Women would not allow it. Its having men on sale from the comfort of their own home. Why go outside and meet men in your home town when you can talk to the hunk that lives in Brazil or the rich investment banker in newyork.
Profit for dating apps = less matches, more swiping. They don't want you to get off the app. The incentive structure doesn't encourage matches but instead endless swiping and chatting
My grandson came to me the other day and asked me what do I do when a women tries to humiliate me for trying to start a conversation. I said first thats her issue and you should understand she has issues and just rule her out instantly. Second, I said stand your ground, turn it back on her in a calm manner. Tell her being short or cruel to ( people ) is not very attractive.
Tell him that a lifetime of being on top and his powerful position will eventually mean more than this moment. (as if boys are in a harder postion, please)
This is bad advice. Her goal was not to be attractive. She does not care to attract your grandson. Which is her right. You tell him to leave her alone and move on. Plenty of fish in the sea. Eventually he’ll find someone he likes.
@@lulunw Yeah I'd say leave out the "it's not attractive" part. But if a woman is being needlessly cruel to you for politely expressing interest, it should be called out. You don't get to treat a man like shit just because you don't find him attractive.
Broken culture, lack of compromise, lack of communication skills, inability to build relationships, no fortitude, chronic loss of trust, artificially created isolation, one-sided focus, etc.
A woman said to me the other day that if a man approached her in a club, she’d probably think he was after one thing. She might not be wrong, but with some men they’re just looking for a partner. I hope not too many women think this
No I'd happily chat to a guy who had the courage to approach me in a bar club. The only successful men on dating apps are the guys looking for hook ups.
Literally every guy on an app or a dating site is playing the numbers to see how fast he can get laid. That's why myself and a lot of women stopped using those things. None of us wants a bunch of dick pics clogging up our DMs.
The thing is is that clubs or actually almost as bad a place to go looking for a person of quality as a dating app. Most women in that environment have five tenths of a second to decide whether Donna Man actually is worth the other time or not. You're far better looking at and coffee houses for book stores or church
I came to the conclusion if the majority of our fathers and grandfathers were born at this exact time and with the same technology ( cell phones), the majority of us would never have existed.
Hence, population implosion. Just wait, you'll see the investment in cloning technology come out of nowhere. Can't have asset deflation now can we? lol
And they are ignored at the end so they try to shame you to skip step 1 to 9 too. So you move abroad and ignore them further - stupid choices give stupid prices. :)
Imagine a guy stuck in this loop , feeling isolated, and not knowing this is a pandemic affecting everyone and wondering why the world treats him as a waste of life
@@o.p.h.o.v.e.n this book called Platonic is a good way out. and work. the internet is not real life. and unfortunately now a days it takes work to get to know people and let people know you. It does suck right now and it aint your fault. but you can make the life you want
You guys are still in a pandemic? I live in the UK, and were not in pandemic status anymore but the mindset and habits I've picked up since then have stayed stuck on me. 🥴
@@shoot_the_glass5654 he isn't referring to the covid pandemic. he's referring to a loneliness pandemic and the real-world isolation between individuals.
In the same way that we had to ban cocaine, heroin, and opium off of drug store shelves in 1913, it's 110 years later and we have a new threat to society. Seems like every century we have to get real and see how we just can't handle certain things as a society. These dating apps including things like Instagram need to be banned. At this point, it's a national security threat. Not enough babies are being born to sustain things long term. The problem will compound itself. This will lead to societal collapse down the road. In 20 years or so we could really be seeing the signs of how screwed we are. Just wait until there's not nearly enough workers paying taxes into the system because people simply don't exist. The problems will snowball from there and it won't be fixable.
A man that i really loved, dumped me just cause we were young and he felt something better was out there, thanks to the apps. The apps are horrible, nothing like real life dating.
@@arjulalathe apps are awful .. if you are above average looking and doing well career wise - you won’t run out of options. The more options the less happier we are
Women are equally disinterested in real life meeting just as on dating apps. I did 1000 approach in real life and met 100 speed dating partners. There were zero results. I had at least some dates from Tinder, which I still don't like.
People need to concentrate on making friends 1st. Then romance can follow. There is to much stigma and pressure on dating. Form friendships with like minded people
High socioeconomic status (SES) does not automatically translate into relationship skills. Relationships require complex skills like empathy and communication and a good attachment style that cannot be bought. Success in relationships depends on the personality and values of the individual, not socioeconomic status. I wish people didn't have such limiting beliefs in this relationship, such as that economic status = relationship ability.
Honestly it's a vicious cycle because say you're in that bottom 50%, you experience the disappointment of hardly getting any real chances. Say your economic situation changes drastically and suddenly you're in the upper 10% & getting 10x more attention, you aren't going to pick one person & leave but you're gonna stay, get greedy and eat as much as you can because how easier it suddenly is for you now. The women also adopt, they still won't go for the bottom 50% but now they too play around with the top 10% or so. I think a lot of us dudes we eventually become the problem too. You hate the game until you're winning and that is why we can never fix this for all. It's like corruption, everyone is against it until you the one in a position of power & now you start protecting the messed up system so you can keep eating.
It's purely about looks. In the full interview, Scott ignores this and abstracts this with the phrase "online attractiveness" which he attributes to wealth, location, and other factors. He's completely wrong, it is down to genetic/physical attractiveness and that's it. This is old news to everyone else. Make a profile on any dating site for a 5'5 South Indian millionaire doctor who loves kids & puppies who also does charity work vs. a white 6'1 male model who is broke. The results and responses, or lack thereof, are so predictable that it is not even funny. It's not complicated.
It's shocking how few people are aware of this. They've done studies since the 60s showing that people pick dating partners based almost entirely on physical appearance. Attractive people are always chosen more than unattractive people, regardless of any non-physical traits. Frankly, there are probably some cases where plastic surgery might help. But that's just too sad for most people to accept, so they tell people it couldn't be an issue of appearance.
While this to some degree is true I think the online dating world has exacerbated the problem significantly because all you see essentially is a profile pic, all the other nuance, potential chemistry, even scent (he was right about that) are completely swiped away
This is so true! You don't even need to make the differences that wide, because modern women reject any man who's not a certified Chad. My personal experience: I'm 6'3", average build, 7/10 overall looks, high IQ, and independently wealthy. Yet, I haven't had a girlfriend in several years. I have to conclude that if I had six-pack abs and a chiseled jawline, then my inbox would be blowing up. I do get occasional 'likes' on dating apps, but I don't actually match very often because the women that swipe right on me are mostly 3's and 4's. If women were willing to judge themselves objectively and give guys at their own level a chance, then none of us would be single. But, they only swipe right on men that are out of their league. And, yeah, it's 100% based on looks.
@@LisaFenton-h7f people are lonely. The apps arent there to help people meet people, its all about getting them to pay for over-priced bullshit subscriptions. £7.99 a week JUST to see who liked you, it's absolutely criminal.
So many times I've heard women express their unsafety/anxiety when approached even in such an innocuous situation as waiting in a line for a coffee so why would I exacerbate that by expressing interest. Asking someone out isn't worth making someone else feel worried or unsafe.
Dude, a lot if that is just a humble brag, or the guy was very unattractive. As long as other people are around, approach women. End it fast if she seems nervous.
While I am not entirely against using online dating apps, it's worth noting that some women use them to seek validation rather than solely for the purpose of finding a relationship. I suggest utilizing various channels, both online and offline, to increase your chances of finding a compatible partner. For both men and women.
@@AngelicaLWoods Thats true. Validation and the need of feeling wanted is something we all have. Its just when it swings too much in one direction it is a problem.
@@rodneywoodcock8235Cats don't watch pornography and disengage emotionally so a lot of women are choosing to be single as it isn't as stressful and draining.
I’m hoping that people see the light and stop using these dating apps. I’m 22 and have never been on one because it’s so unnatural and I prefer to get into relationships organically and take my time. They just feel sinister to me. A lot of my friends are on dating apps and they say that mainly they end up having one night stands and just feel used. 🤷🏼♀️
News flash. People get used even when they meet offline. Dating apps/technology are not the problem. If you can’t figure out basic truths like that, you’re not intelligent enough for this conversation
Ironically how the men are always told that you need to change this or that to improve this or that while women always get understanding for their difficult situations they are in etc. It sends out the message that we are forever doing thihgs wrong or incorrectly while sometimes society can just be quite hard and cruel for a man, this should also be expressed in my opinion.
Speaking for myself, but I don’t want to be someone’s “guard rail.” Lifting my mate up from time to time, sure, but if there’s not a baseline of self-motivation, we’re not compatible.
I have gone off and on with the online dating apps. My profile doesn’t have what my occupation is because I don’t believe that should be something that every female should know. I have gotten connections with some attractive women but I noticed one of the first questions they will ask you is “What do you do?” and if your occupation isn’t up to their standards then the conversation goes stale real quick or you don’t hear from them. I was telling my buddy I said “Man I miss dating in the 90’s and early 2000’s when you could approach a woman and actually have a conversation with her. They could actually see and feel your personality rather than just relying what is on a screen.”
Its not rocket science mate. Women need a man with a good occupation because most women want to have kids one day. Which means at some point or most women of her live she will be out of work. So whos gonna provide? Like come on…
I went out with a good looking man, both of us mid fifties. I was amazed at just how much attention was projected on him from men and women, young and old. He even wore a fake wedding ring at dance classes. It wasn’t something he enjoyed and it had a bearing on how he was with people and his life. When we split up 3 years ago I knew he would be ‘snapped up’ and so he was! But people just see the outside beauty, and I saw that clearly as not such a great thing, and when I got to know him, I saw his inner integrity and shyness. I think sometimes looks don’t match with character and it taught me to look deeper and not make snap judgements.
When you are attarctive you can make yourself more unattractive by bad clothes, bad hair and such things. When you are unattractive your whole life is endless suffering, pain, and shame. I think I will not feel sorry for that guy thanks.
Around 3 mins he mentions the three things women look for in men....but leaves out looks. Why are we lying to ourselves? Women absolutely care about looks, even more then men.
@@Ferien7 There's multiple factors; facial attractiveness, height, money, status/clout, environment (high school college/university, workplace, etc), and many others. Face is always number 1 though.
Scott did not mention how porn, for young men, has transformed their reward dopamine receptors and how that has played a giant role in de-motivating so many men into pursuing & working for women’s attention. He also did not mention the bigger rooted problem of capitalism, and how it’s exploiting men and their relied addiction to porn and correlating that back to the dating market. Its really dehumanizing women and desensitizing men.
