i started watching porn 20 years ago. 5-6 years ago it started taking a huge toll on my life, i realized it and 4 years ago i decided to stop. for 3 years i would relapse weekly, weekly, weekly then monthly and now i haven't watch a single video in a year. disgusting and awful addiction that took a lot of work to get clean off
@@ManMonkey600changes perception of women and makes them just sex objects. Unrealistic expectations of what interactions are like with the opposite sex, particularly with sex. Blunts the desire to go out and meet females and date
It deteriorates your social connections, especially relationships. it’s an insidious addiction. People spouting how it’s normal and natural are choosing to ignore all data showing its negative effects on the brain.
Another problem is even if you manage to pull yourself out of it and go outside, you're now alone outside because these problems affect everyone, not just you. So it's easy to just get pulled back in.
It's kinda like how in the matrix you've got people living shiny hollow lives in the simulation, but the real world is cold, dark, and empty. You can be where the people are and pump that digital poison into your head, or you can sit alone in your pod watching the other people around you enthralled by the simulation while you observe the horror of reality from a birds eye view.
@@JJ-me4yuhard work is organic, meeting women in 2024 is not. most people meet their SO on the dating apps, or at a bar. no one has these organic meet cures that you’re referring to
@@marianpe5773 Bro, have you tried working 100 hours a week, getting facial reconstructive surgery, cold approaching 5 thousand women? Bro if you haven’t bro idk what to say bro, maybe your just lazy
Quitting porn was probably the best thing I have ever done. You really see the world differently. Kind of like when you were a kid. When you weren’t afraid of anything and just went for it not attached to an outcome or just having courage in anything really. Deleting social media also saved me from being depressed. I highly recommend everyone to just try these two things for a few months and see how you feel. For those of you wondering how I did it and for some tips, for me it really just came down to wanting to stop and kind of doing some self reflecting. Becoming aware that you may have an addiction and possibly reach out for help if you need it. I really just thought to myself, who do I want to be? Like what kind of husband or father or just person do I want to be? (I’m not a husband or father but I had this thought for when the time comes) I think that really opened my eyes into realizing I’m not who I want to be so I kind of cut things out of my life that I felt like was hurting me essentially. That did include social media. And yes I do see where TH-cam can be social media but what I was talking about was like instagram, Facebook, Snapchat, etc. There is a lot of soft porn that makes someone spiral into intrusive thoughts on those platforms. Even on TH-cam. I’ve definitely thought about deleting TH-cam as the complete detox but I really like self help videos and just as entertainment purposes. I try to block all the things that could potentially trigger some old feelings which I feel like I have successfully done. Lastly, and certainly not least, PRAYER! Not sure where all you guys are at with faith and spirituality but God helped me through those times and I am so thankful Him. Pray to God to be saved and He will! Good luck guys you can do this!:)
I'd like to know: TH-cam is also considered a social medium. Did you start to use YT less or not? I've been having a phone addiction personally, that means YT, porn, anything google, wikipedia etc. Every brainfart I had, I needed to look it up on my phone. Have been using Digital Detox app with some exeptions like my bank app, phone book, etc. It is really great.
I quit dating apps 3 weeks ago. Hinge gave me so much anxiety and made me feel unlovable, yet I checked it every 5 minutes and would be elated whenever I saw a notification. I noticed what it was doing and deleted it and won’t be returning
Same, but with tinder. I'm decent looking and have a good job, but women stop replying whenever I mention I don't have a car. 😖 That's not something I can lie about, either. I've gotten comfortable with just staying single for now tbh, until I find the right person.
F**k dating apps. Sad people have to resort to them. Real life should be your only dating, join a community go to university or something community related.
I’ve been getting my gratification from a screen for 20 years because there is absolutely no women I’ve had access to that I like. I lust after the ones I can’t have. It’s been that way since youth. I’m not able to have what I want so I go to porn
@@lucenceparency7870 you know wut man? The hottest woman to ever give me affection was my aunt. I wish I’d just let loose and fucked her when I had the chance. Literally zero women I have ever been attracted to ever wanted me. Absolutely nothing wonderful for me in real life. I love porn
Theo’s silliness can disguise how smart and thoughtful he can be. He really listens and contemplates. Gotta love it. This vid really talks about some solid stuff that’s going wrong in society. I totally take for granted how much harder it’ll be for people to build strong relationships as they get older. It’s up to us as parents and the older generation to guide and stay as involved as possible and not let influencers/the internet just brainwash our family and those we care about
@@mindykloster3540 You forget to say FOR ME TO HATE ON Love conquers Hate!!! I am Rich, I am Strong!!! Thy will be done! Believe in Jesus Christ for Salvation~!
What people don’t understand is that when it comes to online dating, you not only have to be a good option, you have to be the best option out of potentially thousands.
I think if you approach online dating as just a place to make friends regardless of their attractiveness you can use it as a way to meet more people organically in real life via their friend groups. Everyone's too desperate to get to the punch line.
I've slept with around 315 women (I'm 37yr old) and most of them have been from online dating. If you're in the top 10% of men, it really does make it hard for you to see any benefit in monogamy.
Quitting porn saved my life man. You don’t realize what it takes from you until you stop for a while. It really does make you weak, afraid, and lonely. And you’re so clouded when you’re in it that you don’t even remember what you used to be like.
Yea I’d say that I try to find ways to disqualify myself from even attempting at women. I can’t tell you the amount of times women have given me clear signs and I will tell myself “oh you don’t have this this this and this so she’d leave or wouldn’t want you anyway.” So naturally I just ignore the signs. I just work, workout, and keep to myself. I’ve gotten into a routine and stay in it now. Occasionally, I’ll get the “maybe I should just die, if I died in my sleep I probably wouldn’t care, etc.” thoughts at night and feel lonely. I use music and TH-cam to essentially block out my brain to the point of exhaustion so I don’t allow myself to think on it. You could say I need help lol. 😂
@@NoTime4NoHo Quitting porn won’t solve all your problems. But you’ll find your problems become more manageable when you aren’t living in the grips of a fearful mind.
The entire episode was gold. The guest has been doing the circuit appearing on shows with an older audience. He finally got plugged into the one show that might have the largest concentration of his target audience.
Facts! I graduated in ‘99 also! I’m grateful to have grown up during that time-I can appreciate that I had to make so much more of an effort than is currently present…(effort in making relationships of any kind-friendship or romantic)
Everyone loves to talk about how unhealthy porn is but nobody seems to wanna talk about the unhealthiness of how every woman today the second they turn 18 sterilizes themselves with birth control and spends their early adulthood having casual sex with dozens and dozens of men, usually men who are much more attractive then they are because men have lower standards for casual sex. As unhealthy as porn is, I think it’s a symptom of lonely men, not the actual issue itself.
Talk to strangers, talk to strange women... Yea dude, it's not 1999 anymore. They'll shame and make a fool out of you to the whole world for just being attracted to them and letting them know. Or even looking at them. Fuck that.
I suspect this is true too. If we removed p*rn from the equation, there would still be a ton of deeper societal problems that likely have a greater effect on the dating crisis today.
You think every woman has casual sex with dozens of men starting when they are 18? OMG. 😂😂😂 And btw if that was true it would just mean that all men are also having the same amount of casual sex. And being anti BC is just plain weird 😳
I was really down and out about 2 weeks ago with my dating apps addiction. So i opened up my bible and read Peter chapter 5. Ever since then Ive been working out a lot. I went hunting and golfing for the first time. And been spending more time with my beautiful 2 yr old daughter.
Porn always makes you feel meh, like you're a car that is missing 2-3 gears. Once you're off it for many months everything fixes itself and you become much more naturally masculine. Instagram nowadays is soft core porn, almost as bad
Get out of the house for most of the day, leave your phone out of your room at night (Thats when you usually sit with yourself and let the mental demons play with your head). That will help you.
that didn't help me. also, giving "low-tier" guys didn't really help either. you'd be surprised how bitter and crass they can be when you're not their type.
@@holaaamannn yes, even average and slightly above average guys can be mean and bitter because they're not getting the attention of their first choice.
The man hate is real in this comment thread . Low tier ?? Average ?? Are we talking strictly looks ??? Seems that way . Socializing in person is unmatched . The computer will never compare to real life . I hope you ladies will open yourselves to good low tier average men . Happy holidays 😎🎭✌️
@@ericlucci2829if you’re able to get that far. Most of them are scared as hell. For good reason but it still doesn’t help. If you’re not willing to meet within the week of connecting then fuck it we’re robots
I had dating apps on and off from 2018 to 2022 I think. Once I actually finally decided I was done with them, after a month is when I realized how much they fucked up my self esteem and how I feel about myself in general. Getting off those was one of the best decisions I ever made.
Galloway is brilliant and hits the mark with his arguments! Being in the same room with people doesn't mean you're not lonely. Socialibility is crucial. Internet addiction, fantasy addiction and porn addiction are behavioral addictions, which are probably due to the adjustment disorder of many people during Covid who have not mentally overcome the loneliness caused by Covid. The consequences of Covid after the Covid period are far more damaging to society. This goes far beyond the infection.
I think that's partially due to the average man being disillusioned with how impossible it feels to find love, and thus feeling like there's no point in putting in the effort to be a quality candidate, and the average woman having so many options that they feel no immediate need to be a "quality" partner since they seem to have plenty of opportunities just by existing.
This, right here, its difficult to meet girls who are genuinely good people with good values and attractive. At least in my area… most of the girls on first impression, they aren’t worth a fuck and have issues. Its a immaturity epidemic i feel like. No one wants to work on their inner self to become a good fit for someone else
finding "quality" rapidly declines as you get older, especially once you hit 30....you kind of start to realize most of the good people were snatched up in their 20's
Me and my brother (american) both ended up marrying foreigners, his wife is chinese and mine is ecuadorian. We both have way better relationships that any we ever had when dating american girls. Morals and standards are seemingly much better with foreigners
Corn is dangerous especially on the male mind. It gets you hooked on instant gratification which can create problems in every day life. You become conditioned to always seek the easy route.
I definitely seek the easy route. Last time I went the long way I got married and then she took half my stuff. I didn't start watching pron until after I was divorced!
