In Asia, a man is always expected to pay on a date. In fact, some high-end restaurants have "ladies menu" i.e. the menu has no prices. Only the gentlemen's menu has the prices listed.
Gosh, this generation has lost it: they think "dating" includes screwing. I call this "The Lost Generation." I am awaiting Aldous Huxley to rise from the dead with insightful commentary. "Everyone belongs to everyone." Gross.
@@AnnaBeyOfficial pin this comment area. You have some women are are ignorant on purpose just b/c they are modern-day feminist and they do not like what you are saying.
No. It's just his way of saying " I don't want you to feel like I am expecting something out of you by paying your meal. We're equal in this relationship". Your loss, dear.
@@queenal7710 Yeah, women that deserve it. If you’re just a leech that’s only solely with a man cause of his resources, you don’t deserve an “alpha”. And if we gonna talk about “alpha” guys, then let’s also talk about feminine, submissive women, cause those are the girls alphas usually choose. If you’re always tryna argue, and you subscribe to modern day feminism, then you don’t deserve an alpha, plain and simple. You stfu and let him lead, and do things that women did back in the 50s, since you wanna be more traditional.
@@jc3productions362 Absolutely I am that kind. The kind of woman with self worth. Dinner is to get to know each other to decide if you both want to go to the next level. I am not carrying around a sign that says, "Will put out for food." You denigrate yourself and your masculinity by even saying such a thing. If you want a quality woman you need to level up as to the kind of man you are. Do you really want the type of woman that gives her most intimate self for a dinner?
I’m arab and growing up men usually wouldn’t even let the bill reach our table rather they excuse themselves and go pay it in private. Since that’s how I was raised that’s what I expect from my husband too
In Morocco same thing man actually feels offended if you offer to pay the bill !! Which I like but lately the feminists have been willing to screw us over
@@aminabarga8239 no honey, feminists are good people you my friend are on about feminazis. Feminists want equity and basic human rights and decency for us and protect women whether or not she wants to be a house wife or a career woman. Don't try put a bad name on feminists
My bf opens doors & pulls out chairs but refuses to pay. We argue over this all the time and he won’t budge. Am I wasting my time???! I need some advice from older women
I remember when I was 18, I was dating a man a couple of years older than me. One day he said he wanted to take me on a date to the cinema during the weekend. I said I preferred to go on Thursday, because I was just 18 years old and I did not have a lot of money and on Thursdays I would get 50% off. He said that if I would go with him during the weekend, I would get 100% off. I've never forgotten that. That was such a gentlemanly thing to say.
I never ever call, text or ask a guy out, ever. I'm sorry, maybe I'm too old fashioned, but not only I don't like it, but I have always trusted my grandparents advices: if he hasn't asked you or called you yet, he's probably either not really interested in you in particular or he has no balls.. Those are my grandfathers actual words and they were very serious about it.
@@Aja.S Hahaha, yeah, I was 10 years old when they told me this and since they both were real gentlemen and never even swore I was shocked and gaped at them..probably why I still remember it to be honest XD
I've went on a date once with a French man, and I ordered a cocktail. I excused myself after we asked for the bill to go to the bathroom. When I came back, this man was waiting for me to pay my 6 euros ? I have never contacted him. EVER again.
In Latin America... women don't pay. If my brother took out a girl and her friend shows up,now he's paying for both. I only paid for my portion as a sign to him that Im not interested.
I agree with you. Whenever I've gone on a 1st date and I realize I'm not interested, I will insist on paying my portion of the bill or split 50/50 when the check comes. I live in NYC.
In Brazil it is very common for the bill to be divided equally among the men at the table, regardless of whether they are accompanied by a woman or not.
I LOVE YOU. Thank you for affirming the femininity, because it had started feeling like the gender roles are getting damaged beyond repair. It is such a turn off to split the bill with a man, totally depressing. Yet some of them see nothing wrong with that.
I have a professor who is a hard core feminist and she always asks me why I do not want to be associated with the label. I have been planing to introduce her to Anna's(and other influencers) videos, so she can understand.
Im so old fashioned. I don’t call or text men first. I never pay either, and if he expected me to pay that’s the last he will hear from me. 😅 Loved this video!
Do you tell them before the date you expect them to pay? Do they know? I’m just curious. I’m so awkward with money sometimes, even with female friends I offer to pay 🙊
My grandma always used to say: let the man pay for everything...not because you are materialistic..but honey if a guy spends a fortune on you, like an investment, he will value you more and will be less prone to leave you.
Men also think like this today. Let the woman contribute so it feels like they also invest. No wonder everyone complains relationship doesn't work these days. Just ego on both gender
unpopular dolls don't read replies actually if a man starts paying for absolutely everything and the woman doesn’t contribute at all at some point he might lose interest and pull back. Not because he can’t pay for everything but because he might start feeling being used. So it’s good for the woman to buy some stuff from time to time if she wants to keep him.
@@MartinZhel I am really struggling to understand all these women despising men who don't want to pay for everything. Maybe if we stop looking at them like the money making machines and start seeing them as human beings, wanting the same things we all want, which is mutual respect and acceptance for what we are, things shouldn't be so hard. Women are capable enough these days to stand on their own two feet, and why can't the gesture of woman paying be a sign of mutual support and appreciation for the man she is dating. Why do we have to look at this through this old fashioned lens of cheap men not worthy of our time and effort. There are always bad apples on both sides, I'll admit it. But we shouldn't be so judgemental and unforgiving at the fact that the times have changed and the rules are a bit on their head. We need to at least try to understand why is that, historically and culturally, but that requires a bit more intelligence than dissing the men from the get go.
I have been married to my wealthy husband for over 30 years. He likes to be the one who pays.....I think he thinks he looks good buying his wife whatever she wants.
Sorry, but I've seen this kind of comments a few times on this video and it's getting me puzzled. Once you are married is it still about his vs her money? Isn't the who's paying question only for dating before marriage?
I see what you guys mean but I thought that through marriage, even if he is the only provider in the relationship, what he owns becomes what they both own, so it shouldn't be considered that it is HIS money paying for the dinner or whatever.
my husband is not necessarily wealthy or rich but since we dated he paid for everything. even when i offer he would just say "you could pay next time" but the next time never came 😅. now im a full time housewife (we couldnt find someone to take care of our child) but im hoping i could find a job soon and help him out ❤️
@@chika_333 Unless the job will pay significantly well, the money earned from the job will go towards paying strangers to mind your child...maintaining a home and raising children is working, you're just doing a job you enjoy.
As an older woman, I am enjoying all your videos immensely. Your views are spot on and I wish I had you around when I was a teenager. You dish out wonderful life lessons.❤️
#5 totally. That's how i caught my husband. I wasn't too emotionally available and this made him close the deal with me faster. He was more persistent and wanted to be exclusive. I followed all the rules here and now I'm married. She is right about all these.
There are few that I’d like to add, coming from a man’s perspective. 1) Talking about your ex and a lot. It sends a clear message as to where your mind is, and it’s most certainly not on the date we’re on. I didn’t call back a woman because of this. 2) There’s a difference between carrying a conversation and dominating a conversation. If you go on streaks where you’re talking 10 minutes non-stop about yourself, I might as well be somewhere else. My eyes glazed over because of this. There should be a good amount of back and forth. 3) It’s one thing to be 5-10 minutes late, it’s understood, I get it, I’m not going to call you on it, but if you’re about 60-90 minutes, it’s obvious that you don’t value time. I had this happen to me a couple of times, and it killed the tone of the evening. They aren’t hard and fast rules, but I think many would agree with me about my thoughts and perspectives.
If Anna gets so 'progressive' about doing what men have been doing for centuries, how come she insists that the man should ALWAYS pay the bill?? A bad case of DOUBLE STANDARDS.
I have a date tomorrow and it’s the first time we see each other, wish me luck guys 🙏🙏 it’s really important to me. Update: it went so great guys ! Thank you for caring ♥️ he was such a generous gentleman and always noticed my glass of wine if it was almost empty 😅 and he texted me first when our date was done so I think Anna should be proud of me 😂
Finally a breath of fresh air! Anna you're amazing! Finally hearing someone say the things that need to be said, and setting a example for young woman. Much love
I was dating a guy.. The average Joe's mom wanted someone to clean and cook at home. She commented unpleasant things for me which were very disturbing. I can't be a provider and cleaner at the same time. I left him for my own good. Let's ignore the guy here.. This is what a woman has done to another woman. SAD
I don't understand how it is possible to date a multiple men at the same time... It is even difficult for me to find one interesting man and to be willing to go on a date with him :/
It's just an advice, you don't have to follow it if it doesn't feel good to you. Personally I wouldn't, a man who meets my standards is gonna show himself I don't have to put him in a group to see him shine.
