as I am watching Anna's video I want to write some things from my also 30s experience on this earth: - Do not chase men. Remember you are the prize, not the other way around. - Focus on yourself and on your future. Education, courses etc. Something that will give you money and secure your future. - Do not be mens' psychologist. If you decide to babysit man with personal problems you are giving him free psychological consultations and they are specialists for that, it is not your role. You are neither his mother nor psychologist - Do not go 50/50. If you are living with him and going 50/50, this is not partnership, you are roommates. - Do not let men gaslight you. Example? 'oh, you are overreacting'. No, you are not, this is your reaction which is appropriate to the situation you are in. Take care ladies.
We just need more of this kind of comments. I'm almost 20 years old & I'm SO afraid to set "extreme" boundaries with men (I've never had any relationship with a man yet) like 50/50 payment when we go out. I'm actually afraid that I have not or wont have the chance to have a high caliber man in my life (not necessarily rich)
@@konstantina5217 It is better to be single and treat yourself well than to be with a man who does not treat you with respect. A lot of people who are afraid of being by themselves (especially men who are interested in you but don't meet your standards) will try to tell you otherwise. Don't waffle. Don't accommodate. Don't settle. If something is important to you and not to him, he's not the one. It's not a judgement on his value as a person. It just is what it is. Protect your heart, and protect your time! ❤️
I welcomed my team one morning with 'good morning elegant ladies' and another lady came to me afterwards and said 'oh my gosh have you been watching that awesome lady on TH-cam too?'!
"Use your nicest things at all times" is probably the best piece of advice Anna has ever given me. I'm always afraid to wear my nice clothes because I think I need to keep them for "special occasions" (this is also how my parents educated me), and the result is that they always stay in my closet unused. Hearing Anna say it was linked to a poor person's mindset is a breakthrough and it makes so much sense, like when people used to wear their nice clothes only on Sundays for church lol.
No! You don't have to be harsh on yourself, you have all the rights to wear whatever you want to, and don't mind people's looking cause whenever you do people are going to criticize everyone, so be confident about your decisions and do what make you happy.
I just did this... my (ex) boyfriend wanted me to do something that I didn’t, and he started to say that I am not like his exes,his exes was involed in everything, he started to saying me not nice things... and I was like: I am not gonna have competition with your exes,I am not gonna do something that I don’t want just to show you that I am the same or even better than that woman.. I walked away and I said: Good luck! A real woman is stand for herself in every situation 🙏☺️
I really enjoyed this video, so happy to see you sharing with women such positive lifestyle choices. May I offer my perspective from nearly 60 years on this earth-- things I wish I had known when I was just becoming an adult: 1. Be ok with being alone. There is a huge difference between NEEDING a man and WANTING a man. Don’t settle. 2. You have to be happy in your own skin before you can be happy in a relationship. Focus on your education and establishing your career. Learn to manage your finances and your life and to stand on your own two feet as an independent woman FIRST. The confidence you gain will project to the world, and in turn, make you more and more attractive. 3. You don’t need as much stuff as you think you do. Nobody needs ten eyeshadow palettes. A lot of stuff just drags you down. A lot of times we think quantity is as satisfying as quality- but it isn’t. It’s so much more satisfying and joyful to have ONE perfect thing, than five ok ones. And like Anna said, use your best things and enjoy them. 4. Be mindful of this thing about men-- you cannot change them. I don’t mean little quirks- we all have those. I mean the big stuff, the red flags. Men are on their best behavior when dating-- marrying them won’t change them. Make sure you are happy with your man AS IS before committing. 5. You’re not his mommy. There is a difference between caring for your partner and babying him. The more you baby him, the less of a man he’ll be in your eyes. 6. Always take care of yourself first. Eat healthfully, exercise, take care of your skin, hair, nails, etc. Get enough sleep. Save your money. Always be learning. All of the things Anna teaches for being classy and elegant. Invest in yourself.
7 LIFE CHANGING TIPS 1.Always carry a Steamer @3:12 2.Get Therapy @5:59 3. Define your lifestyle goals @9:35 4. Take care of your hair and skin @11:53 5. Use your nicest things at all times @13:29 6. Be attentive to detail @16:08 7. Setting boundaries with men @18:01 . Thank you Ana! 💖
I have that bad habit to not using or wearing my nicest things (clothes, accessories, makeup...) I always say to myself I will keep this for a special occasion and I end up wearing the same things everyday, but from now on every day is a special occasion. Btw, we missed you a lot 💕💕💕
When I was in primary school I used to keep a set of nice erasers for a special school occasion. I'm at my thirties and the erasers are still there. The occasion never came. I did the same with a pair of heels and after many years in the closet they started falling apart. I decided to use everything the day or week I buy them.
Ay Anna, I always keep my best perfume, shoes, dress, hang bag, "for a special day", and the day sometimes never comes, and my things become out of fashion, thank you for pointing that out.
Literally me. How disappointing it is when the piece of clothing you liked so much and only worn once is out of fashion before next time comes around. This was a good advice though!
I have had similar problem, because I have been having jobs where dressing up would seem awkward, plus living a lifestyle in a small town (which is more like a village, tbh). So, I changed a job :)
What she said. I also have two boys and I am teaching them to be gentlemen with the ladies. They open the door for me they give me flowers when they see one. People always say great job mom. So world you are welcome.😁 I just hope one day they find a classy lady. Im thinking so far ahead now.😬
If i ever have children, i'll teach them to be elegant. or invest in classes where good manners and elegance are taught. And i already hope that they'll find elegant/well mannered partners, LOL
100 % hands up for raising awareness on setting boundaries with men! Women put up with low-class men way too many times and don't say no because they don't want "to be awkward" or to have the man lose his interest. This looks desperate and gives the man all the power while depreciating the value of the woman and treating her as she would want to.
Yes also thinking women have to save and change a bad man into a good one. Women feelin pity to leave a relationship thinking bout him , and that she might be called "selfish " for wanting more of HERSELF in life .
There's also men who tries to bring you down, or lower your standards. Many women tend not to fall for it but I wish I've learned this sooner, save me from the wasteful heartbreaks
Dian Prasetyo not many men allow a woman to bring them down. It’s usually the other way around. Usually the men with low class women are also low class men, and in that case they are perfect for one another 👌
@@vinvinsubs there is an old biblical saying never cast your Pearls Before Swine. Lest they trample upon them. Low class men have no clue about a high-class woman they're going to treat them low because that's their mindset because they're thinking in a low-class way and never going to change and just to bring you down. Ladies take care of your pearls!
Use your nicest things at all times - this is so true, i always “save” my nice things for a special occasion but then that time never comes and i just end up never wearing it
I love when I shop in a store (pre- Covid) and the sale associate would ask me; which occasion are you buying this dress for? " None , I always find an occasion!". And I do even if it just for cocktail hour or going for brunch.
Exactly. Pull that dusty 2nd set of china out the china cabinet and use it everyday 🙂 You can get whole sets (of quality brands) for fairly cheap on marketplace or 2nd hand. Learned this tip from an interior designer.
Just remember, dont tell a therapist anything you would not want used against you in court. No law in the USA will prevent your therapist from testifying against you if they want to. The law allows them to refuse to testify if they wish to preserve client confidentiality, but if they want to testify, the client is powerless to stop them. It happened to me, in family court. Don't let it happen to you. As a result, I will not recommend therapy to anyone. Fortunately the judge in the case was not impressed and I won the case. But just remember, just because someone is a licensed therapist doesn't mean they are trustworthy!
@@abeal49 if you had confessed something by law they are required to contact the police. anything besides that seems like the other side is fishing for something that isnt there
As a psychologist, I appreciate enormously your comments on the value of therapy. I never ask a client to do something I haven't already done on myself, including getting my own therapy for my own personal growth and development. Search until you find a practitioner whom you resonate with because the relationship is extremely important to your ultimate success in reaching the goals you have for your growth and development, your healing, and your overall self-confidence and well-being. And remember, you get out of it what you put into it, so go prepared to do your work.
I would love to see this get into the mainstream healthcare profession. Providers who decide to get therapy need to be protected from the stigmatization that’s going on in the US. I think every doctor needs a therapist!
b R 👍👍👍. Certain states require physicians to answer ‘have you ever’ type questions regarding mental health while applying for licensure. Not New York though! One of our strong points :)
I think the chemestry is the hardest thing. I recently found someone with whom I hit of and my mental helth took a huge leap. I think 2020 made me so much stronger, and now I feel unstopable.
Anna Bey is an incredible case study. She is articulate about what she believes in, never imposes it on people, stands true to her Philosophy while respecting people who don't share the same convictions as her, and actually has a LOT to offer which every party could benefit from. I followed her last week after getting recommended and after watching hours of her content, I realized how much I learnt from her. This woman is actually for real, guys. From her perspective, she has a point, even if we disagree with her in many areas. It's really interesting. I see a powerful, elegant lady here.
@@punamgodse7151 It may be. I've noticed everyone in my town wears leggins, sweatpants. Sometimes I feel I'm the only one that puts an effort and women look at me. But I don't lol.