This is one of those things where the more people, both men and women, that delete social media and dating apps the more things will go back to how they used to be in the sense of face to face interactions. Yea, obviously the world has changed but the fact this video is impacting so many to the level of them sharing their successes is proof enough that it will work. Catch is that patience and discipline are required, all of these things take time. Something the world has lost perception of.
Your not missing much honestly, And like today's market it better to rent than buy!! All of the "house" and "women" are washed up! Women are built to be wives just roommates now Pay for sex and be done with it! You'll save yourself the headache and go straight to the point 👉
I quit alcohol and porn at the same time . And wow I felt almost suicidal during the second week . 3 months nearly now and you don't even relise the gradual toll it takes on your reward system , the main reason why I quit was because I started experiencing extreme anhedonia, I couldn't get joy out of anything anymore , but after 1 months I started to feel the urge to do fun things again.
Well I must be fked. Quit alcohol over a year ago after being a heavy drinker for 20 years and I don't enjoy ANYTHING now. Never heard of anhedonia until you mentioned it and looked it up. Guess that's my new middle name😢
Just some context I wasn't a full blown alcoholic. I loved drinking on a Saturday night, I work all week i never wake up and think oh shit I want a beer . But I got into a bad habit of getting smashed and playing video games on Saturday to a point when I realised shit I enjoyed the stuff I loved alot more when im drunk to the point where doing it sober was an inferior experience, that coupled with my porn addiction was really effecting my ability to enjoy my hobbies.
I deleted all my dating accounts and quit porn. It’s an incredible life hack; I feel so much better about myself which is priming me for a proper relationship.
100% spot on. I was just talking to an older, married, female friend about the modern dating market. I was telling her that these apps make every average to moderately good looking girl think she's a celebrity. I'll be sitting there swiping thinking "there's no way THAT girl is too good to date me". But highly unlikely that she'll swipe on me.
doesn't seem to work on my sister... she gets tons of matches but 95% of them put in zero effort and 3% of them get creepy within minutes of starting a conversation.
@@JuanSmithers when 99.8% of the time your efforts doesnt do squat, you go for low/zero effort. Must be one huge jaded wasteland, Im glad I got out quick enough
He is sooo right about the digitizing = monopoly situation. I think about it all the time. If we had an “app” for everything you needed from a plumber to even niche car parts, in the end there will just be a single company per sector. The economy was best when local businesses had the local money. Our society wasn’t built to have this kind of market.
Look up localism. It's pretty much the political response to this. It was developed by Hillaire Belloc and GK Chesterton as a response to unbridled capitalism of the early 20th century and the rise of socialism, both of which didn't work best for the people. It used to be called "distributism" but people though that was adjacent to socialism so modern adherents changed the name to "localism." Anyway, it's really cool.
I am 40 in a few months. My ex and I broke up just over a year a go. We met a few times this year, we did get intimate. But we closed it out. I joined a dating site around summer, and it was a shit show - I went on dates, but just didn't click. I got the feeling many women came in looking for reasons to reject. Honestly, I am kind of done with it. I have a great job, a healthy bank balance - and once you de-sexualise your brain, I find I am more content. Also doesn't help I had 3 friends going through divorces this year. 2 of them aren't really sure why either :)
They absolutely went out with you just to reject you (and it's nothing personal, it could have been anybody) the "bad date" story is more important to them then actually meeting someone they might actually enjoy spending time with. Women are only happy when they're miserable.
Same here, split from my ex wife of 17yrs/divorced, spent a year alone, got lucky with my first hinge date or my first online dating experience ever. Found the girl of my dreams, we’ve been together coming up to 8months, I’m 39, she’s 45, living together, just got back from a holiday in Ny, every day is special, sex life is best it’s ever been, absolutely crazy about her and having sex more than I did when I was in my 20s. Hang in there, if it happens to me it can happen to others!
Dating is going through a reckoning, but I don't know if there's a solution because it's a larger societal problem. The apps have by far become the most popular way to find a date / relationship. But they have become highly dysfunctional for the exact reasons Scott stated. Problem is we can't really go back to the old way of dating because the world has changed. We no longer have the kind of face to face interaction that we used to in a multitude of ways. By and large people don't know how to talk to each other in a random public setting. Also, we have very few "third places" anymore where people can meet where there's no pressure to buy something. It's a bigger problem than we realize, and I think will require long term societal changes to remedy.
As parents of a 17 year old boy this world is so foreign to my husband and I that we are trying hard to understand the current culture of dating and it’s very fraught with so many more pit falls than it was in our day. The apps are hook up culture not for a serious relationship I’m told. I think GenZ is anxious about girls for good reason. They seem very angry and anti male or very demanding. I’ve not ever seen this when I was young and dating.
@@TheLifeLists Its hard but its not impossible. There are still options out there (church, run clubs, hanging out in cafes, work etc). Why not take the initiative and organise something? I meet plenty of girls through these avenues, but I'm overcoming a porn addiction so dont make the most of it lol. The fact is, Gen Z, whether they admit it or not, don't like this reality all that much themselves either. They understand something's wrong with it. So dont be afraid to take the social initiative and start a conversation. If you get 'rejected' you'll survive
It's just gaslighting from emotions and feelings that intentionally aren't being controlled because in 2010 girls realised they get more likes if they put a bottle suggestively in their tummy for likes and advertiser's really fucking like Likes. Men really fucking like sex be ayse you know, driving force of species bla bla. This is just a petty fuck you. Watch them all come back like nothing ever happened. You birthed it,not us. This chicken won't make it or live long enough, but the schism they e intentionally made in the human osyche will not be forgotten. If this doesn't work, or slips further, what protection do we have? As if degeneracy is the worst thing we're facing. A few simple years can fix that. Trauma will never be gotten rid off. You'll see that. But this schism? The chickens will come home to roost, they've learnt more than you expected.
Ive been thinking about this we've all pretty much became peeping toms with our phones being our digital window to creep on whatever we desire without getting spotted outside someones house
Before, dating was whoever was in your school or town or somewhere you could meet. Most people got setup or met someone going out with a group of friends. The girl/guy would get to know you, your personality, your sense of humor etc.. There is more to attraction and good relationships, than just physical looks. But now with a dating app, all you have to go on is looks and some stats, like height, income etc.. Of course you are just going to try to get your dream person statistically. Problem is they don't exist and if they do, they have so many men/women begging them for dates, no way they are going to try in any relationship. Glad I grew up in the 80's, life was much better lol.
all true. i've done online dating and it was mostly used for quick easy lays. every actual relationship I had was from meeting women in real life naturally.
There's also this cultural trope that whatever you do, don't "settle", i.e. don't stick with anyone that's not the theoretical optimum for your dating potential, just because you've grown attached to them and they're kind and smart and stable. We must continuously be checking if the grass is greener. Of course this doesn't just go for relationships nowadays-it's jobs, houses, friends, etc.
I’ve dated girls from the apps, from cold approaches at social events, warm approaches from once friends to more and it always ends the same. I’m exhausted. It sucks getting rejected, I was definitely a late bloomer, but it sucks even more to spend a bunch of time, energy and effort building a connection with someone only for it to blow up or fade away a couple months later wondering wtf happened. Pron is an evil we should all avoid, but I just don’t know how realistic it is to actually find lasting, real love anymore or if it’s even worth trying because the rest of my life is great. I’m happy when I’m unattached just doing my own thing, the only time I’m down and depressed is when I’m dealing with women. Idk man, just throwing some shit out in TH-cam comments tonight ig 🤷♂️
Hey i have been there it gets better , Look the best you can and focus onnacheiving your goals. Just be a man and a woman willnfollow , I didnt meet my wife until inwas 28 she was 18 at the time, if youre under 25 most women wont find you attractive
Very true and even now with the person I started a relationship with there was so much bs baggage from her past it's like I had to teach her the difference between a real connection and the nonsense on dating apps where she would spend so much time on.
@@bro918it is a cycle can’t get none using corn now low drive to do anything reward system fried And now no career drive fitness or overall improving Cycle that just hurts
He's right though. We get pissed off by the feeling that the world is rigged against us, which makes us more open to conspiratorial thinking and the belief that everything is a lie told by those in power. And once you watch one conspiracy video, TH-cam/TikTok will show you a million more and send you further and further in that direction. And TH-cam doesn't care if those videos are warping your mind. They just care that you watch and they can make another buck off you via ads.
Same! I had hinge in the bg, but it's better off my phone. Asked a girl out the other week while getting groceries and she said kindly said no because of school, etc. Getting a no is a whole lot better than getting ghosted!
He is completely out of touch and has no basis in the reality we live in today. He is putting all of the blame 100% on men and holding them accountable for adapting to a system that is 100% broken. His advice amounts to nothing more than "Just do better bro" while completely ignoring the issues most men face.
I was 43 when I first attempted to quit pmo. At the end of the first week, I became physically ill from withdrawals. It is because I was using pmo daily since I was 15. Nothing has been harder than quitting pmo, including quitting weed, smoking and drinking.
@ Yeah it's tough, but honestly my friend, I loved it. I loved facing up to the challenge and I loved the enormous number of benefits. It really changed me for the better. I can't recommend it highly enough.
@ I used to go to that website a lot to learn. As for my track record, I have completed 4 extended reboots since 2018. But I usually do about 300 days a year in small streaks. And yourself?
@@kpec3 I read the book a month ago and haven't looked since. I don't think my problem was that bad but it was still affecting me more than I knew. I don't quite understand why you keep going back? I am married and sex recently blew my mind because of the nofap. I can't see why I would look at porn again, now I know how it affects me. Why do you go back?
Im pretty sure he’s serious. And while it sounds like a ridiculous thing to state, its probably mathematically accurate. It simply has to do with the algorithms and feedback loops. And the type of content that gets feed to you once you skew a certain way. We all think we are smart enough to properly decipher the information presented to us but eventually we are wrong about something. Just replying to your comment has probably ever so slightly altered the type of information I will receive about the environment.
Most people are clueless about themselves and about relationships which is why most relationships end. This idea that you need a woman is nonsense. Don't get me wrong, a good woman will bring a lot benefits to your life but it has to be the right woman. If you think you need a woman; I'd suggest what you actually need is to work on yourself. Learn to love being alone; then if you manage to organically bump into someone that you want to pursue something with; you can do so from a place of abundance, not scarcity
Amen. This guy saying that "It's worth it," I think he's just defending his own life choices. You can live without a romantic partner and be perfectly happy--dare I say, sometimes even more happy than you would be with one.