@@lochnessmunster1189 Because the more accessible and addicting porn is, the more money Hollywood makes. It has also become way more extreme because that’s what gets views. There are no limits to the destruction of young minds. It’s designed to create failure in relationships when all men care about is objectification-all in the name of $$ and destroying nuclear families. Before the internet, there were only playboy magazines and video tapes people didn’t impulsively watch several times a day. Now anyone can watch porn anytime and people do-men and women alike and it’s destroying everyone. I don’t think these choices are by accident. It’s all about the worship of a dollar, and what better way to make money then to do it through porn. There are a million ads, they sell your data, there are 20 million views one video. That’s getting a lot of people to consume your content. Add inflation on top of it and nobody can really make a family work.
Scott missed the #1 signal for women- GENETICS. Height, dark features, overall body shape (muscles, jawline, full hairline). Women fully respond to men with those. 5’6… bald… no muscles gets ZERO on dating sites.
Attractiveness is front loaded on dating apps. If you aren't hot you probly shouldn't be on there (male or female) bc the focus is 100% on appearance. You should work on getting your confidence up and trying to approach ppl in person. Same girl that will swipe left on you on an app would give you her number in a bar if you have good conversation. Also there are way more men on dating apps then women, which doesn't help men. Especially when 80% of dudes are using the same opening lines, have the same things in their bio, and asking to go to coffee on the first date. Not only are you not conventionally attractive, you're not setting yourself apart from the other 50 dudes looking at this one girl's profile.
@@bonitaapplebum0088 That's wishful thinking. Do you think a woman who has her app teeming with hot guys will start talking and give her number to a less attractive stranger in a bar? She doesn't even have the time to hook up with all the hotter guys in the app. She won't even look at you or she'll reject you in a condescending way. The trick is to find a woman who doesn't use social media or dating apps, and that's a unicorn, not a woman. And don't get me started with "coffee dates not being appropriate". I agree that a paid trekking tour to the Himalayas or a month of scuba diving in the French Polynesia would set you apart from the other guys, but come on...
@@asdzt123 serious question, do you actively date or do you just get all your dating information from reddit? Conventionally less attractive men have cheat coded their way to pulling women with personality and charm for centuries. Cut the screen time and observe real life. Of the people coupling up around you, are they mostly women who are 5-6s with men who are 8-9s or are they people relatively on the same level? Most people are dating people who are the same or similar as them. Ugly people date ugly people, hot people date hot people, rich people date rich people, poor people date poor people, etc.
The apps are dangerous after this point. A woman was unaloved for unfriending a man she met off an app. It is not anybody but your own responsibility to deal with your emotional and psychological issues. If you feel like a ticking time, bomb seek help.
Why are people so dismissive and apathetic towards people struggling from psychological/emotional traumas and scars. It's like we have become so desensitised to the pain and trauma people have experienced in life. I understand that harmful behaviour (as a result of mental health issues) should not be tolerated, but we really need to learn to be more compassionate than just make dismissive and condescending comments like "you have issues, seek help".
Not sure this is a problem. People who can't even take care of themselves, who are not employed, who don't have their shit together, should not be dating , and definitely not procreating.
Interesting guest - thank you for the thought-provoking talk. I like these kinds of settings when you let your guest express themselves without interrupting... However, you don't need "bigger" guests. Bigger is not necessarily better. ... and doesn't give the guests you've already had due credit.
No one has the balls to say the obvious truth: AVERAGE WOMEN SHOULD BE DATING AVERAGE MEN. If women were to actually give guys on their own level a chance, then we would no longer have a dating crisis in America.
@@bonitaapplebum0088 Fine. Then why does that same reasoning not apply to women? I'll say it again, if women were selecting men on their *SAME* level, then the current dating crisis would not exist. Currently almost all single women are chasing the same 10% of men. And, those men at the top are more than happy to plow through all those women. As a result no one is forming long-term loving relationships anymore. This is not a problem that men can fix, because as you pointed out, men are not the ones hooking up with people out of their league.
@@gordongekko2781 there are way more men than women on apps so this insistence of what women want based on apps is already laughable. All this data and statistics yall rely on has killed your ability to observe and see patterns in real life. Look around where you live. Ppl are absolutely coupling up with ppl on their level. Poor people are with poor people, rich people are with rich people, hot people are with hot people, mid people are with mid people...
@@bonitaapplebum0088 YES! Exactly. That's the half of the population that is doing it right. The statistic is 45% of women will end up alone, not 100%. And, your examples support what I'm saying -- when people date people on their own level, then it produces lasting results. The problem is because of dating apps and social media, more and more women are trying to date way above their level, and those women are just getting used over and over again.
I have been playing around with the idea of throwing singles events or something. As a young woman, I think there’s a lot of potential for creating a space / event with the purpose of promoting connections. This “safe space” might help men and women who worry about seeming creepy by approaching others etc. I think if we could find a way to make them cool again and bring in mainly young people (18-35) who are struggling most with these issues it would be extremely popular.
There are YT videos of these singles events and it turns out to be 90% females. It all goes back to the same principles discussed in this video. All women are looking for 9's and 10's because they truly believe that's what they all deserve and why would any man in their right mind subject themselves to this type of humiliation and rejection?
that doesnt work because most women arent looking for a soulmate best friend, they would all want to date the one hot/richest/bestest guy that comes to your events and would rather ignore the rest of the bunch. Theres a small group of women who pick guys simply for being compatable and being besties with, they meet them in college or church and stay with them. Women arent struggling to find men they would be compatible with, they just dont seem to want to. If youre a young female under 25 you have a choice abbundance and there are alot of social situations youre welcome at, use it.
Honey, that's called a "salon" and has been all the rage up until 1940s. Of course, doing them got progressively harder with each technological advancement.
My beef with all this is, when I have given less successful, less intelligent, or less attractive men the opportunity for genuine connection, they lie or try to degrade or cheat anyways. If they are so thirsty, why not cherish a genuine woman? Something doesn't add up. Maybe it's because where I live, there are more eligible women than men, so some of the women are desperate and tolerate such behaviour?? Over my dead body will I accept that.
It's a vicious cycle of victimization. Those men you give chances to have been degraded for so long, any shred of perceived social power then turns them into what they hate. There's no solution to that problem.
you can also be ignoring reality being on dating apps....Scrolling right is not an achievement for meeting a new mate. Going out into the world and socializing is
@@TheGoblinn I put it to you that that isn’t a particularly viable option these days. Women don’t want to be disturbed by random men while they’re out, most will have their earphones in to avoid such situations where a man might approach them. It’s expensive simply going out and trying to socialise to meet women, you might make friends if you’re lucky this way, but you’ll just be seen as a creep if you’re trying to get a date. But, do enlighten us on how you’ve got such positive reactions from randomly interacting with women, I’m sure we’d all love to hear 😂
As a woman, I would appreciate a man who is interested comes up to me in a soft tone, I can reject them if necessary but they’re immediately better looking for actually trying.
But how will that fix the skewed landscape dating apps and social media are creating for men vs for women? Most young people use them without realizing the algorithmic manipulations, and they're designed to be addictive while squeezing money out of desperate men.
It’s not a problem. In nature, only elite genetically superior males mate. All the rest fail. That’s nature. That’s normal. What you’re seeing is just how nature works. There is no “fix”
That's the neat part. You don't. You simply let it run its course. Social evolution will finally produce a result when mankind faces some extinction level aging decline some 50 years into future.
Scott, I know you say it isn't a problem to express interest - the problem is that there are some women who will find you so unattractive they will make you feel as if you've inconvenienced them by talking to them. Modern women believe they are exactly who they express themselves to be on their Instagrams. Rejection is standard in human life; being made to feel like you aren't human will crush you, however
@@Tdzle A comment like this is a perfect example why men struggle. Men are supposed to (a) just accept bad things without any complaints, (b) accept that their emotions are invalid and irrelevant, and (c) there is no learning for both women and men.
@@MrClebophd yes, yes and no... "What stands in the way, becomes the way..." attractive women maximize almost every parameter they can, to be attractive... The lesson is: Are you maximizing every parameter for being attractive to women? Are you working out 5-6 times a week? Are you maximizing your economic strategy, with extra hours, extra jobs, starting a side hustle, saving up to launch your company? Do you have an investment plan for your surplus money? Do you have a financial retirement plan? Can you afford a family? Are you a boy with a toy or a man with a plan? Women have a biological clock, men have a financial clock.. So get to work son... Who's gonna carry the boats?
I heard someone recently suggested that men are becoming the new women. In turn, women upping their game to become the new men. How on earth!?!? I really appreciate your interviews with truth speakers. It breaks my heart that love is squashed into an algorithm of money and looks. We do need to confidently say hello, make someone laugh or listen to them. We have no idea how their life is going in a given moment. It could set them and you on a better course, just in a coffee line.
I read that the law of attraction only works when the intentions behind the manifestation are pure. This understanding has allowed me to embrace the law of attraction as before I knew this, I could not embrace the idea that people call bad things into their lives. I can now embrace the law of attraction and manifest positive experiences into my life.
Academics like him are too stupid to understand life intuitively and as a result are out of touch with reality. People need to stop listening to people like him
As an "adult" mentor mentor mentor young men and women....especially young men! Volunteer at the local high school and help out any way you can. Be the big brother they never had but always needed!
We've got programs to help people become more viable. What we need is people to reach out and work with communities to figure out what has changed and what needs to be done. This is a unique situation
Scott says "Be aggressive. Approach someone. Ask them for a coffee. You can handle the rejection. The other person can handle the approach". NO NO NO!!! WRONG. 90% of men and 99% of women cannot. That is surely the basic problem that needs resolving.
Whilst I can't fault these solutions. My main gripe here is this: Once again it is men who are being told "hey you need to shape up" which as a core message I'm fine with, we can all better ourselves. But nobody seems to be saying to women, "you are delusional, you have been granted equality which is great, but you now need to temper your expectations." Mathematically it is IMPOSSIBLE for women to date horizontally and up to the degree they are willing to accept whilst at the same time having equality of opportunity. To that end, no matter how much a man upskills himself, he is still more likely to miss than hit. The other thing to point out is, the most successful man is still less successful than the least successful woman when it comes to matches on dating apps. Again, we need to point out to women that they are the ones who need to adjust expectations. It might be easy to say "men need to get it together" but as men are the ones overwhelmingly checking out of the dating market and are actively saying that women are too much hassle to deal with, it isn't men who will be disappointed. They are already disappointed, it is now women who now have everything to lose, and that bioclock is catching more of them out. 50% don't have children before 30, of that 50% over 30, only 50% of that number have children at all and once that ship sales they're done.
What are you taking about? Lots of men are constantly telling women they are delusional. They do it all the time on TH-cam and tick-tock . Dating apps aren't real life and women leave them as they get sent d*ck pics and these apps can be very dangerous. There is nothing wrong with women having standards and you men go on and on about being a provider and then whine when women want a man with a job and a car and hygiene. You moan when we have our own money and then moan when we marry a man with money. Which one is it ?
