My husband brought his mother with us on vacation once. We were 27, She was 54. My husband and i got into a disagreement (I was tired after 6 miles walking, he was on a mobility scooter and wanted to keep going). His mother chastised me: for arguing with him in front of our daughter. We looked at each other and then both lit into her at the same moment. She never tried it again.
Dude my grandma from my father's side would act like she married my old man eventually I stopped talking to my father and I don't have a relationship with he's mom
Must be nice! Those of us with narcissists and/or borderlines for a mother dream of a day where we could do this and have it work. A borderline or narcissist will unleash rage on us and destroy our lives for daring to challenge her.
Umm, none of this is good. Why would your husband want to keep going when you told him you were tired. If you were tired so was your daughter. His mom should not have anything and neither of you should have attacked her in front of the child. In order to teach boundaries to your baby all 3 of you jacked up.
They should at least separate for a time and enter into MC. He needs to see from a neutral third party that what he did isn’t cool. It would be best to hear this from a male therapist to bluntly advise him to “cut the cord.”
@@RobDaCajun At the stage where he's actively lying to his wife and planning stuff behind her back to get his mom on the trip, he already knows that he needs to cut the cord, but he won't do it. Either doesn't want to, or can't, but its an active decision.
@@RobDaCajun I know. But in this instance they don’t have any kids together so, it will just be easier for her to walk away then have to continue to deal with that drama.
To all the lovely women out there, never ever, ever, marry mamas boys. I feel bad for the nephew being the result of his parents affair and yet he suffers for it. Because the brother in law is too cowardly to take responsibilities for his own doings.
Maybe I am just too cynical, but this takes "Mama's Boy" to an Oedipus level. Inviting a mother on a romantic getaway, a mother who dyes her hair to try to look like his wife??? Run. Run. Get away from these sickos as fast as possible. (Anybody want to place a bet that if she does divorce him, he'll immediately move in with mommy?)
My ex is a mama's boy and she won't let him grow up. He is almost 36 and he is still childish. I had to leave because he is abusive. It's been difficult but my child and I are doing better away from him.
Story # 1: She UNDERREACTED. She should have gone directly to the ticket counter and canceled all the flight reservations. Then at home cancel all the hotel reservations and any other bookings there were. Then, separate finances and contact a divorce lawyer. Story # 3: Just tell the guy that if he was so concerned when his ex-girlfriend's rent was raised he should have ponied up to make up the shortfall. He didn't do it. Too bad, so sad.
#1 She should have canceled mom & husband & changed hers to a different location. There, called around for a divorce lawyer. This way she can't be accused of abandoning the property! #3 Maybe he is so angry about the break up, he'd rather his daughter live in a cardboard box? I Really can't think of any crazy reason for his reaction. (Maybe OP should invest in a hotel for his Ex-Baby-Mamas
Sleeping/non-sleeping baby: 2 things. 1) Saw a documentary years ago that showed life in the womb was very noisy and NOT to insist on “quiet so baby can sleep”! 2) Also, my sister was a cranky baby. She screamed a lot. The only way to get her to sleep was to put her in a room with the vacuum cleaner; when she realized she couldn’t cry louder than the vacuum, she went to sleep. You can’t expect your neighbours to put their lives on hold because you had a kid, not in an apartment, and especially not if they own a separate house.
Yeah, it makes so much sense too, if baby's taught to sleep in a noisy place, then noise won't wake them up easily. And that's alot of entitlement, sleeping with the windows open but expecting your neighbors not to make ANY noise, especially during the daytime.
My first would NOT let me put her down for the first six months. Then wouldn't let me sleep without her in the room until she was maybe 3. She still tries to sleep with me every now and again, and she's 5. Let me tell ya, those first 6 months were BEYOND stressful...
heh these always remind me story my dad told when my niece was a baby (every adult in this scenario is difficult person and esp SIL feels she's better than others). anyway my bro and his wife went to visit my parents and first thing my bro did was stomping to A/C and turning it off because "baby gets scared by loud noises" (ac isn't loud). dad, got up, turned it back on, said his house and baby needs to learn live in noises. SIL had been bit sour but they had stayed. what makes this scenario funny was that SIL had already travelled with baby in train several times and i think they had travelled by plane 4h flight by then. (so yea, it was power move and my bro being golden child is used getting his way. but even entitled like him, he is on his wife's leash)
I knew someone who had an awful singing voice, something his whole family agreed on. But his lullabies were more likely to work than his wife's. The theory was the babies realised if they lay still and quiet - the singing would stop!
Exactly my feeling. My conversation from that point on with my husband would be "Shut up and go away!" and with his mother "Drop dead and go to hell!" And I'd leave ASAP.
Does anyone else find INSANELY creepy that OP’s (hopefully STBX) husband would prefer to go on a romantic getaway with his mother instead of his wife…? OP you’re NTA but got the love of god RUN, this immature momma’s boy will never grow up. You need an exit plan NOW
Story 3 - yep, bet ex is pissed because a) you are friends b) he can't short change on child support using the other woman as the "excuse" c) any seedy opportunity to have no strings sex with either woman has gone d) he will publicly look like a ahole since both women get along but did despite him not because of him. I.e he's the real problem in this dynamic.
Quite right. If you don't want female guests to wear white for your wedding, then don't keep the wedding a secret. I'm glad OP was not the only guest who wore white, and think those who did should have stuck together.
My late wife had a temper and a tongue that could slice through steel. I can hear her now in a LOUD voice: "What's the big deal about white? You're wearing white and you've slept with half the men and women here."
Story 1: OP should have called the hotel, removed the husband from her room and spent her vacation enjoying herself. I wouldn't have lost out on my trip for them, nor would I have caved. She wasn't wrong for leaving, but I feel like she got punished too. That's a no.
@@noydb-1 better yet a grim reaper costume that way your not wearing white at a surprise wedding and your prepared for a surprise funeral….and cause I think it would be funny in the context of the story
Surprise wedding OP should throw herself a surprise Birthday party, with an 80's theme, then get upset that the friend didn't come dressed in neon legwarmers.
Story 1: I don't understand why OP didn't change the tickets. If she paid for her husband, she could have taken a friend in his place. OP could explain to the hotel what happened and hopefully they could change her reservation to another hotel in their chain. Her husband can pay for his own ticket and honeymoon suite for him and his mom. Why should OP be stuck at home crying?
She should have gone somewhere, not home, to regrouped and canceled everything she had planned with the mommy boy husband. Then call around to see if any of her friends were up to a last minute vacation.
You do know that, for security reasons, you can't just 'change the name' on plane tickets, right? It's more complicated than that, and for good reason.
Well... She was sad and furious. I understand that she weren't thinking cleverly. Also, I don't know about you, but I can't just call a friend and tell them "hey, come to the airport, we're going on a 2 weeks vacation right now" and expect they come
It’s always nice to hear the narrator break character. OP in story 1 needs to leave that marriage. Dude doesn’t respect her and he’s always going to put his mom before her
Story 1: just wow. OP saves up and plans everything for a romantic vacation for her and her husband, then gets harassed by husbands mother and husband decided to just invite his mom anyway! If I were OP I would straight up ask why he would let his mom come on a romantic vacation between husband and wife, does he need his mommy to hold his hand to make sure he has sex correctly? Not to mention the extra costs, I doubt his mom would’ve paid for anything since husband decided to go and buy her a ticket behind OP’s back, what else would they have done behind her back during the vacation so momma’s boy can keep his mommy happy. OP I say take your pupper and go stay somewhere else for a while, if your husband continues to side with mommy then you have your answer of who will ALWAYS come first.
