I'll Quit On Monday
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Well said. Alcohol Use Disorder has a sinister intelligence to it-- it has dark, magical ways of influencing your thinking. You will never fail to rationalize the next drink. Knowing that the solution to this terrible feeling was right there and not choosing it was the hardest thing I've ever done.
@@sebbenforte saying no, and choosing the more difficult path, should be a point of pride for every sober person.
Sinister is a word that conveys how alcohol consumed my life.
What a pleasure listening to your videos, I always save them when I am in my bed before falling asleep, I feal like they are my sober recompense and they comfort me ! Thanks so much 🤍
Thank you - that's exactly how I want them to be watched, so I really appreciate it :)
You described my drinking self perfectly.
We all think we're the only one who thinks like that, right? That's just the nature of it.
Painfully accurate, I needed to hear this, Keep up the good work man.
@@Slayer-7373 thank you mate. Like you, making these things is therapy for me :)
@@_BatCountry absolutely man. 🙏
Thanks for the continued words of widsom. Always appreciated!
@@Ron-uj1yj thanks for watching Ron!
This was my story for years. 2 months ago one of your videos inspired me and I’ve stayed sober. Thank you soo much.
I'm proud to be a part of it mate. Massive congratulations on 2 months, that's a huge accomplishment. Don't be afraid to be proud of it :D
Perfectly put .
Thanks for watching mate.
So true, it hits hard.
Thanks for watching David.
This is the best sobriety channel on TH-cam he needs more subscribers
Oh thanks so much! That's very generous of you to say :)
Agree
100
I agree. New subscriber
I’ve recently found your channel and want to say Thankyou. I am recently coming out of a 6 month alcoholic bender… started with one cheeky isolated drink… hiding it… as my addiction to that point gifted me 2 DUIs, broken promises to self and family… loss of respect and worth…. “Functioning” by fooling myself… multiple days lost at work, making excuses hiding myself from family and friends… locking myself with my booze away in my house… not showering not caring… guilt and shame ridden… multi times and try’s of quitting… many many many Mondays…. I’ve been binge watching your content. Some of the best I’ve found on YT. So Thankyou for this. From New Zealand. ❤
Thanks for watching Kirsten, and for your thoughtful comments!I'm glad to hear you're coming out of it - a 6 month binge is tough to shake off, so I hope you're doing good today.
I was stuck in this loop for 4 years.
Bat country I literally have chills. This vicious cycle 🔄 you described is spot on. I’ve said this to myself so many times. The last chapter is the nail in the coffin. Thank you I needed to hear this.
Thank you for watching as always, and I'm glad it resonated with you.
aside from your wise words.. your cinematography is so cool and unique. love that you're just in the bottom corner of the frame!
Ha thanks! That's more a product of circumstance: I was filming alone so I had to guess the framing :D
Thank you.🙏
Thank you for watching.
Thumbs Up 👍 and shared out.❤ This sounds exactly like the war that used to rage in my head constantly!! Lol. I’m two months sober and I wasn’t even having any cravings. Then last night I started thinking how a nice bottle of wine 🍷 might be Okay. It’s amazing how these insane thoughts can pop in the head. All I can say is Not Today!!! Stay away from me Demons!!
EXCELLENT VIDEO!!! Time to HALT!!! & Play that tape all the way through!!!😊💞🙏
Thanks so much for watching, and congratulations on two months. That's huge. And playing the tape out works both ways: you can use that tool to show what you'll lose if you drink, or you can use it to show you what you'll gain if you don't.
Good one!!!! Very apropos.......
God bless you 🙏 ❤️.
Reaching the heart's of all who need it with humility and grace.
As Allen Carr says, You don't control alcohol, alcohol controls you. Even 1 nip. Amazing videography on this one dude. I just went through another round of DTs and the feelings flowing through me feel overwhelming.
Post-DTs is a confusing time, watch out for PAWS too. I didn't know that existed until I had it. Glad you're still here to talk about it mate.
You’ve nailed it. Again.
I really look forward to your updates, fella. Please persist as they are quickly becoming highlights for me.
As the Hitch was wont to say - let’s gather for a “flow of soul and a feast of reason”. That and a glass of Mr Walker’s amber restorative.
Black coffee, no sugar for me.
Thanks for the constant support Giles, I don't take it for granted. And it always cheers me up to get a Hitch quote in the comments.
We are indeed drifting into the arena of the unwell
@@samblackxvx I'm so happy someone spotted that reference.
I ended up quitting on Wednesday. I couldn't do anything about it. Clever video, Stu.
Thanks Shades! Wednesday is a tough day to quit.
Oh and I'll reply to your email in a bit.
@@_BatCountry I made a video about it. I think I'll put it out later or perhaps, tomorrow.
Oh man, so confronting and so on the mark. This video hit hard yet is necessary. Thank you, Stuart.
Thanks for watching as always mate.
