So true. I remember sitting in the car while he was spazzing out about god knows what and I said to myself, what am I even still doing here? There is nothing here but drama. I left in silence and never looked back. Now I live by the motto that if they’re not adding to my life in a good way, then they don’t deserve a place in it.
Yes, completely - When I had been round and round again, so many times but nothing had changed. I could not go-on, so it was long past time to draw a line!
Your advice has changed my life. A narcissist will tear you down into little bitty pieces. It destroyed who I thought I was. Because of you I have found myself again and I’m a good person . My ex- the narcissist is miserable and I’m now an emotionally healthy woman
I just drove on slippery roads for him, it brought a tear to my eye to see today’s title! The best news is my exit plan will begin Jan 1st, an apartment has been secured. I’ve viewed all your videos for over a year, your brutally honest delivery is exactly how I needed to hear it. After 19 years and 10 months I will soon be Narc FREE!👏🏼🥳 Love you!🩷
I second what they said. 💯 You will not believe the change in your existence and your life once you are FREE!! I really loved the man I was with, because that's who I am. I won't apologize for that. He will keep running from and running to for the rest of his natural life. Wow, what a great life. Not!
Any relationship you don’t feel safe in, loved, or validated will only harm you. Another great video Andrew….I’m sending that tree behind you a hug and also one for you 🌲🫂💕
I stopped giving way to the Narcissist False Narrative and saw the real truth of lies and manipulation. That didn’t go over well as one can imagine. I am proud not to worship the self-declared “Queen of Everything.” R.I.P. Maureen. ❤
Step one, i need to get a car, i need to get a job and save up to move away from my toxic environment and people - okay maybe that's more than one step, but this post definitely has me thinking more positively and hopeful 🙏🏻
They love to keep people separated from resources and family, anything to make the targets more pliable and defenseless. Truly disgusting creatures! Wishing you the best and to get out of there ASAP
When you get little boxes from things shipped to you, pack something into the little box, and label what is in it on the outside. Repeat this step, as the little boxes or packing envelopes arrive. Put the little boxes into a closet or somewhere safe. When you have your car, and job, the boxes will already be ready to move. Inch by inch, you create the steps. No one is the wiser. You are just putting some of your treasures away for the time being. Big boxes announce a move. Little boxes are quiet and waiting for your right timing.
@@Parmis_Dax open a bank account even if only $5 in it, take impt documents, change passwords on computer and phone, talk to a lawyer, be very careful who you tell if anyone, make a list of what you need to do (hide this), hide your car keys. Be very careful 🙏🏻♥️🕊️
Keeping score. Exactly. Normal relationships don't keep score. But this guy sure did. My home is your home. when I go get lots of groceries for "US" !?!? I don't expect you to go get your own groceries. And leave me with all this food I bought for "US". I kept telling him I'm on your team. We're a team, aren't we. Radio silence. He didn't know what that meant, obviously. They tell on themselves once you catch on to their smooth act. With rocky patches occuring often coming right out of left field.
It was a waste of our time.....they took and we gave to a fault until one day you finally see the relationship for what it truly was......none of it was fair and when you set a boundary, that's when you see their true colours. They hold grudges and use everything against you. Once out, the peace returns when we begin the healing process. Thanks Andrew!
Thank you Andrew everything you said here is right on point!!! I found out the hard way, 15 yrs I worked my butt off and she took and took till I had no more to give then one day out the blue it was over. Now that I am somewhat educated about these monsters I’m actually very happy that this blood thirsty narcula (narcissist Dracula) is out of my life. Thank you brother. ❤
My ex husband, narcissist, tries to control me through the children. I don't know what's up with him now, but he's been blocked for years now. My children are adults now, but the latest is he wants me to buy ski passes for them. My eldest son texted me some 'offer' from my ex, something along the lines of if I buy one day of passes, he'll buy the other day. What the heck. My kids can buy their own passes. In what world, do they 'need' 2 days of skiing? And if ex-narc wants to buy them tickets, go right ahead - I don't need to be part of this. I think you're right Andrew, he just wants me to think about him. Fishing to see if I'll do something for him. This latest request is so bizarre.
When you stop doing for the narc...get ready for them to pull out their nasty claws to enforce control... attacking you with shame as if you had committed an unpardonable sin. Going NO CONTACT is the way!!! 👍 Be Well, Be Wise 🌈🎀😘
Been there, Marie! It's a different kind of love bombing with neighbors. When they are new, you offer them help when they ask, because they are nice at that time. Then, they think of you as an on call handy man. As soon as I cut them off, as you say, "the claws come out" along with an ugly face. We-e-e-ird! No more, no way ... I walk on by. Rather drink coffee in my peace.
@@marieeakin8534 I overdid it. 3rd afternoon cup and I got fired up and over-energized. All good..did stuff ...slowing down now.😵💫 I'll send you some coffee, made exclusively in my RV by a strange guy named "Walter White."☕☕👍
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone thank you Andrew. Been watching for a few years. Been through the same but so much stronger and ready now. Merry Christmas. I spend Christmas alone... hoover free.
Holy Cow! You just described the 25 year marriage I had with my narcissistic ex. Thank you for everything you post. It’s very helpful in helping me heal.
Every year on certain holidays, I thank God I'm not the one stuck driving his irate ass home listening to his criticism of every single moment of the event.
