The reason people don't like you.
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you seem really cool....
GO AWAY
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Oh, wait. I get it. XD
This is so funny 🤣
lol.. If people didn't care what others thought, they wouldn't be spending thousands disfiguring their bodies with indelible ink. Tats scream out compliance, not uniqueness. They might have believed they were being rebellious when they were actually just following the herd.
I would rather be alone than spend time in bad company
All day l o n g.
Baa-aaad companyyy... till the day i diiiiieeee!
Thats a rule everybody who wants to live a better life shouöd live by
Stop being so judgmental over other people's company.
amen brother. one of the best lessons of my 30+ years on this filthy planet
Imagine being hated because your quiet
Well many people are quiet. That is not a logical reason not to like someone. It is more nuanced. I completely disagree that being liked is subjective. I know many people feel the same way about most people.
LoL yeah I've been there
There's people who accuse people of being homophobic, racist, bigoted, simply for not speaking on something actually. I think that line of thinking and coercion is wrong also.
Or because you smile.
I've been called a creep for casually breathing near someone before lol I was just tired from working hard
I have found that the people who don’t like me are the ones who can’t control me.
Priceless wisdom!!!🧡💚💜
Ooooooof 🎉
Thank you. I've been having a rough time at work, and this really hit home. It's a hard road, but I want to be myself, not controlled and censored, groomed as a pet for lonely, jealous people.
That is indeed, Priceless Wisdom!
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Not feeling in control elicits feelings of shame and embarrassment, which are converted into anger or narcissistic rage.
Anger is a secondary emotion comprised of: fear, shame, embarrassment, envy, uncertainty, guilt, etc.
"You have enemies? Good. That means you’ve stood up for something, sometime in your life."
Winston Churchill
or your just an asshole lol
What the… He was in a different position when he said that than most of ordinary people…
@@kurtcocaine9180 Don't quite understand your point Kurt, you don't have to be a Prime Minister to stand up for your beliefs. I think that quote by Churchill applies to anyone.
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Theres always that stranger who hates you the moment they notice you. You can see it in their eyes. It can be on the job with someone new, or maybe you were the new guy that day. It can be in church, it can be the nearest apartment
So it goes all the way back to the schoolyard:
1. _Trust your intuition;_ dont stay where youre not welcome
2. Avoid the ones who dislike you
3. Dont waste your time being nice to them, mind your own business
4. Sometimes avoidance is impossible... but what happens then is up to you. The only person I cant be at peace with is the one who chooses me for an enemy, from day one 🗡️🛡️
The older I get, the less friends I have and I like it that way.
Smart.
Damn straight
Amen to that!
I decided this whole concept of friends is tricky. Who can a human trust? I am 63 and unsure there is such a thing as a real friend?
Like your comment, love your YT username!
I learned at an early age that people didn't like me. At first I thought it was my skin. What I wore. Where I was born. My accent. Then I realized all types of people don't like me. I began to ignore people, and focuse on myself. I stayed away. When others pushed me away I just took it from there. I focused more on my goals, and I accomplished every one of them without the negativity of anyone. I learned that I didn't need anyone. I'm fine with just one person liking me. It's really nice. I'm happy.
thanks for sharing
Your comment resonated with me and gave me hope.
Thank you for posting...
Just, one person liking you? Turn on your tv, look around a bit at what some (most!) call a friend. Look at the vapid, mindless fair that passes as info/entertainment. Your cell? Worse even, Twitter, Facebook, so many more.
You have a friend, a human being? That's ok. I have zero and I am fine with... where I'm headed, you can't take any nonsense with you,
none of that nonsense.
😎
Same man
I'm sure more people like you, not only one.... You might be like a marmite - not everybody's cup of tea, as the English would say.
I noticed strangers are more respectful than aleged "friends".
Same here. I had friend who betrayed and didn't give a damn aboiut how I felt about certain things.
Unless they are in their car with a little sense of anonymity
Someone once said to me, "I don't like your attitude," I replied, "I really don't give a shit."
haha
And then you wonder why people don’t like you. Maybe your ego is the problem honestly. I learned that myself the hard way.
Epic.
@Octomaggot words I live by: "Your opinion of me is none of my business."
I replied with no you just don't like that my attitude is better than yours
It's not a problem if someone doesn't like me, as long as they leave me alone. But when they start persecuting me because they dislike me, then it becomes a problem.
👍 welcome to my existence!
True.
Yes, Haters.
That is so annoying. That means they are obsessed with you.
They always do though. They try to make their single digit IQ my fucking problem and the s when shit goes sideways.
What really grinds my gears is that my own family were not my people.
Many of us can relate to that.
Mine too unfortunately.
I can so relate! Nevertheless we are supposed to be here! We are worthy!
This is not uncommon. The reason it upsets, depresses, and 'grinds our gears' is because we love them. Let it be a reminder that we're normal human beings.
I'm right there with you. My family DESPISED me growing up. Never failed to remind me. I miss them because of the blood tie, but it's best to stay away. Draining sometimes though.
when I stopped caring what others thought about me I started to be free for the first time in my life
"You can be kind and honorable and still upset people." I needed to hear that. Thank you.
