First story. After the “what will I tell my family” about the party being canceled, should have said “don’t worry about that, I’ll be reaching out to them in a minute and telling them EXACTLY why the party was canceled.”
He should have said "How about the Truth? Because that's what I'll be telling them!" & YES he should have started recording as soon as he realized the situation!
I feel so bad for OP son. There is nothing wrong with being an introvert and not feeling comfortable in big chatty gatherings for hrs. I hope OP told his inlaws the truth.
I think the kid was introverted because he gets treated like crap by the wife and step-sister. That behaviour was the tip of the iceberg. She also showed that she doesn't see the kid as her child - step or not. I mean she actually stated that.
I hope the father gets therapy for both him and his son. The fact that his wife and stepdaughter stood there in stunned silence when they noticed OP had overheard their conversation shows they both knew they were in the wrong. His wife is two-faced. I wonder how long they'll be married.
People can be introverted without being treated like crap. Chances are kiddo was like that before and the steps just latched on it as a way of outcasting him from the family.
@@impishrebel5969 this. Being introverted is nothing negative. It doesn't just exist because of poor treatment. It's perfectly fine to be naturally introverted. Why is it still being demonized?
If you “only heard part of it”, can you imagine what’s going on when you are not there? Yup, believe it. Your wife is a bizz. Tell her to tell her family what she did to her step son while in you and son’s presence. She’ll refuse. Offer counseling or D. Take your son to counseling I guarantee that she’s done worse! Good for standing up for your son! 👏
Is the son truly an introvert or is he behaving so in order to protect himself from the stepmom's wrath? NTA. The wife and stepdaughter have exposed themselves to OP and shown who they are after all these years. Wife is correct that she's not OP's son's mother so why would he have a celebration for her as a mother? The mother of his child is dead and his wife certainly isn't OP's mom. OP needs to not protect his wife also so when family and friends give in grief for canceling the party he needs to tell them exactly what he witnessed 1st hand with his own eyes and ears.
@@lyndatuttle I was hoping for something similar. I was hoping OP would say "Well, I heard you ask him 'why do you want to go? I'm not your mother.', and it got me thinking, that you are 100% correct! You aren't his mother! and you aren't my mother either... So, why in God's name would I throw a Mother's Day celebration for you? Thank you for helping me realize and clarify about how and why you didn't want a party. I'm just sorry I didn't realize it sooner so I could have avoided planning it at all. Now, if you'll excuse me, Son and I are going to go celebrate with his mom. Toodles." Always have to end in Toodles.. It's instant agro fro Karens like OP's wife. Also, OP needs to give up on the pipe dream of begging his wife to go to marriage counseling. You never want to invite abusers to counseling with you. They learn you language and triggers, and learn to better manipulate and abuse you. She's obviously hated his son since day 1. Her and her daughter sound like they stepped out of a Mean Girls reject direct-to-DVD knock off. I'm willing to bet the initial half-assed "YAY! let's be best friends!" was more of a "heheehee, let's be friends while every one is looking! **Everyone walks away** Now look here, you little shit! This is how things are going to go, GOT IT?!" kind of move, especially since that is essentially what she did in the end.
If anyone called my son “soft” they are automatically out of my life. I’d rather be a single mom for the rest of my life then allow my child to be treated poorly.
@@rosemarie1817 this is part of why I'm choosing to be child free bc I know I wouldn't be able to appropriately handle things like that or worse. I'd be in jail or something lol
Story 1: If she is not his mother, then you are not her daughter's father, therefore you don't need to clebrate her. The aholes ripping up the drawings is a huge red flag. You meed a lawyer.
yup... hes lucky i dont know them, i would visit and treat him and his kid the way he treats them... and call his ass weak and soft when he gets upset... no way hes gonna come at me thinking hes gonna get away without a beating...
Story 1 - OP will find after the divorce his son will tell him all sorts of stories of how his step mom and step daughter treat his son. And he will wish he had seen what was happening earlier.
I hope he sees the major problem immediately, it’s the wife and stepdaughter. Why is he questioning the dinner being canceled? The son should be his priority.
I’d ask her ‘be honest have you done or said anything else to my son?’ Get her response and then tell her ‘if my son so much as recounts one other occasion of you mistreating him you’ll next hear me from a divorce lawyer’ then ask the son for other instances
@Yvonne LOLOL! I just might steal that phrase. I have a phrase that I made up that I’m quite fond of. It’s about threatening utter mayhem upon a crap person doing crappy things. “I will bury you so deep you will need the Hubble Telescope to see rock bottom. “
He should have cancelled her as his wife as well as the party. His son needs a parent to stand by and be loyal to him first. He already hasn't his own mum around. What else has she and her family said to him to put him down? What mental and emotional damage have they already done that can't be done?
Story 3: If you get pregnant from an affair, don't expect your child to have a father figure. What a joke, I don't know what she thought this arrangement would look like
probably that he would leave his wife and be a wonderful father to her son, wouldn't be surprised if he has another mistress somewhere that he did not get pregnant yet.
@@velvety2006 That why I find partners of cheaters so stupid if they stay. He probably still doing shit behind your back if you want money take him to the cleaners.
@@hothead2463 I know a guy who tried to use me to cheat. learned from that but the dumb thing was the gf still married him. I would have kicked him out, luckily she did take her anger out on him and not me.
He may not want the boy now, but if his wife had not been able to have kids or they only had girls and he wanted boys, you can bet that he will come demanding that she give up her parental rights to him.
Story 1. I bet a big reason OP's son keeps to himself is because the step mum and sister tell him to leave whenever family or friends come over, and then pretend to try and involve him when OP is around. If OP doesn't file for divorce he is doing his son a disservice.
I'm an introvert When I'm around friendly people I can talk to them and engage in conversation. When I'm around people who treat me like trash I totally shut down. This child is being forced to shut down. This is immediate divorce territory. There is no way back from this.
if ur a introvert u make me feel uncomfortable so y is the son comfort more the the step mom. I understand wat she coming from but she should have talk to his dad instead of him about it. Ps how scientific possible
'Your introverted and socially inept attitude will make my family uncomfortable and will ruin the mood'... What? Who says this? A child will ruin the mood? The mood to what? A mother's day celebration...? A celebration that said child should also be present for. The nerve of this woman.
married coworker story- I'm glad the comments called OP out on the situation SHE put her child in. If she was so worried about her son having a involved father she def should have thought about that long time ago and realize this current situation is partially her fault also.
I absolutely LOVE it when the narrator hits a part of the story that is just ridiculous and his voice starts to waver a smidge while holding back a chuckle while reading us the stories. Cracks me up every time Love your channel!❤
Of the l9ve of flowers divorce the blooming woman. The reason your son wants his space is because they have been bulling him. Something made you go home early thank your angels.
Wow! It’s stories like these that have convinced me to not remarry until my children are adults if I’m ever a single parent. As parents it’s our responsibility to protect our children specially in their own home.
It isn't that you shouldn't remarry when your kids are older because even when the kids are adults, a new partner can force you to choose between them and your kids. The thing you need to do is to make sure that your kids and your partner are at least civil with one another and are fine with the boundaries each have with everyone.
@@ArmageddonAngel I agree that it does happen and that’s when the individual has a choice to make. I personally wouldn’t choose a SO over my children. My role as a mother comes first and whoever comes into my life will be made aware of this. But small children are more vulnerable which is why I personally would wait, if and when I’m found in that situation.
@@Austenfan177 100% agree. I’ve seen the complicated and negative effects too many times with family and close friends. I’m not opposed to a date here and there but nothing is going to get serious and no one is meeting my kids until the youngest is an adult. It’s already difficult enough trying to either co-parent or being a single parent.
I was known as the art kid among my peers for my whole childhood, and my gods, would I have gone completely insane and become enemy number 1 under that roof if they did that to me 😭 but that's because I'm still a stubborn, stand-my-ground idiot I feel so incredibly bad and heartbroken for him, they might as well have ripped his heart up, that's how it feels even when you're a kid artist
2nd: Op doesn't need therapy, she needs a lawyer. We can clearly see that the apple doesn't fall to far from the tree and considering how he has the mindset of "I can't apologize, it'll undermine my authority >:(" as a parent, he has no business having kids much less being in the son's life. 4th: YTA. Just because it's your wedding doesn't mean you can force people to be uncomfortable to make YOU happy. If you truly cared for your friends or family, you wouldn't be putting them in situations that would make them uncomfortable.
The wedding party story, this bride needs to realize that just because you want someone to participate in your wedding doesn't mean they have to, they have the option to say no.
1st story- NTA. Being an introvert, I feel so sad for OP’s son. I’m glad OP canceled the party. 2nd story- Wth is wrong with the father and son! Poor little kid, watching the dad tear his picture into pieces. That’s beyond messed up. 3rd Story: ESH. Get your son away from this asshole of a man and give that child the love and security he deserves. Also, take him to court for child support.
First and Second Stories: Bullying a-hole central! Why are those OP still with them? Even more disturbing is the way the daughter and son are joining in the bullying. Third Story: That’s what you get when you mess around with a married man.
@@asmith8692 Yeah seriously. It's obvious where his son was getting the tendency to destroy things from. OP's son does not need to include someone who is so nasty to him in his drawings, especially when that person actively destroys them. Art is a way some use to cope with bad situations and that step dad and step brother are constantly destroying what may be that boy's only real outlet or way to heal. Honestly Im not even sure if I would say that therapy would help there over just getting the heck out of there. Neither of them as they are are healthy to be around for that kid or their mom
2nd what a jerk of a dad this guy is good gods he's teaching his son bad habits. Antisocial he say's? His son's being a jerk by tormenting the younger one no wonder op's kid doesn't want anything to do with bro.
Mad for not being included in a drawing 😒 🤔 yelling and punishment for not being included in a drawing. These stories never cease to amaze me a person can include or not include what or who they want in a drawing what crap is this!!
Re the wedding story, where I’m from (Scotland) it’s common practice for the best man, moh, to walk up the aisle together behind the bride and groom after the ceremony and have the first dance together whether they have a partner or not, it’s no big deal and everyone knows it’s traditionally part of the best man’s and maid of honour’s/chief bridesmaid’s duties. After that one dance they are free to enjoy themselves with whoever they want to be with.
