When I discarded her, it wasn’t just a rejection of the woman who had betrayed me-it was a rejection of everything she thought she could be. She built a life on manipulation, deceit, and control, never once having to face the truth of who she really was. But my absence, my refusal to let her hold any power over me anymore, sent her spiraling into something deeper than loss. It was a breakdown of the illusion she had carefully crafted. She thought she could destroy me, that she could turn the knife of her betrayal and break me. But what she failed to realize was that there was a part of me she could never touch-the light inside, the part of me that would not bend to her lies. And now, as she stares into the reflection of her own hollow soul, she’s confronted with the devastation of what she’s become. She sees the wreckage she’s caused, not just to me, but to herself. Her worst fear is not that I’ve walked away, but that I’ve walked away and kept my light intact, while hers is fading. I can feel it in her-the way she can’t live with herself now, knowing that the one person she thought she could break has only grown stronger in my silence. The greatest destruction for her is not losing me; it's the fact that I never needed her to feel whole. The mirror she’s now forced to face is one where the darkness she’s cultivated can no longer hide the truth: she is empty, and the very thing that could have saved her-my love, my light-she destroyed.
They destroy you from inside and then they question- why can I no longer talk to that person? Because that person put the puzzle pieces together and now no longer chooses to be a survivor, but a thriver. Thank you for your testimony. Stay close to the Lord. The Lord be with us.
@JamesNGames Woooww, your words echo loud throughout my soul of what I went through with an ex-husband. Thank you so much for eloquently writing your response. The way you expressed yourself was like opening up a good novel and wanting to keep reading until you get to the very end. You should be writing books or even screenplays with your talent 😊. Thanks again and your words are greatly appreciated by another healing soul!!!
It's so hard to read your comment because I resonate with that pain. I can feel you have reclaimed your power. Im so proud of you ❤ I hope very soon I can get there too.
Brilliantly said! My sister relied on me to make it possible for her to exist. Translated: without me to use, she dissolved. She never thought I'd go no contact with her, so her abuse got progressively worse. Mother enabled her. As decades pass, a person tends to get beyond confident--diabolical is more the term.
The greatest destruction for her …wow I’ve been there,I never needed my partner back then to be whole,met her that way and was working my way to at least communicate. Your line opened up my sight about my lonely thoughts. I feel like they acting that way when they meet you late (in their life).
When I was 35 and working while going to graduate school full time, I told my mother that I was pregnant with our second child. She gave me a lecture on how I wouldn't finish and receive my doctor's degree instead of congratulations. I let her go on and on. Later she would ask me how I felt. Always told her fine and change the subject. That frustrated her. She was a diabetic and got sick. Later she passed. She never got a another chance to lecture me again. This was my answer to years of abuse.
Sir Danish, that's exactly what I said to this demonic narcissist. I don't care what he is doing. I just want peace for myself. And I don't need this evil along with his crap. I don't care for his 10 supplies. I'm out of his life anyway. He's making me jealous? No way, I'm very happy to see someone taking over.. Good luck to her.
Thank you for your message Danish, it's really helping lot of people including me who survived in trauma proves that we are strong and blessed children of God 🙏❤
I have managed to make it known to my narcissist that I don't care what he does or doesn't do and it took years of gray rock, years of listening to the most vile name calling and accusations, needless to say it wasn't easy but it has made me strong and resilient and I've gained much as a result... However due to finances I still share a house w him and now he's drinking and drugging himself to death and it is disturbing. He still lies all the time and every once in a while tries his crap but no avail..... So now he's literally nodded out more often than conscious.... Even though he's been evil to me I don't wish this on him or anyone but at the same time we all reap what we sow and there's nothing I can do for him and I will not tolerate abuse so he can feel better.... It's very sad....
Brilliant insight Danish. I've recently gone low contact with my covert narc mother. Finally had the courage after 68 years of abuse while she wears her angel mask in public. I think she even realises it's her own fault.