@@jason_v12345 I wish more people would say this. The loneliness epidemic is only worsened from people continuing to push the idea that a romantic relationship is the highest achievement you can reach in life. People are devaluing friendships and personal pursuits
dude wanting companionship, a life partner, is not a sign of weakness or not loving yourself. It's a biological imperative. If anything, genuinely not needing or wanting love in your life is more a sign of being not fully human
Some people like me don't ever feel lonely. I've tried being intimate with people. I don't get it. Some of my friends who don't have girlfriends for a while wilt like flowers. Different people have different levels of need for this.
Dating apps are just so surface level that unless you’re like a 10/10 looks wise, you pretty much have no chance. If you took everyone on there and put them in a room together, the people who choose each other would be completely different
@@thelonercoder5816I mean what do you define success? I used to find like 6s and 7s that were good for dates and hookups but no one worth actually cuffing
The most important part of ending an addiction is knowing when to walk away. Never fool yourself into having a “last hit,” because that will keep you hooked. ‘There’s a difference between your last hit and your LAST hit.’ - Mark Renton, Trainspotting (1996)
ln my brief experience with dating apps, men treated me with more antagonism and flagrant disrespect than I have ever experienced in person. I went in open-minded, curious, and excited, and left emotionally drained, stressed, and pretty angry quite frankly. I think these apps not only attract the jaded, desperate, and lazy, but then turn everyone into heartless monsters who ghost- even after having good conversations. That's probably what surprised me the most, the propensity for men to not make a move and ask for my number/ask me out, and instead conversations dragging on day after day, until one or the other stops responding. Society would be much better without social media, porn, and dating apps. I miss those days.
I believe this behavior is also observable on all anonymous social media plattforms and comment sections. Best way is use social interactions as a benchmark and avoid too much online socialization
@@hyperadapted The thing is that this anti social, rude, rough behaviour without any manners and respect has infiltrated the real world, it has gone offline. I speak from daily personal experience for the past ten years. It's a total desaster, it's disgusting and depressing.
@ agreed, it is a noticeable shift in communication and we need to adapt to the new ways of human interaction- maybe real time large language models will act as a universal translator of communication and be able to take the edge out. That would be sad since we humans adapted so long for cooperative communications.
Thank you for offering your experiences and perspective on this. I think many men like to blame women on dating apps when it's more of an issue with the lack of self-awareness. This is true for women as well, but many people want to play the pity game (oh poor me) when it comes to finding a partner that they fail to realize that they themselves are part of the problem in finding that connection. Pushing boundaries, making offhanded comments, sprinkling misogyny, and just flat out being disrespectful. I don't have sympathy for the people that lack the self-awareness to realize that they make women uncomfortable. Men and women both need to stop blaming others for their own shitty incompetence when it comes to finding a partner.
Dating apps are too distracting. Getting 1-2 girls every week started make me feel empty and more lonely than ever. You’re always chasing the next girl, it’s impossible to fall in love when all you see is lust. I’ve been off for two weeks and I feel like I’m getting my life back, actually have time for myself
@ being able to speak to women, and listen to them, along with being in shape and average looking at best does wonders. Especially in a big city. It’s not hard to pull girls with dating apps, just don’t be your own worst enemy and weird them out. The amount of stories/screenshots from girls I’ve seen really shows how a lot of guys just don’t know how to interact with women in the first place.
@@s0nnyburnettif you’re in your 20s in NY, work in finance/tech, decent shape, and went to a good school, very easy as an average guy within that sample, which most of working professional N.Y. is from my experience. Numbers game. The only issue is, have to remember the girls are also doing the same, so if you’re looking for someone “different”, might not be the girl you’re pulling weekly off of apps as you are just another one of their 1-2 guys being pulled weekly. Not really a Chad if everyone is doing it & willing in high density places like NY. Which is why you’re seeing more young people in NY start meeting people through run clubs or other in person social activities (even church) to try to facilitate a feeling of differentiation instead of the apps.
Wow, this is 10x more enlightening than i thought this would be… all too often this topic can get invalidated with the biases of manosphere and religion bias, but this man seems to truly have a broad perspective and facts to back up what he is saying.
Edit, I just saw some comments, and I am saddened that it appears no matter how intelligent and educational a video interview might be… stupid people are going to be stupid… it is not about, quiting porn, and it is not about quitting on life, it is about finding your self, taking risks with girls, with strangers, loving yourself and the people around you. Why does everybody think that life is always a pursuit of some challenge all or nothing movement? NO! Practice moderation, Learn to control yourself and take the time to explore your real world outside your house. Put the phone down. And yes, sometimes it’s also ok to break the rules and watch porn… look back in history, remember when we tried to ban alcohol? It didn’t work.. just learn self control.
Can you stop this BS I love watching porn I get hard every time and also I’m trying to join the P industry one day soon damn I can’t stand Scott Galloway 🤦🏾♂️
Ha, i was wondering the same. Think he was trying to connect the dots between too much porn kind leading to a blurred line of what's real and not in other areas of life.
Love how that guy tried to throw “conspiracy theories”, “climate change” and “misogynistic content” in there as a result of being exposed to the realities of female behavior. I do rather well with women, definitely above average, but not top tier or anything like that. With that being said, any man who’s actually experienced with women will often come to similar conclusions as those who are not. Unfortunately they are largely can not be trusted or even believed to be genuine. We aren’t “bigoted” because we observe actual patterns of behavior
Any freak that's trying to have multiple experiences with "many women" is a misogynistic pig. So yeah you agree with misogynistic pigs online. Congratulations cuz you are one I wish I could meet you in person so I could crush your ego like I did the first and last Casanova Tate taint l had to deal with irl but I don't have to because you're already set up for a miserable life. Just keep telling women who they are😂 My gorgeous tall young ex got a real education in what a women was and I have an inbox full of his post dump pining to prove how weak y'all uncommitable gigalos actually are. A real women will haunt you for life cuz you'll fall in love and never give up your game and lose her and watch her move on to better to the crushing of your ego. Just wait Find Jesus ya Freak lol
It is not often that I find myself at a loss for words, but in this instance, the only thing I can say is on behalf of women and real mothers who love their daughters and their sons. Thank you. This conversation is important and sometimes our kids need to hear things from outside sources so I’m glad That you exist thank you thank you thank you I said it three times which makes it a spell but it’s just a spell of gratitude that for you all things will go well.
Stay away from social media. Most of our anxieties come from social media. Try to connect to people. Play sports, create hobbies. Flee from social media. The best decision that I ever made.
The biggest issue I am seeing with men is they fabricate who they are online or through a safe channel of porn, it's fine to service yourself through porn, but if you don't realize what it is and it's intention then it's a problem, you need to earn your badge with women in the real world first, if you are good with the ladies first in real life, then you can opt to go online, but if you are hiding to try and edit who you are, you will struggle in many aspects. You cannot live in fear of women or pretend to be some ladies man to protect your own issues, you need to set standards as a man, reject women you don't actually want even just for sex. The more you try the worse it gets, you just need to be and improve things you can by experience and being brave and not putting on a persona caring what your peers think.
@@gtaloony I think it's an example of how in many ways, the disassociation of reality makes space to absorb alternate narratives of reality shared online.Confirmation bias, to ensure we have reasons to explain objective reality. Starts with a humble notion that our problems with dating or prerequisites like financial stability are the fault of government, and or billionaires. Slowly trickles into conspiracy, coverups, climate change, simulation theory, etc.. becomes exponentially easier to alter consciousness in that direction when objective reality feels an uphill battle.
@@biohazard8295Rejection has many levels. First, there is the average "no", then there is the "sexual harassment/assualt charge"(pretend she isn't there and move to your next destination) , along with the "public humiliation"( stop the conversation and walk off).
The appeal needs to be normalised again, with limitations on social media access on personal devices. People choose not to go out and face new experiences because they have gotten too comfortable through device interaction, sadly.
@AtLeastMyDawgyLovesMeI agree it should be free to look at it shouldn’t be controlled but people should 100% be more aware of the issues it causes. No harm in letting people know the harm it does.
People have never ODed from Porn. People have never died from withdrawal from porn. People don’t go into psychosis permanently from a bad hit of porn. People don’t lose their ability to drive correctly yet get behind the wheel of a car and wipe out a mother and her kids from porn. Please be real.
@@nataliaalfonso2662 well actually on 1000 ways to die there was that one guy who beat off so much he died of dehydration and was crushed by a stack of porn mags
I'll also add that I think a lot of the porn addicts lose motivation because they don't have a natural motivation to begin with. They're boring people with no talent and no passions. The desire for sex does not need to be one's only source of drive.
It is a shitstorm all the way around... not only is dating a nightmare, not to mention looking for an actual marriage or someone to build a family with, but the financial aspect is also terrible. Salaries are stagnant around 50k annually yet the average home is north of 400,000 dollars. So its all becoming a pipe dream really.
Galloway's example of 50 men and 50 women on Tinder was a good example (the women all want the same 4 out of 50 guys). However, I'd like to add an important piece of context: There's 3 men to every woman on Tinder. In other words, it would be 50 women and 150 men ratio on Tinder. So if you take both of those things into account, it makes sense why almost all men get nothing and even below average looking women get so many matches.
Women's standards online are through the roof because of this level of choice they start selecting for things they've happily gone without before in previous relationships but on the apps women get into that hyper-selective mindset.
Sometimes, I feel like my life is so damn hard. I was neglected and ill prepared for my role as a stay at home dad right now, but this is the best path for the family. I won't write a journal here, but I can say I watch a vid like this and I'm glad I'm in a committed relationship of over a decade where we never cheated and just work hard on our dreams. We got 2 kids. Autism and homeschooling and growing and chasing dreams... There's a lot that weighs on me, but at least I'm in the game of life and not castrated on the sidelines. I try to keep up on how things are for youth because I want my sons to thrive. I'm concerned for them.
