Mom Makes Greeting Cards For Family But I Swap The Envelopes Last Minute & Send The New Ones & Now..
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 20 ม.ค. 2025
- My mom made a huge photo-shoot with my siblings and stepdad. She used that pictures as cards to send greetings for family members. Well she didn't wait me and forgot to include me in the photos or cards so I did my own version of them and swapped the enveloped just before she sends them away. And now family gets it and starts calling mom asking how dare she send this to them...
#greetingcard #familyreunion #momandstepdad
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The best part about story 1 was how the kids presented a united front. They evidently thought leaving OP out was bs, too.
Right? I think it’s weird too the step dad calls them his step siblings when they’re his blood relatives! They’re half’s, not steps.
People ask AITA like it's always a bad thing! This was petty AF and it's absolutely brilliant! The parents' initial actions were petty _and_ malicious. To hell with talk about "keeping the peace" and "being the better person" - does that mean that it's their turn next time or are you just setting yourself up to a lifetime of being a doormat?
@@immortalsofar5314 “Damn right YTA. I’m proud of you.”
So the girl knows she has food allergies severe enough to warrant carrying an epi-pen, and just goes and pilfers random food items from a communal fridge? She’s an idiot and the boss is clearly biased towards their kid. Go to every one above your boss’ head you can and document everything. This is a juicy lawsuit if they fire OP
It’s easier for one’s career and mental health to move on to another job (after alerting HR, of course). The boss is insanely unreasonable, and OP’s co-workers believe the boss has somehow been wronged. Who would want to willingly work with these type of people? It’s an inherently poor, even hostile, work environment.
We only have so much time on this earth, and it’s better spent on good things than bad (IMHO).
this shitheads lucky he didnt pull this when i was in highschool or jr.high, shit like that wasnt funny to anybody even the assholes, it was "your going to get an ass beating now" and... yeah... more then once i saw people who did cruel shit get ass beat.. once a former memeber of our friend group did something like this and was shocked when i picked his ass of by his neck and told him we needed to have a little attitude adjustment session... the 2 teachers who saw what happened went on about their day... knowing what was going to happen was less then was merited for what he just pulled... you dont do that shit... he would have had to apologize like this AFTER an ass beating happened in front of the girl in my youth...
I Think OP should make a police report for his Stolen lunchES(numerous) incase the boss tries to file an "attempted murder" charge! Both of which would be embarrassing but the theft charge would be to show evidence against the bosses charge. It's just as crazy as the boss trying to say his daughter "Borrowed" OP's lunch!
I’m speechless with this story. What moron with allergies eats random food when she doesn’t know what it contains. OP shouldn’t need to label the container, if it isn’t yours leave it alone.
@@janicevango5791 Yes- the problem is the *stealing* , NOT the contents of the lunch.
To the person who did the Easter pictures I only have one thing to say. You're my hero. God bless go have the wonderful life you deserve and do yourself a favor stay as LC with those narcissists as you can. And when it comes time to send family pictures make sure you send everyone a picture except mom and stepdad.
My mom's family did something like this, they wanted a family photo with the grandkids for grandma and grandpa but took the pictures on the one weekend I couldn't go because I had an event that I had paid for in advance, my mom was furious. to make the situation even crappier I had to give the picture along with the other grandkids and my dry response was 'why I am not even in it' and grandma and grandpa didn't even notice until my mom pointed it out.
Why? They weren’t in a photo while away at college. Their an adult now. After 18 be responsible for your own holiday card.
Every single person in my family started getting and sending their own cards once they were adults. It was never a big deal.
What pushes me to NTA is his half siblings are in the photo not actresses his half siblings. Meaning they know how messed up their parents are to OP
@@tracim3080 Nah. That reeks of "convenient excuse."
@@asherikamichaela8425 what excuse? Do people normally send out holiday cards on behalf of their adult children in your family?
Honestly, good on OP for avoiding the woman with the reputation. He mentioned how his wife is always away. He's not just thinking about rumors in town, he doesn't want his wife to worry. Plus, why put yourself in that situation? Maybe his wording could have been better, but I think he made a good decision.
They're rumors, there is no fact to them just the small minded pettiness small towns are rife with. I wore shorts to the store in my grandmother's small town. By the end of the week, I apparently was a Jezebel Harlot that had slept with at least half a dozen married men, and had broken up several homes. These places and the people in them have nothing else to do but make things up.
What I would like to know is how the town treats the married men in town who she supposedly slept with?? Yeah they're probably still married and the wives blame the woman ..typical . I'm not condoning her actions if true, I'm just saying how she gets ostracized and the men go on with their lives as if they're innocent victims instead of willing cheaters.
He said he knows of 2 married men who slept with her not I heard rumors.
@@arleneclark6369 I agree. I hope the men lost their families. I could never forgive a cheating partner. But, too many women stay.
@@Remi1532 rumors or not, you don't need a concrete reason to not want to associate with someone.
Story 4: NTA. Your Son needs ACTUAL consequences and he sure as heck isn’t getting them from the “Cool parents”. Don’t let up OP. Stay strong!
For teens the cool people are those that let them run amok
He also needed to learn that apologising doesn't take away the crime or the punishment. If saying sorry absolved people of their actions, there'd be no prisons, and a lot more violent and unrepentant douchebags making life worse for everyone saying "sorry" after every crime to clear their name.
That first story was hilarious. Still if there’s a justified idiot option this would be one of them.
And the last story really warms my heart. I also had that joke pulled on me when I was a teenager someone said they like me and wanted to go out with me but then said it was a joke
Story 1: NTA. You are (in fact) a GENIUS. Weird how it’s not a big deal when YOUR left out but SUDDENLY it’s a big deal now. Honestly in Moms position I’d play it off has a funny memory.
fr whoever gave OP that everyone is an idiot is dumb asf
Kids friend story
I live in the same type of small town. My mom was known as a "not the best person" as they said, and I've been jumped at the school for it and teacher give me pity looks. My dads had both pity and hatred for it, mostly pity but its still sucks. I once went to the store and wore lipstick and 2 days later my granny asked me about it. Its hell.
