The older I get, the more I see through how dumb romanticism is. It’s something we make up in our heads to justify the shallowness of just wanting to be with someone out of sexual desire, IMO. Then we say oh it’s about companionship. Well, if companionship was the main reason then we’d be content with just having guy friends. So sure we want companionship from the opposite sex, but that’s secondary to sex or kids for most men. I think a lot of men ain’t honest about it. But aside from natural sexual desire, I don’t have any desire to be with or live with woman. I value my space and time way more. It would be annoying having some woman take up my space, honestly. And I don’t care what any man says, you can never truly be yourself around women. You have to always maintain some kind of frame if you want to keep her attracted to you long term. So there are always the games. It’s just a headache to maintain relationships. Some men think it’s worth the games and headache and that’s good for them, but not for me. I think if most men were honest, if they had no sexual desire, they’d find most women annoying to be around insofar as the awful qualifies many modern women today have and if their guy friends had those awful qualities they’d unfriend them immediately. But men make concessions to put up with it only because of their lust.
@@TruthsSake That just shows that people date, enter relationships and get married for selfish, narcissistic and egotistical reasons. Men want women as housemaids while women want men as ATMS. Can ANYONE list an unselfish reason to date, enter a relationship and get married??? Honestly, I CAN'T see one in my horizon.
Finally someone else said it. I see no purpose of being in a relationship. I can have sex while single so I see no point of being in one. A woman is a liability and I already have enough on my plate. If sex didn't exist most ppl wouldn't even have gotten with their significant other in the first place. They just won't admit it.
The way the world is makes it easy to not regret starting a family, I’m 34 and made the decision after a 12 year relationship that it’s just not for me. Only time I feel truly at peace is when nobody is around
I'm 47, own my home paid in full, no debt, never married, no kids. I look much younger than I am because a wife and kids have not aged me. Life is great.
@@jonkas4542 Congratulations and good for you, I am glad you realized that. You don't need a spouse/lover and children to feel complete and fulfilled. I salute you for this.
In my 20s I just wanted to meet someone and live together. Never happened because I didn't want that person to be just anyone. Now I'm 56 and it's the LAST thing I want!!! I'd just find it so suffocating
I'm a 64 year old male. I love living on my own. I like doing my own thing when i want. I'm not waiting on anyone and no one is waiting on me. I'm alone but not lonely.
@jessicab331 normalise what. Relationships are not for everyone. Humanity as a whole cannot conform to this, so there's nothing to be worried about. This lifestyle is only for some, and I thank the universe I live in times where I have this choice.
@@gillbenjamin47 romantic relationships maybe not… but humans aren’t meant to be alone… it’s not normal… and all this social media shii is giving ppl a false since of community.
@jessicab331 It's not normal for many, but life runs a course that no one can predict. There are many reasons why people may end up alone. It's NOT for everyone, and you are right, many are probably jumping on the bandwagon like fools, that's why one has to know thyself and be true.to oneself ALWAYS.
I’m 54 and have been married, divorced twice, and been in relationships thereafter. I thought the only way I would be happy was to be in a relationship. Since 2020 I have been single and the happiest in my entire life!☺
Almost a mirrored experience of me😊. I'm happier not having to deal with the personalities of someone else, only mine. People are full of drama, and their drama has a way of making the life of someone else miserable. 👏🏾👏🏾
@luckystar8590 - it takes a while to get to "happy" as a single person, but it can happen. I'm working toward that and really want to achieve contentment on my own. Congrats.
I feel lonely when I'm around people, I feel perfect when I'm alone. My alone time is super valued, when I'm forced to be around people because the circumstances call for it, my pervasive thought says; "I wonder how soon I can get back home to be by myself?" Your not the only fella that loves being alone.
i put myself into social situations such as bars and family gatherings to experience the rejection they express to those who are alone- the rejection builds more resilence in me to accept that i will not be with anyone at anytime- my best friend from childhood died last month, he shunned his real friends to pursue some kind of fame for his art with hipsters instead of accepting my offers to connect again with him- he chained smoked himself to death over failed tinder dates that he would only call me to complain in detail about- i offered him hospitality but he viewed me as inferior for not pursuing women, he was a great artist who got all his money he made from his art taken away in 2 failed marriages- i told him for 2 years to stop wearing bow ties and stop giving away a boquet of roses after writing a poem to these tinder dates he was into- those women totally took him for the clown he dressed as- silk vest, boe tie, expensive shoes, and roses and a poem on a first tinder date. he's dead now and did not listen to any of my advice because "that's just the kind of guy i am"- he never invited me to one of his art shows in new york and paris because he said i dress in an uncouth fashion
Right there with you. 55, single, no kids, never wanted kids. Enjoy being alone, but not opposed to dating if it happens. Definitely not proactive though. I went into a life of minimalism around 20 years ago. Got rid of my car 15 years ago, bought a studio apartment in a CO-OP, no consumer debt at all, just a few more years of mortgage. I work for myself, don't earn much, and don't need much. Less is more. As I've aged I've come to realize friendship is more important to me than romance, etc. I avoid stress like the plague.
@spiritsanddecibels - That's exactly my mindset...I'm single and now I'm trying, as I write this, to live the life of a minimalist. I already got rid of my car several years ago, but I still have some more things I need to rid myself of...it's a process, but I hope achieve your lifestyle by early next year.
Wow. I am a 28 years old woman, and I’ve silently made the decision to spend my life alone on purpose. My life has been surrounded by broken relationships. If you asked me to name three successful marriages or relationships in my life, I’d probably couldn’t, but I could name a hundred bad ones. I’m currently going through a breakup, and even though I’m grateful for the experience I’m realizing that most of us don’t even get to experience a relationship with ourselves first. It’s truly a bittersweet moment for me because even though I am sad, I’m excited to be alone! I have big plans for my future, and I’m so happy that I get to fall in love with me every day, all day.
Same, i'm in my 50s and 25years ago I felt depressed as I watched friends and family find lover's and become parents. I started to wonder what was wrong with me, it was a real mind fu*k at the time, nearly destroyed me. Now I'm older, wiser and set in my way's I've surpassed the desire for needing a woman in my life. I still notice beautiful women but I also notice their manipulative way's and I've no time for that nonsense. I'm content, fit and organised.
People think I am weird I want to be single, no kids and live alone. I like it like this. No one bothers you and all the money you make goes only to you.
