7:33 "UK doesnt do many things right, but free healthcare is definitely one of them" is 110% scientifically accurate, my heart goes out to those who dont have free healthcare
While I'm happy for the healthcare, parts of it like mental health can be done so horribly and it's so upsetting to see. Even my GP is so bad that I've been having recurring chest pains again and there's no point even bringing it up because they never sort it out give a fuck every time.
@@Hannah-ij2qx if it's a specific GP in your practice, ask to see another one when you book. I had an AWFUL one who whenever I went in about anything his suggestion was exercise and ignored that I was often physically exhausted from my job (I often worked 50+ hours a week in hospitality running up and down stairs with heavy crates of drinks etc, plus walking to and from work everyday which was 30 mins each way) - I refused to see that doctor after a while because he made me feel like crap every time.
as someone who has ADHD and OCD, there are a lot of overlaps between ADHD, OCD, Autism, etc... and sometimes they go hand in hand off to a party.... also, this house is super cute.. the roofing actually looks good for the shape of the house...and you're right, the landscaping does A LOT...
I have diagnoses in autism and OCD and... tbh I don't really know where they overlap but OCD has definitely been the more traumatic one for me. Also I've become more and more certain that I have ADHD too un recent months and there's certainly a fair amount of overlap there with autism. So yea same boat
@@styxthistle497 There are things that we all have that kind of blend into each other-like ticks, or quirks. Stimming is a thing that kind of manifests itself in all three areas. And yeah, OCD is super traumatic. It has been incredibly crippling at times for me. I'm lucky enough that my OCD is mostly managed with medications. But if my anxiety decides to do an extended stay in my brain, it can get overwhelming- not just for me, but my entire household. My sister also has OCD, and our anxieties kind of pick up on each other, and kickoff.. so it can become an intense feedback loop.
Adhd, autism, ocd, and schizophrenia are commonly referred to as cousin disorders (+ autism and schizophrenia were actually considered the same disorder in the past, fun fact) because they share such big symptom overlaps! We're all family in this weird mental space lol
Watching a Plumbella video is a lot like sitting around with a friend playing video games together. My best friend recently moved out of town. I'm a quiet introvert and she's very Not Quiet(tm) so she'd play video games on the couch and I'd lay across the floor and read while she just ranted and raved about any and every thought in her mind. This is a very comforting vibe for me.
Yeah, that's like a doctor that doesn't believe in viruses or cancer, like how can someone be a therapist and not believe in autism, I would be suspicious of them being a fake therapist at that point.
@@onidaaitsubasa4177 i work in xray and our old superintendant didn't believe in covid.... despite us xraying thousands of chests for covid complications.... hes not in charge now but he was for most of it
jesse's rants and jumping between subjects are so relaxing to me. that's exactly how my brain works, so i'm engaged and i don't get distracted but at the same time i dont get overwhelmed.
I know all the UK people are really having a tough time with the tories but let me tell you, as an autistic person living in Chicago I don't get therapy because it's way too expensive and when I DID have a therapist it made my mental health significantly worse because it ended up costing $900 for like 4 sessions. My current form of therapy is using noise cancelling headphones and CBD to calm myself down. I literally could not tell you if I want therapy again because any benefit I felt was overwhelmingly cancelled out by my extreme fear of spending all that money when I could get groceries. I'm also like, 90% sure that I have PCOS (Polycystic ovary syndrome) butttt it's like $300 for an exam and the worst it can cause is infertility, but I'm a lesbian/ace so like, it's fine
I also have PCOS - the worst it can cause is severe insulin resistance, so while you don't need to get PCOS diagnosed its good to check on your blood sugar levels in case there's a problem, since if its caught early enough it can be managed w/o long hospital stays
I tried to get therapy in the UK & the only kind they would let me do was group therapy even though I was asking for 1 on 1. Ended up having a massive meltdown at one of the sessions complete with SIB and as a result they referred me for an autism diagnosis. But once I got that in addition to my previous diagnosis of bipolar disorder, they weren't interested in helping at all. They said they understood that I'd need one on one due to being autistic, but that there wasn't any therapy for bipolar disorder that was 1 on 1 that was suitable in my area and certainly not without having first been stabilised on meds. But my autistic ass is hypersensitive to all meds. So had the bad if-you-keep-taking-this-you'll-die side effects on the lowest doses of everything they tried me on. I've been taking CBD oil for a few years now & its stabilised me wonderfully (previously rapid cycled even on the meds, now since taking it I've not had a single manic episode) but it can't be prescribed here as its just sold as a food supplement, so as far as the psychs are concerned, I'm not stabilised 🤦♀️. I've just had to get on with life hoping I can think my own way out of the trauma that led to my also having cPTSD. Its so frustrating because it really depends on where you live as to what help you get. Like the city I live in is large enough it has its own council so its own plan for healthcare. Just a few miles down the road you get into the county council & they provide the kind of help I need. But can't get referred there as they only take people from the county. I'll look up services in my area and it always asks which county, then its like "we serve xyz county, excluding the cities of blank & blank 2". Look up the cities and there's nothing. And its like great, perfect, just wonderful. Only option is private but I can't afford to go private as the only money I get is PIP & the amount I get per month would maybe cover a single session. Maybe.
noooo please take measures to care for your PCOS. It's not just about the infertility. it can really mess up so many parts of your life. i got pcos and until recently i just ignored all the emotional, hormonal and physical issues having pcos brought on. don't worry about doctors but please do be aware that what you are feeling may not be normal.
Idk if it makes sense but I love the energy of this video. It’s happy and sad, funny and real. Or maybe the whole channel is like that. You’re making it a safe space while not shying away from difficult topics. Proud of you 💕
this expresses exactly how I feel about the channel. Glad you said it, Jesse can be so proud of making this space for all of us to learn, feel safe, and have fun :)
As someone with OCD and ADHD they can look similar sometimes. I was told the difference is what causes the behavior vs what you do (the symptom). Like, did I check if my door was locked because I forgot (ADHD) or because my brain says I NEED to do it again just because/ for safety (OCD). Hope you can figure things out and help yourself ❤❤ I also REALLY appreciate you talking about these things. It helps me tons. ❤
My sister has ocd and I’m still waiting for my adhd assessment (takes 1-2yrs from referral, thanks tories). My sister will have to check she’s locked the house even though she knows she locked it, whereas I have to check because I forget (like you said). Same behaviour but for completely different reasons
Challenge idea: you should make an empty shell of a house knowing exactly which room is which (living room, kids room, bathroom #2). But when you start adding interior, you have to spin a wheel to decide which room that'll be (so living room can become bathroom, bathroom becomes dining room, hallway becomes kitchen)!
