Thank you for watching! ❤️Which habit is your favourite? And for more habits that will get you closer to your dream life, watch my next video 7 Rich People’s Habits That Will Change Your Life: th-cam.com/video/p8f_wbrhSLI/w-d-xo.html
Love the perfume tip! Do you have any mid range to luxury starter perfume recommendations? I want to try out some scents that are a little less basic / overdone, but it’s so hard investing in a perfume you can’t test (cause of covid!)
My mother always says "everything you have can be taken away from you, except for what you know". So education has always been a priority to me. I believe it allows you to get anywhere you want.
Absolutely true. Not only a formal education, but through travel, and socializing with people from all walks of life. I really love these videos. So much is learned from them.
So true. While some so called influencers now are refusing to go to college just because they claim youtube to be their job. It's so ridiculous. TH-cam is not forever tho.
"Never stop learning" ... I went back to college years ago. On the first day of school I was feeling embarrassed while entering the classroom because I was older than the majority of my classmates. Then I noticed there was an older gentleman sitting on the other side of the room. A couple of weeks went by and I decided to sit next to him and to introduce myself. I was so amazed by him. He was so interested in learning, he was the best student in that class and he was in his late 60s!! I thought to my self: "I want to be like him, I don't ever want to stop learning".
I went away to university at 30. It was a better experience for me because I was mature enough to appreciate it for what it was worth. While I had already finished college, the going away to school was really life changing.
"CLASSY" is when you have everything to flaunt but you choose not to show it. Love to every single person who believe in themselves and respect other's opinion. ❤️
At 66, I've retired to Mexico. Because I live here, I can afford a massage once a week, a facial once a month, my nails every 2 weeks and hair, every 6 weeks. The more time and pesos I invest in myself the better I feel, the healthier I am and more confident.
Such a timely comment! I am currently looking for a place to retire where I can stretch my budget and still live abundantly May I ask, where specifically did you settle? Thank you so much for any reply
@@ConstructionKing-e5o I'm glad many retired have decided to come and live their happiest time in my country. Indeed, there are so many affordable and beautiful houses!
I wonder why there are people criticize you when whenever i am watching your videos it reminds me of my true higher self.... you're awakening the best of me...
After 30 years of collecting things because of 'sentimental values' and 'torn but still can be fixed someday', I finally throw and donate my old belongings and feel freedom from attachments. It feels like liberating
I didn’t realize how expensive it was to maintain beauty until I started increasing my value. There’s really no way a high value woman can be a woman with no income or welfare sitting around waiting for a rich man to marry her.
I think it's also about finding luxury in small rituals. You can get the most gorgeous set of china from a charity shop and enjoy your morning coffee like a true queen 👑 Nothing is more feminine than a woman radiating peace from within 💜
I completely agree Monie, as a student it is so hard to keep up with the maintenance without the help of a partner! Some things we just cannot do ourselves and need to pay someone to do a proper job.
Self-care check! Tidy environment check! Smell nice check! Self-development check! Defensive by default check! I am happy I invested the time and patience in me, now I can help someone else. Love you.
I'm soon-to-be 19 years old, but I am trying to improve my feminine and elegant energy sooner than later, or never. I apply a subtle makeup every day, take some time to care of myself, trying to have to have a good posture while I'm working, I'm working on my speaking skills, etc. However, I still have my flaws, lol. Thank you dear Anna for your videos! Bless you!
Im 19 too!! Honestly Annas videos changed my life in so many ways. But unfortunately, there's not many other girls our age who think and act this way. they are all still so caught up in boring teenage drama and honestly it can get a little lonely
@@madeinhungaria2342 Yay, sister! :))) I understand your feelings about other girls and even friendships sometimes... not everyone shares my point of view about femininity, etc. Some girls in my classroom have chose to act like teenage boys and speak aggressively... but I've chosen femininity! It's sooo nice to know that other girls of my age are watching Anna's videos! It's so exciting. Thanks for your reply and take care. :))))))
I wish I had Anna’s videos when I was 19 because it would have saved me a lot of time! Having a mentor to guide you or someone that you look up like is one very important thing to have!
Dear Elegant Anna, thank you for addressing the “elegant hoarders” with compassion but being straightforward with them/us. I’m a reformed hoarder and wish others to know the peace of mind you get when you spend the effort on decluttering and being tidy. It’s excellent for your confidence. Thank you so much for addressing it. 💐
Completely agree with you. I think decluttering is a work in progress and it never stops really. At some point decluttering may be synonymous to object replacement if you feel the need to update things. But if one new thing comes in, another old one has to leave....
Hi Anna! I just got back from a date! I have been following your advice, and he didn't even seem to want the date to end! After I got home, I remembered not to text first, within a few mins he sent a message thanking me for a wonderful afternoon. Thank you so much for helping us ladies 🌹
Hi I will have a date soon too. He is coming to my city and I am not sure what to do because of covid lockdown. I thought about having a picnic at the beach.
Wow, even though I consider myself as a feminine lady, I never notice that being defensive was keeping me from being feminine. Attitude is everything. Thank you Ana! 💖
I thought that was the most interesting point she made today. I do think defensiveness does not really affect feminity itself. But it does certainly impact if people see you as high worth.
@@elisereynolds945 I also thought that people can get kind of aggressive when they get defensive and that is more masculine. Maybe that is what she meant? Anyway, it's a good consideration I am going to think about.
Very good advice! This video makes me appreciate my Mom so much! My elegant mama has all these good traits. She was always learning something--she taught herself several languages and at age 50 decided to take up violin and within 10 years was performing in a symphony. She always hiked and rode horses, trained wonderful dogs, and was always heavily involved in community projects. She still handles everything with good humor and grace even though she's 96 now and needs round the clock nursing assistance. She was a fantastic role model! I also think her good attitude and constant self-development are what kept my wealthy Dad interested in her for over 50 years. He was really proud of her!
