The two words that have helped me most during my 7 months of breakup are Fuck it. You said this in a lot of uploads, I read the book, I said it. I'm no longer important to the ex, so fuck him. I'm giving my love to people who I'm grateful to have in my life. Must admit, the anger's manifested into a numb, real depression. Acceptance is a good/bad feeling. I'll get through it, but you've helped massively. Using my not usual account writing this because I really DON'T want my ex to find a sliver of my existence anywhere. Look forward to more advice. Anniversaries are coming up. I'd like to hear your take on how to get through times that have sentimental/nostalgia attached to them when the breakup is still raw. If you ever would like to. Cheers for your support.
Remember to give yourself love first. 😊 As for anniversaries, for me I spoil myself rotten. First anniversary without my ex I bought myself a new iPad. Second anniversary I went on a trip, by the third I didn’t care anymore 😈
@@TheLoveFix-Nick I like that advice 😉 It's good to be caring less about some things but anniversaries are a nasty sod for bringing up the nostalgia in technicolour. I've come far in a relatively short time (considering it was a 27 year relationship) so thanks a million again to you. ⭐
Nice timely video. I'm dealing with these very issues and implemented No Contact after I got passive aggressive messages gaslighting me in my effort to discuss what happened. Time to move on.
Sorry to hear that buddy. Gaslighters are the ones typically shitting their emotions all over the floor. You know who else shits on the floor? Dogs and babies. Treat them accordingly. 😊
I tried posting this but it disappeared. So I’ll try again. My wife left me after a 24 year marriage and now we are getting a divorce. It’s been 3 years now and we are still going though this process(yes getting a divorce during covid is a nightmare). I have watched countless videos on how to ‘fix’ this, everything from self improvement to no contact. Some advice worked to a point but she always kept me at arms length even after pulling me back in. I have made great physical improvements and I thought I was stronger mentally. I was wrong. Part of the reason for the failure of the marriage was her alcohol addiction. Just today I found out she is in a relationship with someone from her AA meeting. This hit me like a brick, so I found myself watching more videos for advise because I felt so desperate. Then I clicked onto your video and heard something I have not heard before. F#@k them. That thought, amazingly, never entered my head so I watched this video a few times to have it sink in. I know I have a long road ahead of me before I’m okay, but this was a great first step. Thank you for taking the time to make this video for people like me that are in need of real help.
Wow. That’s quite a journey you’ve been on buddy. I’m sorry to hear about this but I’m glad the lightbulb came on for you. We all make our own hell. Wish her well with hers.
Thanks man I really appreciate your work my ex's friend reached out to me 2 days ago asking how I'm doing ( they never done it before) and I answered with I'm doing alright and I replied after some time after watching your videos I understand what to do in different situations much love to you ❤🙏
I believe I will move on well, just dealing with the “what ifs” and the complex nuance of the break up is the issue. Due to the fact she was “in love” with me until we broke up and is now on Hinge just two weeks later, and due to the fact I was the catalyst of the break up. I’m an over thinker so it’s hard to turn off that head noise.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick we still have pics of each other on socials, from what I can see even though we no longer follow each other. A mate of mine saw her on Hinge and told me. I foolishly went on there and saw her, exact same profile that I met her through. So when we became exclusive and said we deleted our accounts, it should have said “just joined.” But it was word for word and pic for pic the same account.
@@jaredw5059 this reminds me of my ex's games. Now i wish i never met him because i don't know if i'll ever get over this emotional rollercoaster. I never thought that i was ever gonna fall so hard for someone and end up with such huge regret
@@lucyblue7057 I feel you mate. None of us are perfect. Hold ourselves accountable for the things we need to work on but don’t take on the baggage of others as our own.
Check out jocko willinks take on getting over your ex. We are men, keep it simple stupid brother. If it's over, come to terms with that fact ASAP, by any means. Get close with family and real friends. I was personally advised to get a dog, and believe it or not, that worked 4 me. Good luck mate
I'm just over a month into my break up, I was widowed at 33, she came into my life 2 months after my wife died as a friend to start with, became a couple 10 plus years tho as we both had kids hadn't cracked all moving in together, 5 months ago she started at a wetherspoons, broke up with me 19th of September, saying I didn't want more commitment which I did but had poorly talked about, then as I fight to save us 2 weeks later I learn she's seeing one of the staff, she says I only started seeing him start of October... yeah but you had worked with the guy leading up to ditching me for him, she's bipolar, wouldn't talk face to face, now she seems to be living her best life zero fucks given while it's broken me and my daughter's heart.