These overly sensitive ego maniacs love to be offended by literally anything. Pathetic
Insecure people fear confident people. Those with self love, are the most hated. Find strength in solitude. A weak person can always be found in a crowd. A strong person can always be found alone.
Well said.
Thank you sir.
and they won’t stop at nothing to make others feel how they feel instead of going to live in the woods alone somewhere. Can’t stand this type makes you wanna do something crazy cus they won’t leave you alone.
Love this. I need to write it down and frame it on my wall.
🥹🥹💗💗
Imagine being hated for being creative. Imagine being hated for being a good dependable person.
I think there's more to it than that. Intention is the underlying component worth observing regarding the motive that people are operating from. There are manipulative people who are highly dependable, creative, etc. and most of us who are socially grounded can see the difference.
I don't have to imagine because it happened to me. Maybe not so much gated but not respected by family or believed in. It sucks badly and hurts too but it's on them now is how Zim look at it because I did the right things towards them.
That 's me
😮@@GailGreen-tq8jd
Enjoy the day. 5:04
I tried to share an amazing concept this morning with someone and was immediately given a look and shut down before I could even finish one sentence. Really deflating when I was excited to tell her. It was about the physics concept of Quantum Entanglement. If you watch some vids, it's a really interesting thing. Last time I will share- feels bad still.
You can be a perfectly loving human being in every way and people will still nail you to a cross.
Jesus was vegan
Exactly
100%
@@coryleblanc it also was g e y and a v irgin. Also made conflict between 2 woemn. Not a good guy 👎
@@coryleblancPescatarian 🐠
They are insecure and perceive you as a threat
People do not like me because I do not like bullsh**😱😂
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welcome, I can not tolerate bull shit , any longer my virtual friend
Sounds about right xD
Let me guess. You can't stand lies, you pick up on them quick, and you find most people not only lie to others but themselves? If so, right there with ya.
That's me also.🤨🤣😎♌️🐺💯🔥
it's the bullying that is out of control. So tired of those with Narcissistic abuse and disorder.
so many nasty people out there. and it just seems to be all passive aggressive back sniping now
It’s because they’re encouraged by having distance between them and the people they bully, but in truth, the ones who do that aren’t nearly as brave enough to do it to their face.
It's easy to be nasty and arrogant it takes more effort and energy to be nice and have manners
I can't be arsed with people who are horrible to me or others
My kids And their spouses are that to a T...
@@MusclesNOTtattooswell it’s good to know I’m not the only one experiencing it … 😂😂 we all are ! Look on the bright side
Grandma said “ in this world there are people that like you,and people that don’t . Don’t waste your time on the people that don’t. “
"The mob is fickle." Forget the crowd. Be ruthlessly authentic.
What does this mean ?
@@Prettylovvee live dangerously,and that means to be yourself no matter what
It's been 30 years, and I have yet to find people who like me.
And no, Family doesn't count because they don't like me either.
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My tentacles of feelings are sending their way of touching your life!!! May peace be with us! Blessings
My family don't like me either. The suck thing is I had to figure it out myself, since they craft well played out deception to pretend like they like me just the same as everyone else they know. But the truth is in the actions and outcomes.
You must be a A hole. That's quite an achievement
I don’t need everyone to like me. They either will or they won’t. I’m not putting up an act or wearing a mask to get anyone’s attention or approval
I rather be respected than to be liked
AMEN!!!!!
Thats the aim for me as well . Power should be gained as much as we try to gain money.
Refreshing ❤, Thank You 😊
@@ryugavegeta5734power and respect are not the same. Power corrupts.
Everyone likes me but barely anyone respects me … what’s that about ?
I used to love everyone, but I fight to keep others out now. It's a learned trait
People don’t like you when they realize that you could not care less what they think and they have no power over you in that way. Then they become jealous of the freedom you have from not caring what anyone thinks.
EXACTLY
Wow that is so true and deep …thank you for posting ❤
And another reason why someone may not like you is because they know you have a very loving family who support you when the person who doesn't like you does not have any of those things the person who doesn't like you maybe struggling with depression or is currently living with a dysfunctional family. And once they find out that you are not struggling with any of those things that's when they start hating on you. Haters are gonna hate. They will hate you for being happy and those people can fuck right off and kiss my ass.
Yes slip, when they can’t use u, they abandon u.
@@Beertime360 love this
Iam hated by everyone but here's the best thing about it I don't like anyone either.
Dare to think they hate you because you are always yourself and haven't any desire to be like them. If you are clean, orderly and kind there are a few out there that can see you shine above the darkness and will want your help out of the darkness.
At first you think they don't like you because of you, but then you find out that they don't like you because of themselves.
most arguments I've seen/been in have been due to one person not angry at the other one but angry with themselves
cope. Most people genuinely hate you because of you.
I've never fit in, now I'm an adult I love my solitude, I physically hurt when I'm forced to be in social situations
Hmm, I relate. But do you mind me asking how do you cope with work? No one wants to hire anyone they don't know or like. I'm in a temp job right now and I'm quiet. I hate standing out but yet people notice me because I happen to be a fairly attractive quiet person, apparently. So that makes things worse for me.
