few weeks ago) that what she just said to me was a narcissistic comment. She said..."I now have a loving family" and she wasn't referring to me She likes to play victim and likes to claim we don't love her because we're not there helping her with her housework or yardwork etc. So... Until that moment, I had no clue.
Well, why aren't you there to help her from time to time? Of course it looks like you don't care! Maybe you are in the wrong and can't recognize it? Neglecting your parent is grounds for disinheritance, you should know that.
She was in front of me and literally turned into a zombie her whole face turned in a melting wax and those black eyes had no life in them . I saw the demon face to face .
I was stalled at a Fair during a bad Tornado and the only one I could contact and tell was him on Instagram and all he told me stay safe. I hoped that would call for help, tornado tore up some of the rides and military roofs next door. I was stuck holding on to a fence I couldn't contact anyone else. I was sick with Influenza virus 2 times in a year and 1/2 and he didn't say anything. I think he hopes I die? Guess he makes stronger. Shame on him I did was love and support him. Confronted him it was suppose to a humor and didn't have time to as a laugh and I was blocked. Haha Copy cat well he did copy my band and I see others did too. They didn't block me.
On road trips.
My daughter is a narcissist she is still getting money out of me😮 she thinks she is special and when I have my invega depot I am very vulnerable I have bi polar and scphsico effective disorder I am the scapegoat 🎉
All these horror storys of decent humans being hurt....
Your there for them but the narc can’t do anything for anyone
There is absoultlty no way npd is rare
I so agree. Those that are toxic or have features of having Narcissistic Personality Disorder refuse to have a battery of psychological tests to determine if they are a narcissist. They see society and people are the problem not them. They feel they are the victim and play that role out to others very well. The thing is they narcissists have huge ego and sense of grandosity. They would never jeopardize that.
this is the same video that was posted five months ago
Always good as a reminder.
@@grammyspa-jammies1737 groundhog day
When narcissistic girl looted all my money then her mask slip off and I saw the monster 👹 side.
❤😮Exactly my twinflame soulmate I’m divorcing
He wanted money to buy clothes for his cousin marriage so out of love I took extra work I would get tiered sleep deprived while driving I met with accident broke my wrist bone had to go for surgery.... He just enquired once about my pain that's it.... I am ashamed and disgusted and nauseated to revel something he said he feels to f##k me🙈🙈😭😭🤮🤮
I don't mean to be rude, but the word narcissist is misspelled in the thumbnail. Hope I'm helpful and it can be fixed in the future. As a content creator myself, I understand the struggles, brother!
I saw something was wrong when we slept together.