I don't know whether it's actually the norm for women to be with men who are on a "higher level" than them, but it's certainly not impossible. I would definitely say that my boyfriend and I are dating at a "horizontal" level. We have similar levels of education, similar incomes, and while we each tend to say that the other is the more attractive one, in reality I think we're about equal. And we met on a dating site (although I don't think that they work for most people, we got lucky). I've met a ton of men and women who are also very similar in those aspects to their partner. I work in healthcare so I don't know whether being in this field influences it, but it is absolutely not impossible. Some of them met at work. People just have to be realistic about where they are and seek out a partner who's similar to themselves.
I’m fully convinced that dating apps and social media make it harder to start and maintain meaningful relationships. In-person interactions, though less frequent, often lead to deeper and more genuine connections. My advice? Avoid dating apps and social media, unless you and your partner share a single social media profile.
economically viable? Guy with six pack here 6ft and 140k a year income. Majority obese women / women with children will only match. Europe/Asia I have had models go on dates and pay for me! Here in the US I have obese unemployed women verbally telling me they "can do so much better"
Triple 6 men are out dated.. you need triple 7’s to be a winner in the US now days.. it’s a stupid game my man I feel ya, hope you find what you’re lookin for, you deserve it. We all do.
How would you know they're matching with you unless you are matching with them as well 🤣 and are you putting your income and shirtless body in your bio? Also them matching with you doesn't prove some made up point that guys like you are all they ever go for.
My love, 140K is the salary women with kids aim for in their partners 😂😂😂 I make over 100K and made the mistake to put in once on my profile, I had loads of scammers flooding my inbox 😂
I used to ask everyone I wanted to get to know out for coffee- potential friends, romantic interests, business connections, ect. Because it was the least threatening place to simply converse with someone, and get to know them. Then people started getting weird about it. Like ask a lot of girls especially to anything, it’s immediately interpreted as a booty call or a date of some kind, and suddenly they become really suspicious of you. Coffee outings included. I think boys AND girls both can work on becoming better at being friends first. At giving up the idea that there is any prescripted method and approach for how to fall in love. That not everything social with each other has to be a date. And that if people do want to date each other, they should start making a point to be entirely un-ambiguous about their intentions with each other- just talk things out when clarity is needed, and trust that people are adult enough to work things out. I think more people should work on taking their time to get to know each other, and work out whether they really want to date someone or just be friends before they go on any official dates. And finally, I think the idea of “friend zone” needs to die. Because it is transactional in a setting where people are seeking deeper interactions. And it undervalues quality friendship as much as it does true love.
I met my fiancé off a dating app, and yet I still don’t recommend dating apps because of all the damage they are doing for men and women. I was also on/off apps for 6 years, and did have a few relationships from them-but none of them were good relationships except for this last one.
Concerning the gender ratio: Tinder has the worst with 21.9% women and 78.1% men. While Badoo has 35% women and 65% men. Bumble seems to have the most balanced ratio out of the three at around 43% women and 57% men. You're male but not Chad? Don't waste your time.
You’re married and commenting this trying to convince other men to be an incel? Wtf is wrong with you? Instead of being bitter for whatever reason-get off the internet or encourage younger generations so people can actually experience some happiness. You sound ridiculous. Young men should work on their bodies, careers etc, make themselves as attractive as possible, joke around, be social, create a funny personality, and he will get a good girl. But you have to leave the house in order to do it-dating apps or social functions like young professional events in cities. It’s not rocket science and it’s hardly impossible.
I don't want to go on date apps to find someone. I don't like the model of scrolling people as object. In other hand men don't approach anymore, they don't flirt anymore at real places. Is sad how dishumanised we are becaming 😢
What happens if you are the best version of yourself and you still cannot get with a woman - what should you do then? That’s the question to ask in this chat
Change your environment. Travel more, it's easier once you step out of your comfort zone. For example, if you're from London, it might be harder to get noticed while you're in London, but go up north to Manchester, and just the difference in accent alone is something to get you noticed. Go overseas to Spain and you struggling with your Spanish with your accent would get you noticed, this subtle differences or major differences are conversational starters. Go to America, Asia etc. You're a man, we're hunters.
@@London2ATLnonsense, none of the things you mentioned will make any difference. I know plenty of men doing all those things that still can’t get a date
I think the main things that men should focus on is be kind and good to her, be resourceful (education and work). Basically make a woman feel safe and secure with you physically, mentally and financially. Those are the main components that will make lots of women fall in love with you.
I'm raising two boys and I'm going to keep them away from porn. I get that they'll get to an age where they want to experiment in private but I don't want them to think porn is representation of real sex. I encourage them develop values, personality, character, and sense of humour and self worth. Quality over quantity or I tell them if many girls reject them that's OK because you're looking for only few quality of women to choose from.
I have a younger female friend who told me she's just discovered that two of her friends and her are all dating the same guy. Apparently it came out when each of them attempted to bring him to a group gathering and only one had the opportunity. Women really have no idea what dating apps are like for most guys.
It’s economic. We’re at a weird point where people like me have money but feel like we can’t control anything. It’s almost like we need a good recession
7:14 "how do we get this bottom 50% of young men laid?". You can't. If women go for the top 10% the only way you have is to become one of those in the top 10%, and when you do it you kick out some guy who was in that league before.
This "top 10%" myth is so dumb and exposes how many of you dudes are chronically online. A "top 10%" guy online is just a guy who is somewhat attractive that does the bare minimum and acts normal. That guy is maybe a 5-6 in looks, gainfully employed, appears to be hygienic and can string more than 2 grammatically correct sentences together. The bar is so low that if over 50% of men can't compete with that, the women aren't the problem.
Young men may “need guardrails,” but young women are not responsible for providing those guardrails. Women want and deserve equal partners, not just in terms of having the same level of education and professional success, but also in terms of maturity, executive functioning/planning skills, and the energy invested in the household. What we’re seeing is women fed up with being expected to raise men.
Hmmm... that is such liberal individualistic attitude. I see a problem, it doesn't affect me directly why would I invest efforts to solve it? Let it someone else does it. Someone else also shifts it to someone else and so on the merry goes round. However, dear young bots the price of fully enjoying temporary benefits of unleashed crude ego and satisfying animalistic nature is hellish to pay in the long run. I hope that those who gave you the "guardrails" of liberation and empowermnet told you about the FAFO.
Galloway says "be aggressive." Don't be aggressive, be outgoing and personable. No female likes aggression. Aggression makes us want to create as much distance as possible from the aggressor.
I was in a long term relationship with a girl who was addicted to these apps. I gave her enough time to choose me over the apps. Yep, she chose her beloved phone full of dating apps. Enjoy dating that piece of plastic.
Boundaries should have been set from day one. Dating apps deleted the minute you decided to be a couple. If she refused that should have been your answer too her character and loyalty. She had FOMO and always looking over shoulder for something more. She sounds like a narc, better to let her go.
University taught us on the first day that approaching women on campus can be considered harassment. Sure I'd love to try the cold approach but it's a 50/50 that my education goes down the drain if I caught a girl in a bad mood. Idk man, my only goal right now is to build myself into my 30s with capital from my parents and my own education (currently getting a master's in ME). I mean, it's really that simple, 50% of the men before me never left offspring, if I make it, I'll make it. If I don't, then I'll just put everything into Bitcoin when I'm old, and throw away the seed phrase. Someone will find it later, maybe a thousand years from now. That will be my legacy. I don't care if my name is passed on or not.
Don’t approach women at work, gym or anywhere you want/need to frequent regularly. Only basic greetings and work related conversations with women at work.
The danger isn't dating apps. You as a developed human have free will to travel the path you see fit for you. If you're going to allow yourself to be spoon-fed by podcasters and other content creators, you're going to see yourself as "in the bottom 50 percentile" in life. If however, you focused on your experience in life, how you treat people, the overarching goal and focus of your life, you'd likely see different outcomes. But the capitalist system that's been developed doesn't want you to see yourself in a community or collective. It forces you to stand on your own and then extracts your wealth, attention and drive by feeding you things that make you think you aren't doing enough. If most people who funnel their wealth into content creators that speak their language realised that this "social ownership" means of production used by content creators could also lift them up. It would change the game across the board and more people would see their aspirations for their life shift. It's not about the apps you're using. It's about what your focus is and what you're allowing people to tell you your focus should be.
7:15 THANK YOU!!! If men want more access to women they need to *self-improve.* You can’t shame, harass, manipulate, or cyber bully women into dating you. That tactic clearly hasn’t been working….
self improve for a women I am already 5x better in income/assets, a foot taller than, more educated, more traveled, stronger and have much lower bodyfat (they are usually obese). Hmm not a fair trade. Oh but I forgot they have put in so much work into their spiritual self right.
@@HamzaAgha-b6l why shouldn't men accept that in order to have companionship they should show they can be a good companion? You only get what you give.
None of the proposed solutions address the environment of online dating. Online dating feeds into the unrealistic fantasies of woman, our whole society does that as well. Our entire society is drunk on the desire to possess something better, the grass is always greener. One of the four noble truths of Buddhism is life is suffering, the suffering is the desire to have things we can not have. Western materialist consumer culture tells people they can have it all. In reality we can not have it all, no one can. The other Buddhist depiction of humans that always wanting more is that of the hungry ghost. We have become a culture of hungry ghost, our humanity is being brushed aside.
Western culture is all about unbridled hedonism and a producing of a deceptive illusion of equality, when it was always a socialism for a tiny group and WW1 trenchwarfare for everybody else. Prior to the liberalism, feminism and sexual revolution, the goal of nurture and upbringing was to smooth out both crude ego and animalistic nature both of men and women. So the question of the clip is who is going to pay the highest price of shilling as empowerment unleashing crude female ego and satisfying the rapacious appetites of animalistic nature? Women who chose to follow such path and enjoy the temporary benefits at the expense of long run. The point is empowerment is not for women to overmen the men and subsequently for men to overwomen women. Equality does not mean or imply identity.
I spent years building a top 5% physique and going out practicing until I'd developed a confident, charismatic personality. For years, I'd approach girls and almost always got a positive reaction. We'd playfully banter and often times she'd smile, laugh, make lots of eye contact, preen etc. It usually didn't actually go anywhere, but it was ok because we both had a great interaction. Even the times I got rejected, I usually saw it as funny. But these days, it's all changed. You can suffer very real consequences for approaching girls and men are absolutely discouraged from showing interest. I've been kicked out of places, had memberships terminated, been ousted from social circles and more just from talking to girls. And I wasn't vulgar, rude, or inappropriate, I'd just approach and talk with her with the goal of having a fun, playful conversation. Hell, it's gotten so bad that I've had girls give IOI's and be into the conversation who then reported me to management for "making them feel uncomfortable". So please, do NOT be aggressive, because you will almost surely cause yourself more problems than it's worth.