Andrew, I cannot possibly thank you enough! This video was epic to me and I know I'll need to listen to your valuable words again, describing my 40 years of married life with a narcissist, my realization of his abuse, my rage upon learning the lingo. Yes, I'm no contact, for a mere 7 months, my health is restoring and I am so very happy! Boy, is that in a nutshell! 🥰
We have to stop doing things for the narcissist, and it is hard to make ourselves actually stop. They don't lift their little fingers in most efforts. They assign jobs for us to do. They are sly. They are manipulators. They pile on the little jobs. Always the assignments need to be done in a short amount of time. Empaths get tired. When we do too much for people, we don't recognize that they are abusive. It becomes a habit. We feel guilty until one day we wake up and accept that they have never cared about us. It is a big shock and it takes time and effort to heal. One day, they discard us, and that is a rough experience. They take a lot of people with them. We are left to wake up to the realization that we never put ourselves first. Then, we start practicing how to do it. It is real healing. We have to stay whole for the rest of our lives. That takes daily work.
Clear and to the point! Not many want to say that- " We get tired." No human being is an endless supply of energy and it's especially draining when the greater reality says, "This person is conning, using, manipulating you" and with zero appreciation.
When you finally get it. And I mean when you finally realize how unfortunate you were without any wisdom at all, without a clue how vicious this person was to you. It’s hard to believe I could have been involved in that chaos for the 14 years that were thrown away on toxic days and nights. Thinking that that person cared for me with no proof of that. Wow Thanks to Andrew I finally can see the truth. I am free now and I have the wisdom and clarity 🎉🎉🎉😅.
For minute I thought there was a plane flying close to my house. I actually looked out of the window to see where that plane was. Great presentation as always Andrew. After 23 long years of being played I'm finally free. I had no choice but to ghost her. Free at last, free at last. Thank God Almighty I'm free at last. (My all time favorite quote
I quit buying groceries, paying all the bills, cleaning the house, working 2 jobs, giving him any money. He could never hold a job. I stopped everything. He was plotting and planning. He burned🔥 our house down😢, and forged insurance checks. Lost everything and couldn't replace it. I was free🎉🎁👏. Never looked back 💃🦅
@macunz111 Wow....burned your house down......crazy. Sorry about your house but it got you free free free! so hurray and good for you! Congratulations!
@lindajh5672 thank you, I am now working at a university as an Anishinabe Ojibwe grandmother. Started late in life, lol. Before that I worked as a Paraprofessional at an Elementary School for 7 years. My life totally changed after I wasn't focused on the Narcissists in my life. ✊️🦅
I feel I need to do meetings for people to heal from this as I keep meeting more and more people like me. I’m paying it forward by just being there by listening and sending them here.
I don't feel so bad about all the extra things I would always do. Early on in the relationship, I couldn't pinpoint what it was that caused him to be so distant and disolent(is that a word? lol) After listening to NarcDaily for 2 years now, mine eyes have seen the truth that has been buried deep inside the feeble minded narcissist. It's true: "Once you know, you can't unknow it!" Thanks much.😊
🎉🎉❤❤❤🎉🎉 Funny, I found out so much of my family actually has nothing to do with my biological family. But they are all over TH-cam and social media! 😅😅😅 #AquarianAgeRising
It's crazy how you think certain people will always have your back, but when life really tests you, you see who's real and who's not. Once you rebuild yourself, it's hard to look at those people the same way. Loyalty hits different when you've been through the worst.
Yup I've seen them been nasty to family, friends, neighbours, work colleagues, ALL the exes. They were all abusers and narcissists of course. Never thought it would be me! Why didn't I see the red flags? I was no longer useful, new supply lined up and ready, waiting in the wings. Poor guy! Its just his turn. Lies, cheating and deceit, then discard! Dodged a bullet, I know that now, so does EVERYONE ELSE! Even some of her own family and so called loyal friends "ALL LIES" ❤😂 biggest eye opener was day of discard when she spoke about an ex. "I know how to work him, I know how to play him, I don't want to have to hate you"! Wow just wow. Then a few days later says about him, we are good friends we get on like a house on fire, really 😅
As soon as you stop doing everything for these's disgusting shivering snakes 🐍 all hell breaks loose. Thank you Andrew for all your wisdom & support too us all ❤🎉 Wishing you & every beautiful bright shining light ✨️ a Merry Christmas 🎅 🎄 blessings for a wonderful narcissistic free New Year 🎉 🙏
Noticed that as well. Stopped listening and their "dry begging" (where they ask for something without directly asking you for it) the abuse got worse but I'd already detached at that stage and watched their behaviour realised that as a human they're pathetic creatures
My involvement did end on a dime as you said, he went silent, gaslighted him, I stopped hauling a 100 pounds of ice 3x a week. I told him it was hurting my body, he did not care. I need hundreds of things. After I dropped off my last 100 pounds of ice, and the food. He did not care about me at all. 5 days after I did this, he never called to see if I was OK, never did, and guess what? I ended it all right then and never called, texted or looked back. I never will. It has been 9 weeks and not one word from him on hiw my health was. Thank you andrew. He also was a user, an a liar. On my way to great healing.
Fellow climbers, dear brothers and sisters. Keep walking towards the top. I can promise you that eventually you will reach a point above the clouds. You are not still at the top, but you will see the sun and recieve its light and energy to finish the journey to the top. Don't ever give up on yourself, keep climbing❤❤❤ Can't wait to get there, I feel it in my bones I'm getting there. God bless you Andrew, you turned your deep suffering into something marvelous and so valuable.🧘♂️💪🙏💎
I just want to thank you for helping me to detect these people and stop contacting them. Now I am the happiest ever and take care of my self. A week ago I went to the hairdresser and nailsalon for the first time in years. (Sorry for my bad grammar my native language is Dutch)
Thank you, Andrew. Its an emotional time of year. For me, it's been almost a year NC. First Christmas NC. Its more difficult than I expected. I don't know how to stop ruminating Christmas pasts. 😢
It's one year on Andrew thanks again I haven't looked back and am giving back to my community. I continue watching your shows every night and counsel others Thank you Andrew❤️💛🖤
I've gone no contact with my toxic family, including my mother and twin sister. Cutting ties was liberating! I've broken free from emotional manipulation and abuse. Now, I'm focused on job searching and bouncing back from rejections. I won't stop!
it seems like the narc controls people by giving them money then complain about how they always take ..but they are the ones who want to keep them dependent on them so they can control you...I have seen the parent do this to their kid...I am so glad I am free from these people. still healing but grateful
Not having to do anything for the Narcissist is a blessing, I was the super impath in that relationship and every relationship I've been in. It's really hard to find the right guy when there's so many Narcissistic people out there!! 62 and never been married! Wow!...