I'm 39 and don't want kids or a marriage, been single for years. Sometimes I think I'd like to have someone around but ultimately I prefer to be alone too. It's refreshing to know I'm not the only one
It’s not for everyone! I’m 50, married 3X & no kids. Divorced 12yrs now & ❤ living alone. As an only child, I’m more comfortable alone & was uncomfortable/unhappy trying to achieve status quo (ie marriage/kids)
There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. I don’t think every entire person in the world needs to be married and/or have children, especially if they don’t want to; we all have different goals and desires- it’s good to share these thoughts so some people don’t feel alone in those wants👍
Ah ha, a well stated and brief video. Great job! I had a 40+ year marriage that ended in divorce 7 years ago at age 68. Just grew in different directions and were no longer happy together. Only in the past 2 years have I come to enjoy living alone. Peaceful, much less drama, no need for permission from anyone. Have learned that being alone does not = loneliness for me as a man. It's very freeing. Thank you.
WOW! Thank you for this. PLEASE do another video on this topic. So refreshing to hear someone else with the same opinion as me!!!! I'm 56 and have always lived alone, never had a partner and don't even look for one! It just doesn't enter my head. I'm happiest when I'm by myself. People drain me. I don't feel lonely at all. I suppose I'm lucky enough to know a lot of people who I could call to meet up with, but I prefer being by myself. I don't have kids and never wanted any. I don't think I've ever heard another UK guy who feels the same as I do! ❤
i have just turned 40 and single and alone and love it, love being by myself, doing the things i enjoy and spending time with my dog, people are just hard work, cruel, very rude these days and just not nice to be around, love people lie you and many others who are doing what they want for themselve!
As a divorced guy (my divorce was 31 years ago) with no kids and have been living alone ever since (although I do and have dated) I'll say this. DON'T CHANGE A THING. You're living most mens' dream. I'm DEAD serious. You'll find yourself with LOTS of money and LOTS of peace. I'm serious when I say I'd bet the majority of men would switch with you in a heartbeat. The older you get, the more you'll see you are in a great place.
I've had my share of relationships & female fun pre-40, but never wanted children or to be married & decided to go solo 40+ & do my own thing. Age 59 now. No regrets. Already retired & financially secure (retired in my early 50's). Plenty of hobbies, interests & rescue animals/charities to keep me busy & engaged.
I started to feel this way at about 25 years of age. I had already been in a couple of relationships and had a son. After reaching 30 without being in another real relationship people started to ask why was I staying single. I had no real answer other than I liked being single and not having to answer to anyone else. I want to cook when I want to cook, go out when I want to go out, stay up to 3am when I felt like it. I never yearned for companionship or felt lonely. I never needed a companion to go to the places I wanted to visit. I am 50 years old and still feel the same way. My son seems to be just like me....a happy loner. I don't apologize for it.
"A happy loner" is a great term, i also realized years ago that i'm an Introvert, took me a while to accept it but now i'm cool about it, especially since i found out loads of famous people are introverts (Keanu Reeves for one), i've even told people close to me i'm an introvert, takes me a while to get used to new people in my life.
After a while many of us realize the reality of companionship never quite lives up to the idea of companionship. Wmn always want to be excited/entertained/impressed. Friends drift away so often. Sometimes it's better to just stop relying on others to be there and avoid the disappointment/heartache altogether. Maybe the highs aren't as high, but the lows aren't as low either.
I'm 40 who is married to a hubby who is 23. Thank you for speaking your experience in this video. I was gonna be alone but my hubby really liked me and wanted to make me his wife because I had my son to take care of as a single mom. I totally understand your situation.
@ebony84, you're 40 and your husband is 23? No offense but the video is about singles who arent afraid of being single and living alone, people who will not let anybody in their lives just to be with someone.
@@o0GrayMatters0oyou know exactly what theyre saying, dont try to act naive. that person is down right pathetic for being a 40 year old woman that married a 23 yr old guy.
@o0GrayMatters0o im saying the video does not apply in her case. No 40yr old (single mother or not) marries a 23yr old if s/he has no issues she doesnt want to face and issues with being alone. This is not fair to the 23yr old. Being alone is challenging but good for introspection, facing one's demons, purging, self discovery and self improvement to build healthy future relationship. The 'challenge' part and facing demons is the reason many will do anything to avoid being alone even staying in toxic relationships or letting the unsuspecting others in their toxic lives...speaking generally now.
Great video, interesting perspective. You seem very comfortable and content with yourself and your life. In the end, that is all that matters. Good luck bro.
Exactly how I view life, all decisions have their pros and cons, but I feel drained being around people constantly. Also, I do not want the responsibility of making someone else happy and keeping them entertained, and the stress involved when I'd fail in that responsibility.
AMEN !!! 59yrs old , never married and no kids . I know friends and relatives think I am gay (and I hate that) ...They act like they are supposed to feel sorry for me . Mean while they are living pay check to pay check and have bad credit . 👎👎👎
I used to feel like this but then I got diagnosed as autistic and ADHD aged 40 and realised I would love to have a partner to share and enjoy things with. They'd just have to be autistic too because I am very particular about things, need space and alone time, don't want children etc. I'm totally open now to experiencing all the things I hold within with another soul (love, happiness, contentment, joy, peace). The only reason I isolated and ended relationships up until this point was because I was so misunderstood and couldnt get along in relationships with neurotypicals who just didnt think or see things the way I do. Game changer! Being around other autistic and ADHD people is like someone finally turned the light on❤🎉
Wow. Glad to see so many comments of people in the same situation. Im 40 divorced once and no kids. I dont feel lonely but definitely feel the pressure of is something wrong with me so its nice to have a community of people who are in the same boat.
Yes sis we certainly do exist. I say we are rare breed and there's reason for this only God and the universe knows why. Im certainly not apologizing for being this way. I don't give my time and attention to just anybody you gotta earn it. Much love sis!!!😊🙏🙏🙏
I would rather be single and happy and married than unhappy I know as I experienced both this man makes sense, and one is not alone when one enjoys one's company
I'm feeling the same way more recently, being alone in terms of romantic relationships is really addicting, the skys the limit when you're alone and it's a lot easier to fly under the radar and just live your life stress free
@@Smuggler169 I’ve been divorced twice but it doesn’t matter how much I fight for my solitude I still end up back in relationship! I’m not married now but I am in relationship
It always amazes me how some people naturally end up in relationships. I'm so averse to emotional pain that being single just feels safer. It's not even that I don't want a relationship, it's that I'm not willing to risk my mental and emotional health to have one, and I've probably met too many people with baggage from previous relationships.