Dating doesn't involve sex, so if you are still searching and have not decided to be exclusive with anyone, do multiple dates gal. Going sexual too early in the dating scene is what messes us up, because ladies get emotionally attached after sex. So keep off sex, explore with an open mind.
I was dating a VERY handsome financier in NYC. He was very kind, the perfect gentleman, a Renaissance Man in every way. Everything was going well and then I made the mistake of insisting on paying for a meal. After that moment, the relationship somehow shifted and everything felt weird. I don’t he liked that I insisted on paying. He broke things off two weeks later. I don’t open my wallet on dates anymore.
Lol are you serious? I wouldn't even want this man if he would leave a woman because of such a trivial thing. The reason he left was probably something else and not this. He might have not liked it but to leave a lovely lady because of this? I really doubt it
I loved this video. I am married but watched anyway and I totally agree. So on point. But it made me laugh recalling fiasco's from my past. Years and years ago, I dated a "man" for three months. This was so long ago, well before cell phones were common. My first "clue" should have been the fact he pretended to have his own house but each time he called, his dad's name came up on my parents call display. But I never said anything. Anyway, after three months he went on vacation to Japan for two weeks. He never called me when he got back. Nothing. Knowing this was an indication he was not interested, I never phoned him either - although I thought this was rude. Fast forward a couple of months, and I was out dancing with my girlfriends and having drinks when he walked into the bar with his friends. Without missing a beat, one of my best friends yelled "Hey, (name) we thought your plane went down, so happy to see that you are alive". And then we all fell over each other laughing so hard. He looked completely mortified. Not very elegant, but definitely funny!
Firstly, stunning dress and it suits you perfectly. Secondly, here's my mentality: if the man asks me out, the man pays. And I don't ask men out. Voilà. Problem solved. Love, from Montreal, Canada
That doesnt make sense because men never do the asking. When I hear women expect men to pay I wonder how many sexual partners they have and what age they are.
No. if the man asks you out, you pay half. If you ask the man out, you expect to pay. Not because you're a woman, but just because you're a decent human being. Don't expect others to pay for what YOU eat. Expect to give more than to take.
@@kameh4522 Idk dude. This world has gone insane. Everybody is all over the place and we have no set protocols anymore. Im just really enjoying being single with an occassional 3 to 6 month honeymoon period "relationship". The peace of mind is amazing not having to worry about a woman being miserable and blaming me for whatever it may be this time.
@@CE-vd2px To expect someone to do something 'you' personally wouldn't do... That's just selfish. "Treat others as you would like to be treated yourself". Seeing so many people stating that the man should always pay? Entitled much? This just open the man's expectations too - that he has the right to get something out of the woman after he paid for a meal. This is NOT feminism in any way. This is precisely the opposite. Also, thanks for the sentiment @C E, but I'm not a dude (hehe).
Women who won't date several men at one time may think it means you sleep with them. No you do not need to. And yes having a swimsuit pic on your profile really attracts the wrong guy.
I do that I date different men and all we do I hug and kiss I never let them get to that point! How? I know men will always look for sex so I make them think one day it will happen and change the talk to something that interest them
You are correct, I had a pic on my FB account with a swimsuit and a board since I was an avid surfer, all the dusties and wrong men were there all the time. Something I am used to like swimming in my Mediterranean sea because I was born and raised there is not normal for many men.
Hmmm, I was wondering about the swimsuit pic thing the other day. I am too modest to put my package on display, well not for free lol. But I was wondering how it's perceived when women do do it.
"I know gender roles are changing to... to... to.. God, something i personally don't want to be associated with." LOL !!!! same sister PREACH love the vids !!! ❤️
Most men steuggle to express their emotions. Spending money on you is how they show that they care about you without looking too vulnerable. If he avoids spending money on you... it’s easy to see their intentions.
La Ninfa Pimentel a man spending money on you doesn’t mean he likes you. I had dates when I paid for the date even though I didn’t wanted to see them again.
La Ninfa Pimentel you start caring about someone when you fell in love. This doesn’t happen on a first date 😀 especially for a guy. If you have expectations for a guy to care about you right away that’s extremely unrealistic.
@@MartinZhel obviously she means more than just a date when a man spends his money on a woman. Buying her gifts, paying bills, just overall being financially supportive is what she means.
I’m with a man now who’s generous in every way. I never ASKED him for anything, because my own means can cover for it. But he always has my back. I never paid for our dates, he offers to provide a card for me just in case. Does and pays for my groceries for me. Always picks me up and drives me to my place. All that because, Anna was right. I never made myself look like “I’m all over you. I’ll do everything for you”. I made him chase. Because that’s how it should be. Men, from the caveman era.. are the protectors and providers. Let them be. They LOVE it. Well, the “high quality’ man does.
@@leatherandlace7 hello dear, my man is Norwegian and older than me. He was interested in me from the first moment he met me through work. I understood that and played the game at my conditions. The key is that they are very spoiled because of women here. Women give them sex too soon because they are Masculine women. I did not give him sex soon, I seduced him slowly. I am very good at cooking being Italian myself, so I just showed him my qualities but never cooked too much at the beginning of our acquietance, just showed him my tasks and that's it. The bottom line is to not play the wife role for free. I am also very educated on many subjects, I speak Italian, English, French, Spanish and now Norsk. He got hooked. Plus I am very Feminine. Since the culture is 50/50, I told him that is not my mindset and I respect and admire 100% a Provider man just as my Father. So my partner was so interested in me that he accepted that. He understood my points and adapted to my mentality to date me. I never paid a bill with him and he is very supportive financially too. We are very happy now, already talking about marriage. I don't live with him, I will with a wedding ring on my finger. I think that if you like Norwegians (they are very handsome but very spoiled and Pussy men unfortunately) you have to set your boundaries. Be very Feminine, don't give sex soon, make him desire you. Also work on your Education. A last tip is to not chase them.... Make their fantasies develop. It takes time, they are used at women chasing them here so they are not Men who court a woman. I was "approached" by other men while in Norway.... They don't chase but stare at you a lot. Anyway when they understood my mindset, they just ghosted me. Truth is they could not afford to date me and played the 50/50 mindset again. I can accept their culture at work but not in my private and romance life especially if I will get pregnant, I want to have the choice to work or not for my baby's sake. That is true Feminism to me. Good luck dear.
Although we’ve been together for 10 years, he still always pays the bill first even without me noticing. And always gets the door even if we’re arguing or not speaking, I feel so lucky. Love your videos like always ❤️
OMG, I wish I had watched this video a few years ago. I followed all your dating rules (as they were mine, too), & started dating a nice middle-eastern man, who took me on multiple cruises, world trips, etc. However, as soon as I offered to pay for a few things, the tone started to change. Now I feel he almost takes me for granted, & it's a turn-off, especially when I end up paying! Not sure if the trend is reversible with this particular man, but I LOVE your "never take out your wallet!"
Stingy men can stay in the friend zone forever lol. This is great advice on how to weed out the low quality guys. Let men do the pursuing. Keep your options open. 👌
I am from Germany and yes women here are expected to pay on dates. It happens quite often. I actually did this regularly before. I am studying educational science and we also have gender stereotype classes at university. I learned that it is only right to split the bill or pay for the whole dinner but in reality, it didn't make me feel like I thought it would. It actually felt strange and I didn't feel empowered at all. And my perspective changed totally on a date with a man who came from another country that told me, he likes dating german women because german women pay for the date. I have the biggest respect for all women no matter if they like paying on dates or not but for me, this was just too much. It made me feel less powerful. It made me feel less worthy. It somehow made me feel like the easy-to-get pray. I never even thought about not paying before but this experience somehow made me realize that it is ok for me to feel awkward and not protected and worshiped when I pay on the first or second dates. For some women this is totally fine but not for me. And both ways is ok, we just look for a different kind of man then and this is also ok.
Sorry that happened, that guy was such a jerk for saying that. i don't know him but it's almost as if he's in it for the money aspect, not because he genuinely wanted to go out with you specifically, so he 'chooses German women' for that reason
One of my high school friends once asked me to go out with him. Not on a date, but a fun outing between the two of us. He paid for EVERYTHING! The tickets for go-karting, our snacks at Starbucks and when I wanted a meal, he paid although he didn't want to eat anything. I was willing to pay for my own food since he didn't want to eat and he said no. I am the male and I invited you out, so I am responsible to pay. He's from Iraq, but I am Jamaican and my father has always told me that as well. The man is supposed to hold the doors open, open your car door, pull out your chair and cover any expenses.