Andrew, you nailed it for me with the "human atm." My oldest son treated me like this until he went silent in August after I would no longer let him use my garage. He's been silent ever since. I have released it and let go. Thank you for sharing this video and insightful information ❤.
Hi Andrew ❤ The background is beautiful ❤ I’m always amazed by your ability to explain so clearly about narcs and how to successfully get away from them. Thank you so much🕊 Namaste 🙏🏼💜☺️
Several months before I left, I started grey rocking him, though I didn't know the term at the time. I'd also started not doing so very much for him. I think he started really noticing it the last 2 months, as the emotional abuse ramped up. I was putting an exit plan together, just didn't have a date. He precipitated that by a major 12 hour rage fit, threatening me physically the next morning. When he went back to mowing ( he'd threatened to run me over w/zero turn-that I paid for) I took my dogs, got some basics and left. I'm still dealing with a financial tie, but I'm no contact 5 months now! and in a safe place, working at healing. Andrew, you are truly a blessing. Thank you for all you do. Season's Blessings to you. ❤🎉 I
You cover alot in this video and thats excellent. The projection, the manipulation, the mixed messages, all leading to a major distrust that we dont really want to be true, but it is, unfortunately true. That they dont really care…. so true.
I gathered my belongings and left. Afterwards? I kept saying, “Where in thee hell, does all of this money keep coming from?!”. These days it’s me I’m focused on and it feels wonderful ❤
I started helping myself and discontinued assisting the narcky who just had surgery, right after I overheard them telling 'their' relatives that I wasn't doing much for them at all. Unbelieveable! When I stopped altogether, I was severely slandered, i.e smear campaign...I was breaking my back helping this being while neglecting my own needs. Never again!
Thank you for your work, which provides daily support for me on my healing journey. Without your daily messages, I would not survive. I find peace and slowly feeling better. MERRY CHRISTMAS TO YOU ANDREW AND MANY BLESSINGS IN 2O25.🎄✨️🎄✨️🎄🎆🎇✨️
An issue is that now you understand how the darkness operates, you have to integrate that into your new life & recovering sense of self. This means your sense of self will never be the same. Not worse, not better. But certainly more aware of matters of a higher plane. It's not blissful ignorance, but you can carry it now, and that is worth something. Something, ultimately, far beyond our selves.
Thank you Andrew. Spot on throughout the video. There are narcissists all around us but i personally dont show them any emotion. They fail to destroy us every time , and when they collapse, im nowhere around them. There is no substance to them. They are delusional creatures that only care about themselves and how the world sees them.
@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone thank you sir.. last year, one of them nearly took me down but I found your channel and got your education. Knocked them out of my life,for good.🙏
Thank you Andrew! Hello family. I like the sunset view in the background. Grateful to have happened upon your content around a year ago. I was a shell of myself after only 1 year of marriage to this vampire. I couldn’t figure out how a person who said they loved me and wanted to do life with me could treat me so cold and be so heartless. I never experienced anything like it. Now I’m a little over a month divorced and no contact and my energy and life is starting to stabilize. I keep coming back because I never want to forget and start believing that I could give him or any other abuser a chance to get access to my life again. Thank you and have a wonderful day everyone!
All the things I did for them, I did it freely, as a way to express my love, to prove it. With their increasing distance, it was the only way for me to demonstrate. Backup my words with actions... the exact opposite of what they did. They were nothing but empty words or poison in the form of words. Andrew, I hope you will be richly blessed for your content. It helped pull me away from that demon. Every single video you have posted is literally a textbook for my situation.. word for word.
Yeah, we know how to needle and push buttons. Hard to resist the temptation sometimes but we earned the occaisional lowering of ourselves. WE can be forgiven if we ask, we don't fear our karmic mirrors. We don't hurt others intentionally and pathologically.. Still best to stay on the high road but fair is fair.
MERRY CHRISTMAS Amdrew🌟✨️🙏🎄🎄❤️wishing you THE hope,, gladness & Love which comes with time of year!! You are so precious to All of us around the world🇫🇷May your health,, your life,, be always blessed & God will always be your LIGHT🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🙏🎄❤️
Once I began to make dinner, my ex said he had something to do and would be back in an hour -- I didn't see him again until four days later, as he had gone into the city to work!!!
@@jeniferwatton7994 sounds similar to the ex narc wife. I was the one who did everything including cooked her dinner and we were eating together and she was on call for work and out of nowhere she gets a call and just says "sigh, gotta go to work" and all the food just sits there and I didn't see her for like 2 days!!!! In hindsight, I know she got this on call job on purpose to go see the new supply/supplies smh!
Holy smokes. Yes. It’s betrayal, imo. Once you wake up, you realize you’ve been betrayed - for a long time. It’s an arrow to the heart, but you can recover. And you can be even stronger than before.
Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays ( whatever your choice of words, just enjoy)! Block, go no contact, Grey Rock, etc. If you were still in contact with the Narc in any way, you can bet they were already smearing you, so you lose nothing. It was growing anyway. Way back, they used to use the expression: "Someone put a bug in his/her ear ( 'bug' means something else in these times) ." It doesn't take much to enlist Flying Monkeys. Enjoy the "Gift" of finding this channel.🎄🙏🎅
🎅🤶 Ho Ho Ho.....good morning Joe Joe waking up to toasting your cup 👍 & wishing you a most wonderful warm hearted Christmas Eve! You have been one of my priceless gifts... going through the joy, guts & glory of it all. Gosh, I'm so grateful...thank you! You are truly loved & appreciated & have a piece of my heart with you always. May you always sip a good one ☕☕ & Merry On!!! Much love ❤😘
Yep! You become their unpaid servant slave and their attitude is utter contempt and entitlement for your many kind acts. Non reciprocal distain.Their cheating also escalates. They have zero regard for your feelings.
Saying no to a kid never ruins a relationship that wasn't an illusion :) Love my young loved ones. They know I'm not a sucker. They still ask for money, but it's for good things now. Presents for others, or a little bit for their own business.
To be honest today was unexpected I had a part time job at UPS but due to it being part time I got laid off but there might be a possibility for a rehire that’s the silver lining so we’ll see what happens but the good news I get to figure out what to do.
Your advice in these videos is amazing these things was happening to me with my soon to be ex wife whenever she would be caught out it would be constant excuses that would turn into arguments and once I refused to do things she would just not give a damn about me at all from love bombing me I’m glad your channel is here to help.
The only thing the Narc did for me was to lie to me and pretend to like me so he would be able to take advantage of me. Luckily I was holding back and he lost patience and pushed me too far. The problem is I did become brainwashed and despite being silent and having no contact I still miss him pinning for his attention for the time when he was nice and I believed him. It does not make sense in a way I want revenge now that I know what type of a person he is.
You don't miss him!!! Stop and think about all the ill undeserved abuse, treatment, manipulation, etc. Reflect on how it made you feel!! Then ask yourself the question again. Do you miss that???
@@creeseification You are absolutely right. I do not miss him. What I miss is someone truly loving me, myself, not manipulating me. right now I need to concentrate on loving myself which I have been forgetting to do when I was trying to please the Narc. I just watched one of Andrew's older videos and he reminded me of what I have to contribute and then it hit me. I forgot what I have to offer and it is plenty. Thank you for caring. ♥
Yea, when after 33 years and I got sick of it, his career being the most important thing…. I became the enemy. Told everyone what a horrible person I was, it was easy to discard . Well, he found a new “caretaker wife” and lives happily ever after.
My only daughter was forever asking me for money & I even brought her $10,000 car for her 18th birthday & payed for everything for the car. A year later I said I can't afford giving you anymore money ($15,000 in a year plus the car) she told me not to contact her & how dare I dont give her what she wants. 2years later & she still will not talk to me. I'm heart broken but I had to just let it go. I know the only way she will have anything to do with me is if i give her what she believes I owe her. I pray that one day we can have a mother & daughter healthy relationship that we once had a few years ago.
Thank you Andrew , for this counseling episode, it really resonated with me. Going no contact with my sister and i know its going to be rough, youve given me the courage to do so. Thank you. . God bless you!😊🎉❤
That's what i did, stopped speaking to everyone (my clarity woke up same time as I had an energy shift) I used search engine terms and questions, it educated me so much (it wasn't pretty but 💯 needed) 📩💝💜
Im realizing the last 8 yrs since i was diagnosed with chiari i attracted so many narcs back in my life. Back on healing no matter what. I did everything and lost myself in the process.
& then you realise they had done nothing for you whatsoever other than causing you strife & grief. It’s then you start thinking about boundaries
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So true. I remember sitting in the car while he was spazzing out about god knows what and I said to myself, what am I even still doing here? There is nothing here but drama. I left in silence and never looked back. Now I live by the motto that if they’re not adding to my life in a good way, then they don’t deserve a place in it.
Spot on. I took me too long.
Yes, completely - When I had been round and round again, so many times but nothing had changed. I could not go-on, so it was long past time to draw a line!
My Ex gf. And her accomplice ruined my life
Your advice has changed my life. A narcissist will tear you down into little bitty pieces. It destroyed who I thought I was. Because of you I have found myself again and I’m a good person . My ex- the narcissist is miserable and I’m now an emotionally healthy woman
Thank you for sharing..🙏💜😌⛰️
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That was what my son said to me, You are a good person. I found that an important statement to register upon. Well said.
People who love you,
Care about how they make you feel.
The end.
Well said.
Simple words loaded with truth
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I just drove on slippery roads for him, it brought a tear to my eye to see today’s title! The best news is my exit plan will begin Jan 1st, an apartment has been secured. I’ve viewed all your videos for over a year, your brutally honest delivery is exactly how I needed to hear it. After 19 years and 10 months I will soon be Narc FREE!👏🏼🥳 Love you!🩷
Stick to your plan and get away. Stay safe
🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 Get Away and Stay Away! You'll enjoy 2025 promise ❤❤
I second what they said. 💯 You will not believe the change in your existence and your life once you are FREE!! I really loved the man I was with, because that's who I am. I won't apologize for that.
He will keep running from and running to for the rest of his natural life. Wow, what a great life. Not!
Mine too
Jan Ist my exit plan
I see a MMFT therapist. Have asked around. How can I identify what therapist in my city focuses on Narcicissind abused.
Any relationship you don’t feel safe in, loved, or validated will only harm you.
Another great video Andrew….I’m sending that tree behind you a hug and also one for you 🌲🫂💕
Thank you..😌🙏💜
" This is the relationship you need to heal from" 💯
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I stopped giving way to the Narcissist False Narrative and saw the real truth of lies and manipulation. That didn’t go over well as one can imagine. I am proud not to worship the self-declared “Queen of Everything.” R.I.P. Maureen. ❤
So happy to hear who I am. A genuine authentic giving kind person.
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Step one, i need to get a car, i need to get a job and save up to move away from my toxic environment and people - okay maybe that's more than one step, but this post definitely has me thinking more positively and hopeful 🙏🏻
@@Parmis_Dax go for it, it will be a good choice I am sure.