I would die to see Plumbella do a Sims 4 Kitchen Nightmares Let's Play (build an atrocious restaurant that is failing, and bring in a Gordon Ramsay sim to yell at everyone until the restaurant does better.) Rules: Make 1 sim family, with at least 2 adult sims deluded into thinking their restaurant is bussin (having a 3rd adult be a voice of reason that Gordon likes is optional, but a fun option) 1-must make the restaurant the lowest rating possible before beginning the challenge in earnest. 2- the sims have to essentially Live at the restaurant. You may build an apartment upstairs/in the basement of the restaurant lot for the family to stay in for the challenge. 3- Gordon is allowed to be in the household, but for relationships sake have him move in after the restaurant has had some (bad) business. Preferably, he shows up on his own to eat at the restaurant as an NCP and is so unimpressed he moves in to fix it. 4-challenge doesn't end just because someone dies. Unless it is Gordon Ramsay. If he dies, the restaurant must close and the challenge is failed. 5- challenge is won by getting the restaurant to at least 3 stars. 6- sometime after Gordon moves in but before hitting 3 stars, the restaurant needs a Makeover
I think we can all just go ahead and have therapy here together like Jesse said. Like, seriously...I hear the words come out of her mouth and I go "that's exactly the way I think..." So much love ♥ And the house turned out cute AF - I'd love to live somewhere like this.
She’s giving home for a renowned pastry or regular chef, 5 star foodie we love her! She also gives off party or entertainment for guest so I think that’s the type of sim for it!
My older sister recently got diagnosed with OCD and just started seeing an OCD specialist therapist. She says it's been a massive improvement for her! I guess the way she does therapy is different now since it's targeted towards solutions designed for people with OCD. I'd highly suggest looking into it cause it's really helped her!
Wait what? Your old therapist doesn’t believe in autism? Ummm…they shouldn’t be treating patients at all. Glad you’re doing what you need to do. As someone who also suffers from mental disorders, finding the right therapist is a daunting task. Glad you’re making strides in your health. Remember, you need to advocate for yourself at ALL times, even when everyone in your corner is doing a good job. That goes for types of treatment and how they handle out of pocket situations. Keep up the good work and as always your builds are fascinating. Love watching your content.
Yeah… it’s actually far more common than people realize, especially when it comes to diagnosing those who are afab. My dad wasn’t diagnosed until he was 38, but his case was strictly due to the fact that autism wasn’t nearly as researched in the 80s as it was in the 2010s. I (afab) was 14 at the time and sat in on one of his appointments because his therapist’s dog had just gone through surgery and she was in the office, so I brought her some toys. His therapist could tell I was autistic within the first fifteen minutes, and wrote it down. At the time, a minor required both parents’ consent for evaluation, and my mom never consented, so I never received therapy. I didn’t have enough money to see his therapist when I was experiencing burnout (we didn’t know, but he absolutely would’ve taken me on for free, which he did later). FOUR psychiatrists told me I could not possibly be autistic/ADHD because, “Females can’t be autistic/ADHD. It’s not in their genetics. You aren’t wired for that.” So, I didn’t get an official diagnosis for both autism and ADHD until I was 22, when his therapist took on my case. It’s also still common, in the field of psychiatry, to intentionally misdiagnose those who are afab with things not relating to ADHD and Autism, because they think telling them they’re either one would, “disrupt the flow of home life.” They literally aren’t telling them because they think it’ll keep them from being homemakers. As if not being properly treated for Autism and ADHD will go over so well when they don’t know how to manage a burnout episode. They’d rather someone who’s afab work themselves to the point of death than to give an actual diagnoses and help them manage it.
@@SneakySalaXander That is absolutely crazy! What I have heard and which I find true is that ADHD is hard to diagnose in girls and women because it manifests differently. I have ADHD, all my children have ADHD and their dad has ADHD. We all have different types of ADHD. Two of my boys have impulsive anger issues, the eldest boy cannot stay on task to save his life lol and my daughter and I can be very talkative. We all go to therapy to address our symptoms. My eldest two boys take meds and my youngest two are not as severe so they just go through therapy and I try to find coping mechanisms to help with their various diagnoses. I am not on meds mainly because I am on meds for other mental issues. They wanted me to go on ADHD meds but I’m like I’m good with all the side effects that I have to deal with now. Lol. It’s hard already to function in this world, we don’t need someone who’s sole job to help us navigate it all tell us that what we have doesn’t exist. It makes no sense ESPECIALLY when we as a society know very little of how the brain works. In my eyes, it’s the final frontier lol. Though I am glad that you eventually got help. Lord knows you had a time going through it before you did and I am also grateful that your father’s therapist took you on. Legit one less headache when looking for one. Wish your all the best. Take care of yourself and your dad hehe.
As someone with OCD, learning to recognize intrusive thoughts and the spiral they would send me down was an immense help!! It took years, after the years of my OCD being the worst it'd ever been, but I've made so much progress!! I promise that I understand how daunting a diagnosis may feel, but knowledge IS power and you're on such a good path with therapy and learning more about how your brain works. I have all the confidence in you, and I'm sending you, (and anyone else who's struggling, your best is absolutely good enough), so much love!!
This is such a cute house! I love it. Also i'm so sorry that your previous therapist didn't "believe" in autism. As a Psych student it baffles me how a professional could just... ignore science? like that, but good for u for standing up for yourself and hopefully your next therapist is right for u
Make a house where you use the styled rooms. Could probably include stairs and stuff and like once the house is done get rid off unnecessary arches and doors?
She’s done it before but she said at the beginning of this video that she doesn’t find that challenge challenging because it’s “too easy” to just grab a premade room.
Id love to see a random colour generator challenge on EVERY item. Eg. Pink bath tub, green toilet, white tiles ext. If you can’t get an item in that colour you can’t place it down. (Also same colour can be used multiple times.)
Recently diagnosed with ADHD, OCD, and Autism and the knowledge really is power because just knowing that some of the things that I do and think are because i'm a weird person or unlikable or whatever makes everything feel so much easier to deal with. Love you!
Not sure if you’ll see this Jesse, but thank you so much for your honesty with your mental health and opinions in general. As some one who is in the exactly the same boat (going through ADHD diagnosis process and really taking its toll) it’s soooo validating hearing others who are similar age, assigned gender etc. are going through the same thing. I started watching you in 2019 (I think), and watching your growth as an individual and with your health has helped with my own journey. I never usually comment but it’s been a rough few weeks for me but hearing this really helped💕 also just an fyi for anyone else reading, but both neurodevelopmental disorders such as ADHD and AS can occur with mood disorders such as BPD and OCD. Also ADHD & neurodivergence runs in families, so if someone in your family has it, you more then likely have it too. Trust your gut and get a second opinion if you aren’t happy with the answers you’ve been given.
i’m really glad to hear about you getting therapy. your rant about healthcare is so true. i’m from canada and our healthcare is free but the system is just so broken as ontario is continuing to privatize healthcare. for the past 7 years i have been really struggling with my severe scoliosis. because of the backlog from the pandemic and the lack of doctors in province, i waited two years for a consultation with a surgeon. when i finally got to the appointment he talked with me for 10 minutes just to say he is going to refuse to do my surgery and transfer my case to the states. his reason: surgeons are not being paid enough so if they transfer enough cases to the states, the government will get frustrated with paperwork and raise their salaries. anyways so the paperwork gets sent off for a transfer case and then i get notice months later that because there are eligible surgeons in my province that can technically do the surgery they will not transfer my case because my condition isn’t “life threatening.” the mental breakdown i had because of that probably was the most painful thing i have ever experienced. i can’t walk sometimes, i can’t go out with my friends sometimes, i can’t play sports anymore because of how bad my back pain is from the scoliosis. being told that by the government sort of just felt like my last straw after being used as a political tool by these surgeons. my only option at this point would be to find a new surgeon but i don’t want to wait another two years for a consultation y’know. it really just makes ya feel like you are a burden on the medical system and i know that’s true because canada is rolling out medically assisted dying to people on the basis of mental illnesses now. can you even imagine the disconcern for human life that instead of giving people help they need to become better you can just say “have you considered medically assisted death?” it’s fucking insane. i’m honestly surprised a doctor hasn’t suggested it to me yet seeing as scoliosis is a progressive disability.