I’m sorry to hear that Andrew and I hope you’re okay. I think most people in your position would be very hurt right now. But the thing is, you get to decide what happens going forward. So you can either your wounds or heal them. The latter moves you on to a much better life.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick Yeah I know I will get over her, but fuck it hurts right now to still care, because unlike her I haven't flicked a switch and disconnected my feeling for her, then again I wish I could fast forward to the inevitable break up of this monkey branching rebound
@@TheLoveFix-Nick well fucking a guy who looks like the wish version of Bruce Willis is my starter for 10, she was avoident when I wanted to know the truth of how long they had been together, as in you've made up your mind so me saying anything is pointless, she may well have a lot floating around her head but she hiding it well which may be her bipolar or not
So if he moved on while with me then he is 100% ready for his new relationship and doesn’t even care about me anymore? He said he had been unhappy for a while and had I guess been thinking for months and months about leaving me but didn’t. Then he got with someone new not even two months after leaving me
@@TheLoveFix-Nick he has a new girlfriend. We were together five years and lived together. I’m his first gf and things were really serious. We were planning to move so he could go to get a master degree. He left like a week later when we found the right apartment. I just can’t understand how he can just go do this new life like he didn’t have this whole life with me. He’s living with his grandma though and he isn’t working so idk what is going on there and at this moment it has been five months. but it just seems so horrible to me that he is putting all his focus on fun and this new person who is barely an adult. He didn’t even say it to my face. He texted me and blocked me instantly and I haven’t heard anything from him. I only know this from talking to his brother. He tells me he has been acting weird with him as well.
Okay. Two things. 1. Time does not equal success 2. Getting into a new relationship straight doesn’t mean he has moved on. In fact in most cases it’s the opposite. Using the new person to cover up his internal BS. Living with his grandma and not working. Hardly a high value man.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick Thank you! This does make sense. It’s always hard to not think you lost such a good person and to keep thinking they’re life is perfect. I’m doing my best to move forward. Always appreciate your videos.
If I unfollowed and removed from my followers my ex she will still be curious about me or she will perceive it as childish and not interesting? Or in the future the curiosity will increase and maybe she will ask to follow? Asking just for curiousity
hello brother i really need your advice on the situation when my ex broke up with me she said lets love each other as friends and for the idiot i am i said ok i didnt contact her or she contacted me in anyways until our friends tried to fix the things between us i talked to her that iwant to fix things and that everything will be ok she said that she lost feelings after this i closed the call and next day i apologized for the eratic behavior she replied politely after one month of the break up she got in a relationship with a male orbiter which i think its a rebound she hided the story from me on instagram so i dont see it i have been in no contact for almost a month now and i dont know what to do ? do i reach out and make it clear i dont wanna be friends or just stay in no contact ? please i need an answer
I’m sorry to hear that buddy. That’s a tough emotional situation. This is going to be brutal. She’s given you the answer my man. She ended your relationship and started a new one with someone else. That’s your answer. You need to leave her alone and focus on you now. Actions never lie and words don’t mean shit. Bury your old relationship, mourn it, work on the relationship with yourself so you can find better women in the future. I hope you feel better soon.
I don’t know man. All I know is that you need to focus on yourself and your healing. Right now, at this point in time she’s not with you. Those are the facts. I know that hurts but it’s best to spend your time on the facts rather than the fantasy of her coming back.
Buddy, it’s out of your control now. This is what you MUST accept about the situation. All you can do is to focus on your and your healing. 90% of all relationships fail, and 98% of all long distance relationships fail. If an investor came along and asked you to invest your money on something that had a 98% chance of failure, would you be wasting your time considering it? NO, you would not. I am sorry to be so direct but the only way you will heal is to accept that she has made her decision. She may or may not come back. If she does come back who is she going to find? The man she dumped or the man that levelled up and has his shit together. Choose very carefully what side of that fence you want to be on.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick that’s so true, I’ve been grieving over my one, now when I think about her I can see these crazy eyes when she is angry, I was always the cool guy taking all easy with logic, let them do rebound. Work on yourself and trust me one day you will see fireworks in her new relationship. It always happens that we get our gray days doesn’t matter how good they are
The two words that have helped me most during my 7 months of breakup are Fuck it. You said this in a lot of uploads, I read the book, I said it. I'm no longer important to the ex, so fuck him. I'm giving my love to people who I'm grateful to have in my life. Must admit, the anger's manifested into a numb, real depression. Acceptance is a good/bad feeling. I'll get through it, but you've helped massively.
Using my not usual account writing this because I really DON'T want my ex to find a sliver of my existence anywhere.
Look forward to more advice. Anniversaries are coming up. I'd like to hear your take on how to get through times that have sentimental/nostalgia attached to them when the breakup is still raw. If you ever would like to. Cheers for your support.