@@CJTranceAddiction I'm retired fortunately I don't have to worry about it, when I did work I was always alone I never had issues with being around people
Same
I like me, and that is all that matters.
I don’t mind my own company.
THATS RIGHT LOVE UR SELF I DO THAT B4 FOR I GET OUT OF BED EACH MORNING 😅 HANS SOLO FLIGHT
I have autism.
So most people don't like me anyway.
And I am okay with it!
They probably don't understand you or neurodivergence in general.
I’ve been disliked all my life. I trigger something in people.
Lately I have started viewing people as monkeys. If we had tails we would know the truth.
For a couple of years now I simply stopped caring about what people think.
It’s very hard to break out of the people trap. It takes work. It takes time. I have noticed they pick up on it! They somehow know I don’t care; that I will not bow down and serve.
But when I totally ignore one of them and just go about my business it’s so so good!
Wake up
What if you need a job? How do you handle this at work when you come across as not approachable or well liked. I don't say much but perhaps somehow some people can misunderstand this as being an asshole. Not sure. Being self employed would be best for these kinds of personalities.
@@CJTranceAddictionI think there is big line between being non caring and asshole, asshole actively attacks/undermines/tries to act bad against others, while just being not caring is more of lack of action towards others
If people pick up that you’re timid or socially awkward, especially as a man, they immediately won’t like you in most cases.
@@Earthtime3978 im very socially awkward but i dont let it affect me and most people seem to be ok with it. I am not timid though.
When people don't like me...I say...I Love YOU, to myself.
That's beautiful. I'm not quite there yet :)
❤
😊
Am more bothered that people are so quick to dislike me without giving me a chance... their prejudices and judgemental attitude which get to me more.
I hear you. When this happens, I see it as an opportunity to let go of my judgement toward the people judging me. Thanks for sharing your thoughts ❤
That's all on them, not on you.
I used to think the same, then I realised, why am I upset that trash naturally keeps itself away from me? I dont need to get my hands dirty 😂, think thank you for the favour. ❤ their opinion is non of your business and the beauty of that its vice versa 😉
Yeah !!!! Don't go down to their ass wipe level !!!! Walk away with a smile on your face and that will piss em off coz you don't look pissed off ! Yeeha ! And ride off into the sunset !!!!! Thank You !
Maybe u can be annoying..
I know I am incredibly so some days and I can drive even my closest people bonkers on day where I’m a pain in the butt and let’s face it we all have those days. lol.
People liking you was a survival technique as a child to be safe. As a sovereign adult, people not liking me is great so I don’t have to ghost them.❤
I'm still struggling with my people's pleasing behavior ingrained in my brain. I can't wait to get rid of it but I have been doing it for such a long time in order to survive in my family and later in other environments that it comes out unconsciously and it doesn't help me at all.
I feel I'm disgusting nice: I'm a repellent for normal people and a magnet for narcissists.😢
@@Lyrielonwind bless you!! Stay strong! You are a light in the world. Vampires love saints, but so do other giving people like you!
@@peeweelickdoughal639
Thanks for your kind words 💖
@@Lyrielonwind Remember that it is not your job to fix other people or solve their problems. Maintain firm boundaries rather than the elastic ones you have for others to stretch for their own convenience. Use the worlds most powerful word, 'No' when necessary. You can't be a successful Empath if you let your guard down and let the demons in.
@@LyrielonwindPlease don't confuse your femininity as niceness. Femininity makes a woman attractive and whole and part of that is being nurturing and nice but only to those who respect you I suppose. I just mention this because so many women have become masculine today and it's not good for them or the folks who know them. Love yourself is the most important thing. May God bless you in everything. 🙏
Most of the time, it’s because they don’t understand you.
....and they aren't taking time to do so
No time for them anyway
@@sylviacarlson3561 Too busy being the only one that matters. Because you know, other ideas are just waste of time that could be used to "do something actually useful".... like making THEIR dreams come true, lets say. And if you do not see that, you're probably a person that "needs help" :---------)
Or dont want to understand you
@@jasonenglish4531Me also
A lot of people don't like themselves. If you do like yourself, you will feel everyone else's projection. But don't be swayed or deterred. Just remember that
I would rather be hated for who I am than loved for who I am not ..
Brilliant! I'm sure you have lots of people who care about you!
Kurt Cobain quoted
I don't want people to like me. That's not my purpose for being here.
Go you
Some people will hate you simply because you are what they are not strong enough to be. They nurture their weakness as a comfort rather than tear it down as a barrier and do their best to weaken others, because only in wounded weakness csn they feel superior.
I feel like this kinda happens to me in the DanceDanceRevolution community. In the game there's certain "levels" called stepcharts that tend to trip over most people, and a whole lot of people would rather not have to play them, while I am more than thrilled to take on the more challenging stepcharts even if they are only a nuisance for others. Oftentimes people overlook the details or intention and complain because it makes them think more.
Add to that the fact that most people play with the bar, thinking it's easier and me playing without it and yeah, that would make sense as to why I'm disliked by some... but that's envy, ain't that right?