Dating multiple men helps you not put you focus on one until u figure out who to be exclusive with. It cuts out the act of being so available n desperate
I just love how you put the power back into being feminine. I honestly thought I might hate your videos because of gender roles, but you reclaim them in such a great way! I wish I'd had a female role model like you growing up
@@personwho4742 I would have but the check came and he asked me to split it. I didn't want to argue with him about it so I didn't even respond to him for the second date.
This happened to me ONCE. I wasn’t in to the guy but at it was a first date I was being very polite and sweet but thinking NOPE...... it was a cheaper restaurant than I was used to anyway so when we got to the end and paying at the register he said ‘split the bill’ and I was soooo shocked but didnt show it, just quickly got out my purse then excused myself to go home. He was texting me how interested he was the next day etc etc but I was so utterly turned off.
I think alot of guys can't afford to even be dating. They don't have the means to properly do it. They need to "level" up financially before consider dating . Then, there'd be no problems paying for dinners etc.
Christina H. They need to stop dating then. In my country his friends would tell to stop complaining and to go and work really hard to make money before he seriously pursues any girl. It is a huge disgrace to be trying to date a woman you cannot afford to care for.
Christina H. That’s why in several cultures like North America, a lot of me n just try to hit any and every woman up not actually date. Women that put out at the drop of a drink or dinner bill shoved in her direction, are just reinforcing negative male behaviour of men treating women as being only for sexual pleasure.
Exactly. Don't be a cheapo while also going after going a high quality woman. If you can't handle her, stick to a pick-me Plain Jane or level up. You can't have your cake and eat it too.
@@sweetspice9120 Men don't have to stop doing anything. There's always girls out there that will date them even if they're broke. It's natural for women to expect men to pay for everything and be providers, but what do you offer in return? Sex? High quality men have an abundance of sex.
Minute 3:42 discussion is about “what country women are expected to pay”, but I want to brag on my country because I come from a wonderful culture, when ONLY men are expected to pay. It’s either man or man. That’s the only two choices available. And I could not be more fortunate for growing up in this culture, since it really taught me that I deserve that attention. It is nice the show of appreciation and respect coming from men to women in this specific subject. … I truly see that men are providers by nature. Glory to God for this great blessing!👐🏻🙌🏻
Ladies, we are paying...for our hair stylist, our good makeup, wardrobe, nails, accessories..shoes, purses, etc. waxing, this list can go on and on! Men should feel privileged to pay for a nice dinner or outing. Just make sure you are ladylike and appreciative of his good manners which does not include sleeping with him until you are comfortable in the relationship!
Before I started watching Ana I genuinely used to think it's okay to go half on dates or give a man money whatever the relationship was but nowadays I find it so hilarious when a guy even asks for a cent out of me😂 So thank you Ana😌♥️
Don't men find it embarrassing to either pay half or want the woman to pay? Even if ur not an affluent man, don't go on dates if ur not willing to pay for the coffee or dinner. If ur so tight with ur money, ur not even ready to date yet. Go home to mama.
Anna you are actually so right with dating multiple men advice :) that way we do not get too excited about one man and become better observers which is so important in the initial stage of relationship. Those first dates are crucial.
@gems8582 I just play it by ear. I like to be genuine, I want the guy attracted to me, not to some image I am projecting like Anna advises. If the guy isn't genuine, I can tell, and then I know he is not the right person. I will still be classy, but there will not be a second date. I do make some of these "mistakes," perfectly aware of the fact that they could ruin things. But here's the thing: not making these "mistakes" can also ruin things. So I just relax and I am genuine, come what may. Sometimes that works, sometimes it doesn't. And guess what: what Anna suggests also sometimes works and sometimes doesn't. How about just being in the moment and accepting that you can't always win? What's the worst that could happen? The worst is that all that will ever come of it is a date, with a guy who wouldn't have been right anyway. If you follow what Anna suggests, on the other hand, the worst that can happen is getting with the wrong guy and wasting years of your life and the other person's life.
Streetstylis ~ I do! I adore hearing 💕 “my dear elegant ladies” to the point I almost purr. It’s my signal to pause, relax, listen to everything that Anna says, and by all means: never take a call while enjoying my “date” with my “friend.” 💕
If a man is really that triggered that he has to pay for the meal, then he’s either broke or entitled. I’d rather just pay for it than sit there calculating the bill like teenagers.
No... You don't expect him to pay for the shoes you're wearing, why do you expect him to pay for the food you're eating? What next, you expect him to pay for your groceries? Come on ladies... We want fairness and equality. This is primitive thinking that the man has to pay. If a man OFFERS to pay, that is more than enough for me. However, I will pay for my items 100%. I work, I make money. Why should he have to support me financially? I am not looking for a wallet, I am looking for a MAN.
@@TW-ih5hg You nailed it. They don’t want equality, they want special treatment. If you’re gonna cry about paying half a bill, cool you won’t get far. And to the few fools that do take you up on your offer and pay the whole thing, they’re gonna expect sex after hun, and you can’t be mad with that.
@@kameh4522 I ABSOLUTELY expect a man to pay for my groceries 😂 Why is that so unreasonable? Have you noticed the state of the world.... how women are treated very unfairly? It’s already unequal (and not in our favor)
Omg I’m always offering to pay on a date because I want to look like a strong independent woman but I did get kinda frustrated when those guys just accepted ...
if you offer to pay then you jolly well be prepared to pay. don't offer to pay if you really didn't want to. don't pretend to and then be frustrated when he lets you 🙄
In the Middle East women buy in and are submissive to their men... women don’t fight or argue with their men out there, they follow his lead even if what he’s saying is stupid, and he’s leading them into a ditch. Women over there are feminine, and take on responsibility. I bet you if more American women acted feminine and did the things women traditionally do, more men would be fine paying for everything. But y’all too stupid to notice this difference.
@@jc3productions362 lol I'm not from the US. but ofcourse they submit because the men are providers and are the sole breadwinners. That's why you can't get king treatment if you got your hand out like a woman expecting 50%. They have too much honour for that, I'd know as I'm also Muslim and they are not far off from the traditional roles in my culture. For them to send their women out to work is an insult to their manhood.
@@teejae6914 no matter how stingy the man is, he still has to pay. That's what is common in Nigeria, men are the provider. Nigerians men spend more than any other African country. Do your research right babe.
@@phunmyjan I'm a Nigerian. I don't need to do research on where I stay. Most Nigerian men run away from bills, they rather you come to their house. Even the rich ones are picky with who they spend on.
2:26: EXACTLY! With my very first boyfriend I made the mistake to pay for our first date and after that he always expected me to pay. I just wanted to be nice, but after that moment we completely switched roles. I was always getting him (sometimes expensive) gifts for every occasion and I never EVER got anything back. Not even a thank you at times. Never again.
Everything you say is true. Over 10 years ago I made a decision to set my own boundaries more consciously and improve my life in every way. Going back in time the beginnings were a bit ... clumsy ;). But even then I saw the results very quickly. Now, I am in an really good financial, emotional situation and in a great longterm relationship. We grow together and develop our own passions. It's worth living this way. 😊
OMG, I have NEVER pulled out my wallet to pay for anything back when I dated!! My husband would cringe if I ever pulled mine out and we have been married over 30 years!
Things have changed for the worse, unfortunately. I read a thread on a website for women that asked if any of them had ever been courted by a man. Most said no. Jesus, that's so sad. How have things gotten like this?
I am from Slovakia and here men pay for a woman. But I lived in the western Europe for several years and there men normally expect women to pay. Even to pay the whole dinner...Not only that by the way. Their 'progressive' mentality about gender equality came so far that some men actually think that 'women should now go to war and fight because men did it all the time in the past'. This is not even joke, he was serious...I told this man that they are all nuts and only if all of them grow uteruses and start bearing kids I will consider going to war...I was irritated and half joking but it is soo bad there.
sanuska9 these are women that bring them everything on a plate, pay and propose. There are too many brainwashed women that think being like a guy will “empower “ her
Where in western Europe was this? I've never heard any progressive man even talk about drafting and war. Most of them think you should just disband the military.