See my other comment. Do you really believe jealous mommydearest will allow any sex between them? Knock knock. My room's too hot. Knock knock, my room's too cold. Knock knock, I don't mean to intrude, I know it's 2am, but I was just thinking about breakfast tomorrow. Knock knock, I heard your bedsprings; just checking that you're OK. And that's optimistically assuming she doesn't demand to sleep in the same room with them (to save money, of course).
If my wife had done something like that I would have gone home and immediately changed the locks on the doors. I would have been waiting with divorce papers in hand when she showed up. Of course hubby showing up just a few hours later makes having the papers ready for him a little difficult.
There is another post on You Tube where the husband insisted on inviting his mommy on the honeymoon. To the bride's horror - she found that m-i-l and hubby were SHARING A ROOM! because M-i-l was scared of being by herself in a foreign country where English was not the first language.
@@rolandhansen812 It got worse! They left the bride stranded at the hotel without money or her ticket. Monster-in-law's plan was to 'train' the young lady to be obedient to both of them. Luckily, the bride found she had her passport and could pay by an ap on her phone. Her husband was shocked that she started divorce proceedings and posted everything on social media. As a result, he blamed his mother and they fell out.
I always dress formally when going to Waffle House just in case a Suprise wedding breaks out. And it's always black in case there is a surprise funeral. And I make sure to keep china patterns, a child's presents & an envelope full of cash in my car so I can be ready for any eventuality. You never know when a bar mitzva, quinceanera, or cotillion may just pop up unexpectedly.
1. Being married to a mommy's boy looks like it's 100 times worse than dying alone. 2. The two tackiest words in the English language: 'surprise wedding'. No one can ever wear white anymore - turn a corner and you might walk into someone's wedding! Constant vigilance! 3. Must be awkward when both your exes loathe you and live happily ever after together. Worthless lump of skin, blood cells, and oxygen. 4. We must respect the SIL. The one who knows her husband cheated but has still stayed with him? Why should we respect her feelings when she doesn't even respect herself? Got to love when everyone gets blamed except the wandering d!ck. 5. They effed about and found out. Honestly, I'd be wondering if the roller door beeper can get any louder. And I'd be going to town on it.
I've taken my adult son and his grilfriend on vacation with my husband and I. but this was planned as a family vacation from the get go among the 4 of us. Had this been a romantic get away and my kid told me to go, I'd ask him if he had fallen and hit his head.
@@Jerseybytes2 Thank you for being an example of a good mother in law. This is how it's supposed to be. Family vacations are family vacations, romantic getaways are not.
OP in story 1 has a HUSBAND problem, more than a MIL problem. What does this woman get out of this relationship? He clearly does not respect his wife at all and is gaslighting her.
Story one, OP, it's time to leave this relationship. Your husband is a douchebag and he and your family have no perception of boundaries. First response is right on the money. Your husband is a spineless jerk who doesn't have your own back, and will kowtow to anything his MIL wants. 3:50 is right, too. Fuck that. It was your trip and the money YOU saved. I'm so sorry.
Story 3: NTA. So your EX is falling short in both your lives and you two are just supposed to… suffer as a result? No! He’s just mad that the people he left behind are doing fine without him.
I could see him being salty if there was a further guy hanging around, dating one or the other X but it seemed like the womenfolk did what women folk do; maintain The Home Fire and take care of the young ones while the caveman grabs his spear and goes off and does whatever he does with it.
Story 2: NTA. You would have prepared if you knew what was happening, BUT YOU DIDN’T. What if this was a surprise FUNERAL? Everyone would have dressed inappropriately then!
If it was a surprise funeral. That would have been said but your comment makes it hilarious! I have always know white to be worn to a christening. The cousin is dumb.
I would have told him at the airport Divorce . Gone home and blocked everyone out of my life that agreed with him. I would move out or moved him to his mommy’s house. You are nothing to him. Go no contact.
Don't stay with a mommas boy! I would have cancelled everything and shouted at him while at the airport! F that, respect is a 2 way road, if he won't respect me, he's not getting respect FROM me. I'd of yelled out that if he wanted a romantic get away with his mother he could but to tell her in advance so she wouldn't have to plan for 2 people!
Story 4: NTA. The “Game” you were trying to play was the “Thinking about the children” game. The one your BIL doesn’t seem to get. I say stop inviting him, in fact EXCLUD HIM.
Story one: men wonder why divorce rates are so high. That's just a prime example of why. Men are still so use to women playing doormats so now that women are not longer playing that role, men can't handle it.
Story 1: Another case of single mom treating son like an ersatz husband & son enabling such an unhealthy attachment. Let him & mommy-wife run away together, I'm sure she'll give him better babies than you ever could, she did raise him herself after all.
I would have pretended to leave. Wait for those two fools to leave and then boarded the plane. Oops honey, i got on the plane. Hope you and mil enjoy your two weeks at home with each other
Story 1: I'd have ripped my husband a new one if he'd ever pulled a stunt like that;. And from that point on my only conversation with his mother would consist on two words "DROP DEAD" or variations on that theme. Last story: Tell your neighbor to sound proof a room in her house as you have done all you intend to do in making concessions to her baby's sleeping. OP has done enough.
Really? My last words to my (hopefully soon-to-be ex) husband and his mom would've been something like, "Hope you two have a great marriage." At this point their relationship really does have incestuous undertones to it. Not only is he catering to all of HER wants and needs, but what MIL dyes her hair and alters her appearance to look like her DIL? One who's wanting to take on the physical traits that her son fell in love with, that's what.
On the last one: buy the neighbors a white noise machine for their babies room. Life is so much easier once babies get used to noise. (My daughter slept through the Return of the King, front row of the theater, 5 weeks old)
My daughter slept through Gettysburg. During the intermission (long movie but great if you like history) some little old ladies came over and asked "Honey, how do you get them to sleep like that?"
The white noise machine might be a good idea for those parents, but they can buy it themselves. They don't deserve presents for harassing OP, trying to prevent OP from using their own garage, and generally being entitled jerks.
1st Story: NTA but you’d be the jerk to yourself if you stayed married to this man. You married a mommas boy. They hardly change and even if they do, they most often relapse back into mommy’s lap. You did not plan the ROMANTIC trip for you, him, AND mother in law. I don’t know why that’s such a hard concept for husband and MIL to grasp. You deserve better because he does not care about your feelings or the effort you went through to make the trip happen.
Story 1: my first thought was that OP should change her ticket. No reason she should miss out on a fun trip just because her husband decided he'd wanna spend a romantic trip with the most important woman in his life: mommy
As a mum. Don't be silent around sleeping babies, a recipe for disaster. Make sure cot is warm with a hot water bottle before you lay them down so no shock of cold. Yes remove the hot water bottle. Tidy up in the nursery as they go to sleep 💤. Then gradually introduce hoovering, putting clothes away etc. Learnt from a very experienced mum and because of this, my little ones could sleep anywhere and noise wasn't a problem. Tip toeing around is just making a rod for your own back.
