"the longer it gets, the weirder I get" totally felt that. I recently went on bumble not expecting much from an OLD app, but found someone I connect with so well. Its been 4 years since I dated due to my decision to focus on myself because I was a loser. But now I feel things are coming together and should put myself out there and it paid off. You'll find someone, and if they are a good match you will just know. Good luck and dont take dating too serious, if its meant to happen with a specific person it will.
The thing is i find everyone so ugly and boring on the apps haha but then in real life i can be attracted to almost anyone based on their personality haha
Hello Daria. I just now came across your channel. I am a 40-something year old man, been in a few short term relationships, but never a proper long term relationship. I do not feel bad about. In fact, considering what a social outcast I am, I am a bit surprised I ever even landed one short term hook up / situationship. Here is a longer version. I was a latchkey key, I spent a lot of time by myself. My natural inclination then was to be introverted. I had a lot of freedom, but was never encouraged to develop social skills (Had to learn social skills as a late bloomer as an adult). I never really dipped my toes into the dating world, until my mid - 20s. Before then I was clueless about how to talk to women. In my 20s, I rarely went on dates, and when I did, I spent half the date worrying "am I doing something stupid or socially unacceptable". ? I eventually came to the realization, that I never wanted a relationship. Mostly, there was a lot of social pressure to date. When I was in my 20s, I felt like I was the "neighbor character" in someone else's romantic comedy movie. In that, people around me were giving dating advice, people talked about dating, and were wondering, who would end up dating who? When I was in my mid 30s, I started reading Jung, focusing on self actualization and was considering a more "monk mode" life style. There was a group of guys I would have lunch with (mostly single men, just a group of social outcasts, some more desperate / lonely then others). One guy kept insisting I should hang out with one of the more lonely guys in the group. I get it, most people do not want to be alone. However, I was the more asocial one in the group. I thought, I am okay with being single I do not even need more male friends in my life. I got tired of feeling like someone was trying to "set me up" on a date (I am attracted to women, and I have nothing against homosexuals). I would prefer to be single and I prefer to be alone then hang out with some random person I have nothing in common with. I cannot relate to people who give off a "desperate for a relationship energy". Now, I am monk mode. Not because I need to prove anything, it just works for me.
I agree with you, today’s videos are all like “look how awesome I am guys”. And then you think of your life and feel miserable immediately afterwards. So, yeah, we need more of videos like this.
@@DariaKropop Where in a hurry? Children and parenting are GOD given, it is life fact. The Bible has not been read to not know that there once lived a couple who had a son in their old age. About being single: 1 Corinthians Chapter 7 KJV 32 But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord: 33 But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife. 34 There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband. 35 And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction.
Same it’s a struggle. Like I barely done anything that are considered “terrible “ or “slooty” but those people that DO have men chasing them left and right and proposing and marrying them. I don’t get it It’s like you’re being punished by God anyway even after attempting to do the “right” things.
My hat's off to you for sharing your story. I'm an 80s baby and never been married. This generation is at it's worst. Don't be discourage. God has someone out here for everyone
I'm 31 and I feel the same. But I'm not so brave! I've never been to a date and I don't feel I will. That's like... don't know. Not for me? It's easier to imagine that I'm a cosmonaut than I have a boyfriend. Thank you for sharing this with us! 🥰
I have your same feelings and thoughts, Daria, so you're not the only one ! I'm 40 yrs old , and my longest relationship was only one when I was 18😑 sometimes I want to have a partner, but then I'm picky and I love so much my independence that it seems like I'm not ready to have someone else in my life ! I'm sure that when it will be the right time, it will bring the right person 😊 good like with your dating and your life 🌸
I feel you! It’s like we have been so independent our whole lives that it’s so hard to change it but to be honest I think being alone is much better than being with the wrong person
I’ve recently come across your videos and I really connect with your content. I met my now husband at 26. He was my first relationship and now my only. 5 years later and we’re married with two children. I literally thought all of the things that you’re talking about. I thought there was something wrong with me. I believed that I was destined to be the “cool single aunt.” Looking back, I’m so happy that I didn’t allow any bullshit in my life. Even though it was extremely depressing and frustrating at times, I’m really happy I only accepted respect in my life. I spent years watching my friends date losers and deal with so much disrespect. It’ll happen in time. Put yourself out there (not just dating apps…go out and about too). You’re beautiful, funny and sweet. Some man (not man-child because we do not allow bullshit!) will be very blessed to be with you!
aww thank you fir your kind words. i sadly was dating lot's of loosers and that never progressed anywhere so now i'm terrified of repeating that pattern so I'm not even really trying to meet anyone
There’s a lot of idiots out there. There’s also a lot of really amazing men out there that are worth your time. Use your intuition, let the dummies go quickly, and put your energy into the good ones! First sniff of crap…bye bye 😂🤪 Life is short! Try not to let some bad experiences hold you back from having some really amazing ones. I know it’s easier said than done, but I’ve been there. I thought I was going to be single forever and that changed.
Congratz i'm 35 never talked to a girl it's not a problem but if you listen to people they will tell you it is a problem or will not believe it , a girl is not oxygen or water or food or home or even a job , on contrary it can bring you problems that make you miss the days when you were single. a girl can be like cigarettes make you addicted to her ,and lose your money and health over time , with the accumulating stress.
I feel exactly the same. I'm only 23 and I've also been in a few situationships, but I've never felt better when I was with someone than when I was alone.
Congrats, you saved yourself a lot of needless trouble and heart breaks, I'm telling you from experience it's not worth it, I regret my past I wish I had focused more on education and finances and that's exactly what I'm doing now !
@@DariaKropop hmm i understand, may be you can try bumble, honestly online dating is not that bad, I did meet a few very interesting people and had a good time too, sometimes we need to get out of our comfort zone and let people in
Aw. I liked how honest you are. The problem is as women we’re taught from a young age to put men on a pedestal/that their opinions of us matter. We’re also taught that our own value is in our appearance. So when we don’t get attention from boys in school, we loose that sense of value for ourselves. You clearly don’t need someone in your life, however if you think a person would enrich your life then look for hobbies in your area. Make it something that would bring a benefit/enrich your life and see if there’s someone there that you think would add to your life. Dating apps are a nightmare, I have a friend going through the same thing. I’d also make a list, just a few bullet points of things you’ve liked about guys in the past, so you can know yourself and zone in on what you want. For me, it’s if I see a guy who’s kind to everyone, who’s been travelling (so I know they have a sense of adventure) 😂
You are right but also when you grow p and all of your friends are getting boyfriends etc and you don't you can't help but feel like there might be something wrong with you. I have been in few situationships that made me feel even worse so I don't want to make taht mistake again
""You clearly don’t need someone in your life"" Here you see Individualism at its end. Needing no one is one of the biggest lies. ""The problem is as women we’re taught from a young age to put men on a pedestal/that their opinions of us matter."" Ahh yes, thats what the Media is showing everyone out there. And i mean, who dosent want a overweight Wife.
same. 30 and never been in a relationship. You can take a deep dive into how to meet people outside dating apps. I also don't like dating apps. I don't think many people are there for dating.
Happy Valentine's Day Daria thanks for such an honest sharing. Do you think there is truth in the saying "we only accept the love we think we deserve"? I think you deserve a wonderful and securely attached relationship and I hope you can manifest it!
You’re special and you have standards! You have values and morals girl! There’s nothing wrong with you !! I was in the same position into my early 30s too:) I thought the same exact same thing about me too, but it will come when when you least expect it , that’s what happened to me ! Don’t wry , it will happen for you too. :)
I really cried for this guy but it never became serious. I only ever had situations and it’s so painful. I feel so low and I just feel like no one in my circle truly understands because they have had them. I have friends but my family is very tumultuous so I feel very unloved.
Hi Daria, I recently discovered your channel and I am here to stay! There is nothing fundamentally wrong with you. You are super charming and I am sure you can be a partner in a great relationship. Dating apps dont work for everyone (if for anyone at all) and with the age meeting new people gets harder. Having said that my unsolicited advice here: stop bullying youtself, just be the lovely woman you are, block the impolite idiots online and make sure you do not ignore the nice guys around you. The right person will show up and you will feel it! Sending you hugs ❤
I am 32, got only 2 dates and few chats with girls but never been in a relationship. At best I had been friends with girls and only got girls attention from girls I didn’t like. In one of the 2 dates I had I was the one saying that I didn’t feel chemistry, while she was into me big time. And even though I never got attention from girls I liked and always felt like girls were kind of mean to mean, I felt bad when saying no to this girl and felt like “I am not ready for this, saying no to a girl who is into me”. But in the end I preferred to say no rather than give her false hope or worse get in a relationship with the wrong person. So, I totally feel you and I feel like something is wrong with me just because I have never been in a relationship.
