living with liver disease, jealously and envy over sobriety?
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Years ago,I had an old girlfriend tell me she liked me better when I was drinking. I told her that I liked her better when I was drinking, too...😂
Hahahaha!!!!! Thanks for that laugh!!!! God bless😂
Hahaha good one
I seriously needed that laugh today!!! Freakin hilarious 😂
Hysterical
Ommmgg hahah
Man, you are quickly becoming the most informative and honest person on TH-cam on the subject of alcoholism. You can expand your channel even further by going into addiction in general. Tons of people in all forms of addiction can profit from your experiences and advice.
Thank you so much for saying that!!!! You have no idea how much that means to me!!!!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤😊😊😊😊😊 God bless
I had my fibroscan today and the good news is that my fatty liver and scarring are reversible. My kids didn’t call to find out yet that can comment about other things it’s very hurtful. Our loved ones can hurt us the most.
I’m so sorry, our kids can hurt us more than anyone because we love them so much. I’m sure your kids love you too 🙏
Aww I'm so sorry about your kids...I know that must hurt so much. but Cynthia...I am punching the air with joy for you for your fibroscan results!! That's amazing!!! I hope you are really riding that wave of joy for that news, it's awesome! I hope you have a great day and really, congratulations!! ❤🎉
I am so happy to hear that!!!!! Thank you so much for sharing that with me!!!! Oh my gosh! I am just elated for you!!!! You must feel so much better now. I am praying for you!!!! Thank you! God bless😊😊😊❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ and I am so sorry to hear that about your kids. I really hope that they call you soon. I know how hurt you must be right now. I am do sorry. Sending you love❤❤❤❤❤❤
Dont let this person's opinion bother you. It is very common for drinkers to take this attitude. You are doing the right thing and helping people...
I won't. Thank you so much for the advice!!! I really appreciate it! God bless😊😊😊
Sounds like bitterness & fear in their heart & they’ll need Jesus personally to let it go.
You’re doing great 😊
Thank you so much Laura!!!! I really appreciate the feedback! I hope that you are having a fabulous day today! God bless😊😊😊😊❤❤❤❤
If it’s not in your personality to shut them down, then simply turn around and walk away. Walk away every time they get after you. Sometimes, for your own happiness and sanity, you need to get rid of the negativity in your life.
I believe you are so right. I don't want to get into any arguments or anything. I think that's what I will do. Thank you! God bless 😊😊❤❤
You must leave toxic people behind with the toxic drink. You are getting closer to full health every day! One step at a time.❤
So true! Thank you! God bless😊😊😊❤❤
I was in a similar conversation recently and just said flat out "That's who I was, that's not who I am now, its time to move on"
Exactly!!! Thank you! God bless😊😊😊😊
1000% right!!
How was it received??
@@amandaflaherty7528 I think it was enough for the comments to stop but honestly it was more about me drawing a line in the sand and stating that, that part of my life was over.
@@byrddtrader I appreciate that. No matter how it was received, it was closure for you.
I do experience passive aggression from people who drink.... like making a point to put a drink in every photo they want to send me of whatever they're doing, or drowning me in stories of how fun their party was and how much they drank. And yes, remove these people from your life.... our moments are precious.
1000% our moments are precious.. no time to waste on aggravation and people who don't respect your feelings
the two people closest to me, my sisters, have never celebrated my sobriety, but my older sister, based on prior engagements, always has my drunk days and actions locked and loaded, at the ready, with her finger on the trigger. it makes moving forward difficult. i suspect this friend, when this friend was engaged in this conversation, when looking into your eyes, did not see you, but saw the reflection of themself looking back.
I'm so sorry to hear this, David... we're you guys ever close? Have you ever talked to them about moving on and starting fresh with your relationship? Sending you some love from NY, friend. ❤
Sorry to hear that David. It's a shame that it has to be that way. I believe that you are right. Probably is a reflection and they don't like looking back at it. Thank you! And congratulations on your sobriety!!!! They just don't understand how hard it really is. Thank you! God bless😊😊😊😊❤❤❤
They don't like it because you've done something that they know they can't probably do, which makes you a stronger person. I remember getting that years ago when I quit smoking, some people were jealous. Never stop being proud of your sobriety. I'm still proud of myself that I quit cigarettes 31 years ago. Just look at them and say, wow its been 2 years, you haven't moved on from it yet???
What you are describing is an ugly part of human nature. You are right on with the fact that this is jealousy and their own guilt. It's the same as when someone loses weight, rather than be happy for you they degrade you. They have a huge problem with insecurity, and it's not you.
You might have to just let them go.
LD, I am 65 and was a rebellious teenager there are still some people close to me who will not let me forget! Let it go LD and let them go. We all support you and are so proud of. I am truly sorry that you are hurt. I am one who knows what it feels like. I love you
Wow! Still to this day? That is just not ok. I still here about when I was a teenager myself. I was a rebellious kid myself. Seems to come up mote often than not. It's a shame that people act like this. It would be such a better world if it wasn't. Thank you so much! God bless😊😊❤❤❤
I agree LD, and I have had a wonderful life, it's that jealousy. What is hard for me is that it keeps me remembering things I want and have forgotten! And it hurts me deeply, like riding a monster wave that will not let me go, but I digress, I am a child of God with 5 Grandchildren that I adore, that's what I focus on! People can be just plain mean...
By the way, I was a teen in the 70's! Not gonna lie! I had a lot of fun!!! Lol!
I got sober in 1987 and drinking buddies just dropped me as a friend which really hurts. You realize they werent real friends. I realized that people think you are😢judging them when you are doing it😢for yourself😊we heal and move on. Stay strong😊❤
That's exactly right, Robert! I've had similar struggles with friendships. Even just acting weird around me bc they still drink. Sometimes I think it's bc they want to support my choice, but feel awkward. Sometimes I think they misunderstand me and think I'm judging.. but I really just want to hang out! Such a weird thing to navigate
Congratulations on your sobriety!!!@ that is a long time!!!! You are a very strong person!!!! Sorry that happened to you and thank you for sharing! God bless😊😊❤❤
Hurt people hurt people. Don’t let them bring you down. Celebrate what you’ve achieved. Sending prayers brother!
Yes, love this saying. It helps you to understand, empathize and move on.