I was raised to expect that a man provided financially for his family. My husband is an American and has always paid for meals and entertainment for us, even when we were dating. My sons do this as well with their wives and even when they were dating. But, I struggled for years because my friends thought that I should pay 50/50. I was very confused. That’s one reason I appreciate this channel so much. ❤
They are the same with any guest whether women or men. They pay for friends. In those cultures people are big into sharing and hospitality ie a more tribal communal mentality not like westerners who are more into everyone taking care of themselves ie individuality.
@MB sorry who ? Please don't mistake Arabs from the "sham " world (Lebanese, Syrian, Jordanian, Palestinian) to Gulf Arabs (Saudi, emirati, Omani ...) Very different in that aspect.
@MB no Western media POTRAYS arabs like that.. most treat women with proper respect and a few don't just like everywhere. Sorry you've had bad experiences with middle eastern men but YOUR experience isn't fact
I would only chase a man if he stole my purse. Never chase a man ladies.
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Ahhahaahhahahhahahahah same 😝❤
this is too good!
*steals your purse*
everytime i want to text my crush first , i heard “dear elegant ladies”
then i stopped. lol
I’ll do the same from now on 😝
@@makoaquest7756 it works for me, good luck😂
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This comment! Hahaha high five
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How a man treats you is a reflection of his interest in you.
Svetla Vincent ohh please don’t scare me.
Svetla Vincent 👏🏻💓legit life advice
Wow thank you😘😘
Very interesting point! Love from Toronto ʚ💗ɞ
Yep. So accurate.
In Asia, a man is always expected to pay on a date. In fact, some high-end restaurants have "ladies menu" i.e. the menu has no prices. Only the gentlemen's menu has the prices listed.
I never been to restaurant with a menu like that. So interesting
That’s awesome
clever! ❤️
Never heard about this, how interesting. Do you have an example I could check out please? :)
This is legendsry
Don't develop a motherly instinct toward a man.
Ikr
Ben Jerry totally totally. Big turn off ever when a husband refers to his wife as mother. Yuck!
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HP Lovecraft so grossss 😂 I don’t want a man child
What if his mom abandoned him and his siblings?
Ladies, she is saying *dating* NOT sleeping around.
This comment is everything 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻💕
Gosh, this generation has lost it: they think "dating" includes screwing. I call this "The Lost Generation." I am awaiting Aldous Huxley to rise from the dead with insightful commentary. "Everyone belongs to everyone." Gross.
I hear you loud. 😅
@@AnnaBeyOfficial pin this comment area. You have some women are are ignorant on purpose just b/c they are modern-day feminist and they do not like what you are saying.
Say it a little louder for the people in the back!!
I love how u are so calm and elegant yet still a little bit savage
nice-nasty😊😊
That’s a perfect description of her 🤣🤣
هههههههه.
Classy Savage is PERFECT. And wow, she's so BEAUTIFUL insideand out!
@@martinemikita9281 HAHAH I agree "classy savage" is the best
Once a man wanted to split the bill. I didn’t mind at all but to me that was his way of saying we’re just friends
No. It's just his way of saying " I don't want you to feel like I am expecting something out of you by paying your meal. We're equal in this relationship". Your loss, dear.
Good. He dodged a bullet. I bet you’re the same type of woman that gets mad when a dude expects sex after having just paid off the whole bill too.
@@jc3productions362 alpha men are naturally there to provide and protect women.
@@queenal7710 Yeah, women that deserve it. If you’re just a leech that’s only solely with a man cause of his resources, you don’t deserve an “alpha”. And if we gonna talk about “alpha” guys, then let’s also talk about feminine, submissive women, cause those are the girls alphas usually choose. If you’re always tryna argue, and you subscribe to modern day feminism, then you don’t deserve an alpha, plain and simple. You stfu and let him lead, and do things that women did back in the 50s, since you wanna be more traditional.
@@jc3productions362 Absolutely I am that kind. The kind of woman with self worth. Dinner is to get to know each other to decide if you both want to go to the next level. I am not carrying around a sign that says, "Will put out for food."
You denigrate yourself and your masculinity by even saying such a thing. If you want a quality woman you need to level up as to the kind of man you are. Do you really want the type of woman that gives her most intimate self for a dinner?
I’m arab and growing up men usually wouldn’t even let the bill reach our table rather they excuse themselves and go pay it in private. Since that’s how I was raised that’s what I expect from my husband too
exactly!
That actually sounds very elegant.
In Morocco same thing man actually feels offended if you offer to pay the bill !! Which I like but lately the feminists have been willing to screw us over
@@aminabarga8239 no honey, feminists are good people you my friend are on about feminazis.
Feminists want equity and basic human rights and decency for us and protect women whether or not she wants to be a house wife or a career woman.
Don't try put a bad name on feminists
For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. John 3: 16
My husband ALWAYS pays, and HATES it if i even offer; he also opens my door for me & pulls out my chair for me! 👌💯
Lucky you! I am pretty sure that your husband is not an American
because your husband is a gentelman
Very nice that’s how it should be!
My bf opens doors & pulls out chairs but refuses to pay. We argue over this all the time and he won’t budge. Am I wasting my time???! I need some advice from older women
Rose Sables yes Girl 👌 be blessed and enjoy 😉
I remember when I was 18, I was dating a man a couple of years older than me. One day he said he wanted to take me on a date to the cinema during the weekend. I said I preferred to go on Thursday, because I was just 18 years old and I did not have a lot of money and on Thursdays I would get 50% off. He said that if I would go with him during the weekend, I would get 100% off. I've never forgotten that. That was such a gentlemanly thing to say.
Oh my goodness I'd melt if that happened to me 😍
I don’t believe that hookup culture is helping women value themselves.
That's because it isn't. So why some feminists promote this, when the majority of the damage happens to women, is beyond my humble understanding.
agree
I totally agree!!!
And women are no happier for it!
right, and people say its just 'being confident and loving yourself'... no baby if you loved yourself you would not do that to yourself.
Now another topic: how to find elegant friends? I already have a good man.
@School Of Affluence ~ Yes PLEASE❣ Fabulous topic suggestion, Gwen❣
Gwen Meyer yes! I love this!
Yaaaaaas!!
Lol yes the struggle is real!!
Yes please ! As a lesbian not all her videos apply to me. Friends are so important
I never ever call, text or ask a guy out, ever. I'm sorry, maybe I'm too old fashioned, but not only I don't like it, but I have always trusted my grandparents advices: if he hasn't asked you or called you yet, he's probably either not really interested in you in particular or he has no balls.. Those are my grandfathers actual words and they were very serious about it.
Love it!
@@julijakeit what a wonderful story, you are really lucky 😊
your grandfathers were savages for saying that but it is so true ! very funny the balls part
@@Aja.S Hahaha, yeah, I was 10 years old when they told me this and since they both were real gentlemen and never even swore I was shocked and gaped at them..probably why I still remember it to be honest XD
Likewise, Although my grandfather was not as graphic as yours. That is rather funny and it is rather true!
"Men are not stupid at the end of the day."
At the beginig of the day... well...
Vicky López hahahah good one
Hahaha...
Lmaooooo
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Omg yesss
I've went on a date once with a French man, and I ordered a cocktail. I excused myself after we asked for the bill to go to the bathroom. When I came back, this man was waiting for me to pay my 6 euros ? I have never contacted him. EVER again.
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French men be like that
In Latin America... women don't pay. If my brother took out a girl and her friend shows up,now he's paying for both. I only paid for my portion as a sign to him that Im not interested.
@Lucia, in Africa too
I agree with you. Whenever I've gone on a 1st date and I realize I'm not interested, I will insist on paying my portion of the bill or split 50/50 when the check comes. I live in NYC.
Arabs too!
In Brazil it is very common for the bill to be divided equally among the men at the table, regardless of whether they are accompanied by a woman or not.
Yes, they do. In Argentina is 50/50.
Has anyone noticed that Anna’s videos are not only very informative but also entertaining? Keep up the good work Anna!
Absolutely, I love her sense of humor 👏🏽
Yes she is no stick in the mud lol
I love it. She has such dry humor.
The first question my father asks me after I have a date is "did he pay" my parents are old school and always taught me a man should treat a lady!
And walk her to the door, not just drop her off or honk the horn when he arrives to pick her up.
My first date was a true gentleman he opened the door for me and pay all
If u look at the "old school" stats they also had the highest divorce rate. So I take their advice with a grain of salt
So you communicate to him that you are cheap. He will find a better choice soon ... good luck
@@13TrafalgarLaw I'm not cheap so I don't expect my man to be!
I LOVE YOU. Thank you for affirming the femininity, because it had started feeling like the gender roles are getting damaged beyond repair. It is such a turn off to split the bill with a man, totally depressing. Yet some of them see nothing wrong with that.