Remember to give yourself love first. 😊
As for anniversaries, for me I spoil myself rotten. First anniversary without my ex I bought myself a new iPad. Second anniversary I went on a trip, by the third I didn’t care anymore 😈
@@TheLoveFix-Nick I like that advice 😉 It's good to be caring less about some things but anniversaries are a nasty sod for bringing up the nostalgia in technicolour. I've come far in a relatively short time (considering it was a 27 year relationship) so thanks a million again to you. ⭐
27 years…. That’s tough man.
I’m happy to see you’re finding you way through healthy.
Nice timely video. I'm dealing with these very issues and implemented No Contact after I got passive aggressive messages gaslighting me in my effort to discuss what happened. Time to move on.
Sorry to hear that buddy.
Gaslighters are the ones typically shitting their emotions all over the floor.
You know who else shits on the floor? Dogs and babies. Treat them accordingly. 😊
Step 8 was the funniest thing I heard in a while 😅😅😅😂
😈😈😂😂
thanks mate. This helped a bit towards getting over my obsession.
You’re welcome, buddy. I’m glad it could be of help.
I tried posting this but it disappeared. So I’ll try again. My wife left me after a 24 year marriage and now we are getting a divorce. It’s been 3 years now and we are still going though this process(yes getting a divorce during covid is a nightmare). I have watched countless videos on how to ‘fix’ this, everything from self improvement to no contact. Some advice worked to a point but she always kept me at arms length even after pulling me back in. I have made great physical improvements and I thought I was stronger mentally. I was wrong. Part of the reason for the failure of the marriage was her alcohol addiction. Just today I found out she is in a relationship with someone from her AA meeting. This hit me like a brick, so I found myself watching more videos for advise because I felt so desperate. Then I clicked onto your video and heard something I have not heard before. F#@k them. That thought, amazingly, never entered my head so I watched this video a few times to have it sink in. I know I have a long road ahead of me before I’m okay, but this was a great first step. Thank you for taking the time to make this video for people like me that are in need of real help.
Wow. That’s quite a journey you’ve been on buddy. I’m sorry to hear about this but I’m glad the lightbulb came on for you.
We all make our own hell. Wish her well with hers.
Bang on mate💯
Thanks man I really appreciate your work my ex's friend reached out to me 2 days ago asking how I'm doing ( they never done it before) and I answered with I'm doing alright and I replied after some time after watching your videos I understand what to do in different situations much love to you ❤🙏
Thanks buddy. I’m happy I can be of some help. You’re doing just fine. 😊
Update?
I believe I will move on well, just dealing with the “what ifs” and the complex nuance of the break up is the issue. Due to the fact she was “in love” with me until we broke up and is now on Hinge just two weeks later, and due to the fact I was the catalyst of the break up. I’m an over thinker so it’s hard to turn off that head noise.
Yeah that’s tough man.
Out of curiosity, how do you know she’s on Hinge?
@@TheLoveFix-Nick we still have pics of each other on socials, from what I can see even though we no longer follow each other. A mate of mine saw her on Hinge and told me. I foolishly went on there and saw her, exact same profile that I met her through. So when we became exclusive and said we deleted our accounts, it should have said “just joined.” But it was word for word and pic for pic the same account.
@@jaredw5059 this reminds me of my ex's games. Now i wish i never met him because i don't know if i'll ever get over this emotional rollercoaster. I never thought that i was ever gonna fall so hard for someone and end up with such huge regret
@@lucyblue7057 I feel you mate. None of us are perfect. Hold ourselves accountable for the things we need to work on but don’t take on the baggage of others as our own.
Check out jocko willinks take on getting over your ex. We are men, keep it simple stupid brother. If it's over, come to terms with that fact ASAP, by any means. Get close with family and real friends. I was personally advised to get a dog, and believe it or not, that worked 4 me. Good luck mate
Love this video! ❤️
Thanks Jennifer 😊😊
I'm just over a month into my break up, I was widowed at 33, she came into my life 2 months after my wife died as a friend to start with, became a couple 10 plus years tho as we both had kids hadn't cracked all moving in together, 5 months ago she started at a wetherspoons, broke up with me 19th of September, saying I didn't want more commitment which I did but had poorly talked about, then as I fight to save us 2 weeks later I learn she's seeing one of the staff, she says I only started seeing him start of October... yeah but you had worked with the guy leading up to ditching me for him, she's bipolar, wouldn't talk face to face, now she seems to be living her best life zero fucks given while it's broken me and my daughter's heart.
I’m sorry to hear that Andrew and I hope you’re okay.
I think most people in your position would be very hurt right now.