"Women who have a much finer filter for mating because the downside of sex for them is if they get pregnant" does not capture the true risk of a bad choice in partners. There are far greater risks than that of getting pregnant because the risk of getting pregnant has been reduced if not eliminated entirely.
I think he also said that because with that particular variable there's a higher risk multiplier attached to it than some of the others you may be thinking of.
He mean Women think like that because of historic or biologic genes.. I agree with you, safe Sex is comon and no one want to get diseases from it.. But a unwanted child is horrible for All 3 people involved.
Helping you to find a suitable partner is the exact thing dating apps want you to avoid. They want you on the apps and ideally subscribed for as long as possible for their financial model to work. I’d propose a classroom model of 40 people over a couple of months grouped based on similar interests/values, life goals, looks etc. and go from there. The illusion of having so much choice often paralyses people into making no choice at all.
Scott Galloway has got attraction completely WRONG, women are NOT attracted to your personality, kindness etc. VVomen go by LOOKS first, if you don’t pass the LOOKS test with a vvoman its GAME over. On line attractiveness is exactly the same as real life in person attractiveness, it’s your LOOKS.
I’m a lesbian who looks straight. Lemme tell you….The men who approach me are absolute sweethearts!!! Like they have so much love to give and sadly, neither I nor the men have found our equal in femmes. So many are femmes are angry, mean, entitled and just a turn-off! But there’s also wonderful ladies out there I hope come into our lives one day…wherever they are 😢
ive been watching Gary's Economics recently and got a better understanding of just how rich the rich are and how much more they have become recently AND how this could be addressed via a tax on wealth and assetts instead of just income .. in any case this distribution of wealth must also be considered when considering relationships because this wealth, which the rich increasingly have, comes from society and its young men as much as anyone who are feeling its absence and the burden of this inequality of resource
I wanted to add something which should be mentioned in more videos, the fact that a lot of people on apps do not even want to meet for a coffee. As soon as just having a coffee is mentioned its like something clicks and they totally change. I have tried apps though often i have felt that others have just put a text on their profile that doesnt really reflect them. This isnt judgement and I do not judge people by image age background or what ever. My point is the friendship part, the having a good mate part of a relationship is really the key of it all.
I don't mean to be invalidating to young men. This is a very important message and video. This is even more true for women though. God forbid you don't have a four pack of abs while being feminine and into sports and and and and... But can we also normalize being attracted to not perfect looking people, in _both_ genders? Some men don't date women they like because of how other men will perceive them for "lowering their standards" if the person is overweight or not attractive.
My nephew is almost 30 and is still a virgin. But also, he still lives at home with his mother, has no friends, works remote from home, and barely leaves the house
Its not all about sex. Like the interviewer asked "how can we get more men to have sex". Maybe this is the only goal for many young viewers here that don't have a bigger mindset. But sex is not a human right to get. Otherwise the government would subside prostitutes. Sex is important yes. But what we should take from Scott is men is slipping in the social market. And the ramifications. Men get more depressed, they loose their value and its a very skewed but also unfair market. Its about building self esteem. Build up your worth (no its not only financial). Build meaningful relationships (all kinds) where you open up and CONNECT. Do what makes you feel good and dont choose things that you think or believe other people expect of you. The only person obliged to take care of you is YOU. Cant get sex? Focus on finding other things that give you value and positive things in your life. Dont spend time with people who are bringing you down. Its not your job to make them mature, its their own job in life.
Dating apps are useless for a huge number men, but also speaking to woman in public makes you a sex pest in the modern age. I've always been a believer that online dating puts too much on having instant enfactuation with someone which for a lot of people just isn't going to happen. Most friendships in life tend to be organic, so why all this expectation of an instant connection on dates?n
I don’t agree with the part at the end where he says “guys need women to tell them to get a job, get in shape, for a girlfriend to withhold sex unless he steps up…” um.. Women are not your parents. Also this is viewing the data from the perspective of the unmatched men, what about the factors of the lowest unmatched women? Feels like a very one sided lens
You really need to stop gaslighting men and be honest about the fact that women are way more shallow and unforgiving on looks than men. I'm not saying women need to change their shallowness. Just saying be honest about it
What your saying is like comparing depressed celebrities and rich people to poor people who are depressed, then complaining he is biased because he isn't looking at the perspective of depressed celebrities. Celebrities are such an insignificant part of the population, just like 'unmatched' women are. Did you not listen to his talk? Take a room of 50 women and 50 men. Online dating data shows that all 50 women will be only trying to get the attention of 4 of the men, rejecting the other 46.
Meaning if your unmatched and a woman, its totally within your power to match with someone, wheras guys do not have that choice. Its like complaining your thirsty but not reaching for a glass of water because its not your favorite flavoured kind.
I feel dating and relationships are seen as a staus symbol like driving a lambo or having a mansion. If you have a partner, you are seen as above orhers. At least thats what i see. Truth is, it's pretty rare for a good long term relationship for a lot of people. Maybe most people. I think relationships are good, and can be beneficial. But sadly, it has gotten complicated and distorted by technology. There is no love. Just looks and status. Its like patric Bateman developed todays dating game. And i feel like that homeless guy he killed for not having a job.
I honestly would like to see these apps go bankrupt
Women would not allow it. Its having men on sale from the comfort of their own home.
Why go outside and meet men in your home town when you can talk to the hunk that lives in Brazil or the rich investment banker in newyork.
Correction :- The FAKE investment banker in New York.@@jakd2962
Something else would just pop up
@@jakd2962 you know there's more men on apps than women right?
They must pay in massive class action suit before they go. It’s a HUGE scam. 90% of fem profiles are AI-generated fake profiles.
Profit for dating apps = less matches, more swiping. They don't want you to get off the app. The incentive structure doesn't encourage matches but instead endless swiping and chatting
Hence the fake accounts. I've spoken with my female friends about this and they get them too, usually pretending to be military guys.
My grandson came to me the other day and asked me what do I do when a women tries to humiliate me for trying to start a conversation. I said first thats her issue and you should understand she has issues and just rule her out instantly. Second, I said stand your ground, turn it back on her in a calm manner. Tell her being short or cruel to ( people ) is not very attractive.
Tell him that a lifetime of being on top and his powerful position will eventually mean more than this moment. (as if boys are in a harder postion, please)
This is bad advice. Her goal was not to be attractive. She does not care to attract your grandson. Which is her right. You tell him to leave her alone and move on. Plenty of fish in the sea. Eventually he’ll find someone he likes.
@@lulunw Yeah I'd say leave out the "it's not attractive" part. But if a woman is being needlessly cruel to you for politely expressing interest, it should be called out. You don't get to treat a man like shit just because you don't find him attractive.
@@tararawson2630you sound just like an incel 😅
@@tararawson2630lol wtf are you talking about?
Broken culture, lack of compromise, lack of communication skills, inability to build relationships, no fortitude, chronic loss of trust, artificially created isolation, one-sided focus, etc.
A woman said to me the other day that if a man approached her in a club, she’d probably think he was after one thing. She might not be wrong, but with some men they’re just looking for a partner. I hope not too many women think this
No I'd happily chat to a guy who had the courage to approach me in a bar club. The only successful men on dating apps are the guys looking for hook ups.
Literally every guy on an app or a dating site is playing the numbers to see how fast he can get laid. That's why myself and a lot of women stopped using those things. None of us wants a bunch of dick pics clogging up our DMs.
I agree.
The thing is is that clubs or actually almost as bad a place to go looking for a person of quality as a dating app. Most women in that environment have five tenths of a second to decide whether Donna Man actually is worth the other time or not. You're far better looking at and coffee houses for book stores or church
I dont
I came to the conclusion if the majority of our fathers and grandfathers were born at this exact time and with the same technology ( cell phones), the majority of us would never have existed.
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Through genealogical studies, we can say the majority of men who have ever lived throughout history did not have children.
Hence, population implosion.
Just wait, you'll see the investment in cloning technology come out of nowhere. Can't have asset deflation now can we? lol
It's like people are skipping steps #1 through #9 and trying to get it all in step #10 when it comes to getting a real relationship
Facts
Yep and not just with relationships but with everything.
And they are ignored at the end so they try to shame you to skip step 1 to 9 too. So you move abroad and ignore them further - stupid choices give stupid prices. :)
Imagine a guy stuck in this loop , feeling isolated, and not knowing this is a pandemic affecting everyone and wondering why the world treats him as a waste of life
That's me
@@o.p.h.o.v.e.n this book called Platonic is a good way out. and work. the internet is not real life. and unfortunately now a days it takes work to get to know people and let people know you. It does suck right now and it aint your fault. but you can make the life you want
You guys are still in a pandemic? I live in the UK, and were not in pandemic status anymore but the mindset and habits I've picked up since then have stayed stuck on me. 🥴
I think he's referring to the pandemic of single lonely men rather than the 2020 one lol @@shoot_the_glass5654
@@shoot_the_glass5654 he isn't referring to the covid pandemic. he's referring to a loneliness pandemic and the real-world isolation between individuals.
Get rid of dating apps, get rid of only fans, and definitely get rid of social media thenat least could get
In the same way that we had to ban cocaine, heroin, and opium off of drug store shelves in 1913, it's 110 years later and we have a new threat to society. Seems like every century we have to get real and see how we just can't handle certain things as a society. These dating apps including things like Instagram need to be banned. At this point, it's a national security threat. Not enough babies are being born to sustain things long term. The problem will compound itself. This will lead to societal collapse down the road. In 20 years or so we could really be seeing the signs of how screwed we are. Just wait until there's not nearly enough workers paying taxes into the system because people simply don't exist. The problems will snowball from there and it won't be fixable.
A man that i really loved, dumped me just cause we were young and he felt something better was out there, thanks to the apps. The apps are horrible, nothing like real life dating.
@@arjulalathe apps are awful .. if you are above average looking and doing well career wise - you won’t run out of options. The more options the less happier we are
@@brianmeen2158 agreed! Think that's one of the reasons our parents generation stuck together as they really didn't have so many options!
Women are equally disinterested in real life meeting just as on dating apps.
I did 1000 approach in real life and met 100 speed dating partners.
There were zero results.
I had at least some dates from Tinder, which I still don't like.
People need to concentrate on making friends 1st. Then romance can follow. There is to much stigma and pressure on dating. Form friendships with like minded people
Thanks that was inspiring. People approach with the wrong mindset these days.
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Friendships have NEVER turned into relationships for me. A man has to be open about his intentions
@@Mistah_Boombastic_BiggieCheeseexactly.