Realizing I have OCD helped my mental health so so so much its so hard but I'm so glad I know whats happening now. I'm really glad you got that figured out!
As a student psych nurse with ADHD, I found it was very hard to get diagnosed because ADHD typically appears differently in people assigned female at birth than people assigned male at birth. There’s also a lot of similarities between ADHD, OCD, autism and other anxiety disorders. With all that combined (at least in my experience) it’s kinda a process of trial and error and figuring out what works best for you (meds, therapy approachs, etc.). I know it’s super frustrating but keep your head up because hopefully you’ll find things that are really helpful to you 🫶🏻
i was thinking of a completely different jigsaw reference, then i was like OHHHHHHHH JIGSAW AS IN PUZZLE NOT AS IN THE HORROR MOVIE SERIES, well yeah kinda impossible to make a sims build involving the saw franchise
I’m autistic and on mushrooms for the first time and your voice and videos are the thing thats helping ground me at this moment so if you see this, thank you
In regards to dating and gaming. It's so hard to date as a gamer because so many people don't have hobbies. Like I don't want to spend all my free time with someone I'm dating. I wanna play games and hang with friends too. I refuse to let my life revolve around one person.
This. I'm not a gamer, but I am an introvert with my own set of hobbies and friends. If my partner can't tolerate me spending time by myself or not wanting to hang out with their friends constantly I'm gonna have to break it off.
@@doobiejesus1097 Also an introvert. To be honest, even the time I spend with my own friends gets too much at times so I can't imagine having to hang out with my partners friends too.
Really appreciate you talking about your mental health and how you're working through it. It's not easy and sometimes switching therapists can be one of the best things for you. I see mine periodically, but while he's good for some objective context and validation when he listens to me, he doesn't really provide any active help to manage my various things. Not sure if it's ADHD, OCD, some spectrum of Autism, or a combination of all three.
Hi, I'm always so proud of you for working on yourself and honored that you do share so many thoughts; thoughts like my thoughts and I think it makes me think a little less about if I should be thinking at all; it's great aspect of your content, even if I didn't have a personal connection with the autism, it really helps make your content you. C:
Currently isolating in my travel trailer with covid since I have an immunocompromised child in the house. No Healthcare for myself here in good old 'murica, so just sucking it up. 100% agree with you on Healthcare being free. I wish...
as an immunocompromised person i wish i could say the free healthcare keeps us safe or protected but it doesn’t. obviously all healthcare should be free but free or not we still have an issue with access and we’re still being left to die and fend for ourselves. even vaccines have been taken away
Firstly, preach Jesse! Secondly, loved this video - the house is great, you're hilarious and I love your openness - it's a form of therapy for many of us!
wow this house turned out so good! that huge window in the bathroom does feel weird though lol i imagine someone just looking at you pooping or sth. but it's all for the ~aesthetics~ so i get it
Those rooms helped me out when I made a large house with a photo studio that had many bedrooms, also they would be useful for Motels or hotels because of the repeating rooms, they are also useful for making a TARDIS and adding rooms to the underground interior.
Also I genuinely think you’re such an amazing builder. The clutter and the colors you use are so pretty and make me want to live there 😭 I feel like you’re the only sims ytber that doesn’t have me screaming at the screen when you make choices. top tier. i’ve been a fan for a verrrrrryyyyy long time and you’ve improved so much 🥺
I relate to you so much. I’m in the US and turning 26 next month, which means I’ll no longer be covered under my parents’ insurance. And I’m not currently working due to mental health (I’m an RN and it’s a struggle), turns out my therapist thinks I have OCD and ADHD too! Unfortunately, if I lose my healthcare, I lose my therapist :(
Get that free therapy, babe! 👏 I know it’s so frustrating to have to be on a waiting list for that. I live in the U.S. & I’m grateful to be able to have free Medicaid. But there’s budget cuts happening all the time & the wait times for appointments are longer & longer. 😿 So I feel for anyone in the similar boat. I just started my new therapist on Friday. 🤗 Love this build btw! Good vibes to y’all. 🖤
Jesse, I really recommend laying out your rooms in a 3d program (not just sims) where you can set where the sun will come into windows from. I was remodeling and really thought I had a great idea for my bathroom. But after I laid out the room based on real measurements and windows size and sun placement, I found out that my idea didn't work for THAT particular space 🙈 So I redid the design like 5 times until it finally looked good in the specific space. And had that done irl and it's so cozy in there! Can't imagine how unhappy I'd be if I went with my original (objectively good) idea 😅
When ppl complain about partners who play games it's usually bc they're either foisting all of the household and relationship labor onto the other person or making the other person compete with (and usually lose to) video games.
the way you talk is so close to the way I talk and think it's scary. It makes your videos really fun to watch because I follow your train of thought easily lol
I share the pain living in the UK under the Tories and it makes me so mad. The world makes me mad. What doesn't make me mad though is this challenge and this build. Gonna add it to my list of challenges to try! :)
I get you girl. When I learned I was autistic, it was like a lightbulb went off. I always had this inner turmoil that something was wrong with me and I'd sob, asking why I couldn't just be normal. Well that's cause I'm neurodivergent babes. 💕
I've got diagnosed ADHD and I suspect I also might be on the autistic spectrum somewhere, but at the moment the pros don't weigh up the cons trying to chase that. I don't know enough about OCD, but my ADHD-tingle definitely tingles on your videos. I also fully support what NHS is *supposed to be*, however sadly it is not that. I grew up in a different country, but have lived here for the past 10 and the difference is mindblowing. I've been let down by NHS about 9/10 of all my concerns including my mental health saga. Just to narrow it to ADHD, they 'lost' my referral twice, referred me to the wrong place once, and I have officially been on a waiting list (in this country) since October 2021. From what I understand the process of diagnosing is one 30-min meeting with one doctor and if you're 'lucky enough' for them to agree, you may get given meds which you have 2 chances to adjust. From what I understand, for many people, it takes a lot longer than that. GPs are totally untrained in it, so will not be able to help you after that. In comparison, I had two meetings with a pshychiatrist (one to refer for diagnostics, the other to confirm the diagnosis and prescribe medication), one in between with a Mental Health Nurse (who did a diagnostic questionnaire with me, though some places also use more test-like testing additionally as well) and one afterward with a counsellor to discuss everything. I ended up doing it private abroad, but this was the set package. I wish you all the luck in your journey, but brace yourself for it to be long. If you can, go private. I know, I know, it's kind of feeding the problem, but the NHS is on its knees with everything, particularly mental health, so another way of looking at it is trying to take the pressure off of NHS/not letting issues evolve to worse and thus more time consuming. I also actually haven't started taking my meds yet, but my MH has improved tenfold by just having a diagnosis, or as you said, an explanation and the 'ah yes, you're doing that thing now'.