Retcon your life. Make up a story about how you quit watching p*** 2 years ago. Replay that thought over and over. When you try for it, remind yourself that you stopped 2 years ago. Start living future you's life, in that regard
@@truncatepool5801 - I’m hella sorry to hear that my friend. I was born at the beginning of the 90’s and I’m kinda in the same boat. I don’t really care if I live or die at this point. I’ve had a handful of near death experiences and every time I’ve woken up in the hospital I’ve been bummed I was alive. That being said my family and friends were happy I made it so that’s cool I guess. Silver linings lol
Wow wow wow!!!! Thank you so much for this episode! Truly an inspiration for me to get clean off porn and reset my life Theo! Definitely struggle with it! Thank you for being open and honest and talking about these issues my friend!
All of this guys alleged problems can be fixed by one simple move: quit artificially propping women up at men's expense. The rest will sort itself out in a very short time actually
You want to see depressed, talk to a guy that got divorced and his ex is trying to keep him from seeing his kids. And he is working his A$$ off to pay the mortgage on a house she lives in while he lives in his car. Scott Galloway is selling a dream that is very rare in todays world.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Steve_porss1 is the man , I share similar experiences with anxiety, depression, PTSD, and addiction. Psilocybin mushrooms have been a game-changer for me, aiding greatly in my recovery and sobriety.
I wish those were more easily accessible where I live. Microdosing was my next step for my husband. He's 59 & dealing with lots of mental health challenges, possible CTE & a TBI that put him in a coma for 8 days. Unfortunately, I had to get a TPO since he's 6'6, over 300 pounds, and showing violent behavior, constantly talking about harming others. He's aggressive. To anyone reading this, if you're familiar with BPD, is it common to have an obsession with violence?
The fact is though that modern "online dating women" is often just a toxic wasteland. Men are reduced to either their sexual performance to be that "hung XXL fuckboy" and fuck off again, or they are the monetary income as some random "paypig". These seem to be the two major trends things are going. And the "real world dating" isnt much better. I can say that with my 39 years, I have fought for so many women in my life, betrayed none, cared for every single one and yet I always was the one to be either betrayed, or dumped on christmas (actually happened twice by now) and whatnot. I can absolutely say, I have loved, but I was never loved. To me, women are not looking for any kind of emotions , honesty or integrity but only just status and financial gains by now. That is what my experience has haught me. And for such a person, I have no need in my life. I am tired of fighting for a person for over a year, actually feeling and loving, communicating extremely open and honest, just to be told on christmas that she has been dating someone else and I'd only just "drive her crazy anyway" when there was no indicator for that, in vocal or body language. All that just to end up an emotional wreck for years to come and slowly recover while lying in bed crying on a daily basis for months. So sorry but I can not agree on this anymore, modern dating women are not worth the emotions I'd be willed to invest in them. By now, just buying some real doll, not for sex but merely to hold someone in my arms that doesnt hurt me, seems to be a far better options than any women out there.
Well, but isn't it a risk? I mean I have a quite, comfortable life. Things are more or less in order. I like my work, I have some fun hobbies. Not everything is perfect, but it works for me. Letting someone into my life feels like a huge risk to me.
I think a bigger problem is viewing all relationships in general as a benefit. A lot of them suck and being single shouldn't be seen as something to feel bad about. Not everyone gets to be in the perfect relationship for them all the time.
@@nightfighter7452 Yeah, and I keep seeing unhappy people in unhappy realtionships. Or in other words: you have to have a really well functioning relationship before it's better than being single. And I feel like (I might be wrong) that many people live in relationships that do not make them happy, and they're just too scared to be alone.
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Almost 2 hours off porn
Got any tips?
Keep it up 🎉
I think that deserves a badge or something right?
Rudy! Rudy! Rudy!
Hit 3 yet?
Dating apps are terrible for men, get off them.
What should we do?
@Okay182 approach women in real life no matter how daunting it might seem. Try to have an abundance mentality, there are cuties everywhere
@@Okay182Smoke weed, masturbate and eat cheetos.
cap
@@Okay182 Go talk to women?
i started watching porn 20 years ago. 5-6 years ago it started taking a huge toll on my life, i realized it and 4 years ago i decided to stop. for 3 years i would relapse weekly, weekly, weekly then monthly and now i haven't watch a single video in a year. disgusting and awful addiction that took a lot of work to get clean off
How was it affecting your life, in what ways?
@@ManMonkey600changes perception of women and makes them just sex objects. Unrealistic expectations of what interactions are like with the opposite sex, particularly with sex. Blunts the desire to go out and meet females and date
just drink more water
It deteriorates your social connections, especially relationships. it’s an insidious addiction. People spouting how it’s normal and natural are choosing to ignore all data showing its negative effects on the brain.
@@ManMonkey600dude think about it, goddam
Another problem is even if you manage to pull yourself out of it and go outside, you're now alone outside because these problems affect everyone, not just you. So it's easy to just get pulled back in.
Exactly my thought....
AND experience!
Fact
It's kinda like how in the matrix you've got people living shiny hollow lives in the simulation, but the real world is cold, dark, and empty. You can be where the people are and pump that digital poison into your head, or you can sit alone in your pod watching the other people around you enthralled by the simulation while you observe the horror of reality from a birds eye view.
Gotta keep fighting. Can't give up!
WOW thank you for that wisdom. So true so true.
“Just work harder bro”
To achieve what used to happen organically
Hard work is organic fool. Unless youre lazy🤣
@@JJ-me4yuhard work is organic, meeting women in 2024 is not. most people meet their SO on the dating apps, or at a bar. no one has these organic meet cures that you’re referring to
"Just get better bro"😅
Yeah, listen to GRANDPA….it’s not as if women today are any different than those of his generation.
@@marianpe5773 Bro, have you tried working 100 hours a week, getting facial reconstructive surgery, cold approaching 5 thousand women?
Bro if you haven’t bro idk what to say bro, maybe your just lazy
People are more attractive in person even if they aren’t their type
Some people are, some are much less attractive, when you get to see their personalities lol.
@@micker9830good point
They're not, but I like the way you're thinking. Seeing someone in "motion" is the way to go.
This is underrated, physical attraction only lasts so long. When life gets tough you want a teammate not a window watcher.
Yeah most people dont look good in photos too
Quitting porn was probably the best thing I have ever done. You really see the world differently. Kind of like when you were a kid. When you weren’t afraid of anything and just went for it not attached to an outcome or just having courage in anything really. Deleting social media also saved me from being depressed. I highly recommend everyone to just try these two things for a few months and see how you feel.
For those of you wondering how I did it and for some tips, for me it really just came down to wanting to stop and kind of doing some self reflecting. Becoming aware that you may have an addiction and possibly reach out for help if you need it. I really just thought to myself, who do I want to be? Like what kind of husband or father or just person do I want to be? (I’m not a husband or father but I had this thought for when the time comes) I think that really opened my eyes into realizing I’m not who I want to be so I kind of cut things out of my life that I felt like was hurting me essentially. That did include social media. And yes I do see where TH-cam can be social media but what I was talking about was like instagram, Facebook, Snapchat, etc. There is a lot of soft porn that makes someone spiral into intrusive thoughts on those platforms. Even on TH-cam. I’ve definitely thought about deleting TH-cam as the complete detox but I really like self help videos and just as entertainment purposes. I try to block all the things that could potentially trigger some old feelings which I feel like I have successfully done. Lastly, and certainly not least, PRAYER! Not sure where all you guys are at with faith and spirituality but God helped me through those times and I am so thankful Him. Pray to God to be saved and He will! Good luck guys you can do this!:)
can you explain in detail what quitting porn did for you? would help me out
It's hard because when you're on instagram reels and you see the half naked girl show up, it pulls you back in
how did you post this with no social media lol
Not watching porn does none of this for me. What are you talking about 💀💀
I'd like to know: TH-cam is also considered a social medium. Did you start to use YT less or not?
I've been having a phone addiction personally, that means YT, porn, anything google, wikipedia etc. Every brainfart I had, I needed to look it up on my phone.
Have been using Digital Detox app with some exeptions like my bank app, phone book, etc. It is really great.
I quit dating apps 3 weeks ago. Hinge gave me so much anxiety and made me feel unlovable, yet I checked it every 5 minutes and would be elated whenever I saw a notification. I noticed what it was doing and deleted it and won’t be returning
So how's real life been?
Same, but with tinder. I'm decent looking and have a good job, but women stop replying whenever I mention I don't have a car. 😖 That's not something I can lie about, either. I've gotten comfortable with just staying single for now tbh, until I find the right person.
F**k dating apps. Sad people have to resort to them. Real life should be your only dating, join a community go to university or something community related.
Screw dating apps!! Join a community, go to university or something. The organic way will always be the best.
@@Kitsuragi556how does that even come up in conversation 💀
"Nothing wonderful is going to happen to you on a screen. Ever." (2:50.) Scott is absolutely right.
I’ve been getting my gratification from a screen for 20 years because there is absolutely no women I’ve had access to that I like. I lust after the ones I can’t have. It’s been that way since youth. I’m not able to have what I want so I go to porn
Good quote
@@lucenceparency7870 you know wut man? The hottest woman to ever give me affection was my aunt. I wish I’d just let loose and fucked her when I had the chance. Literally zero women I have ever been attracted to ever wanted me. Absolutely nothing wonderful for me in real life. I love porn
Yeah! The video clip we just watched on a screen is right!
but he said it on a screen though, both men make there living from it
Theo’s silliness can disguise how smart and thoughtful he can be. He really listens and contemplates. Gotta love it. This vid really talks about some solid stuff that’s going wrong in society. I totally take for granted how much harder it’ll be for people to build strong relationships as they get older. It’s up to us as parents and the older generation to guide and stay as involved as possible and not let influencers/the internet just brainwash our family and those we care about
I really like how he asks questions or asks for clarification when he doesn't understand something. Sign of a good and confident man.
Yall glazing
@@TheNamesFarquaad what a thought provoking comment. Amazing sign of intelligence bro!
@@harorider96 skibidi!!!!!!
Only theo is bringing his demons and fight them out in the open. love this guy.
Theo is totally AUTHENTIC AND GENUINE! A true heartfelt soul!❤
@@mindykloster3540 You forget to say FOR ME TO HATE ON
Love conquers Hate!!! I am Rich, I am Strong!!! Thy will be done! Believe in Jesus Christ for Salvation~!
plenty of others but sure
Not only Theo thats a silly thing to say
I also like how, when he doesn't know something, he asks for clarification immediately and with humility. Big respect.