@@DariaKropop I am sure luck plays a big role but it's also about catching opportunities and not letting potential partners run away because you are too afraid to do the extra mile. Anyway, it's very hard for me even to find someone interesting, with whom I have a special connection and that is still single, so I consider luck an important factor.
@@hellboy0189i don't get you. When you have been shown interest why do you think it's wrong with you I don't think beign in a relationship in any way tells if you are good person or not to be fair
@@yashsinghal1023 If I get into a relationship with someone I already know I don't like, just because I don't want to be alone doesnt feel right, does it? And that girl, to be honest, was kind of akward and I didn't want to be seen around with her, so I think I did the right thing not getting into a relationship with her and not even giving it a try.
I’ll be 35 in December and same exact sad situation. At this point I don’t think I even care anymore with the way the world is going. Just one less person to mourn over when they’re dead and gone.
I'm turning 36 in Nov, and I've not been in a relationship too. From my early 20s I was robbed of my social life due to my chronic illness called Lupus, and my lupus has affected my kidneys and it's close to stage 5 CKD which can lead to kidney failure. I honestly feel a little sad cause I have no friends and I feel so lonely as well, but I try my best to look at the positive side of things. I have a loving family and I'm trying to come into terms that I may never be married or have children. Like It's not the end of the world :)
I’m in your boat. I am 33 and never really been in a long term relationship myself either. I am on the autism spectrum, which is a large reason why I’ve never been in a LTR. Don’t get me wrong I was in a relationship, but it was very brief and only lasted a couple of months.
I’m sure it will. As stupid as it sounds we kinda need to put ourselves out there. I haven’t been on a date in months I am not really active on dating apps so how am I gonna meet someone haha
I'm 27 and i relate to this so hard. All of my friends are in relationships. Ive never been in one. I am okay with being single since i dont like the men i meet these days. I just dont find them fascinating. Im attracted to them physically but emotionally i don't feel anything. Im thinking of starting therapy.
Men are different emotionally. Most men find it extremely difficult to open up to women. It's because once they open up, everything they say will be used against them later on. Best thing you can do is give it some time once you like a man.
Awwww, Daria! You have so many relationships, though. Friendships, family bonds, colleagues, online friends, etc. You're not a loser! The dating world is crazy, to be honest. There's nothing wrong with the single life, and relationships are romanticized often. You deserve to spend time with anyone who sees you for you and appreciates you to the fullest. You're great! ❤ Greetings from the Netherlands
I have been married for three years now, and I met my husband on a dating app. I believe it is a rare thing 😅 He is a super nice guy, very supportive, smart, and kind. He became a cat dad because I couldn't imagine my life without cats. However, I also know many beautiful and intelligent women in their 30s (or around that age) who are single and feel uneasy about dating. So you are definitely not alone in this. ❤
@@DariaKropop We're all different. Some of us have our 'type' in people, but for others who have no preferences like blue eyes, etc., I think it is important to give a chance to people who may not have attractive appearances for you. There is a chance you can fall in love with their personality. And then you will love everything about them. Anyway, it's probably just a math - the more people you meet the better chance to find the better match (if it is a goal) 😁
You're no loser. The biggest losers I know IRL are ones who took anything that came along. Because they felt the pressure of forgoing the tag of "taken." My childhood best friend dated a collection of psychopaths who has 5 children amongst 4 of them. I've got a female coworker who ended a relationship with the third f-boy who cheated on her and is now on her fourth. These are sadly the most miserable people I know. I haven't dated in about 6 years as I took time to work on myself and sort out stuff that's been swirling in my head for years. There's nothing wrong with stepping lightly in the dating world and being honest and steadfast over what you want and don't want.
You just need good friends, men are not generally even good to women. But you do need connection, companionship, laughter, a shoulder to lean on, etc. Just keep good friends and don't fall out of touch once you've made them.
@@DariaKropop You're right it's different, one kind is more important than the other. There's a reason abusive partners set about isolating their love interest from the friends they have.
I'm 28 years old man and I never had sex in my life ! I had a relationship with an Albanian girl for 2 years (I don't regret it), 7 years after I still single and don't plan to go on app for dating. My brother 30y/o tried and it was really to hard because he got no answer when he texted a woman so he dropped quickly... I prefer meeting people in real life , it feels more natural and you have more possibilities. Good luck for the future!
Well “sex” shouldn’t be your motivation for getting a date. You will come off as a creep to women if you are trying to date if you’re only looking to masturbate with their bodies…
Gosh I clicked on it to have something to listen while doing chores but I was so pleasantly surprised! I loved the video. More REAL yapping I’m begging 🙏
I feel im watching a potential future version of myself. I also get the feeling that since never having received attention from men, if I ever do I will be grossed out/digusted by it.
Dating apps absolutely suck. Also, you can't say for sure that you've "never been loved", because maybe someone was in love with you at some point, but they just didn't tell them.
I'm 42 and have never been in a relationship. The older I get, the less I care and the more undesirable I probably get. You just have to focus on yourself and work on your own happiness, which I'm sure you know. Sometimes it feels like some of us are just not relationship material. Some are just very late bloomers.
Hi Daria. Im a 31 year old woman who has never been in a relationship either and lets just say i share 100% of all the feelings you felt in this video and I feel so seen and heard to know that I am not the only one feelinf this way. I've been on and off on dating apps, going on very few dates. Not interested in the ones who showed a sliver of interest in me during these dates. And just never feeling anything romantic for anyone no matter how hard I try. Now I'm back on the apps but I'm just so tired. I dont have the energy to go through terrible conversations and terrible profiles. Why can't I meet someone that I can share mutual interest with? Why are all my friends going back into relationships like it's a walk in the park and meanwhile for people like us, its rocket science?? I ask myself everyday if there's something fundamentally wrong with me too. But just from watching this video, I can tell you are a lovely woman and there's nothing wrong with you. Sometimes it just hasn't happened for us yet...
There are so many women like us, I think people are just ashamed to talk about it . I am just like you and I’d rather be alone than to settle , being alone is far from being the worst thing that could happen to a woman !!
There's nothing wrong with never having been in a relationship. Lots of people have a partner and/ or kids and they're miserable. Love, and life in general, is not like in the movies. The perfect match is a fairytale because nobody is perfect. There is no formula to finding someone. It usually happens unexpectedly. The more you hyperfocus on finding someone, the more in your head you'll be and the more complicated it will get for you and potential partners. I'm a 29 y/o "objectively attractive" male who has never had a relationship. Understanding that I can life a full, rich life focussing on myself and that it was others who either forced themselves on me or made me feel shame for being single, truly ignited a sense of freedom in me. Women are not sex objects, they aren't trophies you get to display proudly to everyone. Same goes for men. Being in a relationship CAN be nice because you're less lonely and can have sex with your partner, but it's nothing worth losing your mind (or life) over.
I am happy with my life and generally don't think I need to be ina relationship to enjoy life but... when everyone your age has been in few already it makes you wonder
Not alone, and there are many of us even older in the same position. Just how it rolls I guess. I think so long as you don’t let it eat you and remember your worth and your right to be a happy and valued person, it’s fine. There is so much negativity out there and cruelty, someone will always have some means comments to make.
being single was never been a problem . there were many legends who passed away and never got married . im 35 i never dated and i feel more comfortable when i am alone , no one will understand you better than yourself , at worst case if i had a problem and i feel alone i would sit and talk with myself. and i say we is like i am two.
21 turning 22 and I have never been in a relationship, no one has ever showed interest in me I’m not surprised tho because I am ugly and I know physical attraction is important for a relationship. Hopefully some time in the near future Someone will be interested in me.
I am in similar situation. I rarely have interest in guys (I am visual and need a partner who I will be physicaly attracted to), but if I like someone they don't like me. At the same time I feel comfortable to be alone, so no stimulus to search a partner. Plus a bunch of mental health issues. Plus negative expiriences with men.
I am 33F. I can definitely identify with you. Have been on a few dates but never been in a relationship. Out of the very few guys who liked me I wasn't attracted to them or we had no spark. I also had a lot of negative dating experiences with men constantly messing around and using me for just a chat. So I have given up for now. I feel more sane alone to be honest.😂
I think this is what a lot of us experience with modern dating. Everyone is just flaky and uses you for instant gratification. I’d rather be in my own peace ✌️
totally relatable as 31 year old guy i have never been on a date or in a relationship lol i have put my self out there through speed dating/singles events and have on the rare occasion expressed my interest to ladies but never reciprocated lol looking back i think some women were trying to show interest but at the time i wasn't aware they were doing that there is a manual on the things nor is there a manual on how to approach women either i feel they should teach this in school how to ask a lady out of a date and or how to know when a lady is interested in you haha i feel like though singles events are therway forward speed dating and other singles events.i have been on the apps i guess my profile has never appealed to anyone and so i never get matches or likes pretty depressing but at the same time out and about i will get checked out by women sometimes... or maybe i just have big booger on my nose lol
yeah it difficult. Men are horrible with dating apps tho, I see it all the time, zero effort put in the bio, very bad blurry pictures ( in 2024 seriously?) with weird angles that you can see inside their nostrils haha also for some reason they stick with weird shape facial hairs and bad haircuts. better grooming, nicer pics and I think tehy could do so much better on there . Just my honest opinion after being on the apps for years
@@DariaKropopsorry but how can you still "judge" men about their facial hair or hair styles? I guess some women haven't seen mirror and will never learn even after years of beeing single. Most people are bad looking and can't change that. But from this comment there is 0 inner beauty.