The hair 😍
The earrings 😍
The top 😍
Looking like a million dollar woman
I know. She looks the way I want to look at like 5 times a week💯💯💯💯💯
I adore the color scheme. I never thought grey could be so beautiful
She looks like I want to look 24/7.
Yes. She's very pretty!
Love the hair and earrings but there's something weird going on with that top!
“I know gender roles are changing to.. to... something that I personally don’t want to be associated with.” 😄😄
When she said this I was like yes Anna I agree
Yes I died lol so funny 😂
I have a professor who is a hard core feminist and she always asks me why I do not want to be associated with the label. I have been planing to introduce her to Anna's(and other influencers) videos, so she can understand.
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I screamed 😂😂😂
Im so old fashioned. I don’t call or text men first. I never pay either, and if he expected me to pay that’s the last he will hear from me. 😅
Loved this video!
Periodddd i give you my time you paying.
Do you tell them before the date you expect them to pay? Do they know? I’m just curious. I’m so awkward with money sometimes, even with female friends I offer to pay 🙊
Good for you! I’m glad to see there is women still maintaining there value! ⭐️
Same
Belladamma can you cook? 😀
I'm so glad I'm married now because I would really hate dating in the 21st century.
Regina Semenenko I wish arranged marriage was a thing again bc I can’t date these men and don’t want to be alone for the rest of my life 😂😂
I don't blame you, it's not easy out there, even in marriage we can't get too comfortable though
I agree
Married people always have more issues then single ones.
Haha I get it. Although I do like having more experience before I get married
The only reason I pull my wallet out is cus I have one of his cards
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Nice one 😂😂😂😂😂💀💀💀💀I died
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Mickayla Strode-Penny hahahahaha I just died with comments 😹😹😹😹
My grandma always used to say: let the man pay for everything...not because you are materialistic..but honey if a guy spends a fortune on you, like an investment, he will value you more and will be less prone to leave you.
Men also think like this today. Let the woman contribute so it feels like they also invest. No wonder everyone complains relationship doesn't work these days. Just ego on both gender
I completely agree. One always values something when they have invested in it 👌🏾
unpopular dolls don't read replies actually if a man starts paying for absolutely everything and the woman doesn’t contribute at all at some point he might lose interest and pull back. Not because he can’t pay for everything but because he might start feeling being used. So it’s good for the woman to buy some stuff from time to time if she wants to keep him.
@@MartinZhel I am really struggling to understand all these women despising men who don't want to pay for everything. Maybe if we stop looking at them like the money making machines and start seeing them as human beings, wanting the same things we all want, which is mutual respect and acceptance for what we are, things shouldn't be so hard. Women are capable enough these days to stand on their own two feet, and why can't the gesture of woman paying be a sign of mutual support and appreciation for the man she is dating. Why do we have to look at this through this old fashioned lens of cheap men not worthy of our time and effort. There are always bad apples on both sides, I'll admit it. But we shouldn't be so judgemental and unforgiving at the fact that the times have changed and the rules are a bit on their head. We need to at least try to understand why is that, historically and culturally, but that requires a bit more intelligence than dissing the men from the get go.
@@MartinZhel In somehow I agree about what you said.
I have been married to my wealthy husband for over 30 years. He likes to be the one who pays.....I think he thinks he looks good buying his wife whatever she wants.
Sorry, but I've seen this kind of comments a few times on this video and it's getting me puzzled. Once you are married is it still about his vs her money? Isn't the who's paying question only for dating before marriage?
Andreea Popescu oh hush, let her enjoy what she has.
I see what you guys mean but I thought that through marriage, even if he is the only provider in the relationship, what he owns becomes what they both own, so it shouldn't be considered that it is HIS money paying for the dinner or whatever.
my husband is not necessarily wealthy or rich but since we dated he paid for everything. even when i offer he would just say "you could pay next time" but the next time never came 😅. now im a full time housewife (we couldnt find someone to take care of our child) but im hoping i could find a job soon and help him out ❤️
@@chika_333 Unless the job will pay significantly well, the money earned from the job will go towards paying strangers to mind your child...maintaining a home and raising children is working, you're just doing a job you enjoy.
As an older woman, I am enjoying all your videos immensely. Your views are spot on and I wish I had you around when I was a teenager. You dish out wonderful life lessons.❤️
#5 totally. That's how i caught my husband. I wasn't too emotionally available and this made him close the deal with me faster. He was more persistent and wanted to be exclusive. I followed all the rules here and now I'm married. She is right about all these.
Awesome! Did he know you were dating others?
How soon did he ask to be exclusive?
Congratulations on your marriage.
What’s no 5?
You're lucky...but if a girl pulls away more often...and if he chase..then he is considered a simp....so...
There are few that I’d like to add, coming from a man’s perspective. 1) Talking about your ex and a lot. It sends a clear message as to where your mind is, and it’s most certainly not on the date we’re on. I didn’t call back a woman because of this. 2) There’s a difference between carrying a conversation and dominating a conversation. If you go on streaks where you’re talking 10 minutes non-stop about yourself, I might as well be somewhere else. My eyes glazed over because of this. There should be a good amount of back and forth. 3) It’s one thing to be 5-10 minutes late, it’s understood, I get it, I’m not going to call you on it, but if you’re about 60-90 minutes, it’s obvious that you don’t value time. I had this happen to me a couple of times, and it killed the tone of the evening.
They aren’t hard and fast rules, but I think many would agree with me about my thoughts and perspectives.
Yep I agree. ✌️
Yes, Agreed
Agreed
@GodLoveFreedom Lmao
100% agreed!
"they're not stupid...at the end of the day" SAVAGE Ana!
Abby Szpekman ... they just play dumb to avoid accountability.
About dating multiple men - "we are only doing what men have done for centuries"; Love that!!
Actually, dating is something new. People did not date in the past. Marriages were arranged, or men would take a woman by force.
If Anna gets so 'progressive' about doing what men have been doing for centuries, how come she insists that the man should ALWAYS pay the bill?? A bad case of DOUBLE STANDARDS.
I am the type person that pays for my own stuff. When I began dating my husband, he told me, "take out your wallet again and I am dumping you." 🤣🤣
Me too 😀
Sounds like a great man ...
Real gentlemen 🙌🏻 so happy for you!
I have a date tomorrow and it’s the first time we see each other, wish me luck guys 🙏🙏 it’s really important to me. Update: it went so great guys ! Thank you for caring ♥️ he was such a generous gentleman and always noticed my glass of wine if it was almost empty 😅 and he texted me first when our date was done so I think Anna should be proud of me 😂
Bru ja good luck! And remember, the question is not “does he like me?”, but “do i like him?”✨
Try to go on another date with another guy this week. So you don’t get too invested
We're waiting for a feedback:)
Adina Bumbar ouwh I appreciate 🙏 I’ll keep that in mind
KittyEars&Headbands lol I have high standards🤣 alpha males are rare these days but I’ll keep that in mind .
A real man protects and provides. It gets him “excited”. Love from Australia 🇦🇺
Not really
For the right woman lol.
it doesnt
It doesn’t excite broke men
But either way we not going after the broke ones 🤯
Finally a breath of fresh air! Anna you're amazing! Finally hearing someone say the things that need to be said, and setting a example for young woman. Much love
I was dating a guy.. The average Joe's mom wanted someone to clean and cook at home. She commented unpleasant things for me which were very disturbing. I can't be a provider and cleaner at the same time. I left him for my own good.
Let's ignore the guy here.. This is what a woman has done to another woman. SAD
@Helena Joy yes
What's the point of a guy then? A pet?
@@hogardepolina yes. Mistakes
This is true I've seen it happen many times. Especially with momma's boys.
@@TheLoveMessages truly.
If a man is not messaging you or calling you after a date he’s not a hunter. Run the other way 🏃🏾♀️😂
Run far and fast for the sake of the man. It is better for the man if he never sees you again.
If he's not messaging or calling, do you really need to run? He's clearly left the chat.
@Princess Shenanigans Presents 😂😂😂 true. I guess I’ll walk out 😩
The butthurt guys hahaha
@@princessshenaniganspresent5538 Lol painful truth but still the truth.
„They are not stupid at the end of the day“ 🤣 love her
Of course. I think men are smart
I don't understand how it is possible to date a multiple men at the same time... It is even difficult for me to find one interesting man and to be willing to go on a date with him :/
It's just an advice, you don't have to follow it if it doesn't feel good to you. Personally I wouldn't, a man who meets my standards is gonna show himself I don't have to put him in a group to see him shine.