What people don’t understand is that when it comes to online dating, you not only have to be a good option, you have to be the best option out of potentially thousands.
I think if you approach online dating as just a place to make friends regardless of their attractiveness you can use it as a way to meet more people organically in real life via their friend groups. Everyone's too desperate to get to the punch line.
Its like a job interview
superficial option too..
I've slept with around 315 women (I'm 37yr old) and most of them have been from online dating. If you're in the top 10% of men, it really does make it hard for you to see any benefit in monogamy.
@@HomicizzleNah bro imma keep it real 315 is actually disgusting.
The most practical thing that a young man can do to immediately improve his life is to stop watching porn.
But it immediately enhances an old man's life.
More than hitting the gym? Eating super healthy? Reading books? A good wank in a while ain't the end of the world man. Everything in moderation
Wouldn't getting a full time job be a better way to improve his life?
I stopped using porn and started using ai chat. And honestly it's more addictive than porn. It's another level depravity and it's only getting better
@@bigjimslade1968 You'd think working a full-time job would make less addicts but it sadly, it does the reverse
“Larry likes dudes. But only if he’s ok with it”🤣🤣🤣🤣
Quitting porn saved my life man. You don’t realize what it takes from you until you stop for a while. It really does make you weak, afraid, and lonely. And you’re so clouded when you’re in it that you don’t even remember what you used to be like.
Here here brother
holy beta. I mean what were you doing? Watching it all day?
Most of us never really knew what it was like before it. I was watching porn in like 6th grade before I could even jerk off
Yea I’d say that I try to find ways to disqualify myself from even attempting at women. I can’t tell you the amount of times women have given me clear signs and I will tell myself “oh you don’t have this this this and this so she’d leave or wouldn’t want you anyway.” So naturally I just ignore the signs. I just work, workout, and keep to myself. I’ve gotten into a routine and stay in it now. Occasionally, I’ll get the “maybe I should just die, if I died in my sleep I probably wouldn’t care, etc.” thoughts at night and feel lonely. I use music and TH-cam to essentially block out my brain to the point of exhaustion so I don’t allow myself to think on it. You could say I need help lol. 😂
@@NoTime4NoHo
Quitting porn won’t solve all your problems. But you’ll find your problems become more manageable when you aren’t living in the grips of a fearful mind.
The entire episode was gold. The guest has been doing the circuit appearing on shows with an older audience. He finally got plugged into the one show that might have the largest concentration of his target audience.
Whos the guest
What guest
Sorry didnt mean for both of those 2 send
@@LibertyGunsBeerTrump Scott Galloway.
@ thank you!👍
I'm almost 70 days off of porn
@400dillon what does it feel like without it?
Congratulations. Keep it up
It's the real thing or nothing for me bro
Way to go buddy, Keep going. I'm going to start tonight.
Go get some pussy u nerd 🤓
I graduated HS in 1999. Glad social media wasn't a thing back then.
Kids born after 2000 don't stand a chance. They have nothing to compare things to before phones
Facts! I graduated in ‘99 also! I’m grateful to have grown up during that time-I can appreciate that I had to make so much more of an effort than is currently present…(effort in making relationships of any kind-friendship or romantic)
I wish I had grown up in the 90s...but I also don't wish I were suddenly 10 years older lol
99 grads are the LUCKIEST generation, we got and get to see History happening. We’re the lucky lab rats
You have no idea. It sucks kids can't go to a festival or party without worrying about going viral.
Everyone loves to talk about how unhealthy porn is but nobody seems to wanna talk about the unhealthiness of how every woman today the second they turn 18 sterilizes themselves with birth control and spends their early adulthood having casual sex with dozens and dozens of men, usually men who are much more attractive then they are because men have lower standards for casual sex. As unhealthy as porn is, I think it’s a symptom of lonely men, not the actual issue itself.
Talk to strangers, talk to strange women... Yea dude, it's not 1999 anymore. They'll shame and make a fool out of you to the whole world for just being attracted to them and letting them know. Or even looking at them. Fuck that.
I suspect this is true too. If we removed p*rn from the equation, there would still be a ton of deeper societal problems that likely have a greater effect on the dating crisis today.
You're right nobody does want to talk about that so why did you just bring it up? LOL
Andrew Tate is the problem there. I said it
You think every woman has casual sex with dozens of men starting when they are 18? OMG. 😂😂😂 And btw if that was true it would just mean that all men are also having the same amount of casual sex. And being anti BC is just plain weird 😳
@@unmaskscience111 seething roastie lol
I was really down and out about 2 weeks ago with my dating apps addiction. So i opened up my bible and read Peter chapter 5. Ever since then Ive been working out a lot. I went hunting and golfing for the first time. And been spending more time with my beautiful 2 yr old daughter.
Porn has fucked me up. I am not looking anymore.
tape your hand to your butt
Same
Porn always makes you feel meh, like you're a car that is missing 2-3 gears. Once you're off it for many months everything fixes itself and you become much more naturally masculine. Instagram nowadays is soft core porn, almost as bad
Get out of the house for most of the day, leave your phone out of your room at night (Thats when you usually sit with yourself and let the mental demons play with your head). That will help you.
@@ycc7744totally agree. I am convinced that people don’t know the half of the damage phones do to them.
My female friends deleted the apps and had a New Year’s resolution to be o outside more and be social and it’s helped them in dating a lot
female friends? women don't need apps to get men lol it is just greed. It is like billionaires who keep buying yachts.
that didn't help me. also, giving "low-tier" guys didn't really help either. you'd be surprised how bitter and crass they can be when you're not their type.
@@jones2277You're not talking about low-tier guys. You're talking about average and slightly above average guys.
@@holaaamannn yes, even average and slightly above average guys can be mean and bitter because they're not getting the attention of their first choice.
The man hate is real in this comment thread . Low tier ?? Average ?? Are we talking strictly looks ??? Seems that way . Socializing in person is unmatched . The computer will never compare to real life . I hope you ladies will open yourselves to good low tier average men . Happy holidays 😎🎭✌️
i feel like a robot looking for another robot on dating apps
Right? It is entirely physical and you dont connect at all.
To be fair half the people you match on dating apps are bots designed to waste your time and keep you on the app
@@Plague_Doc22you’re supposed to go meet them too 😂
I've got a movie idea from this comment
@@ericlucci2829if you’re able to get that far. Most of them are scared as hell. For good reason but it still doesn’t help. If you’re not willing to meet within the week of connecting then fuck it we’re robots
I had dating apps on and off from 2018 to 2022 I think. Once I actually finally decided I was done with them, after a month is when I realized how much they fucked up my self esteem and how I feel about myself in general. Getting off those was one of the best decisions I ever made.
It was like that for me but dating apps helped me
Galloway is brilliant and hits the mark with his arguments! Being in the same room with people doesn't mean you're not lonely. Socialibility is crucial. Internet addiction, fantasy addiction and porn addiction are behavioral addictions, which are probably due to the adjustment disorder of many people during Covid who have not mentally overcome the loneliness caused by Covid. The consequences of Covid after the Covid period are far more damaging to society. This goes far beyond the infection.
Galloway is TRASH! Kara Swisher’s little errand boy.
He can diagnose the problem but can’t figure out the solution 😂🤦♂️ just blames men. “Do better” guys a joke
A huge problem is the quality of partners out there has also decline, which further decreases the desire for effort vs reward.
I think that's partially due to the average man being disillusioned with how impossible it feels to find love, and thus feeling like there's no point in putting in the effort to be a quality candidate, and the average woman having so many options that they feel no immediate need to be a "quality" partner since they seem to have plenty of opportunities just by existing.
This, right here, its difficult to meet girls who are genuinely good people with good values and attractive. At least in my area… most of the girls on first impression, they aren’t worth a fuck and have issues. Its a immaturity epidemic i feel like. No one wants to work on their inner self to become a good fit for someone else
This is seriously overlooked. All the decent people have been scooped up already.
finding "quality" rapidly declines as you get older, especially once you hit 30....you kind of start to realize most of the good people were snatched up in their 20's
Me and my brother (american) both ended up marrying foreigners, his wife is chinese and mine is ecuadorian. We both have way better relationships that any we ever had when dating american girls. Morals and standards are seemingly much better with foreigners
Corn is dangerous especially on the male mind. It gets you hooked on instant gratification which can create problems in every day life. You become conditioned to always seek the easy route.
Calling porn corn is even more dangerous
I definitely seek the easy route. Last time I went the long way I got married and then she took half my stuff. I didn't start watching pron until after I was divorced!
This is one of those things where the more people, both men and women, that delete social media and dating apps the more things will go back to how they used to be in the sense of face to face interactions. Yea, obviously the world has changed but the fact this video is impacting so many to the level of them sharing their successes is proof enough that it will work. Catch is that patience and discipline are required, all of these things take time. Something the world has lost perception of.
Finding love is like buying a house. Many of us won't be given even the chance.
So true…
That's not true! Love is who you are
Perfect analogy in 2024
Your not missing much honestly,
And like today's market it better to rent than buy!!
All of the "house" and "women" are washed up! Women are built to be wives just roommates now
Pay for sex and be done with it!
You'll save yourself the headache and go straight to the point 👉
Create your chances
I quit alcohol and porn at the same time . And wow I felt almost suicidal during the second week . 3 months nearly now and you don't even relise the gradual toll it takes on your reward system , the main reason why I quit was because I started experiencing extreme anhedonia, I couldn't get joy out of anything anymore , but after 1 months I started to feel the urge to do fun things again.
Well I must be fked. Quit alcohol over a year ago after being a heavy drinker for 20 years and I don't enjoy ANYTHING now. Never heard of anhedonia until you mentioned it and looked it up. Guess that's my new middle name😢
Just some context I wasn't a full blown alcoholic. I loved drinking on a Saturday night, I work all week i never wake up and think oh shit I want a beer . But I got into a bad habit of getting smashed and playing video games on Saturday to a point when I realised shit I enjoyed the stuff I loved alot more when im drunk to the point where doing it sober was an inferior experience, that coupled with my porn addiction was really effecting my ability to enjoy my hobbies.