Same here in the US. I was a bridesmaid in my sister’s wedding. I walked and danced with a groomsman that I didn’t know, and haven’t seen since 🤷🏾♂️ The fiancée’s mistake was inviting the grooms friend -without being asked to by the groom. She got ahead of herself and hopefully the makes it right and apologies to the best friend.
When my husband and I first started dating, he was supposed to be the best man in someone's wedding. They didn't want him to bring me since they had a girl they wanted to set him up with. He told them he wasn't interested. A few months go by, and he's not hearing anything from them about the wedding. So, he finally asks about it. They changed the date, never told him, and were already married.
Ok but his girlfriend was invited. She was a guest. The groomsmen and bridesmaids usually walk down the aisle together and pose in pictures, and a bridal party dance. It doesn’t make them couples. At my moms wedding to my stepdad us kids where the bridal party and my brothers walked next to my stepsisters. It’s not romantic or sexual.
@@tracim3080 but he doesn't felt comfortable and his GF was not invited in the main wedding but the after party, its his choice and we should respect that
@@hothead2463 look at it the other way, and the groom is stupid for jeopardising his closest friendship for a photo op dance. the guy voluntarily stood down as best man in good grace. it gets uncomfortably coercive/vindictive to disinvite him entirely after that, so op is the AH however you cut it
@@hothead2463 depends on how serious the relationship with the girlfriend is. With my husband, he had known his friend for years. And, we hadn't been dating long. But, both hubby and I knew almost from the start that we were meant to be together. He asked me to marry him about a month after we started dating and I said yes. While I wouldn't recommend this for most people, it worked for us. Our marriage wasn't perfect. Nobody's is. But we were married for 39 years. I was with him to the end. He got cancer and wasn't able to beat it. I lost him 2 weeks ago.
I've been doing art since I could hold a pencil and I've had exactly 1 teacher rip up a drawing of mine. I made his life complete hell afterwards. I'd be too dumb to not retaliate against family, too. It was my pride, joy, and how I relaxed. This boy also clearly seeks validation from it, too, which is completely normal. I feel so incredibly bad for that little boy, if OP doesn't protect him and his hard work he could be completely discouraged from continuing art.
I was paired with a bridesmaid at my sisters wedding to do the entrance and then that was it. She sat and danced with her husband after that…you know, never once saw that “tradition” at any wedding i went to.
Been to a few where groomsman and bridesmaids walked and danced with each other. But they certainly didn’t act like a couple unless they already were one.
@@benlutz1974 yeah, like weddings work like you organise them. There are no official weddingrules and laws, except the vows the official declaring (and signing)
I got paired with my younger sister's boyfriend at our older sister's wedding, all I did was walk in and out with him at the ceremony and into the reception.
There's nothing wrong with Naturopathy. It's a science expressed through herbals and tonics. The history of "traditional medicine" is really one of a monopoly and many of their meds are toxic. I'm speaking as one whose father was a MD. It was really appalling to listen to the narrator's mockery. Do yourself a favor. Educate yourself.
Ah yes! When "home remedies" became a legit medical practice thanks to the rise ov the internet mom/professional that knows more than trained doctors because Jenny McCarthy & Rob Schneider said this or that are toxic 😂 And I live in Oregon! There are a lot ov holistic health places in the Willamette Valley. And the one time I went to one they had seven (yes, 7!) people that could not find my damn spleen! Took my doctor less than 40 seconds to poke me and find it. And it was fine. While the quacks told me I needed to come for some weird cleanse thing that cost over $150 each time. Turned out to be a kidney stone. Never again will I listen to a certain friend, an Infowars loony. Should have known better.
I need to find this post. I'm 100% certain there's a bunch of quacks and Karens, etc, in the comments spewing bullshit. Those comments are bound to be comedy gold
All relationships should have boundaries, all of his boundaries. He is NOT a parent. He is the step dad. He needs to parent his own child. If he had been parent he wouldn't have a little terror on his hand. His brat ripped multiple pictures of OP's son. Of course OP's son doesn't like him, and he's being punished for that?? Just horrible.
When I was younger, I used to draw drawings of just me, my mom, and my dad. My parents were always proud of me and my drawings, although none of them included my own brother
Ask your son if this sort of thing has happened before, I’m glad you cancelled the “surprise” party. Change the locks and suggest your wife stay with her parents at least until after this matter is legally settled.
One thing I love about weddings. It shows you who someone really is I hope the ex best man rethinks his friendship with OPs fiance. Seriously no is a full sentence and should be respected it wasn't like the friend was saying no to walking down the aisle with the girl he didn't want to dance with her big woop
Well I'm in my 40s and every wedding I went to was that was. There was pics for the wedding party and a dance for the bride and groom and one for the wedding party. If he don't want to be the best man because his girlfriend is insecure then there is no point for them to be at the wedding. He's a friend but not the best friend OP thought he was.
What I read wasn't about just dancing. (I always wonder if I'm reading a different version?) What I read said he wasn't comfortable walking with or dancing with a bridesmaid. That means "no to walking down the aisle with a girl. Although I get why it might be a big deal to some, to me dancing is not that big of a deal, but why the heck can't he walk with someone? As a "matron of honor" I've always walked with and even danced briefly (usually a wedding party dance is really only a minute or two before partners cut in or people join in and the wedding party people who don't want to dance can cut out) with the best men and we are most definitely "paired up" as the lead "couple" in the wedding party in a picture or two. I have literally never been to a formal wedding ceremony where the wedding party is not "paired" for a minute or two as they walk out. I know the photographer usually snaps a picture because I actually possess copies of quite a few pictures on the arm of various groomsmen as we recess out. The bride was right that that's normal. My husband and I aren't the type to dance with other people, but we've never blinked an eye at this. Even at my wedding, which was very lowkey and we each just had one attendant, my sister walked out of the ceremony with my married brother in law. We didn't buy a picture of them together, but I'm pretty sure the photographer took one.
@@mkatal8329. It sounded like she wanted "posed" pictures of them paired off, not just the quick photo that the photographer may get during the processional/recessional, but I could be wrong. So he wasn't comfortable with walking, dancing, or taking the bridal party photos that would have him "paired up" with someone else. While I can understand the disappointment, I really feel like his boundaries should have been respected. People trying to make it about his girlfriend's insecurities instead of his own comfortability are diminishing his feelings as much as OP and her fiance. I had a friend who declined to be a bridesmaid in another friend's wedding because her husband was not comfortable with her "walking down the aisle" with another man. We all have different levels of comfort and boundaries. Everyone involved in my group was early to mid-twenties at the time. No friendships were destroyed; no nasty phone calls or disinvites. She declined and another friend was asked to step in. Consequently, she and her husband enjoyed the wedding and reception as guests. OP and her fiance should have taken a time to breathe before reacting.
2nd story: There's no saving a family like that. Either take your son and wisely leave, or have him cut all of you off the second he can and find an actually compassionate family who will love him.
That's right. More like a replacement family, which includes a close circle of friends, and a girlfriend whose family are good people, when he moves to another state.
I have attended so many weddings that I have lost count. The only one that had the bridesmaids and groomsmen dancing together was when they surprised the bride and groom who loved Footloose and they did their own rendition of the dance scene. I have never attended a wedding (unless I was too young to remember it) that had the bridesmaids and groomsmen dance with one another, even if they had their respective partners present. I have seen them walk down the aisle together, but never dance together unless it was some big planned dance thing like that Footloose dance.
@@DerekScottBland Maybe it's only tradition in a specific country? I've never seen this tradition anywhere in mine and we've got a shit ton of English and French traditionalists... Or maybe it's an outdated tradition? Similar to the tradition where a purity test was done the day of the wedding in front of everyone.
Yeah, when my brother got married, there were 20 people in the wedding party, and over half were married and brought their spouses as a plus one, but they all walked down the aisle together as couples. I would say that the best path of action would be cut out the dance and pictures, or at least let the wedding party do the first dance with their plus ones and have group pictures. Alan was being unreasonable and a bad friend for not even trying to find a compromise, and insisting that he still be invited to a wedding after letting the groom, his best friend, down like that for his girlfriend
Wedding Story "No" is a full sentence! Imagine this being anything else. "You feel uncomfortable with acting the way we demand? Screw your boundaries, you are completely excludes now!"
I disagree slightly. I’m from New England. All weddings are done this way. And the first dance is with the partner you go out with from the wedding. Best man and maid of honor, etc. it’s for pictures. Nothing more. After that you can do whatever. That’s it. Like everyone says in other comments it’s their wedding. My hubby was in several weddings and he had to dance with other girls. No biggy. And I just got married too.
@@tbyrdinhand3346 but there is a difference between "fine, don't be moh" and "do what we tell you or don't come at all". I see this like a child free wedding or a destination wedding: You are 100% allowed to have the wedding of your dreams. BUT if people can't/won't accommodate your wishes, you can't throw a fit about it, without being an ass.
No all weddings are not done like that. Even in New England. Of course if you have been to every wedding in New England since 1620 and everyone was conducted in this fashion I will apologize.
i find the dancing couples thing weird af - i've never heard of the tradition, but would definitely take having the best man there over a photo op dance.
Ugh the fact that he's so insecure about this is such a red flag to me. I'm a woman in a relationship who was just a bridesmaid and was "coupled off" with someone other than my boyfriend to walk with down the aisle. The groomsman and I were both in relationships at the time and knew that it was completely platonic and just for balancing the photos. We didn't even really know each other, but we're friendly and chatted. I'm comfortable enough in my relationship (as is my boyfriend) to know I wouldn't cheat just cause I was posing with someone for a grand total of 3-4 hours. It's posturing and nothing more. The fact that they best man from the story is looking way too into it makes me look at him sideways.
I’d be questioning why the son is so introverted. They boy was saying he would act how they want if he could go. Makes me think how much bullying has already been done to make him so quiet.
I love it when I read here about weddings and couples swear that the weird stuff they want people in their wedding party to do are traditions no one has heard about.
what they're asking is completely normal. lots of bridesmaids and groomsmen walk and dance with each other without being together. it's extremely common
Former massage therapist speaking here. Naturopathy has its place and is good valid medicine for non life threatening ailments but it is no where on Par with medical doctors who can remove a still beating heart from the chest and put it back like it's nothing They are not the same and if this guy is going to have any success he needs to acknowledge it now
Sorry to tell you but massage therapy and chiropractic treatment are far higher on the totem pole than a pagan medicine herbalist. You actually treat people, he doesn’t.