'knowledge is power' is such a mood because like, Im not saying Im doing great being a working poor american that can barely afford basic survival, but KNOWING that the reason I felt so Alien was because Im autistic and what that actually means has been one of the most monumental positive pushes forward Ive had in attempting to cope with reality.
Newish fan, I stared watching you a few months ago. I have OCD and my doc recommend 'The Imp of the MInd'. It really helped and i'd say its a good listen or read depending on what you prefer.
i'm really going thru it at the minute and this video gave me 20 minutes of laughter :') jesse u did amazing with this challenge and i hope ur doing well x
There is an emerging theory of an “overcontrolled” spectrum in psychology and counseling which groups certain behavioral tendencies and patterns together and there is a really fascinating therapy for that spectrum (including ASD, OCD, treatment resistant depression, some EDs…) called RO-DBT. I never disliked therapy before, but I never felt so understood as a person with these tendencies before trying this kind of therapy. It was genuinely fun and liberating to go through at times. The theory at least is worth checking out! Thank you so much for being so open about your experiences! ❤
I relate to all of that. When I was 18 was finally diagnosed with ADHD after my psychologist literally only saw me twice because it was that obvious. Then I've asked my friends because I've questioned it for a while if I possibly have OCD and they were instantly like YES. I still have to talk about that with someone because I was cut off when trying to talk about it. Then 2 years ago I found out I'm also autistic (still waiting to be evaluated (my psychiatrist did give me a link to help me get an evaluation) but I also study this in school like I'm a psychology major and autism does run in my family). Used to deny it for years but when I mentioned it to my friends they're like "oh definitely makes sense" LIKE YOU COULDN'T HAVE TOLD ME THIS A LONG TIME AGO? So it just like hits you all and like dayum wtf is my life 😂😭
Oh it absolutely does, it's so mid century modern, and the whole house really captures that vibe too, especially with the maximalist tiger wallpaper and the specific sectional she used!!
I was diagnosed ocd when I was 4 (ik I was young) my parents put me into behavioral therapy to help cope and definitely did. Now I'm 23 and realizing that I have autism and ADHD. Sooo much fun! I've been taking antidepressants and antianxiety and now I started therapy. I had a traumatic accident last year and I'm now starting to try to do things again. *Sorry if that's a lot lol* I love your content so much! It always makes me happier and I love your ranting too ❤️❤️
Apparently all the neurodivergencies just ~go really well together~ or something, and apparently ADHD and autism mask each other really well. I'm almost 32 and my therapist just suggested I may be autistic like, last year, but I relate to a lot of ADHD stuff as well, and I also have really bad anxiety and some OCD tendencies. It's a mess, dude.
I love you talking about asexuality its so lovely to see! im ace and recently come out and my partner is so wonderful about it. they're my perfect mr darcy
If you were with Mr Darcy, you'd have plenty of space. He has an enormous house and seems to lean introverted, so he'd probably appreciate the alone time.
Ok build challenge idea: build a house with each room is a based on a random object but this is how you pick. Choose the most important furniture piece in the room (kitchen is counters, living room is couch, bedroom is bed etc) and within that items catalogue you random a number to pick which one you use, then randomize the number of which swatch then the rest of that room has to be based on that one item and swatch
If you're ever in the position to pay for therapy privately I'd recommend looking into it. Usually around £50/hr (=expansion+game pack price😅) so depends if you need just a few sessions or regular ones as to whether it is affordable. Makes such an impact on your life, it's worth seeing if you can make it work price wise, or just while you wait for NHS waiting lists.
Over here in the USA... I hate it here, I want to LEAVEEE and it's terrifying. I can't even get my antidepressants without paying an arm and leg. But y'know, I'm just living until I'm not so till I'm able to move off to a country that cares slightly more about its citizens, guess I'm here. The house is lookin beautiful by the way.
So jealous of the free healthcare. As a self-employed person in the US, I pay $350/month for insurance with a $9000 yearly deductible so until I meet that, I pay minimum $200 every time I go to the doctor and pay full price for prescription meds. As a result, I avoid going to the doctor unless I’m literally dying (aka, last time I went to the hospital it was because I was in anaphylaxis) 🙃🙃🙃
7:33 "UK doesnt do many things right, but free healthcare is definitely one of them" is 110% scientifically accurate, my heart goes out to those who dont have free healthcare
The Conservatives don’t seem to agree… guess they are happy with their private healthcare
While I'm happy for the healthcare, parts of it like mental health can be done so horribly and it's so upsetting to see.
Even my GP is so bad that I've been having recurring chest pains again and there's no point even bringing it up because they never sort it out give a fuck every time.
i love how heisenberg watches plumbella
@@Hannah-ij2qx if it's a specific GP in your practice, ask to see another one when you book. I had an AWFUL one who whenever I went in about anything his suggestion was exercise and ignored that I was often physically exhausted from my job (I often worked 50+ hours a week in hospitality running up and down stairs with heavy crates of drinks etc, plus walking to and from work everyday which was 30 mins each way) - I refused to see that doctor after a while because he made me feel like crap every time.
My country doesn't have free healthcare but at least is not worse than America and I'll take that
I thought she meant jigsaw as in the horror films 👁️👄👁️ like I truly thought she was gonna torture her sims again.
ME TOO
Noooo cuz I thought the exact same thing😭😭😭💀💀
please Plumbella DO IT, JUST DO IT
Every room gotta be an elaborate trap, sims need to escape them to survive.
@@breakfastatmilliways that would be cool
as someone who has ADHD and OCD, there are a lot of overlaps between ADHD, OCD, Autism, etc... and sometimes they go hand in hand off to a party.... also, this house is super cute.. the roofing actually looks good for the shape of the house...and you're right, the landscaping does A LOT...
Idk the context of this comment lol but I also have adhd, ocd, (and autism)! Twins lol😭🫶🏽
I have diagnoses in autism and OCD and... tbh I don't really know where they overlap but OCD has definitely been the more traumatic one for me. Also I've become more and more certain that I have ADHD too un recent months and there's certainly a fair amount of overlap there with autism. So yea same boat
@@styxthistle497 There are things that we all have that kind of blend into each other-like ticks, or quirks. Stimming is a thing that kind of manifests itself in all three areas. And yeah, OCD is super traumatic. It has been incredibly crippling at times for me. I'm lucky enough that my OCD is mostly managed with medications. But if my anxiety decides to do an extended stay in my brain, it can get overwhelming- not just for me, but my entire household. My sister also has OCD, and our anxieties kind of pick up on each other, and kickoff.. so it can become an intense feedback loop.
Adhd, autism, ocd, and schizophrenia are commonly referred to as cousin disorders (+ autism and schizophrenia were actually considered the same disorder in the past, fun fact) because they share such big symptom overlaps! We're all family in this weird mental space lol
@@TayyyTheHumansame I have OCD mild autism and ADHD so yeah
Watching a Plumbella video is a lot like sitting around with a friend playing video games together.
My best friend recently moved out of town. I'm a quiet introvert and she's very Not Quiet(tm) so she'd play video games on the couch and I'd lay across the floor and read while she just ranted and raved about any and every thought in her mind. This is a very comforting vibe for me.
