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Yes to resonating. People treat others the way they feel about themselves. Seek out others who match your maturity, positivity, kindness, generosity, honesty, and dignity, not those who are intensely insecure around you. Exactly right.
Resonates well-- ex-husband tried to cut me down in front of an old friend I'd known since infancy: "N isn't too smart." A said, "N is the smartest person I know." Thank you sweet humble A! My ex should've allowed me to introduce you 1st-- he didn't know you from Adam, but figured out I knew you by my waving at you and you wife. I would've liked to catch up with you 2, but didn't want my ex in the conversation. It was clear that he wanted to embarrass me. The JERK!
Maybe his aim was to cut me off before I could have a good conversation with you. He didn't like me spending time with other people without his "permission. "
It took me way too long to understand, that my reactions , lack thereof , stopped my Narcissist from the gaslighting. Praise Jesus🙏🏻❤️ She knows I’m not gonna participate in her gas lighting any more. It feels great❤️
Ugh…family dinner for narcs birthday, the narc daughter says “be careful with the steak knife, they’re really really sharp”. Don’t know if I responded well but said, “you know, I’m 67 and I’ve survived all my life w/o cutting myself w/a steak knife.” She did quit talking to me after that. 👏👏👏
I agree. "Gaslighters aren't going to stop." They absolutely aren't going to stop. Even the family dog begging for a scrap from your dinner will give up after a while if you refuse them. But gaslighters are a different species all on their own.
I once had to distribute memos to my team's desks. The narc member wasn't at her desk, so I waved the paper in front of a team member I knew to be honest and reliable. " I'm just putting this on X's desk ,Y!". He watched me do it. Sure as heck, she came back to her desk, quickly hid it in the desk drawer and said" I never got that memo!" So I said " how do you know you didn't get it if it's not on your desk? Plus, Y saw me put it there, and i just watched you put it in your drawer." She was so mad she attempted to spill coffee on me later ( but I swerved so she got it on herself). So blooming glad im retired! Oh, wsit...ive got a street narc to deal with now.😂
Another thing that I like to do is when he’s acting STUPID or asking STUPID questions I would act like I’m listening and in mid sentence I would say hold on for a minute then I would WALK away and not come back 😅😂he just doesn’t know what to say whenever I return 😂😂😂
Seriously I am planning my leave now. Since my eyes are open I have so much fun with this man and his BS. I am completely 100 percent honest with him about himself. It's quite amusing to see (his) reactions. Haha
Great video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
This was absolutely tremendous Rebecca, Thank you so much for this, I'm very grateful for everything I've learnt from you, I do practice all this, I will stay calm and collected, There will be no emotional reactions from me, I'm in control of my internal state, I know exactly what these 2 are and what they are doing, Peace, love and respect to you and everyone, Thank you universe, All glory and smiles to the most high :-)
Just dealt with some drama and Trauma in a courtroom with against two attorneys an extra one . so that was 🎉 😅 fun. Kinda. They on Video zoom 3:53 I was in person so that part worked out. I could see them they could only hear me. 😊 Great questions you're asking.
I love to shout out real loud “ that’s not true “ in front of everyone & then say nothing because that will ither shut them up or they will haf to explain the lie further to everyone around. If they try to explain - say it again & then leave .
4:18 "never JADE: Never justify, argue, defend or explain......it plays into their narrative....when you remain calm it denies them their power...:" 5:47 "ask probing questions.." "..instead of getting angry get curious 'why would you think that?', oh that's interesting. So it forces them to clarify their statements, which often reveals the absurdity or baselessness of what it is that they are saying." 11:11"Seek out people who support you, who love you, who guide you, who are your people....Some people just aren't your people, and that's okay." 11:20 "Once you have these tools in your arsenal, prepare yourself for future encounters - gaslighters aren't gonna stop after one failed attempt. They're gonna try other tactics to try to get you off your guard.....Consider also setting really strong boundaries..." 💜👍
Can someone explain why these people waste all their mental energy playing these games? In social settings, my mental energy is spent thinking about how to logically and rationally contribute to a conversation. I think one of the greatest comebacks is simply surrounding yourself with healthy people so you don’t have to deal with this none-sense. Grey rocking, asking probing questions, and etc, is not much of a conversation I want to be part of.
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I love the idea of using deflection back at a narcissist!
Yes to resonating. People treat others the way they feel about themselves. Seek out others who match your maturity, positivity, kindness, generosity, honesty, and dignity, not those who are intensely insecure around you. Exactly right.
Resonates well-- ex-husband tried to cut me down in front of an old friend I'd known since infancy: "N isn't too smart." A said, "N is the smartest person I know." Thank you sweet humble A! My ex should've allowed me to introduce you 1st-- he didn't know you from Adam, but figured out I knew you by my waving at you and you wife. I would've liked to catch up with you 2, but didn't want my ex in the conversation. It was clear that he wanted to embarrass me. The JERK!