My journey started with you Anna Bey!!! I randomly found your channel during the early days of COVID. I remember turning the tv off as my partner walked in as I was embarrassed he’d “catch me” or “judge me”. And boy have I changed?!!! The first change I made was getting rid of the “bling bling 2 ft long colorful” nails I was known for. I still have a long way to go. Nonetheless, my proudest achievement thus far is gainful employment after over a decade out of the labor market. A position I love which brings my income to the 6 figure mark. A first ever!!!! I’m in awe of the new me living her best life. Thank you for your guidance my dear, elegant lady. Thank you to those who keep reacting to this comment and reminding me of my journey. I’m STILL kicking ass! I wish you same! @Belmoun
Wow! It would be awesome if you made a video explaining your before and after! It sounds like the law of attraction came on full force for you, congratulations!
Stevie Michelle I haven’t read the book but I’ve watched several videos from different TH-camrs on the law of attraction. I’m happy to report I’ve been employing it, and I swear, it looks like the universe is bending over backwards to get me what I want. And thank you my dear elegant lady! I wish us all much success.
The Red Cat thank you for the interest but I’m not very tech savvy. I also don’t think I have the interest for that right now. And given my new position is with the federal government, it probably wouldn’t be a good idea. I will continue to comment here and there and try to encourage others.
My mother taught me much of these things-I feel blessed. She looked me over before leaving for school to make sure there were no threads hanging from my clothing snd made sure that I kept my shoes clean and polished and in good shape. She taught me about dressing appropriate for the occasion. We weren’t wealthy for sure but she was cognizant of looking our best snd having good posture and manners. Much of the time good manners creates good boundaries as well. Thank you for your work Anna!
Also, when my girls were little I made sure they were clean and nicely dressed always, even when the local fashion was dressing like ragamuffins. I did this to encourage other people to treat them nicely. It worked. I did this even when I had to make their clothes out of the scraps in my sewing basket- yes they were cute and unique.
It sounds as though you & I were blessed with elegant ladies for our Mothers! How wonderful for us both! I see so many young girls and ladies who most surely need Anna teachings and I direct them to her videos.
I wish I would have had this sort of advice when I was growing up. I am 50 and it’s taken me a long time to grow into my confidence and success. Young ladies, take note.....this is great advice. 🥰
@Doro Parker while the information may have been there, she obviously wasn’t privy to it. Some of us didn’t have parents or caregivers to point us in the right direction.
Anna inspires me to new heights every time she speaks! I (traditional feminist) recently spoke to my best friend (modern feminist) about what kind of guy we described as “perfect”. And one of my boundaries were “He has to be able to drive”. My friend was shocked. She said “I can drive myself, what if he gets annoyed that he has to pick me up all the time?” And then I was shocked “If a man thinks that picking you up is an inconvenience and that you aren’t worth enough to be picked up when he wants some of >>your
I disagree. I mean we are not made of glass. And we are people, Im sure sometime he will be tired, not in the best moment etc to drive you. What are you going to do? Leave him just bc he is human? I think we should have expectations but come down from the high horses once in a while. Id totally drive if my man for some reason cant.
I think the more obvious response from a modern feminist is why isn't he worth your time to share the workload? Like you can both pick eachother up if you both drive? You should both want to do for eachother regardless of if that is you cook&clean and he works or you both work and both drive. Doesn't really matter end of day its just division of labour in a relationship. I agree with you that your partner shouldn't see anything you have to do for eachother as an inconvenience. That relationship will be doomed
Enxhi Leba I agree. I thought she meant he has to drive because having a car is a luxury and an expensive one at that so him owning one should show a sign of financial responsibility......not because he’s her chauffeur.
Are you sure she needs to create a video ? She needs to create a channel and play it on repeat in that case some women may realize the reason there are so many miss-behaving men out there is due to what some women are doing, selling themselves and their values so short, as she put it putting men on pedestal, and putting up with whatever...
Anna, you helped me level up my mindset to find a great, affluent guy, he treats me well and respects me and there is never a thought in his mind to go 50/50! I absolutely love him and he loves me :)
@F U that is not true. My dad is very wealthy and never cheats on my mom. My older brothers r also very wealthy and were raised by my dad to be careful messing around with women. They r married n loyal
Anna - I just want to say thank you. I found your videos during Covid and they inspired me to start “leveling up” my life. I applied to a top graduate school and I’m going to graduate in May. That decision truly set my life on a different course and has allowed me to meet other focused people.
Tip 8: Start doing sports. I noticed that sport helped me personally gain more confidence. Not to mention it helps with your mental and physical health as well. Anna you are amazing! I love all your videos and you motivated me to elevate my whole way of life. Thank you 😊 💓.
The quality of men are indeed declining! I don't know what happened in the world, but we have this generation of man-children...and ladies are chasing after them! If the guy can't put away the PlayStation to have a decent conversation with you, why are you with him? Next thing you know, you will have 2 kids with this man-child (3 if you count the man-child himself), and he will be too busy playing Grand Theft Auto to take care of a crying infant, let alone do anything around the house. NEVER SETTLE!
It's because we have delayed men becoming men -leavi g home getting a job and getting married and being expected to provide. Because of the 50/50 men think that they don't have to work as hard but still reap rewards. Lots of men are being raised with porno is an example of how sex is supposed to go, raised with no positive male role models because 1 single mom or B. Double income parents to tired to actually parent .
I agree~ men aren't being raised properly. Mothers are spoon feeding men and fathers are raising womanizers and bullies. I'll be single for a loooong time
@@missmimi6817 Yeah because most women here are such great prices worth being worhsip like a goddess simply for being there,.... seriously this counts for both genders.
I love how you can really feel Anna’s sincere desire to make sure her viewers have a sense of self worth. Learning to say no, and knowing your personal value is so important in relationships. Nothing worse than giving your best, only to realize it was a one way relationship the whole time.. You live and learn 😉🤗❤️
I've always been a lady who has high standards. I never wanted to settle for a man who was mediocre. I come from a small town where rich people don't really exist. I have faltered in the past, thinking I should just settle for someone because I am lucky that any man should even want me. Luckily, I haven't given in to those wrong beliefs. Thank you so much for your knowledge; I absolutely love your approach to feminism.
Thank you so much ana! I am just 13 years old, but elegance and high-society really appeals to me😀 You are such a great role model! I am so glad my sister introduced you to me..
Hi Anna I m 23 years old I m from India himachal pradesh. I was going through a very hard time of being the Tom boy . I watched many vedios on TH-cam but with u I m able to connect. You are like a guru to me I bow my head in your feets out of respect as we do here in India. Please pardon me for my English as its not my mother tongue. I hope one day I'll become like you I hope I'll be your good student.i love you Anna. A huge respect to you
@@poisonedchalice it's a sign of deep respect in some asian countries. Only an elder or an esteemed teacher can have it among "normal" people. And back kn the time, royalty were also greeted this say in some places.
It’s so important that you bring this message about boundaries. I see many woman mistaking this whole new idea of being ‘’a free woman, that can exercise her power of having casual relationships and casual sex’’ with what it’s REALLY what she wants. It’s like we are being thought that we should be liberal and that is the only way that woman can be happy and feel validated. Stop for a minute and think: are those new standards really what you want in your life ? Also, ladies, if guys are treating you in manners that you disapprove, it’s BECAUSE YOU ARE LETTING THEM DO IT. Set your limits and speak those up from the beginning. Make clear statements of what you are looking for in that relationship. That will save you both time and energy, so you can focus on men that can actually give you what you feel like you deserve.
Me and you couldn't be more different style wise, I am rather punk and tattooed. But I love listening to your videos. You give such wholesome advice that is actually very empowering and refreshing to hear. I love watching. Also, therapy is absolutely incredible and thank you for pushing it in this video.
Such a great point about therapy. There were times when I needed it badly and nobody could help me. We don’t have a practice of having counsellors here. I survived, but I don’t think I ever recovered. And many don’t. I wish I could have found some help at the right time.
Thank you for your guidance. I started watching you when I was 15, I was a 16 year old girl who loved dressing like a boy but now I stopped because I felt like I wasn't the female I wanted to be, but now I am a change, a refined elegant young lady you made my sweet sixteen a beautiful Change of my life.
Point #7 is so so good. I'm the type who finds it hard to say no to friends (males & females alike) but not when it comes to courting. I've had plenty of guys in my life who took advantage of that, after I've tried accommodating in terms of friends they would take it further each time, pushing boundaries, attempting to change by subtly gaslighting or insulting my traits, guilting me into relationship, etc. However I was never the type who hesitates cutting off toxicity nor am I afraid of being alone. When these guys sensed that I was beginning to not feel afraid of drawing my boundaries it seriously turns the table & they'd turn 180 degrees from guilt tripping into respecting People, don't the let desperation change you into something you're not. You're worth much better than guys who take advantage of you, & Anna has pointed that out. *Thank you so much Anna for stressing this point!*
So true about our nicest things being charged with positive energy - love this. Something I'm trying to work on is purchasing only things that I absolutely adore! No more mediocre items in my closet or flat.