Dear Anna, I’m 33 I just discovered your channel and I love it! I’m not personally looking for a man right now, but class, education and elegance it’s very difficult to find in people. The best way to be surrounded by high value people is to start with yourself. With you I have learned not only elegance tips but also how to treat people and how to respect myself by respecting others.
I can't believe how much my lifestyle and my character have changed ever since I've started watching your videos, all I wanna say is thank you, Anna❤️😊
I love the last tip. Letting go of the desperation to prove myself has been a huge focus for me right now in my upleveling journey. When you are confident in who you are, there is no need to prove it to other people ❤
@@nikithashree339 True, I think Anna's appeal also comes from her being controversial and not caring. She knows what she wants and how she likes it, and she's never shy to admit it.
thanks Anna for reminding me that I need to take care of myself. Since I moved in with my partner, I almost neglected myself because I love the feeling of taking care of him. My "me time" is almost gone and we spend almost all our time together. Thanks for reminding me!
For all my years, your last point about defensiveness is so valuable, and in this age of attacks on social media of utmost importance. There have always been people who attack others, because of jealousy, or just plain meanness, but it is intensified 1,000 percent on all media platforms. Trying to understand where that personal attack is coming from, and to hold back a response that is measured and kind is probably the biggest breakthrough in personal development a woman can achieve. Thank you for saying this, Anna!
I like how Anna is focusing also on creating an elegant environment in this video - it's more overwhelming because having an elegant appearance/manners is already a LONG journey, but these tips are still essential to know! Thank you Anna
It's 1.30am in South Africa right now and here I am watching every Anna Bey video I can find.. It's the new year, I need to be reminded and also grow into a more elegant and classy lady. Guess what? I'm loving every second of it😍😍😍
I like to spray perfume on my clothes. Because of laws that protect fragrance manufacturers from sharing “trade secrets,” almost every perfume sold commercially is crammed with chemicals that aren’t listed individually on the product packaging. As for home fragrance, I purchase pure essential oils add them to a spray bottle with distilled water. Makes a natural product that helps cleanse and freshen the air.
I never thought of the chemical aspect, but I always found it lasted longer on my clothes vs on my skin, plus your own body’s smell can change the composition of the perfume, so I find you get more of the actual scent
It’s funny I am a guy but I really like watching your videos and they are quite relevant to guys as well. I love the last step about the being defensive. Really great video thanks can’t wait to see the next one.
@mindshare I didn't make it thru the first 3 times either. But what DID work for me was to take each area and break it down to bite size pieces. For exampke, instead of taking all your clothes out at 1 time, try working on your closet for 10 minutes. Get a box, set your phone for 10 minutes and go through your clothes, what you don't like, doesn't fit, etc. put into box. Come back to it the next day and try again. Some days I did 10 minutes, other it took 30 or 1 hour, so it at your pace, try on items make new outfits...It works!
I love these short videos!!!! All the influencers around the world are making 40 minutes TH-cam videos, just to give a message that could have been said in 5 minutes. So, thank you Ana for making videos for us, and not TH-cam! We really appreciate that! ❤
The best thing I love in your videos is that you always encourage women to learn and educate themselves. Very beautifully you described that self-care is not just getting your nails done, skin care but also learning and focusing on growth as a human. And the tip you shared on Instagram was really helpful :)
Hi Anna, since you were talking about perfume...could you make an elegant perfume collection/favorite brands video or podcast? Perfumery is such an elegant and feminine art form.
I’ve spent today binge-watching these videos. They’re so well put together, and I really do think so many women could learn about themselves and the men/women they choose as partners. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with wanting more for ourselves, especially if we are worth it.
Self education is still legitimate education. Lots of people said they learned more about economics from Dave Ramsey and Robert Kiyusaki. That is better than taking a student loan and going to college. I would rather self educate. That is why TH-cam is the best type of social media, unlike TikTok where you don't learn much.
Preach!!!! Schools these days are indoctrination camps and full of nonsense. I was an A+ student going to school to be a nurse and future goal was neurologist I dropped out and started self educating and I have never been smarter in my life. I buy at least 3 books on amazon every month and maintain learning that is actually productive....
Never stop learning!!! That is your best tip. I take classes constantly just for fun and to keep my brain active. It makes life (and me!) more interesting! Also, I am 6 and very thin and have fun with fashion! Both of these traits make anyone more interesting and attractive.
I think I needed to hear, the defensive part. This weekend, I went into such a defensive-victim mode. After the discussion I felt, "why did I do that ? That's not even me!", but damage is done. I am sure the others have had there mindset/ conclusion of me. Just needed to hear it again and remind myself that I am an elegant lady and instead of blaming others and playing a victim, I should take ownership.
Wow Anna, from the moment I opened the video I was impressed by how that color makes you glow. Great example of how using your best personal colors can make you look radiant.
You are just "the person" I was needing!💜 About being defensive, I totally agree with everything you said. I was generally so much defensive and this trait made me really aggressive. And the offensive mode of mine made the situation more spicy by making me too dominating, even I started feeling like trash. Now I am really trying to change and elevate myself to being an elegant lady from inside and outside!
I love that Anna is the one showing us exactly what not to do, like applying perfume and taking selfies with the mess around! Also, thanks to Anna, I‘be been improving all of my habits in life!
I’m so glad Anna mentioned to only apply perfume on the pulse points! So many ladies overspray or apply fragrance and it is overpowering . Only cheap perfume is overpowering.