Most people are superficial as hell and don’t know it. When I wear a suit, I get treated like it. It’s funny because I don’t really care, I’m a jeans and T shirt guy. But I’ve got a job that requires me to play dress up.
As soon as the same person treats you differently because they don’t recognize you and you’re not in ‘uniform’, you can’t unsee it. Why seek the approval of people like that? Money.
Does anyone like me? Personally? I frankly have no idea.
Strongly agree with this. People have wanted to start fights with me because of how I look. I just went out to get some Hershey's and orange juice.
I have more than one education, but at the age of 58 choose to work as a cleaning lady. I am positively surprised that most of my colleauges treat me like i am just as important as them. Especially the office workers are nice.
@@dortek882 the something called dramatalurgical theory. Spelling probably wrong. It’s the idea of public life as a theatre. So there are lead actors, supporting, etc., but also the backstage people that keeps things running. Each group has a different culture and the basic rule between cultures is to be nice and supportive when you interact. The fact your superiors are like that is a sign that the culture is healthy. Have a nice day.
Same thing with your car people will judge your character off the age and type of car you drive. And there's no way around it. It 100% affects the way people treat you.
We all put on a show when we walk out the door. On master thespian days we give good “hellos”, on other days we’re B actors or worse with bumbling lines. It’s all an act, no one presents as they really are. Only when we’re heart to heart the show is halfway decent and even then it could be based on a bullshit script.
Nobody likes me. But more importantly, nobody hates me. Nobody knows me at all. There are lots of benefits to nobody knowing me. I am nearly invisible. To maintain this, "invisibility," I simply do not make efforts to get to know anybody. The security, freedom, independence, self-reliance, resourcefulness, and economic ease, I have gained by being, "invisible," is unparalleled by any social person. I thought it was a curse never to be noticed nor acknowledged. I was wrong. It is extremely advantageous.
Preaching to the choir!
@@iaincoldwell4678 It is a myth that everyone must be social to live successfully. I have not had any, "friends," since 2000. I do not even have coworkers on my shift. After the adjustment back from late 2000 to early 2001, I can not believe how much better I am now. I do not understand why public media demonises isolation.
@@indridcold8433 Because isolation is a means to finding the Truth Within. And media is made for the exact opposite purpose: to engulf your mind into neverending barrage of external stimulus and worries, so that you would not have time to find the Truth Within, because that would set you free of this loop of mental slavery.
@@indridcold8433
People demonize and vilify what they fear or don't understand. People are terrified of being isolated and alone.
@@sxwrtr918 A lot of people do seem to be terrified of being alone. However, not all are fearful of isolation. I go weeks without seeing humans. I go longer without speaking to humans. I have had no fiends, nor acquaintances since 8 August 2000 at 18:34. It was a life altering adaptation that I believe most can accomplish. However, the adaptation made may be irreversible. Almost every aspect of life changes very radically when one lives alone and rarely sees humans. After a year living in such a different manner, one forgets how to exist in a herd. Everything you do is changed drastically. You learn to do things completely alone that you could have never conceived of being able to do without the effort of others. This rewriting of your mental programme is down out of necessity. However, if ever you return to being part of a human herd again, you will not consider asking for assistance from others, giving assistance, nor even be able to socially assimilate the customs and protocols associated with successful interpersonal, social, interactions and bonds. Night shift was to be closed for two weeks because of some sort of equipment exchanging. When the return to working days was offered to me, I thought I would like to meet the day shift coworkers because I work completely alone, at nights, and live in a very rural environment. It had been over a year of isolation. My return to an environment with humans around me was confusing, rather frightening, and they seemed to be more hindering me than being of any aid to me. When given the choice to stay at day shift and to hire a new third tier mechanic to work alone during the night, I demanded to return to the isolation I had grown so accustomed to living and working. I have no knowledge on how to be social, have friends, nor meet candidates for friendship. The rare times I see humans, it a night clerk, or two, in the region's only all night petrol station and grocery store. One can become self sabotagingly independent, self-reliant, and adapted to being alone and never recover.
Perfect advice. "What other people think of me is none of my business." Don't waste time 'fitting in.'' You don't fit in. Focus on standing out as who you really are. After all it's YOUR life, is it not?
When your time is in the last phase of life it is so important to
Live what we love to do, alone in our love of creating, a life independent of pleasing others.
That's all we have finding ourselves and our happiness without seeking others opinions about us.
Aye Aye 🫡
I'd like to say if someone says they don't like me or whatever, "Sounds like a you-problem"
How dare you?! 👿Why I ought to!
This matches perfectly with the comment above yours, "what others think of me is none of my business" 😊
Most often the people that do not like you are ones that don’t like something about themselves
My parents are narcissistic. Growing up I was conditioned to be good all the time and had to please them. . .so I have had a hard time with being rejected and criticized by people. I have come a long way lately and try not to take the haters personally. "Liberated" is the perfect word for not caring what others think. Thanks.
Truth.
My God. That's the most overused word on the internet.