@@alaaaaa4132 I know it was not for me. But your answer really enlighten the way I should date men. Thank you.
@@desnecker9511 You are welcome honey💛
Dating doesn't involve sex, so if you are still searching and have not decided to be exclusive with anyone, do multiple dates gal. Going sexual too early in the dating scene is what messes us up, because ladies get emotionally attached after sex. So keep off sex, explore with an open mind.
I feel like Anna is the mamma I didn't have! It made me really glad when she said to do not hold my personality back, great advices as always!
I like how you get into the video instantly instead of having a really long intro.
I was dating a VERY handsome financier in NYC. He was very kind, the perfect gentleman, a Renaissance Man in every way. Everything was going well and then I made the mistake of insisting on paying for a meal. After that moment, the relationship somehow shifted and everything felt weird. I don’t he liked that I insisted on paying. He broke things off two weeks later. I don’t open my wallet on dates anymore.
Why on earth would you offer to pay a man paying shows you’re worth it!!
Wow I feel so sorry for u:(
...especially a financier! His money is tied into his pride.
Lol are you serious? I wouldn't even want this man if he would leave a woman because of such a trivial thing. The reason he left was probably something else and not this. He might have not liked it but to leave a lovely lady because of this? I really doubt it
But anyway he wasn't that into you doesn't matter you offered to pay or not.
I loved this video. I am married but watched anyway and I totally agree. So on point. But it made me laugh recalling fiasco's from my past. Years and years ago, I dated a "man" for three months. This was so long ago, well before cell phones were common. My first "clue" should have been the fact he pretended to have his own house but each time he called, his dad's name came up on my parents call display. But I never said anything. Anyway, after three months he went on vacation to Japan for two weeks. He never called me when he got back. Nothing. Knowing this was an indication he was not interested, I never phoned him either - although I thought this was rude. Fast forward a couple of months, and I was out dancing with my girlfriends and having drinks when he walked into the bar with his friends. Without missing a beat, one of my best friends yelled "Hey, (name) we thought your plane went down, so happy to see that you are alive". And then we all fell over each other laughing so hard. He looked completely mortified. Not very elegant, but definitely funny!
Firstly, stunning dress and it suits you perfectly. Secondly, here's my mentality: if the man asks me out, the man pays. And I don't ask men out. Voilà. Problem solved. Love, from Montreal, Canada
That doesnt make sense because men never do the asking. When I hear women expect men to pay I wonder how many sexual partners they have and what age they are.
No. if the man asks you out, you pay half. If you ask the man out, you expect to pay.
Not because you're a woman, but just because you're a decent human being. Don't expect others to pay for what YOU eat. Expect to give more than to take.
@@kameh4522 Idk dude. This world has gone insane. Everybody is all over the place and we have no set protocols anymore. Im just really enjoying being single with an occassional 3 to 6 month honeymoon period "relationship". The peace of mind is amazing not having to worry about a woman being miserable and blaming me for whatever it may be this time.
@@CE-vd2px To expect someone to do something 'you' personally wouldn't do... That's just selfish. "Treat others as you would like to be treated yourself". Seeing so many people stating that the man should always pay? Entitled much? This just open the man's expectations too - that he has the right to get something out of the woman after he paid for a meal.
This is NOT feminism in any way. This is precisely the opposite.
Also, thanks for the sentiment @C E, but I'm not a dude (hehe).
@@kameh4522 Lol I bought you a Steak now gimme some of dat Round. Where are you from?
Women who won't date several men at one time may think it means you sleep with them. No you do not need to. And yes having a swimsuit pic on your profile really attracts the wrong guy.
How does that work
tamick2000, you are so beautiful ❤️ ❤️❤️ and I will be happy to know you
I do that I date different men and all we do I hug and kiss I never let them get to that point!
How? I know men will always look for sex so I make them think one day it will happen and change the talk to something that interest them
You are correct, I had a pic on my FB account with a swimsuit and a board since I was an avid surfer, all the dusties and wrong men were there all the time. Something I am used to like swimming in my Mediterranean sea because I was born and raised there is not normal for many men.
Hmmm, I was wondering about the swimsuit pic thing the other day. I am too modest to put my package on display, well not for free lol. But I was wondering how it's perceived when women do do it.
I'm happily married but I completely agree with everything you've said.....please ladies dont act desperate- instead have self respect.
"I know gender roles are changing to... to... to.. God, something i personally don't want to be associated with." LOL !!!! same sister PREACH love the vids !!! ❤️
They're trying to flip the script. I want NOTHING to do with this mess either 🙄
@@queenmercy3135 who is "theyre"?
That was literally hilarious!!!!😂😂😂
Me too!! I Don’t like it and won’t accept it.
Oh my god you are all what is wrong with the world. Grow up you boomers.
Most men steuggle to express their emotions. Spending money on you is how they show that they care about you without looking too vulnerable. If he avoids spending money on you... it’s easy to see their intentions.
Really well said.
La Ninfa Pimentel a man spending money on you doesn’t mean he likes you. I had dates when I paid for the date even though I didn’t wanted to see them again.
Martin Zhel caring and liking are different things 😉
La Ninfa Pimentel you start caring about someone when you fell in love. This doesn’t happen on a first date 😀 especially for a guy. If you have expectations for a guy to care about you right away that’s extremely unrealistic.
@@MartinZhel obviously she means more than just a date when a man spends his money on a woman. Buying her gifts, paying bills, just overall being financially supportive is what she means.
She's right never message or call first
What? I already did it sis. And he often replies my msg after like a hour. I don't think that's a good sign thn. 😭😭
@@smjanagrg566 it's not! lol stop doing it. Make him want you
@@smjanagrg566 same ;-;
This is why we finally broke up😂
Imani Frances i saw him on instagram and i really liked thim . Should i text him first??
When I was single I would date multiple guys...just don't sleep with any of them 😬😁
I finally find my twin😂😂
I do that when am Single
Need more of this energy haha
That was definitely me when I was single as well . 😂
i thought that is normal. if you are single and trying to find the one for you. why would you spend all your time on one person.
Great idea im sold lol 💯💯💯💯💯
You're a sister I never had..I learn being a lady from you.. I appreciate you teaching us how to be elegant and keep class 😍
“We’re just doing what men have been doing for centuries”. I LAUGHED SO HARD!!! Go Anna!!!
I know she is getting funnier and funnier!
@MB feminism is gender equality. What she is advocating is traditional gender roles. So she is not a feminist, which is not bad
I’m with a man now who’s generous in every way. I never ASKED him for anything, because my own means can cover for it. But he always has my back. I never paid for our dates, he offers to provide a card for me just in case. Does and pays for my groceries for me. Always picks me up and drives me to my place. All that because, Anna was right. I never made myself look like “I’m all over you. I’ll do everything for you”. I made him chase. Because that’s how it should be.
Men, from the caveman era.. are the protectors and providers. Let them be. They LOVE it. Well, the “high quality’ man does.
Princess Legaspi love this!
Same here. 😍
I agree 💯👍 I made the same steps with my Nordic man and succeeded!
LoReZ25 WOW! That’s a huge feat, considering the rampant feminism there. I love Norwegian men. Any tips? Good for you! I wish you well.
@@leatherandlace7 hello dear, my man is Norwegian and older than me. He was interested in me from the first moment he met me through work. I understood that and played the game at my conditions. The key is that they are very spoiled because of women here. Women give them sex too soon because they are Masculine women. I did not give him sex soon, I seduced him slowly. I am very good at cooking being Italian myself, so I just showed him my qualities but never cooked too much at the beginning of our acquietance, just showed him my tasks and that's it. The bottom line is to not play the wife role for free. I am also very educated on many subjects, I speak Italian, English, French, Spanish and now Norsk. He got hooked. Plus I am very Feminine. Since the culture is 50/50, I told him that is not my mindset and I respect and admire 100% a Provider man just as my Father. So my partner was so interested in me that he accepted that. He understood my points and adapted to my mentality to date me. I never paid a bill with him and he is very supportive financially too. We are very happy now, already talking about marriage. I don't live with him, I will with a wedding ring on my finger. I think that if you like Norwegians (they are very handsome but very spoiled and Pussy men unfortunately) you have to set your boundaries. Be very Feminine, don't give sex soon, make him desire you. Also work on your Education. A last tip is to not chase them.... Make their fantasies develop. It takes time, they are used at women chasing them here so they are not Men who court a woman. I was "approached" by other men while in Norway.... They don't chase but stare at you a lot. Anyway when they understood my mindset, they just ghosted me. Truth is they could not afford to date me and played the 50/50 mindset again. I can accept their culture at work but not in my private and romance life especially if I will get pregnant, I want to have the choice to work or not for my baby's sake. That is true Feminism to me. Good luck dear.