They love to keep people separated from resources and family, anything to make the targets more pliable and defenseless. Truly disgusting creatures!
Wishing you the best and to get out of there ASAP
When you get little boxes from things shipped to you, pack something into the little box, and label what is in it on the outside. Repeat this step, as the little boxes or
packing envelopes arrive. Put the little boxes into a closet or somewhere safe. When you have your car, and job, the boxes will already be ready to move. Inch by inch, you create the steps. No one is the wiser. You are just putting some of your treasures away for the time being. Big boxes announce a move. Little boxes are quiet and waiting for your right timing.
@@Parmis_Dax open a bank account even if only $5 in it, take impt documents, change passwords on computer and phone, talk to a lawyer, be very careful who you tell if anyone, make a list of what you need to do (hide this), hide your car keys. Be very careful 🙏🏻♥️🕊️
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An empath is always expecting the good from folk. Thank you Andrew
Yeah, my error! 👍👍👍❤
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Keeping score. Exactly. Normal relationships don't keep score. But this guy sure did. My home is your home. when I go get lots of groceries for "US" !?!? I don't expect you to go get your own groceries. And leave me with all this food I bought for "US". I kept telling him I'm on your team. We're a team, aren't we. Radio silence. He didn't know what that meant, obviously.
They tell on themselves once you catch on to their smooth act. With rocky patches occuring often coming right out of left field.
It was a waste of our time.....they took and we gave to a fault until one day you finally see the relationship for what it truly was......none of it was fair and when you set a boundary, that's when you see their true colours. They hold grudges and use everything against you. Once out, the peace returns when we begin the healing process. Thanks Andrew!
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Thank you Andrew everything you said here is right on point!!! I found out the hard way, 15 yrs I worked my butt off and she took and took till I had no more to give then one day out the blue it was over. Now that I am somewhat educated about these monsters I’m actually very happy that this blood thirsty narcula (narcissist Dracula) is out of my life. Thank you brother. ❤
Welcome..🙏💜😌⛰️
My ex husband, narcissist, tries to control me through the children. I don't know what's up with him now, but he's been blocked for years now. My children are adults now, but the latest is he wants me to buy ski passes for them. My eldest son texted me some 'offer' from my ex, something along the lines of if I buy one day of passes, he'll buy the other day. What the heck. My kids can buy their own passes. In what world, do they 'need' 2 days of skiing? And if ex-narc wants to buy them tickets, go right ahead - I don't need to be part of this. I think you're right Andrew, he just wants me to think about him. Fishing to see if I'll do something for him. This latest request is so bizarre.
....... There is a ex naec I know who used to want me to go fishing .......
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When you stop doing for the narc...get ready for them to pull out their nasty claws to enforce control... attacking you with shame as if you had committed an unpardonable sin. Going NO CONTACT is the way!!! 👍
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Been there, Marie! It's a different kind of love bombing with neighbors. When they are new, you offer them help when they ask, because they are nice at that time. Then, they think of you as an on call handy man. As soon as I cut them off, as you say, "the claws come out" along with an ugly face. We-e-e-ird! No more, no way ... I walk on by. Rather drink coffee in my peace.
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Funny...I think they used to live next door to me!
Forgot all about them...hmm...different narcs same BS...unreal!!! 👍☕☕
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Just seeing if you happen to have some extra coffee??? 😁 ☕
Going no contact is the way.... to peace.
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@@marieeakin8534 I overdid it. 3rd afternoon cup and I got fired up and over-energized. All good..did stuff ...slowing down now.😵💫
I'll send you some coffee, made exclusively in my RV by a strange guy named "Walter White."☕☕👍
Best daily narcissist information on the internet. Thank you Andrew.
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone thank you Andrew. Been watching for a few years. Been through the same but so much stronger and ready now. Merry Christmas. I spend Christmas alone... hoover free.
Holy Cow! You just described the 25 year marriage I had with my narcissistic ex. Thank you for everything you post. It’s very helpful in helping me heal.
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A very good perspective, on the truths involved with an abusive personality. Thank goodness I'm FREE from that garbage.
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Every year on certain holidays, I thank God I'm not the one stuck driving his irate ass home listening to his criticism of every single moment of the event.
Andrew, I cannot possibly thank you enough! This video was epic to me and I know I'll need to listen to your valuable words again, describing my 40 years of married life with a narcissist, my realization of his abuse, my rage upon learning the lingo. Yes, I'm no contact, for a mere 7 months, my health is restoring and I am so very happy! Boy, is that in a nutshell! 🥰
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Yes!
As soon as I clarified that I had offered him more than I could handle, he quit calling.
Hours-long phone calls.
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We have to stop doing things for the narcissist, and it is hard to make ourselves actually stop. They don't lift their little fingers in most efforts. They assign jobs for us to do. They are sly. They are manipulators. They pile on the little jobs. Always the assignments need to be done in a short amount of time. Empaths get tired. When we do too much for people, we don't recognize that they are abusive. It becomes a habit. We feel guilty until one day we wake up and accept that they have never cared about us. It is a big shock and it takes time and effort to heal. One day, they discard us, and that is a rough experience. They take a lot of people with them. We are left to wake up to the realization that we never put ourselves first. Then, we start practicing how to do it. It is real healing. We have to stay whole for the rest of our lives. That takes daily work.
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Clear and to the point! Not many want to say that- " We get tired." No human being is
an endless supply of energy and it's especially draining when the greater reality says, "This person is conning, using, manipulating you" and with zero appreciation.
@@JHavaJoe2-m1z You are so right about the conning. Thanks. The zero appreciation is the sign of an empty person. We are learning!