I realised as a child I don't fit into most groups... Of course I had some friends (not many) and people who loved me as I'm, but most of the time I had a hard time to fit in. When I was young I tried my best to be accepted, sometimes I succeeded, sometimes I didn't. Now as a 51 years old I came to the realisation I don't need anybody except my husband and one good friend.
Same origin story. But you’re a friend and a husband ahead of me. Go you!
I recently got into college and have been having trouble making friends. I realized that most people don't like me, i have no problem with that right now. If they get disrespectful though, that is when i draw the line.
Nice. What college?
Somebody once told me I'm an asshole , I replied that when someone I like and respect tells me that I pay attention and reflect on myself . But as it's just you , its as irrelevant as you are to me.
JESUS LOVES U EVERYONE ELSE THINKS UR A ASSHOLE
Love this!
Once you have the courage to express your true self even if you are disliked for it, you have gained true freedom. Great video!
Unless they want to see you as something desperately. Then it doesn't matter who you are.
Best advice my momma gave me was this gem. She said “some people will not like you and it’s ok”. Thanks for sharing. 😊
that is a gem! good momma.
Similar advice I received from my mom about 48 years ago when I was a kid: _"@Not everyone is going to like you, and you will never know why."_ Surprisingly, this didn't make me paranoid but gave me more freedom to just be myself and whoever liked me had like me for me. 😁
Inner strength defeats all. Those who attack, show their own weaknesses.
nice words!
I'm not loved by anyone, but I'm completely fine with that. Stoicism and faith heals everything
Since knowing about Stoicism my life as change for the better.
You could consider time, also. Time does amazing things.
If you're pissing everyone off you're trying too hard...if you're pleasing everyone you're also trying too hard...
that's a really cool perspective - haven't heard it before, so thank you!
@@thedavidboland thanks for the compliment. I've spent most of my life in bad shades of mental health and have finally stumbled on the succinct cure for my personal development. Now that I'm healthy - I care so much less about what others think of me (although as a species we have to care a little in order to survive). It's not even a choice - it's just what happens when you have healthier energy
A woman I know constantly “reads my mind”, and gets angry that “I don’t like her”, when in reality, I try to stay out of her way because she constantly misinterprets almost anything I say, do, or don’t do. Does that make sense? Some people think they’re intuitive, but are actually projecting their fears or dark thoughts on you. I know the world is full of chaos, but I try to have a mindset of love, regardless of what people may think. Peace to you out there.
thank you for this, i had a friend who i projected these 'you dont like me thoughts' unto only to realize it was me dragging things down due to my own insecurities, toxic thoughts and behaviours
I'm not liked at school much and that spcific town is very judgemental and I dont really fit in with everybody else I've tried to make new friends and they dont like me as much as the friends I have...I'm just hated on for just existing...Its to a point where I want to cry and people are just dickheads to me 24/7 but thank god Ive found my people and going out of highschool soon...
Go ahead and have a good, long, hard cry to get it out of your system. Afterwards you will feel angry, but after the anger reached its peak you will feel refreshed. You will then accept "what is" and find your inner peace. Being alone is not a bad thing, trust me. Being liked and having a ton of "friends" is highly overrated. I've been on both ends and chose solitude.
It doesn't bother me at all because I don't like people.
If people actually said they don’t like you that would be a lot easier. They don’t they ignore refuse calls emails gossip abuse rant play games. Depends on how u are travelling how u respond or react.
Animals are the best just Love
BINGO!! I agree 100 percent. I had a friend and she was calling me 3x a day. I never had a friendship like that before and it was odd. I wasn't used to the attention. But then it was fun. We did everything together, travel, concerts, dinner, etc. Then for some reason unknown to me, she started avoided me and only contacting me if she wanted something. I picked up on that and asked her, "Do we need to talk? Did I do something wrong?"
She said, "No, you're crazy, everything is cool." And even after that, it was the same thing. She pretended she didn't see my emails. Didn't return calls. THEN when she wanted a favor, I'd hear from her. I finally did "no contact" and stopped emailing and calling. Then she texts that she misses me. I didn't answer because I knew she wanted something. Sure enough, she did want something. I wish she'd get the hint. I now blocked her emails.
@clockworkyokai Yeah, it was a horrifying experience. I'm still baffled. Now we haven't spoken in a few months. I'm secretly relieved, honestly. No more second guessing. I learned from the experience and will now pay attention to the red flags -- because there were many and I always gave her the benefit of the doubt. ... Feel better, though, The world isn't all bad. I'm a good friend and ready to give my friendship to those who are more deserving of me. I've since met two other women who are very cool. They return texts right away. They make plans and keep them. They are kind, interesting, and fun. We're all supportive of each other. There's always a light at the end of the tunnel :)
I forget who said this but someone famous once said "How other people feel about me is none of my business."
Absolutely
Being raised by a toxic family teaches the opposite. Can only imagine how having access to the Internet or YT could have escalated my healing.
Kindness costs nothing. Be Kind.
It costs sincerity. To be sincere to all is to be a friend to none. Some people ought to be excluded from one's own kindness, the least one should give is mere civility.