@@zerotodona1495 Massage and chiropractic therapy are considered naturopathy healing. We also use herbal and aromatherapy. It does sound like Ops brother is being snookered
@@Sate12 Or he's looking to snooker people. I've known a fair number of natruopathic "doctors" in my life (my mom would be the crunchiest of dirty hippies if she hadn't had to be the responsible parent, and they were part of her social circle), and they were all either con artists (two of them are in jail now) or idiots (early adopters of the MLM schemes, and not one of them near the top of the pyramid).
Story 3: ESH. I suggest you take his advice and remember your place, that is the one of none importants. Cut him off, live a better life WITHOUT him, find a man that will actually be there for your Son. I know going to court over this is going to be a pain but the reality of the situation is you need to think about what’s best for your Son, and is a user of a man as his Father figure what’s best?
OP is TA to her son and herself. The man isn't leaving his wife and their kids for OP and her son. That's not going to happen and she needs to accept it and move on. He doesn't want to spend more time with OP or her son. Yes, this is her son and she needs to focus on that and conduct her life and her son's accordingly. Take his butt to court to get proper child support and full legal custody of her son. She should also push for supervised visitation for him, if he actually wants to have visitation that is.
Story 3 : I wonder if she has any friends or family that explained to her that co-parenting still means that he needs to pay child support... He is taken advantage of her.... She doesn't really need a lawyer she just needs to file for child support... I suspect that the sun is not with the dad on A 50 50 split
Story 1: NTA. Your Wife was out of line in so many ways. If your planning the party you can put all the conditions you want. Hopefully your next Wife isn’t such a brat.
I come from a culture where there is usually just a maid of honour/best man and they are also witnesses for the marriage signing. Aside from that there is no such thing as bridesmaids etc and no drama about making people pair up for no reason other than some weird control fantasy (Walking down the aisle together is fine but why on earth do people need to pretend to be together for the rest of the night?)
I've noticed that a good many step parents treat their spouse's children like crap because it's proof they had a life/relationship before the new partner came into their lives. You can't erase a person's life history, folks.
1st Story: no OP you don’t realize, your evil wife didn’t mean for you to hear her abusing your child, clearly you’re in the wrong for walking in on it. All sarcasm aside you are NTA but you will be if you stay with this creature. She is outwardly being hostile to your child and see’s no issue with it.
That poor boy. 😔 I wonder if he wasn’t really introverted but actually withdrawn because her emotional and verbal abuse? I can’t imagine what he has endured when his father wasn’t looking. Some people don’t deserve to be around children. I have two “step” sons. I put “step” in quotations because we don’t separate our children by labels or perceived status. From the very beginning it was important to me that the boys grew to understand that I NEVER wanted to replace their mother, but that I would Love them with everything I have. Now they are adults, and my boys are SO PRECIOUS to me!! I could not imagine making them feel this way! Kids are so innocent and just want to be loved. I don’t understand what it took away from the wife and daughter to be kind to him? What awful excuses for humans. I hope the father stands by his son and gets him the help he deserves. He does not deserve to spend his life fearing that he is unlovable and unwanted. He deserves to know that someone (his father) has his back and loves him enough to stand up and protect him.
Story 2: dude what about her authority? Dude literally undermined her and hurt the son's feelings in a really disgusting way, tearing up a drawing because he didn't have the step brother who somewhat tormented him in it? Are you kidding me? Not to include the massive controlling aspect, by trying to pressure them together all the father would end up doing is making them both resent each other and him, so far he's doing a good job of doing that with the son, not to include he thinks he can really get away with doing it in front of the wife? I see a divorce in the nearby future for that piece of crap of a father, hopefully by some miracle his son will turn out differently than him eventually (somewhat doubt it with how he was acting towards OP's son originally until she got in the middle of it)
S2- I dont care who you are. Dont. Touch. Peoples. Things. Ever. I've had people destroy my art/writing. It hurts. Deep. Divorce. Divorce. Divorce. And I would have done much worse.
Poor son, imagine what else they say to him when OP us not around. What a horrible horrible woman. I would divorce her. And the stepsister is no better
Yeah, pretty sure that a diploma that you print out yourself after attending a series of courses in a Holiday Inn conference center is in no way equivalent to an actual medical degree.
Damn that’s cold to say your not their parent! And not want them at your celebration! 😳 Forget about canceling only the party, I would cancel the whole damn marriage!! EVIL STEPMOTHER! 😱
I have actually met a few honestly good naturalpathic drs. Ones who also had real doctorates but also spent years studying herbs and things like acupuncture. Hell one I use to see actually saved my legs when drs where threatening amputation and did a better job making sure my mother's last moments where comfortable after her ovarian cancer progressed passed anything accepted treatment could do for her. It can be an honest profession, but problem is most is absolute quackery as taught currently. I still thank my homeo Dr for teaching me how to spot the quacks (they mention anything past that oils can do more than smell nice and maybe help clear up a little congestion. Run. They are going to waste your time and money with a whole bunch of bullcrap and blowing smoke up your ass. Especiallyif they try and tell you not to vax or you know, see a real dr if you have a serious condition)
I’d have to agree here. The best results my mother ever got for a long term infection that no one could find the root cause of was after giving up she found a neopathic or homeopathic specialist. Put her on a special diet with nothing funky or that she had to buy special. After 3 months her white blood count was normal…after 2 years of being so high that it was becoming life threatening. Medical science is great but don’t always have an answer. There are a lot of quacks in natural medicines but when you find a good one they’re worth their weight in gold.
In my country you have to go to regular medicine school first if you want to be a homeo dr. Otherwise, you'll be on the hook for illegal practice of medicine, which is a criminal offense. I assumed it was the same everywhere.
I personally think that someone who spent 4 years working to get a doctorate on how to make people feel better naturally probably knows something and should be respected.
Wedding groomsmen story: Forcing both the best man and the the Maid of honor upon each other like this seems rapey which is defined ass sexually aggressive or inappropriate in a way that causes fear or unease
Story 1, Ask your son if this happened before, Did they deliberately tell him to stay home before (also promise to not tell them unless he wanted it known). The answer to that will tell you the next move, If yes they they were bullies to him on multiple occasions and a divorce is the only outcome. If this was the only time, maybe therapy can help. But honestly, if they were hostile to him, me personally that would be a deal breaker. This is a sad reality (I hope rare, but a reality) of blended families Best man issues story (story 4 i think), Your wedding your rules, fine and good. But I assume this is America, we have the freedom to choose your rules or walk away, he chose such and you are hung up on it, move on and enjoy your bridezilla moment.
If you think that’s what a naturopath is then you’re misinformed and should really look into it. It’s obvi not the same as being a medical doctor but it definitely is a valid form of medicine and should be respected.
Why do people always think their wedding matters to anyone else? Bruh... we're just here for the food and drink and emotional support. We will never talk about this again unless you're in the conversation (or something happens like the bride and groom are revealed as being insane...).
Colin is about to graduate from Naturopathic Medical "School". Next time he says "you don't know because you didn't go to college" just respond with "Neither did you."
Story 1- this isn't the first time the wife and step daughter have done this. They've been doing lots of things to make the boy uncomfortable in his own home. No wonder the boy is the way he is. The father is minimising the danger his son is facing
S1) no partner is worth keeping if they constantly belittle and abuse your child .. and that's obviously whats goin on in this story ... Disgusting behavior
OP please remember that your son come first,the wife is a piece of work Look been involved with a man or woman that have kids, both parents Needs to loved and respected each other kids. It's a problem when you don't show the kid that you love them. OP please divorce her and don't give in to her excuses. After all you over here, just what happens when you are not around. Get that woman and her child out of your life and home . Please take care of your SON.
Story 1, definitely not the a-hole. In fact, the guy’s a hero for backing his son and standing his ground against the wife. He puts his foot down when it’s necessary to do so. Very well done
S3. OP and AP screwed up and got pregnant. OP made the decision to continue the pregnancy, likely with no input (pun) from the AP. If women can make such decisions for an unplanned pregnancy with no regard to the father, he should at the very least have the option to financially terminate his obligation if she chooses to go forward with pregnancy. Good on OP for taking responsibility for her unilateral decision and not going after child support. Sure she can and should ask for a relationship with her son, but can't realistically demand it.
Alot of people in these comments making fun of and calling a man insecure for sticking to his guns about something he thought would be disrespectful to his relationship. Why does it matter how long he was dating her yall? His supposed "best friend" didn't even give a shit about his feelings and tried to force him to do something he didn't want to...that sounds like a best friend to you people? Then the bride and groom call him an asshole and kick him out of the wedding for not caving? That sounds like a best friend to you people? He even clarifies that it isn't about what his gf thinks and people still in here talking about "he chose some new girl over his best friend". Yall can't read and sure as hell dont understand what a best friend is. He said "no" and did so respectfully then offered to step down as best man if they needed one that would do what they wanted. Tradition doesn't matter at that point because they were trying to force him in particular to do it so don't act like it was about tradition or they would ha e just replaced him when he said no. Grow up people. A friend respects your boundaries even if they don't agree with them. No means no, no matter who the hell says it!
Story 2 sort of reminded me of how each of my brother inlaws had to be warned that my family is big, we like to talk and talk over each other and family dinners or gathers which sometimes can overload an introvert or a shy person lol. Some bils were only child, and few had a few sibling, but still the warning was needed. OP son deserves to be able to celebrate mother's day with the stepmom and feel accepted just like the step daughter should feel accepted by OP and his family on father's day.if that is how she feels about OP,
Last story, my mother was a naturopath. Most of them (like she was) are charlatans. If they were Doctors, they would be allowed to use that as a title (its a protected title, they're not allowed to) and would be in hospitals and doctor clinics.
Nta. He is warped to think him being paired on a walk down means ppl will think he is dating said girl. If he is warped and his gf is warped he shouldnt come.