Some men are useless in my opinion as a 19 year old guy myself if I had a girlfriend I'd prioritize her first period no question when a man is in a relationship with a woman that woman comes first the mom should stay outta it period honestly I have a dad like that with my late grandma from he's side before she passed away he'd always take her side as a result my sister and I never spoke to her nor went to her memorial I never spoke to my dad after I turned 18 I'm proud to say I'm not a mamas boy
Nephew story: Your BIL and your sister should both not be allowed in the house but if your husband can invite your cheating brother then you should be allowed to invite your sister too or your nephew. The fact that they are blaming the kid here is horrible, he has your brother's blood too and close to your son, so you have the right to invite him.
S3, Op you are treating the kids the same and making sure that your ex husbands kids are in a safe environment for them and you .Op your ex husbands first girlfriend after the divorce needed help to get on her feet and you offered up a place to stay with a reduced rent as a paying tenant in your granny flat .Your ex husband doesn't have a say in what you do with your house .NTA
The cohabitating baby mama story. OP is NTA. Sounds like the mutual ex may have been telling his friends & family lies about both OP and her relationship with the other baby mama.
For the Nephew and son party: You invited your sons friend to his birthday party, Really good thing to do for your son. The fact that he is also your nephew is an entirely separate matter. The attitude against inviting him is the attitude of "I don't want your son to have any friends." REALLY ENTITLED A**H****.
1 story take your trip with out hubby and while you're gone have him served with divorce papers. Now he can spend his romantic time with mommy. Go find yourself a real man.2nd story if you don't know you're going to a wedding then how can you dress appropriately. LMAO at this.
Story 1... This sounds like my former hubby and his mother. Never ever marry a mama's boy. OP, were you right. I think mama and baby boy really wanted a romantic get a way. They are the AHs not OP.
I hope wifey canceled all the hotels, etc. that she booked. Any loses, take back from any joint accounts, and I hope she's got her own account somewhere. Question, though. Where was the dog when all of them were at the airport?
She could have arranged for a dog sitter or dog walker. Alternatively, the dog could have been at a kennel and she swung by and picked him up on the way home.
@@RudesMom That's a lot of "could have"s, true, and what I was thinking, but given that so many of these stories are, well, fiction, I almost instinctively start looking for holes.
@@joeschmo622 Agreed but dog sitters and kennels are common enough that the storytellers might just assume that something like that would be a given. It's something that friends do for each other as well (or the neighbor's kid). On the other hand, since it seems that everyone was telling her she should have just sucked it up, I don't think she has any real friends.
The last story - parents never make everyone be quiet when your baby sleeps or they will never learn to sleep in normal conditions and their sleeping condition needs will ruin your life.
Final Story: NTA. I consider myself a nice person, but if you complain about what I’m doing not being enough you lose your “nice guy” privilege’s. Play it loud and play it proud OP!
I personally think that since husband, in the first story, bought the tickets, but wife saved up and paid for the rest, she should have let them go off together and then called to cancel all reservations she made. She may have taken a hit, but they would have been stranded and she could have used the money saved to pay for the divorce lawyer.
In regards to the last story (new neighbor baby), I've heard a lot of people swear by music. I.e., playing loud (not loud enough to hurt the baby obviously) music so the kid grows up used to noise and doesn't wake up super easy. On the flip side, I've heard some people say that their babies raised in quiet environments are pretty light sleepers. This is all secondhand stories, but something to consider, I guess. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
When I was a baby, my parents made sure to wake me up if I started dozing off in the middle of the day so I’d be tired enough to sleep at night. As a result, I’m now a pretty heavy sleeper.
I currently have a 5 month old and during the night, I put on a lofi radio yt channel on my phone for him. I have been told by multiple people that making no noise while they sleep makes them light sleepers.
When he was a baby, my little brother would always sleep best when we'd crack the door open just enough that he could hear what was going on in the house as he fell asleep; eldest brother upstairs mixing music or playing the guitar, one of us in the kitchen, etc. Even as an adult, I sleep so much better with quiet white noise in the background.
Last story…when it comes to noise, people get really annoying about it and then go out of their way to “hear” you. They wait all day for anything when in reality then listening to music or watching tv would drown out most outside sounds. Live your life OP and they will learn to live their too. Complete quiet for babies is silly anyway, they should find a white or brown noise track they work wonders
I cannot fathom the audacity to ask someone to not use their own garage door because I chose to have a sleeping infant nearby. I’m gonna say this again for the people in the back: Your spawn is not anyone else’s problem. EDIT: Oh my god! They have an open window?! I … Does anyone else worry that these are the kinds of people procreating?!
You like Maggie and she likes you. You are renting to a friend he has no leg to stand on. He is just pissed that he can't gaslight ether of you anymore.
The hilarious cohabiting exes story would be a bit of a deal breaker. Imagine getting into a relationship with this guy and then having this weird pseudo sister wife situation suddenly sprung on you, they would be out the door so fast the sonic boom would shatter glass. That guy is never going to have a stable relationship for the rest of his life.
@@stephanien6237 I didn't. The scenario I was envisioning is one where the serious girlfriend or maybe fiance is finally introduced to the oddly almost cult like way the ex wives are housed. like this guy is keeping a harem.
But neither of them are with him. It just so happens op helped out her exes other baby momma. So now the two ex girlfriends are living together and he's gone with some other woman.
1. OP, divorce now, you did not marry a man you married mama's boy the umbilical cord is still attached. You do not want to bring a child into this toxic situation, ever. Nothing you do will ever be good enough, she will always interfere enabled by her 'baby boy'. Please you are worth so much more and deserve a real man. Get the best lawyer you can and divorce him. Good luck to you. Tell your family to butt out. Hopefully you had trip insurance, if so, take the money YOU saved and book a trip for you n your BF as a celebration for cutting dead wood out of your life.
Last story: Suggest to your neighbors that they get a sound machine to help blend in with and muffle other noises. If money is tight for them right now, so that they can't get one right now, there are TH-cam sound machine videos that will play whatever types of sound you want, or soothing music. They come in different time lengths, up to 12 hours or more. I think I've even seen a few music ones that are 24 hours long. My sound machine died a while back, so I downloaded a sound machine app onto my phone. I play it while I sleep and charge my phone. Occasionally, I get too sleepy in my home office to get up and go to bed. I use a TH-cam brown noise video to sleep better at my desk. I also keep pillows and a good throw blanket there. It all helps At my previous home I didn't have a sound machine. Due to health issues I sleep in a recliner, which was in the living room at my old home. I also have an irregular sleep/wake cycle, so I can be awake or asleep at any time. My next door neighbor there had a motorcycle. He always obeyed the noise regulations, and was never a jerk about using his motorcycle. It wasn't his fault that I have an irregular sleep wake cycle. I never once bothered him about the noise from his motorcycle. Instead, I came up with my own fix for the noise problem. I always kept the living room window on his side of my home closed. I also used an industrial fan in warm weather to muffle outside noises. It really does help. In colder weather I would tune the radio by my recliner/bed to static, and adjust the volume to a comfortable level. That also helped some. I'm happy that I found my own fixes for the noise problem. In all the years I lived there I never had any personal problems with my motorcycle neighbor, because I was enough of an adult to find workable fixes for the noise problem, while respecting my neighbor's right to lawful use of his motorcycle. A couple of good things. My new handicapped apartment is in a very quiet complex. Shortly after moving here I replaced my battered old recliner with a much nicer, and powered new one. Since I use it as my bed I had it put in my bedroom. The old twin bed I no longer use now serves as the sofa in my living room. The old sofa from my previous home is a big monster I never liked, so I left it for the relative who moved into the place when I moved out. Other relatives had helped me furnish my old home by buying some of the previous resident's furniture when he moved out. I left some behind for the relative who moved in after I moved out, including that monster sofa. Noise is a problem that can often be dealt with, without picking a fight with other people. Don't ever expect or demand total silence. It's not possible to achieve that, and is also abusive of other people to demand that. Instead, look for reasonable fixes. Loud noise should follow the legal community rules. Keep the windows nearest the loud outside noises closed. Use fans, radio static, sound machines, sound machine apps, TH-cam sound machine videos, or sound cancelling head phones when indoors. While only the head phones will cancel out the noise, the other methods work by blending with, and then muffling the noise. This makes unpleasant noises much less distinct, so they can be tolerated well. As for babies, even when it's quiet, they will wake up at odd times, and are often cranky. There is always a reason for them to be cranky, but it's usually something other than noise causing the crankiness. Among the possible causes are: too hot, too cold, hungry, need diaper changed, tummy ache, need to be held, and not feeling well. While a sudden very loud noise may wake a baby up, if the other issues are all okay it's usually easy to get the baby to fall back to sleep. Before hassling other people over noise, first take care of other possible issues, and use the noise muffling methods I listed above.