Going no contact with a narcissistic parent is incredibly difficult particularly when they are talking with relatives about you and attempting to hoover you back into the relationship. This is clearly a test of strength and the commitment to never have anything to do with them ever again and to treat them as if they are dead. It's beyond sad. This is a situation that beckons grieving.
Thank you Danish for your immense and kind work.Many people suffer immensely through narcissistic abuse in relationships for many years, often unaware of the true nature of their suffering. The sadness lies in their lack of awareness and the feeling of helplessness that hinders them from taking the right steps to protect themselves from years of unbearable pain. If God is kind to these individuals, He will lead them to your enlightening videos. You are the beacon of light and hope for these vulnerable souls. May God always bless you with all the good things in life.🙏
💯. every word is correct. when you recognize and live a life of yours with the ultimate peace by avoiding the trouble maker, every one( friends and family) will ask you- “is everything okay with you? ”. I am sitting here digging in my mind to find a problem😂. I feel like everything is okay with me❤, because i find myself again and with utter peace❤
I unblocked my Ex and sent him the song. "OVER YOU" by DAUGHTRY. I haven't heard from him since !!! (And he is still unblocked.) (Great Song, please listen.) HE GOT MY MESSAGE, LOUD AND CLEAR !!!
You are so right! What if a child of 21 years old,has the same narcissistic behavior towards the mother? The father is disceaed but he was even worse towards me.. Unfortunately, it took me time to understand him and that mainly happened after his death. I read a lot about human behavior/characters, and that helped me to end up to this conclusion. Pitty I tolerated such a behavior, but now is my son we are talking about. What a parent should do in such a case?
100% this video is really good , just like the one on the narcs sexuality. Your videos are of immense help. Thank so very much and greetings from Belgium
I would like a video on breadcrumbing. He stops by, gives me and kids gifts, then the next day when I’m at the store calls the police on my kids to terrorize them. Doesn’t come to kids games, baptism, birthday parties, track meets but buys expensive gifts for the kids. Gives me “romantic” cards even though we are 2 years in divorce proceedings and tells the judge awful things about me.
After I left my narcissistic fathers business for good, he tried on phone to triangulate with me(savior), he(abuser) and the victim(my mother) and tried to switch to being victim but there was no way of switching to be seen as a victim since I am no longer a savior in this drama triangle. He possibly had a rage in office when he couldn't make me and my mother argue with each other. Everything is obvious and I will possibly never confront him for what he is because I know that the conscience is a living thing and remorse haunts like an approaching hell for the remorser.
Thank God for your wisdom….. Moving forever gives me Air to breathe . They are validated to Hell and all the wisdom you share is I am not a part of His Life …..Amen
I didn't want to let them go away bcz I learnt about them just by listening to the videos on youtube. I felt this way as it will not be a justifiable way to decide so called marriage life. Later I realized if only videos can help so much to recover and help me gain my emotional well being then Why Not ?????? I am experiencing both, the reality of being abused and implementing Danish analysis. But emotional detachment is still pending as thoughts keep coming and going. How can I take a session with you? Of course Not a couple therapy 😂 but for self healing completely.
Move far away. Associate only with people who don't know or don't believe the liar. Don't defend yourself; let it go. Only fools and people you don't care about believe the liar, anyhow.
@eduworld1200 Tell him that, "Love Don't Live Here Anymore" by Rose Royce and "Keep on Walkin" by CeCe Peniston. And if you need a reminder that you made the right decision to walk away and go no contact, then play "Goodbye Game" by Chrisette Michele and you'll figure out real quick what you need to do because life starts with putting YOU first 🤗!
Chaos monkey thats what i call him amongst other things lol, evil edna, rumplestiltskin, he literally jumped up and down with glee when he thought he'd hurt me. Pitiful. Unfortunately he has ny kids to abuse on a regular basis, sometimes i think this is worse because of the fear of how far he will go. He is so sick and impulsive
Does anyone else see the irony in doing the very thing seen as evil when done by the narcissist? Is this just turning empaths into narcissists? If the actions of the narc and empath are the same, who is mirroring who? A tree is known by its fruit. How much more then, the fruit of mirroring the narc? Wisdom is justified by her children.