Story 1: OP why are you still married to this woman? If anyone had treated my son like that I would gave been handing them divorce papers the moment the words were out of their mouth. Guaranteed that they have treated him like this before and if anything his not wanting to participate may very well be a big red flag for their treatment of him. Divorce her now. You and your son are a package deal, her treating him this way is her abusing you too. If she can't care for him or at least treat him with respect she doesn't love you either
STORY #1 NTA. OP needs to protect his son from this mistreatment. Looking forward, OP needs to make it clear to wife that her choices are as follows - family therapy or divorce. Make it clear that, until she earns back her trust, she won’t be allowed around son unsupervised. STORY #2 NTA. Stepson is a bully, and Joe is an enabler. Don’t even bother with family therapy, just get a divorce. Joe and stepson are that disgusting. STORY #3 ESH. OP chose to have sex with a married man. That’s not okay. Son’s Father is treating son like a burden and an afterthought. STORY #4 YTA. Alan’s boundaries may seem ridiculous to me, but friends wouldn’t demand he dismiss them. STORY #5 NTA. Jerry became a real doctor, while Colon became an insecure quack.
Going to nursing school myself, I've been actually surprised at how much substance there is behind some of naturopathy. Not all, I admit, and I still take it with my healthy grain of salt, but there's something to portions of it. All this just to say that I think the comments go overboard in calling Collin a quack. That doesn't change the fact, however, that I agree that OP isn't the AH for sharing her opinion and that Collin IS an AH for expecting her to blindly agree with him.
Also, I think that OP was right to keep her opinion to herself until he asked. If he doesn't want to hear her honest opinion, Colin shouldn't have asked. The other brother MAY be an AH for seemingly rubbing Colin's face in it.
I agree, the commentators were going way overboard. A lot of ppl have these stereotypes of what natural medicine entails and it’s so weird to me. Not everything is essential oils and other quackery. Different types of herbal medicines have been studied and practiced since the dawn of man (tho that’s a bit different to actual naturopathy). Either way it’s still a form of medicine and should be respected as such. It’s obvi not the same as being a licensed doctor but doesn’t mean ppl should be disrespectful about it. I’ve personally had great experiences seeing a naturopath.
story 1 you have son and your wife has one daughter previously marriage and you had planned a surprise mother day party and dinner and your stepdaughter told her mother about the party and you got home to hearing your wife and stepdaughter telling your son he has to stay home because you act weird so you canceled the party yeah you’re wife and stepdaughter are jerks she is teaching her daughter to treat your son like dirt get a divorce asap and change the locks there’s nothing wrong with your son there’s something wrong with her tell her to stay at her parents house and take all her and her daughter stuff over there and divorce papers you’re son is more important for her to leave him out of the family that’s wrong 😡😡🤔🤬🤬😠
It's not normal. Walking down the isle with bridesmaids is normal. Dancing with them, unless it's a group dance or wierd down the isle dances, is not normal. That's crazy! They have wives and kids. Let your new husband slow dance with every single bridesmaid.
In most countries, a naturopath has to get a bachelor's degree. They work with the family to help them, help themselves by educating them that, eating healthy, getting plenty of exercise, teaching stress management, and, using the plants that God gave to everyone to help heal, not chemicals that pharmaceutical companies use that only often get rid of the symptoms, but often, keep coming back, thats how pharmaceutical companies make their money. I know a woman, that had cancer, she had had operations, chemo and radiation, then got told that she had two years left to live. She went back to the country she was born in, started only eating fish, green vegetables, and, everyday she drank pawpaw leaf tea that she made from fresh leaves. Two ears later, she came back, she went and saw her doctor and specialist and they were shocked, that not only was she still alive, she no longer had cancer. After hearing her story, I found a lump in my thigh, which took two years and six doctors to get diagnosed, I kept getting told it was a cyst, as that is what the first doctor at the the imaging place I went to, to have an ultrasound, said it was, not one of the GP's I saw even looked at the image, until I saw the 6th GP, once he looked at the image, he arranged for me to see a specialist and to have an MRI, the first specialist sent me to another specialist (who was amazing), after the MRI, and a ultrasound guided core needle biopsy, I finally found out that I had a tumour that was attached to a muscle in my inner thigh, after a few months of seeing the 2nd specialist, I was booked in for the operation. After finding out it was a tumour, I started drinking pawpaw leaf tea about 4 times a day, every day. After the operation, where my muscle was removed along with the tumour, my specialist told me that my tumour had started shrinking, so I told him what I had been drinking. A friend of mine, found out he had testicular cancer, I spoke to the woman that had told me about the pawpaw leaves, and she suggested he use the leaves from the male tree (he has them growing in his backyard, they don't grow where I live), so I told him about the pawpaw leaves and he started drinking the tea, and, he no longer has cancer. The tea isn't very nice tasting, as it's bitter, I use to add lemon grass and a couple of other herbs to make it taste better. I have never seen a naturopath, but after what I've learnt, and what happened, I'm actually thinking about going to see one. As I said above, why would God give us so many plants that can help us, if he didn't want us to use them. In my country, there are so many naturopaths, I'm sure there will be some bad ones, but, there are lots of bad GP's too. Edit: accidentally hit send when I hadn't finished
I do not dance. Ever. with anyone. I don't care if it was the only way to save a box of kittens from a runaway train. I have zero coordination, walk quickly because I would rather not fall over and have no sense of distance or other people's pace. I was best man at a friend's wedding, I didn't dance and gladly the bride insisted we didn't dance anyway as the church was too small for a decent down the aisle routine (Groom was considering it). So I'm with Alan on this, though for different reasons. Dude doesn't want to dance, then he shouldn't dance. If MoH wants to cut a rug in 4 inch heels, she can go ahead of the best man. The OP is petty, there's a number of ways to compromise on this one.
A around about, 2 dull grey people, popcorn a popping, the most abstract snowman ever and a summers day in Wales . You are an evil genius, the laugh is the giveaway 🤣
Third story you are not in the wrong for how you feel about the situation but this is kind of a situation where everybody sucks here except for your child your coworker's wife and and his daughters. Let's be real here this man will never have any interest in your child other than a few minutes a week. In addition you may want to prepare yourself to either tell him he's even going to pay child support or he's going to sign his rights over. You're not in the wrong here but everybody suck here about how they handle it. You should lay down the ball that you're either going to make this child known to your family and include him in all your family vacations and activities or you need to sign your rights over. Be prepared because let's be real here it doesn't matter if you were young and stupid the fact that you know that he was married and you still have the child with him you're going to catch even more hell than he is. Especially since you're practically stalking your child's father's wife's social media you may not want to admit it but you are. And there's a major part of you that wants to go on her Facebook and just completely talk crap about her her children and him. And you're just going to get more blow back than ever
Do you honestly think this is the first time wife and step-daughter have pulled this bs? My guess is a lot of sons introvertness has to do with how hes being treated and whats been said to him when you arent around.
2nd story, OP's current husband is an AH for tearing up OP's son's drawing. I wonder where the step-son got his bullying behaviour from. OP's son may grow up being soft and anti-social but the husbands son will grow up to be a bully. And punishing the 11 yr old for not including his SB in the drawing is ridiculous. Both the husband and SB are toxic people. Toxic people that OP needs to get out of her son's life. OP would only be the AH if she stayed married to her husband and continued to let her step-son bully her son.
Story 1 and 2, If OP stays with the spouse, then CPS should be called to get the son out of there. Also the wedding story, what entitled AH are Op and her fiance, if I were Alan I would NEVER want anything to do with them ever again...
First story. After the “what will I tell my family” about the party being canceled, should have said “don’t worry about that, I’ll be reaching out to them in a minute and telling them EXACTLY why the party was canceled.”
Yeah, should have held his phone up, employing he's recorded it all, best way to keep her from trying to spin it against him
He should have said "How about the Truth? Because that's what I'll be telling them!" & YES he should have started recording as soon as he realized the situation!
I would have called the party participants and said " The party is cancelled. Sorry, your daughter is acting like a pig again!
I feel so bad for OP son. There is nothing wrong with being an introvert and not feeling comfortable in big chatty gatherings for hrs.
I hope OP told his inlaws the truth.
I think the kid was introverted because he gets treated like crap by the wife and step-sister. That behaviour was the tip of the iceberg. She also showed that she doesn't see the kid as her child - step or not. I mean she actually stated that.
I hope the father gets therapy for both him and his son. The fact that his wife and stepdaughter stood there in stunned silence when they noticed OP had overheard their conversation shows they both knew they were in the wrong. His wife is two-faced. I wonder how long they'll be married.
People can be introverted without being treated like crap. Chances are kiddo was like that before and the steps just latched on it as a way of outcasting him from the family.
@@impishrebel5969 this. Being introverted is nothing negative. It doesn't just exist because of poor treatment. It's perfectly fine to be naturally introverted. Why is it still being demonized?
If you “only heard part of it”, can you imagine what’s going on when you are not there? Yup, believe it. Your wife is a bizz. Tell her to tell her family what she did to her step son while in you and son’s presence. She’ll refuse. Offer counseling or D. Take your son to counseling I guarantee that she’s done worse! Good for standing up for your son! 👏
Dude, yer wife Hates your kid. And unless you fix it, he's got 5 years of this bs until he can escape to college (if only for the available Therapy).
She'd tell the family that OP overreacted when she was talking to her stepson. She'd never admit she did anything wrong.
Is the son truly an introvert or is he behaving so in order to protect himself from the stepmom's wrath? NTA. The wife and stepdaughter have exposed themselves to OP and shown who they are after all these years. Wife is correct that she's not OP's son's mother so why would he have a celebration for her as a mother? The mother of his child is dead and his wife certainly isn't OP's mom. OP needs to not protect his wife also so when family and friends give in grief for canceling the party he needs to tell them exactly what he witnessed 1st hand with his own eyes and ears.
OP missed the perfect line to tell her: "How can we celebrate Mother's Day when you are an aweful mother to my son?"
@@lyndatuttle I was hoping for something similar. I was hoping OP would say "Well, I heard you ask him 'why do you want to go? I'm not your mother.', and it got me thinking, that you are 100% correct! You aren't his mother! and you aren't my mother either... So, why in God's name would I throw a Mother's Day celebration for you? Thank you for helping me realize and clarify about how and why you didn't want a party. I'm just sorry I didn't realize it sooner so I could have avoided planning it at all. Now, if you'll excuse me, Son and I are going to go celebrate with his mom. Toodles." Always have to end in Toodles.. It's instant agro fro Karens like OP's wife.