@@jotilochun80 I most certainly will. I am currently solo traveling. I struggle with wanting a relationship with a lady but also enjoy my freedom to come and go and do what I want.
We are socially conditioned to fear being alone. Those that are comfortable with solitude will find the positive benefits of doing so. including non-dependency, empowerment, freedom, developing self awareness, and the understanding of the self. Through solitude we can developing courage to let things go that are not serving our interests or adding to the quality of our life. We develop a independent inner strength that does not rely on other peoples approval, courage is developed to accept being disliked by following our own different path. Overall solitude brings freedom and more control of who or what affects our life. Its a time of dropping stress, drama, and toxic people, allowing only those that appreciate our qualities and others that we cherish.
Good stuff. Soooooo many people believe that being alone and being "lonely " are synonymous, they are not. I have found after many years that I am my "best friend". Stay up people.
Marriage and kids are not for everyone. I am 58. I have never been married or had kids and all I can say is "Thank God". I am a straight male, but years ago, I came to the conclusion I didn't want to play house. I didn't want to live with a woman. I don't regret the decision. Being married or being a parent just isn't for everyone and there is no shame in that.
It's facinating to see people get mad at you in the comments for living YOUR life the way you want to. Crazy part is your lifestyle does not damage or disrupt anything. I feel the exact same way at 25, and have been since i was 15, im good off a wife and kids.
ah man, getting older sucks. I'm just approaching 30 and it's starting to become more and more of a reality to me how screwed up this entire society is. Nobody can agree. Everybody is set in their own ways. Everyone has bad habits/characteristics and things to work on. Life changes, the things you want change, the people you wanted around you 10 years ago now feel like they were never meant to be in your life. You can only depend on yourself in this life. This is the reality...
Add 13 years to your age and that's where I'm at. The marriage and fatherhood ship has sailed and neither occurred, too late for that. Instead dealing with a debilitating illness. 99% of my family is gone and am just riding it out, the past 2 years have been rough and basically life-changing. A real wake-up call. After 40+ years friends have either moved away, gotten married or passed on. Never in a million years did I think it would play out this way. I don't really like it but it is what it is.
Although I’m 56, divorced 9 years ago after a 20 year marriage, in a loving companionship for 3 years, I love being independent and on my own doing my own thing, my own life, my own home 🏠. I look after myself first and try and have the best of everything whilst giving back whenever I can . I think you’re in the best possible position being single with no kids..you don’t realise how much energy, cost and stress is involved when you settle down - these days with social media and the high cost of living, you have to be 1000% committed to marriage/kids if that’s your choice otherwise stay single and be free 😊
Hey man you can live your life as you want and seek out your passions as you have been but you could always leave yourself open for the right person to find you instead of you trying to seek them out you wont have to sacrifice anything and if it never happens it's not like you would have done anything differently. Maybe you will naturally through hobbies connect with someone who you really enjoy spending time with. But I agree no need to stake your own happiness or time trying to seek that out and attach that to your emotional well being on it but on the same coin no need to completely shutout what the world might surprise you with if you stay open to it.
I am 40 years old, single/unmarried and childfree all by choice. I am a natural introvert and could NEVER have a spouse/lover and children. Having those things are selfish because you are too scared to age and die alone. Well, I would much rather age and die alone than with horrible people.
Nurses beating us to death will not be nice, and no one will look up for us. Sorry but your assumption you will not die with horrible people is fallacious and in fact it is selfish to expect other people kids to care.
People who have kids aren't necessarily selfish, but many believe that those children owe them, and when those children don't look after them as they are aging, they become bitter. I don't think anyone should have children with the expectation that those children will take care of them in their elderly years. I also think that a majority of people are afraid to be alone because it's stigmatized in certain societies, and even going out on a Friday evening can be challenging as a single person.
@@ethiodude9886 Stay single/unmarried and transition from childless to childfree. Please enjoy your autonomy, freedom and authenticity because if you get married and have children, you lose all that. You don't want divorce because you will lose all your money to legal fees, alimony and child support.
@ethiodude9886 - if you want to be a father and still have enough energy to enjoy fatherhood, you might want to reconsider the "if I get my soulmate" part. While it's nice to find someone with that level of connection and mutual understanding, it can often be hard to find, and if fatherhood is really important to you, putting it off can be risky. I did that and I was left with major regrets.
Im a 40 year old woman who people ALWAYS think I’m my 20 year old daughter’s older sister Lol. I have been celibate a VERY long time, I don’t drink, don’t smoke, no tattoos, have never been to a club or bar, have long, curly, natural hair, and only wear lipstick and mascara. I have been single by choice and I refuse to date until I feel I’ve met the right person. Lately though, SEVERAL men at work have told me that because I’m a beautiful, kind, soft spoken woman, it’s very SELFISH for me to be single. Ummm, huh??? 🤦🏽♀️
@ It’s my choice, just like being single. I have NEVER lived a wild life or been for the streets. I stay to myself and mind my business which is why men say I’m selfish for being single. They say a man should have the pleasure of having a woman like me in his life. They don’t understand that I don’t just want a body next to me but I want a QUALITY person. So if that makes me selfish then 🤷🏽♀️ Lol
@@WomanWithHISPlan-un4rp Stop trying to gas yourself up. Your prob single due to how full of yourself you sound. No man is gonna want to deal with that ego of yours.
I love being by myself. I also love having a partner. I’m by myself because the men I’ve experienced try to possess me, and I don’t like that. I don’t like to feel like I can’t leave peacefully if I want to leave.
I wish you all the best Mr.Reid on your TH-cam journey I find your explanation clear, appealing and informative Thank you Sir, for your valuable time and I wish you a happy New year 25 ...It's Singleness the key 🗝️ like Simon Peter incharge of heaven's gate.😉 I'm partially joking. I would like to end by this beautiful quote...I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone. Robin Williams
I'm 33 and in the same boat, but I'm open to it if I find the right woman to share my world with. Otherwise, I'd rather be single and care for my dogs and career. I am a loner and love peace, for I've always been that way. BTW im an introvert.
I admire you're character and attitude. I'm in the same position as you but I'm 42 but I wish everyday that I had a wife and family. Its what would make my life complete. I'm just an introvert who struggles to make lasting connections with people. It ruined my life.
Luke...stay single. You are one of the lucky ones. Do not marry. Over half of marriages in the U.S. end in divorce and the man loses most everything. Don't do it.
@@heymoe1179 I am proud of you for putting intentional and critical thought in the decision to get married and have children. You realized it is not a good idea, CONGRATULATIONS!!!!