Unfortunately NTA for the reasons of safety.
People WILL tell his wife he's cheating which will stress her out, he'll be treated like a creep in public, and his kid will grow up thinking wtf is going on and have stress he shouldn't have.
Its fucked up but in a small town one mistake can fuck you over for years. Its better to save money and leave once you can.
@@SnowyWolborg People don't realize just how much hurt goes under the radar. The volunteer police don't show up to a call. Harassment at the post office, everywhere you go. Exclusion from events, denial of service at the restaurant, car repair, everything. When a small town doesn't like you, the passive aggressive will turn a blind eye to what the aggressive actually do to neutralize the threat.
Re the food stealer: she got exactly what she deserved. As someone with multiple severe food allergies, I have negative zero sympathy for her. The cardinal rule is never, ever, EVER eat something if you don’t know exactly what’s in it.
Same. After a bad illness, I developed an adult onset anaphylaxis to milk products. Like all dairy, no matter if it's cow milk, sheep milk or goat milk. I can't even use goat milk soap I'm that reactive. I carry 2 epi-pens everywhere (and ask the rest of the stuff that goes with it). If I don't KNOW it's safe, if I didn't make it myself or watch it being made, if I even think it's possibly compromised or "unsafe", I am not touching that food. I'm even sceptical about packaging that says "may contain traces of". I've been caught out by forgetting a dish has a butter base or has a milk component, but I've only had the allergy since early 2020 and I'm still getting used to it.
It almost sounds like the boss's daughter might be young enough that schools had a peanut ban in place during her school years. It might explain why she thought nicking other people's food would be safe?
Depending on what HR does, I hope that the food stealer gets fired for theft and that her father gets fired for a toxic work environment. If not, I wonder if OP can sue the company.
Also, if you’ve ever had Thai peanut sauce (delicious, BTW), it SMELLS like peanuts, especially when it’s warm. What kind of idiot (with a peanut allergy) wouldn’t think twice before eating something that smells like an allergen that can kill you?
@@BruinPhD2009 exactly! Other allergens you can't smell or taste so you don't know you've consumed it until it's too late. Even some nuts you wouldn't know, but peanuts have a strong and distinctive smell.
@@lyndatuttle also 'she borrowed the food?' how do you borrow someone's lunch? was she planning to cough it back up into op's mouth like some kind of momma bird or something?
#2 OP did NOT nearly kill her boss's daughter, she did that herself by nicking OP's lunch!! Also, I hope OP gets her tupperware container back... that's also stealing
I wonder if maybe boss's baby girl feels entitled to her coworker's lunches because her daddy is the boss. And for that matter why is his daughter working under him instead of someone else? Isn't there some sort of a fraternization policy or something? He knows his daughter steals his lunch and his reaction is to demand compensation from OP not educate her on how it was obviously her fault? Is he going to expect OP bring lunches that cater to his daughter's allergies from now on?
Never steal a white woman's tupperware!!!
@@jackchop1576 damn straight 😁
I loved the last story. If there were more moms like that, there wouldn't be as many broken girls in the world. 💔
This story should have been posted 2 days ago!
YES! Yes yes yes to the mom who showed her son what mama love is!! I LOVE that story! I think the son is going to be a better adult because of this experience.
I don't usually cry with these stories, but that one got me. I also have a son (really not the motherly type, never wanted kids) and while we have had our ups and downs, I know me loves me unconditionally, and I him. I really felt that "stuck on the couch in the most uncomfortable position ever"... and I know if it was me, wild horses couldn't drag me from that spot.
@@girlywench It made me want to cry 😢 too!
This story was great. Far from the ‘cool dad’ and ‘evil mum’ camps, it turned into ‘a-hole dad’ and ‘caring, voice of reason mum’ camps. The weird thing is, if OP hadn’t sent her son to the father’s for the week her son wouldn’t have witnessed, in such graphic detail, what a cretin his father actually is. The OP said she wishes her son didn’t have to find out in the way that he did, but tragically it was necessary, as the father and stepmother were having a negative effect on the boy’s attitude and behaviour.
This may be an un popular opinion, but as a father I do thing her response was way too harsh. The main job of a parent is to teach their child to be a good person, not humiliate and belittle. taking her sons money to buy a gift for this girl, that's stealing. Forcing someone to apologize isn't a real apology, they are doing it under duress and it doesn't count. Talking to your kid about what they did and getting them to understand how their actions effect others is what she should have done, and she should have asked him to apologize not told
@@nalaka3488 “It would be nice” is what I was taught. The things you say are great for many people to treat others with basic humanity and respect. However, this mom showed her son the other side of his actions in the only ways he was capable of seeing. She paired that with her honest love and care for him. She wasn’t abusive - I guess that’s the thing.
If this mom had only explained to her son and left him to continue being cruel and inconsiderate, HE could become more abusive and either force others to have to clean up after his destruction, or be forced to pay later if his actions get met with any kind of justice. He would never be able to see that justice for what it is, though, because he never learned cause and effect. That’s what his mom taught him. Someone always pays. It should be him since he was the source.
I like how in the first story the narrator was doing his best not to crack up. Also congrats to Op1. The card swap was amazing
Oh, so stealing others foods is okay, never mind the fact that it's the boss's daughter?!!? Unbelievable! I'd contact hr , and make a noise about it! Absolutely absurd!!! She is a thief, period!!!
If I was op I got proof and sue because let’s be real they will look for a reason to fire her
Maybe a non-apology apology to your boss, record any interactions; docuy, document, document; your work environment. Keep forever, address in a professional manner
@@yoopwi1 I understand your point, but it’s easier to get a new job. No matter what OP does, there will always be animosity coming from his (incredibly) unreasonable boss. No one wants to work in that environment.
