Here are the references to the research for those of you that are interested: Willis, J. & Todorov, A. (2006). First impressions: making up your mind after a 100-ms exposure to a face. Psychol Sci. 2006 Jul;17(7):592-8. doi: 10.1111/j.1467-9280.2006.01750.x. Warmth vs Competence Cuddy, A. J., Fiske, S. T., & Glick, P. (2008). Warmth and competence as universal dimensions of social perception: The stereotype content model and the BIAS map. Advances in experimental social psychology, 40, 61-149. www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0065260107000020 Profile - Smile Oda, R., Yamagata, N., Yabiku, Y., Matsumoto-Oda, A. (2009). Altruism Can Be Assessed Correctly Based on Impression. Hum Nat, 20, 331-341. doi.org/10.1007/s12110-009-9070-8 Pause (3SP) Niebuhr, O., Brem, A., Michalsky, J., & Neitsch, J. (2020). What makes business speakers sound charismatic? A contrastive acoustic-melodic analysis of Steve Jobs and Mark Zuckerberg. Cadernos de Linguistica e Teoria da Literatura, 1(1). doi.org/10.25189/2675-4916.2020.V1.N1.ID272 Montoya, R. M., Horton, R. S., Vevea, J. L., Citkowicz, M., & Lauber, E. A. (2017). A re-examination of the mere exposure effect: The influence of repeated exposure on recognition, familiarity, and liking. Psychological Bulletin, 143(5), 459-498. doi.org/10.1037/bul0000085
thank you so much for this!! I just started working this year and I am doing my best to apply everything you're teaching. Especially the content for introverts.
My father had not much money to provide me good education in national or international college/ universities, where i can learn good things from teacher .... But now things are becoming easier with the help of TH-cam and other social media. I've been following you for couple of months and trying to learn which are more impact on me ... Thank you shade
I absolutely love your videos! So glad I found your channel. It’s nice to be reminded of things we can do to better ourselves. Thank you for you amazing work!❤️
it's very interesting. In brief : the focus is on making a strong and positive first impression at work by leveraging your innate charisma. First impressions happen quickly and have a lasting impact on how you are perceived by others. To create a positive first impression, the author suggests following WC and the four Ps: 1-WC - Demonstrate warmth and back it up with competence. People judge you quickly based on how warm and competent you appear. Start with warmth by maintaining eye contact and offering a genuine smile. This makes you appear more approachable and trustworthy. 2-3SP (Three Second Pause) - Pause for three seconds before responding to someone. This creates a more confident and charming atmosphere and avoids interrupting the other person. 3-Commonality - Find something you have in common with the person you are meeting. This can create an instant connection and make the person more likely to remember you. 4-Proximity - Be around the person more, as familiarity can increase liking. This is called the mere exposure effect. Remember to be authentic and true to yourself when making a first impression. Aim for a sincere and engaging conversation that is memorable, rather than trying too hard to impress others.
Very good strategies to build first impression. Thanks for sharing. I usually do WC and 2ps when I meet new people but was not aware that they are also backed by research.
The content, delivery and the pace is immaculate. There are a lot of things that we can learn from you. Wish you had been to our college, delivering those valuable lectures to our teachers.
Shadé, thanks for such a piece of wonderful advice. It really gives me an idea of how we should be in a working place. This video will truly an eye-opener for working people also.
Dear shade ,you are uploading quality content and this will bring confidence to the people, specially to those whose parents were not literate. Keep it up. May god’s blessings keep you healthy and joyful and your life becomes a celebration
Ok , first impression , the way you talk and your eyes communicate ,you are a magnetic charisma , thank U for all the valuable informative scientific organised details , all the best.
Started my first day at KPMG this week as a project manager, I think I covered the warmth competency part without really knowing it. I guess it’s a bit in my nature. I am also quiet keen on proximity and working parallel as in finding common ground. I need to start taking pauses , the three second pause is much required 😂 I tend to talk over people when I get excited! But this video was really helpful me realise I want to maybe work on things I already have in me.