@chadguindon6909 The kids were great...but the man always gets the shaft in a divorce. Never enter into a contract where one party can void it at any time and get rewarded for doing so.
Personally, I find it WEIRD the reactions that people have to people like us who are comfortable with the solitude. For example, I have many friends who are married and have families. They don’t realize that they do it, but they constantly complain about married life and how they miss being single. And then other times, they give me the “when are you getting married” speech. They treat it as if it’s outside the realm of possibility they people are just comfortable with solitude. I get the desire for female companionship like anyone else. I have never been unlucky in love. I meet women. I set boundaries from the offset that I am looking only for casual companionship. They’re ok with it, until they aren’t. Then we both move on. It’s been the easiest thing in the world for me. I don’t want to take care of someone else, financially or otherwise. I spent my entire life doing it with my family and I decided that whatever time I have left on this earth, I am going to be selfish and only do things that I want to do. A luxury I never had.
I was living 10 years alone. I was quite happy. Then i found "the one", which wasn't the one. After the betrayal i have been struggling and loneliness is killing me. No motivation and no hope anymore.
33 yo, married for 8 years but when im around my wife i feel lonely. No common grounds anymore and only conversations we have is about other people. Only positive thing are my two beautiful young sons.
I fully support you my brother to be alone is 100% healthy , you need your permanent self zone than to have someone who is going to irritate you when you say right she says left. My brother if you can count a persentage of people who are devorcing is extremely big because people realize that to stay with another person is not healthy, is nice to see a person for that particular time and go away not to live with her . Brother i support you to be alone is healthy.
49 years old and am a social isolate/voluntary celibate- my family looks down on me for not making babies with some wretch- dating down for me would be accepting/resuing a homeless woman or single mom, i chose social rejection instead of the company of an unhealthy ratchet with faded tattoos and 5 kids- any woman who gets off the city bus while toting a suitcase and asking for a cigarette is a redflag for me
I didn’t get married until I was 44 because I am only going to do this once. I learned a long time ago from my family’s examples. I love my wife but I raised her two children from a previous marriage and I just couldn’t overcome the genetics that they received from their sperm donor. One is a lazy 26 year old and the other one works hard but is a little different. I admire her for that but I don’t know how much I actually had to do with it. Other than my wife being a complete unorganized slob (I hate it because I am the exact opposite.) we get along pretty well.
There's tons of 30 and 40 year olds not in a relationship these days. There's probably multiple reasons but it's a trend that is growing and not looking like it will stop anytime soon. Forty years ago this would be considered weird. Now it's becoming the norm.
It isn't the norm for people to not want to marry nor have babies nor find "the right person", specifically. I wasn't just talking about folks being single, as you are.
Well done boss! I am 44yrs old also & have been single all my life by choice after seeing how awful women were since high school so avoided them like the plague whole life. Not sure why other men fell for women & got into relationships/married them, why do men get close to a woman is they are such horrible people??
This just popped up on my recommendations. I actually made a video very similar to this recently. Most people think having a partner and kids is the only way to go, and there's no alternative, without even considering there may be an alternative. That's up to them, and I don't judge them, and nobody should judge anyone for the way they choose their lives, as long as they're not harming anyone else
Luke if you are striving and and always acting a little bit higher than average or higher than the people you know that’s the goal of ideal man no need for money or marriage or any thing out of commitment to self
The older I get, the more I see through how dumb romanticism is. It’s something we make up in our heads to justify the shallowness of just wanting to be with someone out of sexual desire, IMO. Then we say oh it’s about companionship. Well, if companionship was the main reason then we’d be content with just having guy friends. So sure we want companionship from the opposite sex, but that’s secondary to sex or kids for most men. I think a lot of men ain’t honest about it.
But aside from natural sexual desire, I don’t have any desire to be with or live with woman. I value my space and time way more. It would be annoying having some woman take up my space, honestly. And I don’t care what any man says, you can never truly be yourself around women. You have to always maintain some kind of frame if you want to keep her attracted to you long term. So there are always the games.
It’s just a headache to maintain relationships. Some men think it’s worth the games and headache and that’s good for them, but not for me.
I think if most men were honest, if they had no sexual desire, they’d find most women annoying to be around insofar as the awful qualifies many modern women today have and if their guy friends had those awful qualities they’d unfriend them immediately. But men make concessions to put up with it only because of their lust.
@@TruthsSake That just shows that people date, enter relationships and get married for selfish, narcissistic and egotistical reasons. Men want women as housemaids while women want men as ATMS. Can ANYONE list an unselfish reason to date, enter a relationship and get married??? Honestly, I CAN'T see one in my horizon.
@@chadguindon6909If husbands didn’t ask that women quit their paid jobs, those women wouldn’t need an ATM.
careful with the truth you will anger many Simps and "Alpha's" that are in the rut. Tonight we make soap.
Finally someone else said it. I see no purpose of being in a relationship. I can have sex while single so I see no point of being in one. A woman is a liability and I already have enough on my plate. If sex didn't exist most ppl wouldn't even have gotten with their significant other in the first place. They just won't admit it.
Spot on 👌🏻👌🏻
Same here. I'm 47. Living by myself. No kids. Mortgage paid off. No credit card debt. Life is great 👍
The way the world is makes it easy to not regret starting a family, I’m 34 and made the decision after a 12
year relationship that it’s just not for me. Only time I feel truly at peace is when nobody is around
I'm 47, own my home paid in full, no debt, never married, no kids. I look much younger than I am because a wife and kids have not aged me. Life is great.
Same boat. 53, never married and no kids. Half my life ago, I hoped to someday have a family. Never happened. But nowadays I have no regrets.
@@jonkas4542 Congratulations and good for you, I am glad you realized that. You don't need a spouse/lover and children to feel complete and fulfilled. I salute you for this.
Cope
In my 20s I just wanted to meet someone and live together. Never happened because I didn't want that person to be just anyone. Now I'm 56 and it's the LAST thing I want!!! I'd just find it so suffocating
I congratulate you.
Yep in this economy, it all speaks for itself 😮
I'm a 64 year old male. I love living on my own. I like doing my own thing when i want. I'm not waiting on anyone and no one is waiting on me. I'm alone but not lonely.
How many girls you’re subscribed to on OnlyFans?
You're not weird. There's loads of us now. Best to be true to self
Absolutely! 👍
Tryna normalize this bs😂
@jessicab331 normalise what. Relationships are not for everyone. Humanity as a whole cannot conform to this, so there's nothing to be worried about. This lifestyle is only for some, and I thank the universe I live in times where I have this choice.