S1- Wow... The Flying Monkeys are strong with this MIL. And Husband is a jackass. Plain and simple. I would have left them both and gone on the trip by myself and let them stay home. I wouldn't have let them ruin my plans what so ever. He scolded you? Omg to hell with that
Op in the first story: I feel your pain;let me explain:I had been planning a trip to Las Vegas for alittle over a year because there was a concert I wanted to go to,so I was going to leave a few days earlier to do the touristy thing,and do alittle gambling; some who or the other my mom found out about it and invited herself (and expected me to foot the bill for her plane ticket and hotel) I finally got tired of her Bs.told her to get bent,and canceled my plans
My mother would ask me every year when my vacation was because she expected me to automatically spend it with her. It got to the point that, with the stress from her andcmy work, I had no vacation time because I would use up sick leave, then have to use up vacation time.
Story about wearing white to the surprise wedding: OP is thinking small scale here. Every. Single. Time. Cousin wears white to any occation in the future, OP should act shocked and ask 'What if there is a surprise wedding?!? You should have taken that into consideration!" Every time until the end of time. I am petty AF and would never let it go. And that's how I'd be the AH in the long run. :)
Ha-ha, the last story. This must be their first baby. I and my husband are both eldest children and were brought up with the "shush, don't wake the baby!". We have to have quiet, dimness, being in bed to fall asleep. We fell for this with our first daughter, but with our second we saw that kids will fall asleep where ever, even with us playing drums a meter away. Wish we knew earlier and were raised differently so we could sleep through everything!
My husband brought his mother with us on vacation once. We were 27, She was 54. My husband and i got into a disagreement (I was tired after 6 miles walking, he was on a mobility scooter and wanted to keep going). His mother chastised me: for arguing with him in front of our daughter. We looked at each other and then both lit into her at the same moment. She never tried it again.
Dude my grandma from my father's side would act like she married my old man eventually I stopped talking to my father and I don't have a relationship with he's mom
Nice! "Hey, Mom! Shadddappp!"
This, your mum scolding your wife about an issue between you should be mortifying.
Must be nice! Those of us with narcissists and/or borderlines for a mother dream of a day where we could do this and have it work. A borderline or narcissist will unleash rage on us and destroy our lives for daring to challenge her.
Umm, none of this is good. Why would your husband want to keep going when you told him you were tired. If you were tired so was your daughter. His mom should not have anything and neither of you should have attacked her in front of the child. In order to teach boundaries to your baby all 3 of you jacked up.
Story 1: If you have to fight to get your husband to back you up, you need to have an exit plan ASAP. Or don't even get into a relationship like that.
They should at least separate for a time and enter into MC. He needs to see from a neutral third party that what he did isn’t cool. It would be best to hear this from a male therapist to bluntly advise him to “cut the cord.”
@@RobDaCajun At the stage where he's actively lying to his wife and planning stuff behind her back to get his mom on the trip, he already knows that he needs to cut the cord, but he won't do it. Either doesn't want to, or can't, but its an active decision.
@@RobDaCajun I don’t think she should put herself through that and just leave him.
@@dianasmith8248 it looks better in divorce court.
@@RobDaCajun I know. But in this instance they don’t have any kids together so, it will just be easier for her to walk away then have to continue to deal with that drama.
To all the lovely women out there, never ever, ever, marry mamas boys.
I feel bad for the nephew being the result of his parents affair and yet he suffers for it. Because the brother in law is too cowardly to take responsibilities for his own doings.
Hope sis took him to court for child support.
Maybe I am just too cynical, but this takes "Mama's Boy" to an Oedipus level. Inviting a mother on a romantic getaway, a mother who dyes her hair to try to look like his wife??? Run. Run. Get away from these sickos as fast as possible. (Anybody want to place a bet that if she does divorce him, he'll immediately move in with mommy?)
If she 'sucked it up' and made the most of it, she would be expected to do this on any other vacation they planned.
The "suck it up" comment makes me think the mom wants to do that to her son. Their relationship is super creepy.
Might as well just cut out the middlewoman, and just marry their mother.
Move in with mommy? I'm guessing she will make him "sleep" in her room.
My ex is a mama's boy and she won't let him grow up. He is almost 36 and he is still childish. I had to leave because he is abusive. It's been difficult but my child and I are doing better away from him.
Story # 1: She UNDERREACTED. She should have gone directly to the ticket counter and canceled all the flight reservations. Then at home cancel all the hotel reservations and any other bookings there were. Then, separate finances and contact a divorce lawyer.
Story # 3: Just tell the guy that if he was so concerned when his ex-girlfriend's rent was raised he should have ponied up to make up the shortfall. He didn't do it. Too bad, so sad.
#1 She should have canceled mom & husband & changed hers to a different location. There, called around for a divorce lawyer. This way she can't be accused of abandoning the property!
#3 Maybe he is so angry about the break up, he'd rather his daughter live in a cardboard box? I Really can't think of any crazy reason for his reaction. (Maybe OP should invest in a hotel for his Ex-Baby-Mamas
First story: kudos to op for showing them better than she could tell them. I only wish she would have rebooked and left later and alone.
Sleeping/non-sleeping baby: 2 things. 1) Saw a documentary years ago that showed life in the womb was very noisy and NOT to insist on “quiet so baby can sleep”! 2) Also, my sister was a cranky baby. She screamed a lot. The only way to get her to sleep was to put her in a room with the vacuum cleaner; when she realized she couldn’t cry louder than the vacuum, she went to sleep. You can’t expect your neighbours to put their lives on hold because you had a kid, not in an apartment, and especially not if they own a separate house.
Yeah, it makes so much sense too, if baby's taught to sleep in a noisy place, then noise won't wake them up easily. And that's alot of entitlement, sleeping with the windows open but expecting your neighbors not to make ANY noise, especially during the daytime.