That sounds amazing and perfectly describes jesse’s videos
yes!! she's literally my confort youtuber+ she adresses important subjects in a really smooth and light manner
love her
Me falling asleep to Plumbella because my spouse is away for work and I can't sleep in silence
and yeah, i love listening to jesse rant about random things and life. it’s so nice 😭
As a trained nurse and a mother of an autistic child the fact that a therapist thought autism wasn't real made me beyond furious
I literally had to rewind and watch again because I couldn't believe it
Yeah, that's like a doctor that doesn't believe in viruses or cancer, like how can someone be a therapist and not believe in autism, I would be suspicious of them being a fake therapist at that point.
@@onidaaitsubasa4177 i work in xray and our old superintendant didn't believe in covid.... despite us xraying thousands of chests for covid complications.... hes not in charge now but he was for most of it
jesse's rants and jumping between subjects are so relaxing to me. that's exactly how my brain works, so i'm engaged and i don't get distracted but at the same time i dont get overwhelmed.
I know all the UK people are really having a tough time with the tories but let me tell you, as an autistic person living in Chicago I don't get therapy because it's way too expensive and when I DID have a therapist it made my mental health significantly worse because it ended up costing $900 for like 4 sessions. My current form of therapy is using noise cancelling headphones and CBD to calm myself down. I literally could not tell you if I want therapy again because any benefit I felt was overwhelmingly cancelled out by my extreme fear of spending all that money when I could get groceries. I'm also like, 90% sure that I have PCOS (Polycystic ovary syndrome) butttt it's like $300 for an exam and the worst it can cause is infertility, but I'm a lesbian/ace so like, it's fine
I also have PCOS - the worst it can cause is severe insulin resistance, so while you don't need to get PCOS diagnosed its good to check on your blood sugar levels in case there's a problem, since if its caught early enough it can be managed w/o long hospital stays
Absolutely same. And we wonder why we have mass shootings and so many homeless and addicts.
I tried to get therapy in the UK & the only kind they would let me do was group therapy even though I was asking for 1 on 1. Ended up having a massive meltdown at one of the sessions complete with SIB and as a result they referred me for an autism diagnosis. But once I got that in addition to my previous diagnosis of bipolar disorder, they weren't interested in helping at all. They said they understood that I'd need one on one due to being autistic, but that there wasn't any therapy for bipolar disorder that was 1 on 1 that was suitable in my area and certainly not without having first been stabilised on meds. But my autistic ass is hypersensitive to all meds. So had the bad if-you-keep-taking-this-you'll-die side effects on the lowest doses of everything they tried me on. I've been taking CBD oil for a few years now & its stabilised me wonderfully (previously rapid cycled even on the meds, now since taking it I've not had a single manic episode) but it can't be prescribed here as its just sold as a food supplement, so as far as the psychs are concerned, I'm not stabilised 🤦♀️. I've just had to get on with life hoping I can think my own way out of the trauma that led to my also having cPTSD. Its so frustrating because it really depends on where you live as to what help you get. Like the city I live in is large enough it has its own council so its own plan for healthcare. Just a few miles down the road you get into the county council & they provide the kind of help I need. But can't get referred there as they only take people from the county. I'll look up services in my area and it always asks which county, then its like "we serve xyz county, excluding the cities of blank & blank 2". Look up the cities and there's nothing. And its like great, perfect, just wonderful. Only option is private but I can't afford to go private as the only money I get is PIP & the amount I get per month would maybe cover a single session. Maybe.
noooo please take measures to care for your PCOS. It's not just about the infertility. it can really mess up so many parts of your life. i got pcos and until recently i just ignored all the emotional, hormonal and physical issues having pcos brought on. don't worry about doctors but please do be aware that what you are feeling may not be normal.
just seen this comment n don’t know if you’ll see it but i’m an ace lesbian who was recently diagnosed w pcos ❤️ wishing u all the best!!!
Idk if it makes sense but I love the energy of this video. It’s happy and sad, funny and real. Or maybe the whole channel is like that. You’re making it a safe space while not shying away from difficult topics. Proud of you 💕
this expresses exactly how I feel about the channel. Glad you said it, Jesse can be so proud of making this space for all of us to learn, feel safe, and have fun :)
As someone with OCD and ADHD they can look similar sometimes. I was told the difference is what causes the behavior vs what you do (the symptom). Like, did I check if my door was locked because I forgot (ADHD) or because my brain says I NEED to do it again just because/ for safety (OCD). Hope you can figure things out and help yourself ❤❤ I also REALLY appreciate you talking about these things. It helps me tons. ❤
My sister has ocd and I’m still waiting for my adhd assessment (takes 1-2yrs from referral, thanks tories). My sister will have to check she’s locked the house even though she knows she locked it, whereas I have to check because I forget (like you said). Same behaviour but for completely different reasons
Challenge idea: you should make an empty shell of a house knowing exactly which room is which (living room, kids room, bathroom #2). But when you start adding interior, you have to spin a wheel to decide which room that'll be (so living room can become bathroom, bathroom becomes dining room, hallway becomes kitchen)!
recently my dog passed away and through all the grieving you have been one of the people that has helped me get through it so thank you ❤
that must have been really hard, hope you're feeling better now ❤
i’m so sorry for your loss, it’s not easy but i hope you’re doing okay ❤️
i’m sorry for your loss
My days always made 10x better when jesse posts
I would die to see Plumbella do a Sims 4 Kitchen Nightmares Let's Play (build an atrocious restaurant that is failing, and bring in a Gordon Ramsay sim to yell at everyone until the restaurant does better.)
Rules:
Make 1 sim family, with at least 2 adult sims deluded into thinking their restaurant is bussin (having a 3rd adult be a voice of reason that Gordon likes is optional, but a fun option)
1-must make the restaurant the lowest rating possible before beginning the challenge in earnest.
2- the sims have to essentially Live at the restaurant. You may build an apartment upstairs/in the basement of the restaurant lot for the family to stay in for the challenge.
3- Gordon is allowed to be in the household, but for relationships sake have him move in after the restaurant has had some (bad) business. Preferably, he shows up on his own to eat at the restaurant as an NCP and is so unimpressed he moves in to fix it.
4-challenge doesn't end just because someone dies. Unless it is Gordon Ramsay. If he dies, the restaurant must close and the challenge is failed.
5- challenge is won by getting the restaurant to at least 3 stars.
6- sometime after Gordon moves in but before hitting 3 stars, the restaurant needs a Makeover
Oh this reminds me of a Tetris house: It is a normal house but all of the rooms are the standard Tetris pieces: the square, the L, the T, I, Z, etc.
I think we can all just go ahead and have therapy here together like Jesse said.
Like, seriously...I hear the words come out of her mouth and I go "that's exactly the way I think..."
So much love ♥
And the house turned out cute AF - I'd love to live somewhere like this.
She’s giving home for a renowned pastry or regular chef, 5 star foodie we love her! She also gives off party or entertainment for guest so I think that’s the type of sim for it!
My older sister recently got diagnosed with OCD and just started seeing an OCD specialist therapist. She says it's been a massive improvement for her! I guess the way she does therapy is different now since it's targeted towards solutions designed for people with OCD. I'd highly suggest looking into it cause it's really helped her!