Her advice on spraying fragrance on the pulse points only is not universal. It depends on how hydrated your skin is, the concentration of the scent, and the weather that determines how much and where on the body you can spray. Most luxury fragrances come from the Middle East and those scents have a potent oil concentration which is why you can get away with those little dabs. Roja Dove the leading perfumer in the world says a lady should spray anything that is in motion from skin to scarves. You shouldn't use perfume on your neck though because the alcohol can age the delicate skin in the neck area.
@@dabarefootbombshell yes your right, never on the neck, only behind the ear. I wouldn’t suggest spraying on scarves , the oils will stain the fabric and also break down natural fibers like silk or cashmere.
I just walked through a cloud of fragrance from someone on the street...couldn't place the scent, but it was from the 90's. And I noticed 4 hours later walking to my car, the stairwell was still full of that scent.
@@fairydust950 I do genuinely believe that, if women are happy, kind and educated, they will raise better children, have better relationships with everyone around them, therefore the whole society would go in a better direction. Us, women have so much influence around us, over men, over children, over environment, therefore the whole world would improve if we all, would become better selves.
Exactly right! Simple elegance 🙏💫🌟⭐️My Daughter’s are highly educated and they can do everything and so can I .. it’s good to see them pick fabulous husbands, make smart decisions and continue to grow.. self esteem from a deeper well rounded place.
@@annaarneja2390 if you also listened what Anna said, the world outside you, reflex your inner world. Sometimes, even the physiologists say, that if you want to changes things inside you, you can start from outside as well, as everything it’s mirrored and connected.
I'm glad you've upload a video because I badly needed this. The room is messy and I don't have motivation to continue my Japanese lessons. Thank you again, Anna! Time to sleep.
I wish I had a dollar for every time someone ( male or female) has said to me” ( this is actually a quote from my sister to me ) why have you had so much dental work? You have a beautiful smile. EXACTLY!!! I’ve had root canals + crowns only to have the teeth yrs later fall apart. Enter the world of removal + sinus lift+ bone grafts+ implants, tissue grafts, + crowns. Painful? You bet! Expensive? Beyond belief! Worth it? Every cent! I do not have a ton of $$$ ! I’m literally paying off work I just had Two teeth broke off at the gum so back in the saddle again! The same lab( the owner personally makes my crowns ) for 20-+ yrs! I’ve heard more times than I can count” well if that’s how you want to spend your money- then so be it. “ I have priorities!”! Well so do I! Put on a beautiful simple dress( I like Ann Taylor) great little sling back heels, makeup done well, hair nicely cut etc then open your mouth with broken, chipped or missing teeth- guess what you now look cheap+ trashy. The term” elegant” just went out the window! Clean moderate makeup, expensive clothes that look it( I go online for sales) nice nails( no crazy long, skulls painted on them, nails, classy keep it classy! To men that are worth it- classy is sexy. Trashy is trashy. ❤️
My front teeth overlap each other very slightly but I don't have any problem of food getting stuck in between them. So do you think I need to get braces done?
I really love that you promote education! It really shows if you’re a high caliber person. My biggest learning from today’s video is to further improve my self-care routine 😊🙏🏻
Being tidy! Was always a No No even when I was younger, especially the undies that is/was placed wherever, I remember how my Dad once told us that if you are that kind of Lady, as if you are putting your genitalia just wherever too! And it will definitely reflect what kind of person you are, whether you are hygienic and a smart Lady he used to tell us. An elegant Lady knows how to managed their emotions, not defensive at all, you got me there bulls eye! I am working hard not to be so defensive but rather act in an elegant manner, not that easy but can be developed to be that elegant Woman I want to be. Thank you so much Anna!
Thank you Anna for your love and insight. Education is so important and you provide such worthy knowledge. I just enrolled for the fall semester to finish my bachelor's degree in humanities and communication. Having your support really gives me peace of mind. Love you dear beautiful Anna!
Anna- I am so happy to see such a positive and healthy example for women. This levels up what is possible for each of but also for us as a community of women. Keep it up.
The last habit and tip is really important to save you energy! Taking a defensive position when being triggered can happen again and again, over and over, costing so much energy every time. If you learn, why you are triggered and how you can handle this sensitive point, care for this point... Then the trigger won't effect you anymore, because you can handle it well self-aware and elegant like a lady! :) Thank you Anna for this tip!
I love the way you present your content Anna, you’ve really evolved over time. Congratulations and thank you for sharing your ideas and knowledge! I go through my wardrobe twice a year and declutter clothes that no longer serve me. Last year I took it a step further and Marie Kondo’ed all my drawers. I love pampering my skin at night, diffuse essential oils in my home, and wear a little perfume everyday. I do it for me, because..... I’m so worth it! Cheers from Montreal!
Tip number 5! All the way! I see this trait with many women. It is something I have worked hard to overcome. Many just don’t recognize it as a problem and assign the trigger on the other person. And you are right, it creates unnecessary drama and negative emotions. Bravo for speaking the truth!
The first thing I bought with my first salary is my perfume. I got a Lacoste perfume and I use it everyday, even if I am staying indoors. Wearing no perfume makes me feel naked..
Thank you Anna, I’ve really been focusing on decluttering, my husband is a minimalist and I’m a maximalist and it’s been a point of contention in our relationship because I was so defensive. I’ve seen the light in a sense, and I’m on my own minimalist/organized journey!
yes! i needed this! I'm always in a defensive mode and it's so hard to let go of this mindset... but I'm working on it! I'm taking baby steps and i know i will be much better if i keep going :)
So glad im catching up on your vids! I am sharing this with my bff... I was on a date with a wealthy man and he said something a bit unkosher; i told her about it and she got mad at me for not being defensive and telling him like it is! I was like girl! I am not defensive and wont be just to prove my point and ruin my 'bag' so to speak lol... I hope she learns because being a gi jane all the time is not cute and a huge turn off for men! Very masculine indeed! xxo💖💖
There are so MANY positive comments on Anna's videos. It would be great to have a chat group for us ladies just to keep momentum and have mutual support. As off now I'm waiting done with old toxic habits. It's just hard staying consistent esp when you surrounded with negative people like family. But we do what we must to reach goals even if it means that you have to compromise for a while.