I was skeptical when I first saw your videos a few weeks ago. I anticipated superficial advice about self-improvement like other TH-camrs, but you are the most helpful. The advice about therapy and setting boundaries with men is something that needs to be said more often! Especially when women suffering from low self-esteem is so common these days.
hello I'm a girl from Algeria I'm 15 I'm not that good at English but I really love your videos and you teach me every day new words and new fashion rules. thank you so much🥰😇
Tip #7 has me nodding enthusiastically! I really examined myself after the workshop and reevaluated my boundaries with others, myself and men and Anna I am not kidding this has been the BIGGEST change in my life. The way men react to me has absolutely done a 180 degree turn. I stopped being a “yes” girl and accommodating their schedules and timelines and kept myself less available and constantly evaluated my words with the words “be yourself and remove desperation from the scenario” and it has changed so much for me. Thank you so very much for changing things for me. Forever changed. ❤️
Yess! Since starting my feminine journey I knew I had so much to offer women as well, from my terrible experiences of being a man's door mat to going to jail. I literally transformed my life. This is why I started my TH-cam channel that maybe older women can relate too as well.
Im happy to enter your channel not only because of your precious teachings but how much knowledge and love woman share with each other, like a world wide sisterhood. So beautiful, so inspiring, zero toxicity.
Thank you Anna 💗💗💗I have learned so much from you and have gone on this feminine journey because of you. I appreciate you sharing all these gems with us. I am learning to set boundaries with men. I was with a man & I moved in with him . I cooked, cleaned, laundry, did everything for him, but I got nothing in return. no ring , no true commitment. I learned that I was playing the “wife role” without the wife status😭😭I am now learning my worth and what I bring to the table and setting boundaries. Thank you 🥰😘😘😘
Great insights. . I am in my 50s and Anna's advice is always a good reminder we can always continue to level up and expand! She also makes it fun! Thank you Anna
Love your Vase! In mandarin there is the word 喜，however there’s another word 囍. As you can see it’s the same word but x2. Meaning two times the joy! Two times the blessing! Normally in our culture we use this word when someone is getting married ❤️
Meditation is my biggest life-changing tip (and no, I'm not talking about the $$$$ courses out there). I'm referring to the act of being present in the current moment without reacting and letting myself to just be aware of me and the world around me. I've been more calm and focused on self-development since I've started doing it a couple of years ago. Also, welcome back Anna! ❤
Meditation has a lot of benefits, but cannot replace therapy. The best think is to combine meditation with therapy. The same way one combines mediation with intelectual education or physical exercising. Actually many people that are a lot into meditation have a guru with whom they end up doing therapy, in order to develop further. Because people need someone with whom to speak to about the things they tap into during their meditations.
@@nadine7327 I think that therapy is a great tool to use in combination with meditation, only if it works well for the individual. I didn't state anything about therapy, but I must respectfully disagree with your statement. I think that in many cases, meditation has aspects to it that therapy can never heal nor replace and it isn't necessarily the 'best' thing to combine the two together. Here's why. (I'm sorry that this will be a long response.) First, I must clarify that the meditation I was referring to does not require the assistance of any gurus nor people. I think there are misconceptions and stereotypes in the general community about meditation. When people think of meditation, they often refer to the practices of calming your breath/listening to music/centering your mind etc. that are sometimes being 'taught' in classes/courses. If this is the type of meditation that you were referring to in your comment, I'm sorry but this wasn't what I was alluding to. The meditation I practice solely involves being aware and present in the moment, without any judgement. It is similar to the type of meditation that many (sometimes ancient) religious and spiritual practitioners use before meditation was introduced to the world (mostly to the Westernized countries). I'm not sure if you're familiar to what this meditation entails, but I use it to align the different aspects of myself. The best way I can described it is the aligning of the mind, body and soul, but slightly more than that. There are many reasons why I think that therapy isn't always a great combination with meditation (especially the one I practice). The main one being I view meditation as introspection free from any external influence. Combining therapy (which involves the input of another person) takes away from this deeply personal experience and the input from others can influence how you feel/view and align yourself. I personally believe that an individual can still 'grow' without the need to share their own experiences with others. Additionally, there are profound spiritual progress that you can have with meditation that isn't always present in therapy (this might not make sense if you're not into/practicing spirituality). Both therapy and meditation are amazing tools for self-development and self-awareness. But I think it's a bit naive to think and generalize that therapy is better with/than meditation, especially when the type of meditation I'm referring to is something different. I hope that I've properly explained my stance (and I apologize for anything that may come across as offensive - they're unintentional).
I never understood what meditation is about and why is it good. I don't get it what it means being just present. How not to be present? I wish i wasn't present sometimes!
Anna dropping truths like it’s nothing, but doing so elegantly. 🔥 Point 7 is honestly something all of us need to keep reminding ourselves, and I’m glad it was brought up! I can’t wait to go check out your podcast! 😃
As a youngster with troubled mental health even though I had the resources to do magnificent things in life I set too low goals for myself. Ever since I started my self growth journey and watching your videos, I am constantly challenging myself to achieve higher and higher. I started working out, saving up for nicer items, studying for the best university and being 'selfish' and 'picky' on whom I give my time. I admire your teachings so much! Thank you!❤️
I was raised to have a poverty mindset. My family never had money and if I had any nice clothes, I was paranoid about ruining them because I knew there was no money to replace them. As a result, I was always so uncomfortable when wearing them. I'm 49, and still feel that way.
Caroline Brown I read your message and it rang true for me. I call it a inter-generational curse. We deserve quality in our life and our past haunts us.
Money don't grow on trees is a saying for parents to gaslight their children for their own short comings. Subconsciously they telling you that "you're not worth anything" and so when you have nice things you don't feel deserving and become apprehensive. Break that slave mindset. Take one day a week to take care of your self. I like to go get a 30 min massage
Thank you, Anna. Yes, I missed you. I agree with everything you said and especially the last one. The setting boundaries with men, this is so important for women to learn, men need to to value you, as a human being and treat you with respect and not take you for granted or just run over you, or talk over you. Even if you have been married to someone for a very long time, like I have, every once in a while, I have to stand my ground and put my foot down and tell my husband to clean up his language and address me with respect. Just a few weeks ago, my husband said "I am sorry" after I told him about his language and behavior. That doesn't happen to often. But it is worth it just to get their attention, so they realize that you are a human being too, just like them and they need to respect who you are. When I was dating, there was a lot of boundaries with men I dated, because I never needed anyone of them. I was happy being single, happy with my friends and family, happy with my studies and job and happy when I traveled and did my own things, my own hobbies and interests. You have to "Bring something to the table" as a women when you date, or when you marry. A man can not be your entire life and should not be in charge of your own happiness.
Anna ! I’m happy you’ve returned . I have implemented the steaming rule & it definitely makes a huge difference. I agree that therapy would probably benefit everyone and anyone . I used to do but now I just do a lot of reading and private self development. Thank you for being here !
Setting boundaries is the most important thing. I also call it "having certain standards". The more boundaries I set the better people I attract (in general not necessarily romantic partners because I'm already married). Don't accept people talking to you like a little girl, don't accept it when the conversation stirs in a direction that you don't like, don't let people touch you without your permission. Be a "bitch" if you have to because in the end you will win. Either the dusty people will leave you or they will change their behavior.
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I live in the southern U.S. We are touchy, feely. It's not offensive.
Anna. I have been watching your videos casually for 3 years but this week, I have started watching two videos a night during my evening selfcare. I just want to say that you have so much depth and wit than I initially realized. I have so enjoyed learning from you and I'm looking forward to diving into your podcast. I appreciate you being an advocate for femininity, therapy and women's fullest potential of life.
This is great. Because of my tight budget, and weight problem, I used to think I couldn't go beyond putting effort into my hair and makeup, and that was about as far as I could go in the area of self improvement, but now I feel so much more hope for being able to make more positive changes to make life better. Oprah once said you are where you are in life because of what you believe. It's so true. If you believe you are limited, you will be limited. You have to have hope, and a plan to go along with it. I used to be a cosmetology instructor. I was amazed at how much time and effort went into creating a lesson for my students, but I felt it was worth it, so I know first hand how much effort is going into these lessons. Even as a commercial truck driver, this type of advice has helped me with income. For instance. A freight broker picks up the phone and calls a dispatcher and tells the dispatcher that they have a shipment, but it is for a very important and wealthy customer. This customer is a millionaire or a billionaire and so it needs to be a driver that is not going to be off-putting, rude, unkempt, and smelly. This delivery could go to a movie star's house, or the studio of a famous billionaire rapper. So if a driver has a good reputation for being well-groomed and polite, that driver is going to get these types of good paying loads. In some cases, the driver even gets to meet the affluent customer, which can also be fun and uplifting. Just goes to show you that no matter what you do in life, putting effort into yourself will pay off in ways that will surprise you and enrich your life. You are such a sweetheart to create these lessons and master classes at such an affordable cost. Thank you for all the time and effort you put into these lessons.
I'm so happy she brought up the point about therapy, it really is such an important tool. Sadly, I think it is very inaccessible for most people in this world (financially and/or logistically). :(
I always smile while I watch you videos! It's the happy, safe effect you have on people. Watching your videos, listening to you talk and grasping the content (and life advices, most importantly) are giving me hope and vigor to change my life. I smile at my life in my hardest time of my life and I thank YOU for that.