Please make a video on mental health like ocd it will be helpful I know you are not a psychiatrist but most people suffer from it on large day to day basis your insight will be helpful .
Thank you Shadé for another helpful video. Your voice is associated with a sense of calm and trust for me. I'm starting to work for a new company next week. One thing that I've found helpful for myself is to improve my three-second pause.
thanks alot of for you Mis Zahrai. the first Impression i meet with this video make me happy and spirit for study again and again. very long time i stop study in english. i bored for study english. in my mind, the english make me crazy and each other mistake.
I guess it's u only ,one in a billion who has all of it otherwise for us all of these qualities will come through our experiences and practice....love from DELHI....
This is very useful. You should expand a bit on this and contrast this with interactions with individuals more senior to you (ex: managers, vp's, C suite execs, etc). I agree with this by-in-large when it comes to talking to peers at roughly the same level of seniority, but I don't think it is as effective with senior management. If you disagree, then please also dive into why this is the case. Thanks for the content
Thank you for the suggestion to delve deeper into the topic. The biggest challenge that my husband and I face (we produce these videos together) is having enough time to deep dive into the wide range topics while running our business and my full time PhD work, and ensuring we keep the broad audience happy! You raise a good point regarding how would these 'charisma' habits translate to interacting with more senior colleagues. The principles of charisma are generally universal in human interactions but need to be nuanced with the nature of the relationship, expectations, personality traits, culture etc. Demonstrating high competence most likely takes precedence over rapport when interacting with more senior management. This doesn't mean that 'charisma' should be forgotten. Fundamentally we are still dealing with humans. Everything needs to be applied in context and with wisdom. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and initiating a discussion!
Awesome content and to the point love your presentation and your body language and tone of your voice i need to work on my aspects for better communicator. ❤
Just join a new organization. Gonna use them all. Only question is everyone is remote now and wfh. So without physically meeting someone how to use these hacks. Thanks😊
Awesome content and to the point. Love your presentation and your body language and tone of your voice. I need to work on my aspects for better communicator.
New subs 😅. Thanks for your videos hope I found your channel at the earliest, I'll bingwatch your videos this coming days and applied immediately to my workplace. Have a great day :)
I subscribed as soon as I watched this random video. Random? Well, it is not random, TH-cam Ai knows me more than I know myself. Very decent quality production thank you. Oh by the way I laughed out loud for the "CUT MOMENT[bloopers]"
Shade, thank you so much for the great videos you have been creating! Will it be possible to adapt this and some of the other videos to remote working situation! Kudos to employees of your company:-)!
No sé mucho inglés, siempre decian que busque algo que te guste para aprender inglés, y me gusta saber de psicología (comportamiento humano). Aprendo de ti, mcuhas gracias.
Decieveness(respect) Introduce yourself Why 2. Story First impression-activation energy - Sisyphus - emotional breath (Closeup) - Warmth - and presence-(closeup) # smile(personable and approachable) /_\ inflexion and similarities-reverb- (Metaphor)-association: diaphragm - Remember their name 📛 🔥 - Proximity I appreciate you fame 😊 ✊
You are awesome. Watching your videos like a mesmerizing personality, and I just lost the world for that time during watching and totally focused what you are thinking to implant vital message to us.... Are you a psychology professor in any University?
Thank you for the lovely message! Glad you're enjoying these videos. I run an international business with my husband that works with multi-national corporations to help improve leadership and employee performance. Although I do have a bachelor of Psychology I worked as a lawyer and then in banking. Currently completing a PhD in the area of workplace performance which does dive into the psychology.