My first would NOT let me put her down for the first six months. Then wouldn't let me sleep without her in the room until she was maybe 3. She still tries to sleep with me every now and again, and she's 5.
Let me tell ya, those first 6 months were BEYOND stressful...
heh these always remind me story my dad told when my niece was a baby (every adult in this scenario is difficult person and esp SIL feels she's better than others).
anyway my bro and his wife went to visit my parents and first thing my bro did was stomping to A/C and turning it off because "baby gets scared by loud noises" (ac isn't loud). dad, got up, turned it back on, said his house and baby needs to learn live in noises. SIL had been bit sour but they had stayed.
what makes this scenario funny was that SIL had already travelled with baby in train several times and i think they had travelled by plane 4h flight by then.
(so yea, it was power move and my bro being golden child is used getting his way. but even entitled like him, he is on his wife's leash)
I knew someone who had an awful singing voice, something his whole family agreed on. But his lullabies were more likely to work than his wife's. The theory was the babies realised if they lay still and quiet - the singing would stop!
So many mama's boys getting called out, I love it. Some of these guys still being breastfed by their mothers.
This one was as bad as parents who show up at the honeymoon.
Time to start saving money for your next adventure...a trip to the divorce court.
Exactly my feeling. My conversation from that point on with my husband would be "Shut up and go away!" and with his mother "Drop dead and go to hell!" And I'd leave ASAP.
"our son is close him (the nephew) and having him there made our son happy". THAT should be the only criteria needed.
Does anyone else find INSANELY creepy that OP’s (hopefully STBX) husband would prefer to go on a romantic getaway with his mother instead of his wife…?
OP you’re NTA but got the love of god RUN, this immature momma’s boy will never grow up. You need an exit plan NOW
Story 3 - yep, bet ex is pissed because
a) you are friends
b) he can't short change on child support using the other woman as the "excuse"
c) any seedy opportunity to have no strings sex with either woman has gone
d) he will publicly look like a ahole since both women get along but did despite him not because of him. I.e he's the real problem in this dynamic.
all OP needs to say that unless it's about their kid, he has zero saying how she lives her life and what she does in her house.
I would have said, but I’m not at a wedding, I’m at a christening….and then just stared at her.
which is still idiiotic on its own, "god" is just an imaginary friend that never helps.
That kinda what is messed up to it's supposed to be for the child. The cousin to the attention from her own child.
Quite right. If you don't want female guests to wear white for your wedding, then don't keep the wedding a secret. I'm glad OP was not the only guest who wore white, and think those who did should have stuck together.
My late wife had a temper and a tongue that could slice through steel. I can hear her now in a LOUD voice: "What's the big deal about white? You're wearing white and you've slept with half the men and women here."
Story 1: OP should have called the hotel, removed the husband from her room and spent her vacation enjoying herself. I wouldn't have lost out on my trip for them, nor would I have caved. She wasn't wrong for leaving, but I feel like she got punished too. That's a no.
I like the idea. He could stay with his mother. She would get on early in the day and come back at 2 am to miss the two idiots.
If OP paid for the trip, she should have called and cancelled every reservation. Let them figure it out on their own.
Surprise wedding: Guess I should wear a clown outfit to every event in case a "surprise costume party" breaks out.😂😂😂😂😂
Just not a white clown outfit.
@@noydb-1 better yet a grim reaper costume that way your not wearing white at a surprise wedding and your prepared for a surprise funeral….and cause I think it would be funny in the context of the story
Surprise wedding OP should throw herself a surprise Birthday party, with an 80's theme, then get upset that the friend didn't come dressed in neon legwarmers.
Never wear black. You never know when a surprise funeral may break out and you wouldn’t want to disrespect the widow.
Story 1: I don't understand why OP didn't change the tickets. If she paid for her husband, she could have taken a friend in his place. OP could explain to the hotel what happened and hopefully they could change her reservation to another hotel in their chain. Her husband can pay for his own ticket and honeymoon suite for him and his mom.
Why should OP be stuck at home crying?
She should have gone somewhere, not home, to regrouped and canceled everything she had planned with the mommy boy husband. Then call around to see if any of her friends were up to a last minute vacation.
this was at the airport, no time to get a friend to replace him
The husband had gotten the tickets so maybe it was harder to change them out of no where without his card?
You do know that, for security reasons, you can't just 'change the name' on plane tickets, right? It's more complicated than that, and for good reason.
Well... She was sad and furious. I understand that she weren't thinking cleverly. Also, I don't know about you, but I can't just call a friend and tell them "hey, come to the airport, we're going on a 2 weeks vacation right now" and expect they come
It’s always nice to hear the narrator break character.
OP in story 1 needs to leave that marriage. Dude doesn’t respect her and he’s always going to put his mom before her
Story 1: just wow. OP saves up and plans everything for a romantic vacation for her and her husband, then gets harassed by husbands mother and husband decided to just invite his mom anyway! If I were OP I would straight up ask why he would let his mom come on a romantic vacation between husband and wife, does he need his mommy to hold his hand to make sure he has sex correctly? Not to mention the extra costs, I doubt his mom would’ve paid for anything since husband decided to go and buy her a ticket behind OP’s back, what else would they have done behind her back during the vacation so momma’s boy can keep his mommy happy. OP I say take your pupper and go stay somewhere else for a while, if your husband continues to side with mommy then you have your answer of who will ALWAYS come first.
See my other comment. Do you really believe jealous mommydearest will allow any sex between them? Knock knock. My room's too hot. Knock knock, my room's too cold. Knock knock, I don't mean to intrude, I know it's 2am, but I was just thinking about breakfast tomorrow. Knock knock, I heard your bedsprings; just checking that you're OK. And that's optimistically assuming she doesn't demand to sleep in the same room with them (to save money, of course).
If my wife had done something like that I would have gone home and immediately changed the locks on the doors. I would have been waiting with divorce papers in hand when she showed up. Of course hubby showing up just a few hours later makes having the papers ready for him a little difficult.
There is another post on You Tube where the husband insisted on inviting his mommy on the honeymoon. To the bride's horror - she found that m-i-l and hubby were SHARING A ROOM! because M-i-l was scared of being by herself in a foreign country where English was not the first language.
@@gillianbergh7002 Holy 👼 Cow 🐮! Was there an update? Do you know if bride got an immediate annulment?
@@rolandhansen812 It got worse! They left the bride stranded at the hotel without money or her ticket. Monster-in-law's plan was to 'train' the young lady to be obedient to both of them. Luckily, the bride found she had her passport and could pay by an ap on her phone. Her husband was shocked that she started divorce proceedings and posted everything on social media. As a result, he blamed his mother and they fell out.
“Once she cools off she will realize she’s being stupid.”
No she won’t, guarantee she’s gonna double down.
I always dress formally when going to Waffle House just in case a Suprise wedding breaks out. And it's always black in case there is a surprise funeral. And I make sure to keep china patterns, a child's presents & an envelope full of cash in my car so I can be ready for any eventuality. You never know when a bar mitzva, quinceanera, or cotillion may just pop up unexpectedly.
1. Being married to a mommy's boy looks like it's 100 times worse than dying alone.
2. The two tackiest words in the English language: 'surprise wedding'. No one can ever wear white anymore - turn a corner and you might walk into someone's wedding! Constant vigilance!