@@gillbenjamin47 romantic relationships maybe not… but humans aren’t meant to be alone… it’s not normal… and all this social media shii is giving ppl a false since of community.
@jessicab331 It's not normal for many, but life runs a course that no one can predict. There are many reasons why people may end up alone. It's NOT for everyone, and you are right, many are probably jumping on the bandwagon like fools, that's why one has to know thyself and be true.to oneself ALWAYS.
I’m 54 and have been married, divorced twice, and been in relationships thereafter. I thought the only way I would be happy was to be in a relationship. Since 2020 I have been single and the happiest in my entire life!☺
Almost a mirrored experience of me😊. I'm happier not having to deal with the personalities of someone else, only mine. People are full of drama, and their drama has a way of making the life of someone else miserable. 👏🏾👏🏾
Thank you for sharing that! Much appreciated.
@luckystar8590 - it takes a while to get to "happy" as a single person, but it can happen. I'm working toward that and really want to achieve contentment on my own. Congrats.
Same here, greetings from Mexico!
Ulol, kasi may mga ka fuck buddy lang kau e
No wrinkles at 44. Looking good 😂 Less stress does have its upsides
Lmao😂,bro could pass for 30
I feel lonely when I'm around people, I feel perfect when I'm alone. My alone time is super valued, when I'm forced to be around people because the circumstances call for it, my pervasive thought says; "I wonder how soon I can get back home to be by myself?"
Your not the only fella that loves being alone.
i put myself into social situations such as bars and family gatherings to experience the rejection they express to those who are alone- the rejection builds more resilence in me to accept that i will not be with anyone at anytime- my best friend from childhood died last month, he shunned his real friends to pursue some kind of fame for his art with hipsters instead of accepting my offers to connect again with him- he chained smoked himself to death over failed tinder dates that he would only call me to complain in detail about- i offered him hospitality but he viewed me as inferior for not pursuing women, he was a great artist who got all his money he made from his art taken away in 2 failed marriages- i told him for 2 years to stop wearing bow ties and stop giving away a boquet of roses after writing a poem to these tinder dates he was into- those women totally took him for the clown he dressed as- silk vest, boe tie, expensive shoes, and roses and a poem on a first tinder date. he's dead now and did not listen to any of my advice because "that's just the kind of guy i am"- he never invited me to one of his art shows in new york and paris because he said i dress in an uncouth fashion
"The right person"
The great lie they tell you to sell diamond rings and cake.
The “right person” first and foremost, is within oneself 😊
Right there with you. 55, single, no kids, never wanted kids. Enjoy being alone, but not opposed to dating if it happens. Definitely not proactive though. I went into a life of minimalism around 20 years ago. Got rid of my car 15 years ago, bought a studio apartment in a CO-OP, no consumer debt at all, just a few more years of mortgage. I work for myself, don't earn much, and don't need much. Less is more. As I've aged I've come to realize friendship is more important to me than romance, etc. I avoid stress like the plague.
Exactly how I view life, best of luck to you.
@spiritsanddecibels - That's exactly my mindset...I'm single and now I'm trying, as I write this, to live the life of a minimalist. I already got rid of my car several years ago, but I still have some more things I need to rid myself of...it's a process, but I hope achieve your lifestyle by early next year.
You are right to avoid stress, stress is a big killer, can trigger cancer, i refuse to get stressed over anything.
I avoid stress too like the plague.
dont need much = freedom and peace. me too brother!
Wow.
I am a 28 years old woman, and I’ve silently made the decision to spend my life alone on purpose. My life has been surrounded by broken relationships. If you asked me to name three successful marriages or relationships in my life, I’d probably couldn’t, but I could name a hundred bad ones.
I’m currently going through a breakup, and even though I’m grateful for the experience I’m realizing that most of us don’t even get to experience a relationship with ourselves first.
It’s truly a bittersweet moment for me because even though I am sad, I’m excited to be alone! I have big plans for my future, and I’m so happy that I get to fall in love with me every day, all day.
Same, i'm in my 50s and 25years ago I felt depressed as I watched friends and family find lover's and become parents. I started to wonder what was wrong with me, it was a real mind fu*k at the time, nearly destroyed me. Now I'm older, wiser and set in my way's I've surpassed the desire for needing a woman in my life. I still notice beautiful women but I also notice their manipulative way's and I've no time for that nonsense. I'm content, fit and organised.
I still love women and enjoy sex, don't get me wrong. A man has urges! I just don't need a woman.
@TH-camWillCensorThis I agree if the opportunity for sex happens with a woman you have chemistry with of course, why not?
@@TH-camWillCensorThis you're not supposed to have sex unless you're married though!
People think I am weird I want to be single, no kids and live alone. I like it like this. No one bothers you and all the money you make goes only to you.
There is a whole group of us😁
I'm 39 and don't want kids or a marriage, been single for years. Sometimes I think I'd like to have someone around but ultimately I prefer to be alone too. It's refreshing to know I'm not the only one
Im 39 in one month. The same situation
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Thank you for this, as someone looking for "the right person", the counter perspective is quite valuable to me.
It’s not for everyone! I’m 50, married 3X & no kids. Divorced 12yrs now & ❤ living alone. As an only child, I’m more comfortable alone & was uncomfortable/unhappy trying to achieve status quo (ie marriage/kids)
There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. I don’t think every entire person in the world needs to be married and/or have children, especially if they don’t want to; we all have different goals and desires- it’s good to share these thoughts so some people don’t feel alone in those wants👍
Ah ha, a well stated and brief video. Great job!
I had a 40+ year marriage that ended in divorce 7 years ago at age 68. Just grew in different directions and were no longer happy together. Only in the past 2 years have I come to enjoy living alone. Peaceful, much less drama, no need for permission from anyone. Have learned that being alone does not = loneliness for me as a man. It's very freeing. Thank you.
I like your perspective. Stand by your convictions. Do what's right for you. Best of wishes for the new year.
WOW! Thank you for this. PLEASE do another video on this topic. So refreshing to hear someone else with the same opinion as me!!!! I'm 56 and have always lived alone, never had a partner and don't even look for one! It just doesn't enter my head. I'm happiest when I'm by myself. People drain me. I don't feel lonely at all. I suppose I'm lucky enough to know a lot of people who I could call to meet up with, but I prefer being by myself. I don't have kids and never wanted any. I don't think I've ever heard another UK guy who feels the same as I do! ❤
Same, 39 years old, no children, never married, and I am very happy
Keep going man, I'm always curious to hear other people who live alone like I do talk about it.
i have just turned 40 and single and alone and love it, love being by myself, doing the things i enjoy and spending time with my dog, people are just hard work, cruel, very rude these days and just not nice to be around, love people lie you and many others who are doing what they want for themselve!