Also, OP needs to give up on the pipe dream of begging his wife to go to marriage counseling. You never want to invite abusers to counseling with you. They learn you language and triggers, and learn to better manipulate and abuse you. She's obviously hated his son since day 1. Her and her daughter sound like they stepped out of a Mean Girls reject direct-to-DVD knock off. I'm willing to bet the initial half-assed "YAY! let's be best friends!" was more of a "heheehee, let's be friends while every one is looking! **Everyone walks away** Now look here, you little shit! This is how things are going to go, GOT IT?!" kind of move, especially since that is essentially what she did in the end.
If anyone called my son “soft” they are automatically out of my life. I’d rather be a single mom for the rest of my life then allow my child to be treated poorly.
I'm childfree, but if I hypothetically had a son, ANY PERSON WOULD BE OUT OF BOTH OF OUR LIVES FOR USING SUCH DISRESPECTFUL LANGUAGE!
How is that grounds for getting kicked out maybe he’s a p*ssy
@@rosemarie1817 this is part of why I'm choosing to be child free bc I know I wouldn't be able to appropriately handle things like that or worse. I'd be in jail or something lol
@@onnas5610 SAME.
Agree, I be sending him divorce papers, moving out of the house, and not wanting to see his face again
Story 1: If she is not his mother, then you are not her daughter's father, therefore you don't need to clebrate her.
The aholes ripping up the drawings is a huge red flag. You meed a lawyer.
yup... hes lucky i dont know them, i would visit and treat him and his kid the way he treats them... and call his ass weak and soft when he gets upset... no way hes gonna come at me thinking hes gonna get away without a beating...
@@AshenTechDotCom WTF?! 😂
Story 1 - OP will find after the divorce his son will tell him all sorts of stories of how his step mom and step daughter treat his son. And he will wish he had seen what was happening earlier.
I hope he sees the major problem immediately, it’s the wife and stepdaughter. Why is he questioning the dinner being canceled? The son should be his priority.
I’d ask her ‘be honest have you done or said anything else to my son?’ Get her response and then tell her ‘if my son so much as recounts one other occasion of you mistreating him you’ll next hear me from a divorce lawyer’ then ask the son for other instances
Story 2: I would have snapped on the husband so bad that it would have made Satan sitting in the corner sucking his thumb and calling his momma!
If 2nd OP lets her new husband and stepson torment her son, then, her son will have to move in with his bio-father.
@Yvonne LOLOL! I just might steal that phrase.
I have a phrase that I made up that I’m quite fond of. It’s about threatening utter mayhem upon a crap person doing crappy things.
“I will bury you so deep you will need the Hubble Telescope to see rock bottom. “
He should have cancelled her as his wife as well as the party. His son needs a parent to stand by and be loyal to him first. He already hasn't his own mum around.
What else has she and her family said to him to put him down? What mental and emotional damage have they already done that can't be done?
I wish XO Stories had updates, particularly this one.
Story 3: If you get pregnant from an affair, don't expect your child to have a father figure. What a joke, I don't know what she thought this arrangement would look like
probably that he would leave his wife and be a wonderful father to her son, wouldn't be surprised if he has another mistress somewhere that he did not get pregnant yet.
@@velvety2006 oh for sure, I'm surprised she didn't get an STD as well as the baby out of that relationship. The dude's a sleaze
@@velvety2006 That why I find partners of cheaters so stupid if they stay. He probably still doing shit behind your back if you want money take him to the cleaners.
@@hothead2463 I know a guy who tried to use me to cheat. learned from that but the dumb thing was the gf still married him. I would have kicked him out, luckily she did take her anger out on him and not me.
He may not want the boy now, but if his wife had not been able to have kids or they only had girls and he wanted boys, you can bet that he will come demanding that she give up her parental rights to him.
Story 1. I bet a big reason OP's son keeps to himself is because the step mum and sister tell him to leave whenever family or friends come over, and then pretend to try and involve him when OP is around.
If OP doesn't file for divorce he is doing his son a disservice.
I’ve never met the steps, and I don’t want to hang out with them. They sound like miserable people to hang around.
I agree. I am not one to jump to divorce, but this seems obvious. You can't be married to someone who is bullying your child.
my first thought... wasnt even family and i have delt with this kind of shit before...
I'm an introvert When I'm around friendly people I can talk to them and engage in conversation. When I'm around people who treat me like trash I totally shut down.
This child is being forced to shut down. This is immediate divorce territory. There is no way back from this.
if ur a introvert u make me feel uncomfortable so y is the son comfort more the the step mom. I understand wat she coming from but she should have talk to his dad instead of him about it. Ps how scientific possible
'Your introverted and socially inept attitude will make my family uncomfortable and will ruin the mood'... What? Who says this? A child will ruin the mood? The mood to what? A mother's day celebration...? A celebration that said child should also be present for. The nerve of this woman.
Thanks again XOS. Step parents need to realize that MOST parents are going to choose their child. Have a great day
Agreed
married coworker story- I'm glad the comments called OP out on the situation SHE put her child in. If she was so worried about her son having a involved father she def should have thought about that long time ago and realize this current situation is partially her fault also.
I absolutely LOVE it when the narrator hits a part of the story that is just ridiculous and his voice starts to waver a smidge while holding back a chuckle while reading us the stories. Cracks me up every time
Love your channel!❤
Me too! Always makes me laugh, without fail. 😂
Of the l9ve of flowers divorce the blooming woman. The reason your son wants his space is because they have been bulling him. Something made you go home early thank your angels.
Wow! It’s stories like these that have convinced me to not remarry until my children are adults if I’m ever a single parent. As parents it’s our responsibility to protect our children specially in their own home.
It isn't that you shouldn't remarry when your kids are older because even when the kids are adults, a new partner can force you to choose between them and your kids. The thing you need to do is to make sure that your kids and your partner are at least civil with one another and are fine with the boundaries each have with everyone.
@@ArmageddonAngel I agree that it does happen and that’s when the individual has a choice to make. I personally wouldn’t choose a SO over my children. My role as a mother comes first and whoever comes into my life will be made aware of this. But small children are more vulnerable which is why I personally would wait, if and when I’m found in that situation.
@@Austenfan177 100% agree. I’ve seen the complicated and negative effects too many times with family and close friends. I’m not opposed to a date here and there but nothing is going to get serious and no one is meeting my kids until the youngest is an adult. It’s already difficult enough trying to either co-parent or being a single parent.
Well then if you aren’t “technically” not a mother of my children, then I’m not doing anything for you for Mother’s Day. 🤷🏻♀️
First story: "why should I take you to dinner for mother's day? You're not my son's mother."
These are the step parents from hell. Therapy… no baby…divorce.
I was known as the art kid among my peers for my whole childhood, and my gods, would I have gone completely insane and become enemy number 1 under that roof if they did that to me 😭 but that's because I'm still a stubborn, stand-my-ground idiot
I feel so incredibly bad and heartbroken for him, they might as well have ripped his heart up, that's how it feels even when you're a kid artist
Damn straight! These stepparents and the step demon spawn need to be out on their asses!
2nd: Op doesn't need therapy, she needs a lawyer. We can clearly see that the apple doesn't fall to far from the tree and considering how he has the mindset of "I can't apologize, it'll undermine my authority >:(" as a parent, he has no business having kids much less being in the son's life.
4th: YTA. Just because it's your wedding doesn't mean you can force people to be uncomfortable to make YOU happy. If you truly cared for your friends or family, you wouldn't be putting them in situations that would make them uncomfortable.
The wedding party story, this bride needs to realize that just because you want someone to participate in your wedding doesn't mean they have to, they have the option to say no.
1st story- NTA. Being an introvert, I feel so sad for OP’s son. I’m glad OP canceled the party.
2nd story- Wth is wrong with the father and son! Poor little kid, watching the dad tear his picture into pieces. That’s beyond messed up.
3rd Story: ESH. Get your son away from this asshole of a man and give that child the love and security he deserves. Also, take him to court for child support.
First and Second Stories: Bullying a-hole central! Why are those OP still with them? Even more disturbing is the way the daughter and son are joining in the bullying. Third Story: That’s what you get when you mess around with a married man.
"Your son will grow up to be antisocial" says the antisocial father-from-hell.
@@asmith8692 Yeah seriously. It's obvious where his son was getting the tendency to destroy things from. OP's son does not need to include someone who is so nasty to him in his drawings, especially when that person actively destroys them.
Art is a way some use to cope with bad situations and that step dad and step brother are constantly destroying what may be that boy's only real outlet or way to heal. Honestly Im not even sure if I would say that therapy would help there over just getting the heck out of there. Neither of them as they are are healthy to be around for that kid or their mom
2nd what a jerk of a dad this guy is good gods he's teaching his son bad habits. Antisocial he say's? His son's being a jerk by tormenting the younger one no wonder op's kid doesn't want anything to do with bro.
Mad for not being included in a drawing 😒 🤔 yelling and punishment for not being included in a drawing. These stories never cease to amaze me a person can include or not include what or who they want in a drawing what crap is this!!
Quick correction, it was the stepbrother who was not drawn in the picture and it was the step father who ripped up the drawing.
I get so tickled when he giggles!
Re the wedding story, where I’m from (Scotland) it’s common practice for the best man, moh, to walk up the aisle together behind the bride and groom after the ceremony and have the first dance together whether they have a partner or not, it’s no big deal and everyone knows it’s traditionally part of the best man’s and maid of honour’s/chief bridesmaid’s duties. After that one dance they are free to enjoy themselves with whoever they want to be with.
Same here in the US. I was a bridesmaid in my sister’s wedding. I walked and danced with a groomsman that I didn’t know, and haven’t seen since 🤷🏾♂️
The fiancée’s mistake was inviting the grooms friend -without being asked to by the groom. She got ahead of herself and hopefully the makes it right and apologies to the best friend.
When my husband and I first started dating, he was supposed to be the best man in someone's wedding. They didn't want him to bring me since they had a girl they wanted to set him up with. He told them he wasn't interested.