3. Must be awkward when both your exes loathe you and live happily ever after together. Worthless lump of skin, blood cells, and oxygen.
4. We must respect the SIL. The one who knows her husband cheated but has still stayed with him? Why should we respect her feelings when she doesn't even respect herself? Got to love when everyone gets blamed except the wandering d!ck.
5. They effed about and found out. Honestly, I'd be wondering if the roller door beeper can get any louder. And I'd be going to town on it.
"Constant vigilance!" Mad-Eye Moody, is that you? (Harry Potter reference)
1st Story: The amazing part of this story for me was there wasn’t a drop of OP’s husband or MIL’s blood spilled… Sigh…
I've taken my adult son and his grilfriend on vacation with my husband and I. but this was planned as a family vacation from the get go among the 4 of us. Had this been a romantic get away and my kid told me to go, I'd ask him if he had fallen and hit his head.
@@Jerseybytes2
Thank you for being an example of a good mother in law. This is how it's supposed to be. Family vacations are family vacations, romantic getaways are not.
@@misty4937 my kid lucked out when he met his girlfriend
Yeah but the airports frown on that now. People are so touchy these days.
OP in story 1 has a HUSBAND problem, more than a MIL problem. What does this woman get out of this relationship? He clearly does not respect his wife at all and is gaslighting her.
2:54 “he’s not a good man” is the truest thing commented!
Honestly, I was slightly surprised that he came back home after an hour. I thought for sure he would jet off with dear mummy.
Story one, OP, it's time to leave this relationship. Your husband is a douchebag and he and your family have no perception of boundaries. First response is right on the money. Your husband is a spineless jerk who doesn't have your own back, and will kowtow to anything his MIL wants. 3:50 is right, too. Fuck that. It was your trip and the money YOU saved. I'm so sorry.
Story 3: NTA. So your EX is falling short in both your lives and you two are just supposed to… suffer as a result? No! He’s just mad that the people he left behind are doing fine without him.
I could see him being salty if there was a further guy hanging around, dating one or the other X but it seemed like the womenfolk did what women folk do; maintain The Home Fire and take care of the young ones while the caveman grabs his spear and goes off and does whatever he does with it.
NO HE TRIED TO DITCH BOTH KIDS FOR NEW GIRLFRIEND
3rd OP should tell him and his siblings that if they were better people, then they would have helped out Maggie in her time of need.
Story 2: NTA. You would have prepared if you knew what was happening, BUT YOU DIDN’T. What if this was a surprise FUNERAL? Everyone would have dressed inappropriately then!
If it was a surprise funeral. That would have been said but your comment makes it hilarious!
I have always know white to be worn to a christening. The cousin is dumb.
So, should I just never wear white anywhere because a surprise wedding might be happening? NTA
This. The fact that other women got caught out at the christening wearing white, meant it was a bride failure not an OP failure.
I walked into a gas station yesterday and there was a surprise wedding going on.......... still got my window washer fluid though.
Constant vigilance!
Better dress nice in non white while grocery shopping because there could be a surprise wedding
You should just learn to read people’s minds.
I would have told him at the airport Divorce . Gone home and blocked everyone out of my life that agreed with him. I would move out or moved him to his mommy’s house. You are nothing to him. Go no contact.
Don't stay with a mommas boy! I would have cancelled everything and shouted at him while at the airport! F that, respect is a 2 way road, if he won't respect me, he's not getting respect FROM me. I'd of yelled out that if he wanted a romantic get away with his mother he could but to tell her in advance so she wouldn't have to plan for 2 people!
Jesus christ, why can't husband just marry his mom.
Story 4: NTA. The “Game” you were trying to play was the “Thinking about the children” game. The one your BIL doesn’t seem to get. I say stop inviting him, in fact EXCLUD HIM.
Story one: men wonder why divorce rates are so high. That's just a prime example of why. Men are still so use to women playing doormats so now that women are not longer playing that role, men can't handle it.
Lmao, funny how you think men is the reason that divorce rates are high.😂
@@j.a.y.j.a.y.1107if you’re not one of these men, you wouldn’t be offended
Story 1: Another case of single mom treating son like an ersatz husband & son enabling such an unhealthy attachment. Let him & mommy-wife run away together, I'm sure she'll give him better babies than you ever could, she did raise him herself after all.
I would have pretended to leave. Wait for those two fools to leave and then boarded the plane. Oops honey, i got on the plane. Hope you and mil enjoy your two weeks at home with each other
This is the best plan I've read in these comments so far! Lol
Story 1: I'd have ripped my husband a new one if he'd ever pulled a stunt like that;. And from that point on my only conversation with his mother would consist on two words "DROP DEAD" or variations on that theme.
Last story: Tell your neighbor to sound proof a room in her house as you have done all you intend to do in making concessions to her baby's sleeping. OP has done enough.
Really? My last words to my (hopefully soon-to-be ex) husband and his mom would've been something like, "Hope you two have a great marriage." At this point their relationship really does have incestuous undertones to it. Not only is he catering to all of HER wants and needs, but what MIL dyes her hair and alters her appearance to look like her DIL? One who's wanting to take on the physical traits that her son fell in love with, that's what.
@@whitneybennett5076 that. If Op made all of the arrangements it begs the question where was mom sleeping? In betweenies?
@@4bibimimi The bed of course. OP was supposed to sleep on the couch or the floor.
Cheating BIL: tell them if her sister and baby can’t be invited then the cheater BIL is also uninvited. Your husband and his family are AH
On the last one: buy the neighbors a white noise machine for their babies room. Life is so much easier once babies get used to noise. (My daughter slept through the Return of the King, front row of the theater, 5 weeks old)
My daughter slept through Gettysburg. During the intermission (long movie but great if you like history) some little old ladies came over and asked "Honey, how do you get them to sleep like that?"
The white noise machine might be a good idea for those parents, but they can buy it themselves. They don't deserve presents for harassing OP, trying to prevent OP from using their own garage, and generally being entitled jerks.
1st Story: NTA but you’d be the jerk to yourself if you stayed married to this man. You married a mommas boy. They hardly change and even if they do, they most often relapse back into mommy’s lap. You did not plan the ROMANTIC trip for you, him, AND mother in law. I don’t know why that’s such a hard concept for husband and MIL to grasp. You deserve better because he does not care about your feelings or the effort you went through to make the trip happen.
Story 1: my first thought was that OP should change her ticket. No reason she should miss out on a fun trip just because her husband decided he'd wanna spend a romantic trip with the most important woman in his life: mommy
I hope mom is willing to fulfill the romantic wifely duties as well
@@velvety2006 strangely I think she might want to.
@@velvety2006 I'm pretty sure that's her plan.
As a mum. Don't be silent around sleeping babies, a recipe for disaster. Make sure cot is warm with a hot water bottle before you lay them down so no shock of cold. Yes remove the hot water bottle. Tidy up in the nursery as they go to sleep 💤. Then gradually introduce hoovering, putting clothes away etc. Learnt from a very experienced mum and because of this, my little ones could sleep anywhere and noise wasn't a problem. Tip toeing around is just making a rod for your own back.
I did most of that with mine as well. When they are tired they sleep.
GOOD AUNTIE, THEY NEED EACHOTHER
why would you even have a surprise wedding. just begging for something to go bad.
Because they could be bothered to commit to marriage before making a baby and this way they only have to do one big party For both events!