Being alone is amazing
As a divorced guy (my divorce was 31 years ago) with no kids and have been living alone ever since (although I do and have dated) I'll say this. DON'T CHANGE A THING. You're living most mens' dream. I'm DEAD serious. You'll find yourself with LOTS of money and LOTS of peace. I'm serious when I say I'd bet the majority of men would switch with you in a heartbeat. The older you get, the more you'll see you are in a great place.
same here. just turned 50 in September, never married, no kids. way too much deception and double standards in modern dating.
Happy Birthday
@@BrianRenardDavis thank you Brian 🏁🏁🏁
This is actually the best life. Congrats on figuring it out.
I've had my share of relationships & female fun pre-40, but never wanted children or to be married & decided to go solo 40+ & do my own thing. Age 59 now. No regrets. Already retired & financially secure (retired in my early 50's). Plenty of hobbies, interests & rescue animals/charities to keep me busy & engaged.
It’s amazing how little money you need and how early you can retire without a woman in your life.
💭@@TruthsSake
@@TruthsSakeThat’s because most husbands want the women to quit working. Can’t have it both ways.
I started to feel this way at about 25 years of age. I had already been in a couple of relationships and had a son. After reaching 30 without being in another real relationship people started to ask why was I staying single. I had no real answer other than I liked being single and not having to answer to anyone else. I want to cook when I want to cook, go out when I want to go out, stay up to 3am when I felt like it. I never yearned for companionship or felt lonely. I never needed a companion to go to the places I wanted to visit. I am 50 years old and still feel the same way. My son seems to be just like me....a happy loner. I don't apologize for it.
"A happy loner" is a great term, i also realized years ago that i'm an Introvert, took me a while to accept it but now i'm cool about it, especially since i found out loads of famous people are introverts (Keanu Reeves for one), i've even told people close to me i'm an introvert, takes me a while to get used to new people in my life.
Yeah, because you already had a SON. You don't count.
thanks for sharing your story. Greetings from a happy loner
Im 41 and u look younger than me, no eye bags no wrinkles no grey facial hair, I'd say you made the right choice 😂👊🏾
After a while many of us realize the reality of companionship never quite lives up to the idea of companionship. Wmn always want to be excited/entertained/impressed. Friends drift away so often. Sometimes it's better to just stop relying on others to be there and avoid the disappointment/heartache altogether. Maybe the highs aren't as high, but the lows aren't as low either.
not all women😅 some are simple, don’t enjoy parties and like a quiet, simple, minimal life whilst others enjoy more- just like some men👍
That was well said.
Same. 45. Nice to see you, thank you for sharing your perspective.
I'm 40 who is married to a hubby who is 23. Thank you for speaking your experience in this video. I was gonna be alone but my hubby really liked me and wanted to make me his wife because I had my son to take care of as a single mom. I totally understand your situation.
@ebony84, you're 40 and your husband is 23? No offense but the video is about singles who arent afraid of being single and living alone, people who will not let anybody in their lives just to be with someone.
WTF?? You're disgusting. A whole predator.
@@rorirory121 what are you trying to say?
@@o0GrayMatters0oyou know exactly what theyre saying, dont try to act naive. that person is down right pathetic for being a 40 year old woman that married a 23 yr old guy.
@o0GrayMatters0o im saying the video does not apply in her case. No 40yr old (single mother or not) marries a 23yr old if s/he has no issues she doesnt want to face and issues with being alone. This is not fair to the 23yr old. Being alone is challenging but good for introspection, facing one's demons, purging, self discovery and self improvement to build healthy future relationship. The 'challenge' part and facing demons is the reason many will do anything to avoid being alone even staying in toxic relationships or letting the unsuspecting others in their toxic lives...speaking generally now.
Loneliness happens to people who are, and have been, deprived of the opportunity of ever having to come to terms with themselves.
Or those who haven chosen not to take the time and energy to do so…
One of the best comments here.
Great video, interesting perspective. You seem very comfortable and content with yourself and your life. In the end, that is all that matters. Good luck bro.
Freedom. Peace and quiet. truth. Problem solving . Also side note. The rocket lava lamp is a cool piece.
47F here and I'm exactly the same. Never married. No kids. No debt. No mortgage. I'm happy!
Exactly how I view life, all decisions have their pros and cons, but I feel drained being around people constantly. Also, I do not want the responsibility of making someone else happy and keeping them entertained, and the stress involved when I'd fail in that responsibility.
You look great for your age brother. You look 30 easy. Keep it pushin 💯
AMEN !!! 59yrs old , never married and no kids . I know friends and relatives think I am gay (and I hate that) ...They act like they are supposed to feel sorry for me . Mean while they are living pay check to pay check and have bad credit . 👎👎👎
😂😂😂
I used to feel like this but then I got diagnosed as autistic and ADHD aged 40 and realised I would love to have a partner to share and enjoy things with. They'd just have to be autistic too because I am very particular about things, need space and alone time, don't want children etc. I'm totally open now to experiencing all the things I hold within with another soul (love, happiness, contentment, joy, peace). The only reason I isolated and ended relationships up until this point was because I was so misunderstood and couldnt get along in relationships with neurotypicals who just didnt think or see things the way I do. Game changer! Being around other autistic and ADHD people is like someone finally turned the light on❤🎉
Good for you. I'm not autistic. We each have our reasons.
Yeah, no man is an island
You're a woman. Literally all you have to do is just exist and you will get a relationship. It's way different for men.
Wow. Glad to see so many comments of people in the same situation. Im 40 divorced once and no kids. I dont feel lonely but definitely feel the pressure of is something wrong with me so its nice to have a community of people who are in the same boat.
I’m in the same situation, I like my independence and I’d rather be on my own than with the wrong one
Nice video bro 😎. Your peace is the most important thing you can control. 💯
It’s also not for me either! I love being alone too. People can’t believe that people like us exist but here we are living the way we want to live 🎉
Yes sis we certainly do exist. I say we are rare breed and there's reason for this only God and the universe knows why. Im certainly not apologizing for being this way. I don't give my time and attention to just anybody you gotta earn it. Much love sis!!!😊🙏🙏🙏
Hi brother. This resonates with me. I understand completely
I would rather be single and happy and married than unhappy I know as I experienced both this man makes sense, and one is not alone when one enjoys one's company
I'm feeling the same way more recently, being alone in terms of romantic relationships is really addicting, the skys the limit when you're alone and it's a lot easier to fly under the radar and just live your life stress free
“Paradoxically, the ability to be alone is the condition for the ability to love.”