Very true!!!! Thank you for this! God bless😊😊😊
It’s easier to kick down to make yourself feel better about yourself than help hold a friend up. I would suggest pruning those negative branches from your life.
Hey G, the old saying still holds true. Misery loves company 😢 3 months ago when I was drinking I had a drinking buddy. I thought after I quit he would still remain my friend. He's not mean or anything when I do see him, he just acts like he doesn't want to be around me anymore. That hurts my feelings. I think he feels like we have nothing in common even though I could stay sober around him and would still like his company. I guess that's why they say you got to get new friends. We are all happy for you those are the people that love you unconditionally. Love ya ❤❤❤
My heart breaks for you here, Cheryl!! I can imagine how that would feel. Just keep doing the awesome things you're doing with your life and you'll be surprised at the genuinely like minded people you'll meet. Totally understandable to grieve this relationship, but maybe you'll find people who fit your life even better for different reasons now ❤
Hey jersey girl! I'm so sorry that your friend has acted like that. Seems like they feel like we are going to preach to them or they feel uncomfortable being around us now that we are sober because it makes them take a look at themselves. That's the last thing I would do... I know first hand that they have to want it for themselves and nothing I say is going to change their mind. Thank you so much for your feedback on this topic. Hope that you are having a great start to your day today!!!! God bless😊😊😊😊❤❤❤❤
@@liverdisease-qb6rkhey G I never thought of that that he thinks I might preach to him. I would never do that because I know what it feels like to be preached at when I was drinking. It used to piss me off. Anyway no big loss. Have a great day today. It's a beautiful blue sky here! ❤❤❤
@@amandaflaherty7528hey Amanda. Thanks for the reply. No broken hearts here. I feel too good to be sad play feel any kind of way. Have a great day and I love you much❤❤❤
They are jealous that you have moved on with your life whereas theire drinking has them stuck in an emotional rut. By referring to your past, they want to pull you back with them. You are no longer part of the club and there is both jealousy and fear. If you value their friendship then you may have to confront them about their behavior.
Thank you so much for your feedback!!! I really appreciate it!!! Thank you for watching! God bless😊😊😊❤❤❤
I agree with you; when someone has made a commitment to completely change their ways and their life, the WORST THING anyone can do is keep bringing up the past.
That’s just cruel and petty, I hope you won’t let that childish nonsense and negativity throw a wrench into your head. Just keep on moving forward 👍🏼.
It could mean your sobriety Nxt time or your health! Anger in the body is held in our chests.
Maybe this person feels judged because they still drink. I know you aren't judging them. It's completely on them if they feel that way because they know deep down they are not living their best life and they see what it did to you...and they continue to drink. It's their own insecurity. Deflected onto you.
And some people don't want others to better themselves. Or have faith in others.
You don't need to prove yourself to them. You're a winner in our hearts, LD. We are your cheerleaders. And you are ours. That's what matters most. God Bless ❤
Thank you so much Jamie! I really don't know what the reason is for these actions. I'm definitely not judging anyone. I've never said a word to them about their drinking at all. Thank you so much for being here and cheering me on!!! I can't thank you enough! God bless😊😊😊❤❤❤❤❤
I can relate 100% to how hard it is to get sober and you should definitely be really proud of that. I also experienced the same kind of treatment from certain people that I know that still drink, and don’t seem that happy for me now that I’m sober. I honestly think it’s because it’s a glaring reminder to them that they want to stop drinking too, but they don’t have the willpower to do so. So there’s a bit of resentment there. It’s not personal for them, but it forces them to doubt themselves and self reflect.
Very well Said! Thank you so much for adding this and telling your story! I think things like this happen to a lot of us. I believe you are right on point with this! Thank you so much for watching today and adding your side! I really appreciate it! I hope all is well with you good sir! Thank you! God bless😊😊😊
@@liverdisease-qb6rk Yeah man. It’s best not to take things personally. I know when I was deep into my drinking, I would actually be envious of people that I used to party with that got sober before me. Not jealous of them (Actually happy for them), but envious.
I have experienced this but in a different way. I got botched on an operating table 15 years ago and ended up needed a dozen more surgeries to make my injuries better and basically ended up crippled during that span. I was an athlete prior to it happening so getting jealousy or hate wasn't out of the norm. While injured, some of my biggest critics became my friends it seemed. Maybe they felt better about themselves while I was down. Long story short I got back into the gym many years later and rehabbed my injuries (still doing that) and became a bodybuilder during the journey. The same people who once seemed to be on my side had suddenly gone back to the other side. The snotty comments started all over again followed by "I'm just joking." But you can sense the vibe. Back then I said exactly what you said here in this video. It's not that they're bad people or don't support you, it can be just that they have their own lives to pertain to and battles to win as well. But yet, even with that said, you can sense the jealous vibe. At 35, I no longer worry about it. I don't give them any grief or negativity in return, I just nod my head and continue pushing forward with my life and workouts. And yes, these will be the closest people in your life. Not much you can do but try and keep the peace and push forward. If they continue to be a problem in your journey, begin to phase them out. I know it's sad, but it's necessary to continue your journey for whatever it is you're battling or trying to accomplish in life.
I am so sorry to hear that happened to you. That's just a shame. Definitely sounds like jealously. Why would they be like that after you worked so hard to get your body back right again? If people would focus their energy on bettering themselves rather than giving someone else a bunch of grief, they could do so much positive for themselves. Guess that's not how the world works.... just sad. I hate it. But that's probably what I am going to have to do. Thank you so much for your advice and sharing your story! God bless😊😊😊😊
@@liverdisease-qb6rk no problem. It was a very confusing time of my life especially because I was so young at the time. I felt confused and then eventually a state of madness for awhile. My demeanor changed for a bit. Now it's not as difficult as it once was. I just decide in the moment whether or not their criticisms are valid or not and whether or not it's worth trying to control the outcome or just consider it water under the bridge and move on. For the most part, I just turn a cheek now (I move on). Any sort of reaction just delays my journey.
That's just incredible that you built yourself back up like that! I love hearing stories like this where throwing in the towel is not an option. And to be flexible with how you think about your goals after rehab. Still achieving great things, even though it looks different than before! The friends you mentioned sound shallow and insecure. It's nice to hear that you can keep that in perspective and move on. Keep up the good work, friend! You're killin' it 😁🎉
@@amandaflaherty7528 yes. It's sort of the under dog story. I literally have no choice but to continue pushing forward and working out. Rehabbing injuries and turning a cheek. Many people have the option of choosing to react, I really don't. It just delays my journey which I already understand is a very long one. Criticisms seems so small compared to the uphill battles I have to face on a daily basis. I suppose some may call it wisdom. I'm not sure. I just prefer to fight the good fight.