A few months go by, and he's not hearing anything from them about the wedding. So, he finally asks about it. They changed the date, never told him, and were already married.
Ok but his girlfriend was invited. She was a guest. The groomsmen and bridesmaids usually walk down the aisle together and pose in pictures, and a bridal party dance. It doesn’t make them couples. At my moms wedding to my stepdad us kids where the bridal party and my brothers walked next to my stepsisters. It’s not romantic or sexual.
@@tracim3080 but he doesn't felt comfortable and his GF was not invited in the main wedding but the after party, its his choice and we should respect that
The friend just sounds stupid. He is choosing his girlfriend of unknown amount of time over being the best man at his long time friend's wedding.
@@hothead2463 look at it the other way, and the groom is stupid for jeopardising his closest friendship for a photo op dance.
the guy voluntarily stood down as best man in good grace. it gets uncomfortably coercive/vindictive to disinvite him entirely after that, so op is the AH however you cut it
@@hothead2463 depends on how serious the relationship with the girlfriend is. With my husband, he had known his friend for years. And, we hadn't been dating long. But, both hubby and I knew almost from the start that we were meant to be together.
He asked me to marry him about a month after we started dating and I said yes. While I wouldn't recommend this for most people, it worked for us.
Our marriage wasn't perfect. Nobody's is. But we were married for 39 years. I was with him to the end. He got cancer and wasn't able to beat it. I lost him 2 weeks ago.
Great Dad for standing up for your son!!!!! She doesn’t deserve a “Mother’s Day” party!!!!
I've been doing art since I could hold a pencil and I've had exactly 1 teacher rip up a drawing of mine. I made his life complete hell afterwards. I'd be too dumb to not retaliate against family, too.
It was my pride, joy, and how I relaxed. This boy also clearly seeks validation from it, too, which is completely normal.
I feel so incredibly bad for that little boy, if OP doesn't protect him and his hard work he could be completely discouraged from continuing art.
Story#3 "I'm shocked that the married man I slept with does not want to bring my/his affair baby around his family."
Probably not even his kid.
I was paired with a bridesmaid at my sisters wedding to do the entrance and then that was it. She sat and danced with her husband after that…you know, never once saw that “tradition” at any wedding i went to.
Been to a few where groomsman and bridesmaids walked and danced with each other. But they certainly didn’t act like a couple unless they already were one.
It's still surprising how many of these stories are about people who have no idea how, say, weddings work and can not be made aware.
@@benlutz1974 yeah, like weddings work like you organise them. There are no official weddingrules and laws, except the vows the official declaring (and signing)
I got paired with my younger sister's boyfriend at our older sister's wedding, all I did was walk in and out with him at the ceremony and into the reception.
The one about naturopathic medicine was SO funny the comments ripped Collin apart
There's nothing wrong with Naturopathy. It's a science expressed through herbals and tonics. The history of "traditional medicine" is really one of a monopoly and many of their meds are toxic. I'm speaking as one whose father was a MD. It was really appalling to listen to the narrator's mockery. Do yourself a favor. Educate yourself.
Ah yes! When "home remedies" became a legit medical practice thanks to the rise ov the internet mom/professional that knows more than trained doctors because Jenny McCarthy & Rob Schneider said this or that are toxic 😂
And I live in Oregon! There are a lot ov holistic health places in the Willamette Valley. And the one time I went to one they had seven (yes, 7!) people that could not find my damn spleen!
Took my doctor less than 40 seconds to poke me and find it. And it was fine.
While the quacks told me I needed to come for some weird cleanse thing that cost over $150 each time.
Turned out to be a kidney stone.
Never again will I listen to a certain friend, an Infowars loony. Should have known better.
I need to find this post. I'm 100% certain there's a bunch of quacks and Karens, etc, in the comments spewing bullshit. Those comments are bound to be comedy gold
All relationships should have boundaries, all of his boundaries. He is NOT a parent. He is the step dad. He needs to parent his own child. If he had been parent he wouldn't have a little terror on his hand. His brat ripped multiple pictures of OP's son. Of course OP's son doesn't like him, and he's being punished for that?? Just horrible.
Abusive husband was the pattern for his abusive son.
OP needs to divorce this waffle.
When I was younger, I used to draw drawings of just me, my mom, and my dad. My parents were always proud of me and my drawings, although none of them included my own brother
Ask your son if this sort of thing has happened before, I’m glad you cancelled the “surprise” party. Change the locks and suggest your wife stay with her parents at least until after this matter is legally settled.
"what will I tell my family"
Tell them "the divorce was amicable"
It was brutal and he dragged me verbally through the process for being a poor excuse of a mom and step mom.
One thing I love about weddings. It shows you who someone really is I hope the ex best man rethinks his friendship with OPs fiance. Seriously no is a full sentence and should be respected it wasn't like the friend was saying no to walking down the aisle with the girl he didn't want to dance with her big woop
This couple sounds very young.
Well I'm in my 40s and every wedding I went to was that was. There was pics for the wedding party and a dance for the bride and groom and one for the wedding party. If he don't want to be the best man because his girlfriend is insecure then there is no point for them to be at the wedding. He's a friend but not the best friend OP thought he was.
The groom should rethink his friendship. Its not that serious & never will be.
What I read wasn't about just dancing. (I always wonder if I'm reading a different version?) What I read said he wasn't comfortable walking with or dancing with a bridesmaid. That means "no to walking down the aisle with a girl. Although I get why it might be a big deal to some, to me dancing is not that big of a deal, but why the heck can't he walk with someone? As a "matron of honor" I've always walked with and even danced briefly (usually a wedding party dance is really only a minute or two before partners cut in or people join in and the wedding party people who don't want to dance can cut out) with the best men and we are most definitely "paired up" as the lead "couple" in the wedding party in a picture or two. I have literally never been to a formal wedding ceremony where the wedding party is not "paired" for a minute or two as they walk out. I know the photographer usually snaps a picture because I actually possess copies of quite a few pictures on the arm of various groomsmen as we recess out. The bride was right that that's normal. My husband and I aren't the type to dance with other people, but we've never blinked an eye at this. Even at my wedding, which was very lowkey and we each just had one attendant, my sister walked out of the ceremony with my married brother in law. We didn't buy a picture of them together, but I'm pretty sure the photographer took one.
@@mkatal8329. It sounded like she wanted "posed" pictures of them paired off, not just the quick photo that the photographer may get during the processional/recessional, but I could be wrong. So he wasn't comfortable with walking, dancing, or taking the bridal party photos that would have him "paired up" with someone else. While I can understand the disappointment, I really feel like his boundaries should have been respected. People trying to make it about his girlfriend's insecurities instead of his own comfortability are diminishing his feelings as much as OP and her fiance. I had a friend who declined to be a bridesmaid in another friend's wedding because her husband was not comfortable with her "walking down the aisle" with another man. We all have different levels of comfort and boundaries. Everyone involved in my group was early to mid-twenties at the time. No friendships were destroyed; no nasty phone calls or disinvites. She declined and another friend was asked to step in. Consequently, she and her husband enjoyed the wedding and reception as guests. OP and her fiance should have taken a time to breathe before reacting.
#1 nta. Protect your son, you and your son deserve better than this selfish woman.
Story 1: might as well divorce her....
2nd story: There's no saving a family like that. Either take your son and wisely leave, or have him cut all of you off the second he can and find an actually compassionate family who will love him.
That's right. More like a replacement family, which includes a close circle of friends, and a girlfriend whose family are good people, when he moves to another state.
I have attended so many weddings that I have lost count. The only one that had the bridesmaids and groomsmen dancing together was when they surprised the bride and groom who loved Footloose and they did their own rendition of the dance scene. I have never attended a wedding (unless I was too young to remember it) that had the bridesmaids and groomsmen dance with one another, even if they had their respective partners present. I have seen them walk down the aisle together, but never dance together unless it was some big planned dance thing like that Footloose dance.
Same.
@@DerekScottBland Maybe it's only tradition in a specific country? I've never seen this tradition anywhere in mine and we've got a shit ton of English and French traditionalists... Or maybe it's an outdated tradition? Similar to the tradition where a purity test was done the day of the wedding in front of everyone.
Yeah, when my brother got married, there were 20 people in the wedding party, and over half were married and brought their spouses as a plus one, but they all walked down the aisle together as couples. I would say that the best path of action would be cut out the dance and pictures, or at least let the wedding party do the first dance with their plus ones and have group pictures.
Alan was being unreasonable and a bad friend for not even trying to find a compromise, and insisting that he still be invited to a wedding after letting the groom, his best friend, down like that for his girlfriend
Wedding Story
"No" is a full sentence! Imagine this being anything else.
"You feel uncomfortable with acting the way we demand? Screw your boundaries, you are completely excludes now!"
I disagree slightly. I’m from New England. All weddings are done this way. And the first dance is with the partner you go out with from the wedding. Best man and maid of honor, etc. it’s for pictures. Nothing more. After that you can do whatever. That’s it. Like everyone says in other comments it’s their wedding. My hubby was in several weddings and he had to dance with other girls. No biggy. And I just got married too.
@@tbyrdinhand3346 but there is a difference between "fine, don't be moh" and "do what we tell you or don't come at all".
I see this like a child free wedding or a destination wedding: You are 100% allowed to have the wedding of your dreams. BUT if people can't/won't accommodate your wishes, you can't throw a fit about it, without being an ass.
No all weddings are not done like that. Even in New England. Of course if you have been to every wedding in New England since 1620 and everyone was conducted in this fashion I will apologize.
i find the dancing couples thing weird af - i've never heard of the tradition, but would definitely take having the best man there over a photo op dance.
Ugh the fact that he's so insecure about this is such a red flag to me. I'm a woman in a relationship who was just a bridesmaid and was "coupled off" with someone other than my boyfriend to walk with down the aisle. The groomsman and I were both in relationships at the time and knew that it was completely platonic and just for balancing the photos. We didn't even really know each other, but we're friendly and chatted. I'm comfortable enough in my relationship (as is my boyfriend) to know I wouldn't cheat just cause I was posing with someone for a grand total of 3-4 hours. It's posturing and nothing more. The fact that they best man from the story is looking way too into it makes me look at him sideways.