― Erich Fromm
When I say I’m jealous of single people people think I’m being sarcastic or plain rude! 😂
How long you been married?
@@Smuggler169 I’ve been divorced twice but it doesn’t matter how much I fight for my solitude I still end up back in relationship! I’m not married now but I am in relationship
It always amazes me how some people naturally end up in relationships. I'm so averse to emotional pain that being single just feels safer. It's not even that I don't want a relationship, it's that I'm not willing to risk my mental and emotional health to have one, and I've probably met too many people with baggage from previous relationships.
@ don’t take your solitude for granted and enjoy every second
@@jotilochun80 I most certainly will. I am currently solo traveling. I struggle with wanting a relationship with a lady but also enjoy my freedom to come and go and do what I want.
We are socially conditioned to fear being alone. Those that are comfortable with solitude will find the positive benefits of doing so.
including non-dependency, empowerment, freedom, developing self awareness, and the understanding of the self.
Through solitude we can developing courage to let things go that are not serving our interests or adding to the quality of our life. We develop a independent inner strength that does not rely on other peoples approval, courage is developed to accept being disliked by following our own different path. Overall solitude brings freedom and more control of who or what affects our life. Its a time of dropping stress, drama, and toxic people, allowing only those that appreciate our qualities and others that we cherish.
Good stuff. Soooooo many people believe that being alone and being "lonely " are synonymous, they are not. I have found after many years that I am my "best friend". Stay up people.
Keep evolving and living your best life...let's go
Smartest way to go in todays society to be honest!
41, f, never married , no kids. Not looking to manage another human being. Want to be friends?
Maybe
Same here. 49 yo. Paid off house. Boat. 3 cars, 2 bikes. Drama free
a great way to get poor again with all that
Marriage and kids are not for everyone. I am 58. I have never been married or had kids and all I can say is "Thank God". I am a straight male, but years ago, I came to the conclusion I didn't want to play house. I didn't want to live with a woman. I don't regret the decision. Being married or being a parent just isn't for everyone and there is no shame in that.
It's facinating to see people get mad at you in the comments for living YOUR life the way you want to. Crazy part is your lifestyle does not damage or disrupt anything.
I feel the exact same way at 25, and have been since i was 15, im good off a wife and kids.
ah man, getting older sucks. I'm just approaching 30 and it's starting to become more and more of a reality to me how screwed up this entire society is.
Nobody can agree. Everybody is set in their own ways. Everyone has bad habits/characteristics and things to work on. Life changes, the things you want change, the people you wanted around you 10 years ago now feel like they were never meant to be in your life.
You can only depend on yourself in this life. This is the reality...
Getting older is great for me. I'll do a video on it at some point. Good luck.
Add 13 years to your age and that's where I'm at. The marriage and fatherhood ship has sailed and neither occurred, too late for that. Instead dealing with a debilitating illness. 99% of my family is gone and am just riding it out, the past 2 years have been rough and basically life-changing. A real wake-up call. After 40+ years friends have either moved away, gotten married or passed on. Never in a million years did I think it would play out this way. I don't really like it but it is what it is.
Although I’m 56, divorced 9 years ago after a 20 year marriage, in a loving companionship for 3 years, I love being independent and on my own doing my own thing, my own life, my own home 🏠. I look after myself first and try and have the best of everything whilst giving back whenever I can . I think you’re in the best possible position being single with no kids..you don’t realise how much energy, cost and stress is involved when you settle down - these days with social media and the high cost of living, you have to be 1000% committed to marriage/kids if that’s your choice otherwise stay single and be free 😊
Hey man you can live your life as you want and seek out your passions as you have been but you could always leave yourself open for the right person to find you instead of you trying to seek them out you wont have to sacrifice anything and if it never happens it's not like you would have done anything differently. Maybe you will naturally through hobbies connect with someone who you really enjoy spending time with. But I agree no need to stake your own happiness or time trying to seek that out and attach that to your emotional well being on it but on the same coin no need to completely shutout what the world might surprise you with if you stay open to it.
I am open. Things can change.
I am 40 years old, single/unmarried and childfree all by choice. I am a natural introvert and could NEVER have a spouse/lover and children. Having those things are selfish because you are too scared to age and die alone. Well, I would much rather age and die alone than with horrible people.
Nurses beating us to death will not be nice, and no one will look up for us.
Sorry but your assumption you will not die with horrible people is fallacious and in fact it is selfish to expect other people kids to care.
People who have kids aren't necessarily selfish, but many believe that those children owe them, and when those children don't look after them as they are aging, they become bitter. I don't think anyone should have children with the expectation that those children will take care of them in their elderly years. I also think that a majority of people are afraid to be alone because it's stigmatized in certain societies, and even going out on a Friday evening can be challenging as a single person.
I'm 42 still unmarried with no kids. but i wanna be a father if i get my soulmate
Best of luck!
❤
@@ethiodude9886 Stay single/unmarried and transition from childless to childfree. Please enjoy your autonomy, freedom and authenticity because if you get married and have children, you lose all that. You don't want divorce because you will lose all your money to legal fees, alimony and child support.
@ethiodude9886 - if you want to be a father and still have enough energy to enjoy fatherhood, you might want to reconsider the "if I get my soulmate" part. While it's nice to find someone with that level of connection and mutual understanding, it can often be hard to find, and if fatherhood is really important to you, putting it off can be risky. I did that and I was left with major regrets.
Same!🙏🏽
Amen amen to this man, preach.
this is not a church
Im a 40 year old woman who people ALWAYS think I’m my 20 year old daughter’s older sister Lol. I have been celibate a VERY long time, I don’t drink, don’t smoke, no tattoos, have never been to a club or bar, have long, curly, natural hair, and only wear lipstick and mascara. I have been single by choice and I refuse to date until I feel I’ve met the right person. Lately though, SEVERAL men at work have told me that because I’m a beautiful, kind, soft spoken woman, it’s very SELFISH for me to be single. Ummm, huh??? 🤦🏽♀️
I'm definitely not celibate. I love sex. One of the best pleasures in life but to each their own.