You look bothered. Don't let it eat you up. Let it go. Thoughts like that can be corrosive. We all have to follow our own path. You have to take into account that deep down, their drinking may be worrying them. In some ways, if they can play-down the fact that you achieved what you did then it makes their drinking seem less of an issue. It is the same with mates who smoke when you give up smoking. It makes them feel better about themselves. You should be proud of yourself. I'm proud of you. You have helped a lot of people. Ignore them or just laugh it off. It makes some people feel better to bring people down.
Thank you so much and you are so right! I am going to do just that!!!! Thank you so much for the words of encouragement! God bless😊😊😊😊
Hey LD, I'm sorry that people so close to you made you feel that way. What is pretty amazing about todays video is that you have built up a community here and have made friends with so many people on here that you feel comfortable coming to us about it and we can try and help you the same way you help all of us every single day! Be proud of that, don't let them get you down and deep down I think it could be jealousy that you are doing so well with your sobriety and this chanel. Just my opinion. Have a wonderful night my friend.
Hey Angie! Thank you do much! You are so right! I really do consider all of you guys my friends and thats why I feel comfortable enough to discuss my life and feelings with all of you! Thank you so much for being a part of my life! God bless😊😊😊❤❤❤❤
I found the same thing happened to me. It was on my 10 year anniversary that I was told how proud they were and now trusted me. After so many years of drinking, it took a long time for them to heal. Hang in there. Time is on your side. I would let sleeping dogs lie. I'm sober since 1988. CONGRATS on your success!
Thank you! Congratulations on being sober since 98!!!! That's just amazing!!! Almost 30 years!!!! Sorry that it happened to you too. Thank you! God bless😊😊😊❤❤
Do not change a thing about yourself! You are strong, amazing, and honest! And, you are helping countless people. Please know how very special you are to us. Pray for the negative people, that’s all you can do. ❤️
Thank you so much for saying that!!!! God bless😊😊😊❤❤❤
I think the “normal” drinkers or non drinkers feel like because they didn’t drink like we did that we somehow deserve our health problems. In those minds it’s “well you did it to yourself” and “I don’t have to drink all day every day” so they find it hard to be sympathetic or to be happy for the little things we have come to know and appreciate SO MUCH.
You should be proud, and your viewers are proud of you, happy for you, and so incredibly happy that those results came back good!
Even some alcoholics don’t understand. My husband got sober before I did. I celebrated every day he stayed sober and then when I decided to quit it was like I was on my own. I think he hated that part of himself so much that he found it difficult to offer any support for me when I was in that same spot.
Also I think some people just automatically think that because they’re not a heavy drinker that they’re automatically better than we are. Recovering alcoholics are the most intelligent, grateful, understanding and self aware people I know. We become a threat to them.
I’m sorry you had to go through that. It’s just another consequence of our actions we learn to realize. We are all proud of you and happy for you!! ❤
This is so well put and well written! Thank you! You make so much sense here!!! You are right! Some of the nicest and smartest people I have ever met were alcholics! I'm sorry you went through that. It's a shame that happened. Thank you so much for all of this! Very well done! Thank you so much for all the words of encouragement! God bless😊😊😊😊❤❤❤❤❤
Awww I'm so sorry your husband wasn't celebrating with you, that must have felt terrible... it's really amazing that you're able to put into perspective why he wasn't there for you, but my heart breaks for you that you felt alone in it. I'm so glad that you achieved your sobriety regardless!! You should be so proud of yourself!! I hope you have a great day! 😊❤
You should be proud. I wish my dad would have gotten sober but he never did. I'm 52 years old. I'm a white male. I do not drink alcohol. I stopped drinking alcohol before I was 25 years old. But the doctor diagnosed me with non acholic liver disease around 4 years ago and it's sucks
Oh no! I am so sorry to hear that. You have been sober that long and got it? That's just not fair. I am so sorry. I hope that you have been feeling ok. I know how bad it can make you feel. I am praying for you my friend. Let me know if there is anything I can do for you. Thank you! God bless😊😊😊❤❤❤
That really sucks, friend. I'll be sending you prayers and warm thoughts. How have you been doing with treating it? Diet change or anything like that? Are you seeing any positive results? I hope you have a great day! 🙏❤️
Hello 👋 thanks for your replies I have tried diet its hard I have alot of other health problems I have severe psoriatic arthritis autoimmune condition high blood pressure diverticulitis kidney cysts had a heart attack at 45 due to heart defects didn't know I had 4 joint surgeries gallbladder removed with tumor and part of my liver removed large precancerous colon tumor removed bone supers 2 bulging disc in my back I could go on but I am still alive and I am a single dad my 4 older kids have their own lives going on but my 11 year old daughter still lives with me that is why I keep trying
@@MichaelBuckner-mi7mx Michael!! That is a whole lot you've got on your plate!! I'm so sorry for all that you're going through. Tons of hugs and prayers sent to you! I hope it helps you to know that people are thinking about you, I'll be wishing you the very best.
@@amandaflaherty7528 thanks I will keep going thanks for for caring I been sick and in pain my life I am not looking for pity I would like people and my family to know what I go through everyday thanks you for understanding me❤
LD the reason you have this Channel and a following cause there are so many people in this world with the same problem as you and that problem is alcoholism. This is a support group that people can’t talk about this stuff with regular people cause they just don’t get it. We here are all happy for your sobriety and the following you have created thank you for your time making these videos you rule bro!
Love this!! I hadn't thought of it that way, but I think you're right. It's so easy to talk to everyone here because we're here for our health. Even those in this community who don't have alcoholism are coming from a place of wanting to understand, or have addictions themselves, or just want to improve their health! So knowing there's no judgment and (mainly) only cheering going on in here makes it easier to talk. Great observation. You're so right. Hope you have a great day! ❤
Thank you so much my friend! It really has become a safe place for like minded people to share their stories and push each other in the right direction and I couldn't be happier about just that!!! Thank you so much for being so supportive!!!! God bless😊😊😊❤❤❤
Just to add G. The next time someone wants to bring up the past, I would just say, " you know, I remember those days but I just don't dwell on them anymore. Im in a different place today" Period. Hope you feel better soon. I am so proud of you ❤❤❤
Great advice. 👍
Don't let them bring you down. You are doing awesome and helping so many people!