I’d be questioning why the son is so introverted. They boy was saying he would act how they want if he could go. Makes me think how much bullying has already been done to make him so quiet.
I love it when I read here about weddings and couples swear that the weird stuff they want people in their wedding party to do are traditions no one has heard about.
what they're asking is completely normal. lots of bridesmaids and groomsmen walk and dance with each other without being together. it's extremely common
Former massage therapist speaking here. Naturopathy has its place and is good valid medicine for non life threatening ailments but it is no where on Par with medical doctors who can remove a still beating heart from the chest and put it back like it's nothing
They are not the same and if this guy is going to have any success he needs to acknowledge it now
Sorry to tell you but massage therapy and chiropractic treatment are far higher on the totem pole than a pagan medicine herbalist. You actually treat people, he doesn’t.
@@zerotodona1495 Massage and chiropractic therapy are considered naturopathy healing. We also use herbal and aromatherapy.
It does sound like Ops brother is being snookered
@@Sate12 Or he's looking to snooker people. I've known a fair number of natruopathic "doctors" in my life (my mom would be the crunchiest of dirty hippies if she hadn't had to be the responsible parent, and they were part of her social circle), and they were all either con artists (two of them are in jail now) or idiots (early adopters of the MLM schemes, and not one of them near the top of the pyramid).
Allan has the right to his feelings. Choose another best man. He was honest.
Story 3: ESH. I suggest you take his advice and remember your place, that is the one of none importants. Cut him off, live a better life WITHOUT him, find a man that will actually be there for your Son. I know going to court over this is going to be a pain but the reality of the situation is you need to think about what’s best for your Son, and is a user of a man as his Father figure what’s best?
She needs to get a lawyer and get child support. The kid deserves to be taken care of regardless of what OP and the deadbeat dad did
OP is TA to her son and herself. The man isn't leaving his wife and their kids for OP and her son. That's not going to happen and she needs to accept it and move on. He doesn't want to spend more time with OP or her son. Yes, this is her son and she needs to focus on that and conduct her life and her son's accordingly. Take his butt to court to get proper child support and full legal custody of her son. She should also push for supervised visitation for him, if he actually wants to have visitation that is.
@@greenbrickbox3392 And his lawyer is going to argue that the kid isn't his. I've seen this happen VERY often.
Story 3 : I wonder if she has any friends or family that explained to her that co-parenting still means that he needs to pay child support... He is taken advantage of her.... She doesn't really need a lawyer she just needs to file for child support... I suspect that the sun is not with the dad on A 50 50 split
@@CocoCece08 yeah, even with a confirmed paternity test, they'll still deny it.
If I was OP and walked in to hear my spouse and step-child double-teaming my bio-kid like that it would def be a deal-breaker.
Story 1: NTA. Your Wife was out of line in so many ways. If your planning the party you can put all the conditions you want. Hopefully your next Wife isn’t such a brat.
"Fido too" - lmao! 😂
I come from a culture where there is usually just a maid of honour/best man and they are also witnesses for the marriage signing. Aside from that there is no such thing as bridesmaids etc and no drama about making people pair up for no reason other than some weird control fantasy (Walking down the aisle together is fine but why on earth do people need to pretend to be together for the rest of the night?)
I've noticed that a good many step parents treat their spouse's children like crap because it's proof they had a life/relationship before the new partner came into their lives. You can't erase a person's life history, folks.
1st Story: no OP you don’t realize, your evil wife didn’t mean for you to hear her abusing your child, clearly you’re in the wrong for walking in on it.
All sarcasm aside you are NTA but you will be if you stay with this creature. She is outwardly being hostile to your child and see’s no issue with it.
That poor boy. 😔 I wonder if he wasn’t really introverted but actually withdrawn because her emotional and verbal abuse? I can’t imagine what he has endured when his father wasn’t looking. Some people don’t deserve to be around children.
I have two “step” sons. I put “step” in quotations because we don’t separate our children by labels or perceived status. From the very beginning it was important to me that the boys grew to understand that I NEVER wanted to replace their mother, but that I would Love them with everything I have. Now they are adults, and my boys are SO PRECIOUS to me!! I could not imagine making them feel this way! Kids are so innocent and just want to be loved. I don’t understand what it took away from the wife and daughter to be kind to him? What awful excuses for humans. I hope the father stands by his son and gets him the help he deserves. He does not deserve to spend his life fearing that he is unlovable and unwanted. He deserves to know that someone (his father) has his back and loves him enough to stand up and protect him.
Story 1 and 2...immediate divorce. Emotional abuse of a child is a line that if crossed means the end. Period.
Story 2: dude what about her authority? Dude literally undermined her and hurt the son's feelings in a really disgusting way, tearing up a drawing because he didn't have the step brother who somewhat tormented him in it? Are you kidding me? Not to include the massive controlling aspect, by trying to pressure them together all the father would end up doing is making them both resent each other and him, so far he's doing a good job of doing that with the son, not to include he thinks he can really get away with doing it in front of the wife? I see a divorce in the nearby future for that piece of crap of a father, hopefully by some miracle his son will turn out differently than him eventually (somewhat doubt it with how he was acting towards OP's son originally until she got in the middle of it)
Story 3: That ESH was on the nail. You were young, but plenty of 18+ year olds know a cheating married man won't be a good father -_-
Naturopathy school...? Sounds about as legit as Trump academy lol.
Less
I'm not entirely sure a man who puts boundaries in air quotes, will be open to therapy.
S2- I dont care who you are. Dont. Touch. Peoples. Things. Ever. I've had people destroy my art/writing. It hurts. Deep.
Divorce. Divorce. Divorce. And I would have done much worse.
Poor son, imagine what else they say to him when OP us not around. What a horrible horrible woman. I would divorce her. And the stepsister is no better
That poor boy. It's heartbreaking to hear him pleading to go that party.
Yeah, pretty sure that a diploma that you print out yourself after attending a series of courses in a Holiday Inn conference center is in no way equivalent to an actual medical degree.
Damn that’s cold to say your not their parent! And not want them at your celebration! 😳
Forget about canceling only the party, I would cancel the whole damn marriage!!
EVIL STEPMOTHER! 😱
I have actually met a few honestly good naturalpathic drs. Ones who also had real doctorates but also spent years studying herbs and things like acupuncture.
Hell one I use to see actually saved my legs when drs where threatening amputation and did a better job making sure my mother's last moments where comfortable after her ovarian cancer progressed passed anything accepted treatment could do for her.
It can be an honest profession, but problem is most is absolute quackery as taught currently. I still thank my homeo Dr for teaching me how to spot the quacks (they mention anything past that oils can do more than smell nice and maybe help clear up a little congestion. Run. They are going to waste your time and money with a whole bunch of bullcrap and blowing smoke up your ass. Especiallyif they try and tell you not to vax or you know, see a real dr if you have a serious condition)
I’d have to agree here. The best results my mother ever got for a long term infection that no one could find the root cause of was after giving up she found a neopathic or homeopathic specialist. Put her on a special diet with nothing funky or that she had to buy special. After 3 months her white blood count was normal…after 2 years of being so high that it was becoming life threatening. Medical science is great but don’t always have an answer. There are a lot of quacks in natural medicines but when you find a good one they’re worth their weight in gold.
In my country you have to go to regular medicine school first if you want to be a homeo dr. Otherwise, you'll be on the hook for illegal practice of medicine, which is a criminal offense. I assumed it was the same everywhere.
I personally think that someone who spent 4 years working to get a doctorate on how to make people feel better naturally probably knows something and should be respected.
@@huinismith In the USA you don't have to go to medical school. You can just take like, 6 months of classes not even from a credited school.
@@lacewinglml It looks like there is a difference between a naturopath and a naturopathic dr. To be licensed the education is similar to an MD.
Wedding groomsmen story: Forcing both the best man and the the Maid of honor upon each other like this seems rapey which is defined ass sexually aggressive or inappropriate in a way that causes fear or unease
Great stories today.
Thank you!
Story 1, Ask your son if this happened before, Did they deliberately tell him to stay home before (also promise to not tell them unless he wanted it known). The answer to that will tell you the next move, If yes they they were bullies to him on multiple occasions and a divorce is the only outcome. If this was the only time, maybe therapy can help. But honestly, if they were hostile to him, me personally that would be a deal breaker. This is a sad reality (I hope rare, but a reality) of blended families
Best man issues story (story 4 i think), Your wedding your rules, fine and good. But I assume this is America, we have the freedom to choose your rules or walk away, he chose such and you are hung up on it, move on and enjoy your bridezilla moment.
A true Bridezilla indeed.
The last story, oh boy. 1 brother's going to be a medical doctor and the other one's going to be a snake oil salesman. There's really no comparison.
If you think that’s what a naturopath is then you’re misinformed and should really look into it. It’s obvi not the same as being a medical doctor but it definitely is a valid form of medicine and should be respected.
I absolutely love your channel everything that advice sarcasm the funny words everything is on point more more more more more stories
Every wedding I’ve been to the wedding party always danced one dance together.
Why do people always think their wedding matters to anyone else? Bruh... we're just here for the food and drink and emotional support. We will never talk about this again unless you're in the conversation (or something happens like the bride and groom are revealed as being insane...).
Colin is about to graduate from Naturopathic Medical "School". Next time he says "you don't know because you didn't go to college" just respond with "Neither did you."
And in three months he'll be pushing the MLM his "School" sold him on to everyone he knows on facebook.
Story 1- this isn't the first time the wife and step daughter have done this. They've been doing lots of things to make the boy uncomfortable in his own home. No wonder the boy is the way he is.
The father is minimising the danger his son is facing
Thanks XOS.
Have a great day
Damn, that is an automatic divorce. Op better protect his son.
S1) no partner is worth keeping if they constantly belittle and abuse your child .. and that's obviously whats goin on in this story ... Disgusting behavior
OP please remember that your son come first,the wife is a piece of work
Look been involved with a man or woman that have kids, both parents
Needs to loved and respected each other kids. It's a problem when you don't show the kid that you love them. OP please divorce her and don't give in to her excuses.
After all you over here, just what happens when you are not around.
Get that woman and her child out of your life and home .
Please take care of your SON.