Just wanted to pop in to say that I am very very similar but I don’t think it’s manifestation or even anything bad, really. The fact that you don’t think about your singleness very often or even in a negative way necessarily is what contributes to doing less to date, doing less to get romantic attention, staying home more, doing hobbies, etc. I am the exactttt same way and while I do love rom coms, I’m also content with myself so idk how to fix things lolll
I understand... I'm okay with being by myself but of course it's very odd that as a 35-year-old woman I have never been asked out and was always rejected when I did the asking. 😅😅😅
Jesus, like I was listeni g to my head! Just bumped into your channel, so hello sister, here I am, 34 yo and with the same thoughts and problems as you🎉
I have no idea I'm 43 and I've still not met a guy that's right Either he likes me and I have zero attraction Or I like him but he's not interested I got close to building something w a guy in 2019 from work and he ended up getting fired and so he turned around and fired me from his life, so out friendship ended just like that It's so confusing out there and I have no idea why good things either don't happen or why I attract much older men. I don't know.
Do you want the honest truth? You don't really want to be vulnerable. It's the most and difficult feeling. Also please check and heal if you have childhood trauma. It's enough to not feel heard as a child. So we choose unconsciously the unavailable guys. And the good guys there is no spark but the spark it's a trauma response. Have you ever give a guy a chance who has all your values in common and you find somehow attractive but the spark wasn't there a second chance? If not please try it. That's how I found love.
I'm a 27yo woman and I've never been in a relationship and probably will stay like this. Just had like one kiss when I was in Uni because I thought that was the stuff I was supposed to be doing as a new adult. Didn't really feel attracted to him and he was also a cheater. In my life, I've been physically attracted to different types of men, so I'm not really chasing a Chad like all men like to think about lonely women and I've been rejected once so I can say, I've tried being the one asking out. In my case, I don't trust people easily, especially men. I'm afraid of most of them and how porn-fried their brains have gotten with social media and internet. Cheating is so easy now and perversions are rampant. I don't think we're missing much.
You are not a loser. You are doing so good by making yourself go on the date..im the same way. Never dated since high school, mix one almost relationship in college with an evil person and you've got me who is traumatized/wanting to be single for a long time. I'm 30 now and I came to your video because i finally met someone who I like and it's scary stuff, I don't even know how to act. We haven't gone on an official date but I just feel like im too close to comfort being alone vs having to worry about the pain with not being enough for someone else. I can already imagine the pain if this doesn't work out, and I am scared to invest more into it. Being single is so much easier. But I am trying to force myself to take a risk with my heart again. Sending you luck and love.
Just take it easy ! Don’t put your eggs in one basket especially at the beginning because you will get attached to quickly. Also I think it’s worth to try if you like this person :)
Please make baby steps towards each other and wait with intimacy until you trust the person. And also do some self reflection why you don't feel good enough? I have been there too and it hurts to find out that as cheesy as it sounds to finally love myself. Men doesn't notice me until I was in my early 30s. I was very overweight in my teens. Then loose some weight but never really skinny and sooo shy. My reason for all my problems was my childhood and also my issue with men and relationships. Today I'm happy married with almost 40 and I wish I could go back and help my younger self. I couldn't helped me but maybe you a little bit 😉
As a male at 34 yo I feel you never been in a relationship or been with a woman! don’t know why I try anymore I don’t want to come out to people in fear of the ridicule or laughter if u want to chat I’m open
My daughter is 32 and never been in a relationship at all. She is saving herself for her hubsand because my wife and i raised her to date to marry instead of dating just to date and not be lonely. I was only 20 and my wife was 19 when we had her back in 92 then i had my son in 95 then my son in 2000 and my daughter in 2003. Had my twins last year in our early 50s.
You are brave to post this video. It's not easy when society makes you feel like you are nothing without a partner. I don't think nothing is wrong with you. Some people are fine with being alone.
I'm turning 26 and I am waiting till marriage. I find it difficult to find guys who have the same morals as I do. But I would rather be single than to settle.
Yeah I think it’s quite rare to have those believes, as much as I don’t agree with them I’m sure there are other people like you , maybe try religious sites ?
Just Be Honest With Yourself & Don't Lie To Your Conscience. I'll Be 35 This Year, And I Realized That Us As Humans Were Always Taught That We Have All The Time In The World By Society, But We Don't. Just Use The Time You Have Left & Take Heed To Re-Prioritizing Your Life & Purposes While Finding Out What You Want To Do Vs. Where You Need To Be. 💯
I'm the same. Never been in a relationship, never could even imagine myself in one and kinda felt weird when men would treat me in that way. I also had the same thing of being attracted to personality mainly. Well for me turns out I'm actually a lesbian and that's why it was hard for me, although my chances are even more slim now at least I can now connect properly/actually want to be with that person
@@DariaKropop 😂 the dating pool is way smaller that's why it's harder. Of course issues can still exist just like any other types of couples but I guess being the same gender can make some things easier
I am of the opinion that I have nothing to offer a relationship. I am invisible to men and always have been, mid 40s, now overweight woman, never had a shred of self-esteem, not attractive and what looks I had are fading with age. Honestly if it hasn't happened by now it never will. Not everyone gets a happy ending.
Unrealistic expectations. You said there was no attraction, and you find every guy ugly, no matter how kind and considerate. As a very romantic, pretty decent looking guy I can say I've matched with a handful of women who all things considered seemed very similar to you, and who (and there's no way to put this delicately so I'll just say it) were *definitely* not "out of my league", we still always had the same problem. No matter how well I played my cards during the date, no matter how well I did, there was rarely any "chemistry" and it always seems like the woman was uninterested to be on the date. Dating is a two player game, it doesn't matter if I as the guy do 100% of the heavy lifting if in the end the woman doesn't even emotionally participate during the process.
I find them ugly based on their profiles, that’s why I don’t like online dating. If a man is charming and funny I will find him attractive in real life mostly no matter how he looks like. And that goes for most of the girls I know. Also maybe you are not doing on the dates as well as you think .. most of the girls I know have experience when they were on a date and the guy was just talking about himself and haven’t asked them a single question.. and then he was shocked why the girl isn’t interested.. so something to also think about
@@DariaKropop well I don't really do that as the norm because most guys who know what they are doing understand that the less he talks the more she talks the better, but as the guy who has been on that side of the dynamic on occasion I can say; sometimes I talk about myself because if I didn't, no words would be said during the date, at all. Asking questions only takes you so far when you get uninterested shut down answers to all of them. And that was mostly my point in the original comment, that dating is a two player game, and if the woman shows no interest and doesn't participate in the interaction there's very little I as the man can do. And the reason she's uninterested is because, bluntly, I'm not good enough. She sees I'm only 5'11 and don't tower over her like a basketball player, she sees I have worked out only for 5 years and my shoulders aren't the width of a roided up bodybuilder, she sees I'm only a dude, and not a model. Whatever it is, before anything "bad" can even have happened during the date that could be blamed on me or my actions, she already has shut down and is uninterested in anything but her phone. Being normal or average just doesn't cut it anymore, which is certainly demoralizing when you're a romantic. There are so many great men in my circles that have just... given up, and remain by themselves, because they simply couldn't measure up. It's sad.
I'm 27F and have also n... oh ok, wait, I did have a brief 1 month relationship in like 10th grade now that I remember, haha... but apart from that, never been in a relationship, and never been on a date before. I related sooo much when you said like you feel something is fundamentally wrong with you even though you shouldn't feel like that. My problem is... I'm not even interested in dating. It seems bothersome to me to have to live with another person (I have a chronic GI illness, so it really is very bothersome), having to always entertain them and be present and socialize constantly (I'm an introvert), and I just... feel like you can't trust anyone nowadays. Even though I'm ok being alone, I'm not ok with how society makes me feel about it. It's WEIRD in other people's eyes. A "red flag". It's like something is fundamentally wrong with me. I have never even fallen in love with anyone before :/ But I think even if you are in your thirties and still don't have a relationship, I wouldn't worry if you are at least interested in it and going on dates. So there's always hope for you. But for me... I won't ever not be chronically ill, and I can't imagine myself actually falling in love with someone. The thought of going on a date fills me with dread. If I don't even want it, then what should I do....