If HR backs the boss I’d go to local media and or OSHA/employment protection agencies
@@amberleeannalee1999 yes, exactly! I'd do it too. Totally absurd situation!
Story 2: NTA. So someone is trying to hold you responsible for *STOLEN* food? I’d say “Well, let’s go to YOUR boss and see how he want to handle your Daughters stealing from me and nearly dying”.
#3 - Dad worried about his reputation in a small town. Everybody who called him an idiot is an idiot! He's right to wish to protect his reputation with especially as his wife works and it'd be up to him to drop off and pick his kid. People underestimate the value of a good reputation and how hard it is to get it back once you've lost it.
Right! They flip it and now his a idiot who might cheat smh so his wife will never hear about this woman and him and their kids "play dates" RRiigghtt
Small towns are saturated with busybodies who have no desire to share truth just a good story and embellishing for interest is is fine. Shame on a husband who protects his marriage, wife, and family because a play date is an affair if you stay in your car, heaven help the man foolish enough to go to the door. Avoid even the appearance of evil. NTA
@@phnerfable idk bro if someone doesn't know then it can be a maybe. But in a small town ain't no way someone doesn't know
@@chefmobius6842 I live in a small town pop 1,000 and I maybe know a dozen people. I would have no idea who is or is not married or to whom.
@@chefmobius6842 like said plenty men (and women) claim they are "separated" or "getting divorce" to get laid.
it's funny how married man cheats, the blame is fully on AP. when married woman cheats, blame is fully on wife and AP is poor innocent soul.
I live in area of nosey people, I live in village of 90 people and took me 8months to realize my other neighbour has divorced again.
surely he is worried people start talking and spend rumours when nothing happens and it's understandable because people living in communities are that pathetic.
but he is still part of the problem and shaming woman when married men CHOSE to cheat with her (i highly doubt he shames those men).. nah attitude fix should start from someone.
he is still on AH side
The OP with the peanut sauce can probably get something for constructive dismissal, if that's a thing where they live. They were basically outed from the company by a hostile work environment created by management.
It always seems, to me, that the food thieves are people who are in a better financial position than the people from whom they're stealing. At least that has always been the case when I've encountered it. The worst offender was the sales manager at a computer manufacturing company where I was the service manager. He was the second highest paid person in the branch and would 'graze' through all of the lunches in the fridge, building a lunch for himself with the best of each. He would brag about it, too.
I had thieves in my office once as well. My job though requires me to be locked away and the office secure so I was able to get away with what I did because the culprit would have to admit to stealing in a secure area. I had taken the sugar free Haribo gummy bears (aka Satan's Helper Bears), mixed dipping chocolate with chocolate ex-lax and coated the bears with them. I then placed them in a baggie and left them in my office over Easter weekend. I never had problems after that.
😲🫣🤭🤣 REMI!!! 😂🤣😂🤣
No judgment here. 🤭🤭🤭 It’s crazy to mess with people’s food of all things! For SO many reasons!
To Ambiguous: In a similar conversation we discussed that same thing and decided stealing food likely isn’t for hunger or need in most of these situations. People said the thieves often had some other addictive habit. Food stealing is likely similar to gambling, giving the thief a pretty decent risk rush and a “win” when they get away with it and/or actually enjoy what they’ve stolen.
There could also be some superiority complex combo in there, too, with the thief power tripping on the dismayed reactions of others who can do nothing about it, promising themself they didn’t do anything “really” wrong because “everyone can get another lunch.” Ok I’m thinking too much and this wasn’t on today’s agenda…🙄
@@alexiswilliamsinc - I would call it a power move; "You can't stop me!" In the case of the sales manager that I described, that was definitely what it was. He was stealing from people making just over minimum wage, when he was the second highest payed person in the place. Some people were just born assholes, I guess.
It's not about food or hunger. It's about satisfying the animalistic urge to display "I can take resources from you, and there's nothing you can do about it."
@@Remi1532 Smooth move, Ex-Lax. 👌
10:04. "Rumors in a small town are almost always made up." Hahaha haha keep telling yourself that.
Yeah that the most stupid thought. I live in a small town and it's a church town too. Church women are the most to tell gossip.
That first story is beautifully crafted masterpiece 👏🏻
WOW! That story made me cry. This is from a single mom who experienced many similar things. My daughter figured it out early what kind of man her dad was and neither of my kids had ever acted out as bad but my son was around 9 when he got a true glimpse of what kind of man his father was. It was heartbreaking to watch the realization he experienced. Both of my children are now extremely well adjusted adults. Loving, caring and giving, hardworking and successful. Not just in business but also in their marriages. I couldn’t be prouder! ThankGod for moms like the one in this story!!!
And a well-deserved but late Happy Mother’s Day to you!
@@yesterdayitrained AWWW, Thank you so much!!! There is no gift as precious than the gift of a child. I became a grandmother for the first time in February. So the rewards continue to multiply!!
@@gretatagliavia4228 Oh so sweet, a grandchild!
Moms, especially those without supportive (or worse, counter-productive) partners, have the hardest job in the world. There must be moments where these mothers feel (understandably) like just giving up. The strong ones, who truly love their children and see the big picture- moms like you- don’t give up. It’s such a difficult job to start with, made even more difficult by having to constantly fight to keep your kids on the right path. Especially when your children can’t really understand why you’re doing what you’re doing- because they are so young.
Doing the right thing for your children, and looking out for their best interest, can be extremely painful. You hear the awful things teenagers say, and it hurts. But you can persevere, knowing everything you do is in their best interest. I truly believe in these cases, it will always work out in the end. As it did in your case.
Unfortunately, I have seen the other side, and the result is devastated children, who can no longer trust either parent, and are never able to have a ‘real’ relationship with their mom and/or dad. It’s tragic.