You changed my view on so many things and only for the better. I am still unlearning many harmful things - that I should have goals like men and approach life like a man to be valued. My eyes are opening and it's mainly thanks to you.
Thank you, Anna, I loved the video, especially Tip #2. I also appreciate that you include images of women of colour who are often excluded from the high society/elegance conversation
Great video 💙 Sometimes I would feel bad for spending money on myself, but learned I am investing in myself. This is not an excuse to buy random things, but things that add value to my life without being excessive. Two very nice outfits that will last decades rather than a few cheap pieces that I will want to throw away after one year, but hold on to for five years taking up space in my closet. Good perfume, good haircuts, etc. Yes to these good habits!
Anna, would you please do a video on friendship? Like tips for networking and keeping that connection. I don’t have problems meeting people due to my surroundings, however I have a really hard time turning high class acquaintances into friendships, hanging out, etc
Our instructor in human behavior and personality development would always remind us that in facing any situation (stimulus) always be proactive and not reactive. It takes a lot of endurance to control your reaction but it's worth it since you will learn how not to stress yourself each time you are faced with uncomfortable situations in the long run. Thank you always for such great tips Anna. Watching your videos is my way of further educating myself.
These feminine elegance classes are absolutely brilliant. I have always been interested in this topic, even to better understand the female soul. This expertise shared here, enables me to be able to better interact with my wife about various analogous situations. Thanks dear Anna Bey for sharing with us these admirable references 💐🙏
These videos have been so helpful! You have opened my eyes to how powerful femininity actually is and now I feel more in tune with myself than ever! Thank you Anna and wish you all the best!
Thank you for watching! ❤️Which habit is your favourite? And for more habits that will get you closer to your dream life, watch my next video 7 Rich People’s Habits That Will Change Your Life: th-cam.com/video/p8f_wbrhSLI/w-d-xo.html
Hi Anna. I can't smell anything after corona infection. I can't smell my perfume anymore.💔
Anna i love seeing you when you play the bad habits in this video 🌸
Love the perfume tip! Do you have any mid range to luxury starter perfume recommendations? I want to try out some scents that are a little less basic / overdone, but it’s so hard investing in a perfume you can’t test (cause of covid!)
Not being defensive
They are all my favourite improvement habits. Perhaps home scent is my favourite though.
My mother always says "everything you have can be taken away from you, except for what you know". So education has always been a priority to me. I believe it allows you to get anywhere you want.
Absolutely true. Not only a formal education, but through travel, and socializing with people from all walks of life. I really love these videos. So much is learned from them.
My mum says the exact same thing albeit worded differently!
So true
So true. While some so called influencers now are refusing to go to college just because they claim youtube to be their job. It's so ridiculous. TH-cam is not forever tho.
Your mother sounds like a smart lady!
"Never stop learning" ...
I went back to college years ago. On the first day of school I was feeling embarrassed while entering the classroom because I was older than the majority of my classmates. Then I noticed there was an older gentleman sitting on the other side of the room. A couple of weeks went by and I decided to sit next to him and to introduce myself. I was so amazed by him. He was so interested in learning, he was the best student in that class and he was in his late 60s!! I thought to my self: "I want to be like him, I don't ever want to stop learning".
Wow~~Good on you!!
Wow, that is so inspiring, you two are great 👏
Hmmm.
I went away to university at 30. It was a better experience for me because I was mature enough to appreciate it for what it was worth.
While I had already finished college, the going away to school was really life changing.
"CLASSY" is when you have everything to flaunt but you choose not to show it.
Love to every single person who believe in themselves and respect other's opinion. ❤️
I absolutely love this!
Totally agree with you!
Quite agree with U .
Spot on
"Classy" is making the ppl around u feel good. That's it
My five-year-old walked by and said, "I like her dress. She's pretty."
At 66, I've retired to Mexico. Because I live here, I can afford a massage once a week, a facial once a month, my nails every 2 weeks and hair, every 6 weeks. The more time and pesos I invest in myself the better I feel, the healthier I am and more confident.
I've thought about this. Do you mind sharing where you ended up in Mexico?
Such a timely comment! I am currently looking for a place to retire where I can stretch my budget and still live abundantly May I ask, where specifically did you settle? Thank you so much for any reply
The sweet life!
@@ConstructionKing-e5o I'm glad many retired have decided to come and live their happiest time in my country. Indeed, there are so many affordable and beautiful houses!
I'm happy that you're happy in my country. 💕
I wonder why there are people criticize you when whenever i am watching your videos it reminds me of my true higher self.... you're awakening the best of me...
The colour of that dress/necklace is absolute perfection with Anna's complexion! 💙
She's a summer. That's why.
💯💯💯
I agree, a gorgeous shade of blue looks fantastic on her.
@@maryrouse9821 it immediately made me feel light and in the mood for summer 🤩
She is beautiful.
After 30 years of collecting things because of 'sentimental values' and 'torn but still can be fixed someday', I finally throw and donate my old belongings and feel freedom from attachments. It feels like liberating
Lol
May you receive a sign this week that puts your mind at ease and fills your heart with hope.
Needed to hear this! Elegant ladies ❤️
How sweet of you ❤️ I received a sign recently and hope the same for all of you!
I hope so! And wish lucky to you
thank you ❤️ claiming this energy
OMG! I so much needed this. Thank you so much ❤
she's intelligent, classy, and not in love with herself; her last point in this video is "golden". High Value Women exercise Self Control....always!
Anna… you are the best….. the sweet little elegant Lady that YOU are🌹
Okay idk why a womyn can't be in love with herself.