Preach it Anna. These things are so important. From small things to big things, these all have a place. Counseling helps short term and long term. At a couple of points in my life I went to counseling because either I was questioning my goals in life or there was a specific event that happened in my life that was a little too big to handle on my own. I was so glad I was open enough to seek help. Paying attention to detail is something I have trouble doing but if you do, it will so add to your life! I have received a special card or even a post card from a friend and that little detail was so special to me. Being thoughtful, planning out events and outfits and even the way one is to act can really have an impact. Even if it is making sure your shoes are nice and clean. If we value ourselves, men will value us too. Make them work for it. Unfortunately young women do not know how to be valued or to value themselves. They give themselves too easily with little regard to the most important thing in their lives. Once that is gone, it is gone. Setting lifestyle goals will help us to plan our lives so we do not have to worry about a man who will take care of us. If we choose something we love to do and make it our life's work, We can move easily in whatever society we come across. Make your dreams into goals and go for it. You just may reach them.
My life-changing tip is eating more vegetables and setting a goal to become Vegan. Anna, you are so beautiful and I am so grateful our paths have come together the day i found one of your videos in my TH-cam feed. I joined your waitlist for your program, "Secrets Of The Elite Woman". I can't wait until it starts. I really want to have a better and best lifestyle. Your channel is one of my most treasured and valued heirlooms. Thank you so much Anna!
I hope to see you in the Elite woman's group! There is some really lovely ladies in the group! I haven't spent that much money on myself before but it's been worth it!
Studying for an upcoming important power engineering exam in 3 days but saving this video to watch when I'll be driving to my exam! Anna, thank you!!!!! I love learning from you ❤️
Thank you!! I have a husband that supports me and I want to be classier because his family is higher class than mine and his parents do not approve. Theses videos help so much. My husband pointed out that my movements are very aggressive. I slam things often. I swear and yell when I'm upset. I have so many issues to work on. He Flys home tonight and I want to surprise him with my new approach. No swearing yelling or using slang and a better posture to start..
great starting point. look also onto Hoffman process in ur country. it s 1 week deep dive in childhood beliefs very very helpful also a book on Audible "Complex PTSD from surviving to thriving " will help to identify wrong beliefs from a family
Amazing video and tip number 7 really is the most important one! Setting boundaries is to love and respect ourselves, and not being arrogant or thinking we're better than anyone like some sexist men like to claim.
You truly are geniounly elegant. Not fake at all. I really appreciate ur honesty and openness and that u hope and wish “ good “ for others as well. Lots of admiration from Dubai.
Yes you are so correct as we have strayed away from setting boundaries and I am guilty of this. Now I have learn my lesson. We have to shift to understanding how powerful we are and live it.
Thank you Anna it's so inspiring. I was always telling my elementary school daughters to respect themselves, love themselves and only date with men truly respect and love them, because all women deserve it. My husband is a great man that he respect me and adores me, treating me like a queen. We started to date from college at that time I promised my self to be with somebody only treat me the best, since my mom wasn't treated right at home and I was fed of all her complaining. My husbands' close friends are all good men treats their wives very well, so I believe good guys do exist and they stick together since they have same sort of belief.^^ Thank you again and I'll be always looking forward to your next video.
I love that you as an elegant lady are political incorrect - with view that man should pay and respect woman. In today's 50/50 left-orientated society this is rare view. Especially from someone in high class society. I deeply respect you because of your intelligence and that you are a woman who is not afraid to speak words which can face a lot of criticism. Especially from feminists. Regards 💞
I believe it is very feminist what Anna says, to as a woman learn to grow, set boundaries and be equal as men. To say a woman has choices and has worth, is feminist. :)
@@siro4239 i totally agree with you, but this is not the direction where today's feminism went. I feel like today feminists wants to improve man that they can do whatever man can do. And its not any longer about treating woman in proper way, fighting that woman can do whatever man can do its no longer in our favour, as it used to be.
@@kateya0 as Anna says: "some women want to *be* a millionaire, some women want to *marry* a millionare. Both are fine." Putting down women who want to be more masculine or compete with men is just as bad as putting down women who prefer to be more feminine and cared for.
@@sweetyetunrefined9335 this is not what I said. Being strong and independent, being a self-made millionaire is all I ever wanted. What I mean is relantionship savoir-vivre. Caring about woman, opening the doors for her, giving her small gifts, asking her for a date. Many of today's feminists would say - I dont need him open the doors for me, I can do it myself because I am nothing less than him. And in my opinion this is wrong perspective, because this is about role in relation of being more femenine/masculine. Because of many woman men now are not putting an effort and respecting women. We have different needs as different genders and saying that we can do all the same is wrong. Man won't be pregnant. Let's not change our roles in relantionships.
Me too! I love how she gives a different view on something that I feel is almost the general consensus nowadays, while still standing up for women. It is so refreshing, and helps me find my own view instead of just going with what "everyone says".
Seriously, my psychologist tells me we all need to set boundaries, don't let us get walked all over. She was referring to some personal issues in my life but seeing Anna talk about boundaries really resonated with me. I hope we all learn to set boundaries with men. I know I have with two men in my life, and honestly, it feels so freeing to not be worried about what their thinking.
I cannot describe how much I missed you, how much you changed me. You are the life changing tip youtube recommended to me, glad you are back. I am really excited about the podcast. You know, I want to meet you one day, talk to you for an hour or two. Love you Anna
You are incredible . I adore this channel and the way you look at laugh . I feel like your channel is misunderstood by some people ; your advice helps so many people gain self esteem .
I am a student of yours and I am listening to your every tip carefully and establishing in my personal life I love your advice and you show me a light in many life situations. Please keep up the brilliant work you do. Please also post more on femininity n enhancements of qualities in that frame of mind. You are an inspiration 👏💕
as I am watching Anna's video I want to write some things from my also 30s experience on this earth:
- Do not chase men. Remember you are the prize, not the other way around.
- Focus on yourself and on your future. Education, courses etc. Something that will give you money and secure your future.
- Do not be mens' psychologist. If you decide to babysit man with personal problems you are giving him free psychological consultations and they are specialists for that, it is not your role. You are neither his mother nor psychologist
- Do not go 50/50. If you are living with him and going 50/50, this is not partnership, you are roommates.
- Do not let men gaslight you. Example? 'oh, you are overreacting'. No, you are not, this is your reaction which is appropriate to the situation you are in.
Take care ladies.
We just need more of this kind of comments. I'm almost 20 years old & I'm SO afraid to set "extreme" boundaries with men (I've never had any relationship with a man yet) like 50/50 payment when we go out. I'm actually afraid that I have not or wont have the chance to have a high caliber man in my life (not necessarily rich)
Agreed 💞
You are absolutely right!
Excellent points! Thank you for sharing. ♥️
@@konstantina5217 It is better to be single and treat yourself well than to be with a man who does not treat you with respect. A lot of people who are afraid of being by themselves (especially men who are interested in you but don't meet your standards) will try to tell you otherwise. Don't waffle. Don't accommodate. Don't settle. If something is important to you and not to him, he's not the one. It's not a judgement on his value as a person. It just is what it is. Protect your heart, and protect your time! ❤️
Yes we missed our queen of elegance. Glad to have you back x
Love you Lana
Anna is the best, i missed her ❤️❤️
Oh god, my two fav women together.
Omg two of my favs😭😭❤️
@Mike R are you being sarcastic?
I welcomed my team one morning with 'good morning elegant ladies' and another lady came to me afterwards and said 'oh my gosh have you been watching that awesome lady on TH-cam too?'!
Thats so cute
My Daughter heard me watching this and she will come and be like “Dear elegant lady, do you want a cup of coffee”
@@dinasantos5800 hahahaha I loved it!
elegant ladies unite!!!
"Use your nicest things at all times" is probably the best piece of advice Anna has ever given me. I'm always afraid to wear my nice clothes because I think I need to keep them for "special occasions" (this is also how my parents educated me), and the result is that they always stay in my closet unused. Hearing Anna say it was linked to a poor person's mindset is a breakthrough and it makes so much sense, like when people used to wear their nice clothes only on Sundays for church lol.
Thhhiiisssss ❤
No! You don't have to be harsh on yourself, you have all the rights to wear whatever you want to, and don't mind people's looking cause whenever you do people are going to criticize everyone, so be confident about your decisions and do what make you happy.
I just did this... my (ex) boyfriend wanted me to do something that I didn’t, and he started to say that I am not like his exes,his exes was involed in everything, he started to saying me not nice things... and I was like: I am not gonna have competition with your exes,I am not gonna do something that I don’t want just to show you that I am the same or even better than that woman.. I walked away and I said: Good luck! A real woman is stand for herself in every situation 🙏☺️
Terrific, good for you!
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Tamara, the reason the exes did as he told them is the reason for why they are exes now.
So much courage👍
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I really enjoyed this video, so happy to see you sharing with women such positive lifestyle choices. May I offer my perspective from nearly 60 years on this earth-- things I wish I had known when I was just becoming an adult:
1. Be ok with being alone. There is a huge difference between NEEDING a man and WANTING a man. Don’t settle.
2. You have to be happy in your own skin before you can be happy in a relationship. Focus on your education and establishing your career. Learn to manage your finances and your life and to stand on your own two feet as an independent woman FIRST. The confidence you gain will project to the world, and in turn, make you more and more attractive.
3. You don’t need as much stuff as you think you do. Nobody needs ten eyeshadow palettes. A lot of stuff just drags you down. A lot of times we think quantity is as satisfying as quality- but it isn’t. It’s so much more satisfying and joyful to have ONE perfect thing, than five ok ones. And like Anna said, use your best things and enjoy them.