@@thepoetandwit6513 EXACTLY. It hurts and takes a mental and eventual physical toll. And it CAN cost your life 🤷
Kindness in the modern world can bite you in the ass.
@@Earthtime3978 big time
The message you're putting out there is very powerful. Fantastic content and massively appreciated.
Cheers David 😊 I appreciate the feedback
You have a good heart and that is all what matters. Toxic people don't like that because your light disturbs their darkness ;-) Greetings from germany
greetings thanks
"Toxic people don't like that because your light disturbs their darkness" - the truth!
I just don't care who or who doesn't like me.
I feel like it is worse when it is family members who dislike you. And that dislikecomes with envy. and you cannot get rid of them easily.
I agree to some point. But after the hurt is gone, you realize you are better (safer and happier) without them around. I discovered this the hard way. And this knowledge made me stronger. It also drew me closer to The Most High God (Yeshua). I would call that a plus.
One thing i always keep in mind is that Jesus himself was hated. When he stood before the crowd and pilate asked who they wanted to release and who they wanted to crucify and kill, The crowd shouted to save barabas(a known murderer)and crucify Jesus. He did nothing but good, healed the sick, cast out demons, raised the death, made the blind see and the deaf hear. He did all of that and yet they still hated him and chose to release a murderer over Our Lord and saviour. Thats what youre dealing with.
love this
Amen!! Jesus knows what's best.
Very true even King David, King solomon and Paul had plenty of haters. Point is you can't please everyone
@420_momentum in fact as a strange rule of sorts, the more haters you have the more you can be reassured that you're doing something right
EXCELLENT!!!!! BRAVO.
99% of people being stupid is a fact, and you are amazing ❤
I learned this lesson from my family. They all openly hated and continue to hate me at 53 years old. I've thrived in spite of that fact, and it pisses them off to no end. Love yourselves! Live your best life, and most of all, F' em!
I'm often disliked because of temporary reactions i have, my honesty or many flaws or differences i know i have. I've been fooled by many likeable, horrible, evil people who are very charismatic.
I learned not to get trapped figuring out what people think. They all wear a game face so you would never know for sure what they are thinking. Keeping people at arms length works for me. Needy fragile people are the worst. Be good to yourself and kind to others but don't dwell on things other people say to you or about you.
Problem is every time I try to set a boundary - people get angry. Its as though I’m only allowed to exist and be accepted as long as I’m amenable to what everyone else wants. I think people generally assume they are above me in the social hierarchy (which I do believe exists) and so if I express any preferences they think I’m stepping out of line. I’m 51 and really sick of being unable to state what I want without the backlash from people. I might be overstating it but that’s how it feels. I’m always deferring to what everyone else thinks, wants needs.
if people are angry when you set a boundary that's quite normal. if they are unwilling to honour your boundary then that would indicate to me they are not the type of people I'd like to be around.
I agree with everything you say in this comment. I feel exactly the same. Just know that you are not alone
@sammiplant5683 that is very good to hear. My issue is how do I find my people? I have been searching since elementary school. Thought I found it over 10 times just to be disappointed by them stealing from me and finding out they talk nasty crap about me behind my back. I got rid of everyone in my life hardly see family bc they have done the same ya'll talk about. How does one find their people? 😢
@@jilliantatum769 I'm in my early 40's myself and I have yet to find any real friends. People just end up using me, trying to take me for a fool, I have also been stolen from. I just keep to myself at the moment. I do suffer with mental health issues, depression and anxiety, as well as manic episodes. So I'm either so depressed I can't bring myself to speak to anyone, or anxious which stops me from going out alot of the time, or I am just manic, make bad decisions, end up spending money that was for bills etc. I have 2 cats and I got a dog a year ago which did help me to get out a bit and sit over the park, as I have mobility issues, I can't walk far because of my back problems and sciatica, but I did meet some dog walkers who always pass me as I'm sitting on the bench throwing toys for my dog to fetch as that's the only way I can exercise her!
To be honest getting a dog does make you meet people. I know it's not always right for everyone, as not everyone likes to have pets and dogs can be hard work, but I tell you it's definitely a way to meet decent people as people who like animals are generally nice, not always but mostly. I'm in the UK, where are you from?
@@Awake-Free-CT I can relate co.pletely to what you are saying. I thought I had manic mental issues until I found the empath channel on TH-cam and realized I am just a severely traumatized Heyoka Empath. I have anxiety due to PTSD. I had to get rid of every friend I ever .add bc every one of them stole from me, tried to use me as a pawn for so e reason or another. I have no clue how to find my people. I have 3 cats. 2 of them came from the Ukraine a few months before the war started. I am trying to breed them but I had a vet office I used to board them while renovations were happening in the home. So they would be safe. I paid 6000 dollars in boarding fees just to have the place give my babies the worse roundworms infections it took us 2 yrs to get rid of them then the anti diarrhea medicine got in one of the cats eyes so for 8 months they had to wear a cone abd the girl I want to breed is so depressed being away from him she has gone anorexic. She is so skinny I am sooo worried. Going back to the vet fir a third time with her not eating well. Just seems friends or just business acquaintances I can't get no respect. Just like Rodney Dangerfield from the US movie Ladybugs. I am in the US. I want to go to the UK very badly. I am going through the motions of enrolling and getting funding to get into school for a major and minor bachelor degrees so I can get a life I want to live
I have healed thousands of people on my career and with Covid hurting my business bc no one here cares of possibly infecting someone else and ruining their life- doing so by the refusal of mask wearing during treatment. I have stopped many of bulging disks, disk degeneration disease, and sciatica just to name things similar to your issue. As long as it's honest I can understand you very well. Been through alot of the same experiences. Do you like living in the UK?