Wait what? Your old therapist doesn’t believe in autism? Ummm…they shouldn’t be treating patients at all.
Glad you’re doing what you need to do. As someone who also suffers from mental disorders, finding the right therapist is a daunting task. Glad you’re making strides in your health. Remember, you need to advocate for yourself at ALL times, even when everyone in your corner is doing a good job. That goes for types of treatment and how they handle out of pocket situations.
Keep up the good work and as always your builds are fascinating. Love watching your content.
Yeah… it’s actually far more common than people realize, especially when it comes to diagnosing those who are afab. My dad wasn’t diagnosed until he was 38, but his case was strictly due to the fact that autism wasn’t nearly as researched in the 80s as it was in the 2010s. I (afab) was 14 at the time and sat in on one of his appointments because his therapist’s dog had just gone through surgery and she was in the office, so I brought her some toys. His therapist could tell I was autistic within the first fifteen minutes, and wrote it down. At the time, a minor required both parents’ consent for evaluation, and my mom never consented, so I never received therapy.
I didn’t have enough money to see his therapist when I was experiencing burnout (we didn’t know, but he absolutely would’ve taken me on for free, which he did later). FOUR psychiatrists told me I could not possibly be autistic/ADHD because, “Females can’t be autistic/ADHD. It’s not in their genetics. You aren’t wired for that.”
So, I didn’t get an official diagnosis for both autism and ADHD until I was 22, when his therapist took on my case.
It’s also still common, in the field of psychiatry, to intentionally misdiagnose those who are afab with things not relating to ADHD and Autism, because they think telling them they’re either one would, “disrupt the flow of home life.” They literally aren’t telling them because they think it’ll keep them from being homemakers. As if not being properly treated for Autism and ADHD will go over so well when they don’t know how to manage a burnout episode. They’d rather someone who’s afab work themselves to the point of death than to give an actual diagnoses and help them manage it.
@@SneakySalaXander That is absolutely crazy! What I have heard and which I find true is that ADHD is hard to diagnose in girls and women because it manifests differently. I have ADHD, all my children have ADHD and their dad has ADHD. We all have different types of ADHD. Two of my boys have impulsive anger issues, the eldest boy cannot stay on task to save his life lol and my daughter and I can be very talkative. We all go to therapy to address our symptoms. My eldest two boys take meds and my youngest two are not as severe so they just go through therapy and I try to find coping mechanisms to help with their various diagnoses. I am not on meds mainly because I am on meds for other mental issues. They wanted me to go on ADHD meds but I’m like I’m good with all the side effects that I have to deal with now. Lol.
It’s hard already to function in this world, we don’t need someone who’s sole job to help us navigate it all tell us that what we have doesn’t exist. It makes no sense ESPECIALLY when we as a society know very little of how the brain works. In my eyes, it’s the final frontier lol. Though I am glad that you eventually got help. Lord knows you had a time going through it before you did and I am also grateful that your father’s therapist took you on. Legit one less headache when looking for one. Wish your all the best. Take care of yourself and your dad hehe.
As someone with OCD, learning to recognize intrusive thoughts and the spiral they would send me down was an immense help!! It took years, after the years of my OCD being the worst it'd ever been, but I've made so much progress!! I promise that I understand how daunting a diagnosis may feel, but knowledge IS power and you're on such a good path with therapy and learning more about how your brain works. I have all the confidence in you, and I'm sending you, (and anyone else who's struggling, your best is absolutely good enough), so much love!!
This is such a cute house! I love it. Also i'm so sorry that your previous therapist didn't "believe" in autism. As a Psych student it baffles me how a professional could just... ignore science? like that, but good for u for standing up for yourself and hopefully your next therapist is right for u
Thank you for being so open with your mental health journey, it makes so many of us feel less alone. 💕
I am so excited for a Mumbella Home Reno show! That sounds fantastic!
"Maybe I'll just take this video to my therapist and say, "Unpack this, babe." Rather brilliant, actually. So good to see you!
Make a house where you use the styled rooms. Could probably include stairs and stuff and like once the house is done get rid off unnecessary arches and doors?
I think she has already done. I remember that exact house or maybe a similar themed house when Paranormal Stuff Pack came out.
@@gregputnam7243 ah yes. Maybe again then that was fun and chaotic :)
She’s done it before but she said at the beginning of this video that she doesn’t find that challenge challenging because it’s “too easy” to just grab a premade room.
Id love to see a random colour generator challenge on EVERY item. Eg. Pink bath tub, green toilet, white tiles ext. If you can’t get an item in that colour you can’t place it down. (Also same colour can be used multiple times.)
@@Alluringrat im gonna try that in my own game that sounds absolutely chaotic
Recently diagnosed with ADHD, OCD, and Autism and the knowledge really is power because just knowing that some of the things that I do and think are because i'm a weird person or unlikable or whatever makes everything feel so much easier to deal with. Love you!
Not sure if you’ll see this Jesse, but thank you so much for your honesty with your mental health and opinions in general. As some one who is in the exactly the same boat (going through ADHD diagnosis process and really taking its toll) it’s soooo validating hearing others who are similar age, assigned gender etc. are going through the same thing. I started watching you in 2019 (I think), and watching your growth as an individual and with your health has helped with my own journey. I never usually comment but it’s been a rough few weeks for me but hearing this really helped💕
also just an fyi for anyone else reading, but both neurodevelopmental disorders such as ADHD and AS can occur with mood disorders such as BPD and OCD. Also ADHD & neurodivergence runs in families, so if someone in your family has it, you more then likely have it too. Trust your gut and get a second opinion if you aren’t happy with the answers you’ve been given.
i’m really glad to hear about you getting therapy. your rant about healthcare is so true. i’m from canada and our healthcare is free but the system is just so broken as ontario is continuing to privatize healthcare. for the past 7 years i have been really struggling with my severe scoliosis. because of the backlog from the pandemic and the lack of doctors in province, i waited two years for a consultation with a surgeon. when i finally got to the appointment he talked with me for 10 minutes just to say he is going to refuse to do my surgery and transfer my case to the states. his reason: surgeons are not being paid enough so if they transfer enough cases to the states, the government will get frustrated with paperwork and raise their salaries.
anyways so the paperwork gets sent off for a transfer case and then i get notice months later that because there are eligible surgeons in my province that can technically do the surgery they will not transfer my case because my condition isn’t “life threatening.”
the mental breakdown i had because of that probably was the most painful thing i have ever experienced. i can’t walk sometimes, i can’t go out with my friends sometimes, i can’t play sports anymore because of how bad my back pain is from the scoliosis. being told that by the government sort of just felt like my last straw after being used as a political tool by these surgeons.
my only option at this point would be to find a new surgeon but i don’t want to wait another two years for a consultation y’know. it really just makes ya feel like you are a burden on the medical system and i know that’s true because canada is rolling out medically assisted dying to people on the basis of mental illnesses now. can you even imagine the disconcern for human life that instead of giving people help they need to become better you can just say “have you considered medically assisted death?” it’s fucking insane. i’m honestly surprised a doctor hasn’t suggested it to me yet seeing as scoliosis is a progressive disability.
just to say i read all this and i'm so sorry!