Story 1: NTA. He needs to stop pleasing Mommy and start prioritizing his Wife while he still has one.
Some men are useless in my opinion as a 19 year old guy myself if I had a girlfriend I'd prioritize her first period no question when a man is in a relationship with a woman that woman comes first the mom should stay outta it period honestly I have a dad like that with my late grandma from he's side before she passed away he'd always take her side as a result my sister and I never spoke to her nor went to her memorial I never spoke to my dad after I turned 18 I'm proud to say I'm not a mamas boy
After this stunt he would not have a wife anymore. BTW I'm a male.
Men who mamas boys don't have balls
Nephew story: Your BIL and your sister should both not be allowed in the house but if your husband can invite your cheating brother then you should be allowed to invite your sister too or your nephew. The fact that they are blaming the kid here is horrible, he has your brother's blood too and close to your son, so you have the right to invite him.
LADY THERE ARE MILLIONS OF STRONG MEN THAT WILL PUT YOU 1st. HE DOES NOT LOVE 💕 YOU
S3, Op you are treating the kids the same and making sure that your ex husbands kids are in a safe environment for them and you .Op your ex husbands first girlfriend after the divorce needed help to get on her feet and you offered up a place to stay with a reduced rent as a paying tenant in your granny flat .Your ex husband doesn't have a say in what you do with your house .NTA
I need people to learn to stop getting married to Mama's boys! OP divorce his ass😭🤦♀️
Story one: divorce his ass ASAP. He will never prioritize OP
Story one OP is the third wheel in her marriage. Leave, it'll never change.
The cohabitating baby mama story. OP is NTA. Sounds like the mutual ex may have been telling his friends & family lies about both OP and her relationship with the other baby mama.
For the Nephew and son party: You invited your sons friend to his birthday party, Really good thing to do for your son. The fact that he is also your nephew is an entirely separate matter. The attitude against inviting him is the attitude of "I don't want your son to have any friends." REALLY ENTITLED A**H****.
1 story take your trip with out hubby and while you're gone have him served with divorce papers. Now he can spend his romantic time with mommy. Go find yourself a real man.2nd story if you don't know you're going to a wedding then how can you dress appropriately. LMAO at this.
I am loving the two baby-mommas becoming great friends!😄😄😄
So he brought his mommy? So she can watch y'all having a romantic time? Lol. Ditch him... he's the problem!!!
Story 1, I'd love to hear what has since happened. I hope she divorced the momma's boy.
Story 1... This sounds like my former hubby and his mother. Never ever marry a mama's boy.
OP, were you right. I think mama and baby boy really wanted a romantic get a way. They are the AHs not OP.
XO Stories continues to get better and better.
I hope wifey canceled all the hotels, etc. that she booked. Any loses, take back from any joint accounts, and I hope she's got her own account somewhere.
Question, though. Where was the dog when all of them were at the airport?
She could have arranged for a dog sitter or dog walker. Alternatively, the dog could have been at a kennel and she swung by and picked him up on the way home.
@@RudesMom That's a lot of "could have"s, true, and what I was thinking, but given that so many of these stories are, well, fiction, I almost instinctively start looking for holes.
@@joeschmo622 Agreed but dog sitters and kennels are common enough that the storytellers might just assume that something like that would be a given. It's something that friends do for each other as well (or the neighbor's kid). On the other hand, since it seems that everyone was telling her she should have just sucked it up, I don't think she has any real friends.
The last story - parents never make everyone be quiet when your baby sleeps or they will never learn to sleep in normal conditions and their sleeping condition needs will ruin your life.
Story 1: Hubby needs to go back home to his mommy.
Get rid of the husband. Mil should not of been on your vacation and hubby goes behind your back. He lied. He's a momma's boy. Send him home.
story 1.. get a lawyer. This is a mommy's boy. time to exit the marriage.
Hubby obviously wanted a romantic getaway with mommie dearest..let him have it n file for divorce while they are cuddling on vaca
Final Story: NTA. I consider myself a nice person, but if you complain about what I’m doing not being enough you lose your “nice guy” privilege’s. Play it loud and play it proud OP!
I really hope my son and I don't turn out like every other mama boy/ MIL in these stories. Man, am I glad my husband has no patience for his crazy mom
You can avoid this teaching your son to respect his future romantic partners, and to respect them yourself.
Dude my old man is a mamas boy he's relationship with my sister and I were not good as a result
@@jamestown8398 , that's the plan unless I have a drastic personality shift.
Forget his name. Just call him mommas boy from now on till he snaps.
I personally think that since husband, in the first story, bought the tickets, but wife saved up and paid for the rest, she should have let them go off together and then called to cancel all reservations she made. She may have taken a hit, but they would have been stranded and she could have used the money saved to pay for the divorce lawyer.
In regards to the last story (new neighbor baby), I've heard a lot of people swear by music. I.e., playing loud (not loud enough to hurt the baby obviously) music so the kid grows up used to noise and doesn't wake up super easy.
On the flip side, I've heard some people say that their babies raised in quiet environments are pretty light sleepers.
This is all secondhand stories, but something to consider, I guess. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
When I was a baby, my parents made sure to wake me up if I started dozing off in the middle of the day so I’d be tired enough to sleep at night.
As a result, I’m now a pretty heavy sleeper.
My mom used to run the vacuum in our room while we slept.
I always made regular noise when my kids were sleeping during the day but tried to be quiet at night. None of them are light sleepers
I currently have a 5 month old and during the night, I put on a lofi radio yt channel on my phone for him. I have been told by multiple people that making no noise while they sleep makes them light sleepers.
When he was a baby, my little brother would always sleep best when we'd crack the door open just enough that he could hear what was going on in the house as he fell asleep; eldest brother upstairs mixing music or playing the guitar, one of us in the kitchen, etc.
Even as an adult, I sleep so much better with quiet white noise in the background.
The next time I go to a wedding I'm wearing black in case a funeral breaks out. It's all the rage you know.
I had to chuckle with this story since I said no to going to a wedding a few hours ago lol
Maybe there's a gap in the market for reversible occasion wear.
Last story…when it comes to noise, people get really annoying about it and then go out of their way to “hear” you. They wait all day for anything when in reality then listening to music or watching tv would drown out most outside sounds. Live your life OP and they will learn to live their too. Complete quiet for babies is silly anyway, they should find a white or brown noise track they work wonders
I cannot fathom the audacity to ask someone to not use their own garage door because I chose to have a sleeping infant nearby.
I’m gonna say this again for the people in the back: Your spawn is not anyone else’s problem.
EDIT: Oh my god! They have an open window?! I … Does anyone else worry that these are the kinds of people procreating?!
🤣🤣🤣 yes. They're just making me of themselves.
Thanks so much for adding music to these again!!
Story one: she gave them the choice to go on holiday with his mum. He decided to come back home.
I was expecting him to just go, considering he went through the trouble to buy a ticket for his mother and then lie about until the day of the trip.
Kinda surprised he didn't just go with mommy on his romantic couples getaway & mommy came back with a surprise.
That was such a hilarious story! And such savage replies! Actually, this was a really good video!
First op, husband is a spineless mamas boy. What kind of man would want mommy along on a trip with his wife? That’s weird.
You like Maggie and she likes you. You are renting to a friend he has no leg to stand on. He is just pissed that he can't gaslight ether of you anymore.