4. Be mindful of this thing about men-- you cannot change them. I don’t mean little quirks- we all have those. I mean the big stuff, the red flags. Men are on their best behavior when dating-- marrying them won’t change them. Make sure you are happy with your man AS IS before committing.
5. You’re not his mommy. There is a difference between caring for your partner and babying him. The more you baby him, the less of a man he’ll be in your eyes.
6. Always take care of yourself first. Eat healthfully, exercise, take care of your skin, hair, nails, etc. Get enough sleep. Save your money. Always be learning. All of the things Anna teaches for being classy and elegant. Invest in yourself.
thank you
Truly wise words
I would like to put #4 on a banner and parade it around the world! Especially “men are on their best behavior when they’re dating” yes ma’am!
Absolutely true!
unless makeup is your passion, meditation and first love, in which case owning over *cough* 150 eyeshadow palettes *cough* is perfectly normal! 😉🤔😬😂
7 LIFE CHANGING TIPS
1.Always carry a Steamer @3:12
2.Get Therapy @5:59
3. Define your lifestyle goals @9:35
4. Take care of your hair and skin @11:53
5. Use your nicest things at all times @13:29
6. Be attentive to detail
@16:08
7. Setting boundaries with men @18:01 . Thank you Ana! 💖
Thank u Anne, U saved my time
THANK U SOO MUCH❤
Thank you!
Thanks
Thank you💕
I have that bad habit to not using or wearing my nicest things (clothes, accessories, makeup...) I always say to myself I will keep this for a special occasion and I end up wearing the same things everyday, but from now on every day is a special occasion.
Btw, we missed you a lot 💕💕💕
I doneth the same, but feeling much better when I start always using the best things I have 💞
When I was in primary school I used to keep a set of nice erasers for a special school occasion. I'm at my thirties and the erasers are still there. The occasion never came. I did the same with a pair of heels and after many years in the closet they started falling apart. I decided to use everything the day or week I buy them.
the same here .... :/ , I end up never wearing them and wear the same clothes everyday
Same for me. I wonder who or when I'm saving it for when I end up adding some weight and never enjoying the outfit and eventually giving them away.
Yes! Everyday is a special occasion!
Ay Anna, I always keep my best perfume, shoes, dress, hang bag, "for a special day", and the day sometimes never comes, and my things become out of fashion, thank you for pointing that out.
Well said I couldn't agree more. I'm trying to get all my good stuff on now every day
I never do hold back. I even broke many of my crystal glasses as I use them daily😛
Literally me. How disappointing it is when the piece of clothing you liked so much and only worn once is out of fashion before next time comes around. This was a good advice though!
I have had similar problem, because I have been having jobs where dressing up would seem awkward, plus living a lifestyle in a small town (which is more like a village, tbh). So, I changed a job :)
Agree.😄
"my dear elegant ladies " ! This sentence just gives u the confidence to start your day and buckle up. Much love from India 💞
Very true
Yep!
What she said. I also have two boys and I am teaching them to be gentlemen with the ladies. They open the door for me they give me flowers when they see one. People always say great job mom. So world you are welcome.😁 I just hope one day they find a classy lady. Im thinking so far ahead now.😬
What a queen 💕 God bless your family.
Aaawww 🥰
If i ever have children, i'll teach them to be elegant. or invest in classes where good manners and elegance are taught. And i already hope that they'll find elegant/well mannered partners, LOL
You are smart woman🙏❤️
An eye on the future is not premature 👍
100 % hands up for raising awareness on setting boundaries with men!
Women put up with low-class men way too many times and don't say no because they don't want "to be awkward" or to have the man lose his interest.
This looks desperate and gives the man all the power while depreciating the value of the woman and treating her as she would want to.
Yes also thinking women have to save and change a bad man into a good one. Women feelin pity to leave a relationship thinking bout him , and that she might be called "selfish " for wanting more of HERSELF in life .
There's also men who tries to bring you down, or lower your standards. Many women tend not to fall for it but I wish I've learned this sooner, save me from the wasteful heartbreaks
Then what about men with a low class women?
Dian Prasetyo not many men allow a woman to bring them down. It’s usually the other way around. Usually the men with low class women are also low class men, and in that case they are perfect for one another 👌
@@vinvinsubs there is an old biblical saying never cast your Pearls Before Swine. Lest they trample upon them. Low class men have no clue about a high-class woman they're going to treat them low because that's their mindset because they're thinking in a low-class way and never going to change and just to bring you down. Ladies take care of your pearls!
Use your nicest things at all times - this is so true, i always “save” my nice things for a special occasion but then that time never comes and i just end up never wearing it
I love when I shop in a store (pre- Covid) and the sale associate would ask me; which occasion are you buying this dress for?
" None , I always find an occasion!". And I do even if it just for cocktail hour or going for brunch.
Exactly. Pull that dusty 2nd set of china out the china cabinet and use it everyday 🙂
You can get whole sets (of quality brands) for fairly cheap on marketplace or 2nd hand.
Learned this tip from an interior designer.
As a therapist, I thank you for normalizing, de-stigmatizing, and proclaiming the value of therapy!
Agreed
Just remember, dont tell a therapist anything you would not want used against you in court.
No law in the USA will prevent your therapist from testifying against you if they want to. The law allows them to refuse to testify if they wish to preserve client confidentiality, but if they want to testify, the client is powerless to stop them.
It happened to me, in family court. Don't let it happen to you. As a result, I will not recommend therapy to anyone.
Fortunately the judge in the case was not impressed and I won the case.
But just remember, just because someone is a licensed therapist doesn't mean they are trustworthy!
@@abeal49 if you had confessed something by law they are required to contact the police. anything besides that seems like the other side is fishing for something that isnt there
As a psychologist, I appreciate enormously your comments on the value of therapy. I never ask a client to do something I haven't already done on myself, including getting my own therapy for my own personal growth and development. Search until you find a practitioner whom you resonate with because the relationship is extremely important to your ultimate success in reaching the goals you have for your growth and development, your healing, and your overall self-confidence and well-being. And remember, you get out of it what you put into it, so go prepared to do your work.
Absolutely! 👏🏻
I would love to see this get into the mainstream healthcare profession. Providers who decide to get therapy need to be protected from the stigmatization that’s going on in the US. I think every doctor needs a therapist!
Dara Lifschutz i am a doctor in switzerland and i am therapy is mandatory
b R 👍👍👍. Certain states require physicians to answer ‘have you ever’ type questions regarding mental health while applying for licensure. Not New York though! One of our strong points :)
I think the chemestry is the hardest thing. I recently found someone with whom I hit of and my mental helth took a huge leap. I think 2020 made me so much stronger, and now I feel unstopable.
Anna Bey is an incredible case study. She is articulate about what she believes in, never imposes it on people, stands true to her Philosophy while respecting people who don't share the same convictions as her, and actually has a LOT to offer which every party could benefit from. I followed her last week after getting recommended and after watching hours of her content, I realized how much I learnt from her. This woman is actually for real, guys. From her perspective, she has a point, even if we disagree with her in many areas. It's really interesting. I see a powerful, elegant lady here.
Since I am following Anna's fashion advice, women stare at me 10 times more than men on the street
Is that possible??
@@cristinap273 ofcourse possible.infact when you look good,women stare more than men😉
@@punamgodse7151 It may be. I've noticed everyone in my town wears leggins, sweatpants. Sometimes I feel I'm the only one that puts an effort and women look at me. But I don't lol.
Many of us would love to dress that way but cannot for various reasons and admire women who do. At leats this is the case with me :)
They are trying to figure out how to look as good as you do
I loved the rule "Always use your nicest things" 💯
I always use my worst ;') so embarassing
Why have them if you can't enjoy them?
I agree. ❤️
My journey started with you Anna Bey!!!
I randomly found your channel during the early days of COVID. I remember turning the tv off as my partner walked in as I was embarrassed he’d “catch me” or “judge me”. And boy have I changed?!!! The first change I made was getting rid of the “bling bling 2 ft long colorful” nails I was known for.
I still have a long way to go. Nonetheless, my proudest achievement thus far is gainful employment after over a decade out of the labor market. A position I love which brings my income to the 6 figure mark. A first ever!!!! I’m in awe of the new me living her best life. Thank you for your guidance my dear, elegant lady.
Thank you to those who keep reacting to this comment and reminding me of my journey. I’m STILL kicking ass! I wish you same! @Belmoun
Wow! It would be awesome if you made a video explaining your before and after! It sounds like the law of attraction came on full force for you, congratulations!
Stevie Michelle I haven’t read the book but I’ve watched several videos from different TH-camrs on the law of attraction. I’m happy to report I’ve been employing it, and I swear, it looks like the universe is bending over backwards to get me what I want. And thank you my dear elegant lady! I wish us all much success.
The Red Cat thank you for the interest but I’m not very tech savvy. I also don’t think I have the interest for that right now. And given my new position is with the federal government, it probably wouldn’t be a good idea. I will continue to comment here and there and try to encourage others.
That's wonderful Stefie.
Congratulations!
My mother taught me much of these things-I feel blessed. She looked me over before leaving for school to make sure there were no threads hanging from my clothing snd made sure that I kept my shoes clean and polished and in good shape. She taught me about dressing appropriate for the occasion. We weren’t wealthy for sure but she was cognizant of looking our best snd having good posture and manners. Much of the time good manners creates good boundaries as well. Thank you for your work Anna!