I have such respect and admiration (and empathy) for incredible people like you. Thank you so much for sharing your story, and I am so pleased to know how everything turned out!
p.s. sorry for the essay!
@@yesterdayitrained No, please do not apologize for your “essay” as you describe it. It is much appreciated. I am so incredibly proud of my children and they are so wonderful to me as adults that I sometimes feel like I do not deserve it. So I very much appreciate it when a stranger says these things so, thank you!!
@@yesterdayitrainedPS; both of my kids are college graduates (my daughter even graduated from law school as well) one of the many reasons I am so proud. Their father left the country to get out of paying child support so they both worked hard to get scholarships and/or loans to get through, I was only able to afford the first 2 years on my own since they were only a year apart…this is why I am so incredibly proud of them!!
The last story warmed my heart. Reminds me of my own mom. She is an angel on earth.
OP is a God. Omg the Easter cards lol I love the “cross dressers” statement. Very boomerish
If you have an allergy what are you doing eating food that isn't yours I'd be reporting it to HR regardless
Yes, exactly.. Thiefing boss's and daughter, is to blame for everything.. What an entitled a hole . Absolutely bonkers!
The son who loves the dad more, has a Disney dad. He'll see they're true colors when it's full time.
Ha!! Seems like he did find out his father doesn't walk on water
As someone who lives in a small town. Reputation is EVERYTHING! If he works at somewhere close then over this seemingly small thing that business could lose money just because he works there. He could lose his job and be basically forced out of town over one person telling another that he might have slept with that woman because after all the sons are friends. I live in an even smaller town. But my father's reputation nearly ruined us. But now I have my own and I can stand proud in town and do business with people because they know me as kind and will pay my bills when i can. As opposed to my father having run up bills all over town and him being a general perv.
There's a nasty rumor about my Mom's family in my Mom's home town.
That my youngest Aunt is really my cousin. She's definitely not (both she and my Grandmother did 23 and me) but there are people who still 100% believe this and trot it out as fact.
it's been forty year, there's a publicly available DNA test and the Aunt accused of being the real mom has been dead for a decade. This stuff sticks and the accused Aunt was getting Cr*** over it till the day she died (even after at the funeral I heard overheard one old Biddy making comments about how Youngest Aunt should be standing with late Aunts kids)
How do you steal food then complain when you get hit with a food allergy
Wow, that last story warmed the cockles of my heart. And I never even knew I had cockles.
I'm so glad your son has you as his mother. And saying that though I strongly suggest you get some therapy to help him work through everything he's going to need to work through. God bless your family.
You are not an idiot, she can potentially bring drama to your life,
OMG you and your siblings need to make gag cards every year from now on and send them out yourself. Let your mom send out her stuffy cards and we will see what card the extended family likes best lol
ALSO the one to mom should be signed "OP & my Real Family"
The sons friend story: did everyone just ignore the fact that OP’s concern was not causing problems with his own wife? No one seems to consider that aspect of the situation. Also, no one seems to consider that in a small town with nothing better to do, the gossips ruin peoples’ lives by making up crap. This may be what happened to the mom, it might not. Either way, it’s a risk
I wonder how many people would have dumped on OP if the genders were reversed.
All I'm saying is rumors or not dude didn't have complete receipts before he became judgemental to that women. And again him having problems with his own wife, as a commenter said, doesn't amount to anything so long as he's not going to cheat on her. If he's got issues where he's worried about being caught out then that's his fault not the other boys mom. He's the one in a relationship he's the one that determines whether or not something happens between them beyond being parents to two boys who want to be friends. No one is ignoring anything in fact it's because of his thought process that he's getting roasted. And while double standards are a thing (particularly on Reddit) I'd like to think that if a female presented with this exact same scenario with a male of ill reputation through the grapevine, then she'd get lambasted too.
YTA. We all understand that she has a reputation in town and OP wants to protect his reputation from any rumors. That's understandable. Why OP is TA for actually saying anything to the woman with actual proof of her having an affair with a married man. When you accuse a person of cheating or being the affair partner then you better have proof or some damn strong circumstantial evidence to back up those words. Otherwise keep quiet and in OP's case just keep your distance from this woman. Just because the boys maybe friends doesn't mean OP and this woman have to be friends also. He just has to be civil and courteous to her when doing pickup and drop off exchanges with her for the kids to hangout. Also if he's worried about his wife then keep her in the loop during kid exchanges or any other events OP attends with the other woman being present like sporting events.
Plus, you don't need a reason to not want to associate with someone.
Why people talking as if like no one has seen “Riding the carousel single mums” on Reddit stories that usually end badly for others…
@@fr0stb1ght34 See. People like you are the problem. You know dang well that if rumors started circulating his wife would not believe him. She would believe the rumors. He wasn't judging the woman at all he was trying to make sure his family didn't fall victim to the small town rumor mill. His kid would get bullied in school. His wife would always have doubts about his loyalties. That is how small towns operate. Every one is always trying to insert themselves into everyone elses business and they circulate rumors without a care to the reputation, relationships or lives of anyone else. People lose family and jobs over these kinds of rumors. Any man who has interracted with this woman has been accused of having an affair with her and he did not want to jeapordize his family by being the next one. And instead of taking in his worried and addressing them as his partner should have she berated him, threw him out of his home and made him feel like shit. THIS is a very common problem for both men and women in small towns and friend groups. Only when its the woman with these worries in regardes to a man with these kinds of rumors they get suport and validation for their feelings of not wanting to be associated with them. Men get dragged through the mud and their relationships are ruined when they have to deal with the same. People like you are the problem. Its not a matter of him doing anything with this woman or not. He doesn't want to ruin their lives in this town and likely have to move if the rumors start. It isn't something you can just ignore if you are innocent or not. And once your partner starts having doubts your relatioship is over. Considering how quick she was to throw him out and dismiss his feelings and considering her own words it is a fair assessment to believe that she would not believe her husband if people started saying he was having an affair with this woman and would likely divorce him and take their son. Double standards exist in real life not just on reddit and this is a common issue. You just choose to give in to your bias and make ignorant opinions that aren't based in reality. This is small town reality. You have to pick and choose your friends carefuly if you want to live peacefully. And keeping to yourself only makes rumors worse for your family as then rumors spread about you thinking you're too good for this town, up to something shady or generally treated like unwanted outsiders if you don't conform. You clearly have never lived in a town like this or been subject to these kind of rumors and it shows.