Dude is spitting wild facts. Great summation of the general problems men face today.
Definitely man!
Galloway is clueless
Just typical boomer advice
@@peterkovic2241 American women are the 12th most overweight women in the world..Thats a fact..Galloways claim men cant get these women is laughable
@@BnibroC69 You nailed it. Its like he is in a time warp...
"You do that for a decade and your mojo is a ghost"
That caffeine joke towards the end is underrated 😂
Sittin there sippin by himself 😂
So good lol
I deleted all my dating accounts and quit porn. It’s an incredible life hack; I feel so much better about myself which is priming me for a proper relationship.
Get in the gym 💪🫡
Gets rejected by woman and stops believing in climate change😅 7:49
I caught that too . Weird.
The dude pretends to be a moderate but is ultra liberal. Use to follow him but he’s a wolf in sheep’s clothing.
Hilarious sag way! 😂😮😢
That's a far reach at the same time one of the funniest things I've ever heard. Gotta love it😂😂😂
Liberal!
100% spot on. I was just talking to an older, married, female friend about the modern dating market. I was telling her that these apps make every average to moderately good looking girl think she's a celebrity. I'll be sitting there swiping thinking "there's no way THAT girl is too good to date me". But highly unlikely that she'll swipe on me.
doesn't seem to work on my sister... she gets tons of matches but 95% of them put in zero effort and 3% of them get creepy within minutes of starting a conversation.
@@JuanSmithersthe exception doesn’t break the rule. The numbers are the numbers.
When i see 'you have a new match'i think please god be a super fatty so i have a slight chance fr
@@JuanSmithers when 99.8% of the time your efforts doesnt do squat, you go for low/zero effort. Must be one huge jaded wasteland, Im glad I got out quick enough
The term is a 49er. W0men who are 4s think they are 9s, because of the constant attention they receive on SM and dating apps..
He is sooo right about the digitizing = monopoly situation.
I think about it all the time.
If we had an “app” for everything you needed from a plumber to even niche car parts, in the end there will just be a single company per sector.
The economy was best when local businesses had the local money.
Our society wasn’t built to have this kind of market.
digital = digit = number = everything reduced to a number, including humans
Look up localism. It's pretty much the political response to this. It was developed by Hillaire Belloc and GK Chesterton as a response to unbridled capitalism of the early 20th century and the rise of socialism, both of which didn't work best for the people. It used to be called "distributism" but people though that was adjacent to socialism so modern adherents changed the name to "localism." Anyway, it's really cool.
@@tc5922 that's awesome thanks for the info
The addiction of dating apps is so dangerous and needs to be treated as such.
I am 40 in a few months. My ex and I broke up just over a year a go. We met a few times this year, we did get intimate. But we closed it out. I joined a dating site around summer, and it was a shit show - I went on dates, but just didn't click. I got the feeling many women came in looking for reasons to reject. Honestly, I am kind of done with it. I have a great job, a healthy bank balance - and once you de-sexualise your brain, I find I am more content.
Also doesn't help I had 3 friends going through divorces this year. 2 of them aren't really sure why either :)
damn thats terrible, no fault divorce is cruel
They absolutely went out with you just to reject you (and it's nothing personal, it could have been anybody) the "bad date" story is more important to them then actually meeting someone they might actually enjoy spending time with. Women are only happy when they're miserable.
@@ThundersMcCoy
Horrible and I feel really really sorry for you...and I say this as a woman. I mean it!
Same here, split from my ex wife of 17yrs/divorced, spent a year alone, got lucky with my first hinge date or my first online dating experience ever.
Found the girl of my dreams, we’ve been together coming up to 8months, I’m 39, she’s 45, living together, just got back from a holiday in Ny, every day is special, sex life is best it’s ever been, absolutely crazy about her and having sex more than I did when I was in my 20s.
Hang in there, if it happens to me it can happen to others!
Online job searching is just like online dating. Most applicants get filtered out immediately
Great point! It's so true. If I walk into a retail store and ask if they're hiring, the girl looks at me like I'm a psycho.
Dating is going through a reckoning, but I don't know if there's a solution because it's a larger societal problem. The apps have by far become the most popular way to find a date / relationship. But they have become highly dysfunctional for the exact reasons Scott stated. Problem is we can't really go back to the old way of dating because the world has changed. We no longer have the kind of face to face interaction that we used to in a multitude of ways. By and large people don't know how to talk to each other in a random public setting. Also, we have very few "third places" anymore where people can meet where there's no pressure to buy something. It's a bigger problem than we realize, and I think will require long term societal changes to remedy.
As parents of a 17 year old boy this world is so foreign to my husband and I that we are trying hard to understand the current culture of dating and it’s very fraught with so many more pit falls than it was in our day. The apps are hook up culture not for a serious relationship I’m told. I think GenZ is anxious about girls for good reason. They seem very angry and anti male or very demanding.
I’ve not ever seen this when I was young and dating.
@@Carma123yep. Really makes you wonder about the future, and how relationships are going to continue under these conditions
@@TheLifeLists Its hard but its not impossible. There are still options out there (church, run clubs, hanging out in cafes, work etc). Why not take the initiative and organise something? I meet plenty of girls through these avenues, but I'm overcoming a porn addiction so dont make the most of it lol.
The fact is, Gen Z, whether they admit it or not, don't like this reality all that much themselves either. They understand something's wrong with it. So dont be afraid to take the social initiative and start a conversation. If you get 'rejected' you'll survive
The only real problem is women's standards are crazy high
It's just gaslighting from emotions and feelings that intentionally aren't being controlled because in 2010 girls realised they get more likes if they put a bottle suggestively in their tummy for likes and advertiser's really fucking like Likes. Men really fucking like sex be ayse you know, driving force of species bla bla. This is just a petty fuck you. Watch them all come back like nothing ever happened.
You birthed it,not us. This chicken won't make it or live long enough, but the schism they e intentionally made in the human osyche will not be forgotten. If this doesn't work, or slips further, what protection do we have? As if degeneracy is the worst thing we're facing. A few simple years can fix that. Trauma will never be gotten rid off. You'll see that. But this schism? The chickens will come home to roost, they've learnt more than you expected.
Ive been thinking about this we've all pretty much became peeping toms with our phones being our digital window to creep on whatever we desire without getting spotted outside someones house
@@trejarvis960 wow, that’s deep, very true.
@max.8063 I can't take all the credit a little weed went a long way haha
Not all of us. Where my in-person peepin’ homies at?
@@GabrielBaconhahahahaha
@@GabrielBacon Takin it back to the old school there Bud
Before, dating was whoever was in your school or town or somewhere you could meet. Most people got setup or met someone going out with a group of friends. The girl/guy would get to know you, your personality, your sense of humor etc.. There is more to attraction and good relationships, than just physical looks. But now with a dating app, all you have to go on is looks and some stats, like height, income etc.. Of course you are just going to try to get your dream person statistically. Problem is they don't exist and if they do, they have so many men/women begging them for dates, no way they are going to try in any relationship. Glad I grew up in the 80's, life was much better lol.
all true. i've done online dating and it was mostly used for quick easy lays. every actual relationship I had was from meeting women in real life naturally.
I miss getting hooked up by a friend I’m 40 I remember that was a thing
exactly.
There's also this cultural trope that whatever you do, don't "settle", i.e. don't stick with anyone that's not the theoretical optimum for your dating potential, just because you've grown attached to them and they're kind and smart and stable. We must continuously be checking if the grass is greener. Of course this doesn't just go for relationships nowadays-it's jobs, houses, friends, etc.
I’ve dated girls from the apps, from cold approaches at social events, warm approaches from once friends to more and it always ends the same. I’m exhausted. It sucks getting rejected, I was definitely a late bloomer, but it sucks even more to spend a bunch of time, energy and effort building a connection with someone only for it to blow up or fade away a couple months later wondering wtf happened. Pron is an evil we should all avoid, but I just don’t know how realistic it is to actually find lasting, real love anymore or if it’s even worth trying because the rest of my life is great. I’m happy when I’m unattached just doing my own thing, the only time I’m down and depressed is when I’m dealing with women. Idk man, just throwing some shit out in TH-cam comments tonight ig 🤷♂️
Hey i have been there it gets better , Look the best you can and focus onnacheiving your goals. Just be a man and a woman willnfollow , I didnt meet my wife until inwas 28 she was 18 at the time, if youre under 25 most women wont find you attractive
Exactly.... corn use is a result, not a cause
Very true and even now with the person I started a relationship with there was so much bs baggage from her past it's like I had to teach her the difference between a real connection and the nonsense on dating apps where she would spend so much time on.
@@bro918it is a cycle can’t get none using corn now low drive to do anything reward system fried
And now no career drive fitness or overall improving
Cycle that just hurts
True.
Only times I’ve been depressed was because of women.
“Less likely to not believe in climate change” 😭😭😭 this guy🙄
Exactly, wtf. 😂
He's right though. We get pissed off by the feeling that the world is rigged against us, which makes us more open to conspiratorial thinking and the belief that everything is a lie told by those in power. And once you watch one conspiracy video, TH-cam/TikTok will show you a million more and send you further and further in that direction. And TH-cam doesn't care if those videos are warping your mind. They just care that you watch and they can make another buck off you via ads.
I'm deleting this bumble app right now
Good man. I’ll do the same.
Good for you bro. It's a waste of your time and energy
Same! I had hinge in the bg, but it's better off my phone. Asked a girl out the other week while getting groceries and she said kindly said no because of school, etc. Getting a no is a whole lot better than getting ghosted!
@@lostghoststudios good job man
You won't regret it, that's for sure.
Galloway is a decent dude. Hes trying to spread knowledge for the better
He is literally evil, he is never addressing issues women create and blames everything on men, he is evil.
He makes some good points but some of the stuff he spews is just typical bro science bs.
He is completely out of touch and has no basis in the reality we live in today. He is putting all of the blame 100% on men and holding them accountable for adapting to a system that is 100% broken. His advice amounts to nothing more than "Just do better bro" while completely ignoring the issues most men face.
Thank you Theo for talking about these things bro. You’re so relatable.