But the thing is, you get to decide what happens going forward. So you can either your wounds or heal them. The latter moves you on to a much better life.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick Yeah I know I will get over her, but fuck it hurts right now to still care, because unlike her I haven't flicked a switch and disconnected my feeling for her, then again I wish I could fast forward to the inevitable break up of this monkey branching rebound
What makes you think she’s done any of that?
@@TheLoveFix-Nick well fucking a guy who looks like the wish version of Bruce Willis is my starter for 10, she was avoident when I wanted to know the truth of how long they had been together, as in you've made up your mind so me saying anything is pointless, she may well have a lot floating around her head but she hiding it well which may be her bipolar or not
So if he moved on while with me then he is 100% ready for his new relationship and doesn’t even care about me anymore? He said he had been unhappy for a while and had I guess been thinking for months and months about leaving me but didn’t. Then he got with someone new not even two months after leaving me
It feels like he just got away with it and got everything he wanted and I’m the one who is suffering
May I ask what makes you feel he has moved on?
@@TheLoveFix-Nick he has a new girlfriend. We were together five years and lived together. I’m his first gf and things were really serious. We were planning to move so he could go to get a master degree. He left like a week later when we found the right apartment. I just can’t understand how he can just go do this new life like he didn’t have this whole life with me. He’s living with his grandma though and he isn’t working so idk what is going on there and at this moment it has been five months. but it just seems so horrible to me that he is putting all his focus on fun and this new person who is barely an adult. He didn’t even say it to my face. He texted me and blocked me instantly and I haven’t heard anything from him. I only know this from talking to his brother. He tells me he has been acting weird with him as well.
Okay.
Two things.
1. Time does not equal success
2. Getting into a new relationship straight doesn’t mean he has moved on. In fact in most cases it’s the opposite. Using the new person to cover up his internal BS.
Living with his grandma and not working. Hardly a high value man.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick Thank you! This does make sense. It’s always hard to not think you lost such a good person and to keep thinking they’re life is perfect. I’m doing my best to move forward. Always appreciate your videos.
Thank you x
My pleasure.
If I unfollowed and removed from my followers my ex she will still be curious about me or she will perceive it as childish and not interesting? Or in the future the curiosity will increase and maybe she will ask to follow? Asking just for curiousity
I don’t know the answer to that sadly. Only you ex can give you the answer to that as she will respond to it in her own way.
This video is me
I’m glad you like it.
Number 8 😂😂😂😂😂
Love fix I need your help, I’ve sent you a email, I’m in a bad place I want to talk
I’m catching up with my emails over the next few days.
@@frankleonard8674 No i don’t fuck her
@@tracythomson9954 No fuck her
hello brother i really need your advice on the situation when my ex broke up with me she said lets love each other as friends and for the idiot i am i said ok i didnt contact her or she contacted me in anyways until our friends tried to fix the things between us i talked to her that iwant to fix things and that everything will be ok she said that she lost feelings after this i closed the call and next day i apologized for the eratic behavior she replied politely after one month of the break up she got in a relationship with a male orbiter which i think its a rebound she hided the story from me on instagram so i dont see it i have been in no contact for almost a month now and i dont know what to do ?
do i reach out and make it clear i dont wanna be friends or just stay in no contact ? please i need an answer
I’m sorry to hear that buddy. That’s a tough emotional situation. This is going to be brutal. She’s given you the answer my man. She ended your relationship and started a new one with someone else. That’s your answer. You need to leave her alone and focus on you now. Actions never lie and words don’t mean shit. Bury your old relationship, mourn it, work on the relationship with yourself so you can find better women in the future. I hope you feel better soon.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick is she gone forever......?
I don’t know man. All I know is that you need to focus on yourself and your healing.
Right now, at this point in time she’s not with you. Those are the facts. I know that hurts but it’s best to spend your time on the facts rather than the fantasy of her coming back.
Buddy, it’s out of your control now. This is what you MUST accept about the situation. All you can do is to focus on your and your healing. 90% of all relationships fail, and 98% of all long distance relationships fail. If an investor came along and asked you to invest your money on something that had a 98% chance of failure, would you be wasting your time considering it? NO, you would not. I am sorry to be so direct but the only way you will heal is to accept that she has made her decision. She may or may not come back. If she does come back who is she going to find? The man she dumped or the man that levelled up and has his shit together. Choose very carefully what side of that fence you want to be on.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick that’s so true, I’ve been grieving over my one, now when I think about her I can see these crazy eyes when she is angry, I was always the cool guy taking all easy with logic, let them do rebound. Work on yourself and trust me one day you will see fireworks in her new relationship. It always happens that we get our gray days doesn’t matter how good they are