When I look around at people in this world, it is a great honor that they dislike me.
There is a guy 54 at the time in 2005 I think, he was charged with 15 years of crimes against a child age 5 till age 15 and he had started on another 5 year old when the child's mother caught him and he was sentenced to 15 to life. But because he worked fill time all his life all most of his friends had to say was, they seen people commit murder and get less time, that is why I pay no attention to what people say
It takes strength to be disliked by most people around you, yet still maintain your authentic self. In this case, you might be better off moving country!
@iNSTAGiB True!
I AINT MOVING THEY CAN MOVE THERE ASSES OUT OF MY WAY WHEN THEY SEE ME COMING
@@user-zp4lf3lv6x Amen😂😂
Thank you, for a very long time I have had a struggle with society in general where I have found myself not being liked and severely abused. At first I thought I was the issue and would try and change so society sees me in a better light but now I realise that I am not the problem, people generally have an issue where they will force their reflections on to others. I now find that whatever people say it doesn’t bother me because I understand that they aren’t happy in their own situation so when they see someone who has things going for them they become unhappy.
100%. I'm exactly the same. It really doesn't bother me now. I'm actually happier without them
So fun you say that people reflect. I have that effect on people I find how people see me as I get study them they tend to be describing themselves. The people that automatically take a dislike the mean things they project seems to be true of them so not a lost. As for the ones that take a nature likely they see to list things they like about me that is traits they have.
Is it really so bad that bad people rather stay away they sense you're not like them makes them uncomfortable. Where even if I can't measure to the great traits of people with good qualities is it an issue that you get to be in their presences over the other types of people
It’s hard especially if it’s your own family that hates you. You’re expected to like them but they don’t respect you.
I was judged all through gossip. They didn’t know me. F’em
I don't go where l know lm not wanted and be around someone who openly doesn't like me. It is that simple to me but people expect you to hide your discomfort and be fake, l just can't do that.
I know why people don’t like me and I’m good with it. I’m intense to say the least and have no problem speaking directly to the point. I’m a professional hermit and don’t want people around me so it works out great. I get lonely sometimes but I shake it off keep moving forward knowing. I got a job to do and to be unstoppable I need a clear path. 😊
I was hated by a guy at work for being happy at work
Most people dislike me. I dislike most people, but occasionally you meet some real gems out there.
Poignant point here. We have to slough off the dead skin if we intend to flourish. Some people won't know who you are but will have the gall to tell you who you are. These people live in their own minds and their emotions are their reality...steer clear of any of these people.
Most people want you to be part of their group. When we would rather ignore them, they get upset.
Everyone deserves love, even if it’s from a distance. Just because you sent me hurt I won’t retaliate, instead I’m going to change the narrative. I hope you’re having a good day friend. Live strong!
You too mate :-)
Your delivery of the message you are teaching is so comforting. Your voice is very soothing and it’s easy to just sit and listen. Thank you so much for this. 🙋♀️🙌🏻💜
Waw why noone told me this before?! So many people that disliked me and took advantage of my goodness. Now climbing slowly but firmly from under my rock.
imagine not being liked because you’re happy and always smiling
They should ask for how you're happy rather than be judgemental.
I hate people that always smile.
@@tacoeisma9644 awww that’s too bad
@@Cacowninja Thank you. I don’t understand how someone can see something positive and feel negativity
@@tacoeisma9644 I always smile at people, and 9 out of ten smile back. That'll do me.
I am turning 55 in two weeks. I am finally in a really cool space where being with myself most of my precious living years has been healthier than sharing my time with others!! I know myself better from this experience! I am no longer entertaining relationships that are not willing to put in 50% of the efforts! Good content, thanks for sharing!
I am enjoying being the villain in someone story these days....i am tired of trying to be something I am not just to please someone...
Thank you for making this video and spreading the message. Recently I had a rough reunion and I saw with clear eyes how someone disliked me. It was painful to see how she ignored me at the dinner table and dismissed what I had to add. It was rare that I have been treated like that during my adult life.
I guess I expected this person to act better than that, but what do expectations have to offer? Only more suffering. Accepting the experience and accepting myself has a lot more to offer. It is ok not to be liked.
Oh wow, thank you for sharing this… I’m sorry you experienced that, and power to you for how you’re navigating the situation. ❤
People are weird.... all of them. If somebody dislike you just ignore it. If that person disrespect you - give it back so they don't dare put you down next time. I learned in my life if you are too good to others there will be people who will take it as a sign of weakness.