I was raised the same way.☺️
Also, when my girls were little I made sure they were clean and nicely dressed always, even when the local fashion was dressing like ragamuffins. I did this to encourage other people to treat them nicely. It worked. I did this even when I had to make their clothes out of the scraps in my sewing basket- yes they were cute and unique.
I always notice a loose thread, it's like an itch i need to scratch, it has to go.
It sounds as though you & I were blessed with elegant ladies for our Mothers! How wonderful for us both! I see so many young girls and ladies who most surely need Anna teachings and I direct them to her videos.
I wish I would have had this sort of advice when I was growing up. I am 50 and it’s taken me a long time to grow into my confidence and success. Young ladies, take note.....this is great advice. 🥰
Mary, the advice was there. The book of sherry fine the rules how to find a man was on bestseller lists all over the world.
They had 10 rules.
@Doro Parker while the information may have been there, she obviously wasn’t privy to it. Some of us didn’t have parents or caregivers to point us in the right direction.
My gosh her beauty and confidence radiates through my phone screen lol glad to have you back Anna ♥️
I love this comment!
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Anna inspires me to new heights every time she speaks!
I (traditional feminist) recently spoke to my best friend (modern feminist) about what kind of guy we described as “perfect”. And one of my boundaries were “He has to be able to drive”. My friend was shocked. She said “I can drive myself, what if he gets annoyed that he has to pick me up all the time?” And then I was shocked “If a man thinks that picking you up is an inconvenience and that you aren’t worth enough to be picked up when he wants some of >>your
Exactly 💞
I disagree. I mean we are not made of glass. And we are people, Im sure sometime he will be tired, not in the best moment etc to drive you. What are you going to do? Leave him just bc he is human? I think we should have expectations but come down from the high horses once in a while. Id totally drive if my man for some reason cant.
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I think the more obvious response from a modern feminist is why isn't he worth your time to share the workload? Like you can both pick eachother up if you both drive? You should both want to do for eachother regardless of if that is you cook&clean and he works or you both work and both drive. Doesn't really matter end of day its just division of labour in a relationship. I agree with you that your partner shouldn't see anything you have to do for eachother as an inconvenience. That relationship will be doomed
Enxhi Leba I agree. I thought she meant he has to drive because having a car is a luxury and an expensive one at that so him owning one should show a sign of financial responsibility......not because he’s her chauffeur.
In addition to taking care of hair and skin, teeth are also important.
The last time I watched your video, I ransacked my wardrobe, my dressing really changed, I'm a new person now, I think different, thank you Ann
Me too!
Could you please create a whole video about BOUNDARIES and STANDARDS?
YEEEES!
Are you sure she needs to create a video ? She needs to create a channel and play it on repeat in that case some women may realize the reason there are so many miss-behaving men out there is due to what some women are doing, selling themselves and their values so short, as she put it putting men on pedestal, and putting up with whatever...
Hehe, agree
Yes please :)
I agree!! We need one on boundaries and general respect/ courtesy!!
Anna, you helped me level up my mindset to find a great, affluent guy, he treats me well and respects me and there is never a thought in his mind to go 50/50! I absolutely love him and he loves me :)
@F U you suffer a lot
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@F U that is not true. My dad is very wealthy and never cheats on my mom. My older brothers r also very wealthy and were raised by my dad to be careful messing around with women. They r married n loyal
We have missed you so very much! Can't wait till your podcast gets on Spotify, Queen! 💕💕💕
Anna - I just want to say thank you. I found your videos during Covid and they inspired me to start “leveling up” my life. I applied to a top graduate school and I’m going to graduate in May. That decision truly set my life on a different course and has allowed me to meet other focused people.
Well done, Chloe! 🌸
Tip 8: Start doing sports. I noticed that sport helped me personally gain more confidence. Not to mention it helps with your mental and physical health as well. Anna you are amazing! I love all your videos and you motivated me to elevate my whole way of life. Thank you 😊 💓.
Anna, have you ever considered a try-on haul? I’d love to see some really elegant clothing you might recommend.
Please don’t!
Yes, I would love to see that 😄
Yes! With links.
I love all Anna clothes, she looks so elegant always
Agreed
The quality of men are indeed declining! I don't know what happened in the world, but we have this generation of man-children...and ladies are chasing after them! If the guy can't put away the PlayStation to have a decent conversation with you, why are you with him? Next thing you know, you will have 2 kids with this man-child (3 if you count the man-child himself), and he will be too busy playing Grand Theft Auto to take care of a crying infant, let alone do anything around the house.
NEVER SETTLE!
Because men are now "feminist" instead of being men
It's because we have delayed men becoming men -leavi g home getting a job and getting married and being expected to provide. Because of the 50/50 men think that they don't have to work as hard but still reap rewards. Lots of men are being raised with porno is an example of how sex is supposed to go, raised with no positive male role models because 1 single mom or B. Double income parents to tired to actually parent .
I upvoted you but it is the same with women. Social education and manners declining through all social classes.
I agree~ men aren't being raised properly. Mothers are spoon feeding men and fathers are raising womanizers and bullies. I'll be single for a loooong time
@@missmimi6817 Yeah because most women here are such great prices worth being worhsip like a goddess simply for being there,.... seriously this counts for both genders.
I love how you can really feel Anna’s sincere desire to make sure her viewers have a sense of self worth. Learning to say no, and knowing your personal value is so important in relationships. Nothing worse than giving your best, only to realize it was a one way relationship the whole time.. You live and learn 😉🤗❤️
I've always been a lady who has high standards. I never wanted to settle for a man who was mediocre. I come from a small town where rich people don't really exist. I have faltered in the past, thinking I should just settle for someone because I am lucky that any man should even want me. Luckily, I haven't given in to those wrong beliefs. Thank you so much for your knowledge; I absolutely love your approach to feminism.
Anna... you are not just inspiring women but truly changing women's lives for the better.
Thank you so much ana! I am just 13 years old, but elegance and high-society really appeals to me😀 You are such a great role model! I am so glad my sister introduced you to me..
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So awesome you started this journey so early! Keep going! I was Anna was in my life when I was 13
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Hi Anna I m 23 years old I m from India himachal pradesh. I was going through a very hard time of being the Tom boy . I watched many vedios on TH-cam but with u I m able to connect. You are like a guru to me I bow my head in your feets out of respect as we do here in India. Please pardon me for my English as its not my mother tongue. I hope one day I'll become like you I hope I'll be your good student.i love you Anna. A huge respect to you
Love from India 🙏🙏🙏
Same boat Manisha.
Bowing down with your head to her feet is a bit too much, no?
Rosebud it just means ‘I respect you’. Some do this to all of our elders and teachers.
@@poisonedchalice it's a sign of deep respect in some asian countries. Only an elder or an esteemed teacher can have it among "normal" people. And back kn the time, royalty were also greeted this say in some places.
Always feel empowered after watching/listen Anna's advice
It’s so important that you bring this message about boundaries. I see many woman mistaking this whole new idea of being ‘’a free woman, that can exercise her power of having casual relationships and casual sex’’ with what it’s REALLY what she wants. It’s like we are being thought that we should be liberal and that is the only way that woman can be happy and feel validated. Stop for a minute and think: are those new standards really what you want in your life ? Also, ladies, if guys are treating you in manners that you disapprove, it’s BECAUSE YOU ARE LETTING THEM DO IT. Set your limits and speak those up from the beginning. Make clear statements of what you are looking for in that relationship. That will save you both time and energy, so you can focus on men that can actually give you what you feel like you deserve.
Me and you couldn't be more different style wise, I am rather punk and tattooed. But I love listening to your videos. You give such wholesome advice that is actually very empowering and refreshing to hear. I love watching.
Also, therapy is absolutely incredible and thank you for pushing it in this video.
I love open minds like you, it gives me hope for this world ♥️
A punk rocker with etiquette in their pocket is a magnificent force ❤️
Elegance is truly a mindset.
i am always so impressed by her english skills, as it isnt her mothertongue. she uses such elaborate vocabulary:)
I'm impressed too, the way she talks is beyond sophistication.
And her tone of voice, I can't even describe that!
Where is she from?
@@Tica232 She's swedish
@@Ella-tf8yv They learn English very early as kids.
How to learn English to perfection ?
Such a great point about therapy. There were times when I needed it badly and nobody could help me. We don’t have a practice of having counsellors here. I survived, but I don’t think I ever recovered. And many don’t. I wish I could have found some help at the right time.
Olga, I’m glad you have recovered. Please reach out if you need help again.
Guess who's back. Back again. Anna's back... Tell a friend💃💃
Guess who's back, guess who's back, guess who's back, guess who's back, guess who's back oh oh oh ✌
Just couldn't read this comment without singing it.
@@henib6100 I've created a monster cause nobody wants to see Marshall no more
@@asanied2225 the power of eminem
Candace Swanopel
Thank you for your guidance. I started watching you when I was 15, I was a 16 year old girl who loved dressing like a boy but now I stopped because I felt like I wasn't the female I wanted to be, but now I am a change, a refined elegant young lady you made my sweet sixteen a beautiful Change of my life.
