I love how Campbell said that you have to see what someone's "heart can tolerate." It's these baby steps that help families pull out of the cycle! So many uneducated in addiction want cold turkey, but that just isn't typically how most of us operate or change. You guys are the BEST in addiction information I've ever found. On and off codependency recovery for 30 years, I can see how you guys give real life tips and information. Live you guys!
In my last relationship I witnessed this playing out across several generations of a family. More than one addict was benefitting from being financially manipulative and splitting.
Myself on a low budget due to long time sick leave. Lend $3500 to my addict sister. All in small portions. Using her children as leverage. Works 100% on me. How do I make this stop?
Hi Amber, I am a mother of a adult son. My son is a active addicted man which I have been enabling him for about 11 to 13 years. I am so frustrated. You are awesome by doing these videos. I know you say addiction is addiction, but I want to ask you will you make a video on how can we talk specifically to our daughter or son when they want us to do as the parent one last favor and one the frustration that we already have as parents all we have left to say is no
A few minutes ago, I sent more money to a 'friend' who is blind drunk in a seaside town at night about 50km away. For his 'train fare home'. I am extremely angry with myself as I feel caught between a rock and a hard place yet again. My fear was that he's near the North Sea in this state, yet I know that my action is enabling his cycle, and I'm starting to feel bitter. I need help too.
Addiction is so hard . I’ve been addicted to alcohol and drugs for over a decade now . Im much better now but there was a point in my life I was drinking and doing up to 20 lines of coke a day as well as other drugs, looking back I feel physically sick that I was able to do that to myself and my family . But during this time I never loved my family or loved one any less i just had dependancy to the drink and drugs which made me look and seem selfish
My brother is 70 years old I have been helping him all his life he stopped drinking for 12 years but he is starting drinking again he has spent all his money now every time I see him he wants at least 1000.00 a month I am over it and the lies but I feel so guilty he is my only sibling left plus I don’t want anything to happen to him what do I do about the guilt 😢
Guilt means you feel like you did something wrong. Did you really do something wrong, or do you just feel bad for him. Try to differentiate between feeling empathy for his situation and feeling guilty.
Deep end without the floaties! 🤣LOL Goldfish on the brick! LOL I'm saving for sessions for Campbell's help. What do you think about trama and dissociation attachment issues and how it relates to dealing with someone with addiction. I've been studying that.
My heart hurts, I’m really sorry. Thank you for sharing. I am working with my senses, to be able to be present. Today it is an opportunity for me to enjoy this day, and I think it is an opportunity for you too. I wish I could give a hug. Un day at the time.
I'm looking for one of your videos for advice when daughter gets out of 1 year in jail to come home. She has 3 children and no other option than to come here. We have since relocated to "the middle of no where" country.
I am in the deep end without my floaties! I’m trying to be 5 steps ahead, but not enable. Whew, that’s tough. I’m anxious, emotional regarding my adult son is over his head w serious substance, out of state and couch surfing or homeless now going to jail. Don’t know what to do next
I can tell this is gonna happen this weekend with my bf not maybe for alcohol but just anything in regards to money tbh but probs will be also alcohol at the end of the
Heart goes out to the two ladies Marina and Amy and anybody else with similar problems. Lots of difficultues with addicted loved ones Not easily resovled. Many layers to sort out for you Marina. Good Luck Amy, you really do need to look after yourself with your serious health condition. Please, put yourself first The Two Wise Owls , Amber and Campbell giving great advice as usual. Also,.What about loved ones who have not paid fines for whatever? Legal misdemeanors, suspended senteces and could face possible full prison sentences or further heavy legal action. Examples .Over the limit drinking. Being drunk and disorderly. Assault. Shoplifting. Theft etc? What is the best possible way . Chin up and be positive. Get good advice Best Wishes 😻🙏👍
I tried to help my best friend but she ignored me. In the end I ended the friendship because the drugs made her go wild doing bad things. I told her that she can talk to me again and come near me when she is clean off drugs
What to do when there is joint access to savings, checking etc? 45 years! Whew! Ummm do I begin moving money into my personal account? I feel I’m reasoning well…. then boom we are using savings to live on again when we make enough to leave savings alone. Hope this made sense.
I want to know, too. Shared account. $40 every 2 days for beer. He's not working, so I'm paying for it. Now moving my savings into checking to cover bills. Savings has gone down this year as a result. I feel like I just answered my own question: time to open a separate account.
I tried to distance my self from my best friend who takes drugs but she didn’t listen to me when I told her that I need to stay away from her until she is clean off drugs. She ends up coming back for me to do something for her to pass time like using my phone or need food or need money from me. She won’t stop asking me for money and she tells me that she will pay me back when she doesn’t pay me back.
My son works for his dad’s construction business. We want him to work to take care of himself but his dad doesn’t want to pay him all his pay in cash for fear he’ll buy drugs. What do we do?
Lots of great advice and was loving the video up until Marcia’s comment re her son’s “problem with homosexuality.” Mixed feelings about nothing being said in response. I hope her son has supportive people in his life who accept him for who he is.
Ever have experience with an addicted loved one being arrested and wanting you to be a surety in court? Was recently in active addiction. I am his only family member left that hasn't cut him off.
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Consult with Campbell about your situation 👉🏻 www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/consultations
I love how Campbell said that you have to see what someone's "heart can tolerate." It's these baby steps that help families pull out of the cycle! So many uneducated in addiction want cold turkey, but that just isn't typically how most of us operate or change. You guys are the BEST in addiction information I've ever found. On and off codependency recovery for 30 years, I can see how you guys give real life tips and information. Live you guys!
Thanks Christie! 😁
Who is watching this when an addict relative calls you?