First: Narcissists see you as a tool to give them supply. You are their puppet and they have no problem to smear you behind your back and play friendly when you are there. When an empath blocks a narcissist, it is done to protect oneselves sanity and values. Because when you are with these creatures, you will lose those. So the big difference is that the empath actually gets a chance to grow. To be themselves, true to their values. When the narcissist blocks someone, you are of no use to them anymore. No matter how you tried to help/support them. The biggest chance that an empath gets narcissistic traits is if this person actually stays with the narcissist.
@@soeleuterio I replied already to the other person above as well, but for some reason my comment didn't show up, so I'll re state. To discard is widely understood to be a heartless and detached narc thing, so to discard the narc, is ironic. Theres no judgmentfrom me, as I've gone no contact my self to disentangle from a narc. Did it work? Yes. Was my heart hardened in the process? Yes. So I'm posing the question of the long term wisdom in such an action for some food for thought. No shade at Dinish.
Leaving an evil person is not the same as abusing and leaving a good person. That's like saying, people that are locked up for being horribly violent is the same thing as locking up an innocent person. You were made smarter even if it did make you harder
It is not at all possible staying with him ....I pity on him and stayed in his house for 3 days I was very careful in delivering words .... He is highly disturbed by my good looking ...smiling face Strong and cool in my every activity ...He is disturbed He shouted at me very badly without any reason ...beaten me beaten me non stopping Finally he pushed me out of the house in a very insulting way ....yesterday night 10 pm I travelled night 9 km in the night and came back to my house ....I have decided not to meet him hereafter
Thanks man 🤍. I hear how much you are go trough. Rspct⭐. I feel lots of same things.. my "dad and "bigbro'... They were, and are still like childish, brainless demons.. i survive, and now if we meet, i feel how they want to disappear. They are so horrible peoples.. i wish they grow spiritually amd mentally..and say even sorry someday. But im grown, and know that they are not going to say it, but i laugh to them. They reap what they..... 🥹 Nice to be out of their pants in "payday.. 🫠 thanks, you are like bigbrother (webrother) to me, what i never had., who understands and speak some grown people stuff 🥲🪽thank you
Break The Trauma Bond With a Narcissist
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When I discarded her, it wasn’t just a rejection of the woman who had betrayed me-it was a rejection of everything she thought she could be. She built a life on manipulation, deceit, and control, never once having to face the truth of who she really was. But my absence, my refusal to let her hold any power over me anymore, sent her spiraling into something deeper than loss. It was a breakdown of the illusion she had carefully crafted. She thought she could destroy me, that she could turn the knife of her betrayal and break me. But what she failed to realize was that there was a part of me she could never touch-the light inside, the part of me that would not bend to her lies. And now, as she stares into the reflection of her own hollow soul, she’s confronted with the devastation of what she’s become. She sees the wreckage she’s caused, not just to me, but to herself. Her worst fear is not that I’ve walked away, but that I’ve walked away and kept my light intact, while hers is fading. I can feel it in her-the way she can’t live with herself now, knowing that the one person she thought she could break has only grown stronger in my silence. The greatest destruction for her is not losing me; it's the fact that I never needed her to feel whole. The mirror she’s now forced to face is one where the darkness she’s cultivated can no longer hide the truth: she is empty, and the very thing that could have saved her-my love, my light-she destroyed.
They destroy you from inside and then they question- why can I no longer talk to that person? Because that person put the puzzle pieces together and now no longer chooses to be a survivor, but a thriver. Thank you for your testimony. Stay close to the Lord. The Lord be with us.
@JamesNGames Woooww, your words echo loud throughout my soul of what I went through with an ex-husband. Thank you so much for eloquently writing your response. The way you expressed yourself was like opening up a good novel and wanting to keep reading until you get to the very end.
You should be writing books or even screenplays with your talent 😊. Thanks again and your words are greatly appreciated by another healing soul!!!