When you finally get it. And I mean when you finally realize how unfortunate you were without any wisdom at all, without a clue how vicious this person was to you. It’s hard to believe I could have been involved in that chaos for the 14 years that were thrown away on toxic days and nights. Thinking that that person cared for me with no proof of that. Wow Thanks to Andrew I finally can see the truth. I am free now and I have the wisdom and clarity 🎉🎉🎉😅.
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I had to step back from enabling behavior...it is difficult to explain but I have been taken advantage of on so many levels...
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You don’t need to explain it. Everyone who has been through this knows exactly what you mean. 😢
For minute I thought there was a plane flying close to my house. I actually looked out of the window to see where that plane was. Great presentation as always Andrew. After 23 long years of being played I'm finally free. I had no choice but to ghost her. Free at last, free at last. Thank God Almighty I'm free at last. (My all time favorite quote
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I quit buying groceries, paying all the bills, cleaning the house, working 2 jobs, giving him any money. He could never hold a job. I stopped everything. He was plotting and planning. He burned🔥 our house down😢, and forged insurance checks. Lost everything and couldn't replace it. I was free🎉🎁👏. Never looked back 💃🦅
So sorry about your house. But freedom is priceless, yes? 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
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@macunz111 Wow....burned your house down......crazy. Sorry about your house but it got you free free free! so hurray and good for you! Congratulations!
@lindajh5672 thank you, I am now working at a university as an Anishinabe Ojibwe grandmother. Started late in life, lol. Before that I worked as a Paraprofessional at an Elementary School for 7 years. My life totally changed after I wasn't focused on the Narcissists in my life. ✊️🦅
I feel I need to do meetings for people to heal from this as I keep meeting more and more people like me. I’m paying it forward by just being there by listening and sending them here.
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I don't feel so bad about all the extra things I would always do. Early on in the relationship, I couldn't pinpoint what it was that caused him to be so distant and disolent(is that a word? lol) After listening to NarcDaily for 2 years now, mine eyes have seen the truth that has been buried deep inside the feeble minded narcissist. It's true: "Once you know, you can't unknow it!" Thanks much.😊
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In the words of Rick Springfield - "I've done everything for YOU, you've done NOTHIN for me!"
Yeah, for sure!! Or Pink Floyd, "If you wanna find out what's behind these cold eyes, you'll just have to claw your way through this disguise."
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If when you meet somebody or enter a space and you feel like you can read the energy of the room, please know that u r special. ❤
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Funny, I found out so much of my family actually has nothing to do with my biological family. But they are all over TH-cam and social media! 😅😅😅 #AquarianAgeRising
It's crazy how you think certain people will always have your back, but when life really tests you, you see who's real and who's not.
Once you rebuild yourself, it's hard to look at those people the same way. Loyalty hits different when you've been through the worst.
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Yup I've seen them been nasty to family, friends, neighbours, work colleagues, ALL the exes. They were all abusers and narcissists of course. Never thought it would be me! Why didn't I see the red flags? I was no longer useful, new supply lined up and ready, waiting in the wings. Poor guy! Its just his turn. Lies, cheating and deceit, then discard! Dodged a bullet, I know that now, so does EVERYONE ELSE! Even some of her own family and so called loyal friends "ALL LIES" ❤😂 biggest eye opener was day of discard when she spoke about an ex. "I know how to work him, I know how to play him, I don't want to have to hate you"! Wow just wow. Then a few days later says about him, we are good friends we get on like a house on fire, really 😅
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As soon as you stop doing everything for these's disgusting shivering snakes 🐍 all hell breaks loose. Thank you Andrew for all your wisdom & support too us all ❤🎉 Wishing you & every beautiful bright shining light ✨️ a Merry Christmas 🎅 🎄 blessings for a wonderful narcissistic free New Year 🎉 🙏
Noticed that as well. Stopped listening and their "dry begging" (where they ask for something without directly asking you for it) the abuse got worse but I'd already detached at that stage and watched their behaviour realised that as a human they're pathetic creatures
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My ex wife must always be relevant, her hatred for me stems from merely ignoring her.
Move on. It's just sad.
Wow, you really triggered it with this one Andrew. Thank you!
Fantastic video Andrew. Thank you for this daily encouragement and spiritual nourishment to help keep all of us strong and aware!
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I can't thank you enough for this. You described the situation I walked away from four months ago.
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Thank you again 💓 it was all a allusion. Have a great holiday. O am healing thanks to you ❤ and light ✨️
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My involvement did end on a dime as you said, he went silent, gaslighted him, I stopped hauling a 100 pounds of ice 3x a week. I told him it was hurting my body, he did not care. I need hundreds of things. After I dropped off my last 100 pounds of ice, and the food. He did not care about me at all. 5 days after I did this, he never called to see if I was OK, never did, and guess what? I ended it all right then and never called, texted or looked back. I never will. It has been 9 weeks and not one word from him on hiw my health was. Thank you andrew. He also was a user, an a liar. On my way to great healing.
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Great video Andrew!!
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Heavenly peace 😇❤
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The rigid, wet noodle hug is such a perfect description!! I’m so glad I found your channel. Thank you for sharing your knowledge!!!
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It's especially hard when they recruit one of your kids against you 😢
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Fellow climbers, dear brothers and sisters.
Keep walking towards the top. I can promise you that eventually you will reach a point above the clouds. You are not still at the top, but you will see the sun and recieve its light and energy to finish the journey to the top.
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Can't wait to get there, I feel it in my bones I'm getting there.
God bless you Andrew, you turned your deep suffering into something marvelous and so valuable.🧘♂️💪🙏💎
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I just want to thank you for helping me to detect these people and stop contacting them. Now I am the happiest ever and take care of my self. A week ago I went to the hairdresser and nailsalon for the first time in years. (Sorry for my bad grammar my native language is Dutch)
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Thank you, Andrew. Its an emotional time of year. For me, it's been almost a year NC. First Christmas NC. Its more difficult than I expected. I don't know how to stop ruminating Christmas pasts. 😢
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It's one year on Andrew thanks again I haven't looked back and am giving back to my community.