Charismatic SPIR gifts : with proportion of one's immaterial spark, encouraging speaker a teacher encourager. The remain different talents from one Source, miraculous powers discernment interpretation thank you
Watching bloopers is so fun, Shadè. Keep including it in the videos please.😊🙏🏽 Amazing that how you compile all so relevant and so handy information into an impactful pack and deliver it with effortless punch. That’s no less than brilliance.👌 Just keen and curious to know, if you oblige, how many sentences you are able to deliver before taking a pause or loosing track of your text or committing a blooper? 😊 To me such fluency and natural flow of words is extraordinary and gifted and at times seems to be unreal,👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 No offense meant Shadè 🙏🏽 by calling it unreal, rather i am in an awe with such impeccable delivery. Keep helping people with such sincerity and commitment. 👍
Thank you for the kind words Kamal. 😊🙏🏽 To answer your question, it really depends on wether we are delivering a live webinar presentation or a scripted video. When recording a video we mostly have to repeat if there is a loud noise in the background. Otherwise, we repeat a phrase if I make a mistake or we think that they way it's spoken could be better. We - being my husband and I. We create all of these videos together.
Thanks Shadé for responding. 🙏 On a lighter note, Shadë... Noted the third time 😊 that you work for it with your husband. 🙏 You are gift to the world. 🙏
hi shade , you are uploading quality content. im glad i found and subscribed your channel. I see most videos cover about work space and personal development. It would be helpful if you could upload some videos for people like me who were raised in emotionally unhealthy environments , narcissistic parents for example. to how to improve our self confidence and from where to start, it is like people like me dont know where to start out journey of self confidence and we get stuck in the viscious cycle of lack of self confidence and being talked down due to that. thanks again. your face full of smile makes these videos as if some one of our best friends give us a friendly advice. thanks :)
Here are the references to the research for those of you that are interested:
Willis, J. & Todorov, A. (2006). First impressions: making up your mind after a 100-ms exposure to a face. Psychol Sci. 2006 Jul;17(7):592-8. doi: 10.1111/j.1467-9280.2006.01750.x.
Warmth vs Competence
Cuddy, A. J., Fiske, S. T., & Glick, P. (2008). Warmth and competence as universal dimensions of social perception: The stereotype content model and the BIAS map. Advances in experimental social psychology, 40, 61-149.
www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0065260107000020
Profile - Smile
Oda, R., Yamagata, N., Yabiku, Y., Matsumoto-Oda, A. (2009). Altruism Can Be Assessed Correctly Based on Impression. Hum Nat, 20, 331-341. doi.org/10.1007/s12110-009-9070-8
Pause (3SP)
Niebuhr, O., Brem, A., Michalsky, J., & Neitsch, J. (2020). What makes business speakers sound charismatic? A contrastive acoustic-melodic analysis of Steve Jobs and Mark Zuckerberg. Cadernos de Linguistica e Teoria da Literatura, 1(1). doi.org/10.25189/2675-4916.2020.V1.N1.ID272
Montoya, R. M., Horton, R. S., Vevea, J. L., Citkowicz, M., & Lauber, E. A. (2017). A re-examination of the mere exposure effect: The influence of repeated exposure on recognition, familiarity, and liking. Psychological Bulletin, 143(5), 459-498. doi.org/10.1037/bul0000085
first view, like and comment
its very cool to show your actually scientific resources, respect
Thank you! Much appreciate the references
To be honest i just love your personality.
Where your accent from just her
3:07 Warmth competence
4:38 Profile
5:23 3 second pause
6:19 Parallel (something in common)
7:07 proximity
Gentle smile can help to connect with people. It meant to be a good start.
The video sound quality is very best
Glad you noticed Fawad! My husband has worked on improving our audio.
In today days people are watching short video's a lot please make short video's as well
Yes, I posted many short videos. Feel free to check them out on the channel.
For sure, one of the best I've ever heard.
‘The first impression is the last impression’ This is quite an important lesson. Thank you Shade for diversifying the idea!!!
thank you so much for this!! I just started working this year and I am doing my best to apply everything you're teaching. Especially the content for introverts.
So glad!
My father had not much money to provide me good education in national or international college/ universities, where i can learn good things from teacher ....
But now things are becoming easier with the help of TH-cam and other social media.
I've been following you for couple of months and trying to learn which are more impact on me ...
Thank you shade
In which college you seek admission and in which subject,
I absolutely love your videos! So glad I found your channel. It’s nice to be reminded of things we can do to better ourselves. Thank you for you amazing work!❤️
Never stop being so helpful mamm❤️❤️🙏🏻🙏🏻
it's very interesting.