Love this. Weird thing to say about such a morbid topic, but this was excellent. You just described everything I did and the private thoughts and one-sided negotiations I had inside my head. Without question, this was exactly my sad trajectory. Well done sir.
Thanks Steve, I always appreciate your comments. And it turns out, judging by the comments, this was the thought process of many of us.
@@_BatCountry so I watched this late last night and this morning when I woke, my wife was having coffee by the TV.
I asked if I could show her a video that was alcohol related. She doesn’t always say yes. She lived through alcoholism without ever having it, so she feels the need to think about it much less often than I do. But this morning she said “sure”.
I put this on again and we watched it together. We both received this video through our own lenses: me as the alcoholic and her as the person who lived and dealt with the alcoholic. She enjoyed it also. Afterfard, we sat and discussed this video and she raised completely different topics than I ever could. Her comments were from the point of view of helplessly watching your husband kill himself with vodka. She talked about how painful it was to watch me travel the path of your story, and hard it was to see and know about different milestones along the downward spiral. Whereas my initial thoughts were more about how much it sucked to actually live it, and the shame that still lingers. We had a really nice discussion about it, and it was actually pretty upbeat since I’ve been sober for a while. We had a bonding session over this one. 🥰🥰🥰
Thanks. Very true. Been there and happy to be done with my Monday.
Best regards.
Love this truth!
Cunning, baffling, powerful
Not the alcohol, the "ISM".
Absolutely brilliant, and you obliterated the nail head! This is exactly why our focus must shift from "not drinking", to addressing the root problem..."SELF"!
The moment we make the internal shift to "living differently", by ACTUALLY "living differently", is the moment the battle is OVER! Everything after that is about addressing my fears, resentments, and character defects. Simple as that! ✌❤
What a great video. I started out chuckling along, by the end I had a lump in my throat. "Until there are no Mondays left" said it all.
It's the most vicious of vicious circles.
I'm so sorry Stuart, i started drinking again. It's my auntie's birthday on Monday so i have to be sober to deliver her card. I'm not looking forward to the withdrawal. I'm going to try again.
Absolutely true...but also I've learned the reverse is true also! So then, it's learned behaviour right! Well not drink8ng and riding out that compulsion/ craving to drink gets easier the more you succeed. Just as giving in makes it harder and harder. So there is good news if you stay strong but give in your fxxxed!!!
Yeah totally. In one direction it gets harder to stop, in the other direction it gets easier to resist. That's a great point, thanks!
Love your channel Bat! All facts. All truth. Lawrence, KS checking in. Peace and love..
Thanks for watching Jeff, and for your support! P&L...
Also, great spot for the video. Beautiful countryside
It's not the beach, but it's not so bad.
@_BatCountry I don't know if thisbis going to come across correctly but, I've seen the beach so many times in the last 4.5 years that I'm kinda used to it. I miss places like where you're at, or fall in New England or the forests of the Shenandoah Valley.
Good video! It's all true. As an addict you build a house of cards with all these lies, both to yourself and others, you start to wear masks, so nobody sees your true nature. You can even fake sobriety for some time, but the problem will get worse and worse in the background. Like you said, you delay the stop, over and over again, telling yourself the lies. At some point, the house of cards, the web of lies, comes all down and you fall down until you hit rock bottom. It's all true.
@@jackwarren5883 exactly. Thanks for the comment Jack, I couldn't agree more
Watching this on 33 days sober & thankful I'm not on the rollercoaster now.
Congrats on over a month of sobriety, I hope you're feeling good today.
I love this one too.
Sitting in that field Stuart is how we all feel sober….probably the old drunken guy rolling across Mongolia was trying to get to Monday but needed more time:)
Best time to quit was 20 years ago and the second best is right now.
@@batize very Socratic. Sadly we don't often realise it until much later.
I needed this. Thank ya, sir
Cheers Zeus, good luck out there.
So true dude
I came across your channel yesterday.
I'm a recovering alcoholic from India whose life was getting out of control. Almost 29 months sober and was under a stressful situation and thought about having a drink.
I was a binge drinker. Multi day binge, then 3-4 days recovery. Maybe another 3-4 no drink, then repeat. Miserable existence.
I still fantasize about having a few drinks, but I know how quickly that's gonna spiral out of control..
All the shame, guilt, hopelessness etc.
I like to call this "bargaining with my addiction".
I am a very big fan of your channel. I am 3 months a widower due to alcohol, long story! I am also 3 months sober, the hardest and most profound months as one can imagine, now I have a true utter hatred for the "Poison", if I have to sacrifice social groups and summer gatherings for the sake of my sobriety, so be it, If I have to feel awkward and uncomfortable putting my foot down and smashing down boundaries, even to friends... so be it! If from these sometimes "Isolating" choices create a lonliness within my grieving self... SO be it... I exercise twice a day, I apply disclipine and I face discomfort every single day... ONE DAY at a TIME! ... but every day I get Stronger, every day I accept ALONE and every day any yearnings I once had for alcohol become more and more distant, in fact when you have faced the loss of your partner due to alcohol a veil descends and the PAIN is a blessing as the hatred you feel for what this "Social pleasentry can do" is as I say PROFOUND! Thanks sir for alll your wonderful videos. Through my darkness I see there is hope 😀🙏
Thank you for this thoughtful comment Alex.