I continue watching your shows every night and counsel others
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Yes he was stealing my energy, I was getting so worn out, emotionally also
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Such disgusting behavior. Run!
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I've gone no contact with my toxic family, including my mother and twin sister. Cutting ties was liberating! I've broken free from emotional manipulation and abuse. Now, I'm focused on job searching and bouncing back from rejections. I won't stop!
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it seems like the narc controls people by giving them money then complain about how they always take ..but they are the ones who want to keep them dependent on them so they can control you...I have seen the parent do this to their kid...I am so glad I am free from these people. still healing but grateful
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Not having to do anything for the Narcissist is a blessing, I was the super impath in that relationship and every relationship I've been in. It's really hard to find the right guy when there's so many Narcissistic people out there!! 62 and never been married! Wow!...
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Andrew, you nailed it for me with the "human atm." My oldest son treated me like this until he went silent in August after I would no longer let him use my garage. He's been silent ever since. I have released it and let go. Thank you for sharing this video and insightful information ❤.
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Hi Andrew ❤ The background is beautiful ❤ I’m always amazed by your ability to explain so clearly about narcs and how to successfully get away from them. Thank you so much🕊
Namaste 🙏🏼💜☺️
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Several months before I left, I started grey rocking him, though I didn't know the term at the time. I'd also started not doing so very much for him. I think he started really noticing it the last 2 months, as the emotional abuse ramped up. I was putting an exit plan together, just didn't have a date.
He precipitated that by a major 12 hour rage fit, threatening me physically the next morning. When he went back to mowing ( he'd threatened to run me over w/zero turn-that I paid for) I took my dogs, got some basics and left.
I'm still dealing with a financial tie, but I'm no contact 5 months now! and in a safe place, working at healing.
Andrew, you are truly a blessing. Thank you for all you do. Season's Blessings to you. ❤🎉
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You cover alot in this video and thats excellent. The projection, the manipulation, the mixed messages, all leading to a major distrust that we dont really want to be true, but it is, unfortunately true. That they dont really care…. so true.
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Thank you Andrew!
Love you bunches!
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Thank you Andrew and community ❤️ 🙏, love you all, Merry Christmas ❤🎄🙌
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Merry Christmas Eve Andrew and Everyone in the chat😎
Merry Christmas Alison 🎄⛄❤
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I gathered my belongings and left. Afterwards? I kept saying, “Where in thee hell, does all of this money keep coming from?!”. These days it’s me I’m focused on and it feels wonderful ❤
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I started helping myself and discontinued assisting the narcky who just had surgery, right after I overheard them telling 'their' relatives that I wasn't doing much for them at all. Unbelieveable! When I stopped altogether, I was severely slandered, i.e smear campaign...I was breaking my back helping this being while neglecting my own needs. Never again!
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Thank you for your work, which provides daily support for me on my healing journey. Without your daily messages, I would not survive. I find peace and slowly feeling better. MERRY CHRISTMAS TO YOU ANDREW AND MANY BLESSINGS IN 2O25.🎄✨️🎄✨️🎄🎆🎇✨️
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An issue is that now you understand how the darkness operates, you have to integrate that into your new life & recovering sense of self. This means your sense of self will never be the same. Not worse, not better. But certainly more aware of matters of a higher plane. It's not blissful ignorance, but you can carry it now, and that is worth something. Something, ultimately, far beyond our selves.
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A big end of year Thank you Andrew for all your terrific content. You are Amazing! 💟💟💟👏👏👏🥰🥰🥰🙏🙏🙏💜💜💜
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Thank you Andrew. Spot on throughout the video. There are narcissists all around us but i personally dont show them any emotion. They fail to destroy us every time , and when they collapse, im nowhere around them. There is no substance to them. They are delusional creatures that only care about themselves and how the world sees them.
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@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone thank you sir.. last year, one of them nearly took me down but I found your channel and got your education. Knocked them out of my life,for good.🙏
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Thank you Andrew! Hello family. I like the sunset view in the background. Grateful to have happened upon your content around a year ago. I was a shell of myself after only 1 year of marriage to this vampire. I couldn’t figure out how a person who said they loved me and wanted to do life with me could treat me so cold and be so heartless. I never experienced anything like it. Now I’m a little over a month divorced and no contact and my energy and life is starting to stabilize. I keep coming back because I never want to forget and start believing that I could give him or any other abuser a chance to get access to my life again. Thank you and have a wonderful day everyone!
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Thnx so much Andrew. Your videos have saved my life! Thnx for teaching me. God bless you🙏❤️🔥🙃💖🙏
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I love the expression you make at the start opening line😅 greetings from UK. Thanks for the videos, really helped.
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We Empaths need there own street . Community . There own villige city own country 😅😊❤😊😅 empaths stand upp 💪💀💪
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All the things I did for them, I did it freely, as a way to express my love, to prove it. With their increasing distance, it was the only way for me to demonstrate. Backup my words with actions... the exact opposite of what they did. They were nothing but empty words or poison in the form of words. Andrew, I hope you will be richly blessed for your content. It helped pull me away from that demon. Every single video you have posted is literally a textbook for my situation.. word for word.
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Yeah, we know how to needle and push buttons. Hard to resist the temptation sometimes but we earned the occaisional lowering of ourselves. WE can be forgiven if we ask, we don't fear our karmic mirrors. We don't hurt others intentionally and pathologically.. Still best to stay on the high road but fair is fair.