Maybe his aim was to cut me off before I could have a good conversation with you. He didn't like me spending time with other people without his "permission. "
It took me way too long to understand, that my reactions , lack thereof , stopped my Narcissist from the gaslighting. Praise Jesus🙏🏻❤️ She knows I’m not gonna participate in her gas lighting any more. It feels great❤️
Ugh…family dinner for narcs birthday, the narc daughter says “be careful with the steak knife, they’re really really sharp”. Don’t know if I responded well but said, “you know, I’m 67 and I’ve survived all my life w/o cutting myself w/a steak knife.” She did quit talking to me after that. 👏👏👏
Public humiliation. Woah, YUCK. Thank you!!
I agree.
"Gaslighters aren't going to stop." They absolutely aren't going to stop. Even the family dog begging for a scrap from your dinner will give up after a while if you refuse them. But gaslighters are a different species all on their own.
I once had to distribute memos to my team's desks. The narc member wasn't at her desk, so I waved the paper in front of a team member I knew to be honest and reliable. " I'm just putting this on X's desk ,Y!". He watched me do it.
Sure as heck, she came back to her desk, quickly hid it in the desk drawer and said" I never got that memo!"
So I said " how do you know you didn't get it if it's not on your desk? Plus, Y saw me put it there, and i just watched you put it in your drawer."
She was so mad she attempted to spill coffee on me later ( but I swerved so she got it on herself). So blooming glad im retired! Oh, wsit...ive got a street narc to deal with now.😂
Emotional predators exactly stay unemotional! They will poke and poke to feed off of you.Ty Rebecca
Another thing that I like to do is when he’s acting STUPID or asking STUPID questions I would act like I’m listening and in mid sentence I would say hold on for a minute then I would WALK away and not come back 😅😂he just doesn’t know what to say whenever I return 😂😂😂
I need to try this😂😂
I love no contact. It’s not always possible. But oh it is sweet.
Seriously I am planning my leave now.
Since my eyes are open I have so much fun with this man and his BS. I am completely 100 percent honest with him about himself. It's quite amusing to see (his) reactions. Haha
Dealing with a malignant narcissist who is constantly gas-lighting and also hasn't stopped stalking me.
Yep,I agree.I have tried each of the responses you have explained. They all work and bring your power back.Thank you, Rebecca ❤❤❤❤
I agree
Rebecca, you're always spot on with these villains! Thank you so much for sharing your wise perspective! ❤❤❤
Great video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
This was absolutely tremendous Rebecca, Thank you so much for this, I'm very grateful for everything I've learnt from you, I do practice all this, I will stay calm and collected, There will be no emotional reactions from me, I'm in control of my internal state, I know exactly what these 2 are and what they are doing, Peace, love and respect to you and everyone, Thank you universe, All glory and smiles to the most high :-)
Yes this helps thank you
I agree.
❤this is Gold!!
I agree!
Thank you Rebecca.
Just dealt with some drama and Trauma in a courtroom with against two attorneys
an extra one . so that was 🎉
😅 fun. Kinda.
They on Video zoom 3:53 I was in person so that part worked out. I could see them they could only hear me. 😊
Great questions you're asking.
I def agree 👍
I agree 👍 💯
I agree with the presentation.
I love to shout out real loud “ that’s not true “ in front of everyone & then say nothing because that will ither shut them up or they will haf to explain the lie further to everyone around. If they try to explain - say it again & then leave .
I think you are gorgious!❤🎖
AGREE!
my comeback is pretending not to see them.
10:09 💛
I hope Kamala Harris is well practiced in these techniques. She is so going to need them against her textbook narcissistic running mate.
Her running mate is Walz. Is this who you meant?
Her running mate is Walz. Did you mean him?
"I agree"
oh yeah! doing this
yes
4:18 "never JADE: Never justify, argue, defend or explain......it plays into their narrative....when you remain calm it denies them their power...:" 5:47 "ask probing questions.." "..instead of getting angry get curious 'why would you think that?', oh that's interesting. So it forces them to clarify their statements, which often reveals the absurdity or baselessness of what it is that they are saying." 11:11"Seek out people who support you, who love you, who guide you, who are your people....Some people just aren't your people, and that's okay." 11:20 "Once you have these tools in your arsenal, prepare yourself for future encounters - gaslighters aren't gonna stop after one failed attempt. They're gonna try other tactics to try to get you off your guard.....Consider also setting really strong boundaries..." 💜👍
I need the COMEBACK 😂😂😂😂😂but I have been handling him really good lately 😂😂😂
Hell yer!
Can someone explain why these people waste all their mental energy playing these games?
In social settings, my mental energy is spent thinking about how to logically and rationally
contribute to a conversation.
I think one of the greatest comebacks is simply surrounding yourself with healthy people so you don’t have to deal with this none-sense.
Grey rocking, asking probing questions, and etc, is not much of a conversation I want to be part of.
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Are you doing one on one conversation?
I agree 😂😂
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