I didn’t realize how expensive it was to maintain beauty until I started increasing my value. There’s really no way a high value woman can be a woman with no income or welfare sitting around waiting for a rich man to marry her.
I think it's also about finding luxury in small rituals. You can get the most gorgeous set of china from a charity shop and enjoy your morning coffee like a true queen 👑
Nothing is more feminine than a woman radiating peace from within 💜
Sadly post covid and in the current economy lots of us have no income but still are home doing our nails and hair and keeping home tidy...
I completely agree Monie, as a student it is so hard to keep up with the maintenance without the help of a partner! Some things we just cannot do ourselves and need to pay someone to do a proper job.
You can use domestic products, such as olive oil.
Beside, the one who is beautiful doesnt need too much work.
then I will never have a boyfriend until I finish university and find a job 😭😭😭
Self-care check!
Tidy environment check!
Smell nice check!
Self-development check!
Defensive by default check!
I am happy I invested the time and patience in me, now I can help someone else. Love you.
I'm soon-to-be 19 years old, but I am trying to improve my feminine and elegant energy sooner than later, or never. I apply a subtle makeup every day, take some time to care of myself, trying to have to have a good posture while I'm working, I'm working on my speaking skills, etc. However, I still have my flaws, lol.
Thank you dear Anna for your videos! Bless you!
Im 19 too!! Honestly Annas videos changed my life in so many ways. But unfortunately, there's not many other girls our age who think and act this way. they are all still so caught up in boring teenage drama and honestly it can get a little lonely
@@madeinhungaria2342 Yay, sister! :)))
I understand your feelings about other girls and even friendships sometimes... not everyone shares my point of view about femininity, etc. Some girls in my classroom have chose to act like teenage boys and speak aggressively... but I've chosen femininity!
It's sooo nice to know that other girls of my age are watching Anna's videos! It's so exciting.
Thanks for your reply and take care. :))))))
I wish I had Anna’s videos when I was 19 because it would have saved me a lot of time! Having a mentor to guide you or someone that you look up like is one very important thing to have!
"Subtle" Best luck on your journey.
@@ameryek.9607 Haha came here for this. Stay in school girls
Dear Elegant Anna, thank you for addressing the “elegant hoarders” with compassion but being straightforward with them/us. I’m a reformed hoarder and wish others to know the peace of mind you get when you spend the effort on decluttering and being tidy. It’s excellent for your confidence. Thank you so much for addressing it. 💐
So proud of you! 🥰
I wish my husband (the hoarder) would listen to this and take it to heart.
Completely agree with you. I think decluttering is a work in progress and it never stops really. At some point decluttering may be synonymous to object replacement if you feel the need to update things. But if one new thing comes in, another old one has to leave....
Hi Anna! I just got back from a date! I have been following your advice, and he didn't even seem to want the date to end! After I got home, I remembered not to text first, within a few mins he sent a message thanking me for a wonderful afternoon. Thank you so much for helping us ladies 🌹
Awesome! Good luck 💕
@@cindy846 thank you fellow elegant lady 🌹
Hi I will have a date soon too. He is coming to my city and I am not sure what to do because of covid lockdown. I thought about having a picnic at the beach.
@@user-jq1kg6ob8e please can you help me i wanna an advice
Congratulations! Update us on that date!
Wow, even though I consider myself as a feminine lady, I never notice that being defensive was keeping me from being feminine. Attitude is everything. Thank you Ana! 💖
I thought that was the most interesting point she made today. I do think defensiveness does not really affect feminity itself. But it does certainly impact if people see you as high worth.
Idk we still have the right to speak up if we have to.
@@elisereynolds945 I also thought that people can get kind of aggressive when they get defensive and that is more masculine. Maybe that is what she meant? Anyway, it's a good consideration I am going to think about.
I love how you don’t set boundaries for our potential, just keeping our femininity fresh!
Anna is a gift from heaven: She teaches us to be beautiful and elegant inside and outside. God bless her
Glad you touched on education and non stop learning. Elegance + wisdom is definitely a yes yes.
Very good advice! This video makes me appreciate my Mom so much! My elegant mama has all these good traits. She was always learning something--she taught herself several languages and at age 50 decided to take up violin and within 10 years was performing in a symphony. She always hiked and rode horses, trained wonderful dogs, and was always heavily involved in community projects. She still handles everything with good humor and grace even though she's 96 now and needs round the clock nursing assistance. She was a fantastic role model! I also think her good attitude and constant self-development are what kept my wealthy Dad interested in her for over 50 years. He was really proud of her!
I apply perfume even when I’m by myself.
Same here
I definitely need to start doing that, I keep looking at my perfume collection wishing I had more opportunities to use it.
Same
Me too it’s for me no one else! Shocks me that friends turn on perfume cleaning the house for men...Seems pretty dirty to me!
Same, even after my evening bath I put a little on before bed
Dear Anna,
I’m 33 I just discovered your channel and I love it! I’m not personally looking for a man right now, but class, education and elegance it’s very difficult to find in people. The best way to be surrounded by high value people is to start with yourself. With you I have learned not only elegance tips but also how to treat people and how to respect myself by respecting others.
“An elegant little flower that you are” 🌹👑
Who else adores her? Love you, Anna! ❤️
I can't believe how much my lifestyle and my character have changed ever since I've started watching your videos, all I wanna say is thank you, Anna❤️😊
I love the last tip. Letting go of the desperation to prove myself has been a huge focus for me right now in my upleveling journey. When you are confident in who you are, there is no need to prove it to other people ❤
Yes caring about what others think is irrelevant when in your mind your the richest woman alive
So true! Great comment. Thank you. ❤️💯
You're one of the few who's videos I immediately watch.