I had a women friend of 15 yrs, who was funny, & could be charming. Over time, I learned that she actually was jealous of me, & also resented me, bcs we differed on politics. She also felt threatened & insecure bcs I had more education, & had acheived some things she wanted, but didn't have; she turned her children, & others, against me, & made 2 faced "jokes" with a vicious undertone, then "gaslit" me when I calmly confronted her, claiming I was too sensitive, & tried me make me look paranoid. Eventually, I learned about the various kinds of narcissists, & realized what she really was. I gradually dropped her, & am glad I have become more aware. As an empath, I tend to give ppl the benefit of the doubt, & my trusting nature was taken advantage of. I am now alert for the red flags, & quite content with my own company.
A long time ago I learned that life is not a popularity contest. I get the most satisfaction by walking my own path.
I could careless what people think of me I'm a one of a kind
I have zero friends. I haven't made a single friend since I got sober. My parents are the only people that voluntarily spend any time with me. I am so alone. It used to hurt, but now I'm so used to it that I don't really know if I want to be around people anymore.
So sorry to hear your experience in your sobriety. I became sober about 30 yrs ago and lost"friends" including family. My husband and I rarely socialize. Even in my 70s I am told I can't be any fun because I don't drink. 🤷♀️. It used to bother me but I got over it. I volunteer with animals...lol they don't care if we drink or not. Stay strong. Try some volunteer work if you get the opportunity. Be grateful for your clarity and pray for those who are to stupid to see the good in you.
Hey buddy. You are valuable. A persons self esteem partially comes from their own thoughts of themselves what they think that others think about them and how they behave.
For suure you are valuable,somebody who needs a hug can curl up to you and get hugged. You can give food if you feel like volunteering.
My perspesctive is even if you do some nonsense. That might be non productive or not beneficial action. But that does not make you any less valuable and for fucking sure less lovable.
If i was there id give you a big hug. (And be available for a hug whenever youd like one)
Go to meetings, go be around people that are living life happy without drugs or alcohol whatever your drug of choice was. I have 30 years and that's what I did. I wish you serenity. The people get you they felt the same way. ❤
Same here. 2 years sober. Family not in contact either. Great video ta!
First of all congrats on quitting drinking/drugs! Second, there's a reason you have no "friends" now and it's REALLY obvious what it is: Again, congrats on quitting drinking/drugs :)
Thank you for such a positive and very much needed video as I spent a lot of my life caring about what people thought of me and including my family. I bent over backwards being a "door-mat" for many years for my family constantly putting my life aside to appease them and when I fell on hard times and needed help, they were nowhere to be found. I no longer care what people think of me and I mind my own business and keep to myself. I believe that KARMA is a real concept and it does come around!! Kudos!!
Omg. Totally me. This demon assigned to me hasn't left. I'm 42 yrs old now. My whole life, I've been dealing with people who become jealous of me, created false rumors about me and even obsess over me and my personal private life, and I don't have much, or gorgeous looks, or college educated. I keep to myself, and still, people hate me for no reason. If there is a "reason," it's from their own lies about me. I think I'm cool with everyone but end up hated and people turn against me. I felt like I lived in a cave my whole life, but now I've become a prisoner in my own home. Totally makes sense. Even people from church and my own community. I even have stalkers who are aware of what they are doing and I'm sure there are some people who aren't aware of what they are doing to me. No one tells them the truth. No one speaks up. Thank you for posting and praying for people like us. I came across this random video by divine appointment. Amen.
Oh wow!I kid you not but i'm a 45 year old Dutch woman from Amsterdam and your describing my entire life.I haven't been to church in a long time,i just watch livestream because some sisters and brothers have treated me like garbage.All i can say is,pray for strength❤
People are evil
When you realize that the very same people who've formed negative judgements *OF* you, cannot even think FOR *themselves,* their opinions become irrelevant.
Yes. Small minded individuals!
We get judged by our looks often. I went to a school worker and asked if i could walk my dog around the perameter of the field to get into a trail network and she said sure you look non threatening.
"he who tries to please everyone, pleases no one"
Well um isn't that the goal? And they actually please THEMSELVES by being fake and phony. And us empaths don't want to please anyone either because it never works. So might as well be fake 🙄
To many people in the U.S all that matters to them are two issues, 1. that you represent their views and beliefs and if not that, than 2. that you work full time no matter the cost to you nothing else matters to them
Started a new job and everyone there is so weird and so concerned about themselves. I tried for one or two days to fit in and get to know people, ask them about themselves and their hobbies, what they do outside of work. None of them do anything, one girl said "I just like to smoke a bunch of weed and watch Netflix then pass out before I wake up and come to work again". None of them ask me about myself, what I do or what I care about or what I like. I realized within 48 hours I was working with a bunch of boring losers who had spent 10 years in the service industry and were doing nothing, with nothing to show for it. That's cool with them, but I immediately knew I have nothing in common with these people 😂
What job was it?
@@TasmanianTigerGrrr bartending
You've described the majority of people. They are all NPCs, just merely existing on rinse and repeat, day after day and calling it a life. They have no substance at all. Very sad.