That YTA comment for the son's friend story: Sorry, but are you illiterate? It's a small town. Really small. It doesn't matter if the rumors are true or not, OP does not want to be involved with them, and certainly does not want his marriage tangled up in them. With less than 1k people, that's not gossip, it's almost certainly rooted in fact. If they said they lived in a small town then followed up with that, they're lying about where they live.
Yeah it's the sad truth of small towns, especially ones stuck in the past. All it takes is even a whisper of "you know who was seen with so and so" and within the day the story of you having an affair has spread across town, to the next town over, and your marriage is in question. This also damages your sons relationships at school since now his dad is a cheater and other parents don't want their kids hanging around with the kid with the dad who has no morals.
Gossip is honestly more damaging than the truth, even when the truth is that your an axe wielding lunatic on the weekends who wears pink dresses and howls at the moon. And the gossip doesn't just hurt you.
Hmmm I wonder if the men she "hunted down at PTA meetings" have a slut reputation too. This is definitely small town mentality. All he hears is rumors and how does he even know that they're true 🙄 I hope that poor lady can get out of that town. There's nothing worse than small town gossip from a bunch of people who peaked in high school and never left their hometowns. He's not an AH but he's an idiot.
@@cgi2002 Usually in these circumstances the only one ostracized is the single mother's child. Easier to pick on in their eyes. If this was a single dad he would be getting high fives
Oh sure! Go with the flow!
The food allergy story: funny how they immediately knew exactly whose food that was she ate.
Story1: LMAO! I like OP's style! Mom's just throwing a tantrum because she got beaten at her own game. Let her ego get bruised, she deserves it.
That's right. When mom looks at pics of OP at her college graduation, her wedding and baby shower, with her replacement family (her friends, husband, and in-laws), plus, pics of her with her husband, and their newborn child in the delivery room, she'll cry her eyes out, and have a hard time figuring out why OP left her out of those pics, and left her out of those important milestones.
Family photo: Hilarious, and appropriate.
The Last story had me crying. Kids can say some awful things to their parents they don't mean. It's the realization that they hurt the person who cares for them the most is one of those experiences you don't forget.
Reputations are most often earned. You want to keep your marriage good, stay away from a woman, or man for that matter, who has a reputation of destroying marriages. The advice given otherwise is completely foolish.
Op is an awesome person for the family photo. I love it. 😂
Op is right better to make sure that he is never part of the gossip. He is a wise men
LOL. The lunch stealing story is really funny. I worked in an office one time where I had my lunch stolen. Very annoying, but I was not the only one. We never did figure out who the lunch thief was.
Honestly, you can choose your family.
My mom is more attached to her boyfriend, so I have several mother figures, and have decided that a Father figure is too hard to keep, so I'm settling for having male role models. Besides, my father in heaven is more than enough for me.
Anyway, I have decided who my family is, because biological family can be very entitled, selfish, and emotionally abusive.
They don't understand how I feel because they're off in their own little world. They turn it back on me, anytime I bring it to their attention. So, I choose who I allow to be close to me, and if they reciprocate, then I add them to my family - if they're okay with it. I don't need to justify to my biological relatives who I choose to adopt, if that person wants to be a part of my family.
It's not my relatives' choice - it's mine.
We need more evil masterminds handing out petty justice. Preferably in creative costumes (capes optional) and complete with drawn-out monologues.
I would sue the boss from the lunch theft story for harassment and emotional distress. To think that he accused OP when his daughter is to blame is crazy. I definitely wouldn't leave this job empty-handed with my tail tucked between my legs.
The fact op said too that the work isn't best for long term promise is telling that it's a bunch of kiss ah.
The last story...LOVE this wonderful mom💖
You need to go to HR first. Tell them what happened. Tell them that you would report somebody stealing their food but nobody did anything about it. Then tell them what his daughter did and what he said to you. Then quit and go work for your friend. But then I would put it all over social media exactly what happened. Trust me it's going to trickle down to him. And the company.
The social media part is not a good idea- and it wouldn’t reflect well on the OP. They have let HR know, and have changed jobs. No one benefits from unnecessarily continuing this nonsense. People are going to believe what they want to believe, and it really doesn’t matter. Every injustice does not call for revenge. It’s too much effort, and it’s just not worth that effort. It’s better to just move on from the entire situation and let it go- the OP knows the truth, as does the daughter and his boss. ‘Consider the source’, as they say. Done and done.
The cheating woman: I find it hard to believe that this woman didn’t know her previous partners were married especially if it’s a small town.
Doesn't matter. Why should she be the only one vilified. Plus, he is going by rumor. How do we know she "cheated" with anyone. One other thing small towns are well known for is being judgmental. Her being a single mother can often be enough to get the rumor mill going. Look at the OP. She didn't come on to him at all and he made it sound like she would. Like she was some kind of predator. Absurd.
Agree
@@SnowyWolborg I wouldn’t even say that they’re both equally to blame.. Also I can’t be mad at OK because if he’s hanging around this lady in small towns rumors gets around
Honestly I agree that any man she slept with is just as much to blame and she has a right to be whatever and really it's nobody else's business. That being said the reality of his situation with her reputation in a small town it is wise on his end to avoid contact even if both of their intentions are pure simply to avoid a big misunderstanding with his wife and future unneeded trouble in his marriage. Whether he's egotistical or not doesn't matter he is putting his marriage and wife first.