I won't. Thank you so much for that!!!! God bless😊😊😊❤❤
Hi thank you for everything. Still drinking ones of week I just want to stop..
Hey there! You are so welcome! I know how you feel. I really do. It will come to you. Don't beat yourself up. It's the hardest thing I have ever done in my life and I still struggle everyday. I am praying for you my friend! Let me know if there is anything I can do to help! God bless😊😊😊❤❤❤
Thank you very much
Misery loves company. That person is secretly envious of your journey. I dealt with that before. I don’t even care anymore. I don’t even entertain their comments.
Very, very true!!!! Thank you so much and I am going to do the same thing! God bless😊😊😊❤❤❤
LD, you just listed all the words they are.
Hey Katrina! Thank you so much for watching and I really appreciate the feedback! You make so much sense! Hope you are having a great afternoon! God bless😊😊😊❤❤❤❤
I'll be honest man I've been a hater especially when I'm doing bad someone's doing good. But I realize that's a reflection of how I'm doing. But man everyone wants everyone to be at least in the same boat if not a crappier boat. It's human nature man. I feel it in myself. With that being said though like people that love you are always going to deep down be happy for you they should learn from you.
I feel you man. I have done the same. Misery loves company! Thank you! 😊😊😊😊
Remove yourself from them. That’s probably best for you in the long run. Maybe they’ll turn themselves around, but never feel bad about removing yourself from a toxic situation.
Very true! Thank you! God bless😊😊❤❤
I've been kinda quiet the last two videos bcoz on the 18th, I had to put our dog to sleep. She was very old and sick and she was Ron's dog originally. So I apologize for not stepping up and sharing in your joy.
You own this channel big guy! You can block the negative ones or even delete them online. There is always gonna be the naysayers. Perhaps jealously, maybe of your success. Yes...if it's happened more than once....you should disassociate as much as possible. I had to do that with my own father for a season.
We here love you to pieces and you have every right to speak your mind in a respectful manner...speaking your own feelings only. If something starts up... walk away. You got this! I don't like confrontation either so I get you.
I’m so sorry about your precious furbaby. Mine’s been gone for 2 years and I still cry over him. Sending prayers 🙏
Hey there. I am so sorry to hear about your dog. I know how hard that can be. I have a golden retriever who is up there in age too. He is 13 and is really showing his age now. We know that day is coming very soon. I hope that you are doing ok after that. Thank you for watching and I am once again so sorry for your loss. God bless ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I remember your wife said you are sensitive too. Just ignore them and don't let it get to you. You are doing great.
Thank you so much! I am a very sensitive person. Very much so. I can totally admit that. I will do! Thank you! God bless😊😊❤❤
Enough is enough when u lay the boundary down. Choose YOU this time
YEP! Intimated by me
I am strong af
Yep! Boundary high !
I’m sorry it’s tough to do however we can do it.
Nope stop talking to them
Thank you!❤❤❤
@@liverdisease-qb6rk u got this and u know what it calls for
Listen back to it with a clear mind & space. What if this was your wife or kids? What would you suggest they do?
We understand thoroughly that you are not pushing towards anyone. If they choose to see you that way, it is on them. Please don't stop what you do for so very many of us. You do absolutely nothing wrong. Perhaps they remind you of your past, because that is where they still are. Thank God, you are past that. I have experienced these feelings from both sides, while drinking and sober. No one thinks you are bringing this hurt on yourself. It is coming from them alone. I believe a friend can be happy for you no matter what the situation. That should be a given. If not, better examine that relationship. It smells a bit like sour grapes. You are getting positive feedback from people who believe in you. Who is giving them strokes? Probably no one, since they haven't earned it. Love you and prayers for those who haven't seen the light of sobriety. It is a gift to have survived the process. No wonder others are jealous and trying to keep you down. Sorry about your friends not being happy for you. But now you have all of us who genuinely care. Congratulations on the joyous health news. Go you!
Hey there! Thank you so much! This is so nice of you to say and I can't thank you enough for everything you have said here! I love you too!!!! You ate so awesome and I am so grateful to have you here with me!!!! Thank you! God bless😊😊😊❤❤❤❤
Let it Go South bro. You're going to feel so much better when you start telling them the truth.
I am so very sorry that you have to experience this. Jealousy is dangerous. Of course I have no idea who you are dealing with but this does sound like jealousy. Not to explain too much but I have personally been treated horribly by several individuals because of their jealousy. I know they wanted me to be a failure. Some of them have brought me harm and all of them have hurt my feelings deeply. Please be on guard. 🙏💕
I am so sorry to hear about that happening to you. Seems like a lot of people exit our lives after the big S word! It's just a shame. Thank you so much for your advice! God bless😊😊😊😊❤❤
Yes remove them😢from your lif. You dont need the punishment. But if you😢nee to make amends to😢anyone you may😢have hurt during your drinking. They may not forgive you but thats on them. Keep😢going foreward. There are sober people out there in recovery that would love to😢have your friiendship❤
Yes my old drinking buddies were that way when ever I didn’t want to drink more back when I did drink, it’s the peer pressure misery loves company BS that’s why I won’t spend too much time these days talking about myself being sober it’s my gift to myself and I’m happy for everyone who decides they appreciate life enough without getting drunk but LD it’s okay to be disappointed but it’s really them and the sad part is they have to face reality and stop picking your brain unless they plan on quitting too
Hey man! Sorry that happened to you. Seems like when we get sober, we lose a lot of people in our lives that probably weren't there for the best reasons anyway. It's sad... but part of it. I have lost a lot of people in my life since I quit. It's a very quite thing that rings very loud! Thank you for your words of encouragement! God bless😊😊😊😊❤❤❤
“Tomorrow is here, every day.”