Realizing I have OCD helped my mental health so so so much its so hard but I'm so glad I know whats happening now. I'm really glad you got that figured out!
Can I just say as a person with ocd that getting the diagnosis was life changing for me, it was terrifying but it was so worth it
As a student psych nurse with ADHD, I found it was very hard to get diagnosed because ADHD typically appears differently in people assigned female at birth than people assigned male at birth. There’s also a lot of similarities between ADHD, OCD, autism and other anxiety disorders. With all that combined (at least in my experience) it’s kinda a process of trial and error and figuring out what works best for you (meds, therapy approachs, etc.). I know it’s super frustrating but keep your head up because hopefully you’ll find things that are really helpful to you 🫶🏻
i was thinking of a completely different jigsaw reference, then i was like OHHHHHHHH JIGSAW AS IN PUZZLE NOT AS IN THE HORROR MOVIE SERIES, well yeah kinda impossible to make a sims build involving the saw franchise
I’m autistic and on mushrooms for the first time and your voice and videos are the thing thats helping ground me at this moment so if you see this, thank you
In regards to dating and gaming. It's so hard to date as a gamer because so many people don't have hobbies. Like I don't want to spend all my free time with someone I'm dating. I wanna play games and hang with friends too. I refuse to let my life revolve around one person.
This. I'm not a gamer, but I am an introvert with my own set of hobbies and friends. If my partner can't tolerate me spending time by myself or not wanting to hang out with their friends constantly I'm gonna have to break it off.
@@doobiejesus1097 Also an introvert. To be honest, even the time I spend with my own friends gets too much at times so I can't imagine having to hang out with my partners friends too.
“I would willingly get into a relationship…but then the thing is I wouldn’t really wanna see him” i’ve never felt more seen
Really appreciate you talking about your mental health and how you're working through it. It's not easy and sometimes switching therapists can be one of the best things for you. I see mine periodically, but while he's good for some objective context and validation when he listens to me, he doesn't really provide any active help to manage my various things. Not sure if it's ADHD, OCD, some spectrum of Autism, or a combination of all three.
Hi, I'm always so proud of you for working on yourself and honored that you do share so many thoughts; thoughts like my thoughts and I think it makes me think a little less about if I should be thinking at all; it's great aspect of your content, even if I didn't have a personal connection with the autism, it really helps make your content you. C:
Currently isolating in my travel trailer with covid since I have an immunocompromised child in the house. No Healthcare for myself here in good old 'murica, so just sucking it up. 100% agree with you on Healthcare being free. I wish...
Fellow American here. Would absolutely pay extra on my taxes for free healthcare and college.
as an immunocompromised person i wish i could say the free healthcare keeps us safe or protected but it doesn’t. obviously all healthcare should be free but free or not we still have an issue with access and we’re still being left to die and fend for ourselves. even vaccines have been taken away
@@lauryn6037 I'm sorry =(
Firstly, preach Jesse! Secondly, loved this video - the house is great, you're hilarious and I love your openness - it's a form of therapy for many of us!
I've been binging ur build videos lately and I'm so happy to see a new one!
im an interior designer and black kitchens are beautiful but depending on the material used theyre a pain cleaning wise so be wary of that !!
wow this house turned out so good! that huge window in the bathroom does feel weird though lol i imagine someone just looking at you pooping or sth. but it's all for the ~aesthetics~ so i get it
The OCD COULD be apart of the autism as well. Love you Jessie. You've been my comfort TH-camr lately. Me thinks it's the accent. Very comforting
Those rooms helped me out when I made a large house with a photo studio that had many bedrooms, also they would be useful for Motels or hotels because of the repeating rooms, they are also useful for making a TARDIS and adding rooms to the underground interior.
this house came out GORGEOUS!!
Would love videos of you & your mom working on the house!
Honestly your builds are some of my favourites, we definitely have similar taste, Plumbella houses are 1000% amazing!
IM SO PROUD OF YOU JESSIE
Also I genuinely think you’re such an amazing builder. The clutter and the colors you use are so pretty and make me want to live there 😭 I feel like you’re the only sims ytber that doesn’t have me screaming at the screen when you make choices. top tier. i’ve been a fan for a verrrrrryyyyy long time and you’ve improved so much 🥺
I relate to you so much. I’m in the US and turning 26 next month, which means I’ll no longer be covered under my parents’ insurance. And I’m not currently working due to mental health (I’m an RN and it’s a struggle), turns out my therapist thinks I have OCD and ADHD too! Unfortunately, if I lose my healthcare, I lose my therapist :(
that’s so stupid, hoping everything works out for u
@@oscarkamala thank you!
Get that free therapy, babe! 👏 I know it’s so frustrating to have to be on a waiting list for that. I live in the U.S. & I’m grateful to be able to have free Medicaid. But there’s budget cuts happening all the time & the wait times for appointments are longer & longer. 😿 So I feel for anyone in the similar boat. I just started my new therapist on Friday. 🤗 Love this build btw! Good vibes to y’all. 🖤
Okay but the exterior actually turned out so good !!! you really pulled it together !
The landscape is GORGEOUS
Jesse, I really recommend laying out your rooms in a 3d program (not just sims) where you can set where the sun will come into windows from. I was remodeling and really thought I had a great idea for my bathroom. But after I laid out the room based on real measurements and windows size and sun placement, I found out that my idea didn't work for THAT particular space 🙈
So I redid the design like 5 times until it finally looked good in the specific space. And had that done irl and it's so cozy in there! Can't imagine how unhappy I'd be if I went with my original (objectively good) idea 😅
I just have to say your sweater looks so comfy!
When ppl complain about partners who play games it's usually bc they're either foisting all of the household and relationship labor onto the other person or making the other person compete with (and usually lose to) video games.
the way you talk is so close to the way I talk and think it's scary. It makes your videos really fun to watch because I follow your train of thought easily lol
roofing looks good imo !! makes the house look much more interesting
I share the pain living in the UK under the Tories and it makes me so mad. The world makes me mad. What doesn't make me mad though is this challenge and this build. Gonna add it to my list of challenges to try! :)
I really enjoyed this video, I like it when you rant because I'm also autistic and asexual and I love seeing someone like you talking about it!
The landscaping really brings it all together ❤
I have Autisum and OCD i over analyse everything, always, and you are doing amazingly 👏
I get you girl. When I learned I was autistic, it was like a lightbulb went off. I always had this inner turmoil that something was wrong with me and I'd sob, asking why I couldn't just be normal. Well that's cause I'm neurodivergent babes. 💕
Yay! So happy to see you back!