Although we’ve been together for 10 years, he still always pays the bill first even without me noticing. And always gets the door even if we’re arguing or not speaking, I feel so lucky. Love your videos like always ❤️
OMG, I wish I had watched this video a few years ago. I followed all your dating rules (as they were mine, too), & started dating a nice middle-eastern man, who took me on multiple cruises, world trips, etc. However, as soon as I offered to pay for a few things, the tone started to change. Now I feel he almost takes me for granted, & it's a turn-off, especially when I end up paying! Not sure if the trend is reversible with this particular man, but I LOVE your "never take out your wallet!"
Stingy men can stay in the friend zone forever lol. This is great advice on how to weed out the low quality guys. Let men do the pursuing. Keep your options open. 👌
I'm loving the updo. It really suits her.
A gentleman would never expect you to pay.. women should not offer. High value women know there worth and need to be respected. Never chase a man.
melody smith ‘their worth’ not *there
Woman should not offer? Absolutely wrong. Women should most definitely offer, but the man should pay.
@@kristenk708 NOT on a first 1,2, 3rd date.
I am from Germany and yes women here are expected to pay on dates. It happens quite often. I actually did this regularly before. I am studying educational science and we also have gender stereotype classes at university. I learned that it is only right to split the bill or pay for the whole dinner but in reality, it didn't make me feel like I thought it would. It actually felt strange and I didn't feel empowered at all. And my perspective changed totally on a date with a man who came from another country that told me, he likes dating german women because german women pay for the date. I have the biggest respect for all women no matter if they like paying on dates or not but for me, this was just too much. It made me feel less powerful. It made me feel less worthy. It somehow made me feel like the easy-to-get pray. I never even thought about not paying before but this experience somehow made me realize that it is ok for me to feel awkward and not protected and worshiped when I pay on the first or second dates. For some women this is totally fine but not for me. And both ways is ok, we just look for a different kind of man then and this is also ok.
My boyfriend is German and always wants to pay...😊
Sorry that happened, that guy was such a jerk for saying that. i don't know him but it's almost as if he's in it for the money aspect, not because he genuinely wanted to go out with you specifically, so he 'chooses German women' for that reason
One of my high school friends once asked me to go out with him. Not on a date, but a fun outing between the two of us. He paid for EVERYTHING! The tickets for go-karting, our snacks at Starbucks and when I wanted a meal, he paid although he didn't want to eat anything. I was willing to pay for my own food since he didn't want to eat and he said no. I am the male and I invited you out, so I am responsible to pay. He's from Iraq, but I am Jamaican and my father has always told me that as well. The man is supposed to hold the doors open, open your car door, pull out your chair and cover any expenses.
wow as I was reading this, I was thinking to myself this has to be an Iraqi! I am Iraqi myself and generosity is a big part of our culture
Dating multiple men helps you not put you focus on one until u figure out who to be exclusive with.
It cuts out the act of being so available n desperate
ELEGANCE N proverbness FACTS!
Funny, but it seems the countries where women are expected to pay, the men seem more feminine. And that is a very unattractive feature to me.
Momma Bear I couldn’t agree more with you. Nice comment, love it! ☀️👏
London
Come to Middle east
We call them Beta males
@Jazz Heart IMO off the top of my head they are emotional and indecisive.
I just love how you put the power back into being feminine. I honestly thought I might hate your videos because of gender roles, but you reclaim them in such a great way! I wish I'd had a female role model like you growing up
“Men are so simple minded when evaluating women” lmaoo. True.
So if these rules are tailored for simple minded men... is that really who you want to attract?
Chlarie Peace simply beautiful
Honestly that’s so true. We as women think that men care about every single detail when in reality it’s quite the opposite.
@@salut4396 Berber?
@@pradhanh1641 Yes
When I was on a date with a man he wanted me to pay half on the first date! I ended up not going out with him anymore!
I would of excused myself mid dinner.
@@personwho4742 I would have but the check came and he asked me to split it. I didn't want to argue with him about it so I didn't even respond to him for the second date.
@@23theshadowgirl Very well handled.
@@personwho4742 How? you have to wait till the end of the dinner to find out that he does not want to pay the whole thing ......
This happened to me ONCE. I wasn’t in to the guy but at it was a first date I was being very polite and sweet but thinking NOPE......
it was a cheaper restaurant than I was used to anyway so when we got to the end and paying at the register he said ‘split the bill’ and I was soooo shocked but didnt show it, just quickly got out my purse then excused myself to go home.
He was texting me how interested he was the next day etc etc but I was so utterly turned off.
I think alot of guys can't afford to even be dating. They don't have the means to properly do it. They need to "level" up financially before consider dating . Then, there'd be no problems paying for dinners etc.
Christina H. They need to stop dating then. In my country his friends would tell to stop complaining and to go and work really hard to make money before he seriously pursues any girl. It is a huge disgrace to be trying to date a woman you cannot afford to care for.
Christina H. That’s why in several cultures like North America, a lot of me n just try to hit any and every woman up not actually date. Women that put out at the drop of a drink or dinner bill shoved in her direction, are just reinforcing negative male behaviour of men treating women as being only for sexual pleasure.
Exactly. Don't be a cheapo while also going after going a high quality woman. If you can't handle her, stick to a pick-me Plain Jane or level up. You can't have your cake and eat it too.
@@sweetspice9120 Men don't have to stop doing anything. There's always girls out there that will date them even if they're broke. It's natural for women to expect men to pay for everything and be providers, but what do you offer in return? Sex? High quality men have an abundance of sex.
Most are just greedy unfortunately 🤦🏻♀️
Minute 3:42 discussion is about “what country women are expected to pay”, but I want to brag on my country because I come from a wonderful culture, when ONLY men are expected to pay. It’s either man or man. That’s the only two choices available. And I could not be more fortunate for growing up in this culture, since it really taught me that I deserve that attention. It is nice the show of appreciation and respect coming from men to women in this specific subject.
… I truly see that men are providers by nature. Glory to God for this great blessing!👐🏻🙌🏻
Ladies, we are paying...for our hair stylist, our good makeup, wardrobe, nails, accessories..shoes, purses, etc. waxing, this list can go on and on! Men should feel privileged to pay for a nice dinner or outing. Just make sure you are ladylike and appreciative of his good manners which does not include sleeping with him until you are comfortable in the relationship!
Before I started watching Ana I genuinely used to think it's okay to go half on dates or give a man money whatever the relationship was but nowadays I find it so hilarious when a guy even asks for a cent out of me😂 So thank you Ana😌♥️
Never ever ever pay for a man unless you want him to become your child.
nelly abigael I’ve gone through same transformation. Very lucky to have found Anna’s channel 🙂
Don't men find it embarrassing to either pay half or want the woman to pay? Even if ur not an affluent man, don't go on dates if ur not willing to pay for the coffee or dinner. If ur so tight with ur money, ur not even ready to date yet. Go home to mama.
Me too
Thank god that she save me from this mentality 🙅🏾♀️
A man of quality does not value what he does not pursue and values more what costs him more.
You are exactly correct.
This vid is actually so accurate, the minute I made all of these changes, I got a man to be very interested
Anna you are actually so right with dating multiple men advice :) that way we do not get too excited about one man and become better observers which is so important in the initial stage of relationship. Those first dates are crucial.
Marta Walkowski,you are absolutely gorgeous ❤️❤️❤️❤️ and I will be happy to know you
Hope you didn't hurt multiple guys hearts
I need to up my game. I'm guilty of getting too attached too soon because of only dating one guy at a time. Love these tips! They're super helpful!!
@Luci K Yeah I'm so done with that. You get locked into guys who end up not being worth your time when you could have had other options.
Nobody:
Anna: WRONG
Lol, how do you mean? A lot of women make these dating mistakes, including me. This is helpful advice.
@gems8582 I just play it by ear. I like to be genuine, I want the guy attracted to me, not to some image I am projecting like Anna advises. If the guy isn't genuine, I can tell, and then I know he is not the right person. I will still be classy, but there will not be a second date. I do make some of these "mistakes," perfectly aware of the fact that they could ruin things. But here's the thing: not making these "mistakes" can also ruin things. So I just relax and I am genuine, come what may. Sometimes that works, sometimes it doesn't. And guess what: what Anna suggests also sometimes works and sometimes doesn't. How about just being in the moment and accepting that you can't always win? What's the worst that could happen? The worst is that all that will ever come of it is a date, with a guy who wouldn't have been right anyway. If you follow what Anna suggests, on the other hand, the worst that can happen is getting with the wrong guy and wasting years of your life and the other person's life.