It's still on them, she made no vows.
The last story had me on the verge of tears. The way it worked out in how she spent the special moment and remembering at the park to tell him how much she loved him. Her expressing how she would take him there when she was fighting with his dad right before she took him to his dad was such a special reinforcement of a mother's love moment. Then just a few days later, his dad ended up showing his real self to the son was monumental. She unbeknownst to her, cemented his trust in her. Then him falling back on her... priceless!
LUV THE PICTURE STORY! LMAO 😂
BRAVO. OP!!!!!! Right in their own faces!!!!
First story- Slow, steady golf clap. With full bow. Well played.
Food thief: OP is NTA. This is like having a burglar sue you because he got hurt while stealing your big screen TV.
I have an adult child with a peanut allergy. She also has an Epipen. She is EXTREMELY careful about where she eats and what she eats. She carefully reads the food labels on everything she buys. She doesn’t eat food even kindhearted people try to gift her because she cannot know whether their kitchen is allergen-free.
For a person with known food allergies to steal other people’s food is beyond reckless. She is lucky that this is the first time she got hospitalized. If the food thief didn’t learn her lesson to not swipe other people’s meals, then she will have more anaphylaxis in her future.
OP should contact HR about the harassment because of the nepotism if nothing else. It takes chutzpah to steal someone’s meal and then demand that the person pay your hospital bills due to your own stupidity.
Omg the amount of people on here that don't understand small town dynamics is mind boggling. He isn't worries about cheating on his wife but the accusation of cheating. All it will take is 1 neighbor to see her or him coming and going in and out of each other's house and the whole community is going to say he is doing the deed because of her reputation. It doesn't matter if they are or not. They can both come out and say they aren't but whose going to believe them. Now he goes to the PTA meeting and his wife gets looks of sympathy while he gets looks of disgust because they all "know" what you have been doing with that woman. Then you get the concerned "friend" that tells your wife all the rumors (which of course get blown out of proportion with each retelling.... telephone game anyone?). Even if she doesn't believe it... it won't matter because it's what they believe. And now the perception of you is ruined. Then your kid stops getting invited to places because of your unearned reputation.
That's how small towns work you're guilty until you're proven innocent.
Then your kid will have opportunities overlooked because no one wants anything to do with your kid, not to mention, a lot of businesses won't want to work with your wife, so she's be passed over.
And it could have a negative effect on your son's opinions of women.
Not worth the risk.
Its insane to me the amount of people who think this isn't a big deal and portray him as a monster. You can tell who has and hasn't lived in a town like this and who hasn't had to deal with these kinds of rumors as an innocent party. Their wilful ignorance is astronomical.
@@SetsunaMeiou-SailorPluto They are likely rich city girls. Sure, it sounds classist and sexist (Which I don't hold it against people. some rich city girls can be really nice... just naive.) but it is indeed the case.
First, they don't understand the matter about men's reputations. It could mean a lot. Even the accusation of bad behaviour can stay with them for life, even when it is proven beyond a shadow of a doubt that he is innocent, can affect his future prospects even decades down the line. (And this is true, even in big cities.) We can look at the plot of "To Kill a Mockingbird" to see. A crippled man was accused, and the story was so unbelievably inconsistent, but he was deemed guilty anyways.
I prefer living in small towns, as I function a lot better in them, with my mental health... but dang it is true. Even the wife's career would be put in jeopardy over such a rumour.
Story 4 Update: Good on you OP. Your a great Mother. Hopefully your Son releases that his Father may not be the best authority on right and wrong.
You can't borrow a lunch. Once it's processed, she'd basically be returning poo
As my mom would say anytime someone asked to borrow a tissue "I don't want it back."
Last story: DAMMIT! Made me all teared up! This was wholesome.
If he is willing chest for you, he will cheat on you. The step mom / ex husband deserves everything they get
As a mother it can hurt so much to make sure our children learn important life lessons, they are angry/upset with us.
I always tell my daughter after she’s done something wrong that I love her so much but my job is to make sure she can take care of herself and be a positive influence on the world. So after her lesson/punishment I always make sure she knows I’m still there.
Food theft story: OP get a lawyer and sue the business and manager for making a hostile work environment, accusing you of poisoning a co worker who stole your food, and forcing you to leave this job due to the repeated harassment and threats of financial repercussions. The boss's daughter is a fool for stealing other peoples food knowing she has a severe allergy to nuts but they will 100% try and come after you for the medical bills, pain and suffering, and potentially assault or attempted murder charges.
Get ahead of the legal troubles coming your way and lawyer up now and go scorched earth against those idiots and the company that isn't back you up.
Gosh I love the first story hilarious.
Cool Parents and Badly Behaving Kid- Mom, you gave him exactly what he thought he wanted, and he got to discover that his Father is NOT cool. You provided the opportuntiy to see the Hero is a Monster. Maybe now, your words will not fall on deaf ears. IF he starts acting up, just take him to his dads for a refresher in reality.
Lmao, I would LOVE to see one of those greeting cards!! 😄😄
So the bosses’ daughter stealing food and getting sick and then blaming the person she stole it from is like a thief who come into your house, breaks his back falling down the stairs and then expects you to pay his medical bills. Yeah….no!!! The boss is toxic thinking his daughter stealing an employee’s food is fine!
Bet the daughter only got the job because he pulled strings. Because her just taking food is the sign of someone that know they won't get in trouble.
@@hothead2463 It’s a sign of an entitled brat. It doesn’t occur to her maybe the person she is stealing from maybe has a low incitement can’t afford more.
Sounds like your step-dad wants to push you out of the family and your mother is allowing it. My feelings would be super-hurt too! Your prank was BRILLIANT, and I loved that you threw their words back at them. People HATE being called out for hypocrisy because there is no argument. It's hard to defend yourself when you're being a hypocrite.