I feel you, dating is horrible , when I hear someone saying that dating is so fun I’m shocked I hate it !!! It’s usually so awkward. Also the more I am on the internet the least I trust men so idk if there is hope for me haha
@@DariaKropop Haha true! When I meet people in real life though in natural circumstances, they often seem nice. Maybe we're just not into the very superficial way of doing things today? Maybe we should try just joining a class or social hobby to meet someone (if not partner, then friends)
I'm so glad I'm sapphic. I'm ace and trans, and my wife of 19 years is staying saying: "I love a person, not a gender". She is allo, and if she needs a man it's fine with me. We have a deep and intimate love that is not based on sex. I do not know if what we have is even possible in a cis-het relationship. Perhaps the problem is expecting all needs to be met in a single person.
Why? Your choices. It's impossible for a woman who wants to be in a relationship to not be in a relationship. The concept of INCEL does not apply to women. There is no way you've never had guys try to get with you. You've rejected them all. That's why. No matter how many words you use and how long you think circles around it.
Yes I’ve rejected them and I have been rejected as well. This is life. You need to find partner who is good FOR YOU . Not just someone who wants you … never settle
@@DariaKropop You do not get it. Settle is a term where two parties agree on a compromise that works for both sides. Therefor a relationship is always a (dynamic constantly evolving) settlement. The fact that women use "settle" in terms of "he is below me" is just an indication of how women overrate their worth (what do you bring to the table except your box) and that they do not think logically. Since women want a man who is above them in status it would always be the man that settles. If men wouldn't have "settled" for the last hundreds of thousands of years (millionaires marrying their secretaries, the barista, the gym girly, the flower lady, the maid, etc.pp.) humanity wouldn't exist anymore. And that's exactly what is happening now. Now women are the ones who decide if a relationship happens and guess what... birth rates are at the lowest point in human history. And at the same time they complain in videos on the internet to the public that they "can't find a good man". Women don't know who is good for them, we see this all the time. They share Chad thinking he is good for them, but he is just using their box and 17 other boxes at the same time. (And his behaviour is then extrapolated onto ALL men in more videos online.) Meanwhile Brian who is the colleague who helps you at work all the time and would be a great partner doesn't even register as a potential mate. (And when pointed to the fact that Brian wants them they'll say stupid shit like "Brian is TOO nice" because they do not even hear what they are saying.)
@ hahaha of course you are one of them. Settle means you accept something that is below your needs and expectations. Why should I be with someone who doesn’t make me happy ? I’d rather be alone …. For the first time in history women are actually able to chose, and guess what it looks like we are not settling for horrible men
@@DariaKropop Yes you are clearly happy. We can all see you laughing tears in the video. This "everyone deserves to be happy" is the next notion that feminism has lied to women about. Happiness is a temporary feeling in certain situations, not a constant thing. Our bodies are literally unable to keep us happy all the time, because happiness is just hormones being released, which our body can't produce 24/7. Being CONTENT is the goal to strive for in your life. And PLEASE learn the meaning of words. To settle: 1) resolve or reach an agreement 2) adopt a more steady or secure style of life, especially in a permanent job and home 3) sit or come to rest in a comfortable position None of these things are negative. In fact they are very desirable.
@@DariaKropop The exact opposite is true. great life, being overweight, with no one and having no Kids. On my Deathbed i will regret having a ton of Kids and wish i could life alone in a Nursing home.
women complaining about dating being hard just often seems so entitled to me. Yes, women don't have it all easy on dating too, they also get ghosted or creeped upon. Being bisexual I got to know that if you date men, there is a thing as safety concerns. BUT. You still get vastly more attention and CHANCES than 70 % of men. I'm 22 and have never had a gf. like, you would probably reject an inexperienced man of your age, even younger. and why do you complain about your matches not writing you? You can also write THEM, you know?
"the longer it gets, the weirder I get" totally felt that. I recently went on bumble not expecting much from an OLD app, but found someone I connect with so well. Its been 4 years since I dated due to my decision to focus on myself because I was a loser. But now I feel things are coming together and should put myself out there and it paid off. You'll find someone, and if they are a good match you will just know. Good luck and dont take dating too serious, if its meant to happen with a specific person it will.
The thing is i find everyone so ugly and boring on the apps haha but then in real life i can be attracted to almost anyone based on their personality haha
Hello Daria. I just now came across your channel.
I am a 40-something year old man, been in a few short term relationships, but never a proper long term relationship. I do not feel bad about. In fact, considering what a social outcast I am, I am a bit surprised I ever even landed one short term hook up / situationship.
Here is a longer version.
I was a latchkey key, I spent a lot of time by myself. My natural inclination then was to be introverted. I had a lot of freedom, but was never encouraged to develop social skills (Had to learn social skills as a late bloomer as an adult).
I never really dipped my toes into the dating world, until my mid - 20s. Before then I was clueless about how to talk to women. In my 20s, I rarely went on dates, and when I did, I spent half the date worrying "am I doing something stupid or socially unacceptable". ?
I eventually came to the realization, that I never wanted a relationship. Mostly, there was a lot of social pressure to date. When I was in my 20s, I felt like I was the "neighbor character" in someone else's romantic comedy movie. In that, people around me were giving dating advice, people talked about dating, and were wondering, who would end up dating who?
When I was in my mid 30s, I started reading Jung, focusing on self actualization and was considering a more "monk mode" life style. There was a group of guys I would have lunch with (mostly single men, just a group of social outcasts, some more desperate / lonely then others). One guy kept insisting I should hang out with one of the more lonely guys in the group. I get it, most people do not want to be alone. However, I was the more asocial one in the group. I thought, I am okay with being single I do not even need more male friends in my life.
I got tired of feeling like someone was trying to "set me up" on a date (I am attracted to women, and I have nothing against homosexuals). I would prefer to be single and I prefer to be alone then hang out with some random person I have nothing in common with. I cannot relate to people who give off a "desperate for a relationship energy".
Now, I am monk mode. Not because I need to prove anything, it just works for me.
Good for you that it works for you 😀
I love these vulnerable videos. i think they're so positive for humanity in today's age. Thank you.
I really appretiate your comment :) I am trying to create space like that on the internet
I agree with you, today’s videos are all like “look how awesome I am guys”.
And then you think of your life and feel miserable immediately afterwards.
So, yeah, we need more of videos like this.
You are brave for being so openly vulnerable. 🥰🥰🥰
Thank you so much 💞
@@DariaKropop Where in a hurry?
Children and parenting are GOD given, it is life fact.
The Bible has not been read to not know that there once lived a couple who had a son in their old age.
About being single:
1 Corinthians Chapter 7 KJV
32 But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord:
33 But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife.
34 There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.
35 And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction.
Only because she's a woman.
34 and same. I struggle with why God put me in this position and still learning to trust His plan for my life.
I’m not really religious but yeah
Same it’s a struggle. Like I barely done anything that are considered “terrible “ or “slooty” but those people that DO have men chasing them left and right and proposing and marrying them. I don’t get it
It’s like you’re being punished by God anyway even after attempting to do the “right” things.
Not everyone is meant to be with someone
@@alexcstasyare you serious girl
@@tumwesigyemoses-tu8wk It's the truth and it hurts.
My hat's off to you for sharing your story. I'm an 80s baby and never been married. This generation is at it's worst. Don't be discourage. God has someone out here for everyone
Something went really wrong with society
God has plenty of cats for her.
@@DariaKropop Morals and standards. The negativity has been heavily influenced on this Babylon culture
Or not😅
""God has someone out here for everyone""
Wich is not true. Lol.
Your videos are great, thanks for sharing your truth.
O wow that is so kind !! Thank you 💞
I'm 31 and I feel the same. But I'm not so brave! I've never been to a date and I don't feel I will. That's like... don't know. Not for me? It's easier to imagine that I'm a cosmonaut than I have a boyfriend. Thank you for sharing this with us! 🥰
I feel you, I barely go on dates , this one was first in such a long time and I also cancelled the second one haha
@@DariaKropop But you had the first date! That's cool, I think 😎🧡
So you're a virgin?
It's ok I will be the first one to be your date if it's ok with you
I have your same feelings and thoughts, Daria, so you're not the only one ! I'm 40 yrs old , and my longest relationship was only one when I was 18😑 sometimes I want to have a partner, but then I'm picky and I love so much my independence that it seems like I'm not ready to have someone else in my life ! I'm sure that when it will be the right time, it will bring the right person 😊 good like with your dating and your life 🌸
I feel you! It’s like we have been so independent our whole lives that it’s so hard to change it but to be honest I think being alone is much better than being with the wrong person
I’ve recently come across your videos and I really connect with your content.
I met my now husband at 26. He was my first relationship and now my only. 5 years later and we’re married with two children.