It's so hard to read your comment because I resonate with that pain. I can feel you have reclaimed your power. Im so proud of you ❤ I hope very soon I can get there too.
Brilliantly said!
My sister relied on me to make it possible for her to exist. Translated: without me to use, she dissolved. She never thought I'd go no contact with her, so her abuse got progressively worse. Mother enabled her. As decades pass, a person tends to get beyond confident--diabolical is more the term.
The greatest destruction for her …wow I’ve been there,I never needed my partner back then to be whole,met her that way and was working my way to at least communicate. Your line opened up my sight about my lonely thoughts. I feel like they acting that way when they meet you late (in their life).
When I was 35 and working while going to graduate school full time, I told my mother that I was pregnant with our second child. She gave me a lecture on how I wouldn't finish and receive my doctor's degree instead of congratulations. I let her go on and on. Later she would ask me how I felt. Always told her fine and change the subject. That frustrated her. She was a diabetic and got sick. Later she passed. She never got a another chance to lecture me again. This was my answer to years of abuse.
That's true. Peace is very expensive but it's the only thing I will always choose.
Sir Danish, that's exactly what I said to this demonic narcissist. I don't care what he is doing. I just want peace for myself. And I don't need this evil along with his crap. I don't care for his 10 supplies. I'm out of his life anyway. He's making me jealous? No way, I'm very happy to see someone taking over.. Good luck to her.
About time I got there!!!
It took some years out of me and when I gained God's wisdom and strength to look at them different I truly did ✅🙌🏾
They get really angry when you don't react to their abuse 😂
This was spot on. Thank you for your videos, you're my biggest support in my healing journey. 😊
My narc-ex was already sleeping with another woman before I even served divorce papers. It was a classic reverse discard in our case.
Thank you for your message Danish, it's really helping lot of people including me who survived in trauma proves that we are strong and blessed children of God 🙏❤
Whatever you mentioned, I've been through it all. And still stuck with him but will find a way out soon because you have helped me figure it out.
I have managed to make it known to my narcissist that I don't care what he does or doesn't do and it took years of gray rock, years of listening to the most vile name calling and accusations, needless to say it wasn't easy but it has made me strong and resilient and I've gained much as a result... However due to finances I still share a house w him and now he's drinking and drugging himself to death and it is disturbing. He still lies all the time and every once in a while tries his crap but no avail..... So now he's literally nodded out more often than conscious.... Even though he's been evil to me I don't wish this on him or anyone but at the same time we all reap what we sow and there's nothing I can do for him and I will not tolerate abuse so he can feel better.... It's very sad....
“You were trying to contain that chaos”….”I am not going to be your mother”…..good points🤔
I blocked my Narcissistic grandmother who lives in another city.
She tried a lot to contact me but I never gave in.
Brilliant insight Danish. I've recently gone low contact with my covert narc mother. Finally had the courage after 68 years of abuse while she wears her angel mask in public. I think she even realises it's her own fault.
Thank you Danish. You have helped me in a few short months more than any of the therapists that I have seen in last 30 years!
Going no contact with a narcissistic parent is incredibly difficult particularly when they are talking with relatives about you and attempting to hoover you back into the relationship. This is clearly a test of strength and the commitment to never have anything to do with them ever again and to treat them as if they are dead. It's beyond sad. This is a situation that beckons grieving.
Thank you Danish for your immense and kind work.Many people suffer immensely through narcissistic abuse in relationships for many years, often unaware of the true nature of their suffering. The sadness lies in their lack of awareness and the feeling of helplessness that hinders them from taking the right steps to protect themselves from years of unbearable pain.
If God is kind to these individuals, He will lead them to your enlightening videos. You are the beacon of light and hope for these vulnerable souls. May God always bless you with all the good things in life.🙏
Exactly.. Every word is correct 💯
All 7 resonate God Bless ❤
Perfect video hundred percent spot on all seven of them!!! Great job!!!!!👏 thank you!😊
Thank You Danish ❤️☝🏾 You are The Bestest 🫴🏾🏆
💯. every word is correct. when you recognize and live a life of yours with the ultimate peace by avoiding the trouble maker, every one( friends and family) will ask you- “is everything okay with you? ”. I am sitting here digging in my mind to find a problem😂. I feel like everything is okay with me❤, because i find myself again and with utter peace❤
I unblocked my Ex and sent him the song. "OVER YOU" by DAUGHTRY.