In brief :
the focus is on making a strong and positive first impression at work by leveraging your innate charisma. First impressions happen quickly and have a lasting impact on how you are perceived by others. To create a positive first impression, the author suggests following WC and the four Ps:
1-WC - Demonstrate warmth and back it up with competence. People judge you quickly based on how warm and competent you appear. Start with warmth by maintaining eye contact and offering a genuine smile. This makes you appear more approachable and trustworthy.
2-3SP (Three Second Pause) - Pause for three seconds before responding to someone. This creates a more confident and charming atmosphere and avoids interrupting the other person.
3-Commonality - Find something you have in common with the person you are meeting. This can create an instant connection and make the person more likely to remember you.
4-Proximity - Be around the person more, as familiarity can increase liking. This is called the mere exposure effect.
Remember to be authentic and true to yourself when making a first impression. Aim for a sincere and engaging conversation that is memorable, rather than trying too hard to impress others.
I have heard a few of these. But the way you brought them altogether into a framework made it really useful. Thank you.
Shade
You are a true being.
Your positivity is contagious!
Very good strategies to build first impression. Thanks for sharing. I usually do WC and 2ps when I meet new people but was not aware that they are also backed by research.
The content, delivery and the pace is immaculate. There are a lot of things that we can learn from you. Wish you had been to our college, delivering those valuable lectures to our teachers.
Genuinely grateful for this... Seems so helpful. Will try using these and let you know about the experience
Truth be told, am not only beginning to love your lectures but also getting addicted to them..!!
I prefer being bold and easy going! Brings in positive vibes to senses .😇
Make people genuinely valuable, and you automatically become valuable... Wonderful ShadeZ
Shadé, thanks for such a piece of wonderful advice. It really gives me an idea of how we should be in a working place. This video will truly an eye-opener for working people also.
Dear shade ,you are uploading quality content and this will bring confidence to the people, specially to those whose parents were not literate. Keep it up. May god’s blessings keep you healthy and joyful and your life becomes a celebration
Ok , first impression , the way you talk and your eyes communicate ,you are a magnetic charisma , thank U for all the valuable informative scientific organised details , all the best.
Started my first day at KPMG this week as a project manager, I think I covered the warmth competency part without really knowing it.
I guess it’s a bit in my nature. I am also quiet keen on proximity and working parallel as in finding common ground. I need to start taking pauses , the three second pause is much required 😂 I tend to talk over people when I get excited!
But this video was really helpful
me realise I want to maybe work on things I already have in me.
Imagine we have her as our Hoomroom teacher 😭 a blasting day just because of a warm start 🤧🤝
Please make a video on mental health like ocd it will be helpful I know you are not a psychiatrist but most people suffer from it on large day to day basis your insight will be helpful .
Thank you Shadé for another helpful video. Your voice is associated with a sense of calm and trust for me. I'm starting to work for a new company next week. One thing that I've found helpful for myself is to improve my three-second pause.
Just started viewing your brilliant messages. Love your spirit and many others on here improving our well being.
wow. this was quite eye-opening. love your videos! please keep them coming.
Shade always rocks in every shade 🍁💞....such a wonderful intellectual personality.
Make other people feel valuable and you become valuable- Good one
thanks alot of for you Mis Zahrai. the first Impression i meet with this video make me happy and spirit for study again and again. very long time i stop study in english. i bored for study english. in my mind, the english make me crazy and each other mistake.
Non-verbal gestures are tell-tale signs so mannerisms should be practiced or monitored. Great tips, Shadé! Thanks! 🥰🤓😍
Your first impression had made me watch almost all your videos. 😊
I guess it's u only ,one in a billion who has all of it otherwise for us all of these qualities will come through our experiences and practice....love from DELHI....
Wow… what a inside view for first Impressions. Most adorable podcast for me 🎉
I newly joined your channel. The quality of the videos, the content, and the way you articulate these tips are impressive.
Wish you the best!