Son was and is lucky to have you for a mom, but equally lucky that young lady accepted his apology because that kinda joke could get you hurt. Glad everything worked out for him and his mom.
Agree and people need to learn that actions has consequences
The food stealer i think is not the daughter but the boss. If she had stolen OP's food she would have gone into shock before that time. She probably shared her "dad's lunch"
Dude was protecting his marriage. NTA. It was a good example for his son. Don’t invite trouble into your home. There’s plenty of woe in the world already.
So....
We shouldn't blame the woman who is participating in an affair? Seriously? And op has every right to keep a distance, I case his wife starts giving him grief or recives it herself from "well meaning" parties
Oh I love the picture exchange comment and how they sneaked in and exchange the envelopes and then mailed out the pictures of his “new family quote. How dare the step dad think he could ask out this person from their family photos? Who does he think he is and why didn’t his mother stand up for him? Kudos to him for making a great picture and a good joke! I guess I didn’t think of it as petty justice But I guess it is, cool!
"Embarrassing the family" omg that's the best prank ever 🤣
Small Town Story: NTA because of small town dynamics.
The thing is that if she has the reputation as the town bicycle that goes after married PTA dads, it's gonna be hard for her. It sucks, but why should OP risk the reputation and safety of himself and his son for her feelings? And not in a "she's nasty and OP should look down on her" way, but in a "if the wrong person sees OP leaving this woman's house or vice versa, it won't matter what he or she says, the rumor mill will conflate and conflate until OP was seen going into her house without his son and God only knows what happened in there". His reputation will be ruined. His wife will be notified, pitied, and may even have doubts. His son will be bullied. Small towns are vicious.
Maybe she really is a promiscuous woman that stakes out the hardest to get men, maybe she's a single mother that's had a bad hand dealt and these rumors are the brown cherry on the manure cake. A married man with a wife that's frequently out of town is _not_ the person to unlock this backstory.
Edit: I just had a conversation with my mother and we came to the hilarious conclusion that he knows he has the capacity to cheat and is taking the responsibility upon himself to not allow temptation into his life. Preventative maintenance, baby!
But seriously, my mom suggested that public drop offs or just one parent picking the kid up from school and sending the kid back the next day would have worked. Hell, even just the two of them parking in a Denny's parking lot and having one kid go to the other car would have worked or if the town is small enough, the kids can walk to each other's houses.
So Mum says that he is in fact perpetuating bull crap, but she can't blame him for wanting to maintain his reputation and she finds he is the AH for how he went about it, not thinking of alternatives.
The only person who "could have killed his daughter" is...HIS DAUGHTER. She STOLE someone's food when she wasn't sure what it was despite knowing she had a peanut allergy. Then only other person who "could have killed his daughter" is HIM for being a bad parent for not teaching his daughter to eat stuff if, and only if, she knows EXACTLY what's in it and also for not teaching her that stealing is wrong.
That is a great switcheroo 😅
# nta, you keep doing this to your son, you are making him a better future man.
“Blame the woman for the husband cheating?”
But, the man is trying to avoid situations that would make him want to cheat. I avoid cliffs for a similar reason, so maybe I’m projecting here. I just don’t understand why it is wrong to avoid putting yourself in bad situations.
Is it because of the implication that he wouldn’t resist being seduced? If he knows himself enough to admit this weakness, why is it wrong for him to avoid situations like that?
Or - wait for it - stop putting your self-control issues on women. It's not our job to make sure you behave normally. If this one woman will be your downfall - as if she would even WANT to sleep with you just because, WHY, exactly? - then you need to board yourself up in your house, because that's a predator mindset. Your comparison to cliffs is laughable, because not even THEY want you throwing yourself off them, only to blame them for existing. Gross.
Neither the husband nor the wife should be “seducible”, regardless of circumstances. It’s basic self mastery and integrity.
Avoid the occasion for sin.
@@pansprayers well if she's chasing married men then she is also to blame. And a respectable married man is not going go any where near her. Not because they're scared they'll cheat cause they don't want to be in a situation where this woman is harassing them and making passes at them. People act like having a morale compass is such a bad thing.
@@pansprayers
Since my fear of cliffs is so laughable, would Alcoholism be a better example?
- You know how you act around alcohol; and you don’t like the person you are when drunk. You choose to stop drinking and even choose to stop hanging around people who drink. The fact that those people will not force your to drink does not stop your own personal temptation when you’re around alcohol. Is it wrong to still avoid them?
It is a self-control problem, but I don’t think you are blaming those people for your alcoholism by avoiding them.
The mom in the last story is amazing. I in my mind I was already in the mindset of a teenage boy being influenced by his dad like that was already a lost cause. Hearing her preserve no matter how hard it got really shows that some people are just meant to be parents and some people are not. I definitely fall into the latter, I get way to anxious imagining raising a horrible excuse of a human because of poor parenting on my part.
Story about sons friend and his mom: I love how they managed to twist this mans words and attack him over something he never said and completely ignored the point. The man didn't want to cause problems with his wife or son is the gossip mill started because he was always there to get his son and worried they would spread rumors about him having an affair with this woman and ruining his life and relationship with his family. He never said if he believed the rumors or not just that these are what the rumors are and that she has been seen with these other people and that he did not want to end up associated with it too. Lets not pretend like we don't know how life is in a small town. People spread rumors like viruses true or not because they have nothing better to do. That very well could be what they did to this woman. You don't know but neither does he. He doesn't want to unnecessarily risk his family and their relationships and safety with the vile small town gossiping circles. Its those same double standards. Women are told its okay and their feelings of discomfort being around some men are valid for the same reasons this man gave but when the person experiencing the discomfort in the same kind of situation is a man about a woman suddleny its shaming and such. No. This man is trying to put his family and their ability to live peacefully in this town first. Lives have been ruined over rumors on both sides. This shouldn't be something even needing to be pointed out. And the fact that his wife threw him out of his own home and diminished his feelings and worries and twisted them into something they aren't is absolutely disgusting behavior and genuinely I believe this relationship will never work if she is so dismissive of her partner's feelings. A marriage is supposed to be a partnership. You are supposed to support each other. If your partner comes to you with something heavy on their mind you are supposed to help them and come up with solutions or compromises not berate them and kick them out of their home and make them feel like their feelings don't matter. If a husband had behaved this way to his wife after coming to him with the same thing everyone would be up in arms calling him abusive and a monster and demanding she divorce him because she deserves better. And I pray for the people who are in relatonships with people with these kind of ass backwards opinions because they will never get the kind of support they deserve from that person.