I was 43 when I first attempted to quit pmo. At the end of the first week, I became physically ill from withdrawals. It is because I was using pmo daily since I was 15. Nothing has been harder than quitting pmo, including quitting weed, smoking and drinking.
It's such a tremendously difficult challenge... PMO is seen as such a "normal" activity yet stopping is like removing a huge part of your life.
@ Yeah it's tough, but honestly my friend, I loved it. I loved facing up to the challenge and I loved the enormous number of benefits. It really changed me for the better. I can't recommend it highly enough.
Did you succeed? I also quit after reading a book called Your Brain on Porn. It has definitely improved my life and I wasn't even a heavy user.
@ I used to go to that website a lot to learn. As for my track record, I have completed 4 extended reboots since 2018. But I usually do about 300 days a year in small streaks. And yourself?
@@kpec3 I read the book a month ago and haven't looked since. I don't think my problem was that bad but it was still affecting me more than I knew. I don't quite understand why you keep going back? I am married and sex recently blew my mind because of the nofap. I can't see why I would look at porn again, now I know how it affects me. Why do you go back?
This guy said “he becomes less likely to believe in climate change”
😂😂😂😂😂😂
Was he joking or serious? I need to know so I can decide whether or not to take him serious.
Im pretty sure he’s serious. And while it sounds like a ridiculous thing to state, its probably mathematically accurate. It simply has to do with the algorithms and feedback loops. And the type of content that gets feed to you once you skew a certain way. We all think we are smart enough to properly decipher the information presented to us but eventually we are wrong about something. Just replying to your comment has probably ever so slightly altered the type of information I will receive about the environment.
and he was serious smfh
Oops, you accidentally proved his point.
Most people are clueless about themselves and about relationships which is why most relationships end. This idea that you need a woman is nonsense. Don't get me wrong, a good woman will bring a lot benefits to your life but it has to be the right woman. If you think you need a woman; I'd suggest what you actually need is to work on yourself. Learn to love being alone; then if you manage to organically bump into someone that you want to pursue something with; you can do so from a place of abundance, not scarcity
Amen. This guy saying that "It's worth it," I think he's just defending his own life choices. You can live without a romantic partner and be perfectly happy--dare I say, sometimes even more happy than you would be with one.
@@jason_v12345 I wish more people would say this. The loneliness epidemic is only worsened from people continuing to push the idea that a romantic relationship is the highest achievement you can reach in life. People are devaluing friendships and personal pursuits
Being alone your entire life sucks. Most people need someone.
dude wanting companionship, a life partner, is not a sign of weakness or not loving yourself. It's a biological imperative. If anything, genuinely not needing or wanting love in your life is more a sign of being not fully human
Some people like me don't ever feel lonely. I've tried being intimate with people. I don't get it. Some of my friends who don't have girlfriends for a while wilt like flowers. Different people have different levels of need for this.
Dating apps are just so surface level that unless you’re like a 10/10 looks wise, you pretty much have no chance. If you took everyone on there and put them in a room together, the people who choose each other would be completely different
Very true
I'm no where near a 10/10 and have tons of success on dating apps lol.
@@thelonercoder5816I mean what do you define success? I used to find like 6s and 7s that were good for dates and hookups but no one worth actually cuffing
@@thelonercoder5816same , wtf I’m 5’8 and decent looking . I just accept getting ghosted at times and that I’m mostly going out with 6-7s lol
Ya because the women on there look very different in person
Scott Galloway is terrific and his TED talks are amazing. Hope makes another appearance in the future!
You cant see Galloway is peddling bogus facts
"Do we really love our kids" is a masterpiece.
@@irreversablecontentment4651 troll
@@Scarhead_Ed American women are the 12th most overweight women in the world and Galloway thinks men cant get these women..He is delusional...
The most important part of ending an addiction is knowing when to walk away. Never fool yourself into having a “last hit,” because that will keep you hooked.
‘There’s a difference between your last hit and your LAST hit.’
- Mark Renton, Trainspotting (1996)
I feel like this video needs to be shown in every high school
Feeling more validated in my criticisms of the use of the internet, every day.
Been saying this about social media since Facebook was new.
ln my brief experience with dating apps, men treated me with more antagonism and flagrant disrespect than I have ever experienced in person. I went in open-minded, curious, and excited, and left emotionally drained, stressed, and pretty angry quite frankly. I think these apps not only attract the jaded, desperate, and lazy, but then turn everyone into heartless monsters who ghost- even after having good conversations. That's probably what surprised me the most, the propensity for men to not make a move and ask for my number/ask me out, and instead conversations dragging on day after day, until one or the other stops responding. Society would be much better without social media, porn, and dating apps. I miss those days.
I believe this behavior is also observable on all anonymous social media plattforms and comment sections. Best way is use social interactions as a benchmark and avoid too much online socialization
@@hyperadapted
The thing is that this anti social, rude, rough behaviour without any manners and respect has infiltrated the real world, it has gone offline. I speak from daily personal experience for the past ten years. It's a total desaster, it's disgusting and depressing.
@ agreed, it is a noticeable shift in communication and we need to adapt to the new ways of human interaction- maybe real time large language models will act as a universal translator of communication and be able to take the edge out. That would be sad since we humans adapted so long for cooperative communications.
Thank you for offering your experiences and perspective on this. I think many men like to blame women on dating apps when it's more of an issue with the lack of self-awareness. This is true for women as well, but many people want to play the pity game (oh poor me) when it comes to finding a partner that they fail to realize that they themselves are part of the problem in finding that connection. Pushing boundaries, making offhanded comments, sprinkling misogyny, and just flat out being disrespectful. I don't have sympathy for the people that lack the self-awareness to realize that they make women uncomfortable. Men and women both need to stop blaming others for their own shitty incompetence when it comes to finding a partner.
Dating apps are too distracting. Getting 1-2 girls every week started make me feel empty and more lonely than ever. You’re always chasing the next girl, it’s impossible to fall in love when all you see is lust. I’ve been off for two weeks and I feel like I’m getting my life back, actually have time for myself
“Getting 1-2 girls every week started to make me feel empty”
File under Things That Never Happened.
@ being able to speak to women, and listen to them, along with being in shape and average looking at best does wonders. Especially in a big city. It’s not hard to pull girls with dating apps, just don’t be your own worst enemy and weird them out. The amount of stories/screenshots from girls I’ve seen really shows how a lot of guys just don’t know how to interact with women in the first place.
1-2 a WEEK? Like in person meetings? nobody is hitting those numbers, probably not even chad.
@@s0nnyburnett 1-2 matches probably
@@s0nnyburnettif you’re in your 20s in NY, work in finance/tech, decent shape, and went to a good school, very easy as an average guy within that sample, which most of working professional N.Y. is from my experience. Numbers game. The only issue is, have to remember the girls are also doing the same, so if you’re looking for someone “different”, might not be the girl you’re pulling weekly off of apps as you are just another one of their 1-2 guys being pulled weekly. Not really a Chad if everyone is doing it & willing in high density places like NY. Which is why you’re seeing more young people in NY start meeting people through run clubs or other in person social activities (even church) to try to facilitate a feeling of differentiation instead of the apps.
Brilliantly put. I feel like social media and the digitization of everything also robbed the world of being able to express themselves this way
He had me until 'men rejected by women are more prone to conspiracy theories and less likely to believe in Climate change'
Wow, this is 10x more enlightening than i thought this would be… all too often this topic can get invalidated with the biases of manosphere and religion bias, but this man seems to truly have a broad perspective and facts to back up what he is saying.
Edit, I just saw some comments, and I am saddened that it appears no matter how intelligent and educational a video interview might be… stupid people are going to be stupid… it is not about, quiting porn, and it is not about quitting on life, it is about finding your self, taking risks with girls, with strangers, loving yourself and the people around you. Why does everybody think that life is always a pursuit of some challenge all or nothing movement? NO! Practice moderation, Learn to control yourself and take the time to explore your real world outside your house. Put the phone down. And yes, sometimes it’s also ok to break the rules and watch porn… look back in history, remember when we tried to ban alcohol? It didn’t work.. just learn self control.
Aside from the climate change garbage, he's spot on. I just assume he's from CA and disconnected
@@misst9ironic
@@Where2bubyes bro but like the saying goes save yourself these people are coping
Never quit
This is interestingly well timed… Algorithm wildin’ today.
Can you stop this BS I love watching porn I get hard every time and also I’m trying to join the P industry one day soon damn I can’t stand Scott Galloway 🤦🏾♂️
DAWG, FR
So you watched a good amount of porn too? lol
DUDE NO SHIT.
algorithm today has been such a fucking flip I think people are fed up with this shit lives we are all living.
7:32 "Less likely to believe in climate change"
WTF does that have to do with the topic at hand?
Ha, i was wondering the same. Think he was trying to connect the dots between too much porn kind leading to a blurred line of what's real and not in other areas of life.
Damn conspiracy theorists lol
yeah I thought the same just a stupid correlation
I thought exactly the same. I was fully with him until he said that. Climate change is a lot of nonsense
he has an agenda
As someone who didn’t have a dad, I can’t imagine what it would be like to grow up with this man as your father. Lucky kids.
Love how that guy tried to throw “conspiracy theories”, “climate change” and “misogynistic content” in there as a result of being exposed to the realities of female behavior. I do rather well with women, definitely above average, but not top tier or anything like that. With that being said, any man who’s actually experienced with women will often come to similar conclusions as those who are not. Unfortunately they are largely can not be trusted or even believed to be genuine. We aren’t “bigoted” because we observe actual patterns of behavior
Well said, underrated comment my king 👑
Any freak that's trying to have multiple experiences with "many women" is a misogynistic pig. So yeah you agree with misogynistic pigs online. Congratulations cuz you are one
I wish I could meet you in person so I could crush your ego like I did the first and last Casanova Tate taint l had to deal with irl but I don't have to because you're already set up for a miserable life. Just keep telling women who they are😂 My gorgeous tall young ex got a real education in what a women was and I have an inbox full of his post dump pining to prove how weak y'all uncommitable gigalos actually are. A real women will haunt you for life cuz you'll fall in love and never give up your game and lose her and watch her move on to better to the crushing of your ego. Just wait
Find Jesus ya Freak lol
You know this guy is serious when he’s pulling YouPorn references
The man's been around the block, we shall hear his wisdom
I was wondering why he kept singling out youporn specifically 😂
What about pornhub
It's his way of telegraphing that he's long been out of the loop when it comes to online porn. Yeah right Scott.