I will recite this I’m sure. I feel it too. It’s different now
Hey LD!❤I am excited for your results yesterday! People are really hurting right now & sometimes it can be difficult for others who may or may not be struggling to express the appropriate reaction or emotion. I know everybody in this family is grateful & happy for everybody here! Unfortunately, some people will forgive but not forget! Love them anyway, it’s there journey not yours!❤
Hey there! So very true! That's all I can do. That's why I haven't approached it. It's just not worth my energy. Thank you so much for everything you have said here!!! God bless😊😊😊❤❤❤
We are all really proud of you. Your doing great. Maybe they are jealous of your achievements ❤
Thank you so much and same to you!!!! God bless😊😊
Heavy man.
Hey LD, thanks for bringing up this topic. Relalationships change when you get sober, many not for the better. If this person keeps "poking" at your past, than keep conversations very superficial, like talk about the weather.
Hey Debrah! That's exactly what I am going to do from here on out! Thank you! God bless😊😊😊❤❤❤
I'm excited man heck yeah you're doing great bro
Thank you so much brother! So are you!!!!😊😊😊😊 God blesz
It’s the same with weight loss. It’s the crabs in a bucket phenomenon
Exactly. Because everything's about them. If someone starts to come up it is threatening to their ego
I didn't even think of that! Thank you! God bless😊😊😊
Maybe jealous of you in general? Or jealous becase you have followers ?
Hey! You could be right.... I'm just not sure. Thank you! God bless😊❤
I feel bad for you LD, to have someone very close treat you like that. I have not experienced this, sorry you had to. You help all of us with your videos and talks every day. Concentrate on the good you can do, and cut ties with those who can not treat you well.
Thank you so much for saying that!!! I just don't understand. But... I guess I'm not meant to understand everything. Thank you for this! God bless😊😊❤❤❤
I don't have comparable drinking experience to you, but here are my thoughts in general: 1) Unless the person/people you were talking about are close relatives, let them drift out of your life. You don't need people in your life who don't let you move beyond your past. Personally, I think it is natural to have a turnover of friends, even close friends, over time. Having gone to the same high school or college or worked together 15 years ago or lived on the same street or shared interests or activities, etc. is not necessarily enough glue for a friendship to keep going especially if one of the persons in the friendship has changed a lot. Maybe it's time to let the friendship wither. If it's a close relative, that's more problematic . . . 2) If you think person X wasn't as excited as you about your not having to have a procedure, is it possible that you didn't convey your concerns (about having a procedure) to person X? Is it possible that person X didn't realize the implications of you getting a good "blood flow result" from your CT scan? 3) It's possible that the people you're talking about are envious not about your sobriety per se but about your channel and the community you've built. Through this channel, you now know people around the world; you are well loved and respected by many people beyond your own local world; and the community is growing quickly. In a sense, you have 5,000+ new friends/supporters. That could well be a source of envy. Those people probably don't have anything close in their lives. 4) All in all, when two people's circumstances change too much, past connections are often not enough to keep a relationship going. Your situation is vastly different than before (sobriety, change of values, maturation of personality, TH-cam success, etc0. If people from the past can't feel happy for you about your new life, it is time to let things wither or at least to speak up and articulate your viewpoint. Good luck figuring things out! I don't think you should let anyone bring you down this way. Finally, thanks very much as ever for your uplifting videos. 🙂🌷❤
Thank you so much! They unfortunately completely understand how important this was. That's why I believe that there is just more to it than they just don't know how impactful that these results are. I don't understand it, but I guess I am not meant to understand everything. Thank you so much for all the words of encouragement!!!! I really do appreciate it!! And thank you for being such a huge support to this channel!!! God bless😊😊😊❤❤❤
Hey LD, I know exactly how you feel. People can be incredibly insensitive and sometimes the people closest to us don’t really wish the best for us. The saying misery loves company is true. It’s unfortunate, that the individual’s reaction was not what you expected. It looks like this person doesn’t seem to be the best to have around or for you to share your feelings with. The fact that you went quiet should have been an immediate indicator that they hurt your feelings and they should have said something to reinforce that “hey you’ve come a long way and are doing amazing!” I’m very reactive when someone hurts my feeling but I’ve gotten to a point that now I only have family around me, one friend, and my YT friends. That’s it. I share my feelings with you all. I know it can be hard to accept that some people (loved ones) aren’t good for our mental health. Ask yourself does this person add value to my life? If not, distance yourself as much as you can. If you can eliminate do that. If you can’t express yourself without hearing about the past then what’s the point. I’m glad you were able to release those negative feelings. Don’t spend anymore energy on it. On a positive, woot woot on the high speed internet. Stay up my friend, you’re an amazing person. ❤❤❤❤😊
Thank you micru866!!! You are so right. Misery does love company. It's just a shame that it has to be that way. I won't spend anymore energy on it. Thank you for watching and I really appreciate the feedback. That's exactly how I feel too. I share my feelings with all of you guys here everyday. I have to say that this is therapy for me too. I always feel so much better after I have talked about it and gotten it off my chest. Thank you so much for always being so helpful when I am having a problem. I can't thank you enough! Hope you are having a great day today! God bless 😊❤❤❤
@@liverdisease-qb6rk absolutely happy to support you as much as you’ve supported me. You’re absolutely a gem LD. Some people just don’t know how to evolve from a relationship the way it was you know? The old days are behind, moving forward is long over due. I had a friend once that we partied hard in our early 20s, well for me it was time to get serious about career and life. I didn’t want to hit the clubs and smoke weed/get wasted. Everything has its time and I was over it. Well she wasn’t and I had to start distancing myself because she was negative. I was afraid that I would get caught up in some of her mess. Well it’s been 17 years or so since I’ve seen or spoken to her. I looked her up one day, she’s has multiple arrests and looks like she’s still partying has all sorts of charges. All sorts of theft, drug, etc. Just now it’s not fun anymore. No career…no life or ambition just misery. I wish she would have listened to me but she wasn’t ready. I made the right decision even though I miss her. Take care my friend. You deserve positive light, no drama.
You just need to leave things alone. I've learned that once you say something you can never take it back.
They are doing what they are suppose to be doing . Being human beings . Being hurtful and shitty in the worst of times . People ( even family ) can be selfish and jealous and envious over anybody . Even a family member fighting for his life and trying to do better . Sorry brother . Keep fighting and posting videos you are saving lives and helping keep us sober . Thank you so much
man I've been watchin you for a bit now, i'm from northeast TN, started drinking when i was 15 and i'm 38 now, went in to see my GI specialist last year and he said "i wouldn't sell you a five year life insurance policy right now", the achey liver, weight loss etc. I have AFLD and was well on my way to the big C, was sober for 5 months, fell off the wagon for a few weeks and now i've been sober for a year, its been the hardest thing i've ever had to do, learning to navigate life and what comes at you sober is so hard, and these vids make me feel like someone gets my struggle. keep it up! and i'll keep watchin!