I’ll never understand why do people marry such crap partners especially with the ones with bully kids.
Story 1, definitely not the a-hole. In fact, the guy’s a hero for backing his son and standing his ground against the wife. He puts his foot down when it’s necessary to do so. Very well done
S3. OP and AP screwed up and got pregnant. OP made the decision to continue the pregnancy, likely with no input (pun) from the AP. If women can make such decisions for an unplanned pregnancy with no regard to the father, he should at the very least have the option to financially terminate his obligation if she chooses to go forward with pregnancy. Good on OP for taking responsibility for her unilateral decision and not going after child support. Sure she can and should ask for a relationship with her son, but can't realistically demand it.
Alot of people in these comments making fun of and calling a man insecure for sticking to his guns about something he thought would be disrespectful to his relationship. Why does it matter how long he was dating her yall? His supposed "best friend" didn't even give a shit about his feelings and tried to force him to do something he didn't want to...that sounds like a best friend to you people? Then the bride and groom call him an asshole and kick him out of the wedding for not caving? That sounds like a best friend to you people? He even clarifies that it isn't about what his gf thinks and people still in here talking about "he chose some new girl over his best friend". Yall can't read and sure as hell dont understand what a best friend is. He said "no" and did so respectfully then offered to step down as best man if they needed one that would do what they wanted. Tradition doesn't matter at that point because they were trying to force him in particular to do it so don't act like it was about tradition or they would ha e just replaced him when he said no. Grow up people. A friend respects your boundaries even if they don't agree with them. No means no, no matter who the hell says it!
THIS 💯💯💯
That wife is something else. I really don’t see a way forward with that relationship.
Story 2 sort of reminded me of how each of my brother inlaws had to be warned that my family is big, we like to talk and talk over each other and family dinners or gathers which sometimes can overload an introvert or a shy person lol. Some bils were only child, and few had a few sibling, but still the warning was needed.
OP son deserves to be able to celebrate mother's day with the stepmom and feel accepted just like the step daughter should feel accepted by OP and his family on father's day.if that is how she feels about OP,
Last story, my mother was a naturopath. Most of them (like she was) are charlatans. If they were Doctors, they would be allowed to use that as a title (its a protected title, they're not allowed to) and would be in hospitals and doctor clinics.
Nta. He is warped to think him being paired on a walk down means ppl will think he is dating said girl. If he is warped and his gf is warped he shouldnt come.
Story 1: OP why are you still married to this woman? If anyone had treated my son like that I would gave been handing them divorce papers the moment the words were out of their mouth. Guaranteed that they have treated him like this before and if anything his not wanting to participate may very well be a big red flag for their treatment of him. Divorce her now. You and your son are a package deal, her treating him this way is her abusing you too. If she can't care for him or at least treat him with respect she doesn't love you either
STORY #1
NTA. OP needs to protect his son from this mistreatment. Looking forward, OP needs to make it clear to wife that her choices are as follows - family therapy or divorce. Make it clear that, until she earns back her trust, she won’t be allowed around son unsupervised.
STORY #2
NTA. Stepson is a bully, and Joe is an enabler. Don’t even bother with family therapy, just get a divorce. Joe and stepson are that disgusting.
STORY #3
ESH.
OP chose to have sex with a married man. That’s not okay.
Son’s Father is treating son like a burden and an afterthought.
STORY #4
YTA. Alan’s boundaries may seem ridiculous to me, but friends wouldn’t demand he dismiss them.
STORY #5
NTA. Jerry became a real doctor, while Colon became an insecure quack.
Going to nursing school myself, I've been actually surprised at how much substance there is behind some of naturopathy. Not all, I admit, and I still take it with my healthy grain of salt, but there's something to portions of it. All this just to say that I think the comments go overboard in calling Collin a quack. That doesn't change the fact, however, that I agree that OP isn't the AH for sharing her opinion and that Collin IS an AH for expecting her to blindly agree with him.
Also, I think that OP was right to keep her opinion to herself until he asked. If he doesn't want to hear her honest opinion, Colin shouldn't have asked. The other brother MAY be an AH for seemingly rubbing Colin's face in it.
I agree, the commentators were going way overboard. A lot of ppl have these stereotypes of what natural medicine entails and it’s so weird to me. Not everything is essential oils and other quackery. Different types of herbal medicines have been studied and practiced since the dawn of man (tho that’s a bit different to actual naturopathy). Either way it’s still a form of medicine and should be respected as such. It’s obvi not the same as being a licensed doctor but doesn’t mean ppl should be disrespectful about it. I’ve personally had great experiences seeing a naturopath.
story 1 you have son and your wife has one daughter previously marriage and you had planned a surprise mother day party and dinner and your stepdaughter told her mother about the party and you got home to hearing your wife and stepdaughter telling your son he has to stay home because you act weird so you canceled the party yeah you’re wife and stepdaughter are jerks she is teaching her daughter to treat your son like dirt get a divorce asap and change the locks there’s nothing wrong with your son there’s something wrong with her tell her to stay at her parents house and take all her and her daughter stuff over there and divorce papers you’re son is more important for her to leave him out of the family that’s wrong 😡😡🤔🤬🤬😠
It's not normal. Walking down the isle with bridesmaids is normal. Dancing with them, unless it's a group dance or wierd down the isle dances, is not normal.
That's crazy! They have wives and kids. Let your new husband slow dance with every single bridesmaid.
not going to college is a higher degree than a PhD from a naturopath school.
In most countries, a naturopath has to get a bachelor's degree. They work with the family to help them, help themselves by educating them that, eating healthy, getting plenty of exercise, teaching stress management, and, using the plants that God gave to everyone to help heal, not chemicals that pharmaceutical companies use that only often get rid of the symptoms, but often, keep coming back, thats how pharmaceutical companies make their money. I know a woman, that had cancer, she had had operations, chemo and radiation, then got told that she had two years left to live. She went back to the country she was born in, started only eating fish, green vegetables, and, everyday she drank pawpaw leaf tea that she made from fresh leaves. Two ears later, she came back, she went and saw her doctor and specialist and they were shocked, that not only was she still alive, she no longer had cancer. After hearing her story, I found a lump in my thigh, which took two years and six doctors to get diagnosed, I kept getting told it was a cyst, as that is what the first doctor at the the imaging place I went to, to have an ultrasound, said it was, not one of the GP's I saw even looked at the image, until I saw the 6th GP, once he looked at the image, he arranged for me to see a specialist and to have an MRI, the first specialist sent me to another specialist (who was amazing), after the MRI, and a ultrasound guided core needle biopsy, I finally found out that I had a tumour that was attached to a muscle in my inner thigh, after a few months of seeing the 2nd specialist, I was booked in for the operation. After finding out it was a tumour, I started drinking pawpaw leaf tea about 4 times a day, every day. After the operation, where my muscle was removed along with the tumour, my specialist told me that my tumour had started shrinking, so I told him what I had been drinking. A friend of mine, found out he had testicular cancer, I spoke to the woman that had told me about the pawpaw leaves, and she suggested he use the leaves from the male tree (he has them growing in his backyard, they don't grow where I live), so I told him about the pawpaw leaves and he started drinking the tea, and, he no longer has cancer. The tea isn't very nice tasting, as it's bitter, I use to add lemon grass and a couple of other herbs to make it taste better. I have never seen a naturopath, but after what I've learnt, and what happened, I'm actually thinking about going to see one. As I said above, why would God give us so many plants that can help us, if he didn't want us to use them. In my country, there are so many naturopaths, I'm sure there will be some bad ones, but, there are lots of bad GP's too. Edit: accidentally hit send when I hadn't finished
@@jennysmith38 that's a whole lot of wasted effort. I literally only read the last sentence. You had more? Why?
The wedding one....all you do is walk down the isle. Where did the dancing part come in?
I do not dance. Ever. with anyone. I don't care if it was the only way to save a box of kittens from a runaway train. I have zero coordination, walk quickly because I would rather not fall over and have no sense of distance or other people's pace. I was best man at a friend's wedding, I didn't dance and gladly the bride insisted we didn't dance anyway as the church was too small for a decent down the aisle routine (Groom was considering it). So I'm with Alan on this, though for different reasons. Dude doesn't want to dance, then he shouldn't dance. If MoH wants to cut a rug in 4 inch heels, she can go ahead of the best man. The OP is petty, there's a number of ways to compromise on this one.
A around about, 2 dull grey people, popcorn a popping, the most abstract snowman ever and a summers day in Wales .
You are an evil genius, the laugh is the giveaway 🤣
Divorce. Run
Third story you are not in the wrong for how you feel about the situation but this is kind of a situation where everybody sucks here except for your child your coworker's wife and and his daughters. Let's be real here this man will never have any interest in your child other than a few minutes a week. In addition you may want to prepare yourself to either tell him he's even going to pay child support or he's going to sign his rights over. You're not in the wrong here but everybody suck here about how they handle it. You should lay down the ball that you're either going to make this child known to your family and include him in all your family vacations and activities or you need to sign your rights over. Be prepared because let's be real here it doesn't matter if you were young and stupid the fact that you know that he was married and you still have the child with him you're going to catch even more hell than he is. Especially since you're practically stalking your child's father's wife's social media you may not want to admit it but you are. And there's a major part of you that wants to go on her Facebook and just completely talk crap about her her children and him. And you're just going to get more blow back than ever
Do you honestly think this is the first time wife and step-daughter have pulled this bs? My guess is a lot of sons introvertness has to do with how hes being treated and whats been said to him when you arent around.
Story 2 .. my blood boils that OP has been allowing her husband and his son to torment her son and she does nothing effective
2nd story, OP's current husband is an AH for tearing up OP's son's drawing. I wonder where the step-son got his bullying behaviour from. OP's son may grow up being soft and anti-social but the husbands son will grow up to be a bully. And punishing the 11 yr old for not including his SB in the drawing is ridiculous. Both the husband and SB are toxic people. Toxic people that OP needs to get out of her son's life. OP would only be the AH if she stayed married to her husband and continued to let her step-son bully her son.
Story 1 and 2, If OP stays with the spouse, then CPS should be called to get the son out of there. Also the wedding story, what entitled AH are Op and her fiance, if I were Alan I would NEVER want anything to do with them ever again...