@ It’s my choice, just like being single. I have NEVER lived a wild life or been for the streets. I stay to myself and mind my business which is why men say I’m selfish for being single. They say a man should have the pleasure of having a woman like me in his life. They don’t understand that I don’t just want a body next to me but I want a QUALITY person. So if that makes me selfish then 🤷🏽♀️ Lol
@@WomanWithHISPlan-un4rp Stop trying to gas yourself up. Your prob single due to how full of yourself you sound. No man is gonna want to deal with that ego of yours.
I love being by myself. I also love having a partner. I’m by myself because the men I’ve experienced try to possess me, and I don’t like that. I don’t like to feel like I can’t leave peacefully if I want to leave.
You just need "the right person"...
Title sounds like a blessed man to me.
🤣🤣🤣
I wish you all the best Mr.Reid on your TH-cam journey I find your explanation clear, appealing and informative
Thank you Sir, for your valuable time and I wish you a happy New year 25 ...It's Singleness the key 🗝️ like Simon Peter incharge of heaven's gate.😉 I'm partially joking.
I would like to end by this beautiful quote...I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone.
Robin Williams
Thank you Luke for sharing your truth with us. You remind me of someone i know. Bless you.
I'm 33 and in the same boat, but I'm open to it if I find the right woman to share my world with. Otherwise, I'd rather be single and care for my dogs and career. I am a loner and love peace, for I've always been that way. BTW im an introvert.
I just turned 30. I feel the same. Definitely not for everyone, you gotta do you.
You said there is no hole or void in your life and I can’t help but smile for you. ❤
I admire you're character and attitude. I'm in the same position as you but I'm 42 but I wish everyday that I had a wife and family. Its what would make my life complete. I'm just an introvert who struggles to make lasting connections with people. It ruined my life.
If you desire a wife and family you're not anything like me but I wish you luck in your search.
Luke...stay single. You are one of the lucky ones. Do not marry. Over half of marriages in the U.S. end in divorce and the man loses most everything. Don't do it.
@@heymoe1179 I am proud of you for putting intentional and critical thought in the decision to get married and have children. You realized it is not a good idea, CONGRATULATIONS!!!!
@chadguindon6909 The kids were great...but the man always gets the shaft in a divorce. Never enter into a contract where one party can void it at any time and get rewarded for doing so.
Deep...,. unique but not alone in your philosophy and I am in my early 70's😅
Personally, I find it WEIRD the reactions that people have to people like us who are comfortable with the solitude. For example, I have many friends who are married and have families. They don’t realize that they do it, but they constantly complain about married life and how they miss being single. And then other times, they give me the “when are you getting married” speech. They treat it as if it’s outside the realm of possibility they people are just comfortable with solitude.
I get the desire for female companionship like anyone else. I have never been unlucky in love. I meet women. I set boundaries from the offset that I am looking only for casual companionship. They’re ok with it, until they aren’t. Then we both move on. It’s been the easiest thing in the world for me. I don’t want to take care of someone else, financially or otherwise. I spent my entire life doing it with my family and I decided that whatever time I have left on this earth, I am going to be selfish and only do things that I want to do. A luxury I never had.
Applaud you, we are secure w our lives w or w out someone
I'm 54, and i can relate. I have a husband and 4 cats n thats it. Thats enuff. ❤
Huh?
I'm 29 turning 30 next year, I am violently single but I don't care anymore. I love my peace.
I was living 10 years alone. I was quite happy. Then i found "the one", which wasn't the one. After the betrayal i have been struggling and loneliness is killing me. No motivation and no hope anymore.
33 yo, married for 8 years but when im around my wife i feel lonely. No common grounds anymore and only conversations we have is about other people. Only positive thing are my two beautiful young sons.
Awesome bro good on you
Im 53 single never married no kids, still kinda have a desire to have a mate but will be content in having a full life to keep me occupied.
You will be living with your cats.
@@JohnMcCartney1991 lol so not cool
If i could afford to live on my own, I would be right there with you
I fully support you my brother to be alone is 100% healthy , you need your permanent self zone than to have someone who is going to irritate you when you say right she says left. My brother if you can count a persentage of people who are devorcing is extremely big because people realize that to stay with another person is not healthy, is nice to see a person for that particular time and go away not to live with her . Brother i support you to be alone is healthy.
49 years old and am a social isolate/voluntary celibate- my family looks down on me for not making babies with some wretch- dating down for me would be accepting/resuing a homeless woman or single mom, i chose social rejection instead of the company of an unhealthy ratchet with faded tattoos and 5 kids- any woman who gets off the city bus while toting a suitcase and asking for a cigarette is a redflag for me
im 31 and im on the exact same page man. we saw through societies tricks. didnt fall for it!
People who don't desire romantic relationships are called Aromantic, it's normal just not well known
I'm not that nor Asexual. I like sex, intimacy, etc.
I didn’t get married until I was 44 because I am only going to do this once. I learned a long time ago from my family’s examples. I love my wife but I raised her two children from a previous marriage and I just couldn’t overcome the genetics that they received from their sperm donor. One is a lazy 26 year old and the other one works hard but is a little different. I admire her for that but I don’t know how much I actually had to do with it. Other than my wife being a complete unorganized slob (I hate it because I am the exact opposite.) we get along pretty well.
There's tons of 30 and 40 year olds not in a relationship these days. There's probably multiple reasons but it's a trend that is growing and not looking like it will stop anytime soon. Forty years ago this would be considered weird. Now it's becoming the norm.
It isn't the norm for people to not want to marry nor have babies nor find "the right person", specifically. I wasn't just talking about folks being single, as you are.
Well done boss! I am 44yrs old also & have been single all my life by choice after seeing how awful women were since high school so avoided them like the plague whole life. Not sure why other men fell for women & got into relationships/married them, why do men get close to a woman is they are such horrible people??
simply put.
I get it.
This just popped up on my recommendations. I actually made a video very similar to this recently. Most people think having a partner and kids is the only way to go, and there's no alternative, without even considering there may be an alternative. That's up to them, and I don't judge them, and nobody should judge anyone for the way they choose their lives, as long as they're not harming anyone else
I saw your video, amongst others on this subject, and thought I'd do one of my own. Happy travels.
I am 31. Aro/ace, never dated and never plan to. Childfree as well.
Luke if you are striving and and always acting a little bit higher than average or higher than the people you know that’s the goal of ideal man
no need for money
or marriage
or any thing out of commitment to self
Alone in California here. Not fun
Sounds like you're lonely, not alone.
Funny is people thinking that life is a game where you score points by having an attractive wife or a bunch of kids