I've got diagnosed ADHD and I suspect I also might be on the autistic spectrum somewhere, but at the moment the pros don't weigh up the cons trying to chase that. I don't know enough about OCD, but my ADHD-tingle definitely tingles on your videos. I also fully support what NHS is *supposed to be*, however sadly it is not that. I grew up in a different country, but have lived here for the past 10 and the difference is mindblowing. I've been let down by NHS about 9/10 of all my concerns including my mental health saga. Just to narrow it to ADHD, they 'lost' my referral twice, referred me to the wrong place once, and I have officially been on a waiting list (in this country) since October 2021. From what I understand the process of diagnosing is one 30-min meeting with one doctor and if you're 'lucky enough' for them to agree, you may get given meds which you have 2 chances to adjust. From what I understand, for many people, it takes a lot longer than that. GPs are totally untrained in it, so will not be able to help you after that. In comparison, I had two meetings with a pshychiatrist (one to refer for diagnostics, the other to confirm the diagnosis and prescribe medication), one in between with a Mental Health Nurse (who did a diagnostic questionnaire with me, though some places also use more test-like testing additionally as well) and one afterward with a counsellor to discuss everything. I ended up doing it private abroad, but this was the set package. I wish you all the luck in your journey, but brace yourself for it to be long. If you can, go private. I know, I know, it's kind of feeding the problem, but the NHS is on its knees with everything, particularly mental health, so another way of looking at it is trying to take the pressure off of NHS/not letting issues evolve to worse and thus more time consuming. I also actually haven't started taking my meds yet, but my MH has improved tenfold by just having a diagnosis, or as you said, an explanation and the 'ah yes, you're doing that thing now'.
'knowledge is power' is such a mood because like, Im not saying Im doing great being a working poor american that can barely afford basic survival, but KNOWING that the reason I felt so Alien was because Im autistic and what that actually means has been one of the most monumental positive pushes forward Ive had in attempting to cope with reality.
Newish fan, I stared watching you a few months ago. I have OCD and my doc recommend 'The Imp of the MInd'. It really helped and i'd say its a good listen or read depending on what you prefer.
i'm really going thru it at the minute and this video gave me 20 minutes of laughter :') jesse u did amazing with this challenge and i hope ur doing well x
There is an emerging theory of an “overcontrolled” spectrum in psychology and counseling which groups certain behavioral tendencies and patterns together and there is a really fascinating therapy for that spectrum (including ASD, OCD, treatment resistant depression, some EDs…) called RO-DBT. I never disliked therapy before, but I never felt so understood as a person with these tendencies before trying this kind of therapy. It was genuinely fun and liberating to go through at times. The theory at least is worth checking out! Thank you so much for being so open about your experiences! ❤
Wow, the house came out gorgeous your landscaping is so so nice 😍
I relate to all of that. When I was 18 was finally diagnosed with ADHD after my psychologist literally only saw me twice because it was that obvious. Then I've asked my friends because I've questioned it for a while if I possibly have OCD and they were instantly like YES. I still have to talk about that with someone because I was cut off when trying to talk about it. Then 2 years ago I found out I'm also autistic (still waiting to be evaluated (my psychiatrist did give me a link to help me get an evaluation) but I also study this in school like I'm a psychology major and autism does run in my family). Used to deny it for years but when I mentioned it to my friends they're like "oh definitely makes sense" LIKE YOU COULDN'T HAVE TOLD ME THIS A LONG TIME AGO? So it just like hits you all and like dayum wtf is my life 😂😭
Anyone else think that the roof absolutely slaps
Oh it absolutely does, it's so mid century modern, and the whole house really captures that vibe too, especially with the maximalist tiger wallpaper and the specific sectional she used!!
hey! I have autism, adhd, and ocd! I help run a small autism/OCD group and it's been super helpful. proud of you for working on getting care
I was diagnosed ocd when I was 4 (ik I was young) my parents put me into behavioral therapy to help cope and definitely did. Now I'm 23 and realizing that I have autism and ADHD. Sooo much fun! I've been taking antidepressants and antianxiety and now I started therapy. I had a traumatic accident last year and I'm now starting to try to do things again. *Sorry if that's a lot lol*
I love your content so much! It always makes me happier and I love your ranting too ❤️❤️
That red bedroom gave me BIG Brandi Broke vibes honestly
But those lights were very Don Lothario 🤣
your videos give me so much joy
“There you go babe, unpack that!” TOTALLY me to my therapist with my journal!!
0:00 “todays video is a little bit of a *weed* one” never have I ever hit that mf rewind button so fast on a video
Apparently all the neurodivergencies just ~go really well together~ or something, and apparently ADHD and autism mask each other really well. I'm almost 32 and my therapist just suggested I may be autistic like, last year, but I relate to a lot of ADHD stuff as well, and I also have really bad anxiety and some OCD tendencies. It's a mess, dude.
these are the best sims rooms i’ve seen in a long time, and u don’t even consider urself as a builder!!!
omg please consider doing the no-mistake challenge, would love to see it !!!!!
do OCD and ADHD overlap? could i have had an undiagnosed combo meal this whole time?
They do! As do autism and ADHD/OCD, dyslexia and ADHD/autism/OCD, etc. Multiple neurodivergencies are relatively common.
They can, yes. They also exhibit a lot of the same behavioral patterns (same thing with autism and ADHD) so oftentimes get misdiagnosed.
Yep yep! Get those fries too!!
I love you talking about asexuality its so lovely to see! im ace and recently come out and my partner is so wonderful about it. they're my perfect mr darcy
I wish they'd bring back auto-roofing, I think it was Sims 2 that had that. Anyone remember?
Sims 3 had it but it was mostly awful in my experience. It always did those roofs slanted to all sides (no idea what to call them)
If you were with Mr Darcy, you'd have plenty of space. He has an enormous house and seems to lean introverted, so he'd probably appreciate the alone time.
Ok build challenge idea: build a house with each room is a based on a random object but this is how you pick. Choose the most important furniture piece in the room (kitchen is counters, living room is couch, bedroom is bed etc) and within that items catalogue you random a number to pick which one you use, then randomize the number of which swatch then the rest of that room has to be based on that one item and swatch
I love the ace rep🖤🤍💜
woah hey i’m so early!! your videos have made me love playing the sims again, thank you so much jesse
Omg 😱 I love it it, even with the quirky roof 😂
I think the roof is really fun and fits the overall vibe. Also, spicy brain ace gang 💜
AHH Yay Jesse!!! 🥰💖 I love you sm dude ❤ I vibe with you on a spiritual lvl girl 😂
If you're ever in the position to pay for therapy privately I'd recommend looking into it. Usually around £50/hr (=expansion+game pack price😅) so depends if you need just a few sessions or regular ones as to whether it is affordable. Makes such an impact on your life, it's worth seeing if you can make it work price wise, or just while you wait for NHS waiting lists.
Jessie, it's GORGEOUS, the outside specifically ❤❤ well done. Don't doubt yourself
I would be stoked to see house reno videos 🎉🎉
I love how this house turned out~♥
Build Idea: download rooms from the gallery and stitch them together
Please do a challenge on something about designing each room around each swatch of the avocado rug
Over here in the USA... I hate it here, I want to LEAVEEE and it's terrifying. I can't even get my antidepressants without paying an arm and leg. But y'know, I'm just living until I'm not so till I'm able to move off to a country that cares slightly more about its citizens, guess I'm here. The house is lookin beautiful by the way.
So jealous of the free healthcare. As a self-employed person in the US, I pay $350/month for insurance with a $9000 yearly deductible so until I meet that, I pay minimum $200 every time I go to the doctor and pay full price for prescription meds. As a result, I avoid going to the doctor unless I’m literally dying (aka, last time I went to the hospital it was because I was in anaphylaxis) 🙃🙃🙃
Proud of you for going to therapy!! I need to get back into it, too.
Your rambles are so relatable