@@billm1866 It's his way of telegraphing that he's long been out of the loop when it comes to online porn. Yeah right Scott.
It is not often that I find myself at a loss for words, but in this instance, the only thing I can say is on behalf of women and real mothers who love their daughters and their sons. Thank you. This conversation is important and sometimes our kids need to hear things from outside sources so I’m glad That you exist thank you thank you thank you I said it three times which makes it a spell but it’s just a spell of gratitude that for you all things will go well.
Things make much more sense when you understand who is behind these products and their motivations.
Theo Von is so smart and such an genuine human being. His perspective is so on point and honest.
Stay away from social media. Most of our anxieties come from social media. Try to connect to people. Play sports, create hobbies. Flee from social media. The best decision that I ever made.
The biggest issue I am seeing with men is they fabricate who they are online or through a safe channel of porn, it's fine to service yourself through porn, but if you don't realize what it is and it's intention then it's a problem, you need to earn your badge with women in the real world first, if you are good with the ladies first in real life, then you can opt to go online, but if you are hiding to try and edit who you are, you will struggle in many aspects.
You cannot live in fear of women or pretend to be some ladies man to protect your own issues, you need to set standards as a man, reject women you don't actually want even just for sex. The more you try the worse it gets, you just need to be and improve things you can by experience and being brave and not putting on a persona caring what your peers think.
Amen brother
"Less likely to believe in climate change" lololol
What a wild comment dude made😂
😂😂😂
Dating app = no climate change?? What the what...
Fr wtf was that about😂😂
@@gtaloony I think it's an example of how in many ways, the disassociation of reality makes space to absorb alternate narratives of reality shared online.Confirmation bias, to ensure we have reasons to explain objective reality.
Starts with a humble notion that our problems with dating or prerequisites like financial stability are the fault of government, and or billionaires. Slowly trickles into conspiracy, coverups, climate change, simulation theory, etc.. becomes exponentially easier to alter consciousness in that direction when objective reality feels an uphill battle.
Thanks for adding references and fact-checks. Makes it a lot more transparent 👌
gotta respect theo for talking about addiction .....it gets you and cant admit its a problem until you try to quit
Damn this is probably the best description of the harm from social media and current dating standards.
Dating apps were the logical outcome of the intense “me too”. It was basically a mutual consent form.
Elaborate please.
@@biohazard8295many men see approaching in real life as being too risky.
@@biohazard8295Rejection has many levels. First, there is the average "no", then there is the "sexual harassment/assualt charge"(pretend she isn't there and move to your next destination) , along with the "public humiliation"( stop the conversation and walk off).
The appeal needs to be normalised again, with limitations on social media access on personal devices. People choose not to go out and face new experiences because they have gotten too comfortable through device interaction, sadly.
Nobody is going to take their hand and tell them to go outside.
"modulate use of porn" how about you quit completely ? Because that thing is no different than drugs
@AtLeastMyDawgyLovesMeI agree it should be free to look at it shouldn’t be controlled but people should 100% be more aware of the issues it causes. No harm in letting people know the harm it does.
People have never ODed from Porn. People have never died from withdrawal from porn. People don’t go into psychosis permanently from a bad hit of porn. People don’t lose their ability to drive correctly yet get behind the wheel of a car and wipe out a mother and her kids from porn.
Please be real.
@@psilocybinenthusiast5200right. But there’s huge harm in letting people think drugs are only as bad as porn. That’s insane.
@@nataliaalfonso2662 well actually on 1000 ways to die there was that one guy who beat off so much he died of dehydration and was crushed by a stack of porn mags
I'll also add that I think a lot of the porn addicts lose motivation because they don't have a natural motivation to begin with. They're boring people with no talent and no passions. The desire for sex does not need to be one's only source of drive.
It is a shitstorm all the way around... not only is dating a nightmare, not to mention looking for an actual marriage or someone to build a family with, but the financial aspect is also terrible. Salaries are stagnant around 50k annually yet the average home is north of 400,000 dollars. So its all becoming a pipe dream really.
4:12 Good old days😂😂
Theo is definitely the one who graffiti'd "Larry likes dudes but only if he's cool with it" 😂
Galloway's example of 50 men and 50 women on Tinder was a good example (the women all want the same 4 out of 50 guys). However, I'd like to add an important piece of context: There's 3 men to every woman on Tinder. In other words, it would be 50 women and 150 men ratio on Tinder. So if you take both of those things into account, it makes sense why almost all men get nothing and even below average looking women get so many matches.
Women's standards online are through the roof because of this level of choice they start selecting for things they've happily gone without before in previous relationships but on the apps women get into that hyper-selective mindset.
And he’s all hopped up on caffeine because he’s been sitting there sippin so long 😂😂😂😂😂😂
I was wondering if anyone else caught that 😂
I quit dating apps a few months ago, they are awful for society.
I wish I was never exposed to it at such a young age. This was before the Internet too...
Sometimes, I feel like my life is so damn hard. I was neglected and ill prepared for my role as a stay at home dad right now, but this is the best path for the family. I won't write a journal here, but I can say I watch a vid like this and I'm glad I'm in a committed relationship of over a decade where we never cheated and just work hard on our dreams. We got 2 kids. Autism and homeschooling and growing and chasing dreams... There's a lot that weighs on me, but at least I'm in the game of life and not castrated on the sidelines. I try to keep up on how things are for youth because I want my sons to thrive. I'm concerned for them.
Thanks for sharing that with those of us who are castrated on the sidelines.
Retcon your life. Make up a story about how you quit watching p*** 2 years ago. Replay that thought over and over. When you try for it, remind yourself that you stopped 2 years ago. Start living future you's life, in that regard
i havmt had a real social life since the 90s
I was born at the end of the 90s and I’m ready to leave this world
@@truncatepool5801 - I’m hella sorry to hear that my friend. I was born at the beginning of the 90’s and I’m kinda in the same boat. I don’t really care if I live or die at this point. I’ve had a handful of near death experiences and every time I’ve woken up in the hospital I’ve been bummed I was alive. That being said my family and friends were happy I made it so that’s cool I guess. Silver linings lol
@@truncatepool5801Nobody hold you back except yourself
The perspectives of different cultures living in the same space has always astounded me.
Wow wow wow!!!! Thank you so much for this episode! Truly an inspiration for me to get clean off porn and reset my life Theo! Definitely struggle with it! Thank you for being open and honest and talking about these issues my friend!
The music slaps, good pick!
All of this guys alleged problems can be fixed by one simple move: quit artificially propping women up at men's expense. The rest will sort itself out in a very short time actually
You want to see depressed, talk to a guy that got divorced and his ex is trying to keep him from seeing his kids. And he is working his A$$ off to pay the mortgage on a house she lives in while he lives in his car. Scott Galloway is selling a dream that is very rare in todays world.
Spot on, he is evil, no other word for it.
Your scenario is also pretty rare not like every guy lives that
@@greencrocidile6246 Happily married is pretty rare too.
Dude your scenario is so incredibly rare for the average person
@@Shrek2onVHS you tube keeps deleting my response. But it is not rare at all.
7:19 “so an average guy has to swipe 1000 times to get a coffee which makes him resentful”
“Yeah plus he’s all hopped up on coffee now” 😂
It’s so interesting to hear Theos take on porn addiction. I just know he’s helping so many ppl.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Steve_porss1 is the man , I share similar experiences with anxiety, depression, PTSD, and addiction. Psilocybin mushrooms have been a game-changer for me, aiding greatly in my recovery and sobriety.
I wish those were more easily accessible where I live.
Microdosing was my next step for my husband. He's 59 & dealing with lots of mental health challenges, possible CTE & a TBI that put him in a coma for 8 days. Unfortunately, I had to get a TPO since he's 6'6, over 300 pounds, and showing violent behavior, constantly talking about harming others. He's aggressive. To anyone reading this, if you're familiar with BPD, is it common to have an obsession with violence?
Is he on instagram?
Steve_porss1 is the man
The fact is though that modern "online dating women" is often just a toxic wasteland. Men are reduced to either their sexual performance to be that "hung XXL fuckboy" and fuck off again, or they are the monetary income as some random "paypig". These seem to be the two major trends things are going. And the "real world dating" isnt much better.
I can say that with my 39 years, I have fought for so many women in my life, betrayed none, cared for every single one and yet I always was the one to be either betrayed, or dumped on christmas (actually happened twice by now) and whatnot. I can absolutely say, I have loved, but I was never loved.
To me, women are not looking for any kind of emotions , honesty or integrity but only just status and financial gains by now. That is what my experience has haught me. And for such a person, I have no need in my life.
I am tired of fighting for a person for over a year, actually feeling and loving, communicating extremely open and honest, just to be told on christmas that she has been dating someone else and I'd only just "drive her crazy anyway" when there was no indicator for that, in vocal or body language. All that just to end up an emotional wreck for years to come and slowly recover while lying in bed crying on a daily basis for months.
So sorry but I can not agree on this anymore, modern dating women are not worth the emotions I'd be willed to invest in them.
By now, just buying some real doll, not for sex but merely to hold someone in my arms that doesnt hurt me, seems to be a far better options than any women out there.
All true but viewing relationships as a risk rather than a benefit is at the core of the issue
Well, but isn't it a risk? I mean I have a quite, comfortable life. Things are more or less in order. I like my work, I have some fun hobbies.
Not everything is perfect, but it works for me. Letting someone into my life feels like a huge risk to me.
@ bc ur scared if someone will finally get to know you they’ll run the other direction cuz ur a mf freak
I think a bigger problem is viewing all relationships in general as a benefit. A lot of them suck and being single shouldn't be seen as something to feel bad about. Not everyone gets to be in the perfect relationship for them all the time.
@@nightfighter7452 Yeah, and I keep seeing unhappy people in unhappy realtionships. Or in other words: you have to have a really well functioning relationship before it's better than being single. And I feel like (I might be wrong) that many people live in relationships that do not make them happy, and they're just too scared to be alone.
Less likely to believe in "Climate Change"...laughing. Dude 100 percent walked around yelling "Mask Up".
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