Let go of those ppl, if you can
You are doing a great job. Stay strong. I am very happy for you. They are irritated that they can't do what you have done. Be proud of who you have become. Sounds like it was a person who is secretly jealous of you. Keep being a leader. Keep going forward .
Hey El Dee. I'm really struggling. My alcoholism is destroying everything and I'm still being strangled by the grip of it. I'd never envy your sobriety, I'm Watching and subscribed to you for strength and inspiration. Thank you my friend. You are helping me help myself. Stay strong.
Hey there! Long time no see! So good to see you again! I am so sorry that you are struggling so bad. Is there anything I can do to help you! Please let me know if there is. I am always here and willing to do whatever is in my power to help! If it's a video idea or whatever. Don't ever hold back. Thank you so much and please keep.me posted. I am praying for you!!!!! God bless ❤❤❤❤❤
Well sometimes somebody might be joking with you about something you both joke together about and now it's not funny to you but they don't realize that you know sometimes that's the case especially when it comes to drinking cuz that's drinkers we joke about it but then when we quit it's not a joke.
Thank you brother! They were not joking. This isn't the first time it's happened. But... I do know what you mean. Thank you man! God bless😊😊😊
I've been in a similar situation LD! There were people like that in my life when I got sober, they are problem drinkers like I was. Always stuck in the past and bringing up old stuff. Unfortunately, I had to stop communicating with them because they would just create drama and bring negativity around me. I think that seeing others sober and doing well makes them have to self-reflect, and it makes them uncomfortable. So they try to bring you down to make themselves feel better. It can be painful to let people go, especially if they are friends/family, but sometimes it's for the best, sadly. Getting sober really is an eye opener because it lets you know who really cares about you and has your best interests in mind.
I so sorry to hear that brother. Always bringing up the past
... gets so old. Like when is enough, enough? I really believe you are right. Sometimes we do have to remove ourselves for our best interest. Thank you so much man and I hope that you are having a great day! God bless😊😊😊❤❤❤
When you feel the time is right, calmly explain to this person using the phrase “I feel that when we talk it seems to focus on my past,” etc., etc. I have heard before that it’s harder for the other person to get as defensive with an “I feel “ statement. Hopefully, this person will respond respectfully or maybe even ask some reasonable questions that you feel comfortable answering. If not, I don’t think it is wrong at all to tell this person, that you care for them, but you will not listen to this subject anymore, and then be prepared to follow through. I am drawing from experience on someone who trash talked my father every time there was any kind of friction over things that had taken place 25 years prior. I bit my tongue for years, which made me resentful against this person. I tried to re-direct, but it wasn’t always successful. I wish you the best of luck, and your feelings are completely understandable. I AM PROUD OF YOU AND SO GLAD YOU DO NOT HAVE TO HAVE ANOTHER PROCEDURE 😊🙏🏻
Hey there! I am so sorry to hear that happened to your father. Seems like this is a pretty normal problem that happens. Thank you so much for saying that!!!! I cannot tell you how much that means to me! Thank you so much for being so kind to me! I hope that you are having a fabulous day today! God bless 😊❤😊❤
Im jealous of other women that dont have liver disease with pretty thick skin 😢 my skin looks so old n wrinkley .
You are perfect just the way you are!!!! I think you are a beautiful person!!! Thank you for sharing your thoughts. God bless😊😊❤❤❤
@@liverdisease-qb6rk awww thank you God Bless
I second LD's comment here!! ❤❤😊
@@amandaflaherty7528 ❤❤
Also the enemy of all our souls is attacking through these people especially as they drink regularly.
Remove yourself sounds best. We have to stay away from most in my husband’s family.
Thank you so much for the advice! Might be what I have to do. Sorry that you had to distance yourself. God bless 😊😊❤❤
Oh, also, I think I need to rewatch yesterday's video, I totally missed you saying that things were clear and not clogged up. That is massively great news, and I remember getting interrupted a few times when I was trying to watch it.... gonna rewatch now.
Thank you so much!!!!! I was so relieved!!!! God bless😊😊😊❤❤❤❤
Chef you should be proud of yourself & the fact that you have been sober for almost 2 years !!!! That is a huge accomplishment… I am so that this person wasn’t happy for you? You saved your life & your families life. People change , you have changed for the better. You are trying to help people for the better & help them learn from your experience. I am happy for you & your family. I wish you the best. Thank you again for your video’s.
Thank you so much for this! I am proud! That's why I am so disappointed by this person's words. They know how hard it was for me to get here. I'm going to let sleeping dogs lie now.... thank you again! God bless😊😊😊❤❤
You’re saying exactly why! You’ve answered your own ? Were addicts & alcoholics forever just to put it down doesn’t mean we still don’t try to stay sober. It’s hard af! We are walking nerve endings
Man! You are not kidding!!! Every single day is a struggle!!❤❤❤❤❤
@@liverdisease-qb6rk yep it’s fn hard af!! And now when this stuff happens it’s impossible almost.
Putting the drink or drug down is easy but can we live for our families sober? Hard but we do because we surround ourselves by those that love us now.
@@liverdisease-qb6rk I know and remember that spot your in.
I’ve been there I’ve gone thru it and I haven’t fallen down yet!
Love all of this, Kristen!! Especially "we are walking nerve endings".. where do you come up with this stuff?? But it's true!! Have a great day 😁❤️
@@amandaflaherty7528 I was in cbt for ptsd/bpd therapy for over 10yrs… it’s how you describe it in a way.
Without the chemicals it’s as if we all have 3rd degree burns and just to brush up against me will cause me to hurt again emotionally.
Exposed nerve endings as some with borderline can describe the condition. Love ya girl
Have a great day!
You're Best Friend is our Saviour Lord Jesus Christ ❤🎉
Thank you!!!! God bless😊😊❤❤❤
I once broke sobriety and went to the bar with my best friend at the time. "I've missed you" he said, since we hadn't seen each other for a long time. A couple of weeks later I realized that if the only way to hang out with him was to drink with him, we would drift apart.