That was what I was thinking too! They comments completely twisted his words and concerns.
@@alphawolf2157 there is a lot of teens on reddit I sometimes read comments an go to their profile. This is read to us so I can't see how old they are or what kind of person the commenters are
Hold on if the daughter of the boss has this BAD allergy to nuts she couldn't be the one that has been stealing the food before because she's only had the one reaction. Someone else has been stealing her food not just the one time boss's kid.
But in this case op knows someone stole he lunch and need to sue that awful manager. My guess is that it was someone who tried the food and wanted it for themselves.
I wouldn't be comfortable being around a woman nor a man who is a serial adulterer. He's NTA.
Just make sure you're never alone with her, so judge until you know better. Just keep someone else around the kids etc.
Food thieves get what they get. NTA.
What kind of Mother intentionally excludes her Daughter from extended family photos.. shameful
Nta. She has been stealing your lunch and then stole your lunch again and got a bad surprise. OP is not allergic to peanuts and she doesnt hide the fact she sometimes eats them. I would take it to hr and better business bureau. This guy hired his kid a thief and is trying to blame the victim of the theft. Just a hell no all around
The whole "borrow food" comment reminded me of the Boondocks animated series.
Loosely paraphrasing here:
"How is a brotha gonna borrow a fry? Brotha is you gonna give it back?"
Last story, before the update: I was thinking that OP needs to ask her son to explain the "joke". What was the joke there? What was the funny part. If he can't explain the joke, it's not a joke, it's bullying.
Yeah op in the loose woman story should destroy his marriage too make the 304 feel better how dare he not put himself in a vulnerable situation.
…you seriously use the phrase ‘loose woman’? Are you aware that it’s not 1955?
@@KittenUndercover Should I have said whore or prostitute?
Please please, take the food issue up with proper channels. Borrowed????
Don't let them bully you.
Yeah I found that part funny. Who the hell borrows food.
TIL that, if you are the daughter of the boss of a company, you dont steal. You borrow.
To the evil genius who handed out this good natured prank.....BRAVO!
NTA great job, nobody got hurt.
I wish I could of done That to my Mom and Step Dad!! I love it!!
#1 we who are about to maliciously comply...salute you.. 😭😭😂😂😂😂
when you encourage a man to ruin his relationships and potentially divorce his wife so that he could be in the same room as a woman he doesnt even like
i have returned to this and come to consider.
well firstly i think the guy was in the right to avoid the woman so as not to harm his relationships with others and especially his wife.
some argue that this woman's reputation is just rumors. well first of all we don't know whether these rumors are in fact just rumors or are actual reality but nobody can go out and say it because there isn't physical proof (lack of proof does not mean it did not happen, but can also imply it did not happen).
secondly even if it really is just all rumors, what will people think? "oh those rumors must not be true because this guy is hanging out with this woman that we believe is 'free-spirited' when his wife is gone"?
thirdly he says he knows of two men who slept with the woman. but how did he find this information? did those men themselves say it happened? did the woman herself say it happened? was it announced by someone else? this argument's strength depends on the source.
now we can argue that he's a bad person for believing in rumors before even getting to know the woman beyond them. but if ten people you trust say yes, and one person you don't know says no, and none of them have evidence, what else do you have to rely on other than trust? would you really risk your relationships just to find out? no, you wouldn't.
hell we live in a society that chases the latest trends just for a few numbers to go up--literally doing anything just for the approval of strangers. these same people would never ruin their own reputations like they're demanding the op do.
Story 2. OP you need to document everything you can and also get statements from your co-workers who shared your lunch previously saying that it had peanut sauce in it. Then make sure that HR are fully aware of the situation and the threatening behaviour of the boss. Remember HR are there not for you but for the company to avoid paying out on law suits and if they fire you or force you to quit then that is a juicy lawsuit in the making.
I love the first story.
That first story is fucking epic, I'm betting the photographers and developers were howling 🤣🤣🤣
Easter Bunny: JAH - Hilarious, and highly appropriate pay back for getting left out of family photos. Frankly, I think they need a little time to miss you. Go NC for a while. She owes you an apology.
BOUT OP'S BOSSES DAUGHTER
THEY HAVE NO RIGHT TO TAKE HER
FOOD DOSEN'T HE KNOW
THE COMONDMENT THOU
SHALL NOT STEAL.
Wow, OP NTA. What your son did to that girl was not a joke and i am glad you didnt just say "boys will be boys" or other things that dismissed his horrible behavior. I am glad you reminded him that you love and in his own time he said it to you. I am sorry that he heard what a true piece of crap his father really is if he was so willing to cheat on you for his new wife and then cheat on her. but I think this opened son's eyes. I hope you make sure he gets the therapy he needs to get through this and that you will be a supportive and loving parent.
Great stories. The last one I have to applaud the commentor that used the proper descriptive words in the issue with a toxic male "chauvinist". The stepmom realized that "he cheated with me and karma dictated he would cheat on me". My ex was a cheater, the last time she left me I just let her go. She wasn't worth the pain of staying together.