Mines downstairs kicking off😢
Happy you guys covered this! So smart
😁😁😁
In my last relationship I witnessed this playing out across several generations of a family. More than one addict was benefitting from being financially manipulative and splitting.
My cousin manipulated me into giving her money all the time. I have gone No Contact with her. I’m happy
Myself on a low budget due to long time sick leave. Lend $3500 to my addict sister. All in small portions. Using her children as leverage. Works 100% on me. How do I make this stop?
Call child protective services and get the kids out of the house.I grew up with an addict Save them the trouble and the pain
Hi Amber, I am a mother of a adult son. My son is a active addicted man which I have been enabling him for about 11 to 13 years. I am so frustrated. You are awesome by doing these videos. I know you say addiction is addiction, but I want to ask you will you make a video on how can we talk specifically to our daughter or son when they want us to do as the parent one last favor and one the frustration that we already have as parents all we have left to say is no
A few minutes ago, I sent more money to a 'friend' who is blind drunk in a seaside town at night about 50km away. For his 'train fare home'.
I am extremely angry with myself as I feel caught between a rock and a hard place yet again. My fear was that he's near the North Sea in this state, yet I know that my action is enabling his cycle, and I'm starting to feel bitter.
I need help too.
Addiction is so hard . I’ve been addicted to alcohol and drugs for over a decade now . Im much better now but there was a point in my life I was drinking and doing up to 20 lines of coke a day as well as other drugs, looking back I feel physically sick that I was able to do that to myself and my family . But during this time I never loved my family or loved one any less i just had dependancy to the drink and drugs which made me look and seem selfish
My brother is 70 years old I have been helping him all his life he stopped drinking for 12 years but he is starting drinking again he has spent all his money now every time I see him he wants at least 1000.00 a month I am over it and the lies but I feel so guilty he is my only sibling left plus I don’t want anything to happen to him what do I do about the guilt 😢
Guilt means you feel like you did something wrong. Did you really do something wrong, or do you just feel bad for him. Try to differentiate between feeling empathy for his situation and feeling guilty.
Deep end without the floaties! 🤣LOL Goldfish on the brick! LOL I'm saving for sessions for Campbell's help. What do you think about trama and dissociation attachment issues and how it relates to dealing with someone with addiction. I've been studying that.
My BBgirl passed from od suicide 😢 8/28/22
This right here 👏 I can't change anything about what happened. If I could do it all over again. 💔😭😭😭
My heart hurts, I’m really sorry. Thank you for sharing. I am working with my senses, to be able to be present. Today it is an opportunity for me to enjoy this day, and I think it is an opportunity for you too. I wish I could give a hug. Un day at the time.
I’m so sorry for your immense loss.
I'm looking for one of your videos for advice when daughter gets out of 1 year in jail to come home. She has 3 children and no other option than to come here. We have since relocated to "the middle of no where" country.
I am in the deep end without my floaties! I’m trying to be 5 steps ahead, but not enable. Whew, that’s tough.
I’m anxious, emotional regarding my adult son is over his head w serious substance, out of state and couch surfing or homeless now going to jail.
Don’t know what to do next
I can tell this is gonna happen this weekend with my bf not maybe for alcohol but just anything in regards to money tbh but probs will be also alcohol at the end of the
Heart goes out to the two ladies Marina and Amy and anybody else with similar problems.
Lots of difficultues with addicted loved ones Not easily resovled.
Many layers to sort out for you Marina. Good Luck
Amy, you really do need to look after yourself with your serious health condition. Please, put yourself first
The Two Wise Owls , Amber and Campbell giving great advice as usual.
Also,.What about loved ones who have not paid fines for whatever? Legal misdemeanors, suspended senteces and could face possible full prison sentences or further heavy legal action.
Examples .Over the limit drinking. Being drunk and disorderly. Assault. Shoplifting. Theft etc?
What is the best possible way .
Chin up and be positive. Get good advice
Best Wishes
😻🙏👍
You should get an attorney's advice to sort it all out but not pay it for them. It's not your responsibility.
I tried to help my best friend but she ignored me. In the end I ended the friendship because the drugs made her go wild doing bad things. I told her that she can talk to me again and come near me when she is clean off drugs
What to do when there is joint access to savings, checking etc? 45 years! Whew! Ummm do I begin moving money into my personal account? I feel I’m reasoning well….
then boom we are using savings to live on again when we make enough to leave savings alone. Hope this made sense.
I want to know what to do in this situation also.
I want to know, too. Shared account. $40 every 2 days for beer. He's not working, so I'm paying for it. Now moving my savings into checking to cover bills. Savings has gone down this year as a result. I feel like I just answered my own question: time to open a separate account.
My fear is that he does not eat.
I tried to distance my self from my best friend who takes drugs but she didn’t listen to me when I told her that I need to stay away from her until she is clean off drugs. She ends up coming back for me to do something for her to pass time like using my phone or need food or need money from me.
She won’t stop asking me for money and she tells me that she will pay me back when she doesn’t pay me back.
My son works for his dad’s construction business. We want him to work to take care of himself but his dad doesn’t want to pay him all his pay in cash for fear he’ll buy drugs. What do we do?
Help on all this ! Ugh 😵💫😩
Lots of great advice and was loving the video up until Marcia’s comment re her son’s “problem with homosexuality.” Mixed feelings about nothing being said in response. I hope her son has supportive people in his life who accept him for who he is.
$2 will buy a shot. $5 will get a fifth of cheap vodka, $20 gets two of the large vodka with the handles on it (1/2 gal or is it a gal?)
Ever have experience with an addicted loved one being arrested and wanting you to be a surety in court? Was recently in active addiction. I am his only family member left that hasn't cut him off.
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