Who else loves the introduction: “my dear elegant ladies”? 🤩
Streetstylis ~
I do! I adore hearing 💕 “my dear elegant ladies” to the point I almost purr. It’s my signal to pause, relax, listen to everything that Anna says, and by all means: never take a call while enjoying my “date” with my “friend.” 💕
If a man is really that triggered that he has to pay for the meal, then he’s either broke or entitled. I’d rather just pay for it than sit there calculating the bill like teenagers.
@Boris Posavec what the man is able to do in life to be equal to a woman? A can not see many things.
@Boris Posavec women only want "equality" when it is convenient for them.
No... You don't expect him to pay for the shoes you're wearing, why do you expect him to pay for the food you're eating? What next, you expect him to pay for your groceries?
Come on ladies... We want fairness and equality. This is primitive thinking that the man has to pay. If a man OFFERS to pay, that is more than enough for me. However, I will pay for my items 100%. I work, I make money. Why should he have to support me financially? I am not looking for a wallet, I am looking for a MAN.
@@TW-ih5hg You nailed it. They don’t want equality, they want special treatment. If you’re gonna cry about paying half a bill, cool you won’t get far. And to the few fools that do take you up on your offer and pay the whole thing, they’re gonna expect sex after hun, and you can’t be mad with that.
@@kameh4522 I ABSOLUTELY expect a man to pay for my groceries 😂 Why is that so unreasonable? Have you noticed the state of the world.... how women are treated very unfairly? It’s already unequal (and not in our favor)
So right , a real gentleman pay the bill and doesn't mean the woman is a parasite ...
A real gentleman would never expect you to pay. I would never offer either. A high value women knows her worth.
Omg I’m always offering to pay on a date because I want to look like a strong independent woman but I did get kinda frustrated when those guys just accepted ...
Same
same!!!
Yea never pay! Ever!
if you offer to pay then you jolly well be prepared to pay. don't offer to pay if you really didn't want to. don't pretend to and then be frustrated when he lets you 🙄
Omg never Pay unless you’re both students and have to split? You spend so much $ on hair and makeup and clothes
I am a conservative woman but I did also do casual dating/multiple dating and Anna is right it is very helpful
I agree with her theory on emotional detachment because I experienced it first hand. She's amazing, I like her!!
This women is changing me and my life 😍😍 definitely the best TH-cam channel she deserves so much more subscribers 👏🏽❤️
Hm, now I just need to find a man to date.
Feminism has ruined most men. Who wants an emasculated man? Not I.
Agreed, true alpha males are so rare nowadays
He will find you. You don’t have to find anyone.
You don't need to find him! He needs to find YOU.
Let them find you. Focus on yourself and they will come like flys
3:17 yes in MiddleEast women never pay !Arab men feel offended when a woman offers to pays even if they were coworkers!!
That's good I wish all men everywhere is like that.
Went out with an Arab guy once... he even went straight to the counter to pay our bill. Proactive much!
In the Middle East women buy in and are submissive to their men... women don’t fight or argue with their men out there, they follow his lead even if what he’s saying is stupid, and he’s leading them into a ditch. Women over there are feminine, and take on responsibility. I bet you if more American women acted feminine and did the things women traditionally do, more men would be fine paying for everything. But y’all too stupid to notice this difference.
@@smiles9599 ^^
@@jc3productions362 lol I'm not from the US. but ofcourse they submit because the men are providers and are the sole breadwinners. That's why you
can't get king treatment if you got your hand out like a woman expecting 50%. They have too much honour for that, I'd know as I'm also Muslim and they are not far off from the traditional roles in my culture. For them to send their women out to work is an insult to their manhood.
In a typical African culture especially the western side,the man is always the provider no matter what...
Not when he lives in europe!
Not in Nigeria, the men can be stingy as hell
@@teejae6914 I know my dear, sadly I know.
@@teejae6914 no matter how stingy the man is, he still has to pay. That's what is common in Nigeria, men are the provider. Nigerians men spend more than any other African country. Do your research right babe.
@@phunmyjan I'm a Nigerian. I don't need to do research on where I stay. Most Nigerian men run away from bills, they rather you come to their house. Even the rich ones are picky with who they spend on.
Embarrassed by how many mistakes I've made here 🙍🏽
Same and the asshole wasn't even worth it 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤦🤦🤦🤦never again amen 🙏🙌
Me 2 😂
Anna, you look spectacularly beautiful, the updo, the white elements, and your makeup are so harmoniously combined! Great choices!
2:26: EXACTLY! With my very first boyfriend I made the mistake to pay for our first date and after that he always expected me to pay. I just wanted to be nice, but after that moment we completely switched roles. I was always getting him (sometimes expensive) gifts for every occasion and I never EVER got anything back. Not even a thank you at times. Never again.
If I pay for a man then that means I’m not interested in him.
Same🤣🤣🤣
Me too
HAHAHAHAH TRUE
PERIODT
Exactly!!! A woman will pay her way once I get a hint of no sex is happening.
Honestly get soooo excited whenever i see Anna Beys videos. 😍😍😍
I think Swedes are having a nervous breakdown watching your videos 😂 JämLikHeT!!! 😂😂😂 I love how sassy you are!
Everything you say is true. Over 10 years ago I made a decision to set my own boundaries more consciously and improve my life in every way. Going back in time the beginnings were a bit ... clumsy ;). But even then I saw the results very quickly.
Now, I am in an really good financial, emotional situation and in a great longterm relationship. We grow together and develop our own passions. It's worth living this way. 😊
After 6 years of marriage I have never ever paid anything 😂 And I‘m from Germany
Lucky girl :)
OMG, I have NEVER pulled out my wallet to pay for anything back when I dated!! My husband would cringe if I ever pulled mine out and we have been married over 30 years!
Things have changed for the worse, unfortunately. I read a thread on a website for women that asked if any of them had ever been courted by a man. Most said no. Jesus, that's so sad. How have things gotten like this?
Exactly. My husband is the very same way. He gets upset if I open the door before he gets to it, lol. We will be married 32 years this coming April.
Congratulations on 30 years of marriage.
I am from Slovakia and here men pay for a woman. But I lived in the western Europe for several years and there men normally expect women to pay. Even to pay the whole dinner...Not only that by the way. Their 'progressive' mentality about gender equality came so far that some men actually think that 'women should now go to war and fight because men did it all the time in the past'. This is not even joke, he was serious...I told this man that they are all nuts and only if all of them grow uteruses and start bearing kids I will consider going to war...I was irritated and half joking but it is soo bad there.
sanuska9 these are women that bring them everything on a plate, pay and propose. There are too many brainwashed women that think being like a guy will “empower “ her
he needs to grow a pair. What a simp😒😒
One of the saddest comments I've read here smh
Where in western Europe was this? I've never heard any progressive man even talk about drafting and war. Most of them think you should just disband the military.
@@blodstainer Hi, it was in Belgium. And I hope not everybody there has those attitudes...It is a bit extreme even for progressive west 🙄😐
I was raised to expect that a man provided financially for his family. My husband is an American and has always paid for meals and entertainment for us, even when we were dating. My sons do this as well with their wives and even when they were dating. But, I struggled for years because my friends thought that I should pay 50/50. I was very confused. That’s one reason I appreciate this channel so much. ❤
I love how you put the movie parts in the video so we can imagine the situations better!😍💕
"I'm just here to raise awareness" - I love this line! Thank you for this video!
Middle easterners usually think is offending if a woman payed, it kind of makes him look like “not a man enough”
They are the same with any guest whether women or men. They pay for friends. In those cultures people are big into sharing and hospitality ie a more tribal communal mentality not like westerners who are more into everyone taking care of themselves ie individuality.
@MB sorry who ? Please don't mistake Arabs from the "sham " world (Lebanese, Syrian, Jordanian, Palestinian) to Gulf Arabs (Saudi, emirati, Omani ...) Very different in that aspect.
MB not all arab countries
I agree Persians usually don’t let women to pay, and sth guests and friends from another country even now ! They have corrupted economy
@MB no Western media POTRAYS arabs like that.. most treat women with proper respect and a few don't just like everywhere. Sorry you've had bad experiences with middle eastern men but YOUR experience isn't fact