I literally thought all of the things that you’re talking about. I thought there was something wrong with me. I believed that I was destined to be the “cool single aunt.”
Looking back, I’m so happy that I didn’t allow any bullshit in my life. Even though it was extremely depressing and frustrating at times, I’m really happy I only accepted respect in my life. I spent years watching my friends date losers and deal with so much disrespect.
It’ll happen in time. Put yourself out there (not just dating apps…go out and about too). You’re beautiful, funny and sweet. Some man (not man-child because we do not allow bullshit!) will be very blessed to be with you!
aww thank you fir your kind words. i sadly was dating lot's of loosers and that never progressed anywhere so now i'm terrified of repeating that pattern so I'm not even really trying to meet anyone
There’s a lot of idiots out there. There’s also a lot of really amazing men out there that are worth your time. Use your intuition, let the dummies go quickly, and put your energy into the good ones! First sniff of crap…bye bye 😂🤪
Life is short! Try not to let some bad experiences hold you back from having some really amazing ones. I know it’s easier said than done, but I’ve been there. I thought I was going to be single forever and that changed.
@@jaimierou I believe there are good men out there but hearing all the stories it makes you worry
I'm 48 years old never married or had children or a partner
do you wish that could be different?
Are you serious come on you are missing girl
Congratz i'm 35 never talked to a girl it's not a problem but if you listen to people they will tell you it is a problem or will not believe it , a girl is not oxygen or water or food or home or even a job , on contrary it can bring you problems that make you miss the days when you were single. a girl can be like cigarettes make you addicted to her ,and lose your money and health over time , with the accumulating stress.
I feel exactly the same. I'm only 23 and I've also been in a few situationships, but I've never felt better when I was with someone than when I was alone.
very true ! being in a crappy situationship is worse than being alone
WE really appreciate how honest ypu are, we feel like we could be friends
Aww amazing!! I feel like all the people watching are my friends haha
It's better to be single than in a wrong relationship my Dear.
I say that from experience. Happy Valentines Day from a fellow single lady❤
Oh yeah I totally agree!!
Happy Valentines Day💞
Congrats, you saved yourself a lot of needless trouble and heart breaks, I'm telling you from experience it's not worth it, I regret my past I wish I had focused more on education and finances and that's exactly what I'm doing now !
Of course it’s better to be alone than in an unhappy relationship but if you’ve never been in one it makes you think..
@@DariaKropop hmm i understand, may be you can try bumble, honestly online dating is not that bad, I did meet a few very interesting people and had a good time too, sometimes we need to get out of our comfort zone and let people in
@@Ari_diwan I’m on the apps but no luck
@@DariaKropop but how? There are so many people on those apps!!
You are not a loser. I’m 36 and have never had a relationship that was long term. It just proves that we manifest life in a different way.
I honestly think it’s down to our limiting believes . Like we don’t believe this will get happen and then it doesn’t
Aw. I liked how honest you are. The problem is as women we’re taught from a young age to put men on a pedestal/that their opinions of us matter. We’re also taught that our own value is in our appearance. So when we don’t get attention from boys in school, we loose that sense of value for ourselves. You clearly don’t need someone in your life, however if you think a person would enrich your life then look for hobbies in your area. Make it something that would bring a benefit/enrich your life and see if there’s someone there that you think would add to your life. Dating apps are a nightmare, I have a friend going through the same thing. I’d also make a list, just a few bullet points of things you’ve liked about guys in the past, so you can know yourself and zone in on what you want. For me, it’s if I see a guy who’s kind to everyone, who’s been travelling (so I know they have a sense of adventure) 😂
You are right but also when you grow p and all of your friends are getting boyfriends etc and you don't you can't help but feel like there might be something wrong with you.
I have been in few situationships that made me feel even worse so I don't want to make taht mistake again
""You clearly don’t need someone in your life""
Here you see Individualism at its end. Needing no one is one of the biggest lies.
""The problem is as women we’re taught from a young age to put men on a pedestal/that their opinions of us matter.""
Ahh yes, thats what the Media is showing everyone out there.
And i mean, who dosent want a overweight Wife.
same. 30 and never been in a relationship. You can take a deep dive into how to meet people outside dating apps. I also don't like dating apps. I don't think many people are there for dating.
I am very awkward meeting guys irl as well so I need to work on that haha
What I will be your date if it's ok with y
Happy Valentine's Day Daria thanks for such an honest sharing. Do you think there is truth in the saying "we only accept the love we think we deserve"? I think you deserve a wonderful and securely attached relationship and I hope you can manifest it!
I think this is very true, I have so much inner work to do. Thank you 💞 and happy Valentine’s Day to you too!!
You’re special and you have standards! You have values and morals girl! There’s nothing wrong with you !! I was in the same position into my early 30s too:) I thought the same exact same thing about me too, but it will come when when you least expect it , that’s what happened to me ! Don’t wry , it will happen for you too. :)
I really cried for this guy but it never became serious. I only ever had situations and it’s so painful. I feel so low and I just feel like no one in my circle truly understands because they have had them. I have friends but my family is very tumultuous so I feel very unloved.
😭😭
There is more of us then you would imagine. You are not alone😘
Yes it’s so annoying trying to explain this to friends when they are all on their 5 relationship and 2nd engagement…
I know exactly how u feel
Nobody in my circle understand this either. I'd like to connect with people that have been through the same. We should create a group chat.
Hi Daria, I recently discovered your channel and I am here to stay! There is nothing fundamentally wrong with you. You are super charming and I am sure you can be a partner in a great relationship. Dating apps dont work for everyone (if for anyone at all) and with the age meeting new people gets harder. Having said that my unsolicited advice here: stop bullying youtself, just be the lovely woman you are, block the impolite idiots online and make sure you do not ignore the nice guys around you.
The right person will show up and you will feel it!
Sending you hugs ❤
Aww thank you so much, this is so sweet ❤️
I am 32, got only 2 dates and few chats with girls but never been in a relationship.
At best I had been friends with girls and only got girls attention from girls I didn’t like. In one of the 2 dates I had I was the one saying that I didn’t feel chemistry, while she was into me big time.
And even though I never got attention from girls I liked and always felt like girls were kind of mean to mean, I felt bad when saying no to this girl and felt like “I am not ready for this, saying no to a girl who is into me”. But in the end I preferred to say no rather than give her false hope or worse get in a relationship with the wrong person.
So, I totally feel you and I feel like something is wrong with me just because I have never been in a relationship.
I think it's all about luck that two people like each other at the same time
@@DariaKropop I am sure luck plays a big role but it's also about catching opportunities and not letting potential partners run away because you are too afraid to do the extra mile.
Anyway, it's very hard for me even to find someone interesting, with whom I have a special connection and that is still single, so I consider luck an important factor.
@@hellboy0189i don't get you. When you have been shown interest why do you think it's wrong with you
I don't think beign in a relationship in any way tells if you are good person or not to be fair
@@yashsinghal1023 If I get into a relationship with someone I already know I don't like, just because I don't want to be alone doesnt feel right, does it?
And that girl, to be honest, was kind of akward and I didn't want to be seen around with her, so I think I did the right thing not getting into a relationship with her and not even giving it a try.
Thankyou for being so honest! Really hope you find what you're looking for, keep trying!
thank you💞
I’ll be 35 in December and same exact sad situation. At this point I don’t think I even care anymore with the way the world is going.
Just one less person to mourn over when they’re dead and gone.
to be honest this is a good point haha
I'm turning 36 in Nov, and I've not been in a relationship too. From my early 20s I was robbed of my social life due to my chronic illness called Lupus, and my lupus has affected my kidneys and it's close to stage 5 CKD which can lead to kidney failure. I honestly feel a little sad cause I have no friends and I feel so lonely as well, but I try my best to look at the positive side of things. I have a loving family and I'm trying to come into terms that I may never be married or have children. Like It's not the end of the world :)
you never had a boyfriend?
It's good to know that this is not just happening to me
Can I take you for a date
I’m in your boat. I am 33 and never really been in a long term relationship myself either. I am on the autism spectrum, which is a large reason why I’ve never been in a LTR.
Don’t get me wrong I was in a relationship, but it was very brief and only lasted a couple of months.
Same !!! Just couple of months that never turned into anything serious
37 and still never been kissed. Still holding on to hope though that someday that will change. ❤
I’m sure it will. As stupid as it sounds we kinda need to put ourselves out there. I haven’t been on a date in months I am not really active on dating apps so how am I gonna meet someone haha
are you saying you're a woman who's never had a boyfriend? im asking Avid
a woman who is 37 and never had a boyfriend, never kissed a guy?
I'm 27 and i relate to this so hard. All of my friends are in relationships. Ive never been in one. I am okay with being single since i dont like the men i meet these days. I just dont find them fascinating. Im attracted to them physically but emotionally i don't feel anything. Im thinking of starting therapy.