Point #7 is so so good. I'm the type who finds it hard to say no to friends (males & females alike) but not when it comes to courting. I've had plenty of guys in my life who took advantage of that, after I've tried accommodating in terms of friends they would take it further each time, pushing boundaries, attempting to change by subtly gaslighting or insulting my traits, guilting me into relationship, etc. However I was never the type who hesitates cutting off toxicity nor am I afraid of being alone. When these guys sensed that I was beginning to not feel afraid of drawing my boundaries it seriously turns the table & they'd turn 180 degrees from guilt tripping into respecting
People, don't the let desperation change you into something you're not. You're worth much better than guys who take advantage of you, & Anna has pointed that out. *Thank you so much Anna for stressing this point!*
I'm glad you're back my dear elegant lady,we've missed you
Who else loves this relaxed side of Anna? ❤️
So true about our nicest things being charged with positive energy - love this. Something I'm trying to work on is purchasing only things that I absolutely adore! No more mediocre items in my closet or flat.
I was skeptical when I first saw your videos a few weeks ago. I anticipated superficial advice about self-improvement like other TH-camrs, but you are the most helpful. The advice about therapy and setting boundaries with men is something that needs to be said more often! Especially when women suffering from low self-esteem is so common these days.
hello I'm a girl from Algeria I'm 15 I'm not that good at English but I really love your videos and you teach me every day new words and new fashion rules. thank you so much🥰😇
Tip #7 has me nodding enthusiastically! I really examined myself after the workshop and reevaluated my boundaries with others, myself and men and Anna I am not kidding this has been the BIGGEST change in my life. The way men react to me has absolutely done a 180 degree turn. I stopped being a “yes” girl and accommodating their schedules and timelines and kept myself less available and constantly evaluated my words with the words “be yourself and remove desperation from the scenario” and it has changed so much for me. Thank you so very much for changing things for me. Forever changed. ❤️
She is back and looking more elegant than ever!
Yess! Since starting my feminine journey I knew I had so much to offer women as well, from my terrible experiences of being a man's door mat to going to jail. I literally transformed my life. This is why I started my TH-cam channel that maybe older women can relate too as well.
You're so right about skin and hair being important
Im an esthetician, and YES skin is profoundly important to maintain 👌🏼
Im happy to enter your channel not only because of your precious teachings but how much knowledge and love woman share with each other, like a world wide sisterhood.
So beautiful, so inspiring, zero toxicity.
Just yesterday I was thinking "I'm gonna check Anna's channel, because YT hasn't sent me any notiffication for such a long time!" Yess, welcome back!
Thank you Anna 💗💗💗I have learned so much from you and have gone on this feminine journey because of you. I appreciate you sharing all these gems with us. I am learning to set boundaries with men. I was with a man & I moved in with him . I cooked, cleaned, laundry, did everything for him, but I got nothing in return. no ring , no true commitment. I learned that I was playing the “wife role” without the wife status😭😭I am now learning my worth and what I bring to the table and setting boundaries. Thank you 🥰😘😘😘
The gym is body health and therapy is mind health. Sometimes we just need the extra tools.
Great insights. . I am in my 50s and Anna's advice is always a good reminder we can always continue to level up and expand! She also makes it fun! Thank you Anna
Steamer has literally changed my life. I steam all my clothes now and I feel more polished when I walk out the door. No more wrinkles.
Any recomadation for steamer?
I do not know what to do. I bought one a month ago, but it did no do the work. I ended returning the steamer.
Is The clothes after are humid ?
Loved every point but specially "if everyone gets their issues resolved this world would become a kind place" ❤️
FACTS
Love your Vase! In mandarin there is the word 喜，however there’s another word 囍. As you can see it’s the same word but x2.
Meaning two times the joy! Two times the blessing! Normally in our culture we use this word when someone is getting married ❤️
What does it mean, dear elegant lady?
That’s so cute 🥺
Anna is in fact engaged😉
@Crystal Le that's wonderful thank you!❤️
Double Happiness!
Meditation is my biggest life-changing tip (and no, I'm not talking about the $$$$ courses out there). I'm referring to the act of being present in the current moment without reacting and letting myself to just be aware of me and the world around me. I've been more calm and focused on self-development since I've started doing it a couple of years ago. Also, welcome back Anna! ❤
Ana should have included meditation here! It is definetly a life changer
Meditation has a lot of benefits, but cannot replace therapy. The best think is to combine meditation with therapy. The same way one combines mediation with intelectual education or physical exercising.
Actually many people that are a lot into meditation have a guru with whom they end up doing therapy, in order to develop further. Because people need someone with whom to speak to about the things they tap into during their meditations.
@@nadine7327 I think that therapy is a great tool to use in combination with meditation, only if it works well for the individual. I didn't state anything about therapy, but I must respectfully disagree with your statement. I think that in many cases, meditation has aspects to it that therapy can never heal nor replace and it isn't necessarily the 'best' thing to combine the two together. Here's why. (I'm sorry that this will be a long response.)
First, I must clarify that the meditation I was referring to does not require the assistance of any gurus nor people. I think there are misconceptions and stereotypes in the general community about meditation. When people think of meditation, they often refer to the practices of calming your breath/listening to music/centering your mind etc. that are sometimes being 'taught' in classes/courses. If this is the type of meditation that you were referring to in your comment, I'm sorry but this wasn't what I was alluding to.
The meditation I practice solely involves being aware and present in the moment, without any judgement. It is similar to the type of meditation that many (sometimes ancient) religious and spiritual practitioners use before meditation was introduced to the world (mostly to the Westernized countries). I'm not sure if you're familiar to what this meditation entails, but I use it to align the different aspects of myself. The best way I can described it is the aligning of the mind, body and soul, but slightly more than that.
There are many reasons why I think that therapy isn't always a great combination with meditation (especially the one I practice). The main one being I view meditation as introspection free from any external influence. Combining therapy (which involves the input of another person) takes away from this deeply personal experience and the input from others can influence how you feel/view and align yourself. I personally believe that an individual can still 'grow' without the need to share their own experiences with others. Additionally, there are profound spiritual progress that you can have with meditation that isn't always present in therapy (this might not make sense if you're not into/practicing spirituality).
Both therapy and meditation are amazing tools for self-development and self-awareness. But I think it's a bit naive to think and generalize that therapy is better with/than meditation, especially when the type of meditation I'm referring to is something different. I hope that I've properly explained my stance (and I apologize for anything that may come across as offensive - they're unintentional).
Lost Duchess Totally agree
I never understood what meditation is about and why is it good. I don't get it what it means being just present. How not to be present? I wish i wasn't present sometimes!
I love how Anna's visibly enjoying herself sharing her knowledge!
What I love even more, is that some things she advises I already do. 😁
Anna dropping truths like it’s nothing, but doing so elegantly. 🔥 Point 7 is honestly something all of us need to keep reminding ourselves, and I’m glad it was brought up! I can’t wait to go check out your podcast! 😃
Having fresh flowers on my beedroom table and wearing nice pijamas. It makes me feel incredibly elegant and million dollar woman
As a youngster with troubled mental health even though I had the resources to do magnificent things in life I set too low goals for myself. Ever since I started my self growth journey and watching your videos, I am constantly challenging myself to achieve higher and higher. I started working out, saving up for nicer items, studying for the best university and being 'selfish' and 'picky' on whom I give my time. I admire your teachings so much! Thank you!❤️
I was raised to have a poverty mindset. My family never had money and if I had any nice clothes, I was paranoid about ruining them because I knew there was no money to replace them. As a result, I was always so uncomfortable when wearing them. I'm 49, and still feel that way.
Caroline Brown I read your message and it rang true for me. I call it a inter-generational curse. We deserve quality in our life and our past haunts us.
Same here 😧
Yes same here. 'Sunday best' until it was no longer fitting or pristine for church! 62 and still feel this
Money don't grow on trees is a saying for parents to gaslight their children for their own short comings. Subconsciously they telling you that "you're not worth anything" and so when you have nice things you don't feel deserving and become apprehensive. Break that slave mindset. Take one day a week to take care of your self. I like to go get a 30 min massage
Same.
And finally the school principal came back with much elegant content. I must admit I missed you. Congratulations on your new launch. ♥️♥️♥️
Thank you, Anna. Yes, I missed you. I agree with everything you said and especially the last one. The setting boundaries with men, this is so important for women to learn, men need to to value you, as a human being and treat you with respect and not take you for granted or just run over you, or talk over you. Even if you have been married to someone for a very long time, like I have, every once in a while, I have to stand my ground and put my foot down and tell my husband to clean up his language and address me with respect. Just a few weeks ago, my husband said "I am sorry" after I told him about his language and behavior. That doesn't happen to often. But it is worth it just to get their attention, so they realize that you are a human being too, just like them and they need to respect who you are. When I was dating, there was a lot of boundaries with men I dated, because I never needed anyone of them. I was happy being single, happy with my friends and family, happy with my studies and job and happy when I traveled and did my own things, my own hobbies and interests. You have to "Bring something to the table" as a women when you date, or when you marry. A man can not be your entire life and should not be in charge of your own happiness.
Anna ! I’m happy you’ve returned . I have implemented the steaming rule & it definitely makes a huge difference. I agree that therapy would probably benefit everyone and anyone . I used to do but now I just do a lot of reading and private self development. Thank you for being here !