I can relate to this!💘
Me too... I rarely click on any videos. But something about Anna! Her content is really good
@@nikithashree339 True, I think Anna's appeal also comes from her being controversial and not caring. She knows what she wants and how she likes it, and she's never shy to admit it.
She JUST SOOO OWNS IT!!
❤ THAT!
I am addicted to her too.
thanks Anna for reminding me that I need to take care of myself. Since I moved in with my partner, I almost neglected myself because I love the feeling of taking care of him. My "me time" is almost gone and we spend almost all our time together. Thanks for reminding me!
This is your colour. 💙
For all my years, your last point about defensiveness is so valuable, and in this age of attacks on social media of utmost importance. There have always been people who attack others, because of jealousy, or just plain meanness, but it is intensified 1,000 percent on all media platforms. Trying to understand where that personal attack is coming from, and to hold back a response that is measured and kind is probably the biggest breakthrough in personal development a woman can achieve. Thank you for saying this, Anna!
My life is so much better since I met you! Thank you, Anna!
I like how Anna is focusing also on creating an elegant environment in this video - it's more overwhelming because having an elegant appearance/manners is already a LONG journey, but these tips are still essential to know! Thank you Anna
Best etiquette teacher. She is elegant 🥰🥰 her clothes looks lavish
It's 1.30am in South Africa right now and here I am watching every Anna Bey video I can find.. It's the new year, I need to be reminded and also grow into a more elegant and classy lady. Guess what? I'm loving every second of it😍😍😍
I like to spray perfume on my clothes. Because of laws that protect fragrance manufacturers from sharing “trade secrets,” almost every perfume sold commercially is crammed with chemicals that aren’t listed individually on the product packaging. As for home fragrance, I purchase pure essential oils add them to a spray bottle with distilled water. Makes a natural product that helps cleanse and freshen the air.
Same here l don’t spray perfume directly on my skin..I spray on my clothes because I feel like they contain a lot of harmful chemicals for humans
Very true. I check EWG skin deep website for the safer options.
I need to do this for the home i am concerned at how many harmful chemicals are in my aerosol spray bottles of home fragrance
I never thought of the chemical aspect, but I always found it lasted longer on my clothes vs on my skin, plus your own body’s smell can change the composition of the perfume, so I find you get more of the actual scent
I can't wear most perfumes anymore after I've been having chemical reactions to them 😒
It’s funny I am a guy but I really like watching your videos and they are quite relevant to guys as well. I love the last step about the being defensive. Really great video thanks can’t wait to see the next one.
I’m in the process of Marie Kondo-ing my house right now!! I’m reading the book “the life changing magic of tidying up”
Marie Kondo is an Angel! Also look into books on Shintoism and Feng Shui.
@mindshare I didn't make it thru the first 3 times either. But what DID work for me was to take each area and break it down to bite size pieces.
For exampke, instead of taking all your clothes out at 1 time, try working on your closet for 10 minutes. Get a box, set your phone for 10 minutes and go through your clothes, what you don't like, doesn't fit, etc. put into box. Come back to it the next day and try again. Some days I did 10 minutes, other it took 30 or 1 hour, so it at your pace, try on items make new outfits...It works!
Helped me a lot.
I love these short videos!!!! All the influencers around the world are making 40 minutes TH-cam videos, just to give a message that could have been said in 5 minutes. So, thank you Ana for making videos for us, and not TH-cam! We really appreciate that! ❤
Agreed 👍!!!!!!! Love this
Ilove the way you always say. “Hello my dear elegant ladies” that is me thank you Anna
The best thing I love in your videos is that you always encourage women to learn and educate themselves. Very beautifully you described that self-care is not just getting your nails done, skin care but also learning and focusing on growth as a human. And the tip you shared on Instagram was really helpful :)
Hi Anna, since you were talking about perfume...could you make an elegant perfume collection/favorite brands video or podcast? Perfumery is such an elegant and feminine art form.
I suggest you watch Jeremy Fragrance, he talks about perfumes for both male and female, it's very helpful
Great idea!
I'll check him out!!! 💗🌺
Jeremy is just repeating himself. Follow Demi Rawling
@@pppary Thanks for your review i'll check her out ^^
I’ve spent today binge-watching these videos. They’re so well put together, and I really do think so many women could learn about themselves and the men/women they choose as partners. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with wanting more for ourselves, especially if we are worth it.
Omg! Blue is definitely your color!!! You look stunning my dear Anna❤️❤️
She's back!
Anna looking like a literal queen sitting in the chair👑👸
I am so glad you were able to get your channel back up! ❤
Self education is still legitimate education. Lots of people said they learned more about economics from Dave Ramsey and Robert Kiyusaki. That is better than taking a student loan and going to college. I would rather self educate. That is why TH-cam is the best type of social media, unlike TikTok where you don't learn much.
Preach!!!! Schools these days are indoctrination camps and full of nonsense. I was an A+ student going to school to be a nurse and future goal was neurologist I dropped out and started self educating and I have never been smarter in my life. I buy at least 3 books on amazon every month and maintain learning that is actually productive....
Never stop learning!!! That is your best tip. I take classes constantly just for fun and to keep my brain active. It makes life (and me!) more interesting! Also, I am 6 and very thin and have fun with fashion! Both of these traits make anyone more interesting and attractive.
I’d love a video on your favorite home fragrances, or on anything home related! “How to have an elegant home”☺️
Yes pls!!!!!
That would be great 😊
True!
Yes I was wondering the same thing.
I think I needed to hear, the defensive part. This weekend, I went into such a defensive-victim mode. After the discussion I felt, "why did I do that ? That's not even me!", but damage is done. I am sure the others have had there mindset/ conclusion of me. Just needed to hear it again and remind myself that I am an elegant lady and instead of blaming others and playing a victim, I should take ownership.