Oh yeah I don't blame you I am the same, I ma on dating apps but those men don't know how to have a conversation.. crickets
Men are different emotionally. Most men find it extremely difficult to open up to women. It's because once they open up, everything they say will be used against them later on. Best thing you can do is give it some time once you like a man.
I feel you. I’m 26 and never had a boyfriend before. All my friends are in relationships and then there’s me lmfaooo 😭
@@labi2999 As I said. Hit the gym. Get contact lenses. Fix your hair. Buy better clothes once you lost that weight.
@Billy-the-Kid why? That doesn't make men more interesting 😂
Omg… your video touched me so much… you are not alone ❤ also never been in a long term relationship and feel the same way as you.
Heey welcome to the club ❤️
Really girl
Awwww, Daria! You have so many relationships, though. Friendships, family bonds, colleagues, online friends, etc. You're not a loser! The dating world is crazy, to be honest. There's nothing wrong with the single life, and relationships are romanticized often. You deserve to spend time with anyone who sees you for you and appreciates you to the fullest. You're great! ❤ Greetings from the Netherlands
Thank you ❤️ I am lucky I have a lot of platonic love in my life so I’m not really lonely and I’m happy with my life .
Greetings from London 💞
I have been married for three years now, and I met my husband on a dating app. I believe it is a rare thing 😅 He is a super nice guy, very supportive, smart, and kind. He became a cat dad because I couldn't imagine my life without cats. However, I also know many beautiful and intelligent women in their 30s (or around that age) who are single and feel uneasy about dating. So you are definitely not alone in this. ❤
I find it so hard to be attracted to anyone on dating apps and in real life I'm attracted to a lot of guys so that's difficult also
@@DariaKropop We're all different. Some of us have our 'type' in people, but for others who have no preferences like blue eyes, etc., I think it is important to give a chance to people who may not have attractive appearances for you. There is a chance you can fall in love with their personality. And then you will love everything about them. Anyway, it's probably just a math - the more people you meet the better chance to find the better match (if it is a goal) 😁
@@polinacozyWell said.
You're no loser. The biggest losers I know IRL are ones who took anything that came along. Because they felt the pressure of forgoing the tag of "taken." My childhood best friend dated a collection of psychopaths who has 5 children amongst 4 of them. I've got a female coworker who ended a relationship with the third f-boy who cheated on her and is now on her fourth. These are sadly the most miserable people I know. I haven't dated in about 6 years as I took time to work on myself and sort out stuff that's been swirling in my head for years. There's nothing wrong with stepping lightly in the dating world and being honest and steadfast over what you want and don't want.
True, a lot of people are in relationships only because they are afraid to be alone.
You are so brave for sharing, thanks
Thank you 🥰
You just need good friends, men are not generally even good to women. But you do need connection, companionship, laughter, a shoulder to lean on, etc. Just keep good friends and don't fall out of touch once you've made them.
I have a lot of friends but this is not the same, two different types of love
@@DariaKropop You're right it's different, one kind is more important than the other. There's a reason abusive partners set about isolating their love interest from the friends they have.
WHAT?? -> men are not generally even good to women
I'm 28 years old man and I never had sex in my life ! I had a relationship with an Albanian girl for 2 years (I don't regret it), 7 years after I still single and don't plan to go on app for dating. My brother 30y/o tried and it was really to hard because he got no answer when he texted a woman so he dropped quickly... I prefer meeting people in real life , it feels more natural and you have more possibilities. Good luck for the future!
it's hard out there, good luck to you too :)
Well “sex” shouldn’t be your motivation for getting a date. You will come off as a creep to women if you are trying to date if you’re only looking to masturbate with their bodies…
How do you not have sex after 2 years?
Gosh I clicked on it to have something to listen while doing chores but I was so pleasantly surprised! I loved the video. More REAL yapping I’m begging 🙏
Aww thank you 🙏 super happy to be apart of your chores
I feel im watching a potential future version of myself. I also get the feeling that since never having received attention from men, if I ever do I will be grossed out/digusted by it.
haha i feel ya
Dating apps absolutely suck.
Also, you can't say for sure that you've "never been loved", because maybe someone was in love with you at some point, but they just didn't tell them.
Oh that doesn’t count because I didn’t know 😂
I'm 42 and have never been in a relationship. The older I get, the less I care and the more undesirable I probably get. You just have to focus on yourself and work on your own happiness, which I'm sure you know. Sometimes it feels like some of us are just not relationship material. Some are just very late bloomers.
It’s strange how many of us there but yet we all feel like we are the only ones right?
The men in these comments make me reconsider relationships altogether
Right?? Hahaha they are literally proving my point 💀
I love your open honesty. Lovely sweet soul❤ xx
Aww thank you ❤️
Hi Daria. Im a 31 year old woman who has never been in a relationship either and lets just say i share 100% of all the feelings you felt in this video and I feel so seen and heard to know that I am not the only one feelinf this way. I've been on and off on dating apps, going on very few dates. Not interested in the ones who showed a sliver of interest in me during these dates. And just never feeling anything romantic for anyone no matter how hard I try. Now I'm back on the apps but I'm just so tired. I dont have the energy to go through terrible conversations and terrible profiles. Why can't I meet someone that I can share mutual interest with? Why are all my friends going back into relationships like it's a walk in the park and meanwhile for people like us, its rocket science?? I ask myself everyday if there's something fundamentally wrong with me too. But just from watching this video, I can tell you are a lovely woman and there's nothing wrong with you. Sometimes it just hasn't happened for us yet...
There are so many women like us, I think people are just ashamed to talk about it . I am just like you and I’d rather be alone than to settle , being alone is far from being the worst thing that could happen to a woman !!
@DariaKropop you are right! It really is better to be alone than to settle for anything less 👍
There's nothing wrong with never having been in a relationship. Lots of people have a partner and/ or kids and they're miserable.
Love, and life in general, is not like in the movies. The perfect match is a fairytale because nobody is perfect. There is no formula to finding someone. It usually happens unexpectedly.
The more you hyperfocus on finding someone, the more in your head you'll be and the more complicated it will get for you and potential partners.
I'm a 29 y/o "objectively attractive" male who has never had a relationship. Understanding that I can life a full, rich life focussing on myself and that it was others who either forced themselves on me or made me feel shame for being single, truly ignited a sense of freedom in me. Women are not sex objects, they aren't trophies you get to display proudly to everyone. Same goes for men.
Being in a relationship CAN be nice because you're less lonely and can have sex with your partner, but it's nothing worth losing your mind (or life) over.
I am happy with my life and generally don't think I need to be ina relationship to enjoy life but... when everyone your age has been in few already it makes you wonder
Situationships😂😂😂I love your sense of humor...you are not weird at all, more than an authentic and thats a great😍😍🙌🙌❤️
haha thank you :) I am just trying to be me
It was 24 hours ago; how has your date gone, Daira? I hope we can get good news!
He is very nice but i think there is no spark
Not alone, and there are many of us even older in the same position. Just how it rolls I guess. I think so long as you don’t let it eat you and remember your worth and your right to be a happy and valued person, it’s fine. There is so much negativity out there and cruelty, someone will always have some means comments to make.
I’m honestly quite happy being single but i think it’s kinda unique situation to be in
being single was never been a problem . there were many legends who passed away and never got married . im 35 i never dated and i feel more comfortable when i am alone , no one will understand you better than yourself , at worst case if i had a problem and i feel alone i would sit and talk with myself. and i say we is like i am two.
Haha so true , you gotta be your own best friend
21 turning 22 and I have never been in a relationship, no one has ever showed interest in me I’m not surprised tho because I am ugly and I know physical attraction is important for a relationship. Hopefully some time in the near future Someone will be interested in me.
I'm sure you are not ugly, even if you are there are some ways to make it better
I am in similar situation. I rarely have interest in guys (I am visual and need a partner who I will be physicaly attracted to), but if I like someone they don't like me. At the same time I feel comfortable to be alone, so no stimulus to search a partner. Plus a bunch of mental health issues. Plus negative expiriences with men.
I think it’s so rare to have mutual attraction!
i am a guy and i can relate...and also i feel the same way,it just never get out of our head and is a part of us...
like i don't think about it on a daily basis because I'm happy with my life but sometimes i start to wonder..