Setting boundaries is the most important thing. I also call it "having certain standards". The more boundaries I set the better people I attract (in general not necessarily romantic partners because I'm already married). Don't accept people talking to you like a little girl, don't accept it when the conversation stirs in a direction that you don't like, don't let people touch you without your permission. Be a "bitch" if you have to because in the end you will win. Either the dusty people will leave you or they will change their behavior.
I live in the southern U.S. We are touchy, feely. It's not offensive.
Along with skin & hair care, I'd include teeth. Bad teeth can distract.
Big time !!!
Wow. I just got back from the dentist. 😂
invisalign yep, great stuff
Anna. I have been watching your videos casually for 3 years but this week, I have started watching two videos a night during my evening selfcare. I just want to say that you have so much depth and wit than I initially realized. I have so enjoyed learning from you and I'm looking forward to diving into your podcast. I appreciate you being an advocate for femininity, therapy and women's fullest potential of life.
This is great.
Because of my tight budget, and weight problem,
I used to think I couldn't go beyond putting effort into my hair and makeup, and that was about as far as I could go in the area of self improvement, but now I feel so much more hope for being able to make more positive changes to make life better.
Oprah once said
you are where you are in life because of what you believe.
It's so true.
If you believe you are limited, you will be limited.
You have to have hope, and a plan to go along with it.
I used to be a cosmetology instructor.
I was amazed at how much time and effort went into creating a lesson for my students, but I felt it was worth it, so I know first hand how much effort is going into these lessons.
Even as a commercial truck driver, this type of advice has helped me with income.
For instance.
A freight broker picks up the phone and calls a dispatcher and tells the dispatcher that they have a shipment, but it is for a very important and wealthy customer.
This customer is a millionaire or a billionaire and so it needs to be a driver that is not going to be off-putting, rude, unkempt, and smelly. This delivery could go to a movie star's house, or the studio of a famous billionaire rapper.
So if a driver has a good reputation for being well-groomed and polite, that driver is going to get these types of good paying loads.
In some cases, the driver even gets to meet the affluent customer, which can also be fun and uplifting.
Just goes to show you that no matter what you do in life, putting effort into yourself will pay off in ways that will surprise you and enrich your life.
You are such a sweetheart to create these lessons and master classes at such an affordable cost.
Thank you for all the time and effort you put into these lessons.
I'm so happy she brought up the point about therapy, it really is such an important tool. Sadly, I think it is very inaccessible for most people in this world (financially and/or logistically). :(
What we do with our resources reveals what our priorities are. If we're determined to do something, we'll find a way to make it happen.
Her confidence is on another level. Love to have you back
I always smile while I watch you videos! It's the happy, safe effect you have on people. Watching your videos, listening to you talk and grasping the content (and life advices, most importantly) are giving me hope and vigor to change my life. I smile at my life in my hardest time of my life and I thank YOU for that.
Preach it Anna. These things are so important. From small things to big things, these all have a place. Counseling helps short term and long term. At a couple of points in my life I went to counseling because either I was questioning my goals in life or there was a specific event that happened in my life that was a little too big to handle on my own. I was so glad I was open enough to seek help. Paying attention to detail is something I have trouble doing but if you do, it will so add to your life! I have received a special card or even a post card from a friend and that little detail was so special to me. Being thoughtful, planning out events and outfits and even the way one is to act can really have an impact. Even if it is making sure your shoes are nice and clean. If we value ourselves, men will value us too. Make them work for it. Unfortunately young women do not know how to be valued or to value themselves. They give themselves too easily with little regard to the most important thing in their lives. Once that is gone, it is gone. Setting lifestyle goals will help us to plan our lives so we do not have to worry about a man who will take care of us. If we choose something we love to do and make it our life's work, We can move easily in whatever society we come across. Make your dreams into goals and go for it. You just may reach them.
My life-changing tip is eating more vegetables and setting a goal to become Vegan.
Anna, you are so beautiful and I am so grateful our paths have come together the day i found one of your videos in my TH-cam feed.
I joined your waitlist for your program, "Secrets Of The Elite Woman". I can't wait until it starts.
I really want to have a better and best lifestyle. Your channel is one of my most treasured and valued heirlooms.
Thank you so much Anna!
I hope to see you in the Elite woman's group! There is some really lovely ladies in the group! I haven't spent that much money on myself before but it's been worth it!
I feel incredibly lucky for following you
Studying for an upcoming important power engineering exam in 3 days but saving this video to watch when I'll be driving to my exam! Anna, thank you!!!!! I love learning from you ❤️
I really like how you’re raising the awareness for therapy/mental health awareness ❤️
Thank you!! I have a husband that supports me and I want to be classier because his family is higher class than mine and his parents do not approve.
Theses videos help so much. My husband pointed out that my movements are very aggressive. I slam things often. I swear and yell when I'm upset. I have so many issues to work on.
He Flys home tonight and I want to surprise him with my new approach. No swearing yelling or using slang and a better posture to start..
Also my hair and nail will be on point
great starting point. look also onto Hoffman process in ur country. it s 1 week deep dive in childhood beliefs
very very helpful
also a book on Audible "Complex PTSD from surviving to thriving " will help to identify wrong beliefs from a family
Just want to say I love you....and I feel soo grateful every time I come back on your channel. You're doing a phenomenal job❤
Amazing video and tip number 7 really is the most important one! Setting boundaries is to love and respect ourselves, and not being arrogant or thinking we're better than anyone like some sexist men like to claim.
You truly are geniounly elegant. Not fake at all. I really appreciate ur honesty and openness and that u hope and wish “ good “ for others as well. Lots of admiration from Dubai.
Missed you so so much. Glad you're back 🥺❤
Yes you are so correct as we have strayed away from setting boundaries and I am guilty of this. Now I have learn my lesson. We have to shift to understanding how powerful we are and live it.
Thank you Anna it's so inspiring. I was always telling my elementary school daughters to respect themselves, love themselves and only date with men truly respect and love them, because all women deserve it.
My husband is a great man that he respect me and adores me, treating me like a queen.
We started to date from college at that time I promised my self to be with somebody only treat me the best, since my mom wasn't treated right at home and I was fed of all her complaining.
My husbands' close friends are all good men treats their wives very well, so I believe good guys do exist and they stick together since they have same sort of belief.^^
Thank you again and I'll be always looking forward to your next video.
The main message : normalizing and praising people to go to therapy 🙏👍 So proud of this statement and attitude.
I love that you as an elegant lady are political incorrect - with view that man should pay and respect woman. In today's 50/50 left-orientated society this is rare view. Especially from someone in high class society. I deeply respect you because of your intelligence and that you are a woman who is not afraid to speak words which can face a lot of criticism. Especially from feminists. Regards 💞
I believe it is very feminist what Anna says, to as a woman learn to grow, set boundaries and be equal as men. To say a woman has choices and has worth, is feminist. :)
@@siro4239 i totally agree with you, but this is not the direction where today's feminism went. I feel like today feminists wants to improve man that they can do whatever man can do. And its not any longer about treating woman in proper way, fighting that woman can do whatever man can do its no longer in our favour, as it used to be.
@@kateya0 as Anna says: "some women want to *be* a millionaire, some women want to *marry* a millionare. Both are fine." Putting down women who want to be more masculine or compete with men is just as bad as putting down women who prefer to be more feminine and cared for.
@@sweetyetunrefined9335 this is not what I said. Being strong and independent, being a self-made millionaire is all I ever wanted. What I mean is relantionship savoir-vivre. Caring about woman, opening the doors for her, giving her small gifts, asking her for a date. Many of today's feminists would say - I dont need him open the doors for me, I can do it myself because I am nothing less than him. And in my opinion this is wrong perspective, because this is about role in relation of being more femenine/masculine. Because of many woman men now are not putting an effort and respecting women. We have different needs as different genders and saying that we can do all the same is wrong. Man won't be pregnant. Let's not change our roles in relantionships.
Me too! I love how she gives a different view on something that I feel is almost the general consensus nowadays, while still standing up for women. It is so refreshing, and helps me find my own view instead of just going with what "everyone says".
Seriously, my psychologist tells me we all need to set boundaries, don't let us get walked all over. She was referring to some personal issues in my life but seeing Anna talk about boundaries really resonated with me.
I hope we all learn to set boundaries with men. I know I have with two men in my life, and honestly, it feels so freeing to not be worried about what their thinking.
I’m watching as many of your videos as I can THANK YOU for being the mom figure that not all of us had.
I cannot describe how much I missed you, how much you changed me. You are the life changing tip youtube recommended to me, glad you are back. I am really excited about the podcast. You know, I want to meet you one day, talk to you for an hour or two. Love you Anna
OMG Anna! I was surprised when you say "número dos". I've neve imagined you speak Spanish, please do it more!
Greetings from México 🥰🇲🇽
You are incredible . I adore this channel and the way you look at laugh . I feel like your channel is misunderstood by some people ; your advice helps so many people gain self esteem .
I am a student of yours and I am listening to your every tip carefully and establishing in my personal life I love your advice and you show me a light in many life situations. Please keep up the brilliant work you do. Please also post more on femininity n enhancements of qualities in that frame of mind. You are an inspiration 👏💕
Thank you for talking about therapy, treating people for years you are open and honest and promoting and de stigmatising mental health!