Wow Anna, from the moment I opened the video I was impressed by how that color makes you glow. Great example of how using your best personal colors can make you look radiant.
You are just "the person" I was needing!💜 About being defensive, I totally agree with everything you said. I was generally so much defensive and this trait made me really aggressive. And the offensive mode of mine made the situation more spicy by making me too dominating, even I started feeling like trash. Now I am really trying to change and elevate myself to being an elegant lady from inside and outside!
Ah my face lit up as soon as I got a notification saying Anna posted❤❤
I love that Anna is the one showing us exactly what not to do, like applying perfume and taking selfies with the mess around! Also, thanks to Anna, I‘be been improving all of my habits in life!
I’m so glad Anna mentioned to only apply perfume on the pulse points! So many ladies overspray or apply fragrance and it is overpowering . Only cheap perfume is overpowering.
Her advice on spraying fragrance on the pulse points only is not universal. It depends on how hydrated your skin is, the concentration of the scent, and the weather that determines how much and where on the body you can spray. Most luxury fragrances come from the Middle East and those scents have a potent oil concentration which is why you can get away with those little dabs. Roja Dove the leading perfumer in the world says a lady should spray anything that is in motion from skin to scarves. You shouldn't use perfume on your neck though because the alcohol can age the delicate skin in the neck area.
@@dabarefootbombshell yes your right, never on the neck, only behind the ear. I wouldn’t suggest spraying on scarves , the oils will stain the fabric and also break down natural fibers like silk or cashmere.
I just walked through a cloud of fragrance from someone on the street...couldn't place the scent, but it was from the 90's.
And I noticed 4 hours later walking to my car, the stairwell was still full of that scent.
@@lindafry8015 Probably Giorgio Beverly Hills. LOL!
I agree
Thank God your channel is restored! Hope you’re well Anna!
World would be a better place if as many women as possible would start follow these advices 🤍👌🏻
Sadly I don't think it's all on us..
@@fairydust950 I do genuinely believe that, if women are happy, kind and educated, they will raise better children, have better relationships with everyone around them, therefore the whole society would go in a better direction.
Us, women have so much influence around us, over men, over children, over environment, therefore the whole world would improve if we all, would become better selves.
Exactly right! Simple elegance 🙏💫🌟⭐️My Daughter’s are highly educated and they can do everything and so can I .. it’s good to see them pick fabulous husbands, make smart decisions and continue to grow.. self esteem from a deeper well rounded place.
Men AND women, where applicable. 💗🌺
@@annaarneja2390 if you also listened what Anna said, the world outside you, reflex your inner world.
Sometimes, even the physiologists say, that if you want to changes things inside you, you can start from outside as well, as everything it’s mirrored and connected.
Anna calling me an elegant flower made my day 😍😂
I'm glad you've upload a video because I badly needed this. The room is messy and I don't have motivation to continue my Japanese lessons. Thank you again, Anna!
Time to sleep.
I'm in dental profession.
Beautiful smile is always A+ for any lady; so please taking care of your teeth😀- you look fabulous Anna!
I'm start using crest 3d dental whitener at home..is it safe doing treatment at home?
Would you say that a tooth stain ruins your image? I have a random stain on my front tooth and have been thinking of getting it done .
Always A+ for everyone
I wish I had a dollar for every time someone ( male or female) has said to me” ( this is actually a quote from my sister to me ) why have you had so much dental work? You have a beautiful smile. EXACTLY!!! I’ve had root canals + crowns only to have the teeth yrs later fall apart. Enter the world of removal + sinus lift+ bone grafts+ implants, tissue grafts, + crowns. Painful? You bet! Expensive? Beyond belief! Worth it? Every cent! I do not have a ton of $$$ ! I’m literally paying off work I just had Two teeth broke off at the gum so back in the saddle again! The same lab( the owner personally makes my crowns ) for 20-+ yrs! I’ve heard more times than I can count” well if that’s how you want to spend your money- then so be it. “ I have priorities!”! Well so do I! Put on a beautiful simple dress( I like Ann Taylor) great little sling back heels, makeup done well, hair nicely cut etc then open your mouth with broken, chipped or missing teeth- guess what you now look cheap+ trashy. The term” elegant” just went out the window! Clean moderate makeup, expensive clothes that look it( I go online for sales) nice nails( no crazy long, skulls painted on them, nails, classy keep it classy! To men that are worth it- classy is sexy. Trashy is trashy. ❤️
My front teeth overlap each other very slightly but I don't have any problem of food getting stuck in between them. So do you think I need to get braces done?
"Remember that life?" The way you delivered it, was elegantly funny.. love it ❤
I really love that you promote education! It really shows if you’re a high caliber person. My biggest learning from today’s video is to further improve my self-care routine 😊🙏🏻
I feel so blessed to have you Anna 🤗🤗🤗
Being tidy!
Was always a No No even when I was younger, especially the undies that is/was placed wherever, I remember how my Dad once told us that if you are that kind of Lady, as if you are putting your genitalia just wherever too! And it will definitely reflect what kind of person you are, whether you are hygienic and a smart Lady he used to tell us.
An elegant Lady knows how to managed their emotions, not defensive at all, you got me there bulls eye! I am working hard not to be so defensive but rather act in an elegant manner, not that easy but can be developed to be that elegant Woman I want to be.
Thank you so much Anna!
Thank you Anna for your love and insight. Education is so important and you provide such worthy knowledge. I just enrolled for the fall semester to finish my bachelor's degree in humanities and communication. Having your support really gives me peace of mind. Love you dear beautiful Anna!
Anna- I am so happy to see such a positive and healthy example for women. This levels up what is possible for each of but also for us as a community of women. Keep it up.
So glad your channel is back
Anna Bey, your channel is getting better and better! "Less drama" is my favorite point.