I am 33F. I can definitely identify with you. Have been on a few dates but never been in a relationship. Out of the very few guys who liked me I wasn't attracted to them or we had no spark. I also had a lot of negative dating experiences with men constantly messing around and using me for just a chat. So I have given up for now. I feel more sane alone to be honest.😂
I think this is what a lot of us experience with modern dating. Everyone is just flaky and uses you for instant gratification. I’d rather be in my own peace ✌️
totally relatable as 31 year old guy i have never been on a date or in a relationship lol i have put my self out there through speed dating/singles events and have on the rare occasion expressed my interest to ladies but never reciprocated lol looking back i think some women were trying to show interest but at the time i wasn't aware they were doing that there is a manual on the things nor is there a manual on how to approach women either i feel they should teach this in school how to ask a lady out of a date and or how to know when a lady is interested in you haha i feel like though singles events are therway forward speed dating and other singles events.i have been on the apps i guess my profile has never appealed to anyone and so i never get matches or likes pretty depressing but at the same time out and about i will get checked out by women sometimes... or maybe i just have big booger on my nose lol
yeah it difficult.
Men are horrible with dating apps tho, I see it all the time, zero effort put in the bio, very bad blurry pictures ( in 2024 seriously?) with weird angles that you can see inside their nostrils haha also for some reason they stick with weird shape facial hairs and bad haircuts. better grooming, nicer pics and I think tehy could do so much better on there . Just my honest opinion after being on the apps for years
@@DariaKropopsorry but how can you still "judge" men about their facial hair or hair styles? I guess some women haven't seen mirror and will never learn even after years of beeing single. Most people are bad looking and can't change that. But from this comment there is 0 inner beauty.
Hey Daria, I just saw your video. I'd love to know how your date went and if there are any updates!
The date went well but didn’t feel the spark at all
@DariaKropop That's too bad. Don't give up! Remember that for the wrong to exist, there must also be the right.
Im really sorry this is happening to you ma'am ❤😢
thank you :) it's all good tho
I've had bad relationships so who is the bigger loser?
I guess it’s better to be alone than unhappy with someone but that still makes you question everything
Just wanted to pop in to say that I am very very similar but I don’t think it’s manifestation or even anything bad, really. The fact that you don’t think about your singleness very often or even in a negative way necessarily is what contributes to doing less to date, doing less to get romantic attention, staying home more, doing hobbies, etc. I am the exactttt same way and while I do love rom coms, I’m also content with myself so idk how to fix things lolll
I think I am so convinced I will be single forever that I don't even try :P
I understand... I'm okay with being by myself but of course it's very odd that as a 35-year-old woman I have never been asked out and was always rejected when I did the asking. 😅😅😅
It’s a bit discouraging right ?
42F and SAAAAME
Congratulations 🎉🎉
Hah thanks
Jesus, like I was listeni g to my head! Just bumped into your channel, so hello sister, here I am, 34 yo and with the same thoughts and problems as you🎉
Twins !!👯
Puff, I'm 40 AND never went to a date. I'm an wizard now
I hate going on first dates to be honest, i find it super awkward
I'm going to assume you're a guy
@@nobodysperfect06 i am used to, is not woth it, now im myself and all i care is wizardy stuf jajaja
I'm 40 never been in a relationship
im going to assume your a guy, male.
@@initiatorhater0688 yeah I'm a man
Welcome to our club
I am also single and i think you are a very amazing human more than many people 😊
Aww thank you 🙏
im 33 yr guy and never had a relationship.
Welcome to the club
32, felt almost every single word, definitely not the only one.
Welcome to the club !!
I have no idea
I'm 43 and I've still not met a guy that's right
Either he likes me and I have zero attraction
Or I like him but he's not interested
I got close to building something w a guy in 2019 from work and he ended up getting fired and so he turned around and fired me from his life, so out friendship ended just like that
It's so confusing out there and I have no idea why good things either don't happen or why I attract much older men. I don't know.
Oh that sucks about the guys . I hope you will meet someone ❤️
Do you want the honest truth? You don't really want to be vulnerable. It's the most and difficult feeling. Also please check and heal if you have childhood trauma. It's enough to not feel heard as a child. So we choose unconsciously the unavailable guys. And the good guys there is no spark but the spark it's a trauma response. Have you ever give a guy a chance who has all your values in common and you find somehow attractive but the spark wasn't there a second chance? If not please try it. That's how I found love.
I'm a 27yo woman and I've never been in a relationship and probably will stay like this. Just had like one kiss when I was in Uni because I thought that was the stuff I was supposed to be doing as a new adult. Didn't really feel attracted to him and he was also a cheater. In my life, I've been physically attracted to different types of men, so I'm not really chasing a Chad like all men like to think about lonely women and I've been rejected once so I can say, I've tried being the one asking out.
In my case, I don't trust people easily, especially men. I'm afraid of most of them and how porn-fried their brains have gotten with social media and internet. Cheating is so easy now and perversions are rampant. I don't think we're missing much.
Yeah men thing we are single because we just chase the hottest guys , nope we are not like them haha
You are not a loser. You are doing so good by making yourself go on the date..im the same way. Never dated since high school, mix one almost relationship in college with an evil person and you've got me who is traumatized/wanting to be single for a long time. I'm 30 now and I came to your video because i finally met someone who I like and it's scary stuff, I don't even know how to act. We haven't gone on an official date but I just feel like im too close to comfort being alone vs having to worry about the pain with not being enough for someone else.
I can already imagine the pain if this doesn't work out, and I am scared to invest more into it. Being single is so much easier. But I am trying to force myself to take a risk with my heart again. Sending you luck and love.
Just take it easy ! Don’t put your eggs in one basket especially at the beginning because you will get attached to quickly. Also I think it’s worth to try if you like this person :)
Please make baby steps towards each other and wait with intimacy until you trust the person. And also do some self reflection why you don't feel good enough? I have been there too and it hurts to find out that as cheesy as it sounds to finally love myself. Men doesn't notice me until I was in my early 30s. I was very overweight in my teens. Then loose some weight but never really skinny and sooo shy. My reason for all my problems was my childhood and also my issue with men and relationships. Today I'm happy married with almost 40 and I wish I could go back and help my younger self. I couldn't helped me but maybe you a little bit 😉
Don't worry, our society wont last for too long. Nature will fix everything.
Weird statement
@@DariaKropop Really? Does it look like i'm wrong?
As a male at 34 yo I feel you never been in a relationship or been with a woman! don’t know why I try anymore I don’t want to come out to people in fear of the ridicule or laughter if u want to chat I’m open
We are at that age that I don’t think anyone is gonna laugh at you :) good luck !!
My daughter is 32 and never been in a relationship at all. She is saving herself for her hubsand because my wife and i raised her to date to marry instead of dating just to date and not be lonely. I was only 20 and my wife was 19 when we had her back in 92 then i had my son in 95 then my son in 2000 and my daughter in 2003. Had my twins last year in our early 50s.
I’d rather just date few people that just settle down with the first one I meet but everyone is different
You are brave to post this video. It's not easy when society makes you feel like you are nothing without a partner. I don't think nothing is wrong with you. Some people are fine with being alone.
Thanks :) I am fine being alone just sometimes the thoughts come
I've no idea why you haven't dated much, you seem interesting and funny. I'm sure the right person for you can't be far off.
thanks, i guess i'm just not lucky haha
Absolutely shocked by the number of people that cheat on their partners or shall I say not proper relationship.
Yes !! It’s so disheartening
I'm turning 26 and I am waiting till marriage. I find it difficult to find guys who have the same morals as I do. But I would rather be single than to settle.
Yeah I think it’s quite rare to have those believes, as much as I don’t agree with them I’m sure there are other people like you , maybe try religious sites ?
Just Be Honest With Yourself & Don't Lie To Your Conscience. I'll Be 35 This Year, And I Realized That Us As Humans Were Always Taught That We Have All The Time In The World By Society, But We Don't. Just Use The Time You Have Left & Take Heed To Re-Prioritizing Your Life & Purposes While Finding Out What You Want To Do Vs. Where You Need To Be. 💯
Life is long but also short
@@DariaKropopParadox. 💯
I'm the same. Never been in a relationship, never could even imagine myself in one and kinda felt weird when men would treat me in that way. I also had the same thing of being attracted to personality mainly. Well for me turns out I'm actually a lesbian and that's why it was hard for me, although my chances are even more slim now at least I can now connect properly/actually want to be with that person
I always thought being lesbian would be so much easier. Are you telling it isn't? world shattered ;/
@@DariaKropop 😂 the dating pool is way smaller that's why it's harder. Of course issues can still exist just like any other types of couples but I guess being the same gender can make some things easier
I am of the opinion that I have nothing to offer a relationship. I am invisible to men and always have been, mid 40s, now overweight woman, never had a shred of self-esteem, not attractive and what looks I had are fading with age. Honestly if it hasn't happened by now it never will. Not everyone gets a happy ending.
I’m sure you have a lot to offer !!
are you saying you never had a boyfriend?
Never had a boyfriend or even a passing glance
Ur not missing anything
haha maybe
26 F and neurotic. My imagination is all I have. It's a slowing suffering of intimacy deprivation.
Haha same !