No, because women put out for dudes they want. If she wants you as a friend, she does not want you as a boyfriend.
High socioeconomic status (SES) does not automatically translate into relationship skills. Relationships require complex skills like empathy and communication and a good attachment style that cannot be bought. Success in relationships depends on the personality and values of the individual, not socioeconomic status. I wish people didn't have such limiting beliefs in this relationship, such as that economic status = relationship ability.
Honestly it's a vicious cycle because say you're in that bottom 50%, you experience the disappointment of hardly getting any real chances. Say your economic situation changes drastically and suddenly you're in the upper 10% & getting 10x more attention, you aren't going to pick one person & leave but you're gonna stay, get greedy and eat as much as you can because how easier it suddenly is for you now. The women also adopt, they still won't go for the bottom 50% but now they too play around with the top 10% or so. I think a lot of us dudes we eventually become the problem too. You hate the game until you're winning and that is why we can never fix this for all. It's like corruption, everyone is against it until you the one in a position of power & now you start protecting the messed up system so you can keep eating.
I completely understand your point.
Yeah... Sucks to be at the bottom
I am not shaming men at the top but I will never help out a woman in peril chivalry is f u c k ING dead
Could not have said it better myself
underrated comment
It's purely about looks. In the full interview, Scott ignores this and abstracts this with the phrase "online attractiveness" which he attributes to wealth, location, and other factors. He's completely wrong, it is down to genetic/physical attractiveness and that's it. This is old news to everyone else. Make a profile on any dating site for a 5'5 South Indian millionaire doctor who loves kids & puppies who also does charity work vs. a white 6'1 male model who is broke. The results and responses, or lack thereof, are so predictable that it is not even funny. It's not complicated.
Its the same with women - the unattractive ugly girl doesnt get the attention the gorgeous girl gets - same thing
Agreed 100%. Just ignore females punish them by refusing them attention and validation while you work on yourself. That's the secret.
It's shocking how few people are aware of this. They've done studies since the 60s showing that people pick dating partners based almost entirely on physical appearance. Attractive people are always chosen more than unattractive people, regardless of any non-physical traits. Frankly, there are probably some cases where plastic surgery might help. But that's just too sad for most people to accept, so they tell people it couldn't be an issue of appearance.
While this to some degree is true I think the online dating world has exacerbated the problem significantly because all you see essentially is a profile pic, all the other nuance, potential chemistry, even scent (he was right about that) are completely swiped away
This is so true! You don't even need to make the differences that wide, because modern women reject any man who's not a certified Chad. My personal experience: I'm 6'3", average build, 7/10 overall looks, high IQ, and independently wealthy. Yet, I haven't had a girlfriend in several years. I have to conclude that if I had six-pack abs and a chiseled jawline, then my inbox would be blowing up. I do get occasional 'likes' on dating apps, but I don't actually match very often because the women that swipe right on me are mostly 3's and 4's. If women were willing to judge themselves objectively and give guys at their own level a chance, then none of us would be single. But, they only swipe right on men that are out of their league. And, yeah, it's 100% based on looks.
They need to ban dating apps
OR people cold just STOP USING THEM.
@@LisaFenton-h7f people are lonely. The apps arent there to help people meet people, its all about getting them to pay for over-priced bullshit subscriptions. £7.99 a week JUST to see who liked you, it's absolutely criminal.
Cry
So many times I've heard women express their unsafety/anxiety when approached even in such an innocuous situation as waiting in a line for a coffee so why would I exacerbate that by expressing interest. Asking someone out isn't worth making someone else feel worried or unsafe.
Dude, a lot if that is just a humble brag, or the guy was very unattractive. As long as other people are around, approach women. End it fast if she seems nervous.
While I am not entirely against using online dating apps, it's worth noting that some women use them to seek validation rather than solely for the purpose of finding a relationship. I suggest utilizing various channels, both online and offline, to increase your chances of finding a compatible partner. For both men and women.
Validation? No. They are seeking a mate
@@gmar7836 They are seeking a mate with male models exclusively? Why dont they want an equal?
Yes, they like to feel wanted, all of us do
They also use dating apps to exploit men; eg foodie calls, demands that he pay for rent/other living expenses, being flown out, ad nauseam
@@AngelicaLWoods Thats true. Validation and the need of feeling wanted is something we all have. Its just when it swings too much in one direction it is a problem.
Wether you ask a girl out on line or in a line, social media has created hyper-hypergamy. Their expectations of men is hilarious.
Hope a lot of women are into cats because the top 2% of men that are deemed relationship worthy on these apps is an incredibly small number of people.
@@rodneywoodcock8235 totally!
@@rodneywoodcock8235 And on top of that, those top 2% guys know they are the top 2% so they will never commit to any one woman
@@rodneywoodcock8235Cats don't watch pornography and disengage emotionally so a lot of women are choosing to be single as it isn't as stressful and draining.
You could level up to meet expectations. Men expect the same thing from women. Are you going to deviate from your wishlist? Probably not.
I’m hoping that people see the light and stop using these dating apps. I’m 22 and have never been on one because it’s so unnatural and I prefer to get into relationships organically and take my time. They just feel sinister to me. A lot of my friends are on dating apps and they say that mainly they end up having one night stands and just feel used. 🤷🏼♀️
News flash. People get used even when they meet offline. Dating apps/technology are not the problem. If you can’t figure out basic truths like that, you’re not intelligent enough for this conversation
Kit Kat if they are sleeping with men on the first night what else do they expect is going to happen? Are they really that gullible?
Apparently they are into one night stands.
Good. Is that why young broads tell one another herpes is normal?
Smart person. A friend of mine got an irreversible std from someone on an app. He didn't know he had it either.
Ironically how the men are always told that you need to change this or that to improve this or that while women always get understanding for their difficult situations they are in etc. It sends out the message that we are forever doing thihgs wrong or incorrectly while sometimes society can just be quite hard and cruel for a man, this should also be expressed in my opinion.
Making us take the blame for everything is just how society gets men ready for marriage
Speaking for myself, but I don’t want to be someone’s “guard rail.” Lifting my mate up from time to time, sure, but if there’s not a baseline of self-motivation, we’re not compatible.
I have gone off and on with the online dating apps. My profile doesn’t have what my occupation is because I don’t believe that should be something that every female should know. I have gotten connections with some attractive women but I noticed one of the first questions they will ask you is “What do you do?” and if your occupation isn’t up to their standards then the conversation goes stale real quick or you don’t hear from them. I was telling my buddy I said “Man I miss dating in the 90’s and early 2000’s when you could approach a woman and actually have a conversation with her. They could actually see and feel your personality rather than just relying what is on a screen.”
Dude, go outside and approach women… They are outside…
@@Chikou14219outside staring at their phone
@@Scottwilldtalk to her anyway
Its not rocket science mate. Women need a man with a good occupation because most women want to have kids one day. Which means at some point or most women of her live she will be out of work. So whos gonna provide? Like come on…
You are old enough to have been dating in the 90s but you're on dating apps...... sir go look in the mirror.
I went out with a good looking man, both of us mid fifties. I was amazed at just how much attention was projected on him from men and women, young and old. He even wore a fake wedding ring at dance classes. It wasn’t something he enjoyed and it had a bearing on how he was with people and his life. When we split up 3 years ago I knew he would be ‘snapped up’ and so he was! But people just see the outside beauty, and I saw that clearly as not such a great thing, and when I got to know him, I saw his inner integrity and shyness. I think sometimes looks don’t match with character and it taught me to look deeper and not make snap judgements.
Great comment! Very insightful
When you are attarctive you can make yourself more unattractive by bad clothes, bad hair and such things. When you are unattractive your whole life is endless suffering, pain, and shame. I think I will not feel sorry for that guy thanks.
Around 3 mins he mentions the three things women look for in men....but leaves out looks.
Why are we lying to ourselves? Women absolutely care about looks, even more then men.
In fact it is 100% about looks. But the system has to keep lying to keep the monkey dancing
@@Ferien7 There's multiple factors; facial attractiveness, height, money, status/clout, environment (high school college/university, workplace, etc), and many others. Face is always number 1 though.
I can say: guys just care about looks, even more than women.
@@raquelgeneve
For marriage but not for sex.
Scott did not mention how porn, for young men, has transformed their reward dopamine receptors and how that has played a giant role in de-motivating so many men into pursuing & working for women’s attention. He also did not mention the bigger rooted problem of capitalism, and how it’s exploiting men and their relied addiction to porn and correlating that back to the dating market. Its really dehumanizing women and desensitizing men.
Some interesting points, but why is it a specific problem of capitalism?
@@lochnessmunster1189 Because the more accessible and addicting porn is, the more money Hollywood makes. It has also become way more extreme because that’s what gets views. There are no limits to the destruction of young minds. It’s designed to create failure in relationships when all men care about is objectification-all in the name of $$ and destroying nuclear families. Before the internet, there were only playboy magazines and video tapes people didn’t impulsively watch several times a day. Now anyone can watch porn anytime and people do-men and women alike and it’s destroying everyone. I don’t think these choices are by accident. It’s all about the worship of a dollar, and what better way to make money then to do it through porn. There are a million ads, they sell your data, there are 20 million views one video. That’s getting a lot of people to consume your content. Add inflation on top of it and nobody can really make a family work.
Which is why it says in the Bible to wait until you find your forever mate. It's the DRIVE
Why not blame Jehovah and Allah while youre at it.
Everything to dodge that sweet accountability!
@@VonGoldfinger women aren't accountable for men's behavior
Scott missed the #1 signal for women- GENETICS. Height, dark features, overall body shape (muscles, jawline, full hairline). Women fully respond to men with those. 5’6… bald… no muscles gets ZERO on dating sites.
Attractiveness is front loaded on dating apps. If you aren't hot you probly shouldn't be on there (male or female) bc the focus is 100% on appearance. You should work on getting your confidence up and trying to approach ppl in person. Same girl that will swipe left on you on an app would give you her number in a bar if you have good conversation.
Also there are way more men on dating apps then women, which doesn't help men. Especially when 80% of dudes are using the same opening lines, have the same things in their bio, and asking to go to coffee on the first date. Not only are you not conventionally attractive, you're not setting yourself apart from the other 50 dudes looking at this one girl's profile.
@@bonitaapplebum0088
That's wishful thinking.
Do you think a woman who has her app teeming with hot guys will start talking and give her number to a less attractive stranger in a bar? She doesn't even have the time to hook up with all the hotter guys in the app. She won't even look at you or she'll reject you in a condescending way.
The trick is to find a woman who doesn't use social media or dating apps, and that's a unicorn, not a woman.
And don't get me started with "coffee dates not being appropriate". I agree that a paid trekking tour to the Himalayas or a month of scuba diving in the French Polynesia would set you apart from the other guys, but come on...