I miss him sometimes.
Awww, this was tough to read. I'm sorry you had to cut ties... it's hard to love someone deeply and know that you need to separate yourself from them. I hope you have a good day! ❤
I had a close relative that always wanted to talk about my failed marriage. I finally told her that it was the last thing I wanted to talk or think about. She knew that relationship nearly destroyed me and it seemed like she got joy reminding me of it. Those people are miserable! People who truly care about you aren't going to try to sabotage your success.
Many people believe that those who are proud of their sobriety consider themselves 'better' than others. The truth is that those who hold a grudge against you for your sobriety often have drinking problems and either can't or don't want to course correct. It's hard to give up the party forever - it requires determination and support. The fact that you use this very publuc platform to inform others about the dangers of alcohol abuse is just more fuel for their fire. Brush it off and keep up the good work. I have been sober for nearly 10 years and am grateful for all the time I have been present for my family and friends. Sobriety is a gift.
I was like number 70, thanks for posting.
Hey number 70!!! You are so welcome! Thank you for Watching! God bless😊😊😊❤❤❤
There is a reason alcohol is called Spirits but not because they are Holy! I have had that experience only twice but both times it was from somebody I had been drinking with. With all love and respect you have to let them know you hear their words and appreciate them but firmly state that that is not who you are now. I keep my GI specialist advice on my mind and that was don’t even think about going to a place/wedding whatever where there will be alcohol . LD it’s our lives at stake so it’s a no brainer. Some folks we love but let go because we have to love ourselves and those who support us. I am super proud of your accomplishments and you inspire me! The day you video’d in your deer stand really egged me on to get more mobile. If you could do it so can I! No deer stand for me but you know what I mean. Love and Gods Blessings to you and your family
Thank you so much and that is just so awesome!!!! I felt horrible that day too when I was in my deer stand! Thank you so much for letting me know that inspired you!!! That is exactly why I started this channel and it really makes me feel so awesome to hear that! Keep up the great work and thank you so much for being here! God bless😊😊❤❤❤
Sorry you have had to go through that. I have had to cut individuals out of my circle of friends. Sometimes it gets smaller and smaller. I think you'll have new people come into to replace that. God sometimes brings new people for you. You surround yourself with positive and compassionate people. We are proud of you. Your mental help is more important. I am very happy for you. I get ya. The last two weeks I have been in the Emergency Room the last visit they admitted me. I had fluid actually get in my right lung from the ascites. So I had to have another paracentesis and right after that a thoracentesis. I was very scared. But it didn't hurt thank goodness. They are talking about. The tips procedure and I'm scared about that. So I get ya you get tired of so many visits and procedures. Feel better and know we are here for ya in support.
Hang in there Brother. Anyone who is not happy for what you been through and quitting alcohol has evil in their heart. They also probably suffer from several mental disorders such as narcissistic traits one of them being lack of empathy along with others. I do agree with you based on my experience if you confront them it typically gets ugly fast. My advice is to distance yourself from them, I know it sounds harsh but it works.
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Dont have expectations of others to avoid their judgement. There are addiction counselors out there may be helpful😊❤
Trust me 30 years down the road those same people will bring up the same things. I know it aggravates the heck out of me. I'm in a situation where everyone treats me like a kid. Tonthe point I walked in house and got butterball turkey naked and said check away. It hurts us and people don't realize that.
So very true! Sorry that they keep bringing it up with you as well. Thank you for sharing! God bless😊
Pray for them to leave the dark side. And you might tell them that.
My mom has said the same thing.My own mom can’t stand that I don’t need her like I did before. OMG that was my mom.
I laid down a boundary
Mom,
If you continue to dredge up the past I’m going to have to take a break from talking to you.
Mom, you crossed my boundary. I’m going to need some time for me.
I'm sorry that happened Kristen. I just don't understand why the need to keep bringing up the past. Thank you for sharing this. God bless 😊😊😊❤❤❤
@@liverdisease-qb6rk because we’re healthy it’s sad on her part.
I had to let her go to save myself
@@Kristen10-22hi how are you ? My Dad has been pretty critical of me. He thinks he is helping me . But it doesn’t help me? I love my Dad very much but he has said things that have really hurt me big time.
@@user-dp1gz1vo2j Hi Jackie Omgosh I keep forgetting you are the one with your handle.
Forgive me plz. I’m trying to hang in…nothing I can’t handle trust me. Chump easy stuff compared to most.
How are you? I am so sorry to hear that Jackie. I too had a super critical/enabler for a dad. I’ve had no contact since 2015ish. As daughters our #1 at least for me is my dad still. God I miss him yet how I can miss something I truly never had. He taught me tons of cool stuff growing up. He was critical of me as a teen early 20’s. Racist like my grandpa. Protect your ♥️ when u can. As parents start the story we can be the finishers. I’m writing the end to my life. Only daughters can understand. Still in my mind he hung the moon. 2 things can be true at the same time.
I’m here if you need me.
Thanks for saying Hi.
I’ve missed you.
♥️ & hugs
Kristen
I've never had a problem with alcohol but have known several people who have. You have alot to be proud of and I'm proud and happy for you. I'm sure you have worked hard to get to where you are. Those that seem to be jealous are probably envious that you succeeded and deep down they may be struggling themselves. Don't let them get you down. If they are making you feel upset and bad about yourself. It may be better to not subject yourself to the negativty.. Sometimes we have to guard our own hearts. If you are a praying person, I would keep them in your prayers but keep your distance from them. You are going thru enough. They have the issue, not you. You are the bigger person by not saying anything. If you're like me, you would feel bad and worry more if you say anything. Sometimes it's better to let things go. I hope my words help you and not make you feel worse. I will keep you in my prayers. ❤🙏🙏
Thank you so much and thank you for the prayers! I really appreciate you saying this and I can't thank you enough for being here!!!! 😊❤😊😊❤😊❤😊❤ God bless
@@liverdisease-qb6rk , you're welcome.. I'm sure praying that you receive a miracle. I'm so glad that you stopped drinking and pray that your liver heals and that you, your wife, and children have a long life together. You seem like a really sweet person.❤
I love you LD ❤️
God bless you 🫂🙏❤️
Not in your position, but I so like your videos and I hear what you are saying. Blessings.