Getting sober while grieving must be one of the hardest things a person can do, and somewhere in amongst the grief, you should find some space to be proud of yourself.
ODAAT my friend. If you need somewhere to vent, my email's in the description.
@@_BatCountry thanks for your reply! Sometimes the most brutally hardset times are a gift! But... yes it's changed my World forever! I may just take you up on an email thanks for the invite to do so. As I said LOVE your videos, I identfy with so much :)
Stuart I had to attend hospital today. I couldn't risk a seizure. I hate myself for going through thus again. Your channel is a god send. The alcohol team at Northern general hospital Sheffield have given me some sound advice and gave me some drugs to help. They are advising me to taper. I'm going to have to be very strict with how i taper. I've done it once before successfully but this time feels like going to be difficult.
Well done for dragging your arse to a hospital, I know that's not easy. Good luck with the taper, and be aware of when it's trying to trick you into another lapse.
@@_BatCountrythanks Stu I've just had a call from a guy Scott at an organisation called Project 6 in Sheffield. I've got an appointment to see them on the 30th of July. These people are all ex alcoholics with experience. I'm looking forward to meeting them. I spoke to Scott for about an hour on the phone. I feel I made a connection with him. I felt comfortable speaking to him. I recommended your channel to him.
Love your voice. Oddly it sends me to sleep! Also big shout out for your book! I really enjoyed it 😊
So many weekends I tell myself i'll just drink Friday and Saturday, then wake up on Monday morning dazed and confused, a bad day at work. Honestly sometimes I cant even remember making the choice to drink on Sundays, i guess i must have still been drunk Sunday morning from Saturday night and just woke up and started drinking again naturally
@@trippyseedsindeedz yeah! I know exactly what you mean, sometimes it's not even a conscious decision, and by that point you're in deep. Thanks for watching, seeds!
And 12737373838 more hilarious jokes you can tell yourself as an alcoholic. Till wake up feeling the panic rising and you have nowhere to run to…
@@captaincatfishselectrickoo9070 it catches up with everybody in the end, right?
Loved this! Also it’s Xmas in a few weeks, I’ll quit after that. Oh it’s New Years I’ll quit Jan 1. My friend has a birthday with an open bar later in the month, I’ll quit then. My friend is visiting from out of town, we have to drink so I’ll quit after that…never ending excuses.
Yeah it's endless if you don't consciously decide to end it. I slipped one in there about drinking to celebrate the fact you have proven you can stop - that was a big one for me. But whatever the excuse, whether a good event or a bad one, we'll drink about it.
Fucking awesome video, so true and hits so hard. Just watched this whilst sober (but hungover) on a sunday evening, this was very shortly after i had been loitering around the corner shop for 30 mins fighting that internal battle as to whether i grab some whiskey to take the edge off. Thanks for hammering the final nail in the coffin, safe to day I'll be sober this Monday. Your videos really help people man. Thank you :)
You made a good decision mate. Thanks for watching, and I hope you turn a corner on this thing.
Beautiful illustration of alcoholic thinking. It's patently insane, but not to the alcoholic rationalising that next drink.
In the great words of wimpy "I'll gladly pay you tomorrow for a hamburger today." Procrastination is a bitch. I have said I'll quit on Monday sooooo many times. Oddly enough, though, I actually did quit on a Monday. Not by a plan though. And it was the worst Monday of my life. But it was also the best Monday of my life. And it was also almost myblast Monday of my life. I loved this video. Good stuff as always man. I am always blown away by your content!
Struggling with it at the moment went trough a bad binge after I had it under controll and now the withdrawals are quite bad..
You can do this. I know that's facile to say, but you can.
@@_BatCountry yea I've done it before I can do it again
Love the bitch-slap inspiration vibe on this one AND the use of negative space un the filming:)
Tough love, innit.
The story of my drinking career
A lot of people can relate, I'm sure. Thanks for watching.
Gosh ! I like your ways of telling the subject ! I have porn recovery channel too ! And the introduction of your videos is really something !
Thank you, and good luck in your recovery!
The withdrawals will last about 5 days, so if the 5th day falls on the weekend you might as well have another drink...
Bingo. That's exactly how it works.
No Mondays left. Isn’t that the truth. Toward the end of my drinking the day of the week became irrelevant. I couldn’t have properly told you what day it was or why it mattered.
I understand this so much.. Tomorrow is monday :-)
It's Monday right now. How you doing today?
@@_BatCountry i'm good. I went to the office.
@@_BatCountry i have a habit of not drinking all week which is good but i equate ending the work week w rewards of drinks sitting in my living room.. Friday and Saturday are my days that i have trouble with.