I haven't heard from him since !!!
(And he is still unblocked.)
(Great Song, please listen.)
HE GOT MY MESSAGE, LOUD AND CLEAR !!!
Excellent video ! Thank you !!!
I love this! These were the very thoughts I had the other day. Thank you for expressing them so clearly in your video.
Thank you for the inspiration Danish. No 7. Valuable. Appreciate it so much!
You are so right!
What if a child of 21 years old,has the same narcissistic behavior towards the mother?
The father is disceaed but he was even worse towards me..
Unfortunately, it took me time to understand him and that mainly happened after his death.
I read a lot about human behavior/characters, and that helped me to end up to this conclusion.
Pitty I tolerated such a behavior, but now is my son we are talking about.
What a parent should do in such a case?
100% this video is really good , just like the one on the narcs sexuality. Your videos are of immense help. Thank so very much and greetings from Belgium
Thank You!!!
Most helpful video yet. Thanks.
All of the 7, Danish! Thank You
I would like a video on breadcrumbing. He stops by, gives me and kids gifts, then the next day when I’m at the store calls the police on my kids to terrorize them. Doesn’t come to kids games, baptism, birthday parties, track meets but buys expensive gifts for the kids. Gives me “romantic” cards even though we are 2 years in divorce proceedings and tells the judge awful things about me.
After I left my narcissistic fathers business for good, he tried on phone to triangulate with me(savior), he(abuser) and the victim(my mother) and tried to switch to being victim but there was no way of switching to be seen as a victim since I am no longer a savior in this drama triangle. He possibly had a rage in office when he couldn't make me and my mother argue with each other. Everything is obvious and I will possibly never confront him for what he is because I know that the conscience is a living thing and remorse haunts like an approaching hell for the remorser.
Awesome brother 🙏
My narcissistic wife went crazy...she was into voo doo and she still stalks me with her witchcraft
She can't bare the reality that I left her.
Absolutely true! You're always Angel❤thank you Danish❤❤
Thank you so much for the information ❤❤❤
Thank you MY MENTOR 😊 am following all ur videos according to my situation i think of ur videos..an getting motivated
Yes ...To fight nobody 😄
Thank God for your wisdom…..
Moving forever gives me Air to breathe .
They are validated to Hell and all the wisdom you share is
I am not a part of His
Life …..Amen
❤ thank you so much ❤
Love this video so much!! So much truth and it helps to be validated. FYI the 7th part of the video has some visual issues.
very true analysis, have been through all this, trying to coming out
I am going through this , silence. Karma 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏❤
Thank you So much Danish Sir
You are so right about everything that is what I experienced with my narcissist x wife
U are good of what u said .. I have the same experience as an exact
I didn't want to let them go away bcz I learnt about them just by listening to the videos on youtube.
I felt this way as it will not be a justifiable way to decide so called marriage life.
Later I realized if only videos can help so much to recover and help me gain my emotional well being then Why Not ??????
I am experiencing both, the reality of being abused and implementing Danish analysis.
But emotional detachment is still pending as thoughts keep coming and going.
How can I take a session with you? Of course Not a couple therapy 😂 but for self healing completely.
While going no contact,they run smear campaign,what to do?
I’m going thru this with my parents and siblings,truth teller is public enemy number one (me and my wife)
Move far away. Associate only with people who don't know or don't believe the liar. Don't defend yourself; let it go. Only fools and people you don't care about believe the liar, anyhow.
All of the above are what I’m
Dealing with
We dont want to freaking fight
iam in no contact with my husband who is a narcissistic. he is trying to get me back. what am I do. please reply
Stay away from him!
Stay miles away!