IS BABY BEING AWAKE SUCH a PROBLEM ? WHY ITS HER BABY. SHE HATES HER NEWBORN.
Why should the wife PAY for the in-law vacation ?
If husband wants to take his mother on a romantic trip he needs help. Get a divorce OP. Js
The hilarious cohabiting exes story would be a bit of a deal breaker. Imagine getting into a relationship with this guy and then having this weird pseudo sister wife situation suddenly sprung on you, they would be out the door so fast the sonic boom would shatter glass. That guy is never going to have a stable relationship for the rest of his life.
You mean a NEW partner being introduced? Why would you assume that he would still live with both of his exes?
@@stephanien6237 I didn't. The scenario I was envisioning is one where the serious girlfriend or maybe fiance is finally introduced to the oddly almost cult like way the ex wives are housed. like this guy is keeping a harem.
But neither of them are with him. It just so happens op helped out her exes other baby momma. So now the two ex girlfriends are living together and he's gone with some other woman.
1. OP, divorce now, you did not marry a man you married mama's boy the umbilical cord is still attached. You do not want to bring a child into this toxic situation, ever. Nothing you do will ever be good enough, she will always interfere enabled by her 'baby boy'. Please you are worth so much more and deserve a real man. Get the best lawyer you can and divorce him.
Good luck to you. Tell your family to butt out.
Hopefully you had trip insurance, if so, take the money YOU saved and book a trip for you n your BF as a celebration for cutting dead wood out of your life.
Last story: Suggest to your neighbors that they get a sound machine to help blend in with and muffle other noises. If money is tight for them right now, so that they can't get one right now, there are TH-cam sound machine videos that will play whatever types of sound you want, or soothing music. They come in different time lengths, up to 12 hours or more. I think I've even seen a few music ones that are 24 hours long.
My sound machine died a while back, so I downloaded a sound machine app onto my phone. I play it while I sleep and charge my phone. Occasionally, I get too sleepy in my home office to get up and go to bed. I use a TH-cam brown noise video to sleep better at my desk. I also keep pillows and a good throw blanket there. It all helps
At my previous home I didn't have a sound machine. Due to health issues I sleep in a recliner, which was in the living room at my old home. I also have an irregular sleep/wake cycle, so I can be awake or asleep at any time. My next door neighbor there had a motorcycle. He always obeyed the noise regulations, and was never a jerk about using his motorcycle. It wasn't his fault that I have an irregular sleep wake cycle. I never once bothered him about the noise from his motorcycle. Instead, I came up with my own fix for the noise problem. I always kept the living room window on his side of my home closed. I also used an industrial fan in warm weather to muffle outside noises. It really does help. In colder weather I would tune the radio by my recliner/bed to static, and adjust the volume to a comfortable level. That also helped some. I'm happy that I found my own fixes for the noise problem. In all the years I lived there I never had any personal problems with my motorcycle neighbor, because I was enough of an adult to find workable fixes for the noise problem, while respecting my neighbor's right to lawful use of his motorcycle.
A couple of good things. My new handicapped apartment is in a very quiet complex. Shortly after moving here I replaced my battered old recliner with a much nicer, and powered new one. Since I use it as my bed I had it put in my bedroom. The old twin bed I no longer use now serves as the sofa in my living room. The old sofa from my previous home is a big monster I never liked, so I left it for the relative who moved into the place when I moved out. Other relatives had helped me furnish my old home by buying some of the previous resident's furniture when he moved out. I left some behind for the relative who moved in after I moved out, including that monster sofa.
Noise is a problem that can often be dealt with, without picking a fight with other people. Don't ever expect or demand total silence. It's not possible to achieve that, and is also abusive of other people to demand that. Instead, look for reasonable fixes. Loud noise should follow the legal community rules. Keep the windows nearest the loud outside noises closed. Use fans, radio static, sound machines, sound machine apps, TH-cam sound machine videos, or sound cancelling head phones when indoors. While only the head phones will cancel out the noise, the other methods work by blending with, and then muffling the noise. This makes unpleasant noises much less distinct, so they can be tolerated well.
As for babies, even when it's quiet, they will wake up at odd times, and are often cranky. There is always a reason for them to be cranky, but it's usually something other than noise causing the crankiness. Among the possible causes are: too hot, too cold, hungry, need diaper changed, tummy ache, need to be held, and not feeling well. While a sudden very loud noise may wake a baby up, if the other issues are all okay it's usually easy to get the baby to fall back to sleep. Before hassling other people over noise, first take care of other possible issues, and use the noise muffling methods I listed above.
S1- Wow... The Flying Monkeys are strong with this MIL. And Husband is a jackass. Plain and simple. I would have left them both and gone on the trip by myself and let them stay home. I wouldn't have let them ruin my plans what so ever.
He scolded you? Omg to hell with that
HE IS TRYING DITCH BOTH CHILDREN , MESSING UP NEW GIRLFRIEND. HE DOES NOT WANT to BE A FATHER
Congratulations YOU MARRIED A MUMMY’S BOY AND YOU KNOW NOW WHO IS NUMBER ONE IN HIS LIFE ITS TIME TO DUMP HUBBY AND MIL INTO THE DRINK ?.
Op in the first story: I feel your pain;let me explain:I had been planning a trip to Las Vegas for alittle over a year because there was a concert I wanted to go to,so I was going to leave a few days earlier to do the touristy thing,and do alittle gambling; some who or the other my mom found out about it and invited herself (and expected me to foot the bill for her plane ticket and hotel) I finally got tired of her Bs.told her to get bent,and canceled my plans
My mother would ask me every year when my vacation was because she expected me to automatically spend it with her. It got to the point that, with the stress from her andcmy work, I had no vacation time because I would use up sick leave, then have to use up vacation time.
Tell your husband and mil they can make arrangements to marry because you'll be divorcing. Goodbye mommies baby.
MIL AND HUSBAND ARE STILL SCREWING! I PROMISE YOU, HUSBAND is NOT NORMAL
BIL sucks so much for avoiding HIS SON!!!!! I hope the sister takes him to court and gets max child support.
God I love this voice
Story 3: Birth control is everyone's job
Story about wearing white to the surprise wedding: OP is thinking small scale here. Every. Single. Time. Cousin wears white to any occation in the future, OP should act shocked and ask 'What if there is a surprise wedding?!? You should have taken that into consideration!" Every time until the end of time. I am petty AF and would never let it go. And that's how I'd be the AH in the long run. :)
Story #2: Why did I automatically KNOW OP's hubby invited his mommy to 3rd wheel a supposed romantic getaway. Yuck!!
Ha-ha, the last story. This must be their first baby. I and my husband are both eldest children and were brought up with the "shush, don't wake the baby!". We have to have quiet, dimness, being in bed to fall asleep. We fell for this with our first daughter, but with our second we saw that kids will fall asleep where ever, even with us playing drums a meter away. Wish we knew earlier and were raised differently so we could sleep through everything!
Omg I just realized you've returned good to see you back looking forward for more videos
Good afternoon XOS. Thanks for the stories. Have a great day
Wow you’re quick! This was posted only this morning. I really hope she updates.
NTI, I would’ve left that A and his mama to do whatever TH that they wanted together but forever without me.
1st Story
NTA
Please go to the divorce attorneys he stole ur money....