Thank you for Watching! I am so happy you are here! God bless😊😊❤❤
I would never bring up the past. That's just rotten. I think some people have no filter. Sorry you are experiencing these comments from people. You are probably correct about jealousy which is what I have experienced whenever I've made a self improvement. I think it's because they wish they had self control like you, so rather than celebrate your self control they try to find something to negate that. Also, they probably miss the old days and miss some parts of the old LD. But don't let that bring you down. You are on a grand path, sometimes you have to keep walking ahead. They will catch up sooner or later. If not, focus on the people walking next to you. Keep your chin up. You are loved. And thank God no procedures!
Hello Sir! I’m pretty much sure that I know who you are referring to. This person/people you had mentioned some time back in one of your first videos. I can see that it is bugging you really bad. Let them know enough is enough and if they don’t ease up that your just going to have to step away. Your being a good man, husband and father. Don’t let them break ya. We care! 💯🙋♀️🌸
Hey Joyce! You probably do. It has been bugging me. I'm not going to let it get in the way of what I am doing here or my sobriety, thats for sure! I'm going to just keep my space for now. Thank you so much for your words of encouragement! You are much appreciated! Hope all is well! God bless😊😊😊😊❤❤❤❤
Yes!! We encounter this too. It seems like it’s the same people who used to tell us that we drank too much! Or couldn’t handle it even though they drink too! Now they don’t have anything to criticize in us so they dig for something!!
LD. I think you should either don’t give that person the time of day or cut them out. It’s negativity you don’t need in your journey . Ppl can be mean. I hope you feel better soon. Be proud of the amazing work you’ve accomplished 💚💚
Thumbs Up 👍 and video shared out!!❤
PS I’m very happy and relieved that you don’t have to have any procedures!!!♥️♥️♥️
Sorry you encounter negativity, especially from a person you are very close to. Try not to take it to heart too much. You should be proud of yourself, you have done so well! Much love and God bless.
LD I know it hurts It does but at the same time you're being persecuted for the right reasons this time in life you know You're not being persecuted for the wrongs you're doing and that's the enemy the devil whatever you want to call it working against you to make you want to quit or do something you shouldn't be doing brother stay strong We got your back I'm praying for you So happy to hear the great news about your procedure issues, I can't thank you enough for doing the things that you do Thank you for being so honest and heartfelt don't ever quit don't give up You're always going to have haters whether you're doing good or bad but now you're doing good and am happy to be here to support you and your community Love you man keep it moving! ❤️💯
Love you too brother! Thank you!❤❤❤❤❤❤😊😊😊😊😊 God bless
@@liverdisease-qb6rk God bless you be blessed and stay blessed my friend ❤️
People tend to be a lot happier when you are down or miserable. If you are happy or excited they are not interested. They tend to like drama. There is jealousy involved as well. I try not to get to involved with people like that. You need people to lift you up and be happy for you
I’m happy for you !!!
Way to GO LD ❤❤❤
Let us lift you up!!!
Just ask yourself this….
Is this healthy for me?
How does this benefit me?
If it doesn’t benefit u gray rock.
Threatened yep
Nope not just u
You should be very proud of what you have accomplished in your sobriety journey.. I commend you to the highest point. I am still trying to get to that point but I t is very hard. Someday I hope to be there but I am struggling. So far I don't have any of the health problems that you have gone through, but I'm sure they are coming. If someone doesn't agree with the choices that you have made to get to a better place in your life than they are not friends.. at least not true friends...
Thank you so much for saying that! I am so sorry that you are struggling. I still struggle to this day. It's just not as bad as it was in the beginning. I am praying for you my friend! Let me know if there is anything I can do to help you on your journey! I am always here! God bless 😊😊😊❤❤❤
They are envious of you and the person you are becoming, people only bring up your past when they are intimitaded by your present.. I have def experienced this as well. From my bestie (well ex bestie). I was prepared to lose friends when I quit drinking but I thought it would be because they wouldn't want to be "friends" anymore bc I was boring etc. I wasn't prepared to be the one who didn't care to continue to the friendship anymore. When the alcohol was removed, I think I was able to see this person for who they truly are which was a toxic, negative person. I think one of the most important things we can do to protect our sobriety/new lifestyle is to remove negative/toxic people or at least significantly distance interactions with them.
Unfortunately when you change for the better and other people stay the same you come off as a threat to them!! People don’t want to see you doing better than them! They can definitely be jealous but they’re mad because you’re changing and they’re not! Don’t let them get to you! It’s what people do
This is a good topic though, because it's something everyone should be aware of. If you're still choosing to drink or do whatever you want.........then that's not an excuse to not support people and be happy for them. And if you're the one who has quit something hard and is making positive/healthy choices.......you will absolutely deal with this kind of thing. So being aware of it and knowing how to handle it is important. Stuff like this has caused me to stumble in the past, so it's important to talk about and be aware of. You will absolutely lose some people in your life. Or the nature of your relationships will change. And that's ok. New people and new relationships..........healthier relationships will replace it. But pray for those people, because they do feel guilt and shame.......and we should have compassion for them. But it doesn't mean we have to sit around and listen to the abuse.
People who get uncomfortable when you start talking about sobriety around them are usually the ones who need help. I remember having a sober manager when I was still in active addiction and I remember avoiding him because I knew he knew I had a problem. Not to mention I’ve had women reject me after finding out I’m an addict which I don’t hold against them. It is what it is man, sobriety definitely filters out the “friends” and “family” you don’t need around anymore.
Sometimes it's hard to let go of certain people in your life but if they are not in support of your health journey maybe it's time to let them go from your life. You need to keep positive energy in your life, so them reminding you of the place you no longer are makes me believe they are not happy that you are moving forward in a positive way. Yes, some people hate to see others progress or achieve their goals. I would say it's time to just not go out of your way to talk to them if u can't let them go because they are taking you to a bad head space good luck on whatever decision you make.
I have never liked the taste of alcohol so I don't drink. At least a couple of times over the years I've been in social situations where everyone around me was drinking, and certain individuals tried multiple times to get me to "just take a taste." I got the distinct feeling that me not participating somehow made them feel guilty for drinking. Somehow me being present but conspicuously not drinking activated their guilty conscience. I think it's as simple as that and don't take these sorts of situations personally. Not everyone imbibing is this way, but a small percentage are or can exhibit this behavior.