Unrealistic expectations. You said there was no attraction, and you find every guy ugly, no matter how kind and considerate. As a very romantic, pretty decent looking guy I can say I've matched with a handful of women who all things considered seemed very similar to you, and who (and there's no way to put this delicately so I'll just say it) were *definitely* not "out of my league", we still always had the same problem. No matter how well I played my cards during the date, no matter how well I did, there was rarely any "chemistry" and it always seems like the woman was uninterested to be on the date. Dating is a two player game, it doesn't matter if I as the guy do 100% of the heavy lifting if in the end the woman doesn't even emotionally participate during the process.
I find them ugly based on their profiles, that’s why I don’t like online dating. If a man is charming and funny I will find him attractive in real life mostly no matter how he looks like. And that goes for most of the girls I know. Also maybe you are not doing on the dates as well as you think .. most of the girls I know have experience when they were on a date and the guy was just talking about himself and haven’t asked them a single question.. and then he was shocked why the girl isn’t interested.. so something to also think about
@@DariaKropop well I don't really do that as the norm because most guys who know what they are doing understand that the less he talks the more she talks the better, but as the guy who has been on that side of the dynamic on occasion I can say; sometimes I talk about myself because if I didn't, no words would be said during the date, at all. Asking questions only takes you so far when you get uninterested shut down answers to all of them. And that was mostly my point in the original comment, that dating is a two player game, and if the woman shows no interest and doesn't participate in the interaction there's very little I as the man can do.
And the reason she's uninterested is because, bluntly, I'm not good enough. She sees I'm only 5'11 and don't tower over her like a basketball player, she sees I have worked out only for 5 years and my shoulders aren't the width of a roided up bodybuilder, she sees I'm only a dude, and not a model. Whatever it is, before anything "bad" can even have happened during the date that could be blamed on me or my actions, she already has shut down and is uninterested in anything but her phone. Being normal or average just doesn't cut it anymore, which is certainly demoralizing when you're a romantic. There are so many great men in my circles that have just... given up, and remain by themselves, because they simply couldn't measure up. It's sad.
You are Beautiful and Amazing 🫰
aww thank you :)
omg, girl. same
We are not alone ❤️
This is so random but has anyone ever told you you look like Alicia Silverstone? Because honest to god I can't stop seeing the resemblance!
Hahaha no never, I usually get Adele
Would you accept to be a girlfriend with a Saudi person ?
Depends if I like the person
@@DariaKropop I hope meet you in London I will be there in 10 days 😍 if you would
You are so cute ❤❤❤
thank you :)
Because I don’t want one. Duh?
A relationship?
@@DariaKropop Yes you are correct. I’m not after something real.
@@benhulme2863 good for you :)
@@DariaKropop Hahaha.
I love your German accent 😊
it's polish :P
Ah my mistake Daria. It seems I am very uneducated regarding European accents haha. Pakistani-American here by the way.@@DariaKropop
I'm 27F and have also n... oh ok, wait, I did have a brief 1 month relationship in like 10th grade now that I remember, haha... but apart from that, never been in a relationship, and never been on a date before. I related sooo much when you said like you feel something is fundamentally wrong with you even though you shouldn't feel like that. My problem is... I'm not even interested in dating. It seems bothersome to me to have to live with another person (I have a chronic GI illness, so it really is very bothersome), having to always entertain them and be present and socialize constantly (I'm an introvert), and I just... feel like you can't trust anyone nowadays. Even though I'm ok being alone, I'm not ok with how society makes me feel about it. It's WEIRD in other people's eyes. A "red flag". It's like something is fundamentally wrong with me. I have never even fallen in love with anyone before :/ But I think even if you are in your thirties and still don't have a relationship, I wouldn't worry if you are at least interested in it and going on dates. So there's always hope for you. But for me... I won't ever not be chronically ill, and I can't imagine myself actually falling in love with someone. The thought of going on a date fills me with dread. If I don't even want it, then what should I do....
I feel you, dating is horrible , when I hear someone saying that dating is so fun I’m shocked I hate it !!! It’s usually so awkward. Also the more I am on the internet the least I trust men so idk if there is hope for me haha
@@DariaKropop Haha true! When I meet people in real life though in natural circumstances, they often seem nice. Maybe we're just not into the very superficial way of doing things today? Maybe we should try just joining a class or social hobby to meet someone (if not partner, then friends)
@@rigelr5345running clubs are the new dating apps but I’m not a runner 😂
@@DariaKropop Hahahah 😂😂 Maybe Dungeons & Dragons, I'm sure you'll find a lot of guys there 😉😂
You so beautiful
Thank you 🙃
Relationships are overrated and stressful in my opinion, that's just me though.
Maybe when it’s a good one it’s worth it but it’s so rare
@@DariaKropop Yeah, I agree.
same
✋
I'm so glad I'm sapphic. I'm ace and trans, and my wife of 19 years is staying saying: "I love a person, not a gender". She is allo, and if she needs a man it's fine with me. We have a deep and intimate love that is not based on sex. I do not know if what we have is even possible in a cis-het relationship. Perhaps the problem is expecting all needs to be met in a single person.
I think human experience is just complicated haha
Better to be single then a cheat or perhaps a Christian dating site.
Haha preach !!
Im 27 im ugly... grew up with crazy strict religious parents
I’m sure you’re not ugly
i like your accent and btw you are beautiful
aww thank you :)
Why? Your choices. It's impossible for a woman who wants to be in a relationship to not be in a relationship. The concept of INCEL does not apply to women. There is no way you've never had guys try to get with you. You've rejected them all. That's why. No matter how many words you use and how long you think circles around it.
Yes I’ve rejected them and I have been rejected as well. This is life. You need to find partner who is good FOR YOU . Not just someone who wants you … never settle
@@DariaKropop You do not get it. Settle is a term where two parties agree on a compromise that works for both sides. Therefor a relationship is always a (dynamic constantly evolving) settlement.
The fact that women use "settle" in terms of "he is below me" is just an indication of how women overrate their worth (what do you bring to the table except your box) and that they do not think logically. Since women want a man who is above them in status it would always be the man that settles.
If men wouldn't have "settled" for the last hundreds of thousands of years (millionaires marrying their secretaries, the barista, the gym girly, the flower lady, the maid, etc.pp.) humanity wouldn't exist anymore.
And that's exactly what is happening now. Now women are the ones who decide if a relationship happens and guess what... birth rates are at the lowest point in human history.
And at the same time they complain in videos on the internet to the public that they "can't find a good man".
Women don't know who is good for them, we see this all the time. They share Chad thinking he is good for them, but he is just using their box and 17 other boxes at the same time. (And his behaviour is then extrapolated onto ALL men in more videos online.) Meanwhile Brian who is the colleague who helps you at work all the time and would be a great partner doesn't even register as a potential mate. (And when pointed to the fact that Brian wants them they'll say stupid shit like "Brian is TOO nice" because they do not even hear what they are saying.)
@ hahaha of course you are one of them. Settle means you accept something that is below your needs and expectations. Why should I be with someone who doesn’t make me happy ? I’d rather be alone …. For the first time in history women are actually able to chose, and guess what it looks like we are not settling for horrible men
@ and women want nice guys , that’s all we want but the guys who say are nice are not actually nice !!! Hope this helps
@@DariaKropop Yes you are clearly happy. We can all see you laughing tears in the video.
This "everyone deserves to be happy" is the next notion that feminism has lied to women about.
Happiness is a temporary feeling in certain situations, not a constant thing. Our bodies are literally unable to keep us happy all the time, because happiness is just hormones being released, which our body can't produce 24/7. Being CONTENT is the goal to strive for in your life.
And PLEASE learn the meaning of words.
To settle:
1) resolve or reach an agreement
2) adopt a more steady or secure style of life, especially in a permanent job and home
3) sit or come to rest in a comfortable position
None of these things are negative. In fact they are very desirable.
Hey Daria, i think youre great. I see many men are trigerred in the comments, dont listen.
Thank you ❤️ according to studies unmarried women are the happiest so those men are just pressed haha
@@DariaKropop The exact opposite is true.
great life, being overweight, with no one and having no Kids. On my Deathbed i will regret having a ton of Kids and wish i could life alone in a Nursing home.
you have a Russian German name
Not really my first and last name is quite Easter European
Well i know what to fix here but if i say something people will get offended so.....
what?
women complaining about dating being hard just often seems so entitled to me. Yes, women don't have it all easy on dating too, they also get ghosted or creeped upon. Being bisexual I got to know that if you date men, there is a thing as safety concerns.
BUT. You still get vastly more attention and CHANCES than 70 % of men. I'm 22 and have never had a gf. like, you would probably reject an inexperienced man of your age, even younger. and why do you complain about your matches not writing you? You can also write THEM, you know?
Attention is not what I really want haha also on bumble woman had to message first and guess what women in London barely reply and it’s not just me ,m