Thank you so much for making these videos. I love how you take the time to explain with examples. I find your tips very helpful.
The quality of your videos and content is exceptional 👌
This is very useful. You should expand a bit on this and contrast this with interactions with individuals more senior to you (ex: managers, vp's, C suite execs, etc). I agree with this by-in-large when it comes to talking to peers at roughly the same level of seniority, but I don't think it is as effective with senior management. If you disagree, then please also dive into why this is the case. Thanks for the content
Thank you for the suggestion to delve deeper into the topic. The biggest challenge that my husband and I face (we produce these videos together) is having enough time to deep dive into the wide range topics while running our business and my full time PhD work, and ensuring we keep the broad audience happy!
You raise a good point regarding how would these 'charisma' habits translate to interacting with more senior colleagues. The principles of charisma are generally universal in human interactions but need to be nuanced with the nature of the relationship, expectations, personality traits, culture etc.
Demonstrating high competence most likely takes precedence over rapport when interacting with more senior management. This doesn't mean that 'charisma' should be forgotten.
Fundamentally we are still dealing with humans. Everything needs to be applied in context and with wisdom.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and initiating a discussion!
That's a great one shade I really got alot of value
Thank you, Shadé. excellent great very good step to step
Yeah,since I've listened,I have made many trips to the EU for the G- 20 summit.I have even channeled Ramatha night!!!
This channel is gold. I am so excited to learn all these things.
Shade let me tell you, " You are transcendent and we know you too know it very much " .
Thank you very much for today's data and the data is Power.
I love how you talk. it's an interesting content. Thanks for sharing your knowledge.
Thanks. I find your presentations very useful.
Where’s the link that summarises this fantastic video so that can remember the 5 points?
Awesome content and to the point love your presentation and your body language and tone of your voice i need to work on my aspects for better communicator. ❤
The 3 second pause trick is amazing
These are very effective, thank you ma'am.
This message is very important in my work. Thanks from Brazil! 🇧🇷
Glad it was helpful Vitor. You're welcome from Australia!
Just join a new organization. Gonna use them all.
Only question is everyone is remote now and wfh. So without physically meeting someone how to use these hacks.
Thanks😊
Thank you, solid advice, Shade!
So nice and great way of explaining what we all need to see in life..thanks
I love your videos❤ new subscriber. Very helpful and informative.
Excellent tricks shade thank you so much for sharing
Shadé looks stunning !!
Superficial world needs you!!
3:10 is where the actual video starts !
She is just so charismatic!!!
Awesome content and to the point. Love your presentation and your body language and tone of your voice. I need to work on my aspects for better communicator.
New subs 😅. Thanks for your videos hope I found your channel at the earliest, I'll bingwatch your videos this coming days and applied immediately to my workplace. Have a great day :)
I continue my last year psychology degree. This channel is very good for knowledge.
Love from India 🇮🇳♥
Really neat tips. Keep going girl!! Thank you so much!!! 😊
I subscribed as soon as I watched this random video. Random? Well, it is not random, TH-cam Ai knows me more than I know myself. Very decent quality production thank you. Oh by the way I laughed out loud for the "CUT MOMENT[bloopers]"
Really Became huge fan of your videos with knowledge
Keep uploading Ma'am
Whenever I see your lecture mam your positive energy flow on me . 💥💥🎊
Very useful tips. It is very very important whether in first day at work or in university.
Very emerging topic. Thanks for posting.
If you create some videos of any topic that would be pure gold
Shade, thank you so much for the great videos you have been creating! Will it be possible to adapt this and some of the other videos to remote working situation! Kudos to employees of your company:-)!
Thanks to share your knowledge! It is highly valuable for me !!!
Thank you so much... This is game changing 😊
your channel have good content and full of inspiration thank you 😍
After such informative video a little bit comedy in the end.😀😀
I am feeling really fascinated
The insights I get, are febulous and your English is ice on the cake.
How can I speak like you
Provide me some tips.
No sé mucho inglés, siempre decian que busque algo que te guste para aprender inglés, y me gusta saber de psicología (comportamiento humano).