@@asdzt123 serious question, do you actively date or do you just get all your dating information from reddit? Conventionally less attractive men have cheat coded their way to pulling women with personality and charm for centuries. Cut the screen time and observe real life. Of the people coupling up around you, are they mostly women who are 5-6s with men who are 8-9s or are they people relatively on the same level? Most people are dating people who are the same or similar as them. Ugly people date ugly people, hot people date hot people, rich people date rich people, poor people date poor people, etc.
Wear height increasing shoes, wear a hair piece, and work out in the gym. Problem solved
@@lander77477 pffffttt
Kindness is the most important to me.
Kindness is the most important to me as well. It's too easy for someone else to speak for us without even recognizing other opinions.
Humor too.
Because you're old and have lower value. You didn't value kindness in your teens when you were in ypur prime
It's less about economics and more about looks/genetics.
Explain Bezos and Lauren Sanchez. That's why that old Chappele joke of a rich old guy driving a ferrari as a trap for 'bitches' works.
Lol, its about what you dont have, silly.. whatever that is
The apps are dangerous after this point. A woman was unaloved for unfriending a man she met off an app.
It is not anybody but your own responsibility to deal with your emotional and psychological issues. If you feel like a ticking time, bomb seek help.
Why are people so dismissive and apathetic towards people struggling from psychological/emotional traumas and scars. It's like we have become so desensitised to the pain and trauma people have experienced in life. I understand that harmful behaviour (as a result of mental health issues) should not be tolerated, but we really need to learn to be more compassionate than just make dismissive and condescending comments like "you have issues, seek help".
Not sure this is a problem. People who can't even take care of themselves, who are not employed, who don't have their shit together, should not be dating , and definitely not procreating.
Interesting guest - thank you for the thought-provoking talk. I like these kinds of settings when you let your guest express themselves without interrupting... However, you don't need "bigger" guests. Bigger is not necessarily better. ... and doesn't give the guests you've already had due credit.
Dumb comment
No one has the balls to say the obvious truth: AVERAGE WOMEN SHOULD BE DATING AVERAGE MEN. If women were to actually give guys on their own level a chance, then we would no longer have a dating crisis in America.
Hmmm that almost sounds like how life was before 2012.
Dudes who are sub 5s should not be swiping right on 7s and above and crying about not being able to get dates
@@bonitaapplebum0088 Fine. Then why does that same reasoning not apply to women? I'll say it again, if women were selecting men on their *SAME* level, then the current dating crisis would not exist. Currently almost all single women are chasing the same 10% of men. And, those men at the top are more than happy to plow through all those women. As a result no one is forming long-term loving relationships anymore. This is not a problem that men can fix, because as you pointed out, men are not the ones hooking up with people out of their league.
@@gordongekko2781 there are way more men than women on apps so this insistence of what women want based on apps is already laughable. All this data and statistics yall rely on has killed your ability to observe and see patterns in real life. Look around where you live. Ppl are absolutely coupling up with ppl on their level. Poor people are with poor people, rich people are with rich people, hot people are with hot people, mid people are with mid people...
@@bonitaapplebum0088 YES! Exactly. That's the half of the population that is doing it right. The statistic is 45% of women will end up alone, not 100%. And, your examples support what I'm saying -- when people date people on their own level, then it produces lasting results. The problem is because of dating apps and social media, more and more women are trying to date way above their level, and those women are just getting used over and over again.
It's way worse then that. Looks is also extremely important. Women more and more want 3% of top most physically attractive males.
Facts
I mean... When the ratio of men to women are really high on dating apps, of course women are gonna be more picky
@@sselemaNrM sure but then you can't complain when those guys do you wrong since every single woman is going after them
@@onbadtimingwhat is “doing wrong” to you? And you men do the same thing don’t complain when yall all go after the same woman and she becomes choosy
I have been playing around with the idea of throwing singles events or something. As a young woman, I think there’s a lot of potential for creating a space / event with the purpose of promoting connections. This “safe space” might help men and women who worry about seeming creepy by approaching others etc. I think if we could find a way to make them cool again and bring in mainly young people (18-35) who are struggling most with these issues it would be extremely popular.
There are YT videos of these singles events and it turns out to be 90% females. It all goes back to the same principles discussed in this video. All women are looking for 9's and 10's because they truly believe that's what they all deserve and why would any man in their right mind subject themselves to this type of humiliation and rejection?
that doesnt work because most women arent looking for a soulmate best friend, they would all want to date the one hot/richest/bestest guy that comes to your events and would rather ignore the rest of the bunch. Theres a small group of women who pick guys simply for being compatable and being besties with, they meet them in college or church and stay with them. Women arent struggling to find men they would be compatible with, they just dont seem to want to. If youre a young female under 25 you have a choice abbundance and there are alot of social situations youre welcome at, use it.
Might as well call it girls night out because men ain’t going. Why would any man step into that minefield in this climate.
Speed dating in my city always sells out 👍
Honey, that's called a "salon" and has been all the rage up until 1940s.
Of course, doing them got progressively harder with each technological advancement.
My beef with all this is, when I have given less successful, less intelligent, or less attractive men the opportunity for genuine connection, they lie or try to degrade or cheat anyways. If they are so thirsty, why not cherish a genuine woman? Something doesn't add up. Maybe it's because where I live, there are more eligible women than men, so some of the women are desperate and tolerate such behaviour?? Over my dead body will I accept that.
What percentage?
Beautiful, young and pure women get the good men. The rest get what you get 😅
It's a vicious cycle of victimization.
Those men you give chances to have been degraded for so long, any shred of perceived social power then turns them into what they hate.
There's no solution to that problem.
Few bad experiences with a few guys so you write off all guys. Great strategy honey.
Totally in agreement. Most men aim ruthlessly for the top 10% women
The problem with dating apps that even good looking guys with decent job will struggle as hell to find meaningful relationships.
That why I am still single btw 😅
Last place I'd look for love is a dating app 😆🤣
Dating app is another tool to use. Most single people are on a dating app. To ignore that is to ignore reality
you can also be ignoring reality being on dating apps....Scrolling right is not an achievement for meeting a new mate. Going out into the world and socializing is
@@TheGoblinn I put it to you that that isn’t a particularly viable option these days. Women don’t want to be disturbed by random men while they’re out, most will have their earphones in to avoid such situations where a man might approach them. It’s expensive simply going out and trying to socialise to meet women, you might make friends if you’re lucky this way, but you’ll just be seen as a creep if you’re trying to get a date. But, do enlighten us on how you’ve got such positive reactions from randomly interacting with women, I’m sure we’d all love to hear 😂
As a woman, I would appreciate a man who is interested comes up to me in a soft tone, I can reject them if necessary but they’re immediately better looking for actually trying.
Let me tell you, as a gringo, living in mexico, many years ago, when single, dating apps were really really fun, but I met my wife in a bar.
But how will that fix the skewed landscape dating apps and social media are creating for men vs for women? Most young people use them without realizing the algorithmic manipulations, and they're designed to be addictive while squeezing money out of desperate men.
There is no fix. It's only gonna get worse.
It’s not a problem. In nature, only elite genetically superior males mate. All the rest fail. That’s nature. That’s normal. What you’re seeing is just how nature works. There is no “fix”
That's the neat part. You don't.
You simply let it run its course.
Social evolution will finally produce a result when mankind faces some extinction level aging decline some 50 years into future.
Scott, I know you say it isn't a problem to express interest - the problem is that there are some women who will find you so unattractive they will make you feel as if you've inconvenienced them by talking to them. Modern women believe they are exactly who they express themselves to be on their Instagrams. Rejection is standard in human life; being made to feel like you aren't human will crush you, however
Galloway holds women accountable to nothing he is a gynocentric male bashing feminist
@@Tdzle bullshit man, I've seen what some girls say to my friends.
It's fucking inhuman.
@@Tdzle A comment like this is a perfect example why men struggle. Men are supposed to (a) just accept bad things without any complaints, (b) accept that their emotions are invalid and irrelevant, and (c) there is no learning for both women and men.
@@MrClebophdbravo. Preach brother.
@@MrClebophd yes, yes and no... "What stands in the way, becomes the way..."
attractive women maximize almost every parameter they can, to be attractive...
The lesson is: Are you maximizing every parameter for being attractive to women? Are you working out 5-6 times a week? Are you maximizing your economic strategy, with extra hours, extra jobs, starting a side hustle, saving up to launch your company? Do you have an investment plan for your surplus money?
Do you have a financial retirement plan? Can you afford a family?
Are you a boy with a toy or a man with a plan?
Women have a biological clock, men have a financial clock.. So get to work son... Who's gonna carry the boats?
I think we can all agree that it's key that you get out and talk to people in person
Where? No girls are ever at the bars, I'm too old for the club, and I don't wanna be that creepy guy randomly stopping girls at the gym or mall
I heard someone recently suggested that men are becoming the new women. In turn, women upping their game to become the new men. How on earth!?!? I really appreciate your interviews with truth speakers. It breaks my heart that love is squashed into an algorithm of money and looks. We do need to confidently say hello, make someone laugh or listen to them. We have no idea how their life is going in a given moment. It could set them and you on a better course, just in a coffee line.
I read that the law of attraction only works when the intentions behind the manifestation are pure. This understanding has allowed me to embrace the law of attraction as before I knew this, I could not embrace the idea that people call bad things into their lives. I can now embrace the law of attraction and manifest positive experiences into my life.
“Meet women at work.” LOL that’s called s3xual harassment Scott
Academics like him are too stupid to understand life intuitively and as a result are out of touch with reality. People need to stop listening to people like him
Most people meet their spouses at work
@@bonitaapplebum0088 not these days, sir
@@ryu_street_fighter561 are you unemployed or something
@@bonitaapplebum0088 you clearly have never worked a day in your life
As an "adult" mentor mentor mentor young men and women....especially young men! Volunteer at the local high school and help out any way you can. Be the big brother they never had but always needed!
Will make no difference
This will just make you look like a huge creep.
@@Ferien7 It's a legit method for normie-tier guys. Not everyone os a truecel like you are.
None of this can change. It's simply who we are now, baked into our psychology. The end result of decades obsessed with greed and narcissism.
We've got programs to help people become more viable. What we need is people to reach out and work with communities to figure out what has changed and what needs to be done. This is a unique situation
Unique situation but aside from
Enforced marriages - what do you recommend? I don’t see a fix for this
@@brianmeen2158 I don't see a fix for this either. As a matter of fact, it's only going to get worse.
Women want to give their prime to Chad and now Brad is wishing up and saying no to marriage
Scott says "Be aggressive. Approach someone. Ask them for a coffee. You can handle the rejection. The other person can handle the approach".