Just live your life alone with peace
One month total no contact and I will never look back,stay strong as truly you are.
@eduworld1200 Tell him that, "Love Don't Live Here Anymore" by Rose Royce and "Keep on Walkin" by CeCe Peniston. And if you need a reminder that you made the right decision to walk away and go no contact, then play "Goodbye Game" by Chrisette Michele and you'll figure out real quick what you need to do because life starts with putting YOU first 🤗!
Thank you. I needed this
16 years, my prime years 😢
Excellent❤
Chaos monkey thats what i call him amongst other things lol, evil edna, rumplestiltskin, he literally jumped up and down with glee when he thought he'd hurt me. Pitiful. Unfortunately he has ny kids to abuse on a regular basis, sometimes i think this is worse because of the fear of how far he will go. He is so sick and impulsive
Does anyone else see the irony in doing the very thing seen as evil when done by the narcissist? Is this just turning empaths into narcissists? If the actions of the narc and empath are the same, who is mirroring who?
A tree is known by its fruit. How much more then, the fruit of mirroring the narc? Wisdom is justified by her children.
What did he say that would be “doing the very thing seen as evil when done by the narcissist”?
Desculpe mas acho que você não entendeu, ele não disse para fazer, mas como é sentido pelo narcisista quando você , finalmente, o deixa!!
First: Narcissists see you as a tool to give them supply. You are their puppet and they have no problem to smear you behind your back and play friendly when you are there.
When an empath blocks a narcissist, it is done to protect oneselves sanity and values.
Because when you are with these creatures, you will lose those.
So the big difference is that the empath actually gets a chance to grow. To be themselves, true to their values.
When the narcissist blocks someone, you are of no use to them anymore. No matter how you tried to help/support them.
The biggest chance that an empath gets narcissistic traits is if this person actually stays with the narcissist.
@@soeleuterio I replied already to the other person above as well, but for some reason my comment didn't show up, so I'll re state.
To discard is widely understood to be a heartless and detached narc thing, so to discard the narc, is ironic.
Theres no judgmentfrom me, as I've gone no contact my self to disentangle from a narc. Did it work? Yes. Was my heart hardened in the process? Yes. So I'm posing the question of the long term wisdom in such an action for some food for thought. No shade at Dinish.
Leaving an evil person is not the same as abusing and leaving a good person. That's like saying, people that are locked up for being horribly violent is the same thing as locking up an innocent person. You were made smarter even if it did make you harder
It is not at all possible staying
with him ....I pity on him and
stayed in his house for 3 days
I was very careful in delivering
words ....
He is highly disturbed by my
good looking ...smiling face
Strong and cool in my every
activity ...He is disturbed
He shouted at me very badly
without any reason ...beaten
me beaten me non stopping
Finally he pushed me out of
the house in a very insulting
way ....yesterday night 10 pm
I travelled night 9 km in the
night and came back to my
house ....I have decided not to
meet him hereafter
number two made me spit out my drink /Danish!!!!!
I am in no contact with my wife from last 2 months,
now her lawyer called me for mutual consent divorce.
What should I do about?
Go ahead
He kept our dog! I'm afraid for her!
All over 7 👌👌👌👌👌👌👌🎁💬
All of them!!!
Amen ❤❤❤❤❤
Im trying to concentrate on you the dog wants out😂
It is not my Dog. It is our neighbour’s dog who barks whenever a car drives by and they don’t keep him inside.
💯💯💯💯💯💯
❤
#7
Thanks man 🤍. I hear how much you are go trough. Rspct⭐. I feel lots of same things.. my "dad and "bigbro'... They were, and are still like childish, brainless demons.. i survive, and now if we meet, i feel how they want to disappear. They are so horrible peoples.. i wish they grow spiritually amd mentally..and say even sorry someday. But im grown, and know that they are not going to say it, but i laugh to them. They reap what they..... 🥹 Nice to be out of their pants in "payday.. 🫠 thanks, you are like bigbrother (webrother) to me, what i never had., who understands and speak some grown people stuff 🥲🪽thank you