Aprendo de ti, mcuhas gracias.
Such an eye opener ☺ Thanks for your tips & tricks 😍
You're always the best and influencing speaker !
The information you share are very useful
you gonna be my crush and mentor . much appreciated.
Thanks for sharing, loved it. Great work
Decieveness(respect)
Introduce yourself
Why 2. Story
First impression-activation energy
- Sisyphus
- emotional breath
(Closeup)
- Warmth - and presence-(closeup)
# smile(personable and approachable)
/_\ inflexion and similarities-reverb-
(Metaphor)-association: diaphragm
- Remember their name 📛 🔥
- Proximity
I appreciate you fame 😊 ✊
Endearing
Inviting-
First impressions
- associations(altered state)
- cluster bias
Your explanation is too good💯🙌
Thanks a lot 😊
Everything about her videos is Great
Content
Voice
Gestures
Everything literally
Respect from Pakistan 🇵🇰
Great Allusion: "People will have to trust you first rather than knowing if you are good in hunting."
Important tip.
I am the first one 😅 next topic should be on my request 😅
😂 👍🏽
@@ShadeZahrai th-cam.com/users/shortsfrQvk5vcLgk?feature=share
Just be authentic and true to yourself 👍
Thank you..
I just Loved the precious knowledge express in this video... Thankful
Wow. This is gem. Thanks for sharing 👍
Ur channel is awesome 👌
Thanks for the great content❤️
U r very charismatic 🌻💫
You are awesome. Watching your videos like a mesmerizing personality, and I just lost the world for that time during watching and totally focused what you are thinking to implant vital message to us.... Are you a psychology professor in any University?
Thank you for the lovely message! Glad you're enjoying these videos.
I run an international business with my husband that works with multi-national corporations to help improve leadership and employee performance. Although I do have a bachelor of Psychology
I worked as a lawyer and then in banking. Currently completing a PhD in the area of workplace performance which does dive into the psychology.
Excellent video. Very helpful. God bless.
Awesome presentation!
Charismatic SPIR gifts : with proportion of one's immaterial spark, encouraging speaker a teacher encourager. The remain different talents from one Source, miraculous powers discernment interpretation thank you
IT IS BETTER THAN THE BEST ! JUST BEST💎
Superb as usual
Watching bloopers is so fun, Shadè. Keep including it in the videos please.😊🙏🏽
Amazing that how you compile all so relevant and so handy information into an impactful pack and deliver it with effortless punch. That’s no less than brilliance.👌
Just keen and curious to know, if you oblige, how many sentences you are able to deliver before taking a pause or loosing track of your text or committing a blooper? 😊 To me such fluency and natural flow of words is extraordinary and gifted and at times seems to be unreal,👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
No offense meant Shadè 🙏🏽 by calling it unreal, rather i am in an awe with such impeccable delivery.
Keep helping people with such sincerity and commitment. 👍
Thank you for the kind words Kamal. 😊🙏🏽
To answer your question, it really depends on wether we are delivering a live webinar presentation or a scripted video. When recording a video we mostly have to repeat if there is a loud noise in the background. Otherwise, we repeat a phrase if I make a mistake or we think that they way it's spoken could be better. We - being my husband and I. We create all of these videos together.
Thanks Shadé for responding. 🙏
On a lighter note, Shadë...
Noted the third time 😊 that you work for it with your husband.
🙏
You are gift to the world. 🙏
OMG! She's brilliant!!!
Really valuable information 👌😊
Do make video on diplomacy sign,gesture and body language with unique solutions
hi shade , you are uploading quality content. im glad i found and subscribed your channel. I see most videos cover about work space and personal development. It would be helpful if you could upload some videos for people like me who were raised in emotionally unhealthy environments , narcissistic parents for example. to how to improve our self confidence and from where to start, it is like people like me dont know where to start out journey of self confidence and we get stuck in the viscious cycle of lack of self confidence and being talked down due to that. thanks again. your face full of smile makes these videos as if some one of our best friends give us a friendly advice. thanks :)