The last habit and tip is really important to save you energy! Taking a defensive position when being triggered can happen again and again, over and over, costing so much energy every time.
If you learn, why you are triggered and how you can handle this sensitive point, care for this point... Then the trigger won't effect you anymore, because you can handle it well self-aware and elegant like a lady! :)
Thank you Anna for this tip!
Is it weird that my self care is planning? I just love planning so much.. It makes me feel so put together and ready😃😃
Its nice but i think balance should be applied.
I like the last habit the most. Nothing more liberating than being able to manage your emotion and perspectives.
I love the way you present your content Anna, you’ve really evolved over time. Congratulations and thank you for sharing your ideas and knowledge! I go through my wardrobe twice a year and declutter clothes that no longer serve me. Last year I took it a step further and Marie Kondo’ed all my drawers. I love pampering my skin at night, diffuse essential oils in my home, and wear a little perfume everyday. I do it for me, because..... I’m so worth it! Cheers from Montreal!
Tip number 5! All the way! I see this trait with many women. It is something I have worked hard to overcome. Many just don’t recognize it as a problem and assign the trigger on the other person. And you are right, it creates unnecessary drama and negative emotions. Bravo for speaking the truth!
The first thing I bought with my first salary is my perfume. I got a Lacoste perfume and I use it everyday, even if I am staying indoors. Wearing no perfume makes me feel naked..
I agree with you but personally, I feel naked with no lipstick
I feel that way without earrings
I feel naked without perfume, lipstick and earrings 😁
Did the same! It was Michael Kors Sexy Amber :) Actually I need to check this fragrance again, I remember I really liked it!
l am obsessed with scents
“I can only be accountable for myself, my actions, and reactions”
-me. ✨💯
Anna has changed my life a 360 degrees. Thank you Anna for everything your do for all of us. ❤️
Im happy for both of you sisters ❤❤❤
180! 💖
360? that is no change at all
@@juliapower9792 lool 😂 I think she meant a huge change in her lifev
@@juliapower9792 She meant 180 degree
Number 5 is so important, I've learned that vulnerability and not immediately jumping the gun has made me so much happier in life and at work ❤️
Anna don't forget the video about jewellery and finances. Am still waiting for the Seychelles podcast episode as am from Seychelles.
Thank you Anna, I’ve really been focusing on decluttering, my husband is a minimalist and I’m a maximalist and it’s been a point of contention in our relationship because I was so defensive. I’ve seen the light in a sense, and I’m on my own minimalist/organized journey!
More women have this problem than men.I suspect it has some deep nurturing elements. It is not classified as a sickness though, just a disorder.
yes! i needed this! I'm always in a defensive mode and it's so hard to let go of this mindset... but I'm working on it! I'm taking baby steps and i know i will be much better if i keep going :)
Being aware of it is half the work done.
So glad im catching up on your vids! I am sharing this with my bff... I was on a date with a wealthy man and he said something a bit unkosher; i told her about it and she got mad at me for not being defensive and telling him like it is! I was like girl! I am not defensive and wont be just to prove my point and ruin my 'bag' so to speak lol... I hope she learns because being a gi jane all the time is not cute and a huge turn off for men! Very masculine indeed! xxo💖💖
Absolutely Educated..never stop learning..never stop
There are so MANY positive comments on Anna's videos. It would be great to have a chat group for us ladies just to keep momentum and have mutual support. As off now I'm waiting done with old toxic habits. It's just hard staying consistent esp when you surrounded with negative people like family. But we do what we must to reach goals even if it means that you have to compromise for a while.
That blue dress color is everything. It look so well on you ❣️
So happy you got your channel back up.
Would you please share your favourite perfumes that don't smell cheap or too girly? X
This is very personal even though a perfume is not cheap or a certain breaks does not means it’s subtile for you.. it all has to do with your PH
So relieved that your channel is back !
thanks a lot for continued love, support and inspiration ❤
You changed my view on so many things and only for the better. I am still unlearning many harmful things - that I should have goals like men and approach life like a man to be valued. My eyes are opening and it's mainly thanks to you.
I like that you are using colours to be more feminine. Love the seashells from the background as well.
Thank you, Anna, I loved the video, especially Tip #2. I also appreciate that you include images of women of colour who are often excluded from the high society/elegance conversation
Great video 💙 Sometimes I would feel bad for spending money on myself, but learned I am investing in myself. This is not an excuse to buy random things, but things that add value to my life without being excessive. Two very nice outfits that will last decades rather than a few cheap pieces that I will want to throw away after one year, but hold on to for five years taking up space in my closet. Good perfume, good haircuts, etc. Yes to these good habits!
Anna, would you please do a video on friendship? Like tips for networking and keeping that connection. I don’t have problems meeting people due to my surroundings, however I have a really hard time turning high class acquaintances into friendships, hanging out, etc
Therapy is working for me,thanks to you I started attending therapy sessions.
Our instructor in human behavior and personality development would always remind us that in facing any situation (stimulus) always be proactive and not reactive. It takes a lot of endurance to control your reaction but it's worth it since you will learn how not to stress yourself each time you are faced with uncomfortable situations in the long run. Thank you always for such great tips Anna. Watching your videos is my way of further educating myself.
These feminine elegance classes are absolutely brilliant. I have always been interested in this topic, even to better understand the female soul. This expertise shared here, enables me to be able to better interact with my wife about various analogous situations. Thanks dear Anna Bey for sharing with us these admirable references 💐🙏
I wish I could hit "Like" a second time. Thank you for helping us be fully feminine and blossom into what we truly are.
These videos have been so helpful! You have opened my eyes to how powerful femininity actually is and now I feel more in tune with myself than ever! Thank you Anna and wish you all the best!
You get better each time Anna. Really happy for how far you have come. CONGRATULATIONS.