NO NO NO!!! WRONG. 90% of men and 99% of women cannot.
That is surely the basic problem that needs resolving.
In my experience it‘s men‘s looks, not money that gets them matches, interactions and relationships with women.
Whilst I can't fault these solutions. My main gripe here is this: Once again it is men who are being told "hey you need to shape up" which as a core message I'm fine with, we can all better ourselves. But nobody seems to be saying to women, "you are delusional, you have been granted equality which is great, but you now need to temper your expectations." Mathematically it is IMPOSSIBLE for women to date horizontally and up to the degree they are willing to accept whilst at the same time having equality of opportunity. To that end, no matter how much a man upskills himself, he is still more likely to miss than hit.
The other thing to point out is, the most successful man is still less successful than the least successful woman when it comes to matches on dating apps. Again, we need to point out to women that they are the ones who need to adjust expectations. It might be easy to say "men need to get it together" but as men are the ones overwhelmingly checking out of the dating market and are actively saying that women are too much hassle to deal with, it isn't men who will be disappointed. They are already disappointed, it is now women who now have everything to lose, and that bioclock is catching more of them out. 50% don't have children before 30, of that 50% over 30, only 50% of that number have children at all and once that ship sales they're done.
What are you taking about? Lots of men are constantly telling women they are delusional. They do it all the time on TH-cam and tick-tock . Dating apps aren't real life and women leave them as they get sent d*ck pics and these apps can be very dangerous. There is nothing wrong with women having standards and you men go on and on about being a provider and then whine when women want a man with a job and a car and hygiene. You moan when we have our own money and then moan when we marry a man with money. Which one is it ?
I don't know whether it's actually the norm for women to be with men who are on a "higher level" than them, but it's certainly not impossible. I would definitely say that my boyfriend and I are dating at a "horizontal" level. We have similar levels of education, similar incomes, and while we each tend to say that the other is the more attractive one, in reality I think we're about equal. And we met on a dating site (although I don't think that they work for most people, we got lucky).
I've met a ton of men and women who are also very similar in those aspects to their partner. I work in healthcare so I don't know whether being in this field influences it, but it is absolutely not impossible. Some of them met at work. People just have to be realistic about where they are and seek out a partner who's similar to themselves.
I’m fully convinced that dating apps and social media make it harder to start and maintain meaningful relationships. In-person interactions, though less frequent, often lead to deeper and more genuine connections. My advice? Avoid dating apps and social media, unless you and your partner share a single social media profile.
economically viable? Guy with six pack here 6ft and 140k a year income. Majority obese women / women with children will only match. Europe/Asia I have had models go on dates and pay for me! Here in the US I have obese unemployed women verbally telling me they "can do so much better"
Triple 6 men are out dated.. you need triple 7’s to be a winner in the US now days.. it’s a stupid game my man I feel ya, hope you find what you’re lookin for, you deserve it. We all do.
How would you know they're matching with you unless you are matching with them as well 🤣 and are you putting your income and shirtless body in your bio?
Also them matching with you doesn't prove some made up point that guys like you are all they ever go for.
@@greg9069 Fuck that shit. *becomes a travel bro in response*
Yaaas queen 😅
My love, 140K is the salary women with kids aim for in their partners 😂😂😂 I make over 100K and made the mistake to put in once on my profile, I had loads of scammers flooding my inbox 😂
I used to ask everyone I wanted to get to know out for coffee- potential friends, romantic interests, business connections, ect. Because it was the least threatening place to simply converse with someone, and get to know them.
Then people started getting weird about it. Like ask a lot of girls especially to anything, it’s immediately interpreted as a booty call or a date of some kind, and suddenly they become really suspicious of you. Coffee outings included.
I think boys AND girls both can work on becoming better at being friends first. At giving up the idea that there is any prescripted method and approach for how to fall in love. That not everything social with each other has to be a date. And that if people do want to date each other, they should start making a point to be entirely un-ambiguous about their intentions with each other- just talk things out when clarity is needed, and trust that people are adult enough to work things out. I think more people should work on taking their time to get to know each other, and work out whether they really want to date someone or just be friends before they go on any official dates. And finally, I think the idea of “friend zone” needs to die. Because it is transactional in a setting where people are seeking deeper interactions. And it undervalues quality friendship as much as it does true love.
Before the Internet was invented, people had to meet in person. And everything worked out fine. Geez
Facts
I don't know about fine. Men had dates because women had to date them for survival but there was plenty of inferdelity mostly from men and alcoholism.
False. Meeting offline will change nothing. Men end up online BECAUSE meeting women offline didn’t work. Not the other way around
before the internet was invented people just married the first person they met of the opposite gender
@@Philipp-pz6yh lol.
I met my fiancé off a dating app, and yet I still don’t recommend dating apps because of all the damage they are doing for men and women. I was also on/off apps for 6 years, and did have a few relationships from them-but none of them were good relationships except for this last one.
Lmao like none of what you described is possible when meeting people offline? How dumb are you?
What damage? Too many excuses or scare tactics these days
Concerning the gender ratio: Tinder has the worst with 21.9% women and 78.1% men. While Badoo has 35% women and 65% men. Bumble seems to have the most balanced ratio out of the three at around 43% women and 57% men. You're male but not Chad? Don't waste your time.
You’re married and commenting this trying to convince other men to be an incel? Wtf is wrong with you? Instead of being bitter for whatever reason-get off the internet or encourage younger generations so people can actually experience some happiness. You sound ridiculous. Young men should work on their bodies, careers etc, make themselves as attractive as possible, joke around, be social, create a funny personality, and he will get a good girl. But you have to leave the house in order to do it-dating apps or social functions like young professional events in cities. It’s not rocket science and it’s hardly impossible.
I don't want to go on date apps to find someone. I don't like the model of scrolling people as object.
In other hand men don't approach anymore, they don't flirt anymore at real places. Is sad how dishumanised we are becaming 😢
What happens if you are the best version of yourself and you still cannot get with a woman - what should you do then? That’s the question to ask in this chat
Change your environment. Travel more, it's easier once you step out of your comfort zone. For example, if you're from London, it might be harder to get noticed while you're in London, but go up north to Manchester, and just the difference in accent alone is something to get you noticed. Go overseas to Spain and you struggling with your Spanish with your accent would get you noticed, this subtle differences or major differences are conversational starters.
Go to America, Asia etc. You're a man, we're hunters.
@@London2ATL thank you, appreciate the feedback
@ranney757 Good luck. Just keep working on yourself, friend.
Self improvement is a lie. It will make no difference. Either you’re top tier, or you’re not. There is no changing that one way or the other
@@London2ATLnonsense, none of the things you mentioned will make any difference. I know plenty of men doing all those things that still can’t get a date
I think the main things that men should focus on is be kind and good to her, be resourceful (education and work). Basically make a woman feel safe and secure with you physically, mentally and financially. Those are the main components that will make lots of women fall in love with you.
Lol. What about HER ???.?
Great video, I wonder what percentage of the profiles on these apps are scammers
Bill Maher also argued the same thing about shooters.
I'm raising two boys and I'm going to keep them away from porn. I get that they'll get to an age where they want to experiment in private but I don't want them to think porn is representation of real sex. I encourage them develop values, personality, character, and sense of humour and self worth. Quality over quantity or I tell them if many girls reject them that's OK because you're looking for only few quality of women to choose from.
Your wifi router should have a filter turned on. Make sure you do that. Your phone company can do the same for your kids smartphones.
I have a younger female friend who told me she's just discovered that two of her friends and her are all dating the same guy. Apparently it came out when each of them attempted to bring him to a group gathering and only one had the opportunity. Women really have no idea what dating apps are like for most guys.
It's like we upset the natural order of things and now are wandering why all the consequences.
Bingo. Nature will eventually correct itself
It’s economic. We’re at a weird point where people like me have money but feel like we can’t control anything. It’s almost like we need a good recession
This is thought provoking
7:14 "how do we get this bottom 50% of young men laid?". You can't. If women go for the top 10% the only way you have is to become one of those in the top 10%, and when you do it you kick out some guy who was in that league before.
This "top 10%" myth is so dumb and exposes how many of you dudes are chronically online. A "top 10%" guy online is just a guy who is somewhat attractive that does the bare minimum and acts normal.
That guy is maybe a 5-6 in looks, gainfully employed, appears to be hygienic and can string more than 2 grammatically correct sentences together. The bar is so low that if over 50% of men can't compete with that, the women aren't the problem.
Thank you for telling the truth
Young men may “need guardrails,” but young women are not responsible for providing those guardrails. Women want and deserve equal partners, not just in terms of having the same level of education and professional success, but also in terms of maturity, executive functioning/planning skills, and the energy invested in the household. What we’re seeing is women fed up with being expected to raise men.
Exactly
Hmmm... that is such liberal individualistic attitude. I see a problem, it doesn't affect me directly why would I invest efforts to solve it? Let it someone else does it. Someone else also shifts it to someone else and so on the merry goes round.
However, dear young bots the price of fully enjoying temporary benefits of unleashed crude ego and satisfying animalistic nature is hellish to pay in the long run. I hope that those who gave you the "guardrails" of liberation and empowermnet told you about the FAFO.
Galloway says "be aggressive." Don't be aggressive, be outgoing and personable. No female likes aggression. Aggression makes us want to create as much distance as possible from the aggressor.
He basically said what we all know. Look Better. The black pill in undefeated.
Wow! The content in this video is far superior than its title.
I was in a long term relationship with a girl who was addicted to these apps. I gave her enough time to choose me over the apps. Yep, she chose her beloved phone full of dating apps. Enjoy dating that piece of plastic.
Boundaries should have been set from day one. Dating apps deleted the minute you decided to be a couple. If she refused that should have been your answer too her character and loyalty. She had FOMO and always looking over shoulder for something more. She sounds like a narc, better to let her go.
It was very bad. Really damaged me. She dissapeared and blocked me from every angle.
Ironically this is exactly why her last relationship ended. She said her ex was obsessed she was cheating because she was on her phone so much. Duh!
@@Rose-mystic after me bringing it up all the apps were gone.
She didnt delete them, she hid them.
University taught us on the first day that approaching women on campus can be considered harassment. Sure I'd love to try the cold approach but it's a 50/50 that my education goes down the drain if I caught a girl in a bad mood. Idk man, my only goal right now is to build myself into my 30s with capital from my parents and my own education (currently getting a master's in ME). I mean, it's really that simple, 50% of the men before me never left offspring, if I make it, I'll make it. If I don't, then I'll just put everything into Bitcoin when I'm old, and throw away the seed phrase. Someone will find it later, maybe a thousand years from now. That will be my legacy. I don't care if my name is passed on or not.
Don’t approach women at work, gym or anywhere you want/need to frequent regularly. Only basic greetings and work related conversations with women at work.