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MERRY CHRISTMAS Amdrew🌟✨️🙏🎄🎄❤️wishing you THE hope,, gladness & Love which comes with time of year!! You are so precious to All of us around the world🇫🇷May your health,, your life,, be always blessed & God will always be your LIGHT🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🙏🎄❤️
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Once I began to make dinner, my ex said he had something to do and would be back in an hour -- I didn't see him again until four days later, as he had gone into the city to work!!!
Wow! Sounds very strange and disturbing!! We all know he wasn't at work 🫢
@@jeniferwatton7994 sounds similar to the ex narc wife. I was the one who did everything including cooked her dinner and we were eating together and she was on call for work and out of nowhere she gets a call and just says "sigh, gotta go to work" and all the food just sits there and I didn't see her for like 2 days!!!! In hindsight, I know she got this on call job on purpose to go see the new supply/supplies smh!
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Holy smokes. Yes. It’s betrayal, imo. Once you wake up, you realize you’ve been betrayed - for a long time. It’s an arrow to the heart, but you can recover. And you can be even stronger than before.
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Thank you Andrew and tribe. Have a blessed and beautiful day.❣️
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Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays ( whatever your choice of words, just enjoy)! Block, go no contact, Grey Rock, etc. If you were still in contact with the Narc in any way, you can bet they were already smearing you, so you lose nothing. It was growing anyway. Way back, they used to use the expression: "Someone put a bug in his/her ear ( 'bug' means something else in these times) ." It doesn't take much to enlist Flying Monkeys. Enjoy the "Gift" of finding this channel.🎄🙏🎅
Thank you for sharing this message..I appreciate your support and dedication..the donation was very kind and heartfelt..🌊🏄💜⛰️😊
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Who knew, your tragedy of encountering a Malignant Narcissist, would end up helping hundreds of thousands! Thank You!
🎅🤶 Ho Ho Ho.....good morning Joe Joe
waking up to toasting your cup 👍 & wishing you a most wonderful warm hearted Christmas Eve!
You have been one of my priceless gifts...
going through the joy, guts & glory of it all.
Gosh, I'm so grateful...thank you!
You are truly loved & appreciated & have a piece of my heart with you always.
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@@marieeakin8534 The feeling is mutual, internal warrior ( I know in the end, the battle is within). Enjoy the Holiday Cheer! 😉👍🙌☕☕
Hey Joe!!
I am grateful for all the comments we've shared.
You are a true guardian of peace.
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😊❤😊..good advice Andrew! Thats a core issue.
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Yep! You become their unpaid servant slave and their attitude is utter contempt and entitlement for your many kind acts. Non reciprocal distain.Their cheating also escalates. They have zero regard for your feelings.
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Saying no to a kid never ruins a relationship that wasn't an illusion :) Love my young loved ones. They know I'm not a sucker. They still ask for money, but it's for good things now. Presents for others, or a little bit for their own business.
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To be honest today was unexpected I had a part time job at UPS but due to it being part time I got laid off but there might be a possibility for a rehire that’s the silver lining so we’ll see what happens but the good news I get to figure out what to do.
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Praying good comes out of this for you!
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@@marieeakin8534 it will thank you happy holidays.
This is so spot on.. You have helped me so. Much Andrew. Thank you for your insight and wisdom. Enjoy fesice season
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Your advice in these videos is amazing these things was happening to me with my soon to be ex wife whenever she would be caught out it would be constant excuses that would turn into arguments and once I refused to do things she would just not give a damn about me at all from love bombing me I’m glad your channel is here to help.
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The only thing the Narc did for me was to lie to me and pretend to like me so he would be able to take advantage of me. Luckily I was holding back and he lost patience and pushed me too far. The problem is I did become brainwashed and despite being silent and having no contact I still miss him pinning for his attention for the time when he was nice and I believed him. It does not make sense in a way I want revenge now that I know what type of a person he is.
You don't miss him!!! Stop and think about all the ill undeserved abuse, treatment, manipulation, etc. Reflect on how it made you feel!! Then ask yourself the question again. Do you miss that???
@@creeseification You are absolutely right. I do not miss him. What I miss is someone truly loving me, myself, not manipulating me. right now I need to concentrate on loving myself which I have been forgetting to do when I was trying to please the Narc. I just watched one of Andrew's older videos and he reminded me of what I have to contribute and then it hit me. I forgot what I have to offer and it is plenty. Thank you for caring. ♥
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone you are so nice in validating our posts, you are in my heart and I wish for all the best.
Wow do you ever hit the nail on the head.. one of the best speakers on this subject
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The low-vibrational state = chaos and confusion where the energy transfer can take place.
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Yea, when after 33 years and I got sick of it, his career being the most important thing…. I became the enemy. Told everyone what a horrible person I was, it was easy to discard . Well, he found a new “caretaker wife” and lives happily ever after.
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My only daughter was forever asking me for money & I even brought her $10,000 car for her 18th birthday & payed for everything for the car. A year later I said I can't afford giving you anymore money ($15,000 in a year plus the car) she told me not to contact her & how dare I dont give her what she wants. 2years later & she still will not talk to me. I'm heart broken but I had to just let it go. I know the only way she will have anything to do with me is if i give her what she believes I owe her. I pray that one day we can have a mother & daughter healthy relationship that we once had a few years ago.
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Thank you Andrew , for this counseling episode, it really resonated with me. Going no contact with my sister and i know its going to be rough, youve given me the courage to do so. Thank you. . God bless you!😊🎉❤
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That's what i did, stopped speaking to everyone (my clarity woke up same time as I had an energy shift) I used search engine terms and questions, it educated me so much (it wasn't pretty but 💯 needed) 📩💝💜
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Thank u I was been atack by acult he went to doing majic bcz I refuse to go back
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Im realizing the last 8 yrs since i was diagnosed with chiari i attracted so many narcs back in my life. Back on healing no matter what. I did everything and lost myself in the process.
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