Work yes but at gym is very easy to make conversation with women
The danger isn't dating apps. You as a developed human have free will to travel the path you see fit for you. If you're going to allow yourself to be spoon-fed by podcasters and other content creators, you're going to see yourself as "in the bottom 50 percentile" in life. If however, you focused on your experience in life, how you treat people, the overarching goal and focus of your life, you'd likely see different outcomes. But the capitalist system that's been developed doesn't want you to see yourself in a community or collective. It forces you to stand on your own and then extracts your wealth, attention and drive by feeding you things that make you think you aren't doing enough.
If most people who funnel their wealth into content creators that speak their language realised that this "social ownership" means of production used by content creators could also lift them up. It would change the game across the board and more people would see their aspirations for their life shift. It's not about the apps you're using. It's about what your focus is and what you're allowing people to tell you your focus should be.
7:15 THANK YOU!!! If men want more access to women they need to *self-improve.* You can’t shame, harass, manipulate, or cyber bully women into dating you. That tactic clearly hasn’t been working….
But women can act stuck up rude and disrespectful not improve on themselves?
This is why men are leaving North America to find a feminine wife
women have been shaming men into dating fat/ugly/single mums for years
self improve for a women I am already 5x better in income/assets, a foot taller than, more educated, more traveled, stronger and have much lower bodyfat (they are usually obese). Hmm not a fair trade. Oh but I forgot they have put in so much work into their spiritual self right.
So you accept that men need to face higher standards for looks, money, and personality to date?
@@HamzaAgha-b6l why shouldn't men accept that in order to have companionship they should show they can be a good companion? You only get what you give.
7:25
wow! unbelievable advises! Astonishing wisdom here...I'm perplexed.
None of the proposed solutions address the environment of online dating. Online dating feeds into the unrealistic fantasies of woman, our whole society does that as well.
Our entire society is drunk on the desire to possess something better, the grass is always greener.
One of the four noble truths of Buddhism is life is suffering, the suffering is the desire to have things we can not have. Western materialist consumer culture tells people they can have it all. In reality we can not have it all, no one can. The other Buddhist depiction of humans that always wanting more is that of the hungry ghost. We have become a culture of hungry ghost, our humanity is being brushed aside.
Western culture is all about unbridled hedonism and a producing of a deceptive illusion of equality, when it was always a socialism for a tiny group and WW1 trenchwarfare for everybody else.
Prior to the liberalism, feminism and sexual revolution, the goal of nurture and upbringing was to smooth out both crude ego and animalistic nature both of men and women. So the question of the clip is who is going to pay the highest price of shilling as empowerment unleashing crude female ego and satisfying the rapacious appetites of animalistic nature? Women who chose to follow such path and enjoy the temporary benefits at the expense of long run. The point is empowerment is not for women to overmen the men and subsequently for men to overwomen women. Equality does not mean or imply identity.
I spent years building a top 5% physique and going out practicing until I'd developed a confident, charismatic personality. For years, I'd approach girls and almost always got a positive reaction. We'd playfully banter and often times she'd smile, laugh, make lots of eye contact, preen etc. It usually didn't actually go anywhere, but it was ok because we both had a great interaction. Even the times I got rejected, I usually saw it as funny.
But these days, it's all changed. You can suffer very real consequences for approaching girls and men are absolutely discouraged from showing interest. I've been kicked out of places, had memberships terminated, been ousted from social circles and more just from talking to girls. And I wasn't vulgar, rude, or inappropriate, I'd just approach and talk with her with the goal of having a fun, playful conversation.
Hell, it's gotten so bad that I've had girls give IOI's and be into the conversation who then reported me to management for "making them feel uncomfortable".
So please, do NOT be aggressive, because you will almost surely cause yourself more problems than it's worth.
"Women who have a much finer filter for mating because the downside of sex for them is if they get pregnant" does not capture the true risk of a bad choice in partners. There are far greater risks than that of getting pregnant because the risk of getting pregnant has been reduced if not eliminated entirely.
Disagree . Nothing can possibly be a greater risk than accidentally creating unwanted life .
No. It hasn't. For men they have to trust thst the woman they are with are on birth control.
I think he also said that because with that particular variable there's a higher risk multiplier attached to it than some of the others you may be thinking of.
He mean Women think like that because of historic or biologic genes..
I agree with you, safe Sex is comon and no one want to get diseases from it..
But a unwanted child is horrible for All 3 people involved.
@@onelmstreet8839 as if any woman now id going to have an unwanted child!! More poor misandry - even employers will pay for abortions in another state
Helping you to find a suitable partner is the exact thing dating apps want you to avoid. They want you on the apps and ideally subscribed for as long as possible for their financial model to work. I’d propose a classroom model of 40 people over a couple of months grouped based on similar interests/values, life goals, looks etc. and go from there. The illusion of having so much choice often paralyses people into making no choice at all.
Scott Galloway has got attraction completely WRONG, women are NOT attracted to your personality, kindness etc.
VVomen go by LOOKS first, if you don’t pass the LOOKS test with a vvoman its GAME over.
On line attractiveness is exactly the same as real life in person attractiveness, it’s your LOOKS.
8:03 love how he was dead ass and didn’t join in on the laughter
Daygame is great for mental health ,exercise ,improve style ,expect rejection and keep going, get off dating apps
How that can improve your mental health ?
I’m a lesbian who looks straight. Lemme tell you….The men who approach me are absolute sweethearts!!! Like they have so much love to give and sadly, neither I nor the men have found our equal in femmes. So many are femmes are angry, mean, entitled and just a turn-off! But there’s also wonderful ladies out there I hope come into our lives one day…wherever they are 😢
ive been watching Gary's Economics recently and got a better understanding of just how rich the rich are and how much more they have become recently AND how this could be addressed via a tax on wealth and assetts instead of just income .. in any case this distribution of wealth must also be considered when considering relationships because this wealth, which the rich increasingly have, comes from society and its young men as much as anyone who are feeling its absence and the burden of this inequality of resource
Thank you for sharing Shaun 🙌🏽
I wanted to add something which should be mentioned in more videos, the fact that a lot of people on apps do not even want to meet for a coffee. As soon as just having a coffee is mentioned its like something clicks and they totally change. I have tried apps though often i have felt that others have just put a text on their profile that doesnt really reflect them. This isnt judgement and I do not judge people by image age background or what ever. My point is the friendship part, the having a good mate part of a relationship is really the key of it all.
Do not use dating apps. Just approach them in person.
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Do not approach in person without first receiving non verbal consent for such an approach. You want a harassment or a rape charge?
@@scottgurstein your terms are acceptable.
@scottgurstein rubbish you cannot get done for harassment for saying hi. If she ignores you then move on.
@@gold-hf8jx sorry, but you don't know what the f*** you're talking about. I do
I got an ad for bumble when I clicked on this video 😂
He says a young man needs a gf to know that he needs to get his stuff together??? That’s not her job. He needs to grow up.
Not to mention that dating apps cost money.
They cost money, and many of your 'likes' and 'matches' are bots to keep you hooked on the site.
Such truth I tell my students everyday
90% of women swipe on the top 10% online.
But 100% of women on the apps are in the bottom 10% in the real world.
so does that mean that 100% of men on dating apps are the bottom 10% in the real world or players?
@@JJ-pj6cn 100% - It cuts both ways.
I don't mean to be invalidating to young men. This is a very important message and video.
This is even more true for women though. God forbid you don't have a four pack of abs while being feminine and into sports and and and and... But can we also normalize being attracted to not perfect looking people, in _both_ genders? Some men don't date women they like because of how other men will perceive them for "lowering their standards" if the person is overweight or not attractive.
This is why many men are getting their passports and moving to poorer countries where all of a sudden they are considered upper class.
That's the ticket! Literally.
My nephew is almost 30 and is still a virgin. But also, he still lives at home with his mother, has no friends, works remote from home, and barely leaves the house
WFH is a trap.
He lives at home BECAUSE he is a low value male, not the other way around. In case you weren’t smart enough to figure that out
1000% agree! Fantastic! 💪❤️
Its not all about sex. Like the interviewer asked "how can we get more men to have sex". Maybe this is the only goal for many young viewers here that don't have a bigger mindset. But sex is not a human right to get. Otherwise the government would subside prostitutes.
Sex is important yes. But what we should take from Scott is men is slipping in the social market. And the ramifications. Men get more depressed, they loose their value and its a very skewed but also unfair market. Its about building self esteem. Build up your worth (no its not only financial). Build meaningful relationships (all kinds) where you open up and CONNECT. Do what makes you feel good and dont choose things that you think or believe other people expect of you. The only person obliged to take care of you is YOU.
Cant get sex? Focus on finding other things that give you value and positive things in your life. Dont spend time with people who are bringing you down. Its not your job to make them mature, its their own job in life.
Dating apps are useless for a huge number men, but also speaking to woman in public makes you a sex pest in the modern age.
I've always been a believer that online dating puts too much on having instant enfactuation with someone which for a lot of people just isn't going to happen. Most friendships in life tend to be organic, so why all this expectation of an instant connection on dates?n
I don’t agree with the part at the end where he says “guys need women to tell them to get a job, get in shape, for a girlfriend to withhold sex unless he steps up…” um.. Women are not your parents. Also this is viewing the data from the perspective of the unmatched men, what about the factors of the lowest unmatched women? Feels like a very one sided lens
The lowest unmatched women are obsessed with man way above their leagues. They can easily date average men, but they would rather be alone
You really need to stop gaslighting men and be honest about the fact that women are way more shallow and unforgiving on looks than men. I'm not saying women need to change their shallowness. Just saying be honest about it
What your saying is like comparing depressed celebrities and rich people to poor people who are depressed, then complaining he is biased because he isn't looking at the perspective of depressed celebrities. Celebrities are such an insignificant part of the population, just like 'unmatched' women are. Did you not listen to his talk? Take a room of 50 women and 50 men. Online dating data shows that all 50 women will be only trying to get the attention of 4 of the men, rejecting the other 46.
Meaning if your unmatched and a woman, its totally within your power to match with someone, wheras guys do not have that choice. Its like complaining your thirsty but not reaching for a glass of water because its not your favorite flavoured kind.
@@jasonm7684 I dont think women have the ability to understand what you've explained
I feel dating and relationships are seen as a staus symbol like driving a lambo or having a mansion. If you have a partner, you are seen as above orhers. At least thats what i see. Truth is, it's pretty rare for a good long term relationship for a lot of people. Maybe most people. I think relationships are good, and can be beneficial. But sadly, it has gotten complicated and distorted by technology. There is no love. Just looks and status. Its like patric Bateman developed todays dating game. And i feel like that homeless guy he killed for not having a job.